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Hello, everyone. Hi, hi, hi.
So good to see you guys.
I'm so glad that you're joining us for this single spotlight tonight.
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OK, and so camera's on.
You're like, but I'm not camera ready.
It's said in your email, be camera ready, whatever you consider camera ready.
All right.
If I can show up with wet hair that I've braided and now I'm some ridiculous version of Rapunzel and Pocahontas mixed together because I got in at 2 a.m. last night.
2 a.m., y'all.
Why? Because my flight was delayed and they lost my suitcase.
Praise the Lord.
Hallelujah.
What is that Justin Bieber song?
Everything.
Hallelujah.
Everything.
Hallelujah.
The good news is that I did get my suitcase back.
The bad news is I missed my Uber and I still had to pay for it.
Hallelujah.
But I'm here because the show really, truly must go on.
It really must.
And no one knows that better than our spotlight for tonight.
You guys, I had a great spotlight lined up with two of the funniest guys I have ever met, especially funny together.
These guys are not new to me.
I've known them for five years.
Dave, can you believe that?
We've known each other for five years now.
I love these guys.
I would vouch for them.
I would refer them personally, professionally.
They're incredible dudes.
Lucky for you, they're single and ready to mingle.
And so that's exciting.
And we're going to spotlight them tonight.
I haven't spotlighted either one of them in a really, really long time.
And they are back around these parts.
And so I thought, hey, what better thing to do than to kick off summer spotlight season than to get Josh and Dave, Dave and Josh, in here for some shenanigans because they are goofballs together.
And I love that.
Do we love funny guys?
We love funny guys, don't we?
No pressure, Dave, because you're carrying it alone now.
But Josh had a family emergency, so he can't be here.
But Dave is amazing.
and we're gonna have a good time with him.
My trusty co-host Cheryl,
for some reason people are needing to be admitted.
If you haven't seen that,
I am getting requests to admit people to the group.
I don't know why that is turned on, but it is.
And so if you could man that,
and then for all of you newbies that just joined us,
you gotta have your camera on,
otherwise we gotta delete you from the program tonight.
And you're like, why is that?
Because it's single spotlight.
And if people are willing to be spotlighted for you,
then you need to show up respectful
and spotlighted for them.
You guys, as a dating coach and as a matchmaker,
I've literally heard every story you can think of.
And that's why the Jackie show is coming out.
I'm gonna take a few minutes to promo.
People wanted me to do a podcast forever.
Jackie, do a podcast.
I've been on so many other people's podcasts.
People are like, Jackie, you love to talk.
You love to yap.
You're a yapper.
Why don't you have a podcast?
I will tell you, I don't like prerecorded.
I like live.
And so that's why I don't have a podcast.
I used to have a show.
It was called The Wake Up Call With Jackie,
and it was on Periscope.
Does anyone remember Periscope back in the day?
I had a live show on Periscope
called The Wake Up Call With Jackie.
It was so fun.
I loved it so much,
except for all the creepy men that wanted to see my feet.
Besides that, I loved it.
Now, you guys don't know about the Periscope days.
The Periscope days were full of trolls
that would just post in the comments,
show me your feet, show me your feet, show me your feet.
And I didn't even know that was a thing
until I knew it was a thing.
So back in those Periscope days,
The Wake Up Call With Jackie was amazing.
It's what led to my very first heart workshop
back way back 2014, 2015.
And I'm gonna bring The Wake Up Call With Jackie
back to iTunes, to Spotify,
except it's just gonna be called The Jackie Show now,
because I think we can all agree that I'm a whole show.
And it's going to have a segment on it called The Audacity.
And I think you're gonna really love it
because it's going to make you feel so much better
about your dating life.
When you hear about the dating life of others,
you're gonna realize that you don't have it as bad
as you think you do,
and that there's still hope out there,
and there's still good men,
there's still good women out there.
And so that is going to be a really fun time.
So The Audacity is gonna premiere at the end of July.
It's just The Jackie Show,
but that's gonna be one of the main setups
or main section segments.
But I will have single spotlights on The Jackie Show.
I will have all kinds of education on The Jackie Show
for all of you that need help in your relationships,
in your pre-relationships,
for those of you that are single
and don't even have a date lined up.
And I hope that you will join us for that
on YouTube, Spotify, or iTunes.
And so that's coming out soon.
So if you like a little dose of Jackie in your pocket,
in your back pocket, in your phone,
that's gonna happen soon, and it's gonna be fun.
All right, I've given people a few minutes
to all get let in from the waiting room.
We have about 81 of you live here tonight.
For those of you that just jumped on,
so sad to say that half of our dynamic duo cannot be here
because of a family emergency, unforeseen, and unavoidable.
But one half is, and that half is super tall.
That half is gonna fill up the whole screen.
I don't know if you remember this.
I'm spotlighting him now.
Everyone welcome, Dave Dawson.
But I don't know if you remember this or not,
but back in the day when you were in my heart workshop,
back in married in 12 months or less days,
I remember asking you how tall you were.
And then when you told me, I was shocked.
I was shook.
I was like, oh, I expected you to say like,
you know, five, you know, 5'11", six foot tall, you know,
but then you were like, but actually,
and then I thought it was a joke at first.
Same with Paul.
Do you remember tall Paul?
Do you remember tall Paul from those days?
Was he from Ontario?
He was the only one that's ever been taller than you.
Wait, you're muted.
Let's find out what's going on with you.
Hold on.
This right here is David Dorman.
Okay.
Also known as the IT department.
Double D.
You guys heard him, but I didn't.
So don't talk because I need,
you guys can hear me, right?
Maybe put headphones in.
No one can hear me?
Yeah, I can hear you.
I can show you my feet if you like in the meantime,
because I've been collecting lots of socks.
See, here are my crazy socks tonight.
There you go.
Yeah, since we're talking about feet pics.
All right, friends.
Hold on one second.
We have no sound.
I know you guys can hear us both, but I can't.
and hear him and that will be an issue here
in just a minute.
First woman to ever tell me it's an issue
that she can't hear me.
So it's great.
She's going to play this back and be like,
what an idiot.
What are you doing?
What's on those socks?
Good question.
Uh, summer vacation.
There is a little camper van and some
palm trees starts.
And then sometimes it goes, okay.
Yeah.
At one point in time, I had like 80 pairs
of socks and I kept poking my toes through
them, so not purposely.
Unintentionally.
Anyway, I was going to tell you the joke
that I, Josh and I had planned for tonight.
Um, I'm six foot four, but Josh was going
to come on and say with the American
conversion rate, that's down to five, nine.
And I was more opening line, but Josh
isn't here because of the family emergency.
So anyway, I am six foot four.
I'm taller than Jackie and she still
can't hear me, which is amazing.
The power I have right now, your twin bro
is six, six tremendous.
I still can't hear you.
Good times.
Anyway.
Hi, I'm Dave.
Um, great.
Thanks Lynn.
It's excellent.
Tell us about myself, Sarah.
For sure.
I'm Dave.
I'm six foot four.
I live in Western Canada province of Alberta.
I see some cheering.
That's tremendous.
Um, yeah.
What do I, uh, I lead men's ministry.
Oh, here we go.
Marilyn says she's missed my humor.
Fantastic.
Finally, there's one person I was getting,
but, uh, yeah, I, I really fired up about,
uh, leading men.
I have, um, a small group in my church
called, uh, called rescue mission.
So there's a bunch of guys with
PTSD in my group as well.
So I really feel just so, um, my big desire
is just calling men to a higher standard.
Uh, I work in sports media, so you can
Google me and I'm there probably,
hopefully for all the good reasons.
Uh, any of the bad reasons, I guess
I can't do anything about that.
Cause they say what's on the internet
is always on the internet.
And now Jackie has totally given me this
show so I can go off script completely.
That's fantastic.
I'm sure I'll just unmute everybody's
mic like it used to be back in the day.
And it was just a circus.
It was awesome.
Um, no, I'm kidding, Jackie.
Uh, I love Jackie.
Her and I have just become great friends
over the years.
I'm so grateful for her, uh, relationship
and, and, uh, just what her mentorship
and what she's been able to do through
so many great women and so many great men.
And thank you.
I have a voice for sports media.
Um, I've been told early in my life,
I have the face for radio as well.
That's the easy joke.
I know no one's actually told me that,
but, um, I'm 47 years old.
I don't have any kids.
Um, often I throw in the knot that I
know of, but that's not really funny.
It's why I usually say that, but, uh,
I just did here and it's recorded.
So there's nothing I can do now,
but I'm 47.
Are you, are you already being a loose
cannon?
What are you doing?
Never.
You can always trust me.
Listen, I got on here and this is what
I heard when I got on.
I shouldn't have said that, but I did.
And it's being recorded.
I'm like, Oh, Oh no.
Okay.
All right.
So you guys technical difficulties
here at the Casa.
So that's fine.
I'm just going to be on my husband's
uh, phone here and we're just going to
jump in.
All right.
So you guys, we have a hard stop
because I had a book club tonight.
And so we want to make sure that we
jump right into all of your questions.
If you have questions for our
bachelor this evening, Dave Dawson,
did you tell them where you're from?
I did tell him how tall you were.
I said, I'm six foot four.
And the joke that Josh and I had planned
up until today during this family
emergency was I'm six foot four.
Josh was going to come in and say,
but that's five nine with the American
conversion rate.
So it might be less than that.
It might be five, three in this economy.
But anyway, uh, that's who I am.
And, and I, what I said, what I said,
I shouldn't have said that was I say
that I don't have any kids, but I,
sometimes I say not that I know of,
but that's not very nice.
So, and I didn't say that, but I did.
So anyway, that's
very funny.
And also not true.
Also not true.
Because this guy loves Jesus.
All right.
I know a lot of you are like, there's
no men on earth that love Jesus anymore.
Well, that's not true.
In fact, Dave not only loves Jesus,
but he also leads other men not to
just love Jesus, but also to kind of
restore the masculinity.
Uh, the divine masculinity.
I think that we've, I think people
think that we've been having a
recession of that and, you know, have
you seen all these princess memes where
guys are dressed like princesses and
it's like the real dating problem is
that men want to be treated like
princesses and it's just this whole
thing.
And I think that that kind of
propaganda has caught on in the way
that a lot of women think that men
are not masculine anymore.
don't want to pursue, they don't want to initiate, they don't want to lead. And so Dave, not only is
not one of those men that doesn't want to lead, initiate or pursue, he also is helping other men
to step up into their masculinity, not just in dating, but just in life. And so talk about that,
talk about your passion for men's ministry there. And did you, you told them that you live in
Canada though, right? Yeah. I talked a little bit about, um, men's ministry here already, but yeah,
I really wanted to unpack that a little more. We're getting some great questions here. Thanks
so much, ladies. This is fantastic. So yeah, my big, uh, my big passion is just biblical
masculinity and how it can compliment, um, the feminine, the divine feminine. And it's,
I think just in today's world, you know, the enemy from day one, even from trying to get
online here, my, my battery died on my computer. I'm logging in. It's going crazy. Like
the enemy hates godly men and godly women, godly relationships. He hates it. And that's why Jackie's
ministry has exploded. That's why Jackie, the heart work when, you know, when I first went
through years ago, that's why it's just been so beneficial. And that's why I think what Jackie,
the Lord has given Jackie a burden for is so powerful is because there's such a thirst.
I think when men and women really dive in to what the divine feminine and the divine masculine
really looks like, I think I have such a passion for, um, just allowing men to be the best version
of themselves. And I just finished, um, my second semester of our, our small group at my church
called rescue mission. And two of the, your buds falling out here, two of the pinnacles, two of the
points that I really believe that biblical masculinity is surrounded around her meekness
and self-control. So meekness, gentleness, hand in hand, but meekness is power under control.
So the ability to have strength, but bridled strength. So knowing that a man can protect,
a man can provide, and a man can take care of situations, but have it under control and
self-control being able to put the urges to the side and, and honor the Lord with that.
So I'm so passionate about men. And I'm so passionate about, um, just, you know, at my age
47, I don't have kids. I've never had kids and I'm up to whatever the Lord has planned for my life,
whether it's someone else's kids or, or having kids of my own, I'm very surrendered to that. And
I really do believe that at whatever age you're at, like, I only started going to the gym two
years ago. And I'm like, I, this is something brand new. I'm Lord, this is something you want
for my life. I'm all in. So that's kind of who I am as a person. I believe that you're never too old,
that you're never too young, that if the God's given you a burden and at a piece and a purpose,
then he's going to honor you with that. So
now I can't hear Jackie. So the tables are turned here.
All right. Lots of great comments here. Uh, Desiree says,
you can hear me. Everything's good. All right. Perfect. All right. So you guys,
we don't have a lot of time. We do have a hard stop. So I want to make sure that you guys get
your questions answered. Please put them in the chat. I will ask the ones that I think are
appropriate. If you ask something that I don't think is for public consumption, and then I will
not ask that question. Um, I do want to say this, that, you know, when men get up into their mid to
late forties, early fifties, and they have never been married, a lot of women think that it's
because they're very picky or they're an avoidant attacher. Right. And so what do you say to that,
Dave? Yeah, that's a great question. I appreciate you asking that. And I think for most of my life,
I bloomed late. My dad died when I was young. So it took me quite a long time to understand
what masculinity looked like to me. I was raised by my mom and my sister. So naturally, um, there
isn't a lot of masculinity that comes from women. So there were a lot of things that, a lot of
things that the Lord needed to work out in me. And I think that, you know, I'm going through
Jackie's program the first time I still had a lot of pride. I still had a lot of, a lot of hurt. And
I'm really, really grateful that the Lord has really instilled in me the ability to just get
really addicted to feedback and coaching. And I love it. Um, so, and then I blossomed late started
my career in my early thirties. So, um, traveled quite a bit of my career and then COVID hit. So
during the time that I thought I was fairly ready, um, that really hit me hard, um, lost
everything in my career, had to rebuild it again. So, and then really started to dig in and do the
hard work and the important things and realize that stewardship is the one thing that I always,
um, really needed work on. And the father has just drawn me so close to him and allows,
really allowed me to see what healthy masculinity looks like. And, um, I think for a lot of men,
pride is probably the one thing, right?
a fix and we can't fix ourselves. It's difficult. And there are a lot of men I think out there that
are picky because maybe they're too afraid to navigate through the herd inside. So therefore
they want to try and make something else perfect because they're too afraid to look internal.
So for a lot of the men that I. That's good. That's some good feedback. So let's ask you
this. So in my book club, for those of you that did not join this last time around,
we are going to be doing a special Sunday session. So if weeknights do not work for you,
please watch your email. We're going to be doing an early evening Sunday session.
For those of you in other countries, for those of you that just are busy on weeknights. Okay. But
we're talking about non-negotiables versus preferences, Dave. So let's talk about a few
of your non-negotiables. Now that you've done the work, you've been digging into masculinity.
You're stepping into a place and season where you feel like you're ready more than ever to
partner because friends, it's all about progress, right? It's not about perfection. And as you've
been learning that, what is now on your non-negotiable list in a partner? Yeah. What do
you got? That's so good. That's so good. As being an Oilers fan, Geraldine, actually I'm from
Winnipeg. So I'm a Jets fan. So I'm open. I love making fun of the Oilers. It's good. The
non-negotiables being a Toronto Maple Leafs fan. If you're like, that's done. No, I'm just kidding.
But I think in, I don't have to dig in too deep to say that, you know, we live in a pretty
polarizing world, right? There are a lot of things that I had a friend years ago, about 15 years ago,
when he first met his wife, he said that he believes in a separation of church and state.
And I think that often sometimes, you know, politics and faith can be separated. I think
for me, I'm not going to talk about politics. That's not what I'm saying, but I'm talking about
some of the things that I just think it's so important to be united in some of the things
you believe in, right? I believe in healthy masculinity, healthy femininity. I believe in,
you know, I think it's important to talk about politics because I will tell you,
I was just on Fox News, you know, Fox News has made me their relationship correspondent. So I
go on there quite a bit now to weigh in on relationship stuff. And they were talking about,
um, they were asking me, what are the biggest deal breakers that I'm seeing that maybe weren't
deal breakers 10 years ago. And I'm telling you politics is a deal breaker. Now it's not a
preference. It used to be maybe that Democrats and Republicans, I'm just going to use our parties in
America. I know you live in Canada, but I'm just going to use our parties. It used to be that maybe
a Democrat can marry a Republican and live happily ever after. But now there's such polarizing
issues. There's so many things that have happened pretty much from 2020 on that have caused that
chasm to widen to the point where it has become a deal breaker because it's no longer just about
what you believe hypothetically. Now it's about lifestyle, Dave. It's become a lifestyle
situation. It's become an ethics situation, a moral situation. So feel free to be, um, unfiltered
Dave that I know you to be, and just talk about what are your non-negotiables because we're trying
to find you a wife here. So what are your non-negotiables? Okay. I'm just going to throw
it out bold. I don't usually go for Jackie. I try to be more ball or meek and gentle.
Wild huck. Let's go. Yeah. Um, obviously, um, things are in Canada. Yes. I'm open to moving
by the way, but things in Canada, um, are probably just as polarizing as they are in America. And I
think that we've had a liberal government here for 10 years and our country is falling apart.
It's, it's, it's, it's awful. Um, so yeah, I, I, I wanted, I, I, I vote on the right side of it.
I don't dislike people who are liberal. I think it's, you know, it's not what it is, but if someone's
going to have liberal values that generally follows X, Y, and Z who, you know, those kinds of things.
So I don't feel that, you know, a wife and I wife and I, my wife could align if she was on the side
of X, you know, filling all those isms along with it. So. Absolutely. All right. So ladies,
you know, you need to, you need to think about what he's saying right now, as far as your
non-negotiables. I know that, you know, as Christians, we want to be loving, want to be
caring. We think, oh yeah, you know, it's not that big of a deal. It's not a big deal until it becomes
a big deal. And especially if you raise children together, um, these issues just become big deals
because we don't live in the same world that we even lived in 10 years ago. So let's make
sure we're paying attention to that. So someone who's conservative, who has conservative values,
who believes in life, who believes in, um, you know, all the things that conservative
values stand for deal breaker, what else is on your deal breaker list?
Oh, um, one that's always kind of been there and I, I don't want to loop it in with, um,
you know, a liberal value. But I really believe that, you know, I've been a man for 47 years.
Don't plan to ever be a woman. But from what I understand that you'd be one ugly woman.
I would. Thank you. And I'm a very handsome man. I've never considered it ever. I do enjoy all
the things being a man brings, including being on this show, which is there'd be a weird spot
to admit that I want to be a woman, but anyway, awkward. But no, I feel that I'm, I'm really open
to, you know, like traditional values in this economy. I know sometimes dual income is the way
to go. I, you know, I, I want to be a provider. I want to be a protector. I want to emotionally
protect and provide at some point in time, I want to be the leader. And I think that, you know,
without digging in too deep in that, I think sometimes there's a lot of hurt and Jackie does
such an incredible job, allowing women to dive in and repair. But I don't know if I could be
compatible with a woman who wants to leave my family. I need to be the guy who's through the
Lord. So I hope that you're hearing that his non-negotiable is a woman who has done her
heartwork. So a woman who's done her heartwork, she's not in her toxic masculine. She's not trying
to control. She's not trying to push an agenda to feel safe. Okay. So someone who's already done
that work, he's done that work. So he's wanting someone who's done that work. Someone who knows
how to be in her feminine knows how to be soft. Okay. I know him. So I'm just going to go ahead
and speak for him. He's not looking for a doormat. He would never do well with that. He's not looking
for someone without an opinion, but he is looking for someone who knows how to fight fair. Someone
who has unpacked their boxes. Uh, if, if another man has hurt you and you have not healed from it,
this is not the right match for you. Okay. You got to go do that work instead of projecting
that onto another person. So that's good. Right. That's good. I think it is. I think it's a,
it's on, it's on my list. Yeah. It looks, what does it look like to be married to you?
Kind of walk us through a day of what it looks like to be your wife, Dave.
Okay. Well, uh, I'll probably get up in the morning and I, um, uh, it'd be awkward. I'd be,
you know, probably stand on the balcony in my shorts and you'd be like, what is this guy doing?
And I do look at mating call out and know what's weird, awkward again. So, and call, um, no, I, uh,
I'll be really goofy. I think we're going to be, I'll be at 12 years old until I'm 110, but I'll
write you a little notes. I'll call compliment. She'll surprise you at work. I'll take you for
lunches. You know, I'll, you know, on a weekend, I'll put a blindfold on you, take you to the
airport and say, Hey, get on a plane. And when I take the blindfold off when we're landing,
and it might be your favorite spot you wanted to go, I'll take you for fun picnic. So I'll,
I'll want to do a bonfires. Um, we'll watch chick flicks together. We'll go shopping.
I'll probably take you to a lot of sporting events. Um, I might belch from time to time,
but I'll apologize after, um, other than that, you know, I'll be best friends with your brother.
I'll probably be better friends with your dad than you are. Um, I'll always call you beautiful.
Doesn't matter. You know, even on your days that you don't feel it, I'll make sure you feel it.
I'll make sure your girlfriends know how beautiful you are and everybody I'll make sure in public
that they know you're mine. And if a guy winks at you and looks at you, I'll just laugh and go,
she's mine, bro. She's hot. Isn't she? So, um, yeah, I'll pray over you. I'll lead you,
you know, I'll take you into church and I'll make sure that we're speaking prophetically together.
Um, I'll get up every morning and pray over you. I'll stay late and read the word at night.
Um, yeah, I want to, if you have kids, I want to take your son to sporting events.
Um, I'll protect your daughter. I'll walk on the inside, the outside lane. When we're walking on
the street, I'll make sure that, you know, if there's a weird guy in front of you, I'll step
in front. Um, I'll do whatever I can to sacrifice my time for you. Um, and that's what I really
believe. God has called me to be as a man. Um, I'll always be, I won't always be perfect. I'll
probably make a lot of mistakes. You'll get mad at me. Um, we'll play fight. I'll tickle you a lot.
I'll probably pin you down. Um, but I'll, I'll always love you. And that's what it'd be like
to be married to me. And you'll be probably a lot shorter than me. If you're taller than me,
that okay. I don't know if that's a deal breaker, but that would be,
I'd be a very, very tall, very, very tall woman. I mean, they do exist, but they're few and far
between. And I don't think we have any of them here. So, so, but you know, there's always a
stereotype, Dave, I want to just get into some stereotypes real quick that tall men. So men
that are above like six, three. So tall, tall men, they always like really short women. So
you always see these six, five guys with these four 11, five foot chicks.
So like, is this real? Is that true? Are you attracted to very, very small women?
Like fun sized women?
I do like fun size. I'm not going to I'm not going to lie.
I mean, I yeah, I dated a woman who was 510, you know, almost married her.
So I don't I don't prefer taller.
Be careful, Dave, because I'm 510 and even though I'm married,
I could still be offended by any tall girl jokes.
It's true. But I mostly just DM those to you.
I wouldn't. Well, actually, I'd make fun of you to your face as well.
I don't talk behind people's back.
It's more fun to make fun of someone through their face because you can see
their reaction.
It really is.
Yeah.
Why did you marry her?
What happened to her?
I was an immature jerk.
She lived in Seattle.
But it had nothing to do with her height.
No, not at all.
We were incredible.
She was perfect in a lot of ways for me at that time, but I was an immature
jerk and I broke her heart.
But yeah, and that was 15 years ago and the Lord has done incredible work
in me and I still have a long way to go.
But yeah, I've certainly, yeah, 5'8", 5'7", whatever, you know.
Yeah, I like really feminine, fashionable girls.
That's still short for you.
Yeah, it is still short for me.
Okay, but that's good.
Okay, so we talked about some non-negotiables that Dave has.
Let's talk about some preferences.
So he likes feminine women and that looks like something.
So that looks like women that dress feminine, that act feminine.
Can you describe that a little bit more?
Like, okay, you're in a room full of women.
You just walked into a room full of women.
They're all dressed differently.
They're all different heights.
They have different hair color.
Who would you notice right off the bat?
Well, if somebody was wearing a balloon hat, I'd probably notice them
first and be like, that's some crazy style.
That's unreal.
Like, you could pull that off, but no, I wouldn't be.
I mean, maybe some people are into balloon hats.
I'm not judging, but Jackie's got counseling services for that.
But no, yeah, I really, you know, and it was outspoken and Jackie's
known me for years and I can certainly, you know, entertain a room,
but I'm, I am the extroverted introvert.
So I just as much enjoy, I love gentle and calm and, you know, girly,
you know, she doesn't have to be the one gathering everyone in the
room, she doesn't have to be super outgoing, but I do well with
people who can compliment me in situations that she doesn't have
to be the center of attention.
She can be at times, but, um, somebody who's certainly,
well, you know, everyone has a type and see, you wouldn't know any
of what you're talking about right now until you talk to people.
So if you walk in the room and you're just looking, yeah, just look
at the only thing that are, are, are involved right now.
All right.
I generally wrong too.
I mostly somebody who's got a style that works for her.
And there are guys out there who want the, I use the term Barbie
doll, and I'm not that kind of guy.
I'm not looking for the girl and the beautiful dress and all that
stuff, if she can rock it.
Great.
If you know, we're at a black tie event.
Sure.
But if it's just a coffee shop, someone who can, she's into her
style, whether that's a nice scarf or a tank top or whatever the
day is, and I can see that she's comfortable in it, that she, she
thinks that she's beautiful and what she's wearing could be sweat
pants and a, and a sweatshirt.
And I'd be like, wow, like dark hair generally I'm attracted to, but
I've also dated blonde women.
Like it's, I don't know.
Just the, the femininity, the gentleness, the, the joy, the, the
passion, the, the, the one who smiles.
I love smiling.
It's a horrible drug of mine.
And but yeah, so she doesn't have to be super over, but just the
joy and the peace.
It's easy to see when you're, when you have peace in your heart, you
can see peace and that's attractive to me.
I love when a woman is peaceful.
That's the first thing I noticed.
Usually dark hair, very likely not going to lie.
Um, and yeah, that's probably what I noticed first.
Okay.
Do you hear that?
All right.
None of that.
None of that's deal breakers.
Those are all preferences and David Dave has done his work enough to
know that, you know, God can send a curve ball, you know, something
that's not your normal, uh, type necessarily, and you could still be
drawn to it.
So he was talking about peaceful woman.
A woman who has presence, someone who holds herself confidently is
peaceful, not, you know, trying to get attention necessarily, uh, someone
who's comfortable in her own significance.
That's good.
Uh, now you told them what you do for a living, right?
Did you tell them what you do when I was not on?
A lot of things that I said when you're not on here to go back and
watch it.
I know.
I'm sorry about that.
I, you know, the technical difficulties are real.
So, uh, you did tell them that you, that you work in sports.
Yeah.
So that's, uh, there are situations that I'm around lots of people.
There's a spotlight.
Um, yeah.
So that's just, yeah.
So.
Um, having a wife, having a woman in your life who is supportive of what you do and
you know, interested in what you do, I think would be a preference, not a deal breaker,
but I think it could be good to have someone who, you know, wants to support and even as
interested in your career.
And I think that that's important.
Um, right.
Don't you think?
Yeah.
And I do.
One of the things that, uh, the Lord has really revealed to me and praying and asking for
what qualities he wants me to have in a wife is somebody who's got a gift with a prophetic
and it doesn't have to be speaking in tongues and all that stuff.
That's not what I mean, but somebody who is really in tune with the Lord.
And if I'm having a tough day, she knows exactly how to speak into me.
If I am, you know, I'm being, being a goof or a tool, then she's like, Hey, you know
what?
The Lord's telling me you got to smarten up here.
You're not reading the word enough.
You're not spending more time, enough time at the gym.
You're not eating healthy.
Um, or maybe she just got an encouraging word for someone else.
We're at a restaurant.
Hey, the Lord's telling me that we had to go give that guy a hundred bucks.
Okay, cool.
You're right.
So, um, those are things that I absolutely love and I am really praying for that.
And, um, and yeah, sure.
I work in broadcast.
I, I, I, I know the Lord has called me to do bigger things in ministry.
So if she has a passion to be involved administratively, or the Lord's going to call on her life, I
want to partner up.
I want to do it together.
Like my life.
Isn't my journey.
Hey, you're going to jump on my back and we're going to follow my career.
I want to do it together.
I want to do great things.
You know, I could be doing this great national broadcast.
And then she gets a word from the Lord tonight and says, Hey, we've got to move to Dallas
tomorrow.
Like the Lord needs me to go and help this single mom and I'll just play and be like,
you're right.
We're moving.
Right.
So it's a, it's a, a team effort and that's really what I wanted.
So for those of you that were asking earlier, you know, does he want someone to Lord over
and dominate?
He's going to be in charge, blah, blah, blah, blah.
You can see now that his definition of leadership is more like what I call West coast swing
leadership.
If you've ever been in the dancing world, then you know that both partners have to equally
bring it to the table in order for that dance to work.
And so that's what he's talking about.
He's talking about a partnership where you're leaning into each other's strengths that you're
minimizing each other's weaknesses.
My husband is this kind of man as well, where, you know, I'm an easer.
And if you guys know what that word means in the Hebrew, it means God as help.
God is rescuer.
That's what help meet means.
And so a healthy feminine force in a man's life is going to be a warning in the prophetic
of intuition, women's intuition, Hey, I don't think we should make that deal.
I don't think that business partner has your best interests at heart.
You know, men are well served to listen to their wife's advice.
We see this in a lot of instances in the Bible of the divine feminine being used in
the lives of men through their wives.
You see that with, you see that with, um, with a pilot's wife, she's like, you shouldn't
have anything to do with this man.
You see that in Abigail and David, you see that in that story, you see that in lots of
stories.
And then we've seen that played out in history over and over and over again.
And I see that played out in my marriage every single day.
And so, um, Dave is a, is a man who knows the actual powerful partnership of having
a healthy hearted, warring and, um, powerful spiritual wife.
Okay.
So that should answer your question for those of you that are like, what does that look
like?
Is he wants to, cause some of you have toxic leadership in your past.
You had a man who was overplaying the, I'm the man card and that didn't work out that
great.
And I'm sorry for you.
And I'm sorry for that.
And I've experienced that myself, but there are strong men that like strong women.
As long as those strong women know that they don't have to be in a toxic strength.
They can just be in their feminine strength.
And that's it.
Um, okay.
Can I add a point to that?
I think what you said is so beautiful.
Yeah, you can.
And I have a couple more questions I want to get in before we got it.
I just want to give you a time.
So, you know, we have seven minutes.
Yeah.
Okay.
Excellent.
I'm account.
Whoa.
Voice crack came at the right time.
Oops.
I'm going to put my laptop in and it's gone all crazy.
Um, excuse me, I'm accountable to the Lord, right?
So that's the thing that if I'm not treating you properly, the Lord's, he's going to hold
me to that standard and I'm going to have to answer to him.
So that's what I think is so incredible about the God that we serve that, you know, I want
to be a protector.
And I, and I, I think that's so powerful that I'm accountable to the Lord.
So if I'm not walking in line, I got to answer to him and that's much more fearful than anything
else for me.
It's beautiful.
Okay.
We're going to speed round speed questions.
Dave, I'm going to ask you the question and you're just going to give a brief answer because
we want to get it.
and as many as we can, speed round,
speed questions, ladies, about logistics.
He's already said he's willing to relocate.
You know, he's not gonna marry you for a green card.
And just so you guys know,
we have had a lot of American Canadian success stories
in last year's single,
and relocating from Canada is not easy.
It is not easy.
We've had it,
and it's probably one of the hardest countries
for some reason to relocate from.
Canada does not wanna let their people go.
All right?
He's starting to fine people.
He's charging them thousands of dollars to leave Canada.
Yeah, it's great.
Communism's awesome.
So maybe Perry's not softening him up.
I thought for sure it would be like,
you know, California girls, they're incredible.
Din, din, din.
Okay, no?
All right.
It's all good.
Okay, what age range are you looking for?
He wanna, do you,
I know that you're okay with other people's children,
but do you still wanna have a bio baby?
I'm up for whatever the Lord has planned.
Whatever the Lord has planned.
What are you hoping?
But you don't have to have it.
It's not a deal breaker.
No, no.
But I'm, if that's, if I can, I enjoy,
if I love my wife and the Bible says I should love my wife
and part of the process is that,
then hey, let's have at her.
Okay.
All right.
Current book that you're reading.
Are you reading a book?
Ah, I don't read at all.
You're reading, wait, you're reading.
I can't read.
Are you audio blind?
I think you're reading,
I think that you're reading this book.
Modern dating sucks.
I'm pretty sure this is what you told me you were reading.
You said it was amazing.
You love it.
It's so good.
I would endorse it on my Instagram and all of my broadcasts.
And for sure, yeah.
Yeah, yeah.
Okay.
What other book are you reading?
I think the only book that is probably most important
to read is this guy.
And they say that a man of the Bibles that's falling apart
belongs to a man whose life isn't.
Is that how it goes?
I don't know, but look at like the cover is falling off.
But word of God right here.
It depends on whether you ran it over
with your car accidentally when it fell out
because you weren't paying attention.
But yes, I think.
One of the only things I haven't run over with my car
actually is a Bible.
What's your favorite movie?
Oh, I love Hitch.
Hitch is a good one.
I love that one.
Yeah, it's a great one.
I have watched Den of Thieves probably 39 times.
I watch it about every month.
It's ridiculous.
Den of Thieves, okay, write that down.
I gotta watch that.
I haven't seen that.
It's with Gerard Butler.
It's, I just love that.
I just love the masculinity in there.
They're all like brash and,
but it's like a bank heist movie and.
Oh, I love that.
I love that.
He did answer Hannah, the age range.
He just said he's open to whatever woman
he falls in love with.
He doesn't need someone who's a baby factory still.
He's just, he's in love with who he falls in love with.
That's that.
Right, what else we got?
One woman says, how old am I willing to go?
And I.
I mean, it's such a dumb question
because here's the reason why I hate questions like this.
I don't hate your question, Lynn.
This is the reason why these questions are just,
they're fruitless.
And the reason why is because I know this from experience.
Everyone who's ever been successful in my program
knows this from experience.
When you meet someone, you're not meeting a number.
You're not meeting a height.
You're not meeting a number on their birth certificate.
You're not meeting a number in their bank account.
You're meeting them.
And if you fall in love with them, you just do, period.
You just do.
First of all, I'm gonna tell you something about men
that you need to know.
They're a super bad judge of age.
They have no idea how old you are.
They don't.
They could think you're 32 and you're 52.
They just don't know how old you are.
They just, they're a bad judge of that.
So.
I had a woman in my church who was 28 who was into me
and I thought she was in her 40s.
So, I don't know, didn't work out.
I love the question, do I eat healthy?
So for the last two years, gave up sugar.
The only time I have sugar is in my coffee.
That's it.
Oatmeal for breakfast, eggs for lunch,
chicken or rice for supper, strawberries as dessert.
Second supper is sometimes ground beef and rice, broccoli.
And strawberries.
It's so funny that it's second supper
because you're like the very opposite of a hobbit.
I mean, you're like so tall.
But let me ask you,
did you lose like a considerable amount of weight
when you gave up sugar?
Just asking for a friend.
I had 34% body fat two years ago,
which was really bad for six foot four and 45 years old.
I just measured two months ago,
I'm down to 18.3% body fat.
I work out to worship music.
I work out to worship.
And so I just dedicated my time to worship.
Give up sugar, ladies.
Give it up.
It doesn't like you.
You love it.
And you only love it because you're not having sex.
I just want to let you know,
the only reason that you love sugar
is because you're not having sex.
It is proven scientifically that women
who are not having sex crave sugar.
And you're going to have sex someday,
but maybe if you give up sugar now,
you'll get closer to having sex sooner.
You know what I'm saying?
Okay.
All right, Gabe.
You know, the five year ago version of me
would have jumped in on that one, but.
I've learned to bite my tongue, Jackie.
You know, you'd be impressed.
Well, I mean, you know, I mean, it's fun.
OK.
Are you dating?
Are you open to dating outside your race?
Are you open to, two people have asked this,
so we're going to have to go ahead and go for it.
Yeah, I'm open to whatever the Lord has planned for me.
I am.
Yeah, I find Arabic women extremely attractive.
Extremely.
There are women in my church.
And he likes spicy women.
He likes you to have a little sass to you.
As long as you have a gentle heart, a little sass.
I don't mind it.
I like the gentleness, but there are times
I need to be put in my place, right?
So it's helpful, for sure.
I can do and say dumb things.
Yeah, they do.
They do, yeah.
OK.
We have blah, blah, blah.
I'm looking.
How come there's an American flag on your bookshelf?
Because he, God bless America.
Yeah, great story.
So Josh, which I really wish he was on here.
Josh, I met in Jackie's program.
I was going through the airport one day,
going to go visit Josh in the great US of A.
And the guy goes, hey, who are you going to go visit?
This guy, Josh, where'd you meet?
In a dating program.
He looks at me, goes, puts his head down.
I'm like, no, he's my best friend.
Anyway, that's Josh's hat right there.
And there was actually a patch from when he was on the military.
And he gave that to me in the story for another day.
And then the great US of A flag, because that's
the greatest country in the world.
Oh my gosh, it's so true.
And we all know it, OK?
If you're from a different country, sorry not sorry.
250 years strong.
We're still great.
We're still amazing.
But I will say this.
Josh and Dave met in the program like so many people,
they met their best friend.
We've had so many women meet their best friends.
We've had people become bridesmaids and maids of honor
and groomsmen and best men in each other's weddings
meeting in last year's singles.
So if you are here and you're not
part of the greatest singles community on earth,
in my opinion, especially for Christian singles,
then you're going to want to look into last year's single.
Also, join the book club.
That's becoming another little village like that
as well, where people are meeting
some of their bestest friends.
And so this is proof.
Even men are meeting their best friends around these parts.
So definitely jump in.
So we're going to go ahead and wrap up.
If you think that you're a match for Dave,
not in your fantasy land, but in real life,
you think that you're a match for everything
that you've heard tonight, not in your de lulu,
but in tru lulu, in tru lulu land,
then I want you to email us at spotlight at JackieDorman.com.
Cheryl, double check that.
Make sure that I'm giving them the right thing.
And send us pictures of you.
We need pictures.
We're just going to put it right in the garbage, okay?
If there's no pictures attached to it,
because we don't know who you are.
So a little bio of you,
why you think you'd be a match for Dave and some pictures.
Also, please feel free to refer your friends.
If when he was talking, you're like, oh my gosh,
he should totally meet my friend, Betty.
Then we want you to be the matchmaker.
We're asking you to be the matchmaker.
That's the only way this works.
If you haven't read my book,
the whole last chapter is about that.
Community-based matchmaking.
I want to announce here
that we have a community-based matchmaking app coming.
If you don't have a village now,
you will have a village because this app will allow you
to create a village within the strangers
that are not strangers on this app.
And you will be able to match each other.
You'll be able to meet a love story yourself.
It's going to have Jackie's list on there
of my preferred matches every week,
a different batch of people
under different criteria and circumstances.
You'll be able to go right to the link
for things like this, single spotlights.
In fact, I think that we want Dave to come back
and be our dating game bachelor.
Who's played the dating game with me?
Does anyone know what we're talking about?
Yeah, we did this back in the day with Dave
and he actually met someone.
They had a virtual date.
It was good.
In fact, I think that you kind of dated her for a minute.
Didn't you?
Another girl.
Yeah, yeah.
No, there were two.
No, you did.
I did.
I chatted with two of them.
And again, I was prideful and not in what I thought
where I should be.
But now, hey.
That was five years ago.
It was five years ago.
Lots happened in five years.
A lot, a lot, a lot.
Okay, so we're going to do that.
We're going to have, and all of that stuff
will be baked into this app where you'll be able
to see what kind of singles events are in your area.
You can add to your village.
So many people tell me, Dave, that the biggest problem
isn't that they can't meet someone to date.
The biggest problem is that they just don't know anyone.
They don't have any community.
They don't have any friends.
They don't have, you know, when I say, Hey, you know, have your friends match you.
I don't have any friends.
That's a problem.
And it's the problem that's keeping a lot of people single.
And so we're bringing back the village and it's going to be great.
It's going to be wonderful.
And I hope that all of you decide to download that app and get involved right there.
Can I have a final word of an organ dot com?
Yeah.
The final word of encouragement from that Jackie, I think that I want, I want you to,
I want you to close this out.
I want everyone to look at the chat.
That's the email and you're going to put Dave Canada in the subject line.
You're going to give us your bio.
You're going to give us some pics of yourself and you're going to refer your friend.
If your friend is a match for Dave as well.
All right.
Dave, close us out.
Yeah.
I just want to really encourage.
I freely felt as I was praying and asking the Lord for a word to share here with you
guys that there's somebody here that you're in this group and your friends make fun of
you.
You're like, why are you in this?
What are you doing?
When I first joined, I got picked on by a lot of my buddies as well.
And I'm, this is for men.
Like there might be a woman in here who feels that, you know, she's, this is, she's tried
and this it's, it's hopeless.
I can think of, I'm not going to mention their names, but I remember watching different women
back in the day that just felt hopeless and they found their man and they go, there's
no possible way.
One woman lived in Florida and like her kid custody and all this crazy things happen to
And the Lord's like, now's your time, right?
So don't feel ashamed.
Don't feel like this is pointless.
Like what the Lord has given Jackie, a platform to do, and I'm not paid to say this.
Okay.
She paid me 20 bucks before, but that's really like a dollar 50 American if it's Canadian.
But no, I think that like, honestly, like what the Lord has given the ability for Jackie
to have a platform to do as helped save my life.
I brought me a best friend who's gone through some awesome stuff.
He's a military Josh.
Like you're going to get to meet him.
He's incredible.
So I really want to encourage you that just dig in even when it's hard, just make friends.
You're going to make some lifelong friends here and you're going to, it's going to be
worth it for sure.
Absolutely.
Thank you so much for that.
Now we've had almost a hundred women on here all night.
There's going to be so many other women watching this and replay guys.
Somebody knows Dave's wife.
You guys know what I say.
If you've been in any of my programs, you know that I love to say somebody knows somebody
who knows your spirit mate.
And so if we will put in the psychology of the six degrees of separation, the sociology
of the six degrees of separation, if we believe that we are connected to every single person
on this earth, all eight plus billion of us through just six contacts, which is true,
you guys, it's scientifically proven this is not a ruse.
Then we have the power to make sure that no one that's here, including Dave doesn't have
their spirit mate.
The power is in our hands, but only if we want it to be.
What does that mean?
That means that when you're going about your everyday life, be looking for people to meet,
not just for yourself.
I know a lot of people are just walking around like, Oh yeah, you know, yeah, that person's
interesting, but they're not for me.
They're too old for me.
They're too young for me.
They're too.
Look, if they're single, meet them.
Don't meet them for yourself.
Meet them for someone else.
Keep a little Rolodex, okay?
This is not just about you.
It isn't.
It's about the whole singles community at large.
And so let's be the difference.
Let's make the difference.
Everyone in, everyone want to be part of that?
You say you do, but she ain't been doing it.
All right.
So meet someone and share someone with someone else.
All right.
So if you have someone that needs to meet Dave, let's start there.
And thank you so much, Dave, for coming.
And we're going to do some more with Dave.
Who wants to see Dave again?
You want to see him in a dating game?
You know, that's going to be fun and funny.
That'll be really fun.
All right.
All the little hands going up.
All right.
Okay.
I got to run to book club.
Sunday's book club.
That is going out in your email tonight.
If you wanted to join, but you didn't get a chance to, then that's going to be your
session.
I'll see you soon.
Bye, Dave.
Bye.