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Hey, Audrey.

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Audrey, is this your first time with us?

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Oh, good.

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Well, hey.

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Good to have you.

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You usually go to Carla's session.

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Hey, Kim, Chantelle.

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OK.

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Eddie?

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Amanda, I already forgot what you told me to call you.

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Edwidge is what I want to say.

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All right.

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Did I record?

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Yes.

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Ladies, it is so good.

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You got it right.

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Don't worry.

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OK, good, good.

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We're excited about tonight.

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We're going to do it a little different.

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You'll see as we go along.

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You're going to do a lot more sharing.

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We'll do a quick teaching, but I want to hear from you all.

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And so I'm going to pray.

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Father God, I thank you and give you your faith juice

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for this week.

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Father God, I thank you for these ladies.

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I thank you for the awesome work that you're

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doing in their lives.

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And I thank you, Lord God, that no matter what comes

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and what goes, they keep showing up.

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I thank you that they're resilient.

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I thank you, Lord God, that you have given them the stamina.

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You've given them the mind.

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You've given them the will, Lord God,

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to press in no matter what comes.

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And so Father, I thank you for a group of women that press.

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I just speak that over you, that that's part of your identity.

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You press.

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The Bible says that if any man puts his hands to the plow

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and turn back, he will take no pleasure in him

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because he takes no pleasure when we shrink back.

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Father God, I thank you for every one of these ladies

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who refuse to shrink back.

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When it looks like how they want to go and it falls apart,

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they still don't shrink back.

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They get up and they keep going.

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And so I thank you for them.

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I thank you for what you put on the inside of them.

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And I just serve notice to you ladies on tonight.

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It is when we carry these characteristics

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that we get to the promised land,

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that we get to every place in our life

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that God has called us to,

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that we come up to the call that he's calling us in

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in every area of our life.

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It requires resilience and you carry it.

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So I want you to grab a hold to that

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and know that you come equipped to do the thing

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that heaven is calling for you to do.

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Because although marriage is a light thing to the Lord,

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the greatest thing for his eye to behold is you.

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For the Bible says,

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for the joy that was set before him,

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he endured the cross.

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You were that joy.

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And so I want you to know that the Bible says

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that you're the apple of his eye.

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He has more concern and thought for you for the things.

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Seek ye first the kingdom of heaven and his righteousness.

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This is the way the word says it.

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And all these things shall be added unto you.

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So that tells you, he don't have a reason to keep it back.

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He's already given you his guarantee

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that all these things shall be added to.

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What is all these things?

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I don't know.

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All these things for you right now could be a working car.

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All these things for you right now could be some bills paid.

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All these things for you right now

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could be coming out of debt.

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All these things for you right now

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could be peace in your household

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and peace with your children

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and peace with your family and restore relationships.

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All these things for you could be right now is a marriage,

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but all of those things are all of those things

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that heavens have promised us.

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Nothing missing.

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Just because you get one don't mean you don't get the other

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because the Bible said,

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all these things shall be added unto you.

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And so Father God, I thank you.

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I thank you for your goodness.

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I thank you for your kindness.

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The Bible says that you honor your word above your own name.

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So if you honor your word above your own name,

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then there's nothing that I'm convinced

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that I'm exempt from because you are covenant keeping God.

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In Jesus name, amen.

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Amen.

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You know, it's so interesting that God told David

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that he will make an everlasting covenant with him.

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That no matter what came after him,

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he will keep his covenant to him.

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And David's sons, because of the things

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that had been sown into their bloodline

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did a whole wreck of mess.

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Things you be like,

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you gonna sleep with your father's wife?

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You rape your sister?

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You this, and God still kept his covenant.

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And so sometimes we believe

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that because we've done things that didn't serve us best,

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because something has fall apart

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and that we made the wrong decision,

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that God would refuse to keep his end of the deal,

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that he's gonna break his covenant with us

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because we've fallen short.

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But it's not true.

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We have an example right there in the word

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that once he gives his covenant,

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he is a covenant keeping God.

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No matter what comes or what goes,

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he's a covenant keeping God.

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He kept his covenant to David

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all the way to Jesus coming as the savior.

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That is the line that Jesus came through.

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He came through the line of David.

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He didn't come through a priesthood,

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but he is our high priest.

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You see, and so I just think

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that is a beautiful illustration

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for you ladies to grab hold to tonight.

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Listen, you can't get this, you can't get it wrong.

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You can only learn.

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That makes sense.

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So though, you may not do the best thing,

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but you don't lose.

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It keeps working in your favor.

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So maybe let me say this,

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you can do some wrong things or not the best thing for you,

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but you can't lose.

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And sometimes we think, man, I messed it up, I lost.

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You're not gonna lose.

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You're on the winning team.

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The Bible says that we are more than conquerors

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in Christ Jesus.

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That means we don't even fight the battle.

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In order to be more than a conqueror,

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it's already been won.

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You're more than the,

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a conqueror is the one who fights the battle and win,

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but you're more than that.

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Only because of the work of Christ.

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So let us not deny Christ of what he's done.

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Let him get his full reward in our life.

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Let people look at us and declare,

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that's Jesus' full reward right there.

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Let our life look like his goodness.

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Let our life look like his kindness.

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Let our life look like his forgiveness.

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Let our lives look like his hope.

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The Bible said, even though Abraham

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had considered himself dead, he hoped anyway.

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Even though Sarah was past her childbearing years,

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she believed the Lord anyway.

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Let your life look like somebody said,

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I don't care, I'm gonna believe him anyway.

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I may be 63, but what else I'm gonna do?

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I'm gonna believe him anyway.

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I'll believe him till I go in the grave,

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because the only other option is not to believe,

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and that's gonna make me sick because I want a husband.

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So I'm gonna believe anyway.

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Ha, how about that?

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I'm gonna believe anyway.

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All right, okay, okay, all right.

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So that's exciting.

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We are some believing anyway kind of people.

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We gonna be like Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego.

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Even if my God don't come for me,

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I ain't gonna bow down to you.

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Even if my God don't deliver,

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I won't bow down to your lies, Satan.

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Even if he don't come, you ain't gonna take me out like that.

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Even if he don't show up,

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you're not gonna get me in defeat.

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Even if he don't come, I'm not gonna lay on my couch

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and act like Jesus' blood isn't sufficient for me

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and cry my eyes out and believe that a God

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who gave everything he was has forsaken me,

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has forgotten about me, everything he did was for me.

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So even if it don't come the way I thought it was gonna come,

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I'm not gonna bow out to your lies,

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because the Bible says,

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let God be true and every man a liar.

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And Satan, today, you are the liar.

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And the Bible says, when the thief has been caught,

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he must pay back seven times that which he stole.

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So then you say to Satan,

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now pay up everything you've taken from me,

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my time when you gave your thoughts to my mind, pay it back.

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Yes, yes, hallelujah, that's right, Tiffany, amen.

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Amen, all right, so you ladies have been doing wonderful.

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We'd like to take time and to congratulate you

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and to celebrate you because this journey is a faith journey

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and if you don't know by now,

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a faith journey is not always sunshine and rainbows

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and Hershey's Kisses, it gets tough.

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Sometimes you gotta put on your comeback boots

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and trudge through the mud till you get to the other side.

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And sometimes it feel like ain't nobody coming

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to help you get over there,

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but one day you look up and you made it to the other side.

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And so ladies, for every time you make it to the other side

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of every lie that you're believing,

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of every thought that you're having,

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of every no that's in your face,

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or every time you put your hand to it

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and you have to start back over, you are doing well.

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You are doing very well.

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So I don't wanna get ahead,

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what we're gonna be talking about.

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So what I wanna do right now is,

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any housekeeping rules, just keep doing well.

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Y'all, yeah, there's nothing to update you on.

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Amanda, I wanna hear from you tonight too

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or send me a message or something.

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Okay, so this is, yes, you, Amanda.

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Yes, you.

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Okay, I've been thinking about you this week

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and I'm like, okay, I need to hear from Amanda.

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So this is what I want y'all to do.

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This is the first question.

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I told you I wanna hear from you tonight.

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And you're gonna unmute

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and you're gonna answer the question.

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I'm not gonna coach you.

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This is not coaching time.

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You're gonna answer the question.

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Oh, I wanna give you a big hug too, virtual hug.

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Yes, hug the Holy Spirit, hold it tight.

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Okay, this is the question.

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What's one win you experienced this week?

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One win, don't get a backstory

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cause it may take too much time.

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Y'all know how we are.

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Let's not deny the truth.

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Okay, one win this week in one simple sentence or two.

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One win this week.

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Think about it and tell me one win you had this week.

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If it's not this week, pick last week.

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this month. And when you're ready, just unmute and go for it.

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Okay, so I went to the noon time on Tuesday last week, so I could go dancing last Tuesday night.

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And so there's this, it's on Facebook. Ebony, you need to go. Okay.

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Okay. It's called Grace in Motion. It's a free Facebook. And so that's, we have the free dance

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lessons on Tuesday nights at a church usually, but this last time they went to the Bohemian

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Bowl, a live music dance place right there in Grapevine on Northwest Highway. So I went

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and got to dance. And so I'm so glad I did. Yay. Yeah. All right. Good share. Kim,

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Kim Smith, what are you going to share? Oh, well, I finally got the courage to get on a dating app.

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I just been really, just really fearful, but I just, I finally got on and actually

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talked to someone. So that was a big win for me. Way to go.

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Thanks. Thank you. Yeah, you're welcome. We're so happy for you.

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Let's go. Rapid Fire Popcorn. It could be you went on a date, you joined a dating app,

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ask a question. Me too. I joined a dating app and am I not loud enough? It's Roberta. I just

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can't find you. Roberta. The screen moves. I'm like, who is this? I got on a dating app

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and I set a strong boundary and I'm talking to a couple of gentlemen.

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She set a strong boundary and she got on a dating app and she's talking to a couple of

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gentlemen. Oh, three. All right. I am registered to go on a speed dating, a speed dating event in

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an area that I'm new to and just moved to. I almost I did not sabotage it by saying yes to

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babysit my niece and nephews. I'm going to go to the speeding date, speeding event instead,

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even though I'm nervous because I don't know anyone. I'm not familiar with the area,

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but I figure even though it's not a Christian event, it could be a nice experience.

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Yeah, we love that. Come on, new things. Come on. Rachel, I was about to ask you,

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who is Siri? What's going on? You got a stage name I don't know nothing about.

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I mean, that name was a little sexy. It's a French name.

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It's a French. It's French. It's because people comments and tell me that my smile is beautiful

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all the time. So it's my kind of prophetic name. So, yeah. Well, put that on your Facebook app.

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It is my favorite Facebook name, actually.

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Okay, go ahead. Were you about to share a win? Sorry.

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No, I got this. I got to send you an update. You're not gonna be you're not gonna be proud of

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me. I'll send you an email. Okay. I started what you what we talked about, but I didn't go

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all the way. I'll send you. I'll send you. Well, starting is a win. You started something.

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Yeah. I'll send you more. Okay. Good. Good. All right. Who else you chose not to react.

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You trust the God in a place that normally would have made you anxious. These are all ideas. Go for

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it. I have one. For me, it's no longer trying to control the outcome or control things. Just

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allow God to guide me and do his thing while I sit back and just observe. So yeah, that's a big one.

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Come on. Yeah, it's pretty cool.

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That's so good. That's so good. All right. Question number two. Question number two is

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what do you think God was trying to reveal to you? So if you didn't get question number one,

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and you I mean, you actually had one, you can just tie it in if you want to respond.

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So let's say you didn't get a chance. I'm gonna let you go one second. Let's say you didn't get

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a chance to share what, you know, the win was, but you can share the win was this and I believe

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that God was trying to reveal to me. You got it? Because the next question is, what do you think

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God was trying to reveal to you through that experience? Are we all together? Okay, go for it,

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Daisy. Okay.

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So, the win for me is that I've been using my voice.

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One of the last times I asked you a question,

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you were saying to just, you know, you're in control.

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You use your voice to say what you want,

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what you don't want.

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And this guy that I've been talking to

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for a little over a month now,

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I've been able to just be very honest

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and open about some things that are okay with me

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at this stage of getting to know each other

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and without being afraid that it's gonna mess things up

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because things were going really well

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and I didn't wanna mess things up,

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but I just understand.

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I think God was just trying to show me that,

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like you were saying earlier, everything is a win.

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Everything is, we can learn from it.

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So, whatever happens, it's gonna be a win.

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Yes.

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That's so good.

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So good.

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Anybody else wanna share what they feel like

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the Lord was revealing through them,

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to them, through their situation?

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So, me going dancing was really good

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because I, you know, I'm coming, getting over,

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being in a car wreck and, you know,

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getting my body back in gear.

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And so that was really good,

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but just being around some men and dancing with them

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and one of the leader guys who teaches the class,

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he's 6'1 and I'm like 5'1.

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And so, and he was twirling me around

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and, you know, and then he always makes a big deal

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of no woman is walking to her car by herself.

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And so when it was time to go

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and I was just right on the other part,

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just right across from where the front doors are.

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And so I didn't even think about anybody walking to my car.

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And so I was out the door, but not to my car yet.

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And he said, okay, I just got the word

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that I need to walk you to your car.

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And he said, you know, another gal

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that helps teach the class.

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And so he just walked me the little bit too,

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but it was so nice just, you know,

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walking me to my car, making sure I was okay.

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You know, I love that.

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And so more of that's coming for all of us.

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Yes, we receive it.

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Come on strong man that's taller than me

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and walked me to my car

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cause he heard the Lord give him a word.

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Come on, we'll receive that.

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Yay to Tony.

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Tony the tiger, come on Tony.

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Oh, and I gotta tell you that the Christian singles group

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that Tony's a part of and I'm a part of,

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they're having, I know it's early,

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but they've already put out the word

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that they're having a huge Christmas party.

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And so I don't know what cost there is

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or if the potluck or whatever,

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but I can send you all the information.

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So it'll be in the Dallas Fort Worth area.

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That's good.

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Yeah, yeah, definitely post it.

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That'll be great.

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Yeah.

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So let's all go and everything.

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And show us Tony.

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And do what?

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I was like, point out Tony for me.

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Oh, well, yeah.

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He's the second one that asked me to dance

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back at Thanksgiving dinner dance last year.

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And so just so precious.

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So yeah.

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Good, good.

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Yeah.

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Thank you ladies for sharing.

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Louie and I saw that you put one in the chat.

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Oh, for some reason I went to the chat.

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It would never let me get to it.

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It just kept like copying me back up.

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I'm sure it was my computer,

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but thank you for posting

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because I'm sure other ladies got a chance to read it.

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It's good to see you back in the house.

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It feels like when somebody, you know,

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have y'all ever like been going to church

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and then stopped going for a long time?

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And then when you show back up, people be like,

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oh, it's so good to have you back.

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That's how I feel.

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Like, what, coming back to the house of the Lord.

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Okay.

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Okay.

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Okay.

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What is so good to have you back?

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I'm so happy to see you.

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I really, really am.

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All right.

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So what is the business with all of this?

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We wanted to hear from you,

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but I wanted you also to recognize

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that everything that you named,

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there's something that you can draw from it.

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And we're going to talk about one of the simple things

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that we talk about in this session all the time.

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Why discovery dating?

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Now, the truth be told, you've heard me say this,

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and many of you will relate.

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It would just be much easier

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if God gave us an Amazon package.

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Some people haven't moved forward because they believe he's going to give him an Amazon package.

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But hey, sorry,

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that's the sound I make to make him stop barking.

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No. Sorry for the interruption.

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A lot of these concepts,

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I'm telling you, it can take sometimes,

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and don't relate this to your life,

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your marriage life, a thousand years is as a day and a day is a thousand years to the Lord.

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But some of these things that you learn here,

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the reason why you struggle with them a lot is because it takes time to get it in your system.

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It's just the nature of it.

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Your head may have it,

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but it takes some time to journey to the heart and to grab an understanding and a revelation of it.

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A lot of it is a revelation,

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it's an opening like, oh, that's what this means.

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So you get frustrated with yourself because you feel like this is what I'm trying to do,

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this is what I'm trying to do, but it's not working.

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I am God defended.

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Trust me, you cannot keep saying I'm God defended and all of a sudden become God defended.

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I know you tried it because I did,

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but it don't quite work that way.

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But you keep saying it because it's a process that you're growing in.

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In order to be truly defended by God,

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you have to know what his word says about how he'll keep you and protect you and cover you,

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how faithful he is to his covenant.

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When you learn the foundation of that and you understand who he is,

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that the grass withered and the flower faded,

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but the word of God endure forever.

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The Bible says, sow us the snow and dew falls from heaven and does not return.

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That's how it is when God's word goes out of his mouth.

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It won't return unto him void,

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meaning it won't return unto him blank or empty.

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That's how you know that you're defended by God because God keeps his word.

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If he says that he's going to protect you and keep you and cover you,

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nobody's going to swindle you,

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nobody's going to bamboozle you.

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You say, well, it happened before.

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That doesn't mean that God didn't keep his word.

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Did you even understand the guarantee?

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Because if you understand the guarantee,

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then you will know that there are principles that guard and watch over God's word.

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When you operate outside of principles,

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there's also a principle that is at work when you operate outside of that principle.

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You subject yourself to these things because you

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don't have a full understanding of what's happening.

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It doesn't mean that God has failed you,

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but when you fail to use discernment,

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you're putting yourself in a really tough place.

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When you pace out of order,

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you baby, I can't nobody slow you down.

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You on a jet to the altar.

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Then you done left the word back there somewhere.

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It's still in the crockpot marinating with you,

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but no, you done jumped out of the crockpot,

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got on you some running shoes and took out.

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You understand what I'm saying?

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Some of these things happen in life.

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It's just the way it is.

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That's why we grow into the understanding that we are truly God-defending.

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A lot of times you'll see it over and over.

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If you look back over your life,

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you'll say it was nothing but the grace of God that kept me.

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I'm in my right mind because God kept me.

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That's being God-defending.

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That's being kept by a God whose hand is upon you.

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As you age, you can almost sense it's scary when you could have lost your mind.

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You know when you're young, you don't feel it.

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But when you get older, you'll be like,

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my mind just almost slipped from me.

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Not because I forgot something,

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but I just carry so much stress,

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I should have been broken.

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I felt myself leaving me.

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I felt me abandoning myself.

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If you ever abandon yourself,

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you realize how close you are to losing it all,

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because you abandon yourself,

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you leave yourself somewhere else and you operate outside of yourself.

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When you do that, you do stuff you would never imagine you would be doing.

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You'd be like, I lost myself.

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You realize how easy it is to lose yourself.

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That's just an example.

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Now, back to discovery dating.

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I don't know how we got down this street,

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but it was a nice stroll.

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In discovery dating, this is what's happening.

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It is all about discovery.

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In this program, we teach you the things that help you discovery date,

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the thing that nobody really wants to do.

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There are two parts to discovery dating.

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It's the part where you discover a person.

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It's true. You hang around long enough,

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you're going to know who a person is.

506
00:24:30.360 --> 00:24:32.440
You can pray that the Lord shows you.

507
00:24:32.440 --> 00:24:33.740
It's a very good prayer.

508
00:24:33.740 --> 00:24:35.320
But most of the times,

509
00:24:35.320 --> 00:24:37.800
for me, it didn't show up the next day.

510
00:24:37.800 --> 00:24:41.920
But if I was patient and gave it a month,

511
00:24:41.920 --> 00:24:46.200
two months, and not afraid that I would lose something by doing that

512
00:24:46.200 --> 00:24:49.920
because I operated under boundaries and guardrails,

513
00:24:49.920 --> 00:24:53.000
I eventually saw that person for who they were.

514
00:24:53.000 --> 00:24:56.240
If you just spend enough time without trying to put

515
00:24:56.240 --> 00:25:00.360
your money on it and bank on it and decide for certainty.

516
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:02.200
And so one thing I learned about God in my own life,

517
00:25:02.200 --> 00:25:03.280
some people get quick still,

518
00:25:03.280 --> 00:25:05.680
cause he already know if he don't talk too fast,

519
00:25:05.680 --> 00:25:06.680
you're gonna roll with it.

520
00:25:06.680 --> 00:25:08.160
So he like, let me help my baby.

521
00:25:08.160 --> 00:25:10.320
She ain't like everybody else, she a little different.

522
00:25:10.320 --> 00:25:13.280
I better jump, I better do something right now

523
00:25:13.280 --> 00:25:18.120
cause he know us, he know his daughters, he know us.

524
00:25:18.120 --> 00:25:21.160
He'll allow processes to go through

525
00:25:21.160 --> 00:25:23.420
so he can develop you and grow you.

526
00:25:24.800 --> 00:25:28.120
Part, one part of discovery dating is learning someone else,

527
00:25:28.120 --> 00:25:29.860
learning the skill set of dating.

528
00:25:29.860 --> 00:25:31.980
Dating is a skill, I need to tell y'all that,

529
00:25:31.980 --> 00:25:33.980
I don't think how many times I could tell you that.

530
00:25:33.980 --> 00:25:35.380
Anytime you feel good

531
00:25:35.380 --> 00:25:36.940
and you wanna run off with your feelings,

532
00:25:36.940 --> 00:25:38.200
that's not dating.

533
00:25:38.200 --> 00:25:41.960
Dating is a skill and it is one

534
00:25:41.960 --> 00:25:44.560
that is not easy to attain to

535
00:25:44.560 --> 00:25:47.500
because it feels so good to do it your way.

536
00:25:47.500 --> 00:25:51.500
Even though your way has not accomplished much for you,

537
00:25:51.500 --> 00:25:53.300
you are convinced that your way,

538
00:25:53.300 --> 00:25:57.300
when that feeling come over you is right, it's not.

539
00:25:57.300 --> 00:25:59.420
Okay, so dating is a skill.

540
00:25:59.940 --> 00:26:01.060
The first part is discovering a person,

541
00:26:01.060 --> 00:26:02.860
but the other part, which is the greatest part

542
00:26:02.860 --> 00:26:04.300
is discovering yourself.

543
00:26:07.360 --> 00:26:10.300
Discovering yourself is greater than discovering a person

544
00:26:11.260 --> 00:26:14.360
because when you discover yourself, people are easy to see.

545
00:26:15.460 --> 00:26:19.640
It's in your blindness of self that you can't see people.

546
00:26:21.720 --> 00:26:24.220
When you are not aware of self,

547
00:26:24.220 --> 00:26:26.120
you are not aware of other people.

548
00:26:26.960 --> 00:26:30.720
So ways that I don't understand that,

549
00:26:30.720 --> 00:26:33.000
how you know if you're not aware of yourself?

550
00:26:34.600 --> 00:26:38.040
You know that you're not as aware of yourself

551
00:26:38.040 --> 00:26:41.200
when you're nitpicking,

552
00:26:41.200 --> 00:26:43.640
when you hold things against a person from being a person,

553
00:26:43.640 --> 00:26:46.740
when you need them to be a certain way so you can feel safe.

554
00:26:48.200 --> 00:26:50.240
You don't know yourself.

555
00:26:50.240 --> 00:26:52.440
You don't need anybody to be a certain way

556
00:26:52.440 --> 00:26:54.140
for you to feel safe.

557
00:26:54.140 --> 00:26:55.600
When you discover yourself,

558
00:26:56.120 --> 00:26:58.400
you know that you're safe within you.

559
00:26:58.400 --> 00:27:01.800
And when you need someone to be something,

560
00:27:01.800 --> 00:27:04.520
to show you something for you to be safe,

561
00:27:04.520 --> 00:27:06.440
the moment you think they showed it to you,

562
00:27:06.440 --> 00:27:09.860
you leave your sense and go over and let them lead you.

563
00:27:10.840 --> 00:27:13.000
And then all of a sudden your language becomes,

564
00:27:13.000 --> 00:27:17.120
well, you said, well, he said, he said, he said,

565
00:27:17.120 --> 00:27:20.040
he said, he said it, he checked my boxes

566
00:27:20.040 --> 00:27:22.880
because he said, and he said, and he said,

567
00:27:22.880 --> 00:27:24.680
you forget that he's a person.

568
00:27:24.680 --> 00:27:27.200
Like you are a person.

569
00:27:27.200 --> 00:27:28.400
How many times have you said

570
00:27:28.400 --> 00:27:29.960
you were gonna start a diet on Monday?

571
00:27:29.960 --> 00:27:33.200
And you started strong, but by Friday you abandon it.

572
00:27:33.200 --> 00:27:35.040
That's the same concept.

573
00:27:35.040 --> 00:27:37.920
People sell you an image of who they would like to be.

574
00:27:37.920 --> 00:27:40.600
They don't do it intentionally, but people do it.

575
00:27:40.600 --> 00:27:41.880
We all do it.

576
00:27:41.880 --> 00:27:43.940
We all put our best foot forward.

577
00:27:45.600 --> 00:27:47.600
We all wear masks.

578
00:27:49.000 --> 00:27:51.480
And if you would learn where you wear a mask,

579
00:27:51.480 --> 00:27:53.280
you will be able to identify another person,

580
00:27:53.280 --> 00:27:55.120
not masks to deceive.

581
00:27:55.120 --> 00:27:57.360
It's just that you want people to see the greatest

582
00:27:57.360 --> 00:27:59.400
and the best about you.

583
00:27:59.400 --> 00:28:02.080
And because if you know this about yourself,

584
00:28:02.080 --> 00:28:03.880
you say, well, Ebony, what does that mean?

585
00:28:03.880 --> 00:28:05.800
That means you slow down enough

586
00:28:05.800 --> 00:28:08.640
for the other person to come out next month.

587
00:28:08.640 --> 00:28:10.760
And the other person to show up next month,

588
00:28:10.760 --> 00:28:13.340
because it happens with you too.

589
00:28:15.280 --> 00:28:17.360
The next phase of you gonna come up next month.

590
00:28:17.360 --> 00:28:19.040
And then the next phase of you gonna come up,

591
00:28:19.040 --> 00:28:20.000
it's like an onion.

592
00:28:20.000 --> 00:28:22.120
You keep peeling back and peeling back.

593
00:28:22.120 --> 00:28:24.160
And when you believe from face value

594
00:28:24.160 --> 00:28:26.360
that what a person say, looking at their resume,

595
00:28:26.360 --> 00:28:28.100
is exactly who they are,

596
00:28:30.360 --> 00:28:32.880
it's a short sight of who you are.

597
00:28:32.880 --> 00:28:35.200
Because you may be nice, but just like you're nice,

598
00:28:35.200 --> 00:28:36.640
you can be not so nice.

599
00:28:38.640 --> 00:28:39.680
Just like you're forgiving,

600
00:28:39.680 --> 00:28:41.360
you can also be not so forgiving.

601
00:28:41.360 --> 00:28:44.280
If a person touches on something that really hurts you,

602
00:28:44.280 --> 00:28:46.700
that may take you a little more time to work through.

603
00:28:46.700 --> 00:28:48.160
So are y'all following with me on that?

604
00:28:48.160 --> 00:28:49.960
Does that make sense?

605
00:28:49.960 --> 00:28:51.200
Are we all together?

606
00:28:51.200 --> 00:28:53.560
Right, and so in discovery dating,

607
00:28:53.560 --> 00:28:57.320
yeah, you're learning and discovering yourself.

608
00:28:57.320 --> 00:28:58.800
And that's the second part of it.

609
00:28:58.800 --> 00:29:00.360
And that's what I'm gonna reiterate.

610
00:29:00.360 --> 00:29:03.080
It is the most important part.

611
00:29:03.080 --> 00:29:05.640
I was talking with someone

612
00:29:05.640 --> 00:29:09.040
and I had such revelation while I was chatting with them.

613
00:29:09.040 --> 00:29:11.680
And I saw this happen in my own life.

614
00:29:12.800 --> 00:29:16.280
You got something powerful happens on the inside of you

615
00:29:16.280 --> 00:29:19.660
when you refuse to accept crumbs.

616
00:29:20.660 --> 00:29:24.620
Actually, that's a part of the growing phase.

617
00:29:24.620 --> 00:29:26.140
So sometimes we get offended

618
00:29:26.140 --> 00:29:28.740
by the way men show up in our life,

619
00:29:28.740 --> 00:29:32.340
but it's an opportunity for us to take back our worth,

620
00:29:32.340 --> 00:29:34.900
to take back our value.

621
00:29:34.900 --> 00:29:36.780
We think it speaks to us,

622
00:29:36.780 --> 00:29:40.180
but the Lord is trying to iron out the kinks in you.

623
00:29:40.180 --> 00:29:43.220
He's trying to get you to finally announce to the world

624
00:29:43.220 --> 00:29:45.300
that this is not good enough for me.

625
00:29:45.300 --> 00:29:46.260
Why would I say that?

626
00:29:46.260 --> 00:29:50.000
Because I now know I am better than this.

627
00:29:51.660 --> 00:29:54.080
Now I'm better than how much money you make.

628
00:29:54.080 --> 00:29:56.100
Now I'm better than how you look.

629
00:29:56.100 --> 00:30:00.100
No, I am worthy of goodness, not in.

630
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:04.600
things, but in character, in integrity.

631
00:30:06.280 --> 00:30:11.160
You see, when you're able to date somebody who comes at you sideways and get to

632
00:30:11.160 --> 00:30:14.480
know a man on the app that comes at you sideways and you say no,

633
00:30:15.360 --> 00:30:18.400
and you don't let the thing think, well, maybe nobody else is coming along.

634
00:30:18.400 --> 00:30:21.200
When you hear, maybe nobody else is coming along.

635
00:30:21.200 --> 00:30:25.600
You take it as an announcement from me today that you are in an official test.

636
00:30:26.600 --> 00:30:29.920
Are you going to let scarcity decide your future?

637
00:30:30.040 --> 00:30:33.440
Are you going to put your foot in the ground and announce to the whole world?

638
00:30:33.640 --> 00:30:39.080
I will not settle because if you hear that thought, that is scarcity.

639
00:30:39.240 --> 00:30:43.320
And that is an invitation to say, scarcity will live in me no more.

640
00:30:43.400 --> 00:30:47.080
Whether I win or I lose, I am walking away.

641
00:30:47.080 --> 00:30:51.280
And if it's for me, it'll come back to me or I will get better because I have

642
00:30:51.280 --> 00:30:52.960
raised the standard in my life.

643
00:30:53.120 --> 00:30:57.680
And the Lord takes discovery dating to bring you to a higher standard, because

644
00:30:57.680 --> 00:31:03.440
if you don't have a standard, your eyes cannot see what he puts before you and

645
00:31:03.440 --> 00:31:11.040
call it good when, when, when Adam named the animals, every time he named one, he

646
00:31:11.040 --> 00:31:13.720
identified them as God would identify them.

647
00:31:13.960 --> 00:31:19.240
Not as what he would, when God said that's good, it's because Adam identified

648
00:31:19.520 --> 00:31:21.840
the way that God would have identified it.

649
00:31:22.440 --> 00:31:27.120
And God has to train our eyes and train our heart and train our thoughts and our

650
00:31:27.120 --> 00:31:35.600
minds and our being to identify the way he identifies that when you, I really

651
00:31:35.600 --> 00:31:39.520
believe this, and I may have said this last time, I believe that God has sent

652
00:31:39.520 --> 00:31:45.840
plenty of husbands to us, but it's the lenses in which we see it is the trauma

653
00:31:45.880 --> 00:31:49.600
of our soul that we have said, Nope, I don't want that.

654
00:31:50.840 --> 00:31:51.840
That ain't gonna work for me.

655
00:31:52.800 --> 00:31:54.480
I don't really like how short he is.

656
00:31:55.320 --> 00:31:58.920
I don't know what, I don't know his stomach a little too big and I like to eat

657
00:31:58.920 --> 00:32:04.120
healthy and I don't even know, like, I don't even know if he liked the bike.

658
00:32:04.200 --> 00:32:08.840
I really been looking forward to a man who wants to join me on a hike.

659
00:32:09.240 --> 00:32:11.680
I, that's what I asked the Lord for.

660
00:32:12.120 --> 00:32:15.360
I asked the Lord for command and I believe that God wants to give

661
00:32:15.360 --> 00:32:16.840
me the desires of my heart.

662
00:32:18.160 --> 00:32:19.200
And so, you know what?

663
00:32:19.680 --> 00:32:21.160
He going too slow for me.

664
00:32:21.520 --> 00:32:22.240
I don't know.

665
00:32:22.600 --> 00:32:26.360
You know, I don't, I know you're like, Oh, huh.

666
00:32:26.520 --> 00:32:27.880
On this, are you trying to say something?

667
00:32:29.320 --> 00:32:32.560
Oh, you're unmuted, but it's like all these things.

668
00:32:32.560 --> 00:32:35.000
And so there could have been plenty of people who could have been well

669
00:32:35.000 --> 00:32:37.960
married by now, but it is the hardness of our heart.

670
00:32:38.720 --> 00:32:40.200
It is the rigidness of us.

671
00:32:40.240 --> 00:32:44.000
It's the eyes in which we see, this is nothing to feel bad about, but I'm

672
00:32:44.000 --> 00:32:50.960
trying to raise up your understanding of things because the point is, should

673
00:32:50.960 --> 00:32:52.040
you go back and grab somebody?

674
00:32:52.920 --> 00:32:56.880
You can only see to the level of what you have become.

675
00:32:59.600 --> 00:33:03.000
That's the only way you can see you must become this thing.

676
00:33:03.280 --> 00:33:08.080
And so the other part of discovery dating is you becoming, and oftentimes

677
00:33:08.240 --> 00:33:11.080
we despise discovery dating.

678
00:33:11.840 --> 00:33:17.440
When you find that you say to yourself, just tell me if he the one or not Lord.

679
00:33:17.600 --> 00:33:19.720
And I'll be, Hmm.

680
00:33:20.680 --> 00:33:24.920
I, yeah, you're refusing to discover yourself.

681
00:33:26.200 --> 00:33:27.960
You're refusing to grow.

682
00:33:30.280 --> 00:33:31.600
You're refusing to grow.

683
00:33:31.600 --> 00:33:34.000
It's not about, you can't lose.

684
00:33:34.280 --> 00:33:36.160
You can only grow.

685
00:33:37.160 --> 00:33:39.280
You can only learn.

686
00:33:41.240 --> 00:33:45.040
People don't have to come package the way you envisioned.

687
00:33:45.560 --> 00:33:47.120
How do you get to that place?

688
00:33:47.120 --> 00:33:50.800
When you find out the truth that you're not packaged the way you would like to

689
00:33:50.800 --> 00:33:56.880
vision yourself being packaged, you know, your shortcomings, you know, your

690
00:33:56.880 --> 00:34:00.920
downfalls, you know, the things you put your hand to over and over and you just

691
00:34:00.920 --> 00:34:02.760
don't seem to be able to make breakthrough in them.

692
00:34:03.080 --> 00:34:05.000
Does it mean that you're not a good person?

693
00:34:05.640 --> 00:34:07.640
Does it mean that you're not wonderful to know?

694
00:34:09.280 --> 00:34:13.400
Does it mean that if I had you as a friend, I would lose or would I grow?

695
00:34:14.159 --> 00:34:18.000
It's the awareness of ourselves that help us see well.

696
00:34:18.199 --> 00:34:21.560
And so I'm not going to drag it in the ground, but I want you to hear it.

697
00:34:22.920 --> 00:34:24.080
I want you to hear that.

698
00:34:24.080 --> 00:34:26.360
And this question has nothing to do with alignment.

699
00:34:26.719 --> 00:34:29.440
Someone X foundation is foundation.

700
00:34:29.760 --> 00:34:31.560
So please don't hear what I'm not saying.

701
00:34:32.159 --> 00:34:35.960
And the reason why I don't mention foundation, which I could have is because

702
00:34:35.960 --> 00:34:38.120
we're already on board about that.

703
00:34:38.400 --> 00:34:39.440
So let me just say this.

704
00:34:39.440 --> 00:34:43.760
We already know that the man should be three M's mature marriage, man, and

705
00:34:43.760 --> 00:34:48.600
masculine, but this is not about if you align with someone, this is

706
00:34:48.600 --> 00:34:50.639
about your resistance to grow.

707
00:34:54.080 --> 00:34:55.639
You cannot shoot.

708
00:34:55.679 --> 00:34:59.560
You don't know the level of husband that heaven has for you.

709
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:02.080
since we're saying you're gonna partner with him,

710
00:35:02.080 --> 00:35:04.680
you can choose husbands on certain levels.

711
00:35:04.680 --> 00:35:07.120
There are levels of husbands.

712
00:35:07.120 --> 00:35:08.160
This you know.

713
00:35:08.160 --> 00:35:11.080
So if you say, I just want one to go to church with me

714
00:35:11.080 --> 00:35:13.480
and we just have a really good old family

715
00:35:13.480 --> 00:35:14.320
and the Lord says,

716
00:35:14.320 --> 00:35:16.720
that's because you haven't seen your destiny.

717
00:35:16.720 --> 00:35:19.480
So no, we're not doing that.

718
00:35:19.480 --> 00:35:23.040
What I put in you, the deliverer I put in you,

719
00:35:23.040 --> 00:35:24.400
the priest of your bloodline

720
00:35:24.400 --> 00:35:25.920
that lives on the inside of you,

721
00:35:25.920 --> 00:35:27.720
I'm not gonna waste what I was planning

722
00:35:27.720 --> 00:35:29.440
a thousand years to end the earth

723
00:35:29.440 --> 00:35:30.920
in the package of Daisy,

724
00:35:30.920 --> 00:35:32.720
to be given away to somebody

725
00:35:32.720 --> 00:35:34.040
if you would just go to church with me

726
00:35:34.040 --> 00:35:36.120
and read a scripture and read your Bible.

727
00:35:37.960 --> 00:35:39.720
Now, if that's anybody's standard,

728
00:35:39.720 --> 00:35:42.180
I wanna tell you there's a higher standard.

729
00:35:45.960 --> 00:35:47.200
Because I guarantee you,

730
00:35:47.200 --> 00:35:49.720
if you were on your sick bed and they gave you cancer,

731
00:35:49.720 --> 00:35:51.800
you gonna want somebody more than just go to church

732
00:35:51.800 --> 00:35:53.480
and read a scripture and pray with you.

733
00:35:53.480 --> 00:35:55.760
You gonna want a man that can touch heaven

734
00:35:55.760 --> 00:35:57.600
and come back with an answer.

735
00:35:58.440 --> 00:35:59.280
You gonna want somebody

736
00:35:59.280 --> 00:36:00.600
that gonna pray with you all night long.

737
00:36:00.600 --> 00:36:02.760
You gonna want somebody to deliver you.

738
00:36:02.760 --> 00:36:05.160
You gonna want a husband that can pull this thing off

739
00:36:05.160 --> 00:36:06.760
and you ain't got a call for your pastor

740
00:36:06.760 --> 00:36:08.800
because your pastor beside you praying

741
00:36:08.800 --> 00:36:10.960
because he is the pastor of your home.

742
00:36:10.960 --> 00:36:12.680
Like there are levels to these things,

743
00:36:12.680 --> 00:36:14.960
but if you can't see beyond your ability

744
00:36:14.960 --> 00:36:17.400
to just want somebody to be a companion,

745
00:36:17.400 --> 00:36:19.200
baby, you can get a companion.

746
00:36:21.960 --> 00:36:23.840
You can get a companion.

747
00:36:23.840 --> 00:36:26.600
And so sometimes I am saying to you

748
00:36:26.640 --> 00:36:31.640
that the things that we desire are such a low standard

749
00:36:31.880 --> 00:36:34.680
compared to what God has put on the inside of you,

750
00:36:34.680 --> 00:36:37.140
compared to what he wants to burn out of you.

751
00:36:38.360 --> 00:36:40.960
And so hence we have discovery dating

752
00:36:40.960 --> 00:36:43.480
so that you can take your voice back,

753
00:36:43.480 --> 00:36:45.200
so that you can stop living in fear

754
00:36:45.200 --> 00:36:46.600
of what somebody might do to you

755
00:36:46.600 --> 00:36:47.920
and you come to the understanding

756
00:36:47.920 --> 00:36:49.920
that nobody can do nothing to me

757
00:36:49.920 --> 00:36:52.260
because I put myself under order.

758
00:36:52.260 --> 00:36:54.480
You know the centurion man said,

759
00:36:54.480 --> 00:36:56.360
when Jesus said, I'll come and heal him,

760
00:36:57.120 --> 00:36:58.480
he said, you don't have to come and heal him.

761
00:36:58.480 --> 00:37:02.440
You just sing your word because I am a man under order.

762
00:37:02.440 --> 00:37:04.960
And I know when I tell this one to do this

763
00:37:04.960 --> 00:37:06.280
and this one to do that,

764
00:37:06.280 --> 00:37:09.880
they go and they do it because he understood authority.

765
00:37:09.880 --> 00:37:11.800
And you have to understand the authority

766
00:37:11.800 --> 00:37:13.220
that lives on the inside of you

767
00:37:13.220 --> 00:37:15.880
that causes everything and everybody around you

768
00:37:15.880 --> 00:37:19.320
to come subject to the order in which you live under.

769
00:37:19.320 --> 00:37:20.560
How do you get there?

770
00:37:20.560 --> 00:37:23.160
You put yourself under order.

771
00:37:24.080 --> 00:37:28.200
You put yourself under the guardrails,

772
00:37:28.200 --> 00:37:32.880
under the boundaries of dating and you don't give up.

773
00:37:33.960 --> 00:37:36.920
You don't back down there to guard your heart

774
00:37:36.920 --> 00:37:39.080
without diligence so you will never again

775
00:37:39.080 --> 00:37:41.680
to be afraid of somebody hurting you.

776
00:37:41.680 --> 00:37:45.960
So this time you will choose love and not fall in love.

777
00:37:45.960 --> 00:37:48.240
You can choose to love a person.

778
00:37:48.240 --> 00:37:51.080
Choosing to love a person brings greater joy

779
00:37:51.080 --> 00:37:52.640
than falling in love.

780
00:37:54.080 --> 00:37:55.480
When you fall in love with a person,

781
00:37:55.480 --> 00:37:57.280
you lose back literally those,

782
00:37:57.280 --> 00:37:58.680
that time is like a blur.

783
00:37:58.680 --> 00:38:00.480
You be thinking to yourself especially

784
00:38:00.480 --> 00:38:02.000
when you find out who they really are.

785
00:38:02.000 --> 00:38:04.360
Like what I was thinking, what was I thinking?

786
00:38:04.360 --> 00:38:05.760
You wasn't thinking.

787
00:38:07.280 --> 00:38:09.640
But when somebody looks at you and says flaws and all,

788
00:38:09.640 --> 00:38:10.560
I choose you.

789
00:38:11.720 --> 00:38:13.680
Now I know you got a stank attitude.

790
00:38:13.680 --> 00:38:14.600
We can work on that.

791
00:38:14.600 --> 00:38:16.600
I still choose you.

792
00:38:16.600 --> 00:38:17.840
I see your heart.

793
00:38:17.840 --> 00:38:19.080
I watch you work.

794
00:38:20.440 --> 00:38:22.000
You know, I choose you.

795
00:38:22.000 --> 00:38:23.760
We can grow together.

796
00:38:23.760 --> 00:38:24.960
These are the things.

797
00:38:24.960 --> 00:38:26.920
Are y'all following me?

798
00:38:26.920 --> 00:38:28.320
Yeah.

799
00:38:28.320 --> 00:38:30.520
Discovery dating affords us this.

800
00:38:30.520 --> 00:38:32.080
So those of you who are standing on the,

801
00:38:32.080 --> 00:38:33.720
like we had some celebrations today

802
00:38:33.720 --> 00:38:36.240
that someone's found and made a dating app.

803
00:38:36.240 --> 00:38:38.240
And this is not to say, well, do I have to get on the app?

804
00:38:38.240 --> 00:38:39.760
It's not about if you get on the dating app,

805
00:38:39.760 --> 00:38:41.160
you don't give on the dating app.

806
00:38:41.160 --> 00:38:42.960
The point is you need to be found.

807
00:38:42.960 --> 00:38:44.360
And however you gonna be found,

808
00:38:44.360 --> 00:38:47.280
I need you to get to a place where you can be found.

809
00:38:47.280 --> 00:38:49.120
You see what I'm saying?

810
00:38:49.120 --> 00:38:54.120
Because there is a journey to be had

811
00:38:54.400 --> 00:38:57.820
in discovery dating, and the journey is you.

812
00:38:59.920 --> 00:39:02.160
Because if you don't have,

813
00:39:02.160 --> 00:39:06.360
if you don't let the father raise up your standard,

814
00:39:06.360 --> 00:39:09.840
you will choose from what your eyes can see.

815
00:39:09.840 --> 00:39:11.760
Whether you get a balcony view,

816
00:39:12.880 --> 00:39:15.440
or you get in, y'all ever been on a cruise ship?

817
00:39:16.540 --> 00:39:18.400
Or you get down and below the deck view.

818
00:39:18.400 --> 00:39:20.760
You know that bottom room that cost the less.

819
00:39:20.760 --> 00:39:22.680
And the more you go up, get ocean view,

820
00:39:22.680 --> 00:39:24.280
baby, get an ocean view.

821
00:39:24.280 --> 00:39:26.160
But when you get on the balcony, baby, get what?

822
00:39:26.160 --> 00:39:27.880
You don't just see the water and the ocean.

823
00:39:27.880 --> 00:39:31.960
You can see far, far, far, far, far out.

824
00:39:31.960 --> 00:39:35.560
We raising up some women who can see far, far, far out.

825
00:39:35.560 --> 00:39:39.520
Not far out to certainty, but far out to the possibilities.

826
00:39:39.520 --> 00:39:43.000
Because they've been awakened to who they are.

827
00:39:43.000 --> 00:39:45.000
You come up and the Lord says,

828
00:39:45.000 --> 00:39:47.360
now I can send somebody for her to choose.

829
00:39:48.720 --> 00:39:50.400
Now I can put some people in front of her

830
00:39:50.400 --> 00:39:51.960
because she knows what to look like.

831
00:39:51.960 --> 00:39:54.120
And she not waiting on me to say, this is the one.

832
00:39:54.120 --> 00:39:55.480
No, she gonna be like Adam.

833
00:39:55.480 --> 00:39:57.840
And she gonna call a cat a cat and a dog a dog.

834
00:39:57.840 --> 00:39:59.840
And she gonna hear me say, that's good.

835
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:01.240
He gonna know that's the one

836
00:40:01.240 --> 00:40:03.360
when I put my stamp of approval on it.

837
00:40:06.560 --> 00:40:10.640
You see, you wanna be in a position

838
00:40:10.640 --> 00:40:15.200
that you can see and see well, not certainty,

839
00:40:16.640 --> 00:40:19.840
but use the things you've been equipped with to choose well

840
00:40:19.840 --> 00:40:22.760
so that when the suitors come in front of you,

841
00:40:22.760 --> 00:40:26.120
you can say, okay, okay, let me call this,

842
00:40:26.120 --> 00:40:27.720
I'm gonna call a spade a spade

843
00:40:27.760 --> 00:40:30.120
and I ain't gonna take no offense.

844
00:40:30.120 --> 00:40:33.120
I'm not gonna get upset when people show up as they are.

845
00:40:33.120 --> 00:40:35.120
I'm glad they showed up like they were.

846
00:40:36.240 --> 00:40:37.680
I'm glad, right?

847
00:40:37.680 --> 00:40:39.060
So that's so good.

848
00:40:41.360 --> 00:40:44.400
You know, and truly as we go on the journey,

849
00:40:44.400 --> 00:40:49.400
it really, it's not much about even the things

850
00:40:52.000 --> 00:40:56.320
that you may say I got wrong in discovery dating,

851
00:40:56.320 --> 00:40:58.880
it helps you grow.

852
00:40:58.880 --> 00:41:02.880
God is always, there's always a revealing for healing,

853
00:41:02.880 --> 00:41:05.040
a revealing for healing.

854
00:41:05.040 --> 00:41:08.680
I'm gonna give you, maybe I'll share this another time,

855
00:41:08.680 --> 00:41:09.520
I don't know.

856
00:41:11.040 --> 00:41:12.760
I wanna give you all some time for coaching,

857
00:41:12.760 --> 00:41:16.120
you know, I'm back teaching so I can't go off time.

858
00:41:16.120 --> 00:41:17.560
I'm gonna share this with you.

859
00:41:17.560 --> 00:41:21.000
Now, my journey has been wonderful with the Lord.

860
00:41:21.000 --> 00:41:26.000
I'm amazed at the levels in which he accelerates growth

861
00:41:26.360 --> 00:41:27.680
and it's because I get to be a part

862
00:41:27.680 --> 00:41:29.760
of this community for one.

863
00:41:29.760 --> 00:41:32.480
But we were doing some, we were on a fast

864
00:41:32.480 --> 00:41:33.920
and we were doing these declarations

865
00:41:33.920 --> 00:41:37.720
and we were breaking agreement with idols.

866
00:41:37.720 --> 00:41:39.960
And so one of the things that we were to confess

867
00:41:39.960 --> 00:41:43.920
was I break agreement with the idol of fate,

868
00:41:45.720 --> 00:41:48.720
destiny, and one other thing.

869
00:41:48.720 --> 00:41:50.520
And so it sounds strange at first,

870
00:41:50.520 --> 00:41:54.560
and it says, Lord, I repent for putting my hopes

871
00:41:54.600 --> 00:41:57.360
and expectations in a prophecy.

872
00:41:57.360 --> 00:42:00.800
You're my God and I put my hope and expectations in you.

873
00:42:00.800 --> 00:42:01.920
That's what it sounds like.

874
00:42:01.920 --> 00:42:04.720
I repent for putting my hope in faith.

875
00:42:04.720 --> 00:42:07.760
You're my God and my faith.

876
00:42:07.760 --> 00:42:12.120
I'll call you once I talk to my stone guy.

877
00:42:15.680 --> 00:42:16.520
Okay.

878
00:42:18.360 --> 00:42:19.680
When I be in a group chat, I'll be like,

879
00:42:19.680 --> 00:42:21.760
Lord, please don't never let me do this.

880
00:42:21.760 --> 00:42:22.840
It's so funny.

881
00:42:22.840 --> 00:42:26.400
So let me read this to you because it put me,

882
00:42:26.400 --> 00:42:27.800
it put, you know, like those young people,

883
00:42:27.800 --> 00:42:29.160
it put me in a chokehold.

884
00:42:29.160 --> 00:42:31.640
I said, I just cannot.

885
00:42:31.640 --> 00:42:34.720
And when it got to the part, I had to take a picture of it

886
00:42:34.720 --> 00:42:36.560
because I had to meditate on this.

887
00:42:37.880 --> 00:42:39.720
It was really challenging for me.

888
00:42:40.760 --> 00:42:41.960
So I'm all down for it.

889
00:42:41.960 --> 00:42:45.760
I'm saying my little declarations and yeah, Lord,

890
00:42:45.760 --> 00:42:47.600
you know I give it up.

891
00:42:47.600 --> 00:42:50.160
No idol in my heart, Lord.

892
00:42:50.160 --> 00:42:51.560
I trust you, God.

893
00:42:52.840 --> 00:42:56.840
Shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh.

894
00:42:56.840 --> 00:42:57.840
Maybe this is it.

895
00:42:57.840 --> 00:42:59.320
Okay, yes.

896
00:42:59.320 --> 00:43:02.920
So it says, Father, I repent for every place

897
00:43:02.920 --> 00:43:06.160
where I put my confidence in fortune, fate, luck,

898
00:43:06.160 --> 00:43:10.680
signs, predictions, or my own expectation of the future.

899
00:43:10.680 --> 00:43:13.520
My times are not in the hands of chance,

900
00:43:13.520 --> 00:43:15.680
in the hands of chance.

901
00:43:15.680 --> 00:43:18.200
My times are in your hands.

902
00:43:18.200 --> 00:43:19.120
I'm doing good.

903
00:43:19.120 --> 00:43:20.720
I said, that's right, Jesus.

904
00:43:20.720 --> 00:43:21.760
The next one.

905
00:43:21.760 --> 00:43:24.680
I cast down the idol of destiny.

906
00:43:24.680 --> 00:43:27.680
My calling shall not become my God.

907
00:43:27.680 --> 00:43:30.840
My prophecy shall not become my God.

908
00:43:30.840 --> 00:43:33.760
My future shall not become my God.

909
00:43:33.760 --> 00:43:36.760
I will never love what you promised me

910
00:43:36.760 --> 00:43:40.200
more than I love the God who promised it.

911
00:43:40.200 --> 00:43:42.240
Okay, they're right, Lord.

912
00:43:42.240 --> 00:43:43.080
They're right.

913
00:43:43.080 --> 00:43:43.920
I'm in agreement.

914
00:43:43.920 --> 00:43:45.760
This last one, here you go, y'all.

915
00:43:45.760 --> 00:43:48.480
I declare that my future belongs to the Lord.

916
00:43:48.480 --> 00:43:51.840
If God changes my route, I will follow it.

917
00:43:51.840 --> 00:43:53.000
I said, what'd you say?

918
00:43:54.840 --> 00:43:59.680
If God changes my timing, I will trust it.

919
00:43:59.680 --> 00:44:04.680
If God changes my expectation, I will surrender.

920
00:44:04.840 --> 00:44:06.960
I will not worship destiny.

921
00:44:06.960 --> 00:44:09.600
I worship the God who holds my destiny.

922
00:44:11.920 --> 00:44:13.440
I couldn't say that.

923
00:44:13.440 --> 00:44:15.160
I said, God, if you change my route,

924
00:44:15.160 --> 00:44:16.800
you know I always gonna live in Texas.

925
00:44:16.800 --> 00:44:19.600
What you mean you're gonna change my route?

926
00:44:19.600 --> 00:44:23.040
What you mean if you change your timing?

927
00:44:23.040 --> 00:44:24.600
Your timing right now.

928
00:44:24.600 --> 00:44:26.520
Like, I couldn't say it.

929
00:44:26.520 --> 00:44:30.320
I would not make words unto the Lord

930
00:44:30.320 --> 00:44:33.040
that I could not say were from my heart.

931
00:44:33.040 --> 00:44:34.600
And I began to weep.

932
00:44:34.600 --> 00:44:38.800
And I said, this is a real idol.

933
00:44:38.800 --> 00:44:41.160
When it says you changed my expectation,

934
00:44:41.160 --> 00:44:43.600
I said, you wanna keep marriage from me?

935
00:44:43.600 --> 00:44:44.440
What you mean?

936
00:44:44.440 --> 00:44:45.520
I've been hoping in you.

937
00:44:45.560 --> 00:44:46.560
I've been believing you.

938
00:44:46.560 --> 00:44:48.000
And now you want me to say,

939
00:44:48.000 --> 00:44:50.040
if you change the expectation,

940
00:44:50.040 --> 00:44:51.800
I'm just supposed to accept it.

941
00:44:55.440 --> 00:44:56.440
Are y'all following me?

942
00:44:56.440 --> 00:44:57.920
You hear what this says?

943
00:44:57.920 --> 00:44:59.880
Like, and if the timing change.

944
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.200
I said, what if I'm stipping for ice?

945
00:45:02.200 --> 00:45:03.560
I can't agree to this.

946
00:45:03.560 --> 00:45:04.480
I just can't.

947
00:45:04.480 --> 00:45:05.720
We got to work it out, God.

948
00:45:05.720 --> 00:45:07.080
Literally, this is what I said.

949
00:45:07.080 --> 00:45:09.080
I said, got to be a better way to work this out.

950
00:45:09.080 --> 00:45:10.840
Got to be a better way to work this out.

951
00:45:10.840 --> 00:45:15.040
And so my mind knew it was time to have a meeting with the Lord.

952
00:45:15.040 --> 00:45:16.920
And so I called on Holy Spirit.

953
00:45:16.920 --> 00:45:18.840
As Holy Spirit, you're going to have

954
00:45:18.840 --> 00:45:24.240
to reveal to me why I refuse to lay down an idol.

955
00:45:24.240 --> 00:45:26.240
Because this truly is an idol.

956
00:45:26.240 --> 00:45:29.480
When you can't release it, it truly is an idol.

957
00:45:29.480 --> 00:45:34.160
And so I turned around and over.

958
00:45:34.160 --> 00:45:38.320
And I said, come and minister to me as I sleep.

959
00:45:38.320 --> 00:45:41.040
And I said, when did all this stuff happen?

960
00:45:41.040 --> 00:45:42.960
Why you didn't tell me it was in my heart?

961
00:45:42.960 --> 00:45:46.680
It's just like, you can tell my world was falling apart, y'all.

962
00:45:46.680 --> 00:45:48.880
And so I got up the next day at midnight.

963
00:45:48.880 --> 00:45:50.200
I do midnight prayer.

964
00:45:50.200 --> 00:45:52.480
I'm contending midnight prayer.

965
00:45:52.480 --> 00:45:53.920
And I said, Holy Spirit, help me.

966
00:45:53.920 --> 00:45:56.840
If you don't come for me, nobody can.

967
00:45:56.840 --> 00:45:58.200
We got to get this stuff.

968
00:45:58.200 --> 00:46:00.360
We got to deal with this.

969
00:46:00.360 --> 00:46:02.920
Went to sleep, woke up, got up for prayer the next morning,

970
00:46:02.920 --> 00:46:05.760
praying, Holy Spirit, I need you.

971
00:46:05.760 --> 00:46:11.600
And he said to me, the problem is not marriage.

972
00:46:11.600 --> 00:46:13.160
The problem is you don't trust me.

973
00:46:13.160 --> 00:46:14.320
You don't believe I'm good.

974
00:46:16.960 --> 00:46:20.080
And I said, you're right.

975
00:46:20.080 --> 00:46:26.800
He says, so your expectation is your control.

976
00:46:26.800 --> 00:46:28.800
And you've learned from a child that if you

977
00:46:28.800 --> 00:46:31.960
can control the things around you, that you're safe.

978
00:46:31.960 --> 00:46:36.240
But expectations don't keep you safe.

979
00:46:36.240 --> 00:46:39.200
And I said, oh, wow.

980
00:46:39.200 --> 00:46:40.400
Wow.

981
00:46:40.400 --> 00:46:45.040
It still causes my heart to move quickly now.

982
00:46:45.040 --> 00:46:48.200
I really believe that expectation,

983
00:46:48.200 --> 00:46:52.120
holding God hostage to what I believe he should do,

984
00:46:52.120 --> 00:46:56.360
was going to produce marriage in my life

985
00:46:56.360 --> 00:46:59.080
or produce anything I wanted.

986
00:46:59.080 --> 00:47:03.920
I couldn't believe that I had made expectation an idol

987
00:47:03.920 --> 00:47:05.520
and refused to give it up.

988
00:47:05.520 --> 00:47:09.480
Y'all, if he don't move, I can't make it happen.

989
00:47:09.480 --> 00:47:12.040
And I just said, my God.

990
00:47:12.040 --> 00:47:14.080
And then as I sat with the Lord and I

991
00:47:14.080 --> 00:47:17.360
began to understand, Holy Spirit, help me.

992
00:47:17.360 --> 00:47:21.160
Listen, expectation does not produce God.

993
00:47:21.160 --> 00:47:23.200
Only his word produces.

994
00:47:23.200 --> 00:47:25.480
His word carries the infrastructure

995
00:47:25.480 --> 00:47:26.640
to produce a thing.

996
00:47:26.640 --> 00:47:29.200
When God spoke, said, let there be light, there is light.

997
00:47:29.200 --> 00:47:30.560
And it has been ever since then.

998
00:47:30.560 --> 00:47:34.800
Not just light in the sun, but light in the life of men.

999
00:47:34.800 --> 00:47:36.680
Light came through Jesus Christ.

1000
00:47:36.680 --> 00:47:40.040
Light is a city on a hill that gives light to the whole city.

1001
00:47:40.040 --> 00:47:41.400
Light is salt of the earth.

1002
00:47:41.400 --> 00:47:44.240
Everything that God speaks is not an isolated thing,

1003
00:47:44.240 --> 00:47:46.960
but it breaks forth in the earth.

1004
00:47:46.960 --> 00:47:50.560
And so only his word produces the expected end.

1005
00:47:50.560 --> 00:47:53.040
The Bible says, and all these things are flooding my mind.

1006
00:47:53.040 --> 00:47:55.040
The Bible says that God makes all things

1007
00:47:55.040 --> 00:47:56.080
beautiful in his time.

1008
00:47:56.080 --> 00:47:58.400
The Bible says, if you seek ye first the King of heaven

1009
00:47:58.400 --> 00:48:00.760
is righteous, all these things shall be added unto you.

1010
00:48:00.760 --> 00:48:03.360
He gives us word after word after word

1011
00:48:03.360 --> 00:48:06.080
that I'm a covenant-keeping God, that I'm the God of Abraham,

1012
00:48:06.080 --> 00:48:08.280
I'm the God of Isaac, and I'm the God of Jacob.

1013
00:48:08.280 --> 00:48:12.280
Even when Abraham went up to sacrifice his only son,

1014
00:48:12.280 --> 00:48:13.200
he was going to do it.

1015
00:48:13.200 --> 00:48:16.000
And the Lord says, keep the child.

1016
00:48:16.000 --> 00:48:17.800
I have a ram in the bush.

1017
00:48:17.800 --> 00:48:19.600
He is a covenant-keeping God.

1018
00:48:19.600 --> 00:48:24.760
In his word is the fulfillment of everything.

1019
00:48:24.760 --> 00:48:31.920
But yet I had came and believed that my expectation was

1020
00:48:31.920 --> 00:48:33.880
the thing that was going to produce,

1021
00:48:33.880 --> 00:48:36.600
and so I idolized my expectation.

1022
00:48:36.600 --> 00:48:37.760
Do you see what I'm saying?

1023
00:48:37.760 --> 00:48:39.280
And I'm saying like this, he keeps

1024
00:48:39.280 --> 00:48:42.840
coming to reveal himself to us, to open us up,

1025
00:48:42.840 --> 00:48:45.920
to bring us into understanding, so that I wouldn't allow

1026
00:48:45.920 --> 00:48:48.120
my expectation that when it happened

1027
00:48:48.120 --> 00:48:51.320
to give glory to my expectation.

1028
00:48:51.320 --> 00:48:52.880
I knew God would do it.

1029
00:48:52.880 --> 00:48:54.160
I knew God would do it.

1030
00:48:54.160 --> 00:48:57.320
Now, I knew God was going to do it because he keeps his word,

1031
00:48:57.320 --> 00:48:58.640
that he keeps his promises.

1032
00:48:58.640 --> 00:49:01.200
The Bible says that all of the promises of God in Christ

1033
00:49:01.200 --> 00:49:03.880
Jesus are yes, and we say amen.

1034
00:49:03.880 --> 00:49:06.800
Not some of the promises, all of the promises.

1035
00:49:06.800 --> 00:49:09.400
And a lot of times, the reason why we feel in despair

1036
00:49:09.400 --> 00:49:13.840
because we don't believe that all of the promises in Christ

1037
00:49:13.840 --> 00:49:16.760
are yes, and we say amen.

1038
00:49:16.760 --> 00:49:20.240
All of them, all of them.

1039
00:49:20.240 --> 00:49:23.920
And so I had a heart issue, and it had nothing

1040
00:49:23.920 --> 00:49:25.520
to do with the husband.

1041
00:49:25.520 --> 00:49:28.480
It had to do with I didn't believe that God was good

1042
00:49:28.480 --> 00:49:31.080
and that he would keep his word, and that's an issue.

1043
00:49:33.880 --> 00:49:37.640
He honored his word above his own name.

1044
00:49:37.640 --> 00:49:40.520
He honors his word above Elohim, the creator

1045
00:49:40.520 --> 00:49:43.160
of the heavens and the earth.

1046
00:49:43.160 --> 00:49:44.720
He honors his word.

1047
00:49:44.720 --> 00:49:48.040
If he gave it to you, it's a done deal.

1048
00:49:48.040 --> 00:49:50.280
Don't even allow your mind, if you hear the enemy say,

1049
00:49:50.280 --> 00:49:52.160
well, did he give me a word?

1050
00:49:52.160 --> 00:49:56.320
All of the promises of God, all of the promises of God.

1051
00:49:56.320 --> 00:49:58.400
There are lots of promises in the scripture

1052
00:49:58.400 --> 00:49:59.960
that relate to marriage, that relate

1053
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:02.800
the children that relate to whatever destiny,

1054
00:50:02.800 --> 00:50:04.000
purposes, plans.

1055
00:50:04.000 --> 00:50:06.480
And so the, me having this expectation

1056
00:50:06.480 --> 00:50:08.240
of putting my hope in a prophecy,

1057
00:50:08.240 --> 00:50:10.280
where the prophecy said this and the prophecy said that,

1058
00:50:10.280 --> 00:50:13.960
if the prophecy becomes bigger than my hope being in God,

1059
00:50:13.960 --> 00:50:15.140
that's an issue.

1060
00:50:16.560 --> 00:50:18.000
You know how sometimes you get to start

1061
00:50:18.000 --> 00:50:18.840
getting to know a person

1062
00:50:18.840 --> 00:50:20.440
and you line up everything based on what we've been,

1063
00:50:20.440 --> 00:50:22.280
they said this, this is a sign.

1064
00:50:22.280 --> 00:50:23.960
And then they said this, and then this,

1065
00:50:23.960 --> 00:50:26.760
that's still gonna lead you down a road to nowhere fast.

1066
00:50:27.760 --> 00:50:31.560
The Bible says that signs are for unbelievers.

1067
00:50:31.560 --> 00:50:33.040
It's nothing wrong with signs

1068
00:50:33.040 --> 00:50:35.340
and he does give people confirmation through signs,

1069
00:50:35.340 --> 00:50:37.800
but you don't have to live your life that way.

1070
00:50:37.800 --> 00:50:41.240
How about something solid like the word of God?

1071
00:50:41.240 --> 00:50:44.120
But anyway, so this happened to me just last week

1072
00:50:44.120 --> 00:50:45.800
and I realized what the Lord was doing.

1073
00:50:45.800 --> 00:50:48.440
He was inviting me into an upgrade.

1074
00:50:48.440 --> 00:50:50.280
He was calling me higher.

1075
00:50:50.280 --> 00:50:51.880
And I remember about a month before

1076
00:50:51.880 --> 00:50:52.720
that he had told me,

1077
00:50:53.600 --> 00:50:58.280
anything you do in prayer, you can have it in the natural.

1078
00:50:58.280 --> 00:51:02.400
If you can see it in prayer,

1079
00:51:02.400 --> 00:51:04.040
you can have it in the natural.

1080
00:51:05.440 --> 00:51:07.040
So this was a continuation

1081
00:51:07.040 --> 00:51:09.600
so that I can come in accordance and understanding

1082
00:51:09.600 --> 00:51:13.600
of his word and that his word produces.

1083
00:51:13.600 --> 00:51:17.400
And listen, the Bible says in the beginning

1084
00:51:18.360 --> 00:51:22.380
that the earth was void and dark and was formless.

1085
00:51:23.400 --> 00:51:25.160
And the spirit of God hovered over the earth.

1086
00:51:25.160 --> 00:51:29.400
And then he spoke the word,

1087
00:51:30.520 --> 00:51:33.080
the word of God.

1088
00:51:33.080 --> 00:51:34.520
He didn't fight nobody for it.

1089
00:51:34.520 --> 00:51:39.360
The word, that is your dominion, the word of God.

1090
00:51:39.360 --> 00:51:43.560
Void and without form is chaos.

1091
00:51:43.560 --> 00:51:44.940
It was out of order.

1092
00:51:45.880 --> 00:51:49.120
He spoke a word and put it in order.

1093
00:51:49.120 --> 00:51:49.960
There's not a Bible,

1094
00:51:49.960 --> 00:51:51.320
there's not supposed to be a Bible teaching,

1095
00:51:51.320 --> 00:51:54.120
but I just want you to see that we continue to grow.

1096
00:51:55.960 --> 00:51:57.400
We continue to grow.

1097
00:51:57.400 --> 00:52:01.240
And this was a head on, a dueling out of the gods.

1098
00:52:01.240 --> 00:52:03.000
The Lord's like, yeah, we about to uncover.

1099
00:52:03.000 --> 00:52:04.000
Just like when he went to Egypt,

1100
00:52:04.000 --> 00:52:05.560
he defeated nine gods

1101
00:52:05.560 --> 00:52:08.560
before he delivered the children of Israel.

1102
00:52:08.560 --> 00:52:11.240
He put those gods to shame.

1103
00:52:11.240 --> 00:52:14.920
He reminded them of who, what is it?

1104
00:52:14.920 --> 00:52:17.840
Jehovah Sabaoth, is there a God that fights

1105
00:52:17.840 --> 00:52:18.920
and mighty in battle?

1106
00:52:18.920 --> 00:52:20.360
Come on.

1107
00:52:20.360 --> 00:52:22.160
One of the miracles he performed,

1108
00:52:22.160 --> 00:52:25.680
the magician said, this has to be the fingerprint of God.

1109
00:52:25.680 --> 00:52:28.040
When he took dust and made nets,

1110
00:52:28.040 --> 00:52:29.160
they couldn't perform that.

1111
00:52:29.160 --> 00:52:31.880
They told Pharaoh, this is the fingerprint of God.

1112
00:52:33.840 --> 00:52:36.460
So we don't stop growing.

1113
00:52:36.460 --> 00:52:37.680
We don't stop learning.

1114
00:52:37.680 --> 00:52:40.820
And don't you know that they did provide an upgrade for me?

1115
00:52:42.080 --> 00:52:44.920
Even though I had already adjusted the way I pray,

1116
00:52:44.920 --> 00:52:48.840
even more so, I put more confidence in the word of God

1117
00:52:48.840 --> 00:52:51.360
and what it could produce in my life.

1118
00:52:51.360 --> 00:52:55.000
And trust it to produce over my expectations.

1119
00:52:55.000 --> 00:53:00.000
And now today, I happily say those decrees.

1120
00:53:00.360 --> 00:53:01.960
But look, when I started to read that thing,

1121
00:53:01.960 --> 00:53:03.600
it was like something grabbed me by my neck.

1122
00:53:03.600 --> 00:53:08.600
I was like, if you chain my route, where we going?

1123
00:53:08.640 --> 00:53:10.640
And we done talked about this.

1124
00:53:10.640 --> 00:53:12.640
This is where we going.

1125
00:53:14.040 --> 00:53:16.000
They going to the mosque.

1126
00:53:16.000 --> 00:53:17.560
I'm living in Texas.

1127
00:53:18.400 --> 00:53:20.760
And I'm getting married in Texas.

1128
00:53:20.760 --> 00:53:22.640
And we going to be happy in Texas.

1129
00:53:22.640 --> 00:53:24.600
Where you want me to go?

1130
00:53:24.600 --> 00:53:27.040
What you want me to do?

1131
00:53:27.040 --> 00:53:28.560
You know, when you say something to God,

1132
00:53:28.560 --> 00:53:30.320
he'll come through quick to switch stuff up.

1133
00:53:30.320 --> 00:53:32.560
He'll be like, but I thought you said,

1134
00:53:32.560 --> 00:53:34.440
I thought you said, I will follow you, Jesus,

1135
00:53:34.440 --> 00:53:35.520
wherever you go.

1136
00:53:35.520 --> 00:53:36.880
You know, if you sing me a song.

1137
00:53:36.880 --> 00:53:38.000
I love you, Lord.

1138
00:53:38.000 --> 00:53:38.840
I love you.

1139
00:53:38.840 --> 00:53:41.000
He said, oh yeah, okay, okay.

1140
00:53:41.000 --> 00:53:45.320
Let's, let's, some song, some song I don't even sing.

1141
00:53:45.440 --> 00:53:49.120
I just be like, are you ready for that song?

1142
00:53:51.080 --> 00:53:54.960
But anyway, and so we want to invite you guys

1143
00:53:54.960 --> 00:53:58.040
into an activation and we won't have a like 20 minutes left

1144
00:53:58.040 --> 00:54:00.080
after these four questions, but it's okay.

1145
00:54:00.080 --> 00:54:01.680
I believe this was really good.

1146
00:54:02.760 --> 00:54:04.360
The activation is going to be,

1147
00:54:04.360 --> 00:54:05.800
let me read it cause it's really good.

1148
00:54:05.800 --> 00:54:07.360
You're going to come back and share.

1149
00:54:07.360 --> 00:54:08.200
That's for sure.

1150
00:54:08.200 --> 00:54:09.840
I'm on the wrong page.

1151
00:54:09.840 --> 00:54:12.200
I want you, we're going to send you on a treasure hunt

1152
00:54:12.200 --> 00:54:13.880
and I want you to start digging

1153
00:54:13.880 --> 00:54:16.200
through what happens in your day,

1154
00:54:16.200 --> 00:54:19.520
situations to see what might the Lord be showing you.

1155
00:54:19.520 --> 00:54:22.720
So whether it be high, whether it be low,

1156
00:54:22.720 --> 00:54:25.360
I want you to look at whatever happens in your day

1157
00:54:25.360 --> 00:54:28.680
or in your week and see whatever that thing is,

1158
00:54:28.680 --> 00:54:31.000
see what the Lord is revealing to you

1159
00:54:31.000 --> 00:54:32.560
because in dating for discovery,

1160
00:54:32.560 --> 00:54:36.060
everything you encounter, he's revealing something to you.

1161
00:54:37.160 --> 00:54:40.040
And remember, most of this is,

1162
00:54:40.040 --> 00:54:43.800
some of these things are always, always to bring you up

1163
00:54:44.760 --> 00:54:46.760
so that when you see the suitor,

1164
00:54:46.760 --> 00:54:48.440
cause many are coming your way,

1165
00:54:49.680 --> 00:54:54.240
I don't care what you think, many suitors are coming your way

1166
00:54:54.240 --> 00:54:55.160
and you got to determine,

1167
00:54:55.160 --> 00:54:57.720
actually many men are coming your way

1168
00:54:57.720 --> 00:55:00.320
and you have to determine if they're a suitor or not.

1169
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:07.320
And if you haven't got out of the pond and you haven't jumped in the water, jump in the

1170
00:55:07.320 --> 00:55:11.160
water for your own sake.

1171
00:55:11.160 --> 00:55:21.680
Grow yourself, break open the growth so that you can see well and you can choose well and

1172
00:55:21.680 --> 00:55:24.640
you can live well.

1173
00:55:24.640 --> 00:55:29.920
Because what you choose is going to determine how you live out your days with someone and

1174
00:55:29.920 --> 00:55:33.760
nobody gets married to get a divorce.

1175
00:55:33.760 --> 00:55:34.760
Not nobody.

1176
00:55:34.760 --> 00:55:38.880
I don't think, I mean, I wouldn't, it's a really hard process.

1177
00:55:38.880 --> 00:55:39.880
So this is what you're going to do.

1178
00:55:39.880 --> 00:55:43.360
You're going to become a detective this week one more time.

1179
00:55:43.360 --> 00:55:47.560
You're going to take every situation that happens to not everyone, just grab one that

1180
00:55:47.560 --> 00:55:48.840
you thought was interesting.

1181
00:55:48.840 --> 00:55:52.960
Maybe it could have been a challenge, maybe it could have been a win and see, inquire

1182
00:55:52.960 --> 00:55:59.760
the Lord or look deeper into it to see what the Lord is revealing to you about you.

1183
00:55:59.760 --> 00:56:00.760
About you.

1184
00:56:00.760 --> 00:56:01.760
Okay.

1185
00:56:01.760 --> 00:56:03.660
Don't back down to challenges.

1186
00:56:03.660 --> 00:56:05.920
Don't back down to conversations.

1187
00:56:05.920 --> 00:56:09.820
Don't back down to the opportunity to look like a cutie patootie.

1188
00:56:09.820 --> 00:56:16.120
Don't back down to the opportunity to be feminine and bold with it.

1189
00:56:16.120 --> 00:56:21.520
Don't back down to the opportunity to play dress rehearsal.

1190
00:56:21.520 --> 00:56:23.800
Perfect practice makes a perfect performance.

1191
00:56:23.800 --> 00:56:26.560
You know, it's a telling that practice ain't perfect.

1192
00:56:26.560 --> 00:56:30.480
One of my teachers like, no, perfect practice, get it right.

1193
00:56:30.480 --> 00:56:36.600
But no, don't let this time, you won't get, once you get married, you don't get this time

1194
00:56:36.600 --> 00:56:37.600
back.

1195
00:56:37.600 --> 00:56:38.600
Okay.

1196
00:56:38.600 --> 00:56:41.600
You kind of have to deal with the cards.

1197
00:56:41.600 --> 00:56:42.600
You didn't deal them.

1198
00:56:42.600 --> 00:56:48.120
You actually choose the hand that you get, but don't waste time on you.

1199
00:56:48.120 --> 00:56:49.840
If there's a challenge, you've been put to the side.

1200
00:56:49.840 --> 00:56:50.840
It's not just about dating.

1201
00:56:50.840 --> 00:56:51.840
Pick it up.

1202
00:56:51.840 --> 00:56:52.840
Do it.

1203
00:56:52.840 --> 00:56:53.840
Challenge yourself.

1204
00:56:53.840 --> 00:56:59.280
No matter what area you grow in, they all flow into the same area.

1205
00:56:59.280 --> 00:57:02.200
They, I mean, they all grow to build you.

1206
00:57:02.200 --> 00:57:05.520
What you set yourself in order in the one area, even though there's people, anybody

1207
00:57:05.520 --> 00:57:09.360
in here go to the gym, you know, when you go workout, it actually makes you strong in

1208
00:57:09.360 --> 00:57:10.360
other areas.

1209
00:57:10.360 --> 00:57:11.360
You start keeping your word.

1210
00:57:11.360 --> 00:57:16.200
You start showing up on time because you show up to the gym on time.

1211
00:57:16.200 --> 00:57:18.400
You push through workouts in the gym.

1212
00:57:18.400 --> 00:57:22.920
So you are more likely to push through other things and just kind of have it flows.

1213
00:57:22.920 --> 00:57:23.920
Okay.

1214
00:57:23.920 --> 00:57:24.920
Amy Groves.

1215
00:57:24.920 --> 00:57:25.920
Hi.

1216
00:57:25.920 --> 00:57:26.920
Hey.

1217
00:57:26.920 --> 00:57:27.920
Thank you.

1218
00:57:27.920 --> 00:57:28.920
That was wonderful.

1219
00:57:28.920 --> 00:57:38.680
And I hope I don't have too many distractions going on.

1220
00:57:38.680 --> 00:57:44.440
I just had a question.

1221
00:57:44.440 --> 00:57:54.080
Not showing up in my best, but it's a bunch of ladies, so I figured that's okay.

1222
00:57:54.080 --> 00:57:57.120
Did I miss something with the discovery dating?

1223
00:57:57.120 --> 00:58:04.000
So I just started like the phase two and I think I'm watching the video currently listening

1224
00:58:04.000 --> 00:58:05.760
to the online dating.

1225
00:58:05.760 --> 00:58:14.000
So I'm like, I guess, so is that a thing or is that just a word that you were using this

1226
00:58:14.000 --> 00:58:15.000
evening?

1227
00:58:15.000 --> 00:58:16.560
That's a thing.

1228
00:58:16.560 --> 00:58:19.760
So discovery dating is what we do in phase two.

1229
00:58:19.760 --> 00:58:20.760
What you got more to add to the question?

1230
00:58:20.760 --> 00:58:21.760
Are you about to say, wait a minute?

1231
00:58:21.760 --> 00:58:25.560
No, it's just, I've kind of not been rushing through it.

1232
00:58:25.560 --> 00:58:29.120
So there might've been something, I feel like there was something about seven dates in a

1233
00:58:29.120 --> 00:58:30.120
timeframe.

1234
00:58:30.120 --> 00:58:31.120
Yeah.

1235
00:58:31.120 --> 00:58:37.400
So that's a, it's actually seven days to spring.

1236
00:58:37.400 --> 00:58:43.040
So you know, it may not be spring right now, but that is the, that's the video you watch

1237
00:58:43.080 --> 00:58:44.080
is like the getting kickoff.

1238
00:58:44.080 --> 00:58:48.280
I think it's called the kickoff where Jackie issues is challenged and it's just to get

1239
00:58:48.280 --> 00:58:50.120
you going.

1240
00:58:50.120 --> 00:58:54.080
You don't have to do seven dates to winter or whatever you want to do.

1241
00:58:54.080 --> 00:58:57.400
It is a good challenge, but it's not required.

1242
00:58:57.400 --> 00:58:58.400
So that's that one.

1243
00:58:58.400 --> 00:59:01.720
It's just to get you pushed, like ready to go.

1244
00:59:01.720 --> 00:59:03.720
Discovery dating is the phase that you're in.

1245
00:59:03.720 --> 00:59:08.680
So a lot of times, I mean, we met, I mean, we start dating and we say this over and over.

1246
00:59:08.680 --> 00:59:09.680
Is he the one?

1247
00:59:09.680 --> 00:59:12.240
Oh no, I can't pick him because I don't even know what he do.

1248
00:59:12.440 --> 00:59:16.160
I can't pick him because, um, I really don't like that word he just used.

1249
00:59:16.160 --> 00:59:17.520
I don't know about that.

1250
00:59:17.520 --> 00:59:20.720
I don't, I can't pick him because you know, X or Z or Y.

1251
00:59:20.720 --> 00:59:22.840
I mean, what would that look like if we had a family?

1252
00:59:22.840 --> 00:59:23.840
He lives over here.

1253
00:59:23.840 --> 00:59:24.840
I live over here.

1254
00:59:24.840 --> 00:59:26.320
That's not going to work.

1255
00:59:26.320 --> 00:59:27.640
That's not discovery dating.

1256
00:59:27.640 --> 00:59:30.400
That's trying to, you know, produce a husband.

1257
00:59:30.400 --> 00:59:33.880
But in this phase, we're not, we're not dating for a husband.

1258
00:59:33.880 --> 00:59:41.120
We're dating to discover, discover other people and more than anything, discover ourselves

1259
00:59:41.120 --> 00:59:42.120
so that we can grow.

1260
00:59:42.120 --> 00:59:43.120
Perfect.

1261
00:59:43.120 --> 00:59:49.120
Well, that is exactly what I need to do because I am scared to death to date.

1262
00:59:49.120 --> 00:59:54.120
So way to go to that woman who set up her online platform.

1263
00:59:54.120 --> 00:59:57.120
I'm where I'm, I'm trying myself.

1264
00:59:57.120 --> 00:59:58.120
So good job.

1265
00:59:58.120 --> 01:00:00.120
And one more thing, because we're, I will.

1266
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:07.000
I thought Mika was in her car.

1267
01:00:07.000 --> 01:00:09.160
And so I just wanted, I didn't know she was driving.

1268
01:00:09.160 --> 01:00:11.720
But I just wanted to put it out there, she's still on.

1269
01:00:11.720 --> 01:00:13.440
I thought she said she was in New Jersey.

1270
01:00:13.440 --> 01:00:14.920
And I'm in Pennsylvania.

1271
01:00:14.920 --> 01:00:18.920
So I just wanted to say that out loud in case she was driving.

1272
01:00:18.920 --> 01:00:22.960
Because we may be in really close vicinity.

1273
01:00:22.960 --> 01:00:24.560
So I just wanted to say that as well.

1274
01:00:24.560 --> 01:00:25.200
But thank you.

1275
01:00:25.200 --> 01:00:28.640
This was really good tonight.

1276
01:00:28.640 --> 01:00:31.280
And I am pushing forward.

1277
01:00:31.280 --> 01:00:33.320
And I was walking out of the gym looking like this

1278
01:00:33.320 --> 01:00:35.040
with my piggy tails and everything.

1279
01:00:35.040 --> 01:00:39.000
And I was like, walk like a wife.

1280
01:00:39.000 --> 01:00:41.000
Walk like you're leveling up.

1281
01:00:41.000 --> 01:00:43.280
Because I do settle.

1282
01:00:43.280 --> 01:00:44.880
And I have settled.

1283
01:00:44.880 --> 01:00:49.360
And so it's this training.

1284
01:00:49.360 --> 01:00:53.640
And I'm trying.

1285
01:00:53.640 --> 01:00:55.880
And it's working.

1286
01:00:55.880 --> 01:00:56.880
That's good.

1287
01:00:56.880 --> 01:00:57.880
Walk like a wife.

1288
01:00:57.880 --> 01:01:00.680
Come on, who want to walk like a wife tomorrow?

1289
01:01:00.680 --> 01:01:01.800
I like that.

1290
01:01:01.800 --> 01:01:03.480
Mika, is that where you are?

1291
01:01:06.400 --> 01:01:07.880
Tonight I am going to be.

1292
01:01:07.880 --> 01:01:09.440
Tonight I'm in New Jersey.

1293
01:01:09.440 --> 01:01:11.880
I'm sorry, tonight I am in Pennsylvania.

1294
01:01:11.880 --> 01:01:12.400
Sorry.

1295
01:01:12.400 --> 01:01:13.560
So where are you moving to?

1296
01:01:13.560 --> 01:01:16.400
I'm driving.

1297
01:01:16.400 --> 01:01:17.840
This is your new home, right?

1298
01:01:17.840 --> 01:01:20.280
I'll be.

1299
01:01:20.280 --> 01:01:22.200
Actually, I'm still in between.

1300
01:01:22.200 --> 01:01:23.680
So technically, I have both.

1301
01:01:23.680 --> 01:01:26.400
But I'm still going to be in, I'll

1302
01:01:26.440 --> 01:01:29.520
be in Camp Hill, Pennsylvania.

1303
01:01:29.520 --> 01:01:31.880
But I'll be still going back and forth to New Jersey.

1304
01:01:31.880 --> 01:01:33.880
So I'll still be doing some stuff in New Jersey.

1305
01:01:33.880 --> 01:01:40.720
But for now, unless God shows me otherwise or something shifts,

1306
01:01:40.720 --> 01:01:43.080
yeah, that's the idea.

1307
01:01:43.080 --> 01:01:45.240
And we know how God does sometimes.

1308
01:01:45.240 --> 01:01:46.640
No, don't talk about it.

1309
01:01:46.640 --> 01:01:48.960
I don't want to talk about it, Mika.

1310
01:01:48.960 --> 01:01:50.560
No, I'm just playing with you.

1311
01:01:50.560 --> 01:01:53.640
So Mika, Aimee is going to post her stuff in the app.

1312
01:01:53.640 --> 01:01:55.160
Aimee, will you post in the app?

1313
01:01:55.160 --> 01:01:57.600
And Mika, will you go check that out and grab her information?

1314
01:01:57.600 --> 01:01:59.720
Because you're not going to be able to grab it now

1315
01:01:59.720 --> 01:02:01.080
because you're driving.

1316
01:02:01.080 --> 01:02:04.440
Right, I'll, yeah.

1317
01:02:04.440 --> 01:02:04.960
OK.

1318
01:02:04.960 --> 01:02:08.040
I'll go back and check out the video again when I'm,

1319
01:02:08.040 --> 01:02:10.240
it'll still be, I'll be able to see it on the video?

1320
01:02:10.240 --> 01:02:12.760
She'll post it in the app, the app itself.

1321
01:02:12.760 --> 01:02:13.760
And then you'll see it.

1322
01:02:13.760 --> 01:02:14.720
Oh, right, right, right.

1323
01:02:14.720 --> 01:02:16.160
And then you'll see what information

1324
01:02:16.160 --> 01:02:17.920
you have to connect on the post.

1325
01:02:17.920 --> 01:02:18.840
Sounds good, Aimee?

1326
01:02:18.840 --> 01:02:20.000
Yeah.

1327
01:02:20.000 --> 01:02:21.880
OK, great.

1328
01:02:21.880 --> 01:02:24.320
All right, Tiffany.

1329
01:02:24.360 --> 01:02:24.880
Hello.

1330
01:02:24.880 --> 01:02:28.360
We're having major wins.

1331
01:02:28.360 --> 01:02:31.360
They didn't feel like wins, but they were wins.

1332
01:02:31.360 --> 01:02:33.600
Yeah.

1333
01:02:33.600 --> 01:02:37.520
So a couple of questions I have from all of that

1334
01:02:37.520 --> 01:02:43.000
is, now that that's done, how?

1335
01:02:46.000 --> 01:02:47.360
Can we just clap for Tiffany?

1336
01:02:47.360 --> 01:02:49.200
If y'all been on a journey with us,

1337
01:02:49.200 --> 01:02:51.920
she said, now that that's done, you know what's going on.

1338
01:02:51.920 --> 01:02:54.800
Something, because I don't get the update.

1339
01:02:54.800 --> 01:02:56.960
The last thing I knew was that she

1340
01:02:56.960 --> 01:02:58.760
needed to have a conversation with the guy

1341
01:02:58.760 --> 01:03:00.000
about the church stuff.

1342
01:03:00.000 --> 01:03:01.720
So I'm a little bit lost.

1343
01:03:01.720 --> 01:03:05.360
Yeah, well, the Lord has delivered.

1344
01:03:05.360 --> 01:03:07.320
The Lord has delivered.

1345
01:03:07.320 --> 01:03:11.960
Sunday, the Lord answered a prayer in a very specific way.

1346
01:03:11.960 --> 01:03:16.400
And I already knew I was getting to the point of going

1347
01:03:16.400 --> 01:03:18.120
to have to call it off.

1348
01:03:18.120 --> 01:03:20.880
But I still was kind of like, oh, I don't know,

1349
01:03:21.720 --> 01:03:25.280
and the Lord answered in a way that I couldn't go back.

1350
01:03:25.280 --> 01:03:28.400
Like, there was such foundational differences

1351
01:03:28.400 --> 01:03:31.000
that I just, I had to stand.

1352
01:03:31.000 --> 01:03:33.360
And so we're done.

1353
01:03:37.720 --> 01:03:38.520
I love you.

1354
01:03:42.080 --> 01:03:43.520
I'm going to tell you this, and this

1355
01:03:43.520 --> 01:03:46.040
is thoughts that I often have.

1356
01:03:46.040 --> 01:03:47.760
I know you said that you, in the past,

1357
01:03:47.760 --> 01:03:50.040
have chosen really bad relationships.

1358
01:03:50.080 --> 01:03:54.880
But I want you to know that God has put so much in you

1359
01:03:54.880 --> 01:03:57.920
to be made manifest in the earth that He's not

1360
01:03:57.920 --> 01:03:59.680
going to let you go easily.

1361
01:03:59.680 --> 01:04:02.880
And the mark that He has put so much in you

1362
01:04:02.880 --> 01:04:07.440
is that you have a record of choosing bad relationships.

1363
01:04:07.440 --> 01:04:09.080
So when God wants to get to us, He

1364
01:04:09.080 --> 01:04:11.200
puts us in relationship with people.

1365
01:04:11.200 --> 01:04:12.640
And when the enemy wants to get, He

1366
01:04:12.640 --> 01:04:15.760
uses the same avenue, relationships.

1367
01:04:15.760 --> 01:04:18.520
Anybody whose life has changed in any kind of way

1368
01:04:18.520 --> 01:04:20.720
comes from connections of people,

1369
01:04:20.720 --> 01:04:23.160
whether it be the people who raised you that

1370
01:04:23.160 --> 01:04:26.200
comes to almost set your destiny off guard

1371
01:04:26.200 --> 01:04:29.200
or put your destiny on the right track, or other people

1372
01:04:29.200 --> 01:04:30.960
that you meet along the way.

1373
01:04:30.960 --> 01:04:33.200
And so one thing that I have come

1374
01:04:33.200 --> 01:04:37.600
to know about you by the Spirit is that the Lord

1375
01:04:37.600 --> 01:04:40.520
has great investment in you.

1376
01:04:40.520 --> 01:04:44.800
And that as you have your report that you gave,

1377
01:04:44.800 --> 01:04:48.080
how much you learn from it, He has to bring you,

1378
01:04:48.080 --> 01:04:52.400
He has to lift up, lift your standards,

1379
01:04:52.400 --> 01:04:55.920
bring your true worth to you so you can understand it,

1380
01:04:55.920 --> 01:04:57.600
so that you can make wise choices.

1381
01:04:57.600 --> 01:05:00.200
So you will believe, and I'm not trying to stop at teaching,

1382
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:05.360
it's your time you will believe well since I'm such a jewel in the eyesight of God that he'll

1383
01:05:00.200 --> 01:05:01.720
I'm not trying to stop at teaching,

1384
01:05:01.720 --> 01:05:04.560
but you will believe that God has put so much in you

1385
01:05:04.560 --> 01:05:07.080
to be made manifest in the earth that He's not

1386
01:05:05.360 --> 01:05:11.280
just send me a man that's fitting for me but you wouldn't choose him if he sent him because you

1387
01:05:07.080 --> 01:05:08.600
going to let you go easily.

1388
01:05:08.600 --> 01:05:10.840
And the mark that He has put so much in you

1389
01:05:10.840 --> 01:05:13.840
is that you have a record of choosing bad relationships.

1390
01:05:11.280 --> 01:05:18.000
don't carry the worth and value for it you don't have it within you you can't see it that's the

1391
01:05:13.840 --> 01:05:16.600
Anybody whose life has changed in any kind of way

1392
01:05:18.000 --> 01:05:24.080
thing that people keep thinking if a good man would just come I see you won't see it and so

1393
01:05:24.080 --> 01:05:29.280
what the Lord does is he keep taking us through the ringer through the ringer through the ringer

1394
01:05:29.280 --> 01:05:36.080
why not to things get weeded out but the things that get built on the inside of you they cause

1395
01:05:36.080 --> 01:05:44.000
you to stand and to last and to endure and to press and to not give up and not back down and

1396
01:05:44.000 --> 01:05:55.280
to say even if even if there's a way we're gonna do this right so I just want you to know that

1397
01:05:55.280 --> 01:06:00.480
that their God's hand is on your life and he is going to mature you

1398
01:06:02.720 --> 01:06:08.400
thank you go ahead you're welcome so go ahead you actually wanted that was kind of along the lines

1399
01:06:08.400 --> 01:06:17.120
I have two questions is one how do I make sure that I heal well from this before moving on

1400
01:06:17.920 --> 01:06:27.440
and then the other one is I have seen I have seen the low standards and there was a time that I went

1401
01:06:27.440 --> 01:06:32.640
to the Lord and been like but he did this and he did this and he did this and I was like that's

1402
01:06:32.640 --> 01:06:45.040
all like so good and we do that we really do like that was good compared to what I've had in the

1403
01:06:45.040 --> 01:06:52.400
past and the Lord just I'm the Lord speaks frank to me sometimes because I need it and so he was

1404
01:06:52.400 --> 01:06:57.840
like well of course it was good but it was still breadcrumbs because just because it was better

1405
01:06:57.840 --> 01:07:06.800
than what you've had doesn't mean that that's my good and so that was kind of like a oh oh okay

1406
01:07:07.600 --> 01:07:12.720
so if I see how low my standards are

1407
01:07:15.840 --> 01:07:22.640
what do I do to partner with the Lord to get to get that maturity to get higher standards what do

1408
01:07:22.640 --> 01:07:29.600
I do on my end right so one of the things on your end you just did was you walked away for breadcrumbs

1409
01:07:30.560 --> 01:07:35.360
so if you never walk away from breadcrumbs you keep getting breadcrumbs but when you walk away

1410
01:07:35.360 --> 01:07:38.800
from breadcrumbs the next time you encounter somebody you might get a slice of bread

1411
01:07:39.760 --> 01:07:44.640
and when you deny that slice of bread bread you may get four slices of bread and when you deny

1412
01:07:44.640 --> 01:07:50.240
that and say no I want the whole loaf then you get you get the whole loaf and when you when you say

1413
01:07:50.240 --> 01:07:54.640
to the loaf I need more than a loaf I want the whole factory then you don't get the blow the

1414
01:07:55.360 --> 01:08:00.400
loaf no more you get the factory you see what I'm saying that's the progression of how we grow in

1415
01:08:00.400 --> 01:08:05.120
discovery dating you got to actually reject some things to get more because as long as

1416
01:08:05.120 --> 01:08:13.360
scarcity is your guy you're going to keep getting scarcity it's the growth happens when you say no

1417
01:08:14.000 --> 01:08:16.720
I don't care how much it hurt me I ain't gonna stick around for this

1418
01:08:16.720 --> 01:08:26.960
ain't gonna stick around for this that's growth it builds something in you that is intangible

1419
01:08:27.520 --> 01:08:34.319
it builds something in your soul it comes into the wounded places and it brings justice to it

1420
01:08:34.319 --> 01:08:41.040
and it puts the right thing there and then all of a sudden you realize you start choosing differently

1421
01:08:41.040 --> 01:08:45.760
and then you'll more quickly choose that way so you won't go six months down the road then

1422
01:08:45.920 --> 01:08:50.640
three months down the road then you tell you it break your back you getting some stuff bad enough

1423
01:08:50.640 --> 01:08:54.560
your back the lord got to let it get so heavy till it break you in half and then you choose

1424
01:08:57.279 --> 01:09:02.000
no don't wait don't wait when you feel a burden on your back don't wait till it

1425
01:09:02.000 --> 01:09:06.960
knock you to the ground and now you gotta pull yourself up by a rope just so you can see the

1426
01:09:06.960 --> 01:09:16.560
light of day uh-uh god forbid your back wasn't made to carry burdens and heavy loads the bible

1427
01:09:16.560 --> 01:09:22.319
says cast your cares upon me because I care for my he says that his burden is easy and his yoke is

1428
01:09:22.319 --> 01:09:29.920
light you see so one of the ways you grow is by what you just did that's growth that's why I rejoice

1429
01:09:29.920 --> 01:09:34.479
with you that's why I clap for you because I know what it's like to say no more breadcrumbs

1430
01:09:34.560 --> 01:09:41.920
I am you know not to say something so grand about myself but it's the principles of this

1431
01:09:41.920 --> 01:09:49.359
program that has produced the joy that I get to partake in that when I see breadcrumbs I say oh

1432
01:09:49.359 --> 01:09:55.680
no I know that's all you know how to produce but it doesn't work for me so go take your breadcrumbs

1433
01:09:55.680 --> 01:09:59.920
somewhere else and what's gonna happen is somebody else may come along they may

1434
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:04.000
try to give you something. And sometimes it could be breadcrumbs in one area where you have to

1435
01:10:04.000 --> 01:10:10.640
advocate for yourself and say, this doesn't work. As a matter of fact, when you're getting to know

1436
01:10:10.640 --> 01:10:15.280
somebody, you're able to say, hey, this doesn't quite work for me. Can we make some adjustments?

1437
01:10:15.280 --> 01:10:21.680
You want to see that to the end. You don't want to say bye-bye. No, no, no, no. Because if you

1438
01:10:21.680 --> 01:10:26.960
see it to the end, you get to watch them honor your words. And that tells you more than you saying

1439
01:10:26.960 --> 01:10:33.200
bye. You get to see, did they hear me? Did they adjust? And are they sticking with it a month

1440
01:10:33.200 --> 01:10:39.040
later? Okay, so that's going to be one way. Another way is you're going to take a break.

1441
01:10:39.600 --> 01:10:46.000
It's not time to date, if I had to say so myself. I want you to take a break. I want you to get this

1442
01:10:46.000 --> 01:10:50.800
person out of your system. You have to grieve what you thought would be. That has to be grieved. You

1443
01:10:50.800 --> 01:10:55.680
have to grieve not talking to them. You have to grieve not texting them. You have to grieve just

1444
01:10:55.760 --> 01:11:01.120
the expectation of hearing from them that day, right? So there are things that you need to

1445
01:11:01.120 --> 01:11:07.200
properly grieve. And you say out loud, I grieve not hearing from you today. I grieve not talking

1446
01:11:07.200 --> 01:11:11.760
to you today. You don't have to suppress it. Say it out loud when you feel the desire to want to

1447
01:11:11.760 --> 01:11:19.200
talk to them. Say, I grieve this, but in grieving, I will rejoice. The Bible says in the book of Isaiah

1448
01:11:20.000 --> 01:11:26.800
54, sing, O barren woman. That's what he says. He says, for more are the children of the barren

1449
01:11:26.800 --> 01:11:31.600
woman than the woman who had a husband with plenty of children. Sing, O barren woman.

1450
01:11:32.160 --> 01:11:36.800
So even as you feel the barrenness of your soul, you're going to lift up your voice and sing

1451
01:11:38.640 --> 01:11:41.600
because that's the goodness of the thing that has come to you.

1452
01:11:42.480 --> 01:11:47.280
Sorry. So yeah, that, not sorry, but that. So you're going to take time to heal and you're

1453
01:11:47.280 --> 01:11:51.520
just going to see what that journey looks like with the Lord. You know, getting your standards

1454
01:11:51.520 --> 01:11:56.240
up is more than a mind. It's a decision. And so he will give you plenty of opportunities outside

1455
01:11:56.240 --> 01:12:01.920
of dating to grow. Dating is not the only way. It's just a way that applies a good pressure to

1456
01:12:01.920 --> 01:12:06.320
you because of the desires and longings of your heart. Right. And so you're going to run into

1457
01:12:06.320 --> 01:12:12.320
other situations where you have to make a choice to say, no, this doesn't serve me best. No,

1458
01:12:12.320 --> 01:12:18.640
I'm not going to go along with it. That counts. Okay. Right. And so,

1459
01:12:22.000 --> 01:12:30.160
you know, grieve, grow. You learn so many lessons in this, still things to be uncovered.

1460
01:12:30.800 --> 01:12:36.240
And trust me, none of the lessons are, Tiffany was bad. Tiffany made a bad decision.

1461
01:12:37.040 --> 01:12:45.920
That's, that's not the lesson. The Bible says the enemy meant it for your bad, but God meant it for

1462
01:12:45.920 --> 01:12:50.800
your good. Now there's excuse he turned around, but I'm talking about the one that said he meant

1463
01:12:50.800 --> 01:12:56.320
it for your good. Meaning he was in it all along. You're God defended. You're not by yourself.

1464
01:12:57.680 --> 01:13:01.680
He'll never leave you nor forsake you. The Bible says in the book of Psalms that he is close to

1465
01:13:01.680 --> 01:13:05.600
the brokenhearted. And to those who are contrite in spirit, he will not deny.

1466
01:13:11.760 --> 01:13:15.600
So we were taking some breaks. We're counting as we go. We're writing that,

1467
01:13:15.600 --> 01:13:19.920
what we're hearing the Lord saying, look at how he revealed things to us. Look at what he showed

1468
01:13:19.920 --> 01:13:23.600
you. You take the thing that he reveals to you and show you, then you pray into that. You put

1469
01:13:23.600 --> 01:13:29.920
a scripture with it, then you pray into it. So you don't just take it and write it like,

1470
01:13:29.920 --> 01:13:34.880
oh, that's true. It's true. Take it, put a scripture to it and pray it through.

1471
01:13:37.680 --> 01:13:44.960
You can birth a new day in your life. You can take your truth and pray into them

1472
01:13:47.760 --> 01:13:52.080
and watch something come forth. Do you understand what I'm saying?

1473
01:13:53.120 --> 01:13:55.920
I had never thought about it that way, but I understand what you're saying.

1474
01:13:56.720 --> 01:14:00.560
Yeah. Take your treasures for you have many.

1475
01:14:03.280 --> 01:14:08.400
Well done, Tiffany. Well done. Thank you. You're welcome.

1476
01:14:11.440 --> 01:14:17.200
Okay. I don't know how to say your name, but it's your turn. Is it? Yeah.

1477
01:14:17.840 --> 01:14:27.040
Ivelisse. Ivelisse. Sorry. My back went out when I was putting in some laundry before

1478
01:14:27.040 --> 01:14:30.640
this started, so I'm not going to be on camera. I'm sorry.

1479
01:14:30.640 --> 01:14:35.120
Yeah. All right. Also for anybody else, I'm in Pennsylvania too.

1480
01:14:35.120 --> 01:14:38.800
So I'm in Bucks County, Pennsylvania, if anybody else is nearby.

1481
01:14:41.200 --> 01:14:44.880
And when she makes the post in the app, will you add your information on there also?

1482
01:14:44.880 --> 01:14:56.080
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. So I've started to date and I feel so much more confident

1483
01:14:56.080 --> 01:14:59.920
about this now because I did try before doing the program.

1484
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:06.400
program, and it's just such a difference, it's so different.

1485
01:15:06.400 --> 01:15:10.440
And it's so funny, like, we were talking tonight about the Discovery dating, because this morning

1486
01:15:10.440 --> 01:15:21.320
... it was a coffee date this morning, and well, you know, and I don't see it going anywhere,

1487
01:15:21.320 --> 01:15:25.640
you know, but we have a lot of things in common.

1488
01:15:25.640 --> 01:15:30.440
She's not a Christian, though, you know, so that's not going to happen, that's not going

1489
01:15:30.440 --> 01:15:31.440
to go anywhere.

1490
01:15:31.440 --> 01:15:38.400
But I was telling my girlfriend this morning, who also has done the program with me here

1491
01:15:38.400 --> 01:15:43.120
too, but I was telling her this morning afterwards, I was like, you know what, I know that I don't

1492
01:15:43.120 --> 01:15:49.320
see any future dates, you know, whatever, I already know it's not going to go anywhere.

1493
01:15:49.320 --> 01:15:52.840
But I was telling her, it's just been so much fun with the Discovery thing, because it's

1494
01:15:52.840 --> 01:15:57.960
exactly what you were saying, like, discovering about yourself, you know, and it's like,

1495
01:15:57.960 --> 01:16:03.040
you know, I'm talking to him and just thinking, listening to, you know, what he's saying and

1496
01:16:03.040 --> 01:16:04.920
what he's sharing.

1497
01:16:04.920 --> 01:16:09.320
And it's like, you know, what would, you know, and I asked before, like, about what if your

1498
01:16:09.320 --> 01:16:13.660
lifestyles don't align, you know, like, you know, so like, he doesn't go anywhere or do

1499
01:16:13.660 --> 01:16:15.120
anything for fun.

1500
01:16:15.120 --> 01:16:20.040
And you know, like, I'm always going somewhere, you know, I'm a travel agent, you know, like,

1501
01:16:20.040 --> 01:16:24.960
so I'm either traveling, or I'm doing stuff locally, you know, you know what I mean?

1502
01:16:24.960 --> 01:16:31.200
Like, so I just, you know, I just don't see like, where, you know, I already married the

1503
01:16:31.200 --> 01:16:35.280
homebody who didn't want to go anywhere, do anything, you know, my son took after that,

1504
01:16:35.280 --> 01:16:40.600
you know, like, so but it was just with the whole Discovery thing, it just really kind

1505
01:16:40.600 --> 01:16:42.960
of brought some clarity.

1506
01:16:42.960 --> 01:16:46.240
And it's just like what you were saying, you know, like, you know, that date, you know,

1507
01:16:46.240 --> 01:16:47.360
it's not going to go anywhere else.

1508
01:16:47.360 --> 01:16:53.200
But I discovered for myself, these other parts, you know, and that, you know, it was just

1509
01:16:53.200 --> 01:16:56.360
like, I was evaluating things and just saying, you know, what, like, I've already been there

1510
01:16:56.360 --> 01:16:59.800
and done that with the don't go anywhere, do anything.

1511
01:16:59.800 --> 01:17:05.360
And even though we have interests, you know, some of the same interests of different things

1512
01:17:05.360 --> 01:17:10.200
and listen to the same type of music, you know, and it's like, you know, you like, did

1513
01:17:10.200 --> 01:17:14.200
you go to the Depeche Mode concert that you mentioned you love Depeche Mode so much?

1514
01:17:14.200 --> 01:17:15.200
They were here.

1515
01:17:15.200 --> 01:17:16.200
Did you go?

1516
01:17:16.200 --> 01:17:22.080
I was there, you know, and it's just, you know, like those things, you know, like, I

1517
01:17:22.080 --> 01:17:27.360
think of my vision of, you know, my married life, I would like to, for us to go and experience

1518
01:17:27.360 --> 01:17:28.360
things together.

1519
01:17:28.360 --> 01:17:29.360
Do you know what I mean?

1520
01:17:29.360 --> 01:17:34.160
And so I don't know, it's just been it is very clarifying, but I just want to say, like,

1521
01:17:34.160 --> 01:17:37.760
this morning, I was telling my girlfriend just exactly what you were saying, like, I'm

1522
01:17:37.760 --> 01:17:40.960
discovering things from about my about myself.

1523
01:17:40.960 --> 01:17:42.600
And then you come in tonight.

1524
01:17:42.600 --> 01:17:47.800
Here we are tonight, and you're talking about that discovering about yourself and taking

1525
01:17:47.800 --> 01:17:51.520
things to God and growing and, and his word.

1526
01:17:51.520 --> 01:17:56.200
And this summer, he's just really, you know, like, from Supernatural Saturday, just showing

1527
01:17:56.200 --> 01:18:00.240
me stuff about just things and it's just been really wonderful.

1528
01:18:00.240 --> 01:18:02.600
So I'm excited about the whole process.

1529
01:18:02.600 --> 01:18:04.760
Yeah, that's so good.

1530
01:18:04.760 --> 01:18:07.960
And at least I'm glad you brought some clarity to the line because I thought you were talking

1531
01:18:07.960 --> 01:18:12.120
about finding that foundational things, which it is in part foundational things.

1532
01:18:12.120 --> 01:18:17.920
But if you desire to have a spouse that does travel with you, that's a big part of your

1533
01:18:17.920 --> 01:18:18.920
heart.

1534
01:18:18.920 --> 01:18:24.880
You would definitely weigh that out against other things as well, right?

1535
01:18:24.880 --> 01:18:29.920
Against other values and things they have, and then you start weighing things or, or

1536
01:18:29.920 --> 01:18:32.920
say, well, I'm just saying, you don't have to have a home body.

1537
01:18:32.920 --> 01:18:35.800
But if he is a home body, is he willing to travel with me?

1538
01:18:35.800 --> 01:18:40.400
Like, sometimes you have these clauses that get in place, like he may not choose to go

1539
01:18:40.400 --> 01:18:41.920
anywhere, but will he go with me?

1540
01:18:41.920 --> 01:18:42.920
Right.

1541
01:18:42.920 --> 01:18:44.400
And if he goes, will he be happy about it?

1542
01:18:44.400 --> 01:18:45.400
Right.

1543
01:18:45.400 --> 01:18:46.400
Right.

1544
01:18:46.400 --> 01:18:47.400
It's like he's stuck on a limb the whole time.

1545
01:18:47.400 --> 01:18:48.400
Right.

1546
01:18:48.400 --> 01:18:49.400
Right.

1547
01:18:49.400 --> 01:18:52.160
And so, yeah, but no, I understand what you're saying.

1548
01:18:52.160 --> 01:18:53.160
Thank you so much for sharing.

1549
01:18:53.160 --> 01:18:56.400
Let me just pray over your back right quick, ladies, if you would agree with me.

1550
01:18:56.400 --> 01:19:01.960
Father God, I just ask that you would allow your love to touch Evil Lisa's back for you

1551
01:19:01.960 --> 01:19:04.800
said that you so love the world that you gave.

1552
01:19:04.800 --> 01:19:08.880
And right now, father, God, I ask that you would give your healing power to her back.

1553
01:19:08.880 --> 01:19:12.320
But the Bible says that by your stripes, we were already healed.

1554
01:19:12.320 --> 01:19:14.840
So we agree with heaven was already been done.

1555
01:19:14.840 --> 01:19:18.320
And we say back, be healed in the name of Jesus.

1556
01:19:18.320 --> 01:19:19.320
Amen.

1557
01:19:19.320 --> 01:19:20.320
Amen.

1558
01:19:20.320 --> 01:19:21.320
Thank you.

1559
01:19:21.320 --> 01:19:22.320
You're welcome.

1560
01:19:22.320 --> 01:19:23.320
Yeah.

1561
01:19:23.320 --> 01:19:24.320
Okay.

1562
01:19:24.320 --> 01:19:25.320
Evil is there.

1563
01:19:25.320 --> 01:19:26.320
Yeah.

1564
01:19:26.320 --> 01:19:27.320
Was that it?

1565
01:19:27.320 --> 01:19:28.320
Evil is.

1566
01:19:28.320 --> 01:19:29.320
Oh, yeah, that was it.

1567
01:19:29.320 --> 01:19:30.320
That was good.

1568
01:19:30.320 --> 01:19:31.320
That was good.

1569
01:19:31.320 --> 01:19:32.320
Thank you so much for sharing.

1570
01:19:32.320 --> 01:19:33.320
Thank you.

1571
01:19:33.320 --> 01:19:34.320
Yeah.

1572
01:19:34.840 --> 01:19:37.840
I'm excited for you.

1573
01:19:37.840 --> 01:19:40.840
Roberta.

1574
01:19:40.840 --> 01:19:52.840
You're on mute.

1575
01:19:52.840 --> 01:19:54.920
I'm just like out of the shower.

1576
01:19:54.920 --> 01:19:55.920
Super tired.

1577
01:19:55.920 --> 01:19:56.920
Okay.

1578
01:19:56.920 --> 01:19:59.920
But as you were speaking, Ebony.

1579
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:08.980
a scripture came to me. So in Tiffany and Mika, I just want to thank you for your examples

1580
01:20:08.980 --> 01:20:14.780
of just different things you've gone through. The Lord's really used them for me, your vulnerability,

1581
01:20:14.780 --> 01:20:25.380
how you're sharing. So thank you. So this is Jeremiah 15, 19. It says, therefore, thus

1582
01:20:25.380 --> 01:20:31.780
says the Lord, if you return, then I will bring you back. You shall stand before me.

1583
01:20:31.780 --> 01:20:39.080
If you take out the precious from the vial, you shall be as my mouth. Let them return

1584
01:20:39.080 --> 01:20:46.260
to you, but you must not return to them. So really, that is one of my life scriptures

1585
01:20:46.260 --> 01:20:53.300
that oftentimes what Ebony is saying, like the Lord wants us to take what is precious

1586
01:20:53.300 --> 01:21:00.420
from the trash, right? And just learn. So really proud of you, Tiffany. I know it's

1587
01:21:00.420 --> 01:21:14.740
very painful, but keep going. Yeah, that's so good. One second, Mika. Amanda? Oh, no.

1588
01:21:14.740 --> 01:21:24.740
When did you go? I'm like, oh, I think she's going to get out the car. I need to talk to

1589
01:21:24.740 --> 01:21:30.780
her for my panel. Yeah, I got like nine minutes. I have a meeting afterwards, but-

1590
01:21:30.780 --> 01:21:40.700
How are you doing? I don't know. I don't want to take too much time, but I'm in the book

1591
01:21:40.700 --> 01:21:46.860
club. And I think for me, the biggest hurdle right now is I'm like, why am I in the book

1592
01:21:46.860 --> 01:21:56.660
club? Why am I doing this? Because here's my situation. In August of 2025, I left the

1593
01:21:56.660 --> 01:22:06.460
church where I was, had been there for three years, and I left due to a conflict that lasted

1594
01:22:06.460 --> 01:22:15.740
about two years. And that left me completely, I don't know, I mean, I don't even know how

1595
01:22:15.740 --> 01:22:20.620
to say it, destroyed, essentially. I was not going to church. I was crying every day. I

1596
01:22:20.620 --> 01:22:25.420
was already in phase one. So that helped me because I was no longer going to church and

1597
01:22:25.420 --> 01:22:31.980
so on. And it was really helpful to work with Bethany to kind of process all of that stuff

1598
01:22:31.980 --> 01:22:40.620
in the post and the community. And I've just started, I have to look for a church, right?

1599
01:22:40.620 --> 01:22:46.940
And I'm kind of like, okay, I have to go back to church, have to look for a church. I can't

1600
01:22:46.940 --> 01:22:53.660
date if I'm not in a church. I don't have community anymore. I don't have family. It's

1601
01:22:53.660 --> 01:22:59.420
kind of like weighing me down a little bit. And the point about the book club is, you know,

1602
01:22:59.420 --> 01:23:05.740
there's a point where we talk about the advisory council and having community. And I'm like,

1603
01:23:06.380 --> 01:23:15.580
okay, this is like, I'm having to start from way, like, I have to rebuild from the ground up

1604
01:23:15.580 --> 01:23:21.900
because there's nothing left. So I'm kind of like, oh, my gosh, like, why, why, why?

1605
01:23:22.220 --> 01:23:31.900
And as we're doing the work, I'm often, well, sometimes, not as much as I used to be, but

1606
01:23:31.900 --> 01:23:40.780
I get phases where I remember certain things that went, that happened in that church that I left.

1607
01:23:40.780 --> 01:23:46.540
And sometimes I just get angry. I'm not an, I don't consider myself an angry person, but it

1608
01:23:46.540 --> 01:23:53.820
just sometimes memories come up. And I'm like, okay, did I forgive? Maybe I didn't forgive

1609
01:23:53.820 --> 01:24:01.260
enough. But I think I got, I was rereading my notes and as Bethany had told me, it will come

1610
01:24:01.260 --> 01:24:08.060
back. It's normal. Like you've forgiven, but it may, it's in layers, right? But it's just like,

1611
01:24:08.060 --> 01:24:12.700
okay, where, where do I start? You know, when you have to build community, it's not something

1612
01:24:12.700 --> 01:24:20.620
that you can do in one week, in one month, like, and I'm like, okay, can I, is it wise to date if

1613
01:24:20.620 --> 01:24:26.060
I don't have community? Probably not. So I really feel that I'm like really,

1614
01:24:29.260 --> 01:24:33.260
I'm encountering like a big step back from where I thought I would be.

1615
01:24:34.220 --> 01:24:41.900
So I'm going slow, but yeah, it's, I'm navigating

1616
01:24:44.140 --> 01:24:48.300
really slowly and sometimes I'm getting discouraged. So yeah, I don't know if that

1617
01:24:48.300 --> 01:24:54.380
answered your question. Yeah. Yeah. I want to, I want to take a moment and pray with you. Is that

1618
01:24:54.380 --> 01:24:59.660
okay? Sure. Yeah, please. Yeah. Ladies, if you would just agree with me.

1619
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:03.040
Father, we thank you for Amanda, your precious daughter.

1620
01:25:03.040 --> 01:25:06.400
Father God, I thank you for the work that you're doing to bring her back home.

1621
01:25:07.040 --> 01:25:11.360
The Bible says that Jesus leaves the 99 just for the one.

1622
01:25:11.360 --> 01:25:15.360
I thank you, Lord God, that you have a place prepared for her in the Father's house.

1623
01:25:16.000 --> 01:25:20.720
The Father's house also looks like a church with family all around.

1624
01:25:20.720 --> 01:25:24.000
For when we're born again, we're born into a new family.

1625
01:25:24.000 --> 01:25:26.480
Jesus asked the people, they said, your mother is looking for you.

1626
01:25:26.480 --> 01:25:28.000
He said, who is my mother?

1627
01:25:28.000 --> 01:25:29.120
Who is my sister?

1628
01:25:29.200 --> 01:25:30.000
Who is my brother?

1629
01:25:30.000 --> 01:25:32.240
It is those who do the will of my father.

1630
01:25:32.240 --> 01:25:33.040
That's my mother.

1631
01:25:33.040 --> 01:25:33.840
That's my brother.

1632
01:25:33.840 --> 01:25:34.800
That's my sister.

1633
01:25:34.800 --> 01:25:38.720
And I declare that you have a place for Amanda where she will say, that's my brother.

1634
01:25:38.720 --> 01:25:39.760
That's my sister.

1635
01:25:39.760 --> 01:25:40.560
That's my mother.

1636
01:25:40.560 --> 01:25:41.680
That's my father.

1637
01:25:41.680 --> 01:25:44.640
That she will walk into a place where she'd be loved for who she is.

1638
01:25:45.440 --> 01:25:48.880
Nothing will be based on her past, but it will be based on her present.

1639
01:25:48.880 --> 01:25:52.720
Father God, I thank you that you have a place assigned and waiting for her.

1640
01:25:52.720 --> 01:25:57.920
So with that being said, I go in by the Spirit and remove the scales from her eyes

1641
01:25:57.920 --> 01:26:01.440
that she will not see through the woundedness and the brokenness of her soul,

1642
01:26:01.440 --> 01:26:03.840
but she will see with the eyes of her father.

1643
01:26:03.840 --> 01:26:07.440
For the Bible says that we are made in the image and the likeness of you.

1644
01:26:07.440 --> 01:26:11.840
So I thank you, Lord God, right now, that that image and likeness of you will cover her

1645
01:26:11.840 --> 01:26:15.600
and camp her and consume her, oh God, that she may see with your eyes,

1646
01:26:15.600 --> 01:26:19.200
that she may yield to your way and she may yield to your plans.

1647
01:26:19.200 --> 01:26:22.640
That when fear comes knocking at her door, she will answer with courage.

1648
01:26:22.640 --> 01:26:25.760
I declare that she will no longer be left out, left behind.

1649
01:26:25.760 --> 01:26:30.080
The Bible says that a day is a thousand years and a thousand years adds up to a day.

1650
01:26:30.080 --> 01:26:37.280
For you said not to count things not coming to pass as slackness like men do, oh God.

1651
01:26:37.280 --> 01:26:39.840
But all of your promises are coming to pass.

1652
01:26:39.840 --> 01:26:46.400
I declare that you are not a guy who is slack concerning your promises toward Amanda.

1653
01:26:46.400 --> 01:26:52.320
I think you should be like in the book for Psalm 126, that she should declare,

1654
01:26:53.120 --> 01:26:57.600
did we laugh and rejoice the day that God brought us out of bondage?

1655
01:26:57.600 --> 01:27:01.120
I declare that Amanda should laugh and rejoice for the day,

1656
01:27:01.120 --> 01:27:03.360
this day that you brought her out of bondage.

1657
01:27:03.360 --> 01:27:08.800
You said they sowed in tears, but they came back carrying armloads of blessing and rejoicing.

1658
01:27:08.800 --> 01:27:12.400
I declare that this is her testimony, that she's sown in tears,

1659
01:27:12.400 --> 01:27:16.080
but she should return back carrying armloads of blessing.

1660
01:27:16.080 --> 01:27:18.720
And all the people should gather around as the scripture says,

1661
01:27:18.720 --> 01:27:21.440
and see, say, see what the Lord has done.

1662
01:27:21.440 --> 01:27:24.400
He has done mighty great deeds in her life.

1663
01:27:24.400 --> 01:27:28.160
So I thank you, Lord God, that nothing she's gone through shall hinder her,

1664
01:27:28.160 --> 01:27:32.960
shall hold her back, shall stop her, delay her or deny her.

1665
01:27:32.960 --> 01:27:37.440
But she shall go forth in the strength and the might and the power of her father God.

1666
01:27:37.440 --> 01:27:41.200
And we declare it done in Jesus name, amen.

1667
01:27:41.200 --> 01:27:44.480
For the Bible says who the son sets free is free indeed.

1668
01:27:44.480 --> 01:27:48.000
And I declare over you, Amanda, today that you are free.

1669
01:27:48.000 --> 01:27:52.960
And Jesus shall get his full reward out of your life because his blood is sufficient.

1670
01:27:54.400 --> 01:27:54.880
Amen.

1671
01:27:56.720 --> 01:27:57.360
Amen.

1672
01:27:58.000 --> 01:27:58.560
Amen.

1673
01:27:58.560 --> 01:27:59.200
You're welcome.

1674
01:28:00.240 --> 01:28:01.840
I'll be looking forward to an update.

1675
01:28:04.800 --> 01:28:05.120
Okay.

1676
01:28:06.400 --> 01:28:06.800
Yeah.

1677
01:28:06.800 --> 01:28:08.960
A testimony, a testimony, an update.

1678
01:28:14.400 --> 01:28:15.680
Oh, you'll have it.

1679
01:28:15.680 --> 01:28:17.760
I don't, we don't pray in vain around here.

1680
01:28:18.320 --> 01:28:20.400
The word produces the word.

1681
01:28:20.400 --> 01:28:24.800
The Bible says when the word goes forth out of his mouth, it doesn't return to him void.

1682
01:28:24.800 --> 01:28:26.080
I didn't give you my hopes.

1683
01:28:26.080 --> 01:28:28.240
I gave you the word of God, the truth of God.

1684
01:28:28.240 --> 01:28:29.520
That's the word of God.

1685
01:28:29.520 --> 01:28:30.480
Those are scriptures.

1686
01:28:31.680 --> 01:28:32.080
Okay.

1687
01:28:32.720 --> 01:28:34.880
I'm like, Paul, I'm not eloquent in speech.

1688
01:28:38.080 --> 01:28:39.360
The word produces.

1689
01:28:39.360 --> 01:28:40.000
All right.

1690
01:28:40.000 --> 01:28:41.040
And you say, amen.

1691
01:28:41.040 --> 01:28:42.400
So that means do it again, God.

1692
01:28:42.400 --> 01:28:42.800
I agree.

1693
01:28:43.760 --> 01:28:45.120
You trapped now, Amanda.

1694
01:28:48.800 --> 01:28:49.280
Mika.

1695
01:28:52.080 --> 01:28:57.680
I just wanted to give an update about the guy that I mentioned last time.

1696
01:28:59.120 --> 01:29:04.080
I don't know why, but I did schedule a May's date.

1697
01:29:04.080 --> 01:29:07.120
I'm going to let him figure that out or schedule it.

1698
01:29:07.120 --> 01:29:08.800
I'm not going to do that, which was a win for me.

1699
01:29:11.280 --> 01:29:14.080
So that's supposed to be next Friday.

1700
01:29:14.880 --> 01:29:19.440
But I already know I can clock how long we're going to stay on the phone.

1701
01:29:22.320 --> 01:29:27.600
He struggles with carrying a conversation, and I was feeling like I didn't want to hurt

1702
01:29:27.600 --> 01:29:30.800
his feelings because I thought about saying, I was going to say what you were saying, but

1703
01:29:30.800 --> 01:29:36.640
I'm like, why is it a struggle for me to just tell him to just acknowledge what's happening

1704
01:29:36.640 --> 01:29:37.760
with our conversation?

1705
01:29:37.760 --> 01:29:43.280
I feel like it's going kind of flat, and I'm not excited about the conversation anymore.

1706
01:29:44.880 --> 01:29:50.400
You know that giddy feeling you get about looking forward to speaking with someone,

1707
01:29:50.400 --> 01:29:55.120
and I'm like, I already know that it's not going to be more than 10 minutes, because

1708
01:29:55.120 --> 01:29:58.400
if I don't carry it, it won't keep going.

1709
01:29:58.400 --> 01:29:59.920
It's like taking the training wheels off.

1710
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:05.000
But yeah, so it's like, I want to get to know him,

1711
01:30:05.600 --> 01:30:07.640
but I don't want to have to pull it out of him.

1712
01:30:07.640 --> 01:30:09.480
And he's such a sweet person.

1713
01:30:09.480 --> 01:30:10.480
He's so sweet.

1714
01:30:10.480 --> 01:30:13.760
And I guess, I don't know why I keep picking out.

1715
01:30:13.760 --> 01:30:16.580
I don't want to hurt his feelings to say anything,

1716
01:30:16.580 --> 01:30:17.800
but I like what you were saying.

1717
01:30:17.800 --> 01:30:19.420
Like it does need to be acknowledged

1718
01:30:19.420 --> 01:30:22.920
that our conversations are going kind of flat

1719
01:30:22.920 --> 01:30:24.900
or like, what are some tips that you could,

1720
01:30:24.900 --> 01:30:27.460
could you just revisit that advice that you gave again?

1721
01:30:27.460 --> 01:30:30.180
Like why it's important to articulate,

1722
01:30:31.140 --> 01:30:31.980
like, cause I'm not going to,

1723
01:30:31.980 --> 01:30:34.100
I'm going to resent that eventually.

1724
01:30:34.100 --> 01:30:36.060
Like this looks wrong.

1725
01:30:36.060 --> 01:30:37.940
And I think one of the greater things

1726
01:30:37.940 --> 01:30:41.420
that you need to grab ahold to is the theology

1727
01:30:41.420 --> 01:30:43.560
that you have your way of thinking about.

1728
01:30:43.560 --> 01:30:46.560
If I tell someone the truth is going to hurt their feelings.

1729
01:30:47.900 --> 01:30:49.820
Honestly, when we don't tell people the truth,

1730
01:30:49.820 --> 01:30:52.540
it's pretty unkind, right?

1731
01:30:52.540 --> 01:30:55.100
And then we use them for the truth we didn't speak.

1732
01:30:55.100 --> 01:30:56.260
And so the belief system

1733
01:30:56.260 --> 01:30:58.100
that I'm going to hurt someone feeling

1734
01:30:58.100 --> 01:31:00.040
by being meek or by showing up,

1735
01:31:00.040 --> 01:31:02.500
a person that I would consider to marry,

1736
01:31:02.500 --> 01:31:04.220
a person I said, shake my boxes,

1737
01:31:04.220 --> 01:31:06.820
you know, like, okay, that's a bit far, right?

1738
01:31:06.820 --> 01:31:08.860
Because now you're saying you scared

1739
01:31:08.860 --> 01:31:09.860
you're going to hurt their feelings

1740
01:31:09.860 --> 01:31:11.580
if you say something to them.

1741
01:31:11.580 --> 01:31:14.080
And so there's enough acquaintance for other things,

1742
01:31:14.080 --> 01:31:17.340
but not for your voice, not for your needs to be met.

1743
01:31:19.580 --> 01:31:22.560
Out of fear that you're going to hurt their feelings.

1744
01:31:22.560 --> 01:31:24.380
You're not going to hurt someone's feelings.

1745
01:31:24.380 --> 01:31:26.700
That's not true, but I want you to figure out

1746
01:31:26.700 --> 01:31:28.340
why is that your truth?

1747
01:31:29.220 --> 01:31:30.820
Right, right.

1748
01:31:30.820 --> 01:31:33.260
Okay, and so then you're going to say to him

1749
01:31:33.260 --> 01:31:34.420
what you just said.

1750
01:31:36.380 --> 01:31:37.860
The conversations are getting dry

1751
01:31:37.860 --> 01:31:40.320
and I don't look forward to talking to you anymore.

1752
01:31:40.320 --> 01:31:43.340
Oh, well, that's the truth.

1753
01:31:43.340 --> 01:31:44.380
It's the truth.

1754
01:31:44.380 --> 01:31:46.820
It's the truth and you have to understand

1755
01:31:46.820 --> 01:31:47.820
the nature of a man.

1756
01:31:47.820 --> 01:31:49.780
A man is not a woman.

1757
01:31:49.780 --> 01:31:51.420
One of the greatest thing you can see

1758
01:31:51.420 --> 01:31:54.220
is that man go to chat GPT and learn how to talk to you.

1759
01:31:55.340 --> 01:31:57.300
If you want to know you got a winner,

1760
01:31:57.300 --> 01:32:00.020
you're going to try to see somebody who's innovative.

1761
01:32:00.020 --> 01:32:03.180
That would be, and I'm not projecting him as your husband,

1762
01:32:03.180 --> 01:32:05.100
but this is what you want to see from any husband

1763
01:32:05.100 --> 01:32:07.600
that when you say, baby, you need to spice it up.

1764
01:32:07.600 --> 01:32:09.300
It's getting boring around here.

1765
01:32:09.300 --> 01:32:11.580
He'd be like, you ain't said nothing but a word, baby.

1766
01:32:11.580 --> 01:32:14.900
Come back with a whole laundry list of stuff you can track.

1767
01:32:14.900 --> 01:32:17.460
Be working from every angle.

1768
01:32:17.460 --> 01:32:19.260
Or when you said, baby, this boat is sinking.

1769
01:32:19.260 --> 01:32:20.460
We're drowning financially.

1770
01:32:20.460 --> 01:32:22.300
This, this, this, the house is falling apart.

1771
01:32:22.300 --> 01:32:24.020
You see him rise to the occasion

1772
01:32:24.020 --> 01:32:25.420
and do what he needs to do.

1773
01:32:25.420 --> 01:32:27.500
And so a lot of times when we're holding back things,

1774
01:32:27.500 --> 01:32:29.940
especially from a man, we're denying them

1775
01:32:29.940 --> 01:32:33.460
what is innately in them to correct, to do better

1776
01:32:33.460 --> 01:32:35.700
and to show us that this is a man

1777
01:32:35.700 --> 01:32:38.780
who's willing to do what it takes, not to please me,

1778
01:32:38.780 --> 01:32:42.280
but in his masculinity, he shows up in his fullness.

1779
01:32:42.280 --> 01:32:44.380
So whether with me or with another woman,

1780
01:32:44.380 --> 01:32:47.460
this is the masculinity that lives on the inside of him.

1781
01:32:48.500 --> 01:32:50.300
That when the woman he's pursuing

1782
01:32:50.300 --> 01:32:53.500
or the woman that he's with says this is a problem,

1783
01:32:53.500 --> 01:32:56.660
he investigates it and find out what he could do differently.

1784
01:32:59.580 --> 01:33:00.420
No, I love that.

1785
01:33:00.420 --> 01:33:01.260
I love that.

1786
01:33:01.260 --> 01:33:02.340
Straight to the point.

1787
01:33:02.340 --> 01:33:03.180
That's it.

1788
01:33:03.180 --> 01:33:04.000
Yeah.

1789
01:33:04.000 --> 01:33:04.840
Yeah.

1790
01:33:04.840 --> 01:33:05.680
So you don't have to fancy it up.

1791
01:33:05.680 --> 01:33:06.500
You can just preface by saying,

1792
01:33:06.500 --> 01:33:07.580
hey, I didn't want to say this

1793
01:33:07.580 --> 01:33:08.740
because I didn't want to offend you,

1794
01:33:08.740 --> 01:33:11.360
but I realized that you're a man or whatever.

1795
01:33:11.360 --> 01:33:12.320
I didn't want to say this

1796
01:33:12.320 --> 01:33:14.680
because I just didn't want to offend you,

1797
01:33:14.680 --> 01:33:16.420
but it's becoming really challenging for me.

1798
01:33:16.420 --> 01:33:18.840
And I want to share it with you to see

1799
01:33:18.840 --> 01:33:20.240
what can be done about it.

1800
01:33:21.080 --> 01:33:21.920
Not what we could do about it.

1801
01:33:21.920 --> 01:33:24.120
What can be done about it?

1802
01:33:24.120 --> 01:33:27.040
So you're already telling him why you're telling him.

1803
01:33:27.040 --> 01:33:28.520
He don't have to wonder if you're telling him

1804
01:33:28.520 --> 01:33:29.360
because you're going to say,

1805
01:33:29.360 --> 01:33:30.520
I don't want to talk to him no more.

1806
01:33:30.520 --> 01:33:33.360
You already said up front why you're telling him

1807
01:33:33.360 --> 01:33:36.440
because you have a belief that he can fix it.

1808
01:33:37.920 --> 01:33:40.800
You have confidence in his ability to get the job done.

1809
01:33:40.800 --> 01:33:41.640
That's good.

1810
01:33:41.640 --> 01:33:42.760
That's so good.

1811
01:33:42.760 --> 01:33:44.320
Man know you got confidence in them.

1812
01:33:44.320 --> 01:33:47.520
They'll work hard and then they'll get some stuff done.

1813
01:33:47.520 --> 01:33:48.760
And so then at that point,

1814
01:33:48.760 --> 01:33:50.920
any little thing that he does toward it,

1815
01:33:50.920 --> 01:33:51.840
and you know he's trying,

1816
01:33:51.840 --> 01:33:53.320
whether he hit the mark or not,

1817
01:33:53.320 --> 01:33:54.200
appreciate it.

1818
01:33:54.200 --> 01:33:56.840
Say, hey, I see you, you know?

1819
01:33:56.840 --> 01:33:58.200
Don't say it still ain't working,

1820
01:33:58.200 --> 01:34:00.680
but you know, just let him keep,

1821
01:34:00.680 --> 01:34:02.840
you know, try to, you know, work with it.

1822
01:34:04.560 --> 01:34:05.400
Thank you.

1823
01:34:05.400 --> 01:34:06.400
That was super helpful.

1824
01:34:06.400 --> 01:34:07.240
Oh, good Mika.

1825
01:34:07.240 --> 01:34:08.480
You got this.

1826
01:34:08.480 --> 01:34:09.440
Okay.

1827
01:34:09.440 --> 01:34:10.760
Ladies, take your time.

1828
01:34:10.760 --> 01:34:12.960
This is your activation for tonight.

1829
01:34:12.960 --> 01:34:14.560
I haven't said this in a while.

1830
01:34:14.560 --> 01:34:15.720
I want you to jump in your bed

1831
01:34:15.720 --> 01:34:17.840
even if you just broke up with a man.

1832
01:34:17.840 --> 01:34:21.680
I want you to roll over till you get to the other side.

1833
01:34:21.680 --> 01:34:23.320
And then on your way back,

1834
01:34:23.320 --> 01:34:25.000
say, Lord, I thank you.

1835
01:34:25.000 --> 01:34:28.520
One day, my husband gonna be laying beside me

1836
01:34:28.520 --> 01:34:30.480
and I won't make it to the other side

1837
01:34:30.480 --> 01:34:32.040
without bumping into him.

1838
01:34:32.040 --> 01:34:35.840
So God, thank you for my husband, man,

1839
01:34:35.840 --> 01:34:38.800
that is going to share this bed with me

1840
01:34:38.800 --> 01:34:41.280
just the way you designed it to be.

1841
01:34:42.360 --> 01:34:43.760
Can we do that, ladies?

1842
01:34:45.000 --> 01:34:47.560
Roll over to the cold side.

1843
01:34:48.240 --> 01:34:49.400
Get it a little warm for your husband.

1844
01:34:49.400 --> 01:34:50.960
Then come on back to your side

1845
01:34:50.960 --> 01:34:53.000
and kind of toot that little boot up in the air

1846
01:34:53.000 --> 01:34:54.720
as you snuggle up.

1847
01:34:54.720 --> 01:34:58.920
Go ahead and practice without apologies

1848
01:34:58.920 --> 01:34:59.760
because it is.

1849
01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:06.240
on the way. Do you hear what I say? God makes all things beautiful in his time.

1850
01:35:07.360 --> 01:35:11.040
All right, have a good night and I will see you ladies soon.

1851
01:35:14.240 --> 01:35:17.360
Thank you, Ebony. You're welcome.