So, welcome to the Bible-based spiritual equipping call.
We are on number five on this series, The Four Agreements.
Been pulling from the book by that title, The Four Agreements, and I've wanted for a
long time to teach that, to bring in maybe a Judeo-Christian biblical perspective to
that.
Not that it needed any adding to it.
It's so much truth and so much wisdom just as a standalone, but I thought it'd be a very
amazing one to just really bring to the light as we do this study.
And so I want to welcome you all to the call that we have each week, and let's just start
with prayer and invite the Holy Spirit to be our teacher.
So Spirit of Truth, we just thank you and we invite you to open all of our spiritual
senses, our spiritual eyes, our spiritual ears, our just every spiritual sense to hear
what you are saying, what we need to understand, what we need to learn for this next step in
our journey.
So we just ask that you will just increase our level of understanding.
Let the words of my mouth, the meditations of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord
my God, in Jesus' name, Amen.
So we've been talking about the four agreements, and the key verse that I've been using from
scripture for this whole teaching has been Romans 12.
And it is the idea of not being conformed, and I've given you that word, what it really
means in the Greek, it's like the jello mold, not letting yourself be shaped into a particular
mold of the world, in other words of the collective thought process of the general
matrix that we live in.
Not allowing that to shape you, but instead scripture says be transformed.
And it talks about how this transformation happens.
There is a renewing of the mind, take that word renew, to do it again, re means to do
it again, new, to make your thinking new again.
And that's my prayer as we go through this, that some of the thinking that you've had,
the old thinking that we talked about the process, how you got that old thinking, how
your beliefs were formed, someone, an authority figure in your life, a parent, a church, a
pastor, whatever, a teacher, hooked your attention as they were domesticating you, as they were
teaching you how to dream, how to live, how to think, what is good, what is bad, how you
should do things, how to do life, how to dream, it hooked your attention.
And the idea is to now have a level of awareness to realize that that thing that you bought
into, that attention, they hooked your attention, but hooking your attention has no meaning
until you come into agreement with it.
But the power of agreement now begins to change you and your belief system and your mind set,
mind set, where you have your mind set.
And so you come into agreement as they hook your attention and now it becomes your own,
it becomes part of who you are, it becomes your thoughts.
And the idea is that it's not necessarily based on truth.
And that's something that if we don't have a level of awareness, we just think that everything
we think is true.
Well, of course it's true because I'm thinking it, it must be true.
And why would it not be true?
I'm thinking it, it's what I believe, it's how I've done things, how I've always done
things, that's my worldview, it must be the view of the world, it must be the way things
are.
And I gave you some examples in the past from scripture that it's not necessarily, not only
not based on truth, it might not, and likely may not even be lined up with God and what
he thinks about things and how life really is.
And I gave the example from Matthew 15 where they had a whole issue just as an example
of the way they washed their hands before eating.
And the Pharisees had, I mean, that's what made you holy or not holy, you did that or
you were out.
And here's Jesus' disciples just showing up and eating and they're not doing that.
And of course, after your attention has been hooked and you come into agreement, now the
internal judge gets set up inside of you, now you're judging yourself and you're judging
others.
And so here comes the Pharisees judging that they must, Jesus' disciples must be less holy
And so now we begin to have conflict and we begin to have
this idea my opinion is right yours not I got a proof mine and
Now we're going to begin even to gather other people and this is how this is how conflict happens
And the fact of the matter is there's thousands of these agreements that we've made with ourself with others with how we see life
With God with society with parents with our loved ones
but the the ones that we're really talking about in this series as you're being transformed by the renewing of your mind and
As I'm being transformed by the renewing of my mind is to just push the pause button and go. Whoa, okay
This is the agreements that I've made. I'm going to increase in awareness and begin to see what agreements have I made what what?
perceptions
have I
What color glasses have I put on to see how the world operates?
How am I seeing the people in my life? How am I seeing my life? How am I seeing my circumstances?
How am I seeing myself? It's like this pause button where you go. Whoa, whoa, whoa
All this stuff I'm thinking
It may not be true
It may not be lined up with God. In fact, you know when Jesus answered he says you make null and void
the Word of God by your traditions literally you could be nullifying
the amazing life that God had for you because of these thoughts that we've held on these agreements that we've made and
We begin that this this shapes our our
personality this shapes
our whole
worldview
Whether life is good or life is bad or I can live the life of my dreams or I'm a I'm a victim or I'm
A victor or I mean it literally shapes every area of your life
these agreements that you've made are shaping you've made agreements around money and
It's shaping how much or how little you have you've made agreements around
relationships and it's shaping the quality of those relate like literally every
Aspect of your life can be traced down to these agreements. So it really is worthwhile to
Stop and push the pause button something that that most people don't do they just go through life
And and life just does them and it just is and so this whole idea of being
transformed by the
Renewing the making new of your mind and the way to make it new is you have to be willing to have a clean slate
You have to be willing to hold every belief system that you have every agreement
you know, I had a
Really good friend say to me, you know, make sure everything you're teaching you you hold it lightly
Well like everything in life hold it lightly hold it with an open hand
Because all I'm sharing with you today is you know
What's in in my heart in my mind at this moment and it's a place for you to reflect and maybe increase awareness
but you're gonna have to search it out and see what you're going to take and
What you're not going to take out of that and and know that we have to hold ourselves lightly and be willing
to change
Be willing to to move freely
Be willing to not be rigid, you know, if you look at sports
If you look at swimming in particular swimming is really a demonstration of this, you know
If you haven't learned how to swim, you know, you get in the water and you're just sinking you're uptight
you're tense and you're just sinking to the bottom and
and you fight and you struggle and the more you fight the more you struggle the more you're sinking and
It's not until you come to this place where you can hold your breath
Relax and float. I mean the first thing you learn about swimming is learning how to just just float
How did just be?
How to be still how how not to resist the water how not to resist
And and I think this is life the the more that we can move into the state of allowing and less of this resistance
The smoother and easier we glide and the more fun
this swimming
happens and and can become and
The more we can just lighten up and just kind of glide through it. I'm getting a picture in my mind of
Dancing it's the same way the more the more rigid and especially if you're dancing with a partner
You're dancing with God to have your feet so light that wherever your partner goes,
you can just glide there and go.
And it takes a surrender, it takes an allowance, it takes a stopping of this thing's struggle.
And if part of the agreements you've made is that life is a struggle, that's going to
be really hard for you.
If part of the agreements you've made is that everything is about hard work and fight and
push through it and a lot of people I see have an agreement that's like a war agreement.
You know, we're in a war and we're going to win this war and if that's your agreement
with life, that's what you're going to get.
And I'm choosing to see it more as a divine dance that we just dance through this.
And so there's all these agreements that you've made that make you who you are today.
And the idea of the four agreements is to hold those lightly and to take on four new
agreements that may serve you better, that could break thousands of micro-agreements
that you have and eliminate a lot of suffering, a lot of unnecessary energy leaks, a lot of
unnecessary mental stress and striving and put joy back into your life.
And so to live this life, if you want your life to be one of joy, if you want it to be
one of fulfillment, it's going to require courage.
You have to find the courage to break those agreements that are not love-based but are
fear-based and take back your personal power.
Because those agreements that come from fear are just expending a lot of energy.
They are a pull on you, they are a drain on you, they're aging you, they're creating dis-ease.
And so you have to have the courage to be willing to challenge your own thinking, isn't
that funny?
To challenge your own belief systems and these belief systems you might have held on to from
as long as you can remember forever, having the courage to be able to challenge those
and look at them from a different level.
This is the renewing of the mind that brings about transformation.
So we went through the first agreement, which we spent a few weeks on it, be impeccable
with your word.
And the word impeccable, of course, means not sin, not sin.
And so the key, if I summarize what we did with the be impeccable with your word, the
key is number one, awareness.
This whole thing begins with awareness, everything that we're doing begins with awareness.
And so begin to have an awareness of the power that is contained in our words.
You'll no longer just think of words as something that just happens, words that you can just
flippantly say, things that can come in and out of your mouth, words that you receive,
words that you speak.
You'll no longer look at words as just the stuff that has no meaning, but you'll begin
to understand so much power in words and so much potential for good with words and healing
for good and life with words, but also so much potential for damage and destruction.
And so the key is not sinning with your words and particularly not sinning against yourself,
not using your words against yourself, not violating yourself with your thoughts or your
words.
And so number one, when you're dealing with impeccable, the word is just being aware of
the power of words.
The entire universe was created by words.
And so when you understand the power of words, the whole universe was created.
God, in the beginning, he spoke and he said, let there be light and there was light.
And we are co-creators and we're made in the image and likeness of God.
And so our words likewise contain power to create.
Our words are creating our reality today.
Much of what you see, all of what you see really, all that you're experiencing right
now is simply a combination of the thoughts and beliefs that you've held onto, the emotions
you've attached to that and the words that you've spoken.
The words manifested the thoughts and emotions that you were holding.
So when you begin to understand that your word is the power that God gave you to create
And through your words, you manifest everything.
You become much more deliberate with your words.
You become much more strategic.
You now look at your words as a tool, as a vehicle, not just something that comes mindlessly
out of your mouth, but you become much more deliberate.
and you begin to understand that everything has a vocabulary, fear has a
different vocabulary, different use of words than love does, science has a
vocabulary, faith has a vocabulary, manifesting has a vocabulary and so you
begin to learn the vocabulary of that which you desire, you begin to master the
vocabulary of that which you desire, you meditate on it, you speak it and as you
understand that your vocabulary is your way of having dominion over a subject,
language, words gives you dominion. Proverbs 18 25 should be memorized and
ingrained by now with you. Proverbs 18, I'm sorry 21, Proverbs 18 21 says death,
think about that death, the end of destruction, death and life, think about
that birth, creation, death and life are where? In the power, where's the power? Of
the tongue, the tongue has so much power, scripture compares it to the rudder on
a ship that takes the direction where the ship goes, little tiny thing that
turning one direction or another completely changes the direction that
the boat or the ship goes, so death or life whichever you're experiencing is in
the power of the tongue and we, scripture says right there in Proverbs 18 21, we
eat the fruit of it, your life is bearing fruit right now whether you like it or
not it's bearing fruit and that fruit has everything to do with the thoughts
you've thought, the emotions you've wrapped around those thoughts and the
words that you speak, so you see language and words give you dominion, I believe
this is why the first thing once Adam was created as God got him involved in
creating and right away God had him start naming as a way of taking dominion,
start having him name all the animals and all the creatures, this was the way
for Adam to begin to rule in his environment and have dominion over it, so
when you think about this impeccability of the words, you understand that your
words are the way that you commune with God, your thoughts and your words, they
are the way you grow your spirit, remember you are spirit, soul and body
and your words are shaping all three, your words are shaping your body, your
body is very plastic, we now understand neuroplasticity, the brain is plastic, the
body is plastic, your body is shaping to the thoughts, emotions and words that
you're speaking and so it's the way you're shaping your body, it's the way
you're shaping your soul which is your mind, will and emotions and it's the way
you're shaping your spirit, you can be growing your spirit or shrinking your
spirit. Tongues, it's so interesting that one of the spiritual gifts is the
gift of speaking in tongues because tongues allow you to communicate from
your spirit directly to God's Spirit without the conscious mind getting
involved, it's kind of like essential oils, it's why I had Dr. Jonathan
formulate the prosper oil, why the prosper oil is having so much effect
because it has a similar effect to tongues, instead of dealing with the
conscious mind and the lies we've been speaking and the agreements we've made
and where we're stuck, the prosper oil which is the oldest first medicine is
going directly to your subconscious mind, to your limbic center, your emotional
center of your brain, in your middle brain and allowing change to happen,
going to every cell in your body without your conscious mind having anything to
do with it. Well, it's the same thing with prayer and speaking in tongues, it's
allowing you to bypass all of these lies and agreements that we've made and just
commune spirit to spirit and essential oils, there's these ways to do
this to break out of these agreements, there's these tools and this is why I
bring these tools to you in literal form like prosper oil and in teaching. So
your words give you dominion, your words allow you to commune with God to grow
your body, spirit, soul, your words are the way that you create, your words are the
way you manifest that which you want in life. I mean the original law of
attraction, look at what Jesus said, he said whatever you ask, those are words
for in prayer, having faith, faith is coming into agreement so that your
belief system becomes faith.
So, whatever you ask for in prayer, having faith, really believing it, you will receive
it.
There's the whole law of attraction.
There's manifesting right there.
Using your words to ask for that which you desire, taking the emotions, the thoughts,
the faith, believing that you will, then you have it.
That's manifesting.
That's why when I do the manifesting coaching program that starts in September, this is
a huge part of manifesting is learning how your words work in the manifestation process.
Words help you take authority over a situation.
It is that part of when God said that he made us in his image and in his likeness and he
told us to go forth and take dominion.
You have dominion.
You have authority over that which concerns you.
You don't have it over other human beings because each human being has that over themselves.
But you have dominion and authority for your reality, your life, what you're manifesting.
And when Jesus walked by and cursed that fig tree and the fig tree withered all up down
to the roots and the disciples were completely shocked like, what in the world?
It was with words.
And when they were so shocked, he turned it right back on them and said, truly, I say
to you, if you have faith, if you don't doubt, because doubt will sabotage this, if you
have faith, then not only what you'll do, what I did to this fig tree, but even if you
say, that's words, if you say to this mountain, be taken up and cast into the sea, it'll be
done.
Well, I would propose that mountain could be anything standing in your way.
That mountain can be the mountain of debt and finances.
That mountain can be the mountain of dis-ease.
That mountain can be the mountain of lack, I mean, relationships, whatever.
You can say, that's called taking authority with your words.
So words allow you to commune with God, grow your spirit.
Words allow you to create and manifest.
Words allow you to take authority over a situation.
Words allow you to either heal or bring dis-ease.
And so this is why we must be impeccable with our words.
We must be careful about sinning with our words.
You know, the first time I heard the definition of sin, I know the biblical definition of
missing the mark and all that.
But I love what Jonathan says when he says, sin is self-inflicted nonsense.
And so being impeccable with your word is being aware and conscious of this self-inflicted
nonsense that we're putting on ourselves and now beginning to take back our power of understanding
the gift we have is this tongue and this ability to speak, this ability to heal, this ability
to bring life, this ability to manifest, this ability to encourage, this ability...
What if you used your words to appreciate?
That's something that I've just been really thinking a lot about, appreciating others
and appreciating myself.
If you read any of Abraham Hicks or Jerry Hicks, Jerry and Esther Hicks, if you read
any of their works, when Abraham is speaking, he says that appreciation is as close to source
energy, as close to God's energy as you can get.
So when you're walking, I think this is why we have the idea with God of praise, of worship.
And when it deals with other human beings of appreciation and that which we appreciate,
we attract.
And so just being deliberate in appreciating yourself, what impeccability instead of sinning
against yourself, what are you appreciating about yourself?
And what are you appreciating in those people that God's brought in your life?
It just changes everything.
So that was the first of the four agreements we dealt with of being impeccable with our
word.
And then we've stepped in the last week or two on agreement number two, which is don't
take anything personally.
Don't take anything personally.
And I think these four agreements really build on each other.
So part of being impeccable with your word is not taking anything personally.
And the idea of taking things personally, first of all, in order to not take things
personally, you have to break the belief that this is all about you.
He calls it in the book personal importance.
Thinking that whatever you're thinking is truth.
you have to get to the place where you realize it's your own dream and it's your own mindset and
it's your own imagination so let's just stop there for a second and have a chance for you guys to
check in and what's jumping out now as you've heard this for a number of weeks before anything
just really hitting you any application that you've been making over the past few weeks
any questions let's just pause right here before i go into the next level
hi frank it's uh i've been known to speak my mind without thinking as in you know when you're done
stick your foot in your mouth and feel like a heel or now though i'm still not perfect by any means
but i have more thought process going before the lips go and that i appreciate personally plus
like you know the the tongue is a sword and i have been told and i can see back
through my life i i could really hurt you with just my tonality and the choice of my words
and it may not even be what my brain's thinking but it's what comes out of my mouth
in the wrong text and then it takes a lot of time and effort to fix it
it's really good it really is a form of self-control isn't it
correct yeah and i've also come to find out when you say self-control i can hardly control myself
so what makes me even think i can control anybody yeah that's that's an illusion isn't it the fact
that you could think you could change or control someone i cannot control anybody but i can control
my reaction to what they say to or think or look yeah talk or walk but that's the challenge the
biggest challenge is to control myself of whatever it takes that's response or non-response that's
that's all you have that is that is so good that's good thank you for sharing that i imagine
how different you know the i i think i saw something on facebook or whatever um and and
i couldn't i don't think i could even i could even quote it again but it caught my attention about
be careful what you speak to a child uh because it's very hard to repair as an adult or something
to that effect and you know um how how how carelessly we can just say things not knowing
that it could affect um for good or for bad this whole idea of of of the power of life and death
being in in the tongue and so from all angles the the influence that we can do for good or for evil
in ourself and in our and others and the ability to create healing or disease and the ability to
manifest that which you desire and the ability to bring um peace and joy into relationships i i i
think how much of relationship problems is just the mouth and the tongue and what's spoken you
know so fascinating thank you thank you anybody else any any questions comments feedbacks before i
go on
something that you just said was kind of interesting because i i have been known for
being in my own head quite a bit and overthinking things and the fact that the cost for oil works so
well with me is because it's passing all of that rubbish and it's allowing me to to be and it's
something that i'm i'm learning to do more and more and uh you're talking about filming and i had
a hard time filming and it's because i had a hard time letting go of that control wow so lots of
aha moments today wow that's that's over my heart and it helped me be able to handle the 12 to 15
hour days that i did in my conference the last day oh that's that's awesome thank thank you for
for sharing and and if you could go to the facebook page and share that that would bless a
lot of people thank you candace um yeah you know i i had that that that vision for so long as i would
you know as i would lead prosper in all things conferences and i'd look or i'd glance over and
i'd see the table with you know the information products and things there and i i just kept
feeling like that was so needed if we're truly going to do this romans 12 of being transformed
by the renewing of our mind there has to be some help to get past our our mind our conscious mind
and get into that subconscious to begin to make changes and um so
Yeah, thank you. Thank you for sharing that. It's just key to get that breakthrough. So I'm
so thankful every day more and more now, and as the stories are coming in, and it's exactly what
I envisioned for Prosper Oil, that it just says the stories are coming in to just really allow
people to have that level of breakthrough to break. It's just, again, part of breaking these
agreements, and the stronger we are, and you're a strong woman, Candice, and I am too, the stronger
we are, the harder it is to just by ourselves with no help, just kind of let go of all of that stuff.
And really, something just fresh in my mind, I happened to be somewhere and I was dancing
over the weekend, and the person I was dancing with said, and this just has kind of had so many
layers, he said, just follow my lead. And because I realized, you know, in my life, I haven't
surrendered at that level to follow anyone's lead. I just follow my own lead, and you just go, you know,
and it's that same concept with God in this divine dance of can we just be more fluid,
more fluid to just be able to follow the lead and let go of the stuff that we've been holding onto.
Unnecessary. The key is if it was working, beautiful. If the agreements you've made are
producing the health, prosperity, joy, relationships, abundance that you want, then beautiful, by all
means, hang on to your agreements. But most of the people I meet, the agreements are no longer serving
them. So we're holding on to these things that are not giving us joy, they're not giving us
abundance, they're not serving us. In fact, they're causing what we would call suffering or pain,
right? So how crazy is that? Why are we holding on to something that doesn't even work? That's
when it becomes really crazy. And so thank you, Candice. It's that ability to let go of that.
And I think the more that we can let go of this stuff, what I'm realizing for me,
because my old way of going through and doing all of this, because I've had such a tough life,
if you call it that, would be to self-protect, which is an illusion you can't, which would be to
harden my heart. And how can you go through life with that? And I've worked with some amazing
healers and energy recently that's just pulled that literal metal casing around the heart that
hardens our heart, trying to protect ourselves, has literally removed that and allows you, again,
it's that divine dance to go through life with just an open heart. And you're no longer afraid
that someone's going to hurt you or something's going to hurt you because they can't, because
that's all based on your agreements. And so it allows you to really dance through life, this
divine dance with an open heart, which is literally the ultimate of moving from fear-based
living to love-based living. And that's profound that you can go through life with an open heart.
How much better would life be if you could go through life with an open heart without this
constant fear that you're going to be hurt? Does that make sense? Any of you want to check in on
that? Comments, feedback? Amen. Amen. Any other comments, questions, feedback?
So biblically, this whole idea of taking things personally, if you were going to do a Bible study
on it, biblically it's called taking offense. And so what happens when you take things personally
is you feel offended, you take offense, you feel offended. And so the next step in this process,
when you feel offended, is to feel like you have a need to defend your beliefs.
Look at the energy that you spend defending your beliefs. And so then it begins to create conflict
because you have to be right. Someone else has to be wrong. You have to defend it. It takes strength
and now it creates conflict. Your need to be right and make everyone else wrong creates conflict.
And then you try to pull in the teams to come and support you. This is how we get gossip. This is
how we get parties or factions or divisions or wars or countries for that matter. This whole
thing can just start from tiny, tiny belief system and the need to pull everyone into that belief
system or as many rallies, many troops around your belief system.
And now you create an us, them, a whole thing based on this movie in your head and these agreements.
We saw that last week in Luke 10 with Mary and Martha.
If you go back and read the story in Luke 10 40, you got Martha's movie in her head.
Hospitality, which is cool and a gift, but any gift when it becomes like this can now become a problem.
And so she became, the scripture says, overly occupied, too busy, distracted with serving.
Serving now became a distraction.
She couldn't get truth.
She couldn't, infinite wisdom, infinite love was in her midst right there with Jesus and she couldn't get it.
She was worried about the sandwiches and that's cool.
That's the movie in her head.
She was worried about the sandwiches, but now she's got to pull people into her movie.
And so she literally goes up to Jesus and says, Lord, is it nothing to you?
And here comes the victim.
Part of this becomes the victim that my sisters left me to serve alone.
You hear the victim all over that?
Woe is me, slaving away in the kitchen.
Nobody cares.
Everybody's having a good time.
All of this is on me.
Woe is me, victim.
My life is hard.
Let's pull, let's pull Jesus into this mix.
Let's start pulling people into my opinion.
And so she says to Jesus, tell her then to come help me and do her part.
But see, Jesus didn't buy into all of that illusion.
Mary had her dream and Martha had her dream.
Mary had her dream, not necessarily based on truth or even good or even where God's heart was.
He says, Martha, Martha, you're anxious and troubled about many things.
These things cause anxiety.
These dreams in our head, these agreements are not only energy leaks that are exhausting you, producing dis-ease.
They cause anxiety.
Why do you think anxiety and depression medications are the two most prescribed medications?
Anxiety and depression.
You would not have anxiety or depression without these taking things personally and making these agreements.
It just wouldn't exist.
And so there's the original anxiety story right there.
Martha, Martha, you're anxious, you're troubled about many things.
But really there's need of only maybe one or a few things.
Mary's chosen a good portion, which is to her advantage and it's not going to be taken away.
You are not going to take away from Mary her joy.
She's doing her thing.
She was sitting at Jesus' feet.
She realized infinite love and infinite wisdom was in the room.
You're not going to do it.
And so I mentioned some things last week that if you didn't catch them,
you might want to take notes about this whole idea of taking offense or taking things personally.
Number one, make a note.
These are the keys.
Number one, offense, taking offense, taking things personally keeps you from truly seeing truth.
Offense keeps you from seeing truth.
When they asked about Jesus in Matthew 11, 5 and 6, and they asked,
who is this Jesus?
And he said, just tell them.
Look at the fruit.
Tell them that the blind are receiving their sight.
The lame are walking.
The lepers are cleansed by healing.
The deaf hear.
The dead are raised.
The poor have good news preached.
And then in verse 6, Matthew 11, 6, I'm blessed.
The Amplified says, happy, fortunate to be envied is he who takes no offense at me.
Finds no cause for someone.
They were taking personally.
They were taking offense at Jesus.
And look at how that sentence ends.
And is not hindered from seeing the truth.
You see, taking things personally that Jesus did.
Is this not the carpenter's son?
Isn't this blah, blah, blah's brother?
He's not schooled.
He didn't go to our school.
He's not a Pharisee.
He's not our religion.
They allowed their own belief systems and agreements to have them take things personally
so that when infinite wisdom, infinite love, truth was right in their midst.
It says it hindered them to seeing the truth.
I wonder how much truth we don't see because we're taking things personally.
How much of God's love has he been trying to show you in another person in a circumstance
in the way he made you?
How much love is God trying to show you and you totally missed it from taking things personally?
How much wisdom has been screaming from the streets as Proverbs says, trying to allow
you to get wisdom and you miss it?
because you were too busy with your opinions and trying to convince everyone
else and rally up the forces so number one offense keeps us from seeing truth
number two comes from Matthew 13 taking things personally taking offense keeps
away miracles if you're not living a supernatural life because the
supernatural supposed to be natural were born supernatural creatures were
born with the ability made in the image of God to live a miraculous supernatural
life and so if you're not experiencing that chances are these agreements you've
made are keeping you from the miraculous and so here they are about Jesus taking
things personally in Matthew 13 56 and they say who is this guy don't his
sisters live here amongst us where then did this man get all this what what the
heck is he talking about verse 57 says and they took offense at him they were
repelled and hindered from acknowledging his authority and caused to stumble this
taking offense is taking things personally caused them to stumble Jesus
said a prophets not without honor in his country in his own house and here's the
key in verse 58 he did not do many works of power there because of their
unbelief their lack of faith so this taking things personally literally kept
away the supernatural the miraculous the works of power I wonder how many
miracles we've missed because we take things personally and so love is the
protection moving from fear-based thinking to love-based thinking love
protects us from taking this offense genuine true love not not needy love not
our version a television love you know romantic love but but but true love and
and first Peter 4 can someone read first Peter 4 8 first Peter 4 8 can someone
read that first Peter 4 8 you guys are still bringing either your phone or your
Bible whichever technology you're using right to be able to look up these
scriptures anybody got first Peter 4 8
no no that's fine above things have intense unfailing love for one another
love covers a multitude of sins the Amplified version says forgives and
disregards the offenses of others you see Jesus would have the ability to hear
things not take it personally not come into agreement with it so it doesn't hook
and get as part of him I remember the story in the Bible where the man had
come and asked Jesus to heal his daughter and and while he's there
talking to Jesus asking him to heal his daughter a messenger comes and says why
bother the teacher anymore don't bother him she's she's dead and it's really
interesting what it says in the Amplified version and I'm just going off
my head so I can't give you a verse right now but it's it says that Jesus
heard them but he didn't he didn't buy into it it's it's specifically says that
he heard so you can hear these things but you have a choice to come into
agreement and it says that he didn't he heard and then he quickly spoke to him
and and basically was saying don't let what you're hearing shape you right now
don't take it personally don't let that medical report that the doctor gave you
become your truth don't come into agreement with it don't take it
personally hear it and then let it go hear it but don't let it hook you hear
the opinions of others that's why I was saying at the beginning it's called dr.
Arlene Taylor I love the way she just it's habit for her I think it's her way
of reminding it's habit for her when whenever dr. Arlene Taylor speaks she'll
say in my brains opinion blah blah blah blah blah see she understands that
everything she's saying is just her perspective and when they say something
she says well that's interesting
saying that's your brain's opinion so that it doesn't hook you you don't take
this thing personally you just understand that everybody's got a movie
in their head and they're not the same and they're not necessarily based on
truth and so this love protects us from taking offense and first Peter 4 8 says
you you disregard the offenses of others you just don't take them personally you
disregard them Proverbs 17 9 someone want to look up Proverbs 17 9 Proverbs
has a lot to say about this if you turn to Proverbs right about in the middle of
the Bible right after Psalms if you're using a literal Bible now not a computer
Proverbs 17 9 someone want to read that right about the middle three-quarters
through your Bible Proverbs it's a small book right after Psalms which is a big
book the wisdom of King Solomon
someone have that one Proverbs 17 9 all right awesome he who covers interesting
to think about covers and forgives and offense seeks love you know there's a
story in the Bible about Noah showing up drunk and and passing out butt-naked and
you could really take offense someone could have really like taking his sins
and made it public and shown what a drunk he is and what an idiot and let
him embarrass himself and everything but the story says that I don't remember
his sons or what but a couple a couple of them in order not to see him they
walk in backwards and they put a blanket over him and that's what I think of when
I think of covering rather than exposing and trying to make yourself look good
because of someone else's sins or trying to carry gossip that could really hurt
someone he who covers and forgives and offense seeks love but it says he who
repeats or harps on a matter separates even close friends so when instead of
taking something personally and and repeating it and trying to get other
people on your side you just let it go and you cover it and you forgive it you
don't take it personally you don't you don't take offense Proverbs 19 just a
couple more pages over Proverbs 19 11 if you're still there can you turn to that
Proverbs 19 11 Proverbs 19 11
say amen if you're there Proverbs 19 11
Wow so here's that self-control that you're talking about a say it it started
with a man's what gives them wisdom what ah so wisdom and patience go together
there a man so you don't jump on and take offense and take things personally
wisdom would be that you have patience and then the second part of that it's
his glory to overlook an offense to just have a level of patience and
understanding that everybody is on their journey and everybody is where they are
because that's where they need to be and allowing them the room to grow through
and maybe there's things they need to learn and maybe you're at a higher level
of consciousness and maybe you see things maybe maybe you have such a
desire to get them to think like you or change or you know convert or whatever
but but wisdom is to just have patience and the glory to overlook that offense
and and this is how I would kind of bring around this whole idea of taking
things personally I think wisdom or humility understands that we're all on a
journey none of us you know you started Frankie you said you know I'm not
perfect none of us are we are all just fellow so sojourners on this journey
trying to learn and figure it out we're all stumbling we're all making mistakes
we're all doing good things we're I mean and we're it's just this experience that
we're
on called life and so you have a whole lot more grace to not expect perfection
in yourself or others. The harder you are on yourself the more perfection you
expect of yourself and the more critical you are of yourself the more
that you'll be critical of others. So when you see someone that's extremely
critical of you or others you understand that first they're critical of
themselves it's just being manifested that way. Same thing with abuse the the
more that you abuse yourself the more you will attract and allow abuse outside
of yourself. You will only allow abuse to the level that you abuse yourself so
when someone crosses further than what you abuse yourself you simply won't
tolerate it you'll leave you'll walk away from it you'll shut it down you
won't you will not allow abuse to happen you allow abuse to happen at the level
that you abuse yourself and so humility understands that we are all on this
my head okay I was great I shut my mouth but now I'm judging this person yeah
don't judge that person let it go yeah I get into my own cycle but I'm more
conscious of it but then I always seem to be you know shutting on shutting off
opening up closing down not sure how to say it but by myself being patient and
aware but judgmental and then I become judgmental of myself for being the judge yeah yeah and and it
sounds to me like you're right in the middle of the growth process and you're
simply now you moved Frank from what we talked about the the entry level if you
will on levels of awareness you moved from unconscious incompetence where you
don't know what you don't know in other words there was a time when you never
thought about your words your words just came out there was a time when you
thought that you know your thoughts thought you your thoughts you know you
you didn't understand that you had power to control your thoughts you didn't
understand you had power to control your mind you were operating in that level of
unconscious incompetence and so you've moved now to a level of conscious
incompetence if you will meaning you may not always get it right you're still
judging you're still doing this stuff or whatever but now you're conscious of
it at least you're aware and what begins to happen with that self-control and
increase in love and increase in awareness that you move to conscious
competence where less and less you'll find a need to judge and more and more
you'll just find the ability to to just kind of just know that it is what it is
and that that person's where they are because it's where they are and if they
have a desire to to grow or ask of you you're there to love and share your
brains opinion with them but if they're not asking and they're not seeking then
you just have the grace and the love to love them where they are in that season
and not take it personally you know I have a situation in my life having gone
through a divorce your children have a choice to take that divorce and say well
that's mom and dad and it didn't work for them and I love them both and I'm
just going to move forward I have a son who does that he's choosing not to take
any of that personally and he chooses to love his dad he chooses to love me
chooses to spend time with both of us and he's not going to make this kind of
agreement that's going to make him physically sick I have a daughter that
has chosen to take it incredibly personal and that's translated into
anger judgment condemnation toward me and toward herself and it's you know
it's funny it's just same situation the situation is not any different and our
situations are not different the only difference is how we choose to respond
you see your situations are never your problem we all have good things bad
things and if you want to even label it is that we all have things coming in
that has nothing to do with it it's what we do with our circumstances
circumstances
or nothing they just are they just are what is but what you choose to do the
emotions you choose to wrap around the agreements you choose to make around it
is what changes the perspective of one person in another so Frank what you're
saying is simply now you're becoming aware of it and it's not to say that
once you reach awareness like wow now I'm never gonna judge again I'm never
gonna play a victim again I'm never gonna criticize I'm never gonna take
offense not the case we're all stumbling through this we you know we
don't achieve mastery in a moment for sure but the very fact that you're aware
Frank is growth powerful growth and I just I'm convinced that you know really
all this transformation and renewal of the mind really begins with awareness
versus just what level of consciousness that we're seeing things with if that
makes sense so thank you for that feedback any any
other questions comments feedbacks here let's take a pause point for a second
and then you get present and when you get like totally present in the now
that's very effective for me it just completely releasing judgment and so
that's really where it starts because until you release that judgment of
yourself you'll never stop judging other people so it starts with you and it
starts with you know how you label things that's so good thank you
Christine look at it's it's really what label you're attaching to whatever it is
it's not the experience it's not the circumstance it is the judgment or label
or whatever you're attaching to that that's that's that's so good Christine
thank you let me say two things in this level of consciousness or in processing
this whole idea really two questions you can really look at and and one question
we got from the last series if you were around in the last series moving from
love-based supernatural living moving from fear-based thinking to love-based
thinking the first question when you're sitting here looking and I'm going to
give you a series of questions today that just increase your level of
consciousness but the question that we got out of the last series I did is to
look at whatever you're thinking whatever you're speaking whatever movie
you're creating or choir is singing in your head or whatever you're learning
modality is is this fear-based or is this love-based that's the first thing
that has to be decided is this fear because we know from scripture that fear
produces torment that fear is false evidence appearing real first of all it
doesn't necessarily mean it's going to happen and so the first thing is to say
when I'm looking at this am I looking at this from a fear-based perspective or a
love-based perspective secondly is where am I only only on this earth it's not
true with God God is timeless but we live in this time-space continuum so we
have this idea of past present and future and Christine's talking about
Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now which is amazing recording to listen to or
book to read and an amazing concept because the next thing you have to look
at that will help you know if it's fear-based or love-based living is am I
reaching into the past and bringing it to the future bringing it to now you've
got now all you have is this moment right now that's all you have is now am I
reaching into the past which usually involves some kind of guilt shame
regret it's usually not positive when we go in the past for the most part and
bringing it into the now so is my now now simply shaped by my past and and
believe me a huge amount of all the decisions and all the things that you're
bringing into the now is not actually the experience of now but it's you
reaching into the past and bringing it here so that's the first thing a second
am I reaching into the future and that's usually where fear anxiety worry and
that kind of stuff comes from fear-based thinking where I reach into the future
and I bring it into now and so you get these what-ifs or you get these
imaginations of all the fear-based things that can happen and this is a big
journey for me I spend a considerable amount of time about this because I'm so
committed I literally had a vision when I was praying the other day and and I
began to see that you've got this this now you've got this moment you've got
this treasure right here this life that God's given you that you're breathing
right here this this moment you have it now and imagine that this bandit comes
up or imagine like an old Western movie and this bandit comes up to you you know
and he's pointing a gun at you and he's saying hand it over right now hand over
your wallet but he's also saying hand over your joy hand over your peace hand
over your ability to experience and enjoy right now hand over your love hand
over your bliss hand over just a hand it over right now and so there you just
empty everything you stand there with your hands up in the air and you empty
all that's possible in that moment and hand it over and that bandit is fear
that bandit just came from the future of imagining what might be and therefore
you are not going to enjoy the present right now you're not going to have peace
that you could have this moment because you're worried you're anxious you're
troubled your fear-based thinking of what's going to come and in order to
protect yourself or in order to whatever I think this is why Jesus said can you
add even one cubit to your height by worrying about tomorrow can you change
even one hair on your head in other words can worrying about tomorrow can
bring tomorrow's anxiety and today change anything and the fact of the
matter is no it changes absolutely nothing except it's a bandit that robs
you from enjoying today and I'm I'm right there with you guys I am working
so hard there's situations in my life where I have a choice and it's a
moment-by-moment choice that I can step into fear and I can worry about what is
coming and I could use my old way of dealing with life which is to harden my
heart self-protect don't allow someone to get close don't allow a circumstance
to affect me just pull in and that's how I've made it through a very hard I'm a
survivor I've made it through a lot but this is not living this is not God's
desire God's desires that every moment literally be bliss I by the way we may
do a Bible study at some point bliss is all the way through Scripture you were
created to experience bliss now that might shock you there's a whole Bible
study on bliss and that bliss can only happen that peace that passes all
understanding can only happen if you can stay in the now so it takes tremendous
discipline to stay in the now and stop for a second and say well you know what
that future hasn't come yet I'll deal with that future when it comes here's
where I am today and today I'm going to enjoy this experience completely I'm
going to enjoy this moment this joy this peace this love I am going to savor this
moment think about this have you ever had an amazing meal prepared for you
like a delicious meal in front of you but you got to talking and you were so
stressed about something maybe it was a financial circumstance going on or a
relationship you got busy have you ever had this experience where you were just
talking talking meditating dealing with this stressful situation and all sudden
you finished your whole meal and you realize you'd never even tasted it I'd
love a sound off here have any of you ever experienced that you didn't you had
a beautiful meal in front of you and you never even enjoyed it because you were
busy talking feeling thinking about something unpleasant have any of you
ever had that
Wow so you have a beautiful meal you didn't have you didn't get to enjoy
good cuz like what if you just stopped and tasted every bite and and realized
the joy that God's given us of taste buds and experiencing the tastes and
textures and smells of that meal and just really chewed it and enjoyed it and
and there was music playing you didn't even enjoy and what if you'd allowed
that music to just soothe your spirit and and fill you that's called what what
Christine just brought up the power of now what would our life be like if we
could truly enjoy every moment every now how amazing I mean have you thought
about how much of life that we haven't lived how much experience that we
haven't experienced how much of love that we haven't loved how much of joy
that we haven't enjoyed joy and joy right joy within and within joy how much
joy have we not enjoyed because we didn't take it in because we were in
fear-based thinking living somewhere way out in the future or way in the
past
us and we missed the moment and God was bringing us joy right there in the moment.
This is something, you guys are hitting me right where I live, I am so committed right
now to begin to enjoy and live each moment.
That truly is living.
I heard a talk on YouTube or somewhere and he was talking about how the majority of Americans
spend so much time in a living room watching the tube and so they're watching TV in a living
room that is very far from living.
If we call that living, the living room, is that really living?
And I thought, wow, what a metaphor of life.
How much of what we call living is simply existing and has nothing to do with living?
What could your life, and again, remember we say these things are not truth and they're
not in line with what God.
I think God created you to just enjoy bliss.
I believe God wants us experiencing heaven on earth and instead we're experiencing hell
on earth because of these things of taking personally and not staying in the moment.
So these are two questions, is it fear-based living or love-based living?
Am I in the past or the future or am I in the now?
And I'm going to give you another question to ask yourself and it comes from a book by
Katie Byron called Loving What Is.
And there's four questions that Katie, when she does, she'll do public and you could probably
watch her on YouTube or anywhere, but Katie will take anyone in their circumstance and
they will say something like they come to imagine a Dr. Phil show or whatever and the
person is sitting there and says, I hate my husband, I hate having sex with my husband,
I hate blah, blah, blah, blah.
And she'll walk them through four questions and completely turn around their experience.
And the four questions, question number one, and this is what you can ask as you're taking
things personally and you're doing this whole choir in your head or movie in your head.
The first question, number one is, is it true?
So you say, I hate my husband, you know, is it true?
Okay, that's the first question.
Is it even true?
Number two, can I absolutely know it's true?
So you take it a little deeper.
So whatever it is, I'm so broke.
I'm sick and tired of this and that, really, is it true?
Can you absolutely know that that's true?
Number three, how do you react when you think that thought?
So now that you've embraced that thought, what is that producing in you?
What emotion or feeling is that pulling up in you?
How are you reacting?
If you take that thought, that thought that I'm broke, how do you react when you think
that thought?
And number four is a question, who would you be without that thought?
Or she phrases number four a couple different ways.
She'll say, can you think of one stress-free reason to keep that thought?
I guess another way I would rephrase that is, is that thought serving you?
When that thought comes into your head, see, we just don't do enough thinking about our
thinking in some sense, right?
Our thoughts just control us.
We don't control our thoughts.
So when you can just isolate that thought and say, wait a minute, okay, I just have
this thought.
First of all, he doesn't love me.
Is it true?
Can I absolutely know it's true?
He doesn't love me.
Is it true?
Yeah, it's true.
He doesn't love me.
Can I absolutely know it's true?
Well, I guess I can't absolutely know it's true.
How do you react when you think that thought?
Well, I start feeling depressed and victimized and I want to run and I'm afraid.
Can you see a reason to drop that thought?
Can you see a reason to let go of that one?
I mean, who would you be without that thought?
Well, I guess I'd be happier and freer.
Can you think of one stress-free reason to keep that thought?
Stress-free reason to keep it?
No.
All the thoughts for keeping it cause stress.
So maybe we could let go of it then.
So here becomes that moving to conscious competence level that you have the courage, which is
how we open the call.
We'll close the call the same way we open the call.
You have.
courage to look at your thoughts and beliefs and the courage and the freedom
to be willing to release those thoughts and beliefs that no longer serve you.
Does that make sense? Feedback from you guys. Feedback. So the freedom to release
these thoughts. You see, you do not have to stay in agreement with them.
This is the beauty. This is the amazing beauty of being human that you can
choose your thoughts, you can choose your words, and you can choose which ones to
release because they no longer serve you. Some of the agreements and the belief
systems that you've held on to are no longer serving you. So can you think of a
reason to keep hanging on to them if they are no longer serving you? Why?
What's the purpose of still holding on to them?
It's a new freedom, isn't it? You have choice. The beauty of being human is you
have the freedom to choose what you think, what you hold on to, what you come
into agreement with, what you experience, what reality you create, how amazing, what
prison this can pull, what pull you out of victimhood and take back your power
and create the life that you want to create and enjoy and live each moment.
I'm so committed now. I mean, you know what? I crossed the 50 mark, I'll tell you
guys, okay? And for this second half of my life, I am so committed to not wasting
time or energy on thoughts, activities, people that no longer serve my big
purpose for being on the planet. And when I find the activities, the thoughts, the
people that do, I plan on drinking it up and enjoying. I plan on drinking that
drink, eating that meal, living that life, loving that love. I'm talking, I think
that this is what Jesus had in mind all along. I think this is heaven on earth. I
think this is the glorious, victorious, abundant life. When Jesus said, I came
that they may have life and have it more abundant. I have a feeling that maybe I'm
getting the smallest glimpse and I haven't arrived and I got so much to
learn. Don't ever think I'm coming to you as an expert. I'm in this journey with
you. But I think this is the heaven on earth. You see, what we call pain or
suffering, the only time we suffer is when we want reality to be different
what it is and we think it's hopeless and we keep trying to change something
instead. You know, we're arguing with what is. And that's called resistance.
And resistance causes suffering, resisting. And instead of embracing and
saying, well, that's what I'm experiencing right now and this is how
I'm going to choose to think about it. This is how I'm going to choose to speak
about it. This is how I'm going to choose to experience it. This is what I'm going
to choose to agree with. This is what I'm going to choose to let go of. That is
called Romans 12 to be transformed. That's being transformed by the renewing
of your mind. So bless you guys. That concludes this call. If you have any
comments or feedback, go ahead and give it now. But I'm going to wrap it up. That's
the session on not taking things personally. I bless you guys all and may
you experience a more beautiful now. May you experience the love, joy, peace that
is your birthright and your inheritance. May you take dominion over your
environment and circumstances and begin to use the power of thoughts and
emotions and words to create a new reality that is a beautiful reality for
you and for the planet as a whole. I bless you. I bless you.
I receive it.
Thank you, Brenda. May God continually bless you.
Thank you. Goodbye.