WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:07.320 make it. Yeah, well I understand that. But I'm gonna do a one-on-one with you again 2 00:00:07.320 --> 00:00:14.040 soon at some point. I plan on that. Oh good, good. Well I'm happy to see you. 3 00:00:14.040 --> 00:00:19.680 You're so pleasant, so it's always so good to have you. Thank you. I like your 4 00:00:19.680 --> 00:00:25.080 hair by the way. Oh thank you, thank you. You have such a graceful appearance and 5 00:00:25.080 --> 00:00:32.880 posture about yourself, presence. Thank you, Ebony. You're welcome. Okay ladies, we 6 00:00:32.880 --> 00:00:40.200 are gonna get it kicked out tonight. Well, I'm excited. I'm thinking about what I 7 00:00:40.200 --> 00:00:45.280 want to juice you up with on tonight. You know, on a journey when you're believing 8 00:00:45.280 --> 00:00:50.000 the Lord and you're going through so many processes, it's always good to hear 9 00:00:50.000 --> 00:00:55.200 encouragement. It's always so good to hear encouragement. And so let's see 10 00:00:55.200 --> 00:00:58.840 what the Father wants to share with us all tonight. We're gonna go into a time 11 00:00:58.840 --> 00:01:02.640 of prayer. Father God, I thank you for these ladies. I thank you for every 12 00:01:02.640 --> 00:01:07.760 single one of them. I thank you Lord God that I just hear the word arise and 13 00:01:07.760 --> 00:01:13.320 shine. You know, for the glory of God has risen over you. I believe that the Lord 14 00:01:13.320 --> 00:01:17.960 highlights his daughters in the earth, that he makes your face shine, that he 15 00:01:17.960 --> 00:01:26.400 causes things to, let me do this, that he causes his light to shine upon you. And 16 00:01:26.400 --> 00:01:33.760 it doesn't have to always be, you know, I am still praying even though I'm talking. It doesn't have to always be that he's causing your 17 00:01:33.760 --> 00:01:37.720 light to shine just for a spouse, but causing your light to shine because he's 18 00:01:37.720 --> 00:01:40.960 upon your life. You're in an active process with him. You're walking with him. 19 00:01:40.960 --> 00:01:44.460 And so I just released that word over your lives that the Lord is causing a 20 00:01:44.460 --> 00:01:47.940 light to shine around you where you become irresistible to people, that he 21 00:01:47.940 --> 00:01:52.300 gives you favor in rooms that you don't set your foot in. Thank you Lord God 22 00:01:52.300 --> 00:01:55.740 that because these ladies have chosen to do life with you, to walk with you, to 23 00:01:55.740 --> 00:02:00.900 trust you, and to believe that you are faithful the same way Sarah and Abraham 24 00:02:00.900 --> 00:02:05.500 believe that you were faithful, they also believe that you're faithful Lord God. So 25 00:02:05.500 --> 00:02:09.580 I thank you Lord God that the weight of the glory and that the weight of what 26 00:02:09.580 --> 00:02:13.260 you have in store for them is just as weighty as every miracle that they've 27 00:02:13.260 --> 00:02:17.380 seen in the Bible. Even the woman with the issue of blood, when Jesus was on his 28 00:02:17.380 --> 00:02:21.860 way to heal somebody else, she said, if I can but touch the hem of his garment, I 29 00:02:21.860 --> 00:02:26.540 know that I will be healed. I declare that this is the same hope that 30 00:02:26.540 --> 00:02:29.860 these women are carrying, the same expectation that they're carrying, that 31 00:02:29.860 --> 00:02:34.420 you can do just what you've done in the past. And so Father God, I thank you that 32 00:02:34.420 --> 00:02:38.700 you're still that God. I thank you Father God that you are still the miracle worker. 33 00:02:38.700 --> 00:02:42.580 I thank you that you're still the way. I thank you Lord God that you said that 34 00:02:42.580 --> 00:02:46.620 you have good gifts for us, oh God. I thank you that you are a rewarder of 35 00:02:46.620 --> 00:02:50.060 those who diligently seek you, not because I think it, but because your word 36 00:02:50.060 --> 00:02:54.220 says it, oh God. And one thing we could bank on, my words may fail, but yours 37 00:02:54.220 --> 00:02:58.420 never fail. The Bible says, so as the snow fall and the dew from heaven, it does not 38 00:02:58.420 --> 00:03:02.420 return, but you're the same as your word. As it goes forth out of your mouth, it does 39 00:03:02.420 --> 00:03:05.660 not return to you, Lord, but it accomplishes everything that you said it 40 00:03:05.660 --> 00:03:10.660 would do. So God, I'm so grateful that we get to trust in your word. Your word is a 41 00:03:10.820 --> 00:03:16.060 guarantee. David said, I've never seen the righteous forsaken or the seed begging 42 00:03:16.060 --> 00:03:21.060 bread. I declare that every one of these women will never be forsaken and they 43 00:03:21.060 --> 00:03:25.140 will never have to beg for bread. They don't have to take the crumbs because 44 00:03:25.140 --> 00:03:29.580 you have a feast waiting for them. The Bible says in the book of Psalms 23 that 45 00:03:29.580 --> 00:03:33.340 you spread a table before them in the presence of their enemies. You said that 46 00:03:33.340 --> 00:03:37.940 goodness and mercy follows them all the days of their life. And so Father God, I 47 00:03:37.980 --> 00:03:43.780 declare that this is so, that it is unto them. It is their portion in life. In 48 00:03:43.780 --> 00:03:53.980 Jesus name. Amen. Amen. Amen. I'm so glad that we serve a covenant keeping God. A 49 00:03:53.980 --> 00:04:00.660 covenant keeping God. It's because he keeps his covenant to us unto a thousand 50 00:04:00.660 --> 00:04:06.540 generations. He is a covenant keeping God. I love the scripture when it says that 51 00:04:06.540 --> 00:04:11.460 he honors his word above his own name. If I said it, I'm going to do it. Have you 52 00:04:11.460 --> 00:04:14.140 ever told somebody to ask you something, you told them you were going to do it. 53 00:04:14.300 --> 00:04:18.980 Then they come back and ask you again and you say, didn't I tell you? You didn't 54 00:04:18.980 --> 00:04:23.020 hear me? Didn't I tell you? And if you've ever been around children, they're the 55 00:04:23.020 --> 00:04:26.180 worst. So they will ask you like over and over and over and over and over. You 56 00:04:26.180 --> 00:04:31.620 like, look, I told you I'm going to do it. And so they're like right now, right 57 00:04:31.620 --> 00:04:34.460 now, right now. And you know that you have to put things in place. You have to 58 00:04:34.460 --> 00:04:38.860 get things in order. Like it just can't happen like that. But if you said it, 59 00:04:38.860 --> 00:04:42.180 you're going to do it. And usually, I mean, and that's just how it works. And 60 00:04:42.180 --> 00:04:50.980 so I, I, I, I love that God's word has more weight than my word. I'm fickle. 61 00:04:52.700 --> 00:04:56.100 Listen, sometimes I don't feel like if you, when you start fooling with human 62 00:04:56.100 --> 00:05:00.100 beings, they don't feel like something you out, you out of luck, you know. 63 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:02.000 But I just declare over us 64 00:05:02.440 --> 00:05:05.780 And we're gonna be like the one, you know, Jesus gave the parable 65 00:05:05.780 --> 00:05:11.600 He said the woman went to the judge and because she kept coming back. He got tired of her 66 00:05:12.520 --> 00:05:17.440 So he just gave her what she wanted and I believe that's a principle that we could grab hold to 67 00:05:17.760 --> 00:05:23.280 That's why we keep showing up because God can be the same way just just keep showing up 68 00:05:23.280 --> 00:05:26.760 He was showing us what persistence will provide for us 69 00:05:26.760 --> 00:05:31.020 It's just a key in the kingdom of God a principle that we get to work 70 00:05:31.240 --> 00:05:36.560 Our persistence that says even when I feel like I'm the wind has been knocked out of me 71 00:05:36.560 --> 00:05:40.240 I'm gonna take a week and I'm gonna get back up. I'm gonna get back up 72 00:05:40.520 --> 00:05:45.800 I'm gonna get back up because I serve a covenant-keeping God. There's no reason for me to lay down 73 00:05:45.880 --> 00:05:51.760 I serve a covenant-keeping God. There's no reason for me to give up. I serve a covenant-keeping God 74 00:05:52.760 --> 00:05:54.280 Okay 75 00:05:54.280 --> 00:06:00.040 Yes, and so I don't have any announcements for you ladies 76 00:06:00.040 --> 00:06:00.840 I 77 00:06:00.840 --> 00:06:03.680 know that you all have been doing a really good job and 78 00:06:03.760 --> 00:06:09.200 You're gonna hear me say this like a song or like a record because you need to hear that you're doing a really good job 79 00:06:09.880 --> 00:06:15.120 You need to hear the very fact that you show up the trust guy for this is that you're doing a very good job 80 00:06:15.680 --> 00:06:19.360 Because believe it or not, you can go get married if you want to 81 00:06:20.360 --> 00:06:26.600 You know the man that hit you up on the app and you'd be like what make him think that one right there marry you 82 00:06:28.880 --> 00:06:32.520 You really can people do it every day 83 00:06:33.400 --> 00:06:40.240 You may think to yourself. Well, who won't me? It's somebody. I'm not saying I'm from Mississippi and they will tell you 84 00:06:40.240 --> 00:06:48.080 Oh, something is somebody for everybody. Somebody won't somebody it's just a caution to do you won't get somebody that won't you? 85 00:06:49.960 --> 00:06:55.080 Huh and so, you know, you could get married if you want to and 86 00:06:55.880 --> 00:07:01.160 So when I make statements like that, then you realize to yourself. Well, I guess I could but I ain't trying to marry no anything 87 00:07:01.800 --> 00:07:05.320 And that's the voice you need to hear rise up on the inside of you 88 00:07:06.240 --> 00:07:11.800 So that when you evaluate someone and you've determined that they're anything you send them back 89 00:07:12.200 --> 00:07:13.840 You don't call them husband 90 00:07:13.840 --> 00:07:19.040 You send you call them a fish and you send them back to the water to live because they cannot survive on the land with 91 00:07:19.320 --> 00:07:24.280 You get to call things actors like I want a hug, but I don't want one that bad now 92 00:07:24.280 --> 00:07:31.520 We got to do a little better. And so that alone when you hear yourself say that you know that there's still hoping you 93 00:07:32.160 --> 00:07:37.440 You know that there's still something to you that says I'll go on anyway, because I know it's something better 94 00:07:37.920 --> 00:07:42.840 You need to hear that because it does tell you that you believe deep down on the inside 95 00:07:42.960 --> 00:07:47.300 That it has to be something better than this and that's not putting anybody down 96 00:07:47.500 --> 00:07:53.540 It's just because you're well-equipped at this point, you know that your husband has to be at bare minimum 97 00:07:54.340 --> 00:07:56.380 mature marriage minded and 98 00:07:56.900 --> 00:08:01.100 Masculine and at any time he doesn't have those foundational things 99 00:08:01.180 --> 00:08:07.020 Then you cannot build upon sinking sand. You can't build on saying you need a 100 00:08:07.740 --> 00:08:13.420 Foundation and you don't have a foundation when the winds come it will fall to pieces 101 00:08:14.020 --> 00:08:17.420 As sure as you started to build right 102 00:08:18.060 --> 00:08:21.700 The Bible says no man builds unless he first called counts of the cost 103 00:08:22.660 --> 00:08:25.160 Right, and he says any man that labors 104 00:08:25.820 --> 00:08:28.960 And they don't build on the Lord. They labor in vain. I 105 00:08:30.340 --> 00:08:32.580 Declare that we're not women who labor in vain 106 00:08:33.520 --> 00:08:36.320 What you're doing right now says I'm not laboring in vain 107 00:08:37.260 --> 00:08:40.980 That you've already built upon upon the thing which is solid 108 00:08:40.980 --> 00:08:46.900 They said when you leave out the Lord you you labor in vain. So I just declared you're not laboring in vain 109 00:08:47.500 --> 00:08:54.540 sometimes you have to open your eyes and see all that is happening in you and through you and a lot of times we 110 00:08:54.540 --> 00:08:58.700 Can get laser focused on like where is it? Where is it? Like, come on, don't take an hour 111 00:08:58.700 --> 00:09:01.980 I would still gotten it. You ain't gonna tell me it's your heart for you to find it 112 00:09:01.980 --> 00:09:07.260 I just don't believe that the God of the universe that sees all it knows 113 00:09:07.300 --> 00:09:12.220 So there must be something else happening that I don't know about cuz this ain't a hard thing to do 114 00:09:12.740 --> 00:09:18.820 It's not a hard thing to do. And so I'm just so grateful that we are not laboring in vain 115 00:09:19.180 --> 00:09:25.140 All right. So tonight I want to give you guys more time for coaching and so we're gonna keep it really simple 116 00:09:25.140 --> 00:09:30.280 We're gonna talk about just a few things and then we're gonna provide extra time for coaching 117 00:09:31.220 --> 00:09:34.060 so I kind of want to touch on what happens when 118 00:09:34.820 --> 00:09:36.820 Your 119 00:09:36.980 --> 00:09:42.220 Expectations, let's say you start something. It could be getting to know someone dating. It could be the first week 120 00:09:42.220 --> 00:09:46.340 You're really excited, but your expectations collide with reality 121 00:09:47.900 --> 00:09:51.500 When you thought you were going somewhere and it all comes crumbling down 122 00:09:52.340 --> 00:09:56.220 You know, I see you. I don't know what it is about week three and 123 00:09:57.980 --> 00:09:59.980 Two months 124 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:04.080 They have proven in those timeframes, 125 00:10:04.080 --> 00:10:08.040 I didn't gonna be week three for me, 126 00:10:08.040 --> 00:10:12.480 or like the second month going into like day 60, 127 00:10:12.480 --> 00:10:15.480 I don't know, three, everything starts coming out. 128 00:10:15.480 --> 00:10:18.260 I know some people think like 90 days is a long time, 129 00:10:18.260 --> 00:10:20.720 but it's something about 90 days 130 00:10:20.720 --> 00:10:22.320 because you've gotten over the butterflies 131 00:10:22.320 --> 00:10:25.680 and you really start to see people more clearly. 132 00:10:26.800 --> 00:10:29.640 You just, it's just a nice number. 133 00:10:29.880 --> 00:10:32.160 It just does it that amount of time. 134 00:10:32.160 --> 00:10:33.400 But what do we do? 135 00:10:33.400 --> 00:10:35.160 And the thing about it is, 136 00:10:35.160 --> 00:10:38.320 it's gonna happen to us when we're dating. 137 00:10:38.320 --> 00:10:41.960 Listen, you ladies don't ever underestimate 138 00:10:41.960 --> 00:10:44.320 how much hope you show up with the scene, 139 00:10:44.320 --> 00:10:45.840 you show up on the scene with. 140 00:10:48.320 --> 00:10:51.280 I had one guy say to me, he said, 141 00:10:51.280 --> 00:10:53.060 oh, well, Ebony, you know, 142 00:10:53.060 --> 00:10:56.520 you said that God was gonna send your husband this year. 143 00:10:56.520 --> 00:10:58.080 And I just looked at him and I said, 144 00:10:58.080 --> 00:10:59.800 I got a promise, what you got? 145 00:11:03.840 --> 00:11:07.840 Abraham had a promise and he had a son, he had a promise. 146 00:11:07.840 --> 00:11:10.280 At the end of every year, even when Sarah didn't give birth, 147 00:11:10.280 --> 00:11:12.800 he had a promise. 148 00:11:12.800 --> 00:11:15.840 So I looked at him like, so what you got? 149 00:11:17.640 --> 00:11:19.540 Because as sure as I got a promise, 150 00:11:19.540 --> 00:11:20.880 I could take it to the bank. 151 00:11:20.880 --> 00:11:22.700 This is a guarantee. 152 00:11:22.700 --> 00:11:24.440 My God backs his promises. 153 00:11:24.440 --> 00:11:25.700 He fulfills his word. 154 00:11:25.700 --> 00:11:29.380 He tells me over and over and over and over again, 155 00:11:29.380 --> 00:11:32.900 that this is what he does and this is who he is. 156 00:11:32.900 --> 00:11:34.660 And so I have no reason to doubt 157 00:11:34.660 --> 00:11:36.700 because the Bible is full of his promises. 158 00:11:36.700 --> 00:11:38.560 My life is full of his promise. 159 00:11:38.560 --> 00:11:39.780 The fact that I'm breathing 160 00:11:39.780 --> 00:11:41.820 and I can't do anything to make it happen, 161 00:11:41.820 --> 00:11:44.620 any breath whatsoever to leave my body, I can't stop it. 162 00:11:45.580 --> 00:11:48.740 I have no control over the functioning of my body right now, 163 00:11:48.740 --> 00:11:51.220 but I have a faithful God who does it for me. 164 00:11:51.220 --> 00:11:54.340 And so I have a promise. 165 00:11:54.340 --> 00:11:56.900 And so I don't, I really forgot 166 00:11:56.900 --> 00:11:58.460 exactly where I was going with it. 167 00:11:58.460 --> 00:12:01.340 But when things start to collide 168 00:12:01.340 --> 00:12:03.260 and things start to fall apart, 169 00:12:03.260 --> 00:12:06.700 it is our hard work and the things that we believe, 170 00:12:07.940 --> 00:12:12.020 they're the things that help us through the collision. 171 00:12:12.020 --> 00:12:16.580 Because as sure as you are dating, there will be collision. 172 00:12:16.580 --> 00:12:19.320 Every person you're with cannot be your husband 173 00:12:19.320 --> 00:12:20.880 because it only takes one. 174 00:12:21.880 --> 00:12:24.760 And so if the one you're getting to know now 175 00:12:24.760 --> 00:12:27.560 is not the one because you're in dating for discovery, 176 00:12:27.560 --> 00:12:29.920 at some point you need to prepare for what? 177 00:12:31.880 --> 00:12:35.680 A break apart, not gonna be forever, 178 00:12:35.680 --> 00:12:38.620 no matter how good it is and how fun it is. 179 00:12:38.620 --> 00:12:40.560 And so we have to, 180 00:12:40.560 --> 00:12:43.100 all of you ladies have gone through the hard work. 181 00:12:43.100 --> 00:12:45.780 This is where you rely on the truths, 182 00:12:45.780 --> 00:12:48.080 the things that are true for you, 183 00:12:48.080 --> 00:12:50.480 the things that you hold fast to. 184 00:12:51.080 --> 00:12:52.720 And one of those things, the top thing is, 185 00:12:52.720 --> 00:12:55.080 well, it isn't the top thing, but you have a promise. 186 00:12:55.080 --> 00:12:56.440 But the second thing is, 187 00:12:56.440 --> 00:13:00.420 or I would even say the first thing is that, 188 00:13:00.420 --> 00:13:02.160 is it teacher brain tonight? 189 00:13:02.160 --> 00:13:03.240 What is this business? 190 00:13:03.240 --> 00:13:05.680 How could something slip my mind just like that? 191 00:13:09.960 --> 00:13:11.100 That is interesting. 192 00:13:12.800 --> 00:13:15.600 Wow, I wish one of y'all could jog my memory for me. 193 00:13:16.880 --> 00:13:19.080 It is really good. 194 00:13:19.400 --> 00:13:21.720 It is the thing that sustains me. 195 00:13:23.480 --> 00:13:24.960 It is the thing that sustains me. 196 00:13:24.960 --> 00:13:28.400 So when our, it'll come to me, help me Holy Spirit. 197 00:13:28.400 --> 00:13:31.320 When our expectations collide with reality, 198 00:13:31.320 --> 00:13:32.960 that the thing that we're enjoying the most, 199 00:13:32.960 --> 00:13:34.640 it collides and fall apart. 200 00:13:34.640 --> 00:13:36.920 It is the things that you learned in hard work, 201 00:13:36.920 --> 00:13:40.840 the areas that you feel that will help reinforce the truth. 202 00:13:40.840 --> 00:13:43.540 And the truth is, your name is not rejection. 203 00:13:44.760 --> 00:13:46.480 You are not forgotten. 204 00:13:46.480 --> 00:13:48.240 You are not forsaken. 205 00:13:48.240 --> 00:13:50.600 That you actually are in a process. 206 00:13:52.800 --> 00:13:57.000 And then it's going to sting and it will crush you 207 00:13:57.000 --> 00:14:00.000 depending on how many boundaries you cross. 208 00:14:00.000 --> 00:14:01.560 Now that you control. 209 00:14:02.800 --> 00:14:05.400 You can't control that this is not going to work out. 210 00:14:06.880 --> 00:14:08.200 That's not. 211 00:14:08.200 --> 00:14:11.440 The thing that you control is the one that's most, 212 00:14:11.440 --> 00:14:13.000 the thing that you're in complete control 213 00:14:13.000 --> 00:14:14.000 is the one that matters most. 214 00:14:14.000 --> 00:14:15.280 Nobody can come into your life 215 00:14:15.280 --> 00:14:17.100 and ramshackle your life at this point. 216 00:14:17.100 --> 00:14:18.500 You're too equipped for that. 217 00:14:18.500 --> 00:14:20.560 First, oh, this is what I was going to say. 218 00:14:20.560 --> 00:14:23.860 The number one thing is that you're in partnership with God, 219 00:14:23.860 --> 00:14:25.160 not with the person. 220 00:14:27.460 --> 00:14:30.100 You got to remember who your partner is. 221 00:14:30.100 --> 00:14:32.900 And if your partner says that this is not the deal, 222 00:14:32.900 --> 00:14:34.560 then we pull back from the table. 223 00:14:36.660 --> 00:14:38.940 Yep, we don't make that deal. 224 00:14:38.940 --> 00:14:41.300 The second thing you're most in control of, 225 00:14:41.300 --> 00:14:43.220 completely, your boundaries. 226 00:14:43.220 --> 00:14:44.860 Your boundaries guard your heart. 227 00:14:44.860 --> 00:14:47.260 The Bible says to guard your heart with all diligence. 228 00:14:47.260 --> 00:14:50.660 I sing this like a song, but I ain't telling you it works. 229 00:14:51.980 --> 00:14:52.980 It works. 230 00:14:52.980 --> 00:14:56.740 You will sting and you may shed a few tears 231 00:14:56.740 --> 00:14:58.820 and you may say, Lord, come on, 232 00:14:58.820 --> 00:15:00.380 how many more of these we got? 233 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:05.280 Go through what you want me to learn, just what lesson do you want? I mean, that's how I see it, 234 00:15:05.280 --> 00:15:08.000 like come on. 235 00:15:30.000 --> 00:15:34.000 Go through what you want me to learn, just what lesson do you want? 236 00:15:34.000 --> 00:15:36.000 I mean, that's how I see it, like come on.