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Okay, I guess it is recording, it didn't tell me that it is recording.

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Uh oh, okay, somebody's not going to be able to make it, I just got a text, welcome, welcome,

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super excited for this short, I don't even want to call it a master class, yes, you will

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be learning, but it's actually going to be a super intimate activation, and I'm super,

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there comes Linda, I'm super, super excited to share this with you this morning, and so

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I want to open in prayer, and we are going to jump right in, good morning, Linda, I'm

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going to make you co-host, just to make sure everything's covered here, there we go, all

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right, Father, we just thank you, Lord, we just pray for revelation, knowledge to flow,

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for insights to open up, I pray blessings on everyone listening to this, both live and

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maybe later to the recordings, I pray for breakthrough, I pray for just the opening

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of flow, and so Lord, let the words of my mouth, the meditation of my heart be pleasing

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in your sight, in Jesus' name, amen.

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All right, I want to open with this testimony that I, this text I got yesterday, I think

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it just sets up the stage so beautifully, so it says, this entire series has been extraordinary,

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however, I was absolutely stunned when you talked about flow, since all of these years,

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I never realized I was operating out of at least two of the patterns, one is over giving

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from fear, I just thought I was a generous person, the other pattern that surprised me

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was blocked receiving, I've never been able to accept payment for my services or for other

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things, perhaps I wasn't sure the other person believed in the value of what I was offering

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or perhaps I didn't believe in the value of myself, I just believe that's such a powerful

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description of exactly what today is really all about, what this morning is all about,

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you see, you notice that we sanctify these patterns, right, we give them really great

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names like wisdom or generosity or like, we sanctify these stuck, stuck patterns, right,

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and so I love how that was just like all right there in the text, and that's exactly why

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we're here this morning, because sometimes these patterns are so familiar, we don't recognize

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it as a pattern, we don't name it, we call it generosity, we call it humility, we call

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it wisdom, we call it being responsible, but underneath there may be fear, lack, right,

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pressure, old agreements, old vows that we've made that are quietly shaping our flow,

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and as I was praying and preparing for this, the Lord reminded me of two scriptures

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and two examples of this in scripture, so I want to open and share these, and

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if you want to go back to them, the first one is found in Genesis chapter 21, Genesis chapter 21,

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so it's the story of Hagar and her son Ishmael, okay, so as a little context,

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God had promised Abraham he would be a father,

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of nations. However, the promise was taking too long, and they decided to take matters

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into their own hands. So, Sarah has the idea, take our maid, our servant here, Hagar, she

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was an Egyptian woman, and get her pregnant, and that's going to be the promised child.

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So, Abraham does that. God comes around and says, okay, I'm going to bless him, but that's

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not the promised child, and she gets pregnant with Isaac. So, Isaac, they grow up together

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in the household, Isaac comes of age, and going to take his inheritance, turns like

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18 or whatever, and there's contention between them. And so, Sarah's tired of it, and says,

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kick him out of here, get him out of my house. Sad for Abraham, but he sends Hagar and his

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son Ishmael out, and they take water and supplies, and they live in the desert. Well, they come

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to the place where the water has run out, and she believes her son's going to die. She

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sees this is the end. She puts him under a shady tree, she goes to another side, she

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just couldn't bear to watch her son die. And the boy, it says in scripture, was crying,

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and God hears the cry. So, let me just read this from the point. So, Abraham got up early

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the next morning, prepared food and a container of water, and strapped them on Hagar's shoulder

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and sent them away with their son, and she wandered aimlessly in the wilderness of Beersheba.

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When water was gone, she put the boy in the shade of a bush, then she went and sat down

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by herself about a hundred yards away. I don't want to watch the boy die, she says as she

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bursts into tears. But God heard the boy crying, and the angel of God called to Hagar from

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heaven. Hagar, what's wrong? Do not be afraid, God has heard the boy crying as he lies there.

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Go to him and comfort him, for I will make a great nation from his descendants. Here's

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the verse I want you to catch. Then God opened Hagar's eyes, and she saw a well full of water.

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She quickly filled her water container and gave it to the boy to drink. So, I want you

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to see that God opened Hagar's eyes. See, I don't think the angel dug the well, it doesn't

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tell us that it's a new well and that the angel came and started shoveling. It says

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God opened her eyes, and then she saw. And what really hit me, right, and that you could

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look at in your life, is where might provision, wisdom, support, opportunity, the next step

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already be near. But the circumstances, the conditions, the pressure, makes it hard to see.

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See, the provision was already there. The discouragement, the disappointment, the playing

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over and over the story, probably the sense of injustice, maybe some anger, maybe disappointment,

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like, you know, maybe incredible fear, whatever it was, it closed her eyes to seeing

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the provision that was right there. See, I truly believe, you know, scripture says that God is a

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giving God. It says he supplies all of our needs according to his riches in glory, right? He's

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such a giving God. He gave his only begotten son, right? So God is always giving. God is love. God

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is generous. God is always giving. And I believe he's always giving to us. He's always pouring

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into our lives. I believe there's so much, like if we could just

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have a clue the abundance that's available to us,

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but conditioning our belief in lack,

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fear, doubt, past experiences, past disappointments, we don't see it.

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Where might that be the case for you?

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my provision to be just waiting to be poured into your lap.

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But something's keeping you from seeing it.

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Now, the second scripture is is also pretty amazing,

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and it's just a few chapters forward, it's Genesis 26.

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Genesis 26. And so this is

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the other just a second, I think someone's trying to get in.

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I don't see you.

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I don't see them.

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Try it. Okay.

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Do you have link?

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You don't happen to have

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Beverly's information to you to help her get in?

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No. Okay.

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I just don't want to leave anyone behind.

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Thank you for your patience.

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I'm just going to do this super quick, because I just

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obviously she needs to hear this and I don't want to leave her out.

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So I'm going to do it right now.

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I'm just going to say link.

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And I'm going to put right here.

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Okay, maybe you can be watching for her.

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Okay, so the second one is found in Genesis 26.

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Genesis 26.

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And so this is the other son, right?

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Ishmael was the first story.

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The other son is Isaac, the promised child, right?

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And Isaac has now gone on, and he is prospering so much.

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He's got so many sheep and goats, and he's got everything.

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And he's living.

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God actually appears to him and tells him not to go to Egypt,

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but actually to live as a foreigner in the land that had been given to Abraham.

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And so what gets interesting, this is also overflow and over water,

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and it's in verse around 12.

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And what happens is he goes to the well and actually going a little further.

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And I'm just going to speed it up and tell you.

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He goes to the first well, and the Philistines had clogged it.

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They'd covered it up.

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So he's got to clear out the clog in order to access.

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So he does.

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He reopens it, and then they come and fight him for that.

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They want that water.

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And so it says that he named that well Essek, which means argument.

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And then it says he just moved on, and he went to the next well that the Philistines

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had also clogged.

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And again, there's a dispute over that one.

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He names it Sina, which means hostility.

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And he abandons that.

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He moves on.

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He digs another well, pulling out the clog that the Philistines

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and this time there's no dispute.

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And he names it Rehoboth, which means open space.

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And so he finds his space.

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I share that second story is sometimes it's that our eyes need to be opened.

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Like the first story, right?

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That was the case.

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Sometimes we need to unclog to be able to access.

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access the resources. So that's my prayer today, that God is opening our eyes and also

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unclogging, unclogging the wells. So we have talked about the four patterns. So today's

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not about learning the patterns. It's about getting breakthrough. It's recognizing which

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pattern is yours and getting breakthrough. So I'm going to do a quick review of the patterns

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and then we're going to create a powerful flow map to begin to open the flow. And then

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I'm even going to do some, some hot seat coaching. So we've got a exciting, exciting morning.

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So let's talk about the first pattern. And we've gone over this, but just for review,

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so it can get fresh in your mind. The first pattern was withholding from fear, withholding

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from fear. Okay. That's where we hold back what God has entrusted in us because visibility

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or rejection, the fear of rejection or responsibility, the fear of, of, of too much responsibility

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or success feels unsafe withholding from fear. It's not safe to show up. It's not

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safe to, you know, make the offer. And so this is what it looks like. This is so you

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can recognize it. It can show up as delaying the posts on social, right? It can look like

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softening the offer. You start lowering prices, uh, not charging at all. Just, just softening

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the whole offer. There's no firmness about it, right? It can look like avoiding follow-up

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and then maybe you follow up once, maybe you follow up twice and maybe you don't follow

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up at all, but withholding from fear, we don't go all in that we follow up. I mean, I remember

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Eric Laughlin, one of the top sales trainers that I had trained in our company. And he

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had a saying that stuck with me. You want to talk about follow-up? He would, he said,

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I follow up until they buy or die. You know, that's serious follow-up, right? That's serious

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follow-up. So withholding from fear and all of that can also look like just staying vague.

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You never are real clear on what you're offering. It looks like not asking for the sale. You

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have wonderful conversations, but you never just go straight out. I just trained a salesperson

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for a company and it was incredible. Three months, she'd been sowing seeds and I had

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to sort out in her mind, are we having conversations, you know, creating rapport or are we actually

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asking for an order? Are we having a sales conversation? So there's invitation conversations

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and there's sales conversation. Sales conversation has the opportunity for someone to say yes or no,

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or has the opportunity of saying yes, package A or package B. Like it has a conclusion,

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that's a sales conversation. People that are withholding from fear, avoid that sales conversation.

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It's just not happening. So I taught her and I held her accountable and she got her first $500

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sale yesterday. Okay, that's three months of no sales, right? And that's so exciting to me,

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not because of $500 or any of that. To me, I say, if you can bake a dozen cookies,

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you can make 12 dozen cookies. If you can make one sale, now I know we can make a dozen sales,

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right? It's that breakthrough. It's unclogging the well, right? And so that's what we did there.

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So this pattern of withholding fear can look like not asking. It can look like not sharing the gift.

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Look how many gifts we discovered in Collette, you know, in the Prosper Leader Calls this

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week, right? So, right? Like not sharing the gift or burying the thing that God has called you to

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multiply. And the scriptural example of this pattern withholding from fear, if you want to

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see it in scripture, is Matthew 25. It's the servant that buried his talent.

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He buried his talents. Why? Because of fear. He didn't bury it because he lacked opportunity.

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He buried it because fear shaped his interpretation of the master and led to that behavior.

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And he says it. I buried my talents because I was afraid. Withholding from fear.

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Life and business examples. I don't want to bother people.

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I'll wait till I know exactly what to say.

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I don't want to be too much. I don't want to come across as pushy.

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I'm not. I'm not really ready. I'll make the offer later.

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This salesperson had visited. I mean, she was incredible. Follow up. She visited

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three, four, five times, right? But never asked for the offer. Never asked for the order.

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Okay. So, we're going to come back and talk about the truth

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of those, the breakthrough of those, and what your steps are. Today, we're going to do internal

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breakthrough steps and external breakthrough steps, okay, for each pattern. Right now,

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let's just get really clear the pattern and which ones are standing strong for you.

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Pattern number two, overgiving from fear. So, one's withholding from fear. One's overgiving

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from fear, okay? That's one we saw in the testimony today, and I just thought I was a

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generous person. I mean, that sentence is gold. It just, like, it was so perfect, right? I just

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thought I was a generous person. Overgiving from fear is not true generosity. So, a lot of women

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will say, I give, I give, and I give, and I give, and we've got to get to the root.

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Where are you coming from when you're giving? Is it from overflow and generosity? Is it for

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fear of not being accepted, not being liked, not whatever, right? What's the motive? Where am I

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coming from? So, overgiving from fear is not true generosity. It's giving from this hidden ache

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underneath. Please value me. Please stay. Please don't be disappointed in me.

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Please don't think I'm greedy. Please don't leave. You guys feel what I'm saying here?

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Like, there's such pain underneath. It looks like generosity, and there's so much pain

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underneath it. This is a pattern. Scriptural picture, Martha in Luke chapter 10, right?

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She was serving, but did we see that, like, it's interesting the word forgiving in the Bible when

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you're truly giving from the right spirit. The root word is actually the same word as hilarious.

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Like, it's so, like, so filled with joy. It's actually, like, almost hilarious. That's,

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you're giving from the right place. It's just so fun. You can't wait to give more. Where else

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can I give? I've got so much. I'm just bursting to give. It's a whole different. Martha was serving

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in Luke 10, but it says she was troubled. It says, you get an idea in the spirit,

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this was not joyful giving. It says she was distracted. This was not joyful giving,

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and Jesus didn't shame her, but he revealed to her the pattern underneath.

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He brought awareness. So what does this one look like, the overgiving from fear?

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Extra unpaid sessions. Lots of unpaid sessions. Long voice notes. Discounting even before you're

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asked. I've gotten in the place, if I'm even tempted to discount, because someone is giving

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me their sad story that they don't have money, and so my heart, I just always, like, want to

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start discounting.

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right? Had this was on a call yesterday. Okay. And so she's

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telling me, you know, I just live on social security. And I'm

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like, Lord, am I supposed to discount because I'm so fast to

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do that? Lord, am I supposed to discount this? It was for a

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breakthrough intensive, right? Am I supposed to discount this?

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And the Lord said, No, charge full price. Okay, so I didn't

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budge. I told the price I just left and just leave the

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response. I didn't over talk. I didn't over, you know, worry

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about it. And it was so interesting. She says, Okay, can

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I make that in two payments? Yeah. Okay, it was full price.

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She says, Okay, she says, I will come up with that. She said,

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I'll, I'll ask my husband, she says, you know, we're building

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our, our retirement home. In, in the woods right now, our dream

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home. So a lot of our funds are tied up there. So if I asked my

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husband, he's gonna remind me. And she said, I said, Okay, I'm

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still not discounting. I'm just, all right, I trust I shared the

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value. I left it at it. I didn't discount this, this pattern

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number two, over giving from fear. I've broken through that

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I do not over give from fear, right pattern number two. And

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interesting enough, she says, um, you know, I have a lot of

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women that pour into my ministry, because I bless them

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so much. Okay, I'm going to approach them. I think they'll

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pour into my ministry. Could you see what happened by me not

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over giving from fear by me not discounting, she actually

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stepped into being resourceful, resourceful, resourceful, we

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block people's resources, when we're over giving from fear, we

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block them from stepping into their own resourcefulness. So

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over giving from fear number two. So there's all of those

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examples, just under charging over, over like these extra

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unpaid sessions, right? These, these discounting before we're

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asked, answering messages at all times jumping like just like

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constantly just like in the middle of the night answering

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them, right? Adding bonuses all the time over giving bonuses,

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because your offer doesn't feel like it's enough, right? carrying

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responsibility that belongs to the client. I'll often say this

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to to my coaching clients, they'll start telling me about

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why their clients can't afford it. And I have to teach right

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away, their financial situation is none of your business. God

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didn't call you to get into their pocket and make

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decisions. God called you to offer your resources at a fair

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price to add value. And so if you're in this second pattern of

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over giving from fear, you're trying to take responsibility

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for their finances, that's none of your business. You're not

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their spouse, you're not their keeper, you're not their

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conservator, it's none of your business. And so you got to make

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it a habit, how they afford or don't afford something is none

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of my business. Right? Because again, we'll give it these

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sanctified names. I'm generous, I'm compassionate, right? We're

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like, right, I'm empathetic, we give it all these sanctified

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names. No, you are over giving from fear. Pattern number three

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is blocked receiving your receiver is blocked. This is the

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other one in the testimonial that I opened with. And it's,

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it's just deeply important. Blocked receiving often hides

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behind humility. Blocked receiving often hides behind

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humility, but underneath it is fear, low worth, old money

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stories, guilt, distrust, discomfort with being valued. So

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a woman can pour out wisdom all day. But freeze when someone

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wants to pay her. You'll often hear Oh, no, don't worry about

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it. No, you don't need to pay me. No, that's okay. No, I don't

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know. You hear that. What I'm teaching you here is to

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recognize the pattern. I'm not saying that there aren't times

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you do things pro bono. There aren't times that you lavishly

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give. I do. I'm

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saying, where are you coming from?

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Is it from a pattern of fear, guilt, shame, low self-worth?

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Or is it a pattern that, you know what?

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The Holy Spirit told me to just bless you with this.

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I want to just bless you.

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Totally different energy.

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Can you guys feel the difference between a pattern?

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I'm not saying don't be generous, right?

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Because God rewards generosity.

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So it's definitely not that.

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OK?

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I think that's better.

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It just came in.

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All right.

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Blocked receiving.

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The scriptural picture of blocked receiving

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is 2 Kings chapter 4 with the widow's oil.

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See, if you know that story, she was in complete distress

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in debt.

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Her husband, the prophet, had died.

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Her kids were going to be sold in slavery.

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And Elijah says, what do you have?

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Because we're called to use what's in our hand.

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She says, just a little oil.

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He's like, OK, that's where we start.

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We multiply what we have.

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OK, go gather as many containers as you can and not a few.

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He says, if you catch the words, gather as many as you can

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and not a few.

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So she does.

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Some translations and commentaries

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say she just gathered what she had.

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She didn't.

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The blocked receiving, she didn't even

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go to the neighbors or bother anyone.

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Whatever, what we do know about the story

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is that she started pouring.

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And the vessel filled.

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And the next one filled.

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And the next one filled.

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Then there were no more vessels.

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The oil stopped.

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Now, this is also a great teaching for capacity.

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The oil flowed as much as there was capacity.

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God will flow into you as much as you've

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expanded your capacity.

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But examples of this blocked receiving,

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and I hear this all the time in coaching,

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I could never charge for that.

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Here's a really big one where this comes in,

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especially in the faith-based space.

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You're going to get that you're not supposed to charge.

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If it's based on scripture, which I hope all

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of our businesses and all that we do is built on the rock

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and is built on scripture.

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But if we have scripture in there,

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we're not supposed to charge.

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I got hit up with that hard.

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When I did my first event, when I launched

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Prosper and All Things first event, it was God, money,

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and me.

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And it was 590 or 497 or 597.

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Anyway, it was in that range.

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And word got back to me that I was

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being talked about in the Christian female faith-based

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space.

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And in particular, one of the leaders

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in the female faith-based space was just

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like how terrible I was to be charging for,

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and overcharging no less.

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This was a full day event.

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You got a full meal.

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I had to pay.

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It was in a beautiful hotel.

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Had the spread of the food.

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The tables were gorgeous.

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I had the massage therapist during break doing neck.

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There was gifts to each person coming in.

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And they all got journaled.

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OK, I charged whatever it was, $400 or $500.

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And I really got judged doing a Christian meeting and charging.

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Well, I sent back word to let that person

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know that I'm not in the business of reducing my rates.

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I'm in the business of helping her raise hers.

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She ended up being a client for years, OK?

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She ended up being a client for years.

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So this looks like I could never charge for that,

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or I feel bad receiving money.

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How often do you hear that?

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No, I couldn't receive.

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I feel bad that you're giving me.

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That could be anything.

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They might be bringing you whatever, blessings, groceries,

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food, clothes, free tickets.

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Receiving's all over the map.

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And it's like, oh, I feel bad.

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Let me pay for you.

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I can't receive that, right?

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Or I don't want people to think I'm taking advantage.

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Or I'll just do that for free.

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You don't need to pay me.

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No, no, I'll just do it for you.

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This also shows up in deflecting comments.

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I have a friend, and every time I compliment him, he turns it into a joke.

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I mean, he's hilarious.

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It's a really funny joke, but I have to stop and say, can you not just say thank you?

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That was a compliment.

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Can you not just receive it and say thank you, right?

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So that's another way.

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We don't receive, we don't receive, we don't receive gifts.

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We don't receive compliments.

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We don't receive praise.

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We don't, we just, we just are stuck.

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We don't receive help.

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We reject help.

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Let me help you do this.

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What do you want me to bring?

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What do you want me to do?

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No, I got it.

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Don't worry.

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I got it.

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And we do it all.

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I went to a birthday party last weekend.

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It's her birthday.

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She slaved.

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She did everything.

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She let people, a couple of people bring salads and stuff, but no, receiving help, making

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it hard for people to pay, making it hard.

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Okay.

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So we're going to break through that one.

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Lastly, pattern number four is limited capacity, limited capacity, okay?

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That's not failure.

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It's an invitation to make room.

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So this is where the wells are powerful.

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The water's there, but they've been clogged.

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Like what we saw with Isaac, the wells have been clogged.

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He didn't need to, you know, reinvent to get water.

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He just had to uncover what was blocked, right?

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So that example that I read from Genesis with Isaac is a perfect example.

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Sometimes the flow's not absent, it's just clogged.

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Reduce capacity, okay?

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So life and business examples for that one, praying for more clients with no clean offer.

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I'm just praying that God will bring me clients, but I don't have a clean offer.

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Wanting cashflow, but avoiding money tracking.

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Don't have the capacity for more cashflow because I haven't managed the cashflow I already

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have.

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He that's faithful with little is ruler over much.

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Desiring opportunities while the calendar is overloaded.

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You know that in the prosperous system, we talked about simplify the S and create space.

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One of the spaces has to be in the calendar.

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So when people are ready to get going, I always check this.

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I always check this.

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So I have a client I met with last night and she's going on a sprint in August.

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She's reaching manager level in her company.

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And so she's going to just be hitting it hard.

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Okay, let's talk about your bandwidth.

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She didn't feel like being online.

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She loved the idea of networking.

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So we found all.

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We had chat GPT and she's in the Texas area and we just found dozens of network opportunities.

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I said, let's look under faith.

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Let's look under women.

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Let's look under personal development.

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And so we got dozens and can you attend one, two, three networking a week?

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Do you have the bandwidth?

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She said, yes.

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I want you to look at your calendar.

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Do you have capacity for this networking?

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Yes.

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Do you have capacity for follow up?

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Do you have time blocks in your calendar for follow up?

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Yes.

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Do you have time blocks to do one on ones to make offers?

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Yes.

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So capacity, so many people say, I want more money, I want more clients.

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But when I talk to them, where would you put them?

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If you didn't create space, it's not going to come.

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Capacity.

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Capacity, right?

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Wanting to receive more, this is more of an internal.

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That was an external capacity, an internal capacity.

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You desire to receive more, more money, more clients, more opportunity.

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But your nervous system braces.

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It says danger, danger, and it clenches.

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It's not safe.

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Often when you've come from a place of overgiving and overworking,

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this will kick in.

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Getting leads, but no follow up rhythm.

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One.

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and God ideas, but no space to listen.

461
00:40:04.880 --> 00:40:09.360
Do you have CEO time, you and God?

462
00:40:13.840 --> 00:40:15.640
That's capacity.

463
00:40:18.200 --> 00:40:21.600
So it's not just the increase, but the capacity.

464
00:40:21.600 --> 00:40:24.280
So look at those four patterns

465
00:40:24.280 --> 00:40:28.340
and I want you to number them from a zero to five,

466
00:40:28.340 --> 00:40:31.680
five being the highest, zero being the lowest,

467
00:40:31.680 --> 00:40:36.180
of how familiar these patterns that I mentioned are to you.

468
00:40:36.180 --> 00:40:40.140
How real, how present is each of those patterns?

469
00:40:40.140 --> 00:40:42.760
Number it for each of the four patterns.

470
00:40:42.760 --> 00:40:46.820
Give it a zero, a one, a zero,

471
00:40:46.820 --> 00:40:48.980
that pattern never shows up, a five,

472
00:40:48.980 --> 00:40:51.460
oh, I'm very familiar with that pattern.

473
00:40:51.460 --> 00:40:55.140
Yeah, I recognized everything you said, right?

474
00:40:55.140 --> 00:40:58.780
From zero to five, do that for each of the four patterns.

475
00:40:58.780 --> 00:41:01.900
Let's find out your predominant patterns.

476
00:41:06.220 --> 00:41:11.020
Number each one from zero to five.

477
00:41:25.140 --> 00:41:30.140
Five, four, three, two, one.

478
00:41:55.140 --> 00:42:00.140
So for each pattern, number.

479
00:42:12.100 --> 00:42:15.000
So pattern number one, withholding from fear.

480
00:42:17.620 --> 00:42:19.220
I don't wanna bother people.

481
00:42:19.220 --> 00:42:21.580
I'll wait till I know exactly what to say.

482
00:42:21.580 --> 00:42:23.220
I'm not ready to charge for this.

483
00:42:23.220 --> 00:42:25.060
I don't wanna be too much.

484
00:42:25.980 --> 00:42:26.820
I'll make the offer later.

485
00:42:26.820 --> 00:42:30.300
Pattern number one, withholding from fear, zero to five.

486
00:42:30.300 --> 00:42:33.460
How much is that present for you?

487
00:42:33.460 --> 00:42:36.160
Pattern number two, overgiving from fear.

488
00:42:37.660 --> 00:42:41.540
Overgiving from fear, all doing stuff for free,

489
00:42:41.540 --> 00:42:45.020
discounting even before being asked,

490
00:42:45.020 --> 00:42:49.620
adding bonuses, caring responsibility belongs to the client.

491
00:42:50.580 --> 00:42:53.540
Zero to five, how familiar to you.

492
00:42:53.540 --> 00:42:56.140
Pattern number three, blocked receiving.

493
00:42:57.100 --> 00:42:58.580
Blocked receiving.

494
00:42:58.580 --> 00:43:00.300
I can give, but I just can't receive.

495
00:43:00.300 --> 00:43:01.460
I can't receive compliments.

496
00:43:01.460 --> 00:43:02.360
I can't receive help.

497
00:43:02.360 --> 00:43:03.440
I can't receive money.

498
00:43:03.440 --> 00:43:06.300
I can't get paid for things.

499
00:43:06.300 --> 00:43:10.960
And pattern number four, limited capacity.

500
00:43:13.540 --> 00:43:17.500
Okay, now once you've done that, type done in the chat

501
00:43:18.920 --> 00:43:20.820
so that I know we're ready to move on.

502
00:43:23.540 --> 00:43:28.540
I guess it would help if I open the chat

503
00:43:29.980 --> 00:43:31.500
so I can see what you write.

504
00:43:33.620 --> 00:43:35.620
Okay, Amanda says so good.

505
00:43:35.620 --> 00:43:37.800
Okay, Linda says done.

506
00:43:40.620 --> 00:43:41.860
Okay, good.

507
00:43:41.860 --> 00:43:44.700
I think that's Bev that says owner, done.

508
00:43:44.700 --> 00:43:45.860
Good job.

509
00:43:45.860 --> 00:43:50.000
Okay, still waiting.

510
00:43:51.000 --> 00:43:54.400
Okay, Amanda's done.

511
00:43:57.200 --> 00:43:58.100
Couple more.

512
00:44:01.600 --> 00:44:06.600
Okay, now, did you have one that rose to the top

513
00:44:12.200 --> 00:44:13.660
that was the strongest?

514
00:44:14.920 --> 00:44:19.920
Put yes in the chat if you have one that rose to the top.

515
00:44:20.800 --> 00:44:25.800
Okay, which one is your predominant pattern?

516
00:44:26.840 --> 00:44:28.920
You probably have two.

517
00:44:28.920 --> 00:44:32.280
You might have three, but one.

518
00:44:32.280 --> 00:44:34.080
Do you have one that rose to the top?

519
00:44:34.080 --> 00:44:37.680
Because we're going to next do an exercise with that one.

520
00:44:39.560 --> 00:44:40.880
So put yes.

521
00:44:42.680 --> 00:44:46.780
Okay, good, okay.

522
00:44:46.780 --> 00:44:51.780
Good, good, okay.

523
00:44:54.220 --> 00:44:55.740
All right, what we're going to do now,

524
00:44:55.740 --> 00:44:57.420
you're going to need your journal

525
00:44:57.420 --> 00:45:00.180
or your notebook for this one.

526
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:03.840
You're going to create, you can title it,

527
00:45:03.840 --> 00:45:07.400
My Open the Flow Map.

528
00:45:07.400 --> 00:45:10.720
We're going to create, so title it,

529
00:45:10.720 --> 00:45:14.000
My Open the Flow Map.

530
00:45:14.000 --> 00:45:15.560
We're going to map this out,

531
00:45:15.560 --> 00:45:17.400
My Open the Flow Map.

532
00:45:17.400 --> 00:45:20.120
You're going to title your page in your notebook or your journal,

533
00:45:20.120 --> 00:45:23.720
My Open the Flow Map.

534
00:45:23.720 --> 00:45:27.000
This is the tool we're going to use first.

535
00:45:27.520 --> 00:45:28.360
Okay.

536
00:45:33.320 --> 00:45:38.320
Okay, so the first thing in your map is going to be,

537
00:45:39.120 --> 00:45:44.120
where do I desire more flow?

538
00:45:44.720 --> 00:45:49.720
Where do I desire more flow?

539
00:45:49.840 --> 00:45:54.840
Clients, cash flow, peace, creativity,

540
00:45:55.840 --> 00:46:00.840
receiving, relationships, energy,

541
00:46:02.600 --> 00:46:06.600
where do I desire more flow?

542
00:46:06.600 --> 00:46:09.200
That goes on the top of your flow map,

543
00:46:09.200 --> 00:46:11.680
where I desire more flow.

544
00:46:14.080 --> 00:46:18.320
Clarity, visibility, creativity, peace,

545
00:46:18.320 --> 00:46:23.320
cash flow, clients, where I desire more flow.

546
00:46:23.320 --> 00:46:25.960
More flow, that goes on the top.

547
00:46:54.320 --> 00:46:59.320
Awareness is the first step to break through and clarity

548
00:46:59.320 --> 00:47:02.320
follows right behind that.

549
00:47:02.320 --> 00:47:04.320
So in my open the flow map,

550
00:47:04.320 --> 00:47:09.320
where do I desire more flow?

551
00:47:11.320 --> 00:47:14.320
So in my open the flow map,

552
00:47:14.320 --> 00:47:19.320
where do I desire more flow?

553
00:47:20.320 --> 00:47:25.320
Okay, then underneath that,

554
00:47:26.320 --> 00:47:29.320
we've been talking this week about a prayer,

555
00:47:30.320 --> 00:47:33.320
God opened my eyes, what do you want me to see?

556
00:47:33.320 --> 00:47:36.320
Just like he opened Hagar's eyes

557
00:47:36.320 --> 00:47:40.320
to see the well that was there all along.

558
00:47:40.320 --> 00:47:41.320
He didn't have to read,

559
00:47:41.320 --> 00:47:44.320
the angel didn't have to dig the well,

560
00:47:44.320 --> 00:47:45.320
he didn't have to read,

561
00:47:45.320 --> 00:47:48.320
the angel didn't have to dig the well,

562
00:47:48.320 --> 00:47:51.320
needed to open our eyes.

563
00:47:51.320 --> 00:47:54.320
That's why awareness is the first step, it was awareness.

564
00:47:54.320 --> 00:47:57.320
So next in your flow map,

565
00:47:57.320 --> 00:47:58.320
you're going to write,

566
00:47:58.320 --> 00:48:03.320
what I sense God may be opening my eyes to.

567
00:48:03.320 --> 00:48:10.320
What I sense God may be opening my eyes to.

568
00:48:10.320 --> 00:48:15.320
So what provision or what wisdom

569
00:48:15.320 --> 00:48:19.320
or what opportunity or what support

570
00:48:19.320 --> 00:48:23.320
or what next step have I not been seeing

571
00:48:23.320 --> 00:48:28.320
that I'm starting to see?

572
00:48:28.320 --> 00:48:31.320
What I sense God may be opening my eyes to,

573
00:48:31.320 --> 00:48:33.320
God may be opening my eyes

574
00:48:33.320 --> 00:48:36.320
that there's more provision than I thought.

575
00:48:36.320 --> 00:48:38.320
God may be opening my eyes

576
00:48:38.320 --> 00:48:41.320
to have just wisdom in this season,

577
00:48:41.320 --> 00:48:44.320
or God may be opening my eyes to opportunity.

578
00:48:44.320 --> 00:48:46.320
There's opportunity everywhere.

579
00:48:46.320 --> 00:48:48.320
There's just opportunity,

580
00:48:48.320 --> 00:48:51.320
just like on the sidewalks, right?

581
00:48:51.320 --> 00:48:53.320
Like other countries have felt

582
00:48:53.320 --> 00:48:55.320
our streets were paved with gold.

583
00:48:55.320 --> 00:48:57.320
There's so much opportunity here.

584
00:48:57.320 --> 00:49:00.320
You can come here and you can start your own business.

585
00:49:00.320 --> 00:49:01.320
Are you kidding?

586
00:49:01.320 --> 00:49:05.320
You can, you know, like opportunity.

587
00:49:05.320 --> 00:49:07.320
Or God may be opening my eyes

588
00:49:07.320 --> 00:49:09.320
that there's more support than I thought.

589
00:49:09.320 --> 00:49:11.320
I always felt all alone,

590
00:49:11.320 --> 00:49:15.320
but there's actually more support.

591
00:49:15.320 --> 00:49:17.320
He may be opening my eyes

592
00:49:17.320 --> 00:49:24.320
to like my next step that I wasn't seeing.

593
00:49:24.320 --> 00:49:27.320
So in your open the flow map,

594
00:49:27.320 --> 00:49:31.320
it should start with where I desire more flow.

595
00:49:31.320 --> 00:49:34.320
And then under that should be where I sense

596
00:49:34.320 --> 00:49:45.320
God might be opening my eyes to what?

597
00:49:45.320 --> 00:49:46.320
Pray that prayer,

598
00:49:46.320 --> 00:49:52.320
God, what are you opening my eyes to that I'm not seeing?

599
00:49:52.320 --> 00:49:56.320
Do you have more opportunity than I was seeing?

600
00:49:56.320 --> 00:49:59.320
Is there more support than I was seeing?

601
00:50:00.800 --> 00:50:05.760
Is there a next step? Is there more provision than I thought there was?

602
00:50:08.880 --> 00:50:13.840
Where I sense God may be opening my eyes.

603
00:50:30.800 --> 00:50:38.000
Pray that prayer, Holy Spirit. What are you wanting to open my eyes to right now?

604
00:50:41.120 --> 00:50:43.840
What am I not seeing?

605
00:51:00.000 --> 00:51:26.880
Okay, next in your flow map, what may be clogging the well?

606
00:51:26.880 --> 00:51:32.320
What may be clogging the well?

607
00:51:35.680 --> 00:51:37.200
Withholding from fear?

608
00:51:39.680 --> 00:51:41.360
Overgiving from fear?

609
00:51:42.800 --> 00:51:44.320
Blocked receiving?

610
00:51:44.320 --> 00:51:45.760
Limited capacity?

611
00:51:46.720 --> 00:51:48.080
Old agreements?

612
00:51:48.960 --> 00:51:49.520
Pressure?

613
00:51:50.880 --> 00:51:52.720
Lack? Shame?

614
00:51:53.760 --> 00:51:54.640
Confusion?

615
00:51:54.640 --> 00:52:00.880
What may be clogging the well?

616
00:52:00.880 --> 00:52:05.440
And again, use this time to interact with the Holy Spirit.

617
00:52:05.440 --> 00:52:07.280
He guides us into all truth.

618
00:52:07.280 --> 00:52:09.040
He shows us things to come.

619
00:52:09.920 --> 00:52:12.800
He reveals what we don't see.

620
00:52:14.080 --> 00:52:20.000
So, Holy Spirit, what may be clogging the wells that I haven't seen?

621
00:52:21.920 --> 00:52:23.600
Is it withholding from fear?

622
00:52:23.600 --> 00:52:24.720
Is it overgiving?

623
00:52:24.720 --> 00:52:26.160
Is it blocked receiving?

624
00:52:26.160 --> 00:52:27.600
Is it capacity?

625
00:52:27.600 --> 00:52:29.040
Is it old agreements?

626
00:52:30.560 --> 00:52:31.760
Silent vows?

627
00:52:33.040 --> 00:52:34.000
Is it pressure?

628
00:52:34.800 --> 00:52:38.400
Is it just I'm bound up in believing in lack?

629
00:52:40.160 --> 00:52:42.400
Is it shame?

630
00:52:44.560 --> 00:52:45.920
Is it confusion?

631
00:52:45.920 --> 00:52:47.760
I just don't have clarity.

632
00:52:48.400 --> 00:52:52.960
What may be clogging the well?

633
00:52:54.560 --> 00:53:00.560
And again, use this time to interact with the Holy Spirit.

634
00:53:00.560 --> 00:53:02.560
He guides us into all truth.

635
00:53:02.560 --> 00:53:04.560
He shows us things to come.

636
00:53:04.560 --> 00:53:06.560
Is it withholding from fear?

637
00:53:06.560 --> 00:53:08.560
Is it overgiving?

638
00:53:08.560 --> 00:53:10.560
Is it lack?

639
00:53:10.560 --> 00:53:12.560
Is it confusion?

640
00:53:12.560 --> 00:53:14.560
Is it lack?

641
00:53:14.560 --> 00:53:16.560
Is it lack?

642
00:53:16.560 --> 00:53:18.560
Is it confusion?

643
00:53:18.560 --> 00:53:20.560
Is it lack?

644
00:53:20.560 --> 00:53:22.560
Is it confusion?

645
00:53:22.560 --> 00:53:24.560
Is it lack?

646
00:53:24.560 --> 00:53:26.560
Is it confusion?

647
00:53:26.560 --> 00:53:28.560
Is it lack?

648
00:53:28.560 --> 00:53:30.560
Is it confusion?

649
00:53:30.560 --> 00:53:32.560
Is it lack?

650
00:53:32.560 --> 00:53:34.560
Is it confusion?

651
00:53:34.560 --> 00:53:36.560
Is it lack?

652
00:53:36.560 --> 00:53:38.560
Is it confusion?

653
00:53:38.560 --> 00:53:44.880
Okay, next in the My Open the Flow map.

654
00:53:46.400 --> 00:53:49.200
So, we're flowing from what I desire more flow,

655
00:53:49.200 --> 00:53:51.680
what I sense God may be opening,

656
00:53:51.760 --> 00:53:53.760
what may be clogging,

657
00:53:53.760 --> 00:53:58.080
and then the pattern I recognize most.

658
00:53:58.640 --> 00:54:01.200
So, one primary pattern.

659
00:54:02.480 --> 00:54:04.640
Which one got the highest when you ranked it?

660
00:54:06.480 --> 00:54:08.480
A secondary if you really need it,

661
00:54:08.480 --> 00:54:10.320
but one primary pattern.

662
00:54:11.600 --> 00:54:13.840
We're going to work on one primary pattern.

663
00:54:15.520 --> 00:54:17.840
So, the pattern I recognize the most,

664
00:54:17.920 --> 00:54:19.920
the pattern most familiar to me,

665
00:54:19.920 --> 00:54:21.920
the pattern that shows up in my life the most.

666
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:17.440
Okay, next, in your flow map, how this pattern shows up in my life, business, relationships.

667
00:55:17.440 --> 00:55:24.360
How this pattern shows up in my life, my business, my relationships.

668
00:55:24.360 --> 00:55:31.880
So for example, what do I do or avoid?

669
00:55:31.880 --> 00:55:35.080
Or what do I overdo?

670
00:55:35.080 --> 00:55:36.840
What do I delay?

671
00:55:36.840 --> 00:55:37.960
What do I soften?

672
00:55:37.960 --> 00:55:39.080
What do I hide?

673
00:55:39.080 --> 00:55:41.000
What do I resist?

674
00:55:41.000 --> 00:55:43.840
Like how is this actually showing up?

675
00:55:43.840 --> 00:55:47.800
Be brutally honest, ask the Holy Spirit to open your eyes.

676
00:55:47.800 --> 00:55:53.520
How is this showing up in your life, in your business, in your relationships?

677
00:56:17.800 --> 00:56:23.840
How is this showing up?

678
00:56:23.840 --> 00:56:24.840
What do I do?

679
00:56:24.840 --> 00:56:27.720
Or what do I not do?

680
00:56:27.720 --> 00:56:33.720
What do I avoid?

681
00:56:33.720 --> 00:56:35.760
I avoid being visible.

682
00:56:35.760 --> 00:56:37.120
I don't show up online.

683
00:56:37.120 --> 00:56:41.600
I don't do lives, even though I could just make so many sales doing lives.

684
00:56:41.600 --> 00:56:47.200
Or I don't make any offers, even though I know there's people that want what I have.

685
00:56:47.200 --> 00:56:50.320
Or I, so what do I do?

686
00:56:50.320 --> 00:56:51.640
What do I not do?

687
00:56:51.640 --> 00:56:52.720
What do I delay?

688
00:56:52.720 --> 00:56:58.000
What do I keep putting off?

689
00:56:58.000 --> 00:57:02.840
What do I resist?

690
00:57:02.840 --> 00:57:12.240
Ask the Holy Spirit to show you how your dominant pattern is showing up in your relations.

691
00:57:12.240 --> 00:57:16.280
You're going to find, by the way, love, money, they're all connected.

692
00:57:16.280 --> 00:57:19.500
The same thing that's blocking money is blocking love.

693
00:57:19.500 --> 00:57:22.000
These are very similar energies.

694
00:57:22.000 --> 00:57:28.200
So if it's a cashflow and money problem, you probably also have a receiving money.

695
00:57:28.200 --> 00:57:31.440
You probably have trouble receiving love too.

696
00:57:31.440 --> 00:57:34.280
This affects everything, your relationships, your fun.

697
00:57:34.280 --> 00:57:45.320
That's why this is so powerful, what we're doing.

698
00:57:45.320 --> 00:57:48.400
How is this showing up?

699
00:57:48.400 --> 00:57:49.400
This is a pattern.

700
00:57:49.400 --> 00:57:51.160
It means it's repeating.

701
00:57:51.160 --> 00:57:53.440
It shows up in your business.

702
00:57:53.440 --> 00:57:54.640
Shows up in your friendship.

703
00:57:54.640 --> 00:57:59.160
Shows up in your love life.

704
00:57:59.160 --> 00:58:01.160
Shows up with more than one client.

705
00:58:29.160 --> 00:58:41.360
Here's where we go deep.

706
00:58:41.360 --> 00:58:43.840
Let's go to the root.

707
00:58:43.840 --> 00:58:44.840
Looking at the fruit.

708
00:58:44.840 --> 00:58:48.360
Let's look at the root.

709
00:58:48.360 --> 00:58:55.000
What have I believed was safer?

710
00:58:55.000 --> 00:58:56.440
It's safer to not show up.

711
00:58:56.440 --> 00:58:59.840
It's safer to not make an offer.

712
00:58:59.840 --> 00:59:05.080
It's safer to hide.

713
00:59:05.080 --> 00:59:08.000
Safer to not ask.

714
00:59:08.000 --> 00:59:09.400
Safer to not receive.

715
00:59:09.400 --> 00:59:14.040
Safer to not expect so I don't get disappointed.

716
00:59:14.040 --> 00:59:35.480
Safer to not set goals.

717
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:15.360
Safer to undercharge, safer to not charge.

718
01:00:15.360 --> 01:00:20.240
Safer to just keep working in a job that I hate.

719
01:00:20.240 --> 01:00:24.200
Safer to not show up online.

720
01:00:24.200 --> 01:00:32.280
Okay, I want to give you enough time, so I'm going to wait until you put done in the chat

721
01:00:32.280 --> 01:00:36.440
and we'll go on to the next because this is very important work.

722
01:00:36.440 --> 01:00:43.240
This flow map is very important work for you.

723
01:00:43.240 --> 01:00:51.240
What's the agreement underneath what you've been doing or not doing, right?

724
01:00:51.240 --> 01:00:52.960
What have you believed is safer?

725
01:00:52.960 --> 01:00:56.960
What's the underlying agreement?

726
01:01:10.960 --> 01:01:16.960
Okay, here's where we start breaking through, but tell me when you're done.

727
01:01:16.960 --> 01:01:20.960
Put done in the chat.

728
01:01:22.960 --> 01:01:49.960
Okay, next in your flow map, remember, fear is lie-based, right?

729
01:01:49.960 --> 01:01:51.960
Love is truth-based.

730
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We're either operating the truth of God or we're based on a misperception or a lie, right?

731
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So now we want God's truth.

732
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So next in your flow map, you're going to write down God's truth.

733
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God's truth.

734
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What does God say instead?

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What does God say instead?

736
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It's a beautiful place to say, Holy Spirit, what do you say?

737
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David prayed, I desire truth in my inner parts, like to continuously ask God to clear the

738
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misperceptions and the lies and say, God, what's the truth?

739
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What's the truth about me?

740
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What's the truth about this person I'm having trouble with?

741
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What's the truth about my business?

742
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What's the truth about money and the struggle I'm having?

743
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What's the truth about what, what's your truth?

744
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What do you say?

745
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This is one of the most powerful breakthroughs that changes everything.

746
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What does God say about this?

747
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Holy Spirit, what is your word for me here about this pattern, about this flow?

748
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Holy Spirit, what, what are you saying?

749
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I desire insight, sight on the inside.

750
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Paul prayed that the eyes of our heart would be just flooded with light.

751
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That's my prayer today and what you're doing is not just an everyday exercise.

752
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This changes your life forever.

753
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What's the truth here?

754
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What does God say?

755
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Holy Spirit speak, Holy Spirit reveal.

756
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Help me to know the truth.

757
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The truth will set me free.

758
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What's the truth here?

759
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What's the truth here?

760
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What's the truth here?

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821
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bearing. Okay, so if you look at withholding from fear, and in

822
01:10:05.480 --> 01:10:12.040
Matthew 25, the servant, you know, who buried his talent, you

823
01:10:12.040 --> 01:10:16.040
know, the revelation of that is that fear caused him to bury

824
01:10:16.040 --> 01:10:20.640
what was entrusted to him. And so his interpretation of the

825
01:10:20.640 --> 01:10:24.560
master shaped his action, right? So what's the breakthrough?

826
01:10:25.200 --> 01:10:30.720
steward what's been entrusted, don't bury the gift, the offer,

827
01:10:30.720 --> 01:10:34.600
the word, the invitation, the opportunity work, we're called

828
01:10:34.600 --> 01:10:38.360
to steward our resources, right? We're called to increase our

829
01:10:38.360 --> 01:10:44.600
capacity and steward what's been given to us. Right. So in that

830
01:10:44.600 --> 01:10:49.640
case, the internal step would be I'm going to break agreement

831
01:10:49.640 --> 01:10:54.280
with hiding at safety. I've been thinking that if I hide, I'll be

832
01:10:54.280 --> 01:10:58.560
safe. That's not a truth. It's not stewarding what God has

833
01:10:58.560 --> 01:11:02.440
given me on bearing my treasures. So the internal step

834
01:11:02.440 --> 01:11:05.240
in that case, I'm going to break agreement with hiding his

835
01:11:05.240 --> 01:11:10.400
safety. So then the external step, I'm going to make the

836
01:11:10.400 --> 01:11:13.960
offer, I'm going to I'm going to send the follow up, I'm going to

837
01:11:13.960 --> 01:11:18.200
give a clear price, I'm going to publish my message, I'm going to

838
01:11:18.200 --> 01:11:24.000
show up live, I'm going to invite the person, right? So I'm

839
01:11:24.000 --> 01:11:29.720
always in coaching, I'm always looking at both the internal and

840
01:11:29.800 --> 01:11:36.640
the external, right? So I looked at the fear that came up, I told

841
01:11:36.640 --> 01:11:40.160
you, the salesperson that got the sale, the $500 sale

842
01:11:40.160 --> 01:11:43.400
yesterday that I coached, she hadn't gotten any in three

843
01:11:43.400 --> 01:11:49.000
months, zero. And the internal, she was saying, I don't want to

844
01:11:49.000 --> 01:11:51.960
be a pest. I don't want to be seen as pushy. I don't want to

845
01:11:51.960 --> 01:11:56.520
be seen as a salesperson. So we had to break an internal belief

846
01:11:56.520 --> 01:12:03.640
system. And then the action was she had to make a specific

847
01:12:03.640 --> 01:12:07.000
offer. And and I had accountability, you will tell me

848
01:12:07.000 --> 01:12:10.160
how many people you talked to and how many were sales

849
01:12:10.200 --> 01:12:14.840
conversations, right? Same thing. Another person I was

850
01:12:14.840 --> 01:12:19.920
coaching yesterday. So the the breakthrough here is internally,

851
01:12:19.920 --> 01:12:23.120
I break agreement, I'm not going to hide anymore. And a lot of

852
01:12:23.120 --> 01:12:28.520
that can be what's the cost to you? If I keep doing this, if I

853
01:12:28.520 --> 01:12:34.600
keep hiding, and not using my gifts, I'm going to die with my

854
01:12:34.600 --> 01:12:38.960
gifts still in me. How many people will not be blessed? How

855
01:12:38.960 --> 01:12:42.800
much money will? You know, you always say the cemetery is the

856
01:12:42.800 --> 01:12:45.440
richest place on the planet, right? It's all the books that

857
01:12:45.440 --> 01:12:48.200
were never written all the movies that were never produced

858
01:12:48.200 --> 01:12:53.320
all the right conversations that were never had. Okay, so that's

859
01:12:53.320 --> 01:12:57.120
the withholding from fear, the over giving from fear that we

860
01:12:57.120 --> 01:13:01.640
saw Martha in Luke, we saw she's serving, she's troubled and

861
01:13:01.640 --> 01:13:06.720
destructive. So it wasn't true service, it was it was the

862
01:13:06.720 --> 01:13:12.320
pressure. So the breakthrough from that is Jesus gave come

863
01:13:12.320 --> 01:13:16.960
back to the one thing, and then give from peace, not pressure,

864
01:13:17.000 --> 01:13:20.400
right, that would be the breakthrough for Martha. So the

865
01:13:20.440 --> 01:13:26.360
internal step would be I break agreement with the lie, that I

866
01:13:26.360 --> 01:13:30.960
have to overextend in order to be loved or valued or accepted

867
01:13:30.960 --> 01:13:36.480
or safe, I break agreement with that lie with that belief. And

868
01:13:36.480 --> 01:13:44.080
then the external step would be clarify exactly what I offer,

869
01:13:44.320 --> 01:13:49.960
clarify the container, stop adding, stop doing extra bonuses,

870
01:13:49.960 --> 01:13:54.520
unless that was part of the plan, or unpaid extras, create

871
01:13:54.520 --> 01:13:58.440
the boundary, create the boundary and let the client

872
01:13:58.440 --> 01:14:03.560
carry their part, bring out the resourcefulness in the client.

873
01:14:04.440 --> 01:14:08.280
Then the third, the blocked receiving with Hagar seeing the

874
01:14:08.280 --> 01:14:13.240
well, the revelation is the provision might be present, but

875
01:14:13.240 --> 01:14:16.200
there's something keeping us from seeing fear is keeping us

876
01:14:16.200 --> 01:14:19.920
from seeing disappointment, despair, not wanting to be

877
01:14:19.920 --> 01:14:24.880
disappointed is keeping us from seeing it. So the breakthrough

878
01:14:24.880 --> 01:14:27.880
is asking the Holy Spirit to open the eyes and bring the

879
01:14:27.880 --> 01:14:33.080
bell, the vessels and receive without apology. So the internal

880
01:14:33.080 --> 01:14:36.600
step, I break agreement with the lie that receiving is

881
01:14:36.600 --> 01:14:41.760
selfish. I break agreement with the lie that receiving is not

882
01:14:41.760 --> 01:14:46.800
safe, I break agreement with the lie that I'll be appearing as

883
01:14:46.800 --> 01:14:55.160
needy. And then the external step, accept the payment. I'll

884
01:14:55.160 --> 01:14:59.720
do it very often right there. Would you like me to email you

885
01:14:59.720 --> 01:14:59.880
the

886
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:02.640
link to get started, or would you

887
01:15:02.640 --> 01:15:05.520
like me to just pop it right now in the chat?

888
01:15:05.520 --> 01:15:07.560
Let's just do it right here, right now.

889
01:15:10.840 --> 01:15:16.280
And part of that is tied with, like the woman I was coaching

890
01:15:16.280 --> 01:15:19.680
yesterday in financial services, her goal

891
01:15:19.680 --> 01:15:23.640
is to reach this title in August.

892
01:15:23.640 --> 01:15:26.760
Great, we can't afford to waste time.

893
01:15:26.760 --> 01:15:30.440
Here's what we're going to do this week, right?

894
01:15:30.440 --> 01:15:33.840
So I got someone that's writing a book that's

895
01:15:33.840 --> 01:15:35.360
supposed to be released.

896
01:15:35.360 --> 01:15:37.840
I did a call with her, and it's going to be released.

897
01:15:37.840 --> 01:15:40.160
I said, you don't start doing the marketing.

898
01:15:40.160 --> 01:15:41.880
She was waiting for the book to be written

899
01:15:41.880 --> 01:15:43.360
to start doing the marketing.

900
01:15:43.360 --> 01:15:44.680
You don't wait.

901
01:15:44.680 --> 01:15:46.000
Are you kidding?

902
01:15:46.000 --> 01:15:49.280
There is pre-launch, before your book.

903
01:15:49.280 --> 01:15:50.840
There is during your book.

904
01:15:50.840 --> 01:15:53.160
There is after.

905
01:15:53.160 --> 01:15:56.000
I said, let me show you what I did before my book.

906
01:15:56.000 --> 01:15:57.280
I had pre-readers.

907
01:15:57.280 --> 01:15:58.720
I had pre-testimonies.

908
01:15:58.720 --> 01:16:00.160
I had a pre-site.

909
01:16:00.160 --> 01:16:01.840
I had a pre-offer.

910
01:16:01.840 --> 01:16:03.280
I was doing teasers.

911
01:16:03.280 --> 01:16:08.200
I created a pre-video so that when my book was released,

912
01:16:08.200 --> 01:16:11.280
it was top 10 in women in business on Amazon.

913
01:16:11.280 --> 01:16:13.800
That doesn't just happen, oh, I put it on Amazon.

914
01:16:13.800 --> 01:16:15.520
Wow, no one's coming.

915
01:16:15.520 --> 01:16:16.760
No one's buying.

916
01:16:16.760 --> 01:16:18.520
Like these things are an accident

917
01:16:18.520 --> 01:16:21.880
when you see bestsellers and things like that, you see?

918
01:16:21.880 --> 01:16:27.240
And so it's so important that you accept the payment.

919
01:16:27.240 --> 01:16:28.920
You send the invoice.

920
01:16:28.920 --> 01:16:32.240
And then you follow up and say, did you get that?

921
01:16:32.240 --> 01:16:34.160
And then when they don't take action,

922
01:16:34.160 --> 01:16:36.280
you hold them accountable to their word.

923
01:16:36.280 --> 01:16:38.600
You told me this is important.

924
01:16:38.600 --> 01:16:42.040
Love is holding people accountable to their word.

925
01:16:42.040 --> 01:16:44.280
You told me that you really wanted to do this.

926
01:16:44.280 --> 01:16:45.120
This is important.

927
01:16:45.120 --> 01:16:47.200
Is that still true?

928
01:16:47.200 --> 01:16:49.560
OK, we have to start.

929
01:16:49.600 --> 01:16:54.400
You see how your confidence pulls out the resourcefulness.

930
01:16:54.400 --> 01:16:56.320
It's actually, it's not pushy.

931
01:16:56.320 --> 01:16:58.240
It's a gift.

932
01:16:58.240 --> 01:17:01.360
Do you see how that works?

933
01:17:01.360 --> 01:17:03.720
And so create the payment link.

934
01:17:03.720 --> 01:17:05.200
Stop deflecting.

935
01:17:05.200 --> 01:17:09.040
And then the one for limited capacity, the water was there,

936
01:17:09.040 --> 01:17:10.360
but the wells were stopped.

937
01:17:10.360 --> 01:17:12.320
The capacity had to be cleared.

938
01:17:12.320 --> 01:17:14.320
Make room internally.

939
01:17:14.320 --> 01:17:16.880
The breakthrough, make room internal.

940
01:17:16.880 --> 01:17:21.080
I break agreement with the lie that more will overwhelm me.

941
01:17:21.080 --> 01:17:25.320
This is a really big capacity issue that if I take on more,

942
01:17:25.320 --> 01:17:28.880
I'm going to lose myself.

943
01:17:28.880 --> 01:17:30.840
No, you're going to get more help.

944
01:17:30.840 --> 01:17:32.920
You're going to have more resources.

945
01:17:32.920 --> 01:17:35.720
No, not at all.

946
01:17:35.720 --> 01:17:38.400
OK, so right now what I want you to do

947
01:17:38.400 --> 01:17:44.280
is write down your internal step and your external step

948
01:17:44.280 --> 01:17:48.760
that you will do by Monday.

949
01:17:48.760 --> 01:17:51.080
Write it down in your flow map.

950
01:17:51.080 --> 01:17:54.840
What's your internal step to break with that top pattern?

951
01:17:54.840 --> 01:17:57.000
You identified the top pattern.

952
01:17:57.000 --> 01:17:59.880
What's your internal step?

953
01:17:59.880 --> 01:18:01.720
What are you going to break agreement with?

954
01:18:01.720 --> 01:18:03.440
What are you going to stop believing?

955
01:18:03.440 --> 01:18:04.400
What are you going to speak?

956
01:18:04.400 --> 01:18:05.640
What are you going to declare?

957
01:18:05.640 --> 01:18:08.120
What are you going to change inside?

958
01:18:08.120 --> 01:18:10.240
What's the belief you're going to change?

959
01:18:10.240 --> 01:18:13.280
What's the agreement you're going to, the vow you're

960
01:18:13.280 --> 01:18:17.200
going to come out of agreement with,

961
01:18:17.200 --> 01:18:21.520
the belief that you have to overgive to be accepted,

962
01:18:21.520 --> 01:18:27.080
the belief that you have to not charge to be loved or be safe?

963
01:18:27.080 --> 01:18:30.880
What are you going to come out of agreement with?

964
01:18:30.880 --> 01:18:34.120
Internal and external.

965
01:18:34.120 --> 01:18:40.240
I want you to write both for your top pattern

966
01:18:40.240 --> 01:18:41.960
or your top two patterns.

967
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:02.060
you

968
01:20:30.000 --> 01:20:32.060
you

969
01:21:00.000 --> 01:21:02.060
you

970
01:21:30.000 --> 01:21:32.060
you

971
01:21:36.000 --> 01:21:38.060
you

972
01:21:50.760 --> 01:21:52.820
you

973
01:21:52.820 --> 01:21:58.560
okay, now we want to just dive this in

974
01:21:58.560 --> 01:22:04.960
and make sure that it sticks. We're gonna make this be truly transformational. So

975
01:22:04.960 --> 01:22:11.240
we're gonna do two things, okay? We're gonna finish on time and then I

976
01:22:11.240 --> 01:22:16.480
promise I'll stay after even do some hot seat coaching. First of all, first step to

977
01:22:16.480 --> 01:22:23.200
make it stick is a little bit of accountability. So by Monday, by Monday I

978
01:22:23.200 --> 01:22:29.760
want you to take the external breakthrough step from your Open My Flow

979
01:22:29.760 --> 01:22:38.760
Map, right? Open My Open The Flow Map and I want you to post it in the Total Soul

980
01:22:38.760 --> 01:22:47.560
Prosperity group and say, I took my step.

981
01:22:47.560 --> 01:22:55.880
Hold yourself accountable. I'm watching.

982
01:22:58.000 --> 01:23:05.720
What's that doing? You're showing up and you're declaring to God and to the world,

983
01:23:05.720 --> 01:23:16.800
yes, I'm serious about this. I took my breakthrough step. I took my

984
01:23:16.800 --> 01:23:19.640
breakthrough step.

985
01:23:20.960 --> 01:23:25.440
Who's committed to having this not just be a nice teaching but true

986
01:23:25.440 --> 01:23:39.520
transformation? Say me in the chat, okay? All right, now what I would love is just

987
01:23:39.520 --> 01:23:46.000
a tiny bit of sharing and then if you have to go, you have to go, but I promise

988
01:23:46.000 --> 01:23:50.600
I would do hot seat and I'd also do sharing and the purpose of sharing again

989
01:23:50.600 --> 01:23:55.640
is to solidify it. You're telling your mind, your heart, wow, this is what God

990
01:23:55.640 --> 01:24:00.040
showed me. This is what I'm gonna do. This is what's changed for me. You're like

991
01:24:00.040 --> 01:24:04.920
deepening it. You're making it real and you're blessing everybody else in the

992
01:24:04.920 --> 01:24:10.400
room, okay? And then if there's any part of it that needs some hot seat

993
01:24:10.440 --> 01:24:16.600
coaching, I'm here. Also, if what's coming up is coming from a place of not

994
01:24:16.600 --> 01:24:21.840
knowing or lack of clarity, this is why I always start with a breakthrough

995
01:24:21.840 --> 01:24:27.120
intensive. So you may not be making an offer because you just flat-out don't

996
01:24:27.120 --> 01:24:31.680
know what to offer or you may not be comfortable pricing because you just

997
01:24:31.680 --> 01:24:37.120
flat-out don't know what to price or you may not know how to show up in a way,

998
01:24:37.280 --> 01:24:42.680
okay, that comes where it's not just breaking an agreement. You need the

999
01:24:42.680 --> 01:24:48.520
skill set and the action, right? You need a plan. You need to know exactly, you

1000
01:24:48.520 --> 01:24:53.680
know, the sales that have been happening in with all my clients this week is

1001
01:24:53.680 --> 01:24:57.880
because they knew exactly who they knew what they were offering. They knew how

1002
01:24:57.880 --> 01:25:00.040
it was unique. They had a script.

1003
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:02.580
or an idea of how to present it.

1004
01:25:02.580 --> 01:25:04.820
They knew what they were charging.

1005
01:25:04.820 --> 01:25:09.820
They knew how they were going to show up in the world

1006
01:25:09.860 --> 01:25:12.780
where the clients were gonna come from.

1007
01:25:12.780 --> 01:25:15.100
That's all done in a breakthrough intensive.

1008
01:25:15.100 --> 01:25:17.500
That's why I always do that first with everybody.

1009
01:25:17.500 --> 01:25:21.460
Big company, seven figure coach or six figure

1010
01:25:21.460 --> 01:25:23.180
or starting from zero,

1011
01:25:23.180 --> 01:25:25.620
I always start with the breakthrough intensive

1012
01:25:25.620 --> 01:25:29.360
because otherwise you're trying to swim in muddy water.

1013
01:25:29.360 --> 01:25:32.640
But if you've got those things and it's just the pattern,

1014
01:25:32.640 --> 01:25:35.840
then hey, that gets broken right here, right now.

1015
01:25:35.840 --> 01:25:38.840
So please give feedback.

1016
01:25:38.840 --> 01:25:42.800
I wanna hear, let it solidify for yourself

1017
01:25:42.800 --> 01:25:45.700
and bless everybody else as well.

1018
01:25:49.080 --> 01:25:50.520
Who wants to go first?

1019
01:25:50.520 --> 01:25:55.520
Okay, whoever it was hiding and not showing up

1020
01:25:59.560 --> 01:26:01.600
should be the one that should come first.

1021
01:26:02.800 --> 01:26:03.700
Who is that?

1022
01:26:06.280 --> 01:26:10.960
Who had the withholding from fear, not showing up?

1023
01:26:10.960 --> 01:26:12.280
All right, I do.

1024
01:26:12.280 --> 01:26:13.980
Okay, thank you, Linda.

1025
01:26:15.840 --> 01:26:18.520
So I'm sorry, what am I going over with you?

1026
01:26:18.520 --> 01:26:21.640
Cher, for you, what did God reveal to you?

1027
01:26:21.640 --> 01:26:24.120
What was your breakthrough?

1028
01:26:24.120 --> 01:26:25.480
What did you discover from this

1029
01:26:25.480 --> 01:26:27.980
and what are you gonna do differently as a result?

1030
01:26:32.400 --> 01:26:35.520
He showed me that specific betrayals I've had in my life

1031
01:26:35.520 --> 01:26:38.320
have caused me to believe that I'm not safe

1032
01:26:38.320 --> 01:26:40.720
when I fully put everything out there,

1033
01:26:40.720 --> 01:26:42.960
that it's loading the gun for them

1034
01:26:43.200 --> 01:26:44.560
Yeah.

1035
01:26:44.560 --> 01:26:49.560
Rather than trusting that he will protect me

1036
01:26:51.400 --> 01:26:53.280
and that everything that I,

1037
01:26:53.280 --> 01:26:56.180
basically what he said is that causes me to hide away

1038
01:26:56.180 --> 01:26:59.040
the most delicious and tantalizing parts.

1039
01:26:59.040 --> 01:27:00.120
Wow.

1040
01:27:00.120 --> 01:27:01.080
Whoa.

1041
01:27:01.080 --> 01:27:02.360
Wow.

1042
01:27:02.360 --> 01:27:03.240
Repeat that again.

1043
01:27:03.240 --> 01:27:05.040
So this is what God revealed to you.

1044
01:27:05.040 --> 01:27:07.760
You're hiding the most delicious

1045
01:27:07.760 --> 01:27:09.800
and tantalizing parts of you.

1046
01:27:09.800 --> 01:27:11.120
Wow.

1047
01:27:11.120 --> 01:27:14.240
Those are the very parts polished by your experiences

1048
01:27:14.240 --> 01:27:16.600
that attract others to you.

1049
01:27:16.600 --> 01:27:18.600
Wow, so true.

1050
01:27:18.600 --> 01:27:20.400
So I was like, whoa.

1051
01:27:20.400 --> 01:27:22.720
And he said, you often live life on the battlefield

1052
01:27:22.720 --> 01:27:24.880
rather than the harvest field.

1053
01:27:24.880 --> 01:27:26.440
Wow.

1054
01:27:26.440 --> 01:27:27.600
I know.

1055
01:27:27.600 --> 01:27:30.600
That's some beautiful stuff there.

1056
01:27:30.600 --> 01:27:33.360
So he said, one produces hurt, more hurt,

1057
01:27:33.360 --> 01:27:35.560
and the other produces fruit.

1058
01:27:35.560 --> 01:27:36.500
Wow.

1059
01:27:36.500 --> 01:27:39.160
So you spend more time in the battlefield

1060
01:27:39.160 --> 01:27:40.680
than in the harvest field.

1061
01:27:41.200 --> 01:27:42.800
And one produces hurt.

1062
01:27:42.800 --> 01:27:44.600
Man, that's a sub stack note.

1063
01:27:44.600 --> 01:27:46.000
That's a post right there.

1064
01:27:46.000 --> 01:27:47.080
That's so beautiful.

1065
01:27:47.080 --> 01:27:48.280
That's so poetic.

1066
01:27:48.280 --> 01:27:50.160
I love how God does that.

1067
01:27:50.160 --> 01:27:51.000
Yeah.

1068
01:27:51.000 --> 01:27:52.960
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing.

1069
01:27:52.960 --> 01:27:55.640
So what is your internal breakthrough step

1070
01:27:55.640 --> 01:27:58.240
and what is your external breakthrough step?

1071
01:27:58.240 --> 01:28:01.640
I break a big agreement with hiding and avoidance.

1072
01:28:01.640 --> 01:28:02.840
Okay.

1073
01:28:02.840 --> 01:28:04.360
I do one or the other.

1074
01:28:06.200 --> 01:28:09.640
And so breakthrough is I have a couple of people

1075
01:28:09.640 --> 01:28:10.800
that I need to contact.

1076
01:28:10.800 --> 01:28:11.880
I have one client.

1077
01:28:11.880 --> 01:28:13.440
I made the offer.

1078
01:28:13.440 --> 01:28:16.440
She verbally accepted, sent the contract,

1079
01:28:16.440 --> 01:28:17.600
and I've not heard from her.

1080
01:28:17.600 --> 01:28:19.800
So I'm going to follow up and say,

1081
01:28:19.800 --> 01:28:23.400
yes, or I'm just checking to see if you're in or out.

1082
01:28:23.400 --> 01:28:25.040
Either way is great.

1083
01:28:25.040 --> 01:28:27.400
And you repeat the benefits,

1084
01:28:27.400 --> 01:28:29.160
what she said she wanted, right?

1085
01:28:29.160 --> 01:28:31.200
And absolutely.

1086
01:28:31.200 --> 01:28:33.040
The cost of not taking action.

1087
01:28:33.040 --> 01:28:33.880
So good.

1088
01:28:33.880 --> 01:28:36.280
Thank you, Linda, for opening and sharing that.

1089
01:28:36.280 --> 01:28:37.120
Love that.

1090
01:28:37.120 --> 01:28:37.960
Love that.

1091
01:28:37.960 --> 01:28:38.800
Okay.

1092
01:28:38.800 --> 01:28:39.640
Who else?

1093
01:28:39.640 --> 01:28:42.320
Let's break through right now, right here.

1094
01:28:45.280 --> 01:28:46.680
Let's go.

1095
01:28:46.680 --> 01:28:49.880
For me, my breakthrough patterns,

1096
01:28:49.880 --> 01:28:51.200
I had a couple of them,

1097
01:28:51.200 --> 01:28:56.200
but it was more for the blocked receiving

1098
01:28:56.720 --> 01:28:59.280
and for the limited capacity.

1099
01:28:59.280 --> 01:29:00.120
Okay.

1100
01:29:00.120 --> 01:29:02.480
And for the blocked receiving for me,

1101
01:29:03.680 --> 01:29:07.440
it has been, which I have been working on.

1102
01:29:07.440 --> 01:29:09.880
So I have recognized it before,

1103
01:29:09.880 --> 01:29:14.880
but it was always for the business side of that.

1104
01:29:15.280 --> 01:29:16.760
I don't want to be too pushy.

1105
01:29:16.760 --> 01:29:18.840
I don't want to be too salesy.

1106
01:29:18.840 --> 01:29:22.120
I don't want them to be turned off by me,

1107
01:29:22.120 --> 01:29:22.960
you know, kind of thing.

1108
01:29:22.960 --> 01:29:28.040
But I knew in my heart that I had something good to offer,

1109
01:29:28.040 --> 01:29:30.480
but it was just showing up, you know,

1110
01:29:30.480 --> 01:29:33.360
with that confidence and that boldness

1111
01:29:33.360 --> 01:29:36.400
and that authority that I need to know

1112
01:29:36.400 --> 01:29:40.320
that I have to change my mindset of like,

1113
01:29:40.320 --> 01:29:44.200
look, I know that I can transform your life,

1114
01:29:44.200 --> 01:29:45.240
you know, kind of thing.

1115
01:29:45.240 --> 01:29:47.480
This isn't just an ordinary thing.

1116
01:29:48.520 --> 01:29:50.040
So I really have been working

1117
01:29:50.040 --> 01:29:52.120
on switching my mindset with that.

1118
01:29:52.120 --> 01:29:57.120
And I've had, cause example with this launch that I've had,

1119
01:29:59.160 --> 01:30:00.520
I even told him my husband.

1120
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:03.540
husband a couple of times, it's kind of like some things you

1121
01:30:03.540 --> 01:30:07.560
experience and then it comes to reality. But I was like, you

1122
01:30:07.560 --> 01:30:11.200
know, follow up really does work. And I go and I go to be

1123
01:30:11.200 --> 01:30:14.480
honest, this is probably like my fourth time that I had to follow

1124
01:30:14.480 --> 01:30:18.080
up with somebody my fourth or fifth. Yeah. And I'm like, and

1125
01:30:18.080 --> 01:30:24.360
then finally, I got a response. Yes. And so it's just knowing

1126
01:30:24.360 --> 01:30:29.360
that, like, I like the way that you've taught us before is it's

1127
01:30:29.360 --> 01:30:36.240
a Jesus way. Like, you know, what, how, how to put love and

1128
01:30:36.240 --> 01:30:41.560
we're serving. And so I think when you, you take out the part

1129
01:30:41.560 --> 01:30:46.560
that I've been so programmed of, of the particular sales, right,

1130
01:30:46.600 --> 01:30:50.320
you know, kind of thing. It's like, no, you're serving with

1131
01:30:50.320 --> 01:30:54.880
your heart. And then, you know, you just move on and be like,

1132
01:30:54.880 --> 01:30:58.080
Okay, I guess you're not ready yet. That's fine. But I tried,

1133
01:30:58.480 --> 01:31:03.840
you know, so or you just keep you just keep going. I can see

1134
01:31:03.840 --> 01:31:07.080
you're not you're not ready today. When is the best time for

1135
01:31:07.080 --> 01:31:10.640
us to revisit this? And in a week, in a month, in three

1136
01:31:10.640 --> 01:31:15.080
months, always set the next date for follow up. And you'd be

1137
01:31:15.080 --> 01:31:17.400
surprised you're thinking is going to be three months and

1138
01:31:17.400 --> 01:31:20.520
they'll go Yeah, okay, like, yeah, next week would be good.

1139
01:31:20.560 --> 01:31:24.200
Like, you'll be surprised asking that question. And so I want to

1140
01:31:24.200 --> 01:31:27.240
congratulate you that you're doing that you're following up.

1141
01:31:27.400 --> 01:31:29.760
And you know, most of the sales are going to happen between

1142
01:31:29.760 --> 01:31:34.320
number eight and number 12. I have some of my biggest clients

1143
01:31:34.840 --> 01:31:41.400
followed up for years, years. And so, yeah, the fortunes in

1144
01:31:41.400 --> 01:31:46.320
the follow up. Okay, so in a nutshell, your internal

1145
01:31:46.320 --> 01:31:49.600
breakthrough and your external breakthrough, what what's your

1146
01:31:49.600 --> 01:31:50.240
internal

1147
01:31:51.040 --> 01:31:56.080
label? Come here. She's having she's followed something. Um,

1148
01:31:56.120 --> 01:32:02.880
okay. So my internal was thinking that I'm being too

1149
01:32:02.880 --> 01:32:07.000
pushy that I'm being too naggy that I'm being too salesy. Like

1150
01:32:07.000 --> 01:32:11.360
I said, so you're gonna break with that. Pardon? You're gonna

1151
01:32:11.360 --> 01:32:16.480
break agreement with that. Yeah. And then my external is that I'm

1152
01:32:16.480 --> 01:32:19.880
going to keep on following up with people. And I think that I

1153
01:32:19.880 --> 01:32:24.440
just need to be more confident in what I like. Yes, talking

1154
01:32:24.440 --> 01:32:28.840
about my offer. Yeah, hiding kind of like what my offer is.

1155
01:32:28.880 --> 01:32:32.840
Yeah, just spread it like telling more people about it.

1156
01:32:32.840 --> 01:32:38.360
Amen. So sorry, man, let's give her a snap. Yay. Yay. Okay. All

1157
01:32:38.360 --> 01:32:43.200
right. I and let me see. Let me do this. And also, we need to

1158
01:32:43.200 --> 01:32:45.840
give Linda snap. I forgot to give her a big snap. Let's give

1159
01:32:46.080 --> 01:32:50.720
a huge snap. Okay, who else? Even those of you that are not

1160
01:32:50.720 --> 01:32:54.880
showing your face speak up. I see you don't hide just by not

1161
01:32:54.880 --> 01:33:00.680
showing your face. Okay, who's next? Colette? Okay. Go ahead.

1162
01:33:00.680 --> 01:33:03.880
I'll go. You know, I think you know, the two main ones for me

1163
01:33:03.880 --> 01:33:08.520
were over giving. I didn't realize that was from fear. But

1164
01:33:08.520 --> 01:33:11.600
you like you said not it's not true generosity. But what came

1165
01:33:11.600 --> 01:33:15.200
to my mind that I hadn't thought about in years is that I was a

1166
01:33:15.200 --> 01:33:18.240
small child and my mother was brushing my hair near the

1167
01:33:18.240 --> 01:33:21.840
fireplace. She used to braid it every night. I think I left my

1168
01:33:21.840 --> 01:33:25.160
hair and braids. So I was in the sixth grade. But she was brushing

1169
01:33:25.160 --> 01:33:29.200
my hair. And she said to me, you know, you're a very generous

1170
01:33:29.200 --> 01:33:35.160
person. And I think that stuck with me like an expectation. So

1171
01:33:35.160 --> 01:33:38.240
I appreciated that coming back to my mind because I had

1172
01:33:38.240 --> 01:33:42.360
forgotten about that. And the other the other one that I

1173
01:33:42.360 --> 01:33:48.240
realized yesterday was that people have always told me, even

1174
01:33:48.240 --> 01:33:50.760
though I've done all these things trying to make something

1175
01:33:50.760 --> 01:33:53.080
work for me, I was also a real estate agent.

1176
01:33:54.920 --> 01:33:59.560
In addition to being a radio announcer, a teacher and a

1177
01:33:59.560 --> 01:34:02.080
nurse, you were also a real estate agent. Look at you go

1178
01:34:02.080 --> 01:34:03.280
girl. Okay.

1179
01:34:03.600 --> 01:34:07.160
So I finally warehouse my license, which means I'm not

1180
01:34:07.160 --> 01:34:09.680
active. I still have the license because at the end of the year,

1181
01:34:09.720 --> 01:34:13.960
there are too many tests and recertifications and nursing and

1182
01:34:14.280 --> 01:34:17.160
teaching and real estate. I just couldn't I just didn't want to

1183
01:34:17.160 --> 01:34:20.160
do it anymore. So I quit doing all that. But the thing that

1184
01:34:20.160 --> 01:34:23.720
came to mind is people have always told me, you're too nice

1185
01:34:23.720 --> 01:34:24.960
to sell anything.

1186
01:34:25.320 --> 01:34:28.800
Oh, wow. Okay. So is that your internal that you're going to

1187
01:34:28.800 --> 01:34:30.000
break through that lie?

1188
01:34:30.240 --> 01:34:34.200
Yeah, that's that's a lie. I mean, I deserve to, you know,

1189
01:34:34.200 --> 01:34:38.600
have what I have to offer presented and there are people

1190
01:34:38.600 --> 01:34:43.040
who value or will value what I have to offer. Instead of being

1191
01:34:43.040 --> 01:34:46.000
like, oh, I'll just give it to you because I can't sell

1192
01:34:46.000 --> 01:34:47.720
anything. And I'm a generous person.

1193
01:34:49.280 --> 01:34:52.720
That's an amazing lie. I want to just land there for anybody

1194
01:34:52.720 --> 01:34:57.800
else who might have it. You're too nice to sell anything. Like

1195
01:34:58.240 --> 01:34:59.480
wow.

1196
01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:03.000
And that's some serious programming.

1197
01:35:03.000 --> 01:35:04.240
Yes.

1198
01:35:04.240 --> 01:35:09.320
I think I'm a very nice person, and I sell a lot.

1199
01:35:09.320 --> 01:35:12.160
So for your internal breakthrough,

1200
01:35:12.160 --> 01:35:17.080
breaking agreement with that lie that sales is not nice.

1201
01:35:17.080 --> 01:35:19.560
By the way, this is a whole side note.

1202
01:35:19.560 --> 01:35:21.360
I don't want to go on a tangent, but look up

1203
01:35:21.360 --> 01:35:25.440
the very original word for nice, and you will never

1204
01:35:25.440 --> 01:35:27.520
want to be nice again.

1205
01:35:27.520 --> 01:35:30.240
So that's just a little fun homework.

1206
01:35:30.240 --> 01:35:31.280
OK.

1207
01:35:31.280 --> 01:35:34.400
OK, so your internal breakthrough

1208
01:35:34.400 --> 01:35:36.520
is you're going to break agreement with that belief

1209
01:35:36.520 --> 01:35:39.080
that it's not nice to sell.

1210
01:35:39.080 --> 01:35:41.800
Right, and that I'm a generous person,

1211
01:35:41.800 --> 01:35:44.600
but the generosity is not coming from the right place,

1212
01:35:44.600 --> 01:35:45.840
as you talked about.

1213
01:35:45.840 --> 01:35:48.560
So I break agreement with I do these things

1214
01:35:48.560 --> 01:35:50.880
because I'm a generous person.

1215
01:35:50.880 --> 01:35:53.680
Is that the right way to word that?

1216
01:35:53.680 --> 01:35:57.400
Yeah, I mean, you can be a genuinely generous person.

1217
01:35:57.400 --> 01:36:00.960
So I get from genuine, but I break agreement

1218
01:36:00.960 --> 01:36:04.320
that I have to over-give to appear generous, right?

1219
01:36:04.320 --> 01:36:05.520
OK, that's better.

1220
01:36:05.520 --> 01:36:06.160
Thank you.

1221
01:36:06.160 --> 01:36:07.960
Good, I love that.

1222
01:36:07.960 --> 01:36:11.080
OK, and then your external breakthrough.

1223
01:36:11.080 --> 01:36:16.640
I plan to make a post this weekend about what I'm doing

1224
01:36:16.640 --> 01:36:19.440
or I'm going to make myself do.

1225
01:36:19.440 --> 01:36:21.560
But in my case, I need some clarity.

1226
01:36:21.560 --> 01:36:22.720
I do have a lot of clutter.

1227
01:36:22.720 --> 01:36:24.360
As you know, I've done a lot of things.

1228
01:36:24.360 --> 01:36:26.760
And right now, I have a lot of mental clutter

1229
01:36:26.760 --> 01:36:30.800
and what is the next best right step, as you would say,

1230
01:36:30.800 --> 01:36:32.520
the next right step to take.

1231
01:36:32.520 --> 01:36:34.280
So I need a little clarity.

1232
01:36:34.280 --> 01:36:35.240
I realize that.

1233
01:36:35.240 --> 01:36:38.560
Yeah, yeah, perfect for a breakthrough intensive, right?

1234
01:36:38.560 --> 01:36:40.680
We need to get all of that absolutely clear.

1235
01:36:40.680 --> 01:36:42.520
But I'm so proud of you.

1236
01:36:42.520 --> 01:36:44.480
You're going to make that post, and you're

1237
01:36:44.480 --> 01:36:45.720
going to break agreement.

1238
01:36:45.720 --> 01:36:49.080
Let's give the letter a snap.

1239
01:36:49.080 --> 01:36:53.040
Woo, I'm so excited for you guys.

1240
01:36:53.040 --> 01:36:54.520
I want to say one other thing.

1241
01:36:54.520 --> 01:36:57.160
While you were saying put it in the chat, for some reason,

1242
01:36:57.160 --> 01:37:01.400
I'm unable to make my keyboard work in the chat.

1243
01:37:01.400 --> 01:37:02.680
I have pressed something.

1244
01:37:02.680 --> 01:37:04.000
I figured that was happening.

1245
01:37:04.000 --> 01:37:05.160
I saw you trying.

1246
01:37:05.160 --> 01:37:05.680
I saw that.

1247
01:37:05.680 --> 01:37:06.520
Yeah, sorry.

1248
01:37:06.520 --> 01:37:08.200
No problem.

1249
01:37:08.200 --> 01:37:11.280
OK, thank you, Teacher Linda.

1250
01:37:11.280 --> 01:37:14.080
Linda, you want to speak up the definition of nice

1251
01:37:14.080 --> 01:37:15.400
that you found?

1252
01:37:15.400 --> 01:37:17.120
Oh my god, look at this.

1253
01:37:17.120 --> 01:37:20.440
Nice equals foolish, ignorant, or senseless.

1254
01:37:20.440 --> 01:37:22.600
What?

1255
01:37:22.600 --> 01:37:23.800
No, no, no, no.

1256
01:37:24.240 --> 01:37:27.160
I don't want to be thought of as foolish or stupid.

1257
01:37:27.160 --> 01:37:30.720
You're not going to call me nice anymore?

1258
01:37:30.720 --> 01:37:32.080
Nice girls don't.

1259
01:37:32.080 --> 01:37:34.680
Oh, OK.

1260
01:37:34.680 --> 01:37:36.480
How fun is that?

1261
01:37:36.480 --> 01:37:38.480
There's just words in our vocabulary.

1262
01:37:38.480 --> 01:37:39.920
It's fun.

1263
01:37:39.920 --> 01:37:44.240
OK, owner, I assume that you're Bev,

1264
01:37:44.240 --> 01:37:45.960
your titled owner over there.

1265
01:37:45.960 --> 01:37:46.880
Let's own it.

1266
01:37:46.880 --> 01:37:48.200
You going to speak up and share?

1267
01:37:50.920 --> 01:37:52.760
Or whoever owner is?

1268
01:37:52.760 --> 01:37:54.080
I don't think it's Genevieve.

1269
01:37:54.080 --> 01:37:55.640
Her kids were sick.

1270
01:37:55.640 --> 01:37:57.240
She wrote me a text.

1271
01:37:57.240 --> 01:37:59.840
Who is owner?

1272
01:37:59.840 --> 01:38:01.120
Yeah, it's Bev.

1273
01:38:01.120 --> 01:38:03.320
I don't know why it came up as owner.

1274
01:38:03.320 --> 01:38:04.960
Because you're going to own it today.

1275
01:38:04.960 --> 01:38:06.800
You're going to rock it, sister.

1276
01:38:06.800 --> 01:38:07.640
So talk to me.

1277
01:38:07.640 --> 01:38:09.640
What happened for you today?

1278
01:38:09.640 --> 01:38:11.080
Oh, gosh.

1279
01:38:11.080 --> 01:38:14.960
Well, yeah, for quite a while, I've

1280
01:38:14.960 --> 01:38:19.720
been realizing that I've just been over giving everywhere

1281
01:38:19.720 --> 01:38:21.920
in relationships with my clients.

1282
01:38:24.600 --> 01:38:29.720
And also, the other part about capacity,

1283
01:38:29.720 --> 01:38:35.160
I've got a lot of mental health clients, which

1284
01:38:35.160 --> 01:38:36.520
I know I'm really helping.

1285
01:38:36.520 --> 01:38:39.480
But it's not giving me the space that I

1286
01:38:39.480 --> 01:38:43.080
need to be bringing in the income that I need.

1287
01:38:43.080 --> 01:38:43.880
Sure.

1288
01:38:44.080 --> 01:38:50.840
So yeah, so for your gifts, you can make so much more,

1289
01:38:50.840 --> 01:38:52.000
obviously, as a coach.

1290
01:38:52.000 --> 01:38:53.840
We've talked about it, then a therapist.

1291
01:38:53.840 --> 01:38:58.480
And so yeah, it's like we have to create capacity.

1292
01:38:58.480 --> 01:39:00.560
We have to let go of what's in our hands

1293
01:39:00.560 --> 01:39:03.560
to open for God to put something new.

1294
01:39:03.560 --> 01:39:06.800
And often, you've probably seen the cartoon or the visual

1295
01:39:06.800 --> 01:39:12.120
that a loving father has this giant teddy bear,

1296
01:39:12.120 --> 01:39:14.280
this gift, wants to give a child.

1297
01:39:14.280 --> 01:39:16.520
But the child's hands are like, doesn't

1298
01:39:16.520 --> 01:39:17.720
want to let go of the candy.

1299
01:39:17.720 --> 01:39:21.080
So can't take the gift from the father.

1300
01:39:21.080 --> 01:39:24.640
So so often, we're holding on to the small, safe thing

1301
01:39:24.640 --> 01:39:28.360
so that there's no capacity for the big thing.

1302
01:39:28.360 --> 01:39:29.800
So I love that.

1303
01:39:29.800 --> 01:39:33.040
So Bev, what is your internal breakthrough

1304
01:39:33.040 --> 01:39:35.440
and your external breakthrough?

1305
01:39:35.440 --> 01:39:41.040
Well, that's a good question.

1306
01:39:41.800 --> 01:39:44.160
I'm so tired, and I've been sick.

1307
01:39:44.160 --> 01:39:47.480
And I'm thinking, I need to listen to this again

1308
01:39:47.480 --> 01:39:51.840
so I have more clarity about the direction that I'm going in.

1309
01:39:51.840 --> 01:39:54.800
But right now, I've overcommitted to things.

1310
01:39:54.800 --> 01:39:59.000
And I'm thinking, I just need to clean that up and look

1311
01:39:59.000 --> 01:40:00.880
at the boundaries.

1312
01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:10.240
that I need to set in all areas of my life really. Yes, yes, beautiful. Because there's something

1313
01:40:10.240 --> 01:40:15.440
about the self-integrity, you know, I've made a promise, I need to follow through on that,

1314
01:40:15.440 --> 01:40:22.480
and now I need to, you know, look at what I'm giving. And that's so big. Thank you for

1315
01:40:23.120 --> 01:40:29.520
for sharing that. There's so much wisdom. I was sharing that with a client this week. I was saying,

1316
01:40:29.520 --> 01:40:36.240
you know, the way that we lose our self-esteem is to stop honoring, you know, break agreement with

1317
01:40:36.240 --> 01:40:42.080
ourself. Stop not doing the things we say we're going to do or the things we promised ourselves.

1318
01:40:42.080 --> 01:40:48.000
We break agreement with ourselves, and that's how we lose self-worth and self-esteem, right? And so

1319
01:40:50.080 --> 01:40:54.720
write down what you say you're going to do. And so the homework for this week, you're going to

1320
01:40:54.720 --> 01:41:01.280
take the external breakthrough step that you mapped out today, you're going to do it by Monday,

1321
01:41:01.280 --> 01:41:06.720
you're going to go into the Total Soul Prosperity Facebook group, and you're going to say, I took my

1322
01:41:06.720 --> 01:41:12.560
breakthrough step. And we're going to recognize you and celebrate you, and your esteem is going to grow,

1323
01:41:12.560 --> 01:41:19.680
your confidence is going to grow, and you're going to pave the way for other women, all right? So that

1324
01:41:19.680 --> 01:41:27.520
is your homework. By Monday, honor your word. Keep integrity with your own word. Let's give Bev a

1325
01:41:27.520 --> 01:41:34.000
snap. Thank you for showing up. Thank you for sharing. You have so much to give, beautiful

1326
01:41:34.000 --> 01:41:40.880
sister. You're brilliant. You have so much to give. And so it's setting boundaries where you're giving

1327
01:41:40.880 --> 01:41:45.920
in this season. What is God calling you to do in this season? What is he calling you to release

1328
01:41:45.920 --> 01:41:52.880
in this season, right? And release the belief that if you let go of those lower paying clients,

1329
01:41:53.440 --> 01:42:00.160
that you won't make it, that you have to, you know, take a minimum wage, because you're afraid you

1330
01:42:00.160 --> 01:42:06.400
might not get what you really deserve. God is our source. There's abundance. There's abundance

1331
01:42:06.400 --> 01:42:13.600
of clients that need what you offer. So all right, ladies, I pray that this has blessed you.

1332
01:42:13.600 --> 01:42:21.760
And yes, the recording will come out for you to listen again. I pray that this is just a very

1333
01:42:21.760 --> 01:42:28.080
huge season of breakthrough for you, that you've identified the pattern that's kept you from seeing

1334
01:42:28.080 --> 01:42:34.560
or that has blocked what God is wanting to pour into you, and he's revealed the truth to break the

1335
01:42:34.560 --> 01:42:40.960
lies. And now you're breaking the agreements internally, and you're taking the external action.

1336
01:42:41.040 --> 01:42:46.240
And I'm so excited for the testimonies that are going to come from this. Thank you, thank you,

1337
01:42:46.240 --> 01:42:53.120
thank you. And don't be nice anymore, okay? Lots of love. We'll see you.