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All right, so welcome to Men's Monday.

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I am Jackie Dorman, if you don't know that, and I'm the founder of Last Year Single.

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And I don't come on here that much.

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I used to coach you guys exclusively.

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I used to be your coach, but things have changed a lot over the last few years, and they're

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about to change again.

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So I want to make an announcement to you guys that we're going to fully integrate our program

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into co-ed.

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So you guys will only have one session a month that is men only.

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You will have like an accountability group, a place where you can post, a place where

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male coaches can respond to you.

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But we have an entirely different program rolling out, and it's going to be really great.

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So for you guys that have been digging into your heart work kind of on your own, you will

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have coaches for heart work, because ladies have coaches for heart work.

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We have a whole program around heart work on our ladies' side.

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And so if you're in that phase, in that phase of doing heart work, there's coaching available

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at 1 p.m. and 8 p.m. Eastern on Mondays.

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So you can go to either one of those.

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You can watch the replays of those.

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Same thing with dating coaching.

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Dating coaching is available at 1 and 8 on Tuesdays, every Tuesday.

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And that's stuff like attachment styles, boundaries, divine feminine and masculine, just practical

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dating advice, kind of what we do on Ask Jackie and when we do online dating in phase three.

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And then, of course, those offerings will also be available.

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So it's kind of a full calendar of stuff that you can participate in as you want to.

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You will have a men's only group where you can post and have answers in real time.

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You guys don't post a lot.

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You don't have some dedicated – we had dedicated coaches for you guys, peer coaches in your

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groups, but men hardly ever coached or hardly ever posted.

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So those coaches were very underutilized and we had to redistribute them elsewhere.

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But if you guys want to post and you want to ask questions, you want feedback on dates,

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you want different things like that, we'd be happy to do that via your group.

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But Monday nights, the last Monday of the month will be your men's only going into August.

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So that will start immediately in August.

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No more Monday nights except for the last Monday of the month.

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But you will have access to the first week Ask Jackie, the second week Advanced Heartwork.

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I really encourage you guys to go to Advanced Heartwork with Bethany Cooper.

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She's digging into identity stuff, stuff that might still have you stuck.

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I don't have any of my OGs on here besides Hunter and David, but there isn't any reason

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why any men in our program that have been here for a few years shouldn't already be

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either engaged or married.

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If that was the trajectory that you came here for.

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So we need to dig down into what's holding you back, what's really happening.

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We're always stuck on the inside, not the outside.

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So Advanced Heartwork, really important session.

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That's the second week of the month.

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The third week of the month, we have online dating coaching.

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For those of you that are using apps, you need more skill, more strategy for that.

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And then the last week of the month will be that men's only, women's only sessions.

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And then, of course, on Mondays and Tuesdays, you always have the ability to drop in at

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one or eight o'clock to a Heartwork, and on Tuesdays, one and eight o'clock to a dating

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coaching session if you need some coaching in real time.

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The other thing that we're rolling out at the end of August is our community-based matchmaking

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app.

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So it will be where the program exists right now, exists on last year's single app.

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That app will be disappearing.

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The new app will be, it'll have all the programs and curriculums and events and replays and

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all the good stuff that it has now.

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It'll have the groups and the peer coaching available, but it will also have the ability

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for you to meet other people, either in the program or people that have come in from the

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outside from the public.

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Not like a dating app, more like a build your village.

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Did any of you guys take my book club?

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Anybody?

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I did.

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Okay.

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So it'll be based on that.

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It's based on my Modern Dating Sucks book, and the app is a tool in which to meet people

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in your area, build that six degrees of separation out, so where you're able to meet people,

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you're also able to introduce other people as well into the community, friends of yours,

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people that you think should meet others.

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And then also, there will be a new place for single spotlights, also called Jackie's List.

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So on this app, it will be called Jackie's List, and it will just be a list of people

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that I'm promoting within the program that month or that week.

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week or whatever it will be.

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So people that were basically matchmaking, and that will rotate.

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There'll be different people that are spotlighted or highlighted on that list every month.

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And that's all included in your membership here.

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All of you are grandfathered into the new stuff, so your $37 a month won't change.

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It will change for people that are coming in from the outside.

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I don't know what those numbers are, but I do know that everyone who's already in the

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program will just stay at this level.

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Cool.

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So those are my announcements.

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That's why I recorded the session, and we can go ahead and dig into any questions that

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you guys have.

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Hunter, I know you're probably biting at the bit to ask all kinds of different things,

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but I would just ask you to just keep it to one question until other people have a chance

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to ask questions as well.

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And let's kind of keep these questions short and sweet.

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You guys can ask me anything.

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You can ask me about dating.

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You can ask about a specific scenario that maybe you're dealing with, a heart work thing

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you might be dealing with, and or just anything about the program.

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The new guys probably have been a bit lost because things have changed so drastically

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since the program started.

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So I feel like it's not been as structured or organized in the last year or so on our

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men's side.

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The women's side is very structured, but we're going to be putting a lot more structure

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back into our men's stuff now.

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So who's got questions?

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Go ahead, Hunter.

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I got one.

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Go ahead.

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Why is the men's Monday meetings except the last day, Monday of the month?

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Why not make it every Monday?

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Well, how many of you are here, Hunter?

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I'm not always here every Monday, but I keep making the effort to come in because I'm looking

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at you.

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No, I'm not saying that.

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How many people are on the call right now?

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Six.

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Including me.

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Okay.

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So there's five men.

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So we just really don't have the staff or the team to have a men's only situation every

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week when this is pretty much the numbers of men that come.

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So that's just, that's not cost effective for us.

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And then also I want you guys to be able to go to the other things, the other things that

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have women there, have opportunities to meet women and men.

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We've gotten feedback from men throughout the program because a lot of our men are married

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now.

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You know, you guys, we have a real high success rate with the men in this program.

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Most of the men that have come to this program are married and they had limited time, limited

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bandwidth to be online.

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Didn't really want to be online.

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Didn't really enjoy coming to online gatherings.

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And so having two a week, so you have your Monday men's and then there's another one,

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whether it's an Ask Jackie or an Advanced Heart Work, it just doesn't make sense to

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have two a week for you guys.

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So the one that's you only will be the last Monday of the month.

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All right.

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And can I also share I had some wins?

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Yeah, absolutely.

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Well, I went two months without pornography and I went 15 days in a row without any master

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of self gratification.

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Wow.

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And how old are you again, Hunter?

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37.

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I'm going to be 38 in over a month from now.

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And do you mind if I ask if you're a virgin?

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Yes.

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You mind or you are?

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No, you don't mind.

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I don't mind saying I admit I am a virgin.

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That's great.

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Wow.

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That's a huge win.

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Broken record.

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That's a huge win.

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That's a huge win for you.

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You've broken your own record.

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I love that for you, Hunter.

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And what about meeting new women, dating?

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How's that going for you?

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Well, I have my eye on two local women that I met on a trip to Israel.

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They were on their own because they want to enjoy the autonomy.

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But I know I got there.

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I got to chat with them at church.

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It's not the old woman, but there was there was two others.

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And we got to walk and we got to talk.

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And then I got their numbers.

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And I think about and I think about maybe, you know what, I'm going to try.

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They like I want to communicate.

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I want to build intimacy.

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Basically, I said, I want to hang out and build connection for the right reason.

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And I figured I'll see where things go.

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And I know that one is my age.

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The other is cool with me, but they were going to they wanted me to go on to our church's

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next trip to Israel.

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I was like, no, I already went to Israel.

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And I was thinking, where have you been?

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And I just go up to them.

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I just approached them to not in a it's like it's basically trying to me.

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The only hard part is how do I approach it, how not to approach it?

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I was like, oh, honest.

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I did something that was an honest mistake to them.

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And I was like, I was like, oh, I'm sorry, and made an honest mistake.

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Rather than saying, oh, she won't like me.

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That's just a honest mistake, because I was just looking at their move in awareness of

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what they do, because they're undeniably a woman of God.

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She is an undeniably a woman of God.

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Her actions speak for herself.

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So I figure, you know what, this is a.

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woman I like. I like the way she is. She takes care of herself. Even some people at church

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are trying to recommend me because they know me. When I was 30, I climbed a mountain that's

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thousands of feet high. I can cook on my own. I can finance my own money. I'm about to move

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into an apartment. I saved up and organized my finances for something like this.

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Wow, Hunter. You've just really come a long way since you've been in the program. I'm

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so proud of you. You definitely have matured so much. I think you're for sure ready to

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be a boyfriend and to begin to date someone and grow through that kind of relationship

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into a fiance and a husband. We will be spotlighting you just so you know. I know you've been asking.

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We will be spotlighting you via social media and then also via our email list. We'll let

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you know what that brings in as far as anyone who could be compatible with you.

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Yeah. Explicit stuff that I still have access to, it's losing its appeal on me too.

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Okay. Well, here's the thing about porn.

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Yeah. It's losing its appeal.

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Well, I'm glad that it's losing its appeal because those people are someone's son and

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someone's daughter. A lot of them are trafficked people, people that have been coerced with drugs

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and have been abused and caused to be almost enslaved to this industry. When you think of it

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that way, it's really difficult to have any pleasure in any kind of participation in that.

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Beyond that, I really think that pornography is an addiction that you can protect yourself from

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with the right accountability, with the right constraints because it requires technology for

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the most part. When I was a kid, you used to be able to go to the video store and then there

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was a back room that said 18 and over. I always wondered what was back there. I poked my head in

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there one day. This is like the 80s and 90s. It was all the pornography movies, right? Those days

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are over for the most part. The only way you're getting porn is if you get it on the internet.

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Keeping yourself, having a checks and balance, doing a situation where my kids just saw The

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Odyssey over the weekend. If you know Homer's poem, Ulysses ties himself to the mast so that

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he doesn't or he has himself tied to the mast so he doesn't go to the song of the sirens,

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to the song to his death of the sirens, of the mermaids and the sirens. You have to tie

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yourself to the mast if necessary, Hunter. Meaning if you have to have other people come

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and tie you to the mast, if it means that you don't have technology in your house,

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if it means that you have a dumb phone, a dumb phone, all that it does is call people and text

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people. If that's what you got to do to rid yourself of this evil that wants to destroy

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your mind, then do it, brother. If that's what it takes, then that's what you got to do.

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Don't bring it upstairs at all where I go to bed. Also, another thing too is do some jujitsu.

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Jujitsu, it tests my mind. I figure, you know what? If you want something, you got to do this.

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It's just like men and women. It's one way to approach it and one way not to approach it.

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I screwed up. One time I cursed in front of this one girl's good-looking,

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godly woman, good-looking. I cursed her and she freaked out. I was like,

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genuine apology, honest mistake. Basically, don't beat yourself up. Just learn from it.

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Absolutely. There's someone out there that's going to have a lot of grace for you as you

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have a lot of grace for them. Really, what I want to encourage you to do, Hunter, is that

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when you do text these girls or one of these girls or you do try to get someone to perhaps

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hang out, go on a date with you, you don't have to tell them your whole life story. You don't

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have to tell them that you're pornography-free. You can leave that for us. You can leave that

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for your coaches. You can leave that for these smaller, more intimate places of accountability.

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You can just go ahead and put your best foot forward with them. Let them get a chance to know

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you before you're letting them behind the curtain and telling them things that they don't really

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need to know right now. I know. I already just gave them my green flags, but green flags don't

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guarantee a date or a relationship. They help, but they can't guarantee it. That's true.

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All right. Well, I'm proud of you, Hunter. That's great. Anyone else have a question?

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Anyone been on a date?

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I could talk a little bit, I guess.

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Okay, Jesse. What's up?

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I am chatting with this girl that I met a few weeks ago. She's really great. There's

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a lot of really good things. We haven't met in person. We FaceTimed.

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a couple times. We talked for like five and a half hours last Friday night. But

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there were some things that she had, there were some things like when I first

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met her that were, you know, as I got, she told me about like, there's some things

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that like she told me about herself that she had been through or whatever that

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was like, okay. We might actually meet this Friday because I'm, we're going up

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to Mass to Maine on a family vacation. So I might actually meet her Friday night.

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Is she long distance? Huh? Is she long distance? She's in Rhode Island. I'm in

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Pennsylvania. Yeah. So she's five hours away right now. But I think, I know she

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would move for the right situation, you know, but I guess here's what I'm

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thinking. And I, you'll probably not like this idea, but maybe, I don't know, but I'm

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thinking like, cause prior to meeting her, I had taken, I feel like the Lord had led

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me to like really just press in and just connect with him for a couple months. So

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I was doing that and I had this date in mind of the 5th of July. And so that came

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and went. And so it was Friday, the next day on the 6th, I got on, I got back on the

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one app that I'm on the Holy app. And I reached out to the girl I was talking to

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when I did go, like when I did just, I told her back in April that I just felt

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the Lord's calling me to do this. So I was just going to be obedient. So I reached

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out to her and the girl I was talking to back in April and she didn't get back to

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me till Thursday. But then I saw this girl on the app that Monday and then she

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disappeared before I could write her. And then, and then she popped back up on

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Thursday and we connected. Like she, she got back to me right away, which isn't

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that super common for people I reach out to. I don't usually hear from anyone if I

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reach out to them. Like, I don't know, I've been, that's been interesting, I

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guess, that whole, the whole app thing. I mean, people reach out to you, you don't

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get back to them. And I used to get back to everyone, or if they would write me,

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I'll try to write them. And then it's just like, at some point, it's just like

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not really worth. It just doesn't seem, I don't know. That's another question at

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some point. But

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well, it's hard to stay motivated with, you know, electronic dating, it's hard to

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stay motivated, especially if there are no wins. So if you would have taken my

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book club, you would have heard that, you know, the psychology behind dating apps

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is the same psychology as slot machines. And think about putting your quarters

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into a slot machine over and over again, and just not winning. Yeah, just it just

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gets really, you know, like, exhausting.

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Yeah, yeah. So anyhow, in some ways, here's what I'm thinking. Here's what I'm

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praying about. Okay, I'll just share this with you. In some ways, like this girl I

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connected with, she does seem great. Like she's fun. She, she makes me laugh. Like

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she's really joyful, which I love. She's very godly. She's been through some

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things like she's made some, she's had some self forced errors, like she has a

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son from like a rebound relationship after her husband was cheating on her.

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So that was I knew she had a son, but I didn't realize it wasn't from like her

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marriage. You know, that was one thing I found out on the front, I think soon

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after I met her, like she shared all that stuff. And what's her custody

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situation? 100% like the guy has no. He has no custody at all. And and the only

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like, way that he like she allows him to see her son. But like, it's all on her to

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let it happen. So he claims she didn't claim paternity for him. I guess not. The

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course didn't remove his custody. She just never she put didn't put him on the

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birth certificate. So he doesn't. He doesn't have paternity rights.

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Yes, but he has the son has his last name, which is super odd. Like he came to the

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hospital. Interesting. Yeah. She's also Brazilian. I didn't know that either. So

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that was something else. But her parents live in the state. She goes to her

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parents church. Like she sings on the worship team. And how often does the does

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her son's father see him? How often does she let that happen and promote that?

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He just allowed that like a couple, like last weekend, like a few days ago.

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But before that, it probably had been a while.

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Okay.

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But anyhow, all I have to say is like in some ways I feel like I could be content just kind

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of going—like I feel like the Lord really showed me a lot the last couple months.

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And like one thing He's been speaking to me is like taking advantage of the season

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of singleness and like really knowing Him.

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And so I'm considering just like kind of going back into my little—just going back

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into a season of just not pursuing anything right now and just connecting with the Lord

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in a deeper way.

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Well, a couple things in your situation that I just want to weigh in on is that, you know,

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your wife passed away, you know, very quickly, very tragically.

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And you know, when you've been married for a long time, it's really easy to try to go

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back to that level of relationship because that's what you know.

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That's where you feel safe.

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With having children and, you know, you have a few children and, you know, just because

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we feel ready to meet someone or, you know, whatever, you know, doesn't mean that the

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kids are ready.

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And so I think that the Lord has definitely slowed your roll in some ways, get your family

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on point.

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The other thing that I want to say about being married is you're not purposely leaning away

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from God when you're married, but you do lean into your spouse a lot.

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And so it's not that you don't know God, but you are used to being more interdependent or

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even codependent on a human.

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And so this is, you know, this is a time in your life where—and so I just want to help

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you reframe it.

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It's not a time for you to get to know Him better.

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It's a time for you to trust Him more and a time for you to go back to—how old were

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you when you got married before?

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Twenty-four.

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So you were young.

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And so get to a place where, you know, as a man, you know, not only do you trust God,

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but, you know, He's the Lord of your life.

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He's leading.

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I think that all men that are married would say that their wife has a lot of sway in their

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decisions and in their lives, especially good marriages where they respect and admire their

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wives, where they love them, where they're attracted to them.

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You know, women have a lot of, for lack of a better word, control on their husbands and

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on what their husbands do or the decisions that they make.

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And it's good and refreshing for you to have a time where you have the ability to just

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really follow after God with your whole heart.

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And I think that's good.

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Now, you're breaking some of my rules with Rhode Island, okay, because five and a half

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hours, long distance, never meeting in person, especially you, Jessie, because you're kind

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of a romantic and you're definitely a more feeler type of man.

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And you know, I don't want you catching feelings for someone that you've never even met in

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person.

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And five and a half hours of, you know, sharing your whole lives, I mean, you know a lot about

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this woman more than you should ever know about someone that you've never met in person.

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Because you know, five and a half hours, what are we going to do?

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We're going to deep dive.

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And that's where emotional connection and what I want you to watch out for.

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Some men have to watch out for physical connection.

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I think you have to watch out for emotional connection, which, you know, obviously would

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lead to physical connection at some level, but just watch out for like that emotional

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bond being created.

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And guys, I want to tell you guys this, because something just happened recently with one

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of my guys that kind of broke my heart, and this has only happened once before in the

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last six years, but he moved away from his children to marry a woman.

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And so, you know, obviously that is not what we want here.

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And you know, good relationship with his children and good relationship with his former

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spouse, but you know, decided that it was the right, and not just a little bit moving

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away like thousands of miles away.

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So yeah.

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So I'm not a big advocate, I'm not a big advocate at all of any co-parent isolating or alienating

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a parent for a love story.

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So that's why I'm asking about her baby daddy, because yeah, it may have been a bad decision

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that she made, but she made it.

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And now there's a child and that child has a father.

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And it sounds like that father is somewhat in the picture.

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And so I'm not an advocate of people separating children from their parents.

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If it's abusive, sure.

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It was, it was, it was abusive, but I mean, to her, to her, yeah.

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I mean, he had a restraining order, which is now lifted.

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But yeah, she.

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She does have complete control, but anyhow, no, it was definitely something I'm and here's how I feel

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I've said this to a couple people. I feel like I opened the oven

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You know on the fifth. I checked it. I checked the casserole and it wasn't quite done. That's kind of how I feel and

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Potential like that's I'm I'm

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Yeah, anyhow, so I

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Don't know you're you're a very kind and compassionate man and what I want you to watch out for and if I was your one-on-one

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Coach, I would be definitely protecting you from not just catching feelings, but catching feelings for damaged women that make bad decisions

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Because you seem to be drawn to those types and

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So and I was going to tell you there's a lot of women who have restraining orders against men and you guys there's a lot

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Of abused women out there. Okay, so don't hear what I'm not saying

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But I deal with women all the time that have restraining orders because of their own lack of boundaries and

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So who knows what's really true and real because we don't know this lady

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So we're not gonna judge her but we are gonna protect you from getting yourself involved in a circus

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Okay, because right now you have no monkeys and you don't need any

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Room

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So gentlemen, if any of you have an Achilles heel where you're you're in the masculine in a place where you know

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You find yourself with women who need to be rescued or women who have just a lot of problems

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or a lot of history

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Want you to take a look at that pattern?

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Because the type of women that I want all of you to partner with they're not perfect women

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But they're women that have done their work

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They're women that yeah, they may have some mistakes in their past, but they don't have any mistakes in their recent past

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They they have learned from their mistakes and like what Jesse's doing right now

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They've learned to lean on the Lord. They're not looking for a man to lean on

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They're not looking for Jesus with skin on it. Not right now

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Jesus with skin on it. Not right now. They're not looking for a meal ticket

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They're not looking for you to be their Savior at all

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And I'm just gonna tell you because I coach women and I've coached women for 30 years

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The women that are out there looking for saviors. They're the ones that usually find an oppressor

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Hmm. Yeah

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Yeah, it's just the dynamic that happens, you know, and so

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So yeah

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We want to be careful and men that are out there that are good men that are looking for that are

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Attracted to women that are in you know

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situations

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That those men usually get really grossly taken advantage of and so we don't want that

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Yeah, and when I when I found out about these things with her

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Yeah, my first thought was like, okay. Yeah, I'm I'm

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Like I wanted to just maybe just not pursue it anymore. But at the same time

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You know you say it's a yes to it's a no. Yeah, and I mean I

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I've actually been really impressed with with her like she was very forthright and and what you know

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And what she got herself into whatever which would have been

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You know two and a half like her son's

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Like 16 months. She's he's 16 months old. So

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He's a baby. I know

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Baby

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So, I mean just doing the math that's like over two years ago, you know

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but

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She was on her way out of that relationship and then she found out she was pregnant

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Her and her husband could never get pregnant. Like she'd never got pregnant with her

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Again, there's no there's no judgment towards her. There's just there's just wisdom for you. Yeah, and so

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What you're describing are definitely yellow flags and yes

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And there's distance. There's a distance and once again in order for you to pursue

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This woman and for you know something to happen here, you know, she would have to relocate

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and and to bring her child, you know away from that parental relationship and

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and so

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Those are just things to take in consideration

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If you got to know her better first of all you guys I want to tell all of you this because this is really a

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Perfect segue into this so forget about Jesse situation right now. Let's just talk about long distance for a second

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Long distance. It's very difficult to get to know the real person and

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We're bumping up against

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2,000 success stories and last year single right now and I will tell you that at least 30% of them have been long distance

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You can't drive there in a day and drive back. That's what I consider long distance. You can't you know

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be very difficult to drive there,

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spend time and drive back home.

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So Jesse's situation would be considered long distance

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because that's 10 hours round trip.

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And so it's difficult to get to know the real person.

449
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And what we're finding is that these relationships

450
00:30:17.520 --> 00:30:20.040
have a tendency to go a lot faster.

451
00:30:20.040 --> 00:30:22.020
These relationships have a tendency

452
00:30:22.020 --> 00:30:24.600
to have bad emotional boundaries

453
00:30:24.600 --> 00:30:26.120
because there's a lot of time spent

454
00:30:26.120 --> 00:30:28.440
just listening to each other breathe on the phone

455
00:30:28.520 --> 00:30:30.960
and creating this fantasy in your mind

456
00:30:30.960 --> 00:30:32.760
of what being together is gonna be like.

457
00:30:32.760 --> 00:30:34.840
And then when you finally do get to be together,

458
00:30:34.840 --> 00:30:37.560
it's kind of like Disneyland for three days.

459
00:30:37.560 --> 00:30:39.600
You have these marathon dates and stuff.

460
00:30:39.600 --> 00:30:41.160
And the problem with that is,

461
00:30:41.160 --> 00:30:43.840
is that we've had way too many people

462
00:30:45.320 --> 00:30:47.040
end up married to someone

463
00:30:47.040 --> 00:30:50.280
that they really didn't know well enough to marry

464
00:30:50.280 --> 00:30:53.080
and it's ended up being toxic.

465
00:30:53.080 --> 00:30:56.880
And so I really want to not put fear in y'all,

466
00:30:56.880 --> 00:30:59.360
but put wisdom in your hearts of,

467
00:30:59.360 --> 00:31:04.360
hey, in order for there to ever be a long distance marriage,

468
00:31:04.600 --> 00:31:07.920
like marry someone that you knew long distance,

469
00:31:07.920 --> 00:31:12.160
they have to relocate during the courtship phase

470
00:31:12.160 --> 00:31:15.200
and they have to do life with you in person

471
00:31:15.200 --> 00:31:16.820
for an extended amount of time,

472
00:31:16.820 --> 00:31:18.700
I'd say at least three to six months

473
00:31:18.700 --> 00:31:20.700
before you actually marry them.

474
00:31:21.920 --> 00:31:23.100
That is wisdom.

475
00:31:24.360 --> 00:31:25.720
Up close and personal,

476
00:31:25.720 --> 00:31:27.520
people can hide their crazy from afar,

477
00:31:27.520 --> 00:31:30.400
but I promise you they cannot hide it

478
00:31:30.400 --> 00:31:33.240
day in and day out, up close and personal.

479
00:31:33.240 --> 00:31:34.080
They just can't.

480
00:31:36.320 --> 00:31:37.160
That's good.

481
00:31:39.160 --> 00:31:41.080
So Jesse, yeah, if you're rolling through town,

482
00:31:41.080 --> 00:31:43.440
you want to stop and say hi.

483
00:31:43.440 --> 00:31:46.840
Brazilian women are hot.

484
00:31:47.760 --> 00:31:51.440
We've had several Brazilian women married in this program

485
00:31:51.440 --> 00:31:53.520
and they're passionate people

486
00:31:53.520 --> 00:31:58.520
and just attractive and a lot of things.

487
00:32:02.880 --> 00:32:05.480
I sent her your book.

488
00:32:05.480 --> 00:32:06.320
Oh, good.

489
00:32:06.320 --> 00:32:07.160
Which one?

490
00:32:07.160 --> 00:32:08.080
The new one?

491
00:32:08.080 --> 00:32:09.400
I gave her the options

492
00:32:09.400 --> 00:32:12.240
and she chose Married in 12 Months or Less.

493
00:32:12.240 --> 00:32:13.080
Oh.

494
00:32:14.280 --> 00:32:18.600
You're like, is that a harbinger?

495
00:32:18.600 --> 00:32:22.200
It came yesterday and she's read a couple of chapters

496
00:32:22.200 --> 00:32:23.800
already, I think, so.

497
00:32:23.800 --> 00:32:25.040
It's a good book.

498
00:32:25.040 --> 00:32:25.880
Yeah.

499
00:32:25.880 --> 00:32:29.640
You guys, someone stole my new book.

500
00:32:29.640 --> 00:32:33.040
Someone hacked my new book, Modern Dating Sucks.

501
00:32:33.040 --> 00:32:34.600
They put it through AI.

502
00:32:34.600 --> 00:32:37.280
They barely changed anything

503
00:32:37.280 --> 00:32:42.280
and then they created an AI Audible on Spotify

504
00:32:42.560 --> 00:32:43.840
and stole my book.

505
00:32:43.840 --> 00:32:46.040
Someone stole my book, my new book.

506
00:32:46.040 --> 00:32:47.760
You guys, this AI world that we're living in

507
00:32:47.760 --> 00:32:49.160
is the wild, wild west.

508
00:32:49.160 --> 00:32:50.240
It's insane.

509
00:32:50.280 --> 00:32:53.080
So I'm trying to get Spotify to take it down right now.

510
00:32:53.080 --> 00:32:54.720
It's just ridiculous.

511
00:32:54.720 --> 00:32:57.880
And the author that's on the book, on my book,

512
00:32:57.880 --> 00:33:00.640
on this thing, isn't even a real person.

513
00:33:00.640 --> 00:33:01.840
It's not even a real name.

514
00:33:01.840 --> 00:33:04.160
And it's just like, oh my God.

515
00:33:04.160 --> 00:33:05.880
So anyway.

516
00:33:05.880 --> 00:33:09.480
So you're saying that Jackie Jorman book I have is fake?

517
00:33:09.480 --> 00:33:11.200
Jackie Jorman.

518
00:33:14.000 --> 00:33:15.280
It's a corny joke, I know.

519
00:33:16.920 --> 00:33:19.760
Yeah, it's probably the Timu version.

520
00:33:20.720 --> 00:33:21.560
My book.

521
00:33:23.400 --> 00:33:26.080
You guys be safe out there because it's wild.

522
00:33:26.080 --> 00:33:27.360
It's wild out there.

523
00:33:27.360 --> 00:33:28.600
Okay.

524
00:33:28.600 --> 00:33:30.760
Okay, so Jesse, good update.

525
00:33:32.200 --> 00:33:33.040
Thanks for your wisdom.

526
00:33:33.040 --> 00:33:33.880
I hear ya.

527
00:33:33.880 --> 00:33:35.000
I hear what you're saying.

528
00:33:35.000 --> 00:33:37.320
And we'll be praying over that

529
00:33:37.320 --> 00:33:40.640
and let us know how that works out.

530
00:33:40.640 --> 00:33:41.720
Thanks.

531
00:33:41.720 --> 00:33:43.280
You know Babylon B?

532
00:33:43.280 --> 00:33:45.120
You know Babylon B?

533
00:33:45.120 --> 00:33:46.360
Yeah, I know what it is.

534
00:33:46.360 --> 00:33:48.560
I just saw they posted a new one.

535
00:33:48.560 --> 00:33:52.760
They said, heaven confirms the praying hands emoji

536
00:33:52.760 --> 00:33:54.720
counts as an actual prayer.

537
00:33:57.360 --> 00:33:58.200
Amen.

538
00:34:00.800 --> 00:34:01.640
So funny.

539
00:34:01.640 --> 00:34:02.480
Okay, all right.

540
00:34:02.480 --> 00:34:03.880
We got a bunch of guys on here.

541
00:34:03.880 --> 00:34:05.640
All you guys that came late, just so you know,

542
00:34:05.640 --> 00:34:07.880
in August we're going to be integrating

543
00:34:07.880 --> 00:34:09.600
into a co-ed format.

544
00:34:09.600 --> 00:34:12.400
So you only have men's only like this,

545
00:34:12.400 --> 00:34:13.920
like live once a month.

546
00:34:13.920 --> 00:34:16.639
And then you'll have access to your men's only group

547
00:34:16.679 --> 00:34:18.639
where you'll have coaches there

548
00:34:18.639 --> 00:34:21.560
that can answer you in real time

549
00:34:21.560 --> 00:34:22.480
because we're getting ready

550
00:34:22.480 --> 00:34:25.040
for our new community-based matchmaking app

551
00:34:25.040 --> 00:34:27.920
and a lot of one-on-one coaching in that

552
00:34:27.920 --> 00:34:28.760
and just different things.

553
00:34:28.760 --> 00:34:31.199
So we'll talk more about that in a while.

554
00:34:31.199 --> 00:34:32.600
But Deanne, what do you got?

555
00:34:35.880 --> 00:34:39.679
I mean, I had a pretty productive coaching session

556
00:34:39.679 --> 00:34:40.520
the other day.

557
00:34:41.400 --> 00:34:42.239
Okay.

558
00:34:42.639 --> 00:34:47.639
My coach likes to ask me the hard questions.

559
00:34:50.040 --> 00:34:53.719
They practically had her reduce to tears.

560
00:34:56.440 --> 00:34:58.280
It's just been like,

561
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:10.160
It's been just a tough situation, like these guys I know I shared when I went on an actual

562
00:35:10.160 --> 00:35:14.240
like day with somebody who actually is from this community and we hit it off like really

563
00:35:14.240 --> 00:35:15.240
well.

564
00:35:15.240 --> 00:35:21.280
Our three video conversations went good and I was like quick to make sure we got to meet

565
00:35:21.280 --> 00:35:26.560
each other like live in person or like a two and a half hour drive separate from each other.

566
00:35:26.560 --> 00:35:30.880
Probably been willing to drive all the way down here to get to Pennsylvania because it's

567
00:35:30.880 --> 00:35:33.760
like driving to Boston basically.

568
00:35:33.760 --> 00:35:35.920
But she's like, I liked her.

569
00:35:35.920 --> 00:35:36.920
She's very considerate.

570
00:35:36.920 --> 00:35:39.920
She's like, how about we just meet halfway in New York City?

571
00:35:39.920 --> 00:35:41.400
But sure, I'll show you around.

572
00:35:41.400 --> 00:35:44.520
She's never seen like Times Square, Rockefeller Center, none of that stuff.

573
00:35:44.520 --> 00:35:55.400
So we had fun and she just came clean that it was like she thought that she was like

574
00:35:55.400 --> 00:36:02.320
ready to do another long distance thing and apparently she was not and it was just one

575
00:36:02.320 --> 00:36:07.560
of those things I'm like, please, please tell me that it was not something I said or did

576
00:36:07.560 --> 00:36:10.000
that gave you the ick, that made you feel uncomfortable.

577
00:36:10.000 --> 00:36:11.000
That's not what I'm about.

578
00:36:11.000 --> 00:36:17.120
I'm trying to be like really considerate on that sort of aspect and I really wish she

579
00:36:17.120 --> 00:36:22.800
kind of did because I don't like being told like it wasn't nothing that you did wrong.

580
00:36:22.800 --> 00:36:24.680
It was her, you know what I mean?

581
00:36:24.680 --> 00:36:31.960
So it was long overdue for me to have a coaching session and remember that thing I told you

582
00:36:31.960 --> 00:36:34.400
about that she asked the hard questions.

583
00:36:34.400 --> 00:36:37.160
So she was like, Dan, let's get to the heart of the matter.

584
00:36:37.160 --> 00:36:42.840
Like you're known for being hard on yourself and I want to know where that's coming from.

585
00:36:42.840 --> 00:36:52.660
So I told her like, I come from like a broken home and a dysfunctional family and it's so

586
00:36:52.660 --> 00:37:00.060
dysfunctional that I have to distance myself and I still am to this day.

587
00:37:00.060 --> 00:37:07.940
And it's one of those things that I spent 30 years praying for there to be healing and

588
00:37:07.940 --> 00:37:13.380
breakthrough and it's still not only has it still happened like, like we are brother and

589
00:37:13.380 --> 00:37:14.380
sister manipulative.

590
00:37:14.380 --> 00:37:16.380
So I have to keep my distance from them.

591
00:37:16.380 --> 00:37:19.620
Me and my parents don't get along.

592
00:37:19.620 --> 00:37:24.460
We're getting more and more older, more and more sick.

593
00:37:24.460 --> 00:37:30.340
And I'm blessed to have been going to the church that I'm attending and the Lord brought

594
00:37:30.340 --> 00:37:35.100
me some community, but a lot of them just came in one, especially when they started

595
00:37:35.100 --> 00:37:37.980
like getting married and having kids.

596
00:37:37.980 --> 00:37:41.700
So these past like few years, actually, it's been really hard.

597
00:37:41.700 --> 00:37:46.820
Like I just realized that a few months from now will be Thanksgiving and Christmas, the

598
00:37:46.820 --> 00:37:47.820
loneliest time of the year.

599
00:37:47.820 --> 00:37:52.460
I literally don't have anybody anywhere to go to on the holidays.

600
00:37:52.460 --> 00:37:58.180
And I tell people at church, like, like, Hey, you know, in a way, basically like, please

601
00:37:58.180 --> 00:38:03.340
tell me there's a spot to me to just share a meal with you guys or something like that.

602
00:38:03.340 --> 00:38:04.340
And that doesn't happen.

603
00:38:04.340 --> 00:38:09.420
So where, where do you live at?

604
00:38:09.420 --> 00:38:10.420
In Derby, Connecticut.

605
00:38:10.420 --> 00:38:11.420
I'm sorry.

606
00:38:11.420 --> 00:38:12.420
Okay.

607
00:38:12.420 --> 00:38:17.180
You live in Connecticut and how old are you?

608
00:38:17.540 --> 00:38:18.540
25.

609
00:38:18.540 --> 00:38:19.540
25.

610
00:38:19.540 --> 00:38:20.540
Okay.

611
00:38:20.540 --> 00:38:21.540
And you've never been married?

612
00:38:21.540 --> 00:38:22.540
No.

613
00:38:22.540 --> 00:38:23.540
Not married.

614
00:38:23.540 --> 00:38:24.540
No kids.

615
00:38:24.540 --> 00:38:25.540
Okay.

616
00:38:25.540 --> 00:38:26.540
Yeah.

617
00:38:26.540 --> 00:38:27.540
Wow.

618
00:38:27.540 --> 00:38:28.540
Yeah.

619
00:38:28.540 --> 00:38:31.940
You, so you had a coaching session with Renee?

620
00:38:31.940 --> 00:38:32.940
Not Renee.

621
00:38:32.940 --> 00:38:33.940
Annette.

622
00:38:33.940 --> 00:38:34.940
Annette.

623
00:38:34.940 --> 00:38:35.940
Okay.

624
00:38:35.940 --> 00:38:36.940
Yeah.

625
00:38:36.940 --> 00:38:39.860
I mean, that's really, you guys, that that's, that's real right there.

626
00:38:39.860 --> 00:38:44.020
You know, I had to go no contact with my family too for years.

627
00:38:44.020 --> 00:38:46.660
They weren't safe people and I had to.

628
00:38:46.660 --> 00:38:47.660
It's hard.

629
00:38:47.660 --> 00:38:49.020
It's hard to go no contact with your family.

630
00:38:49.020 --> 00:38:50.500
You love your family.

631
00:38:50.500 --> 00:38:52.380
You want to be in proximity to them.

632
00:38:52.380 --> 00:38:53.380
It's really rough.

633
00:38:53.380 --> 00:38:55.940
It's hard to hold that line.

634
00:38:55.940 --> 00:39:00.020
But I was able to for, you know, sometimes years at a time.

635
00:39:00.020 --> 00:39:04.980
And I just want to let you know that, you know, I had the same prayer as you and God

636
00:39:04.980 --> 00:39:08.220
actually, you know, did answer that prayer.

637
00:39:08.220 --> 00:39:14.900
And I was able to be in contact with my mother and my brothers and, you know, before for

638
00:39:14.900 --> 00:39:17.340
about four years until she passed away.

639
00:39:17.340 --> 00:39:25.660
So I had about four years of good time with her as a safer version of her before she went

640
00:39:25.660 --> 00:39:26.660
to heaven.

641
00:39:26.660 --> 00:39:35.140
So that was, that was good and, and still continue to have relationship with her husband

642
00:39:35.140 --> 00:39:40.500
and their son, who's my, you know, who's my brother, you know, same mom, different dad.

643
00:39:40.500 --> 00:39:46.260
And so, but yeah, well, we got to get you some community first and foremost, Dan, we're

644
00:39:46.260 --> 00:39:54.820
going to get you some community in your area because we do have people in your area to,

645
00:39:54.820 --> 00:39:59.660
you know, whoever it was that, you know, you were talking to in the community.

646
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:03.600
There's a lot more women in that area, especially, you know, Jesse.

647
00:40:04.720 --> 00:40:05.200
Where was she?

648
00:40:05.200 --> 00:40:05.840
Was she down?

649
00:40:05.840 --> 00:40:07.760
She was down in Pennsylvania.

650
00:40:08.720 --> 00:40:09.440
Yeah.

651
00:40:09.440 --> 00:40:09.940
Okay.

652
00:40:10.640 --> 00:40:16.480
Man, that whole northeast block is really not that far away from each other.

653
00:40:16.480 --> 00:40:17.440
Is it Connecticut?

654
00:40:17.440 --> 00:40:20.560
It's only two and a half hours from Pennsylvania.

655
00:40:20.560 --> 00:40:21.840
You're really close to the city.

656
00:40:22.480 --> 00:40:26.400
But we have lots of community in New York City.

657
00:40:26.400 --> 00:40:34.880
We have lots of community in Pennsylvania and then even in Connecticut, Massachusetts,

658
00:40:35.760 --> 00:40:39.520
D.C., all those areas over there.

659
00:40:40.080 --> 00:40:42.720
So we gotta get you moving forward.

660
00:40:42.720 --> 00:40:43.600
We gotta spotlight you.

661
00:40:44.640 --> 00:40:47.360
She mentioned that also, like, a lot.

662
00:40:47.360 --> 00:40:52.400
I'm like, it would be nice if there was, like, even, like, a list because, like, I go to the

663
00:40:52.400 --> 00:40:56.960
events and the thing is, like, they don't have a name, but they're not always going to put the

664
00:40:56.960 --> 00:40:59.840
two letters to indicate their state always.

665
00:40:59.840 --> 00:41:06.800
And those that do it tend to be, like, rural south, midwest, California kind of thing.

666
00:41:06.800 --> 00:41:08.480
So, I mean, I'm not doubting you.

667
00:41:08.480 --> 00:41:09.040
No, for sure.

668
00:41:09.760 --> 00:41:15.040
A lot of people in this area just, like, don't say, or people don't tell me who they are or

669
00:41:15.040 --> 00:41:16.640
don't point me in the direction.

670
00:41:16.640 --> 00:41:20.160
Like, you just got a point and I'll just, I'll strike up a conversation.

671
00:41:20.800 --> 00:41:23.200
You're like, yeah, I'm friendly.

672
00:41:23.200 --> 00:41:24.400
I'll start a conversation.

673
00:41:24.400 --> 00:41:26.640
Yeah, and that's what the new app is going to be able to do.

674
00:41:26.640 --> 00:41:31.120
So it's going to, like, you'll be able to, so you guys, this brings up, you know, some

675
00:41:31.120 --> 00:41:35.200
of the new technology that we have access to with this new app.

676
00:41:35.200 --> 00:41:40.080
You know, Dan is making a strong case for why it's needed, but you'll be able to build

677
00:41:40.080 --> 00:41:41.440
your village on the app.

678
00:41:41.440 --> 00:41:45.520
So the app will immediately show you the other users that live in proximity to you.

679
00:41:46.240 --> 00:41:49.920
So it's going to show you the people that live in proximity to you because we want to

680
00:41:49.920 --> 00:41:51.200
do life with other people.

681
00:41:51.760 --> 00:41:56.400
You know, Dan's situation, and some of you may have the same situation, we have a lot

682
00:41:56.400 --> 00:42:00.960
of women that are in Dan's situation where they just, they don't have a 2am friend.

683
00:42:00.960 --> 00:42:03.120
They don't have people that they're doing life with.

684
00:42:03.120 --> 00:42:06.720
Everyone's busy with their own lives, their own families, their own stuff, and single

685
00:42:06.720 --> 00:42:08.480
people get left out a lot.

686
00:42:08.480 --> 00:42:11.280
And, you know, this is why this is necessary.

687
00:42:12.080 --> 00:42:17.440
It's necessary because God created us for relationship, not just romantic relationship,

688
00:42:17.440 --> 00:42:19.280
relationship in general.

689
00:42:19.280 --> 00:42:23.680
And so everyone should feel like they're surrounded by, you know, a village of people

690
00:42:23.680 --> 00:42:25.280
that love them and care about them.

691
00:42:25.280 --> 00:42:32.560
And so, so Dan, I am believing right now that by the holidays, you will be, you know, in

692
00:42:32.560 --> 00:42:37.120
community and friendships and possibly even in, you know, a romantic relationship.

693
00:42:37.760 --> 00:42:39.040
So let's get you spotlighted.

694
00:42:39.040 --> 00:42:39.760
You seem tall.

695
00:42:39.760 --> 00:42:40.260
Are you tall?

696
00:42:42.800 --> 00:42:43.440
Not really.

697
00:42:43.440 --> 00:42:44.160
I'm 5'8".

698
00:42:45.360 --> 00:42:47.040
That's not tall according to most people.

699
00:42:48.000 --> 00:42:52.960
Well, you, you, you carry yourself tall just so you know, but 5'8 is fine.

700
00:42:53.760 --> 00:42:57.360
I, if you guys have ever heard my joke, my joke is all men are 5'8".

701
00:42:57.920 --> 00:43:00.080
So that's actually, that's true with me.

702
00:43:01.120 --> 00:43:01.620
I know.

703
00:43:02.320 --> 00:43:05.040
Listen, all American men are either 5'8 or 5'9".

704
00:43:05.040 --> 00:43:05.600
I don't care.

705
00:43:05.600 --> 00:43:06.100
Fight me.

706
00:43:09.120 --> 00:43:09.620
Yeah.

707
00:43:10.480 --> 00:43:12.960
You'd be surprised how many people are like disappointed.

708
00:43:12.960 --> 00:43:15.280
Like, Dan, why did I, why did we think you were taller?

709
00:43:15.360 --> 00:43:16.880
I'm like 5'8".

710
00:43:17.440 --> 00:43:21.360
For some reason right now, just you sitting there, you seem really tall.

711
00:43:21.360 --> 00:43:26.000
Like we have a guy that lives up in Alberta, like Edmonton, Canada.

712
00:43:26.560 --> 00:43:32.560
And he's, he's really, his name is Dave and he's like 6'5".

713
00:43:32.560 --> 00:43:34.320
And you, you remind me of him.

714
00:43:34.320 --> 00:43:39.360
And when he's on camera, you guys, he sits exactly the same way as you.

715
00:43:39.360 --> 00:43:43.360
So, but listen, 5'8 is plenty tall.

716
00:43:43.360 --> 00:43:44.400
My husband's 5'8".

717
00:43:45.040 --> 00:43:47.120
Now, would you date a taller girl?

718
00:43:47.120 --> 00:43:48.240
A girl that's taller than you?

719
00:43:48.240 --> 00:43:49.520
Because I'm taller than my husband.

720
00:43:50.640 --> 00:43:51.140
I would.

721
00:43:52.400 --> 00:43:53.760
I mean, I, I would.

722
00:43:54.560 --> 00:43:55.600
Let's see where it goes.

723
00:43:55.600 --> 00:43:59.360
As long as, even if it's an Amazon, I'll see if I can make it work.

724
00:44:00.800 --> 00:44:01.840
An Amazon.

725
00:44:01.840 --> 00:44:07.680
Oh, the girl that I'm trying to talk to in church, she's actually, she's actually tall

726
00:44:07.680 --> 00:44:09.840
and isn't too tall for me if she's in high heels.

727
00:44:10.560 --> 00:44:10.880
Okay.

728
00:44:10.880 --> 00:44:11.680
Well, there you got it.

729
00:44:12.400 --> 00:44:13.440
That's all right.

730
00:44:13.520 --> 00:44:17.920
But the good news for you guys is the majority of women, I think average height for women

731
00:44:17.920 --> 00:44:19.440
is still like 5'3", 5'4".

732
00:44:20.080 --> 00:44:24.880
The majority of women are very short, so you'll be fine.

733
00:44:25.600 --> 00:44:30.960
Actually, I just thought of someone incredible to introduce you to, Dan.

734
00:44:32.720 --> 00:44:33.120
All right.

735
00:44:33.120 --> 00:44:41.040
I need to, I need to, I'll message you offline and on Messenger and, and give you some feedback.

736
00:44:41.040 --> 00:44:45.840
She's in Pennsylvania and she's incredible.

737
00:44:45.840 --> 00:44:47.600
Can you do that for all of us, Jackie?

738
00:44:48.240 --> 00:44:52.560
Yes, I want to do that for all of you, but I can't do that for you, David, and you know why.

739
00:44:53.200 --> 00:44:53.700
Why not?

740
00:44:54.320 --> 00:44:56.480
Because you got to work on some other things first.

741
00:44:56.480 --> 00:44:59.600
You got to get a job.

742
00:44:59.600 --> 00:45:00.100
I didn't.

743
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:03.260
Even though you're going to be on here, by the way, um, can you reopen the

744
00:45:03.260 --> 00:45:05.640
community part of the, the app?

745
00:45:05.640 --> 00:45:08.320
Because I really wanted to read all the comments and I didn't

746
00:45:08.320 --> 00:45:09.640
know you were going to disable that.

747
00:45:10.040 --> 00:45:10.440
Yeah.

748
00:45:10.440 --> 00:45:11.920
Well, the book club is over.

749
00:45:11.940 --> 00:45:13.280
Those book clubs are over.

750
00:45:13.300 --> 00:45:17.700
So the community portion of the book clubs ended.

751
00:45:18.680 --> 00:45:21.080
I know, but I really wanted to read all that.

752
00:45:21.080 --> 00:45:22.700
I mean, I paid a hundred dollars for this.

753
00:45:22.700 --> 00:45:24.320
I felt like, I feel like I didn't get.

754
00:45:25.080 --> 00:45:27.720
Well, you have access to your course material and your

755
00:45:27.720 --> 00:45:29.620
replays for the next 60 days.

756
00:45:30.000 --> 00:45:34.040
The community aspect cannot be monitored forever.

757
00:45:34.320 --> 00:45:37.520
You guys had five weeks to have community with each other.

758
00:45:37.520 --> 00:45:39.080
And that's what it said in your sign.

759
00:45:39.160 --> 00:45:40.440
That's what it said in your sign up.

760
00:45:40.460 --> 00:45:43.280
You can't give me access for a day or something to read it.

761
00:45:44.140 --> 00:45:46.100
I can't give you access to anything.

762
00:45:46.100 --> 00:45:49.000
I don't control that our tech team does and, and they're

763
00:45:49.000 --> 00:45:50.360
not going to turn it back on.

764
00:45:52.480 --> 00:45:52.960
Wow.

765
00:45:53.000 --> 00:45:53.440
Yeah.

766
00:45:53.440 --> 00:45:57.600
I, uh, I really wanted to read everyone else's input on there.

767
00:45:58.280 --> 00:46:04.240
Well, can I pay to be added to the current group just so I can restart it and just

768
00:46:04.240 --> 00:46:05.760
read everyone's comments and posts?

769
00:46:05.760 --> 00:46:09.040
And I don't think that's a good idea.

770
00:46:09.080 --> 00:46:13.560
I don't think, you know, I mean, if you want me to coach you here, I will, you

771
00:46:13.560 --> 00:46:16.800
know, in front of everyone, or I could just send you a private email of why,

772
00:46:17.120 --> 00:46:21.280
you know, I don't think you using our community as a place to meet women is

773
00:46:21.280 --> 00:46:23.920
the right fit for you in this season of your life.

774
00:46:23.920 --> 00:46:30.720
So we can do that here or we can do that privately, but, um, you know, it's, it's,

775
00:46:30.960 --> 00:46:34.200
it's not, it's not going to be, it's not going to be a match right now.

776
00:46:34.240 --> 00:46:37.880
You, there's other things that are more important that you need to work on right

777
00:46:37.880 --> 00:46:46.320
now in order to be eligible, at least in our community for any kind of matchmaking

778
00:46:46.320 --> 00:46:48.000
or spotlighting or introductions.

779
00:46:48.240 --> 00:46:52.200
And listen, there's a lot of men that have come in here in not the most

780
00:46:52.320 --> 00:46:53.320
ideal seasons.

781
00:46:53.320 --> 00:46:54.840
They've come in here with addictions.

782
00:46:54.840 --> 00:46:58.360
They've come in here with financial issues and problems.

783
00:46:58.360 --> 00:47:01.320
They've come in here hot off of the divorce circuit.

784
00:47:01.360 --> 00:47:05.280
They've come in here with, you know, just all kinds of things that were

785
00:47:05.280 --> 00:47:06.400
going on in their lives.

786
00:47:06.800 --> 00:47:11.320
You know, we've had guys come in here with, you know, bad health diagnoses and

787
00:47:11.320 --> 00:47:12.600
all kinds of different things.

788
00:47:13.000 --> 00:47:17.680
And what all of those guys had in common is they came in here wanting to focus on

789
00:47:17.680 --> 00:47:21.160
themselves, do their heart work, get themselves to a place where they feel

790
00:47:21.160 --> 00:47:26.360
strong and they felt stable and they had something to offer a wife, you know, in

791
00:47:26.360 --> 00:47:29.360
the season of life that you're in right now, what do you have to offer a wife?

792
00:47:29.640 --> 00:47:31.720
You don't have a job, you don't have any money.

793
00:47:31.720 --> 00:47:33.040
You live with your parents.

794
00:47:33.480 --> 00:47:36.920
You, you know, are going through some other things that I won't mention.

795
00:47:36.920 --> 00:47:42.240
I mean, there isn't a woman that is going to be attracted to that or want to partner

796
00:47:42.240 --> 00:47:47.840
with that unless she herself is, you know, not really healthy.

797
00:47:48.120 --> 00:47:49.000
And so we don't want to make.

798
00:47:49.120 --> 00:47:54.840
You're not going to disable my access to the recordings, I mean, to the, the date

799
00:47:54.840 --> 00:47:56.240
modern dating sex app.

800
00:47:56.480 --> 00:48:00.960
So can I at least listen to finish listening to the replays of the sessions?

801
00:48:00.960 --> 00:48:03.520
Are you going to kick me out of the last or single program?

802
00:48:03.520 --> 00:48:05.680
I don't know what you're, what are you alluding to here?

803
00:48:07.080 --> 00:48:11.880
David, we, we didn't, we didn't disable your access to the book club.

804
00:48:13.440 --> 00:48:14.560
No, no, I don't know.

805
00:48:14.560 --> 00:48:15.160
I don't know.

806
00:48:15.160 --> 00:48:15.760
I don't know.

807
00:48:15.760 --> 00:48:16.440
The book club.

808
00:48:17.840 --> 00:48:19.800
No, no, I don't know what you're saying.

809
00:48:19.800 --> 00:48:23.200
Components, the components that have turned off in the book club have turned off for

810
00:48:23.200 --> 00:48:23.720
everyone.

811
00:48:23.720 --> 00:48:24.840
It has nothing to do with you.

812
00:48:25.000 --> 00:48:25.280
No.

813
00:48:25.280 --> 00:48:28.320
What you said right now, are you alluding to the fact that you might kick me out of

814
00:48:28.320 --> 00:48:29.280
last year's single?

815
00:48:29.280 --> 00:48:30.320
I don't know what you're saying, right?

816
00:48:30.320 --> 00:48:32.640
No, I'm not saying I'm going to kick you out of last year's single.

817
00:48:32.640 --> 00:48:37.000
I'm trying to tell you that the men that have come into this program that have been

818
00:48:37.000 --> 00:48:40.920
dealing with any kind of life controlling problems have been here for themselves and

819
00:48:40.920 --> 00:48:41.960
not to meet women.

820
00:48:42.400 --> 00:48:46.320
I am telling you that I do not believe that you're at a place in your life where you

821
00:48:46.320 --> 00:48:47.680
need to be here to meet women.

822
00:48:47.960 --> 00:48:53.280
And so if that is what you're here to do, then I will, I won't, I won't be allowing

823
00:48:53.280 --> 00:48:54.160
that to happen.

824
00:48:54.520 --> 00:48:55.120
No.

825
00:48:55.120 --> 00:48:59.040
When I said I wanted to read the comments from the, from the book club, I wanted to

826
00:48:59.040 --> 00:49:03.080
learn what other people, I wanted to read the conversation so I could.

827
00:49:04.120 --> 00:49:07.000
Well, I'm not talking about that comment.

828
00:49:07.000 --> 00:49:10.240
I'm talking about the comment that you made of, can you spotlight me?

829
00:49:10.440 --> 00:49:12.080
Can you do that for all of us?

830
00:49:12.320 --> 00:49:17.440
So I'm saying not right now, possibly later, depending on whether or not you're

831
00:49:17.440 --> 00:49:19.360
willing to be here to do the work.

832
00:49:20.440 --> 00:49:27.880
But the other question about the, the, the book club, I guess there's no, yeah, I

833
00:49:27.880 --> 00:49:33.440
guess obviously it's my fault for not, I don't want to do this in front of all

834
00:49:33.440 --> 00:49:34.280
these people on here.

835
00:49:34.840 --> 00:49:36.280
Why don't you go ahead and just send us an email?

836
00:49:36.280 --> 00:49:36.960
Okay.

837
00:49:38.000 --> 00:49:39.280
I mean, I could, yeah.

838
00:49:39.880 --> 00:49:41.560
But can I email you directly?

839
00:49:41.560 --> 00:49:47.000
Like you or David, can we get on a call or talk about all this?

840
00:49:47.080 --> 00:49:51.040
When you email our admins, you are emailing me directly because anything that

841
00:49:51.040 --> 00:49:54.760
has to do with me or questions for me, they ask me and then I give them the

842
00:49:54.760 --> 00:49:57.080
answers and then they communicate with you.

843
00:49:57.080 --> 00:49:58.040
In other words, I'm sorry.

844
00:49:58.040 --> 00:49:59.920
I didn't like take the time to read all the.

845
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:03.480
posts in the comments, but I was just, I've been really busy.

846
00:50:03.480 --> 00:50:09.040
So I wanted to just do, you know, have another day, a week to do it.

847
00:50:09.080 --> 00:50:10.840
I mean, I paid a hundred dollars for this.

848
00:50:10.840 --> 00:50:14.680
I mean, once again, the community portion of the book club

849
00:50:14.680 --> 00:50:16.140
has not been disabled for you.

850
00:50:16.140 --> 00:50:18.120
It's been disabled for everyone.

851
00:50:18.120 --> 00:50:19.720
The book club is over.

852
00:50:19.720 --> 00:50:20.480
It's over.

853
00:50:21.560 --> 00:50:28.360
So you have to understand we have staff that are paid to monitor and answer,

854
00:50:28.360 --> 00:50:31.600
and we can't pay those people indefinitely to do those things.

855
00:50:31.600 --> 00:50:34.200
That's why the book club is five weeks long and then it's over.

856
00:50:34.480 --> 00:50:37.080
And then you have access to replays for another 60 days.

857
00:50:37.160 --> 00:50:37.640
Okay.

858
00:50:38.200 --> 00:50:39.960
So email us with any questions.

859
00:50:39.960 --> 00:50:41.120
We'd be happy to answer it.

860
00:50:41.120 --> 00:50:42.120
We're on your side.

861
00:50:42.120 --> 00:50:43.080
We're here for you.

862
00:50:43.280 --> 00:50:48.760
Once again, there isn't anyone who comes here that is willing to do the work

863
00:50:48.760 --> 00:50:54.480
that we're not going to totally support and totally help and try to, you know,

864
00:50:55.360 --> 00:50:57.640
get them to wherever it is that they want to go.

865
00:50:57.680 --> 00:50:59.320
So that's what we're here to do, guys.

866
00:50:59.360 --> 00:51:00.920
Anyone else have any questions?

867
00:51:03.680 --> 00:51:04.320
I do.

868
00:51:05.080 --> 00:51:05.480
Okay.

869
00:51:05.520 --> 00:51:06.760
Hey, David, how are you?

870
00:51:07.680 --> 00:51:09.240
I'm doing pretty good.

871
00:51:09.240 --> 00:51:10.800
A lot of warfare, that's for sure.

872
00:51:10.800 --> 00:51:15.600
But I guess my biggest question is like reality check.

873
00:51:15.680 --> 00:51:22.280
It just seems like I keep on hitting the wall with financial stuff, but I don't

874
00:51:22.280 --> 00:51:26.880
know if it's more of a, just a stretching season or if it's a thing where I'm,

875
00:51:27.120 --> 00:51:32.840
it's truly like, I struggle with it to know whether it's wise to move forward

876
00:51:32.840 --> 00:51:36.240
with starting to date people or not, because to be honest, I'm struggling

877
00:51:36.240 --> 00:51:42.800
financially, so yeah, and the place I've lived up for the last almost 20 years,

878
00:51:43.280 --> 00:51:45.840
um, time's up at the end of October.

879
00:51:46.640 --> 00:51:48.760
And as of now, I have nowhere to go.

880
00:51:48.800 --> 00:51:51.800
But the flip side of that is I am totally mobile.

881
00:51:51.800 --> 00:51:55.080
I can pick up and start my life over, move anywhere.

882
00:51:55.560 --> 00:51:59.480
So like long distance doesn't really exist in that sense for me.

883
00:52:00.160 --> 00:52:05.800
It, you know, if something, you know, if something materializes.

884
00:52:06.280 --> 00:52:06.600
All right.

885
00:52:06.600 --> 00:52:09.560
Well, let me, let me try to, you know, without trying to dig into all your

886
00:52:09.560 --> 00:52:13.000
business here in the men's group, you know, I see David's on here now.

887
00:52:13.000 --> 00:52:17.360
So when I met David, uh, 20 years ago, you know, before we got married, he

888
00:52:17.360 --> 00:52:21.000
moved in next door to me because he had a divorce, he had a foreclosure of his

889
00:52:21.000 --> 00:52:25.760
house, he had repossession of his two cars, um, him and his former wife filed

890
00:52:25.760 --> 00:52:30.000
for bankruptcy because they were living the American dream of living above their

891
00:52:30.000 --> 00:52:32.400
means on credit cards and different things.

892
00:52:32.400 --> 00:52:34.640
And they both had ministry salaries.

893
00:52:34.640 --> 00:52:38.840
So, you know, without two salaries, especially making what they were making,

894
00:52:39.000 --> 00:52:41.720
they couldn't afford to keep any of that stuff if they were going to get

895
00:52:41.720 --> 00:52:45.000
divorced and, you know, take their paycheck elsewhere.

896
00:52:45.400 --> 00:52:48.640
Um, so when I met him, that was the state that he was in gentlemen.

897
00:52:49.240 --> 00:52:50.920
And he's not embarrassed to say it.

898
00:52:50.960 --> 00:52:52.280
I'm not embarrassed to say it.

899
00:52:52.360 --> 00:52:56.720
You know, he was moving into a rental, which is where I lived because

900
00:52:56.720 --> 00:52:58.000
I was going through a divorce.

901
00:52:58.360 --> 00:53:03.840
Um, and you know, he, he moved in, he had a, a car that he bought

902
00:53:03.840 --> 00:53:06.560
with cash and you can imagine what that car looked like.

903
00:53:07.120 --> 00:53:10.640
Um, he bought it from some old lady or old man that had part, you

904
00:53:10.640 --> 00:53:12.440
know, hardly put any miles on it.

905
00:53:12.440 --> 00:53:13.120
But what was it, babe?

906
00:53:13.120 --> 00:53:14.440
Was it like a little Buick?

907
00:53:14.840 --> 00:53:16.040
Like how old was it?

908
00:53:16.040 --> 00:53:17.000
Like 20 years old.

909
00:53:19.640 --> 00:53:20.040
Sorry.

910
00:53:20.040 --> 00:53:20.440
I've muted.

911
00:53:21.000 --> 00:53:23.040
It was a 94 Buick Century.

912
00:53:23.600 --> 00:53:27.480
It was, uh, had portions in it.

913
00:53:28.000 --> 00:53:28.480
Can you hear me?

914
00:53:29.360 --> 00:53:29.720
Yeah.

915
00:53:29.840 --> 00:53:31.160
94 Buick Century.

916
00:53:31.160 --> 00:53:34.120
And I met him in the year 2007.

917
00:53:34.880 --> 00:53:35.280
Okay.

918
00:53:35.440 --> 00:53:40.560
So a 94 Buick Century, um, you know, and it was burgundy.

919
00:53:40.960 --> 00:53:41.960
It was burgundy.

920
00:53:41.960 --> 00:53:45.400
And it had, you know, like a couch inside, you know, how those cars

921
00:53:45.440 --> 00:53:49.000
were built, like the seats for like your couch at home and your living room.

922
00:53:49.000 --> 00:53:54.440
Velour seats, you know, they were actually very comfortable and cozy.

923
00:53:54.480 --> 00:53:56.480
I was really actually kind of nice for a minute.

924
00:53:57.240 --> 00:53:57.840
You're silly.

925
00:53:57.840 --> 00:53:58.280
Okay.

926
00:53:58.520 --> 00:54:01.360
So you guys, this is the state of life that he was in.

927
00:54:01.360 --> 00:54:05.440
He was still working a ministry job that he had been at for over 15 years.

928
00:54:05.720 --> 00:54:06.880
They were paying him.

929
00:54:07.640 --> 00:54:09.160
Hardly any money at all.

930
00:54:09.320 --> 00:54:10.720
He had a bankruptcy.

931
00:54:10.720 --> 00:54:11.800
He had a divorce.

932
00:54:11.800 --> 00:54:13.320
He had repossessions.

933
00:54:13.320 --> 00:54:15.520
He had, you know, foreclosure.

934
00:54:15.720 --> 00:54:19.920
So he wasn't, he wasn't, you know, at the top of his game.

935
00:54:20.680 --> 00:54:24.720
And so I just want to let you guys know that it's not about, you know, you

936
00:54:24.720 --> 00:54:26.640
having all of your ducks in a row.

937
00:54:26.640 --> 00:54:28.640
It's not about not being in a hard time.

938
00:54:28.640 --> 00:54:30.640
You know, good people go through hard seasons.

939
00:54:31.120 --> 00:54:31.720
They do.

940
00:54:32.120 --> 00:54:36.480
But if you know, if you're stuck in a hard season for a long period of time,

941
00:54:36.480 --> 00:54:40.240
meaning that, you know, nothing's changing and, you know, you're not

942
00:54:40.240 --> 00:54:41.880
trying to get out of that season.

943
00:54:41.880 --> 00:54:45.600
And the thing that I was attracted to about David is, is that I knew that

944
00:54:45.680 --> 00:54:50.920
the season that he was in was circumstantial and that he wouldn't stay

945
00:54:50.920 --> 00:54:54.960
there, that he wasn't going to stay there, that, yeah, he was going through

946
00:54:54.960 --> 00:54:58.880
kind of hell with gasoline underwear on, but he wasn't going to be staying

947
00:54:58.880 --> 00:55:00.120
there for a long period of time.

948
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:08.680
time because he was, you know, driven, he had a great work ethic, you know, really great

949
00:55:08.680 --> 00:55:10.400
work ethic.

950
00:55:10.400 --> 00:55:12.280
And so these are the things that women are looking for.

951
00:55:12.280 --> 00:55:17.300
So David, here's my advice to you is that, you know, if you're the kind of person who

952
00:55:17.300 --> 00:55:23.640
is faithful and loyal to a job, doesn't matter if, you know, you're, you're having trouble.

953
00:55:23.640 --> 00:55:28.600
If you lost a job, then you just go find another job until, you know, there's plenty of people

954
00:55:28.600 --> 00:55:32.280
hiring out there, you know, find something to do to make money.

955
00:55:32.280 --> 00:55:35.360
What a woman wants to see is that not that a man has money.

956
00:55:35.360 --> 00:55:37.360
Now there are hypergamous women.

957
00:55:37.360 --> 00:55:42.200
There are women out there that are, you know, for lack of better word, gold diggers or hypergamous.

958
00:55:42.200 --> 00:55:43.680
They want a meal ticket.

959
00:55:43.680 --> 00:55:45.000
They want the soft life.

960
00:55:45.000 --> 00:55:47.080
They want a man to take care of them.

961
00:55:47.080 --> 00:55:48.540
And you'll know who those women are.

962
00:55:48.540 --> 00:55:50.560
And those women are not going to be attracted to any of you.

963
00:55:50.560 --> 00:55:54.280
So because no offense to any of you, none of you, none of you have enough money for

964
00:55:54.280 --> 00:55:55.920
those types of women.

965
00:55:55.920 --> 00:55:56.920
Okay.

966
00:55:57.040 --> 00:55:58.880
Just forget about those ladies.

967
00:55:58.880 --> 00:56:02.160
But there are other women who they're kind of lazy.

968
00:56:02.160 --> 00:56:03.920
They don't have their lives together.

969
00:56:03.920 --> 00:56:05.240
They're not hypergamous.

970
00:56:05.240 --> 00:56:10.160
They're not looking for a rich man, but they, they don't want to have to do anything.

971
00:56:10.160 --> 00:56:14.560
They rather just let you go out and work and they just sit at home and, you know, watch

972
00:56:14.560 --> 00:56:17.560
soaps and eat bonbons or whatever's on TV nowadays.

973
00:56:17.560 --> 00:56:18.560
I don't know.

974
00:56:18.560 --> 00:56:20.400
Um, they're not driven women.

975
00:56:20.400 --> 00:56:22.120
They're not ambitious women.

976
00:56:22.120 --> 00:56:25.560
They're not, um, they don't cook, they don't clean.

977
00:56:25.560 --> 00:56:27.600
You guys got to watch out for those women too.

978
00:56:27.600 --> 00:56:31.040
And you're going to know, you're going to know who those women are.

979
00:56:31.040 --> 00:56:32.040
You know how you're going to know?

980
00:56:32.040 --> 00:56:33.280
Cause they're always in trouble.

981
00:56:33.280 --> 00:56:34.280
They're always in debt.

982
00:56:34.280 --> 00:56:35.280
They always need money.

983
00:56:35.280 --> 00:56:40.080
They're always complaining about, you know, oh, I can't pay this bill or this can't happen.

984
00:56:40.080 --> 00:56:43.460
They don't seem to work, or at least they don't seem to work regularly, or they're always

985
00:56:43.460 --> 00:56:48.960
complaining about their job or saying that they can't wait to quit their job.

986
00:56:48.960 --> 00:56:53.280
No woman should be quitting her job just because she gets married.

987
00:56:53.280 --> 00:56:54.280
Okay.

988
00:56:55.040 --> 00:56:58.040
Because she didn't have a baby with you and now she's staying home to take care of the

989
00:56:58.040 --> 00:56:59.040
baby.

990
00:56:59.040 --> 00:57:00.440
So they can't wait to quit their job.

991
00:57:00.440 --> 00:57:02.840
And they also have had a lot of jobs.

992
00:57:02.840 --> 00:57:04.720
All of these are red flags.

993
00:57:04.720 --> 00:57:05.720
Okay.

994
00:57:05.720 --> 00:57:07.540
They're all red flags.

995
00:57:07.540 --> 00:57:11.240
So David, no woman is going to turn down her nose at you.

996
00:57:11.240 --> 00:57:12.240
Okay.

997
00:57:12.240 --> 00:57:13.240
Yeah.

998
00:57:13.240 --> 00:57:15.040
There's going to be certain women that are going to turn their nose down at you.

999
00:57:15.040 --> 00:57:20.560
So I shouldn't say that, but there are plenty of women that respect a hardworking man, even

1000
00:57:20.560 --> 00:57:22.120
if he's struggling.

1001
00:57:22.120 --> 00:57:29.400
A man who just keeps getting up and going back after it, gets knocked down, but gets

1002
00:57:29.400 --> 00:57:31.120
up again.

1003
00:57:31.120 --> 00:57:32.800
That's a song.

1004
00:57:32.800 --> 00:57:37.040
You know, those are the qualities that you want to be developing in this season of your

1005
00:57:37.040 --> 00:57:38.040
life.

1006
00:57:38.040 --> 00:57:42.200
And if you don't know where you're going to live, there's lots of places to live.

1007
00:57:42.200 --> 00:57:45.080
So I don't understand your full situation.

1008
00:57:45.080 --> 00:57:48.200
If you just don't have the money to pay your rent, if you're living somewhere for free,

1009
00:57:48.200 --> 00:57:53.000
if you're living with family, I don't know your full situation, but, you know, becoming

1010
00:57:53.000 --> 00:57:59.440
independent, becoming stable and, you know, and just, and just being out there and showing,

1011
00:57:59.440 --> 00:58:02.520
you know, a woman that you're going to work hard.

1012
00:58:02.520 --> 00:58:06.220
You're going to continue to try until you succeed.

1013
00:58:06.220 --> 00:58:09.320
That's all women really want to know is that, hey, if we get in for hard times, because

1014
00:58:09.320 --> 00:58:12.280
most of the time you are going to get in hard times in marriage.

1015
00:58:12.280 --> 00:58:15.440
If you get into a hard time that you're just not going to be a quitter, that you're going

1016
00:58:15.440 --> 00:58:23.040
to be someone who just keeps going and trying until, until you make it happen.

1017
00:58:23.040 --> 00:58:24.600
That's what women want to see in men.

1018
00:58:24.600 --> 00:58:25.600
Okay.

1019
00:58:25.600 --> 00:58:29.640
Well, just to volunteer some information, I've been living at this place for a long

1020
00:58:29.640 --> 00:58:30.840
time with a family member.

1021
00:58:30.840 --> 00:58:36.040
My older brother owns the place, but the rent is way below market.

1022
00:58:36.040 --> 00:58:44.160
So I mean, I don't know, like I am open to any kind of interim lifestyle, but when I'm

1023
00:58:44.160 --> 00:58:46.480
in that, I don't think that's very attractive.

1024
00:58:46.480 --> 00:58:51.440
You know, if I'm living in a van somewhere, don't live in a van, don't live in a van down

1025
00:58:51.440 --> 00:58:52.440
by the river.

1026
00:58:52.440 --> 00:58:53.440
Okay.

1027
00:58:53.440 --> 00:58:57.580
But you know, it's not, it's not completely unattractive since you don't have any children.

1028
00:58:57.580 --> 00:59:01.240
If you get into a situation where you're in a house with some mates, you know, you got

1029
00:59:01.240 --> 00:59:06.360
some roommate, you know, some housemates, there are plenty of men that have gotten married

1030
00:59:06.360 --> 00:59:08.120
from a housemate situation.

1031
00:59:08.120 --> 00:59:11.100
So if I were you, I'd be looking for something like that.

1032
00:59:11.100 --> 00:59:15.580
Some guys that have an extra, you know, that have a room for rent in a house that they're

1033
00:59:15.580 --> 00:59:16.580
sharing.

1034
00:59:16.580 --> 00:59:19.100
What city do you live in?

1035
00:59:19.100 --> 00:59:23.180
I'm in Harleysville, Pennsylvania, or near it, real close to it.

1036
00:59:23.180 --> 00:59:25.660
What big city, what big city is that?

1037
00:59:25.660 --> 00:59:30.340
It's halfway between Philadelphia and Allentown, Bethlehem, about halfway in between.

1038
00:59:30.340 --> 00:59:33.620
Would you consider that an expensive area?

1039
00:59:33.620 --> 00:59:34.620
Yeah.

1040
00:59:34.620 --> 00:59:40.340
I mean, I'm in Montgomery County, which is the third most populous County and it's, it's

1041
00:59:40.580 --> 00:59:41.980
on the pricier side for Pennsylvania.

1042
00:59:41.980 --> 00:59:44.820
And what is it that you do for a living or that you have been doing?

1043
00:59:45.820 --> 00:59:52.060
Well, the thing is, I guess I'm in a transition now, like I've only been doing things like

1044
00:59:52.060 --> 01:00:00.060
DoorDash because I was so burned out and basically had with my amount of the CPT.

1045
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:03.440
ESD after that situation shift that was so toxic.

1046
01:00:04.080 --> 01:00:07.020
That's the, that's the other thing that I'm battling on the emotional level.

1047
01:00:07.560 --> 01:00:14.120
So, but I understand that, you know, all the red flags I blew past and it was

1048
01:00:14.120 --> 01:00:20.160
kind of triangulated because a person that I, that I thought was to be

1049
01:00:20.160 --> 01:00:22.580
respected was not helping the situation.

1050
01:00:22.580 --> 01:00:25.400
They were making it worse, you know, because they had the same

1051
01:00:25.400 --> 01:00:26.620
wounding that was not healed.

1052
01:00:27.220 --> 01:00:30.180
So anyway, well, yeah.

1053
01:00:30.220 --> 01:00:35.000
And, and the other mistake I made is I assumed that a local leader of a

1054
01:00:35.000 --> 01:00:39.100
small house church had the same skills and gifting as you do, and that

1055
01:00:39.100 --> 01:00:41.520
was kind of naive of me to think that.

1056
01:00:42.760 --> 01:00:45.420
It was not saying that you're saying that this person was promoting

1057
01:00:45.420 --> 01:00:47.220
the relationship and it was unhealthy.

1058
01:00:47.940 --> 01:00:48.560
Yes.

1059
01:00:48.640 --> 01:00:49.120
Yes.

1060
01:00:49.120 --> 01:00:52.360
And for me to think that they would have the same skill set as you do, it was

1061
01:00:52.360 --> 01:00:56.820
kind of naive of me because I mean, to have your level of gifting,

1062
01:00:56.860 --> 01:00:57.980
not everybody has that.

1063
01:00:58.020 --> 01:00:58.940
So, yeah.

1064
01:01:00.060 --> 01:01:03.340
Well, you guys, it is true, you know, to what David is saying, you know, it

1065
01:01:03.340 --> 01:01:05.540
is true that, you know, we do this.

1066
01:01:05.600 --> 01:01:10.960
I've been doing it for a really long time and, you know, have a lot

1067
01:01:10.960 --> 01:01:12.720
of wisdom around relationships.

1068
01:01:12.760 --> 01:01:17.340
And just because someone's your pastor, just because someone really cares about

1069
01:01:17.340 --> 01:01:21.300
you or loves you doesn't mean that they necessarily will understand the

1070
01:01:21.300 --> 01:01:24.160
dynamics of an unhealthy relationship.

1071
01:01:24.160 --> 01:01:25.640
So what David is saying is true.

1072
01:01:25.640 --> 01:01:29.120
I can't tell you how many people have come to me and said, I don't understand,

1073
01:01:29.160 --> 01:01:32.520
you know, how I ended up in this really toxic marriage because my pastor really

1074
01:01:32.520 --> 01:01:36.080
liked them or, you know, my pastor really thought we should get married and really

1075
01:01:36.240 --> 01:01:37.680
encouraged us to get married.

1076
01:01:37.680 --> 01:01:41.240
And, and because, you know, like you said, church leaders, just because

1077
01:01:41.240 --> 01:01:44.820
they're church leaders don't, don't make, it doesn't make them, you

1078
01:01:44.820 --> 01:01:46.880
know, relationship wise.

1079
01:01:47.320 --> 01:01:50.940
And so, so yeah, definitely, definitely be careful with that.

1080
01:01:51.240 --> 01:01:56.040
But it sounds, David, like you're just in a situation where, I think it'd be

1081
01:01:56.040 --> 01:01:59.520
really great for you to, you know, be getting in community, be getting to know

1082
01:01:59.520 --> 01:02:00.240
someone.

1083
01:02:00.840 --> 01:02:04.320
It does sound like there's some things that you need to really be focusing on

1084
01:02:04.320 --> 01:02:09.540
and working out and making a priority at least during the season of your life

1085
01:02:10.320 --> 01:02:12.840
before, you know, looking for a girlfriend.

1086
01:02:13.200 --> 01:02:18.240
And so, and, you know, obviously around here, dating is for mating.

1087
01:02:18.260 --> 01:02:20.860
So looking for a girlfriend that would become a wife.

1088
01:02:21.300 --> 01:02:27.660
And so, so yeah, if I were you, I would really start focusing in on that.

1089
01:02:28.780 --> 01:02:32.300
You guys, we'll, we'll coach you in relationships here, but we'll also coach

1090
01:02:32.300 --> 01:02:33.740
you, we'll also life coach you.

1091
01:02:34.060 --> 01:02:38.780
So if you need help getting some ideas, getting some practical application of how

1092
01:02:38.780 --> 01:02:43.580
you can, you know, get out of some kind of rut that you're in, get unstuck, get

1093
01:02:43.580 --> 01:02:46.700
moving forward, we're definitely here for you for that as well.

1094
01:02:46.980 --> 01:02:47.500
Okay.

1095
01:02:48.260 --> 01:02:50.220
Um, for sure.

1096
01:02:50.740 --> 01:02:59.020
So David, we gotta, we definitely have to, uh, so the two Davids here are kind of

1097
01:02:59.020 --> 01:03:07.500
rowing similar boats, needing to figure out some income, uh, DoorDash.

1098
01:03:07.500 --> 01:03:12.460
I mean, not that, not that, you know, being an independent contractor of all

1099
01:03:12.460 --> 01:03:15.740
these different apps and different things you can work for like Instacart and

1100
01:03:15.740 --> 01:03:17.980
DoorDash and Uber Eats and Uber and all that.

1101
01:03:18.300 --> 01:03:20.900
Not that that can't be a viable income.

1102
01:03:21.580 --> 01:03:23.420
Uh, you got to work at like a real job.

1103
01:03:23.420 --> 01:03:26.780
You can't work at like a hobby, but not that it can't be a viable income.

1104
01:03:27.220 --> 01:03:30.620
It just is not the kind of stability that a marriage minded

1105
01:03:30.620 --> 01:03:31.700
woman is looking for.

1106
01:03:32.500 --> 01:03:38.660
Just so you know, not that you have to have a W2 and a 401k, although that's

1107
01:03:38.660 --> 01:03:44.700
not bad, um, you can't be an entrepreneur, but if you are an entrepreneur, you need

1108
01:03:44.720 --> 01:03:49.280
to, you know, show a woman, especially at this age group, you guys, you guys

1109
01:03:49.280 --> 01:03:51.120
are not in your twenties, okay.

1110
01:03:51.120 --> 01:03:53.480
You're not just kind of up and coming and figuring it out.

1111
01:03:53.960 --> 01:03:59.760
You guys are old enough to know better and old enough to realize that whatever

1112
01:03:59.760 --> 01:04:01.080
you've been doing, isn't working.

1113
01:04:01.080 --> 01:04:02.520
So it's time to try something new.

1114
01:04:03.080 --> 01:04:03.280
Okay.

1115
01:04:03.280 --> 01:04:07.440
I'm saying that with as much grace as I have in my heart, because I

1116
01:04:07.440 --> 01:04:08.760
do have a lot of grace for you.

1117
01:04:09.160 --> 01:04:12.440
There's no judgment here, but I'm telling you how women are.

1118
01:04:12.780 --> 01:04:16.060
And the only kind of women that will be attracted to that level of instability

1119
01:04:16.060 --> 01:04:17.900
are women that you do not want.

1120
01:04:20.020 --> 01:04:20.940
You don't want them.

1121
01:04:21.620 --> 01:04:24.700
They're going to bring you even lower.

1122
01:04:31.820 --> 01:04:34.500
Well, I wanted to ask another question, but I mean, I can let other

1123
01:04:34.500 --> 01:04:36.060
people go if they haven't gone, but.

1124
01:04:38.540 --> 01:04:39.660
I don't know what time this ends.

1125
01:04:39.660 --> 01:04:40.620
It usually ends at eight.

1126
01:04:41.140 --> 01:04:41.660
Yeah.

1127
01:04:41.680 --> 01:04:44.560
I, yeah, my, I didn't even know you were going to be on here where it was.

1128
01:04:44.840 --> 01:04:45.200
Yeah.

1129
01:04:45.440 --> 01:04:45.800
Yeah.

1130
01:04:48.200 --> 01:04:48.480
Yeah.

1131
01:04:49.640 --> 01:04:51.320
Does anyone else have any other questions?

1132
01:04:51.320 --> 01:04:53.000
John, Christopher.

1133
01:04:54.320 --> 01:04:57.600
Uh, anybody else is here?

1134
01:04:58.640 --> 01:04:59.160
Blake.

1135
01:04:59.160 --> 01:05:00.040
I see Blake is here.

1136
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:04.500
Some of you guys when you guys which which guys which ones of you guys came in from Kingdom Seekers

1137
01:05:04.780 --> 01:05:07.940
You see me over there with Pedro and that crew

1138
01:05:08.540 --> 01:05:10.540
Do any of you guys come in from that?

1139
01:05:15.100 --> 01:05:20.820
Did you guys come in from my Instagram you new guys, where did you how'd you get here I

1140
01:05:21.820 --> 01:05:23.820
I

1141
01:05:24.860 --> 01:05:30.100
Heard about you from a interview you did with someone on YouTube. I can't remember who it was exactly

1142
01:05:30.800 --> 01:05:32.800
Okay, cool. All right, great

1143
01:05:33.420 --> 01:05:38.060
all right, so for those of you that have completed the heart work and

1144
01:05:38.740 --> 01:05:44.600
You know had your discovery call. So here's how it works for all of you newbies that don't know how it works

1145
01:05:45.600 --> 01:05:50.480
You come in you have access to the heart work in our new app

1146
01:05:50.880 --> 01:05:58.080
They'll you know, you guys will have access to coaching on Mondays heart were coaching one o'clock Eastern eight o'clock Eastern go

1147
01:05:58.480 --> 01:06:02.000
Watch the replays whatever you want. It's every Monday, so it doesn't matter

1148
01:06:02.800 --> 01:06:10.120
and then when you finish those four or five weeks of heart work you will have a discovery call and

1149
01:06:10.480 --> 01:06:15.400
That discovery call will be with me or another member of the team where we kind of assess where you are

1150
01:06:15.400 --> 01:06:17.640
What's going on what's happening with you?

1151
01:06:17.640 --> 01:06:24.480
and then if you're in a place where we feel like we can recommend you to the community and then you are able to

1152
01:06:24.880 --> 01:06:30.940
Get spotlighted you're able to because you guys we're here to make relationships. We're here to make connections

1153
01:06:30.940 --> 01:06:36.440
And so we want everyone to do heart work. All the ladies do their heart work. We want you guys to do heart work as well

1154
01:06:37.000 --> 01:06:41.880
It's a very you know a very simple but supernatural protocol

1155
01:06:42.000 --> 01:06:46.080
So do that if you haven't done it dig into it get it done

1156
01:06:46.520 --> 01:06:50.320
Have your discovery call you can email us when you're done and say hey, I'm done with heart work

1157
01:06:50.320 --> 01:06:55.640
I'd love to have my discovery call and then when you have that discovery call we can talk about next steps for you

1158
01:06:56.160 --> 01:07:00.940
Okay, we have all we have everything that you could want we have here. We have dating coaching for you

1159
01:07:01.080 --> 01:07:04.280
We have relationship coaching for you when you get into a relationship

1160
01:07:04.280 --> 01:07:09.160
We have premarital coaching for you when you're ready for that. If you're online, we have online coaching

1161
01:07:09.160 --> 01:07:12.480
We have heart work coaching inner healing coaching. We have

1162
01:07:13.560 --> 01:07:20.500
You know men's only coaching so we have everything to help you to be successful in this season of your life in lots of areas

1163
01:07:22.040 --> 01:07:28.220
But I just want you to know Dan that I'm gonna be looking into

1164
01:07:29.220 --> 01:07:35.460
That the area where you are and what's happening right now so that I can get you connected because I really want to do that

1165
01:07:35.460 --> 01:07:41.420
And then both both David's that are kind of struggling right now. You guys are in you know, some

1166
01:07:42.180 --> 01:07:47.980
Unstable places in life, you know, let's let's figure out what you guys need to do to do next steps

1167
01:07:47.980 --> 01:07:51.180
if you haven't done heart work yet, then that's gonna be your next step and

1168
01:07:52.740 --> 01:07:54.860
You have access to that in your app

1169
01:07:55.540 --> 01:07:57.340
Jackie on your website

1170
01:07:57.340 --> 01:08:03.180
the dating coaching and all that all I see is Renee like three people like it seems to be paid like

1171
01:08:03.660 --> 01:08:07.540
We have to pay for this or does it come with our last year single subscription?

1172
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Whatever is on my website is is not part of the program

1173
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the part of the program is in your app that you already purchased and

1174
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The heart work coaching that I'm talking about is group coaching. It's not one-on-one coaching and it happens on Mondays

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1 p.m. And 8 p.m. And

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What I was announcing this tonight tonight and some of you weren't here yet, so you wouldn't have heard it

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01:08:30.859 --> 01:08:32.859
And I don't think you were here David

1178
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You guys will have access to that group coaching for heart work. It used to be women only but we're integrating it to

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coed

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Coming soon with our new app, but in the meantime, you guys can do your heart work. You have access to it David

1181
01:08:47.700 --> 01:08:53.779
I don't know what the men's app looks like. So how do they have access to the to the heart work materials?

1182
01:08:53.779 --> 01:09:00.779
Is it just in the heart work courses in the men's? Okay, so I thought how do we get access to all the coaches though?

1183
01:09:00.779 --> 01:09:02.700
Like is it in there?

1184
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You don't have access to coaches until the new format rolls out

1185
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But you do have access to your heart work materials. So you can go ahead and start on that because that's in your group

1186
01:09:15.420 --> 01:09:21.100
Yeah, I signed up for last year single. I think in October November like what I have access to coaches back then

1187
01:09:21.100 --> 01:09:23.100
I didn't even start it yet

1188
01:09:23.260 --> 01:09:29.939
Well, you have access to coaches every week on the calendar you had access to me those coaches, okay

1189
01:09:30.939 --> 01:09:36.740
It's group coaching. It's not one-on-one coaching. And then when I first joined on Facebook, there is that spirit made match

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form or that I

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01:09:39.660 --> 01:09:41.660
don't know if that was a like

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do we get put into a

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01:09:44.580 --> 01:09:48.620
We have to fill out a matchmaking form or what is that? I've still got confused about that

1194
01:09:48.979 --> 01:09:55.740
Okay, well spirit made match is no longer relevant because we have a community-based matchmaking app coming out this summer so

1195
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So we're no longer using that database. That was a database to answer your

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01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:06.400
question and it's no longer being utilized. But everyone who did fill out a form on there,

1197
01:10:06.400 --> 01:10:12.720
you guys, we're going to be rolling that over. It'll be integrated so you won't have to pull

1198
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it out again, but you might want to change, you're probably going to change your pictures

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and stuff if you want to. Yeah, that data will be integrated into the new app. Does anyone have

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any questions for David since he's right there? Did anyone want to ask him anything? Yeah.

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I had a quick question about, not for whoever, you mentioned an interview or something after

1202
01:10:37.440 --> 01:10:43.040
the heart work or what'd you call it? Discovery call. Okay. I never did that. Is that something

1203
01:10:43.040 --> 01:10:47.920
that you just started doing? Because I did heart work last summer. No, it's something that you're

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01:10:47.920 --> 01:10:52.240
supposed to do. But like I said, the men's group has been a little bit more unstructured in the

1205
01:10:52.240 --> 01:10:59.280
last maybe two years. All the OGs, all the guys that were part of our original men's group,

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01:10:59.280 --> 01:11:02.960
they're all married now for the most part. There's probably two or three of them that are

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still single. That was our format with them. And so we're going back to that format. As you guys

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01:11:10.400 --> 01:11:17.360
can see, there's a lot fewer guys than ladies in last year's single. And over the years, this

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01:11:17.360 --> 01:11:26.320
number of you guys has gotten smaller and smaller. So allocating anything to such a small group of

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01:11:26.320 --> 01:11:30.640
people has been really difficult. And that's why we're going to integrate it all together so that

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you guys feel like you're really supported, that you have a clear path to success. And so that's

1212
01:11:36.560 --> 01:11:41.840
what we're doing now. All right. So Jesse, to answer your question, you can just email to get...

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If anyone didn't have a discovery call, but you did complete heart work, go ahead and email us

1214
01:11:46.240 --> 01:11:51.280
and we'll get you a discovery call so we can get you going forward on your single spotlight.

1215
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Got it.

1216
01:11:53.440 --> 01:11:57.520
And Hunter, you don't have to do that because you're part of the OG guys that are not married.

1217
01:11:57.520 --> 01:12:01.520
And so you've already done all that. We know you. We're already going to spotlight you.

1218
01:12:01.520 --> 01:12:07.600
I know. Another thing too, if these two women I see in shirts, if it's not meant to be,

1219
01:12:07.600 --> 01:12:12.640
can you help me integrate more into this community? I don't trust those dating apps.

1220
01:12:14.400 --> 01:12:19.760
Yeah, Hunter. Yeah, we're helping. What I love about Hunter, you guys don't know Hunter,

1221
01:12:19.760 --> 01:12:27.920
but Hunter has been around for a long time. Hunter has just... He's come leaps and bounds

1222
01:12:27.920 --> 01:12:33.120
from where he was when he first came in, in every area. But one thing I really like about Hunter

1223
01:12:33.120 --> 01:12:37.680
is that while he doesn't have a lot of relationship acumen and relationship experience,

1224
01:12:38.240 --> 01:12:46.400
he is a loyal friend. He is a faithful, hard worker. He's had the same job for a long time.

1225
01:12:46.560 --> 01:12:51.920
He's just known in his community. He keeps plugging in. He keeps showing up here,

1226
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and then his church, and other places. And so he's just a rock solid guy.

1227
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He's doing the work.

1228
01:12:57.680 --> 01:13:01.200
No. I just want to let you know. Yeah, he's doing the work. I just want to let you guys

1229
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know that you don't have to be perfect. And a good woman is not looking for a perfect man.

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She's looking for a man who is showing up and showing her that he is trustworthy and that

1231
01:13:12.480 --> 01:13:19.360
she can partner with him. That it's a safe place to partner. So that is where you want to become

1232
01:13:19.360 --> 01:13:25.840
in order to attract the right type of woman. Cool? Cool. Cool.

1233
01:13:26.880 --> 01:13:28.080
Okay. All right, guys.

1234
01:13:28.080 --> 01:13:33.600
Just email admin. Email admin at JackieDorman.com if we have not had a discovery call yet.

1235
01:13:33.600 --> 01:13:38.640
Jackie, the spirit mate match when I joined the Facebook group, the men's group in September,

1236
01:13:39.440 --> 01:13:44.320
I think it was September last year, maybe. When did y'all phase it out? I wonder if I could have

1237
01:13:44.320 --> 01:13:45.440
used it in the fall.

1238
01:13:46.560 --> 01:13:54.000
No, it hasn't been. It hasn't been used as a person-to-person dating app ever. It was a database.

1239
01:13:54.000 --> 01:13:55.520
It's been used as a resource.

1240
01:13:55.520 --> 01:14:00.080
It was a database for our matchmaking. It was a database when we used to matchmake. And so...

1241
01:14:00.960 --> 01:14:05.040
I think it was called the dating challenge when I first heard of you. Like the free,

1242
01:14:05.760 --> 01:14:12.240
the three video thing to watch. And then I got put into the Facebook group. And then I saw

1243
01:14:12.240 --> 01:14:18.160
everybody post, join spirit mate match. I don't know if you were posting. And I was like, what is

1244
01:14:18.160 --> 01:14:20.960
this? And I never really got...

1245
01:14:20.960 --> 01:14:25.760
Right. Well, once again, it's been... It's being... It's evolving.

1246
01:14:26.560 --> 01:14:27.360
Yeah.

1247
01:14:27.360 --> 01:14:35.280
Yeah, it's evolving. All right, guys. We're well beyond the hour. So let's

1248
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give an opportunity to close this out. Let me pray for you. And thank you for joining.

1249
01:14:43.200 --> 01:14:46.400
Thank you for Jackie for being on here. She's done an incredible job.

1250
01:14:47.440 --> 01:14:53.680
I think probably helping you guys get some clarity. She's always extremely good at doing that.

1251
01:14:53.680 --> 01:14:59.920
And I'm married to her. She helps me too, guys. So I really appreciate it.

1252
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:04.640
I bless her father God. We just thank you for these men on here. We thank you Lord that

1253
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you have men Lord that you are connected to that they see you and know you and that they are showing up to

1254
01:15:13.720 --> 01:15:16.220
to improve themselves and to really take

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01:15:17.040 --> 01:15:19.840
marriage and family to take their their

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Development very seriously. I thank you father God for them. I bless them. I speak life over them health wealth and prosperity

1257
01:15:27.200 --> 01:15:32.240
Prosperity I thank you right now Lord that you're continuing to show us guide us teach us

1258
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Change us grow us Lord. Give us space to be able to

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To activate and we just give you praise for it all in Jesus name

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01:15:42.080 --> 01:15:43.920
Amen, amen

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God bless you guys. Have a great evening