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And good morning, good morning, good afternoon, good evening, whenever you're listening to

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this, welcome.

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This is From Pressure to Partnership.

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What is it like to move from the constant sense of pressure that comes from fear, over

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responsibility, overthinking, like all of these things, right?

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Operating from a contracted state.

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And what is it like to move in true partnership with God?

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The other day I had this funny idea, like what would happen?

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You all see I often on Sundays, I do salsa saga on Instagram, right?

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Before I go into a dance at the opera house in Roseville, California.

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And I just got that idea like, wow, it's just fun.

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What I've learned, you know, about life and business and everything from salsa and I'm

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all dressed up, what a good time to do a reel.

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But I thought, I wonder what would happen if I just stood at the door and interviewed

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people.

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What people would think if I asked them what it means to partner with God or in particular

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partner with God in business, like what do you think their response of the average salsa

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dancer walking in the door would be, right?

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And so that's what we've been covering in this series.

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What does it mean to move from this internally contracted place of pressure?

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Where is that coming from?

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And how do we move into that expanded state of partnering with God?

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And over the last few weeks, we've been working through the prosper framework.

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We've gone through the first P, which is that partner with God, right?

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That's the foundation of knowing who you are, that you're a co-heir, a co-laborer, that

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you're co-crucified, you're co-risen.

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Like what does it mean to live the co-life, right?

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And then the R in the prosper framework, which is renew your mind because God can set you

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free.

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He can do everything.

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But the one thing that just comes from our daily practice of walking with him is renewing

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the mind, getting rid of the old stinking thinking and replacing it with truth.

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This is a constant.

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It says that's how we're transformed.

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Scripture says we're transformed by the renewing of our mind.

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And that word transform is like a caterpillar going to a butterfly.

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That butterfly will never be a caterpillar again.

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So we're not talking temporary change.

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We're talking, what does it mean to be transformed?

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And that happens through renewing of the mind, which by the way, today, we're going to do

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a lot of renewing of the mind.

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Pressure to partnership is where we really do some immersive work, some deep reflection,

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journaling, talking to God, letting this subject go deeper.

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And on Wednesdays in Power Hour, we lay the scriptural foundation.

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And I usually review that a little bit for anybody that misses Power Hour.

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But then this is where we go deeper.

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So that's the R.

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And the O is about opening the flow.

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Now, this is a big subject.

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It's so powerful that I'm actually doing the masterclass this coming Saturday.

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For those of you that are Prosper Leaders, it's free to you.

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If you're not a Prosper Leader, it's a good time to become one.

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For everyone else, it's 47.

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And this is going to be really a powerful time of identifying the patterns, these hidden

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programming, this hidden script, these things that have been governing and keep us from

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following up, from showing up and being visible, from fully living.

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All God's called us to these hidden patterns that affect our flow, our cash flow, our client

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flow.

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Right.

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And so we're going to go deep on Saturday with that.

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If you haven't registered, be sure you do.

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So that's open, the O.

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And then the S is about simplifying and creating space.

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And then the second P that we work through was about purpose and identity.

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And of course, we saw that identity actually comes before purpose.

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Linda, can you let...

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I think there's people...

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want to come in. And so purpose and identity. And then now, this

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week, we are looking at the E, emotional alignment, emotional

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alignment. And yesterday, I described alignment about having

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the parts of us were, were triune beings, the Bible says,

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just, there's a lot of scriptures on that, just like

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God is a triune being. And so we are spirit, we are soul, which

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is our mind, will and emotions, and we are body, we are flesh,

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right? And I've, God gave me the, the visual of a snowman,

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and seeing the different snowballs, and it can be

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different size, right? Which one's bigger, which one's

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smaller, but having them in proper order to make a proper

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snowman. So proper snowman, the top, the head is what I would

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call our spirit, little s, our spirit, connecting with God's

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Spirit, which is capital S. Okay, so the idea is we're

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supposed to be ruled, our spirit is supposed to rule, our spirit

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man is supposed to rise up, and our spirit man is meant to walk

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in communion with God's Spirit. And that spirit is meant to rule

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over our soul, which is where our emotions are, it's where our

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mind, our overthinking, our thoughts, it's where our

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emotions, right? Our mind is where our will is, our decision

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making, okay? So our spirit connected with God's Spirit is

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meant to rule over our soul. Okay? And our soul is meant to

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rule over our body, our flesh. So if any of those are out of

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balance, we're out of alignment. So if the flesh, which is very

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common, is running the show, then it's driving everything.

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It's, it's, it's, I gotta have, I'm craving, I need, you know,

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the extreme example of that are addictions, right? Gotta have

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that drink, gotta have that cigarette, gotta have that

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scrolling dopamine hit, right? So our soul is meant to rule

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over that. But our spirit is meant to rule over our soul.

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Okay? So that's what I mean, emotional alignment, our

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emotions, it's not that we're stuffing or ignoring, we saw

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yesterday, our emotions are signals. They're not sovereign.

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They're signals. And then we can learn to say, okay, what, what

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am I learning? And we said, you know, sadness can be around

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loss, that's a valid emotion. Anger can be around violation of

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a boundary or right. So we're not just stuffing these things,

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but they're in alignment, they're not running us. If our

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emotions start running us, and that's what I'm talking about a

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lot of these hidden emotional patterns that are actually

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running us, that keep us continuously playing small, keep

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us continually in pressure, keep us continually overthinking,

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overperforming, right, over giving, keep us hidden and not

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showing up, right. So this is the foundation that we were

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laying. And so yesterday, we laid the scriptural foundation,

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we went through Isaiah 26, three, that says God promises

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peace. Boy, my glasses are dirty. God promises, I see worse

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putting those on. God promises peace, when we keep our mind fix

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on him, because we trust in him. So it does not mean ignoring

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conditions or circumstances, they're, they're real, it means

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refusing to allow circumstances to become our ultimate source of

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truth, or refusing to allow circumstances to rob us of our

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peace, we walk in the perfect peace, because God, Jesus even

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A peace I give you, not as the world gives.

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See, the peace of the world is,

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when my circumstances change, then I'll be at peace.

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When he's gone, she's gone, it's gone,

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whatever's irritating me, then I'll have peace.

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That's how the world gives peace.

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That's not how God.

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God gives peace in the middle of the storm.

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Jesus slept in the storm, right?

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And so that's Isaiah 26, three.

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And then we saw in Colossians 3, 15,

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that peace can be our, there's different translations,

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peace can be our umpire, peace can be a rule over our heart.

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So peace can influence the decisions that we make,

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which is really powerful.

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When I think about peace being an umpire,

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that has been a very key scripture for me,

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that's been a really powerful way to look at things.

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So let peace rule in your heart, let peace be your umpire.

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And so the first question, just to get reflecting on this,

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is what has acted as umpire in your decisions this week?

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When you went to make decisions this week,

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what acted as umpire?

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Was it peace or was it fear or was it pressure?

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Was pressure calling the shots?

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Was anger, was scarcity calling the shots?

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The belief in lack, was rejection being the umpire?

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Was urgency, the tyranny of the urgency acting as umpire?

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Acting as umpire.

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What was it that was acting as umpire this week

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for you in your decision-making?

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Well, for me, it was urgency, but that was super real

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because I had to make sure everything was removed

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for the remodel or ready for them to move forward

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or whatever, right?

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Well, let's talk about that.

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Yeah, okay.

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Is it possible to do those things that need to be done

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driven from a place of peace?

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Yes.

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Does urgency require that we walk in pressure?

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Does urgency require that we give up our peace?

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No, like Friday morning, so Friday morning,

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I talked to the contractor and said,

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when are we gonna see tile samples?

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He's like, I'll bring them Monday.

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And I almost immediately heard, don't wait till Monday.

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Go get the tile samples yourself.

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And I'm like, but Lord, I gotta drive to Tacoma for that.

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And he's like, yeah, you just need to go.

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So I go, I walk into the floor and decor

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and it's like dead.

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And this guy, one of the workers starts helping me

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wheel a cart and find the tiles that we were looking at.

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And I ask him for other samples.

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And he says, a guy walks by and he goes,

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Jay, can you come help us?

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Was the designer doing nothing.

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So he sat there and he goes,

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no, maybe instead of this, you do this.

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Instead of that, you do this.

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And it totally made my biggest fear at that point

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was this bathroom is gonna look so bad

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and willy nilly and put together.

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I'm not even there to like do anything about it.

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And so I left going, Lord, that was so amazing.

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And I sent the picture to my sisters.

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I'm like, this is what we picked.

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And this is what he picked.

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And they're like, oh gosh, I like what he picked.

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And so, so I mean.

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Yes, so that's where I, when I say,

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are you being driven by urgency?

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You weren't being driven by urgency there.

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You were driven by the Holy Spirit told you to do something

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which is the whole walking in community, co-laboring.

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And that's where the miracles are.

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That's where those blessings are.

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That's where the surprises.

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It's like constant, beautiful surprise from God

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that you never expect,

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because he wants to give exceedingly abundantly above

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and beyond anything we can ask or promote.

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So when I say it's urgency driving you,

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urgency may be the conditions,

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but I'm asking what's driving your soul?

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What's driving your emotions?

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What's driving that sense of pressure?

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So things can have a deadline.

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They can be urgent.

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They have to be done like now,

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but they don't have to drive our emotion.

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That's what's so cool that we can have that peace and you did yes, you know, you talked back to God and good

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Do I have to go?

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You know, that's okay he understands we can that's a communion it's conversation, right?

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in Luke 6

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Does somebody can somebody pull up Luke 6 45 real quick?

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I want to get a couple other scriptures that I don't think we covered yesterday and

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Keep on going, but someone just read real quick Luke 6 45

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Tell us what translation to

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It's good to get used to listening to a lot of translations

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Since we've come a long way from the Hebrew and Greek often. I have it. I have it in the NIV. Okay a

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Good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart and an evil man brings

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Evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart for the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. I love it

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So I want you to understand this principle

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There's many verses that out of the heart flow the issues of life

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So what we're seeing

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Especially our words reveal it is showing what's stored in our heart

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Okay, Linda has had a habit of listening to God. She hears

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okay, so what's stored in her heart is I

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Hear do this now that doesn't feel right. I don't feel like going to Tacoma

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We have someone coming but I heard and I'm gonna obey and the blessing was in that

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Obedience, right? So that's what was stored in her heart

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Okay, so the issues of life are coming from what's stored in our heart

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So we often try just to change our language or we try to just change. Okay, I'm gonna change my

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Emotional alignment is deeper than just positive talking

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It's much deeper. We get to the root of what's producing the words what's producing the pressure

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What's producing the actions or lack thereof?

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in Mark chapter 4, I encourage you to read that chapter Mark chapter 4 35

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This is the scene where Jesus

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there's a storm massive storm the waters just filling the boat and

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And Jesus is sleeping through the storm

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There's an interesting question

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That the disciples ask in this scene

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It's a it's really interesting if you back up they say Lord

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Don't you care that we're perishing like what a question to ask the Savior of the world, right?

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Don't you care that we're perishing right?

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but the question

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exposed the belief

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beneath the fear

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The the reaction came not just from the wind or from the waves

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But what they had made that storm mean that storm meant we're dying were they dying

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No, was there a storm? Yes. Was there water getting in the boat? Yes, but were they perishing at that moment?

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So the words revealed

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What they had made that mean?

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So so that's my prayer Lord that today as we go deep into this subject

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That you will open our eyes. You'll open our spiritual senses to

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reveal to know some of the meanings

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to the conditions in our life the meanings that we have

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To the meanings into the things happening in our life

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rarely begins

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With just the emotion alone

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There's a sequence that happens and when you understand that sequence you can you can intercept and you can change

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There's always a circumstance. There's always a condition. There's a triggering event and

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An event that causes this whole thing to start. Okay, there's a condition. There's a

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Circumstance, but what comes next is the

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interpretation. That's what most of us miss. We're always adding an interpretation, we're

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adding a meaning. This happening means this. And usually it's our brain, it's pattern recognition.

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It's going, huh, this is like what? That's what our brain does. This is like, oh yeah,

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what you just said is like what my ex-husband always said. What you just did is like the

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people that have disrespected me all my life. What you just did is like this abandonment.

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It's a pattern recognition and we're interpreting it. And it's in that interpretation,

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it's in that meaning we've attached that an emotion comes up.

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There's a storm interpretation, we're going to die.

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Don't you care that we're perishing?

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That emotion leads to words. Jesus, don't you care that we're perishing?

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Leads to words. Leads to reaction and reinforcement so that this now becomes a pattern.

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What we're going to talk about. So something happens when we attach a meaning to something.

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Our emotions, our body responds to that meaning.

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Something happens and you go, bad things always happen to me. Why does nothing ever work out for

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me? Why does God punishing me like this? It's a meaning. Yeah, bad things happen, but you know

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what, God, you promise that you work all things together for good. I wonder what the good is

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happening in this. How are you going to use this to bring good? Just a little bit of good.

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A different meaning. So then we begin speaking from it, and then we begin acting from it,

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and that leads us to withdraw or control or chase or avoid or overwork or shut down.

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It's because something happened, we attached a meaning, we spoke it, it became leading into

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our actions and now. I've talked about this. Linda has beautifully shared. Can I have permission

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for a second to share something? It was not safe for Linda to show up. It never worked out to show

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up. So now the brain associates with that pattern. Nah, maybe I'll just do it from here behind the

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scenes. She's powerful. Get her coaching. She's a powerful woman of God. She hears, she releases,

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she's got a brilliant mind, but there's an underlying pattern. It's not safe to show up.

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You feel me, you guys? You see how that works? And so that meaning, we act, then we withdraw or we

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control or we overthink or we chase or we overwork or we shut down. We do the thing

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that we've learned to do to try to stay safe.

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And this then often creates a result that confirms our belief in the first place.

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We reinforce it. So I kind of shared this yesterday, but we'll go a little deeper today,

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right? So a prospect doesn't respond. A prospect doesn't respond.

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Or in dating, I had a guy in the past few weeks, just love bomb the poop out of me. I mean,

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just like the texts were just like, just like, and then all of a sudden complete silence for 10 days.

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Complete silence for 10 days. Okay. Now my mind says, yeah, these losers are always

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ghosting. I swear they love mom and they disappear. And you know, right. The Lord

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has taught me judge righteously. Don't make assumptions. So the Lord tells me,

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want to do this, the Lord tells me to write a text back. So I

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said, you know, wow, your words were really beautiful that you

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wrote and then boom for 10 days, you've been gone. And you know,

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for me, action and consistency is really important. And he

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writes back, I really regret that you believe I've lost

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interest in you. Because for me, that's totally not the case. I'm

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going through incredibly turbulent times right now. And I

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didn't want to bring that to the conversation. Right. But if I

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hadn't asked, I would have made an assumption based on past

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experience, I would have judged I would have cut him off, said

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you're out of here. I mean, I still might cut him off and say

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you're out of here. That's still in the book. But but you guys

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get my so same thing a prospect doesn't respond. And so the

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circumstances silence, I get clients that absolutely call me

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say I need you. I have a call with them. Absolutely. Yes, I

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want to do it. Okay, we'll start and boom, all of a sudden,

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where'd you go? And they're not responding. And they're not it

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happens to me too. Not just you guys. They're not answering my

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text. They're not they're just like, where did you go? Now I

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could, what can I make that mean? I can take that

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personally. Right? I could go into fear, I could go into

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discouragement, I could say something like, nothing's

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working, my business doesn't work, they are not good at that

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I could make it mean anything, which is man, I'm, I'm going to

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become invisible, or I'm going to go get a job or I'm gonna, I

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better change my offer again, I better like, right. And so I

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have fewer conversations. And now I reinforce that my

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business is not working, the economy's down, no one's buying,

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no one's got money, I'm no good, whatever the story, do you all

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understand? It's all a story. Do you see that? Can you see? Can

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you see this reflected? I'm trying to give you different

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examples. Can you see that in your life? How that works? Is

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that making sense? So the key is the circumstances never said

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nobody wants what you offer. That was an interpretation. The

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circumstance gives us information. The circumstances

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get this, the circumstance gives us information. There was a

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silence, he ghosted, she didn't buy, even though she said she

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was going to buy. Circumstances give us information, we give

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the circumstances meaning. And when we stop that, or we're

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aware of that, everything changes. Like I'm just a habit

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of saying, well, I just assumed something. Well, I don't know

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that actually. That's an assumption. All I know is he

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didn't respond for 10 days. I don't know that he's ghosting. I

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don't know that he's with another woman. I don't know that

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he's just a flake. I don't know that he's moved. I don't know

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those things. I simply know he didn't respond for 10 days. And

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the meaning we assign is usually shaped by past disappointment,

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family patterns, you know, previous losses, fear, trauma,

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long held beliefs, right? And so this idea of emotional

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alignment, invites God into, I want you to get this, you guys,

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this is where everything shifts, invites God into that meaning

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making process. Is that true, God? Is that how you see things,

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God? Am I seeing things correctly? Right? Is this true?

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So instead of just asking something like, how do I make

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this feeling stop, which is what we mostly don't want any pain,

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we don't want any, how do I make this stop? And usually we

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medicated or we, you know, entertain it, or we do

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something. Instead, we ask, okay, what actually happened?

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The client didn't buy yet. Notice I put yet that's one of

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my belief systems. She didn't buy yet. You see how that

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changes everything? She didn't buy. She didn't buy yet. You

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see how even one word can change something? Right? Yeah.

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What happened? He didn't respond yet.

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He didn't take the next step yet.

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So what happened?

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What did I make it mean? You've got to get in the habit of just

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understanding. We're gonna see some powerful scriptures about this. What

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belief did that meaning activate? So I made it mean this.

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Okay, I made it mean he ghosted me and

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the belief that all these losers ghost these days. Men don't have any character. They never, they just don't.

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There's no good man out there. I hear that all the time. There's no good man out there.

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So I could have made that mean he's not a good man. Is that true in God's eyes?

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He didn't respond. I like consistency. I'll share. I don't like the action.

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I desire a different action.

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Okay, but I could have made it mean and go into judgment.

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Which we do a lot. So then I make that

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that meaning turn into belief, but is that belief true? Are all men losers?

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Is the economy so bad nobody's buying anymore? I hear that all the time. Nobody's buying anymore. Is that true?

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That's a meaning I attached is true for me right now.

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Then we go deep. What did God say?

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God said to me, don't you dare judge my son.

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That's what God said to me.

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Don't you judge my son. God said let it unfold.

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what response now comes

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from that truth?

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Often in coaching, I do something that I've named spirit tapping.

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So we put on a piece of paper what this belief is, what this thing is that's really

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stressing us out.

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I ask, is that true? Can I absolutely know that that's true?

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The answer is 99.9% of the time no.

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Okay, so I've been believing a lie. Then I get them to tap into, so when I believe that lie,

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what's the fruit? Because everything has a fruit.

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Okay, I'm

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discouraged. I'm depressed. I stop showing up. I eat too much. I, oh, okay.

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So all of that fruit is very low frequency. When I believe that,

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increase.

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Then I say, what would happen if I was willing to release that belief?

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What would the fruit be? Oh

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my gosh, I would feel powerful. I would really go forward. I'd have a lot of joy. I'd be excited again.

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I'd have, I go, oh, so that's very high frequency fruit.

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And I ask the

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place where our God-given ability to choose come in, and I say, are you willing to choose?

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Well, first I'll say, is there, can you give me any good reason to keep holding on to that belief that we know is a

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lie that's producing low frequency fruit that we know if we released it, we'd have high frequency?

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Can you give me any good reason to keep holding on to that belief?

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No. Are you willing to use your God-given ability to choose to release that belief?

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Yes, and we have a shift and life changes.

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There's transformation. I've done this since 2012.

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Creates transformation.

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So let's do some of this immersion. Let's use this time to experience some of this

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personally. So number one, I want you to choose one current situation that's producing emotional pressure.

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Pick a situation that's producing emotional pressure. It might involve money. It might involve health.

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It might involve family. It might involve business. It might involve waiting. It might involve

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relationships. It might involve

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uncertainty. Pick a current situation that's producing a constricted and emotional pressure state.

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Name it.

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Kind of put both feet on the floor.

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Take a slow breath. Invite the Holy Spirit into this. Just kind of breathe in.

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Breathe out.

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Holy Spirit, help me see this clearly.

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Open my eyes.

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journey

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through

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what exactly happened, what actually happened.

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this

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current

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situation.

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Just what happened, not a meaning.

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What actually happened, the client didn't buy,

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nobody showed up on my TikTok.

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What actually happened, I didn't make the sale.

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Just the fact, what actually happened,

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only observable facts, no interpretation yet.

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Just the fact, just the facts, ma'am, just the facts.

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So example again, fact, she's not responded

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to my last two messages.

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That's a fact, she didn't respond to the last two messages.

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Interpretation, she's rejecting me.

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She doesn't like what I offer.

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Okay, that's interpretation.

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Fact, she just didn't respond to the last two messages.

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I don't know if her daughter's having a baby.

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I don't know if she was in a car crash.

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I don't know if she's gone.

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No, she just, the fact is she didn't respond

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to my last two messages.

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Keep it to the fact.

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Fact, revenue is lower this month.

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That can be true.

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Fact, I made less this month.

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That's a fact.

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Interpretation, my business is failing.

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I better get a job.

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This doesn't work.

475
00:36:32.880 --> 00:36:34.420
That's an interpretation.

476
00:36:35.440 --> 00:36:40.440
Fact, my family member disagreed with me.

477
00:36:40.580 --> 00:36:43.720
That's a fact, she disagreed with me.

478
00:36:43.720 --> 00:36:47.620
Interpretation, nobody respects me around here.

479
00:36:51.000 --> 00:36:56.000
So, you got it, you got the facts.

480
00:36:57.000 --> 00:37:02.000
The thing, the fact, and then now,

481
00:37:04.520 --> 00:37:07.640
do you have kind of the interpretation

482
00:37:07.640 --> 00:37:09.300
that you were adding to it?

483
00:37:10.480 --> 00:37:13.520
Was there an interpretation you added?

484
00:37:17.480 --> 00:37:18.760
What was the fact?

485
00:37:20.240 --> 00:37:21.920
We talked about it before.

486
00:37:21.920 --> 00:37:24.080
The world depends on me.

487
00:37:24.080 --> 00:37:28.580
If I don't handle everything, the world's gonna fall apart.

488
00:37:29.980 --> 00:37:34.980
I was sharing a story on my drive to San Francisco yesterday

489
00:37:36.560 --> 00:37:38.200
with Michael, and I was sharing a story

490
00:37:38.200 --> 00:37:41.240
when there was a time when I had three human beings,

491
00:37:42.160 --> 00:37:47.160
a guy that I was dating, my daughter, and my brother,

492
00:37:47.200 --> 00:37:49.540
and I felt that all three of them,

493
00:37:50.880 --> 00:37:52.420
they were gonna be homeless,

494
00:37:52.420 --> 00:37:53.660
they were gonna commit suicide,

495
00:37:53.660 --> 00:37:56.140
like there was a demise.

496
00:37:56.140 --> 00:37:57.800
All three of them were not gonna make it

497
00:37:57.800 --> 00:37:59.820
if I wasn't holding them up.

498
00:37:59.820 --> 00:38:02.460
There was a time I was physically,

499
00:38:04.020 --> 00:38:06.420
and I had to let that go and stop that.

500
00:38:08.180 --> 00:38:09.580
Okay, do you all have it?

501
00:38:11.900 --> 00:38:14.260
Do you all have the thing and you have the interpretation?

502
00:38:14.260 --> 00:38:15.700
Because I wanna have a good discussion

503
00:38:15.700 --> 00:38:19.000
and then I wanna move on to some more powerful exercises.

504
00:38:19.000 --> 00:38:19.840
Do you all have it?

505
00:38:19.840 --> 00:38:22.080
Let me say done when you have it.

506
00:38:22.740 --> 00:38:23.880
You can put it in the chat.

507
00:38:25.560 --> 00:38:28.740
Just give me a fact and then give me an interpretation.

508
00:38:28.740 --> 00:38:31.000
When you have it, say done.

509
00:38:31.000 --> 00:38:32.840
Okay, Colette says done.

510
00:38:36.440 --> 00:38:38.120
Okay, Amanda says done.

511
00:38:53.080 --> 00:38:55.980
Natalie, Linda, you guys put done if you're done.

512
00:38:58.240 --> 00:38:59.840
Okay, Linda's done.

513
00:39:02.160 --> 00:39:04.120
Trying to give you all time.

514
00:39:04.120 --> 00:39:06.440
Okay, let's have a quick conversation

515
00:39:06.440 --> 00:39:08.160
and we're gonna go even deeper.

516
00:39:09.320 --> 00:39:13.860
So let me know, did something change?

517
00:39:13.860 --> 00:39:18.100
What changed when you dissected here?

518
00:39:18.100 --> 00:39:21.340
When we separated fact from interpretation,

519
00:39:21.340 --> 00:39:23.140
did something change for you?

520
00:39:26.300 --> 00:39:30.060
What changed when you separated fact from interpretation,

521
00:39:30.060 --> 00:39:33.480
from meaning, from story, from narrative?

522
00:39:34.900 --> 00:39:35.860
What changed?

523
00:39:41.380 --> 00:39:43.260
You can unmute or you can text.

524
00:39:44.140 --> 00:39:45.540
Let's have a conversation.

525
00:39:45.540 --> 00:39:50.340
For me, what changed is it was my feeling, my emotion,

526
00:39:50.380 --> 00:39:54.580
my overthinking and I didn't ask God,

527
00:39:54.580 --> 00:39:56.140
like, is this your truth?

528
00:39:57.020 --> 00:39:58.900
Is this what you're telling me?

529
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:05.200
worry. So you were able to back up you realize, okay, this event

530
00:40:05.200 --> 00:40:10.360
is causing an emotion, and you were able to separate enough to

531
00:40:10.360 --> 00:40:17.600
be able to say, my emotions were were leading and I didn't ask

532
00:40:17.600 --> 00:40:25.040
God. He sees is that what you're saying? Love it. Okay. Who else

533
00:40:25.040 --> 00:40:29.960
what changed when you separated that circumstance, the

534
00:40:29.960 --> 00:40:38.360
condition? Yes, Collette. Oh, you're muted. I don't hear you.

535
00:40:41.600 --> 00:40:44.960
I recognize that this was not the truth, whereas before it

536
00:40:44.960 --> 00:40:49.280
would just be what I believed about myself or the situation.

537
00:40:49.680 --> 00:40:52.640
And this time I said, Wait a minute. Is that the truth?

538
00:40:53.640 --> 00:40:56.440
Isn't that freeing that you know, the Bible says the truth

539
00:40:56.440 --> 00:41:04.520
will set us free, right? Isn't that freeing? To recognize? Wow,

540
00:41:04.880 --> 00:41:07.680
this thing is driving my emotions. It's creating

541
00:41:07.680 --> 00:41:12.880
pressure. It's robbing my peace. It's robbing my joy and it's not

542
00:41:12.880 --> 00:41:24.160
even true. That's big. Anybody else? Anything changed when you

543
00:41:24.160 --> 00:41:30.440
separated the fact from the interpretation? And how much of

544
00:41:30.440 --> 00:41:34.520
the pressure that you were feeling? The contracted state

545
00:41:34.520 --> 00:41:37.760
that you were feeling was connected to the meaning that

546
00:41:37.760 --> 00:41:42.120
you assigned? How much was the pressure directly connected to

547
00:41:42.160 --> 00:41:45.320
the meaning that you have assigned the story, the

548
00:41:45.320 --> 00:41:58.160
narrative? How much? 0%? 100%? How much of the pressure is

549
00:41:58.160 --> 00:42:09.960
connected to the meaning that you assigned? So I said that

550
00:42:09.960 --> 00:42:17.360
emotions can be signals and we can listen. Okay. So here's some

551
00:42:17.360 --> 00:42:21.480
journaling prompts for you for later. We don't have time now

552
00:42:21.520 --> 00:42:26.040
because I want to do something else really powerful. But when I

553
00:42:26.040 --> 00:42:34.520
think about this situation, I feel I noticed this feeling in

554
00:42:34.520 --> 00:42:39.400
my body as tighten chest, shorten breathing, slump

555
00:42:39.400 --> 00:42:45.600
shoulders, headache, whatever. And that emotion makes me want

556
00:42:45.600 --> 00:42:53.800
to. And here's the really big one. The outcome I'm afraid of

557
00:42:53.840 --> 00:43:00.320
is, this is so big. I'll often in coaching say, well, okay, if

558
00:43:00.320 --> 00:43:05.400
we play this out, what are you afraid is going to happen? And

559
00:43:05.400 --> 00:43:09.320
it all comes out, I'm afraid I'll be rejected. I'm afraid

560
00:43:09.320 --> 00:43:13.880
I'll be abandoned. I'm afraid I'll look stupid. I'm afraid

561
00:43:13.880 --> 00:43:18.080
I'll fail like we like we can get to that, you know, that

562
00:43:18.080 --> 00:43:24.600
fruit. So what I want you to get from this, and I want to keep

563
00:43:24.600 --> 00:43:29.920
going, what I want you to get is that these emotions, they talk,

564
00:43:29.920 --> 00:43:36.040
they have a voice. By the way, everything talks. And

565
00:43:36.040 --> 00:43:43.480
everything, this is powerful, listens. In other words, fear

566
00:43:43.480 --> 00:43:48.120
can speak. You have the power, the power of life and death is

567
00:43:48.120 --> 00:43:53.080
in the tongue, just speak to the fear. The storm can speak. You

568
00:43:53.080 --> 00:43:58.120
have the ability, Jesus spoke to the storm. Jesus spoke to the

569
00:43:58.120 --> 00:44:04.360
rock. Jesus spoke to, right? So understand, everything can

570
00:44:04.360 --> 00:44:14.480
speak, but also everything can listen. So fear may say, run, or

571
00:44:14.480 --> 00:44:24.320
control or hide or fix. You also have the power to say fear. You

572
00:44:24.360 --> 00:44:31.200
have no power over me. God's perfect love completely kicks

573
00:44:31.200 --> 00:44:34.360
fear out the door. You can have the scriptures even for that,

574
00:44:34.360 --> 00:44:39.760
right? Anger might say attack, defend yourself, criticize,

575
00:44:40.080 --> 00:44:47.920
attack back, right? Shame might say disappear. Scarcity might

576
00:44:47.920 --> 00:44:53.280
say, hold on tight. Pressure might say, hurry up, everything

577
00:44:53.280 --> 00:44:59.560
depends on you. So I want you to begin to have awareness,

578
00:44:59.560 --> 00:45:00.000
awareness

579
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.400
just the first step to transformation,

580
00:45:02.400 --> 00:45:07.960
what has your emotion been pressuring you to do?

581
00:45:07.960 --> 00:45:17.800
And part of that is discover, where have you been agreeing?

582
00:45:17.800 --> 00:45:19.400
This is where things change.

583
00:45:19.400 --> 00:45:23.000
You make a meaning, and you come into agreement.

584
00:45:23.000 --> 00:45:25.720
You're coming into agreement with that untruth,

585
00:45:25.720 --> 00:45:29.320
that meaning, or you're coming into agreement

586
00:45:29.320 --> 00:45:32.480
with what God says.

587
00:45:32.480 --> 00:45:37.600
So the emotional patterns often rely on an underlying

588
00:45:37.600 --> 00:45:40.400
agreement, a conclusion.

589
00:45:40.400 --> 00:45:44.720
We have said it so often, we've believed it to be true.

590
00:45:44.720 --> 00:45:49.240
Everything depends on me.

591
00:45:49.240 --> 00:45:54.800
We've come to a conclusion so much that it becomes our truth.

592
00:45:54.800 --> 00:45:57.120
Everything depends on me.

593
00:45:57.120 --> 00:45:59.720
I'm not safe unless I stay in control.

594
00:46:07.360 --> 00:46:08.160
I'm not enough.

595
00:46:10.920 --> 00:46:12.280
Nobody will help me.

596
00:46:16.120 --> 00:46:19.080
Rest is irresponsible.

597
00:46:19.080 --> 00:46:21.760
If I slow down, everything will fall apart.

598
00:46:22.560 --> 00:46:26.160
God may help others, but I'm on my own.

599
00:46:26.160 --> 00:46:27.640
Here's another one.

600
00:46:27.640 --> 00:46:30.040
I'm running out of time.

601
00:46:33.320 --> 00:46:35.480
So this is something you can journal, too.

602
00:46:35.480 --> 00:46:40.240
The situation feels so emotionally charged.

603
00:46:40.240 --> 00:46:44.240
This particular situation has emotion

604
00:46:44.240 --> 00:46:49.840
that is really charged because somewhere in space,

605
00:46:50.440 --> 00:46:56.640
because somewhere inside, I believe blank.

606
00:46:56.640 --> 00:46:58.280
So there's a situation.

607
00:46:58.280 --> 00:46:59.560
I've attached a meaning.

608
00:46:59.560 --> 00:47:00.840
It led to emotion.

609
00:47:00.840 --> 00:47:05.000
That emotion's really charged right now.

610
00:47:05.000 --> 00:47:07.520
I'll have people come to me, and the emotions

611
00:47:07.520 --> 00:47:08.760
are really charged.

612
00:47:08.760 --> 00:47:10.200
I'm going to run out of money.

613
00:47:10.200 --> 00:47:13.800
If I don't do something this month, I got to get a job.

614
00:47:13.800 --> 00:47:15.200
This business isn't working.

615
00:47:15.200 --> 00:47:17.240
My husband's on my back.

616
00:47:17.240 --> 00:47:18.960
We're going to lose our house.

617
00:47:19.000 --> 00:47:20.480
I can't pay this.

618
00:47:20.480 --> 00:47:25.760
The emotion is charged because inside they believe not

619
00:47:25.760 --> 00:47:26.960
that God is the source.

620
00:47:26.960 --> 00:47:29.920
What I'm doing is the source, and I'm not doing enough,

621
00:47:29.920 --> 00:47:32.680
and it's not working, and I'm going to run out,

622
00:47:32.680 --> 00:47:34.920
and there's lack, and the world's going to fall apart,

623
00:47:34.920 --> 00:47:36.480
and I better do something.

624
00:47:39.640 --> 00:47:42.080
And so you have to start looking at your life.

625
00:47:42.080 --> 00:47:46.880
Where have I seen this agreement before?

626
00:47:46.880 --> 00:47:48.800
And how has it affected my words?

627
00:47:48.800 --> 00:47:51.240
How has it affected my decision making?

628
00:47:51.240 --> 00:47:55.120
What does it cost me in my health, in my peace,

629
00:47:55.120 --> 00:47:58.760
in my energy, in my visibility, in my impact?

630
00:47:58.760 --> 00:48:01.040
Like, this has a high cost.

631
00:48:01.040 --> 00:48:04.960
What I'm teaching today has a high cost.

632
00:48:11.400 --> 00:48:15.960
And so what I want to close with is a really important time

633
00:48:15.960 --> 00:48:17.240
right now to go deep.

634
00:48:19.280 --> 00:48:20.960
I'm just receiving the truth.

635
00:48:20.960 --> 00:48:23.680
The truth will set you free.

636
00:48:23.680 --> 00:48:27.320
There's a scripture I want you to study.

637
00:48:27.320 --> 00:48:33.600
It's Psalms 139 verses 23 and 24.

638
00:48:33.600 --> 00:48:39.200
Psalms 139 verses 23 and 24.

639
00:48:39.200 --> 00:48:42.880
I'm going to read it slowly from the Passion translation.

640
00:48:42.880 --> 00:48:46.440
Every translation is so good on this.

641
00:48:46.440 --> 00:48:49.600
This is David, and it's David's prayer.

642
00:48:52.320 --> 00:48:57.600
David, who had so much peace, no matter all the conditions

643
00:48:57.600 --> 00:49:02.080
that he faced, that he could actually rise up as king

644
00:49:02.080 --> 00:49:06.840
and lead an empire in the longest period of peace ever.

645
00:49:06.840 --> 00:49:08.880
David prayed this.

646
00:49:08.880 --> 00:49:15.280
God, I invite your searching gaze into my heart.

647
00:49:17.160 --> 00:49:19.640
Examine my heart.

648
00:49:19.640 --> 00:49:22.920
Examine me through and through.

649
00:49:22.920 --> 00:49:28.400
God, examine me through and through.

650
00:49:28.400 --> 00:49:31.920
Find out everything that's hidden within me.

651
00:49:31.920 --> 00:49:36.320
What's driving me that I'm not seeing?

652
00:49:36.320 --> 00:49:37.960
What are these agreements?

653
00:49:37.960 --> 00:49:40.480
What are these unconscious vows?

654
00:49:40.480 --> 00:49:42.480
What are these belief systems?

655
00:49:43.040 --> 00:49:48.240
Find out everything that may be hidden within me.

656
00:49:48.240 --> 00:49:56.240
Put me to the test and sift through my anxious cares.

657
00:49:56.240 --> 00:50:02.240
God, examine me through and through.

658
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:10.040
me sift through my anxiety. Reveal. Reveal what's true. So take a moment right now. Let's

659
00:50:10.040 --> 00:50:19.880
just take a minute. Get your journal out. And pray. Holy Spirit, what do you want me

660
00:50:19.880 --> 00:50:27.120
to know about this situation? What's true? What's true about you? What's true about me?

661
00:50:27.120 --> 00:50:34.080
What have I forgotten? What do you want me to know about this situation, Holy Spirit?

662
00:50:34.080 --> 00:50:40.840
What's true about you? What's true about me? What have I forgotten in this situation? Take

663
00:50:40.840 --> 00:50:47.560
a minute right now with that kind of prayer. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal as David did.

664
00:50:47.560 --> 00:50:54.000
I invite you, Lord, to gaze into my heart. Examine me through and through. Find what's

665
00:50:54.000 --> 00:50:59.920
hidden. Sift through my anxious cares. Dive in.

666
00:51:24.000 --> 00:51:53.960
So as you're journaling,

667
00:51:53.960 --> 00:52:13.880
the truth God is showing me is. I've been believing this, agreeing with this. God is

668
00:52:13.880 --> 00:52:32.680
showing me. I had agreement that the world depended on me. God showed me. I've been

669
00:52:32.680 --> 00:52:57.680
believing that God is now telling me. The truth God is now showing me. I'm not alone.

670
00:52:57.680 --> 00:53:06.680
I'm not alone. I don't have to solve the entire future today. God is my source and

671
00:53:06.680 --> 00:53:21.240
he will show me the next step. Possible truths. A delayed response is not proof of rejection.

672
00:53:21.240 --> 00:53:32.200
I've followed up with people for years. Years. I'm not taking it personally or rejecting.

673
00:53:32.200 --> 00:53:40.520
I've had a number of clients that have paid me for stuff that they still haven't used.

674
00:53:40.520 --> 00:53:52.680
I'm here when they're ready. I remind them. I can set a boundary without withdrawing love.

675
00:53:52.680 --> 00:54:02.240
I can feel grief and still be helped by God. I'm allowed to rest while God is working.

676
00:54:02.240 --> 00:54:15.480
Okay. Yeah, I guess you are. I've got a number of you. It's okay. I love you. You're here when

677
00:54:15.480 --> 00:54:28.720
it's right. It'll be right. I don't take it personally. I'm a good coach. Okay. So when

678
00:54:28.880 --> 00:54:35.440
we then come into alignment, so we're discerning the truth. We're coming out of agreement with the

679
00:54:35.440 --> 00:54:42.160
lies. We're stepping in. We're asking God for truth. We're asking God to reveal truth. This

680
00:54:42.160 --> 00:54:52.160
is a continuous process. What's true about this God? What's true about this person? I did not

681
00:54:52.160 --> 00:54:59.920
judge righteously this person. I did not judge righteously this situation. What's true God?

682
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:10.080
And now I need to align, remember we said the mind, heart, mouth, I need to align my

683
00:55:10.080 --> 00:55:16.320
mouth and I need to align my action with truth.

684
00:55:16.320 --> 00:55:21.280
My words need to speak truth, my actions need to walk out.

685
00:55:21.280 --> 00:55:26.200
So you look at some of the things that you say repeatedly spoken out of fear, right?

686
00:55:26.200 --> 00:55:27.880
Like I'm overwhelmed.

687
00:55:27.880 --> 00:55:33.680
I hear that all the time, I'm overwhelmed and they speak it so often, I'm overwhelmed.

688
00:55:33.680 --> 00:55:38.120
Where nothing is working in my business, nothing, nothing's working.

689
00:55:38.120 --> 00:55:44.920
I never have enough or nobody supports me in this house, nobody supports me.

690
00:55:44.920 --> 00:55:48.840
I can't handle this, it's never going to change.

691
00:55:48.840 --> 00:55:53.740
These are words that are so powerful, they're packets of powerful energy.

692
00:55:53.740 --> 00:55:59.860
You got to no longer speak the lies, Jesus, don't you care we're perishing?

693
00:55:59.860 --> 00:56:03.700
Jesus, there's a storm.

694
00:56:03.700 --> 00:56:04.700
Let's go after it.

695
00:56:04.700 --> 00:56:09.340
I mean, Jesus did say, oh, you have little faith, like why didn't you go after it?

696
00:56:09.340 --> 00:56:15.760
You're not perishing, use your power, take back your power, right?

697
00:56:15.760 --> 00:56:22.140
So we begin to create a bridge to a declaration that's emotionally honest, it's biblically

698
00:56:22.140 --> 00:56:26.320
grounded and it's strong enough to be able to lead.

699
00:56:26.320 --> 00:56:32.380
So it might be something like, you know, right now this feels like a lot, but I don't have

700
00:56:32.380 --> 00:56:33.660
to carry it alone.

701
00:56:33.660 --> 00:56:35.740
God will show me what matters right now.

702
00:56:35.740 --> 00:56:38.780
God will show me what the next step is.

703
00:56:38.780 --> 00:56:42.020
Or I have not yet, remember, I love the word yet.

704
00:56:42.020 --> 00:56:51.260
I have not yet seen the result I desire, but God is giving me wisdom and a clear next step.

705
00:56:51.380 --> 00:56:56.820
The mirror is telling me there won't be enough, but God is my source.

706
00:56:56.820 --> 00:57:00.780
I'll steward wisely and I'll act from peace.

707
00:57:00.780 --> 00:57:07.100
I feel unsupported right now, but I'm not abandoned.

708
00:57:07.100 --> 00:57:10.940
I can ask clearly for the support that I need, right?

709
00:57:10.940 --> 00:57:18.440
So you start now creating aligned declarations.

710
00:57:18.440 --> 00:57:25.960
So my aligned declaration is, I found God revealed what I was in agreement with.

711
00:57:25.960 --> 00:57:32.420
That is an untruth that was creating this negative fruit and frequency.

712
00:57:32.420 --> 00:57:34.720
I'm going to step into the truth.

713
00:57:34.720 --> 00:57:38.420
God's word says, I believe God revealed.

714
00:57:38.420 --> 00:57:40.180
Now I'm going to speak it.

715
00:57:40.180 --> 00:57:53.140
So my aligned new declaration is, and the peaceful action I will take is.

716
00:57:53.140 --> 00:58:01.380
So my aligned declaration is, the peaceful action I will take is, and the reaction I

717
00:58:01.380 --> 00:58:06.440
will no longer reinforce is.

718
00:58:06.440 --> 00:58:12.840
So the next time this emotion comes around knocking at the door, I will remind myself

719
00:58:12.840 --> 00:58:17.400
that.

720
00:58:17.400 --> 00:58:23.600
Next time this emotion that came from this meaning comes knocking on the door, I will

721
00:58:23.600 --> 00:58:26.280
remind myself that.

722
00:58:26.280 --> 00:58:29.200
Okay, we're over time.

723
00:58:29.200 --> 00:58:31.560
I pray that this has completely blessed you.

724
00:58:31.560 --> 00:58:33.840
Go deep with this.

725
00:58:33.840 --> 00:58:35.440
Get that Psalms 39.

726
00:58:35.440 --> 00:58:36.440
Make that a prayer.

727
00:58:36.440 --> 00:58:39.560
God, search my anxious thoughts.

728
00:58:39.560 --> 00:58:46.520
God, reveal truth and the truth will set you free.

729
00:58:46.520 --> 00:58:48.400
The truth will set you free.

730
00:58:48.400 --> 00:58:53.840
Not overworking, not overthinking, not overstressing, not over striving, not over controlling.

731
00:58:53.840 --> 00:58:59.200
The truth will set you free.

732
00:58:59.200 --> 00:59:04.360
That's what God is wanting to do when we talk about emotional alignment.

733
00:59:04.360 --> 00:59:11.320
All right, ladies, blessings, blessings, blessings.

734
00:59:11.320 --> 00:59:12.320
Thank you, Natalie.

735
00:59:12.320 --> 00:59:15.200
I'm a great and excellent coach.

736
00:59:15.200 --> 00:59:16.200
Thank you, Natalie.

737
00:59:16.200 --> 00:59:17.200
I don't feel rejected.

738
00:59:17.200 --> 00:59:18.200
I don't feel abandoned.

739
00:59:18.200 --> 00:59:19.200
I love you.

740
00:59:19.200 --> 00:59:20.200
Okay.

741
00:59:20.200 --> 00:59:24.000
You should not feel any of those things.

742
00:59:24.000 --> 00:59:25.600
Thank you.

743
00:59:25.600 --> 00:59:26.600
Okay.

744
00:59:27.400 --> 00:59:29.960
My dog is asking for a W-A-L-K.

745
00:59:29.960 --> 00:59:30.960
She knows it's time.

746
00:59:30.960 --> 00:59:31.960
All right, blessings.

747
00:59:31.960 --> 00:59:33.960
Except we got to get to office hour.

748
00:59:33.960 --> 00:59:34.960
No, not time yet.

749
00:59:34.960 --> 00:59:35.960
Sorry.

750
00:59:35.960 --> 00:59:36.960
Okay.

751
00:59:36.960 --> 00:59:36.960