All right, welcome back.
This is our double double hitter Thursday, right?
So we just finished from pressure to partnership.
And this of course is office hours.
And they're going to go really well together.
Actually all three yesterday's power hour.
We laid the scriptural foundation today, pressure to partnership.
We went more into the internal application.
And then when we come over to office hours, we can get into the action.
We talked about it.
We ended with the words aligned action.
Now, if you have any questions, anything you want me to review, any business insights
you want, any, this is your chance to, you know, get, get coaching.
Of course, you know, the one-on-one coaching, we get, you know, really deep and personal,
but as a group, the things that you can ask that would benefit the whole group, I'll cover
it is, that's of interest to you.
And I will bring up some things that are happening.
And so we're going to address some of that.
One of the things I'm going to address real quick, and then I want to carry over what
we were talking about and taking it further yet, before I start any of that, do you have,
let me just kind of frame.
So I make time for everything.
Is there something in your business you would like support with?
You have questions, you want to know how you want review, you would like my, or the group's
eyes on, is there anything important to you in your business right now that you would
like addressed?
This office hours is for you, anybody?
Okay, well, if something comes up, just unmute, raise your hand or put in the chat.
So I want to continue, I desire to continue what we were talking about because it's deep
and it's relevant.
I do want to share one insight just to be a heads up for you.
Many people are using AI to write for them because it's easy, because it's fast.
And so they're using it for posts, anything that they're writing.
And AI detection software is now being activated on all platforms.
I know Substack announced it yesterday and Meta is beginning to do it.
So I encourage you, do not block your reach by having AI do all your reading, writing.
Now I'm going to tell you what I recommend doing.
I also would like to give you admonition to not fall into a trap.
The brain loves what's easy.
The brain loves to go downstream and conserve energy.
And AI can appear very easy.
It's fast, it'll write better than we did, it'll say it better than we did.
There's a temptation to rely on it.
And it's being shown now in the brain that when we're doing this, the part we used to
use in our brain is diminishing.
And you've probably seen this in many areas in your life.
You probably used to memorize phone numbers and you probably don't have a lot of them
memorized anymore.
You probably at one time were able to calculate things mathematically in your head and you
now rely on a calculator.
More recent, you probably used to be able to navigate and pay attention to going places
and now you just let the GPS do it.
And AI, you are stopping your creativity and the downloads from God and writing and
experiencing that by allowing AI to become your main writer.
Am I saying don't use AI?
Absolutely not.
I think AI, as a person who has owned and run corporations
with many, many, many employees, AI
is like having all of those employees
for free in the push of a button.
So am I saying don't use it?
Absolutely not.
Use it wisely.
Here's what I am saying.
Number one, the source, start, what
you're going to write, what you're going to speak,
what you're going to put out there,
what you're going to post, start by seeking God
and getting fresh inspiration.
So a lot of what I write is either
coming from what I taught that day, or a coaching session,
real life experiences, or my morning spiritual practice,
or something I read in the Word, or a conversation.
Start by asking God to speak through you,
like we did earlier.
God, what do you see in this situation?
What do you desire me to talk about in this situation?
What's the truth in this situation
you desire me to reveal?
Start with God, and with truth, and with real stories.
Start with humanity.
Start with your humanity and your connection to divinity.
Start there.
Then, if you've trained your AI very well,
you can have it help you clean up what you wrote.
But I would have it teach you.
Say, what would make this a better piece?
What would improve my writing?
Don't change anything.
Just tell me, so that you are becoming a more skilled writer,
a more creative, a more impactful, OK?
Also, if you do allow it to write,
you have to really train it what not to do that just screams AI.
Don't give me the if, x, then, y.
Maybe you thought, but, blah.
Or don't give me the stacked sentences.
Don't give me the run-on sentences.
So start with God and the ideas and the creativity
coming from you.
Second thing that I encourage you to do
is to begin to organize your cloud.
I use Google.
I use Google Files.
Create a file for stories.
Everything and anything that can be a story, make a quick note
and throw it in that folder.
So when you get ready to write, and you can open that folder
and go, oh, what would be a great story
to demonstrate this?
OK?
In my newsletter on Sunday, I told the story,
true story, about the multiplying minestrone,
how God multiplied food when we didn't have any,
the multiplying minestrone.
So I was talking about open the flow,
and I was thinking, what would be a great example?
Because story is the very best thing
that you can share, especially in this time of AI,
personal stories, personal conversations, personal stories.
You don't have to say the name of the client
or the name of the company.
What was the lesson?
What did you learn?
What came out of the conversation?
What was the breakthrough?
What was the point?
All of that should be in your story bank
so it gets easier and easier to write.
And now, OK, we got bots against bots, right?
We've got in meta, we've got bots looking for bot activity
to block all the bots.
The meta bots are blocking the other bots.
Like, we got all this bot activity, right?
You can use AI to correct itself, too, right?
So you can say, you always tell AI what it is, right?
You are a high-level AI detector flag.
So you can take its post that it wrote,
that it helped you write, or that you wrote,
put it on a Google document, and say, put this.
Give it what you wrote.
Put this on a Google document and flag all the areas.
Don't change it.
Just flag it that AI will detect.
AI detectors will find.
This is the way.
Then you go in and correct it and write it,
and then you post it.
And it doesn't have to take long.
This is not time consuming.
It does take more time than just say, hey, write this, boom,
and then posting it.
But now you're giving away your power.
You're setting yourself up for losing reach.
You're diminishing your mind.
You're giving up the creativity that God wants you to have.
So fastest is not necessarily best.
I'm not saying that you can't use it for speed.
You can.
So what I do is I use AI to both help me write a better piece,
but do it not just by writing it for me.
You know the saying, you can give a man a fish
or you can teach a man how to fish?
You know that saying?
So I don't want AI to give me a fish.
I want it to teach me to fish.
So I want it to say, is this piece a level 10
in terms of engagement, in terms of sensory,
pulling on the mind and the heart,
in terms of conversion, of actually creating
what it is that the call to action is?
Is it a level 10?
And if not, how would you improve it?
I don't want you to write it for me.
I want you to come alongside and teach me how to write better.
This will now grow your skills, grow your mind,
and come out with way better pieces.
Does that make sense?
So that's just one topic I want to bring up for you.
Anybody have any thoughts on that or any comments on that?
Or have you experienced that?
Or did you know about it?
Or have you even thought about it?
Yeah.
I've experienced it and I thought about it yesterday.
I don't know if I shared this yesterday, but I told you
about my son looking for a car.
And I was able to use AI to ward off a scam.
I fed the information into AI.
And not only did it clearly tell me what the scam was,
it clearly told me what the next steps that the scammers
were going to do.
And it was right on point.
So yeah, I am.
You did not only solve their problem, Natalie,
but you learned something.
This will never happen to you again.
I learned something and I've already
shared it a couple of times over.
That's good.
Yeah.
That would be a great post, by the way.
Have you posted about that?
I thought about that, too.
That would really bless a lot of people.
That would bless a lot of people.
That's what I mean by take an experience.
Use good writing.
What do we know?
Open with a hook.
I would open with, I almost got scammed.
Here's how AI helped me, or something.
That's going to make me want to read it.
Then use good sensory storytelling
and leave with something really valuable.
That's a powerful post right there.
Yeah.
Yeah, it is.
But I noticed what you were saying.
So one of my goddaughter, one of the things that she does,
is she has nobody's phone number saved in her phone.
So she makes herself memorize everybody's phone number.
And so I'm trying to start to do that, because I realize I don't.
I know.
Me too.
I don't know anybody's phone number.
If there's an emergency, I don't know anybody's phone number.
I know two people.
Well, no, not two people anymore.
Right.
I only know one phone number.
That's kind of scary.
It is.
I know one phone number that I could.
But I know one phone number.
But I was thinking, I need to know these phone numbers.
Now, I can tell you my bank accounts.
I can tell you everyone.
I used to until I had to get seven new ones,
because I got scammed.
And now I don't.
I used to know them, just off the everything.
Yeah, I make myself memorize those.
But phone numbers, it has become.
And I think about, oh my god, this
is just really dummying down.
Yes.
And so I thought about that.
And even sometimes in my writing,
but what I do a lot of times, but you just,
I like the long cycle.
What I do is I will, what I do, what I do with AI the most
is I dictate something to AI.
Yes.
And then I just say, you know, kind of clean it up.
But that's one thing, because I, one,
because I don't type fast.
Yeah.
So I use it to dictate.
So what I could do, yeah, so I do it.
Then I have it clean it up.
And then I go back and read it.
And sometimes I have to be like, I did not say that.
That's not what I said.
You know that's not what I said.
Yes.
But I will say that I've been, yeah,
so I know that my AI is trained, sometimes a little too
familiar.
I'm thinking, I might need to reset you,
because you're a little too familiar with me.
Sure.
But like I was saying, I just said,
what if I decided to buy a different car?
And this is kind of what I was looking for.
It said, basically, based on your grandkids
and how you'd like to go, I mean, it had, I was like.
Yeah.
Yeah, I know.
I know.
It's a little scary.
Yeah, but this is really good.
And it, first of all, lets me know
that I was on the right track as I was thinking about this.
But I never thought about using it as a tool
to walk alongside me to make it better.
Yeah.
And make you better.
Make you a better person.
That's what I'm saying, to make me better.
Yeah.
I say, I desire to improve my writing.
So what would make this piece better?
But teach me why.
Teach me to be a better writer.
And it'll start teaching me writing things.
While in good writing, it should do this and this.
Oh, OK.
Or it's missing.
A good writing is missing.
And it's like, oh, now I can become better instead of dumber.
And we're really getting dumbed down as a society.
And I've got to, it's been on me,
I've got to start memorizing some phone numbers and things.
Because I don't, even the people closest to me.
Do you all have, do you have all the numbers?
Like, do you know your kids?
Do you know your parents?
Like, do you know the numbers?
Could you just call it?
Because, any of you?
Because I don't.
That's kind of sad and scary.
Yeah.
Oh, you're muted, Natalie, for some reason.
Oh, you said one minute.
I know one number by heart.
And then I did have two of them, but they recently
changed their numbers.
I'm going to go back now.
I'm going to make that my goal today.
I'm going to memorize.
I'll start with my kids, at least.
OK.
All right.
So enough on AI.
That's, unless you have any questions,
I felt that that was a current change that's happening.
It's on the forefront.
I wanted you all to know about it.
And then I wanted to bring that to the bigger picture.
OK?
So good.
All right.
So now, let's continue the conversation
from the previous two days, from power hour
and from pressure to partnership.
So we saw today, in from pressure to partnership,
we saw kind of the cycle, what happens.
There's a circumstance.
There's a condition.
We add a meaning or interpretation
to that condition that leads to an emotion, which we often
will then speak, react, act, which
will reinforce the agreement or belief of our interpretation.
OK?
So we started stepping into truth.
If you didn't listen, those of you
that are listening to replay, if you're only
listening to office hours, go back and catch
this issue on emotional alignment
from pressure to partnership.
If you're a Prosper Leader member,
that's part of your membership.
OK.
So we started moving into breaking out of agreement
and starting to ask God to reveal truth.
We started having more aligned.
We were able to separate, learn to separate the fact.
They didn't buy.
They didn't show up.
They, you know, whatever.
Separate the fact, money is low, whatever
the fact is from the interpretation, the narrative,
the story.
We separated that.
Because when those two are merged as one,
that emotion then is what's causing the pressure.
And we were talking about moving from pressure to partnership.
So we did some deeper teaching to separate that and start
to see what happens when we separate the fact
from the interpretation.
And we saw how much of the pressures
is attached to the meaning that we assigned.
And we could begin start to identify patterns.
We're going to go deep Saturday and open the flow,
some really powerful patterns, when
it has to do with flow, cash flow, client flow, love flow,
health flow, all those things.
And so we started to begin to reveal and ask the Holy Spirit.
We went deep into Psalms 139 verses 23 and 24.
Holy Spirit, what do you desire me to know about this situation?
What's true?
What's true about you?
What's true about this situation?
What's true about me?
What have I forgotten?
And so we did some journaling.
The agreement I've been carrying,
the truth about this is, because this is true,
I no longer have to.
And we started stepping into some truths.
And so we ended by saying, align our mouth and our action.
So here at office hours, we're going
to move now into the action.
We've been dealing with the other parts, the mind
and the heart.
And so we were aligning our mouth that our words,
we don't say things like I'm overwhelmed
or nothing's working or I never have it.
We were going to realign our mouth with truth.
That was what we did in the previous hour.
Now we need to align, realign our actions.
So these beliefs, these hidden patterns
have caused us to take or not take certain actions.
Take meaning over, overwork, over deliver,
over discount our packages, or not take.
I just don't follow up or I don't follow up
more than once or twice.
Or I'm not showing up online.
I'm not being visible.
So these things are leading to actions or lack of actions.
So let's talk about that and begin to create some shifts.
As you look at this pattern, the meaning, the emotion,
the belief system, the agreement,
how is that impacting your actions or lack of actions?
Anybody would love to hot seat that,
would love to get some breakthrough
in the area of your actions or lack of actions.
What actions have I been taking, trying to take on?
I do all the chores in the house or I don't rest.
I work 12 hours.
That would be actions that I'm taking
as a result of a certain belief or meaning.
Or lack of action, I'm not taking a break.
So I'm not focused on any of the actions
that I'm taking as a result of a certain belief or meaning.
Or lack of action, I tend to not follow up.
If they don't say yes in the first time or the second time,
I feel like I'm bugging them.
So I don't follow up anymore, or I don't show up
because it didn't work.
And I told myself I'm not good at this
and my business is not working.
What actions or lack of actions?
Let's be real, guys.
Let's get breakthrough.
You're taking your beautiful time.
OK, thank you, Collette.
She's going to jump in.
Yes.
You're welcome.
I told you, I really had to go back to the beginning.
I'm still working on my mind and spending time with the Lord
because the hardest thing for me is not
to be taking care of everything myself, doing, doing, doing.
And I'm stopping being so busy all the time, which
feels strange.
It does, doesn't it?
But one of the things I've talked about more than once
are finances.
And I think God reminded me there
are more aspects to finances than just receiving money.
You have to look at where the money's going, for one thing.
So I'm going back and looking.
Do I have things coming out monthly
that maybe I forgot about?
Am I trying to list things on eBay?
Am I just waiting for something to sell
that's been there for months?
Am I actively trying to improve the situation
is what I'm getting from God.
and not just waiting for something to fall into the bank account and I don't
mean that I'm striving stressing I'm not doing a lot because I really have
stepped back which God knows has been the hardest thing for me because I'm one
of those people that everything depends on me nothing gets done if I don't do it
that's that was my belief so now I'm like you know stop it
God is my source and I haven't seen a big change yet but I think part of that
is the timing is not right so I'm being patient I'm sitting back that's that's
one of the things another thing is there's a little bit of a myth about me
in the family and I believe I know one or two people started this little myth
about me and my daughter's decided to believe it and it's hurtful it is
hurtful but you know instead of being all oh this is the end of the world I
have to change this had to do something about this now I'm like whatever she's
gonna believe what she's gonna believe and I'm trying to ask God what do you
think about that are you working on that will you work on that for me you know
why am I trying to put human words out there that are not going to affect
anybody besides they're gonna see it like oh she's defending herself so there
must be something there there's something about it if she's defending
herself so those are two areas I've kind of tried to let go and for me
that's been very difficult so I hear you I hear you saying and I'm celebrating
with you on one hand we're talking about actions that we're not taking and
actions that we're taking right so there's actions that you're not taking
you're or a mindset behind actions like everything relies on me I can't rest and
so I'm overdoing and over pushing and all of those things so you're not taking
those okay which is creating space now that's half the equation not taking
certain actions is half the equation the other half of the equation is taking
aligned actions taking right actions okay so we've talked in the past about
the question and it comes you know one of it comes from the book the one thing
or even before I ever read the book one thing the question I always ask myself
every day is what is the single most important or you could say the top three
maximum most important actions I can take today that will have equipped me to
advance boldly in the direction of my goals dreams and desires so what that's
doing and that goes into your prosper daily planner what are the things that
will move the needle the book the one thing says what's the one thing that by
doing it will make many of the other things irrelevant or unnecessary or
easier because I do that one thing right so what's what's the one thing so it's
it's important that we don't we don't throw out the baby with the bath water
meaning we don't just go oh I was really overworking so now I'm not going to do
anything that would be another extreme and God doesn't call us to that we're
called to put our hand to the plow we're called to be diligent and take diligent
action we're called to sow seeds we're called to water those seeds were called
the harvest doesn't just come out of the sky right it comes so it's taking
correct aligned action so with what's in your hand with your skills with the
things God has called you to money is an exchange for value you must understand
that money is an exchange for value I'm giving a product or a service that is
adding value to someone's life it's making their life better easier happier
healthier okay so money is an exchange for value so what action can I take
today that adds value which will then result in money because I'm not going to
diminish my ability to charge or ask for the money is that would be another
belief system
system, I'm going to
charge. Okay, so I'm going to take action. I'm going to add value.
I'm going to give freely the things God tells me to give freely,
but I'm not giving freely because I'm afraid of charging or afraid of being abandoned or afraid of being rejected or afraid of not
being liked.
I'm going to give freely the things God tells me to give freely that add value.
Okay, and I'm going to add value and charge.
So that's the action. So on
one side, clean up the finances. Where am I spending money that I shouldn't be spending money? Where? You know, whatever.
Okay, and on this side,
what is the next right action?
I always remember Oprah Winfrey said she built her whole empire just always asking that question. What's the next right action?
So every day, can you imagine if every single day,
what we just talked about in the last couple days,
so we cleaned up the stinking thinking and the words and we moved into
aligned words. We're only speaking that which is aligned with truth and aligned actions. Now I'm taking actions.
I'm the daughter of the Most High God. I have the Holy Spirit in me.
He's given me these gifts, these talents, this understanding. This is in my hand. I'm going to take
aligned actions, even if it's only one
aligned action every day, five days a week.
That's five aligned actions. That's at least 20 aligned actions a month. How would your life be different?
Did you take 20 aligned actions this month?
Did you take 20 aligned actions last month?
The month before?
The last six months? Have you taken 20 aligned actions in the last six months?
You see, we have to come to the truth of it. This is not an age that manifolds from the sky. God is our source,
but the Bible says people give unto us. Why do people pour into our
bosom like the Bible talks about? Because we've added value and they just want to pour.
So,
we take the gifts.
If one of my gifts or one of my experiences has been 35 years in business
and I have the ability to see how the pieces work,
and I brought that to a company and I'm showing up and adding value every day
by God's grace, praying for wisdom, but I'm adding value with the gifts he's placed. I'm using what he
has taught me and given me
so that after four or five weeks, whatever it's been,
they're saying we can't lose her. We need a contract that keeps her for a year. We need her for many years, right?
So, okay,
men pour into your bosom,
right? Money's not flying out of the sky. God is my source.
Yes, he's the source that brought that. He's the source that gives me wisdom.
He's the source that gives me life and strength and health. He is my source. I'm not my source,
but I'm called to use what's in my hand.
It doesn't just
fall out of the sky.
Does that make sense?
So you're doing a beautiful, beautiful job, Colette, like you're having awareness.
You're listening and you're making changes based on that awareness.
You're making powerful shifts of what you're not doing and what you're not saying and what you're not believing.
I mean, I'm celebrating you. I'm so excited for you and
now you're going to step into a line to action that you're going to say.
Like I just found out you were a radio announcer all these years, huh?
That tells me you got a beautiful voice and you can talk. That would be something what's in my hand.
Yes.
You've got wisdom of all these years of what you've learned. Yes.
You've got experience. Yes. Like how can I take what's in my hand now?
And you're asking God, how can I add value today?
Where can I add value?
And I'm completely comfortable to receive money for the value that I give.
Thank you so much for your wisdom and your encouragement and Linda too. She's always kind.
Linda's got something to say. I'm feeling it. I'm glad that you said her name. Linda, what's coming up?
I just feel there's something in you right now.
I think one of the things that Colette does not realize about herself is how resilient she has become.
through everything that she has experienced in her life. And
that formula for resilience probably was hard one. And to
share that with other people. So like, at one time, my life looked
like this. And now my life looks like this, because I persevered
and I did these things. And I turned and went from radio
announcer, because I knew that wasn't going to support my
family in the way that I needed. And I went and looked for
something else. And I did the extra steps. And I trusted in
God and God was faithful. He brought me this next. Yes. There
is so much gold in there. And you you you you minimize
yourself way too much, darling. Yeah, way too much. So good for
the power that you hold. So good. Thank you. So kind. I
think you have so much to offer to your brilliant person like
Brenda, I don't feel like I should be sitting here with you
to not even not true. You absolutely should and can. So I
want to add something to what Linda said, because 100% she
just saw the gold in you, which is resilience. resilience can
be a complete coaching program, a complete teaching series, a
complete like, I want you to know that a complete speaking
so you're like, and and and with AI is it's easier and easier to
put that together, pull from me the gold on resilience and help
me create, you know, help me speak, help me teach. So what I
also want you to understand, okay, is that doesn't mean that
you've arrived. Okay, Linda hasn't arrived. I haven't
arrived. Okay. And, um, I think it was the call. I think it was
on the power hour call, we got talking about that about how we
can, we can believe that what we have is not relevant. And we
think that we should be further along. And we're not and not and
it becomes a story. Okay. People don't desire you to be
perfect. They won't even follow you. If you're perfect. They're
not looking for perfection. They're looking for one thing.
And don't forget this. Can you help me? Period. Do you have
something that will solve a problem? Period. Period. I don't
care if your life isn't perfect. I don't care if you
went through this or that or didn't do this or fell short in
this. Good. Can you help me solve this? So if you can be one
step, two step, three steps ahead of them, you don't have to
be on the pearly gates of eternal knowledge, you need to
be a couple steps and say, Oh, I was there. Here's what I did.
Here's what can help you. Here is what I learned. You know, my
prosper fate, a framework. What is that? That's just like,
here's what I learned in 35 years. Let me put it in a way
that is repeatable and understandable. You do these
things, you do the PR OSP er, you are going to experience
transformation, you will prosper. I'm not perfect, I
don't have it all together. I've made a lot of mistakes. I've
suffered a lot of hardships, I've got a long way to go,
you'll find warts and flaws all over the place. And I'm not
trying to present myself as perfect. So we have a tendency
to think that if I know something, this is the funny way
the mind works. If I know this, and I've spent time in it, we
think, Oh, everybody must have known this. So before I taught
the Bible study on on Wednesday, the power hour, it's like
emotional alignment. Everybody knows this. Everybody's been
there. Why am I teaching this? They don't need to hear this
from me. I have the same self doubts. And then Natalie and I
had the conversation. I think I talked to her and she's like, I
needed this. And no, I've been through therapy. And no, I
didn't hear this. But I assume Wow, I've been teaching this
since 2012. This is so in me, my brain says this is old news,
man, get something new, right. But for the people listening,
it's not old news. It's breakthrough. Same for you.
Does that make sense?
Yes, and thank you both, because I've been called a loser
because I was a radio announcer for a long time,
and then I became a teacher, and then I became a nurse,
and I was called a loser for all the different things
that I've done, and for some reason, you're kind,
but you know, for me, I was a-
You understand the health, and you know how to teach,
what a gift, and you've got a voice.
I call that gold.
I don't care.
They can call loser all they want.
I call that gold, frankly.
You have the ability to teach.
You have an understanding of the human body,
and you've experienced all these things,
and you've got a voice that can communicate.
Hello, Linda, do you see gold?
I see gold.
I don't know what they're, whoever, whatever words.
I come against those words in Jesus' name.
Amen, and I encourage you to make part of your homework
accepting the compliments,
accepting how people perceive you,
because you keep saying, you're so kind.
Like, we're just being nice to you with our words.
Not at all.
No. Not at all.
Neither one of us are.
We're straight shooters.
We're gonna tell you.
Yeah, we're gonna be the first to tell you what sucks,
you know?
I love that.
I love, I need that, too.
Thank you for saying that again,
because, you know, I figured out very late
that I accept what people say about me.
Why do I do that?
I could just say, that's not true.
Go away, you know, or that's not what God said about me.
But that's what's so amazing to me
about all this teaching,
the things have been right in front of me all these years.
I'm like, never even thought about that,
and never even realized I was doing that.
So thank you so much, both of you.
That means a lot.
And I don't ever want to become puffed up
or feel like I'm great.
I've had a lot of experiences,
but, you know, like both of you said,
it's because of where I've come,
and some of it I call survival mode.
You know, I had to change or do something
to be able to make it,
and I didn't realize until recent years
that all these things sort of go together, you know,
and God really kind of weaved it together for me.
Here's a really fun exercise for you
before we run out of time.
If you've got chat, GPT, or Clot,
or whatever you're using, and the paid version,
I would start feeding it, and I would just talk.
You can talk into it, you can text, whatever.
These are the experience I have.
This is what I did for 20 years as a radio announcer.
This is what I excelled at.
This is what I was recognized for.
This is what, and then I changed, and I taught,
and this is what I taught, and this is what I learned,
and this is what I was best at doing,
and then I was a nurse, and this is what I got from that,
and these are the, tell me, with all of these things,
what do you see?
Because it's not going to fly,
or you just, tell me what do you see are possibilities
to use that in a way that I add value and make money?
Oh, you're going to get some juicy stuff back.
I can't wait.
I cannot wait to hear what comes from that conversation.
Okay, I'll do it.
Yeah, because that's gold.
All of that stuff is gold,
and that's part of Linda's gift.
That's part of my gift that has put us in the coaching space
that we can look and see the gold and call that out
of a person, which the Bible tells us to do, okay?
So these are the things,
and that's how I can go into a situation
and speak these things.
I can go into a company and say,
you realize this has the potential
to be a $100 million company?
It does?
Really?
Well, yeah, let me show you something similar
that's not half as good as this that's doing 100.
Wow, I guess I do have something of value.
I just haven't done anything with it.
Yeah, let's clear out the stuff
that's not working, let's create a plan to do stuff with it.
So this is business, right?
And this is the beauty of being alive in this age
and this time and doing so,
partnering with God and having God's spirit in us
is that he takes everything.
What does the Bible say?
Romans 8, 28.
He takes everything and works it together for good.
That everything is that you were an announcer.
That everything is that you're a nurse.
That everything is a teacher.
Linda's the same way.
Linda, you realize that she's a retired teacher
that she ran a school
and she happens to be a Canva queen,
super good eye and creating things.
And as a teacher, she-
has the ability to write, she's got an eagle eye, she will find
a missing period and a T that you double cross like when my
eyes are crossed, right? That's her experience coming from being
all of those things. And she's got to experience also the pain
of life. So do I. That's all part of Romans 828 that God says
he works all things together for good, all things that what we
called good, what we call bad, what we think is not necessary,
what we think people say, we're all things are being worked
together for good. You see that? I do. Brenda, thank you for
showing up today. And thank you for being vulnerable and
allowing us to talk.
No, that was good. Brenda, what is your phrase that you say that
you were telling me? When people give their unsolicited
opinion of how you are? Is it just an iPod? Interesting point
of view that you have that point of view? Is that the one?
Yeah, something something to like, they think that that
you've taken it in, but you're not you're basically just Oh,
yeah. Interesting point of view. Yeah. Interesting point of view
or I appreciate I appreciate your point of view. I appreciate
your a lot of times I'll say I appreciate your opinion. Because
in my brain that remember how we did today, we separated fact
from meaning. When I say it looks like I'm just listening
to I appreciate your opinion. Okay, I'm being respectful. I'm
being honoring but my brain I've trained my brain to say it's an
opinion. It's not truth. It's an opinion. So you know, you're a
loser. I appreciate your opinion. I appreciate how you
could how you could feel that way. Not in your brain, you're
screaming, that's that's not my perspective. That's not God's
perspective. You can be silently, you know, the shield
is up, but you're appreciate your opinion. Thanks for a good
one. It's a good one to have in your pocket, Colette, because,
you know, when you've been someone that is been in the lane
of pleasing others, and you stop, you get out of that lane,
they want to get you back in that lane. And so that is a
good kind of a stopper for them is to appreciate your opinion,
because they think they've been hurt. And you're going to do
what they just said, but that's not the intention. But it just
quells all of the things in your brain and in that there's and
you just can motor forward.
Oh, good. You you also brought up something really important,
Colette about not defending yourself. We don't need to we
don't need to change their opinion or their perspective.
And the fact is, what is the saying a person convinced
against his will is a person that remains convinced still,
right? It's like, you're not going to more words, more
talking, more emotion, more pleading, more crying, more
persuading is not going to change them. The only thing that
will change is when they arrive at a different conclusion
through their own experience and journey. So when I
appreciate, I appreciate your opinion on that. I appreciate
your perspective on that. I am not going to try to correct
them. It's like, I tell you, I go to San Francisco with
Michael, and he is a Christian counselor. And so he's, he's
just a seer, he just sees into stuff. And he'll he said
something yesterday, he said, there's people that don't really
know me that thing. He's got a sailor's mouth. So I'll try to
tailor that think I'm an a hole. And he and that's okay. That's
what they think about me. And they'll tell you that I am. And
there's the people that know me really well that think I'm just
an amazing person. And that's okay, too. Like, I don't have to
change what people think about me. I don't. That's, I've said
that in order to be successful, we have to unhitch from from
the opinions of others, literally, like unhitch, like
the hitch trailer hitch, you have to unhitch, you will not go
forward until you can unhitch from the opinions of others. And
that means their praise, and their criticism. And I always
say the same people that were praising Jesus, they were taking
off their coats and putting it on the ground for him to walk
on and blessed be the one that comes in the name of the Lord,
praising him. Many of those, I believe, were in the audience a
week later saying crucify him, crucify him. And I remember when
my son first got online with his streetwear design, and he he
just
did popularity wise what most of us wish he just went straight to like people just loving
him and just millions of views and he just and I saw and I said son just want to remind
you don't get too attached to that the same people that are letting you today they will
criticize you and go against you tomorrow don't get attached to the praise or the criticism
learn from the criticism say thank you for the praise give God the glory for the praise
do not be attached to those you unhitch and so that's why I say we can look at them and
say I appreciate your opinion but in my mind I'm going and that's what it is it's an opinion
and you hi everybody's got a right to opinion and there's 50 million opinions I could go
on the street right now and get 50 million opinions about that you could go to 50 people
you know and get 50 opinions about who you are Linda and I just gave you very good opinions
today but you know but you get it right there's still opinions right all right I got to go
this one okay you a lk all right thank you thank you bye ladies bye bye