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Hello, hello. Welcome everyone. Hi, hi, hi. We're going to go ahead and get started. Are

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you guys hearing an echo or does it sound okay to you? Does it sound okay? Okay, awesome.

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I'm in a hotel room so I couldn't tell. It's kind of bouncing off the wall here a little

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bit for me. So just kind of give you all a heads up. I shouldn't have any connection

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issues tonight, but if for some reason as I'm talking, if you all lose me, don't leave.

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I'll come back. Okay. I'll reiterate that again. Sometimes you just never know if the

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wifi will hold up in a hotel room. Normally I don't have any trouble, but I'd like to

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let you all know that on the front end, if you're joining for the first time tonight,

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you've never been on a live session before. We would love for you to let us know that

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in the chat so that we can welcome you for your first session. And if you've never met

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me before, my name is Bethany Cooper. I'm one of the master hardware coaches here in

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our community. And I am also one of our success stories. So my husband and I just celebrated

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our fourth anniversary on September 4th. We've been together five years, but married four.

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And so we're excited. I'm excited to be here with you all tonight. And again, just welcome

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you for your first session. If you're brand new, if you're coming back, welcome back,

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praying for you all this whole week. Even though we've had all kinds of things going

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on, we've traveled, my husband and I traveling from Southwest Florida to Indiana, had a funeral

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in the family, all kinds of things. We've been to Kentucky and now we are headed on

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our way back to Florida. So for those of you that are just joining, I'm in a hotel room

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tonight. I don't think I'll have any connection issues, but I'm just letting you all know

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if for some reason, mid conversation or mid coaching, if I'm all of a sudden gone, just

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stay here and I'll come back. It doesn't typically happen, but it has happened in the past. So

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I just want you to have a heads up. A couple of housekeeping things tonight. I'm not going

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to take a lot of time on this, but we want you to really try to lean away from FOMO.

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You know, that's super big in our society now. FOMO is fear of missing out FOMO. And

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what I mean by that is that you're not going to miss out on anything by taking the five

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weeks or if some of you need a little bit more time in the heart work, it's, you're

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not going to miss out on your spirit mate. And so we want you to really kind of lean

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into that you're God defended. God is going to guide you to your spirit mate in the right

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time. And so we just want you to kind of lean into that. You are where you need to be right

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now. No matter if you've been in a waiting room in the past, whether you put yourself

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there or the things other people said, put you there or the enemy put you there, you

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are moving forward. You're here in the heart work, you're processing and God is leading

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and guiding you. And so you're at the right place at the right time and in the right season

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right now. And so we don't want you to allow the enemy to distract you with shiny things.

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That's what we call it kind of, you know, oh, there's a new course over here. Or all

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of a sudden, there's all these other things that need your attention. And it can be really

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hard to make yourself a priority. So many times people get into the heart work, and

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they get really busy helping other people. And so what happens is they actually don't

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lean into the heart work for themselves fully, because even in the group, they're trying

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to help everybody else. And so just a reminder, you get to take all your helper hats off.

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Even if you're a counselor or coach, maybe you've been in ministry, maybe you're just

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someone who loves to help people. It's okay to encourage one another, cheer each other

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on, but you don't need to fix anybody's problems here in this group. Even if man,

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someone shares something, and it just breaks your heart when you hear it, whether that's

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here in the live group session, or in the breakout session, it's okay. Okay, we're

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going to breathe it all in together, and we're going to breathe it out together. And

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that's what I'm here to do as a coach is help them navigate that. You don't have to

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try to help them in the chat or in the breakout. So super important. And I want to encourage

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you all to partner with this phrase. I'm the perfect age for everything God has for me

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right now. I'm the perfect age for everything God has for me right now. You are in the perfect

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place and space for everything God has for you in this season. For some of you, you might feel

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like you wasted years on some things. I don't know about you, but I spent six years in a

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relationship. And when I left that relationship, it wasn't a good one. And I remember just feeling

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like, man, I wasted six years. And for me, I felt like I wasted six years of my kind of fertile

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time as a young woman, you know, to be able to have a baby and all those kinds of things.

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And I want you to know that God has over and over and over again, just reminded me that He can

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redeem the time and He does. And so I just want you all to partner with that. It will help you

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a lot in your process. If you haven't heard Supernatural Saturday yet, what are you trusting

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your shepherd with? Please check that out.

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I was listening to it in the car today and just kind of meditating on,

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man, what do I need to trust the shepherd with in my season in my life?

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And so hope you listen to that.

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I'm going to pray us in and we're going to dive right into the content.

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And then for those of you that are brand new, the way this works is I do a little

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bit of teaching, coaching on our content because everybody's at

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different places in the course.

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And so I want everyone to be on the same page kind of tonight and to

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stir some, some things up in you all.

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And then we do breakout session.

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I give you a question that you're going to talk about together.

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We all come back, we do group coaching and at that time I'll ask anybody that

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wants to share or is open to sharing, you'll share, and then we'll do coaching

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and we'll kind of follow the Holy spirit with that.

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And so I just want you to know what the expectation of the evening is.

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All right, let me pray for us.

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Father, thank you so much for this night.

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God, we thank you that you've ordained this moment.

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God, this night, we thank you that you would help us to hear what

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your spirit is saying to us.

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God, I pray that you would remove distractions, disruptions, God,

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anything that even has happened in the day that's weighed them down.

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God, we just, yes, Lord, we just ask you just to lift that off of them now.

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God, help them to receive the fullness of your presence tonight.

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God, that you would help them to see who they really are in you.

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God, give them a fresh glimpse of the princess, of the daughter, of the

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royal one that you've called them to be.

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God, their, their authority in Christ that you've given them.

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I thank you that they don't have to, yeah, just even as the Bible says, we

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don't have to fear or dread tomorrow because God, you're doing something good.

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Help us to be daughters of the King that expect and believe and hope for that we

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will see the goodness of God in the land of the living, no matter what we've walked

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through, God, help us to, yeah, breathe in fresh hope tonight.

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We ask you to just reveal those things that are in darkness and bring them to

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the light, God, so that they can be revealed for healing.

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We thank you, Holy Spirit, for having your way tonight in us and through us in

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Jesus name, amen, and so tonight we're talking about the real you.

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When I talk about that, when we talk about that in the community, what we're

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referencing is that when God originally created us, when he dreamed us up, when

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he was excited and he was creating us and forming us and thinking us up, he had a

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plan for us long before trauma or wounds ever entered our life and that is the

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us, that is who God is always trying to lead us back to, not forcing us, inviting

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us, leading us, guiding us.

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It's up to us to partner with him and to follow him into the fullness of

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that plan for our lives and sometimes y'all, we get off track, don't we?

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But you know, there's something that Jackie wrote in the book and I've always,

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I think about this a lot and she said something about, it might even be a

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scripture, but where it talks about taking our feet off of pathways of pain and

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placing our feet back onto the pathway that leads back to him and so that's what

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we're going to kind of try to lean into tonight is, Lord, where has my feet, where

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have my feet been leading me into pathways of pain?

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Where have the counterfeit identities that don't actually align with who you've

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called me to be, where are those leading me away from you instead of towards you

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and towards the fullness of your plans and promises for my life?

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And so I want you to think about when is the first time that's, when I say this,

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this is coming from scripture, but like who told you that you were naked?

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And what I mean by that is that, you know, in Adam and Eve, I'm going to read the

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scripture here to you in that story in Genesis 3, 8 through 11, this is what it

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says, then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God as he was walking

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in the garden in the cool of the day and they hid from the Lord God among the

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trees of the garden, but the Lord God called to the man, so here's God calling

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to Adam, where are you?

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Adam answered, I heard you in the garden and I was afraid because I was naked, so

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I hid and he said, this is God talking back to Adam, who told you that you were

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naked?

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Have you eaten from the tree that I have commanded you not to eat from?

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And I start this session about the real you, about the real us with this scripture

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because this is something that God specifically spoke to me when I was going

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through this process, who told you that you were naked?

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And what I use this phrase for in this part of scripture is like anything that

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isn't from God, who told you that you were stupid, who told you that you would

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never get married, who told you that you weren't worth anything, you know,

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whatever that thing is that the enemy said through someone else, he led us to

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eat of the fruit, so to speak, to fall into temptation.

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Some of you, you know, who told you that you weren't valued to the point that you

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would give your body to a man before you were married, you know, and this isn't to

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shame you, but these are things that, you know.

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we end up not liking ourselves for most of the time internally.

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And then we carry that and we carry that and we carry that.

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And the more we carry these things that are not a part of who we really are,

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the more the real us shrinks down is pressed down.

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And we have a hard time actually navigating and showing up in a room,

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even like this,

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a zoom room and allowing ourselves to really be seen,

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known and loved.

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So many of us are afraid that if I really let people know who I am,

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if I really let them see me, even the silly parts of us,

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some of us are so afraid to be our silly selves because we weren't allowed to be

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that as kids. And I'm not saying, Hey, be angry at your parents.

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The reality is, is everybody, parents out of their own understanding,

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out of their own pain, out of their own kind of walk and path that they're on.

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And we might need to heal from some of that.

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Some of you had really vivacious bubbly personalities,

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but somewhere along the way you partnered with,

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I'm shy or I'm a wallflower. I'm just gonna,

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I'm just going to stand behind the scenes and just let everybody else kind of,

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because it doesn't even really matter if I'm here.

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I feel that in the Holy spirit.

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So I know that is for some of you or those of you watching the replay,

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you are believing a lie that your voice doesn't really matter.

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And the way that shows up for you is you come into groups,

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whether it's online in person and the enemy convinces you

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that nobody really cares if you're there,

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but we do, we really do. And we want to hear from you.

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We want to know what God is saying to you. What is he having you process?

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Where is he leading you and guiding you? I don't know if you all saw, um,

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and I see that Danielle is on here, not just for her,

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but for those of you that were on the session last Monday night,

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the whole unicorn content concept came up and, uh,

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I was in a gas station. We were, you know,

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we're traveling back from Indiana and we stopped at a love station and I'm

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standing there. I was waiting for my husband.

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I just happened to turn around and there was this sticker book right there in

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front of me. And it said something about princesses and unicorns.

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I'm snapping a photo of that and I'm posting it in the group for Danielle and

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everyone else. Y'all, if you didn't hear that session last week,

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I hope you go back and listen to it.

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I know the coaching part was a little long, but it was, it was so good.

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you think you're looking for a needle in the haystack regarding your spirit

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mate. You think you're looking for that one unicorn.

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I'm not going to go back into that.

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So you can go listen to that from last week. But I put a post up in the group.

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So y'all, I took a snapshot,

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I put it up in the group so everybody could see it because it is a word for

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Danielle, but it's a word for everyone.

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God is healing you as you allow him to,

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as you continue to partner with him.

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And he wants you to step out of the scarcity mindsets and the limiting belief

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systems that keep you small and thinking small.

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God has plenty.

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There are plenty of good men. And if even that like,

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Nope, there's not. If that rises up in you,

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we got you want to get into that with the Lord.

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Don't just keep staying in that place. All right, we're going to keep going.

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So part of tonight is all about coming out of hiding.

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I talk about this almost every week, you know,

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encouraging you all to come on camera as much as you can during prayer calls,

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during our live sessions, um,

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and showing up for yourself in community and allowing yourself to be seen

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because we want you to practice showing up fully in the world,

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whether you have your makeup on or not, that you just show up, you be yourself,

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let us get to know you and you will be surprised at how much that will change

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your whole journey. Now, some of you, I know, you know,

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you might be running to and from work. You might be cooking dinner.

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There's no shame in it if you're not on camera,

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but I do want you all to be thinking about this. Come on camera. Why don't you?

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Some of, some people literally,

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I've been coaching in this community five and a half years.

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I've literally had people that are afraid to look at themselves in the mirror.

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So they don't like to look at themselves on a zoom camera.

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that you don't even like to see yourself, but God likes to see you.

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big, bold prayer, God, give me the courage to go on camera,

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because here's the thing. Some of y'all are going to need to date online.

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as well.

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So I want you to think about this definition of coming out of hiding as we're

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talking about this. It's being authentic. It's being present,

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being engaged fully in life,

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intentionally choosing to be fully present in the moment.

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And again, you know, we're letting go of distractions, recognize your true self and actively participating in life with purpose and intention, not holding anything back.

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OK, let's be real, let's see it in the chat, when is the last time you and for some of you might be like today, when is the last time you showed up in a conversation?

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Fully, like you didn't hold anything back, you didn't like keep thoughts hidden, you didn't like, when was the last time y'all did that? Was it today? Was it last week? Like, when was that for you?

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Yeah, Rachel. Gosh, I don't even know. Because again, like even myself, sometimes I get around certain, and this isn't all men, but I get around certain men or certain types of women, and I find myself like, feeling like I have to hold part of myself back. Well, why? There's something to that.

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Sherry, that's awesome. Sherry said she showed up fully. Anyone else? OK. Cheryl, thank you for being honest with us about that. I have terrible social skills. She said, yeah, I think this is the thing. And here, why do we stay like that? Let's get help. Let's ask for help in that. And let's not stay that way because we don't have to.

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So, if that's you, you know, part of this becoming the real you, Cheryl, in your case, I would say is probably God's going to invite you way out of that. You're going to probably have to get out of your comfort zone a little bit more, and we'll help you practice that. And when it goes great, we're going to cheer you on. And when it doesn't, if it doesn't, then we're going to encourage you and love you through that.

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Because all of us need to practice being who we really are. Daniel said today, actually, but it was a bit uncomfortable because it was an expectations conversation with my housemate. Yes. Sometimes it's hard to be fully honest about situations, and it's going to feel uncomfortable sometimes. But that doesn't mean we shouldn't have the conversations or use our voice.

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Now, some of us, we're just like, you know, maybe using our voice. It doesn't mean we shouldn't use it, but maybe we're using it too strong, too kind of masculine heavy, if you will. And maybe God is going to try to teach us to practice being soft.

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Some of you have had to, if you're like me, you had to help raise yourself, help raise other people. You've had to be strong your whole life. And you're like, I've got this. I don't need anybody's help. And so there's this masculine energy showing up in you all the time, and you may not even realize it. And so even when you're engaging with men, sometimes the men are like, she doesn't need me.

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You know, and men want to know that someone wants to partner with them, that the women want them and need them. This is a part of life.

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That's awesome, Wendy. Great job on that. All right, I'm going to keep going. When we show up as our authentic selves, we often give others permission to do the same. So as I'm even sharing with you all tonight about myself, what's happening is I'm giving you permission to do the same thing, to be really honest about when does it go great? When do you struggle? Where are you really not able to show up as yourself? And maybe you don't even know who your true self is.

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So how do you show up as that person? Anyone else ever feel that way? Sometimes I do. I'm still figuring out who I really like, wow, this like makes me come alive. This feels awesome. And then other times I'm doing things and I'm like, oh, I'm just doing it because I have to. And that's not a bad thing. But like, I'm like, oh, this isn't really my sweet spot.

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What are your hobbies? When a man eventually asked you, what do you like to do? They don't want you to always just only do what they want to do unless they're controlling and unhealthy guys. If they're healthy guys, they like actually want to get to know what you love, just like they hope you will get to know what they enjoy and love and that you guys will kind of live life doing those things together and then maybe creating some of your own new hobbies.

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But it's so important to kind of like, and again, this isn't about shame. This is about, again, when I do this stuff at the beginning of every session, I'm trying to stir some stuff up so that we can get kind of down into the heartwork aspects of all of this.

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If we don't know what we like, it's probably because somewhere along the way, hurt happened, trauma happened, and we stopped being that person to some degree, and sometimes all the way. And some of us have kind of just like, oh, this is just how life is. And we don't even remember how to have fun. Guys like fun. They do. And they like to laugh.

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laugh. And so us discovering who we really are and things that we love and enjoy is going to be

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an important part of the healing process. All right, so we're all on this journey every single

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day to grow in the understanding of who we are in Christ, as well as who he originally created us to

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be. So I want you to think about, as I've been talking already, is there any part of yourself

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that you do tend to hold back with people, even when they're safe people? Not just the unhealthy

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people, but even when you're around safe people, you find yourself holding part of your personality

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back or your things that you love or enjoy. I'm not going to read it tonight, but there's a song.

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I'm big on songs and media. God speaks to me through those a lot, so that's why I use them

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in my coaching a lot. I'll put this up in the group. It's called Out of Hiding by Stephanie

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Gretzinger. And I hope you all will listen to it, even if you've heard it before. I hope you'll

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listen to it this week because, man, it's so powerful that we are safe in God and we can come

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out of hiding. That's the whole invitation. I'm gonna let you hear it, and then you guys let me

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know what you think about it. You can just say in the comments if you like the song, if it helped

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you, if it stirred things up, whatever that looks like for you. All right, so what we align with matters.

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So what thoughts are you currently aligning with, and do they sound like heaven? I said that before

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and somebody's like, well, I don't even know. How do I know what heaven sounds like? Well, you can read

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the words of Jesus and know what heaven sounds like, okay? You can read in the Psalms and know

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what heaven sounds like. Curing the heart of the Father is knowing what heaven sounds like.

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You know, the Bible says that we should think on things that are true, noble, lovely, and of good

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report. Things that are above only and not beneath. So are we meditating and thinking on things that

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are negative and limiting more than we're thinking on things that are positive and life-giving?

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Even regarding men, not just your own life, are you thinking limiting belief systems and things

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and thoughts about men? Men are lazy. Men don't love God the way we do. You know, that was the

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big thing for a long time there. Men aren't as spiritual as women. I mean, I can't tell you

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how many times I've heard that. Y'all, that is not true. It's not. I do think there was a

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season where it was like the enemy really was hammering men and it did kind of seem

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like men went to sleep. But see, that's what the enemy wanted us to believe.

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More than ever, even men in their 20s are going to church more than women right now.

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So ladies, there are men that go to church and love the Lord. Okay, so let's watch what we're

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thinking about and what we're meditating on in our hearts. You know, if you believe men are all

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cheaters and liars, well, that's the signal that you have some hard work to do there as well.

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All right, so why don't you think about the reality that you are a supernova, like literally God

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created you and he put something in you that you are carrying that only you can give to this world,

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to change it, to bless it, to heal it, you know, whatever that aspect is in you and you matter

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more than you know. Matthew 5, 14 through 16 in the Message Translation says this,

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here's another way to put it, you're here to be light, bringing out the God colors in the world.

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How many of you have thought that about yourself? I'm here to bring the God colors into the world.

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God is not a secret to be kept. We're going public with this, as public as a city on a hill.

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If I make you light bearers, you don't think I'm going to hide you under a bucket, do you?

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I'm putting you on a light stand. Now that I've put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand,

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shine. Keep open house. Think about that, keep open house. How many of you enter a conversation

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with someone, even a woman, and you just shut down and kind of wall up?

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What would it be like to keep an open house and risk your heart for relationship? I'm going to

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keep going. Be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you'll prompt people to open up with

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God, this generous Father in heaven. Romans 8, 37 through 39 says this,

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knowing all these things, we are more than conquerors through him who loved us,

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for I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor neither angels, nor demons, nor anything,

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sorry, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height, nor depth, nor anything

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else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus,

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our Lord. So if God is for you,

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for you. If God is for your love story, who can be against

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it? So many of us, you know, for you all, self sabotage is a

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real thing. Jackie, that scripture in Matthew was from

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the message translation. It was Matthew five, chapter five,

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verses 14 through 16. It's powerful, powerful way it's

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written. I love that. So it's time. I want you to think about

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this. I want you to put your name in this slot. It's your

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time. I'm going to say some of your names. I'm just going to

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whoever stands out. I saw Sarah Rohr there. Marisol, it's your

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time, Anna. You know, it's like, do you believe it's your time

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though? And I can believe for you all, you can borrow from my

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faith for now. But at some point that change deep down on

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the inside has to happen. And that happens not because we

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force it. But it's because we heal to such a point that we

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believe what God is saying more than we believe what the enemy

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is saying to us. Right? So I want you to think about the

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inner princess on the inside of you awakening. For some of you,

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you don't think of yourself as a princess. And in this day and

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age, there's a lot of talk about Queen this, Queen that, you

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know, and that's cool. Okay, I'm not I'm not knocking that. If

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you say that, please don't be offended. But this is something

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it's probably been a year ago now I was doing this session

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live and I knew God like it was one of those moments where I

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just knew God was speaking to me. And what he said is that

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some of us are trying to be queens. And we don't even know

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how to be a princess.

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Whoo, I feel that again tonight. Right? How can we be a queen? If

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we don't first know how to be a princess, princesses, they're

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soft. They practice soft. And so one of the things we do with

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this week as an activation is we encourage you to pray and ask

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the Lord about what you need to do to activate the princess on

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the inside of you. Some of you need to get a veil and like

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literally walk in being a bride and start partnering with that.

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I had a young lady when she went through this session that she

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literally got a bouquet of flowers and in her apartment

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practiced to the song here comes the bride because she was trying

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to partner with I am a bride but she didn't really believe it.

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one of the things we encourage you all to do is consider getting

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a tiara or a crown. And it might seem so silly. I know some of

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you're like, I'm not doing that. You're already like, I'm out.

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Yeah, there we go. Danielle has hers. But I'm serious. Some of

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you need to literally get a tiara or a crown and you need to

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put it on. Cheryl, look at you. I think I don't know about those

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social skill problems there. She's already got a crown in her

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house. But seriously, you need to put it on and look at

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yourself in the mirror. And really like, okay, Lord, like I

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have this tiara on. But can you really show me what it looks

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like and feels like to be a princess to be cared for as a

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daughter of the king? You are his inheritance. Do you think

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that he wants his girls to date men that treat them like crap?

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Heck no. Heck no. He wants you to have a man and again, this

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isn't about being snubby towards men either and being like such a

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list of expectations. They can never live up to it. But it is

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about knowing that God has good things for you. You're not under

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the table begging for crumbs. You're not waiting for that

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little teeny tiny amount of affection and love to come down

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from the guy to you. No. God has someone for you that is

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going to partner in life with you. But you have to know who

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you are first. That's so important. That's why we talk

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about you know, and you hear and even in churches a lot, two

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halves don't make a whole, right? It's two whole people,

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whole person, whole person, to the best of our ability, okay,

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coming together and learning how to become one. And that's not an

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easy process. So if we're not healed, if we're really, really

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broken and toxic, well, it's very, very difficult to try to

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become a team when that's the case. And so I want you to think

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about this scripture, Ephesians 5.14. And this is what it says,

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Awake, awake, O sleeper, and rise up from the dead. And

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will shine on you. What part of your heart and life is currently not alive?

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alive in some areas and totally numbed out and crushed down in another area.

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by the love of the Father, you know, true love's kiss, really like leaning into

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heaven awakening you. I was on this call that Jackie Dorman and David led. This is way, way

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back. And they do it from time to time, but man, they did this where they stood in on behalf of

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mothers and fathers and they led all these forgiveness prayers. And so like Jackie stood

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in on behalf of mothers and David stood in on behalf of fathers. And when David led the father's

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part, I mean, I got so wrecked, you all. As he was doing it, he asked us to ask the Lord to give

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us a vision. And the reason I bring it up now is because what I saw was the old kind of old stone,

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not even a casket, but what are they called? I can't think of it, but like the old school,

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like I was dead. I was in this coffin and what I saw was the stone opened and I sat straight up.

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I sat straight up and I knew what God was doing. And he was awakening some stuff in me that had

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gotten really crushed. My dad, when I was little, went to prison. He was gone most of my life.

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And I was so embarrassed as a kid about that, that I was so afraid to even talk about my family

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or any of those kind of things. And it shut part of myself down. So I don't know what you all have

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gone through, but I really want you to seek the Lord about what part of my heart and life is not

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alive. Where am I on any level living like a dead person, if you will?

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for some of you, if you've just started in week one, it's okay if you're not here yet. Okay.

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For those of you that are in kind of week four, week five, you're, you're feeling that change.

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You're starting to feel some life coming in. Things don't, don't feel so heavy and burdensome,

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burdensome. Oh, that's funny. But you're going to awaken to your true God-given identity.

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Your true God-given identity. And for those in week one, again, just kind of take this all in

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and this will start to happen more and more as you go through this course here.

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And I love to talk about, I don't know if you all have ever seen the movie Wreck-It Ralph.

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Anyone ever seen that movie? I want to encourage you all to watch it again. Okay. For those of you

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that have been here more than a couple of weeks, you've heard me talk about this before, but I

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literally, after I coached the last time, I'm like, you know, I haven't watched that in a while.

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I'm going to go watch it again. But I bring this story up because there's a little girl called

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Penelope in that story. And I don't want to give it away, but she's treated really bad in the movie.

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wreck things, if so to speak for her, but then he starts to get to know her.

395
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And by the end of the story, this whole thing is kind of revealed. And, you know,

396
00:33:44.960 --> 00:33:48.400
I always kind of look for the symbolism in some of these kinds of things. And like,

397
00:33:48.400 --> 00:33:55.120
there's this bad guy in the movie who's trying to keep Penelope from being who she truly is.

398
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So I'm going to leave that there for now, for those of you who have never seen it.

399
00:33:58.880 --> 00:34:03.680
But I highly recommend it. Why do I bring that movie up? Well, because the other people

400
00:34:05.200 --> 00:34:13.280
that were also kind of in that land forgot who she was too. And they also treated her really badly.

401
00:34:14.239 --> 00:34:21.120
But you know what, on the inside, she was always that true person that she was. And again, I don't

402
00:34:21.120 --> 00:34:24.560
want to reveal it, but you guys, when you watch it, you're going to understand why I'm mentioning

403
00:34:24.560 --> 00:34:32.800
this movie tonight. But some of you, the enemy has convinced you, he's taken a part of you out

404
00:34:32.800 --> 00:34:40.159
of yourself, so to speak. And he's convinced you that you're no good. That you're just like a

405
00:34:40.239 --> 00:34:43.760
glitch. That's what she was in the movie. She was a glitch, like in a video game.

406
00:34:46.159 --> 00:34:51.360
And he just wanted to delete her. The enemy tries to come and kill and steal and destroy,

407
00:34:51.360 --> 00:34:58.880
but Jesus Christ came to give us life and give it to us more abundantly. The good, good life.

408
00:34:58.880 --> 00:34:59.840
So we're going to awaken all

409
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:04.960
So to restoration, some of you need massive restoration in your life and your family.

410
00:35:06.040 --> 00:35:10.340
And then you're also going to awaken to big, bold future dreams, awakening.

411
00:35:10.340 --> 00:35:13.200
Some of you are going to have childhood dreams coming back to life.

412
00:35:13.400 --> 00:35:15.760
Some of those childhood dreams you can still live out.

413
00:35:17.760 --> 00:35:19.360
And some of you are going to have new dreams.

414
00:35:19.360 --> 00:35:20.800
God's going to give you a new dream.

415
00:35:20.800 --> 00:35:24.280
Some of you are going to feel led to go back to school.

416
00:35:24.520 --> 00:35:28.640
Some of you are going to feel led to start a new hobby, to maybe, you know,

417
00:35:28.920 --> 00:35:33.720
start doing some kind of crafts, like molding things, ceramics, painting.

418
00:35:33.840 --> 00:35:34.760
There's writing.

419
00:35:34.960 --> 00:35:36.160
I mean, there's so many things.

420
00:35:36.160 --> 00:35:38.360
Some of you are going to feel led to start biking.

421
00:35:38.520 --> 00:35:41.400
I mean, again, I'm just kind of putting those things out there.

422
00:35:41.400 --> 00:35:42.800
Whatever you feel.

423
00:35:42.880 --> 00:35:46.320
Now we do encourage you not to make any drastic moves during heartwork.

424
00:35:46.480 --> 00:35:46.980
Okay.

425
00:35:47.760 --> 00:35:49.960
Some of you are going to feel led to move at some point though.

426
00:35:51.040 --> 00:35:53.040
I want to encourage you to follow the Holy Spirit.

427
00:35:53.280 --> 00:35:53.780
All right.

428
00:35:54.840 --> 00:35:57.240
Here's the last thing I'm going to say before we go into breakout.

429
00:35:58.280 --> 00:36:01.040
We all have to choose what to believe.

430
00:36:03.200 --> 00:36:04.360
So what are you going to believe?

431
00:36:05.800 --> 00:36:08.640
What are you going to choose to believe about yourself, about your life,

432
00:36:08.640 --> 00:36:12.280
about your spirit mate, and where are you going to allow it to take you?

433
00:36:12.440 --> 00:36:12.940
All right.

434
00:36:13.080 --> 00:36:15.720
So here's your breakout question for tonight though.

435
00:36:15.960 --> 00:36:17.000
That wasn't your breakout.

436
00:36:17.080 --> 00:36:18.440
That was just for you to think about.

437
00:36:19.440 --> 00:36:24.520
In what ways does the enemy challenge the real you?

438
00:36:25.760 --> 00:36:28.840
In what ways does the enemy challenge the real you?

439
00:36:29.400 --> 00:36:35.240
Does he often use comparison, competition, or imitation?

440
00:36:36.080 --> 00:36:37.840
Maybe he uses all of them for you.

441
00:36:38.680 --> 00:36:40.760
And how do these tend to show up in your life?

442
00:36:41.160 --> 00:36:42.160
I know that's a long one.

443
00:36:42.160 --> 00:36:44.960
It's multiple questions there, but they all go together.

444
00:36:45.040 --> 00:36:48.680
In what ways does the enemy challenge the real you?

445
00:36:49.240 --> 00:36:53.600
Does he often use comparison, competition, or imitation?

446
00:36:53.840 --> 00:36:56.480
And how do these things tend to show up in your life?

447
00:36:56.480 --> 00:36:58.160
Does everyone understand the question?

448
00:36:58.640 --> 00:36:59.480
Everyone good?

449
00:37:01.600 --> 00:37:02.100
Yeah?

450
00:37:03.360 --> 00:37:06.640
I don't see any yeses, so I just want to make sure before I send you all into

451
00:37:06.640 --> 00:37:08.160
breakout, I know it's a lot.

452
00:37:10.600 --> 00:37:11.100
Okay.

453
00:37:11.120 --> 00:37:12.400
I'm seeing a couple of people saying yes.

454
00:37:12.440 --> 00:37:12.940
Okay.

455
00:37:13.940 --> 00:37:14.700
All righty.

456
00:37:14.740 --> 00:37:16.300
It's going to be a good conversation.

457
00:37:16.300 --> 00:37:19.180
When you go into these breakouts, I know you guys, some of you don't know each

458
00:37:19.180 --> 00:37:23.100
other, but this is your opportunity to meet a new sister who's on the same

459
00:37:23.100 --> 00:37:24.180
journey as you.

460
00:37:24.580 --> 00:37:28.700
Just again, remember, borrow courage from the Lord, share with each other.

461
00:37:28.700 --> 00:37:29.860
You don't have to fix each other.

462
00:37:29.860 --> 00:37:33.620
Just listen and then thank the sister for sharing her story.

463
00:37:33.700 --> 00:37:35.220
And then the next person can go.

464
00:37:35.500 --> 00:37:37.340
If you have extra time, get to know each other.

465
00:37:37.340 --> 00:37:38.060
Where are you from?

466
00:37:38.060 --> 00:37:39.500
What led you to the community?

467
00:37:39.740 --> 00:37:41.500
You know, what is your hobby?

468
00:37:41.780 --> 00:37:45.020
Maybe you're like, I don't know what my hobby is, but again, answer the question

469
00:37:45.020 --> 00:37:46.540
first and then go from there.

470
00:37:47.020 --> 00:37:47.500
All right.

471
00:37:47.500 --> 00:37:51.740
I'm going to give you guys, um, I like giving you a little extra time, so I'm

472
00:37:51.740 --> 00:37:56.820
going to give you eight minutes and then when y'all come back, we will, um, we

473
00:37:56.820 --> 00:37:58.740
will have that group coaching together.

474
00:37:58.780 --> 00:38:01.260
All right, go ahead and click those as quick as you can.

475
00:38:01.260 --> 00:38:03.260
And then if I need to move people around, I will.

476
00:38:05.220 --> 00:38:05.860
Totally fine.

477
00:38:05.860 --> 00:38:06.460
Roseanne.

478
00:38:11.500 --> 00:38:38.380
All right.

479
00:38:38.380 --> 00:38:40.820
I'm trying to get a couple people situated here.

480
00:38:40.900 --> 00:38:44.300
Some people sit by themselves and then we'll just start to pray a little bit.

481
00:38:46.900 --> 00:38:47.500
All right, father.

482
00:38:47.500 --> 00:38:49.580
We just thank you so much for this night.

483
00:38:49.580 --> 00:38:53.860
We thank you for everything that you're doing.

484
00:38:55.580 --> 00:38:56.900
Um, hold on one second.

485
00:38:56.900 --> 00:38:57.500
Sorry.

486
00:39:03.300 --> 00:39:03.780
Hmm.

487
00:39:04.020 --> 00:39:04.740
We're asking for help.

488
00:39:04.740 --> 00:39:05.300
I don't know why.

489
00:39:06.140 --> 00:39:08.780
We just thank you for everything that you're doing in this group tonight.

490
00:39:08.820 --> 00:39:12.340
God, we just thank you for awakening dreams and visions inside of us.

491
00:39:12.740 --> 00:39:16.420
God, I'm asking you to even awaken the little girl on the inside of us.

492
00:39:17.700 --> 00:39:22.100
Some of us were hurt a long time ago and we don't even remember parts of ourselves

493
00:39:22.100 --> 00:39:24.740
that kind of got sucked down with the bad memories.

494
00:39:27.980 --> 00:39:28.580
Sorry, y'all.

495
00:39:29.220 --> 00:39:31.540
I'm still kind of recovering from being sick last week.

496
00:39:31.900 --> 00:39:36.660
But Lord, I just, even as I was praying that it made me think about how many good

497
00:39:36.660 --> 00:39:40.020
memories sometimes kind of get lost with the trauma.

498
00:39:40.820 --> 00:39:44.900
And so Lord, we're just asking you to open up the good memories back to our

499
00:39:44.900 --> 00:39:48.820
remembrance or to help us to remember things that we've forgotten that our

500
00:39:48.820 --> 00:39:54.860
parents have done, or even people, you know, friends, family members got to thank

501
00:39:54.860 --> 00:40:00.180
you for the things that you've done for us and for the people that you've helped.

502
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:07.120
That you would help us to know, God, even the things that might be hard and help us

503
00:40:07.120 --> 00:40:11.820
to process those in the due season at the right appointed time.

504
00:40:11.820 --> 00:40:15.580
You know, I was at this funeral this past weekend and, you know, the scripture that's

505
00:40:15.580 --> 00:40:20.760
always so popular is about, you know, Ecclesiastes, about the appointed time for every purpose

506
00:40:20.760 --> 00:40:21.760
under heaven.

507
00:40:21.760 --> 00:40:24.320
And that's so true.

508
00:40:24.320 --> 00:40:28.480
And so, Lord, we just thank you that we're at the right appointed time for this purpose

509
00:40:28.480 --> 00:40:32.300
that you have called us, just like Esther, and you're in, you know, have us in this

510
00:40:32.300 --> 00:40:37.420
time of preparation, the ladies in this heart work group, you're preparing them, you're

511
00:40:37.420 --> 00:40:41.080
guiding them, you're leading them further into the fullness of who you've called them

512
00:40:41.080 --> 00:40:42.080
to be.

513
00:40:42.080 --> 00:40:45.680
God, I pray that you would help them to see themselves through your eyes.

514
00:40:45.680 --> 00:40:50.520
Yes, Lord, let there be no limits.

515
00:40:50.520 --> 00:40:54.720
Let there be no limits in their minds to what you can do in them and through them.

516
00:40:55.040 --> 00:40:59.400
Lord, I pray that if there's any areas even where they struggle to believe that you have

517
00:40:59.400 --> 00:41:05.920
good things for them, that you would help them to come out of alignment with those negative

518
00:41:05.920 --> 00:41:12.140
limiting belief systems, orphan mentalities that cause them to feel, God, like that they

519
00:41:12.140 --> 00:41:15.280
always have to strive and barely ever have enough.

520
00:41:15.280 --> 00:41:21.960
God, I thank you that you alone are more than enough for us, but God, you also choose to

521
00:41:21.960 --> 00:41:26.280
bless us as our father at, because we are your kids.

522
00:41:26.280 --> 00:41:27.960
Hold on one second, ladies.

523
00:41:27.960 --> 00:41:33.160
Hey, Brian, that just picked up in my laptop.

524
00:41:33.160 --> 00:41:41.240
And so we just ask you, God, to continue to help us to receive your truth and to allow

525
00:41:41.240 --> 00:41:47.600
it to manifest in our lives, but God, that we would partner with you in the process.

526
00:41:47.600 --> 00:41:51.840
That's such a good reminder too, ladies, even as I was praying that so many times, you know,

527
00:41:51.840 --> 00:41:56.520
in Christian circles, you know, people talk about just praying and waiting, praying and

528
00:41:56.520 --> 00:41:57.520
waiting.

529
00:41:57.520 --> 00:42:01.960
And yes, there is, there is a time for that, but God also calls us to walk by faith, not

530
00:42:01.960 --> 00:42:06.240
just by sight and to call those things that forth that are not as though they are.

531
00:42:06.240 --> 00:42:11.600
So there's this partnering with him in the process that's so important.

532
00:42:11.600 --> 00:42:15.360
And for some of you, you know, part of the struggle is that you're afraid to make any

533
00:42:15.360 --> 00:42:17.040
mistakes.

534
00:42:17.040 --> 00:42:18.080
And guess what?

535
00:42:18.080 --> 00:42:20.880
That's how we learn, just like learning how to ride a bike.

536
00:42:20.920 --> 00:42:22.400
You know, you learn it with tricycles.

537
00:42:22.400 --> 00:42:27.400
Well, part of the tricycle wheels, you know, in this group, we consider you guys like when

538
00:42:27.400 --> 00:42:31.360
you come in here and after you finished with the heartwork, you go into these other groups

539
00:42:31.360 --> 00:42:35.000
where you can go on a date and you can come back and you can get feedback.

540
00:42:35.000 --> 00:42:36.120
That's going to be your training wheels.

541
00:42:36.120 --> 00:42:39.520
And here in the heartwork, you know, you're learning how to kind of work out this stuff

542
00:42:39.520 --> 00:42:43.540
in your heart and you come in and talk about it in the group and you, you know, whether

543
00:42:43.540 --> 00:42:48.440
it's during the live session or during the group post in the, in the app.

544
00:42:48.440 --> 00:42:51.600
And those are kind of like your training wheels regarding heartwork.

545
00:42:51.600 --> 00:42:53.760
So go ahead and use those training wheels.

546
00:42:53.760 --> 00:42:55.040
That's what they're there for.

547
00:42:55.040 --> 00:42:56.720
And don't isolate yourself.

548
00:42:56.720 --> 00:43:01.800
Really allow God to manifest his power in your life and, and partner with him and with

549
00:43:01.800 --> 00:43:02.800
us in the process.

550
00:43:02.800 --> 00:43:07.120
And you're going to see that's going to change so much for you.

551
00:43:07.120 --> 00:43:11.600
Just from my experience, at least those that stay in community and really connect and allow

552
00:43:11.600 --> 00:43:15.960
the coaching to really impact and guide them in a healthy direction.

553
00:43:15.960 --> 00:43:17.840
It's just, it's just game changer.

554
00:43:17.840 --> 00:43:22.440
And so I see Alice said that when I was talking earlier about, you know, forgetting a lot

555
00:43:22.440 --> 00:43:25.760
of the good stuff, she said that that's something that she struggles with.

556
00:43:25.760 --> 00:43:30.560
And so Alice, I'll be praying for you about that and trusting that the Lord will help

557
00:43:30.560 --> 00:43:36.720
you, you know, really receive everything he has for you and to remember good things and

558
00:43:36.720 --> 00:43:41.320
not just lose all of those memories because of the hard things that you went through.

559
00:43:41.320 --> 00:43:44.960
And so I'm praying for you about that.

560
00:43:44.960 --> 00:43:47.880
Reena, did you get kicked out of the room that you were in?

561
00:43:47.880 --> 00:43:52.080
No, we just finished early, I guess.

562
00:43:52.080 --> 00:43:53.080
Okay, that's fine.

563
00:43:53.080 --> 00:43:54.880
I just saw her still sitting in the room.

564
00:43:54.880 --> 00:43:59.280
So I didn't, I just want to make sure you didn't need put back in there.

565
00:43:59.280 --> 00:44:00.840
Okay.

566
00:44:00.840 --> 00:44:05.920
So Alice, if you feel checked out, I really want to encourage you to ask the Lord when

567
00:44:05.920 --> 00:44:13.440
you checked out, because, you know, sometimes we check out because we actually believe still

568
00:44:13.640 --> 00:44:16.840
that God is not going to answer the prayers for us.

569
00:44:16.840 --> 00:44:23.240
And we still feel kind of like in that orphan place, if you will.

570
00:44:23.240 --> 00:44:25.180
And so there's probably something there.

571
00:44:25.180 --> 00:44:29.520
And sometimes we just, we feel stuck and so then we don't move forward and that can cause

572
00:44:29.520 --> 00:44:30.960
us to feel even more stuck.

573
00:44:30.960 --> 00:44:34.240
So basically it kind of compounds on itself.

574
00:44:34.240 --> 00:44:38.440
And so I want to encourage you just to keep moving forward and don't put yourself in time

575
00:44:38.440 --> 00:44:39.440
out.

576
00:44:39.440 --> 00:44:44.680
And if there's any area that you're struggling in the coursework, please create a post and

577
00:44:44.680 --> 00:44:48.760
let, let us know, because we want to help you keep processing through that and keep

578
00:44:48.760 --> 00:44:49.760
moving forward.

579
00:44:49.760 --> 00:44:53.440
Because I think that will really help you actually in your process.

580
00:44:53.440 --> 00:44:58.920
And so as you guys are kind of leaning into what God is doing in you tonight, I really

581
00:44:58.920 --> 00:45:00.040
want to encourage you to.

582
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:04.180
You ask God to show you different aspects of yourself that you've long forgotten.

583
00:45:04.180 --> 00:45:08.680
You know, how she's saying, feeling pretty checked out, she's maybe struggling to remember

584
00:45:08.680 --> 00:45:09.720
good things.

585
00:45:09.720 --> 00:45:16.240
So that's where a lot of us can also forget, you know, these fun aspects of ourselves,

586
00:45:16.240 --> 00:45:17.360
hobbies or things.

587
00:45:17.360 --> 00:45:19.600
So how do we start to figure out what those are?

588
00:45:19.600 --> 00:45:22.360
Well, we just start going and doing stuff.

589
00:45:22.360 --> 00:45:25.040
And we figure out, well, do I like this now or do I not?

590
00:45:25.040 --> 00:45:29.700
Because some of us, we don't like things we used to like before, foods, hobbies, we might

591
00:45:29.700 --> 00:45:31.900
like something different.

592
00:45:31.900 --> 00:45:37.100
And so practice, get out there, try some things and really allow God to show you kind of an

593
00:45:37.100 --> 00:45:44.740
awaken all of those things in you and help you step further into His goodness.

594
00:45:44.740 --> 00:45:51.040
And so as you guys are leaning into also those parts of, you know, your heart and spirit

595
00:45:51.040 --> 00:45:57.660
that God wants to awaken, I want to encourage you to also just really visualize like, kind

596
00:45:57.660 --> 00:45:58.780
of like a flower.

597
00:45:58.780 --> 00:46:01.340
This was something I did.

598
00:46:01.340 --> 00:46:04.620
I bought a plant, it was just a little plant.

599
00:46:04.620 --> 00:46:08.380
And then I watched that thing grow, I watched it come alive.

600
00:46:08.380 --> 00:46:12.700
And that really deeply impacted me on so many levels.

601
00:46:12.700 --> 00:46:17.820
And so I hope that that's something that you all will consider doing, excuse me, and allow

602
00:46:17.820 --> 00:46:22.900
yourself to feel like excited about that as it's coming alive, that you will feel that

603
00:46:22.900 --> 00:46:26.540
inside of yourself as well.

604
00:46:26.540 --> 00:46:30.380
I'm going to try to look for something real quick.

605
00:46:30.380 --> 00:46:38.420
As we're waiting for everybody to come back.

606
00:46:38.420 --> 00:46:40.340
Welcome back, everyone.

607
00:46:40.340 --> 00:46:46.700
I'm looking for one thing real quick.

608
00:46:46.700 --> 00:46:50.620
Welcome back, welcome back.

609
00:46:50.620 --> 00:46:53.780
As you guys are coming back, I'm just looking for something real quick that I want to read

610
00:46:53.780 --> 00:46:54.780
over you all.

611
00:46:55.020 --> 00:46:57.140
Yeah, here we go.

612
00:46:57.140 --> 00:47:00.340
Before y'all leave tonight, welcome back from your breakout rooms.

613
00:47:00.340 --> 00:47:05.620
So in the effort to save time, I'm going to do the same thing I did last week, I'm going

614
00:47:05.620 --> 00:47:08.700
to put the activation instructions just up in the group.

615
00:47:08.700 --> 00:47:11.880
But I'm going to tell you very quickly what the activations are for this week.

616
00:47:11.880 --> 00:47:15.460
So we already know, partnering with princess.

617
00:47:15.460 --> 00:47:20.500
So some of you like I've had ladies where God showed them certain shoes to put start

618
00:47:20.500 --> 00:47:25.220
wearing and putting on that looked kind of like sparkly like princess tiara.

619
00:47:25.220 --> 00:47:31.820
I've had ladies buy like kind of like not a sash, but I'm kind of like a coat thing.

620
00:47:31.820 --> 00:47:35.740
You know, just pray into it and see where the Lord will guide you to do.

621
00:47:35.740 --> 00:47:40.940
I love for you guys to make it yourself like your own and then take a picture, show us

622
00:47:40.940 --> 00:47:41.940
in the group.

623
00:47:41.940 --> 00:47:44.580
And for some of you, you need to start partnering with your bride.

624
00:47:44.580 --> 00:47:47.960
So bride and princess activation this week.

625
00:47:47.960 --> 00:47:54.120
So maybe you're going to be out shopping and by yourself, oh, I see a veil, Sherry's got

626
00:47:54.120 --> 00:47:55.120
a veil.

627
00:47:55.120 --> 00:47:57.320
It looks awesome.

628
00:47:57.320 --> 00:48:01.640
Maybe you're going to buy a mug that says I am a bride or bride or missus or something

629
00:48:01.640 --> 00:48:07.680
or a journal or you know, again, pray and just kind of see what works for you.

630
00:48:07.680 --> 00:48:09.500
But get out of your comfort zone a little bit.

631
00:48:09.500 --> 00:48:11.080
Maybe it's a bride sash.

632
00:48:11.080 --> 00:48:16.760
You know, what is it that you need to start partnering with so that you can start cultivating?

633
00:48:16.760 --> 00:48:22.600
Because long before you become a bride that walks down the aisle, we must become a bride

634
00:48:22.600 --> 00:48:23.600
on the inside.

635
00:48:23.600 --> 00:48:29.560
And even if you've been married before, ladies, hear me.

636
00:48:29.560 --> 00:48:33.480
Most of you need to heal and know that it's okay for you to wear white again if you choose

637
00:48:33.480 --> 00:48:34.480
to.

638
00:48:34.480 --> 00:48:39.800
Most of you need to partner with, you know, I am a bride and because I was a bride before

639
00:48:40.800 --> 00:48:49.360
doesn't minimize the reality that you have to believe you're a bride on the inside.

640
00:48:49.360 --> 00:48:51.400
It's not presumptuous, Melissa.

641
00:48:51.400 --> 00:48:58.560
This is about us partnering with faith that God has this for us.

642
00:48:58.560 --> 00:49:03.840
And I will tell you, ladies, literally, when I started now, this wasn't just something

643
00:49:03.840 --> 00:49:06.760
like Jackie encourages this and we do activate it.

644
00:49:06.760 --> 00:49:13.840
And I did do activations, but literally when it shifted on the inside of me, I started

645
00:49:13.840 --> 00:49:19.640
walking around my apartment by myself saying, I, Bethany Stanko, am a bride.

646
00:49:19.640 --> 00:49:20.640
That was my name before.

647
00:49:20.640 --> 00:49:22.400
I, Bethany Stanko, am a bride.

648
00:49:22.400 --> 00:49:24.120
And I literally felt it.

649
00:49:24.120 --> 00:49:25.680
I wasn't just saying it anymore.

650
00:49:25.680 --> 00:49:26.800
I felt it.

651
00:49:26.800 --> 00:49:31.440
But sometimes we have to start saying it and then the faith grows as we go.

652
00:49:31.440 --> 00:49:32.440
Okay.

653
00:49:32.440 --> 00:49:35.080
The second activation is a silhouette.

654
00:49:35.080 --> 00:49:37.280
We call it the silhouette activation.

655
00:49:37.280 --> 00:49:41.480
The quickest way to explain this to you is that I want to encourage you.

656
00:49:41.480 --> 00:49:43.000
It can be a stick figure.

657
00:49:43.000 --> 00:49:45.240
It can be an actual silhouette of yourself.

658
00:49:45.240 --> 00:49:47.920
It can be a, uh, like a photograph of yourself.

659
00:49:47.920 --> 00:49:55.440
And then you write the words, but the goal is for you to pray and ask God this question.

660
00:49:55.440 --> 00:49:59.280
Who do you say that I am?

661
00:49:59.280 --> 00:50:00.280
Amen.

662
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:08.960
Who do you say that I am?" And every positive thing that you hear, a word, a phrase, whatever

663
00:50:00.280 --> 00:50:00.280


664
00:50:08.960 --> 00:50:15.120
it is, you write it down on the silhouette. If you hear something negative, you do not write that on

665
00:50:15.120 --> 00:50:20.160
your silhouette. That does not go there. That is not from the Lord. You write that on a separate

666
00:50:20.160 --> 00:50:25.760
piece of paper and then you're going to cross it out and you're going to ask God to reveal to you

667
00:50:25.760 --> 00:50:32.560
the truth to replace that lie. For some of you, this is going to be massive healing, okay? And

668
00:50:32.560 --> 00:50:35.600
you're going to do that. If you keep hearing negative things, you're going to keep doing it

669
00:50:35.600 --> 00:50:40.800
until you get to the truth, okay? I know that's a very quick explanation. I'm going to put the

670
00:50:40.800 --> 00:50:44.560
instructions up in the group. You guys can read them more there later. If you have questions,

671
00:50:44.560 --> 00:50:49.120
go ahead and ask those. And I'll be sure I don't, I didn't go back and look for questions last week.

672
00:50:49.120 --> 00:50:53.920
I apologize. It was such a crazy week with our, the funeral for our family member. But this week,

673
00:50:53.920 --> 00:50:57.760
if you have questions, go ahead and put them in the comments of that activation and I'll be

674
00:50:57.760 --> 00:51:03.040
looking at that. Okay. All right. So on that note, who would like to share with the whole

675
00:51:03.040 --> 00:51:10.080
group what you shared in the private breakout about your, in what ways does the enemy challenge

676
00:51:10.080 --> 00:51:15.200
the real you? Who's going to go first tonight? It always takes one.

677
00:51:24.800 --> 00:51:28.240
Cheryl, I see you. You can go if you're willing. You just have to unmute.

678
00:51:28.240 --> 00:51:41.600
Okay. This is only my second time in this group. So sorry if I'm a little awkward, but

679
00:51:42.640 --> 00:51:55.360
I was sharing that. I think comparison is how, what it uses against me. Cause I'm always feeling

680
00:51:55.440 --> 00:52:02.000
like I'm not good enough or I'm less than. And I was telling her that when like, there's

681
00:52:02.720 --> 00:52:08.400
little clicks at church of these ladies that hang out after church and they go on vacations together.

682
00:52:08.400 --> 00:52:14.320
And you know, the single ladies that they, and I don't have a friend group like that.

683
00:52:14.320 --> 00:52:21.200
It makes me feel less than, and even though those ladies are my friends also, they don't include me

684
00:52:21.200 --> 00:52:27.200
in those little things. So that makes me feel like there's something wrong with me, you know?

685
00:52:27.200 --> 00:52:36.880
So that's my biggest area right now. Yeah. That was a really good share. Cheryl, you're doing great.

686
00:52:36.880 --> 00:52:43.920
And I want you to know that, I don't think that you seemed awkward or anything. So I want you to

687
00:52:43.920 --> 00:52:49.520
work on this. Okay. And that's why I'm saying it to you. The enemy is trying to get you to believe

688
00:52:49.520 --> 00:52:55.680
that you're awkward. And then what it's doing is it's causing you to show up that way. And so,

689
00:52:55.680 --> 00:53:03.280
you know, you don't have to apologize for who you are. Okay. So if you feel that coming on,

690
00:53:04.080 --> 00:53:09.600
even as you're talking to someone, I really want you to resist that. There's no shame in it. Okay.

691
00:53:09.600 --> 00:53:14.320
If you, if you can't, if you don't even know when it comes up, just let it come out because that's

692
00:53:14.320 --> 00:53:20.720
how I, as a coach can help you. But the enemy is trying to get you to like, think there's something

693
00:53:20.720 --> 00:53:26.400
wrong with you every time you're speaking, but there's not. You're amazing. This is great. And so

694
00:53:27.600 --> 00:53:33.840
couple of things that you said that I want to kind of hone in on. Also, you said always not

695
00:53:33.840 --> 00:53:38.960
feeling good enough. And so this group of ladies on the outside. And so the question that I had

696
00:53:38.960 --> 00:53:43.760
was when, and it's okay if you don't remember. All right. So for any of you that don't remember,

697
00:53:43.760 --> 00:53:50.160
if I ask you a question and you're like, I don't know, it's totally fine. There is no pressure.

698
00:53:50.160 --> 00:53:57.600
Okay. Cause you may know two weeks from now. So, and if you ever feel like you're not sure you're

699
00:53:57.600 --> 00:54:03.280
ready to answer in front of the group, it's okay to say, can I answer that another time?

700
00:54:03.280 --> 00:54:08.880
And I'm going to know that means you're not ready to answer that question. Okay. So I I'm very big

701
00:54:08.880 --> 00:54:15.200
on everyone feeling super safe here because I know how much courage it takes to share. And Cheryl

702
00:54:15.200 --> 00:54:22.400
went first tonight. This is really good. And so my question is when is the first time, if you remember

703
00:54:23.360 --> 00:54:28.800
that you felt like there was a group of friends and you were on the outside?

704
00:54:29.120 --> 00:54:35.440
I probably goes back to high school. Okay. I mean, that's okay. Do you know what happened when you

705
00:54:35.440 --> 00:54:47.360
felt that way? What happened was I, I went to the dark side. I went to the party crowd because the

706
00:54:47.360 --> 00:54:59.840
group that was my friends went to the popular kids and I wasn't a popular kids.

707
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:05.000
So I don't know if that's rebellion or what,

708
00:55:07.120 --> 00:55:12.120
but I went to the bad kids side of the field.

709
00:55:15.680 --> 00:55:20.680
So do you still in some ways partner with the bad kid?

710
00:55:20.960 --> 00:55:23.200
Like, do you believe that about yourself?

711
00:55:23.200 --> 00:55:24.020
No.

712
00:55:24.020 --> 00:55:25.500
Okay, I just wanna make sure.

713
00:55:26.500 --> 00:55:29.500
Cause sometimes even though we don't live that way,

714
00:55:31.060 --> 00:55:33.860
we can believe that we're not the popular,

715
00:55:33.860 --> 00:55:36.500
we're the dark side, we're the bad kids.

716
00:55:36.500 --> 00:55:39.420
And we can kind of live that out subconsciously

717
00:55:39.420 --> 00:55:40.500
even as adults.

718
00:55:40.500 --> 00:55:42.620
And so that's why I wanted to ask

719
00:55:42.620 --> 00:55:45.020
and it might just be something to pray into.

720
00:55:45.020 --> 00:55:48.340
Again, not that you're doing those things anymore,

721
00:55:48.340 --> 00:55:52.040
but subconsciously if you're still partnering with,

722
00:55:52.040 --> 00:55:54.100
I'm not the popular one.

723
00:55:55.000 --> 00:55:58.840
So therefore I have to be the bad,

724
00:55:58.840 --> 00:55:59.680
does that make sense?

725
00:55:59.680 --> 00:56:01.540
I'm always on the outside.

726
00:56:02.560 --> 00:56:05.560
And so it can actually cause us to feel like

727
00:56:05.560 --> 00:56:07.160
there's literally everywhere we go,

728
00:56:07.160 --> 00:56:11.320
this circle that is like everybody else is in that circle,

729
00:56:11.320 --> 00:56:13.160
but we're on the outside all the time.

730
00:56:13.160 --> 00:56:15.420
And that's kind of how you described that church group,

731
00:56:15.420 --> 00:56:17.260
even though you're like, they're my friends,

732
00:56:17.260 --> 00:56:19.520
but they never invite me to go do this stuff.

733
00:56:21.520 --> 00:56:23.220
And I'm not even saying you're causing it,

734
00:56:23.220 --> 00:56:28.220
but subconsciously we can actually project that stuff

735
00:56:28.600 --> 00:56:31.300
and people might not even know we're interested.

736
00:56:32.320 --> 00:56:33.160
Right.

737
00:56:34.280 --> 00:56:37.200
Or we might partner with being really shy

738
00:56:37.200 --> 00:56:38.040
and they might think,

739
00:56:38.040 --> 00:56:41.180
well, I don't even know if she would like this.

740
00:56:41.180 --> 00:56:44.760
So you might even need to make your desire known

741
00:56:44.760 --> 00:56:47.480
and hopefully they will then include you,

742
00:56:47.480 --> 00:56:49.460
we'll have to kind of just see how that goes.

743
00:56:49.460 --> 00:56:52.220
But you might need to practice like making your desire known

744
00:56:52.220 --> 00:56:55.640
like, hey, I would love to go with you guys sometime

745
00:56:56.920 --> 00:56:58.440
and just see what happens.

746
00:56:58.440 --> 00:57:01.300
We can only coach you through what happens after you do that

747
00:57:01.300 --> 00:57:04.200
but letting people know,

748
00:57:04.200 --> 00:57:06.720
oh, it's fine, that that's something that you would desire

749
00:57:06.720 --> 00:57:08.600
I think would be really good.

750
00:57:08.600 --> 00:57:10.740
So back in high school,

751
00:57:11.980 --> 00:57:16.080
when your friends that you were friends with became,

752
00:57:16.080 --> 00:57:17.400
and a lot of us will quote,

753
00:57:17.400 --> 00:57:19.960
the popular kids will quote you did that.

754
00:57:19.980 --> 00:57:22.780
And so, which is normal,

755
00:57:22.780 --> 00:57:25.100
have you ever forgiven those friends

756
00:57:25.100 --> 00:57:27.220
for kind of leaving you behind?

757
00:57:31.180 --> 00:57:32.500
I never felt like.

758
00:57:34.780 --> 00:57:37.300
Or whatever, I'm saying leaving you behind,

759
00:57:37.300 --> 00:57:39.340
but the way you kind of, you were like,

760
00:57:39.340 --> 00:57:42.080
they became popular, I wasn't popular,

761
00:57:42.080 --> 00:57:44.140
so then I had to go over.

762
00:57:44.140 --> 00:57:45.900
So at some point,

763
00:57:46.840 --> 00:57:50.100
it seems like there was a parting.

764
00:57:51.680 --> 00:57:56.560
And if there is any level, maybe there's not,

765
00:57:56.560 --> 00:57:59.520
but if there is any level of resentment

766
00:57:59.520 --> 00:58:02.200
for like towards them for that,

767
00:58:02.200 --> 00:58:04.840
then I would highly recommend doing a forgiveness prayer

768
00:58:04.840 --> 00:58:07.640
sheet and forgiving those people.

769
00:58:07.640 --> 00:58:10.200
And even if you know them today and you're fine with them,

770
00:58:10.200 --> 00:58:13.500
but back then, if that hurt you,

771
00:58:14.500 --> 00:58:17.360
and that was something that has not gotten healed,

772
00:58:17.360 --> 00:58:21.160
that is going to impact even today in friend groups.

773
00:58:21.160 --> 00:58:22.540
You understand?

774
00:58:22.540 --> 00:58:23.440
Yeah.

775
00:58:23.440 --> 00:58:25.120
And so just kind of pray into that.

776
00:58:25.120 --> 00:58:27.720
If there's nothing there, that's totally fine.

777
00:58:27.720 --> 00:58:30.000
I'm always open to,

778
00:58:31.000 --> 00:58:34.160
if it lands awesome, if it doesn't, totally understand.

779
00:58:35.720 --> 00:58:38.600
And then the other thing was when,

780
00:58:38.600 --> 00:58:40.080
and this is for everybody,

781
00:58:40.080 --> 00:58:42.800
we often do this, most of us.

782
00:58:44.000 --> 00:58:46.180
When we go through something,

783
00:58:48.960 --> 00:58:52.580
we will say things like, they make me feel this way.

784
00:58:54.400 --> 00:58:57.080
Anyone, did anyone ever say that?

785
00:58:57.080 --> 00:58:59.640
Like when someone hurts us or they're like,

786
00:58:59.640 --> 00:59:02.640
they make me angry, they make me, you know?

787
00:59:02.640 --> 00:59:05.040
And so when you were talking about that friend group,

788
00:59:05.040 --> 00:59:07.280
I think I heard that.

789
00:59:07.280 --> 00:59:09.600
And it always stands out to me because God also,

790
00:59:09.600 --> 00:59:12.680
this was like something God started catching me on.

791
00:59:12.680 --> 00:59:15.660
And it doesn't mean that we don't feel these things.

792
00:59:15.660 --> 00:59:17.940
It doesn't mean that, and not that you felt angry.

793
00:59:17.940 --> 00:59:19.580
It doesn't mean, but I'm just kind of using this

794
00:59:19.580 --> 00:59:20.660
as an example.

795
00:59:20.660 --> 00:59:22.660
It doesn't mean that we don't feel angry

796
00:59:22.660 --> 00:59:24.900
or that we don't feel left out,

797
00:59:24.900 --> 00:59:29.780
but when we put it on other people and we say, they make me,

798
00:59:29.780 --> 00:59:34.500
it like basically diminishes our kind of responsibility

799
00:59:34.500 --> 00:59:36.620
in that to own our own feelings.

800
00:59:37.700 --> 00:59:38.900
Does that make sense?

801
00:59:38.900 --> 00:59:39.740
Yes.

802
00:59:39.740 --> 00:59:41.300
And so we want to own our feelings first.

803
00:59:41.300 --> 00:59:46.300
So I felt left out when they did this

804
00:59:47.500 --> 00:59:50.920
versus they made me feel this way.

805
00:59:50.920 --> 00:59:52.320
Do you see the difference?

806
00:59:52.320 --> 00:59:54.000
Right, because they weren't intending

807
00:59:54.000 --> 00:59:55.880
to make me feel any way.

808
00:59:55.880 --> 00:59:56.720
Yeah.

809
00:59:56.720 --> 00:59:57.540
Okay.

810
00:59:57.540 --> 00:59:59.440
Yeah, and sometimes, you know, I mean,

811
00:59:59.440 --> 01:00:00.280
there are some.

812
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:05.160
people that will do things that are very hurtful. But still, we

813
01:00:05.160 --> 01:00:12.360
need to own our feelings. I felt sad when this happened. Okay,

814
01:00:12.640 --> 01:00:16.600
because again, we don't want to give people power over our

815
01:00:16.600 --> 01:00:22.440
emotions over our being over our mind. Does that make sense? Yes.

816
01:00:22.680 --> 01:00:25.280
Okay, so those are just a couple things I wanted to give you for

817
01:00:25.280 --> 01:00:30.640
this week. You did awesome. And you're amazing on you. And I'm

818
01:00:30.640 --> 01:00:34.000
so glad that you're here. You're welcome. Good to get to know you

819
01:00:34.000 --> 01:00:38.040
a little bit more. Okay, Danielle, you can go ahead.

820
01:00:39.720 --> 01:00:48.240
Hi. Hi, how are you? I'm good. Yeah. I think that is really

821
01:00:48.240 --> 01:00:53.160
that question was fantastic. And initially I thought comparison.

822
01:00:53.920 --> 01:00:57.920
But then I recognized that a lot of it's rooted in competition.

823
01:00:58.520 --> 01:01:03.480
And that striving to be the best and to be chosen. And it's not

824
01:01:03.480 --> 01:01:06.960
even necessarily competitive. And like, like, I would never

825
01:01:06.960 --> 01:01:10.840
say that I'm competitive when it comes to sports or to, I could

826
01:01:10.840 --> 01:01:15.760
care less about all of that. It's the, I want to be the most

827
01:01:15.760 --> 01:01:19.880
beautiful, I want to be the one that's seen and chosen. The

828
01:01:19.880 --> 01:01:23.720
comparison thing, I'm the older sister, my middle name is Lee.

829
01:01:24.080 --> 01:01:27.040
And I have a younger sister whose name is Rachel. And the

830
01:01:27.040 --> 01:01:31.160
lie very early on was she was the beautiful, like Rachel and

831
01:01:31.160 --> 01:01:35.960
Leah, that she was the beautiful one that everyone wanted. And I

832
01:01:35.960 --> 01:01:42.640
was not. And so and as in the last couple of weeks, she has

833
01:01:42.680 --> 01:01:46.160
rededicated her life to Christ. And she's like, going hard after

834
01:01:46.160 --> 01:01:50.040
Jesus, which she has gone very hard after in the other

835
01:01:50.040 --> 01:01:53.840
direction. And so she's like, thank you for not like stopping

836
01:01:53.840 --> 01:01:57.000
praying for me. And she's sharing things. And she's

837
01:01:57.000 --> 01:02:00.040
actually pushing me even to be deeper in the word, which is

838
01:02:00.040 --> 01:02:04.640
great. But like, she's now sober. And she's like, she's

839
01:02:04.640 --> 01:02:08.040
losing weight. And she's doing all these things. And I can feel

840
01:02:08.040 --> 01:02:17.480
that old comparison competition of and because she has been very

841
01:02:17.480 --> 01:02:21.280
unfaithful in her marriages. There's always been this fear of

842
01:02:21.280 --> 01:02:23.560
that when I get married, because she's like, I can't wait to have

843
01:02:23.560 --> 01:02:26.000
a brother. And I'm like, it's not gonna be my husband, you

844
01:02:26.000 --> 01:02:29.880
know, like, you're not gonna be like palling around with my man

845
01:02:29.880 --> 01:02:34.560
just because you want a brother because I know you. But it's

846
01:02:34.560 --> 01:02:40.320
rooted in fear that I won't be chosen. And, and, you know, and

847
01:02:40.320 --> 01:02:44.280
like, and it has to go back. I mean, I understand it's

848
01:02:44.280 --> 01:02:47.240
generational. Like, it's those things that I learned from my

849
01:02:47.240 --> 01:02:50.880
mom that I looked just like that I sounded just like, you know,

850
01:02:50.880 --> 01:02:55.080
and heard her say, I'm not beautiful. She never said I

851
01:02:55.080 --> 01:02:58.680
wasn't beautiful. But she said that she wasn't. And then people

852
01:02:58.680 --> 01:03:01.920
were like, Oh, are you Marilyn's daughter? Like, you look just

853
01:03:01.960 --> 01:03:04.960
like her. And I'm like, thanks, you know, and so like, I

854
01:03:04.960 --> 01:03:08.760
intellectually know the things where the roots are, but like,

855
01:03:09.160 --> 01:03:13.720
to actually be free. And I had done a heart healing session

856
01:03:13.720 --> 01:03:18.440
years ago that the beginning of it, Jesus gave me some Plato. And

857
01:03:18.440 --> 01:03:21.040
I said, What do you want me to make? And he said, What do you

858
01:03:21.040 --> 01:03:23.200
want to make? And I was like, I don't know, just tell me what to

859
01:03:23.200 --> 01:03:26.760
make. And later on in the session, he showed me all these

860
01:03:26.760 --> 01:03:32.800
characters from the Sound of Music. And he was like, you need

861
01:03:32.800 --> 01:03:36.600
to learn to play. You need to learn to play and that you're

862
01:03:36.600 --> 01:03:39.720
able to love. So it's really interesting. Like, I see all of

863
01:03:39.720 --> 01:03:43.680
these things. And I'm like, I think the root is competition,

864
01:03:44.120 --> 01:03:48.840
and striving and trying to be the best and even love the

865
01:03:48.840 --> 01:03:51.320
question that you just asked Cheryl, because I'm like, Oh, I

866
01:03:51.320 --> 01:03:54.320
remember in third grade, I started the Babysitter Club. And

867
01:03:54.440 --> 01:03:58.560
I was the leader and all of the things, but then not chosen. And

868
01:03:58.560 --> 01:04:05.480
that competition and competing. And so the idea of truly being

869
01:04:05.480 --> 01:04:09.320
able to be at rest, that a man would choose me and that I would

870
01:04:09.320 --> 01:04:15.320
win and I wouldn't be in the shadow of his history is like,

871
01:04:15.320 --> 01:04:19.720
it's a dream. And I've tried to lean into biblical truth, but

872
01:04:19.720 --> 01:04:22.520
there's that wound is real. So

873
01:04:23.240 --> 01:04:27.280
question for you. All I'm sitting here thinking about for

874
01:04:27.280 --> 01:04:30.880
whatever reason, so I believe it's the Lord is your dad. Tell

875
01:04:30.880 --> 01:04:31.720
me about your dad.

876
01:04:32.880 --> 01:04:36.920
Um, he was pretty like present, like he was a worker. So he was

877
01:04:36.920 --> 01:04:42.320
always working. And, but definitely did not know how to

878
01:04:43.200 --> 01:04:46.800
to champion. And like, I even remember one time, this was when

879
01:04:46.800 --> 01:04:49.440
my niece was, like, she was little, and she was dressed,

880
01:04:49.440 --> 01:04:52.280
like, dressed up cute. And he was like, Oh, you look so sexy.

881
01:04:52.280 --> 01:04:56.160
Like, he wasn't trying to be perverted at all. But he doesn't

882
01:04:56.160 --> 01:04:59.920
have the bandwidth or the grid to go, Oh, you're beautiful.

883
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:05.880
And, and he and I now have a relationship that I could never have fathomed.

884
01:05:05.880 --> 01:05:10.480
But even in that, he doesn't know how to say, oh, you look really pretty.

885
01:05:10.480 --> 01:05:14.960
You know, like he can say something thinking that a man could want me sexually, even though

886
01:05:14.960 --> 01:05:18.760
I know he's not looking at me sexually, like there isn't that level of perversion with

887
01:05:18.760 --> 01:05:19.760
him.

888
01:05:19.760 --> 01:05:25.680
But he did not know how to affirm and choose.

889
01:05:25.680 --> 01:05:28.560
And especially when we were like teenagers and stuff.

890
01:05:28.560 --> 01:05:34.640
My sister was more the girl doing the things with him and involved in the farm and different

891
01:05:34.640 --> 01:05:37.760
things like that, where I was not interested in that.

892
01:05:37.760 --> 01:05:38.760
Okay.

893
01:05:38.760 --> 01:05:43.760
So did you, you felt like you couldn't connect with your dad in a way that he chose you?

894
01:05:43.760 --> 01:05:44.760
Is that what you're saying?

895
01:05:44.760 --> 01:05:45.760
Yeah.

896
01:05:45.760 --> 01:05:49.200
I mean, he, I, he provided for, but didn't know how to choose.

897
01:05:49.200 --> 01:05:50.200
Yeah.

898
01:05:50.200 --> 01:05:51.200
Absolutely.

899
01:05:51.200 --> 01:05:52.200
Totally understand.

900
01:05:52.200 --> 01:05:53.680
And this happens actually quite a bit.

901
01:05:53.680 --> 01:05:59.280
So I'm, I mean, I'm sure that doesn't come as shock, come as a shock to you that I'm

902
01:05:59.280 --> 01:06:01.200
curious about your dad.

903
01:06:01.200 --> 01:06:05.800
Now, I mean, there's definitely things with your mom.

904
01:06:05.800 --> 01:06:06.960
So let me start at the beginning.

905
01:06:06.960 --> 01:06:07.960
Okay.

906
01:06:07.960 --> 01:06:14.320
First thing is, as you were talking that you just said, I just want to be chosen.

907
01:06:14.320 --> 01:06:18.560
And that stood out so vividly to me, like right from the get go.

908
01:06:18.560 --> 01:06:20.840
And here's the thing.

909
01:06:20.840 --> 01:06:22.400
Do you choose yourself?

910
01:06:23.120 --> 01:06:25.520
Like, do you actually choose you?

911
01:06:25.520 --> 01:06:28.440
Like believe that you are amazing.

912
01:06:28.440 --> 01:06:30.200
Believe that you are beautiful.

913
01:06:30.200 --> 01:06:37.720
Believe that you are going to be the crown to your husband's head when you find him.

914
01:06:37.720 --> 01:06:40.120
Because that's what the Bible says that you are.

915
01:06:40.120 --> 01:06:44.320
When you become a what it says, the Bible says in 18 Proverbs 18 22, that when a man

916
01:06:44.320 --> 01:06:47.600
finds a wife, he's found a good thing.

917
01:06:47.600 --> 01:06:50.920
Like, do you believe you're the good thing?

918
01:06:51.920 --> 01:06:56.480
So that's a good question.

919
01:06:56.480 --> 01:07:03.320
I think that that's where that like, imitation imposter like that striving is because in

920
01:07:03.320 --> 01:07:05.760
all of the relationships, it's always been the fix.

921
01:07:05.760 --> 01:07:11.160
I was the fixer and the healer and that do you need, you know, needing to be needed.

922
01:07:11.160 --> 01:07:16.640
And part of it, you have a lot of knowledge and I'm not saying turn off the knowledge,

923
01:07:16.640 --> 01:07:19.200
but I am saying kind of park it for a little bit.

924
01:07:19.200 --> 01:07:20.200
Okay.

925
01:07:20.480 --> 01:07:24.520
And part of why that is we need God because you, you, you kind of know some of the roots,

926
01:07:24.520 --> 01:07:30.040
you know, some of the knowledge and verbiage, but we need divine revelation to help kind

927
01:07:30.040 --> 01:07:36.680
of really not just get to the root, but go in and heal the core.

928
01:07:36.680 --> 01:07:37.840
Okay.

929
01:07:37.840 --> 01:07:41.800
And so one of the other things I kept thinking about is when you were talking about your

930
01:07:41.800 --> 01:07:45.440
mom and you said, I looked like her and I sounded like her and she didn't like the way

931
01:07:45.440 --> 01:07:47.000
she looked, she didn't think she was beautiful.

932
01:07:47.000 --> 01:07:52.480
And then when people said, you looked like her, then you're like, oh my, you know, so

933
01:07:52.480 --> 01:07:57.840
there needs to be a level of convergence back.

934
01:07:57.840 --> 01:08:00.440
Did you think your mom was beautiful?

935
01:08:00.440 --> 01:08:01.920
No.

936
01:08:01.920 --> 01:08:03.080
Okay.

937
01:08:03.080 --> 01:08:07.920
So was that only because your mom said she wasn't beautiful?

938
01:08:07.920 --> 01:08:11.480
Like what led you to not think your mom was beautiful other than what she said?

939
01:08:11.480 --> 01:08:12.480
I don't know.

940
01:08:12.480 --> 01:08:15.280
I think their parents are beautiful.

941
01:08:15.280 --> 01:08:16.279
Right.

942
01:08:16.560 --> 01:08:19.640
I remember having shame towards her.

943
01:08:19.640 --> 01:08:20.640
Okay.

944
01:08:20.640 --> 01:08:23.160
So let's get to the root of that.

945
01:08:23.160 --> 01:08:24.640
Okay.

946
01:08:24.640 --> 01:08:25.640
Because here's the thing.

947
01:08:25.640 --> 01:08:29.520
If you think you look, my, my oldest daughter, she's my spiritual daughter.

948
01:08:29.520 --> 01:08:32.680
So when I talk about my daughters, I dated their dad for a long time.

949
01:08:32.680 --> 01:08:35.640
So I just don't want it to be confusing.

950
01:08:35.640 --> 01:08:39.640
But my oldest spiritual daughter, she does look a lot like her mom, but she doesn't like

951
01:08:39.640 --> 01:08:40.800
the way her mom looks.

952
01:08:40.800 --> 01:08:43.319
And so she doesn't like to look at herself in the mirror a lot.

953
01:08:43.359 --> 01:08:47.000
I mean, I've done tons of work with her on this.

954
01:08:47.000 --> 01:08:52.600
And so she has a lot of not good feelings towards her mom, which leads her to also,

955
01:08:52.600 --> 01:08:54.580
you know, have struck struggle with all this.

956
01:08:54.580 --> 01:08:58.680
And so when I just asked you that, there's definitely some things there.

957
01:08:58.680 --> 01:09:08.439
So let's ask the Lord, when is the first time I was ashamed of my mom?

958
01:09:08.439 --> 01:09:11.640
Because the beauty isn't even the root.

959
01:09:11.640 --> 01:09:12.640
Right.

960
01:09:12.960 --> 01:09:17.319
See, so what we're getting to is that there's some things that you didn't like about your

961
01:09:17.319 --> 01:09:22.399
mom beyond how she looked, that caused you to feel shame.

962
01:09:22.399 --> 01:09:26.600
And so asking the Lord, and remember ladies, when we do this, when we ask the Lord, we

963
01:09:26.600 --> 01:09:27.680
pull the thread.

964
01:09:27.680 --> 01:09:31.640
So what I mean by that is you want to kind of whatever comes up first, even if it doesn't

965
01:09:31.640 --> 01:09:35.479
seem like it connects, you want to say, okay, Lord, this is what you're showing me.

966
01:09:35.479 --> 01:09:41.160
I don't know where this connects or what you're trying to reveal, but can you reveal more

967
01:09:41.240 --> 01:09:42.680
to me about this?

968
01:09:42.680 --> 01:09:46.319
So you pull the thread, you just follow where he's leading.

969
01:09:46.319 --> 01:09:49.800
I mean, it could be totally something about your grandma that he brings up.

970
01:09:49.800 --> 01:09:50.800
I'm just making this up.

971
01:09:50.800 --> 01:09:55.440
But just, you know, you just kind of follow with what he's saying and where he's leading.

972
01:09:55.440 --> 01:09:58.200
And sometimes it'll come right away, quick.

973
01:09:58.200 --> 01:10:00.000
And sometimes it'll be a couple weeks out.

974
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:01.320
So just don't give up on it.

975
01:10:01.320 --> 01:10:03.920
This is, this is a, I think a core area.

976
01:10:04.500 --> 01:10:11.960
And when you heal from the areas that you have shame regarding your mom, I believe

977
01:10:11.960 --> 01:10:15.000
that convergence that I was talking about, if you guys don't know what convergence

978
01:10:15.000 --> 01:10:17.940
means, it just means that things are coming back together.

979
01:10:17.980 --> 01:10:18.420
Okay.

980
01:10:18.820 --> 01:10:26.160
So at some point, Danielle has kind of separated from like, cause of this shame

981
01:10:26.160 --> 01:10:31.380
and maybe some other things that are there thinking that her mom probably, I'm

982
01:10:31.380 --> 01:10:37.140
just going to kind of guess here that her mom was valuable and, you know, beautiful

983
01:10:37.140 --> 01:10:40.600
and worthy of love or whatever kind of connects to that again, I don't want

984
01:10:40.600 --> 01:10:42.240
to put too many thoughts in there.

985
01:10:43.160 --> 01:10:47.280
And so then what happened is when she felt like she looked like her mom, then

986
01:10:47.280 --> 01:10:50.160
she started kind of breaking away.

987
01:10:50.680 --> 01:10:54.760
And, and what, what happens is we, it's not like we become two people, but

988
01:10:54.760 --> 01:10:58.440
internally we reject ourselves.

989
01:10:59.460 --> 01:11:00.760
You see how that works.

990
01:11:01.500 --> 01:11:06.100
And so we need to get to the root of the shame first, and then we'll

991
01:11:06.100 --> 01:11:08.000
see what else gets revealed, Danielle.

992
01:11:08.000 --> 01:11:10.520
I think there's probably going to be a couple of little layers here.

993
01:11:11.740 --> 01:11:12.240
Okay.

994
01:11:12.480 --> 01:11:16.540
And so take some time this week just to pray into that, come in the group

995
01:11:16.540 --> 01:11:20.820
post or come back live next week, whichever one, and let us know kind

996
01:11:20.820 --> 01:11:22.540
of, if anything did get revealed.

997
01:11:22.540 --> 01:11:25.660
And again, don't feel any pressure if something doesn't come up right away.

998
01:11:26.100 --> 01:11:31.420
But then, um, one last thing, and then I'm going to go to Beth is that, um,

999
01:11:33.380 --> 01:11:36.660
on that first thing I said is, do you choose yourself?

1000
01:11:37.460 --> 01:11:40.940
Um, I really think that's going to be so important too.

1001
01:11:41.360 --> 01:11:50.700
And so it's kind of like putting up like a saying and you, and I would pray into

1002
01:11:50.700 --> 01:11:55.380
this too, but where you come out of agreement with, I'm not chosen, dad

1003
01:11:55.380 --> 01:11:59.080
didn't choose you, you felt like you were compared to your sister, Leah and

1004
01:11:59.080 --> 01:12:01.260
Rachel, she's beautiful, I'm not beautiful.

1005
01:12:01.660 --> 01:12:04.140
And so you started partnering with all those things.

1006
01:12:04.740 --> 01:12:05.240
Okay.

1007
01:12:05.620 --> 01:12:10.060
So you have to come out of agreement with Leah, even though that's your middle name.

1008
01:12:10.300 --> 01:12:10.800
Okay.

1009
01:12:12.060 --> 01:12:16.580
Lee is a beautiful name, but you know, Leah gets this rap that she wasn't

1010
01:12:16.580 --> 01:12:18.260
beautiful or whatever in the Bible.

1011
01:12:18.260 --> 01:12:22.660
And so when we partner with that's who we are, well, we need to come out of

1012
01:12:22.660 --> 01:12:24.940
agreement with that, right?

1013
01:12:25.340 --> 01:12:29.100
And then start to partner with the truth that God has fearfully

1014
01:12:29.100 --> 01:12:31.700
and wonderfully made you, Danielle.

1015
01:12:31.700 --> 01:12:32.940
He didn't mess up.

1016
01:12:33.860 --> 01:12:39.540
You're beautiful, but you have to believe that before even a man's going to, I

1017
01:12:39.540 --> 01:12:43.460
mean, some men will literally, they'll pick up right away on the fact that

1018
01:12:43.460 --> 01:12:47.940
you don't think you're much right.

1019
01:12:48.180 --> 01:12:50.780
And then you're going to attract takers and you're going to attract people that

1020
01:12:50.780 --> 01:12:52.180
aren't going to treat you very well.

1021
01:12:52.580 --> 01:12:53.080
Okay.

1022
01:12:53.140 --> 01:12:54.180
We don't want that to happen.

1023
01:12:54.500 --> 01:12:59.020
So we got to heal the worth and the value on the inside, and then it will

1024
01:12:59.020 --> 01:13:01.100
impact what shows up on the outside too.

1025
01:13:01.620 --> 01:13:02.120
Okay.

1026
01:13:02.180 --> 01:13:03.020
And you're on the way.

1027
01:13:03.020 --> 01:13:04.740
You, I mean, again, you have a lot of tools.

1028
01:13:04.740 --> 01:13:09.020
You have a lot of knowledge already, but let's get to, let's see where that

1029
01:13:09.020 --> 01:13:14.500
shame thing leads and the coming out of agreement with any kind of statements

1030
01:13:14.540 --> 01:13:18.860
or belief systems that you are not chosen and can never be chosen.

1031
01:13:20.060 --> 01:13:24.140
Forgive your dad for times, even though he provided, forgive your dad for the

1032
01:13:24.140 --> 01:13:28.500
times that he could not, or did not affirm and choose you.

1033
01:13:30.460 --> 01:13:31.220
I know that's a lot.

1034
01:13:31.220 --> 01:13:34.660
So I'm going to stop there, but let us know how it goes.

1035
01:13:34.660 --> 01:13:34.940
Okay.

1036
01:13:34.940 --> 01:13:35.820
We're praying for you.

1037
01:13:35.820 --> 01:13:36.860
We're cheering you on.

1038
01:13:37.180 --> 01:13:38.300
It's going to be amazing.

1039
01:13:38.300 --> 01:13:39.300
So just get ready.

1040
01:13:39.300 --> 01:13:42.260
Cause I think you're, I think there's a lot of really, really

1041
01:13:42.260 --> 01:13:43.900
awesome stuff ahead for you.

1042
01:13:44.340 --> 01:13:47.060
And you're like, you're on the precipice here.

1043
01:13:47.300 --> 01:13:47.980
You are.

1044
01:13:48.340 --> 01:13:51.420
And, and I think you're just going to get your, in a good way.

1045
01:13:51.500 --> 01:13:54.260
You're kind of, you know, the saying, get your socks knocked off.

1046
01:13:54.500 --> 01:13:57.740
I think there's a lot of surprises from heaven coming for you.

1047
01:13:58.300 --> 01:13:58.740
Amen.

1048
01:13:59.060 --> 01:13:59.420
Yeah.

1049
01:14:00.260 --> 01:14:00.540
Thanks.

1050
01:14:00.540 --> 01:14:01.140
I received that.

1051
01:14:01.500 --> 01:14:02.540
Yeah, you're welcome.

1052
01:14:03.340 --> 01:14:05.060
Thanks for sharing and trusting us.

1053
01:14:05.100 --> 01:14:06.100
Beth, go ahead.

1054
01:14:06.100 --> 01:14:06.460
Yeah.

1055
01:14:16.460 --> 01:14:16.820
Yeah.

1056
01:14:16.820 --> 01:14:21.500
So I think that even a lot of what you were sharing with her, it resonates

1057
01:14:21.500 --> 01:14:28.740
with me too, but, cause I feel like I can see how the enemy is used, like all,

1058
01:14:28.820 --> 01:14:35.660
all three and it feels like, it kind of moves from one to the other, you know,

1059
01:14:35.660 --> 01:14:45.340
like if, if I'm doing okay, like not comparing, then I feel like there's

1060
01:14:45.340 --> 01:14:52.300
like competition, even, even in friend groups, you know, like of who's closer

1061
01:14:52.460 --> 01:14:56.060
or who, you know, who do they like more?

1062
01:14:57.380 --> 01:14:57.660
Okay.

1063
01:14:59.060 --> 01:15:00.020
Let's stay there for a minute.

1064
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:05.600
because that was bringing something up in you. So what does that mean to you? Like your friends

1065
01:15:05.600 --> 01:15:15.120
like another friend more than you? Is that what that means? Um, yeah. Okay. Is this something

1066
01:15:15.120 --> 01:15:28.080
that has happened more than once in your life? Um, yeah, probably. Okay. So is the belief in you

1067
01:15:28.640 --> 01:15:33.120
that you are loved less than the others?

1068
01:15:36.560 --> 01:15:41.840
Okay. I would say so. Okay. Do you remember the first time you felt this way?

1069
01:15:41.840 --> 01:15:50.880
Um,

1070
01:15:53.600 --> 01:16:00.080
probably in childhood. Um, I have a big family and, um,

1071
01:16:00.080 --> 01:16:11.840
um, I had different, uh, preferences than my siblings and a lot of things. And so if,

1072
01:16:12.640 --> 01:16:20.480
you know, if my mom was like buying a treat, um, she would try to buy one thing that everybody

1073
01:16:20.480 --> 01:16:27.200
would like. But if, if somebody wasn't going to like it, it was me. Okay. So did,

1074
01:16:27.200 --> 01:16:34.000
did mom ever buy the one that you liked, even though the other kids might not have wanted it?

1075
01:16:35.200 --> 01:16:43.360
Um, she did if I was with her by myself. Okay. And so were there other times like,

1076
01:16:43.360 --> 01:16:47.360
like when you say big family, give me an idea. How many, how many siblings? Six kids.

1077
01:16:47.360 --> 01:16:54.080
Okay. Six, including you? Yeah. Okay. And where were you at in the birth order?

1078
01:16:54.880 --> 01:17:01.280
Uh, number three. Okay. Do you have, um, brothers that are older than you or sisters

1079
01:17:01.280 --> 01:17:11.760
that are older than you? Uh, one of each. Okay. So were there other things? Um, I'm kind of

1080
01:17:11.760 --> 01:17:19.120
getting the black sheep vibe a little bit. Um, do you know what I mean by that? Yeah. Okay. Um,

1081
01:17:19.120 --> 01:17:24.320
and so, and, and it's not necessarily even a bad thing, but a lot of times people will partner

1082
01:17:24.320 --> 01:17:29.120
with like that. They're just the black sheep of the family. They don't fit in. And the enemy really

1083
01:17:29.120 --> 01:17:34.400
hones in on that and tries to convince them that they will never fit. It's kind of similar. I

1084
01:17:34.400 --> 01:17:38.960
forget who I was saying that to Cheryl earlier. I think a little bit, it's very similar, but yours

1085
01:17:38.960 --> 01:17:45.280
is more like, I just kind of sense in like the enemy just wants you to believe that you just

1086
01:17:45.280 --> 01:17:53.440
don't fit anywhere. Does that resonate for you? Yeah. Okay. And so, yeah, simply, yeah,

1087
01:17:53.440 --> 01:17:58.960
it is kind of a similar theme to that, Danielle. And so was there a time, um,

1088
01:18:01.440 --> 01:18:05.920
with siblings that it was something more than a snack that it was like,

1089
01:18:08.320 --> 01:18:13.360
you didn't feel heard about something that happened. Was there anything like that for you?

1090
01:18:15.280 --> 01:18:16.880
Um, yeah, there were

1091
01:18:20.320 --> 01:18:26.000
a lot of times I can remember, like, if we were all, you know, talking about something and I wanted

1092
01:18:26.000 --> 01:18:33.280
to say something getting interrupted a bunch. And, and then my mom finally like making everyone

1093
01:18:33.280 --> 01:18:40.080
be quiet so that I could speak up. And I felt like then I didn't want to, cause it felt like

1094
01:18:40.080 --> 01:18:47.920
they didn't actually want to hear me. Okay. So do you remember, I mean, that's kind of one of the

1095
01:18:47.920 --> 01:18:53.120
lies you heard is that they didn't even want to hear what I had to say, but were there other lies

1096
01:18:53.120 --> 01:19:00.960
that you remember hearing when that would happen when you were a kid? Like, did you hear things

1097
01:19:00.960 --> 01:19:05.680
like you didn't matter and that people didn't like you? Like what were things that you can

1098
01:19:05.680 --> 01:19:08.960
remember hearing in your spirit? Um,

1099
01:19:14.240 --> 01:19:21.920
I don't remember. Yeah. I don't remember hearing anything like said spoken like that. Um,

1100
01:19:23.840 --> 01:19:24.880
but I do remember

1101
01:19:27.840 --> 01:19:33.760
here. I have like a, a distinct memory of being in my living room and like hearing,

1102
01:19:33.760 --> 01:19:37.760
I thought it was just my thoughts, but now I know it was like the enemy, like saying like,

1103
01:19:38.720 --> 01:19:44.240
you know, your family, you wouldn't even miss them if they were gone. Like they, you know,

1104
01:19:44.240 --> 01:19:49.920
they wouldn't miss you kind of thing. Yeah. That's why I'm asking you this stuff because I feel like

1105
01:19:49.920 --> 01:19:54.400
the enemy's just really been targeting you since you were little. Did you have nightmares when you

1106
01:19:54.400 --> 01:19:59.680
were little? Yeah. Okay. So, um, did.

1107
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:03.360
you tell your family that you were having those nightmares?

1108
01:20:03.360 --> 01:20:04.720
Like, did you feel comfortable enough

1109
01:20:04.720 --> 01:20:06.200
to tell your mom that stuff?

1110
01:20:08.200 --> 01:20:13.200
I would, yeah, I would come out of my room sometimes

1111
01:20:13.400 --> 01:20:15.520
because I was terrified, you know,

1112
01:20:15.520 --> 01:20:19.840
and my mom would just ask me what I'd been watching

1113
01:20:19.840 --> 01:20:22.240
or what I, what was, you know,

1114
01:20:22.240 --> 01:20:24.080
what I had seen that scared me.

1115
01:20:25.080 --> 01:20:26.760
Okay, was it because you saw something

1116
01:20:26.760 --> 01:20:29.800
or was it just because the enemy was attacking you?

1117
01:20:29.800 --> 01:20:32.080
Yeah, no, it was just the enemy.

1118
01:20:32.080 --> 01:20:33.440
Yeah.

1119
01:20:33.440 --> 01:20:35.920
Okay, so what's gonna be really important in this,

1120
01:20:35.920 --> 01:20:39.280
and I wanna be really careful to not lead you too quickly

1121
01:20:39.280 --> 01:20:40.840
because this is very tender.

1122
01:20:40.840 --> 01:20:42.360
That's why you're, you know,

1123
01:20:42.360 --> 01:20:44.320
so just for everybody that's on here,

1124
01:20:44.320 --> 01:20:46.080
kind of the way this works.

1125
01:20:46.080 --> 01:20:48.760
So she's having a lot of that emotion come up

1126
01:20:48.760 --> 01:20:50.320
and that's really good, okay?

1127
01:20:50.320 --> 01:20:51.960
So Beth, don't hold that down.

1128
01:20:51.960 --> 01:20:54.360
Anybody, you all, when you're talking to me,

1129
01:20:54.360 --> 01:20:56.000
don't try to squash that stuff down.

1130
01:20:56.000 --> 01:20:58.000
This is important that this is coming up

1131
01:20:58.040 --> 01:21:01.880
because that's coming up out of the recesses of her soul.

1132
01:21:01.880 --> 01:21:04.480
She still has a lot of pain around this.

1133
01:21:04.480 --> 01:21:07.800
So that's why that's happening to you, okay?

1134
01:21:07.800 --> 01:21:10.040
And I don't want you to feel, not that you do,

1135
01:21:10.040 --> 01:21:12.080
but just for everybody,

1136
01:21:12.080 --> 01:21:13.800
I don't want you guys to feel embarrassed

1137
01:21:13.800 --> 01:21:16.360
about this kind of stuff because it needs to come out.

1138
01:21:16.360 --> 01:21:18.760
So you're doing a great job.

1139
01:21:18.760 --> 01:21:21.640
I just don't wanna move you too quickly through this

1140
01:21:21.640 --> 01:21:25.480
because I can tell it just feels very tender,

1141
01:21:25.480 --> 01:21:28.080
even in my spirit, when I hear you.

1142
01:21:28.080 --> 01:21:32.560
And so the first thing I would encourage you,

1143
01:21:32.560 --> 01:21:34.920
and it doesn't mean your mom wasn't a good mom

1144
01:21:34.920 --> 01:21:37.040
or your dad wasn't a good dad, okay?

1145
01:21:38.480 --> 01:21:40.760
But I really wanna encourage you to forgive them

1146
01:21:40.760 --> 01:21:45.280
for maybe not fully understanding the depth

1147
01:21:45.280 --> 01:21:49.400
of how much you were getting tormented by the devil, okay?

1148
01:21:50.480 --> 01:21:51.920
To get you some help.

1149
01:21:51.920 --> 01:21:54.360
And it doesn't mean there was something wrong with you.

1150
01:21:54.360 --> 01:21:56.600
I was literally just talking to someone the other day

1151
01:21:56.600 --> 01:22:00.160
about how often the enemy is targeting kids.

1152
01:22:00.160 --> 01:22:02.160
And I'm realizing it more and more now

1153
01:22:02.160 --> 01:22:05.080
because I'm coaching so many adults through this.

1154
01:22:06.040 --> 01:22:07.040
You are not alone.

1155
01:22:07.040 --> 01:22:10.200
There are other people that literally, as children,

1156
01:22:10.200 --> 01:22:13.720
the enemy was just like assaulting them.

1157
01:22:13.720 --> 01:22:16.720
And that's what I hear you saying.

1158
01:22:16.720 --> 01:22:18.760
You know, the enemy was assaulting you.

1159
01:22:18.760 --> 01:22:20.920
He's trying to convince you

1160
01:22:20.920 --> 01:22:23.120
that your family wouldn't care if you were gone

1161
01:22:23.120 --> 01:22:24.520
and you wouldn't care if they were gone.

1162
01:22:24.520 --> 01:22:25.840
So I'm gonna ask you another question.

1163
01:22:25.840 --> 01:22:27.680
If you don't feel comfortable answering, it's okay.

1164
01:22:27.680 --> 01:22:31.120
But I just kind of wanna make sure,

1165
01:22:31.120 --> 01:22:33.600
have you, and when I ask this question,

1166
01:22:33.600 --> 01:22:36.480
it doesn't mean that you would act on it, okay?

1167
01:22:36.480 --> 01:22:40.600
But have you ever had any thoughts about suicide

1168
01:22:40.600 --> 01:22:42.200
or any of that kind of stuff?

1169
01:22:44.240 --> 01:22:46.360
When I was in college, I did.

1170
01:22:46.640 --> 01:22:47.480
Okay.

1171
01:22:49.600 --> 01:22:53.560
I wouldn't say recently, like-

1172
01:22:53.560 --> 01:22:55.160
That's good. Yeah.

1173
01:22:55.160 --> 01:22:57.000
And ladies, it's important to know

1174
01:22:57.000 --> 01:23:00.920
that it doesn't mean that people will always act on it.

1175
01:23:00.920 --> 01:23:02.240
But the reason I'm asking her

1176
01:23:02.240 --> 01:23:05.080
is because the way the enemy was attacking her

1177
01:23:05.080 --> 01:23:08.200
and the things that he was saying to her,

1178
01:23:08.200 --> 01:23:12.760
a lot of times people will also, from the enemy,

1179
01:23:12.760 --> 01:23:16.080
be told like to the level of it just doesn't matter

1180
01:23:16.800 --> 01:23:18.320
if you're here, okay?

1181
01:23:18.320 --> 01:23:20.320
And so when that happens, Beth,

1182
01:23:20.320 --> 01:23:25.320
that is a spirit of death and despair, okay?

1183
01:23:25.600 --> 01:23:27.160
You don't have to be afraid of it,

1184
01:23:27.160 --> 01:23:28.840
but that's the enemy's tactic.

1185
01:23:28.840 --> 01:23:30.480
And it sounds like that's been his tactic

1186
01:23:30.480 --> 01:23:31.880
with you for a while.

1187
01:23:31.880 --> 01:23:33.960
The black sheep, you're on the outside,

1188
01:23:33.960 --> 01:23:35.200
nobody understands you,

1189
01:23:35.200 --> 01:23:37.560
people don't care what you have to say,

1190
01:23:37.560 --> 01:23:41.200
and you never get the snack, everybody gets the snack.

1191
01:23:41.200 --> 01:23:42.920
All these kinds of things that cause you

1192
01:23:42.960 --> 01:23:47.960
to feel like you're isolated and alone and not cared for.

1193
01:23:48.960 --> 01:23:53.120
But greater is he that's in us than he that's in the world.

1194
01:23:53.120 --> 01:23:55.480
And so what we need to do is love

1195
01:23:55.480 --> 01:23:57.880
on the little version you, okay?

1196
01:23:57.880 --> 01:24:01.240
So I would even encourage you this week

1197
01:24:01.240 --> 01:24:02.760
to write her a letter.

1198
01:24:04.200 --> 01:24:09.080
And what's gonna happen is I want you to support her

1199
01:24:09.080 --> 01:24:10.360
when she was scared.

1200
01:24:11.400 --> 01:24:12.400
Does that make sense?

1201
01:24:13.280 --> 01:24:17.400
Like as in like, hey, I see you,

1202
01:24:17.400 --> 01:24:19.520
I see what you went through,

1203
01:24:19.520 --> 01:24:21.560
and I really care about you,

1204
01:24:21.560 --> 01:24:23.640
and we're gonna work through it together.

1205
01:24:24.600 --> 01:24:25.680
Does that make sense?

1206
01:24:25.680 --> 01:24:28.040
And the reason I want you just to do that first

1207
01:24:28.040 --> 01:24:30.480
is that little girl on the inside of you

1208
01:24:30.480 --> 01:24:32.280
is very scared still.

1209
01:24:33.320 --> 01:24:35.520
And that's kind of what I'm just sensing.

1210
01:24:35.520 --> 01:24:37.840
And so that's why I wanna go really,

1211
01:24:37.840 --> 01:24:40.920
really carefully with this.

1212
01:24:40.920 --> 01:24:45.040
And just because you haven't had any thoughts like that

1213
01:24:45.040 --> 01:24:47.600
recently for a long time, that's a really good sign.

1214
01:24:47.600 --> 01:24:49.840
So you're, you know, the enemy will learn

1215
01:24:49.840 --> 01:24:51.920
what he can use and what he can't use.

1216
01:24:51.920 --> 01:24:53.440
It doesn't mean he won't ever come back

1217
01:24:53.440 --> 01:24:55.160
and try to attack you with that,

1218
01:24:55.160 --> 01:24:57.600
but it sounds like you're already like coming out

1219
01:24:57.600 --> 01:24:59.120
of all of that stuff.

1220
01:24:59.120 --> 01:25:00.440
And this is just the next.

1221
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:06.760
phase of healing and just know this is not your forever. It's not, Beth. And the

1222
01:25:06.760 --> 01:25:10.100
fact that you're sharing this, this is why when we pray, bring those things out

1223
01:25:10.100 --> 01:25:15.180
of darkness into the light so that there can be healing. And when we say stuff

1224
01:25:15.180 --> 01:25:20.360
like this out loud, guess what, ladies? The enemy loses his power. He

1225
01:25:20.360 --> 01:25:24.660
loses his power. And so, Beth, the other thing I would say, so you write the two

1226
01:25:24.660 --> 01:25:27.820
things I'm gonna give you. I'm not gonna give you a lot. Write that letter to

1227
01:25:27.820 --> 01:25:32.860
yourself. And just really, I want to encourage you to be really free-flowing

1228
01:25:32.860 --> 01:25:39.740
with that. So whatever thoughts come to your mind, just let them come out. And as

1229
01:25:39.740 --> 01:25:42.820
you write the letter, if there's anything negative that comes out towards the

1230
01:25:42.820 --> 01:25:47.220
little version you, okay, just go ahead and let it come out on the paper. But

1231
01:25:47.220 --> 01:25:52.580
then go back and then affirm, like, kind of like, okay, Lord, I know that that's

1232
01:25:52.700 --> 01:25:58.140
not true, because you don't say bad things about me. So help me to know, Lord,

1233
01:25:58.140 --> 01:26:04.060
what are you wanting to say over little girl Beth? Does that make sense? Yeah,

1234
01:26:04.100 --> 01:26:07.700
yeah. Because the reason I don't want you to hold back is we need to find out

1235
01:26:07.700 --> 01:26:13.020
what's really down in there about yourself. Does that make sense? And then

1236
01:26:13.020 --> 01:26:20.140
the second thing I want to encourage you to do is, it's going to be around the

1237
01:26:20.140 --> 01:26:24.100
concept of, like, coming out of alignment with, I'm an outsider, I'm a

1238
01:26:24.100 --> 01:26:28.700
black sheep, I never fit in, like, coming out of alignment agreement with any

1239
01:26:28.700 --> 01:26:32.820
thoughts like that. So I want you to literally write out the statement, I

1240
01:26:32.820 --> 01:26:37.940
come out of agreement with the lie that, you know, whatever really hits home for

1241
01:26:37.940 --> 01:26:44.220
you, but I'm an outsider, I'm the black sheep, I never fit in. And I come into

1242
01:26:44.220 --> 01:26:49.540
agreement with God, you place the solitary and family, that's from Psalm

1243
01:26:49.540 --> 01:26:54.060
68, six, he that means he places those people that are lonely, right in the

1244
01:26:54.060 --> 01:27:01.100
middle of family, and connection. He causes us to be able to connect. Okay.

1245
01:27:01.460 --> 01:27:04.300
And so it's gonna be really, really important for you to kind of partner

1246
01:27:04.300 --> 01:27:08.660
with those. And even if you don't believe it up here right now, that's okay. Or

1247
01:27:08.660 --> 01:27:11.940
even if you believe it here, but don't believe it here, those eventually will

1248
01:27:11.940 --> 01:27:13.660
sync up the more that you heal.

1249
01:27:16.620 --> 01:27:17.620
Okay, thank you.

1250
01:27:17.740 --> 01:27:23.420
You're welcome. Way to go. These are some powerful shares, y'all. So good.

1251
01:27:24.340 --> 01:27:26.460
Melissa, go ahead.

1252
01:27:28.140 --> 01:27:33.300
Okay, so I would like to I'm having a big reaction coming up about the

1253
01:27:33.300 --> 01:27:39.140
activation, and I'd like to talk it through. So I think part of it is

1254
01:27:39.140 --> 01:27:44.460
activation, just so I know about like, like being the bride. Okay. And I think

1255
01:27:44.460 --> 01:27:48.460
I think part of it is like, always whenever I would try to play on my

1256
01:27:48.460 --> 01:27:52.300
wedding, my parents would always say, Oh, you're putting the cart before the

1257
01:27:52.300 --> 01:27:57.580
horse. And so I don't know. But like, I feel like I would like want to flee my

1258
01:27:57.580 --> 01:28:02.060
body right now. And I'm like, could almost like scream. Like I don't. So I

1259
01:28:02.060 --> 01:28:07.700
don't really know what's happening. But yeah, I didn't know if you had any

1260
01:28:07.740 --> 01:28:09.700
thoughts on it or questions. And

1261
01:28:12.540 --> 01:28:17.100
it's going to be really important. Anytime. Sometimes we we need to push

1262
01:28:17.100 --> 01:28:22.380
ourselves. Okay. Yeah. But if you're starting to get super triggered, even

1263
01:28:22.380 --> 01:28:25.580
thinking about that right now, well, then just wait a few weeks till you

1264
01:28:25.580 --> 01:28:31.180
feel more comfortable with that idea. This process is never about you have to

1265
01:28:31.180 --> 01:28:34.140
do it. And you're going to get in trouble if you don't. This is more

1266
01:28:34.180 --> 01:28:41.540
about activations are an invitation into something. But I also, you know,

1267
01:28:41.540 --> 01:28:45.740
part of the reason parents will say that is because they're concerned that

1268
01:28:45.740 --> 01:28:50.140
we might move too quickly in relationships. Or, you know, they're

1269
01:28:50.140 --> 01:28:53.780
afraid that we're going to get all caught up in being a bride or getting

1270
01:28:53.900 --> 01:28:59.300
planning a wedding or, you know, fantasizing before we're actually at

1271
01:28:59.300 --> 01:29:03.340
the point that that is going to happen for us. And so I'm not sure why your

1272
01:29:03.340 --> 01:29:07.180
parents said that to you. Were you in a relationship before that you were kind

1273
01:29:07.180 --> 01:29:10.620
of fantasizing about this stuff? Like what led them to say that to you?

1274
01:29:11.300 --> 01:29:16.380
No, well, the guy that I've I'm dating now and I've dated for like four weeks,

1275
01:29:16.380 --> 01:29:21.300
he's the first boyfriend I've ever had, or guy really I've even dated for more

1276
01:29:21.300 --> 01:29:25.380
than like a couple times of going out to coffee. And so it's like, well, you

1277
01:29:25.380 --> 01:29:29.900
can't even get a boyfriend. So why are you wanting, wanting that, you know,

1278
01:29:30.740 --> 01:29:31.740
that sort of that?

1279
01:29:33.420 --> 01:29:34.740
Did your parents say that to you?

1280
01:29:35.620 --> 01:29:39.700
Well, like you haven't even had a boyfriend you so you don't need to worry

1281
01:29:39.700 --> 01:29:44.540
about this and this and the you know, just like, I'm like, well, you know,

1282
01:29:44.860 --> 01:29:50.580
sometimes I even got to the point where I was like, well, I'm now I'm 39. And

1283
01:29:50.580 --> 01:29:53.460
it's like, well, maybe it'll happen quickly. And I don't want to have to

1284
01:29:53.460 --> 01:29:57.940
think about all of that stuff after it happened. You know, but it was just it

1285
01:29:57.940 --> 01:29:59.860
was I felt very shut down.

1286
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:04.840
after time, after time on that kind of thing. And so, and I

1287
01:30:04.840 --> 01:30:07.360
used to have a Pinterest board that I had stuff too, but I

1288
01:30:07.360 --> 01:30:11.400
haven't added anything to it. Oh, I don't probably think

1289
01:30:11.400 --> 01:30:14.160
there's Yeah, just a thought that came to my head.

1290
01:30:14.920 --> 01:30:17.600
Yeah, I think the first step is to forgive your parents for

1291
01:30:17.600 --> 01:30:26.120
saying that to you. Number one. Um, because no matter what, okay,

1292
01:30:26.120 --> 01:30:28.480
again, I only know this little sliver of what you're telling

1293
01:30:28.480 --> 01:30:30.760
me about your relationship with your parents and kind of what

1294
01:30:30.760 --> 01:30:36.960
they said. But yeah, that's a pretty hurtful thing. Okay. So

1295
01:30:37.040 --> 01:30:39.440
let's go ahead and do a forgiveness prayer sheet to

1296
01:30:39.440 --> 01:30:43.480
forgive them for saying, you know, whatever, you can't even

1297
01:30:43.480 --> 01:30:47.280
get a boyfriend, you know, all whatever they said that was

1298
01:30:47.280 --> 01:30:52.360
hurtful, kind of surrounding that topic. And, and it sounds

1299
01:30:52.360 --> 01:30:57.680
like, maybe just let's focus on forgiving them for that and

1300
01:30:57.680 --> 01:31:02.400
pacing really well. I forget. Did you tell me last week or two

1301
01:31:02.400 --> 01:31:05.320
weeks ago that you came in from the modern dating sucks and that

1302
01:31:05.320 --> 01:31:07.800
you met him after you did the modern dating sucks?

1303
01:31:08.480 --> 01:31:10.520
Yeah, yeah, it was in between. Yeah.

1304
01:31:10.760 --> 01:31:13.720
Okay. Because typically, you know, as I mentioned before,

1305
01:31:13.720 --> 01:31:16.360
just for anybody that's brand new, we would encourage you all

1306
01:31:16.360 --> 01:31:21.720
to press pause on dating while you're in the heartwork. And so

1307
01:31:21.760 --> 01:31:24.800
just for everyone else, just so that you know, that is something

1308
01:31:24.800 --> 01:31:27.640
that we do encourage you all. Now, of course, we don't make

1309
01:31:27.640 --> 01:31:31.040
you we can't make you do those things. But we do encourage you

1310
01:31:31.040 --> 01:31:38.520
all on that. And then, you know, if any of you because I'm not

1311
01:31:38.520 --> 01:31:40.880
sure that this necessarily applies to Melissa, but I feel

1312
01:31:40.880 --> 01:31:44.080
like this would be a good coaching moment. If any of you

1313
01:31:44.080 --> 01:31:47.960
have ever struggled with fantasy thinking, okay, that's what I'm

1314
01:31:47.960 --> 01:31:54.920
gonna call it. So you fantasize a lot about things, you know,

1315
01:31:54.920 --> 01:31:58.400
whether it's the guy, whether it's the house, whether it's the

1316
01:31:58.400 --> 01:32:03.600
marriage, and you live kind of in that place, you might find

1317
01:32:03.600 --> 01:32:06.320
people and I don't know that this applies to Melissa, but you

1318
01:32:06.320 --> 01:32:11.320
might find people in your life being concerned. If you do kind

1319
01:32:11.320 --> 01:32:17.680
of do some of these activations. Okay. Now, people can still do

1320
01:32:17.680 --> 01:32:22.480
an activation and learn how to be grounded, learn how to walk

1321
01:32:22.480 --> 01:32:26.120
in wisdom, how are they going to do that? Well, hopefully you're

1322
01:32:26.120 --> 01:32:29.800
going to learn the more that you heal, you know, number one,

1323
01:32:29.840 --> 01:32:33.840
number two, not only in heartwork, but in the additional

1324
01:32:33.880 --> 01:32:38.400
groups in our community, we we talk about pacing, we talk about

1325
01:32:38.400 --> 01:32:42.480
levels of relationship, they're just guidelines, it's not rules,

1326
01:32:42.480 --> 01:32:47.120
but we really encourage you all to try to practice those so that

1327
01:32:47.120 --> 01:32:51.040
you pace well. And what that would prevent is something like

1328
01:32:51.040 --> 01:32:55.680
what her parents are saying, the cart before the horse. But now,

1329
01:32:55.960 --> 01:32:59.840
we also don't know what Melissa's parents how they were

1330
01:32:59.840 --> 01:33:04.000
raised, what they believe, you know, what were things that they

1331
01:33:04.000 --> 01:33:09.560
were taught. And so there's nothing wrong with believing and

1332
01:33:09.560 --> 01:33:16.560
praying and getting excited about getting married. Okay. But

1333
01:33:16.560 --> 01:33:21.840
again, if we are someone who maybe we live in that place, you

1334
01:33:21.840 --> 01:33:25.000
know, there might be people that would caution us. So again, we

1335
01:33:25.000 --> 01:33:27.960
don't have more information right now. So Melissa, I would

1336
01:33:27.960 --> 01:33:30.920
encourage you just to wait for right now. And because we don't

1337
01:33:30.920 --> 01:33:33.640
necessarily while you're in the heartwork needed to stir up a

1338
01:33:33.640 --> 01:33:37.440
problem between you and your parents. But I'm not saying

1339
01:33:37.480 --> 01:33:46.080
don't ever do it. Okay. So let's really consider to I mean, maybe

1340
01:33:46.440 --> 01:33:50.080
I'm not saying you have to end that with that guy. But I would

1341
01:33:50.080 --> 01:33:53.120
just really encourage you to make sure you're given your full

1342
01:33:53.120 --> 01:33:57.760
attention to the heartwork. Because healing from things from

1343
01:33:57.760 --> 01:34:01.280
the past is going to be really important so that you can, we

1344
01:34:01.280 --> 01:34:04.120
can kind of make sure that you're attracting someone that's

1345
01:34:04.120 --> 01:34:07.760
healthy. And this guy might be a great guy. Not sure. But

1346
01:34:08.480 --> 01:34:10.920
hopefully that answers your question regarding the

1347
01:34:10.920 --> 01:34:11.760
activation.

1348
01:34:13.920 --> 01:34:18.680
Yeah, yeah, it does. And I, I have been somebody who like

1349
01:34:18.680 --> 01:34:22.600
fantasizes and just am imaginative in general and

1350
01:34:22.600 --> 01:34:25.760
stuff. And then as for the guy, like, just like life

1351
01:34:25.760 --> 01:34:29.880
circumstances in general, even on his side, we're like kind of

1352
01:34:29.880 --> 01:34:34.840
slowing things down. Which is also giving me more time for to

1353
01:34:34.840 --> 01:34:39.120
do like the artwork stuff, which I need on my end anyway. So

1354
01:34:39.120 --> 01:34:45.080
yeah, that's so good. And so, again, that that probably is why

1355
01:34:45.080 --> 01:34:48.640
your parents would show that concern. But that forgiveness

1356
01:34:48.640 --> 01:34:52.320
prayer sheet for the way they said it would be I think a good

1357
01:34:52.560 --> 01:34:58.040
a good step for you. Okay. Okay. All right. Ladies, we want to

1358
01:34:58.040 --> 01:34:59.800
make sure that we're not allowing

1359
01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:04.240
people around us to limit our potential.

1360
01:35:06.120 --> 01:35:09.640
Remember who told you that you were naked?

1361
01:35:09.640 --> 01:35:13.080
Well, here, Melissa's parents are saying

1362
01:35:13.080 --> 01:35:15.560
you can't even get a boyfriend.

1363
01:35:15.560 --> 01:35:19.520
Well, gosh, that's pretty hurtful, right?

1364
01:35:19.520 --> 01:35:21.440
So let's get to the root of some of these things,

1365
01:35:21.440 --> 01:35:24.400
forgive people for the things that they've said

1366
01:35:24.400 --> 01:35:26.760
that might've harmed us along the way.

1367
01:35:27.000 --> 01:35:31.200
Someone asked me, is therapy ever referred?

1368
01:35:31.200 --> 01:35:33.360
This was, I think, maybe when I was helping someone else.

1369
01:35:33.360 --> 01:35:35.240
Yes, 100%.

1370
01:35:35.240 --> 01:35:37.320
We really strongly believe in counselors.

1371
01:35:37.320 --> 01:35:38.560
We are not counselors.

1372
01:35:38.560 --> 01:35:43.560
I'm a coach, but with certain people that I'm coaching,

1373
01:35:43.920 --> 01:35:47.880
there are things that I would encourage them to do

1374
01:35:47.880 --> 01:35:51.040
in conjunction with the coaching that we're doing.

1375
01:35:51.040 --> 01:35:52.680
And if I see that need in someone,

1376
01:35:52.680 --> 01:35:55.800
I absolutely will say it at the time that I think is right.

1377
01:35:55.840 --> 01:35:59.480
So hopefully that answers Elizabeth's question there.

1378
01:35:59.480 --> 01:36:02.880
All right, thank you so much, Melissa, for that question.

1379
01:36:02.880 --> 01:36:04.800
Danielle, go ahead.

1380
01:36:04.800 --> 01:36:06.920
Yeah, I have a quick question.

1381
01:36:06.920 --> 01:36:08.200
Yeah.

1382
01:36:08.200 --> 01:36:12.680
How would you coach or wisdom on to know the difference

1383
01:36:12.680 --> 01:36:17.680
between when to push ourselves and when not to?

1384
01:36:18.640 --> 01:36:22.400
Because I met you the end of July

1385
01:36:22.400 --> 01:36:25.040
is when I started at work and I was in hiding

1386
01:36:25.040 --> 01:36:28.480
and I'm kind of being called out of it a little bit.

1387
01:36:28.480 --> 01:36:30.800
And I'm just not excited.

1388
01:36:30.800 --> 01:36:33.080
Like, I feel like I used to be about the things

1389
01:36:33.080 --> 01:36:35.280
that are actually truly who I am.

1390
01:36:36.400 --> 01:36:38.080
I'm like, no, I want to hide still.

1391
01:36:38.080 --> 01:36:40.240
I don't want to be me.

1392
01:36:40.240 --> 01:36:42.320
I want to be in the background.

1393
01:36:42.320 --> 01:36:43.160
I want to be,

1394
01:36:43.160 --> 01:36:45.240
I actually would like to be a wallflower for once, please.

1395
01:36:45.240 --> 01:36:46.800
Nobody look at me for anything.

1396
01:36:48.040 --> 01:36:50.160
How do you, do you have,

1397
01:36:50.160 --> 01:36:53.960
how to discern that difference or some questions?

1398
01:36:53.960 --> 01:36:56.080
Typically, Danielle, I think there's something

1399
01:36:56.080 --> 01:36:59.040
that is causing us to feel that way.

1400
01:36:59.040 --> 01:37:03.240
So for example, I kind of went through a similar phase

1401
01:37:03.240 --> 01:37:07.120
for a little while because I just,

1402
01:37:07.120 --> 01:37:09.040
I didn't want guys to see me.

1403
01:37:09.040 --> 01:37:10.800
I didn't want guys' attention.

1404
01:37:10.800 --> 01:37:14.360
I needed to heal and I knew that.

1405
01:37:14.360 --> 01:37:16.760
Now yours might be a totally different reason.

1406
01:37:17.640 --> 01:37:19.240
More professionally.

1407
01:37:19.240 --> 01:37:20.080
Yeah.

1408
01:37:20.080 --> 01:37:22.120
But it aligns romantically though.

1409
01:37:22.120 --> 01:37:24.600
These are the two areas I need breakthrough in.

1410
01:37:24.600 --> 01:37:26.040
Yeah.

1411
01:37:26.040 --> 01:37:28.680
So I think getting to the root of really what's going on.

1412
01:37:28.680 --> 01:37:33.480
So Lord, I'm feeling like I just want to keep hiding.

1413
01:37:33.480 --> 01:37:35.400
I sense that you're calling me out,

1414
01:37:35.400 --> 01:37:37.120
but I just feel like I want to keep hiding.

1415
01:37:37.120 --> 01:37:40.680
Can you show me what, like, why am I doing that?

1416
01:37:40.680 --> 01:37:43.160
And if it's because he's actually encouraging you

1417
01:37:43.160 --> 01:37:45.960
to stay there for right now, cool.

1418
01:37:47.040 --> 01:37:49.200
Like when you move to phase two,

1419
01:37:49.200 --> 01:37:52.600
it doesn't mean you automatically have to date ladies.

1420
01:37:52.600 --> 01:37:53.440
Okay.

1421
01:37:53.440 --> 01:37:55.360
Just want everybody to know that.

1422
01:37:55.360 --> 01:37:56.800
I have some people that tell me

1423
01:37:56.800 --> 01:37:59.040
they're literally afraid to go to phase two

1424
01:37:59.040 --> 01:38:01.400
because they're going to be forced to date or something.

1425
01:38:01.400 --> 01:38:03.040
No, that is not what happens.

1426
01:38:03.040 --> 01:38:05.240
We invite you into these things.

1427
01:38:05.240 --> 01:38:07.280
If you choose to do them, awesome.

1428
01:38:07.280 --> 01:38:10.680
If you don't feel led to right now, that's okay.

1429
01:38:10.680 --> 01:38:12.800
We have some people that are here just to heal

1430
01:38:12.800 --> 01:38:15.240
and they're not even sure if they want to get married.

1431
01:38:15.240 --> 01:38:17.560
Well then why would that make sense for them to date?

1432
01:38:17.560 --> 01:38:19.440
We're not going to force anybody to do anything.

1433
01:38:19.440 --> 01:38:21.000
Okay.

1434
01:38:21.000 --> 01:38:22.720
And so I just want you all to breathe.

1435
01:38:22.720 --> 01:38:24.120
There's going to be more heart healing

1436
01:38:24.120 --> 01:38:25.920
in the journey ahead.

1437
01:38:25.920 --> 01:38:28.760
Some people tend to get stuck in forgiveness week

1438
01:38:28.760 --> 01:38:30.360
because they just feel like they have to forgive

1439
01:38:30.360 --> 01:38:33.920
every little aspect of every person that's ever hurt them.

1440
01:38:33.920 --> 01:38:36.000
You don't necessarily have to do that

1441
01:38:36.000 --> 01:38:37.120
because guess what?

1442
01:38:37.120 --> 01:38:39.560
You're going to keep forgiving as you go.

1443
01:38:39.560 --> 01:38:40.600
Okay.

1444
01:38:40.600 --> 01:38:43.640
And so not that that necessarily was what Danielle was asking

1445
01:38:43.640 --> 01:38:45.800
but that just kind of came to mind as well.

1446
01:38:45.800 --> 01:38:47.720
But Danielle, I think just asking God,

1447
01:38:47.720 --> 01:38:51.920
like what's really, you know,

1448
01:38:51.920 --> 01:38:55.680
just having coached you for a couple weeks even here,

1449
01:38:55.680 --> 01:38:59.040
you know, I do think we've been walking

1450
01:38:59.040 --> 01:39:02.080
through some pretty significant things.

1451
01:39:02.080 --> 01:39:04.240
And so to me, it kind of makes sense

1452
01:39:04.240 --> 01:39:05.760
that you don't feel ready yet.

1453
01:39:06.960 --> 01:39:07.840
Okay.

1454
01:39:07.840 --> 01:39:09.600
And it doesn't mean you're not ready.

1455
01:39:09.600 --> 01:39:11.840
I'm just saying, I think, yeah.

1456
01:39:11.840 --> 01:39:13.520
I know what you mean.

1457
01:39:13.520 --> 01:39:14.360
Yeah.

1458
01:39:14.360 --> 01:39:17.120
And so I just encourage you to pray

1459
01:39:17.120 --> 01:39:19.080
and really follow the Holy Spirit.

1460
01:39:19.080 --> 01:39:21.600
I think that you're a pretty bold person.

1461
01:39:21.600 --> 01:39:24.760
And when you're ready, I think you're going to go.

1462
01:39:24.760 --> 01:39:28.400
But I think that inner part of you that, you know,

1463
01:39:28.400 --> 01:39:31.160
I mean, even last week, what a big session for you.

1464
01:39:31.160 --> 01:39:32.000
Yeah.

1465
01:39:32.000 --> 01:39:33.080
I had a great week, everyone.

1466
01:39:33.080 --> 01:39:34.960
Just so you know, I looked at baby pictures

1467
01:39:34.960 --> 01:39:37.840
and I asked God to show me a vision of myself

1468
01:39:37.840 --> 01:39:38.720
when I was born.

1469
01:39:38.720 --> 01:39:41.680
And there was like an angel party.

1470
01:39:42.160 --> 01:39:43.000
Oh.

1471
01:39:43.000 --> 01:39:45.120
Like through a party that I was born.

1472
01:39:45.120 --> 01:39:46.640
That is awesome.

1473
01:39:46.640 --> 01:39:47.960
It's awesome.

1474
01:39:47.960 --> 01:39:48.800
Yes.

1475
01:39:48.800 --> 01:39:51.680
Even like maybe just basking in that for another week,

1476
01:39:51.680 --> 01:39:54.720
you know, like just give yourself that grace and space.

1477
01:39:54.720 --> 01:39:56.040
I think that you'll know.

1478
01:39:56.040 --> 01:39:56.880
I really do.

1479
01:39:56.880 --> 01:39:57.920
I'll just know.

1480
01:39:57.920 --> 01:39:59.120
I think you will.

1481
01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:04.840
But if I see you still hanging out in here for like a couple

1482
01:40:04.840 --> 01:40:08.880
months, I'm gonna be like, Okay, I think you're ready. Like, and

1483
01:40:08.880 --> 01:40:11.040
again, I don't mean that. But just because I've coached you

1484
01:40:11.040 --> 01:40:13.840
enough, like I feel like again, you're kind of moving in that

1485
01:40:13.840 --> 01:40:17.760
plate like towards that. But because of some of the tender

1486
01:40:17.760 --> 01:40:20.760
things we've been coaching through the last few weeks, I

1487
01:40:20.760 --> 01:40:24.280
can see why you would kind of want to like, okay, I just kind

1488
01:40:24.280 --> 01:40:27.280
of want to stay here for a little bit longer. There might

1489
01:40:27.280 --> 01:40:29.640
be some additional things that need some healing that the

1490
01:40:29.640 --> 01:40:30.720
Lord's wanting to do.

1491
01:40:30.960 --> 01:40:33.200
I think I'm having a hard time accepting that I'm like you,

1492
01:40:33.200 --> 01:40:37.200
Danielle, I'm, I'm just like to do I'm, I like to do things.

1493
01:40:37.200 --> 01:40:42.040
I'm really productive. I'm very smart, like you, a lot of you in

1494
01:40:42.040 --> 01:40:45.800
here. And I'm just like, I didn't expect to be here this

1495
01:40:45.800 --> 01:40:49.400
long. It's not even that long. And it's like, I'm not ready.

1496
01:40:49.400 --> 01:40:52.560
But I'm like, I can't stay hidden forever. But I'm also

1497
01:40:52.560 --> 01:40:56.520
like, I think I need to still, I think I need to stay here a

1498
01:40:56.520 --> 01:41:00.360
little longer. That's all. Yeah, wrestling with those things.

1499
01:41:00.400 --> 01:41:05.360
Okay. And ladies, when you you know, again, like, when I say

1500
01:41:05.400 --> 01:41:10.160
like, we have some people that I genuinely the one lady she's in

1501
01:41:10.160 --> 01:41:14.160
the I think she's in phase three now. But she was probably here

1502
01:41:14.160 --> 01:41:19.520
for about a year. And I finally said, Hey, like, how's it going?

1503
01:41:19.520 --> 01:41:22.360
Because I think you're ready. And I think there's something

1504
01:41:22.360 --> 01:41:26.000
that you're kind of resisting, like what's holding you up. And

1505
01:41:26.000 --> 01:41:28.600
it was really that she just was like, I don't want to forgive my

1506
01:41:28.600 --> 01:41:33.320
ex. And I'm like, okay, it's time. It's just time. And so of

1507
01:41:33.320 --> 01:41:36.040
course, I said that lovingly, and I'm not gonna like we're not

1508
01:41:36.040 --> 01:41:39.640
going to shove her out of here. But we also know that when

1509
01:41:39.640 --> 01:41:42.440
people stay in the heartwork like this, because this is an

1510
01:41:42.440 --> 01:41:46.480
intensive thing. When when people stay in here for very,

1511
01:41:46.520 --> 01:41:52.000
very, very long periods of time, it can actually not be good for

1512
01:41:52.560 --> 01:41:57.240
Okay. And so none of you that I know in here tonight live are in

1513
01:41:57.240 --> 01:42:01.520
that place. Okay. But as you're one of your coaches in here, I'm

1514
01:42:01.520 --> 01:42:04.280
going to keep an eye on some of those things for you all because

1515
01:42:04.280 --> 01:42:09.240
some of you might just have fear of moving forward. And so if I

1516
01:42:09.240 --> 01:42:13.560
recognize that in you, I'm going to lovingly say that. Well,

1517
01:42:13.560 --> 01:42:19.320
Alina, but you took a break for a little while too. And so yeah,

1518
01:42:19.560 --> 01:42:23.240
yeah. Some people struggle to stay focused. And so they kind

1519
01:42:23.240 --> 01:42:26.320
of come and go. And that's a little different even than what

1520
01:42:26.320 --> 01:42:29.680
I'm saying. But Danielle, as you're praying, you know, again,

1521
01:42:30.000 --> 01:42:34.680
you giving yourself some grace to go ahead and just kind of

1522
01:42:34.680 --> 01:42:38.920
keep healing a little bit more feels on point for what you've

1523
01:42:38.920 --> 01:42:42.320
been processing. Yeah. All right, ladies. Well, we're at

1524
01:42:42.320 --> 01:42:46.600
943. We had a great night. This was awesome. I'm going to pray

1525
01:42:46.600 --> 01:42:52.200
this out. Oh, Alina, that's funny. Sometimes I'm like that

1526
01:42:52.200 --> 01:42:55.960
too. So hey, we're all in this together. You're here and you're

1527
01:42:55.960 --> 01:43:00.000
moving forward now. So that's great. All right, ladies, this

1528
01:43:00.000 --> 01:43:03.840
was awesome. Be praying for each other this week. You know, pray

1529
01:43:03.840 --> 01:43:07.280
for yourselves. Remember that God loves you. He sees you

1530
01:43:07.280 --> 01:43:14.520
fully and he is not disappointed in you. I felt like the Lord

1531
01:43:14.520 --> 01:43:19.360
wanted me to say that. So for whoever that's for. Yes, Lord.

1532
01:43:20.560 --> 01:43:25.720
You didn't mess up and you're not missing the the it's kind of

1533
01:43:25.720 --> 01:43:27.600
like I keep hearing the Lord saying you didn't you didn't

1534
01:43:27.600 --> 01:43:30.720
miss the boat. You didn't miss the train. So somebody in here

1535
01:43:30.720 --> 01:43:33.440
either you're live or you're watching the replay. And you

1536
01:43:33.440 --> 01:43:36.480
feel like you messed up so bad that you just missed it. But

1537
01:43:36.480 --> 01:43:38.840
that's not true. So I want to encourage you to come out of

1538
01:43:38.840 --> 01:43:42.120
alignment and agreement with that lie because God has you're

1539
01:43:42.120 --> 01:43:46.320
on time. We started here tonight. Remember, let me go

1540
01:43:46.320 --> 01:43:48.880
back to that. I'm going to read it one more time. And then I'm

1541
01:43:48.880 --> 01:43:53.480
going to pray. I'm the perfect age for everything God has for

1542
01:43:53.480 --> 01:43:59.880
me. Right now. I'm the perfect age for everything God has for

1543
01:43:59.880 --> 01:44:04.760
me. Right now. Father, thank you so much for these amazing

1544
01:44:05.120 --> 01:44:08.480
women. Thank you for my sisters in Christ. I pray that you would

1545
01:44:08.560 --> 01:44:13.560
continue. Yes, Lord, help them to live and even have their

1546
01:44:13.560 --> 01:44:17.400
being in you. God help them to know their identities more in

1547
01:44:17.400 --> 01:44:20.400
Christ every day. God, I pray that even while they sleep

1548
01:44:20.400 --> 01:44:23.640
tonight, give them dreams, give them visions, help them to hear

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what your spirit is saying louder than any voice of the

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enemy. God, I pray that you would awaken them. Awake, awake

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a sleeper and rise up from the dead that the princesses inside

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of them would arise, that they would start to converge and

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partner with the truth, that they are royalty, they're heirs

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of the king and of the kingdom. And God, we thank you that you

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have good things in store for them. And yes, Lord, we thank

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you that you are not a man that you should lie, that you will

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fulfill your promises towards them, God, and you'll help them

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to walk it out with you. And Holy Spirit, we thank you that

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you are their comforter, you're their

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counselor and their guide and that you're walking with them even tonight.

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We just thank you for all these things in Jesus name. Amen. Amen. Amen.

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God bless you all. Have a good night, everyone. We'll see you soon. Bye-bye.