Hey, Audrey.
Audrey, is this your first time with us?
Oh, good.
Well, hey.
Good to have you.
You usually go to Carla's session.
Hey, Kim, Chantelle.
OK.
Eddie?
Amanda, I already forgot what you told me to call you.
Edwidge is what I want to say.
All right.
Did I record?
Yes.
Ladies, it is so good.
You got it right.
Don't worry.
OK, good, good.
We're excited about tonight.
We're going to do it a little different.
You'll see as we go along.
You're going to do a lot more sharing.
We'll do a quick teaching, but I want to hear from you all.
And so I'm going to pray.
Father God, I thank you and give you your faith juice
for this week.
Father God, I thank you for these ladies.
I thank you for the awesome work that you're
doing in their lives.
And I thank you, Lord God, that no matter what comes
and what goes, they keep showing up.
I thank you that they're resilient.
I thank you, Lord God, that you have given them the stamina.
You've given them the mind.
You've given them the will, Lord God,
to press in no matter what comes.
And so Father, I thank you for a group of women that press.
I just speak that over you, that that's part of your identity.
You press.
The Bible says that if any man puts his hands to the plow
and turn back, he will take no pleasure in him
because he takes no pleasure when we shrink back.
Father God, I thank you for every one of these ladies
who refuse to shrink back.
When it looks like how they want to go and it falls apart,
they still don't shrink back.
They get up and they keep going.
And so I thank you for them.
I thank you for what you put on the inside of them.
And I just serve notice to you ladies on tonight.
It is when we carry these characteristics
that we get to the promised land,
that we get to every place in our life
that God has called us to,
that we come up to the call that he's calling us in
in every area of our life.
It requires resilience and you carry it.
So I want you to grab a hold to that
and know that you come equipped to do the thing
that heaven is calling for you to do.
Because although marriage is a light thing to the Lord,
the greatest thing for his eye to behold is you.
For the Bible says,
for the joy that was set before him,
he endured the cross.
You were that joy.
And so I want you to know that the Bible says
that you're the apple of his eye.
He has more concern and thought for you for the things.
Seek ye first the kingdom of heaven and his righteousness.
This is the way the word says it.
And all these things shall be added unto you.
So that tells you, he don't have a reason to keep it back.
He's already given you his guarantee
that all these things shall be added to.
What is all these things?
I don't know.
All these things for you right now could be a working car.
All these things for you right now could be some bills paid.
All these things for you right now
could be coming out of debt.
All these things for you right now
could be peace in your household
and peace with your children
and peace with your family and restore relationships.
All these things for you could be right now is a marriage,
but all of those things are all of those things
that heavens have promised us.
Nothing missing.
Just because you get one don't mean you don't get the other
because the Bible said,
all these things shall be added unto you.
And so Father God, I thank you.
I thank you for your goodness.
I thank you for your kindness.
The Bible says that you honor your word above your own name.
So if you honor your word above your own name,
then there's nothing that I'm convinced
that I'm exempt from because you are covenant keeping God.
In Jesus name, amen.
Amen.
You know, it's so interesting that God told David
that he will make an everlasting covenant with him.
That no matter what came after him,
he will keep his covenant to him.
And David's sons, because of the things
that had been sown into their bloodline
did a whole wreck of mess.
Things you be like,
you gonna sleep with your father's wife?
You rape your sister?
You this, and God still kept his covenant.
And so sometimes we believe
that because we've done things that didn't serve us best,
because something has fall apart
and that we made the wrong decision,
that God would refuse to keep his end of the deal,
that he's gonna break his covenant with us
because we've fallen short.
But it's not true.
We have an example right there in the word
that once he gives his covenant,
he is a covenant keeping God.
No matter what comes or what goes,
he's a covenant keeping God.
He kept his covenant to David
all the way to Jesus coming as the savior.
That is the line that Jesus came through.
He came through the line of David.
He didn't come through a priesthood,
but he is our high priest.
You see, and so I just think
that is a beautiful illustration
for you ladies to grab hold to tonight.
Listen, you can't get this, you can't get it wrong.
You can only learn.
That makes sense.
So though, you may not do the best thing,
but you don't lose.
It keeps working in your favor.
So maybe let me say this,
you can do some wrong things or not the best thing for you,
but you can't lose.
And sometimes we think, man, I messed it up, I lost.
You're not gonna lose.
You're on the winning team.
The Bible says that we are more than conquerors
in Christ Jesus.
That means we don't even fight the battle.
In order to be more than a conqueror,
it's already been won.
You're more than the,
a conqueror is the one who fights the battle and win,
but you're more than that.
Only because of the work of Christ.
So let us not deny Christ of what he's done.
Let him get his full reward in our life.
Let people look at us and declare,
that's Jesus' full reward right there.
Let our life look like his goodness.
Let our life look like his kindness.
Let our life look like his forgiveness.
Let our lives look like his hope.
The Bible said, even though Abraham
had considered himself dead, he hoped anyway.
Even though Sarah was past her childbearing years,
she believed the Lord anyway.
Let your life look like somebody said,
I don't care, I'm gonna believe him anyway.
I may be 63, but what else I'm gonna do?
I'm gonna believe him anyway.
I'll believe him till I go in the grave,
because the only other option is not to believe,
and that's gonna make me sick because I want a husband.
So I'm gonna believe anyway.
Ha, how about that?
I'm gonna believe anyway.
All right, okay, okay, all right.
So that's exciting.
We are some believing anyway kind of people.
We gonna be like Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego.
Even if my God don't come for me,
I ain't gonna bow down to you.
Even if my God don't deliver,
I won't bow down to your lies, Satan.
Even if he don't come, you ain't gonna take me out like that.
Even if he don't show up,
you're not gonna get me in defeat.
Even if he don't come, I'm not gonna lay on my couch
and act like Jesus' blood isn't sufficient for me
and cry my eyes out and believe that a God
who gave everything he was has forsaken me,
has forgotten about me, everything he did was for me.
So even if it don't come the way I thought it was gonna come,
I'm not gonna bow out to your lies,
because the Bible says,
let God be true and every man a liar.
And Satan, today, you are the liar.
And the Bible says, when the thief has been caught,
he must pay back seven times that which he stole.
So then you say to Satan,
now pay up everything you've taken from me,
my time when you gave your thoughts to my mind, pay it back.
Yes, yes, hallelujah, that's right, Tiffany, amen.
Amen, all right, so you ladies have been doing wonderful.
We'd like to take time and to congratulate you
and to celebrate you because this journey is a faith journey
and if you don't know by now,
a faith journey is not always sunshine and rainbows
and Hershey's Kisses, it gets tough.
Sometimes you gotta put on your comeback boots
and trudge through the mud till you get to the other side.
And sometimes it feel like ain't nobody coming
to help you get over there,
but one day you look up and you made it to the other side.
And so ladies, for every time you make it to the other side
of every lie that you're believing,
of every thought that you're having,
of every no that's in your face,
or every time you put your hand to it
and you have to start back over, you are doing well.
You are doing very well.
So I don't wanna get ahead,
what we're gonna be talking about.
So what I wanna do right now is,
any housekeeping rules, just keep doing well.
Y'all, yeah, there's nothing to update you on.
Amanda, I wanna hear from you tonight too
or send me a message or something.
Okay, so this is, yes, you, Amanda.
Yes, you.
Okay, I've been thinking about you this week
and I'm like, okay, I need to hear from Amanda.
So this is what I want y'all to do.
This is the first question.
I told you I wanna hear from you tonight.
And you're gonna unmute
and you're gonna answer the question.
I'm not gonna coach you.
This is not coaching time.
You're gonna answer the question.
Oh, I wanna give you a big hug too, virtual hug.
Yes, hug the Holy Spirit, hold it tight.
Okay, this is the question.
What's one win you experienced this week?
One win, don't get a backstory
cause it may take too much time.
Y'all know how we are.
Let's not deny the truth.
Okay, one win this week in one simple sentence or two.
One win this week.
Think about it and tell me one win you had this week.
If it's not this week, pick last week.
this month. And when you're ready, just unmute and go for it.
Okay, so I went to the noon time on Tuesday last week, so I could go dancing last Tuesday night.
And so there's this, it's on Facebook. Ebony, you need to go. Okay.
Okay. It's called Grace in Motion. It's a free Facebook. And so that's, we have the free dance
lessons on Tuesday nights at a church usually, but this last time they went to the Bohemian
Bowl, a live music dance place right there in Grapevine on Northwest Highway. So I went
and got to dance. And so I'm so glad I did. Yay. Yeah. All right. Good share. Kim,
Kim Smith, what are you going to share? Oh, well, I finally got the courage to get on a dating app.
I just been really, just really fearful, but I just, I finally got on and actually
talked to someone. So that was a big win for me. Way to go.
Thanks. Thank you. Yeah, you're welcome. We're so happy for you.
Let's go. Rapid Fire Popcorn. It could be you went on a date, you joined a dating app,
ask a question. Me too. I joined a dating app and am I not loud enough? It's Roberta. I just
can't find you. Roberta. The screen moves. I'm like, who is this? I got on a dating app
and I set a strong boundary and I'm talking to a couple of gentlemen.
She set a strong boundary and she got on a dating app and she's talking to a couple of
gentlemen. Oh, three. All right. I am registered to go on a speed dating, a speed dating event in
an area that I'm new to and just moved to. I almost I did not sabotage it by saying yes to
babysit my niece and nephews. I'm going to go to the speeding date, speeding event instead,
even though I'm nervous because I don't know anyone. I'm not familiar with the area,
but I figure even though it's not a Christian event, it could be a nice experience.
Yeah, we love that. Come on, new things. Come on. Rachel, I was about to ask you,
who is Siri? What's going on? You got a stage name I don't know nothing about.
I mean, that name was a little sexy. It's a French name.
It's a French. It's French. It's because people comments and tell me that my smile is beautiful
all the time. So it's my kind of prophetic name. So, yeah. Well, put that on your Facebook app.
It is my favorite Facebook name, actually.
Okay, go ahead. Were you about to share a win? Sorry.
No, I got this. I got to send you an update. You're not gonna be you're not gonna be proud of
me. I'll send you an email. Okay. I started what you what we talked about, but I didn't go
all the way. I'll send you. I'll send you. Well, starting is a win. You started something.
Yeah. I'll send you more. Okay. Good. Good. All right. Who else you chose not to react.
You trust the God in a place that normally would have made you anxious. These are all ideas. Go for
it. I have one. For me, it's no longer trying to control the outcome or control things. Just
allow God to guide me and do his thing while I sit back and just observe. So yeah, that's a big one.
Come on. Yeah, it's pretty cool.
That's so good. That's so good. All right. Question number two. Question number two is
what do you think God was trying to reveal to you? So if you didn't get question number one,
and you I mean, you actually had one, you can just tie it in if you want to respond.
So let's say you didn't get a chance. I'm gonna let you go one second. Let's say you didn't get
a chance to share what, you know, the win was, but you can share the win was this and I believe
that God was trying to reveal to me. You got it? Because the next question is, what do you think
God was trying to reveal to you through that experience? Are we all together? Okay, go for it,
Daisy. Okay.
So, the win for me is that I've been using my voice.
One of the last times I asked you a question,
you were saying to just, you know, you're in control.
You use your voice to say what you want,
what you don't want.
And this guy that I've been talking to
for a little over a month now,
I've been able to just be very honest
and open about some things that are okay with me
at this stage of getting to know each other
and without being afraid that it's gonna mess things up
because things were going really well
and I didn't wanna mess things up,
but I just understand.
I think God was just trying to show me that,
like you were saying earlier, everything is a win.
Everything is, we can learn from it.
So, whatever happens, it's gonna be a win.
Yes.
That's so good.
So good.
Anybody else wanna share what they feel like
the Lord was revealing through them,
to them, through their situation?
So, me going dancing was really good
because I, you know, I'm coming, getting over,
being in a car wreck and, you know,
getting my body back in gear.
And so that was really good,
but just being around some men and dancing with them
and one of the leader guys who teaches the class,
he's 6'1 and I'm like 5'1.
And so, and he was twirling me around
and, you know, and then he always makes a big deal
of no woman is walking to her car by herself.
And so when it was time to go
and I was just right on the other part,
just right across from where the front doors are.
And so I didn't even think about anybody walking to my car.
And so I was out the door, but not to my car yet.
And he said, okay, I just got the word
that I need to walk you to your car.
And he said, you know, another gal
that helps teach the class.
And so he just walked me the little bit too,
but it was so nice just, you know,
walking me to my car, making sure I was okay.
You know, I love that.
And so more of that's coming for all of us.
Yes, we receive it.
Come on strong man that's taller than me
and walked me to my car
cause he heard the Lord give him a word.
Come on, we'll receive that.
Yay to Tony.
Tony the tiger, come on Tony.
Oh, and I gotta tell you that the Christian singles group
that Tony's a part of and I'm a part of,
they're having, I know it's early,
but they've already put out the word
that they're having a huge Christmas party.
And so I don't know what cost there is
or if the potluck or whatever,
but I can send you all the information.
So it'll be in the Dallas Fort Worth area.
That's good.
Yeah, yeah, definitely post it.
That'll be great.
Yeah.
So let's all go and everything.
And show us Tony.
And do what?
I was like, point out Tony for me.
Oh, well, yeah.
He's the second one that asked me to dance
back at Thanksgiving dinner dance last year.
And so just so precious.
So yeah.
Good, good.
Yeah.
Thank you ladies for sharing.
Louie and I saw that you put one in the chat.
Oh, for some reason I went to the chat.
It would never let me get to it.
It just kept like copying me back up.
I'm sure it was my computer,
but thank you for posting
because I'm sure other ladies got a chance to read it.
It's good to see you back in the house.
It feels like when somebody, you know,
have y'all ever like been going to church
and then stopped going for a long time?
And then when you show back up, people be like,
oh, it's so good to have you back.
That's how I feel.
Like, what, coming back to the house of the Lord.
Okay.
What is so good to have you back?
I'm so happy to see you.
I really, really am.
All right.
So what is the business with all of this?
We wanted to hear from you,
but I wanted you also to recognize
that everything that you named,
there's something that you can draw from it.
And we're going to talk about one of the simple things
that we talk about in this session all the time.
Why discovery dating?
Now, the truth be told, you've heard me say this,
and many of you will relate.
It would just be much easier
if God gave us an Amazon package.
Some people haven't moved forward because they believe he's going to give him an Amazon package.
But hey, sorry,
that's the sound I make to make him stop barking.
No. Sorry for the interruption.
A lot of these concepts,
I'm telling you, it can take sometimes,
and don't relate this to your life,
your marriage life, a thousand years is as a day and a day is a thousand years to the Lord.
But some of these things that you learn here,
the reason why you struggle with them a lot is because it takes time to get it in your system.
It's just the nature of it.
Your head may have it,
but it takes some time to journey to the heart and to grab an understanding and a revelation of it.
A lot of it is a revelation,
it's an opening like, oh, that's what this means.
So you get frustrated with yourself because you feel like this is what I'm trying to do,
this is what I'm trying to do, but it's not working.
I am God defended.
Trust me, you cannot keep saying I'm God defended and all of a sudden become God defended.
I know you tried it because I did,
but it don't quite work that way.
But you keep saying it because it's a process that you're growing in.
In order to be truly defended by God,
you have to know what his word says about how he'll keep you and protect you and cover you,
how faithful he is to his covenant.
When you learn the foundation of that and you understand who he is,
that the grass withered and the flower faded,
but the word of God endure forever.
The Bible says, sow us the snow and dew falls from heaven and does not return.
That's how it is when God's word goes out of his mouth.
It won't return unto him void,
meaning it won't return unto him blank or empty.
That's how you know that you're defended by God because God keeps his word.
If he says that he's going to protect you and keep you and cover you,
nobody's going to swindle you,
nobody's going to bamboozle you.
You say, well, it happened before.
That doesn't mean that God didn't keep his word.
Did you even understand the guarantee?
Because if you understand the guarantee,
then you will know that there are principles that guard and watch over God's word.
When you operate outside of principles,
there's also a principle that is at work when you operate outside of that principle.
You subject yourself to these things because you
don't have a full understanding of what's happening.
It doesn't mean that God has failed you,
but when you fail to use discernment,
you're putting yourself in a really tough place.
When you pace out of order,
you baby, I can't nobody slow you down.
You on a jet to the altar.
Then you done left the word back there somewhere.
It's still in the crockpot marinating with you,
but no, you done jumped out of the crockpot,
got on you some running shoes and took out.
You understand what I'm saying?
Some of these things happen in life.
It's just the way it is.
That's why we grow into the understanding that we are truly God-defending.
A lot of times you'll see it over and over.
If you look back over your life,
you'll say it was nothing but the grace of God that kept me.
I'm in my right mind because God kept me.
That's being God-defending.
That's being kept by a God whose hand is upon you.
As you age, you can almost sense it's scary when you could have lost your mind.
You know when you're young, you don't feel it.
But when you get older, you'll be like,
my mind just almost slipped from me.
Not because I forgot something,
but I just carry so much stress,
I should have been broken.
I felt myself leaving me.
I felt me abandoning myself.
If you ever abandon yourself,
you realize how close you are to losing it all,
because you abandon yourself,
you leave yourself somewhere else and you operate outside of yourself.
When you do that, you do stuff you would never imagine you would be doing.
You'd be like, I lost myself.
You realize how easy it is to lose yourself.
That's just an example.
Now, back to discovery dating.
I don't know how we got down this street,
but it was a nice stroll.
In discovery dating, this is what's happening.
It is all about discovery.
In this program, we teach you the things that help you discovery date,
the thing that nobody really wants to do.
There are two parts to discovery dating.
It's the part where you discover a person.
It's true. You hang around long enough,
you're going to know who a person is.
You can pray that the Lord shows you.
It's a very good prayer.
But most of the times,
for me, it didn't show up the next day.
But if I was patient and gave it a month,
two months, and not afraid that I would lose something by doing that
because I operated under boundaries and guardrails,
I eventually saw that person for who they were.
If you just spend enough time without trying to put
your money on it and bank on it and decide for certainty.
And so one thing I learned about God in my own life,
some people get quick still,
cause he already know if he don't talk too fast,
you're gonna roll with it.
So he like, let me help my baby.
She ain't like everybody else, she a little different.
I better jump, I better do something right now
cause he know us, he know his daughters, he know us.
He'll allow processes to go through
so he can develop you and grow you.
Part, one part of discovery dating is learning someone else,
learning the skill set of dating.
Dating is a skill, I need to tell y'all that,
I don't think how many times I could tell you that.
Anytime you feel good
and you wanna run off with your feelings,
that's not dating.
Dating is a skill and it is one
that is not easy to attain to
because it feels so good to do it your way.
Even though your way has not accomplished much for you,
you are convinced that your way,
when that feeling come over you is right, it's not.
Okay, so dating is a skill.
The first part is discovering a person,
but the other part, which is the greatest part
is discovering yourself.
Discovering yourself is greater than discovering a person
because when you discover yourself, people are easy to see.
It's in your blindness of self that you can't see people.
When you are not aware of self,
you are not aware of other people.
So ways that I don't understand that,
how you know if you're not aware of yourself?
You know that you're not as aware of yourself
when you're nitpicking,
when you hold things against a person from being a person,
when you need them to be a certain way so you can feel safe.
You don't know yourself.
You don't need anybody to be a certain way
for you to feel safe.
When you discover yourself,
you know that you're safe within you.
And when you need someone to be something,
to show you something for you to be safe,
the moment you think they showed it to you,
you leave your sense and go over and let them lead you.
And then all of a sudden your language becomes,
well, you said, well, he said, he said, he said,
he said, he said it, he checked my boxes
because he said, and he said, and he said,
you forget that he's a person.
Like you are a person.
How many times have you said
you were gonna start a diet on Monday?
And you started strong, but by Friday you abandon it.
That's the same concept.
People sell you an image of who they would like to be.
They don't do it intentionally, but people do it.
We all do it.
We all put our best foot forward.
We all wear masks.
And if you would learn where you wear a mask,
you will be able to identify another person,
not masks to deceive.
It's just that you want people to see the greatest
and the best about you.
And because if you know this about yourself,
you say, well, Ebony, what does that mean?
That means you slow down enough
for the other person to come out next month.
And the other person to show up next month,
because it happens with you too.
The next phase of you gonna come up next month.
And then the next phase of you gonna come up,
it's like an onion.
You keep peeling back and peeling back.
And when you believe from face value
that what a person say, looking at their resume,
is exactly who they are,
it's a short sight of who you are.
Because you may be nice, but just like you're nice,
you can be not so nice.
Just like you're forgiving,
you can also be not so forgiving.
If a person touches on something that really hurts you,
that may take you a little more time to work through.
So are y'all following with me on that?
Does that make sense?
Are we all together?
Right, and so in discovery dating,
yeah, you're learning and discovering yourself.
And that's the second part of it.
And that's what I'm gonna reiterate.
It is the most important part.
I was talking with someone
and I had such revelation while I was chatting with them.
And I saw this happen in my own life.
You got something powerful happens on the inside of you
when you refuse to accept crumbs.
Actually, that's a part of the growing phase.
So sometimes we get offended
by the way men show up in our life,
but it's an opportunity for us to take back our worth,
to take back our value.
We think it speaks to us,
but the Lord is trying to iron out the kinks in you.
He's trying to get you to finally announce to the world
that this is not good enough for me.
Why would I say that?
Because I now know I am better than this.
Now I'm better than how much money you make.
Now I'm better than how you look.
No, I am worthy of goodness, not in.
things, but in character, in integrity.
You see, when you're able to date somebody who comes at you sideways and get to
know a man on the app that comes at you sideways and you say no,
and you don't let the thing think, well, maybe nobody else is coming along.
When you hear, maybe nobody else is coming along.
You take it as an announcement from me today that you are in an official test.
Are you going to let scarcity decide your future?
Are you going to put your foot in the ground and announce to the whole world?
I will not settle because if you hear that thought, that is scarcity.
And that is an invitation to say, scarcity will live in me no more.
Whether I win or I lose, I am walking away.
And if it's for me, it'll come back to me or I will get better because I have
raised the standard in my life.
And the Lord takes discovery dating to bring you to a higher standard, because
if you don't have a standard, your eyes cannot see what he puts before you and
call it good when, when, when Adam named the animals, every time he named one, he
identified them as God would identify them.
Not as what he would, when God said that's good, it's because Adam identified
the way that God would have identified it.
And God has to train our eyes and train our heart and train our thoughts and our
minds and our being to identify the way he identifies that when you, I really
believe this, and I may have said this last time, I believe that God has sent
plenty of husbands to us, but it's the lenses in which we see it is the trauma
of our soul that we have said, Nope, I don't want that.
That ain't gonna work for me.
I don't really like how short he is.
I don't know what, I don't know his stomach a little too big and I like to eat
healthy and I don't even know, like, I don't even know if he liked the bike.
I really been looking forward to a man who wants to join me on a hike.
I, that's what I asked the Lord for.
I asked the Lord for command and I believe that God wants to give
me the desires of my heart.
And so, you know what?
He going too slow for me.
I don't know.
You know, I don't, I know you're like, Oh, huh.
On this, are you trying to say something?
Oh, you're unmuted, but it's like all these things.
And so there could have been plenty of people who could have been well
married by now, but it is the hardness of our heart.
It is the rigidness of us.
It's the eyes in which we see, this is nothing to feel bad about, but I'm
trying to raise up your understanding of things because the point is, should
you go back and grab somebody?
You can only see to the level of what you have become.
That's the only way you can see you must become this thing.
And so the other part of discovery dating is you becoming, and oftentimes
we despise discovery dating.
When you find that you say to yourself, just tell me if he the one or not Lord.
And I'll be, Hmm.
I, yeah, you're refusing to discover yourself.
You're refusing to grow.
It's not about, you can't lose.
You can only grow.
You can only learn.
People don't have to come package the way you envisioned.
How do you get to that place?
When you find out the truth that you're not packaged the way you would like to
vision yourself being packaged, you know, your shortcomings, you know, your
downfalls, you know, the things you put your hand to over and over and you just
don't seem to be able to make breakthrough in them.
Does it mean that you're not a good person?
Does it mean that you're not wonderful to know?
Does it mean that if I had you as a friend, I would lose or would I grow?
It's the awareness of ourselves that help us see well.
And so I'm not going to drag it in the ground, but I want you to hear it.
I want you to hear that.
And this question has nothing to do with alignment.
Someone X foundation is foundation.
So please don't hear what I'm not saying.
And the reason why I don't mention foundation, which I could have is because
we're already on board about that.
So let me just say this.
We already know that the man should be three M's mature marriage, man, and
masculine, but this is not about if you align with someone, this is
about your resistance to grow.
You cannot shoot.
You don't know the level of husband that heaven has for you.
since we're saying you're gonna partner with him,
you can choose husbands on certain levels.
There are levels of husbands.
This you know.
So if you say, I just want one to go to church with me
and we just have a really good old family
and the Lord says,
that's because you haven't seen your destiny.
So no, we're not doing that.
What I put in you, the deliverer I put in you,
the priest of your bloodline
that lives on the inside of you,
I'm not gonna waste what I was planning
a thousand years to end the earth
in the package of Daisy,
to be given away to somebody
if you would just go to church with me
and read a scripture and read your Bible.
Now, if that's anybody's standard,
I wanna tell you there's a higher standard.
Because I guarantee you,
if you were on your sick bed and they gave you cancer,
you gonna want somebody more than just go to church
and read a scripture and pray with you.
You gonna want a man that can touch heaven
and come back with an answer.
You gonna want somebody
that gonna pray with you all night long.
You gonna want somebody to deliver you.
You gonna want a husband that can pull this thing off
and you ain't got a call for your pastor
because your pastor beside you praying
because he is the pastor of your home.
Like there are levels to these things,
but if you can't see beyond your ability
to just want somebody to be a companion,
baby, you can get a companion.
You can get a companion.
And so sometimes I am saying to you
that the things that we desire are such a low standard
compared to what God has put on the inside of you,
compared to what he wants to burn out of you.
And so hence we have discovery dating
so that you can take your voice back,
so that you can stop living in fear
of what somebody might do to you
and you come to the understanding
that nobody can do nothing to me
because I put myself under order.
You know the centurion man said,
when Jesus said, I'll come and heal him,
he said, you don't have to come and heal him.
You just sing your word because I am a man under order.
And I know when I tell this one to do this
and this one to do that,
they go and they do it because he understood authority.
And you have to understand the authority
that lives on the inside of you
that causes everything and everybody around you
to come subject to the order in which you live under.
How do you get there?
You put yourself under order.
You put yourself under the guardrails,
under the boundaries of dating and you don't give up.
You don't back down there to guard your heart
without diligence so you will never again
to be afraid of somebody hurting you.
So this time you will choose love and not fall in love.
You can choose to love a person.
Choosing to love a person brings greater joy
than falling in love.
When you fall in love with a person,
you lose back literally those,
that time is like a blur.
You be thinking to yourself especially
when you find out who they really are.
Like what I was thinking, what was I thinking?
You wasn't thinking.
But when somebody looks at you and says flaws and all,
I choose you.
Now I know you got a stank attitude.
We can work on that.
I still choose you.
I see your heart.
I watch you work.
You know, I choose you.
We can grow together.
These are the things.
Are y'all following me?
Yeah.
Discovery dating affords us this.
So those of you who are standing on the,
like we had some celebrations today
that someone's found and made a dating app.
And this is not to say, well, do I have to get on the app?
It's not about if you get on the dating app,
you don't give on the dating app.
The point is you need to be found.
And however you gonna be found,
I need you to get to a place where you can be found.
You see what I'm saying?
Because there is a journey to be had
in discovery dating, and the journey is you.
Because if you don't have,
if you don't let the father raise up your standard,
you will choose from what your eyes can see.
Whether you get a balcony view,
or you get in, y'all ever been on a cruise ship?
Or you get down and below the deck view.
You know that bottom room that cost the less.
And the more you go up, get ocean view,
baby, get an ocean view.
But when you get on the balcony, baby, get what?
You don't just see the water and the ocean.
You can see far, far, far, far, far out.
We raising up some women who can see far, far, far out.
Not far out to certainty, but far out to the possibilities.
Because they've been awakened to who they are.
You come up and the Lord says,
now I can send somebody for her to choose.
Now I can put some people in front of her
because she knows what to look like.
And she not waiting on me to say, this is the one.
No, she gonna be like Adam.
And she gonna call a cat a cat and a dog a dog.
And she gonna hear me say, that's good.
He gonna know that's the one
when I put my stamp of approval on it.
You see, you wanna be in a position
that you can see and see well, not certainty,
but use the things you've been equipped with to choose well
so that when the suitors come in front of you,
you can say, okay, okay, let me call this,
I'm gonna call a spade a spade
and I ain't gonna take no offense.
I'm not gonna get upset when people show up as they are.
I'm glad they showed up like they were.
I'm glad, right?
So that's so good.
You know, and truly as we go on the journey,
it really, it's not much about even the things
that you may say I got wrong in discovery dating,
it helps you grow.
God is always, there's always a revealing for healing,
a revealing for healing.
I'm gonna give you, maybe I'll share this another time,
I don't know.
I wanna give you all some time for coaching,
you know, I'm back teaching so I can't go off time.
I'm gonna share this with you.
Now, my journey has been wonderful with the Lord.
I'm amazed at the levels in which he accelerates growth
and it's because I get to be a part
of this community for one.
But we were doing some, we were on a fast
and we were doing these declarations
and we were breaking agreement with idols.
And so one of the things that we were to confess
was I break agreement with the idol of fate,
destiny, and one other thing.
And so it sounds strange at first,
and it says, Lord, I repent for putting my hopes
and expectations in a prophecy.
You're my God and I put my hope and expectations in you.
That's what it sounds like.
I repent for putting my hope in faith.
You're my God and my faith.
I'll call you once I talk to my stone guy.
Okay.
When I be in a group chat, I'll be like,
Lord, please don't never let me do this.
It's so funny.
So let me read this to you because it put me,
it put, you know, like those young people,
it put me in a chokehold.
I said, I just cannot.
And when it got to the part, I had to take a picture of it
because I had to meditate on this.
It was really challenging for me.
So I'm all down for it.
I'm saying my little declarations and yeah, Lord,
you know I give it up.
No idol in my heart, Lord.
I trust you, God.
Shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh.
Maybe this is it.
Okay, yes.
So it says, Father, I repent for every place
where I put my confidence in fortune, fate, luck,
signs, predictions, or my own expectation of the future.
My times are not in the hands of chance,
in the hands of chance.
My times are in your hands.
I'm doing good.
I said, that's right, Jesus.
The next one.
I cast down the idol of destiny.
My calling shall not become my God.
My prophecy shall not become my God.
My future shall not become my God.
I will never love what you promised me
more than I love the God who promised it.
Okay, they're right, Lord.
They're right.
I'm in agreement.
This last one, here you go, y'all.
I declare that my future belongs to the Lord.
If God changes my route, I will follow it.
I said, what'd you say?
If God changes my timing, I will trust it.
If God changes my expectation, I will surrender.
I will not worship destiny.
I worship the God who holds my destiny.
I couldn't say that.
I said, God, if you change my route,
you know I always gonna live in Texas.
What you mean you're gonna change my route?
What you mean if you change your timing?
Your timing right now.
Like, I couldn't say it.
I would not make words unto the Lord
that I could not say were from my heart.
And I began to weep.
And I said, this is a real idol.
When it says you changed my expectation,
I said, you wanna keep marriage from me?
What you mean?
I've been hoping in you.
I've been believing you.
And now you want me to say,
if you change the expectation,
I'm just supposed to accept it.
Are y'all following me?
You hear what this says?
Like, and if the timing change.
I said, what if I'm stipping for ice?
I can't agree to this.
I just can't.
We got to work it out, God.
Literally, this is what I said.
I said, got to be a better way to work this out.
Got to be a better way to work this out.
And so my mind knew it was time to have a meeting with the Lord.
And so I called on Holy Spirit.
As Holy Spirit, you're going to have
to reveal to me why I refuse to lay down an idol.
Because this truly is an idol.
When you can't release it, it truly is an idol.
And so I turned around and over.
And I said, come and minister to me as I sleep.
And I said, when did all this stuff happen?
Why you didn't tell me it was in my heart?
It's just like, you can tell my world was falling apart, y'all.
And so I got up the next day at midnight.
I do midnight prayer.
I'm contending midnight prayer.
And I said, Holy Spirit, help me.
If you don't come for me, nobody can.
We got to get this stuff.
We got to deal with this.
Went to sleep, woke up, got up for prayer the next morning,
praying, Holy Spirit, I need you.
And he said to me, the problem is not marriage.
The problem is you don't trust me.
You don't believe I'm good.
And I said, you're right.
He says, so your expectation is your control.
And you've learned from a child that if you
can control the things around you, that you're safe.
But expectations don't keep you safe.
And I said, oh, wow.
Wow.
It still causes my heart to move quickly now.
I really believe that expectation,
holding God hostage to what I believe he should do,
was going to produce marriage in my life
or produce anything I wanted.
I couldn't believe that I had made expectation an idol
and refused to give it up.
Y'all, if he don't move, I can't make it happen.
And I just said, my God.
And then as I sat with the Lord and I
began to understand, Holy Spirit, help me.
Listen, expectation does not produce God.
Only his word produces.
His word carries the infrastructure
to produce a thing.
When God spoke, said, let there be light, there is light.
And it has been ever since then.
Not just light in the sun, but light in the life of men.
Light came through Jesus Christ.
Light is a city on a hill that gives light to the whole city.
Light is salt of the earth.
Everything that God speaks is not an isolated thing,
but it breaks forth in the earth.
And so only his word produces the expected end.
The Bible says, and all these things are flooding my mind.
The Bible says that God makes all things
beautiful in his time.
The Bible says, if you seek ye first the King of heaven
is righteous, all these things shall be added unto you.
He gives us word after word after word
that I'm a covenant-keeping God, that I'm the God of Abraham,
I'm the God of Isaac, and I'm the God of Jacob.
Even when Abraham went up to sacrifice his only son,
he was going to do it.
And the Lord says, keep the child.
I have a ram in the bush.
He is a covenant-keeping God.
In his word is the fulfillment of everything.
But yet I had came and believed that my expectation was
the thing that was going to produce,
and so I idolized my expectation.
Do you see what I'm saying?
And I'm saying like this, he keeps
coming to reveal himself to us, to open us up,
to bring us into understanding, so that I wouldn't allow
my expectation that when it happened
to give glory to my expectation.
I knew God would do it.
Now, I knew God was going to do it because he keeps his word,
that he keeps his promises.
The Bible says that all of the promises of God in Christ
Jesus are yes, and we say amen.
Not some of the promises, all of the promises.
And a lot of times, the reason why we feel in despair
because we don't believe that all of the promises in Christ
are yes, and we say amen.
All of them, all of them.
And so I had a heart issue, and it had nothing
to do with the husband.
It had to do with I didn't believe that God was good
and that he would keep his word, and that's an issue.
He honored his word above his own name.
He honors his word above Elohim, the creator
of the heavens and the earth.
He honors his word.
If he gave it to you, it's a done deal.
Don't even allow your mind, if you hear the enemy say,
well, did he give me a word?
All of the promises of God, all of the promises of God.
There are lots of promises in the scripture
that relate to marriage, that relate
the children that relate to whatever destiny,
purposes, plans.
And so the, me having this expectation
of putting my hope in a prophecy,
where the prophecy said this and the prophecy said that,
if the prophecy becomes bigger than my hope being in God,
that's an issue.
You know how sometimes you get to start
getting to know a person
and you line up everything based on what we've been,
they said this, this is a sign.
And then they said this, and then this,
that's still gonna lead you down a road to nowhere fast.
The Bible says that signs are for unbelievers.
It's nothing wrong with signs
and he does give people confirmation through signs,
but you don't have to live your life that way.
How about something solid like the word of God?
But anyway, so this happened to me just last week
and I realized what the Lord was doing.
He was inviting me into an upgrade.
He was calling me higher.
And I remember about a month before
that he had told me,
anything you do in prayer, you can have it in the natural.
If you can see it in prayer,
you can have it in the natural.
So this was a continuation
so that I can come in accordance and understanding
of his word and that his word produces.
And listen, the Bible says in the beginning
that the earth was void and dark and was formless.
And the spirit of God hovered over the earth.
And then he spoke the word,
the word of God.
He didn't fight nobody for it.
The word, that is your dominion, the word of God.
Void and without form is chaos.
It was out of order.
He spoke a word and put it in order.
There's not a Bible,
there's not supposed to be a Bible teaching,
but I just want you to see that we continue to grow.
We continue to grow.
And this was a head on, a dueling out of the gods.
The Lord's like, yeah, we about to uncover.
Just like when he went to Egypt,
he defeated nine gods
before he delivered the children of Israel.
He put those gods to shame.
He reminded them of who, what is it?
Jehovah Sabaoth, is there a God that fights
and mighty in battle?
Come on.
One of the miracles he performed,
the magician said, this has to be the fingerprint of God.
When he took dust and made nets,
they couldn't perform that.
They told Pharaoh, this is the fingerprint of God.
So we don't stop growing.
We don't stop learning.
And don't you know that they did provide an upgrade for me?
Even though I had already adjusted the way I pray,
even more so, I put more confidence in the word of God
and what it could produce in my life.
And trust it to produce over my expectations.
And now today, I happily say those decrees.
But look, when I started to read that thing,
it was like something grabbed me by my neck.
I was like, if you chain my route, where we going?
And we done talked about this.
This is where we going.
They going to the mosque.
I'm living in Texas.
And I'm getting married in Texas.
And we going to be happy in Texas.
Where you want me to go?
What you want me to do?
You know, when you say something to God,
he'll come through quick to switch stuff up.
He'll be like, but I thought you said,
I thought you said, I will follow you, Jesus,
wherever you go.
You know, if you sing me a song.
I love you, Lord.
I love you.
He said, oh yeah, okay, okay.
Let's, let's, some song, some song I don't even sing.
I just be like, are you ready for that song?
But anyway, and so we want to invite you guys
into an activation and we won't have a like 20 minutes left
after these four questions, but it's okay.
I believe this was really good.
The activation is going to be,
let me read it cause it's really good.
You're going to come back and share.
That's for sure.
I'm on the wrong page.
I want you, we're going to send you on a treasure hunt
and I want you to start digging
through what happens in your day,
situations to see what might the Lord be showing you.
So whether it be high, whether it be low,
I want you to look at whatever happens in your day
or in your week and see whatever that thing is,
see what the Lord is revealing to you
because in dating for discovery,
everything you encounter, he's revealing something to you.
And remember, most of this is,
some of these things are always, always to bring you up
so that when you see the suitor,
cause many are coming your way,
I don't care what you think, many suitors are coming your way
and you got to determine,
actually many men are coming your way
and you have to determine if they're a suitor or not.
And if you haven't got out of the pond and you haven't jumped in the water, jump in the
water for your own sake.
Grow yourself, break open the growth so that you can see well and you can choose well and
you can live well.
Because what you choose is going to determine how you live out your days with someone and
nobody gets married to get a divorce.
Not nobody.
I don't think, I mean, I wouldn't, it's a really hard process.
So this is what you're going to do.
You're going to become a detective this week one more time.
You're going to take every situation that happens to not everyone, just grab one that
you thought was interesting.
Maybe it could have been a challenge, maybe it could have been a win and see, inquire
the Lord or look deeper into it to see what the Lord is revealing to you about you.
About you.
Okay.
Don't back down to challenges.
Don't back down to conversations.
Don't back down to the opportunity to look like a cutie patootie.
Don't back down to the opportunity to be feminine and bold with it.
Don't back down to the opportunity to play dress rehearsal.
Perfect practice makes a perfect performance.
You know, it's a telling that practice ain't perfect.
One of my teachers like, no, perfect practice, get it right.
But no, don't let this time, you won't get, once you get married, you don't get this time
back.
Okay.
You kind of have to deal with the cards.
You didn't deal them.
You actually choose the hand that you get, but don't waste time on you.
If there's a challenge, you've been put to the side.
It's not just about dating.
Pick it up.
Do it.
Challenge yourself.
No matter what area you grow in, they all flow into the same area.
They, I mean, they all grow to build you.
What you set yourself in order in the one area, even though there's people, anybody
in here go to the gym, you know, when you go workout, it actually makes you strong in
other areas.
You start keeping your word.
You start showing up on time because you show up to the gym on time.
You push through workouts in the gym.
So you are more likely to push through other things and just kind of have it flows.
Okay.
Amy Groves.
Hi.
Hey.
Thank you.
That was wonderful.
And I hope I don't have too many distractions going on.
I just had a question.
Not showing up in my best, but it's a bunch of ladies, so I figured that's okay.
Did I miss something with the discovery dating?
So I just started like the phase two and I think I'm watching the video currently listening
to the online dating.
So I'm like, I guess, so is that a thing or is that just a word that you were using this
evening?
That's a thing.
So discovery dating is what we do in phase two.
What you got more to add to the question?
Are you about to say, wait a minute?
No, it's just, I've kind of not been rushing through it.
So there might've been something, I feel like there was something about seven dates in a
timeframe.
Yeah.
So that's a, it's actually seven days to spring.
So you know, it may not be spring right now, but that is the, that's the video you watch
is like the getting kickoff.
I think it's called the kickoff where Jackie issues is challenged and it's just to get
you going.
You don't have to do seven dates to winter or whatever you want to do.
It is a good challenge, but it's not required.
So that's that one.
It's just to get you pushed, like ready to go.
Discovery dating is the phase that you're in.
So a lot of times, I mean, we met, I mean, we start dating and we say this over and over.
Is he the one?
Oh no, I can't pick him because I don't even know what he do.
I can't pick him because, um, I really don't like that word he just used.
I don't know about that.
I don't, I can't pick him because you know, X or Z or Y.
I mean, what would that look like if we had a family?
He lives over here.
I live over here.
That's not going to work.
That's not discovery dating.
That's trying to, you know, produce a husband.
But in this phase, we're not, we're not dating for a husband.
We're dating to discover, discover other people and more than anything, discover ourselves
so that we can grow.
Perfect.
Well, that is exactly what I need to do because I am scared to death to date.
So way to go to that woman who set up her online platform.
I'm where I'm, I'm trying myself.
So good job.
And one more thing, because we're, I will.
I thought Mika was in her car.
And so I just wanted, I didn't know she was driving.
But I just wanted to put it out there, she's still on.
I thought she said she was in New Jersey.
And I'm in Pennsylvania.
So I just wanted to say that out loud in case she was driving.
Because we may be in really close vicinity.
So I just wanted to say that as well.
But thank you.
This was really good tonight.
And I am pushing forward.
And I was walking out of the gym looking like this
with my piggy tails and everything.
And I was like, walk like a wife.
Walk like you're leveling up.
Because I do settle.
And I have settled.
And so it's this training.
And I'm trying.
And it's working.
That's good.
Walk like a wife.
Come on, who want to walk like a wife tomorrow?
I like that.
Mika, is that where you are?
Tonight I am going to be.
Tonight I'm in New Jersey.
I'm sorry, tonight I am in Pennsylvania.
Sorry.
So where are you moving to?
I'm driving.
This is your new home, right?
I'll be.
Actually, I'm still in between.
So technically, I have both.
But I'm still going to be in, I'll
be in Camp Hill, Pennsylvania.
But I'll be still going back and forth to New Jersey.
So I'll still be doing some stuff in New Jersey.
But for now, unless God shows me otherwise or something shifts,
yeah, that's the idea.
And we know how God does sometimes.
No, don't talk about it.
I don't want to talk about it, Mika.
No, I'm just playing with you.
So Mika, Aimee is going to post her stuff in the app.
Aimee, will you post in the app?
And Mika, will you go check that out and grab her information?
Because you're not going to be able to grab it now
because you're driving.
Right, I'll, yeah.
OK.
I'll go back and check out the video again when I'm,
it'll still be, I'll be able to see it on the video?
She'll post it in the app, the app itself.
And then you'll see it.
Oh, right, right, right.
And then you'll see what information
you have to connect on the post.
Sounds good, Aimee?
Yeah.
OK, great.
All right, Tiffany.
Hello.
We're having major wins.
They didn't feel like wins, but they were wins.
Yeah.
So a couple of questions I have from all of that
is, now that that's done, how?
Can we just clap for Tiffany?
If y'all been on a journey with us,
she said, now that that's done, you know what's going on.
Something, because I don't get the update.
The last thing I knew was that she
needed to have a conversation with the guy
about the church stuff.
So I'm a little bit lost.
Yeah, well, the Lord has delivered.
The Lord has delivered.
Sunday, the Lord answered a prayer in a very specific way.
And I already knew I was getting to the point of going
to have to call it off.
But I still was kind of like, oh, I don't know,
and the Lord answered in a way that I couldn't go back.
Like, there was such foundational differences
that I just, I had to stand.
And so we're done.
I love you.
I'm going to tell you this, and this
is thoughts that I often have.
I know you said that you, in the past,
have chosen really bad relationships.
But I want you to know that God has put so much in you
to be made manifest in the earth that He's not
going to let you go easily.
And the mark that He has put so much in you
is that you have a record of choosing bad relationships.
So when God wants to get to us, He
puts us in relationship with people.
And when the enemy wants to get, He
uses the same avenue, relationships.
Anybody whose life has changed in any kind of way
comes from connections of people,
whether it be the people who raised you that
comes to almost set your destiny off guard
or put your destiny on the right track, or other people
that you meet along the way.
And so one thing that I have come
to know about you by the Spirit is that the Lord
has great investment in you.
And that as you have your report that you gave,
how much you learn from it, He has to bring you,
He has to lift up, lift your standards,
bring your true worth to you so you can understand it,
so that you can make wise choices.
So you will believe, and I'm not trying to stop at teaching,
it's your time you will believe well since I'm such a jewel in the eyesight of God that he'll
I'm not trying to stop at teaching,
but you will believe that God has put so much in you
to be made manifest in the earth that He's not
just send me a man that's fitting for me but you wouldn't choose him if he sent him because you
going to let you go easily.
And the mark that He has put so much in you
is that you have a record of choosing bad relationships.
don't carry the worth and value for it you don't have it within you you can't see it that's the
Anybody whose life has changed in any kind of way
thing that people keep thinking if a good man would just come I see you won't see it and so
what the Lord does is he keep taking us through the ringer through the ringer through the ringer
why not to things get weeded out but the things that get built on the inside of you they cause
you to stand and to last and to endure and to press and to not give up and not back down and
to say even if even if there's a way we're gonna do this right so I just want you to know that
that their God's hand is on your life and he is going to mature you
thank you go ahead you're welcome so go ahead you actually wanted that was kind of along the lines
I have two questions is one how do I make sure that I heal well from this before moving on
and then the other one is I have seen I have seen the low standards and there was a time that I went
to the Lord and been like but he did this and he did this and he did this and I was like that's
all like so good and we do that we really do like that was good compared to what I've had in the
past and the Lord just I'm the Lord speaks frank to me sometimes because I need it and so he was
like well of course it was good but it was still breadcrumbs because just because it was better
than what you've had doesn't mean that that's my good and so that was kind of like a oh oh okay
so if I see how low my standards are
what do I do to partner with the Lord to get to get that maturity to get higher standards what do
I do on my end right so one of the things on your end you just did was you walked away for breadcrumbs
so if you never walk away from breadcrumbs you keep getting breadcrumbs but when you walk away
from breadcrumbs the next time you encounter somebody you might get a slice of bread
and when you deny that slice of bread bread you may get four slices of bread and when you deny
that and say no I want the whole loaf then you get you get the whole loaf and when you when you say
to the loaf I need more than a loaf I want the whole factory then you don't get the blow the
loaf no more you get the factory you see what I'm saying that's the progression of how we grow in
discovery dating you got to actually reject some things to get more because as long as
scarcity is your guy you're going to keep getting scarcity it's the growth happens when you say no
I don't care how much it hurt me I ain't gonna stick around for this
ain't gonna stick around for this that's growth it builds something in you that is intangible
it builds something in your soul it comes into the wounded places and it brings justice to it
and it puts the right thing there and then all of a sudden you realize you start choosing differently
and then you'll more quickly choose that way so you won't go six months down the road then
three months down the road then you tell you it break your back you getting some stuff bad enough
your back the lord got to let it get so heavy till it break you in half and then you choose
no don't wait don't wait when you feel a burden on your back don't wait till it
knock you to the ground and now you gotta pull yourself up by a rope just so you can see the
light of day uh-uh god forbid your back wasn't made to carry burdens and heavy loads the bible
says cast your cares upon me because I care for my he says that his burden is easy and his yoke is
light you see so one of the ways you grow is by what you just did that's growth that's why I rejoice
with you that's why I clap for you because I know what it's like to say no more breadcrumbs
I am you know not to say something so grand about myself but it's the principles of this
program that has produced the joy that I get to partake in that when I see breadcrumbs I say oh
no I know that's all you know how to produce but it doesn't work for me so go take your breadcrumbs
somewhere else and what's gonna happen is somebody else may come along they may
try to give you something. And sometimes it could be breadcrumbs in one area where you have to
advocate for yourself and say, this doesn't work. As a matter of fact, when you're getting to know
somebody, you're able to say, hey, this doesn't quite work for me. Can we make some adjustments?
You want to see that to the end. You don't want to say bye-bye. No, no, no, no. Because if you
see it to the end, you get to watch them honor your words. And that tells you more than you saying
bye. You get to see, did they hear me? Did they adjust? And are they sticking with it a month
later? Okay, so that's going to be one way. Another way is you're going to take a break.
It's not time to date, if I had to say so myself. I want you to take a break. I want you to get this
person out of your system. You have to grieve what you thought would be. That has to be grieved. You
have to grieve not talking to them. You have to grieve not texting them. You have to grieve just
the expectation of hearing from them that day, right? So there are things that you need to
properly grieve. And you say out loud, I grieve not hearing from you today. I grieve not talking
to you today. You don't have to suppress it. Say it out loud when you feel the desire to want to
talk to them. Say, I grieve this, but in grieving, I will rejoice. The Bible says in the book of Isaiah
54, sing, O barren woman. That's what he says. He says, for more are the children of the barren
woman than the woman who had a husband with plenty of children. Sing, O barren woman.
So even as you feel the barrenness of your soul, you're going to lift up your voice and sing
because that's the goodness of the thing that has come to you.
Sorry. So yeah, that, not sorry, but that. So you're going to take time to heal and you're
just going to see what that journey looks like with the Lord. You know, getting your standards
up is more than a mind. It's a decision. And so he will give you plenty of opportunities outside
of dating to grow. Dating is not the only way. It's just a way that applies a good pressure to
you because of the desires and longings of your heart. Right. And so you're going to run into
other situations where you have to make a choice to say, no, this doesn't serve me best. No,
I'm not going to go along with it. That counts. Okay. Right. And so,
you know, grieve, grow. You learn so many lessons in this, still things to be uncovered.
And trust me, none of the lessons are, Tiffany was bad. Tiffany made a bad decision.
That's, that's not the lesson. The Bible says the enemy meant it for your bad, but God meant it for
your good. Now there's excuse he turned around, but I'm talking about the one that said he meant
it for your good. Meaning he was in it all along. You're God defended. You're not by yourself.
He'll never leave you nor forsake you. The Bible says in the book of Psalms that he is close to
the brokenhearted. And to those who are contrite in spirit, he will not deny.
So we were taking some breaks. We're counting as we go. We're writing that,
what we're hearing the Lord saying, look at how he revealed things to us. Look at what he showed
you. You take the thing that he reveals to you and show you, then you pray into that. You put
a scripture with it, then you pray into it. So you don't just take it and write it like,
oh, that's true. It's true. Take it, put a scripture to it and pray it through.
You can birth a new day in your life. You can take your truth and pray into them
and watch something come forth. Do you understand what I'm saying?
I had never thought about it that way, but I understand what you're saying.
Yeah. Take your treasures for you have many.
Well done, Tiffany. Well done. Thank you. You're welcome.
Okay. I don't know how to say your name, but it's your turn. Is it? Yeah.
Ivelisse. Ivelisse. Sorry. My back went out when I was putting in some laundry before
this started, so I'm not going to be on camera. I'm sorry.
Yeah. All right. Also for anybody else, I'm in Pennsylvania too.
So I'm in Bucks County, Pennsylvania, if anybody else is nearby.
And when she makes the post in the app, will you add your information on there also?
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. So I've started to date and I feel so much more confident
about this now because I did try before doing the program.
program, and it's just such a difference, it's so different.
And it's so funny, like, we were talking tonight about the Discovery dating, because this morning
... it was a coffee date this morning, and well, you know, and I don't see it going anywhere,
you know, but we have a lot of things in common.
She's not a Christian, though, you know, so that's not going to happen, that's not going
to go anywhere.
But I was telling my girlfriend this morning, who also has done the program with me here
too, but I was telling her this morning afterwards, I was like, you know what, I know that I don't
see any future dates, you know, whatever, I already know it's not going to go anywhere.
But I was telling her, it's just been so much fun with the Discovery thing, because it's
exactly what you were saying, like, discovering about yourself, you know, and it's like,
you know, I'm talking to him and just thinking, listening to, you know, what he's saying and
what he's sharing.
And it's like, you know, what would, you know, and I asked before, like, about what if your
lifestyles don't align, you know, like, you know, so like, he doesn't go anywhere or do
anything for fun.
And you know, like, I'm always going somewhere, you know, I'm a travel agent, you know, like,
so I'm either traveling, or I'm doing stuff locally, you know, you know what I mean?
Like, so I just, you know, I just don't see like, where, you know, I already married the
homebody who didn't want to go anywhere, do anything, you know, my son took after that,
you know, like, so but it was just with the whole Discovery thing, it just really kind
of brought some clarity.
And it's just like what you were saying, you know, like, you know, that date, you know,
it's not going to go anywhere else.
But I discovered for myself, these other parts, you know, and that, you know, it was just
like, I was evaluating things and just saying, you know, what, like, I've already been there
and done that with the don't go anywhere, do anything.
And even though we have interests, you know, some of the same interests of different things
and listen to the same type of music, you know, and it's like, you know, you like, did
you go to the Depeche Mode concert that you mentioned you love Depeche Mode so much?
They were here.
Did you go?
I was there, you know, and it's just, you know, like those things, you know, like, I
think of my vision of, you know, my married life, I would like to, for us to go and experience
things together.
Do you know what I mean?
And so I don't know, it's just been it is very clarifying, but I just want to say, like,
this morning, I was telling my girlfriend just exactly what you were saying, like, I'm
discovering things from about my about myself.
And then you come in tonight.
Here we are tonight, and you're talking about that discovering about yourself and taking
things to God and growing and, and his word.
And this summer, he's just really, you know, like, from Supernatural Saturday, just showing
me stuff about just things and it's just been really wonderful.
So I'm excited about the whole process.
Yeah, that's so good.
And at least I'm glad you brought some clarity to the line because I thought you were talking
about finding that foundational things, which it is in part foundational things.
But if you desire to have a spouse that does travel with you, that's a big part of your
heart.
You would definitely weigh that out against other things as well, right?
Against other values and things they have, and then you start weighing things or, or
say, well, I'm just saying, you don't have to have a home body.
But if he is a home body, is he willing to travel with me?
Like, sometimes you have these clauses that get in place, like he may not choose to go
anywhere, but will he go with me?
Right.
And if he goes, will he be happy about it?
Right.
It's like he's stuck on a limb the whole time.
Right.
And so, yeah, but no, I understand what you're saying.
Thank you so much for sharing.
Let me just pray over your back right quick, ladies, if you would agree with me.
Father God, I just ask that you would allow your love to touch Evil Lisa's back for you
said that you so love the world that you gave.
And right now, father, God, I ask that you would give your healing power to her back.
But the Bible says that by your stripes, we were already healed.
So we agree with heaven was already been done.
And we say back, be healed in the name of Jesus.
Amen.
Thank you.
You're welcome.
Yeah.
Okay.
Evil is there.
Yeah.
Was that it?
Evil is.
Oh, yeah, that was it.
That was good.
Thank you so much for sharing.
Thank you.
Yeah.
I'm excited for you.
Roberta.
You're on mute.
I'm just like out of the shower.
Super tired.
Okay.
But as you were speaking, Ebony.
a scripture came to me. So in Tiffany and Mika, I just want to thank you for your examples
of just different things you've gone through. The Lord's really used them for me, your vulnerability,
how you're sharing. So thank you. So this is Jeremiah 15, 19. It says, therefore, thus
says the Lord, if you return, then I will bring you back. You shall stand before me.
If you take out the precious from the vial, you shall be as my mouth. Let them return
to you, but you must not return to them. So really, that is one of my life scriptures
that oftentimes what Ebony is saying, like the Lord wants us to take what is precious
from the trash, right? And just learn. So really proud of you, Tiffany. I know it's
very painful, but keep going. Yeah, that's so good. One second, Mika. Amanda? Oh, no.
When did you go? I'm like, oh, I think she's going to get out the car. I need to talk to
her for my panel. Yeah, I got like nine minutes. I have a meeting afterwards, but-
How are you doing? I don't know. I don't want to take too much time, but I'm in the book
club. And I think for me, the biggest hurdle right now is I'm like, why am I in the book
club? Why am I doing this? Because here's my situation. In August of 2025, I left the
church where I was, had been there for three years, and I left due to a conflict that lasted
about two years. And that left me completely, I don't know, I mean, I don't even know how
to say it, destroyed, essentially. I was not going to church. I was crying every day. I
was already in phase one. So that helped me because I was no longer going to church and
so on. And it was really helpful to work with Bethany to kind of process all of that stuff
in the post and the community. And I've just started, I have to look for a church, right?
And I'm kind of like, okay, I have to go back to church, have to look for a church. I can't
date if I'm not in a church. I don't have community anymore. I don't have family. It's
kind of like weighing me down a little bit. And the point about the book club is, you know,
there's a point where we talk about the advisory council and having community. And I'm like,
okay, this is like, I'm having to start from way, like, I have to rebuild from the ground up
because there's nothing left. So I'm kind of like, oh, my gosh, like, why, why, why?
And as we're doing the work, I'm often, well, sometimes, not as much as I used to be, but
I get phases where I remember certain things that went, that happened in that church that I left.
And sometimes I just get angry. I'm not an, I don't consider myself an angry person, but it
just sometimes memories come up. And I'm like, okay, did I forgive? Maybe I didn't forgive
enough. But I think I got, I was rereading my notes and as Bethany had told me, it will come
back. It's normal. Like you've forgiven, but it may, it's in layers, right? But it's just like,
okay, where, where do I start? You know, when you have to build community, it's not something
that you can do in one week, in one month, like, and I'm like, okay, can I, is it wise to date if
I don't have community? Probably not. So I really feel that I'm like really,
I'm encountering like a big step back from where I thought I would be.
So I'm going slow, but yeah, it's, I'm navigating
really slowly and sometimes I'm getting discouraged. So yeah, I don't know if that
answered your question. Yeah. Yeah. I want to, I want to take a moment and pray with you. Is that
okay? Sure. Yeah, please. Yeah. Ladies, if you would just agree with me.
Father, we thank you for Amanda, your precious daughter.
Father God, I thank you for the work that you're doing to bring her back home.
The Bible says that Jesus leaves the 99 just for the one.
I thank you, Lord God, that you have a place prepared for her in the Father's house.
The Father's house also looks like a church with family all around.
For when we're born again, we're born into a new family.
Jesus asked the people, they said, your mother is looking for you.
He said, who is my mother?
Who is my sister?
Who is my brother?
It is those who do the will of my father.
That's my mother.
That's my brother.
That's my sister.
And I declare that you have a place for Amanda where she will say, that's my brother.
That's my sister.
That's my mother.
That's my father.
That she will walk into a place where she'd be loved for who she is.
Nothing will be based on her past, but it will be based on her present.
Father God, I thank you that you have a place assigned and waiting for her.
So with that being said, I go in by the Spirit and remove the scales from her eyes
that she will not see through the woundedness and the brokenness of her soul,
but she will see with the eyes of her father.
For the Bible says that we are made in the image and the likeness of you.
So I thank you, Lord God, right now, that that image and likeness of you will cover her
and camp her and consume her, oh God, that she may see with your eyes,
that she may yield to your way and she may yield to your plans.
That when fear comes knocking at her door, she will answer with courage.
I declare that she will no longer be left out, left behind.
The Bible says that a day is a thousand years and a thousand years adds up to a day.
For you said not to count things not coming to pass as slackness like men do, oh God.
But all of your promises are coming to pass.
I declare that you are not a guy who is slack concerning your promises toward Amanda.
I think you should be like in the book for Psalm 126, that she should declare,
did we laugh and rejoice the day that God brought us out of bondage?
I declare that Amanda should laugh and rejoice for the day,
this day that you brought her out of bondage.
You said they sowed in tears, but they came back carrying armloads of blessing and rejoicing.
I declare that this is her testimony, that she's sown in tears,
but she should return back carrying armloads of blessing.
And all the people should gather around as the scripture says,
and see, say, see what the Lord has done.
He has done mighty great deeds in her life.
So I thank you, Lord God, that nothing she's gone through shall hinder her,
shall hold her back, shall stop her, delay her or deny her.
But she shall go forth in the strength and the might and the power of her father God.
And we declare it done in Jesus name, amen.
For the Bible says who the son sets free is free indeed.
And I declare over you, Amanda, today that you are free.
And Jesus shall get his full reward out of your life because his blood is sufficient.
Amen.
You're welcome.
I'll be looking forward to an update.
Okay.
Yeah.
A testimony, a testimony, an update.
Oh, you'll have it.
I don't, we don't pray in vain around here.
The word produces the word.
The Bible says when the word goes forth out of his mouth, it doesn't return to him void.
I didn't give you my hopes.
I gave you the word of God, the truth of God.
That's the word of God.
Those are scriptures.
Okay.
I'm like, Paul, I'm not eloquent in speech.
The word produces.
All right.
And you say, amen.
So that means do it again, God.
I agree.
You trapped now, Amanda.
Mika.
I just wanted to give an update about the guy that I mentioned last time.
I don't know why, but I did schedule a May's date.
I'm going to let him figure that out or schedule it.
I'm not going to do that, which was a win for me.
So that's supposed to be next Friday.
But I already know I can clock how long we're going to stay on the phone.
He struggles with carrying a conversation, and I was feeling like I didn't want to hurt
his feelings because I thought about saying, I was going to say what you were saying, but
I'm like, why is it a struggle for me to just tell him to just acknowledge what's happening
with our conversation?
I feel like it's going kind of flat, and I'm not excited about the conversation anymore.
You know that giddy feeling you get about looking forward to speaking with someone,
and I'm like, I already know that it's not going to be more than 10 minutes, because
if I don't carry it, it won't keep going.
It's like taking the training wheels off.
But yeah, so it's like, I want to get to know him,
but I don't want to have to pull it out of him.
And he's such a sweet person.
He's so sweet.
And I guess, I don't know why I keep picking out.
I don't want to hurt his feelings to say anything,
but I like what you were saying.
Like it does need to be acknowledged
that our conversations are going kind of flat
or like, what are some tips that you could,
could you just revisit that advice that you gave again?
Like why it's important to articulate,
like, cause I'm not going to,
I'm going to resent that eventually.
Like this looks wrong.
And I think one of the greater things
that you need to grab ahold to is the theology
that you have your way of thinking about.
If I tell someone the truth is going to hurt their feelings.
Honestly, when we don't tell people the truth,
it's pretty unkind, right?
And then we use them for the truth we didn't speak.
And so the belief system
that I'm going to hurt someone feeling
by being meek or by showing up,
a person that I would consider to marry,
a person I said, shake my boxes,
you know, like, okay, that's a bit far, right?
Because now you're saying you scared
you're going to hurt their feelings
if you say something to them.
And so there's enough acquaintance for other things,
but not for your voice, not for your needs to be met.
Out of fear that you're going to hurt their feelings.
You're not going to hurt someone's feelings.
That's not true, but I want you to figure out
why is that your truth?
Right, right.
Okay, and so then you're going to say to him
what you just said.
The conversations are getting dry
and I don't look forward to talking to you anymore.
Oh, well, that's the truth.
It's the truth.
It's the truth and you have to understand
the nature of a man.
A man is not a woman.
One of the greatest thing you can see
is that man go to chat GPT and learn how to talk to you.
If you want to know you got a winner,
you're going to try to see somebody who's innovative.
That would be, and I'm not projecting him as your husband,
but this is what you want to see from any husband
that when you say, baby, you need to spice it up.
It's getting boring around here.
He'd be like, you ain't said nothing but a word, baby.
Come back with a whole laundry list of stuff you can track.
Be working from every angle.
Or when you said, baby, this boat is sinking.
We're drowning financially.
This, this, this, the house is falling apart.
You see him rise to the occasion
and do what he needs to do.
And so a lot of times when we're holding back things,
especially from a man, we're denying them
what is innately in them to correct, to do better
and to show us that this is a man
who's willing to do what it takes, not to please me,
but in his masculinity, he shows up in his fullness.
So whether with me or with another woman,
this is the masculinity that lives on the inside of him.
That when the woman he's pursuing
or the woman that he's with says this is a problem,
he investigates it and find out what he could do differently.
No, I love that.
I love that.
Straight to the point.
That's it.
Yeah.
So you don't have to fancy it up.
You can just preface by saying,
hey, I didn't want to say this
because I didn't want to offend you,
but I realized that you're a man or whatever.
I didn't want to say this
because I just didn't want to offend you,
but it's becoming really challenging for me.
And I want to share it with you to see
what can be done about it.
Not what we could do about it.
What can be done about it?
So you're already telling him why you're telling him.
He don't have to wonder if you're telling him
because you're going to say,
I don't want to talk to him no more.
You already said up front why you're telling him
because you have a belief that he can fix it.
You have confidence in his ability to get the job done.
That's good.
That's so good.
Man know you got confidence in them.
They'll work hard and then they'll get some stuff done.
And so then at that point,
any little thing that he does toward it,
and you know he's trying,
whether he hit the mark or not,
appreciate it.
Say, hey, I see you, you know?
Don't say it still ain't working,
but you know, just let him keep,
you know, try to, you know, work with it.
Thank you.
That was super helpful.
Oh, good Mika.
You got this.
Okay.
Ladies, take your time.
This is your activation for tonight.
I haven't said this in a while.
I want you to jump in your bed
even if you just broke up with a man.
I want you to roll over till you get to the other side.
And then on your way back,
say, Lord, I thank you.
One day, my husband gonna be laying beside me
and I won't make it to the other side
without bumping into him.
So God, thank you for my husband, man,
that is going to share this bed with me
just the way you designed it to be.
Can we do that, ladies?
Roll over to the cold side.
Get it a little warm for your husband.
Then come on back to your side
and kind of toot that little boot up in the air
as you snuggle up.
Go ahead and practice without apologies
because it is.
on the way. Do you hear what I say? God makes all things beautiful in his time.
All right, have a good night and I will see you ladies soon.
Thank you, Ebony. You're welcome.