There is a YouTube show, I believe, it's probably on other stations too, but I
know you can find it on YouTube, called Gotcha Life. And Gotcha Life actually
has episodes about maps. Well, if I didn't know what that was and I was simply
scrolling through, you know, what kids show, because it's all animated, it looks
harmless when you're just looking at it. It looks like just a bunch of animated
characters, so you would think it would be kid-friendly.
Hi guys and welcome to another edition of Truth Talk with Wendy. I am excited to
be with you again today. I do have a subject matter that is actually kind of
shocking for me, which is saying a lot. I don't know how I have been involved in
helping kids with sexual abuse and girls who've been sex trafficked for as
long as I have and literally had never heard of this until the past several
months. So, I want to bring this information to you because I feel like
there is so much, you know, like when you're kids, if some of you have
teenagers or even you know preteens, the language is so different
obviously than when we grew up. And they say things and I'm like, you know, like
if they say something like, that is sick, mom. And I'm like, okay, is that good or
bad? You know, you just never know what it is that they are referring to because the
language has changed so much. And there are so many different letters that
represent things like LOL, which is one we all know. But that is one of
about 10,000. Like I never knew what, let's see, I-C-Y-M-I, I think it is, in case you
missed it. But in receiving texts from my kids and they put things in there that I
have no idea what that even means. I first of all could not even believe what
I was hearing and reading. I'm like, okay, there is this whole conversation going
on that unless you're paying attention, you could miss it. And so, when I ran
across this, I thought, you know, this is all just part of this culture that
we're in now. Everything has to have a politically correct way of sounding or
some kind of, you know, maybe there's an ulterior motive for, you know, like
hiding it and not knowing. I remember the first time I found out that a Molly was
referring to drugs when I just thought it was one of my kids' friends. You know,
it's just as a parent, sometimes we can be overwhelmed with the language
differences and the barriers between us and our children. So, I just want to talk
to you about a new term that I learned. And the term sounds very, very friendly.
When I asked my husband what it was, he referred to the obvious thing you think
it is, which is the term MAP. M-A-P. And no, I am not referring to what comes up
on your GPS when you are trying to find a restaurant in a town you've never been
in or, in my case, in a town you've lived in for almost 20 years and you still
pull up your GPS to get everywhere. But now, the term MAP stands for minor
attracted person. Incognito for pedophile, which clearly most people
have heard of. And the argument is that pedophile has a certain stigma to it,
which, in all honesty, it should have a stigma because it's like the word
murderer. That should have a stigma because it is not a good thing to be a
murderer, as it is not a good thing to be a pedophile.
But instead of being able to call a pedophile, a pedophile or child molester, they now prefer
for us to refer to them as MAP, Minor Attracted Persons, or MAPs.
So I just, I have so much to say on this, but quite honestly, I am still in the middle
of quite a bit of research.
Unfortunately, it's been around much longer than I have even had time to go back and research.
And I felt the urgency of letting people know, because if I don't know, and this is an area
of which I dig and dig and dig into research to be able to combat things that I went through
in my childhood and fulfill the call on my life that I feel the Lord has me here for.
And I was unaware of it.
It really made me feel as though most people probably have not heard of it.
Or if they have, they're not, you know, very educated in it as well either.
And let me just say, just right out of the gate here, I am of the firm belief that sin,
any sin that we commit, i.e., you know, lying all the way to murder, okay, and, you know,
repeated pedophilia in that, whatever our sin is, that disqualifies us from heaven,
period, end of story.
All sin is covered under the blood of Jesus.
And if we are going to condemn other people or think that those people are not forgivable
or they are, their sin is so much worse than ours that Jesus' blood is not strong enough
to cover them, you know, whatever our rationale is, then we should be more concerned about
our heart than what they're doing.
And I say that because if you look at what Jesus did when he walked on the earth and
set the example for us, he went to the least of these.
He went to the worst sinners, and I say worst in air quotes.
He went and hung out with them because that alone is what got the Pharisees, the Sadducees,
that's what worked them all up.
These religious people totally wanted to discount Jesus because, you know, he was hanging out
with the prostitutes and the tax collectors and, you know, these harlots.
And, you know, we have to really examine ourselves when we are casting judgment like that.
So I simply am bringing this information for reasons that I feel like, just like the term
molly, if I heard my kids talking about, even if they were referring to a girl molly, I
would want some clarification from them simply because I want to make sure I know what's
going on in my kids' lives.
There is a YouTube show, I believe, it's probably on other stations too, but I know you can
find it on YouTube, called Gotcha Life.
And Gotcha Life actually has episodes about maps.
Well, if I didn't know what that was and I was simply scrolling through, you know,
what kids show, because it's all animated, it looks harmless when you're just looking
at it.
It looks like just a bunch of animated characters, so you would think it would be kid-friendly.
And if you don't know what map is, then you might not think it's that big of a deal.
So the reason I want people to understand and to know what this is, and just be aware
of the term, is simply so that if you see it, if it comes up in a conversation with
your kids, whatever, that you know what it is that they may be referring to.
But again, Jesus never condemned the person.
He condemned their sin, and He never tolerated their sin.
What He did was He loved them in their sin, because the Bible tells very clearly.
That while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us, which is so beautiful because that
means we don't have to get our lives all cleaned up before we come to Jesus.
He meets us in the middle of our big ole mess, right?
And so for me, in my background, especially coming out of the trashy world of dancing
and just everything that comes with that, I needed to know that it was okay to approach
Jesus in that state.
And with my upbringing, where everything was so much about behavior and the outside, you
know, nobody could see what was going on inside, but the outside, man, it just had to be perfect.
And those are very hard to balance.
Those are very difficult concepts to try to manage in your brain if you don't really
understand the love of Jesus.
His love has no strings attached.
It does not matter what you've done ever.
As long as you are in a position of repentance, then he's the one that's going to change your
behavior.
It's not our job to change someone's behavior.
It's our job to tell them about Jesus and to let them know of his amazing grace.
And then from there, the Holy Spirit does the work.
So anyway, I just wanted to say that.
Also, I want you to be aware, because this is something that I found while I was researching.
There is now, and I think so many people now are used to these hashtags, you know, although
y'all probably know way more about it than I do.
I am not very social media savvy, but a lot of what they're now calling maps, when they
do any kind of post or hashtagging, some of them will say, hashtag pro-C or hashtag anti-C.
What that means is pro-contact or anti-contact.
And when I say contact, that is exactly what you think it is.
It's do they believe in having contact with whoever they're attracted to, i.e. the minor.
And some people have the argument that all pedophiles are not child molesters.
Not only all child molesters are pedophiles, but just because someone is attracted to a
minor does not make them a pedophile.
And here's what I will say to that.
More power to you, but do not be posting about that and asking me to call you something that
makes you comfortable.
What you should be spending your time doing is getting help for your abnormal attraction
and asking God to fix that.
Just like if I have an attraction to anything that is against God's word, I'm not going
to force my attraction down someone's throat to ask them to be able to make me feel better.
I would rather them call me this or accept my sin in a politically correct way.
No, I'm going to be trying to find a counselor who can truly help me, and I'm going to be
on my face asking the Lord to forgive me.
And it might be the thorn in my flesh where when I ask the Lord, he never relieves me
of that, whatever that is, but he tells me, like he told Paul, my grace is sufficient.
And that may be something I have to learn to live with, but never will I expect or even
ask for anyone to accept that or to make me feel comfortable with it.
I don't want to feel comfortable in my sin, and I'm certainly not going to contribute
to someone else feeling comfortable in their sin.
And I'm sorry, but anyone who looks at a minor with lustful thoughts and feelings is a breath
away from acting on that.
So whether you're anti-contact or pro-contact is not even the issue.
The Bible says, as a man thinks in his heart.
So is he.
Now, that means all of us have things
that we have to work on
to not have thoughts in our head, okay?
Like you can get really, really mad at somebody
and you can dwell on that
or you can let it pass.
You can figure out how to ask the Lord
to help you with that anger.
You can go and work it out with whoever you're mad at,
but something that you do
has to make that anger go away.
It doesn't mean as long as you live in that anger
and you don't act on that anger,
that that is okay
because that anger will eventually get the best of you.
Just like being attracted to the wrong person
and especially when it could hurt a child,
that is just not something that we need
to allow ourselves to live on
and live with day after day after day after day after day.
So I just wanted to say that.
Also, there is a type of map slash pedophile
who are now even trying to glom on
to the LGBTQIA plus plus plus plus plus
group and they are now identifying
as trans age, okay?
So here is where now we are entering the danger field
of how the LGBTQ, T being transgender,
these people that think they can just wake up one day a girl
and decide to be a boy and wake up the next day
and say, okay, everyone has to call me Bob now
because I know I was Mary yesterday,
but now I'm Bob and I'm gonna dress like a boy,
I'm gonna do everything that a boy can do
and y'all just have to live with it, okay?
So if we're gonna accept that as a society
and these crazy people that call themselves scientists
say that that is actually a possibility,
then what is to keep a 40-year-old man
from identifying as a 14-year-old boy
and having sex with a 10-year-old girl
and then not getting in trouble
because they're quote unquote both minors.
And there is actual posts of people
who identify as trans age.
So this is no joke.
The moms and dads listening right now,
y'all need to be aware that these are premeditated,
motivated, grown adults who are taking advantage
of the compromise and tolerance society
that we live in today
and they are coming after our kids, period, end of story.
There's an entire song about it
and if you haven't seen it,
I suggest you look up the gay choir
that literally came out and sang a song,
We're Coming For Your Kids.
It is the most infuriating song as a parent to listen to
and quite honestly, the main guy
that does the beginning of the song at least,
has a smirk on his face
that will literally make you want to throw up in your mouth.
It is so devious and premeditated
and they just don't care.
They're literally telling you
they're coming after your kids
and they don't care if you know.
They're just being honest with you.
I'm wondering at what point in our society,
the more we tolerate, the more we accept,
the more we become politically correct,
at some point there's going to be someone
who kills someone and asks for people
to not refer to them as the murderer
but as a murder fantasizing person, maybe an MFP.
I mean, at what point do people use the God-given brain
that he gave us to say enough is enough?
At what point does it have to affect your child?
for you to get involved? Does it have to come into your living room for you to
take a stand? At some point there has to be no more and I for one reached that
point a while back and I'm so disgusted at so-called you know Republicans and
or Christians who just tolerate for the sake of getting along to go along. It is
it is not helping it's actually encouraging their behavior and here's
the deal we can boycott we can do all kinds of you know canceling so-called of
our own but we do not have I don't know of a product in fact someone made the
joke the slab under the tile in your living room or the carpet in your house
or whatever the slab has some company involved that probably donated to
something you don't believe in. I remember when you know Target did all
the stuff about the bathrooms and everybody's like we are never going to
Target again and I have family members that you know took that stance which you
know if that's what God tells you to do then that's exactly what you should do
but I'm saying as a whole that is not going to do anything because eventually
you're going to be out of everything because there's not a company that
produces something that does not donate somewhere somehow. I'm sure I say there's
not a company there's probably a very limited number if any because I have not
come up with a list and if anyone has one please email it to me but but that's
like not even solving the problem and in regards to the Target thing like for
me every time I'm at Target with my daughter and I have to go to the
bathroom or she has to go to the bath I almost hope that there is some pervert
in the bathroom waiting to see if he can get away with doing something when
we walk in there because I can promise you that he probably won't come back if
he were to encounter me and my daughter and I think at some point there has to
be enough righteous anger that we have and are willing to act on for this to
stop. I think God's grace and God's mercy and God's forgiveness are so focused on
in the church and in our circles that people forget about his holiness his
righteousness and his righteous anger when Jesus flipped the temp the tables
over in the temple because these people were making a mockery out of the house
of God and making money okay what do you think is behind every single thing
that's going on today it's all driven by power and money and until we are willing
to take a stand no matter what that costs us then we are going to just
continue to slide deeper and deeper into this pit and before we know it it's
going to overtake our country in fact I don't know at some point you know is is
the is the train going so fast it can even stop at this point and I just
believe that God is so much bigger but he is waiting on his people to take a
stand another thing that I found that I thought was very interesting in regards
to research that it did not apply to me so much which a lot of people you know
when we're looking at a situation we view through our lens of our past and
what we experience that made us you know do make a certain decision or that
influence something that happened to us or whatever
But this wasn't necessarily what happened with me.
And for new listeners, you may wanna go back
and watch the first episode of season one
to understand fully what I'm talking about.
But my sexual abuse as a child stemmed from my father
who was also our pastor, and it was very difficult
because he was my hero.
And I had a great relationship with him
until that moment where he crossed that line with me.
But what I also found was there are specific pedophiles
that look for young girls that have father issues
or a child who does not get as much attention at home.
So say for instance, you have one child
that requires quite a bit of attention,
and that child either has a disability
or is just a harder child,
like more rambunctious or more defiant.
And then you have another child that's very easy,
very compliant, and maybe that child
does not require as much parenting,
quote unquote parenting, as another child does.
And if you're like me, you're exhausted
by the fourth one that comes along.
And so you are maybe just focused
in one area versus another area.
That child that you think is compliant and easy
sometimes can become an easier target for that pedophile
because what they do, their method of operation
is they will build that child up
and literally lavish them with compliments
and build their self-esteem to a place where,
and if you can just imagine for a minute,
when they're around whoever is grooming them,
and it's not always the pedophile.
Sometimes these pedophiles send in other friends,
like younger, like teenage girls or teenage boys,
like the boyfriend is really the groomer
and then brings them to the pedophile.
But somebody that makes them feel good
and compliments them and they can do no wrong.
And then when they get home,
they're kind of, not mistreated,
but just not lavished on like that
because so much of the parenting
and the energy goes into another child
or the marriage is having problems or whatever it is.
But your children, if you are not engaging with them
and you are not asking some pretty pointed questions,
and I mean age appropriate questions
and getting involved in their life,
sometimes that just lack of connection with us
can set them up as an easy target for these sick perverts
that are specifically looking to use that vulnerability
to their benefit.
And I had a great relationship with my dad
and I was such a perfectionist
and always wanted to make A's
and always wanted to learn all my Bible verses
and all of that.
So I was not in that category,
but my danger came from within the home.
And my dad used my worship of him
and thinking how wonderful he was
and he could do no wrong.
You know, that's what my dad used against me.
And even years later, years, decades later,
has made the statement to my face, to my husband,
that of all six children,
he knows that I love him the most,
which, you know, still just blows my mind
that if you know that, you know,
why would you hurt someone like that?
But irregardless, the point is,
is that it's just so important in today's day and age
and always, I'm sure, but specifically today
with the amount of deception and just tolerance
that we are expected to just, you know,
now just call these people minor attractive persons
or maps so that they'll feel better.
It is their way of normalizing this pedophilia,
which is why you also see some states
trying to fight the age of consent.
That's also another hashtag.
Oh, AOC, age of consent, and there's another one, too.
I need to find that one out.
I didn't know what it meant.
It looked very strange, but it's talking about the age
that someone prefers because there are people
that literally want to see or have contact with babies.
Yes, you heard me right, six-month-old babies and up.
And if anybody is following the Josh Duggar trial,
you know that he was just found guilty of child pornography.
This man was able to take his computer that he had covenant
eyes on, which is a program for men who have sexual tendencies
and go on and look at porn and, you know,
or go on places they shouldn't go.
And it sends a, you know, you put this on your device
and if you go somewhere you're not supposed to go,
it sends an alert to whoever your accountability person is.
Well, he partitioned his computer
and had a basically another computer within his computer
that covenant eyes didn't recognize.
And when they busted him, they found all kinds of child porn,
all the way down to six-months-old.
And the problem, guys, is that we have got to,
got to spend the time talking to our kids, asking kids questions,
not to scare them, not to scare them, and not to be paranoid,
not to make them paranoid or not for us to live in fear.
But to be informed and to give them the understanding
that if anyone at any time makes them feel uncomfortable
for any reason whatsoever, I mean any reason.
Let me tell you something.
I am a mom who loves pictures.
I have a picture every year until my kids were too old,
my boys were too old, of them on Santa's lap.
But you know something?
My daughter, the last time we sat on Santa's lap, she said,
I don't like him, Mommy.
And I was like, okay, I don't want to sit
on that strange man's lap.
I was like, all right, we'll never do that again.
And we have no more pictures.
Okay, well, you know, the little, you know,
Mrs. Claus in me really misses those pictures.
And I think, oh my goodness, you know, I really,
really want those pictures, you know.
But what's more important for my daughter to be able to say
that man makes me uncomfortable?
I don't care if he is supposed
to be bringing me presents on Christmas.
I don't want to sit in his lap.
Then that's fine.
We have got to listen to our kids.
We have to start conversations with our kids
to give them the ability and the comfort to say things to us
that may even be uncomfortable for us.
And we have to practice our I'm not going to freak out face.
And I'm speaking to myself right now.
I'm not going to freak out.
Okay, when they say that, Wendy, you just use your poker face.
I've heard that poker is one of those games
that you're not allowed to make a face or something.
I don't understand poker.
But some of you all know what I'm talking about.
So I really just want to encourage you to start thinking
about having some conversations, you know,
little conversation starters.
If there's anything that you are questioning or wondering,
you know, what might be age appropriate,
definitely leave a comment if you're on our Facebook
or on YouTube and maybe your email
and I can get some information to you.
I just know that there is an agenda for these people
who want access to your kids.
And if you're not paying attention, then you're going
to be sorry that you didn't know when you look back
if this is something that does reach your child
or your living room.
And I would hate, hate, hate to have any of my listeners
that I am really trying hard to just get the information
and read so much stuff.
It is so time consuming.
And it is very hard to read the level of depravity that are
in some people, but I want to do it
because I don't want anything ever, ever,
ever to happen ever again to a child like what happened to me.
And if I have to, you know, read it and study it.
and have it in my mind to keep one child
from ever experiencing something like that again,
whether it's my child or your child,
then it has all been worth it as far as I'm concerned.
So I just wanna thank you guys for tuning in.
I'm so thankful that you guys are still with me
on this journey and I just want to encourage you
to really, really take the time to help develop
that conversation with your kids to the comfort level
that they will be able to say anything to you
and ask anything of you,
and you guys can really keep up with what's going on.
Thank you so much for tuning in today
and we look forward to seeing you
on the next episode of Truth Talk with Wendy.
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