And welcome.
We are so glad that you're here.
You're in for a treat today.
You're going to meet a beautiful woman of God, beautiful on the inside and out, who
has got quite a story.
I think you're going to be incredibly inspired.
I know I have been.
Let me introduce you to Christy Heffelfinger.
She is the founder of Transformations by Christy.
You're going to understand why that's a fantastic name and experience the hope and the possibility
of transformation.
Christy, thank you for being on this show.
I'm super excited for the Prosper TV viewers to hear your story.
Your story has touched me deeply.
It's moved me and it is extremely inspirational.
But we'll back up.
We won't start at the end.
We'll start at the beginning.
You have been in the beauty industry for quite a while.
Yes.
Is that your background?
Yeah.
I started in the beauty industry when I was in high school, actually.
High school.
Yeah.
From there, the Lord just took me through a series of changes that happened through
COVID, actually.
And that's where I began doing health and wellness transformational coaching.
So COVID was actually a positive thing for you.
It was.
It was actually a huge blessing.
It allowed me to take a stop in my regular busy time of life and just really reflect
on what God wanted for me in my life and how that looked and how it could change.
Yeah.
You know, I got to thinking, and we talked about this before the show, it's not really
a big jump between what you were doing, having a salon and being a coach, right?
Right.
Exactly.
A lot of coaching.
I should have a degree in psychology by now, but yeah, it actually was my training ground.
I've done it for so many years and stepping into this arena, it feels like it fits perfectly
like a glove.
Yeah.
Just right in line.
I know with my hairdresser, it's like, you know, after I get my hair done, it's like,
thank you for the therapy.
Yeah.
Exactly.
Yeah.
So, yeah.
Wonderful.
So you've got two areas that you're very passionate about that are in your coaching.
It's part of the transformation.
You're about transformation, spirit, soul, and body.
Yes.
Two particular areas from your own experience.
One is health and one has to do with marriage and relationships.
So let's start with the health.
Tell us what got you interested in that and, you know, how did, how did you end up with
health coaching?
Yeah.
I stepped into health coaching.
I've always been very, very healthy.
I've skated since I was, I skated since I was four years old.
And so health was a huge part of my life.
About, I would say it's been about 10 years now, but I was in a couple car accidents and
one was very severe.
So it really stopped my life as I knew it.
I wasn't able to work for a while behind the chair.
And then also, you know, I spent most of my time at doctors, going to chiropractic
and, you know, acupuncture and all of that, a lot of pain and, you know, just, it was,
it was not a good time.
And they were really wanting to do some surgery on my neck because they were, you know, saying
that that's the only way they could relieve the pain.
So, you know, I said, no, that's not going to happen.
God's going to heal me.
He's going to make it right.
And so through a series of things that, those things that I was doing in prayer, God took
me to a good place.
Unfortunately, after that all happened, I had gained a bunch of weight and that was
just something that it just didn't come right off.
And so I really looked into a lot of the homeopathic, you know, type of ways I changed my eating.
A lot of, I had a lot of issues, even anaphylactic reactions to medications and just even topical
things that you get at the drugstore.
So it changed a lot of things for me.
So I think that it made me very aware of health and what you should be doing with your body.
But I knew I still needed to lose the weight.
So in, you know, in doing that, I found a great program that was able to lose the weight
and, you know, I just felt so much better about myself.
Yeah, it does it affects every area of our life really does you don't I don't think you realize how much
It affects your
Your personality even though you feel like you're very outgoing. I think I was hiding behind
The weight and hiding behind my clothes and and you know
And it I didn't realize how it affected me till it started coming off. Okay, and you feel a freedom
So it was really so you you were able to experience that and then you know being trained as a health coach to be able
to help other people
Experience you probably had a lot of compassion
Absolutely and feeling it. Yeah, so that's a big area of your life helping people improve their health
And I know you've got so many success stories and so many people you've helped in that area
There was something else going on in your life. Yes that
Had been going on for years and so in one sense the weight was really
affecting you
But in addition to that you had something going on in your marriage
And I know your husband's been very gracious to say it's okay to share you both have a heart that perhaps in your story
Other people can experience transformation. I know that's both of your heart. Yeah, so
Take us to the beginning. What happened? What was the challenge with you and your husband?
And you've been married how long first of all, we've been married for 33 years 33 years
So, okay. All right, it's been a long experience. You got a little tread on your tires. Yeah. All right. So yeah, it was
You know, it was how long into your marriage. Did the challenge start first of all, let's kind of paint it
That was probably ten years ago around the same time actually the same time
So you're dealing with the weight and the accidents and all of that trauma and stress. Yeah, and you've got something going on
Okay. Yeah, so it was just it was a really dark time because it was it was hard my husband
To give a little background on him. He has always had a ton of
Pain in his body. I don't think I really understood that when I met him. He was 23
He had already been in this car, you know in in a accident in his semi truck
He drives a concrete truck. Okay, and so they really the doctor said that he should not have lived
He should have died. And so I knew at that point that you know, God had saved him
and so
You know kind of put things in perspective now when I had when I was pregnant with our second daughter
He was in a head-on collision again in his in his semi and he shouldn't have lived through that either
And he made it. I mean it was it was really amazing and I knew that God had a huge calling
I didn't know what I didn't know why I didn't know how
But I knew that you know, God wouldn't just put him through that and have him go through all this pain
for nothing, you know, so
when
Right around that time, you know the 10-year mark whatever that was
You know, he had been trying, you know often on meds and different things to try to
Regulate the pain and of course he's drive so he can't be on meds crazy meds or anything like that
Well, that was right around the time that oxycontin and oxycodone had come out and his doctor
Had said, you know, it's not addictive. It's fine
You're gonna be fine. Well, he was out of pain. So for the first time in many years, he was out of pain
But here's the problem
he had to continue to take more and more to feel no pain and
Over time he couldn't get enough from one doctor. So he was going to two or three doctors
getting different prescriptions and they never checked to see if
He was you know had a prescription from another doctor
So at this point he was starting to be addicted so it was going to many doctors and getting it
Did you see a change in him and his personality? How did that affect your marriage, you know having all this happening?
Yeah, it was it was like he was a stranger and he was very disconnected
Like numb from the you know, it wasn't even numb. It was it was it was scary
It was it was like I didn't recognize your husband
No
it was kind of like what you see when you watch the
Programs where people are on drugs and they're getting arrested or they're okay, you know
that feeling
That that thing that you see was what I saw in my husband
And so I'm living with this man and I'm thinking huh? Okay, we got a problem here
But I didn't I didn't really know what to do. I'd never dealt with that before I didn't have a clue
what am I you know, what what how I didn't have a good for that and
Then it it just became apparent because his personality changed so much that he was he was actually starting to you know
Be more angry a little bit more aggressive, you know
Never physically hurt me or anything, but I knew because our kids were still home
It was not safe.
So we literally had to leave.
Okay.
Wow.
So we moved.
Yeah.
And we were in separate homes for, I would say, a little over a year.
That must have been really hard.
It was very difficult.
And really, I think the hardest part is that, you know, the Lord about 17 years ago had
told me that He was going to use what my marriage, my husband and I, this is before any of this
happened, to help millions of other people.
And I had no idea what that meant.
But I did know that He gave me an open vision of the people that I would be helping.
I couldn't see their faces.
I could just see from as far as the eye could see as far as the sky is the sky, people just
connecting arms with my husband and I, and that it was going to change their lives.
And it would be the only hope they had for their marriage.
So I had no idea.
But when I would have trouble, you know, everyone has trouble in their marriage.
I would have that vision come back to me.
And I was like, okay, God, you know, I can get through this because I have to do it not
just for us, but for them.
And so, you know, kind of fast forward to this.
It kind of broke my heart, honestly.
Because I knew that God had a plan, but I was like, this is not your plan.
You told me we needed to stay married and now we're not even in the same home.
And actually, you know, I felt that the Lord was saying His heart's not going to change.
He's not going to.
It's over.
That's it.
So I had to get a lawyer and I had papers and I signed the papers and I knew that I
had to send them to Him.
And God had finally kind of got me to that point where my heart was ready.
And I said, okay, well, then you have another plan because you always have a plan B. So
I don't know what you're going to do, but okay, I can do this.
And stepping into that, I get a phone call and it was my husband.
And he called me and he was bawling like a baby.
And he said, I don't know what's wrong.
I can't stop crying.
I've been crying for two weeks.
I'm at work.
I cry.
I drive.
I cry.
I don't know what to do.
Can you please help me?
And I said, well, I said, I can't help you.
But I said, I can give you some people who can help you.
So I gave him some phone numbers of counselors that I knew, Christian counselors.
And he called and made an appointment.
And he wanted me there.
So we both, you know, kind of walked him through.
And from that point, when he called me, when I got off the phone, the Lord said His heart
changed.
And I said, well, wait a minute, like, okay, you've literally got me over here.
Now you're saying I'm going over here.
So what does that mean?
He said, His heart changed.
It's okay.
It's going to be okay.
And it was amazing because I actually was able to share my story with the lawyers at
the place that I had the papers.
And I talked to the one of the receptionists or something, and the story filtered through.
And she was like, what?
And I said, yeah, God changed everything in a heartbeat, like in a snap of the fingers.
And so you moved back in together.
And did things begin to change in your marriage?
It did.
I mean, instantly, I could see a softness that came on.
I mean, he completely delivered him.
He did have to go through a process, but he didn't have to go through rehab or anything
like that.
But he was definitely delivered from that without treatment, which is huge because-
That's huge.
Because that's highly addictive.
It's highly addictive, very, very much.
And so it was just, for me, I said, wow, okay, God, well, you really do have a big plan because
He stepped into this.
And ever since that time, I have told my husband, there's going to come a day where I'm going
to share my testimony, our testimony together so people can hear.
And here we are.
And so this is a huge, huge moment for me because I stuck to it.
I persevered.
I knew that God was saying what He was saying, and it was not easy.
It was super hard, but-
You know, I often think about the power of a vision because scripture says that without
vision, the people perish.
And so a lot of times it says the vision is what carries us, what pushes us, and a vision
being a preferred future.
And so one of the things about vision and also about faith, and they go hand in hand,
you have a very strong faith.
You have this thing, I've known you and you just have a love for God and a strong faith.
Faith and circumstances don't always, it's like, you know, that you believe for something,
but what you're seeing with your senses. And so being able to understand Hebrews 11, 1,
right? That faith is being able to see what you can't see with the senses. And so it gave you
that glimmer of hope and that ability to have persistence. You know, your faith held you,
I can see a lot. And then to hold the space for the miracle.
No, exactly. Because honestly, everyone around me didn't understand. They were supportive until I
said, well, God did something different. He changed his heart. And this is what God's doing now. And I
had people just like cut me off. They're like, no, you're definitely not in alignment. Okay.
That's okay. This is a great lesson because when you're walking, what I know about walking down
the road of faith is that a lot of times what you see in your circumstances doesn't line up and the
voices around you. And so you've got voices that are not in alignment. So you're having to be true
to this message in your heart and this faith and be persistent. Wow. So what was your biggest
lesson out of all of this? I mean, I would say to never give up, you know, to really just,
if God placed something in your heart, the thing is God never changes. He doesn't have,
he may change circumstantially how you get there, but he doesn't change his mind, right? He knew
what he wanted us to do. And so therefore it was going to happen. Yes, Kirk had to come into
alignment and his heart had to change. And God would have used it somehow in another way,
but his heart, his first plan was for us to be together and share our testimony so that
other people could be free, but it takes faith. Beautiful. Beautiful. I have seen you apply
your faith to every area of your life. I've seen you apply it, you know, in coaching. I get to be
the privilege of being your coach and your willingness to change and transform. And so
in your health and in your marriage, I've seen recently God do a new thing in the way you go
about your life. So when I first met you, you were the epitome of the go, go, go, do, do, do,
spinning lots of plates, juggling lots of things, jumping here, jumping there. And suddenly there
was this peace and this quiet, and you were going about things very differently. Your business is
Transformations by Christie, right? So we've talked about a health transformation. We've
talked about a marriage. I mean, you are living your message, right? Tell us about that transformation
from that, just doing what everybody wanted you to do, juggling endless plates, exhaustion,
sickness. Tell us what happened there. Yeah, I think I really have been praying for a long time.
And part of our connection, you know, and me working with you, God really started to slow
things down for me and see it from a different perspective. And I think that, you know, I didn't
understand what I knew was what I was trained to do. It's kind of like my mind had a path and I was
following it. And it's the only path I knew. I had been working since I was 13 years old and I didn't
know anything different. You know, I was always told you have to take care of yourself. No one
else is going to take care of you. That was what my mom told me. My dad left when I was 13. So
he wasn't around. He didn't help us or do anything. So it really solidified, but it almost
made it to where I couldn't completely rely on God either. Even though I had great faith,
there was still a peace. I've got to do it. I've got to make it happen.
I have to make it happen. And then God will bless what I do or, you know, whatever that was.
It's very, you know, it's very good that I was able to stop. I was able to. He just said,
you know what? You can't have your business if I can't have your business. And I just took it.
You can't have your business if I can't have your business. So I knew that I needed to put
it on the altar. I put everything I had, everything that was close to my heart.
Your business, your marriage, everything.
On the altar.
Surrendered it to God.
And I stopped. And I just was like, okay, show me what I need to do.
Hmm.
And it literally, I mean, I saw when people were like, well, you can't just stop. Yes, I can.
Wow.
Because I need to, I need to learn a different way. This is not working.
I can't have angst. I can't have these feelings.
of, I'm not doing enough. Feeling like I am trying to spin all these plates. I need
to have flow and peace and ease and grace with everything in my life.
Yeah. And that's exactly what happened. Once you stopped and you
surrendered, you had peace. Yeah. And so you began to do business in a
different way. Yeah. And yet I know you've shared the story that blessings started
coming, like clients were coming and business was coming. And so you were not
in that go, go, go, go, go kind of mode. And yet your business was prospering.
It was, yeah. I mean, and I don't have to worry anymore. I mean, it's not like I
worried, but I'm just, I'm like, okay, well, I'm going to do these things. And what
do you want me to do today, Lord? And, you know, I don't have to be thinking
about how it's going to happen. Organically, God will just come in and
start working. Right. And he's, and he's teaching me that, you know, I don't have
to be under any obligation to anyone. It's, I'm free to do what I want.
Has this been different, a freedom like that? Were you obligated to everybody
before? There was a sense of obligation even with my parents. You know, it
was, it was not a, it was not an unconditional love. And I love, you know, I
love my parents, but at times it felt conditional. You know, if you do this,
then you'll fully be loved. Or if you do that, and maybe that started with ice
skating because I had to perform. Yeah. And it could have been all me, but that's
just my perspective. So a lot of performing, a lot of, did you have some
perfectionism? I had a lot of that when I first got married. Okay. Yeah. And so I'm
really grateful I don't, I let go of that. When I had kids, I said, I can't do this.
I'm going to be in a padded room if I keep trying to do this. And I know that I
talked to you very recently and you were really almost in tears what God has done
in your marriage, that just the restoring that is happening, the restoral and the
love. Tell us a little bit about that. Yeah. I mean, I just, I just feel like the
Lord has, has brought a whole, a whole newness to us, you know, and, and brought
us together to where, you know, before it was like, he's over here, I'm over here.
We're just kind of chugging through. And it's like, God has just, you know, brought
us together. It's like when you're doing a dance, right? If you're dancing, if your
partner's going to the left and you need to go to the right, it's not going to
work. But now there's a flow that we both, you know, honor each other in, in what
what's happening. And I think that, you know, it's, it's beautiful and it's, it's
joyful and it's just, it's very special. And there, I wake up some days and I mean
just a couple of days ago, actually. And I was like, I just love you so much. Thank
you. You know, and I just, he just, he was like, okay, cool. You know, but it's got
to feel so good for him. It's such a miracle. It's such a testimony. It's what
it's about. You know, if we can, if we can love each other, love yourself first, if
we can love each other that way, like Jesus loves us, if we can come to that
place, then we're going to be able to do so much more in the world and with our
loved ones, so much more.
Yeah. I love that. So I'm quite sure that there's women or men watching you right
now that are struggling. And we know we're in the middle of a pandemic. It's
having horrendous effects on marriage because there's a lot of people are in
the same home extended periods of time and they haven't worked through these
things and they're not working in honor and considering, you know, leaving,
considering just throwing in the towel, giving up. And I know this is a message
that's super close to your heart. What would you say to that woman that's in
the middle of the heat right now of all of this? What, what would you say to her?
You know, I would say that you really need to, first of all, make sure you're
safe. You know, if there's danger, leave. It doesn't mean that the
relationship's over. I had to leave because I felt it was not safe. That
would be the first. And then I think that the other thing would be just to really
seek God and, you know, and like know that he will, he will move mountains. And
his heart when you got married was for you to be married forever. So just ask
him, how, how can, how can I bring the transformation, the restoration, the
reconciliation into my marriage?
What's my part?
Yeah, what's my part?
What can I do? How can I, how can I transform?
Yeah, because if we just sit and complain, it doesn't change anything. It
really, you kind of bite the apple of Satan saying, Oh yeah, good. Keep eating
that apple because you're not gonna, you can't even see. Your blinders are so
strong.
Yeah, yeah. Well, I noticed what you did with withholding to the vision and remembering what God said and having faith and
Seeking him. It's almost like you have to I almost see like a bicycle handles
Like you have to grab onto the handles, you know with God first, right?
I'm not letting go of your word of what you promised of what you said
And then at the same time I see that you've really invested and why you believe in coaching so much why you are a coach
Yeah, you know you're doing it first yourself. Yeah, you're you're benefiting
So I know you're so passionate, you know with with coaching others and I have a coach too
and I've been coaching for a very long time, but you know a coach needs a coach absolutely and
it allows you to continue to transform and see what your part is and
So that's that's so beautiful
Where can someone reach you what what's the next step if they're saying Christie, I'd like to hear your story
I I want some transformation in my body. I want some transformation in my marriage. What's their next step?
What would what can they do with you?
yeah, I have a an offer for a special breakthrough a session with me and you can go to
Transformation by Christie calm and it's KRI STI. Yes. Hey, are I STI? Okay?
Wonderful and so they they can have a conversation with you and you can begin to give them the next step. Yes of stepping into
Transformation. Yeah, what a beautiful
Testimony. Thank you. Miracle powerful story. It's a miracle here. You are in year 33 of marriage
Transformation in your body transformation in your marriage and a transformation coach now helping women
To experience the same thing. What a beautiful work. Yeah, I really appreciate you being on the show
And you know being willing to to share, you know what you went through in your own struggles
Yeah, and I know I could see the tears you're super passionate about seeing women change
I know that means a lot to you to have you know, what's happened in your life
What what is the quote? I want to close with the quote you had a wonderful quote quote about your
Obstacles become
stepping stones
it was such a beautiful quote and
It was I saw it in something that that you wrote something. I wrote down you wrote it. It was just beautiful
Oh that it was your yours your obstacles become stepping stones to your break. Yeah. Yeah, there it is. Yeah, I
Think that that is a great way to wrap this up. No matter what obstacles
Someone might be facing in your marriage and your health and whatever it is you might be going through
See it as a stepping stone to your breakthrough and to begin to look inside
Yeah, Christy, you're beautiful inside and out. You have a beautiful message a beautiful heart. Thanks for being on the show today
thank you for having and
Thanks to your husband for allowing the story to be shared. Don't give him a hug. Thank him for that and I
I
Stand in alignment with you. I touch and agree that there's gonna be many many many lives around the world
transform marriages transform
Bodies transformed. Yeah, because of your willingness
To lead by example. Yeah, so thanks for being on the show. Thank you