as well as in my personal life.
But I was coaching a client on Saturday,
and I was able to be fully present
even when she said what you said hurted my feelings.
And then I didn't take it personally,
but I said, you know, what I'm saying
is really not hurting your feelings,
it's unresolved issues from your past,
and would you like to go deeper with that?
And so we were actually able to deal
with some unresolved issues in her life,
and by the end she was able to pray for people.
And the prayer was so profound
because not only did she pray for people,
but she would identify the age,
she would identify the person,
and then she would identify
what they had sexually done to her.
Wow.
And so, and that was all about me
not taking it personally, not shutting down,
not apologizing it, but it let her take ownership of it.
See how that, that's so beautiful,
because you, by practicing these four agreements,
you unlocked your potential as a coach.
And so you were able to truly coach
not at the surface, much, much deeper level,
and you unlock that latent potential in her,
because you've always heard, you know,
the main, the issue's not really the issue,
and yet we get caught up circling around on the surface
of what this issue appears to be,
and we're not dealing with the issue of the heart,
so there's no healing and breakthrough
that truly begins to happen.
So congratulations.
How much better of a coach that that makes you,
and how much more powerful each of the people
that are getting that breakthrough.
Congratulations, that blesses me to hear that story.
That's why I like to open up a few minutes
as people are getting on the line and hear those stories,
because this stuff works, and it makes such a difference.
And so much of the frustration and the lack of breakthrough
and the lack of success is just simply these things,
just breaking these old mindsets and these old agreements,
and stepping into the full potential that God has for us.
So thank you for sharing that.
Anybody else, anything that this is,
you've just really seen a change over these last few weeks
as we've been covering these four agreements.
All right, well, I know when Christine gets on the line,
she's got a great story, but she's not on yet,
so she's got little kids.
She must be doing the juggling mommy stuff this morning,
so I'll catch her when she gets back on.
So I'm gonna go ahead and get started and push record.
Let me just set up my equipment right here,
and here we go.
Okay.
Welcome, by the way, welcome
to Bible-Based Spiritual Equipping.
And we have been doing a series on the four agreements.
Now, it's a takeoff from the book or the audio series
by Don Miguel Ruiz, and powerful.
If you have not read the four agreements,
I encourage you to go do that.
It'll just add depth to what we're adding
with the biblical perspective here.
So I encourage you, and I like actually even listening
even better.
I caught times over the past couple of years,
but listening to it, I just listened to it
on a trip again this weekend, and listening to it,
I just go, wow, I didn't hear that, I didn't hear that.
So it gets to get in deeper and deeper,
and I'm right there applying it with you.
So the four agreements, this series is called
The Four Agreements, A Biblical Perspective
to Discovering the Secret to Transformation.
That's what we're really talking about.
That's the bottom line is the transformation
that can occur in your life to allow you to truly live,
to truly live the abundant life,
to truly live the free life,
to truly live the fulfilled, peace-filled life.
It takes breaking these agreements
that we may or may not even realize that have been going on.
I know for me, a lot of the ones that I broke,
I didn't even realize until after the fact
that they were in my subconscious,
they were holding me back,
and it wasn't until I got breakthrough that I went, wow.
This crosses over every area of our life.
So this has to do, you've made agreements
when it comes to your finances.
You've made agreements.
I know I made agreements when it came to finances,
when I saw the pain and the craziness
in the family I was raised in.
I saw that the pain and the craziness,
I'm gonna close the door because the cat's meowing,
and I made a decision, I linked it in my,
eight-year-old mind that didn't
So that I didn't want anything to do with money and you don't even realize I would I would not discover that
agreement for another 20 years and
Once I got freedom from that it totally changed my ability to earn income
Well, we make agreements about how we feel about the opposite sex how we feel about marriage all of those things
We we are you know constantly making these agreements
in our awareness and outside of our awareness, but this is affecting every area of our life and so
Stuck in an area if you're just finding that you keep repeating
Bad choices or you keep not being able to get breakthrough in certain areas
there's a really good chance that there's an agreement that you've made out of self-protection and
In making that agreement and not even knowing that that you've made it
You've created this resistance and today we're going to be talking about resistance
We're going to be talking about allowing and we're going to be talking
Okay, I can hear you guys so put it on mute if you could so
You're going to see that part of these agreements
Okay, can I ask that you guys put your phones star six are on mute because it is being recorded I can hear you talking
All the background noise I can hear please if you could put it on mute
Thank you
Either star six or mute on your own phone. Either one will work
Thank you
Have you all on the line?
So let's begin with prayer as we just really go a little deeper with all of this
let's ask the Holy Spirit to reveal some of these things and
To remind us part of the the role of the Holy Spirit is to remind us of some of these things that we've forgotten
So father we just ask
Holy Spirit that you just come and that like Paul prayed that the eyes of our heart
That are the ears when when Jesus said
Don't hear you have eyes, but you don't see father
We're asking that Holy Spirit you open our spiritual senses in such a way
That we can see hear feel not just with our natural senses
but with our spiritual senses and then we can get a depth of
understanding to truly
Renew our minds renew make new our minds and experience
transformation to truly live the abundant life that you promised so
You
Today I'm asking that you will bring to your remembrance
some of these things that maybe we haven't thought about for 5 10 15 20 30 years of
little subtle self-protection
Agreements that we've made
that now
No longer service and we can be willing to think about our thinking and release that
Thinking release those belief systems that no longer service give us the courage to face them boldly and give us the courage to
To step into the freedom and the joy and abundance that you've called this to I
Asked us this morning in Jesus name
Amen
so we are
Plowing through here the four agreements. We're already on week six
I'm always amazed how fast these weeks go and our key verse that we have been repeating each week
I like to have you know, one or two just key verses that just sum it all up
So for those of you we got a number of you that are brand new this week. The key verse has been Romans 12
purely Romans 12 3 and
The idea here is do not be conformed to this world this age
Fashioned after adapted to its external superficial customs
So right now a lot of the a lot of what's going on out there. There's there's a lot of stress
There's a lot of anxiety. There's a lot of hopelessness. There's a lot of fear. There's a lot of customs
That are no longer
us and
That's the key the key is looking at what customs what belief systems what thinking that we're having and
be willing to
Look at it and then be willing to ask some hard questions
We talked last week about some hard questions or first of all, just just because you're thinking doesn't make it true
and
So to be willing to say is this true a
Katie Byron's question
this is true and can I absolutely and half of the belief systems that you have
you'll have to come to the conclusion you know I don't actually even know if
it's true come to think of it so then you get to the place all right I'm
holding on to this thing that I don't even know is true or not true and then I
get to the question hmm what would happen if I let go of this thought what
would happen if I no longer held this belief system and very often the answer
that comes up is a whole lot of stress I'd let go a whole lot of anxiety I'd
let go a whole lot of frustration if I wasn't holding that thought anymore and
I'd let go a whole lot of self-sabotage and and and self-defeating behavior if I
wasn't holding on to that call anymore and so then you're going well okay it's
not serving me I don't even know if it's true and if I let it go I'd be
better off and then it takes the courage to say you know what I think at this time
I'm gonna choose no longer to hold on to that thought so the whole concept here
of being transformed it says do not be conformed but rather than being
conformed rather than being in that jello mold of how people all the people
that hooked your attention all your life that this book talks about rather than
being conformed that that's your mold that's what you're shaped to instead it
has but and I always circle but when it's there to see what the contrast is
but be transformed transformed and and it says change the amplified version of
the Bible says changed by the entire renewal of your mind so that you can
prove and know what is the good and acceptable perfect will of God so you
want to know I get so many people say I just want to know the will of God for my
life well the first will of God for your life is for you to walk in freedom from
some of these these sins in a different definition of sin self-inflicted nonsense
letting go of those you'll begin to see the perfect will of God for your life so
it's not being conformed but being transformed and the way that you're
doing that is by renewing your mind think about that word renew means to do
again so you're going back and doing this thing again anytime you see re in
front of a word it means to do again so you're doing something again what are
you doing new your mind you're making your mind brand new you're making it a
clean slate that is you're choosing not to base what you do today and how you
experience today you're choosing not to do that based on the past see very few
people think about their thinking and they think that they are thinking and
they're not really thinking they're remembering they're simply rehashing the
past that's not thinking and that's not creating and that's not living in the
now and it's not experiencing your richest potential that is right here
right now if you remember last week I gave you a visual of a bandit coming up
to you just think of an old cowboy you know cartoon that you used to see when
you were little and you got a bandit coming up to you you know you got it
they got the scarf across their face and they're holding a gun and they got the
cowboy hat and they say put them up give me everything and you think it's
just money so you hand your money over but I know I want your peace I want your
joy I want your future I want let me just rob everything of you your
fulfillment your passion you're living your I want it all put it all out here
and who is this bandit that is stealing from our present the present that God
gives us the gift that God gives us which is this moment what is it that's
stealing from this moment you experiencing your fullest potential well
it's exactly what we're talking about it's these four agreements it is going
back in the past and remembering and dealing with guilt or shame or regret or
wishing or the good old days or however you're looking at the past allowing that
to enter into your future so that you're not experiencing the future you're
simply reliving the past or you're borrowing from the future and Jesus
talked about
both of these or you're borrowing from the future. Jesus said don't borrow
troubles from tomorrow today has enough troubles of its own. Why? Because you go
in the future and now you've got fear, false evidence appearing real and you're
bringing that into the present and you're experiencing you're bringing
something that is not yet that hasn't come and there's a high high chance it's
never going to come so you're borrowing fear from the future and bringing it now
that's that bandit that's stealing the joy that you could be experiencing right
now and I gave some examples of how we do that we can get so lost in in that
fear anxiety regret whatever your your drug of choice is you know and I gave
the example of sitting down to a nice meal and this thing's been finely
prepared by the finest chef and it's in a beautiful ambience and there's you
know or maybe it's just a loved one that's prepared it for you and this
thing is beautiful and all of a sudden you realize you've eaten the whole thing
and you never detected all the fine seasonings and all the different flavors
you never enjoyed the meal because your head was just spinning in fact you
weren't even aware that you were eating the meal how many of you have done that
how many of you have walked through a meal and don't realize you ate the whole
thing till afterwards or maybe it was a bag of chips okay or a thing of Oreos or
something how many of you have just eaten a whole thing completely unaware
completely unconscious completely out of awareness any of you done that I'm giving
up a real-life food example because it's it's such a vivid example of what we do
with our life how we're missing every moment and I think that's why so many
people that go through a near-death experience or get some you know
something from the doctor that you got cancer or you got three months to live
or whatever you know they get some decree that way it's the first time they
start living because they realize this is all they have and they're not going
to live it and regret and they're not going to live it in the future because
they know the future is not coming in their mind and so what happens is they
finally start living and they just make a decision I'm going to be with the
people and enjoy the people I want to be with I'm going to do what I love and I'm
not going to do those things that I don't love and I'm going to enjoy the
things do you understand we it pulls us it pulls us into the present if you've
read or listened to the book by Napoleon Hill that excuse me was only recently
released to the general public because it's so powerful that the whole family
and organization the foundation didn't want it released because they thought it
would cause so much repercussions and it's called outwitting the devil and in
outwitting the devil he has this conversation Napoleon Hill has this
conversation with the devil and forces the devil to reveal all of his tricks
that take out God's people and one of the tricks that the devil reveals is
this idea of hypnotic rhythm hypnotic rhythm if he can get us unconscious not
staying in the present not renewing our minds not breaking these agreements but
instead just gets us in a hypnotic rhythm where we're just mindlessly going
through life without thinking without tying in everything we do with our
purpose without tying everything with our vision without being deliberate in
other words we're creating our life not by design but by default if he can get
us just going through life hypnotic rhythm the other one that goes along with
that that he talks about is oh what's the word I'm trying to say not coasting
but it's like coasting it's maybe some of you can help me out what's the word
but basically you're just mindlessly going through life kind of on cruise
control and so we get on this cruise control just just kind of just flowing
through and so what happens you you go through your education because that's
what everyone told you to do but you're not enjoying it and you're not extracting
every good thing from it you're just chewing up regurgitating what you need
to get an A on the paper you take the first job because it was there and it
produces good money and pretty soon you're in a profession that you didn't
really deliberately choose and you're finding you don't enjoy it the majority
of the people I coach do not enjoy what they're doing what a tragedy to spend
it huh
risking not risking yeah they're they're not and so they get in this hypnotic
rhythm where they're not thinking about their thinking and they're just doing
doing doing doing without even
thinking about it. So the opposite of this that we're talking about is being transformed
by renewing. It's time to think about your thinking. I was talking to a young person
and coaching him this week this past week and it's like you need to learn to think about your
thinking. You need to control your thoughts not your thoughts just controlling you and taking you
and so we went through this whole idea and and we covered it as we think about our thinking
and so we began to realize that part of it is we've made these thousands of tiny little small
agreements and probably too many to try to dissect and find them all and dig them up and most of them
are not in our awareness. So the answer the simpler answer is to make four new agreements
and when we make these four new agreements it breaks all of those thousands of previous
agreements. That's breakthrough because when you start breaking these you'll experience whole new
heights in your relationships in your health you will let go of things and suddenly you will not
need that weight anymore that that extra weight or waste as we're going to be teaching this Friday
on the God Health and Me Discovery that extra is is part of those agreements. You made an agreement
that somehow that protected you or you made an agreement that somehow you weren't worthy or you
made an agreement whatever so we're breaking those agreements by four new agreements and the first of
those agreements was be impeccable with your word. Remember impeccable you always when you get a word
look it up get in a new habit nice that you know the the when you're doing when you're reading
things on kindle or you're using ipad and things nowadays the dictionary is right there at your hands
start relearning words start looking back what they what their original especially if you can
get to the latin or greek origin of words start doing that you'll have a whole new vocabulary
and you'll begin to release some words out of your vocabulary when you're talking about being impeccable
with your word. For example there's words you're holding on to that you probably don't know the
meaning want is one of the words that I'm still working to completely remove from my vocabulary
say I want this I want that I want this I want that's not being impeccable from your word because
want means extreme lack that's why david was able to say the lord is my shepherd I shall not want
it means lack and so if you are in the habit of saying I just want or I only want and you're
in the habit of saying want want want all day you're saying lack lack lack lack lack you're
not being impeccable with your word because you are actually hurting yourself with the words that
that you're holding on to so begin to study words I got a revelation not long ago about the word
nice I used to always say things like I'm playing nice or I just want to be nice or I'm a nice girl
and someone called me on it and said I don't think you really want to be nice look it up and you get
past the surface you know the way we use it now and you get back to the origin of the word
and if you haven't looked up nice then the origin of the word you'll make a decision you probably
don't want to be nice so it's funny how we do it that way but the word impeccable when you look
at the what it means m means not and car means sin so impeccable means you're not sinning with
your word you're not using your word to sin well there's obvious things you know using your word
to sin by lying or using your word to sin by you know murdering someone with your words or whatever
but this one just kind of goes a little deeper and says be impeccable with your word so to do
that to be impeccable with your word it talks about not using your word against yourself
not violating yourself this becomes a general principle of not violating yourself you know I
was I was riding with in the car with a friend of my brother's and he was really wrestling because
he was separated from his wife and he still had hopes of getting back with his wife and he still
loved his wife and he had kids and his heart was there and this young thing was like hitting on
him and asking him out and she kept calling him and she was asking him to go to the movies and
he said you know it's tempting I mean she just keeps telling me I want to go to the movies with
you let's go see a movie and he said what do you think I should do and I said don't violate yourself
and he goes what do you mean I never thought about it that way don't violate yourself you
already told me what you desire and what your heart is telling you see we're so not in the
habit of listening to our heart the truth is there if we'll look so he knew the answer to that by
looking at his emotions looking at how he felt about the situation looking at the uncomfort
When you have uncomfort in your emotions, that's your early detection system. That's your guidance system. Don't ignore that
Pay attention to that. So he already knew I said don't violate yourself. And he said I never thought about it that way
You've heard the the saying I don't know. Is it Shakespeare? You guys can help me to thine own self be true. I
Mean to your real self
To thine own self how many times with your word? Are you violating yourself? Are you not being impeccable?
Are you agreeing to something your mouth is agreeing to something that your heart is not in agreement?
You you get yourself doing things saying things thinking things any of you ever
Get in a situation where you're not impeccable with your word
In other words, your word is getting you into something that does not line up
You are violating yourself
Can any of you as I'm sharing the story because if you jump in on this conversation, it makes it rich for everybody
Can you think of a time that you were not impeccable with your word you you you sinned against yourself with your word?
You violated yourself. Did you reject yourself with your word? Did you criticize yourself with your word?
Did you agree to something that you really didn't desire to agree with with your word?
Did you say something that you didn't really mean because you wanted to get attention or you were using it to manipulation?
Can you think of ways that you were not impeccable with your word that now you could begin to break those agreements?
Can you think of any examples? I want to pause right there and let that go deep
Scripture says let your yes be yes and your no be no that's part of being impeccable with your word
Let your yes be yes and your no be no that's part of being impeccable
Can you think of some examples to really drive this home on being impeccable with your word?
Sounds better in my head, but those are still little criticism or little things in my head that are keeping me
out of
being impeccable and
They are things I know are not correct, but they're more subtle good
Good good, that's renewing your mind and thinking about your thinking. That's great Candice. Thank you. Thank you for sharing that
Anybody else so it's important that we
don't plow through this meal of this great teaching and
Don't not stop and just be present and and just let the Holy Spirit and I and I encourage you to pray that Holy Spirit
Are there places in my life right now where I'm not being impeccable with my word where I'm using my word to violate
Myself sin against myself. Is it self-criticism? Is it self-rejection? Is it self-condemnation is
Self-denial is it self not not being willing to trust your heart not being willing to trust your
Intuition that was a big one for me
Can you think of ways that?
You are sinning against yourself that you're not being impeccable with your word or on the other side ways that you're just getting victory and
Being impeccable with your word. Can you think of some examples?
Go ahead we've got to whoever wants to go first. I'm excited. Thank you for sharing
I
Trying to be very careful about what I think and what I say and just think about what you just said
There is meaning behind that and I'm to be performing tomorrow
and
Anyway
That gave her
Absolutely, absolutely
That's excellent Cindy. Thanks for sharing that there's yeah
That's an example of being conformed to the world as opposed to
Transformed because there are certain sayings that like she said well, that's just a saying so that's called
What I'm talking about of, oh, I know the word I was trying to think of from
outwitting the devil is drifting.
And so we get in this habit, one of the ways that the devil takes us out of our
purpose and our vision is we get in this habit of drifting.
And within that drifting, there's this hypnotic rhythm.
And it's powerful concept when you think about it because in order to get change,
what we're talking about, renewing the mind, we have to break that hypnotic rhythm
and break that habit of drifting.
And we have to get back into a place of deliberate choosing and a place of
building our life by design and not by default.
And that would be an example, well, everybody just does that.
You know, how many of your kids say that?
Well, all my friends, you talk about drifting and hypnotic rhythm and what
we're talking about right here.
Well, all my friends are doing it.
And, you know, we always, what do we say because I can tell you how much you are
still conformed.
Your kids say, well, all my friends are doing it.
Johnny's doing it, Johnny down the street.
And how many of your parents said this and how many of you said this?
Well, if Johnny jumps off a cliff, are you going to too?
How many of you knew that saying, what I was going to say already before I even
said it?
Really?
My parents are the only ones that said that?
No, it was a bunch of trouble.
Okay.
Bridge, cliff, whatever.
But do you see how we take on these sayings?
You know, you say, well, I really want to do this.
Well, how are you going to pay for that?
Money doesn't grow on trees.
So there's these words that we're saying and often still repeating it.
And so congratulations, Cindy, you're being impeccable with your word.
And that includes not just the words that you're speaking to yourself, but the words
that you're receiving.
Now, sometimes you'll have the opportunity to say to that person, you know, and you
get them thinking like you did, I don't receive that or, you know, I want to maybe
reframe that or whatever.
Sometimes you won't.
Sometimes stuff is spoken for you or to you that it's not the time or the place and
you have to just do that within yourself and say, I don't receive that.
I choose a different reality.
For example, how many people when you're doing it and you've got a family member
and you're telling them you're going to start a business and they say, you just
need to be realistic.
You just need to be realistic.
Well, inside, yes, I do.
I'm choosing a different reality.
I'm choosing a higher reality.
So do you see these words just learning to be impeccable both in the words that we're
receiving from the outside and the ones that we're speaking?
So that's the first agreement.
And it's a hard one and it's a nonstop really getting to the place that you are
always thinking about what you're speaking.
So you're not only thinking about what you're thinking, but you're thinking about what you're
speaking.
Here's another thing, just understanding the brain and then I'll move on from being impeccable
with your word.
I was talking to a young person and he said, I just want to stay out of jail.
And I had to teach him how the brain processes.
The brain does not process negative.
That's why if you tell a kid, don't spill the milk, the brain has to imagine spilling
the milk to come to the conclusion to attempt not to spill the milk.
And nine times out of 10, you keep telling a kid, don't spill that milk, don't spill
that milk.
The kid will spill it.
And then you'll be saying, I told you not to spill that milk.
You weren't listening to me.
No, you were planting the seed of a visual image of spilling the milk and were a huge
part by not being impeccable with your word of causing that milk to be spilled.
And we do this in our life by negative all the time.
It's so much easier to focus on what we don't desire.
This is why in coaching to get people to move from what they don't desire to what they do
desire.
And so that's part of being impeccable with our word also is to speak in positive present
tense when you're, when you're speaking, that's part of it that now there was two people that
wanted to speak.
Is there a second person that had something to say about impeccable with your word before
I go on?
I'd love to hear it.
This is Tanya.
Yeah.
Um, real quickly.
Um, what I've noticed because I've been listening to the God, money and me, uh, Palm Study is
that even though I don't verbally say something, my action says it.
Okay.
So really being honest with what's really going on and making sure my actions line up
with my words.
And for instance, um, I've often said, well, I can't afford to do this.
I can't afford to do that.
to make sure what are my actions in, what, what, what am I leaving out?
agreements are being manifested in my life because what I believe in though I'm not saying it, my action is telling what I believe and it's standing for me.
So I've just kind of been slowing down and just really present to the decisions and choices and work really behind it, driving me to it.
I love that. That's so powerful. Thank you for being willing to do all of this work and even like what you're doing.
I mean you've attended the God Money and Me a couple times live but allowing the home study course where you can be listening over and over
and letting this new thinking, part of being transformed by the renewing of our mind is we have to be putting new stuff in.
And I know in my travel, like I've been listening to Outwitting the Devil and I've been listening to this, the four agreement
and it's just like it has to go in and in. There has to be a whole new thinking pattern, a whole new way of looking at things,
a whole new level of awareness and I see that happening for you as your awareness is increasing, you're making different choices,
different words, different thoughts and you're getting different results and it's why you had your first $10,000 a month.
I mean it's powerful. As this changes, I'm telling you it affects everything, your relationships.
I know you're getting open to whole different levels of relationships in your life and opening yourself to that and not letting past pain keep you all hidden
and you'll begin to make different choices about the foods you put in your body and about exercise, about loving yourself, about loving others.
I mean all areas of our life are part of this. So that's the first of the agreements.
The second is don't take anything personally. Man, this is a constant for me, paying attention to this constant.
It's so easy especially if you're the intuitive type, if you're a feeler and if you're a feeler, you know what I'm talking about.
You can walk in a room and you can feel the temperature in the room and I'm not talking about the heat temperature.
You can feel, you can walk in and know when a couple's already fought. You can walk in and know when someone's stressed out.
They don't have to say a word. You can one glance, you're a feeler, you feel what's in the room.
If you're one, you know what I'm talking about. How many feelers do we have on the line? Do we have any of you?
So as a feeler, this becomes really important and the second agreement is don't take anything personal.
Don't take anything personally. This is big because you will assume the way someone's treating you
or the way something they said or the way they're acting or the way they're not acting or the way things transpired
and you will assume that that is about you, which then allows you to take offense that we talked about.
So in the book, Don talks about don't take anything personal. It comes out of this belief system.
It comes when you take things personally, it comes out of wrong thinking.
I can tell you right now when you take things personally, you have wrong thinking.
You have not renewed your mind in this area and the wrong thinking, the false thinking is personal importance.
In other words, in order to take something personally, you have to subscribe to the belief
that what is going on is about you. He says in the book, personal importance or taking things personally
is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption, which is of course the third agreement,
don't make assumptions so they go together, taking things personally and making the assumption.
In order to take things personally, you make the assumption that everything is about me.
But the truth, when you say, is this true? Is this really true? Can I know it's true?
Can I be absolutely sure that what this person is doing is because of me and what I did has anything at all to do with me?
Nothing, he says, other people do is because of you. It's because of themselves.
And when you get this whole idea that all people live in their own dream, in their own mind,
that all people have a movie going on in their head.
If you're a visual person, they've got a movie. They are their own director.
They're creating their own reality and there's a movie playing all the time in their head.
Or if you're more of the reading or writing, you can imagine they're writing a book in their head.
They are daily subscribing and writing this book, but it's their book. It's not your book.
And they're in a completely different world than the one you're living in.
And if you take it personally, you make the assumption that they know our world
and that what they're doing is because of our world, that they are actually in our world
and they're responding to our world and doing something.
Biblically, we went through it. That's called taking offense.
And so we went through all of the scriptures and you can go back and listen about taking offense.
What happens when you take offense?
The first thing is you have to defend yourself.
You have to defend your beliefs.
That creates conflict.
You have to make something big out of something small because you begin to have this need
to be right and let everyone else know that they're wrong.
And it creates this whole craziness.
And so taking offense, taking things personally, we went all the way through that.
And what we said is the key, the issue around that is that offense keeps us from seeing
the truth.
We read about how offense made them not receive Jesus.
They took offense.
This guy's not a rabbi.
We know his sisters.
This is the carpenter's son.
It says that they took offense and it says in Matthew 11, 6 that they were hindered from
seeing the truth because of that.
In Matthew 13, verse 56, we saw that it keeps away miracles.
Having offense, taking things personally, keeps the miraculous out of your life.
And it says, do not all his sisters live here amongst us?
Where then did this man get all this wisdom?
Who is this guy to be talking to us?
Who is he to think that he can teach me?
And it says, and they took offense at him.
They were repelled, hindered.
And the Amplified Version says, from acknowledging his authority, they were caused to stumble.
And of course, do you know the famous saying Jesus said, a prophet is not without honor
in his own hometown.
But verse 58, I think it is, Matthew 13, 58 says, he did not do many works of power there
because they had taken his offense and because they had unbelief as a result.
So the fact of the matter is infinite wisdom, infinite love was in their midst in their
present moment that had the power to completely change their life.
And they missed the miracle because they had taken offense.
Often we're so caught up with what people have done to us.
We're so busy still licking our wounds.
We're so walking in unforgiveness that that's one of those bandits, unforgiveness that keeps
us from really enjoying the present moment.
You're still way stuck on what that person did to you.
And you are rehashing it and living it over and over and over again, and it's keeping
you a slave.
It's keeping you in bondage.
The other person's gone on.
They're living their life.
Your unforgiveness isn't hurting them at all.
They've long forgotten about it.
They're moved on.
The only one being hurt is you.
And so the answer to that, the antidote we found is that love protects us from taking
offense.
It says in 1 Peter 4, 8, that love covers a multitudes of sins, that love disregards
the offense of others.
Proverbs 17, 9 says, he who covers and forgives an offense seeks love, but he who repeats
or harps the matter separates even close friends.
I want to talk, taking things personally and being impeccable with your word, I want to
couch it.
I'd like to, I desire to couch it talking about gossip.
It's really important.
I've had gossip come to me twice in this past week.
One of them about me.
Because gossip is one of these ways that we are not impeccable with our word, we're
taking offense.
And scripture says that that gossip goes deep into the marrow of our bones, deep to our
innermost parts.
This causes so much destruction.
It causes so much breakdown of relationship.
It causes so much unnecessary pain.
And unfortunately, the person who people gossip to about me was mature.
And I'm so thankful.
I love it when I meet a mature individual because she came directly to me.
She didn't make assumptions.
She didn't take it personally.
She came directly to me and asked.
And that just not only ended it.
And the answer when someone comes to you with gossip, and this is what I do because I had
someone come to me with gossip about another person.
I said, great, let's get that person on the line right now.
I saw all the destruction that had already affected about 10 people.
This thing was spreading like wildfire.
I said, let's get that person on the line right now.
So if someone comes to you with juicy gossip, say, hey, you know what?
I don't know anything about that because it's not me.
How about if we get that person on the line?
Let's talk through it right now.
You will end gossip and you will stop so much of this sinning with our words.
I encourage you to create a mandate.
for yourself I encourage you to create a protocol how you will handle gossip you
know in this book he gives the example of gossip of someone that goes to
university and doesn't like their teacher and they go and gossip to
someone coming that's about to take the class so this person has a fresh new
thinking they're ready to take the class and and they already color it and say
that teacher is such a jerk and you know what else he did such and such and such
and watch him because this will happen okay now when they go in the class do
you think that they're getting and they ended up not liking that class dropping
out of that class flunking now had the teacher even done any of that and the
answers no that's called gossip because it shapes the way you view and you think
and you accept it as truth and the person has no chance to defend themselves
and you don't even know if it's true and it gets spread like a cancer so I
encourage you to have a mandated protocol that when someone brings gossip
to you I immediately get the other person that they're gossiping about on
the phone I put an end to it right away let's just go ahead and get that person
on the line right now if that's possible otherwise I shut it down and say I can't
really that's not my business I don't know anything about that I'm sorry and I
end it do you have a way of stopping gossip gossip is killing so many
innocent people destroying their businesses their their their reputation
do you have a protocol what to deal with that and love love covers that
multitude of sins and puts a stop to that I love I shared with you the other
answer of not taking personally is understanding that all it is is opinion
and I shared with you dr. Arlene's way that whenever she speaks she's she's
really wise I can't wait till you come to brain leads of women in the Bible in
September that we're doing that's going to be a great workshop and and but she
always couches it and she'll say in my brains opinion that's how she begins
most sentences in my brains opinion well she's real clear that that's all she has
someone will say well that's just your opinion and you're wise enough to say of
course that's all I have and you also are wise enough to know that the person
speaking is simply sharing their opinion and you give them the right to
do that and you can say that yeah I appreciate your opinion it doesn't make
it truth and it doesn't make it something you have to take offense and
it doesn't make something that you have to take personally so this is so
powerful now I'd like to bring this now to a new perspective as we're as we're
talking about taking personally because next week we're going to move into not
making assumptions so I want to wrap up this not taking personally and being
impeccable with our words I want to bring that to a landing today and I'm
going to close with a very powerful new teaching on that but I'd like to open up
on the line any comments or questions or aha's or things on what we've shared so
far on on this yes thank you for sharing I so appreciate it
the same thing I've already paid for it don't keep bringing it up if I've
already did something I've already paid the consequences don't make myself keep
living it don't keep punishing myself for it but today when you talked about
it I got a different look at it where not to charge someone for the same thing
that they've done over and over to really let it go and release them in
your heart so if they've done something that offended you if they've done
something that went against the Word of God that once you've spoken your truth
once you addressed it let it go because it's not fair for them to have already
paid with forgiveness or whatever has taken place and for you to constantly
every time you see them bring them back up on the same charges and if they've
never paid it or that for the rest of their life don't keep paying it over and
over again because you refused to release them in your heart so it was
about me let them go and not making them pay for it over and over again that is so good
Latonya thank you for sharing that and thank you for reminding me of that
because he does talk about that in the book about being impeccable he he really
mentions we're the only creature okay we talk about fairness and wanting to have
this level of fairness and he says where we're not fair we're the only creature
that when we apply punishment punishment he said should be applied once okay
and we're the only ones that punish ourselves
over and over and over and over and over again for the same thing and that's
crazy when you think about it how many times are you still beating yourself up
about a previous mistake how many times are you still criticizing yourself about
something you did do or you didn't do or something from your past how many times
or another person you're reminding them you see this in marriage a lot this is
this is what offense is is it's punishing again and again and again when
you take offense and you see where someone in the marriage fell maybe
adultery maybe something and the other person brings it up again and again and
again and again and again so that thank you that is I'm so glad I remember
thinking about it listening and I'm so glad you remember to bring that up
because that is so important how many times are you punishing yourself or
another person for something that's long been done I'm amazed some we're talking
like 10 years 20 years 40 years still holding on to an old belief system and
punishing punishing punishing punishing it's amazing awesome anybody else yeah
good you got on the line I knew you had a story to share
you know if you can be conscious enough when you're you know just doing we're
working in your business and you know something comes up and it looks like it
could go sideways you know decide beforehand how you're going to how
you're going to handle it and this literally happened to me over the course
of about two months I put in just a tremendous amount of work I truly went
above and beyond average you know for what an agent would do for helping a
couple and and initially I thought that it's a slam dunk but then things kind of
started to go sideways and I decided at that point that you know what I may not
close this deal and you know what I'm okay with it I was starting to just see
kind of custom breakdowns of communication and it involved a third
party who was one of my business partners in a different area and but I
just had to eat through it and then I got confirmation yesterday that they
actually took my information and they either went to another broker or went to
the carrier direct and just completely cut me out of it and you know if that
happened like a year ago I would have been just devastated I would have been
in tears and upset and it's kind of funny because my business partner he's
just all been out of shape and I mean he like had me on the phone for almost an
hour just just oh he was just completely and he wants to investigate it and just
you know he's he's just going to war about this and me I'm like I had I had
so much peace and I'm I'm I'm like glad that it's just done and I'm okay with it
and I told him I said you know sometimes there's just people that you're not meant
to work with and that's okay and so you know I'm not so I don't take it
personally I realized that you know what people are operating out of their own
paradigm and you know it's not logical definitely I mean I presented some great
options for them and I even had the option for them that they choose but for
some reason they cut me out of it but you know I'm okay with it it's okay and
I like already moved on so that was a huge personal victory for me and I felt
like I applied a lot of what what I've learned that's that's awesome and and
really to step back and think about this from the bigger picture part of the
choice well when you look at the fruit okay you look at the fruit and you get
back to the root and you look at the fruit and you have to decide the fruit
in your life because remember we saw the power of life and death is in the tongue
and we eat the fruit thereof that's the fruit in our life so the fruit you can
have frustration anger which is going to lead to anxiety or depression if you
hold it back and repress it the anger then it's going to go into depression if
you release it you know it's going to be in anger so it's going to often
translate into dis-ease suddenly you don't understand why part of your back
is hurting your neck is hurting why you've got intestinal problems why
you're stuck and and you're constipated you know stuff that we're teaching in
the God health of me discovery stuff but so you're gonna have this physical side
of dis-ease. You've got this emotional, so what you chose, the fruit, was peace and joy and love
and not stealing from this moment, whereas opposed to choosing the other way is sleepless nights and
frustration and dis-ease and when you just really step back, then you have to decide,
is this really worth it? I mean, it's cutting years off my life. It didn't change the results,
the outcome and so a lot of this is just deliberate choice of saying, I am choosing
to experience this moment so richly, so fully. I'm choosing to have joy and peace and love
and abundance and fulfillment and truly enjoy my life beginning in this moment right now
and you made that choice, Christine, and peace was the result. Peace and so I love that and
what I'd like to bring this thing to a landing in talking about it, I'd like to bring in another
concept which is the concept of allowing and resistance. Allowing and resistance and this
I teach this a lot in my manifest course and when you understand how to manifest your dreams,
goals and desires quickly and part of the manifestation process of being able to
manifest your dreams, goals and desires is to understand that there is an overall current.
In my mind, the picture in my imagination that I think of is the jet stream when you're flying.
Think of the current of the jet stream. So when I fly to Atlanta or New Jersey,
it is twice as fast or it cuts off, it shaves off a good hour as opposed to when I fly back
and the reason is going with the jet stream. So it allows the airplane to use less fuel,
it's more effortless and you get there faster. Well, you can think about that in your life.
If you would like to use less fuel, you're not just burning through anxiety and stress
and your immune system and aging rapidly and so on. Okay, by going against it, if you want to have
that, that if you desire to have that ease, you go with the flow, you go with the jet stream.
Now, in Ecclesiastes 10 verse 3 and 4, there's an interesting little statement in there,
Ecclesiastes 10 verses 3 and 4. It says, even when he who is a fool walks along the road,
his heart and understanding fail him and he says of everyone and to everyone that he is a fool.
So it's the fool walking down the road just calling everybody else a fool. Idiots, you know,
they're driving down the road. Idiot, what are you thinking? That stupid idiot that did that and so
they're a fool but they're busy resisting and calling everyone and everything a fool, this
verse says. In verse 4, it says, if the temper of the ruler rises up against you, do not leave
your place and then the amplified version says or show a resisting spirit. So here would be an
opportunity to take something personally. You've got someone, a ruler, it could be your boss,
it could be your husband, it could be your manager, whatever and their temper rises up
against you. So someone gets angry at you, they took offense at something, they're really angry
and naturally you can take that personally and then when you take things personally, you take
offense and now you move into the us versus them, the you versus me and now you have to justify,
now you have to spend your energy proving that you're right, now you have to enter into an
argument and disagreement, now your blood pressure has to go up, now blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
It says, if the temper of the ruler, just think of this however you want to think of it, your
parent, whoever pushes your button, if the temper of the ruler rises up against you,
don't leave your place. See what you talked about Christine, you didn't leave your place,
you didn't, I use that word place your position, don't leave your position and then the amplified
says or show a resisting spirit. You didn't get into resistance about this whole thing
and then it takes it all the way, it says for gentleness and calmness, prevent or put a stop
to great offenses. You slept that night Christine, you didn't put your body in a state of
you didn't shut down your immune system, you didn't constipate yourself, you understand?
because you chose the way of gentleness and calmness and not the way of resistance
this is why I believe Jesus, because people say what was that all about?
he was such a pacifist
in Matthew chapter 5
Jesus said
I say to you do not resist
the evil man who injures you
if anyone strikes you on the right jaw or cheek, turn to him the other one too
how do you do that? how do you turn the other cheek figuratively?
we're not talking about someone punching you
that probably isn't what happened
but they probably kicked you in the stomach or punched you with their words
or their accusation or their gossip or their whatever
and you chose not to take it personally
and you chose to turn the other cheek
because you had the grace to understand
that something's going on in their life
and you were going to choose the way of love that covers a multitude of sins
and you were going to protect your own health and your own peace of mind
by not resisting the evil man
now I'd like to read you from a book called Manifesting
that is done by Hicks
what's their names?
it's Esther and Jerry Hicks
they have a book on
they were one of the original on the law of attraction
and on manifesting
I don't agree with their whole perspective
and how they're doing things
so you guys don't need to send me letters and tell me where the book's wrong
but I do glean things from things
and their idea of explaining resistance and allowing is really nicely done
so I'm going to choose to pull that truth from it and make it my own
and so what it talks about in the terms of manifesting
in terms of achieving your goals, dreams and desires quickly
if someone is not receiving what they're asking for
so you've got to stop and say
Jesus said, ask, believe, receive
Jesus said, if you ask, believing that you have received, you shall receive
those are Jesus' words, period
now either Jesus spoke truth or he didn't
either this is a reality or it's not
either you believe the word of God or you flush it down the toilet and say it's not true
if you're going to believe it, you've got to believe all of it
and Jesus said that whatever you ask for
believing that you have received it
you will receive it, you shall have it
so in this book it says if someone's not receiving what they're asking for
it's not because there's a shortage of resources
see if you base it on lack, now you're basing it on the lion illusion
there is no lack in the universe
I almost, I'll confess here
I almost brought lack into the miraculous
I was asking God, I needed several miracles
there's some things that have hit me and I needed several miracles
and I asked God for a miracle
and then I asked God, I said
would it be okay if I asked for another miracle?
I actually need three miracles
and I really felt the spirit of God speak to me
why do you put lack when it comes to miracles?
why wouldn't you ask for multiple miracles on a daily basis?
why would you apply lack that you can only ask for one miracle?
and I realized that this illusion of lack
we take even into the spiritual dimension of how much we can pray for
how much we can ask for, how often we can ask
and how many miracles we can ask for
I'm confessing that just happened to me like two days ago
I'm making it real right now
I was bringing this, what it's talking about
it says if someone's not receiving what they're asking for
it's not because there's a shortage of resources
you think God has a shortage that he can't do more than one miracle?
that I can't believe for more than one miracle?
that I can't believe for a different miracle in three different areas of my life?
it's not because there's a shortage of resources
it can only be that the person holding the desire
is out of alignment with their own request
remember we're talking about impeccable
not violating yourself
do you hear that?
do you see the congruency there?
they're not receiving what they're asked for
it's not because there's a shortage of resources
there is no lack
he owns the cattle on a thousand hills
it's not that, it can only be
that the person asking, the person holding the desire
is out of alignment with their own request
so their mouth is saying one thing
but they're not believing it
expecting it
I was talking about manifesting
I was talking with a young man
who wanted a desire to
car and so I began to ask him what he was doing to prepare for that car. Did he
really believe that he was going to receive it? Because if you really believe
that you're going to receive it and you're in alignment with what you're
asking, you're going to create space. That's part of what I teach in my
manifest program and I'm going to do another manifest workshop shortly
because the results are so tremendous. So if you're not part of
prosperinallthings.com, if you haven't opted in so that you know what I'm
teaching, I'm going to be adding some things here real soon. Make sure that
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the right side, you get five free videos because I'm going to be teaching even
more on this. I'm realizing that this is so effective and making such a
difference when I teach people this and so I'm going to get heavier into that.
And so I talked to him about one of the aspects that I teach is how to create
space. I said, are you really expecting that car? Are you expecting to get it?
Because if I was, I'd be buying accessories for it. I'd be clearing the
parking spot or the garage where I'm going to park it. I would and I started
talking about all the ways I would create space. See, when you don't really
believe you're going to receive it, so many people go in and pray in the
morning and they do it out of ritual but they don't really expect to get an
answer for prayer. It just makes them feel good. I meet more people that pray
not expecting to get an answer at all. So it says if they're not receiving, it's
not lack, it's because it's out of alignment with their own request. And it
says your habit of resistant thought is the only thing that ever keeps you from
allowing the things you desire. So if there's something you desire and you're
not getting it, I guarantee you there's resistance. You're going against the jet
stream. It says there is an unlimited stream of well-being. First of all, you
have to work out in your own heart either God is good or he isn't. I'm of
the firm conclusion that God is good and that everything he's working, Romans
828, is working together for my good. So I'm coming from the worldview that
everything happening in my life is working for my good. And that's what this
is saying. There's an unlimited stream of well-being and abundance of all manners
of things available to you at all times. I believe when God put Adam and Eve in
the garden, gave them dominion, taught them the principles of what I'm teaching
you here, he said you can have whatever it is you desire. So it says an abundance
of all manner of things available to you at all times, but you must be in
alignment with the receiving of those things. You cannot stand in resistance of
them and receive them at the same time. In my mind, I made the
connection between being impeccable in what I'm asking with my word and what
I'm asking. Being impeccable, making sure that I'm in alignment, that I'm allowing
and I'm not in resistance. It says you must be in alignment with the receiving
of those things. You cannot stand in resistance and receive them at the same
time. It says when you really, really, really want something, I'd put the word
desire there, when you really, really desire something and you're thinking
about your desire and this is how you can gauge. This is your early detection
system, is your emotions and you're feeling pleasure from the thought. So
you really, really desire something, you think about it and immediately you
have so much pleasure around that, which is one of the secrets of manifesting.
Your current thought vibration is in alignment with your desire. We call that
allowing, but when you really, really desire something but instead you start
feeling anger or fear or disappointment or whatever, the low frequency emotions,
that means there's your early detection system, it means you're focused on the
opposite of your desire and in doing so you're introducing another non-matching
vibration to the mix. We call that resistance. So the degree of negative
emotion that you're experiencing indicates, that's your early detection
system, indicates the degree of resistance. This young man asked me why he
manifests the things he doesn't desire and why that's so easy to do and I said
because that's what your predominant thought and emotions are around. You're
focusing on what you don't desire and that's your predominant thought. You see
you can have a desire in your heart but if the vibration that you are in is not
in alignment with that desire, you're going to attract the vibration that
you're in. We are electrical beings. Quantum physics now has taught us every
cell, every part of us, we are electrical beings.
our magnetic beings we know that force radiates out from our heart it's been
it's now been monitored somewhere between 8 and 12 feet coming out from
the heart you are emitting energy
magnetic electromagnetic energy emfs electromagnetic frequencies you are
emitting those you are an electrical being all you have to
do is have a heart attack and know that how do they start back your heart
electrically the brain shuts down there's no
electrical understand you are an electrical being
your thoughts are being communicated across
all the neural pathway electrically so you've got the the chemical side of
yourself you've got the electrical side of
yourself and that electrical side of yourself
is attracting that which is in agreement with it
that's why when you change when you change your way of thinking
when you change your mindset the people that you used to be able to hang out
with you won't be able to anymore you'll just feel this
uncomfort you'll just feel this resistance well you're no longer in
alignment you're on a different frequency
you'll get with someone that's operating on the same frequency and it'll be as
natural as breathing for you you'll feel so comfortable well the
same thing happens with our own desires and so
you're going to attract the vibration you're at
not the desire in your heart if those don't match that's what i'm talking
about allowing and resisting and so part of that
becomes changing and becoming skilled at changing your frequency
and that is a decision you're going to learn
to be able to make uh let's see i'm getting some questions being
text yeah all of us are electric but some of
us throw off sparks thanks christine for your comment
um by the way you guys can do that if you want to send me comments that's fun
too so um part of it is is learning very
quickly how to change your frequency when you get when you get in this place
of resistance this is thinking about your thinking and
knowing how to change that very quickly whether you need to get up and move and
dance whether you need to put on music whether you need to pray and worship
when you find yourself sinking into a vibration and a frequency that is
causing you to get into disease that is uh pushing away the things you want you
have to be able to change that very quickly
so um what what this book says is identify your resistance about 80%
of what holds us back is internal and the remaining 20% is in the outside
world and even then it's our personal internal responses to
what's outside that determines if we'll succeed
your internal resistant controls what you can and cannot achieve in your
unless you identify what's holding you back you'll never overcome it
and the really interesting thing is that most of your internal resistance
is probably just old stuff you've dragged forward from childhood
it often has no real truth for who you are
today superior achievers often ask one question when they're moving ahead
what am i doing or thinking that's holding me back demand an
answer you need to know how you're placing limitations on
yourself ask focus questions i put it in the
positive sense and that's why i begin each day with
what's the single most important thing i can do today
to advance in the direction of my goals dreams
and desires my coaching clients all know that
well they've got that ingrained in their brain learning to ask the right
questions what's the single most important thing i
can do right now today to advance in the direction of my
goals dreams desires it says when you really really
want something desire something and and you're thinking about your desire and
you feel pleasure from the thought then your current thought vibration is in
alignment with your desire we call that allowing
when you really really desire when you really are feeling the opposite the
negative emotions come anger fear disappointment that means you're focused
on the opposite of your desire so your emotions can let you know that
actually you're thinking about the opposite
you're resisting you're not allowing and so you're introducing another
non-matching vibration to the mix that's called resistance
that degree of negative emotion your experience lets you know the degree of
resistance so just another little twist as we bring
this thing to a landing about being impeccable with our word
begin to learn to listen to your body your body never lies
look at your symptoms look at that if you have that begin to listen to your
heart begin to listen to your emotions begin to get what's really going on
for you so that you can make these new agreements
and you can go forward like christine just shared
and joy and begin to know that all things are working together for your
good so I pray that this is just really blessed you dealing with these two I
pray you think about it all week long and allow this to bring transformation
for you and we are going to start next week with a real big one wow you are
going to get some revelation like none other on don't make assumptions you are
you're gonna be amazed I believe on all the places I am in my life all the ways
I end up making assumptions and now I catch myself now I'm getting to the
level of awareness that I go oh my gosh that's an assumption how do I even know
that that's true how do I even know that that person was thinking that how do I
even know the reason they did that was the reason I'm saying how do I even know
that they're doing something because I thought all of the assumptions that we
make is crazy so we're gonna conclude this one and I bless you all to have an
amazing week of being impeccable with your word not violating yourself not
taking things personally and walking in joy and abundance has been such a
pleasure it's been the high point of my week to to have you on this call although
I've got two more real high points so be sure you're catching the schedule and
seeing the webinars going on this week this is a big week I bless you I'm just
thankful to have you in my life and that we get to go down this journey together
so may the Lord bless and keep you and all your desires come true this week