Welcome.
I am so glad you're here.
You are in for such a treat today.
Today you're going to meet an amazing woman of God.
Her friends know her affectionately as Kim Possible.
You'll know more about that in a minute.
She is Kim Rackham.
She is founder of Nourish.
She's an amazing coach to women.
And I am so looking forward to you hearing some of the things that she's going to share.
She specializes in helping you identify and eliminate self-sabotage.
How many of you can relate to that?
So Kim, welcome.
I am so glad you're here and so excited to hear about Kim Possible.
How did you get that name?
Oh my gosh.
First and foremost, Brenda, thank you so much for having me here today.
I really appreciate the invitation.
Kim Possible is an avatar.
Many of you may know she was a furious and tenacious woman that went after the possibilities
in life.
And although her character was like a detective, and in my past part of my career kind of centered
around that.
And I received that nickname because I always pulled out the greatest information, the best
in people.
And I was able to just pull from their hearts and really an encourager, so in tenacious
about that.
So what I found is that the possibility, I love being a possibility coach because it
allows me to help others reflect on what they believe is impossible.
I say they are, I'm possible.
Love that.
So from Kim Possible to I'm possible.
And if you want to experience that, talk to Kim Possible, right?
Absolutely.
I love that.
That's so beautiful.
So Kim, I know you're really passionate about helping women find their voice.
In fact, you have an amazing acronym.
You have knowing who they are, but you have a different acronym for who.
What does who stand for for you?
Yes.
So, you know, I, the analogy of, you know, spiritually, we know who's we are, but the
who is where we lose track is I call it women hiding out.
Women hiding out, boy, isn't that common?
Just playing smaller, not showing up, not using their voice.
Let me ask you something.
Are you speaking from personal experience when we're talking about women hiding out
Were you that woman by chance?
Oh, absolutely.
They say that your mess ends up being your message.
And that is why I'm here today.
You know, when you start realizing in life the details, you know, family, career, you
know, there's divorce, there's like all these seeds of change.
And in that, you start identifying that, you know, those dreams, those desires that
you once held so tightly as a young child, right, growing up, and they kind of get laid
to the wayside.
So in letting your dreams go, just Oh, absolutely.
And did you find that you did that?
Yes.
Oh, absolutely.
And, you know, especially as women, you know, we are nurturers by nature, right?
And so what I found with my identity is that I had lost it.
And so I knew that something had to change.
So lost identity, you just forgot about your dreams, you forgot who you were, you...
What happened?
Yes.
And I just felt unheard, unnoticed.
I felt like my voice no longer mattered.
And for those that know me would never believe that to be a truth.
But there were so many lies and untruths, the art of self-sabotage is what had taken
hold of my life.
And I just found that it didn't work for me anymore.
I knew that God had a greater purpose for me, and He has a greater purpose for each
and every one of us.
one of us. So you found, I remember you sharing your story working, and I remember you telling
me that other people's reality, other people's world, their agendas, their dreams, they're for
you, you just slipped into that and were living that, yes? Oh yes, it was their vision. At the
end of the day, I had lost vision, right? And while I was waiting for life to live,
life was waiting on me. Can you say that again? That's so good. Yeah, so while I was waiting for
life to really truly live, to be alive, life was waiting for me. Wow. I was not showing up in the
game. Wow. You talk about standing on the sidelines of your own life. Oh, absolutely. I
felt like I was there, but the vision was gone. I was numb. I was overworked in a long career.
And for most, they would say, that was a great career. It was safe, right? But you know what?
Safe doesn't work at the end of our legacies, right? At the end of the day, I would come home
exhausted. And the last thing that I wanted to do is try to work on me. So you just got pushed to
the sidelines. You had family, you had work, you had all these things. And did you feel like you
were just going through the motions almost? Did you feel disconnected? A lot of women tell me
just really disconnected from yourself. Yeah, from the heart. Oh, absolutely. Yeah,
especially in the heart. I felt that I would pray to God to open all of my life through my heart,
to be heart centered. And you know, when the imposter syndrome comes in so many ways.
Some people might not know what that is. What is an imposter syndrome? It's really just like,
I guess I could say fake it till you make it. I see. Okay. You know, just the smile was great.
But the intention really wasn't drawn from an authentic and raw point of view. We're so busy
with comparison and social conditioning that we lose in touch, insight with really who we are,
our talents, our gifts. How do we define that perfect written novel, that bestseller in our
life? The bestseller of our life. Yeah, absolutely. Beautiful, beautiful. So here you were, and I
assume it was years that this was happening. It was kind of collectively, the vision was put up
on a shelf and not dusted off and you lost sight of who you were and you were just busy, look good
on the outside. You had the success. You had all of that. Yeah. How did you break out of that? How
did you step into the true Kim possible that you are today? On fire, vivacious, showing up,
you're anything but hiding, you know, or being on the sidelines. What changed for you? How did
you change that? You know, um, I was in a career for almost 33 years. Wow. If you can imagine that.
Yeah. Some think that I might've started at 10. Yeah. Right. Part of your life. But in, in the
mix of it, I started working into like self-development. I felt it was so important to
know myself better because I had indeed lost myself. And so in that, it was amazing. It was
like, just God just really tapped into my heart and said, you know, you're, you have so much
greatness. Go out in the world and show this. And he knew my heart. He knew that I love to encourage.
He knew that I had been mentoring people for years in health and, and in my career in, you know,
in positions that always led to mentoring. So it was already in me, but the, but one day I
seriously woke up and said, you know what? I'm retiring from my JOB because there's something
greater to give my legacy to. Yeah. And I wanted to be the person that my, my children looked to,
my grandchildren looked to, and say that she did this. Right. So I started encouraging myself to
challenge myself. I said, there's a song by Mercy Me called Say You Won't. Right. And I wanted to
actually live my life. Right.
Not just to live, but to really be alive in life.
I wanted to encourage other women to do so.
And so I started into self-development.
I had been a health coach for six years prior to this
and loved coaching people.
But I found that it really comes down to health is your wealth.
But health defines three different dimensions.
It's mind, body, and spirit.
And I know how important that all three of those factors are.
And I had been missing some of those elements.
So I started with self-development, the mindset.
Mental fitness is so important.
And so I started certifying, getting certified.
I decided to become a coach.
And I had to hire a coach to understand how to coach.
And you may have met her before.
She's incredible.
And I thought, this is it.
And I have never looked back.
And more than ever, I'm overjoyed with the journey
that I'm given every day to step out into my boldness,
step out of the fear and the sabotage.
Even greater is to be able to help women do the same.
I love that.
And as your coach, I have watched
you just completely transform, like a flower opening up.
One of the things that, when you're talking about mindset,
I think this really distinguishes you.
And I think it's really powerful.
And a lot of women will relate to this.
That is this idea of self-sabotage.
And so maybe start to go in a direction,
but somehow block it off.
And so it's a lot of these false starts, yes,
and never going all the way, never just crossing
the finish line, right?
So tell us about self-sabotage.
And especially, you have something interesting,
which is saboteurs.
Yeah, so tell us about that.
Tell us about self-sabotage.
What is that?
And where does a woman even begin to identify these?
What's the journey there?
Yes, that's great.
And I had to pause for a minute while you're talking.
I almost got teary-eyed.
And that's really what led me to that greater
good of being able to, when I'm being coached,
and you've seen that transformation,
how powerful is it to help women to do the same?
And that really, it got me excited.
But what was the greatest takeaway
in the last couple of years is mental fitness.
And in a time such as this, right,
as you know, Brenda, I find that mental fitness,
and I interview friends and family and colleagues
and women in the grocery store,
and just start tapping into their mind
and asking them, what keeps you stuck?
What keeps you sitting on those sidelines, right?
And that thing is the saboteur
that you're talking about?
It is the saboteurs.
What's a saboteur?
What the heck is that?
A saboteur is like if, layman's term,
it's kind of like the gremlins that keep you playing small.
Okay.
Right?
And so there's different layers of saboteurs
that create the self-sabotage
that keeps us playing right here.
Can you give me an example?
Like, what's a saboteur?
Like, give me an example.
Yes, so.
I didn't know that word before you shared it with me.
Everyone has saboteurs, by the way.
Oh, so we all have this.
Okay, so we all have gremlins, guys.
Okay, we all have gremlins.
Okay.
Okay?
I say that with a smile.
Kind of scary, but.
No, I'm like, seriously.
All right, tell us about our gremlins.
But those gremlins, those saboteurs,
come in different layers.
Layers, okay.
And so the judge, we'll talk about the judge
because every one of us, that is like part of our DNA.
So that's the saboteur, the judge.
Oh, yeah, that's the top saboteur.
So when you say layers,
it's like once one saboteur is handled,
you'll see the next one and the next one.
Is that what you mean by layers?
Yes, actually, I go through an assessment process.
Okay, okay.
Okay, and to identify what they are.
Oh, absolutely.
And so once you identify them,
some are avoiders.
Avoiders.
I was a huge avoider.
Talk about procrastination, oh my gosh.
But,
The judge I want to speak on that because each and every one of us have our judge we judge others
We all know that okay. Yeah, we may say that we try not to but we do at the end of the day, right?
We're different
But what does that look like like give me an example of judging? Oh, you know, especially women
Yeah, you know like judging their clothes wearing that. Okay, really? She she speaks like that
Okay, she's doing that she doesn't look very confident, okay, okay the comparison game
and
But the greater
Honestly of those evils is that we're judging ourselves even greater. Mm-hmm
And that for me
In in seeing that and seeing the layers
There's ten different layers of saboteurs, by the way. All right, okay, and and in an assessment
You'll find that you have two or three that are your greatest saboteurs. Okay, so that's where you start
That's where you start. Okay, and then it's really great. It's kind of a three
Three prong approach so to speak. It's really being able to first identify and going through that process and I'll have to tell you
It's not an easy feat. Okay. Okay, you have to own up to what these look like and how they enter into your life
Okay, but once you do
You start becoming aware. Yeah, and you know
Transformation just really is for changes awareness awareness is the first step. It's a very fresh step first
So, okay once you acknowledge where they're coming from then you can start making those
transformational changes and you can identify them and
Then you can start deciding
How you're going to
Own them
Because honestly, we never get rid of our saboteurs. Okay, but we can certainly diffuse them. Okay?
Okay, and if you're able to do that, so what we call is we it's called self-command
And so we have modalities to do that. Okay, and then you can take it one step further and you can accept them
And or you can even create a gift from them. Believe it or not. And that's really powerful where
I love to see women go that's powerful, right and and it's so
When one of the greatest gifts is to see a woman walk in her power
and know that
Perfections out the window ladies. Yeah, I
mean
Own who you are in your raw authentic being
Allow the
Chapters in your story to be
rewritten
we have a a
Bestseller, I always call it your perfectly written novel nice
So this is taking your life story and with awareness
It's choosing differently. It's it's rewriting your story
And so that your life story becomes that life that you love and that best-selling
Novel I
Love that. That's so powerful
You know
You told me that one of the things that you do a woman comes to you and one of the first things
That you do with her is you say take inventory and I found that fascinating
What does it mean to take inventory? What do you do? What does a woman do to take inventory? Oh my goodness
Um, I just love this. I think it's one of the greatest things you can do for yourself
Taking inventory is really a
Matter of sitting down and writing out the areas of your life that no longer serve you
the untruths
the lies
Mm-hmm. It's amazing. The rest of the self-sabotage, right?
Okay, and then on on the other side start writing your vision that dream
start writing
What your intentions in life are for most women in
Interviewing them. They don't even know it's such a starting point. It breaks my heart
Because I was that girl
but
It is such a transformation
Such a transformation to watch
That you can watch a woman step into her glory
step into
Living a life that's vivacious
Loving Oh
Loving so graciously from that open heart
And then being able to express boldly like your dreams, your desires, your
talents, your individual gifts because the world's waiting for you even if it's
just one person. Maybe it's your child, maybe it is your co-worker, a
colleague, whoever or how many that you can bring to life. Then we really truly
are changing the world. Wow. One person at a time. One person at a time. Yeah. One
transformed person. Yes. And isn't that just almost as you were talking it's
almost like getting your wings. It's like freedom when you start to say this is
who I am and this is the vision and this is my purpose and these are my
desires. And it's not selfish. I think we've been programmed that we're
supposed to focus on everybody else but like you're saying aren't you even more
other focused when you have that level of self-awareness. You know as we've
gone through a pandemic we're in the middle of a pandemic right now. Have
you done things differently during this? You know everything has shifted. What's
what's different for you taking all of that change and transformation that's
happened for you and then boom there's this outer you know world change. Yes
that's a great question Brenda. You know for me personally I started Marie
Kondo. It's for many of you may know that. It went to a deeper level. I started
taking going back to taking inventory right. I started looking at how I could
declutter my life. Like you know between social media and social conditioning
right. We're supposed to walk and present and be this a certain way in
life. And I thought no more. I like to call it the kiss of life. Keep it simple
sister right. So I started decluttering and decluttering is more than just your
physical space okay right. But I started there and I found it to be freeing. Like
you said like that angel with their wings right. I found it so freeing that I
realized that it opens space for me to think clearer. Yes. It opens space to free
me from all of the news and the media and you know unfortunately everything
that's going on during this time. And I found that the mental clutter is I was
freeing up my physical space. The mental space I started noticing that it freed
it up. It started freeing just piece by piece and in that I really started
reflecting like what's next. That's where what's possible. Yes. Right. Yeah. And most
people right now are in the impossible stage and I just want to say and I know
this could be cliche because it's a I think it's Marilyn Monroe, Audrey Hepburn
one of those amazing women. They said I'm possible. I am possible. Yeah. Right.
So just I started learning that I am possible for anything that is brought
into my life and it is for every woman that's out there. So you chose to use
this time to make shifts. Yes. And so in your physical environment you began
creating space in your mental, in your spiritual environment and the more
spacious that you became you opened up room and space for what you're doing
right now. Things just started happening in such huge ways. Yeah. Just incredible.
I mean I opened space for a vehicle that I saw. I manifested it. Nice. I mean you
know in a short and not just tangible ideas. Yeah. I'm talking the deepest of
your heart. Yeah. Right. Yeah. Who you are. Yeah. Like to really dig deep and reflect
on and and and to study about who you are. Like we are unique. Yeah. We are
incredible beings. Yeah. And the only way that we will find true success at the
end of the day I think about our legacies that we leave at the end of our
lives. I really am looking forward to seeing that.
that I changed lives. But more than anything, that my inner peace and joy, my inner self-confidence,
right? That inner being, walking in who you are being so that you can do and you can have
the greatest successes in life, that's power. Yes, I love it. That's power.
So for the woman who is watching right now, and maybe she's not feeling so empowered,
and maybe she's in the impossible, or she's anxious, or she's discouraged, or she's confused,
there's a lot of emotion right now, a lot of frustration, a lot of change that's hard for
some people. What would you say to that woman? Ladies, you have got this. You have been born
so uniquely, wonderfully, and fearfully made. We have this one life. Invest in who you are.
Find out deeply. Start a journal. Start talking to yourself. Talk to yourself well,
with love, with respect, right? Like you would care for a small child. Be empathetic
for that small childlike faith that you had because you're still that same woman.
You just have more wisdom. Sometimes we leave that on the sidelines.
It's time to look at the seed of change. There's always going to be seasons, right? But if you're
looking to the inner being, that God-given talent, those gifts that you've been given,
then you will find that you'll start seeding. Those seeds of change will flourish.
They're going to start seeding you. In doing that, start rewriting your chapters.
Don't let life sit by for you. Start evolving around your life. Start giving the best self-love
that you can give to yourself as saying, do this for 30 days. I am enough.
Every time, think about that. I am enough. Write it on your mirror.
Put it on a post-it note. Put it on your phone. I am enough. 30 days. Watch the magic happen.
I love that. Wow. Such richness. So much to share with so many people. If someone wants to reach you,
Kim, what's the best way? I called you Kim possible, but you're Kim Rackham. And so they
can find you on all the social media channels and so on. But what's the best way to connect with you?
Yes. I would love for you to connect with me. If you go to my website, it's
kimrackham.com. If you go there, I have a 60-minute discovery call. Just hit the let's chat. Let's
connect. I would love to help you start defining your best written novel, that perfectly written
novel. We can start today. So, kimrackham.com. Choose you because you are possible.
Love that. Kim possible. Thank you. Thank you for being here,
sharing. I think this is an important word for a lot of people in this season when things start
to look impossible. I don't think we're going to forget Kim possible. Kim Rackham,
kimrackham.com. Thanks for being here. What a blessing. What a blessing you are. And thank you
for choosing you to know that you're enough and to want to share and bless so many women
with what you do. Thank you, Brenda. I am just so honored to be here.
I'm looking forward to helping women change their view.