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And good, good, good morning or afternoon or evening, depending when you're listening to this.

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I'm so excited. We are in the series.

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And I think we're on date nine, if I'm not mistaken, of the twelve on from pressure to partnership.

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And we've been working through the PROSPER framework, P-R-O-S-P-E-R.

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We're in the second P, which is purpose and identity.

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And yesterday we talked, we covered a lot of the scriptures we'll review quickly today.

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But actually, the order should be reversed, but it didn't work in my acronym.

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It should be identity and purpose, right? Because our purpose comes from our identity.

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And so we really saw some powerful things in scripture.

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We're going to pick up where we left off from the power hour, went through the scriptures.

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And we're going to do some some deep dives to see how this applies in our lives.

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So welcome. Welcome. So glad that you're here.

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And I'm so excited for this, this particular lesson.

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So we got yesterday from Isaiah that God has called us by name.

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We belong to him and our lives have been purposely planted to bear fruit.

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So today we're going to go deeper.

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Not only what am I doing, which is what we tend to focus on so much, right?

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We're like human doings. What am I doing?

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Instead, we're going to look at where am I coming from?

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As I do it. Where am I coming from?

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As I do it. So we can be building from imagined lack.

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We can be building from fear of rejection or the need to prove or comparison or self protection or the belief that everything depends on us.

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Or, or we can be building from belonging, from provision.

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From daughterhood, from being a daughter of the most high God, from from wisdom.

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From authority, from trust.

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From partnership. Of course, we're talking about moving from pressure to partnership.

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And so, Heavenly Father today, Holy Spirit.

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Open our spiritual senses, open our minds.

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Help us to see what we have not been seeing.

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Give us clarity to truly understand this.

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To truly know who you say we are.

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And where we have been living from misperception.

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Open our eyes, Lord. Open our spiritual ears.

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Open our hearts that we might see.

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May today be a day of transformation as we step into truth.

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And the truth sets us free as we step into what you say.

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As we step into what you see.

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As we walk out what you've called us to walk out.

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Father God, I just pray in Jesus name. Amen.

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So Ephesians 2.10, we looked at yesterday.

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Says we are God's workmanship created to do good works that he prepared in advance.

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And yesterday we pointed out that the order in these verses matters.

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The order.

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So, we're God's workmanship.

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Which we saw is the word poema, which means poetry.

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We're God's poetry before we do his work.

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We don't do his work to be his poetry.

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We simply are. The fact that we're created in this image, we're called, we're dearly loved,

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we're the temples of the Holy Spirit, all that happens before we do the work.

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And that's very different how most of us live in society, right? And then we went into the

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New Testament to John 15, and we saw that we're chosen, we're appointed, and we're planted to

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bear fruit. So again, the order matters so much. We're chosen.

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We're his poema before we work. We're purposely planted before we work. We don't work in order

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to be chosen. We don't work in order to be his poema. We are his poema, and the work flows from

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So when we're talking from pressure to partnership, pressure. Pressure happens

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when we get that order wrong. When we reverse that order, you can count on pressure. Does that make

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sense? It's so important to start having this awareness because we try to produce fruit in

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order to prove that we belong. I'm working hard trying to prove I'm a Christian, which by the way,

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Christian is a word that not only is it pretty messed up these days, but it's a word that came

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after. They weren't even called Christians in the Bible. They were called followers of the way,

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right? They did not do the work to prove that they were gods.

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They did the work because they were driven and compelled by the fact that they were gods.

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And so in our modern society, and maybe you were raised like I was, I was absolutely raised

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that I earned my worth by how hard I work. I earned my worth. If I wanted to see my

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dad grumpy and the scowl and not a happy dad, I didn't do enough.

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The truth of the matter is that was so twisted that my younger, my late brother

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actually used drugs to be able to do more to earn dad's approval.

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And that's a model of our society as a whole. We measure our identity by results, by how much we do.

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And so the key truth I want you to get here is that pressure increases

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when we live from misperception, wrong perception. When you're feeling pressure,

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you're out of alignment with the word, you're out of alignment with who God is and who God says

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that you are. And so partnership, we're moving in this series from pressure to partnership.

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Partnership, we walk in truth and we begin to agree with who God says that we are.

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So misperception, a false identity, and I lived with many of these. A false identity might be

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I'm alone. I picked that up very young, by the time I was probably eight years old.

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I'm all alone. There's no one to help me. How many of you have heard this? If it's to be,

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it's up to me. If it's to be, it's up to me. We even have slogans like that.

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And then I had this perpetual sense of never doing enough and always being behind.

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So I always felt like I'm behind. And we live by to-do lists. How many of you know,

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that's why I created the Prosper Daily Planner, because to-do lists are just a mess.

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They don't have any priority. They don't have any order. They just keep getting longer. And we do

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like some of the easy stuff, but we put the hard stuff on the to-do list until tomorrow,

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until tomorrow, until tomorrow. Like it's just completely doesn't work. That's part of why I

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created that. So I'm not going to lie to you. I'm not going to lie to you. I'm not going to lie to

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So we live by this identity that I'm alone, I'm behind.

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And then there's always, I'm not enough.

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I'm broken, I'm missing something.

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I'm just not good enough.

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I'm unsupported.

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Another one, I'm running out of time.

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Running out of time.

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I have to make this happen.

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I can't afford to fail.

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And of course, this goes even deeper,

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we've talked about it,

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to the question of who or what is my source.

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When I feel that, like if my retirement is my source

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and I'm coming up on retirement age

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and I don't have a retirement,

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by George, I gotta make this happen

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because that's my source.

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I won't be provided for, I'm all alone.

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And we just get all of this in our head.

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But God says, you are mine.

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Like do we ever let that sink in?

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God says, I'm his.

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What would life be like if we just walked around all day?

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I'm yours, God.

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You say, I'm yours, I'm yours, I'm your daughter, God.

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And then the whole source and the whole responsibility

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is taken off this pressure.

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And it's like, you're a good, good father.

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You've promised to lead me and guide me

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and you're faithful and you're trustworthy.

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And I can lean my full weight on you.

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John 3, 16 says, God so loved the world

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that he gave his only begotten son

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that whosoever would believe should not perish

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but have everlasting life.

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We, in our modern culture of rationalism,

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we think that means believe in our head.

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Yeah, I believe.

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That word actually in the original language

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means lean your entire personality.

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Like if I was doing this as a live class,

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like I would, I'd lean completely on a wall

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and put my entire weight trusting that wall will hold me.

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That's what John 3, 16 means.

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It doesn't mean intellectually.

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Yeah, I believe in God, I believe in Jesus.

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The Bible says, so do the demons.

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The demons believe, it's not intellectual.

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And so God says, you're mine, you're chosen.

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Some kids grew up going, yeah, I'm an accident.

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Mom and dad didn't plan on me, I was a whoops.

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Not in the kingdom, not in God's eyes.

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Maybe your parents thought so.

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You were chosen before the foundation of the world.

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You are my workmanship, my poema.

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You're not alone, you're never alone.

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David had to prove that.

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He said, if I go to the ends of the earth,

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if I make my bed in hell, even there you are with me.

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David came to the discovery,

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there's absolutely nowhere I can go that God is not.

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Well, yeah, because the kingdom of God is within.

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Christ within me, the hope of glory.

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I'm the temple of the Holy Spirit.

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How can I get away from that?

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Wherever I go, there I am.

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And there he is.

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You're purposely planted, you're led,

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you're equipped, you're anointed, you're appointed.

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So let's do some deep dives.

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The purpose of this one, we go much more immersive, okay?

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You've got the scriptural foundation.

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Let's go a little bit more immersive.

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And the more you kind of dig into this,

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the more it'll have impact.

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So I want you to choose one area of pressure

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in your life or business.

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Pick one area, like money or clients or sales

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or family or health or a decision

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that should have happened by now, okay?

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Choose a current area of pressure.

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And I want you to write, the situation is,

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and put that pressure there.

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The situation is.

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Is.

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The situation is.

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Okay, now.

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I want you to ask.

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What am I believing?

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Is lacking.

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Time money support.

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Clients opportunity confidence experience.

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Approval energy.

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And I want you to write the perceived.

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Lack is.

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The perceived lack.

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So the situation is.

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The perceived.

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Lack is.

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And I want to clarify this ladies. I want to clarify this.

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The circumstances may be real.

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I'm not saying that the conditions are not present.

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Okay, your bank account might be empty.

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You know, your parents are on, you know, having trouble.

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You're your marriages. I'm not saying that the.

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Conditions or the circumstances are not real.

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They're real. The question.

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Is whether that circumstance has become the source.

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Of your identity and decision making. Okay.

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So that's what we're diving into.

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So the situation is.

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The perceived lack is.

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In this situation.

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I'm seeing myself as the woman.

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Be honest here. Be brutally. Don't try to be.

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Perfect Christian language and get the right answer.

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You straight a students or don't try to like.

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Do a, you know, I'm writing the perfect thing, right?

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My teacher can come along and give me a gold star. That's not what I'm saying.

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Okay, this is time to be no one's looking at this, but you, you can share to bless.

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If you want, but this is just brutally honest.

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So in this situation, I'm seeing myself.

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As a woman who is.

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For example, alone behind unqualified.

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Unsupported responsible for everything.

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Running out of time.

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Right? Those kinds of things. I'm seeing myself.

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As the woman who is.

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So next.

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Question is around.

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What does this identity cause me to do?

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So, for example.

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So, when I believe this about myself.

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I don't have to do anything.

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So next question is around.

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What does this identity cause me to do?

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So, for example.

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Does it cause me to rush or force things or overwork?

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So under charge.

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Over give delay compare control.

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So, when I believe this about myself, your next sentence.

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When I believe this about myself.

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I tend to do what?

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Like in my case.

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All over work.

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If I believe that lack is there.

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I'll believe I need to push harder all over work.

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This girl can put in an 18 hour day. I mean.

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When I believe this about myself, I tend to.

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Do what?

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I think I got it.

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So.

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sharing today. The whole concept is that there's an identity behind the pressure that we feel,

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and it's usually a false identity, and it usually forms around a perceived lack. We believe we don't

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have enough time, we don't have enough health, we don't have enough support, we don't have enough

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money, we don't have enough energy, so we get an identity, a false identity that's creating

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the pressure, and that false identity is coming from a perceived lack. In other words, the perceived

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lack is that something essential is missing. I don't have any help. I don't have enough money.

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There just isn't enough time, so something essential is missing, and the identity, therefore,

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because I perceive this lack, I make a conclusion. For me, as a very young girl,

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now this is unconscious, but we make these unconscious vows, right? We make these unconscious

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vows. I've had a book sitting on my computer for a long time. I probably need to get with Linda and

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just finish this thing, but it's called I Didn't Agree to That, the unconscious vows we make with

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God, ourselves, and others, right? And so it's like, therefore, I'm all alone. I made the unconscious

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vow. I'm not going to have a family like that. Therefore, I'm going to be the perfect mother,

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perfect Christian. That's an unconscious vow that drives you. It's an unrealistic expectation

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that we put on ourselves, and so we create this false identity, and so then the pressure response

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is, I've got to force it. I've got to prove, or I've got to hide, or I've got to rescue,

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or I've got to control, or I've got to overwork. It looks different for every woman, so

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let me give you some examples of this, what it looks like, okay? So you could write down

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the performer. One of the ways it comes out is the performer. I was a performer.

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I must achieve in order to be valuable. That's the performer. I must achieve in order to be

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valuable. So the result is things like perfectionism, overwork, fear of making a mistake,

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difficulty resting. These are all the performer,

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okay? The performer, I must achieve in order to be valuable.

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So I overwork. I'm perfectionistic. I have a fear. It's difficult to make decisions, okay? Yeah,

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me too, Amanda. Me too. That's why we recognize. We see each other, girl. Okay, then another one,

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and you might be multiple of these. I'm multiple of these, okay? Another one is after the performer,

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there's the rescuer. The rescuer. The rescuer says, I'm responsible for everyone's outcome.

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I'm responsible to keep this family together. I'm responsible for my partner's health. I'm

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responsible to keep my alcoholic relative from not drinking. That was me. I'm responsible to

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keep them from committing suicide. I'm responsible to keep them from using drugs,

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right? Whatever it is, okay? The rescuer. I'm responsible that my kids come out and turn out.

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So the result of that one is overgiving and undercharging. There's a lot of guilt.

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There's often resentment. There's very weak boundaries with the rescuer.

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Yeah. Yeah. I'm a performer rescuer. I like cleaned house on these lists, right? I know,

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Linda. That's why you're my sister. I cleaned house on these, okay? All right. Another one is

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the orphan. The orphan. Again, I'm a straight A student. I'm all of these.

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I'm an overachiever in all ways, right? So the orphan. I'm all alone and I must secure

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my own future. I mean, ladies, I still struggle with this one because I'm single.

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relatives have all passed away, man, what happens, right?

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So the orphan, I'm alone.

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I must secure my own future.

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My parents didn't leave any kind of inheritance, like zero,

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like start from the ground level.

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Didn't take anything out of the divorce.

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So yeah, the orphan, I'm all alone,

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and I got to secure my future.

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If it's to be, it's up to me.

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And so the result of this one is control,

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and there's this constant feeling of scarcity,

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and there's a panic.

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That's part of the pressure.

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It can be like a panic, right?

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There's like just this idea of carrying everything alone, OK?

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And then there's the invisible one, the invisible one.

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In this one, it's safer to hide than risk rejection, right?

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Safer to hide, I know, I know.

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So this often causes us to delay, undercharge,

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avoid invitations.

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And this is so common, as I coach, waiting for permission.

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And we were taught this very young, right?

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I mean, you don't even go to the bathroom

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without asking permission in school.

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Teacher, may I please go to the bathroom?

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Like, we're so, mommy, may I please go here?

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Like, we're so permissioned.

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And then somehow, you magically, after 18,

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or whenever you moved out, 17, in my case,

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you're not supposed to ask permission anymore.

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Suddenly, like, right?

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And so many don't get out of that.

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And so they stay as the invisible.

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Like, they have so much trouble showing up online.

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They have so much saying, this is what I do,

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and this is how much it is.

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We often work on that one.

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OK, then there's the servant.

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The servant.

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And it's interesting, you can find all of these examples

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in scripture.

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They're all the way woven.

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This is humanity from day one, right?

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The servant, I must earn my place.

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I must earn.

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Nobody's going to hand you anything.

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You earn it.

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Any of you heard that growing up?

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So the result, this is where it gets really muddied.

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Right now, in our culture, love, and realizing

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what a mess you are.

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No, you're going to realize what a gift you are,

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and who God made you, beautiful sister.

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That's the whole point, is that these are all misperceptions.

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They're not true.

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So like, I'm smiling and teaching you.

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I told you, I'm these things, right?

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Like, I'll teach you, I'll teach you.

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Like, absolutely.

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But when awareness is the first step of transformation,

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that you can go, ah, that's not what God says.

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That's not what the word says.

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Therefore, I'm no longer going to agree with that.

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So we come out of agreement with these things, right?

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We come out of agreement.

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And so what I started to say with the servant,

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this plays out in all areas of our life,

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not just our financial life.

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How many women, honestly, worked for love?

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I'm not saying prostitution.

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I'm saying you worked that hopefully you would

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be good enough to be loved.

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And relationships these days, I was having this conversation.

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I get to have this wonderful three-hour drive

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to San Francisco with a fellow counselor and just a biblical,

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let's see what the Hebrew says kind of scholar dude.

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But he's rough on the edges.

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Like, he comes out of the desert storm

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and has a mouth like a sailor.

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But it's like, he's deep.

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And we were talking about relationships

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are so transactional.

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And I'm not going to do this for you.

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unless you do this, I expect you to do this, and I'm going to do this. And even, you know,

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women are controlling and withholding sex, men are withholding and controlling commitment. And

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we've just got all this transactional, like, manipulation to get the other person into line.

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Right? And so it comes from this servant mentality that I have to work for love.

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That I have to work to be loved. And there's guilt around rest. When you've got the servant one,

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there's a lot of guilt around rest. I'll find myself just sitting down to rest, and I might

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have already put in a 10-hour day, and it's like, I can't be doing that. There's so much

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that needs to be done. I can't be doing that. I'm being irresponsible. Right? So it's programmed

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into us. There's also, as a servant, there's a discomfort in receiving.

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Let me help you. No, I'm good. Thank you so much. I'm okay.

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Right? And there's a constant striving for approval.

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So the key, like Collette, when you said I'm a mess, the key to understand is these are not

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permanent labels. These didn't come from God. God never said this about you.

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They're misperceptions. There's ways that we're seeing ourself. They're on, you know, these

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inner vows, these expectations that we've put on ourselves. It's our false identity.

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It's our way of seeing ourself that's not based on truth. That's why

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the Bible says the truth will set you free. These are not true. And we come out of agreement

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with them. So write this down. The false identity I most often move into is the false

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identity I most often move into is the false identity I most often move into is

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is it the performer, the rescuer, the orphan, the invisible one, the servant, the false identity

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I most often move into is. And it causes me to do what? It causes me to

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so the false identity, the misperception I most often move into is the performer.

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It causes me to make myself sick over working, right? And then I want you to add to that.

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It has cost me. Finish the sentence. It has cost me. So for example, it's cost me my peace.

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It's cost me my health. It's cost me energy. It's cost me showing up in visibility.

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It's cost me intimacy. It's cost me healthy boundaries. It's cost me

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intimacy.

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So do you remember yesterday we went into Luke 15 and we talked about the prodigal son?

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And we all know this story. It's very familiar, but there's something that

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most don't look at that I want you to see a little differently as you open your eyes and

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have awareness. So when the younger son, you know, asked for his inheritance early

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and he goes and he spends it all on crazy living. And so he ends up losing his money.

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He ends up losing his position. He ends up losing his dignity. I mean,

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a Jewish boy living with the pigs and eating with the pigs. He lost his sense of belonging.

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And yet the turning point in all of this began before his circumstances.

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changed. In other words, he was still in his conditions. This is super important. He was

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still in his circumstances. He was still eating the carapods, living in the pig pen, muddy,

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dirty, no dignity. He was still in that when something begins to change. And scripture

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uses such powerful words. It says he came to himself. He came to himself. I always say

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awareness is the first step to transformation. He had an awareness. He had an awakening.

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He had an eye opening. He came to himself and he remembered. He began to remember some truths.

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He remembered, wait a minute, I have a father. I'm not an orphan. I have a father and my father

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has a house and there's provision in my father's house. I belong somewhere. I came from more

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than this. But here's what I want you to catch that nobody really talks about much in this story.

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His identity was still wounded. His identity was still wounded. So how do we know his identity

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was still wounded? His self-talk. I love that the Bible gives us, it didn't pull it out. I love

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that we know exactly what he was thinking and what he was saying. His self-talk. We got a glimpse

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right into his self-talk and he starts rehearsing what he's going to do.

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And he says, I'm, what are you going to say to his father? He's got it all planned. I'm

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going to go to the father and this is what I'm going to say. I'm no longer worthy to be called

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your son. Do you catch this? Sonship is tied with worthiness, right? I'm no longer worthy

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to be called your son. Make me one of your hired servants. You see, he was still a son,

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but he was thinking and operating like a servant.

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He was still a son, but he was thinking and operating like a servant. That's the heart

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of this whole lesson of what we're doing today. His circumstance has changed. We see he gets up,

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he goes to the father, he meets the father. His circumstances change, but his identity has not.

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Identity has not. And we see this all the time. You can win the lottery,

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but you're still operating from a sense of lack and poverty. You can get married,

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but you're still operating from working for love. So your circumstances, this is opposite of what

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we believe and what the world thinks. We think when my conditions change, everything will be

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better. If my circumstances change, if I can just get clients, if I can just get married, if I can

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just get enough money. We think we're always trying to change circumstances thinking that's

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going to change, but that's the fruit that's not the root. And so his circumstances changed,

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but his identity has not. He was still a son while living as though he were an orphan.

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And so his father begins to correct the misperception. And we see beautiful symbolism,

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how the father is trying to correct the misperception. He puts the robe on him, the

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royal robe on his son. He didn't say, take a shower and clean up your act, and then you can

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wear this robe. You don't deserve to wear this robe. He didn't. He put the robe over his stinky

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pig smelling. Remember to a Jew, to even touch a pig, to even be near a pig was absolute,

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like the worst disgusting thing you can do. You were called unclean. You weren't allowed to

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associate, but the father puts the robe on him. And the robe is saying, you know what?

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Your worst season does not get to name you. Your worst season.

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Your worst mistakes, your worst disappointments do not define you.

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Your past does not define you.

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So I want you to write here what mistake or what disappointment or what label have I allowed

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to define me?

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What mistake or disappointment have I allowed to define me?

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What disappointment, what mistake have I allowed to define me, to become my identity?

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And now write, what does the father say instead?

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What does the father say instead?

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So for example, I made a mistake, but I am not a mistake.

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You hear the identity?

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I made, and we have to teach our kids this.

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You made a mistake, but you are not a mistake.

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A disappointing result cannot cancel my calling.

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The season is difficult, but difficulty is not my identity.

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It's separating out what we do and who we are.

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This is where we get confused.

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And so the father continues.

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He doesn't just put the robe on him.

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He puts the ring on him.

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The ring had like a stamp.

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You could put it in hot wax and you could, you could, it's your authority.

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You could make a decree.

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So the ring said, you belong and you carry my name.

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You smell like pig poop.

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You spent all the money, but you belong and you carry my name.

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And remember the father sees him at a distance and runs to him.

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So write, where have I surrendered my voice, my authority, or my permission?

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Where have I surrendered my voice, my authority, or permission?

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Thank you.

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I'm seeing all your great comments, Christine.

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Thank you for sharing.

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We're going to have some sharing time in just a minute.

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Where have I surrendered?

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And thank you, Colette.

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Colette said, your teaching is rich.

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I appreciate your insights so much.

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Thank you.

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You know, God had to reveal these things to me.

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I had a lot.

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I did it really wrong.

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So that's why I'm aware of all this stuff, right?

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I'm not coming from perfection.

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Okay.

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So where have I surrendered my voice, authority, or permission?

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And so now I want you to write, because I belong to the father, I have permission to.

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Finish that sentence.

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Because I belong to the father, I have permission.

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permission to. Because I belong to the Father, I have permission to. So, for example, because

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I belong to the Father, I have permission to speak. I have permission to lead. I have

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permission to charge appropriately. I have permission to set this boundary. I have permission

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to ask for help. I have permission to rest. I have permission to obey what God is telling

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me without everyone understanding. You know, some of you God made an entrepreneur and you

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come from a family of employee that you're supposed to get a job and they don't understand

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what you're doing and why you're struggling, right? Okay. Then the Father, which represents

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God, puts sandals on his feet. Puts sandals on his feet. And the sandals say, you are

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not here merely to work. You're family. You're not a slave. You're a son. So, I want you

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to write, where have I been working for belonging rather than from belonging? Where have I been

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working for belonging rather than from belonging? Yes, Christine, and you have so much beauty

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to share. You have a lot of wisdom. So, yes, you do. So, where have I been working for

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belonging rather than from belonging? And what would change if I truly knew I could

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not lose my place in my Father's heart? In other words, if I truly knew there's nothing

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I can do to make God love me less or make God love me more. His love is unconditional.

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It's infinite. What would I change if I knew I could not lose my place in the Father's

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heart? So, there's so much more I want to do, but we're running out of time. So, when

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you remember who God says you are, go back through the verses yesterday. I have called

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you by name. You're mine, Isaiah 43, 1. I've chosen you and purposely planted you, John

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15, 16. We're his workmanship, Ephesians 2, 10. You've received the spirit of adoption,

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Romans 8, 15. So, I want you to be very clear. The false identity says, and you complete

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that blank, the false identity says, but God says, I am. And so, we start walking in the

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truth that sets us free. The false identity says I have to work to be accepted. God says

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I'm his. I'm chosen. I'm called by his name. I'm not alone. I'm led. I'm God's workmanship.

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I'm purposely planted. I'm a daughter. I'm not a servant. I'm supported by the source

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of wisdom and provision. I'm equipped for the step God is asking me to take. And then,

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you just got to really get out of your head and into your heart. If I truly believe this,

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what would become available to me? I'd be able to tap into courage, patience, wisdom,

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creativity, boundaries, clarity, confidence, you know, all these things. So, from my true

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identity, I now have access to. It's like the people you read about that they're actually

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multi-millionaires. There's an account with their name on it, but they didn't know. And

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they're living as beggars. They're living so miserly. They're living so poor, right?

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I love the story of the man that spent all he had to get on the ship to come to America,

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come to the new world from the old world, and he had packed his lunch, he had lots of

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dried fish for the whole trip, and every night he would go sit outside and he would eat the

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dried fish and drink the water, and he'd look and he could see the cabin where everybody

522
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was dining in the candlelight and hear the clinking of the beautiful crystals and smell

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the aroma of the food, but he was so grateful that, you know, he had his fish and he got

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to go, and when they landed on the new world and the captain was out shaking everyone's

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hand as they left, and the captain said to him, I noticed you never joined us in the

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dining hall, you always just sat out and ate alone, and he said, yeah, I didn't have enough

527
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money for that, I just had all the money I took just to get the ticket, and he said,

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your ticket included that.

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He was eating as a beggar, and how many of us are ticket as the daughter of the Most

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High God includes infinite wisdom, infinite creativity, infinite resources, infinite,

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and we're still walking around as beggars, we're still rehearsing like the prodigal son,

532
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we're still working for the Father's approval and people's approval, we're still living

533
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transactional lives, we're still beating ourselves up, not letting ourselves rest, not letting

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ourselves speak up, still hiding, still undercharging, so I'd love to hear, can we have some, just

535
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some quick interaction, can we have some quick comments, I'd love to hear from you,

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what is coming up for you, share for the purpose of yourself and the purpose of each other,

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love to hear from you, just unmute what's coming up for you, what's breaking off of

538
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you, what are you having awareness, what are you stepping into, what are you going

539
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to do different, let's let this thing really go deep in us, let this be a line in the sand.

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I can share a little bit, a lot of things have broken off of me, but sometimes I notice

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myself wanting to go back to that, especially being a rescuer, or because my husband drove

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truck over the road for many years, so I had to do everything, like helping with our

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son at eight years old, and just, I felt like a, you know, just being that single parent,

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so that was a lot of stuff coming off of me, and I'm trying not to get emotional, because

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I know he's done such a deep work, I've learned a lot in that, so now I'm just, there's just

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that freedom now of like, you know what, I can ask for help, because I remember back

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in the day, I was going to church, kind of new in my faith, and I heard the Holy Spirit

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say, Jackie, you're wearing a mask, yeah, I'm like, whoa, yeah, and that's where it

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kind of all started, yeah, like, let me tend to your heart, let me just, yeah, let's work

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on this for today, yeah, beautiful, thank you for sharing, anything today that jumped

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out at you fresh today?

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For me?

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Yeah.

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So, for me, personally, I think the orphan spirit, now, let me say this, because I have

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people in my circle, and it breaks my heart when they still have that, that mindset at

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times, I guess, and it's like, no, you're not an orphan, because then I think of myself,

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because my parents both died, like, two years apart, even though they weren't married, people

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would say, you're, aren't you, like, you're an orphan, Jackie, I'm like, what?

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That hit me hard.

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Yeah.

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Like, I would begin to bawl, and it's like, no, I'm not, I might feel like it a little

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bit.

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But I have God.

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Yeah.

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Beautiful.

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Yeah.

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Beautiful.

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Okay, I'm done.

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Beautiful.

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Beautiful.

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Thank you for sharing.

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Who else?

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Did anything pop up for you today?

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Did you get an aha?

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Did you get an awareness today?

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Did you get a reminder today?

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Was this, was this fresh or new for any of you?

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I will say something.

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Yeah.

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First of all, at the beginning, my computer was mute and unmute, so we're talking about

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shooting.

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Nerf darts around. I apologize for that. They're having a good time over here. But I wanted to say

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I never really considered this, I guess, not just trying to do this with humans, but with God,

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because what you just said, if I understood that I cannot cause God to love me more or less,

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what would I do? That hit me real hard. I don't know what to do with that exactly, but

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that is some amazing thought. Yeah, sit with that. Just sit with that. I love that.

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Yeah. Beautiful. Thank you for sharing. Okay. Tracy says many areas came into or even further

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into vision. Okay. Yeah, I think I'll share. I can really relate a lot to Jackie just for being a

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single mom for so many years that I felt like it was my identity in me. I felt like I just had to

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strive and hold everything together. I talked about rest, that I always felt guilty. Just having

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everybody's approval, I think was the world way. I know now it's like, I know, and I've been working

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on myself and it's coming off. But like Jackie said, you tend to go back to those old ways of

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that old mindset. And sometimes you get trapped into it where you have to bring yourself back.

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So for me right now, I'm working on a lot of reminders for myself of speaking the truth over

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me and understanding my identity in Christ because I never understood that because I was so programmed

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in the world for so many years and I wasn't aware to it. I just thought it was normal. I thought it

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was the go-go pace all the time. I thought it was the hustle life. I thought it was because that's

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what I was taught all my life. I didn't know any different. Yeah, I appreciate that. I know, me too.

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And so that's why I say awareness is the first step to transformation. So what changes, because

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a lot of these things we might know, but it's that moment by moment awareness. It's like I said

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yesterday, what am I saying after the words I am, right? And what am I believing about this situation?

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What am I believing about myself? And so because this whole series is from pressure to partnership,

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pressure is the way, when you're feeling pressure, you know you're out of alignment.

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You know you're out of alignment. So then it's like, wow, okay, I'm feeling pressure. What am I

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believing? That there's not enough, that I have to do all of this, that the world's going to fall apart,

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that, you know, I don't have help, that, right? So, so beautiful. Okay, Colette says, I agree with Jackie

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and Amanda. The staying busy and pressure begins to seem like what is considered normal. Yes,

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if you are talking and people go, how are you doing? And you go, oh, I am so busy. Well, you just got

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like the badge of honor. You are, you are special, right? How crazy, where did that come from?

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Where did that come from? The busyness. Did Jesus ever, ever, ever, I think the busiest man on the

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planet, the most in demand man on the planet, did he ever walk around going, I am so busy. I don't

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know how I'm going to do all of this. It's all up to me. I don't know how I'm going to get this done.

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Do you people not see, why are you asking me, can you not see how busy I am?

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Right? Because he understood his source was his father. And he said, I have to be about my father's

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business. And he was very careful to do only what he saw the father doing. He'd be, father, is this

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the right time? Is this the right place? Lazarus dies. And his closest friends, family, friends,

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Mary and Martha are like distraught, sending word, Lazarus is sick, hurry up, come. And he doesn't

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drop everything and run. He doesn't operate out of panic. He's not like, I got to get there. If I

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don't do something, look, I'm going to let down my friends. My friend's going to die. I got to

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do something. This is up to me. It says that he waited three days. The father hadn't released

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him to go, even though there was an emergency. So much so that Lazarus dies and he gets there

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and there's weeping.

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Weeping and wailing and they say to him his best friends say to him if you just would have been here

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Lazarus wouldn't have died

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He didn't operate under emergency he didn't operate he operated in divine timing

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Is that an amazing thought

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You

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How much more are we taking time to say Lord is this the right time is this the right place

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Are you calling me to go now? I've gotten now more where I'm asking everything

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Everything even the things I love Lord is it optimum for me to go dancing tonight?

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Lord is it optimum for me to you know, whatever any of it?

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Just ask

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Talk to me about this situation. How do you see it Lord?

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Because Jesus only did what he saw the father doing

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Okay, we are over time

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This has been so juicy and I'm so delighted to share this with you and I just pray it's blessed you so much and I

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Pray you beautiful beautiful beautiful daughters of God will become aware

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When you're feeling pressure

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what identity are you coming from and

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Is it lined up with scripture?

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is it based on truth and

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Remember we can always change that

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We can step back in line every second and

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It's a it's a two steps forward one step back. I go backwards, too

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None of us have arrived but you end up having more steps forward than you do back

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Until you step into the truth and the more time you're in the word

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The more time your mind scripture. Isaiah 26 3 says he'll keep us in perfect

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Peace whose mind is stayed on him because he trusts in him peace. That's

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Opposite of pressure that's partnership. How does that peace come because my mind is fixed on him

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What do you say about this my bank account looks empty the doctors say what do you say about this Lord?

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What's the truth here?

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That's freedom

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All right. Let's head over to office hours blessings