Okay, I guess it is recording, it didn't tell me that it is recording.
Uh oh, okay, somebody's not going to be able to make it, I just got a text, welcome, welcome,
super excited for this short, I don't even want to call it a master class, yes, you will
be learning, but it's actually going to be a super intimate activation, and I'm super,
there comes Linda, I'm super, super excited to share this with you this morning, and so
I want to open in prayer, and we are going to jump right in, good morning, Linda, I'm
going to make you co-host, just to make sure everything's covered here, there we go, all
right, Father, we just thank you, Lord, we just pray for revelation, knowledge to flow,
for insights to open up, I pray blessings on everyone listening to this, both live and
maybe later to the recordings, I pray for breakthrough, I pray for just the opening
of flow, and so Lord, let the words of my mouth, the meditation of my heart be pleasing
in your sight, in Jesus' name, amen.
All right, I want to open with this testimony that I, this text I got yesterday, I think
it just sets up the stage so beautifully, so it says, this entire series has been extraordinary,
however, I was absolutely stunned when you talked about flow, since all of these years,
I never realized I was operating out of at least two of the patterns, one is over giving
from fear, I just thought I was a generous person, the other pattern that surprised me
was blocked receiving, I've never been able to accept payment for my services or for other
things, perhaps I wasn't sure the other person believed in the value of what I was offering
or perhaps I didn't believe in the value of myself, I just believe that's such a powerful
description of exactly what today is really all about, what this morning is all about,
you see, you notice that we sanctify these patterns, right, we give them really great
names like wisdom or generosity or like, we sanctify these stuck, stuck patterns, right,
and so I love how that was just like all right there in the text, and that's exactly why
we're here this morning, because sometimes these patterns are so familiar, we don't recognize
it as a pattern, we don't name it, we call it generosity, we call it humility, we call
it wisdom, we call it being responsible, but underneath there may be fear, lack, right,
pressure, old agreements, old vows that we've made that are quietly shaping our flow,
and as I was praying and preparing for this, the Lord reminded me of two scriptures
and two examples of this in scripture, so I want to open and share these, and
if you want to go back to them, the first one is found in Genesis chapter 21, Genesis chapter 21,
so it's the story of Hagar and her son Ishmael, okay, so as a little context,
God had promised Abraham he would be a father,
of nations. However, the promise was taking too long, and they decided to take matters
into their own hands. So, Sarah has the idea, take our maid, our servant here, Hagar, she
was an Egyptian woman, and get her pregnant, and that's going to be the promised child.
So, Abraham does that. God comes around and says, okay, I'm going to bless him, but that's
not the promised child, and she gets pregnant with Isaac. So, Isaac, they grow up together
in the household, Isaac comes of age, and going to take his inheritance, turns like
18 or whatever, and there's contention between them. And so, Sarah's tired of it, and says,
kick him out of here, get him out of my house. Sad for Abraham, but he sends Hagar and his
son Ishmael out, and they take water and supplies, and they live in the desert. Well, they come
to the place where the water has run out, and she believes her son's going to die. She
sees this is the end. She puts him under a shady tree, she goes to another side, she
just couldn't bear to watch her son die. And the boy, it says in scripture, was crying,
and God hears the cry. So, let me just read this from the point. So, Abraham got up early
the next morning, prepared food and a container of water, and strapped them on Hagar's shoulder
and sent them away with their son, and she wandered aimlessly in the wilderness of Beersheba.
When water was gone, she put the boy in the shade of a bush, then she went and sat down
by herself about a hundred yards away. I don't want to watch the boy die, she says as she
bursts into tears. But God heard the boy crying, and the angel of God called to Hagar from
heaven. Hagar, what's wrong? Do not be afraid, God has heard the boy crying as he lies there.
Go to him and comfort him, for I will make a great nation from his descendants. Here's
the verse I want you to catch. Then God opened Hagar's eyes, and she saw a well full of water.
She quickly filled her water container and gave it to the boy to drink. So, I want you
to see that God opened Hagar's eyes. See, I don't think the angel dug the well, it doesn't
tell us that it's a new well and that the angel came and started shoveling. It says
God opened her eyes, and then she saw. And what really hit me, right, and that you could
look at in your life, is where might provision, wisdom, support, opportunity, the next step
already be near. But the circumstances, the conditions, the pressure, makes it hard to see.
See, the provision was already there. The discouragement, the disappointment, the playing
over and over the story, probably the sense of injustice, maybe some anger, maybe disappointment,
like, you know, maybe incredible fear, whatever it was, it closed her eyes to seeing
the provision that was right there. See, I truly believe, you know, scripture says that God is a
giving God. It says he supplies all of our needs according to his riches in glory, right? He's
such a giving God. He gave his only begotten son, right? So God is always giving. God is love. God
is generous. God is always giving. And I believe he's always giving to us. He's always pouring
into our lives. I believe there's so much, like if we could just
have a clue the abundance that's available to us,
but conditioning our belief in lack,
fear, doubt, past experiences, past disappointments, we don't see it.
Where might that be the case for you?
Where
my provision to be just waiting to be poured into your lap.
But something's keeping you from seeing it.
Now, the second scripture is is also pretty amazing,
and it's just a few chapters forward, it's Genesis 26.
Genesis 26. And so this is
the other just a second, I think someone's trying to get in.
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Okay, so the second one is found in Genesis 26.
Genesis 26.
And so this is the other son, right?
Ishmael was the first story.
The other son is Isaac, the promised child, right?
And Isaac has now gone on, and he is prospering so much.
He's got so many sheep and goats, and he's got everything.
And he's living.
God actually appears to him and tells him not to go to Egypt,
but actually to live as a foreigner in the land that had been given to Abraham.
And so what gets interesting, this is also overflow and over water,
and it's in verse around 12.
And what happens is he goes to the well and actually going a little further.
And I'm just going to speed it up and tell you.
He goes to the first well, and the Philistines had clogged it.
They'd covered it up.
So he's got to clear out the clog in order to access.
So he does.
He reopens it, and then they come and fight him for that.
They want that water.
And so it says that he named that well Essek, which means argument.
And then it says he just moved on, and he went to the next well that the Philistines
had also clogged.
And again, there's a dispute over that one.
He names it Sina, which means hostility.
And he abandons that.
He moves on.
He digs another well, pulling out the clog that the Philistines
and this time there's no dispute.
And he names it Rehoboth, which means open space.
And so he finds his space.
I share that second story is sometimes it's that our eyes need to be opened.
Like the first story, right?
That was the case.
Sometimes we need to unclog to be able to access.
access the resources. So that's my prayer today, that God is opening our eyes and also
unclogging, unclogging the wells. So we have talked about the four patterns. So today's
not about learning the patterns. It's about getting breakthrough. It's recognizing which
pattern is yours and getting breakthrough. So I'm going to do a quick review of the patterns
and then we're going to create a powerful flow map to begin to open the flow. And then
I'm even going to do some, some hot seat coaching. So we've got a exciting, exciting morning.
So let's talk about the first pattern. And we've gone over this, but just for review,
so it can get fresh in your mind. The first pattern was withholding from fear, withholding
from fear. Okay. That's where we hold back what God has entrusted in us because visibility
or rejection, the fear of rejection or responsibility, the fear of, of, of too much responsibility
or success feels unsafe withholding from fear. It's not safe to show up. It's not
safe to, you know, make the offer. And so this is what it looks like. This is so you
can recognize it. It can show up as delaying the posts on social, right? It can look like
softening the offer. You start lowering prices, uh, not charging at all. Just, just softening
the whole offer. There's no firmness about it, right? It can look like avoiding follow-up
and then maybe you follow up once, maybe you follow up twice and maybe you don't follow
up at all, but withholding from fear, we don't go all in that we follow up. I mean, I remember
Eric Laughlin, one of the top sales trainers that I had trained in our company. And he
had a saying that stuck with me. You want to talk about follow-up? He would, he said,
I follow up until they buy or die. You know, that's serious follow-up, right? That's serious
follow-up. So withholding from fear and all of that can also look like just staying vague.
You never are real clear on what you're offering. It looks like not asking for the sale. You
have wonderful conversations, but you never just go straight out. I just trained a salesperson
for a company and it was incredible. Three months, she'd been sowing seeds and I had
to sort out in her mind, are we having conversations, you know, creating rapport or are we actually
asking for an order? Are we having a sales conversation? So there's invitation conversations
and there's sales conversation. Sales conversation has the opportunity for someone to say yes or no,
or has the opportunity of saying yes, package A or package B. Like it has a conclusion,
that's a sales conversation. People that are withholding from fear, avoid that sales conversation.
It's just not happening. So I taught her and I held her accountable and she got her first $500
sale yesterday. Okay, that's three months of no sales, right? And that's so exciting to me,
not because of $500 or any of that. To me, I say, if you can bake a dozen cookies,
you can make 12 dozen cookies. If you can make one sale, now I know we can make a dozen sales,
right? It's that breakthrough. It's unclogging the well, right? And so that's what we did there.
So this pattern of withholding fear can look like not asking. It can look like not sharing the gift.
Look how many gifts we discovered in Collette, you know, in the Prosper Leader Calls this
week, right? So, right? Like not sharing the gift or burying the thing that God has called you to
multiply. And the scriptural example of this pattern withholding from fear, if you want to
see it in scripture, is Matthew 25. It's the servant that buried his talent.
He buried his talents. Why? Because of fear. He didn't bury it because he lacked opportunity.
He buried it because fear shaped his interpretation of the master and led to that behavior.
And he says it. I buried my talents because I was afraid. Withholding from fear.
Life and business examples. I don't want to bother people.
I'll wait till I know exactly what to say.
I don't want to be too much. I don't want to come across as pushy.
I'm not. I'm not really ready. I'll make the offer later.
This salesperson had visited. I mean, she was incredible. Follow up. She visited
three, four, five times, right? But never asked for the offer. Never asked for the order.
Okay. So, we're going to come back and talk about the truth
of those, the breakthrough of those, and what your steps are. Today, we're going to do internal
breakthrough steps and external breakthrough steps, okay, for each pattern. Right now,
let's just get really clear the pattern and which ones are standing strong for you.
Pattern number two, overgiving from fear. So, one's withholding from fear. One's overgiving
from fear, okay? That's one we saw in the testimony today, and I just thought I was a
generous person. I mean, that sentence is gold. It just, like, it was so perfect, right? I just
thought I was a generous person. Overgiving from fear is not true generosity. So, a lot of women
will say, I give, I give, and I give, and I give, and we've got to get to the root.
Where are you coming from when you're giving? Is it from overflow and generosity? Is it for
fear of not being accepted, not being liked, not whatever, right? What's the motive? Where am I
coming from? So, overgiving from fear is not true generosity. It's giving from this hidden ache
underneath. Please value me. Please stay. Please don't be disappointed in me.
Please don't think I'm greedy. Please don't leave. You guys feel what I'm saying here?
Like, there's such pain underneath. It looks like generosity, and there's so much pain
underneath it. This is a pattern. Scriptural picture, Martha in Luke chapter 10, right?
She was serving, but did we see that, like, it's interesting the word forgiving in the Bible when
you're truly giving from the right spirit. The root word is actually the same word as hilarious.
Like, it's so, like, so filled with joy. It's actually, like, almost hilarious. That's,
you're giving from the right place. It's just so fun. You can't wait to give more. Where else
can I give? I've got so much. I'm just bursting to give. It's a whole different. Martha was serving
in Luke 10, but it says she was troubled. It says, you get an idea in the spirit,
this was not joyful giving. It says she was distracted. This was not joyful giving,
and Jesus didn't shame her, but he revealed to her the pattern underneath.
He brought awareness. So what does this one look like, the overgiving from fear?
Extra unpaid sessions. Lots of unpaid sessions. Long voice notes. Discounting even before you're
asked. I've gotten in the place, if I'm even tempted to discount, because someone is giving
me their sad story that they don't have money, and so my heart, I just always, like, want to
start discounting.
right? Had this was on a call yesterday. Okay. And so she's
telling me, you know, I just live on social security. And I'm
like, Lord, am I supposed to discount because I'm so fast to
do that? Lord, am I supposed to discount this? It was for a
breakthrough intensive, right? Am I supposed to discount this?
And the Lord said, No, charge full price. Okay, so I didn't
budge. I told the price I just left and just leave the
response. I didn't over talk. I didn't over, you know, worry
about it. And it was so interesting. She says, Okay, can
I make that in two payments? Yeah. Okay, it was full price.
She says, Okay, she says, I will come up with that. She said,
I'll, I'll ask my husband, she says, you know, we're building
our, our retirement home. In, in the woods right now, our dream
home. So a lot of our funds are tied up there. So if I asked my
husband, he's gonna remind me. And she said, I said, Okay, I'm
still not discounting. I'm just, all right, I trust I shared the
value. I left it at it. I didn't discount this, this pattern
number two, over giving from fear. I've broken through that
I do not over give from fear, right pattern number two. And
interesting enough, she says, um, you know, I have a lot of
women that pour into my ministry, because I bless them
so much. Okay, I'm going to approach them. I think they'll
pour into my ministry. Could you see what happened by me not
over giving from fear by me not discounting, she actually
stepped into being resourceful, resourceful, resourceful, we
block people's resources, when we're over giving from fear, we
block them from stepping into their own resourcefulness. So
over giving from fear number two. So there's all of those
examples, just under charging over, over like these extra
unpaid sessions, right? These, these discounting before we're
asked, answering messages at all times jumping like just like
constantly just like in the middle of the night answering
them, right? Adding bonuses all the time over giving bonuses,
because your offer doesn't feel like it's enough, right? carrying
responsibility that belongs to the client. I'll often say this
to to my coaching clients, they'll start telling me about
why their clients can't afford it. And I have to teach right
away, their financial situation is none of your business. God
didn't call you to get into their pocket and make
decisions. God called you to offer your resources at a fair
price to add value. And so if you're in this second pattern of
over giving from fear, you're trying to take responsibility
for their finances, that's none of your business. You're not
their spouse, you're not their keeper, you're not their
conservator, it's none of your business. And so you got to make
it a habit, how they afford or don't afford something is none
of my business. Right? Because again, we'll give it these
sanctified names. I'm generous, I'm compassionate, right? We're
like, right, I'm empathetic, we give it all these sanctified
names. No, you are over giving from fear. Pattern number three
is blocked receiving your receiver is blocked. This is the
other one in the testimonial that I opened with. And it's,
it's just deeply important. Blocked receiving often hides
behind humility. Blocked receiving often hides behind
humility, but underneath it is fear, low worth, old money
stories, guilt, distrust, discomfort with being valued. So
a woman can pour out wisdom all day. But freeze when someone
wants to pay her. You'll often hear Oh, no, don't worry about
it. No, you don't need to pay me. No, that's okay. No, I don't
know. You hear that. What I'm teaching you here is to
recognize the pattern. I'm not saying that there aren't times
you do things pro bono. There aren't times that you lavishly
give. I do. I'm
saying, where are you coming from?
Is it from a pattern of fear, guilt, shame, low self-worth?
Or is it a pattern that, you know what?
The Holy Spirit told me to just bless you with this.
I want to just bless you.
Totally different energy.
Can you guys feel the difference between a pattern?
I'm not saying don't be generous, right?
Because God rewards generosity.
So it's definitely not that.
OK?
I think that's better.
It just came in.
All right.
Blocked receiving.
The scriptural picture of blocked receiving
is 2 Kings chapter 4 with the widow's oil.
See, if you know that story, she was in complete distress
in debt.
Her husband, the prophet, had died.
Her kids were going to be sold in slavery.
And Elijah says, what do you have?
Because we're called to use what's in our hand.
She says, just a little oil.
He's like, OK, that's where we start.
We multiply what we have.
OK, go gather as many containers as you can and not a few.
He says, if you catch the words, gather as many as you can
and not a few.
So she does.
Some translations and commentaries
say she just gathered what she had.
She didn't.
The blocked receiving, she didn't even
go to the neighbors or bother anyone.
Whatever, what we do know about the story
is that she started pouring.
And the vessel filled.
And the next one filled.
Then there were no more vessels.
The oil stopped.
Now, this is also a great teaching for capacity.
The oil flowed as much as there was capacity.
God will flow into you as much as you've
expanded your capacity.
But examples of this blocked receiving,
and I hear this all the time in coaching,
I could never charge for that.
Here's a really big one where this comes in,
especially in the faith-based space.
You're going to get that you're not supposed to charge.
If it's based on scripture, which I hope all
of our businesses and all that we do is built on the rock
and is built on scripture.
But if we have scripture in there,
we're not supposed to charge.
I got hit up with that hard.
When I did my first event, when I launched
Prosper and All Things first event, it was God, money,
and me.
And it was 590 or 497 or 597.
Anyway, it was in that range.
And word got back to me that I was
being talked about in the Christian female faith-based
space.
And in particular, one of the leaders
in the female faith-based space was just
like how terrible I was to be charging for,
and overcharging no less.
This was a full day event.
You got a full meal.
I had to pay.
It was in a beautiful hotel.
Had the spread of the food.
The tables were gorgeous.
I had the massage therapist during break doing neck.
There was gifts to each person coming in.
And they all got journaled.
OK, I charged whatever it was, $400 or $500.
And I really got judged doing a Christian meeting and charging.
Well, I sent back word to let that person
know that I'm not in the business of reducing my rates.
I'm in the business of helping her raise hers.
She ended up being a client for years, OK?
She ended up being a client for years.
So this looks like I could never charge for that,
or I feel bad receiving money.
How often do you hear that?
No, I couldn't receive.
I feel bad that you're giving me.
That could be anything.
They might be bringing you whatever, blessings, groceries,
food, clothes, free tickets.
Receiving's all over the map.
And it's like, oh, I feel bad.
Let me pay for you.
I can't receive that, right?
Or I don't want people to think I'm taking advantage.
Or I'll just do that for free.
You don't need to pay me.
No, no, I'll just do it for you.
This also shows up in deflecting comments.
I have a friend, and every time I compliment him, he turns it into a joke.
I mean, he's hilarious.
It's a really funny joke, but I have to stop and say, can you not just say thank you?
That was a compliment.
Can you not just receive it and say thank you, right?
So that's another way.
We don't receive, we don't receive, we don't receive gifts.
We don't receive compliments.
We don't receive praise.
We don't, we just, we just are stuck.
We don't receive help.
We reject help.
Let me help you do this.
What do you want me to bring?
What do you want me to do?
No, I got it.
Don't worry.
I got it.
And we do it all.
I went to a birthday party last weekend.
It's her birthday.
She slaved.
She did everything.
She let people, a couple of people bring salads and stuff, but no, receiving help, making
it hard for people to pay, making it hard.
Okay.
So we're going to break through that one.
Lastly, pattern number four is limited capacity, limited capacity, okay?
That's not failure.
It's an invitation to make room.
So this is where the wells are powerful.
The water's there, but they've been clogged.
Like what we saw with Isaac, the wells have been clogged.
He didn't need to, you know, reinvent to get water.
He just had to uncover what was blocked, right?
So that example that I read from Genesis with Isaac is a perfect example.
Sometimes the flow's not absent, it's just clogged.
Reduce capacity, okay?
So life and business examples for that one, praying for more clients with no clean offer.
I'm just praying that God will bring me clients, but I don't have a clean offer.
Wanting cashflow, but avoiding money tracking.
Don't have the capacity for more cashflow because I haven't managed the cashflow I already
have.
He that's faithful with little is ruler over much.
Desiring opportunities while the calendar is overloaded.
You know that in the prosperous system, we talked about simplify the S and create space.
One of the spaces has to be in the calendar.
So when people are ready to get going, I always check this.
I always check this.
So I have a client I met with last night and she's going on a sprint in August.
She's reaching manager level in her company.
And so she's going to just be hitting it hard.
Okay, let's talk about your bandwidth.
She didn't feel like being online.
She loved the idea of networking.
So we found all.
We had chat GPT and she's in the Texas area and we just found dozens of network opportunities.
I said, let's look under faith.
Let's look under women.
Let's look under personal development.
And so we got dozens and can you attend one, two, three networking a week?
Do you have the bandwidth?
She said, yes.
I want you to look at your calendar.
Do you have capacity for this networking?
Yes.
Do you have capacity for follow up?
Do you have time blocks in your calendar for follow up?
Yes.
Do you have time blocks to do one on ones to make offers?
Yes.
So capacity, so many people say, I want more money, I want more clients.
But when I talk to them, where would you put them?
If you didn't create space, it's not going to come.
Capacity.
Capacity, right?
Wanting to receive more, this is more of an internal.
That was an external capacity, an internal capacity.
You desire to receive more, more money, more clients, more opportunity.
But your nervous system braces.
It says danger, danger, and it clenches.
It's not safe.
Often when you've come from a place of overgiving and overworking,
this will kick in.
Getting leads, but no follow up rhythm.
One.
and God ideas, but no space to listen.
Do you have CEO time, you and God?
That's capacity.
So it's not just the increase, but the capacity.
So look at those four patterns
and I want you to number them from a zero to five,
five being the highest, zero being the lowest,
of how familiar these patterns that I mentioned are to you.
How real, how present is each of those patterns?
Number it for each of the four patterns.
Give it a zero, a one, a zero,
that pattern never shows up, a five,
oh, I'm very familiar with that pattern.
Yeah, I recognized everything you said, right?
From zero to five, do that for each of the four patterns.
Let's find out your predominant patterns.
Number each one from zero to five.
Five, four, three, two, one.
So for each pattern, number.
So pattern number one, withholding from fear.
I don't wanna bother people.
I'll wait till I know exactly what to say.
I'm not ready to charge for this.
I don't wanna be too much.
I'll make the offer later.
Pattern number one, withholding from fear, zero to five.
How much is that present for you?
Pattern number two, overgiving from fear.
Overgiving from fear, all doing stuff for free,
discounting even before being asked,
adding bonuses, caring responsibility belongs to the client.
Zero to five, how familiar to you.
Pattern number three, blocked receiving.
Blocked receiving.
I can give, but I just can't receive.
I can't receive compliments.
I can't receive help.
I can't receive money.
I can't get paid for things.
And pattern number four, limited capacity.
Okay, now once you've done that, type done in the chat
so that I know we're ready to move on.
I guess it would help if I open the chat
so I can see what you write.
Okay, Amanda says so good.
Okay, Linda says done.
Okay, good.
I think that's Bev that says owner, done.
Good job.
Okay, still waiting.
Okay, Amanda's done.
Couple more.
Okay, now, did you have one that rose to the top
that was the strongest?
Put yes in the chat if you have one that rose to the top.
Okay, which one is your predominant pattern?
You probably have two.
You might have three, but one.
Do you have one that rose to the top?
Because we're going to next do an exercise with that one.
So put yes.
Okay, good, okay.
Good, good, okay.
All right, what we're going to do now,
you're going to need your journal
or your notebook for this one.
You're going to create, you can title it,
My Open the Flow Map.
We're going to create, so title it,
My Open the Flow Map.
We're going to map this out,
My Open the Flow Map.
You're going to title your page in your notebook or your journal,
My Open the Flow Map.
This is the tool we're going to use first.
Okay.
Okay, so the first thing in your map is going to be,
where do I desire more flow?
Where do I desire more flow?
Clients, cash flow, peace, creativity,
receiving, relationships, energy,
where do I desire more flow?
That goes on the top of your flow map,
where I desire more flow.
Clarity, visibility, creativity, peace,
cash flow, clients, where I desire more flow.
More flow, that goes on the top.
Awareness is the first step to break through and clarity
follows right behind that.
So in my open the flow map,
where do I desire more flow?
So in my open the flow map,
where do I desire more flow?
Okay, then underneath that,
we've been talking this week about a prayer,
God opened my eyes, what do you want me to see?
Just like he opened Hagar's eyes
to see the well that was there all along.
He didn't have to read,
the angel didn't have to dig the well,
he didn't have to read,
the angel didn't have to dig the well,
needed to open our eyes.
That's why awareness is the first step, it was awareness.
So next in your flow map,
you're going to write,
what I sense God may be opening my eyes to.
What I sense God may be opening my eyes to.
So what provision or what wisdom
or what opportunity or what support
or what next step have I not been seeing
that I'm starting to see?
What I sense God may be opening my eyes to,
God may be opening my eyes
that there's more provision than I thought.
God may be opening my eyes
to have just wisdom in this season,
or God may be opening my eyes to opportunity.
There's opportunity everywhere.
There's just opportunity,
just like on the sidewalks, right?
Like other countries have felt
our streets were paved with gold.
There's so much opportunity here.
You can come here and you can start your own business.
Are you kidding?
You can, you know, like opportunity.
Or God may be opening my eyes
that there's more support than I thought.
I always felt all alone,
but there's actually more support.
He may be opening my eyes
to like my next step that I wasn't seeing.
So in your open the flow map,
it should start with where I desire more flow.
And then under that should be where I sense
God might be opening my eyes to what?
Pray that prayer,
God, what are you opening my eyes to that I'm not seeing?
Do you have more opportunity than I was seeing?
Is there more support than I was seeing?
Is there a next step? Is there more provision than I thought there was?
Where I sense God may be opening my eyes.
Pray that prayer, Holy Spirit. What are you wanting to open my eyes to right now?
What am I not seeing?
Okay, next in your flow map, what may be clogging the well?
What may be clogging the well?
Withholding from fear?
Overgiving from fear?
Blocked receiving?
Limited capacity?
Old agreements?
Pressure?
Lack? Shame?
Confusion?
What may be clogging the well?
And again, use this time to interact with the Holy Spirit.
He guides us into all truth.
He shows us things to come.
He reveals what we don't see.
So, Holy Spirit, what may be clogging the wells that I haven't seen?
Is it withholding from fear?
Is it overgiving?
Is it blocked receiving?
Is it capacity?
Is it old agreements?
Silent vows?
Is it pressure?
Is it just I'm bound up in believing in lack?
Is it shame?
Is it confusion?
I just don't have clarity.
What may be clogging the well?
And again, use this time to interact with the Holy Spirit.
He guides us into all truth.
He shows us things to come.
Is it withholding from fear?
Is it overgiving?
Is it lack?
Is it confusion?
Is it lack?
Is it confusion?
Is it lack?
Is it confusion?
Is it lack?
Is it confusion?
Is it lack?
Is it confusion?
Is it lack?
Is it confusion?
Is it lack?
Is it confusion?
Okay, next in the My Open the Flow map.
So, we're flowing from what I desire more flow,
what I sense God may be opening,
what may be clogging,
and then the pattern I recognize most.
So, one primary pattern.
Which one got the highest when you ranked it?
A secondary if you really need it,
but one primary pattern.
We're going to work on one primary pattern.
So, the pattern I recognize the most,
the pattern most familiar to me,
the pattern that shows up in my life the most.
Okay, next, in your flow map, how this pattern shows up in my life, business, relationships.
How this pattern shows up in my life, my business, my relationships.
So for example, what do I do or avoid?
Or what do I overdo?
What do I delay?
What do I soften?
What do I hide?
What do I resist?
Like how is this actually showing up?
Be brutally honest, ask the Holy Spirit to open your eyes.
How is this showing up in your life, in your business, in your relationships?
How is this showing up?
What do I do?
Or what do I not do?
What do I avoid?
I avoid being visible.
I don't show up online.
I don't do lives, even though I could just make so many sales doing lives.
Or I don't make any offers, even though I know there's people that want what I have.
Or I, so what do I do?
What do I not do?
What do I delay?
What do I keep putting off?
What do I resist?
Ask the Holy Spirit to show you how your dominant pattern is showing up in your relations.
You're going to find, by the way, love, money, they're all connected.
The same thing that's blocking money is blocking love.
These are very similar energies.
So if it's a cashflow and money problem, you probably also have a receiving money.
You probably have trouble receiving love too.
This affects everything, your relationships, your fun.
That's why this is so powerful, what we're doing.
How is this showing up?
This is a pattern.
It means it's repeating.
It shows up in your business.
Shows up in your friendship.
Shows up in your love life.
Shows up with more than one client.
Here's where we go deep.
Let's go to the root.
Looking at the fruit.
Let's look at the root.
What have I believed was safer?
It's safer to not show up.
It's safer to not make an offer.
It's safer to hide.
Safer to not ask.
Safer to not receive.
Safer to not expect so I don't get disappointed.
Safer to not set goals.
Safer to undercharge, safer to not charge.
Safer to just keep working in a job that I hate.
Safer to not show up online.
Okay, I want to give you enough time, so I'm going to wait until you put done in the chat
and we'll go on to the next because this is very important work.
This flow map is very important work for you.
What's the agreement underneath what you've been doing or not doing, right?
What have you believed is safer?
What's the underlying agreement?
Okay, here's where we start breaking through, but tell me when you're done.
Put done in the chat.
Okay, next in your flow map, remember, fear is lie-based, right?
Love is truth-based.
We're either operating the truth of God or we're based on a misperception or a lie, right?
So now we want God's truth.
So next in your flow map, you're going to write down God's truth.
God's truth.
What does God say instead?
It's a beautiful place to say, Holy Spirit, what do you say?
David prayed, I desire truth in my inner parts, like to continuously ask God to clear the
misperceptions and the lies and say, God, what's the truth?
What's the truth about me?
What's the truth about this person I'm having trouble with?
What's the truth about my business?
What's the truth about money and the struggle I'm having?
What's the truth about what, what's your truth?
What do you say?
This is one of the most powerful breakthroughs that changes everything.
What does God say about this?
Holy Spirit, what is your word for me here about this pattern, about this flow?
Holy Spirit, what, what are you saying?
I desire insight, sight on the inside.
Paul prayed that the eyes of our heart would be just flooded with light.
That's my prayer today and what you're doing is not just an everyday exercise.
This changes your life forever.
What's the truth here?
What does God say?
Holy Spirit speak, Holy Spirit reveal.
Help me to know the truth.
The truth will set me free.
What's the truth here?
.
bearing. Okay, so if you look at withholding from fear, and in
Matthew 25, the servant, you know, who buried his talent, you
know, the revelation of that is that fear caused him to bury
what was entrusted to him. And so his interpretation of the
master shaped his action, right? So what's the breakthrough?
steward what's been entrusted, don't bury the gift, the offer,
the word, the invitation, the opportunity work, we're called
to steward our resources, right? We're called to increase our
capacity and steward what's been given to us. Right. So in that
case, the internal step would be I'm going to break agreement
with hiding at safety. I've been thinking that if I hide, I'll be
safe. That's not a truth. It's not stewarding what God has
given me on bearing my treasures. So the internal step
in that case, I'm going to break agreement with hiding his
safety. So then the external step, I'm going to make the
offer, I'm going to I'm going to send the follow up, I'm going to
give a clear price, I'm going to publish my message, I'm going to
show up live, I'm going to invite the person, right? So I'm
always in coaching, I'm always looking at both the internal and
the external, right? So I looked at the fear that came up, I told
you, the salesperson that got the sale, the $500 sale
yesterday that I coached, she hadn't gotten any in three
months, zero. And the internal, she was saying, I don't want to
be a pest. I don't want to be seen as pushy. I don't want to
be seen as a salesperson. So we had to break an internal belief
system. And then the action was she had to make a specific
offer. And and I had accountability, you will tell me
how many people you talked to and how many were sales
conversations, right? Same thing. Another person I was
coaching yesterday. So the the breakthrough here is internally,
I break agreement, I'm not going to hide anymore. And a lot of
that can be what's the cost to you? If I keep doing this, if I
keep hiding, and not using my gifts, I'm going to die with my
gifts still in me. How many people will not be blessed? How
much money will? You know, you always say the cemetery is the
richest place on the planet, right? It's all the books that
were never written all the movies that were never produced
all the right conversations that were never had. Okay, so that's
the withholding from fear, the over giving from fear that we
saw Martha in Luke, we saw she's serving, she's troubled and
destructive. So it wasn't true service, it was it was the
pressure. So the breakthrough from that is Jesus gave come
back to the one thing, and then give from peace, not pressure,
right, that would be the breakthrough for Martha. So the
internal step would be I break agreement with the lie, that I
have to overextend in order to be loved or valued or accepted
or safe, I break agreement with that lie with that belief. And
then the external step would be clarify exactly what I offer,
clarify the container, stop adding, stop doing extra bonuses,
unless that was part of the plan, or unpaid extras, create
the boundary, create the boundary and let the client
carry their part, bring out the resourcefulness in the client.
Then the third, the blocked receiving with Hagar seeing the
well, the revelation is the provision might be present, but
there's something keeping us from seeing fear is keeping us
from seeing disappointment, despair, not wanting to be
disappointed is keeping us from seeing it. So the breakthrough
is asking the Holy Spirit to open the eyes and bring the
bell, the vessels and receive without apology. So the internal
step, I break agreement with the lie that receiving is
selfish. I break agreement with the lie that receiving is not
safe, I break agreement with the lie that I'll be appearing as
needy. And then the external step, accept the payment. I'll
do it very often right there. Would you like me to email you
the
link to get started, or would you
like me to just pop it right now in the chat?
Let's just do it right here, right now.
And part of that is tied with, like the woman I was coaching
yesterday in financial services, her goal
is to reach this title in August.
Great, we can't afford to waste time.
Here's what we're going to do this week, right?
So I got someone that's writing a book that's
supposed to be released.
I did a call with her, and it's going to be released.
I said, you don't start doing the marketing.
She was waiting for the book to be written
to start doing the marketing.
You don't wait.
Are you kidding?
There is pre-launch, before your book.
There is during your book.
There is after.
I said, let me show you what I did before my book.
I had pre-readers.
I had pre-testimonies.
I had a pre-site.
I had a pre-offer.
I was doing teasers.
I created a pre-video so that when my book was released,
it was top 10 in women in business on Amazon.
That doesn't just happen, oh, I put it on Amazon.
Wow, no one's coming.
No one's buying.
Like these things are an accident
when you see bestsellers and things like that, you see?
And so it's so important that you accept the payment.
You send the invoice.
And then you follow up and say, did you get that?
And then when they don't take action,
you hold them accountable to their word.
You told me this is important.
Love is holding people accountable to their word.
You told me that you really wanted to do this.
This is important.
Is that still true?
OK, we have to start.
You see how your confidence pulls out the resourcefulness.
It's actually, it's not pushy.
It's a gift.
Do you see how that works?
And so create the payment link.
Stop deflecting.
And then the one for limited capacity, the water was there,
but the wells were stopped.
The capacity had to be cleared.
Make room internally.
The breakthrough, make room internal.
I break agreement with the lie that more will overwhelm me.
This is a really big capacity issue that if I take on more,
I'm going to lose myself.
No, you're going to get more help.
You're going to have more resources.
No, not at all.
OK, so right now what I want you to do
is write down your internal step and your external step
that you will do by Monday.
Write it down in your flow map.
What's your internal step to break with that top pattern?
You identified the top pattern.
What's your internal step?
What are you going to break agreement with?
What are you going to stop believing?
What are you going to speak?
What are you going to declare?
What are you going to change inside?
What's the belief you're going to change?
What's the agreement you're going to, the vow you're
going to come out of agreement with,
the belief that you have to overgive to be accepted,
the belief that you have to not charge to be loved or be safe?
What are you going to come out of agreement with?
Internal and external.
I want you to write both for your top pattern
or your top two patterns.
you
okay, now we want to just dive this in
and make sure that it sticks. We're gonna make this be truly transformational. So
we're gonna do two things, okay? We're gonna finish on time and then I
promise I'll stay after even do some hot seat coaching. First of all, first step to
make it stick is a little bit of accountability. So by Monday, by Monday I
want you to take the external breakthrough step from your Open My Flow
Map, right? Open My Open The Flow Map and I want you to post it in the Total Soul
Prosperity group and say, I took my step.
Hold yourself accountable. I'm watching.
What's that doing? You're showing up and you're declaring to God and to the world,
yes, I'm serious about this. I took my breakthrough step. I took my
breakthrough step.
Who's committed to having this not just be a nice teaching but true
transformation? Say me in the chat, okay? All right, now what I would love is just
a tiny bit of sharing and then if you have to go, you have to go, but I promise
I would do hot seat and I'd also do sharing and the purpose of sharing again
is to solidify it. You're telling your mind, your heart, wow, this is what God
showed me. This is what I'm gonna do. This is what's changed for me. You're like
deepening it. You're making it real and you're blessing everybody else in the
room, okay? And then if there's any part of it that needs some hot seat
coaching, I'm here. Also, if what's coming up is coming from a place of not
knowing or lack of clarity, this is why I always start with a breakthrough
intensive. So you may not be making an offer because you just flat-out don't
know what to offer or you may not be comfortable pricing because you just
flat-out don't know what to price or you may not know how to show up in a way,
okay, that comes where it's not just breaking an agreement. You need the
skill set and the action, right? You need a plan. You need to know exactly, you
know, the sales that have been happening in with all my clients this week is
because they knew exactly who they knew what they were offering. They knew how
it was unique. They had a script.
or an idea of how to present it.
They knew what they were charging.
They knew how they were going to show up in the world
where the clients were gonna come from.
That's all done in a breakthrough intensive.
That's why I always do that first with everybody.
Big company, seven figure coach or six figure
or starting from zero,
I always start with the breakthrough intensive
because otherwise you're trying to swim in muddy water.
But if you've got those things and it's just the pattern,
then hey, that gets broken right here, right now.
So please give feedback.
I wanna hear, let it solidify for yourself
and bless everybody else as well.
Who wants to go first?
Okay, whoever it was hiding and not showing up
should be the one that should come first.
Who is that?
Who had the withholding from fear, not showing up?
All right, I do.
Okay, thank you, Linda.
So I'm sorry, what am I going over with you?
Cher, for you, what did God reveal to you?
What was your breakthrough?
What did you discover from this
and what are you gonna do differently as a result?
He showed me that specific betrayals I've had in my life
have caused me to believe that I'm not safe
when I fully put everything out there,
that it's loading the gun for them
Yeah.
Rather than trusting that he will protect me
and that everything that I,
basically what he said is that causes me to hide away
the most delicious and tantalizing parts.
Wow.
Whoa.
Wow.
Repeat that again.
So this is what God revealed to you.
You're hiding the most delicious
and tantalizing parts of you.
Wow.
Those are the very parts polished by your experiences
that attract others to you.
Wow, so true.
So I was like, whoa.
And he said, you often live life on the battlefield
rather than the harvest field.
Wow.
I know.
That's some beautiful stuff there.
So he said, one produces hurt, more hurt,
and the other produces fruit.
Wow.
So you spend more time in the battlefield
than in the harvest field.
And one produces hurt.
Man, that's a sub stack note.
That's a post right there.
That's so beautiful.
That's so poetic.
I love how God does that.
Yeah.
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing.
So what is your internal breakthrough step
and what is your external breakthrough step?
I break a big agreement with hiding and avoidance.
Okay.
I do one or the other.
And so breakthrough is I have a couple of people
that I need to contact.
I have one client.
I made the offer.
She verbally accepted, sent the contract,
and I've not heard from her.
So I'm going to follow up and say,
yes, or I'm just checking to see if you're in or out.
Either way is great.
And you repeat the benefits,
what she said she wanted, right?
And absolutely.
The cost of not taking action.
So good.
Thank you, Linda, for opening and sharing that.
Love that.
Okay.
Who else?
Let's break through right now, right here.
Let's go.
For me, my breakthrough patterns,
I had a couple of them,
but it was more for the blocked receiving
and for the limited capacity.
Okay.
And for the blocked receiving for me,
it has been, which I have been working on.
So I have recognized it before,
but it was always for the business side of that.
I don't want to be too pushy.
I don't want to be too salesy.
I don't want them to be turned off by me,
you know, kind of thing.
But I knew in my heart that I had something good to offer,
but it was just showing up, you know,
with that confidence and that boldness
and that authority that I need to know
that I have to change my mindset of like,
look, I know that I can transform your life,
you know, kind of thing.
This isn't just an ordinary thing.
So I really have been working
on switching my mindset with that.
And I've had, cause example with this launch that I've had,
I even told him my husband.
husband a couple of times, it's kind of like some things you
experience and then it comes to reality. But I was like, you
know, follow up really does work. And I go and I go to be
honest, this is probably like my fourth time that I had to follow
up with somebody my fourth or fifth. Yeah. And I'm like, and
then finally, I got a response. Yes. And so it's just knowing
that, like, I like the way that you've taught us before is it's
a Jesus way. Like, you know, what, how, how to put love and
we're serving. And so I think when you, you take out the part
that I've been so programmed of, of the particular sales, right,
you know, kind of thing. It's like, no, you're serving with
your heart. And then, you know, you just move on and be like,
Okay, I guess you're not ready yet. That's fine. But I tried,
you know, so or you just keep you just keep going. I can see
you're not you're not ready today. When is the best time for
us to revisit this? And in a week, in a month, in three
months, always set the next date for follow up. And you'd be
surprised you're thinking is going to be three months and
they'll go Yeah, okay, like, yeah, next week would be good.
Like, you'll be surprised asking that question. And so I want to
congratulate you that you're doing that you're following up.
And you know, most of the sales are going to happen between
number eight and number 12. I have some of my biggest clients
followed up for years, years. And so, yeah, the fortunes in
the follow up. Okay, so in a nutshell, your internal
breakthrough and your external breakthrough, what what's your
internal
label? Come here. She's having she's followed something. Um,
okay. So my internal was thinking that I'm being too
pushy that I'm being too naggy that I'm being too salesy. Like
I said, so you're gonna break with that. Pardon? You're gonna
break agreement with that. Yeah. And then my external is that I'm
going to keep on following up with people. And I think that I
just need to be more confident in what I like. Yes, talking
about my offer. Yeah, hiding kind of like what my offer is.
Yeah, just spread it like telling more people about it.
Amen. So sorry, man, let's give her a snap. Yay. Yay. Okay. All
right. I and let me see. Let me do this. And also, we need to
give Linda snap. I forgot to give her a big snap. Let's give
a huge snap. Okay, who else? Even those of you that are not
showing your face speak up. I see you don't hide just by not
showing your face. Okay, who's next? Colette? Okay. Go ahead.
I'll go. You know, I think you know, the two main ones for me
were over giving. I didn't realize that was from fear. But
you like you said not it's not true generosity. But what came
to my mind that I hadn't thought about in years is that I was a
small child and my mother was brushing my hair near the
fireplace. She used to braid it every night. I think I left my
hair and braids. So I was in the sixth grade. But she was brushing
my hair. And she said to me, you know, you're a very generous
person. And I think that stuck with me like an expectation. So
I appreciated that coming back to my mind because I had
forgotten about that. And the other the other one that I
realized yesterday was that people have always told me, even
though I've done all these things trying to make something
work for me, I was also a real estate agent.
In addition to being a radio announcer, a teacher and a
nurse, you were also a real estate agent. Look at you go
girl. Okay.
So I finally warehouse my license, which means I'm not
active. I still have the license because at the end of the year,
there are too many tests and recertifications and nursing and
teaching and real estate. I just couldn't I just didn't want to
do it anymore. So I quit doing all that. But the thing that
came to mind is people have always told me, you're too nice
to sell anything.
Oh, wow. Okay. So is that your internal that you're going to
break through that lie?
Yeah, that's that's a lie. I mean, I deserve to, you know,
have what I have to offer presented and there are people
who value or will value what I have to offer. Instead of being
like, oh, I'll just give it to you because I can't sell
anything. And I'm a generous person.
That's an amazing lie. I want to just land there for anybody
else who might have it. You're too nice to sell anything. Like
wow.
And that's some serious programming.
Yes.
I think I'm a very nice person, and I sell a lot.
So for your internal breakthrough,
breaking agreement with that lie that sales is not nice.
By the way, this is a whole side note.
I don't want to go on a tangent, but look up
the very original word for nice, and you will never
want to be nice again.
So that's just a little fun homework.
OK.
OK, so your internal breakthrough
is you're going to break agreement with that belief
that it's not nice to sell.
Right, and that I'm a generous person,
but the generosity is not coming from the right place,
as you talked about.
So I break agreement with I do these things
because I'm a generous person.
Is that the right way to word that?
Yeah, I mean, you can be a genuinely generous person.
So I get from genuine, but I break agreement
that I have to over-give to appear generous, right?
OK, that's better.
Thank you.
Good, I love that.
OK, and then your external breakthrough.
I plan to make a post this weekend about what I'm doing
or I'm going to make myself do.
But in my case, I need some clarity.
I do have a lot of clutter.
As you know, I've done a lot of things.
And right now, I have a lot of mental clutter
and what is the next best right step, as you would say,
the next right step to take.
So I need a little clarity.
I realize that.
Yeah, yeah, perfect for a breakthrough intensive, right?
We need to get all of that absolutely clear.
But I'm so proud of you.
You're going to make that post, and you're
going to break agreement.
Let's give the letter a snap.
Woo, I'm so excited for you guys.
I want to say one other thing.
While you were saying put it in the chat, for some reason,
I'm unable to make my keyboard work in the chat.
I have pressed something.
I figured that was happening.
I saw you trying.
I saw that.
Yeah, sorry.
No problem.
OK, thank you, Teacher Linda.
Linda, you want to speak up the definition of nice
that you found?
Oh my god, look at this.
Nice equals foolish, ignorant, or senseless.
What?
No, no, no, no.
I don't want to be thought of as foolish or stupid.
You're not going to call me nice anymore?
Nice girls don't.
Oh, OK.
How fun is that?
There's just words in our vocabulary.
It's fun.
OK, owner, I assume that you're Bev,
your titled owner over there.
Let's own it.
You going to speak up and share?
Or whoever owner is?
I don't think it's Genevieve.
Her kids were sick.
She wrote me a text.
Who is owner?
Yeah, it's Bev.
I don't know why it came up as owner.
Because you're going to own it today.
You're going to rock it, sister.
So talk to me.
What happened for you today?
Oh, gosh.
Well, yeah, for quite a while, I've
been realizing that I've just been over giving everywhere
in relationships with my clients.
And also, the other part about capacity,
I've got a lot of mental health clients, which
I know I'm really helping.
But it's not giving me the space that I
need to be bringing in the income that I need.
Sure.
So yeah, so for your gifts, you can make so much more,
obviously, as a coach.
We've talked about it, then a therapist.
And so yeah, it's like we have to create capacity.
We have to let go of what's in our hands
to open for God to put something new.
And often, you've probably seen the cartoon or the visual
that a loving father has this giant teddy bear,
this gift, wants to give a child.
But the child's hands are like, doesn't
want to let go of the candy.
So can't take the gift from the father.
So so often, we're holding on to the small, safe thing
so that there's no capacity for the big thing.
So I love that.
So Bev, what is your internal breakthrough
and your external breakthrough?
Well, that's a good question.
I'm so tired, and I've been sick.
And I'm thinking, I need to listen to this again
so I have more clarity about the direction that I'm going in.
But right now, I've overcommitted to things.
And I'm thinking, I just need to clean that up and look
at the boundaries.
that I need to set in all areas of my life really. Yes, yes, beautiful. Because there's something
about the self-integrity, you know, I've made a promise, I need to follow through on that,
and now I need to, you know, look at what I'm giving. And that's so big. Thank you for
for sharing that. There's so much wisdom. I was sharing that with a client this week. I was saying,
you know, the way that we lose our self-esteem is to stop honoring, you know, break agreement with
ourself. Stop not doing the things we say we're going to do or the things we promised ourselves.
We break agreement with ourselves, and that's how we lose self-worth and self-esteem, right? And so
write down what you say you're going to do. And so the homework for this week, you're going to
take the external breakthrough step that you mapped out today, you're going to do it by Monday,
you're going to go into the Total Soul Prosperity Facebook group, and you're going to say, I took my
breakthrough step. And we're going to recognize you and celebrate you, and your esteem is going to grow,
your confidence is going to grow, and you're going to pave the way for other women, all right? So that
is your homework. By Monday, honor your word. Keep integrity with your own word. Let's give Bev a
snap. Thank you for showing up. Thank you for sharing. You have so much to give, beautiful
sister. You're brilliant. You have so much to give. And so it's setting boundaries where you're giving
in this season. What is God calling you to do in this season? What is he calling you to release
in this season, right? And release the belief that if you let go of those lower paying clients,
that you won't make it, that you have to, you know, take a minimum wage, because you're afraid you
might not get what you really deserve. God is our source. There's abundance. There's abundance
of clients that need what you offer. So all right, ladies, I pray that this has blessed you.
And yes, the recording will come out for you to listen again. I pray that this is just a very
huge season of breakthrough for you, that you've identified the pattern that's kept you from seeing
or that has blocked what God is wanting to pour into you, and he's revealed the truth to break the
lies. And now you're breaking the agreements internally, and you're taking the external action.
And I'm so excited for the testimonies that are going to come from this. Thank you, thank you,
thank you. And don't be nice anymore, okay? Lots of love. We'll see you.