Hey guys, how you doing? Hope you're really well. Hey, I just wanted to hop on
here real quick and share another story with you. Just another interaction that
we had that was a little bit of a win that I wanted to give you a glimpse into
for us. So this last weekend, my wife and I went away on a bit of a holiday with
our family. And so we were hanging out with some friends in Fungamata, but
we were staying in Taronga, which is about an hour north. And one of the
days of our trip, our son Jackson desperately wanted to go back to the
house an hour drive to go get something that he wanted to show to one of his
friends. And obviously that wasn't gonna be an option for us. And so, you know, we
said, buddy, I'm really sorry. That's not gonna happen. Just kept pushing, kept
pressing. We said, I'm sorry son, we're not gonna change our minds. We love you so
much. We're sorry you're having a hard time. Lots of empathy, but it just, he
was obviously feeling powerless. So we usually know that when they start
acting up, when little things like this start triggering them a bit more than
seems normal, it's usually because they're feeling a lack of some sort of a
need, right? And so we stopped to get some lunch and we wanted to get
some sushi. And I brought Jackson with me. And while we were in
line, I just said, hey buddy, can you help me? Can you help me with holding this
container? It's a little takeaway container for the sushi. I had one and I let him
hold one. And immediately his entire mood shifted. And he went from being very
frustrated, very challenging, to completely positive. No more problems. And
just as simple as handing him a plastic container to help me get the sushi. And
then I had him hold the sushi and carry it back to the car. And it completely
changed his entire mood. And the reason for that is because we all have this
deep core need for significance. And this is something that, you know, I'm kind of
preaching to the choir here because it's something that I need to get better. It's
something I think we need to get better at. We're pretty good at some of the
other needs, but if you watched the parenting course that we did
not long ago, one of the talks that we do talks about the core needs that all
of our kids have. And how if they're not getting any of those core needs met, it's
gonna manifest itself somewhere in the form of misbehavior or challenge. And one
of those needs is significance. It's the need to feel needed. It's the need to
feel important. And so I think that's something that I'm working on
that, you know, it's just not something you think about very much. Or at
least it's not something I think about very much. But as soon as I gave Jackson
that plastic container to help me carry the sushi, everything shifted in that
moment. And his whole mood changed for the rest of the day. Simple as that. So I
just wanted to share that with you. I'm gonna drop a link to that course, that
talk I'm talking about, in the comments. Feel free to jump onto that. Yes, it's a
really good time that we had together. Lots of gold in there. So I just wanted
to share that little story, that little nugget with you. Hope it helps. And I hope
you guys are doing really awesome enjoying the summer. Or not summer,
depending on where you are in the world. And bless you guys. And we'll catch you
soon. Alright, cheers.