And welcome, welcome, welcome to From Pressure to Partnership.
And I've just been so excited going through really the PROSPER framework, which if you've
read my book, you're familiar with it.
Every chapter is one of these.
So this is a great supplement to go along with what we're teaching.
And so we, of course, are in the S, P-R-O-S-P-E-R.
We are on the S, which is simplify to create space.
So yesterday in the Power Hour, of course, that's where we really go through the promises
and the principles, and we pray.
And so we laid the spiritual foundation, the biblical foundation for it.
And then, and there's so much more, I mean, you can only do so many scriptures in a call.
So you guys can go deep with this.
This is cover to cover what I'm teaching in the PROSPER system, PROSPER framework.
And today, From Pressure to Partnership, what I love to do is do a lot more experiential,
lets you just really assimilate it, let it get down in you.
So kind of move from the head to the heart and the experiencing.
And it's a time of awareness.
I'm such a firm believer, coaching since 2012 and mentoring for decades before that.
I'm so aware that awareness is the first step to transformation.
And so it's like, you can't unsee something.
Once you know something, then you can begin changing.
But when you're not aware of it, you can't change what you don't see, what you don't
know.
And so, so much of this is just being aware.
And so I love using the From Pressure to Partnership to create that awareness, right?
And so as we talk about simplify, and of course, the whole concept of From Pressure
to Partnership is that so many people are living from a very contracted state, okay?
I mean, the foundation of all of this is that fear, everything we do is either fear-based
or love-based.
There's two tracks, okay?
Always, you're either operating out of fear or you're operating out of love.
And anything that is fear-based contracts.
And you can see that physically in the body when you're afraid, you hold your breath,
you know, the blood goes to the center, leaves your breath, like we contract, every part
of us.
Think about right before something happens.
What do you do?
Like, like you see an accident about to happen or something, you, right?
You contract.
And this is how many are living, not just in a moment of fear, but fear has become normalized
that we're living in this contracted state all the time.
And so that was the point of this whole From Pressure to Partnership, because in partnership,
we begin to walk in God's love and God's peace and love is the opposite of contraction.
It's expansive.
It's ever ending expansion, Jabez, expand my territory.
And so it's expansive mentally in the mind of Christ, there's, there's no end and it's
expansive in the love.
There's no way to, there's no end, right?
And Paul tries to share those kinds of things, you know, how high, how deep, how wide, like
it's, it's indescribable.
It's huge.
There's no end.
And so it's a limitless life.
It's an ever expanding, ever growing life, which is just like so exciting when you think
about it.
What do you want to be in a, in a box and contracted or an ever expanding, there's no
end to the creative, no end to the experiences, no end to the joy, no end to the love, no
end to the fun there, like, like it just keeps going and going and going, right?
And that's the
expansive. That's the abundant life that God has called us to live, right? And so that contrast of
moving from that contracted state of being, which is so limiting, your brain is shut down,
your creativity is shut down, your body's not functioning in fullness, your love's not
functioning in fullness, your joy's not, like, to move from that contracted state to the abundant
life that is ever expanding. No end to the joy, to the things you can create, the things you can
write, the things you can experience, the love you can experience, like, it's ever expanding.
Like, who would want to live any other way? Lack of awareness. Most people are sleepwalking.
They're unconscious. They don't realize they're contracted. It's fear has become normalized.
We study fear. We watch fear on the news, and in every movie, and in everything,
like, this contracted state has become normalized. And we have things like, well, if it's too good
to be true, like, it can't be that good. There's no way you could just experience, like, endless
miracles. There's no way you could just experience that. You can't be happy all the time. And I say
you can. And it starts with awareness, and it's continued with choice. We choose life. We choose
love. We choose abundance. We choose joy. You know, I've shared with you many times, it's a
deliberate choice, and it's teaching a new habit and a new programming. From the minute I open my
eyes, I'm conditioning myself. I will not allow that stuff to take my first fruits that belong
to God, which is the morning. And so I purposely, whenever the weather permits, I mean, I'm outside
barefoot first thing on the lawn, and I'm praising God, and I'm moving, and I'm breathing, and I'm
grounding. And then I come in, and man, I blast music in my house, and it's music that completely
just lifts me. Today is just a really fun song, and I'm just going to give you a sample. Let's
see if I can just grab it, because I've been listening to it all morning. I just want you to
see, like, putting yourself in that kind of state, right? So let me go into my morning music here,
and this one, you guys could look it up. It's Forrest Frank. It's called Good Day. You guys
know that one? I mean, just think, how can you be contracted and listen to this?
Every single way.
And then you dance in the morning. Get your body moving, and you start dancing,
and you change your state. So I'm dancing all over my kitchen, and as I'm making my green juice,
right? But you're priming yourself to live an expanded, joy-filled life. Are you raising your
hand, Natalie? What's up? Tell me. So, you know, I saw this beautiful post yesterday, and it just
reminded me. So, I don't know, some of you may have heard of Tabitha Brown, if you haven't. You
know, she's a phenomenal story, phenomenal story. And so she did a post yesterday, and she was
sitting in her backyard, and she said, you know, I went to the doctor, and she's been having
something going on with her hip, and she said, and the report I got was not the report I wanted.
And she said, and, you know, so you have to find the joy in sometimes, and as she's talking,
she puts the camera on, and she starts, she starts smiling because there's a hummingbird.
And she said, but I can choose to focus on the news that I got, or I can choose to focus on
the fact that there's a hummingbird that trusts me in his presence so much that he's able.
that he was flying like right near me.
I love that.
I had the same experience.
I love that.
She said, I have doves that have chosen my house
to build a nest.
She said, I'm launching my new this, that and the other
next week.
And she said, and I'm in the negotiation
for one of the biggest deals of my life
that could change the trajectory of my family.
These are all beautiful things that are happening.
Magnificent things that are happening at the same time
that I'm getting this news.
Where am I gonna focus my energy?
Where am I gonna focus my thoughts?
How am I gonna do this?
I just wanted to share that with you.
Thank you.
Thank you for sharing that.
And so, as I'm sharing this, I'm setting you up
for what, why have we been doing all of this
from pressure to partnership and just come back and review.
There's a reason that we're doing that.
Amanda, I have to listen to worship.
And yes, and I found the most amazing worship music lately
that is coming out that is this kind of happy,
happy, happy music.
And yes, move your body, prime yourself,
change your state, right?
So, amen.
So that's the purpose.
And so, in the power hours, Wednesday morning at eight,
we're laying the biblical scriptural foundation.
And then today, since this is about,
first it's awareness and then it's choosing,
I use these days, Thursday mornings at eight,
to create more awareness
and let you just really experience it
and then leave from here making choices, right?
And that's how this transformation,
taking every thought captive,
this is how the transformation happens.
So, as we are working on S,
and of course you can go back and listen to yesterday.
Yesterday, the main scriptures,
we started with Martha and Mary.
And we were talking,
Martha wasn't doing something wrong, right?
She just wasn't choosing the highest
and the divine order in the moment, right?
And then we did supporting scriptures of Matthew 6.33
and 1 Corinthians 14.33, right?
As we go through this.
And so, think about,
well, let's just go in,
since we've kind of been talking,
let's just go straight in.
I'm not gonna do a review, you guys can do yesterday.
So, what we were talking about is,
where, like we talked about,
there's no room at the end,
like infinite love, infinite wisdom,
infinite glory, like came to the planet
and there was no room at the end.
And where is that true in this end?
Where is there no room for what we're talking about here?
Where's there no room for joy?
Where's there no room for peace?
Where's there no room for experiencing life?
And what you're talking about, Natalie,
I had the same experience.
I posted it, I don't know,
maybe a month or so ago on my Facebook
and this hummingbird just came in
and it was so beautiful
because that day the lilies had bloomed, the Easter lilies.
And those were planted by my dear friend, Mary Jane,
who's no longer with us.
And so, every year when they bloom,
like I'm already just like thankful for that.
There are these beautiful, big, red Easter lilies.
And now the hummingbird's coming to those.
And then it did the same thing.
It just like gets in front of me
and it's just like, you know, just talking to me
and just hanging out with me right here.
And I was, I had the same thing.
I was like so blown away.
And so it taking time to experience
that expanded state of appreciation,
of gratitude, of joy, of love.
So we talked yesterday,
pressure is coming from overcrowded, okay?
And we talked about four things that are overcrowded,
our schedule, our mind, our heart,
and our business and our work.
And by the way, even as we're talking,
there's a favorite book that I have.
I'm gonna grab it right here.
Pardon my lean.
And it's called,
The Roots.
Elimination of Hurry. This is such a good book. The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry.
And How to Stay Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in the Chaos of the
Modern World. So that's the kind of stuff that that we're we're talking about. So
there's this these crowded schedule, crowded mind, crowded heart, crowded
business and and work. So right now out of those, where are we feeling most
crowded now? So let's talk about schedule. What does schedule clutter look like?
Schedule clutter looks like too many appointments, for example. Too many
obligations.
Too many unfinished tasks. Too many commitments. Too much on the calendar
with no margin. Now any of you that have been around me anytime you know I color
code my calendar. I've got not only just all my computer calendars and I teach
all this in my book. So you guys can go to the chapter S in here and I really
walk you through it. But I at a glance can tell about the balance of my life.
Anything to do with with money and and business is green. If there's no green in
there, you know you're withering on the vine, right? And then anything spiritual
is purple. And if there's no spiritual in there, you're withering on the vine, right?
And anything pink is love and fun. And if that's not in there, like what a
boring life that you have, right? And so you've got like you can at a glance you
can see how full it is and you can see how balanced it is, right? And so so what
on your calendar right now is creating pressure? Let's just do some awareness
exercises. What on your calendar is producing pressure? What on your what's
filling your calendar that's producing pressure? Maybe things you just agreed to
that you didn't really want to that God wasn't even really calling you but you
felt it was the shoulds, right? You should on yourself. And maybe it's other
people putting their obligations on you, their urgency, their emergency. It's not
necessarily your urgency. If they created a certain situation and they want you
immediately to jump in and fix it, it may not be for you. Did you just raise
your hand, Natalie? Or is that old? Okay, go ahead. Speak up. You know, I think I've
shared this before, but I just want to share a tool because a lot of times
people have a hard time saying no. And so what I what I teach my clients is that
first of all, God gifted you with the day. Yeah. So when you wake up, your schedule
is booked already. Yeah. Because it's your day. That's right. So when someone
asks you, can you do something? You always one of the ways you always say is let me
check my schedule. Yeah. If you if you can't say no. And remember, your day is
already booked. Yeah. You share the day with other appointments. Yeah. So if
somebody comes and you see a block of time, and it looks open, it's not open,
it's booked. Yeah. And then you get to trade off. Do I want to unbook this time?
Yes. And loan it to somebody else? Is this is this going to be worth so good?
You know, and then so so if somebody says to you, you can you can say, even if you
don't want to check and say, Oh, no, I'm booked for the day. Yes. And they'll be
like, What? Yep, I'm booked. And you're not telling a story. That's because you
are booked. Because God gave you that day. Yeah. Thank you for sharing. I love
that. You know, I'm going to add a little perspective to that as as well
that has really changed my life. And when I give you my time, or anything,
anyone, my time, I'm giving my life. I'm getting a part of my life that I can
never get back again. Money, I can go get more money. Time, life, I can't go
get more. So when you become very
conscious of that. And so there's, it's not just even
people, like we're talking about schedule, it's things. So for
example, an overcrowded and I have an overcrowded inbox of
emails, okay? It doesn't get my time, I scan it. Because to sit
and spend hours on my email, and then I do I go in and do massive
deletes. But every time I it takes my time, I'm actually I
get actually angry, like no, you don't get to take my precious
life. You don't get to take my time. I choose this is back to
taking back your God given, I choose who gets my life. And
that's what you're talking about Natalie, for a person, it's also
true for things and meetings and expectations placed on you. So I
love that. Okay, so that's scheduled clutter. Okay, then
there's mental clutter, mental clutter. These are the open
loops. These are the decisions not made. For example, they're
the it's the it's the constant reminders, everything pinging
and dinging and binging in it, you know, used to just be one
place, you know, now it's your phone, and it's your computer,
and it's your iPad, and it's it, and it's coming from you can't
even find them all is from messenger and text message and
from WhatsApp. And you know what I'm saying? And so it's these
constant reminders that just take you out of your focus and
your thought we can't even think anymore. Or maybe it's just
overthinking. overthinking. You know, as I dance, I the thing I
hear most often, you know, as I'm down dancing last night and
learning Timba and stuff. And if I get in my head, I just I'm a
terrible dancer. And if I stop, and I just feel and I just move
to the music. And so like a friend, a really good friend
that I was dancing with, he's like, man, when you get out of
your head, you're like butter. And then when I'm not, he's
like, it's like pulling Frankenstein around when you're
when you're over anticipating what you think is coming, and
you're up in your head, and I can tell and you're thinking
and you're rigid. And it's like dragging Frankenstein around is
like that contrast, he's like, stop thinking, get out of your
head, stop thinking, right, which was what dance taught me
to do, because I've got a super active mind, it doesn't ever
stop. And so this is mental clutter, practicing, and this is
prayer, this is meditation, you know, this is be still, you
know, and know that I am God, it's dance. But it's like this
mental cloud, it's, it's the what ifs, it's the projection
and, and thinking out, it's the I should kind of thoughts,
right? So I want you to think about right now, what thoughts
or decisions and unfinished decisions, like weigh on you so
much things that you didn't just decide, you know what, it's
getting deleted or delegated, we're going to talk about the
four D's, it's weighing on you, because it's just sitting there.
So what thoughts or decisions are taking up space in your
mind? What's occupying real estate in your brain that
doesn't deserve to be to have that real estate? Which of this
mental clutter, what thoughts, what what decisions are taking
up space? What do you just need to make the decision so you can
forget about it? What do you just need to finish or decide
that you're not going to do it and be okay with it and put it
you know, as I'm consulting with a with a company and as I'm
working with three partners, some of the stuff I say that
goes in the parking lot. We're not dealing with that today.
Because I keep them focused on what we're dealing with. We're
not even that's not going to occupy real estate that's that's
going in the parking lot. Some stuff we got to put. I also have
an I don't know box. Stuff that I really don't understand. I
don't know. I don't know that goes in my I don't know box.
Okay, so what thoughts or decisions keep taking space in
your mind? And then there's heart
clutter, heart clutter, guilt, obligation, resentment,
fear of disappointing people, caring other people's emotions,
learning to have awareness constantly, say, is this mine?
Is this mine to carry?
This stuff I'm feeling, is this mine?
Especially if you're an empath and you really feel.
Linda and I have talked about that a lot.
When you're picking up, and if you're not aware,
you're just picking up everybody's stuff,
and you're just anxious.
And it's not until you go, wait a minute,
where's this coming from?
Is it coming from me, or is this mine to carry?
Carrying other people's emotions, feeling,
here's a big one, feeling responsible for outcomes
God never assigned to you.
Feeling responsible for outcomes God never assigned to you.
Trying to clean up messes that aren't yours to clean up,
carry things that are not yours because you
want it more for them.
Any of you that have addicts in your life,
and the way they behave, and the mess they make,
it's not yours to carry.
And I often have to sort that out.
It's not mine to solve.
If God is calling you to jump in, and help, and serve,
it's because you're honoring God,
and you're on a God assignment.
But it's not because you take on everything
because someone else isn't taking it on.
This is so freeing when you get this.
So what emotional weight are you carrying
that may not be yours to carry?
What emotional weight are you carrying that
might not be yours to carry?
Then, there's business and work clutter.
Business and work clutter.
You're trying to do too many offers.
You know, I have a lot of super creative clients,
always have new ideas, and creating new things.
And I was working with one yesterday,
and getting ready to do a lead magnet.
And to me, my brain just always follows that customer journey
from the lead magnet all the way through.
And I looked at that, and it's like,
this lead magnet that's going through,
is this your customer?
Is this your ideal customer?
How is this relating to your ideal customer?
And so often, I see business clutter.
Like I said, another one with the company I'm working with.
They're spending massive amount of money
for a website with massive amount of information
that since AI is completely irrelevant,
it's completely no longer necessary.
And they're still taking up mental clutter
and financial clutter.
And so being able to come in and go, wait a minute,
how is this accomplishing the vision?
How is this accomplishing the end goals?
It's just clutter.
And they got so set free.
Financially, mentally, you could just
see nobody had come in and told them, this has got to go.
Just because you start something,
doesn't mean you need to carry it for the rest of your life.
It was a great idea then.
Its season may have passed.
You may be carrying something from an old season
as fast as the world is changing.
That's no longer relevant.
What they had created, AI made completely irrelevant.
They have other stuff that's phenomenal.
Let's focus on what's relevant.
relevant and in line with the vision and the goals and going to produce fruit.
We're looking at fruit. So business word cloud are too many offers, too many platforms.
This is one of the reasons I often pull people onto one platform that does 15 things
and it costs like 20 bucks a month and we can stop having this scheduling app and this, you know,
like we don't need 15 apps to do something. We can do it all in one place. That's clutter,
business clutter. We're trying to do too many things manually.
I think Linda remembers we had a super brilliant person and she was doing everything manually.
She was scheduling all of her clients manually. She was sending them the workshops.
It was like she didn't know what to do with herself. We pulled it all in and like her day
was suddenly free. She was doing everything manually, right? So too many half-finished ideas,
too much manual work, too many strategies,
too little clarity on the highest fruit action. Now in the Prosper Leader membership,
I did a micro event a while back, profit with peace, where you did the time study and you
didn't just study it from what it was taking time, but we studied it from producing fruit.
We studied it from a lot of different angles in the profit with peace. So it's being aware of
where do you have business and work clutter. So just right now without doing the time study and
then you'll learn more, but where has my business or work become more complicated than fruitful?
Where has my business become more complicated than fruitful?
There are two things I really don't like. I don't like waste. I absolutely don't like waste
and I don't like energy that doesn't produce fruit.
Time and life, I have to constantly check with God because you can spend your whole life
on something that you don't enjoy that's not fulfilling and didn't produce fruit
because that's what you told you should do.
Okay, so of those four areas, I want you to look at what you wrote
and circle the one that feels the heaviest of those four areas. Which one feels the heaviest?
Now, once you do that,
I want you to understand that behind those actions, behind every action is a belief.
Your beliefs, your thoughts, your values are driving your actions.
So behind those actions is a belief. So complexity is not just a strategy problem,
there's a belief behind it. So we don't just keep carrying things for no reason, right?
So here's some sentences to help you kind of look at the underlying belief.
One of them would be, finish this sentence, if I don't do this blank,
that usually has quite a belief. If I don't do this then,
if I don't do this,
If I don't do this, blank.
Any of you get something for that sentence, does something come up for you?
If I don't do this, anybody get something like that?
If one of you got it, share it, so it helps everybody else.
If I don't do this, then, yeah, go ahead.
If I don't do cleaning, it won't get done because nobody else is going to do it.
That's right.
If I don't do the cleaning, it won't get done.
How about this one?
And that might be true because you've set it up that way.
You've trained the people around you to buy into that belief.
Well, she's just going to do it.
I don't need to do it.
So when that changes, look, we all live in this house, and I'm no longer willing to carry
the full load unless God has given you that, right?
You're like, you know, your husband's working to the bone.
There's no one else in the house.
Okay.
If God has given that to you, it's different than just, oh, to teach someone that, like
one common thing people don't hire and they don't allow people to help them, oh, it's
more work to train that person than just do it myself.
That's another kind of belief, right?
It keeps you prisoner to doing it yourself, right?
If I don't do it, it doesn't get done right.
Yeah.
And then that keeps you prisoner to that.
Hey, let it get done half right and raise up people who can do it and go through the
patience of that.
If I say no, blank.
If I rest, blank.
If I rest, does God need you to carry the world?
If you rest, the whole world falls apart.
You're that important.
You're just that powerful.
If you stop doing things, the entire world collapses.
You're just that powerful.
You're just that important.
The whole world falls apart.
But we believe this.
If I simplify, blank.
If I only focus on one thing, I'm afraid.
If I disappoint someone.
So take a minute that at least you've got one, make sure everybody's got one belief
system that's kind of driving whatever the heavy thing is.
And when you've done that, say done, I want to make sure everybody's got a belief system.
You're identifying a belief system that's driving the behavior.
And then just type done.
What is the belief system driving?
One of you has put done.
There we go.
Okay.
You guys are starting to get it.
Okay, all right, I think the answer is starting to get it.
So now I want you to look at that belief that you wrote and I want you to ask, is this the
voice of God?
Or is this the voice of fear, pressure, obligation?
Is this the slave woman talking?
Is this the voice of God or is this that inner slave woman?
See, God might convict, God might lead, God might stretch us, but God doesn't drive us
through panic and pressure.
He doesn't lead by constant contraction.
He's the God of peace.
Yesterday, we did 1 Corinthians 14, 33, he's not a God of disorder, but a God of peace.
So what is the pressure belief I need to break agreement with today?
What is the pressure, contraction, belief I've been holding to?
It's the inner slave woman, she's driving me.
She's driving me.
I want you to write down, I break agreement with the belief that if I don't do this, the
whole world falls apart.
If I don't do it, it can't get done.
If I don't do it, I'm going to disappoint people.
Cool, let them be disappointed.
If I don't do it, I break agreement with the belief that if I don't do it, I'll be disappointed.
I break agreement with the belief that.
Anybody want to share on that one?
Anything coming to you?
I'd love to hear.
What's God revealing to you in this?
Is this helpful?
Is it new?
Are you getting some good stuff from this?
I'd love to hear.
If you share, not only does it solidify for you, but it helps all your sisters.
I would say for me, it's more about the guilt.
Sometimes when I rest, I question myself, like I should be doing something else.
I feel lazy.
Why am I doing this?
Yes.
I feel like sometimes I don't deserve that time, you know, for myself.
So I have to really press on it more.
Yes.
And just do a scriptural search.
First of all, Jesus rested.
And is there anywhere that says don't rest?
Can you find any scripture that validates rest is bad?
Don't rest.
Like, can you find any scripture on that?
So it's a misthinking and the body needs rest.
And you're going to actually accomplish more after having rest.
You're going to be more creative.
You're going to be more loving.
Your kids are going to love the way you act after you rest.
You're going to have more to give to your husband after you rest.
Like everything turns around.
Oh, Colette says I wrote a lot of what Amanda just said.
You see how sharing is so important?
You realize you're not alone.
And, you know, for me, that was actually programmed into me.
And I can remember, I tell you that I can remember being, you know,
six, seven, eight years old.
And my dad, I'd be sleeping at, oh, dark 30 in the morning.
And he said, you can't make any money sleeping.
It's like I wasn't making any money.
I was a kid, right?
But it's that it's that programming.
Go, go, go.
And you got validation if you were go, go, go.
You actually got your worth.
In fact, it's like I put in my book, I wore busyness like a badge of honor.
Like, you know, how are you doing?
I'm so busy.
Like, that's really like a rocking thing to be like, yeah,
God, the angels are singing hallelujah because you're so busy.
That's the conditioning that we've gotten.
Your worth, your value comes from this craziness.
You're not important if you're not busy.
Natalie, go for it.
You're on a roll today.
No, I just cuz I just cuz you I just had a revelation and I gotta do something about it. Well, okay
So there's an organization that me and a group of people we chartered
this organization and
And everybody wants to be a part of it, but everybody's always afraid of leadership. So I've actually been the leader
Four different times for four different years and so we were at this pivotal place again and
And everybody was saying and even those that well we can't
We can't just let it go. You know what I'm saying? And so
You know, and so it's I don't know what it was about me this is no we cannot just let it go
So I will step up to lead again. And when you said that I'm looking well, damn it
Nobody else thought it was important enough to step up to lead
What the hell did I just do? Yeah, I just hit me like
If I'm the only one that thinks it's that important maybe it's not that important. Yeah
Because you're also
robbing them of the chance to grow by stepping up when you when you create the space and
And you can say hey, I've done it all these times
Is this important for all of us?
Important enough that one of you are willing to step up and I did that and that's but what happened was I did it
But I should have stuck to my guns and I'm not doing it
Okay, and I did that I did that and nobody was everybody was this but everybody kept saying we can't just let it go
we can't just let it go and
I
Took that crap on and now I'm pissed
Maybe
Yeah, I gotta renegotiate that okay
because if God didn't call you to it and and you're not if you're operating because no one else wants to or you're
Operating, you know all those other reasons and God didn't call you to it
Well, yeah, there's there's a lot of things to know is how easy is it to have Natalie handled us, right?
You know
That's my problem
That's easy Street, right?
Cuz she'll get it done. Yeah. Yeah, I don't want to be the get-it-done girl no more
Collette said you could take on an assistant and then let them lead. I won't be there today. Go ahead and handle it
Well, no, cuz I I thought I was doing that and she hasn't shown
I
Let thank you that was actually my plan
To to help groom a new leader. Yeah, and she hasn't shown up. So, okay
Yeah
Good no reminds me of when I was a schoolteacher and
Invariably the same mother would be the room mother from grade to grade because they always
Volunteered and everyone knew they were the doers. So they would just wait
They just hang back and wait because they knew that she would take it on
So and maybe maybe you've kind of got to figure out if you need to bow out on this or not
No, I know I do got to figure that out. That's what that's what the epiphany was like
What's that?
Good stuff. Thank you for sharing. You're giving courage to other people
So we don't have time to do another exercise but you could do it at home
Another thing is just becoming aware of your body
Right because the body reveals what the mind has
normalized and so as you're kind of going through your list and you're looking at the pressure and the people and the
Expectations notice in your body
Where you're feeling that is it in your chest? Is it in your shoulders? Is it in your stomach?
You know, you don't judge it just notice it and then it's a place for prayer
You know Lord, where am I carrying what you didn't ask me to carry?
Where am I carrying what you didn't ask me to carry and
then go back to what we've talked about with the one thing and
Lord, what's the one thing?
That you're asking of me
today this week
This month this year. What do you what's the one thing? It's like Jesus said to Martha
Martha Martha you have many things and Martha tried to pull Mary into it
Hey get her to help me. It was trying to make her we're gonna have guilt and condemnation and hoping Jesus would step in
and make her go get busy with Martha and
Jesus answer was not to Mary. It was to Martha Martha Martha. You're worried about many things
when really there's only a few. And Mary has chosen the one thing and it will not be taken from her.
Just think about that.
And so when you kind of come back in line with what the Lord's calling you,
now notice your body. Did your breathing change? Did your shoulders drop?
Like just notice. Do you feel relieved? Just thinking about that like you're angry,
Natalie, to push you into action. But then once you do it, just think about
what happens in your body. And so then you go back to the one thing I sense God asking me to
focus on this week is. The one thing I sense God asking me to focus on is.
And then I want you to go to the book, to the chapter, to total, go to total soul
prosperity on the chapter on S. And I really go through the four D's.
The delete, the delegate, the delay, and the do.
And so start going through that process for, for deleting. What can I eliminate completely?
What can I eliminate completely? And I give you great examples because it's not producing
fruit or because it's not aligned with this season or it's not mine to carry.
So there's some things you can just flat out delete. Natalie, that might be a thing that
it just flat out needs to be deleted. Right? So there's things there's, there's like tasks that
no longer matter, or there's like ideas or content that's draining you or, or a project
God didn't call you to, or even the habit of checking something constantly, that's an addiction.
Like one of my coaches, or people that I really glean a lot from, David Guillaume, he turns
off his phone. He takes a Sabbath, which is very biblical. He takes a Sabbath Friday night
to Saturday night. This is, this man owns a billion dollar company and he's just got a huge
teaching ministry, millions of followers. Okay. And Friday night to Saturday night, his phone is off.
Like take, take a, you know, a break from technology. It's frying us. So that habit of
constantly having to check something. So many people, the manual process of doing things that
no longer makes sense. AI does all of this stuff. Now you don't have to do so much of this stuff.
Right? There's so much that's automated. I don't schedule my clients. Everyone, you all know,
if you're my client, you got to get your butt in there and schedule yourself.
That's not my responsibility. And if you need to change, you've got the right to go in there and
change it yourself. I give you full access at my schedules there. That's yours. I'm not chasing
you around. And there's automation. There's things to remind you that has been a while.
There's things to remind me, but I'm not in the babysitting business. Do you see how that
sets you free? I am not going to spend my time scheduling you. Formatting things, research,
follow up. Like so much of the stuff is now can be totally automated. I mean, even silly things.
I love my oofy vacuum cleaner. I can clean it out every morning and plug it and it's busy
working while I'm talking to you. It's, it's vacuuming the entire house. Thank God for
technology. And it does a dang good job. I know. Cause I cleaned it out every day. Right?
So like, I don't need to be doing that manually. And personally, you know how I feel. I don't need
to be grocery shopping. I'd rather pay the extra $3 and Instacart delivers to my door.
I don't need to drive there and shop the aisles and stand in line. My time's precious.
Those are examples, right? And then delay. So that's delete, delay.
What can wait without you being in disobedience? This is important. Not everything you delay is
procrastination. It can be choice, awareness and choice. Sometimes delay is wisdom.
Like I said, there's things I put in the parking lot. You know, I have these brilliant clients and,
and they're wanting to create all these things. And they're wanting to work on their website and
there. And I'm like, okay, the website's going in the parking lot. That's not,
what's going to change your business today. We can get to six feet.
figures with no website.
So I'll often put those things,
because when you look at the scale of what needs to happen,
many people in their business, they're trying to,
you know, we go all the way from vision
to choosing the business model,
to putting in place the systems, you know,
and the marketing and all of that.
And then, you know, they're scaling.
Many people are starting at the scaling.
They're trying to do what seven and eight figure coaches
are doing and they're up here.
It's out of order.
What things do we need to delay?
You're trying to do too many things.
And then what do I need to do?
Okay?
So blessings.
I pray this has got you thinking as you move
from pressure to partnership.
Walking in peace, walking in fruitfulness.
All right?
Lots of love.
See you next week.
Actually, it's office hours.
I'm going to turn off, turn back on,
and we're going to do office hours.
Okay.