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And welcome.

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We are so glad that you're here.

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You're in for a treat today.

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You're going to meet a beautiful woman of God, beautiful on the inside and out, who

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has got quite a story.

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I think you're going to be incredibly inspired.

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I know I have been.

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Let me introduce you to Christy Heffelfinger.

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She is the founder of Transformations by Christy.

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You're going to understand why that's a fantastic name and experience the hope and the possibility

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of transformation.

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Christy, thank you for being on this show.

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I'm super excited for the Prosper TV viewers to hear your story.

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Your story has touched me deeply.

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It's moved me and it is extremely inspirational.

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But we'll back up.

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We won't start at the end.

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We'll start at the beginning.

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You have been in the beauty industry for quite a while.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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Is that your background?

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Yeah.

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I started in the beauty industry when I was in high school, actually.

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High school.

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From there, the Lord just took me through a series of changes that happened through

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COVID, actually.

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And that's where I began doing health and wellness transformational coaching.

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So COVID was actually a positive thing for you.

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It was.

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It was actually a huge blessing.

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It allowed me to take a stop in my regular busy time of life and just really reflect

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on what God wanted for me in my life and how that looked and how it could change.

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You know, I got to thinking, and we talked about this before the show, it's not really

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a big jump between what you were doing, having a salon and being a coach, right?

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Right.

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Exactly.

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A lot of coaching.

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A lot of coaching.

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I should have a degree in psychology by now, but yeah, it actually was my training ground.

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I've done it for so many years and stepping into this arena, it feels like it fits perfectly

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like a glove.

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Yeah.

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Just right in line.

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I know with my hairdresser, it's like, you know, after I get my hair done, it's like,

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thank you for the therapy.

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Yeah.

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Exactly.

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Yeah.

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So, yeah.

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Wonderful.

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So you've got two areas that you're very passionate about that are in your coaching.

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It's part of the transformation.

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You're about transformation, spirit, soul, and body.

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Yes.

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Two particular areas from your own experience.

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One is health and one has to do with marriage and relationships.

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So let's start with the health.

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Tell us what got you interested in that and, you know, how did, how did you end up with

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health coaching?

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I stepped into health coaching.

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I've always been very, very healthy.

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I've skated since I was, I skated since I was four years old.

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And so health was a huge part of my life.

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About, I would say it's been about 10 years now, but I was in a couple car accidents and

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one was very severe.

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So it really stopped my life as I knew it.

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I wasn't able to work for a while behind the chair.

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And then also, you know, I spent most of my time at doctors, going to chiropractic

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and, you know, acupuncture and all of that, a lot of pain and, you know, just, it was,

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it was not a good time.

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And they were really wanting to do some surgery on my neck because they were, you know, saying

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that that's the only way they could relieve the pain.

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So, you know, I said, no, that's not going to happen.

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God's going to heal me.

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He's going to make it right.

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And so through a series of things that, those things that I was doing in prayer, God took

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me to a good place.

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Unfortunately, after that all happened, I had gained a bunch of weight and that was

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just something that it just didn't come right off.

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And so I really looked into a lot of the homeopathic, you know, type of ways I changed my eating.

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A lot of, I had a lot of issues, even anaphylactic reactions to medications and just even topical

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things that you get at the drugstore.

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So it changed a lot of things for me.

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So I think that it made me very aware of health and what you should be doing with your body.

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But I knew I still needed to lose the weight.

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So in, you know, in doing that, I found a great program that was able to lose the weight

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and, you know, I just felt so much better about myself.

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Yeah, it does it affects every area of our life really does you don't I don't think you realize how much

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Your personality even though you feel like you're very outgoing. I think I was hiding behind

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And it I didn't realize how it affected me till it started coming off. Okay, and you feel a freedom

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So it was really so you you were able to experience that and then you know being trained as a health coach to be able

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to help other people

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Experience you probably had a lot of compassion

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Absolutely and feeling it. Yeah, so that's a big area of your life helping people improve their health

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And I know you've got so many success stories and so many people you've helped in that area

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There was something else going on in your life. Yes that

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Had been going on for years and so in one sense the weight was really

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affecting you

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But in addition to that you had something going on in your marriage

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And I know your husband's been very gracious to say it's okay to share you both have a heart that perhaps in your story

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Other people can experience transformation. I know that's both of your heart. Yeah, so

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Take us to the beginning. What happened? What was the challenge with you and your husband?

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And you've been married how long first of all, we've been married for 33 years 33 years

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So, okay. All right, it's been a long experience. You got a little tread on your tires. Yeah. All right. So yeah, it was

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You know, it was how long into your marriage. Did the challenge start first of all, let's kind of paint it

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That was probably ten years ago around the same time actually the same time

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So you're dealing with the weight and the accidents and all of that trauma and stress. Yeah, and you've got something going on

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Okay. Yeah, so it was just it was a really dark time because it was it was hard my husband

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To give a little background on him. He has always had a ton of

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Pain in his body. I don't think I really understood that when I met him. He was 23

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He had already been in this car, you know in in a accident in his semi truck

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He drives a concrete truck. Okay, and so they really the doctor said that he should not have lived

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He should have died. And so I knew at that point that you know, God had saved him

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You know kind of put things in perspective now when I had when I was pregnant with our second daughter

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He was in a head-on collision again in his in his semi and he shouldn't have lived through that either

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And he made it. I mean it was it was really amazing and I knew that God had a huge calling

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I didn't know what I didn't know why I didn't know how

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But I knew that you know, God wouldn't just put him through that and have him go through all this pain

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for nothing, you know, so

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You know, he had been trying, you know often on meds and different things to try to

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Regulate the pain and of course he's drive so he can't be on meds crazy meds or anything like that

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Well, that was right around the time that oxycontin and oxycodone had come out and his doctor

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Had said, you know, it's not addictive. It's fine

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You're gonna be fine. Well, he was out of pain. So for the first time in many years, he was out of pain

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he had to continue to take more and more to feel no pain and

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getting different prescriptions and they never checked to see if

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He was you know had a prescription from another doctor

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So at this point he was starting to be addicted so it was going to many doctors and getting it

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Did you see a change in him and his personality? How did that affect your marriage, you know having all this happening?

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Yeah, it was it was like he was a stranger and he was very disconnected

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Like numb from the you know, it wasn't even numb. It was it was it was scary

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It was it was like I didn't recognize your husband

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it was kind of like what you see when you watch the

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Programs where people are on drugs and they're getting arrested or they're okay, you know

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that feeling

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That that thing that you see was what I saw in my husband

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And so I'm living with this man and I'm thinking huh? Okay, we got a problem here

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But I didn't I didn't really know what to do. I'd never dealt with that before I didn't have a clue

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what am I you know, what what how I didn't have a good for that and

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Then it it just became apparent because his personality changed so much that he was he was actually starting to you know

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Never physically hurt me or anything, but I knew because our kids were still home

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So we literally had to leave.

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Wow.

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So we moved.

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And we were in separate homes for, I would say, a little over a year.

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That must have been really hard.

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It was very difficult.

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And really, I think the hardest part is that, you know, the Lord about 17 years ago had

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told me that He was going to use what my marriage, my husband and I, this is before any of this

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happened, to help millions of other people.

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And I had no idea what that meant.

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But I did know that He gave me an open vision of the people that I would be helping.

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I couldn't see their faces.

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I could just see from as far as the eye could see as far as the sky is the sky, people just

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connecting arms with my husband and I, and that it was going to change their lives.

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And it would be the only hope they had for their marriage.

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So I had no idea.

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But when I would have trouble, you know, everyone has trouble in their marriage.

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I would have that vision come back to me.

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And I was like, okay, God, you know, I can get through this because I have to do it not

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just for us, but for them.

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And so, you know, kind of fast forward to this.

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It kind of broke my heart, honestly.

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Because I knew that God had a plan, but I was like, this is not your plan.

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You told me we needed to stay married and now we're not even in the same home.

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And actually, you know, I felt that the Lord was saying His heart's not going to change.

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He's not going to.

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That's it.

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So I had to get a lawyer and I had papers and I signed the papers and I knew that I

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had to send them to Him.

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And God had finally kind of got me to that point where my heart was ready.

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And I said, okay, well, then you have another plan because you always have a plan B. So

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I don't know what you're going to do, but okay, I can do this.

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And stepping into that, I get a phone call and it was my husband.

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And he called me and he was bawling like a baby.

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And he said, I don't know what's wrong.

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I can't stop crying.

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I've been crying for two weeks.

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I'm at work.

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I don't know what to do.

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Can you please help me?

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And I said, well, I said, I can't help you.

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But I said, I can give you some people who can help you.

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So I gave him some phone numbers of counselors that I knew, Christian counselors.

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And he called and made an appointment.

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And he wanted me there.

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So we both, you know, kind of walked him through.

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And from that point, when he called me, when I got off the phone, the Lord said His heart

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changed.

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And I said, well, wait a minute, like, okay, you've literally got me over here.

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Now you're saying I'm going over here.

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So what does that mean?

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He said, His heart changed.

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It's okay.

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It's going to be okay.

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And it was amazing because I actually was able to share my story with the lawyers at

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the place that I had the papers.

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And I talked to the one of the receptionists or something, and the story filtered through.

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And she was like, what?

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And I said, yeah, God changed everything in a heartbeat, like in a snap of the fingers.

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And so you moved back in together.

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And did things begin to change in your marriage?

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It did.

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I mean, instantly, I could see a softness that came on.

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I mean, he completely delivered him.

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He did have to go through a process, but he didn't have to go through rehab or anything

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like that.

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But he was definitely delivered from that without treatment, which is huge because-

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That's huge.

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Because that's highly addictive.

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It's highly addictive, very, very much.

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And so it was just, for me, I said, wow, okay, God, well, you really do have a big plan because

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He stepped into this.

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And ever since that time, I have told my husband, there's going to come a day where I'm going

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to share my testimony, our testimony together so people can hear.

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And here we are.

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And here we are.

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It was super hard, but-

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vision, the people perish.

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being a preferred future.

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And so one of the things about vision and also about faith, and they go hand in hand,

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you have a very strong faith.

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You have this thing, I've known you and you just have a love for God and a strong faith.

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Faith and circumstances don't always, it's like, you know, that you believe for something,

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but what you're seeing with your senses. And so being able to understand Hebrews 11, 1,

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right? That faith is being able to see what you can't see with the senses. And so it gave you

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that glimmer of hope and that ability to have persistence. You know, your faith held you,

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I can see a lot. And then to hold the space for the miracle.

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No, exactly. Because honestly, everyone around me didn't understand. They were supportive until I

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said, well, God did something different. He changed his heart. And this is what God's doing now. And I

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had people just like cut me off. They're like, no, you're definitely not in alignment. Okay.

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That's okay. This is a great lesson because when you're walking, what I know about walking down

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the road of faith is that a lot of times what you see in your circumstances doesn't line up and the

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voices around you. And so you've got voices that are not in alignment. So you're having to be true

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to this message in your heart and this faith and be persistent. Wow. So what was your biggest

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lesson out of all of this? I mean, I would say to never give up, you know, to really just,

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if God placed something in your heart, the thing is God never changes. He doesn't have,

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he may change circumstantially how you get there, but he doesn't change his mind, right? He knew

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what he wanted us to do. And so therefore it was going to happen. Yes, Kirk had to come into

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alignment and his heart had to change. And God would have used it somehow in another way,

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but his heart, his first plan was for us to be together and share our testimony so that

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other people could be free, but it takes faith. Beautiful. Beautiful. I have seen you apply

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your faith to every area of your life. I've seen you apply it, you know, in coaching. I get to be

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the privilege of being your coach and your willingness to change and transform. And so

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in your health and in your marriage, I've seen recently God do a new thing in the way you go

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about your life. So when I first met you, you were the epitome of the go, go, go, do, do, do,

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spinning lots of plates, juggling lots of things, jumping here, jumping there. And suddenly there

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was this peace and this quiet, and you were going about things very differently. Your business is

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Transformations by Christie, right? So we've talked about a health transformation. We've

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talked about a marriage. I mean, you are living your message, right? Tell us about that transformation

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from that, just doing what everybody wanted you to do, juggling endless plates, exhaustion,

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sickness. Tell us what happened there. Yeah, I think I really have been praying for a long time.

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And part of our connection, you know, and me working with you, God really started to slow

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things down for me and see it from a different perspective. And I think that, you know, I didn't

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understand what I knew was what I was trained to do. It's kind of like my mind had a path and I was

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following it. And it's the only path I knew. I had been working since I was 13 years old and I didn't

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know anything different. You know, I was always told you have to take care of yourself. No one

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else is going to take care of you. That was what my mom told me. My dad left when I was 13. So

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he wasn't around. He didn't help us or do anything. So it really solidified, but it almost

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made it to where I couldn't completely rely on God either. Even though I had great faith,

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there was still a peace. I've got to do it. I've got to make it happen.

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I have to make it happen. And then God will bless what I do or, you know, whatever that was.

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It's very, you know, it's very good that I was able to stop. I was able to. He just said,

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you know what? You can't have your business if I can't have your business. And I just took it.

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You can't have your business if I can't have your business. So I knew that I needed to put

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it on the altar. I put everything I had, everything that was close to my heart.

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Your business, your marriage, everything.

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Surrendered it to God.

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And I stopped. And I just was like, okay, show me what I need to do.

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And it literally, I mean, I saw when people were like, well, you can't just stop. Yes, I can.

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Because I need to, I need to learn a different way. This is not working.

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I can't have angst. I can't have these feelings.

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of, I'm not doing enough. Feeling like I am trying to spin all these plates. I need

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to have flow and peace and ease and grace with everything in my life.

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Yeah. And that's exactly what happened. Once you stopped and you

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surrendered, you had peace. Yeah. And so you began to do business in a

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different way. Yeah. And yet I know you've shared the story that blessings started

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coming, like clients were coming and business was coming. And so you were not

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in that go, go, go, go, go kind of mode. And yet your business was prospering.

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It was, yeah. I mean, and I don't have to worry anymore. I mean, it's not like I

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worried, but I'm just, I'm like, okay, well, I'm going to do these things. And what

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do you want me to do today, Lord? And, you know, I don't have to be thinking

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about how it's going to happen. Organically, God will just come in and

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start working. Right. And he's, and he's teaching me that, you know, I don't have

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to be under any obligation to anyone. It's, I'm free to do what I want.

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Has this been different, a freedom like that? Were you obligated to everybody

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before? There was a sense of obligation even with my parents. You know, it

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was, it was not a, it was not an unconditional love. And I love, you know, I

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love my parents, but at times it felt conditional. You know, if you do this,

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then you'll fully be loved. Or if you do that, and maybe that started with ice

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skating because I had to perform. Yeah. And it could have been all me, but that's

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just my perspective. So a lot of performing, a lot of, did you have some

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perfectionism? I had a lot of that when I first got married. Okay. Yeah. And so I'm

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really grateful I don't, I let go of that. When I had kids, I said, I can't do this.

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I'm going to be in a padded room if I keep trying to do this. And I know that I

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talked to you very recently and you were really almost in tears what God has done

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in your marriage, that just the restoring that is happening, the restoral and the

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love. Tell us a little bit about that. Yeah. I mean, I just, I just feel like the

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Lord has, has brought a whole, a whole newness to us, you know, and, and brought

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us together to where, you know, before it was like, he's over here, I'm over here.

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We're just kind of chugging through. And it's like, God has just, you know, brought

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us together. It's like when you're doing a dance, right? If you're dancing, if your

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partner's going to the left and you need to go to the right, it's not going to

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work. But now there's a flow that we both, you know, honor each other in, in what

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what's happening. And I think that, you know, it's, it's beautiful and it's, it's

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joyful and it's just, it's very special. And there, I wake up some days and I mean

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just a couple of days ago, actually. And I was like, I just love you so much. Thank

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you. You know, and I just, he just, he was like, okay, cool. You know, but it's got

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to feel so good for him. It's such a miracle. It's such a testimony. It's what

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it's about. You know, if we can, if we can love each other, love yourself first, if

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we can love each other that way, like Jesus loves us, if we can come to that

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place, then we're going to be able to do so much more in the world and with our

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loved ones, so much more.

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Yeah. I love that. So I'm quite sure that there's women or men watching you right

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now that are struggling. And we know we're in the middle of a pandemic. It's

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having horrendous effects on marriage because there's a lot of people are in

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the same home extended periods of time and they haven't worked through these

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things and they're not working in honor and considering, you know, leaving,

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considering just throwing in the towel, giving up. And I know this is a message

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that's super close to your heart. What would you say to that woman that's in

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the middle of the heat right now of all of this? What, what would you say to her?

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safe. You know, if there's danger, leave. It doesn't mean that the

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relationship's over. I had to leave because I felt it was not safe. That

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would be the first. And then I think that the other thing would be just to really

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seek God and, you know, and like know that he will, he will move mountains. And

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his heart when you got married was for you to be married forever. So just ask

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him, how, how can, how can I bring the transformation, the restoration, the

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reconciliation into my marriage?

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What's my part?

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What can I do? How can I, how can I transform?

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Yeah, because if we just sit and complain, it doesn't change anything. It

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really, you kind of bite the apple of Satan saying, Oh yeah, good. Keep eating

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that apple because you're not gonna, you can't even see. Your blinders are so

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strong.

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Yeah, yeah. Well, I noticed what you did with withholding to the vision and remembering what God said and having faith and

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Seeking him. It's almost like you have to I almost see like a bicycle handles

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Like you have to grab onto the handles, you know with God first, right?

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I'm not letting go of your word of what you promised of what you said

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And then at the same time I see that you've really invested and why you believe in coaching so much why you are a coach

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Yeah, you know you're doing it first yourself. Yeah, you're you're benefiting

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So I know you're so passionate, you know with with coaching others and I have a coach too

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and I've been coaching for a very long time, but you know a coach needs a coach absolutely and

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it allows you to continue to transform and see what your part is and

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So that's that's so beautiful

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Where can someone reach you what what's the next step if they're saying Christie, I'd like to hear your story

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I I want some transformation in my body. I want some transformation in my marriage. What's their next step?

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What would what can they do with you?

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yeah, I have a an offer for a special breakthrough a session with me and you can go to

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Transformation by Christie calm and it's KRI STI. Yes. Hey, are I STI? Okay?

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Wonderful and so they they can have a conversation with you and you can begin to give them the next step. Yes of stepping into

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Transformation. Yeah, what a beautiful

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Testimony. Thank you. Miracle powerful story. It's a miracle here. You are in year 33 of marriage

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Transformation in your body transformation in your marriage and a transformation coach now helping women

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To experience the same thing. What a beautiful work. Yeah, I really appreciate you being on the show

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And you know being willing to to share, you know what you went through in your own struggles

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Yeah, and I know I could see the tears you're super passionate about seeing women change

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I know that means a lot to you to have you know, what's happened in your life

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What what is the quote? I want to close with the quote you had a wonderful quote quote about your

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stepping stones

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it was such a beautiful quote and

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It was I saw it in something that that you wrote something. I wrote down you wrote it. It was just beautiful

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Oh that it was your yours your obstacles become stepping stones to your break. Yeah. Yeah, there it is. Yeah, I

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Think that that is a great way to wrap this up. No matter what obstacles

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Someone might be facing in your marriage and your health and whatever it is you might be going through

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See it as a stepping stone to your breakthrough and to begin to look inside

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Yeah, Christy, you're beautiful inside and out. You have a beautiful message a beautiful heart. Thanks for being on the show today

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thank you for having and

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Thanks to your husband for allowing the story to be shared. Don't give him a hug. Thank him for that and I

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Stand in alignment with you. I touch and agree that there's gonna be many many many lives around the world

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transform marriages transform

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Bodies transformed. Yeah, because of your willingness

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To lead by example. Yeah, so thanks for being on the show. Thank you