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And welcome, welcome, welcome to From Pressure to Partnership.

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And I've just been so excited going through really the PROSPER framework, which if you've

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read my book, you're familiar with it.

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Every chapter is one of these.

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So this is a great supplement to go along with what we're teaching.

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And so we, of course, are in the S, P-R-O-S-P-E-R.

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We are on the S, which is simplify to create space.

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So yesterday in the Power Hour, of course, that's where we really go through the promises

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and the principles, and we pray.

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And so we laid the spiritual foundation, the biblical foundation for it.

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And then, and there's so much more, I mean, you can only do so many scriptures in a call.

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So you guys can go deep with this.

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This is cover to cover what I'm teaching in the PROSPER system, PROSPER framework.

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And today, From Pressure to Partnership, what I love to do is do a lot more experiential,

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lets you just really assimilate it, let it get down in you.

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So kind of move from the head to the heart and the experiencing.

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And it's a time of awareness.

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I'm such a firm believer, coaching since 2012 and mentoring for decades before that.

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I'm so aware that awareness is the first step to transformation.

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And so it's like, you can't unsee something.

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Once you know something, then you can begin changing.

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But when you're not aware of it, you can't change what you don't see, what you don't

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know.

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And so, so much of this is just being aware.

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And so I love using the From Pressure to Partnership to create that awareness, right?

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And so as we talk about simplify, and of course, the whole concept of From Pressure

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to Partnership is that so many people are living from a very contracted state, okay?

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I mean, the foundation of all of this is that fear, everything we do is either fear-based

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or love-based.

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There's two tracks, okay?

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Always, you're either operating out of fear or you're operating out of love.

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And anything that is fear-based contracts.

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And you can see that physically in the body when you're afraid, you hold your breath,

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you know, the blood goes to the center, leaves your breath, like we contract, every part

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of us.

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Think about right before something happens.

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What do you do?

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Like, like you see an accident about to happen or something, you, right?

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You contract.

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And this is how many are living, not just in a moment of fear, but fear has become normalized

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that we're living in this contracted state all the time.

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And so that was the point of this whole From Pressure to Partnership, because in partnership,

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we begin to walk in God's love and God's peace and love is the opposite of contraction.

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It's expansive.

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It's ever ending expansion, Jabez, expand my territory.

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And so it's expansive mentally in the mind of Christ, there's, there's no end and it's

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expansive in the love.

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There's no way to, there's no end, right?

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And Paul tries to share those kinds of things, you know, how high, how deep, how wide, like

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it's, it's indescribable.

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It's huge.

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There's no end.

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And so it's a limitless life.

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It's an ever expanding, ever growing life, which is just like so exciting when you think

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about it.

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What do you want to be in a, in a box and contracted or an ever expanding, there's no

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end to the creative, no end to the experiences, no end to the joy, no end to the love, no

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end to the fun there, like, like it just keeps going and going and going, right?

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And that's the

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expansive. That's the abundant life that God has called us to live, right? And so that contrast of

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moving from that contracted state of being, which is so limiting, your brain is shut down,

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your creativity is shut down, your body's not functioning in fullness, your love's not

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functioning in fullness, your joy's not, like, to move from that contracted state to the abundant

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life that is ever expanding. No end to the joy, to the things you can create, the things you can

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write, the things you can experience, the love you can experience, like, it's ever expanding.

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Like, who would want to live any other way? Lack of awareness. Most people are sleepwalking.

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They're unconscious. They don't realize they're contracted. It's fear has become normalized.

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We study fear. We watch fear on the news, and in every movie, and in everything,

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like, this contracted state has become normalized. And we have things like, well, if it's too good

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to be true, like, it can't be that good. There's no way you could just experience, like, endless

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miracles. There's no way you could just experience that. You can't be happy all the time. And I say

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you can. And it starts with awareness, and it's continued with choice. We choose life. We choose

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love. We choose abundance. We choose joy. You know, I've shared with you many times, it's a

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deliberate choice, and it's teaching a new habit and a new programming. From the minute I open my

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eyes, I'm conditioning myself. I will not allow that stuff to take my first fruits that belong

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to God, which is the morning. And so I purposely, whenever the weather permits, I mean, I'm outside

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barefoot first thing on the lawn, and I'm praising God, and I'm moving, and I'm breathing, and I'm

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grounding. And then I come in, and man, I blast music in my house, and it's music that completely

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just lifts me. Today is just a really fun song, and I'm just going to give you a sample. Let's

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see if I can just grab it, because I've been listening to it all morning. I just want you to

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see, like, putting yourself in that kind of state, right? So let me go into my morning music here,

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and this one, you guys could look it up. It's Forrest Frank. It's called Good Day. You guys

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know that one? I mean, just think, how can you be contracted and listen to this?

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Every single way.

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And then you dance in the morning. Get your body moving, and you start dancing,

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and you change your state. So I'm dancing all over my kitchen, and as I'm making my green juice,

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right? But you're priming yourself to live an expanded, joy-filled life. Are you raising your

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hand, Natalie? What's up? Tell me. So, you know, I saw this beautiful post yesterday, and it just

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reminded me. So, I don't know, some of you may have heard of Tabitha Brown, if you haven't. You

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know, she's a phenomenal story, phenomenal story. And so she did a post yesterday, and she was

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sitting in her backyard, and she said, you know, I went to the doctor, and she's been having

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something going on with her hip, and she said, and the report I got was not the report I wanted.

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And she said, and, you know, so you have to find the joy in sometimes, and as she's talking,

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she puts the camera on, and she starts, she starts smiling because there's a hummingbird.

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And she said, but I can choose to focus on the news that I got, or I can choose to focus on

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the fact that there's a hummingbird that trusts me in his presence so much that he's able.

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that he was flying like right near me.

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I love that.

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I had the same experience.

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I love that.

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She said, I have doves that have chosen my house

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to build a nest.

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She said, I'm launching my new this, that and the other

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next week.

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And she said, and I'm in the negotiation

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for one of the biggest deals of my life

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that could change the trajectory of my family.

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These are all beautiful things that are happening.

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Magnificent things that are happening at the same time

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that I'm getting this news.

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Where am I gonna focus my energy?

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Where am I gonna focus my thoughts?

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How am I gonna do this?

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I just wanted to share that with you.

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Thank you.

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Thank you for sharing that.

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And so, as I'm sharing this, I'm setting you up

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for what, why have we been doing all of this

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from pressure to partnership and just come back and review.

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There's a reason that we're doing that.

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Amanda, I have to listen to worship.

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And yes, and I found the most amazing worship music lately

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that is coming out that is this kind of happy,

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happy, happy music.

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And yes, move your body, prime yourself,

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change your state, right?

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So, amen.

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So that's the purpose.

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And so, in the power hours, Wednesday morning at eight,

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we're laying the biblical scriptural foundation.

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And then today, since this is about,

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first it's awareness and then it's choosing,

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I use these days, Thursday mornings at eight,

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to create more awareness

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and let you just really experience it

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and then leave from here making choices, right?

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And that's how this transformation,

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taking every thought captive,

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this is how the transformation happens.

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So, as we are working on S,

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and of course you can go back and listen to yesterday.

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Yesterday, the main scriptures,

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we started with Martha and Mary.

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And we were talking,

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Martha wasn't doing something wrong, right?

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She just wasn't choosing the highest

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and the divine order in the moment, right?

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And then we did supporting scriptures of Matthew 6.33

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and 1 Corinthians 14.33, right?

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As we go through this.

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And so, think about,

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well, let's just go in,

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since we've kind of been talking,

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let's just go straight in.

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I'm not gonna do a review, you guys can do yesterday.

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So, what we were talking about is,

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where, like we talked about,

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there's no room at the end,

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like infinite love, infinite wisdom,

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infinite glory, like came to the planet

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and there was no room at the end.

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And where is that true in this end?

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Where is there no room for what we're talking about here?

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Where's there no room for joy?

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Where's there no room for peace?

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Where's there no room for experiencing life?

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And what you're talking about, Natalie,

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I had the same experience.

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I posted it, I don't know,

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maybe a month or so ago on my Facebook

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and this hummingbird just came in

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and it was so beautiful

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because that day the lilies had bloomed, the Easter lilies.

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And those were planted by my dear friend, Mary Jane,

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who's no longer with us.

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And so, every year when they bloom,

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like I'm already just like thankful for that.

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There are these beautiful, big, red Easter lilies.

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And now the hummingbird's coming to those.

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And then it did the same thing.

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It just like gets in front of me

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and it's just like, you know, just talking to me

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and just hanging out with me right here.

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And I was, I had the same thing.

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I was like so blown away.

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And so it taking time to experience

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that expanded state of appreciation,

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of gratitude, of joy, of love.

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So we talked yesterday,

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pressure is coming from overcrowded, okay?

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our schedule, our mind, our heart,

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and our business and our work.

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And by the way, even as we're talking,

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there's a favorite book that I have.

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I'm gonna grab it right here.

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Pardon my lean.

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And it's called,

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The Roots.

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Elimination of Hurry. This is such a good book. The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry.

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And How to Stay Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in the Chaos of the

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Modern World. So that's the kind of stuff that that we're we're talking about. So

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there's this these crowded schedule, crowded mind, crowded heart, crowded

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business and and work. So right now out of those, where are we feeling most

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crowded now? So let's talk about schedule. What does schedule clutter look like?

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Schedule clutter looks like too many appointments, for example. Too many

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obligations.

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Too many unfinished tasks. Too many commitments. Too much on the calendar

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with no margin. Now any of you that have been around me anytime you know I color

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code my calendar. I've got not only just all my computer calendars and I teach

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all this in my book. So you guys can go to the chapter S in here and I really

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walk you through it. But I at a glance can tell about the balance of my life.

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Anything to do with with money and and business is green. If there's no green in

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there, you know you're withering on the vine, right? And then anything spiritual

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is purple. And if there's no spiritual in there, you're withering on the vine, right?

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And anything pink is love and fun. And if that's not in there, like what a

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boring life that you have, right? And so you've got like you can at a glance you

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can see how full it is and you can see how balanced it is, right? And so so what

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on your calendar right now is creating pressure? Let's just do some awareness

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exercises. What on your calendar is producing pressure? What on your what's

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filling your calendar that's producing pressure? Maybe things you just agreed to

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that you didn't really want to that God wasn't even really calling you but you

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felt it was the shoulds, right? You should on yourself. And maybe it's other

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people putting their obligations on you, their urgency, their emergency. It's not

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necessarily your urgency. If they created a certain situation and they want you

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immediately to jump in and fix it, it may not be for you. Did you just raise

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your hand, Natalie? Or is that old? Okay, go ahead. Speak up. You know, I think I've

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shared this before, but I just want to share a tool because a lot of times

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people have a hard time saying no. And so what I what I teach my clients is that

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first of all, God gifted you with the day. Yeah. So when you wake up, your schedule

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is booked already. Yeah. Because it's your day. That's right. So when someone

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asks you, can you do something? You always one of the ways you always say is let me

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check my schedule. Yeah. If you if you can't say no. And remember, your day is

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already booked. Yeah. You share the day with other appointments. Yeah. So if

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somebody comes and you see a block of time, and it looks open, it's not open,

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it's booked. Yeah. And then you get to trade off. Do I want to unbook this time?

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You know, and then so so if somebody says to you, you can you can say, even if you

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don't want to check and say, Oh, no, I'm booked for the day. Yes. And they'll be

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like, What? Yep, I'm booked. And you're not telling a story. That's because you

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are booked. Because God gave you that day. Yeah. Thank you for sharing. I love

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that. You know, I'm going to add a little perspective to that as as well

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that has really changed my life. And when I give you my time, or anything,

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anyone, my time, I'm giving my life. I'm getting a part of my life that I can

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never get back again. Money, I can go get more money. Time, life, I can't go

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get more. So when you become very

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conscious of that. And so there's, it's not just even

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people, like we're talking about schedule, it's things. So for

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example, an overcrowded and I have an overcrowded inbox of

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emails, okay? It doesn't get my time, I scan it. Because to sit

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and spend hours on my email, and then I do I go in and do massive

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deletes. But every time I it takes my time, I'm actually I

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get actually angry, like no, you don't get to take my precious

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life. You don't get to take my time. I choose this is back to

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taking back your God given, I choose who gets my life. And

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that's what you're talking about Natalie, for a person, it's also

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true for things and meetings and expectations placed on you. So I

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love that. Okay, so that's scheduled clutter. Okay, then

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there's mental clutter, mental clutter. These are the open

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loops. These are the decisions not made. For example, they're

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the it's the it's the constant reminders, everything pinging

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and dinging and binging in it, you know, used to just be one

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place, you know, now it's your phone, and it's your computer,

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and it's your iPad, and it's it, and it's coming from you can't

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even find them all is from messenger and text message and

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from WhatsApp. And you know what I'm saying? And so it's these

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constant reminders that just take you out of your focus and

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your thought we can't even think anymore. Or maybe it's just

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overthinking. overthinking. You know, as I dance, I the thing I

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hear most often, you know, as I'm down dancing last night and

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learning Timba and stuff. And if I get in my head, I just I'm a

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terrible dancer. And if I stop, and I just feel and I just move

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to the music. And so like a friend, a really good friend

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that I was dancing with, he's like, man, when you get out of

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your head, you're like butter. And then when I'm not, he's

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like, it's like pulling Frankenstein around when you're

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when you're over anticipating what you think is coming, and

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you're up in your head, and I can tell and you're thinking

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and you're rigid. And it's like dragging Frankenstein around is

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like that contrast, he's like, stop thinking, get out of your

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head, stop thinking, right, which was what dance taught me

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to do, because I've got a super active mind, it doesn't ever

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stop. And so this is mental clutter, practicing, and this is

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prayer, this is meditation, you know, this is be still, you

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know, and know that I am God, it's dance. But it's like this

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mental cloud, it's, it's the what ifs, it's the projection

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and, and thinking out, it's the I should kind of thoughts,

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right? So I want you to think about right now, what thoughts

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or decisions and unfinished decisions, like weigh on you so

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much things that you didn't just decide, you know what, it's

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getting deleted or delegated, we're going to talk about the

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four D's, it's weighing on you, because it's just sitting there.

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So what thoughts or decisions are taking up space in your

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mind? What's occupying real estate in your brain that

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doesn't deserve to be to have that real estate? Which of this

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mental clutter, what thoughts, what what decisions are taking

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up space? What do you just need to make the decision so you can

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forget about it? What do you just need to finish or decide

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that you're not going to do it and be okay with it and put it

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you know, as I'm consulting with a with a company and as I'm

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working with three partners, some of the stuff I say that

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goes in the parking lot. We're not dealing with that today.

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Because I keep them focused on what we're dealing with. We're

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not even that's not going to occupy real estate that's that's

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going in the parking lot. Some stuff we got to put. I also have

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an I don't know box. Stuff that I really don't understand. I

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don't know. I don't know that goes in my I don't know box.

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Okay, so what thoughts or decisions keep taking space in

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your mind? And then there's heart

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clutter, heart clutter, guilt, obligation, resentment,

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fear of disappointing people, caring other people's emotions,

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learning to have awareness constantly, say, is this mine?

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Is this mine to carry?

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This stuff I'm feeling, is this mine?

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Especially if you're an empath and you really feel.

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Linda and I have talked about that a lot.

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When you're picking up, and if you're not aware,

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you're just picking up everybody's stuff,

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and you're just anxious.

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And it's not until you go, wait a minute,

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where's this coming from?

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Is it coming from me, or is this mine to carry?

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Carrying other people's emotions, feeling,

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here's a big one, feeling responsible for outcomes

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God never assigned to you.

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Feeling responsible for outcomes God never assigned to you.

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Trying to clean up messes that aren't yours to clean up,

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carry things that are not yours because you

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want it more for them.

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Any of you that have addicts in your life,

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and the way they behave, and the mess they make,

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it's not yours to carry.

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And I often have to sort that out.

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It's not mine to solve.

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If God is calling you to jump in, and help, and serve,

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it's because you're honoring God,

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and you're on a God assignment.

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But it's not because you take on everything

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because someone else isn't taking it on.

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This is so freeing when you get this.

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So what emotional weight are you carrying

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that may not be yours to carry?

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What emotional weight are you carrying that

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might not be yours to carry?

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Then, there's business and work clutter.

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Business and work clutter.

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You're trying to do too many offers.

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You know, I have a lot of super creative clients,

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always have new ideas, and creating new things.

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and getting ready to do a lead magnet.

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And to me, my brain just always follows that customer journey

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from the lead magnet all the way through.

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this lead magnet that's going through,

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is this your customer?

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Is this your ideal customer?

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How is this relating to your ideal customer?

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And so often, I see business clutter.

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Like I said, another one with the company I'm working with.

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They're spending massive amount of money

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for a website with massive amount of information

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that since AI is completely irrelevant,

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it's completely no longer necessary.

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And they're still taking up mental clutter

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and financial clutter.

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And so being able to come in and go, wait a minute,

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how is this accomplishing the vision?

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How is this accomplishing the end goals?

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It's just clutter.

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And they got so set free.

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Financially, mentally, you could just

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see nobody had come in and told them, this has got to go.

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Just because you start something,

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doesn't mean you need to carry it for the rest of your life.

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It was a great idea then.

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Its season may have passed.

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You may be carrying something from an old season

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as fast as the world is changing.

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That's no longer relevant.

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What they had created, AI made completely irrelevant.

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They have other stuff that's phenomenal.

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Let's focus on what's relevant.

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relevant and in line with the vision and the goals and going to produce fruit.

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We're looking at fruit. So business word cloud are too many offers, too many platforms.

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This is one of the reasons I often pull people onto one platform that does 15 things

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and it costs like 20 bucks a month and we can stop having this scheduling app and this, you know,

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like we don't need 15 apps to do something. We can do it all in one place. That's clutter,

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business clutter. We're trying to do too many things manually.

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I think Linda remembers we had a super brilliant person and she was doing everything manually.

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She was scheduling all of her clients manually. She was sending them the workshops.

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It was like she didn't know what to do with herself. We pulled it all in and like her day

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was suddenly free. She was doing everything manually, right? So too many half-finished ideas,

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too much manual work, too many strategies,

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too little clarity on the highest fruit action. Now in the Prosper Leader membership,

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I did a micro event a while back, profit with peace, where you did the time study and you

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didn't just study it from what it was taking time, but we studied it from producing fruit.

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We studied it from a lot of different angles in the profit with peace. So it's being aware of

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where do you have business and work clutter. So just right now without doing the time study and

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then you'll learn more, but where has my business or work become more complicated than fruitful?

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Where has my business become more complicated than fruitful?

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There are two things I really don't like. I don't like waste. I absolutely don't like waste

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and I don't like energy that doesn't produce fruit.

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Time and life, I have to constantly check with God because you can spend your whole life

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on something that you don't enjoy that's not fulfilling and didn't produce fruit

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because that's what you told you should do.

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Okay, so of those four areas, I want you to look at what you wrote

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and circle the one that feels the heaviest of those four areas. Which one feels the heaviest?

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Now, once you do that,

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I want you to understand that behind those actions, behind every action is a belief.

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Your beliefs, your thoughts, your values are driving your actions.

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So behind those actions is a belief. So complexity is not just a strategy problem,

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there's a belief behind it. So we don't just keep carrying things for no reason, right?

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So here's some sentences to help you kind of look at the underlying belief.

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One of them would be, finish this sentence, if I don't do this blank,

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that usually has quite a belief. If I don't do this then,

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if I don't do this,

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Any of you get something for that sentence, does something come up for you?

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If I don't do this, anybody get something like that?

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If one of you got it, share it, so it helps everybody else.

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If I don't do this, then, yeah, go ahead.

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If I don't do cleaning, it won't get done because nobody else is going to do it.

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That's right.

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If I don't do the cleaning, it won't get done.

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How about this one?

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And that might be true because you've set it up that way.

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You've trained the people around you to buy into that belief.

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Well, she's just going to do it.

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I don't need to do it.

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So when that changes, look, we all live in this house, and I'm no longer willing to carry

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the full load unless God has given you that, right?

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You're like, you know, your husband's working to the bone.

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There's no one else in the house.

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If God has given that to you, it's different than just, oh, to teach someone that, like

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one common thing people don't hire and they don't allow people to help them, oh, it's

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more work to train that person than just do it myself.

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That's another kind of belief, right?

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It keeps you prisoner to doing it yourself, right?

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If I don't do it, it doesn't get done right.

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And then that keeps you prisoner to that.

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Hey, let it get done half right and raise up people who can do it and go through the

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patience of that.

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If I rest, does God need you to carry the world?

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If you rest, the whole world falls apart.

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You're that important.

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You're just that powerful.

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If you stop doing things, the entire world collapses.

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You're just that powerful.

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You're just that important.

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The whole world falls apart.

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But we believe this.

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If I simplify, blank.

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If I only focus on one thing, I'm afraid.

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If I only focus on one thing, I'm afraid.

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If I disappoint someone.

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So take a minute that at least you've got one, make sure everybody's got one belief

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system that's kind of driving whatever the heavy thing is.

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And when you've done that, say done, I want to make sure everybody's got a belief system.

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00:38:55.320 --> 00:39:03.840
You're identifying a belief system that's driving the behavior.

467
00:39:03.840 --> 00:39:09.560
And then just type done.

468
00:39:09.560 --> 00:39:11.480
What is the belief system driving?

469
00:39:39.560 --> 00:39:50.640
One of you has put done.

470
00:39:50.640 --> 00:39:51.640
There we go.

471
00:39:51.640 --> 00:39:52.640
Okay.

472
00:39:52.640 --> 00:39:57.640
You guys are starting to get it.

473
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:12.760
Okay, all right, I think the answer is starting to get it.

474
00:40:12.760 --> 00:40:19.720
So now I want you to look at that belief that you wrote and I want you to ask, is this the

475
00:40:19.720 --> 00:40:24.360
voice of God?

476
00:40:24.360 --> 00:40:27.800
Or is this the voice of fear, pressure, obligation?

477
00:40:27.800 --> 00:40:29.400
Is this the slave woman talking?

478
00:40:29.800 --> 00:40:32.440
Is this the voice of God or is this that inner slave woman?

479
00:40:36.280 --> 00:40:42.760
See, God might convict, God might lead, God might stretch us, but God doesn't drive us

480
00:40:43.400 --> 00:40:45.640
through panic and pressure.

481
00:40:47.880 --> 00:40:52.360
He doesn't lead by constant contraction.

482
00:40:53.960 --> 00:40:55.160
He's the God of peace.

483
00:40:55.720 --> 00:41:02.520
Yesterday, we did 1 Corinthians 14, 33, he's not a God of disorder, but a God of peace.

484
00:41:05.240 --> 00:41:11.720
So what is the pressure belief I need to break agreement with today?

485
00:41:12.920 --> 00:41:18.200
What is the pressure, contraction, belief I've been holding to?

486
00:41:18.840 --> 00:41:22.680
It's the inner slave woman, she's driving me.

487
00:41:22.680 --> 00:41:24.520
She's driving me.

488
00:41:24.520 --> 00:41:31.400
I want you to write down, I break agreement with the belief that if I don't do this, the

489
00:41:31.400 --> 00:41:32.760
whole world falls apart.

490
00:41:35.160 --> 00:41:37.000
If I don't do it, it can't get done.

491
00:41:40.360 --> 00:41:42.680
If I don't do it, I'm going to disappoint people.

492
00:41:42.680 --> 00:41:44.600
Cool, let them be disappointed.

493
00:41:44.680 --> 00:41:51.640
If I don't do it, I break agreement with the belief that if I don't do it, I'll be disappointed.

494
00:41:51.640 --> 00:41:54.760
I break agreement with the belief that.

495
00:42:03.960 --> 00:42:05.960
Anybody want to share on that one?

496
00:42:06.600 --> 00:42:07.720
Anything coming to you?

497
00:42:09.480 --> 00:42:10.440
I'd love to hear.

498
00:42:11.560 --> 00:42:13.400
What's God revealing to you in this?

499
00:42:15.400 --> 00:42:16.360
Is this helpful?

500
00:42:16.360 --> 00:42:16.920
Is it new?

501
00:42:16.920 --> 00:42:19.320
Are you getting some good stuff from this?

502
00:42:19.320 --> 00:42:20.440
I'd love to hear.

503
00:42:20.440 --> 00:42:24.440
If you share, not only does it solidify for you, but it helps all your sisters.

504
00:42:27.480 --> 00:42:30.520
I would say for me, it's more about the guilt.

505
00:42:32.600 --> 00:42:38.040
Sometimes when I rest, I question myself, like I should be doing something else.

506
00:42:38.040 --> 00:42:39.480
I feel lazy.

507
00:42:39.480 --> 00:42:40.920
Why am I doing this?

508
00:42:41.800 --> 00:42:42.300
Yes.

509
00:42:42.920 --> 00:42:48.840
I feel like sometimes I don't deserve that time, you know, for myself.

510
00:42:49.720 --> 00:42:53.640
So I have to really press on it more.

511
00:42:53.640 --> 00:42:54.140
Yes.

512
00:42:54.920 --> 00:42:57.240
And just do a scriptural search.

513
00:42:57.240 --> 00:42:59.320
First of all, Jesus rested.

514
00:42:59.320 --> 00:43:02.600
And is there anywhere that says don't rest?

515
00:43:02.600 --> 00:43:07.160
Can you find any scripture that validates rest is bad?

516
00:43:08.760 --> 00:43:09.400
Don't rest.

517
00:43:10.200 --> 00:43:13.080
Like, can you find any scripture on that?

518
00:43:14.200 --> 00:43:19.640
So it's a misthinking and the body needs rest.

519
00:43:20.920 --> 00:43:25.160
And you're going to actually accomplish more after having rest.

520
00:43:26.760 --> 00:43:28.280
You're going to be more creative.

521
00:43:28.840 --> 00:43:29.960
You're going to be more loving.

522
00:43:29.960 --> 00:43:33.000
Your kids are going to love the way you act after you rest.

523
00:43:33.000 --> 00:43:36.520
You're going to have more to give to your husband after you rest.

524
00:43:37.480 --> 00:43:39.880
Like everything turns around.

525
00:43:43.640 --> 00:43:47.320
Oh, Colette says I wrote a lot of what Amanda just said.

526
00:43:47.880 --> 00:43:49.720
You see how sharing is so important?

527
00:43:50.600 --> 00:43:52.040
You realize you're not alone.

528
00:43:53.160 --> 00:43:57.720
And, you know, for me, that was actually programmed into me.

529
00:43:57.720 --> 00:44:01.720
And I can remember, I tell you that I can remember being, you know,

530
00:44:02.520 --> 00:44:04.200
six, seven, eight years old.

531
00:44:04.280 --> 00:44:08.040
And my dad, I'd be sleeping at, oh, dark 30 in the morning.

532
00:44:08.040 --> 00:44:10.280
And he said, you can't make any money sleeping.

533
00:44:11.480 --> 00:44:12.920
It's like I wasn't making any money.

534
00:44:12.920 --> 00:44:13.880
I was a kid, right?

535
00:44:14.760 --> 00:44:17.320
But it's that it's that programming.

536
00:44:17.320 --> 00:44:18.200
Go, go, go.

537
00:44:18.200 --> 00:44:21.240
And you got validation if you were go, go, go.

538
00:44:22.360 --> 00:44:23.960
You actually got your worth.

539
00:44:23.960 --> 00:44:30.600
In fact, it's like I put in my book, I wore busyness like a badge of honor.

540
00:44:30.600 --> 00:44:32.280
Like, you know, how are you doing?

541
00:44:32.280 --> 00:44:33.720
I'm so busy.

542
00:44:35.000 --> 00:44:37.960
Like, that's really like a rocking thing to be like, yeah,

543
00:44:38.520 --> 00:44:42.600
God, the angels are singing hallelujah because you're so busy.

544
00:44:44.040 --> 00:44:46.200
That's the conditioning that we've gotten.

545
00:44:46.200 --> 00:44:49.400
Your worth, your value comes from this craziness.

546
00:44:51.480 --> 00:44:53.720
You're not important if you're not busy.

547
00:44:57.800 --> 00:44:58.920
Natalie, go for it.

548
00:44:58.920 --> 00:44:59.960
You're on a roll today.

549
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:07.200
No, I just cuz I just cuz you I just had a revelation and I gotta do something about it. Well, okay

550
00:45:07.200 --> 00:45:11.820
So there's an organization that me and a group of people we chartered

551
00:45:12.280 --> 00:45:14.280
this organization and

552
00:45:15.120 --> 00:45:20.880
And everybody wants to be a part of it, but everybody's always afraid of leadership. So I've actually been the leader

553
00:45:22.560 --> 00:45:27.760
Four different times for four different years and so we were at this pivotal place again and

554
00:45:27.960 --> 00:45:32.600
And everybody was saying and even those that well we can't

555
00:45:33.800 --> 00:45:36.800
We can't just let it go. You know what I'm saying? And so

556
00:45:38.480 --> 00:45:42.860
You know, and so it's I don't know what it was about me this is no we cannot just let it go

557
00:45:42.860 --> 00:45:48.000
So I will step up to lead again. And when you said that I'm looking well, damn it

558
00:45:48.000 --> 00:45:50.880
Nobody else thought it was important enough to step up to lead

559
00:45:51.520 --> 00:45:55.040
What the hell did I just do? Yeah, I just hit me like

560
00:45:56.040 --> 00:46:00.280
If I'm the only one that thinks it's that important maybe it's not that important. Yeah

561
00:46:07.640 --> 00:46:09.240
Because you're also

562
00:46:09.240 --> 00:46:16.240
robbing them of the chance to grow by stepping up when you when you create the space and

563
00:46:16.680 --> 00:46:19.680
And you can say hey, I've done it all these times

564
00:46:19.680 --> 00:46:21.680
Is this important for all of us?

565
00:46:21.960 --> 00:46:28.840
Important enough that one of you are willing to step up and I did that and that's but what happened was I did it

566
00:46:28.920 --> 00:46:32.280
But I should have stuck to my guns and I'm not doing it

567
00:46:32.280 --> 00:46:38.040
Okay, and I did that I did that and nobody was everybody was this but everybody kept saying we can't just let it go

568
00:46:38.040 --> 00:46:40.040
we can't just let it go and

569
00:46:40.400 --> 00:46:42.320
I

570
00:46:42.320 --> 00:46:44.480
Took that crap on and now I'm pissed

571
00:46:45.480 --> 00:46:47.480
Maybe

572
00:46:47.760 --> 00:46:51.460
Yeah, I gotta renegotiate that okay

573
00:46:52.560 --> 00:47:00.040
because if God didn't call you to it and and you're not if you're operating because no one else wants to or you're

574
00:47:00.320 --> 00:47:05.080
Operating, you know all those other reasons and God didn't call you to it

575
00:47:05.320 --> 00:47:10.920
Well, yeah, there's there's a lot of things to know is how easy is it to have Natalie handled us, right?

576
00:47:11.360 --> 00:47:12.720
You know

577
00:47:12.720 --> 00:47:14.720
That's my problem

578
00:47:15.000 --> 00:47:17.000
That's easy Street, right?

579
00:47:19.000 --> 00:47:24.560
Cuz she'll get it done. Yeah. Yeah, I don't want to be the get-it-done girl no more

580
00:47:24.960 --> 00:47:31.640
Collette said you could take on an assistant and then let them lead. I won't be there today. Go ahead and handle it

581
00:47:32.600 --> 00:47:36.440
Well, no, cuz I I thought I was doing that and she hasn't shown

582
00:47:37.000 --> 00:47:39.000
I

583
00:47:39.200 --> 00:47:41.200
Let thank you that was actually my plan

584
00:47:41.840 --> 00:47:47.160
To to help groom a new leader. Yeah, and she hasn't shown up. So, okay

585
00:47:52.800 --> 00:47:54.800
Yeah

586
00:47:54.920 --> 00:47:58.840
Good no reminds me of when I was a schoolteacher and

587
00:48:00.040 --> 00:48:04.920
Invariably the same mother would be the room mother from grade to grade because they always

588
00:48:05.360 --> 00:48:09.160
Volunteered and everyone knew they were the doers. So they would just wait

589
00:48:09.160 --> 00:48:12.320
They just hang back and wait because they knew that she would take it on

590
00:48:12.760 --> 00:48:18.520
So and maybe maybe you've kind of got to figure out if you need to bow out on this or not

591
00:48:19.640 --> 00:48:23.720
No, I know I do got to figure that out. That's what that's what the epiphany was like

592
00:48:24.760 --> 00:48:26.320
What's that?

593
00:48:26.320 --> 00:48:30.180
Good stuff. Thank you for sharing. You're giving courage to other people

594
00:48:30.780 --> 00:48:35.500
So we don't have time to do another exercise but you could do it at home

595
00:48:36.180 --> 00:48:40.500
Another thing is just becoming aware of your body

596
00:48:41.380 --> 00:48:44.900
Right because the body reveals what the mind has

597
00:48:45.340 --> 00:48:52.100
normalized and so as you're kind of going through your list and you're looking at the pressure and the people and the

598
00:48:52.420 --> 00:48:54.420
Expectations notice in your body

599
00:48:54.980 --> 00:48:59.940
Where you're feeling that is it in your chest? Is it in your shoulders? Is it in your stomach?

600
00:49:00.180 --> 00:49:05.500
You know, you don't judge it just notice it and then it's a place for prayer

601
00:49:06.180 --> 00:49:10.820
You know Lord, where am I carrying what you didn't ask me to carry?

602
00:49:12.300 --> 00:49:15.580
Where am I carrying what you didn't ask me to carry and

603
00:49:16.180 --> 00:49:20.940
then go back to what we've talked about with the one thing and

604
00:49:21.820 --> 00:49:23.900
Lord, what's the one thing?

605
00:49:25.180 --> 00:49:27.180
That you're asking of me

606
00:49:27.900 --> 00:49:29.900
today this week

607
00:49:30.300 --> 00:49:35.140
This month this year. What do you what's the one thing? It's like Jesus said to Martha

608
00:49:35.940 --> 00:49:40.820
Martha Martha you have many things and Martha tried to pull Mary into it

609
00:49:41.780 --> 00:49:49.100
Hey get her to help me. It was trying to make her we're gonna have guilt and condemnation and hoping Jesus would step in

610
00:49:49.100 --> 00:49:52.900
and make her go get busy with Martha and

611
00:49:53.740 --> 00:49:59.900
Jesus answer was not to Mary. It was to Martha Martha Martha. You're worried about many things

612
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:08.800
when really there's only a few. And Mary has chosen the one thing and it will not be taken from her.

613
00:50:11.360 --> 00:50:12.560
Just think about that.

614
00:50:15.520 --> 00:50:20.240
And so when you kind of come back in line with what the Lord's calling you,

615
00:50:20.240 --> 00:50:24.800
now notice your body. Did your breathing change? Did your shoulders drop?

616
00:50:25.360 --> 00:50:29.760
Like just notice. Do you feel relieved? Just thinking about that like you're angry,

617
00:50:29.760 --> 00:50:33.360
Natalie, to push you into action. But then once you do it, just think about

618
00:50:33.360 --> 00:50:40.400
what happens in your body. And so then you go back to the one thing I sense God asking me to

619
00:50:40.400 --> 00:50:48.560
focus on this week is. The one thing I sense God asking me to focus on is.

620
00:50:48.560 --> 00:50:54.880
And then I want you to go to the book, to the chapter, to total, go to total soul

621
00:50:54.880 --> 00:51:01.680
prosperity on the chapter on S. And I really go through the four D's.

622
00:51:02.640 --> 00:51:06.400
The delete, the delegate, the delay, and the do.

623
00:51:08.240 --> 00:51:16.640
And so start going through that process for, for deleting. What can I eliminate completely?

624
00:51:16.640 --> 00:51:22.000
What can I eliminate completely? And I give you great examples because it's not producing

625
00:51:22.000 --> 00:51:27.680
fruit or because it's not aligned with this season or it's not mine to carry.

626
00:51:27.680 --> 00:51:32.480
So there's some things you can just flat out delete. Natalie, that might be a thing that

627
00:51:32.480 --> 00:51:39.120
it just flat out needs to be deleted. Right? So there's things there's, there's like tasks that

628
00:51:39.120 --> 00:51:47.280
no longer matter, or there's like ideas or content that's draining you or, or a project

629
00:51:47.280 --> 00:51:54.000
God didn't call you to, or even the habit of checking something constantly, that's an addiction.

630
00:51:54.560 --> 00:52:03.120
Like one of my coaches, or people that I really glean a lot from, David Guillaume, he turns

631
00:52:03.120 --> 00:52:08.960
off his phone. He takes a Sabbath, which is very biblical. He takes a Sabbath Friday night

632
00:52:08.960 --> 00:52:15.280
to Saturday night. This is, this man owns a billion dollar company and he's just got a huge

633
00:52:15.280 --> 00:52:23.440
teaching ministry, millions of followers. Okay. And Friday night to Saturday night, his phone is off.

634
00:52:25.120 --> 00:52:35.680
Like take, take a, you know, a break from technology. It's frying us. So that habit of

635
00:52:35.680 --> 00:52:42.880
constantly having to check something. So many people, the manual process of doing things that

636
00:52:42.880 --> 00:52:48.960
no longer makes sense. AI does all of this stuff. Now you don't have to do so much of this stuff.

637
00:52:49.760 --> 00:52:58.080
Right? There's so much that's automated. I don't schedule my clients. Everyone, you all know,

638
00:52:58.080 --> 00:53:01.360
if you're my client, you got to get your butt in there and schedule yourself.

639
00:53:01.920 --> 00:53:07.760
That's not my responsibility. And if you need to change, you've got the right to go in there and

640
00:53:07.760 --> 00:53:14.400
change it yourself. I give you full access at my schedules there. That's yours. I'm not chasing

641
00:53:14.400 --> 00:53:19.600
you around. And there's automation. There's things to remind you that has been a while.

642
00:53:19.600 --> 00:53:25.360
There's things to remind me, but I'm not in the babysitting business. Do you see how that

643
00:53:25.360 --> 00:53:32.320
sets you free? I am not going to spend my time scheduling you. Formatting things, research,

644
00:53:33.200 --> 00:53:40.880
follow up. Like so much of the stuff is now can be totally automated. I mean, even silly things.

645
00:53:40.880 --> 00:53:46.800
I love my oofy vacuum cleaner. I can clean it out every morning and plug it and it's busy

646
00:53:46.800 --> 00:53:52.400
working while I'm talking to you. It's, it's vacuuming the entire house. Thank God for

647
00:53:52.400 --> 00:53:56.880
technology. And it does a dang good job. I know. Cause I cleaned it out every day. Right?

648
00:53:58.240 --> 00:54:05.200
So like, I don't need to be doing that manually. And personally, you know how I feel. I don't need

649
00:54:05.200 --> 00:54:10.880
to be grocery shopping. I'd rather pay the extra $3 and Instacart delivers to my door.

650
00:54:11.680 --> 00:54:16.400
I don't need to drive there and shop the aisles and stand in line. My time's precious.

651
00:54:17.360 --> 00:54:24.320
Those are examples, right? And then delay. So that's delete, delay.

652
00:54:26.000 --> 00:54:33.680
What can wait without you being in disobedience? This is important. Not everything you delay is

653
00:54:33.680 --> 00:54:40.640
procrastination. It can be choice, awareness and choice. Sometimes delay is wisdom.

654
00:54:41.200 --> 00:54:47.600
Like I said, there's things I put in the parking lot. You know, I have these brilliant clients and,

655
00:54:47.600 --> 00:54:52.080
and they're wanting to create all these things. And they're wanting to work on their website and

656
00:54:52.080 --> 00:54:55.760
there. And I'm like, okay, the website's going in the parking lot. That's not,

657
00:54:55.760 --> 00:54:59.120
what's going to change your business today. We can get to six feet.

658
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:01.840
figures with no website.

659
00:55:01.840 --> 00:55:04.080
So I'll often put those things,

660
00:55:04.080 --> 00:55:08.000
because when you look at the scale of what needs to happen,

661
00:55:08.000 --> 00:55:11.320
many people in their business, they're trying to,

662
00:55:11.320 --> 00:55:13.720
you know, we go all the way from vision

663
00:55:13.720 --> 00:55:15.860
to choosing the business model,

664
00:55:15.860 --> 00:55:18.240
to putting in place the systems, you know,

665
00:55:18.240 --> 00:55:20.160
and the marketing and all of that.

666
00:55:20.160 --> 00:55:21.920
And then, you know, they're scaling.

667
00:55:21.920 --> 00:55:24.440
Many people are starting at the scaling.

668
00:55:24.440 --> 00:55:27.240
They're trying to do what seven and eight figure coaches

669
00:55:27.240 --> 00:55:28.980
are doing and they're up here.

670
00:55:30.240 --> 00:55:31.320
It's out of order.

671
00:55:31.320 --> 00:55:33.040
What things do we need to delay?

672
00:55:33.040 --> 00:55:35.440
You're trying to do too many things.

673
00:55:35.440 --> 00:55:38.440
And then what do I need to do?

674
00:55:38.440 --> 00:55:39.280
Okay?

675
00:55:39.280 --> 00:55:41.200
So blessings.

676
00:55:41.200 --> 00:55:45.760
I pray this has got you thinking as you move

677
00:55:45.760 --> 00:55:49.440
from pressure to partnership.

678
00:55:49.440 --> 00:55:53.080
Walking in peace, walking in fruitfulness.

679
00:55:53.080 --> 00:55:54.160
All right?

680
00:55:54.160 --> 00:55:55.720
Lots of love.

681
00:55:55.720 --> 00:55:56.560
See you next week.

682
00:55:56.560 --> 00:55:58.360
Actually, it's office hours.

683
00:55:58.400 --> 00:56:00.600
I'm going to turn off, turn back on,

684
00:56:00.600 --> 00:56:02.120
and we're going to do office hours.

685
00:56:02.120 --> 00:56:02.960
Okay.