And good morning, good morning, good afternoon, good evening, whenever you're listening to
this, welcome.
This is From Pressure to Partnership.
What is it like to move from the constant sense of pressure that comes from fear, over
responsibility, overthinking, like all of these things, right?
Operating from a contracted state.
And what is it like to move in true partnership with God?
The other day I had this funny idea, like what would happen?
You all see I often on Sundays, I do salsa saga on Instagram, right?
Before I go into a dance at the opera house in Roseville, California.
And I just got that idea like, wow, it's just fun.
What I've learned, you know, about life and business and everything from salsa and I'm
all dressed up, what a good time to do a reel.
But I thought, I wonder what would happen if I just stood at the door and interviewed
people.
What people would think if I asked them what it means to partner with God or in particular
partner with God in business, like what do you think their response of the average salsa
dancer walking in the door would be, right?
And so that's what we've been covering in this series.
What does it mean to move from this internally contracted place of pressure?
Where is that coming from?
And how do we move into that expanded state of partnering with God?
And over the last few weeks, we've been working through the prosper framework.
We've gone through the first P, which is that partner with God, right?
That's the foundation of knowing who you are, that you're a co-heir, a co-laborer, that
you're co-crucified, you're co-risen.
Like what does it mean to live the co-life, right?
And then the R in the prosper framework, which is renew your mind because God can set you
free.
He can do everything.
But the one thing that just comes from our daily practice of walking with him is renewing
the mind, getting rid of the old stinking thinking and replacing it with truth.
This is a constant.
It says that's how we're transformed.
Scripture says we're transformed by the renewing of our mind.
And that word transform is like a caterpillar going to a butterfly.
That butterfly will never be a caterpillar again.
So we're not talking temporary change.
We're talking, what does it mean to be transformed?
And that happens through renewing of the mind, which by the way, today, we're going to do
a lot of renewing of the mind.
Pressure to partnership is where we really do some immersive work, some deep reflection,
journaling, talking to God, letting this subject go deeper.
And on Wednesdays in Power Hour, we lay the scriptural foundation.
And I usually review that a little bit for anybody that misses Power Hour.
But then this is where we go deeper.
So that's the R.
And the O is about opening the flow.
Now, this is a big subject.
It's so powerful that I'm actually doing the masterclass this coming Saturday.
For those of you that are Prosper Leaders, it's free to you.
If you're not a Prosper Leader, it's a good time to become one.
For everyone else, it's 47.
And this is going to be really a powerful time of identifying the patterns, these hidden
programming, this hidden script, these things that have been governing and keep us from
following up, from showing up and being visible, from fully living.
All God's called us to these hidden patterns that affect our flow, our cash flow, our client
flow.
Right.
And so we're going to go deep on Saturday with that.
If you haven't registered, be sure you do.
So that's open, the O.
And then the S is about simplifying and creating space.
And then the second P that we work through was about purpose and identity.
And of course, we saw that identity actually comes before purpose.
Linda, can you let...
I think there's people...
want to come in. And so purpose and identity. And then now, this
week, we are looking at the E, emotional alignment, emotional
alignment. And yesterday, I described alignment about having
the parts of us were, were triune beings, the Bible says,
just, there's a lot of scriptures on that, just like
God is a triune being. And so we are spirit, we are soul, which
is our mind, will and emotions, and we are body, we are flesh,
right? And I've, God gave me the, the visual of a snowman,
and seeing the different snowballs, and it can be
different size, right? Which one's bigger, which one's
smaller, but having them in proper order to make a proper
snowman. So proper snowman, the top, the head is what I would
call our spirit, little s, our spirit, connecting with God's
Spirit, which is capital S. Okay, so the idea is we're
supposed to be ruled, our spirit is supposed to rule, our spirit
man is supposed to rise up, and our spirit man is meant to walk
in communion with God's Spirit. And that spirit is meant to rule
over our soul, which is where our emotions are, it's where our
mind, our overthinking, our thoughts, it's where our
emotions, right? Our mind is where our will is, our decision
making, okay? So our spirit connected with God's Spirit is
meant to rule over our soul. Okay? And our soul is meant to
rule over our body, our flesh. So if any of those are out of
balance, we're out of alignment. So if the flesh, which is very
common, is running the show, then it's driving everything.
It's, it's, it's, I gotta have, I'm craving, I need, you know,
the extreme example of that are addictions, right? Gotta have
that drink, gotta have that cigarette, gotta have that
scrolling dopamine hit, right? So our soul is meant to rule
over that. But our spirit is meant to rule over our soul.
Okay? So that's what I mean, emotional alignment, our
emotions, it's not that we're stuffing or ignoring, we saw
yesterday, our emotions are signals. They're not sovereign.
They're signals. And then we can learn to say, okay, what, what
am I learning? And we said, you know, sadness can be around
loss, that's a valid emotion. Anger can be around violation of
a boundary or right. So we're not just stuffing these things,
but they're in alignment, they're not running us. If our
emotions start running us, and that's what I'm talking about a
lot of these hidden emotional patterns that are actually
running us, that keep us continuously playing small, keep
us continually in pressure, keep us continually overthinking,
overperforming, right, over giving, keep us hidden and not
showing up, right. So this is the foundation that we were
laying. And so yesterday, we laid the scriptural foundation,
we went through Isaiah 26, three, that says God promises
peace. Boy, my glasses are dirty. God promises, I see worse
putting those on. God promises peace, when we keep our mind fix
on him, because we trust in him. So it does not mean ignoring
conditions or circumstances, they're, they're real, it means
refusing to allow circumstances to become our ultimate source of
truth, or refusing to allow circumstances to rob us of our
peace, we walk in the perfect peace, because God, Jesus even
A peace I give you, not as the world gives.
See, the peace of the world is,
when my circumstances change, then I'll be at peace.
When he's gone, she's gone, it's gone,
whatever's irritating me, then I'll have peace.
That's how the world gives peace.
That's not how God.
God gives peace in the middle of the storm.
Jesus slept in the storm, right?
And so that's Isaiah 26, three.
And then we saw in Colossians 3, 15,
that peace can be our, there's different translations,
peace can be our umpire, peace can be a rule over our heart.
So peace can influence the decisions that we make,
which is really powerful.
When I think about peace being an umpire,
that has been a very key scripture for me,
that's been a really powerful way to look at things.
So let peace rule in your heart, let peace be your umpire.
And so the first question, just to get reflecting on this,
is what has acted as umpire in your decisions this week?
When you went to make decisions this week,
what acted as umpire?
Was it peace or was it fear or was it pressure?
Was pressure calling the shots?
Was anger, was scarcity calling the shots?
The belief in lack, was rejection being the umpire?
Was urgency, the tyranny of the urgency acting as umpire?
Acting as umpire.
What was it that was acting as umpire this week
for you in your decision-making?
Well, for me, it was urgency, but that was super real
because I had to make sure everything was removed
for the remodel or ready for them to move forward
or whatever, right?
But-
Well, let's talk about that.
Yeah, okay.
Is it possible to do those things that need to be done
driven from a place of peace?
Yes.
Does urgency require that we walk in pressure?
Does urgency require that we give up our peace?
No, like Friday morning, so Friday morning,
I talked to the contractor and said,
when are we gonna see tile samples?
He's like, I'll bring them Monday.
And I almost immediately heard, don't wait till Monday.
Go get the tile samples yourself.
And I'm like, but Lord, I gotta drive to Tacoma for that.
And he's like, yeah, you just need to go.
So I go, I walk into the floor and decor
and it's like dead.
And this guy, one of the workers starts helping me
wheel a cart and find the tiles that we were looking at.
And I ask him for other samples.
And he says, a guy walks by and he goes,
Jay, can you come help us?
Was the designer doing nothing.
So he sat there and he goes,
no, maybe instead of this, you do this.
Instead of that, you do this.
And it totally made my biggest fear at that point
was this bathroom is gonna look so bad
and willy nilly and put together.
I'm not even there to like do anything about it.
And so I left going, Lord, that was so amazing.
And I sent the picture to my sisters.
I'm like, this is what we picked.
And this is what he picked.
And they're like, oh gosh, I like what he picked.
And so, so I mean.
Yeah.
Yes, so that's where I, when I say,
are you being driven by urgency?
You weren't being driven by urgency there.
You were driven by the Holy Spirit told you to do something
which is the whole walking in community, co-laboring.
And that's where the miracles are.
That's where those blessings are.
That's where the surprises.
It's like constant, beautiful surprise from God
that you never expect,
because he wants to give exceedingly abundantly above
and beyond anything we can ask or promote.
So when I say it's urgency driving you,
urgency may be the conditions,
but I'm asking what's driving your soul?
What's driving your emotions?
What's driving that sense of pressure?
So things can have a deadline.
They can be urgent.
They have to be done like now,
but they don't have to drive our emotion.
That's what's so cool that we can have that peace and you did yes, you know, you talked back to God and good
Do I have to go?
You know, that's okay he understands we can that's a communion it's conversation, right?
Yeah, I love that. So
in Luke 6
45
Does somebody can somebody pull up Luke 6 45 real quick?
I want to get a couple other scriptures that I don't think we covered yesterday and
then I want to
Keep on going, but someone just read real quick Luke 6 45
Tell us what translation to
It's good to get used to listening to a lot of translations
Since we've come a long way from the Hebrew and Greek often. I have it. I have it in the NIV. Okay a
Good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart and an evil man brings
Evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart for the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. I love it
So I want you to understand this principle
There's many verses that out of the heart flow the issues of life
So what we're seeing
Especially our words reveal it is showing what's stored in our heart
Okay, Linda has had a habit of listening to God. She hears
okay, so what's stored in her heart is I
Hear do this now that doesn't feel right. I don't feel like going to Tacoma
We have someone coming but I heard and I'm gonna obey and the blessing was in that
Obedience, right? So that's what was stored in her heart
Okay, so the issues of life are coming from what's stored in our heart
So we often try just to change our language or we try to just change. Okay, I'm gonna change my
belief but
Emotional alignment is deeper than just positive talking
It's much deeper. We get to the root of what's producing the words what's producing the pressure
What's producing the actions or lack thereof?
Okay
now
in Mark chapter 4, I encourage you to read that chapter Mark chapter 4 35
Through 41
This is the scene where Jesus
there's a storm massive storm the waters just filling the boat and
And Jesus is sleeping through the storm
There's an interesting question
That the disciples ask in this scene
It's a it's really interesting if you back up they say Lord
Don't you care that we're perishing like what a question to ask the Savior of the world, right?
Don't you care that we're perishing right?
but the question
exposed the belief
beneath the fear
The the reaction came not just from the wind or from the waves
But what they had made that storm mean that storm meant we're dying were they dying
No, was there a storm? Yes. Was there water getting in the boat? Yes, but were they perishing at that moment?
right
So the words revealed
What they had made that mean?
right
So so that's my prayer Lord that today as we go deep into this subject
That you will open our eyes. You'll open our spiritual senses to
reveal to know some of the meanings
We've attached
to the conditions in our life the meanings that we have
attached
To the meanings into the things happening in our life
See
Emotional pressure
rarely begins
With just the emotion alone
There's a sequence that happens and when you understand that sequence you can you can intercept and you can change
so
There's always a circumstance. There's always a condition. There's a triggering event and
An event that causes this whole thing to start. Okay, there's a condition. There's a
Circumstance, but what comes next is the
interpretation. That's what most of us miss. We're always adding an interpretation, we're
adding a meaning. This happening means this. And usually it's our brain, it's pattern recognition.
It's going, huh, this is like what? That's what our brain does. This is like, oh yeah,
what you just said is like what my ex-husband always said. What you just did is like the
people that have disrespected me all my life. What you just did is like this abandonment.
It's a pattern recognition and we're interpreting it. And it's in that interpretation,
it's in that meaning we've attached that an emotion comes up.
There's a storm interpretation, we're going to die.
Don't you care that we're perishing?
That emotion leads to words. Jesus, don't you care that we're perishing?
Leads to words. Leads to reaction and reinforcement so that this now becomes a pattern.
What we're going to talk about. So something happens when we attach a meaning to something.
Our emotions, our body responds to that meaning.
Something happens and you go, bad things always happen to me. Why does nothing ever work out for
me? Why does God punishing me like this? It's a meaning. Yeah, bad things happen, but you know
what, God, you promise that you work all things together for good. I wonder what the good is
happening in this. How are you going to use this to bring good? Just a little bit of good.
A different meaning. So then we begin speaking from it, and then we begin acting from it,
and that leads us to withdraw or control or chase or avoid or overwork or shut down.
It's because something happened, we attached a meaning, we spoke it, it became leading into
our actions and now. I've talked about this. Linda has beautifully shared. Can I have permission
for a second to share something? It was not safe for Linda to show up. It never worked out to show
up. So now the brain associates with that pattern. Nah, maybe I'll just do it from here behind the
scenes. She's powerful. Get her coaching. She's a powerful woman of God. She hears, she releases,
she's got a brilliant mind, but there's an underlying pattern. It's not safe to show up.
You feel me, you guys? You see how that works? And so that meaning, we act, then we withdraw or we
control or we overthink or we chase or we overwork or we shut down. We do the thing
that we've learned to do to try to stay safe.
And this then often creates a result that confirms our belief in the first place.
We reinforce it. So I kind of shared this yesterday, but we'll go a little deeper today,
right? So a prospect doesn't respond. A prospect doesn't respond.
Or in dating, I had a guy in the past few weeks, just love bomb the poop out of me. I mean,
just like the texts were just like, just like, and then all of a sudden complete silence for 10 days.
Complete silence for 10 days. Okay. Now my mind says, yeah, these losers are always
ghosting. I swear they love mom and they disappear. And you know, right. The Lord
has taught me judge righteously. Don't make assumptions. So the Lord tells me,
want to do this, the Lord tells me to write a text back. So I
said, you know, wow, your words were really beautiful that you
wrote and then boom for 10 days, you've been gone. And you know,
for me, action and consistency is really important. And he
writes back, I really regret that you believe I've lost
interest in you. Because for me, that's totally not the case. I'm
going through incredibly turbulent times right now. And I
didn't want to bring that to the conversation. Right. But if I
hadn't asked, I would have made an assumption based on past
experience, I would have judged I would have cut him off, said
you're out of here. I mean, I still might cut him off and say
you're out of here. That's still in the book. But but you guys
get my so same thing a prospect doesn't respond. And so the
circumstances silence, I get clients that absolutely call me
say I need you. I have a call with them. Absolutely. Yes, I
want to do it. Okay, we'll start and boom, all of a sudden,
where'd you go? And they're not responding. And they're not it
happens to me too. Not just you guys. They're not answering my
text. They're not they're just like, where did you go? Now I
could, what can I make that mean? I can take that
personally. Right? I could go into fear, I could go into
discouragement, I could say something like, nothing's
working, my business doesn't work, they are not good at that
I could make it mean anything, which is man, I'm, I'm going to
become invisible, or I'm going to go get a job or I'm gonna, I
better change my offer again, I better like, right. And so I
have fewer conversations. And now I reinforce that my
business is not working, the economy's down, no one's buying,
no one's got money, I'm no good, whatever the story, do you all
understand? It's all a story. Do you see that? Can you see? Can
you see this reflected? I'm trying to give you different
examples. Can you see that in your life? How that works? Is
that making sense? So the key is the circumstances never said
nobody wants what you offer. That was an interpretation. The
circumstance gives us information. The circumstances
get this, the circumstance gives us information. There was a
silence, he ghosted, she didn't buy, even though she said she
was going to buy. Circumstances give us information, we give
the circumstances meaning. And when we stop that, or we're
aware of that, everything changes. Like I'm just a habit
of saying, well, I just assumed something. Well, I don't know
that actually. That's an assumption. All I know is he
didn't respond for 10 days. I don't know that he's ghosting. I
don't know that he's with another woman. I don't know that
he's just a flake. I don't know that he's moved. I don't know
those things. I simply know he didn't respond for 10 days. And
the meaning we assign is usually shaped by past disappointment,
family patterns, you know, previous losses, fear, trauma,
long held beliefs, right? And so this idea of emotional
alignment, invites God into, I want you to get this, you guys,
this is where everything shifts, invites God into that meaning
making process. Is that true, God? Is that how you see things,
God? Am I seeing things correctly? Right? Is this true?
So instead of just asking something like, how do I make
this feeling stop, which is what we mostly don't want any pain,
we don't want any, how do I make this stop? And usually we
medicated or we, you know, entertain it, or we do
something. Instead, we ask, okay, what actually happened?
The client didn't buy yet. Notice I put yet that's one of
my belief systems. She didn't buy yet. You see how that
changes everything? She didn't buy. She didn't buy yet. You
see how even one word can change something? Right? Yeah.
What happened? He didn't respond yet.
He didn't take the next step yet.
So what happened?
What did I make it mean? You've got to get in the habit of just
understanding. We're gonna see some powerful scriptures about this. What
belief did that meaning activate? So I made it mean this.
Okay, I made it mean he ghosted me and
the belief that all these losers ghost these days. Men don't have any character. They never, they just don't.
There's no good man out there. I hear that all the time. There's no good man out there.
So I could have made that mean he's not a good man. Is that true in God's eyes?
He didn't respond. I like consistency. I'll share. I don't like the action.
I desire a different action.
Okay, but I could have made it mean and go into judgment.
Which we do a lot. So then I make that
that meaning turn into belief, but is that belief true? Are all men losers?
Is the economy so bad nobody's buying anymore? I hear that all the time. Nobody's buying anymore. Is that true?
That's a meaning I attached is true for me right now.
Then we go deep. What did God say?
God said to me, don't you dare judge my son.
That's what God said to me.
Don't you judge my son. God said let it unfold.
So
what response now comes
from that truth?
Often in coaching, I do something that I've named spirit tapping.
So we put on a piece of paper what this belief is, what this thing is that's really
stressing us out.
I ask, is that true? Can I absolutely know that that's true?
The answer is 99.9% of the time no.
Okay, so I've been believing a lie. Then I get them to tap into, so when I believe that lie,
what's the fruit? Because everything has a fruit.
Okay, I'm
discouraged. I'm depressed. I stop showing up. I eat too much. I, oh, okay.
So all of that fruit is very low frequency. When I believe that,
increase.
Then I say, what would happen if I was willing to release that belief?
What would the fruit be? Oh
my gosh, I would feel powerful. I would really go forward. I'd have a lot of joy. I'd be excited again.
I'd have, I go, oh, so that's very high frequency fruit.
And I ask the
place where our God-given ability to choose come in, and I say, are you willing to choose?
Well, first I'll say, is there, can you give me any good reason to keep holding on to that belief that we know is a
lie that's producing low frequency fruit that we know if we released it, we'd have high frequency?
Can you give me any good reason to keep holding on to that belief?
No. Are you willing to use your God-given ability to choose to release that belief?
Yes, and we have a shift and life changes.
There's transformation. I've done this since 2012.
Creates transformation.
So let's do some of this immersion. Let's use this time to experience some of this
personally. So number one, I want you to choose one current situation that's producing emotional pressure.
Pick a situation that's producing emotional pressure. It might involve money. It might involve health.
It might involve family. It might involve business. It might involve waiting. It might involve
relationships. It might involve
uncertainty. Pick a current situation that's producing a constricted and emotional pressure state.
Name it.
Kind of put both feet on the floor.
Take a slow breath. Invite the Holy Spirit into this. Just kind of breathe in.
Breathe out.
Holy Spirit, help me see this clearly.
Open my eyes.
Now,
journey
through
what exactly happened, what actually happened.
this
current
situation.
Just what happened, not a meaning.
What actually happened, the client didn't buy,
nobody showed up on my TikTok.
What actually happened, I didn't make the sale.
Just the fact, what actually happened,
only observable facts, no interpretation yet.
Just the fact, just the facts, ma'am, just the facts.
So example again, fact, she's not responded
to my last two messages.
That's a fact, she didn't respond to the last two messages.
Interpretation, she's rejecting me.
She doesn't like what I offer.
Okay, that's interpretation.
Fact, she just didn't respond to the last two messages.
I don't know if her daughter's having a baby.
I don't know if she was in a car crash.
I don't know if she's gone.
No, she just, the fact is she didn't respond
to my last two messages.
Keep it to the fact.
Fact, revenue is lower this month.
That can be true.
Fact, I made less this month.
That's a fact.
Interpretation, my business is failing.
I better get a job.
This doesn't work.
That's an interpretation.
Fact, my family member disagreed with me.
That's a fact, she disagreed with me.
Interpretation, nobody respects me around here.
So, you got it, you got the facts.
The thing, the fact, and then now,
do you have kind of the interpretation
that you were adding to it?
Was there an interpretation you added?
What was the fact?
We talked about it before.
The world depends on me.
If I don't handle everything, the world's gonna fall apart.
I was sharing a story on my drive to San Francisco yesterday
with Michael, and I was sharing a story
when there was a time when I had three human beings,
a guy that I was dating, my daughter, and my brother,
and I felt that all three of them,
they were gonna be homeless,
they were gonna commit suicide,
like there was a demise.
All three of them were not gonna make it
if I wasn't holding them up.
There was a time I was physically,
and I had to let that go and stop that.
Okay, do you all have it?
Do you all have the thing and you have the interpretation?
Because I wanna have a good discussion
and then I wanna move on to some more powerful exercises.
Do you all have it?
Let me say done when you have it.
You can put it in the chat.
Just give me a fact and then give me an interpretation.
When you have it, say done.
Okay, Colette says done.
Okay, Amanda says done.
Natalie, Linda, you guys put done if you're done.
Okay, Linda's done.
Trying to give you all time.
Okay, let's have a quick conversation
and we're gonna go even deeper.
So let me know, did something change?
What changed when you dissected here?
When we separated fact from interpretation,
did something change for you?
What changed when you separated fact from interpretation,
from meaning, from story, from narrative?
What changed?
You can unmute or you can text.
Let's have a conversation.
For me, what changed is it was my feeling, my emotion,
my overthinking and I didn't ask God,
like, is this your truth?
Is this what you're telling me?
worry. So you were able to back up you realize, okay, this event
is causing an emotion, and you were able to separate enough to
be able to say, my emotions were were leading and I didn't ask
God. He sees is that what you're saying? Love it. Okay. Who else
what changed when you separated that circumstance, the
condition? Yes, Collette. Oh, you're muted. I don't hear you.
I recognize that this was not the truth, whereas before it
would just be what I believed about myself or the situation.
And this time I said, Wait a minute. Is that the truth?
Isn't that freeing that you know, the Bible says the truth
will set us free, right? Isn't that freeing? To recognize? Wow,
this thing is driving my emotions. It's creating
pressure. It's robbing my peace. It's robbing my joy and it's not
even true. That's big. Anybody else? Anything changed when you
separated the fact from the interpretation? And how much of
the pressure that you were feeling? The contracted state
that you were feeling was connected to the meaning that
you assigned? How much was the pressure directly connected to
the meaning that you have assigned the story, the
narrative? How much? 0%? 100%? How much of the pressure is
connected to the meaning that you assigned? So I said that
emotions can be signals and we can listen. Okay. So here's some
journaling prompts for you for later. We don't have time now
because I want to do something else really powerful. But when I
think about this situation, I feel I noticed this feeling in
my body as tighten chest, shorten breathing, slump
shoulders, headache, whatever. And that emotion makes me want
to. And here's the really big one. The outcome I'm afraid of
is, this is so big. I'll often in coaching say, well, okay, if
we play this out, what are you afraid is going to happen? And
it all comes out, I'm afraid I'll be rejected. I'm afraid
I'll be abandoned. I'm afraid I'll look stupid. I'm afraid
I'll fail like we like we can get to that, you know, that
fruit. So what I want you to get from this, and I want to keep
going, what I want you to get is that these emotions, they talk,
they have a voice. By the way, everything talks. And
everything, this is powerful, listens. In other words, fear
can speak. You have the power, the power of life and death is
in the tongue, just speak to the fear. The storm can speak. You
have the ability, Jesus spoke to the storm. Jesus spoke to the
rock. Jesus spoke to, right? So understand, everything can
speak, but also everything can listen. So fear may say, run, or
control or hide or fix. You also have the power to say fear. You
have no power over me. God's perfect love completely kicks
fear out the door. You can have the scriptures even for that,
right? Anger might say attack, defend yourself, criticize,
attack back, right? Shame might say disappear. Scarcity might
say, hold on tight. Pressure might say, hurry up, everything
depends on you. So I want you to begin to have awareness,
awareness
just the first step to transformation,
what has your emotion been pressuring you to do?
And part of that is discover, where have you been agreeing?
This is where things change.
You make a meaning, and you come into agreement.
You're coming into agreement with that untruth,
that meaning, or you're coming into agreement
with what God says.
So the emotional patterns often rely on an underlying
agreement, a conclusion.
We have said it so often, we've believed it to be true.
Everything depends on me.
We've come to a conclusion so much that it becomes our truth.
Everything depends on me.
I'm not safe unless I stay in control.
I'm not enough.
Nobody will help me.
Rest is irresponsible.
If I slow down, everything will fall apart.
God may help others, but I'm on my own.
Here's another one.
I'm running out of time.
So this is something you can journal, too.
The situation feels so emotionally charged.
This particular situation has emotion
that is really charged because somewhere in space,
because somewhere inside, I believe blank.
So there's a situation.
I've attached a meaning.
It led to emotion.
That emotion's really charged right now.
I'll have people come to me, and the emotions
are really charged.
I'm going to run out of money.
If I don't do something this month, I got to get a job.
This business isn't working.
My husband's on my back.
We're going to lose our house.
I can't pay this.
The emotion is charged because inside they believe not
that God is the source.
What I'm doing is the source, and I'm not doing enough,
and it's not working, and I'm going to run out,
and there's lack, and the world's going to fall apart,
and I better do something.
And so you have to start looking at your life.
Where have I seen this agreement before?
And how has it affected my words?
How has it affected my decision making?
What does it cost me in my health, in my peace,
in my energy, in my visibility, in my impact?
Like, this has a high cost.
What I'm teaching today has a high cost.
And so what I want to close with is a really important time
right now to go deep.
I'm just receiving the truth.
The truth will set you free.
There's a scripture I want you to study.
It's Psalms 139 verses 23 and 24.
Psalms 139 verses 23 and 24.
I'm going to read it slowly from the Passion translation.
Every translation is so good on this.
This is David, and it's David's prayer.
David, who had so much peace, no matter all the conditions
that he faced, that he could actually rise up as king
and lead an empire in the longest period of peace ever.
David prayed this.
God, I invite your searching gaze into my heart.
Examine my heart.
Examine me through and through.
God, examine me through and through.
Find out everything that's hidden within me.
What's driving me that I'm not seeing?
What are these agreements?
What are these unconscious vows?
What are these belief systems?
Find out everything that may be hidden within me.
Put me to the test and sift through my anxious cares.
God, examine me through and through.
me sift through my anxiety. Reveal. Reveal what's true. So take a moment right now. Let's
just take a minute. Get your journal out. And pray. Holy Spirit, what do you want me
to know about this situation? What's true? What's true about you? What's true about me?
What have I forgotten? What do you want me to know about this situation, Holy Spirit?
What's true about you? What's true about me? What have I forgotten in this situation? Take
a minute right now with that kind of prayer. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal as David did.
I invite you, Lord, to gaze into my heart. Examine me through and through. Find what's
hidden. Sift through my anxious cares. Dive in.
So as you're journaling,
the truth God is showing me is. I've been believing this, agreeing with this. God is
showing me. I had agreement that the world depended on me. God showed me. I've been
believing that God is now telling me. The truth God is now showing me. I'm not alone.
I'm not alone. I don't have to solve the entire future today. God is my source and
he will show me the next step. Possible truths. A delayed response is not proof of rejection.
I've followed up with people for years. Years. I'm not taking it personally or rejecting.
I've had a number of clients that have paid me for stuff that they still haven't used.
I'm here when they're ready. I remind them. I can set a boundary without withdrawing love.
I can feel grief and still be helped by God. I'm allowed to rest while God is working.
Okay. Yeah, I guess you are. I've got a number of you. It's okay. I love you. You're here when
it's right. It'll be right. I don't take it personally. I'm a good coach. Okay. So when
we then come into alignment, so we're discerning the truth. We're coming out of agreement with the
lies. We're stepping in. We're asking God for truth. We're asking God to reveal truth. This
is a continuous process. What's true about this God? What's true about this person? I did not
judge righteously this person. I did not judge righteously this situation. What's true God?
And now I need to align, remember we said the mind, heart, mouth, I need to align my
mouth and I need to align my action with truth.
My words need to speak truth, my actions need to walk out.
So you look at some of the things that you say repeatedly spoken out of fear, right?
Like I'm overwhelmed.
I hear that all the time, I'm overwhelmed and they speak it so often, I'm overwhelmed.
Where nothing is working in my business, nothing, nothing's working.
I never have enough or nobody supports me in this house, nobody supports me.
I can't handle this, it's never going to change.
These are words that are so powerful, they're packets of powerful energy.
You got to no longer speak the lies, Jesus, don't you care we're perishing?
Jesus, there's a storm.
Let's go after it.
I mean, Jesus did say, oh, you have little faith, like why didn't you go after it?
You're not perishing, use your power, take back your power, right?
So we begin to create a bridge to a declaration that's emotionally honest, it's biblically
grounded and it's strong enough to be able to lead.
So it might be something like, you know, right now this feels like a lot, but I don't have
to carry it alone.
God will show me what matters right now.
God will show me what the next step is.
Or I have not yet, remember, I love the word yet.
I have not yet seen the result I desire, but God is giving me wisdom and a clear next step.
The mirror is telling me there won't be enough, but God is my source.
I'll steward wisely and I'll act from peace.
I feel unsupported right now, but I'm not abandoned.
I can ask clearly for the support that I need, right?
So you start now creating aligned declarations.
So my aligned declaration is, I found God revealed what I was in agreement with.
That is an untruth that was creating this negative fruit and frequency.
I'm going to step into the truth.
God's word says, I believe God revealed.
Now I'm going to speak it.
So my aligned new declaration is, and the peaceful action I will take is.
So my aligned declaration is, the peaceful action I will take is, and the reaction I
will no longer reinforce is.
So the next time this emotion comes around knocking at the door, I will remind myself
that.
Next time this emotion that came from this meaning comes knocking on the door, I will
remind myself that.
Okay, we're over time.
I pray that this has completely blessed you.
Go deep with this.
Get that Psalms 39.
Make that a prayer.
God, search my anxious thoughts.
God, reveal truth and the truth will set you free.
The truth will set you free.
Not overworking, not overthinking, not overstressing, not over striving, not over controlling.
The truth will set you free.
That's what God is wanting to do when we talk about emotional alignment.
All right, ladies, blessings, blessings, blessings.
Thank you, Natalie.
I'm a great and excellent coach.
Thank you, Natalie.
I don't feel rejected.
I don't feel abandoned.
I love you.
Okay.
You should not feel any of those things.
Thank you.
Okay.
My dog is asking for a W-A-L-K.
She knows it's time.
All right, blessings.
Except we got to get to office hour.
No, not time yet.
Sorry.
Okay.