hesitate to even share this because I don't know how to talk about this
without coming across as being offensive in some way. It will be because of
ignorance. This is not a subject matter that I am familiar with. I've never had a
reason to be familiar with it. There are so many preconceived notions of this, you
know, how this works and especially how it relates to God and Jesus. And, you
know, today just kind of, you know, really just made me stop and think about it.
Hey guys, welcome to another episode of Truth Talk with Wendy. And this is an
unusual recording because typically I have my producer here and she and I
coordinate on all of this and we have a nice fancy camera and everything is
exactly like it's supposed to be. But today it is me and my phone. I just
wanted to share something with you that just happened that kind of has just got
me to thinking. And I know that I know that I know it was a God thing because
of how everything went down. But today, for the first time, I visited a church.
This will probably be its own episode at some point. But once COVID hit and
everything shut down, I had all my kids at home and was able to know that they
were all safe. As some of you guys know, my church experience has not been a
great one. And I have not gone back since COVID and have been real happy
that all my kids are with me every Sunday instead of me worrying about them
in the children's church or what they might be hearing that may not be true or
what might be happening to them. So anyway, it's been easier to stay at home.
So today was a big day for me to actually go back and took two of my kids
with me. But then while we were there, this is a new church I just learned
about this week that is real big on community service and doing things as
Jesus would do if he was walking the face of the earth today, which is the
whole point of being a Christian. But after church, well let me say during
church, when church was over and we were talking to a couple people that we
knew, my son struck up a conversation with someone and the Lord really kind of
laid on both of our hearts before we left to invite this person to go to
lunch with us. So that's what we did. This person is very interesting. I really
even hesitate... sorry I think probably my phone is gonna ring and I don't have it
on do not disturb. I've probably done this all wrong, but I needed to get this
out. I hesitate to even share this because I don't know how to talk about
this without coming across as being offensive in some way. It will be
because of ignorance. This is not a subject matter that I am familiar with.
I've never had a reason to be familiar with it. There are so many preconceived
notions of this, you know, how this works and especially how it relates to God and
Jesus. And you know today just kind of, you know, really just made me stop and
think about it. Will it change my mind? You know, I don't know. It's too early to
say. But I wanted to share because I cannot be the only person who is a
Christian and who's trying to please the Lord and hear the Holy Spirit who has to
feel this way. So that's why I wanted to share this. But this person is a man and
he had a man name. He introduced himself as a man, but in the conversation it was
obvious by looking at him that he was different than me, different than myself.
different than my husband, different than a lot of people but you know we're all
different in our own odd unique special ways and so I usually don't let that
deter me a lot and I try to always get to the heart of somebody never wanting
the outside of them to force me to make a judgment although that's easy to do
just from you know society and and you know who who we are around normally but
you know I I wasn't gonna do that I wanted to find out about him and his
life and how it affects you know where he is today you know and I think he said
he was almost 60 so I say all that to say in the in the course of this
conversation and that was very much about God and the Holy Spirit and Jesus
and he loves the Lord and so you know from from little was raised as a
Christian and you know it if I was talking to him on the phone I would
never have you know none of and then the end of the conversation would if that
would not have come up I would have thought nothing but you know made a new
friend today but you know it's obviously a difference in him and most men and he
was well aware of it and wasn't shy about it and has been neglected and
shunned and abandoned and rejected by his own family members and clearly a lot
of society because of it but yet I'm having a conversation with him about God
I'm not having to convince him that there is a God that you know that Jesus
loves him that the Holy Spirit can live with inside of us I mean I'm not I'm
having a conversation with someone that is is like a brother in Christ and I'm
I'm so conflicted because I asked specifically I asked him because he was
currently still wanting to become more feminine not in a surgical way but you
know just like hormonally and again I'm so ignorant about this I don't even
really know how to explain it other than you know it's not that he thought
he was a girl you know 20 years ago so he transitioned and now he's wanting to
now now he's transitioning back so there's some evidence of that which was
my initial assumption it's not that it is that he is still actively you know
wanting to be a woman and so I asked him I said so can I ask you you know do you
do you think that when God created you you know that he made a mistake like you
you really weren't supposed to be a boy or you're supposed to be a girl you know
he's like oh no I don't believe that I don't believe God made a mistake you
know and so what ended up happening in this discussion was I was expecting him
to say yes of course you know that there's absolutely no way I'm supposed
to be a man you know I that was the answer I thought I was gonna get that
was not the answer that I got and I I didn't know what to say and one thing
I've learned is when you don't know what to say it's better not to say anything
and so I excused myself I went to the bathroom and I was just praying like God
can you show me what I'm supposed to do here like I I don't know how to be in
this debate I don't know what to say to him I have no concept of what he's going
through I literally I don't know if he had said of course God made a mistake
then I had a lot of stuff ready for that you know to explain to him that God
didn't make a mistake and you know that God is perfect and you know like from
that approach but that's not what he said it's not what he thinks and so I'm
truly I'm at a loss I do not know so um I think this debate in this subject
matter is so front and center in our society right now and I feel that that
we as Christians need to be very much more informed about what is really going
on in their
head. I was able to share a little bit of my story not a lot just kind of touch the surface of my
story with him and he did share that he experienced something similar not not the same but something
similar. I did not get any details or anything like that but clearly you know people who've
been through trauma and people who have been rejected and abandoned and you know like that
you know as a child there there are many different um results and roads that someone goes down to
cope with or try to figure out and and identify with um you know the trauma that comes from that
and so I think this movement of people they are very clearly misguided in where
Jesus wants them to be whole myself included. There are so many decisions that I made
because I didn't know who I was in Christ and had I known that and had I been able to grasp that and
understand that and rest in that maybe those decisions would have been different you know
I don't I don't know because I can't go back and relive it um I would like to think I would
think I would have done things differently had I had more um information but again
the biblical information I got was from the one who hurt me so not sure how that would have
made a difference you know at that point anyway I I don't know I would really like some feedback
from any Christian a a a self-proclaimed Christian who believes in God believes
Jesus is the Son of God believes in the Holy Spirit um who has any kind of
experience with this whether it be your personal experience or a member of your family that you've
had to deal with who who is a Christian who who with somebody that says they are a Christian
but they struggle in this area and actively still want to pursue
becoming something that God did not create like in other words if they were born a boy
and they're still trying to pursue being a girl or if they were born a girl and are wanting to
be a boy um in in inside their Christian walk so I I would really like some some feedback I I am not
interested in anyone's opinion that does not have personal experience and feedback from
um their own personal experience with this or their family member I I don't care you know what
if you've read a book or that that's not what I'm interested in I'm I'm interested in like what is
going on inside somebody who's further down the road in this discovery in this discussion because
I didn't know what to say and I didn't know how to help and I didn't know how to
I what what happens is when you don't know and you are in in that position and this was a long
lunch this wasn't like you know we got there and ordered an appetizer and then this was brought up
and then I felt uncomfortable and then we left I mean this was thankfully at the end but I I was so
caught off guard by his answer and not knowing what to say that I just was like okay I'm not
gonna say anything so I felt like you know we had this great lunch and we connected in so many ways
and then I just left without you know just I don't know I just like felt like I just left it hanging
I didn't know I don't know it just made me feel bad and it made me feel like I wanted so much to
help him and I didn't know how to do it and that's really what I'm after is how do I really
help by relating to when I can't relate to that I it's just not something I can wrap my brain
around and but I want to understand so that I can have a conversation and I want to be
the hands and feet of Jesus and I have to say you know
The loving him part that was that was the easy part, you know, I mean, I know that Jesus would just say
you know, we'll just accept him and love him and
you know and
Be kind to him and that that was we did that. I
Don't know at this point
What to do I know that he doesn't trust a lot of people which I don't blame him because
Most people, you know shun him and don't don't want anything to do with him. Well
That doesn't leave a lot of people that he would let talk to him about it. So I
Just want to be equipped if God ever gives me another opportunity, you know, if I didn't blow this one too bad
I really want to be equipped to be able to say
You know, hey, you know what?
I've never walked in your shoes, but
You know my friend shared this with me. Let me see if this will be helpful
You know, I don't I don't know. But anyway, if you have feedback and
For you know from personal experience to please
Share something in the comments that you know, maybe I could even contact you. I don't know
Anyway, that's just something I want to share with everybody today. So I hope you guys are having a great Sunday and
Hope to see you on the next
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