All right, there we go.
So welcome.
As we continue our study on the four agreements, and, you know, I am just absolutely convinced
that if we can just really focus on this, if we can really master these four agreements,
and I just want you all to know, this study is for me as much as for all of you.
I know I tell you that often.
We know that we teach that which we most need to learn.
I've had so many opportunities to practice this, and I think probably as it's coming
to your awareness, you probably have too, and be thinking about that if you have some
good examples.
I love interaction on this call.
Share how this is helping you, share.
But I had just a number of times this week where I applied this, and I can't tell you
the pain, suffering, conflict, everything that ended by simply applying these four agreements.
So excited to dig in today.
So let's just invite the Holy Spirit to be our teacher, and just great to have you guys
all on the line.
So Father, I just thank you for this opportunity.
I thank you for this wisdom that you brought in my direction when I read this book a couple
years ago, and just to be able to keep going back to it and realizing now that sometimes
in simplicity, there's such profound truth that we can't eliminate.
So much of the pain and the suffering, and realizing that we bring this pain and suffering
on ourselves is not something you're doing to us, and that there's so much needless grief
that doesn't need to happen, and you said the truth.
The truth sets us free, and I believe this is a really deep truth that is setting a lot
of people free.
So thank you for the study, Holy Spirit.
You be our teacher.
You be our guide.
You lead us.
Let the words of my mouth, the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight.
In Jesus' name, amen.
Well, it's exciting to be going through this study, and we're making our way.
Today we're beginning the third agreement, and I think you're seeing how they are all
building on each other in such a powerful way, and our key verse that we've been using
for this whole study has been Romans chapter 12, verses 1 and 2.
And particularly in verse 2, when it's talking about not being conformed, or not being conformed,
not being shaped, not being made in the image of.
You're made in the image of God, and this is saying don't be made in the image.
Don't be shaped.
Don't be conformed.
Don't be patterned after.
What's going on in the world?
The way that things are done on television, or in the media, or in what you're reading,
or because it's not based most often in truth.
And instead it says, but be transformed.
That means completely changed, and it says by the entire renewal of your mind.
So this particular study is really about re-newing.
Remember re means do again.
Whenever you see re in front of a word it means do again, new, make new.
So you came to earth with a fresh, clean slate, and then you had the different authorities
in your life, your parents, your religious affiliation, your school teachers, etc., who
were doing the best that they could.
This is not coming from a place of judgment, but things were getting passed down generationally
as to how we do things.
How do we view the world?
How do we dream?
What is it okay to dream?
How do we look at money?
Are the rich people wicked and evil, and we don't want to be with them because we're on
this side of the tracks and you just need to be happy with what you have, or was it
opposite?
Did you come from wealth and you look down on it, or did you just believe that you didn't
deserve to have it, or did you believe that if you loved God you wouldn't love money?
I just picked money, but we can do this with relationships.
We can do this with any aspect of your life, but what happened is these people in your
life hooked your attention before you had the thinking process to really sort through
and say, is this true, and is this going to serve me in my life?
You didn't get that opportunity.
It simply became part of your belief system, and then by your observations, by your pain,
you begin to add some more to that.
and I've shared my example that I came from a very wealthy home. I mean we had
indoor swimming pools, I had horse arenas, I was at horse shows and
so appeared to have it just all together but
within that there was a lot of craziness. We lived the Hollywood lifestyle and
there was always parties at our house and drunken bodies all over
and there was you know adultery and there was
fighting and there was throwing things and breaking things and
grabbing us out of bed and packing us in the car and getting us out of there
and going to a hotel and there was all of
this drama and so my little six, seven, eight
year old brain didn't know what to do with that and so it made these
these decisions. So it was both what was being fed
into me and the decisions that your little subconscious makes like
I don't desire any money because money brings craziness
and then you know I grow up and in high school start going to church for the
first time and I find out that the saying that
money is the root of all evil which is an inaccurate translation it's not what
it says and then I could easily just buy into
that and say well yeah absolutely I don't want any and then you get where
you can't pay your bills and you're an adult you're struggling and you can't
break an income threshold and you wonder why
well none of that had anything to do with God
it all had to do with our stinking thinking
it all had to do with belief systems that were not based on truth that we
were subscribing and holding that were creating our reality
so part of just all of this is increasing in awareness to understand
how much of the results that you're experiencing the fruit
in your life or the lack thereof the your basic reality and experience to
realize how much you are causing them
it's not God it's not the devil it's not Obama it's it's your
thinking and this is scriptural from from Genesis to Revelation I can show
you this I've spent a lot of time thinking about this
and it's it's why you know I would say if you define what I do and prosper in
all things I'm a spiritual mindset coach that's really what I do
because if you can understand the spiritual laws that you're violating
and they're just as much as gravity and if you can
understand the mindset that you're holding those two things are keeping you
where you are and so for things to be different we
have to be different and what I want to talk about or desire to
talk about with these four agreements is a way to break so much
conflict internal conflict just the depression and the anxiety and
the world worry external conflict the division
and I'm going to give you examples scripturally today the division that
happens in marriage and families in countries
in churches I mean you know the the amount of church splits is
unbelievable how can you be a Christ follower and
having the same faith and you're constantly splitting into two churches
you know marriage the same way I mean I was one I'm I'm divorced woman right so
um this is a serious thing that is causing a lot of division
and it's causing a a lot of
in our reality that is completely unnecessary
completely unnecessary and so when we begin to have the awareness the
consciousness to realize where this conflict is
coming from and I have found that these four
agreements is the simplest way the absolute
simplest way to eliminate 90 if not all
I think if the world subscribed to these we wouldn't we would no longer have
conflict we no longer have us versus them we
have all this internal strife and and stress and so on
so roman 12 here is is saying that how how transformation happens is by
renewing our minds so we begin to have a new mindset that serves us
that is um based in in in a truth and not based on assumptions and not based
on taking things personally and and interesting what
tags at the end of this verse is so that then you can prove for yourself
what is the good and acceptable perfect will of God
so most of you that come and talk to me you're like
I want to do God's will well here it is renew your mind be transformed renew
your mind and you
Know it you will be living it you will be it because it's in you the kingdom of God is within you
So so here we are, you know in a place where we can we can break these beliefs that have held us back
You know Jesus talked about
In Matthew 15 that we we actually cancel the Word of God because of our traditions
He actually said our worship can be a farce. This is Jesus
You think you're being religious you think you're in the right church you think you know all of this and your worship is a farce
because it's man-made ideas and and and they're being taught as commands from God and
so we're able to break these
lessons of agreements that we've made with ourselves and
with others and
We can begin to step into this place of joy and peace
So we went through the first one we went through was being
impeccable
With our word that was the first agreement being impeccable. And when we looked at the the Latin
It it comes from care means sin and M means not to
Idea is not
sinning with your words
not
using and so this is this is so powerful, of course because
for for
manifesting your
goals dreams desires
You must understand spiritual principles. You must understand
How the world is made how God made us when he formed us and he made us in his image
He put in place he put you in a universe he puts you in a world
spiritual principles and laws and
He made it for you to be able to manifest
You must understand the mind heart mouth connection
That what you're thinking
The the predominant thoughts that you're holding the predominant belief systems, which is a group of thoughts that you're holding
Okay, I can hear you guys moving your phone around so go ahead and mute if you're not talking
Please this is gonna make the recording have a lot of static
so
When you realize that the mind heart mouth
Connection and I teach this in my manifest program and it is why the people who go through the manifest program
Manifests their goals dreams and desires in 90 days. There's a reason because it's not violating themselves and it's not violating
Spiritual principles so must be aware of your thoughts your belief systems. That's the mind heart
You must understand the emotions is what's driving. That's creating the neuropeptides. That's affecting every cell in your body your release
He's that's activating the law of attraction and bringing things into your life or repelling things from your life
That's the heart and the third part of that is the mouth the words
And you see this with salvation in the Bible if you believe with your heart, right
So there's you got you got your mind and heart if you believe with all your heart and you confess with your mouth that Jesus
Is Lord you shall be saved there you see it the plan of salvation has the mind heart mouth connection
I can show you that from Genesis to Revelation. This is how God hardwired the universe
Understanding of it right now. I you know, I give myself Liberty
I'm still gonna grow what I teach could you know add more truth
But this is what I found so far. So when you understand the power of words that life and death is in the tongue
When you understand that the entire universe was was spoken into existence
When you understand then you will begin to understand the power of words and you'll be very very
careful and selective
with what comes
mouth
Because your words have the power to create
Your words have the power to allow you to manifest so your words need to be very deliberate and you must
understand
Vocabulary
everything has a
Vocabulary and they're very different fear and faith are two
different
vocabularies
The wealthy and the poor speak to
Vocabularies, do you understand so you you begin to learn a new
vocabulary that matches that which you desire so death and life are in the power of the tongue and and
And and language gives us dominion
Language is your
way of taking dominion over your situation and your authority. It's your way of communing with
God. It's your way of taking mastery over your situation. It's your way to bring about healing.
It's your way that causes dis-ease if you don't follow this. So words are extremely powerful and
so when you're talking about being impeccable with your word, the idea is not sinning with your word
and he uses a definition of sin in this book, The Four Agreements, that's very similar to
what Jonathan Butler teaches which is sin as self-inflicted nonsense. In other words,
sin is violating yourself with your words. So not just the biblical standard of sin of missing
the mark, I want to use it in a broader definition here of sinning when you are violating yourself
with your words. If God says you're made in his image, if God says you're the apple of his eye,
if God says you're perfect, if God says you're beautiful, if God says that he's making all
things beautiful this time and you're speaking the opposite of God over yourself and you're
saying I'm so fat, I'm so stupid, I'm so ugly, I just can't get this right, this will never work,
you're sinning with your words because you're in direct conflict with God's view of you,
with you being made in the image of God, you're speaking something contrary to yourself and you're
no longer being impeccable with your words or if you do the same thing to another, if you begin
to verbally abuse another, and sometimes we just do it out of ignorance.
We have no idea how much our words are shaping the child that we're speaking into their life
for positive or for negative and so being impeccable with our words is being very careful
what we speak, that it is honoring, that it is edifying. Scripture talks about having all our
words being seasoned with grace, that it may build up the listener and we know that praise,
what's the word I want to use besides praise, when you're praising another, when you're
appreciating another, we know that praise and appreciation is one of the highest frequencies
and one of the closest to our source, so if we could be using our words as scripture says to
edify and the word edify means to build up, like an edifice, like you're building up a
building and you put that edifice around to build it up, if we could be using our words to build up
and not tear down, how different would our world be and if we could be using our words to build
ourself up, this is where affirmations come in and I teach all of this in the manifest program,
how to do biblical affirmations, not just any affirmations and understand how to get results
with affirmations, but do you know that science is catching up with what the bible has taught for
thousands and thousands of years, we're beginning to understand why our words change, hold on just
one second here, why our words can create health or disease, for example, we now know the science
is there now that your dna, hear this carefully and I can send you an article, your dna actually
responds to your words, if you have bought into the teaching that your dna is fixed and it's in
the genes and that's why you're this way and that's why you have that, I want you to understand what we
now know, I mean geneticists know how to split you know dna and move apart from one to another
and do all of that, you can do that same effect with your words, your dna responds to your words,
this is how powerful being impeccable with your word is, you are shaping your life, your fruit,
says that the power of life and death is in the tongue and we eat the fruit thereof.
You are shaping the very fruit of your life and all the way down into every cell in your
body all the way down to your DNA by your words.
I just want to take a pause and let you comment on that.
Does that just change how you might view what comes out of your mouth?
I'd love to hear from you guys.
This is a good time for feedback.
Any questions, comments before I move on?
Are you there?
Can you hear me?
Yes, I can hear you Brenda.
Okay, good.
When you're all silent, I start to wonder if I'm talking to myself.
Just reflect on that so that as we move on, we're super careful.
Do you know, I don't know if you played this game and I know kids still play it, but when
I was a kid, we had a game called cutting and it was how we would keep cutting each
other down and that was just humorous, right?
And you've seen all the jokes, you know, your mom is so ugly that or your mom is so
fat that, you know, all these kinds of ways that we're carelessly using our words.
But when we understand that the power of life and death is in the tongue and we're shaping
our entire reality by our mind, heart, mouth connection.
No questions, comments, feedback on that one before I move on?
Okay, I guess you got it.
Secondly, that's the first agreement, be impeccable with your word.
Second agreement, don't take anything personally.
Don't take anything personally.
Now in order to take things personally, it's rooted in the belief system that whatever's
going on is about you.
He talks about it in the definition of personal importance.
In other words, here's what you need to understand about this.
Every single person has whatever metaphor you want to use, has a movie going on in their
head or has a book that they're writing in their head, they are the script writer, they
are the producer.
They are creating their own dream in their mind, they're imagining it the way they want
to imagine it, they're visioning it the way that they want to vision, and it's a completely
different world than what's going on in your mind.
When we take things personally, we make the assumption that what they're thinking is the
same as what we're thinking.
And we talked about this at length, biblically that's called taking offense.
And what happens when you take offense and you take things personally is that now you're
assuming that your movie is the true one.
And because it's the true one, you're assuming theirs is not.
There's the conflict.
Okay?
And I'm setting us up for the one we're doing today about not making assumptions.
So now you get in a position where you have to defend your beliefs and you need to be
right.
And you need to rally people around you to show why you're right.
So now you get gossip, now you get division, and how do you think you get church splits
or country splits or marriage splits or any other split?
It comes with taking something personally, believing something, getting offended about
it, proving that you're right, and bringing other people into the mix.
And we saw over the last few weeks that this taking things personally or what the Bible
calls taking offense keeps us from seeing the truth.
It blinds us for really finding out what's really going on.
We also saw that it keeps the miraculous away.
Okay?
And we also saw that the antidote is love and humility and realizing that we're all
on this journey with our own perspectives.
And so the option that we taught is understanding that each of us, all we really have is our
opinion and knowing that we each have that.
So I had shared with you a kind of a parallel book with this one in terms of taking things
personally and it is Katie Byron's book called Loving What Is.
And she has four questions that also help kind of break this taking it personally idea.
And the first thing is, is it true?
And the second question is...
can I absolutely know it's true and the third is how does this how is this
affecting me how do I react when I think that thought and then the fourth is can
I can I see a reason not to drop this thought I mean what would I be without
this thought and so what usually happens in this process is is it true well
sometimes yeah you get in defending yourself and you're like yeah it's true
I know it's true and then when you say well can you absolutely know it's true
how can you absolutely know it's true well then you're like hmm I guess
there's the possibility you allow in the possibility that it might not be true
and then you look at how it's serving you and and so what is holding this
thought doing to you well it's making me really angry I had an experience like
this just just a couple days ago there was something that someone was doing or
not doing that was was just really the longer I went on the longer I started
taking it personally and thinking that that this was directly attributed to me
and I was thinking that it was disrespectful that it was dishonoring
and that it was devaluing and I really got myself worked up and I thought about
this study and I went okay is there a possibility that what I'm thinking isn't
based on truth and in this particular case sometimes you might want to do this
sometimes you got to get out of your own head and you have to find someone that
is really clear thinking because otherwise you'll just create gossip and
factions and they'll defend your lies and then you'll just have two of you you
know believing lies or whatever and then you've got gossip and all that so but if
you can find someone really genuine and say look I'm just trying to make sure
that what I'm thinking right here is based on truth what's your perspective
and I did that and that person gave me a totally different perspective to where I
realized it's not based on truth and I was willing to release it and it saved
me because I was really starting to get angry and it saved it completely took
away my anger and it saved all conflict and this is why I say doing this can
eliminate 90% of conflicts or it can eliminate 90% of what we call pain or
suffering and so I'm just giving you a way to reduce stress and anxiety in
your life so anyway that that was the second one third one was not taking
things personally and so today I want to move into this idea of the last of the
next one which is do not make assumptions and it goes right along with
taking things personally because the reason you take things personally is
because you make an assumption you make an assumption that what they were
thinking was about you you make an assumption that what they're thinking
is not right you make an assumption that what you're thinking is right and you
start making you start making all these assumptions then you take it personally
then you take offense and then you've got conflict okay that's the pattern
that's the role that happens so let me read you just as a way of opening this
what he wrote in in in the book the four agreements about making assumptions and
it's it's really really very powerful he said we have a tendency to make
assumptions about everything so this is true we just go through life making
assumptions assumptions mean that you take your belief system and assume that
it's true you assume that you know that you really know what's going on you
assume that you're thinking or your opinion is the right one that your
brains view your perspective your brains opinion is the right one so he says we
have a tendency to make assumptions about everything the problem with
making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth fact we could swear
they are real we make assumptions about what we're what others are doing or
thinking and we take it personally whenever we make assumptions we're
asking for problems we make an assumption we misunderstand we take it
personally and we end up creating a whole big drama for all the sadness and
drama you've lived in your life was rooted in making assumptions and taking
things personally take a moment to consider the truth of
statement from now on every time you feel stressed or angry or there is a
conflict just stop for a second and say am I making an assumption that my brain's
opinion is true and right and that I really understand and have an
understanding on it and am I taking this personally and just doing that will
completely turn it around well what's the answer what's the antidote for not
making assumptions the antidote is three letters I want you to write this
in great big across your notes three very important letters that form one
very small world one small word that will eliminate this whole idea of
assumptions are you ready for can anyone guess what the three-letter word is that
breaks the assumption
anybody guess what I'm going to say
come on you guys this is an interactive study you're leaving me hanging out here
all by myself come on jump in
thank you ask A S K ask assumptions happen because we're afraid to ask for
clarification and there's a lot of reasons that we're afraid to ask for
clarification we don't want to upset the other person we don't want to be wrong
we I mean there's all kinds of reasons we don't want to be rejected we have a
lot of reasons but instead of asking we just come to our own conclusions we just
produce our movie and we believe we're right about those assumptions and so now
we believe we're right about these assumptions and Don Miguel goes on to
say because we believe we're right about the assumptions then we defend our
assumptions and we try to make someone else wrong it's always better he says to
ask questions then make an assumption because assumptions set us up for
suffering the big metote he calls that all the voices in your head in the human
mind create a lot of chaos which causes us to misinterpret everything and
misunderstand everything we only see what we want to see and we hear what we
want to hear we don't perceive things the way they are we have the habit of
dreaming with no basis in reality we literally dream things up in our
imagination because we don't understand something we make an assumption about
the meaning so what happens is you see something with your eyes or you feel
something with your heart you see something with your senses and the
assumption is where you jump from what you see or what you're experiencing to
putting a meaning attaching a meaning to it this is what happens with assumptions
you're attaching a meaning to what's going on so a person looks at you funny
and it could be that that person went oh no in their head I'm just making up a
scenario okay a person standing there next to you and all of a sudden they
think oh my gosh I left the oven on and their whole face changes now you're
talking you're telling them a story or you're talking something and you see
their whole face change when the metote in their head just reminded them they
left the oven on in their whole facial changes and now you attach meaning to
the facial change and you say they're not interested in what I'm saying you
know what they're never interested in what I'm saying and look at the way that
they just judged me and that look of horror that came across in that look of
just do you see how we just attached a meaning to something and it was totally
not based in reality so it says we make an assumption about the meaning when the
truth comes out later and the bubble of our dream pops we find out it was not
the right thought at all have you ever done this by the way I can hear you guys
like moving on your phone and all of that have you ever done that have you
ever thought something and then when the truth comes out it's far from what you
thought it was have you ever done that
any of you have that experience
are you there with me
ok Greg's with me is anyone else with me
you guys on the phone
ok
Okay, so, go ahead.
I've had that experience, and the issue with it is that
you have to hear it from that person.
You have to.
And then I even had that experience.
I heard it from the person.
They clarified it, justified it, and then I still felt like,
okay, they're probably not telling the truth.
They're just trying to flip it over.
Wow.
I went through a lot and I grow back with it.
Wow, all those mental gymnastics, huh?
That's amazing.
You know, I was thinking of, and I can't remember.
It's been a while now.
It's probably been a year or something, but I was talking
to someone and I confessed that I had made an assumption
to them, and it opened them up to confess.
And they said, oh, well, now that we're making
confessions, I just wondered why you never ever asked
me to do X, Y, Z.
Why you never chose me?
Why you didn't think that I would be good enough to do
X, Y, Z. And had to do with, as a presentation I was
doing, and it was so my reality.
I had never, it wasn't that I wasn't asking, it never
even crossed my mind that that person was interested
in even doing what they were wondering why I didn't
ask them if that makes sense.
And so there's these things that they're thinking, wow,
she doesn't think I'm good enough to do that.
So she didn't choose me.
She doesn't think that, you know, and you just go on
and on and on and it never even crossed their mind.
They were so far in another reality.
Well, let's get some scriptural examples.
Yeah.
Yeah, yeah, well, you know, the only thing that you
can be responsible is yourself.
You, you cannot choose the response of another.
So all you can do is say, what can I do on my end?
To be impeccable with my words, not take things personally,
not make an assumption.
And what can I do so that what I'm doing is love-based
and not fear-based.
So, you know, if you know, there's some people that
here's, here's, let me answer again with a conversation
that I had actually, I mean, you guys are bringing
up conversations I had this week.
A friend of mine, you know, ex-wife, completely
unreasonable.
You can't, you can't talk and, and it just creates so
much conflict.
And what I said is you have to understand something
in general and, and Latonya, this is true for you.
You have to understand that for the most part, number
one, we have not been taught how to communicate.
That's the first thing.
Number two, we have not been taught how to communicate
maturely.
So when I find someone that can communicate with me,
it's such a blessing and such a welcome gift.
Most people have a very low EQ, emotional quotient.
We know about IQ, but we now know success is much more
determined by EQ.
And so they have such a low that, that instead they
immediately respond defensively, they immediately
attack.
And, and what I was saying to this person is understand
that when you speak and they respond that way, what
has happened is what you've said has touched a pain
point, a past memory in them and you've pushed them
into fear.
How do people respond out of fear?
Well, they withdraw, you know, fight or flight, right?
They fight.
So you've got the people that when you push their fear,
they get angry and they're going to come back at you
with anger.
You get other people when you push their fear, they're
going to retreat or they'll use withdraw.
They'll withdraw their love or they'll stop communicating
or they'll go in there.
Their way of doing it.
You'll get other people that will go into manipulation
to try to get you to see things their way.
So there's all these ways that we deal with our fear.
So the first thing is to not get in the mud and play
in that field.
And this is what I'm about to teach right now from
scripture for the rest of this study.
I think it'll apply to you is the first thing is understand
that they're reacting to their own pain.
They're not reacting to you.
So that first keeps you from getting into.
to the game. So now your only responsibility, LaTanya, is for you to be impeccable with
your word, not take things personally, not make assumptions, and do it in love. Keep
your intentions in love. So the answer is you couch it and you begin and say, look,
I want to ask you this because I don't want to make assumptions. My brain can go in my
own head and start spinning and it won't be based on truth. So I've learned that my best
way is to ask so I can really understand you. And I'm doing this out of love and I'm doing
this because I really value our relationship. So can I ask you, it appears to me that you
were dishonoring me or it appears to me that you were not valuing me in this situation
or it appears to me, my perception, my brain's opinion is that you were ignoring me or that
you were putting me last on your list or whatever it is that you're picking up, right? You were
disrespectful, whatever. And I need to know what was going on for you so I can better
understand you. Would you help me understand you? And if they still, you know, choose to
take it personally or take offense, you're not responsible. You can't control other people.
All you can do is control what you do. So let's look at some examples in scripture of
this and how we can see this played out. So turn to Matthew 16. Let's watch this played
out in real life situations. Matthew 16. Matthew 16 verse 6. Matthew 16 verse 6. And we're
going to go through quite a few verses. We're just going to work our way down there. So
Jesus said to them, he makes a comment. So this is an example of how this works. So here's
Jesus' comment. Jesus is teaching. He says, be careful and on your guard against the leaven
or the ferment of the Pharisees and the Sadducees. Okay, so here he's making a generalized statement,
right? Jesus says, look, be careful. You got to watch out for the leaven of the Pharisees
and Sadducees. Verse 7. They reason amongst themselves. Now this was a group that starts
talking about what he said. We might reason just amongst ourself. It might be that we
hear that and we start reasoning in our head or it might be like them. They were a group.
They reasoned amongst themselves about it. And then they say, huh, is it because we did
not bring any bread? Okay, do you see this? He's about, as we go through, to give them
a spiritual principle that can change their life. What do they do? They turn it into their
own idea in verse 7 and they say, oh, it's because we didn't bring any bread. Now Jesus
was very in tune spiritually. He was being very prophetic and it says Jesus is aware
of this. He's aware of what they're saying over there and how far off the market it is.
He asks a question to bring clarity. He says, why are you discussing amongst yourself the
fact that you have no bread? The Bible says, oh you men, how little trust you have in me,
how little faith. So here they come to their own conclusion. Here they come to their own
brain's opinion. Oh, he's talking the fact that we didn't bring any bread. And he's going,
why are you even saying it has anything to do with that? And he goes on in verse 9. Do
you not yet discern? Do you not yet perceive? Do you not yet understand, the Amplified says?
Bread, he says, don't you remember the five loaves? Any baskets you gathered? In other
words, he's going, do you understand? I'm not operating in lack. I'm not worried that
you didn't bring any bread. You're making the assumption that I'm upset that you didn't
bring bread on the boat. Have you already forgotten the miracle that I took five loaves
and five fishes and fed 5,000? Have you already forgotten about it? Already your brain has
formed a whole new opinion and you're worried that you didn't bring bread and that's not
what I was saying. And he goes on in verse 10, nor the seven loaves for the 4,000 and
how many large provision baskets you took up. Verse 11, how is it that you fail to understand
that I was not talking to you about bread, but beware of the leaven ferment of the Pharisees
and the Sadducees? So do you see we're having two parallel conversations going on? He's
trying to give them a religious teaching and they're thinking in the natural that they
didn't do so.
Something and they're going into all of those mental jargon. You see it right here in the scriptures
The more you study these principles the more you'll see it in every single biblical conversation
you'll see these principles in every single biblical character and
so then
Because Jesus asked questions and clarified in verse 12 and he addressed it Latonya
Do you see he did address it even if it was at the risk of upsetting them?
You noticed that he did bring it up. He didn't let him go on with it
He addressed it because he understood the problem with making
So then because he asked the question in verse 12, it says then
They discerned that he didn't tell him to be beware of the leaven of the bread
But it was the teaching of the Pharisees and Sadducees. Well, would you agree?
There's a big difference between physical bread and teaching. I
Mean how can you get any more different? So they both have movies in their head
Totally different don't even on the same page
and
They could begin to see what is true
What's not true?
It jumps again in verse 13 Jesus comes in to Cesare Philippi
I've been there in that spot and he asked his disciples a question. Who do people say the Son of Man is and
They answered
Some say John the Baptist others say Elijah others Jeremiah or one of the prophets
We have very different movies going on as to who?
Jesus is
Some say it's a real
on the Baptist
Other people say it's Elijah that was prophesied
Others Jeremiah others just think he's a prophet
Now he's gonna take it home, but who do you
Say that I am now watch something that happens here. This is the main thing
I want you to get out of this as far as assumptions Peter
steps into direct revelation
Peter says you are the Christ the Son of the Living God and Jesus says ah
Now in a realm of truth Jesus says blessed
Are you Simon Barjana for flesh and blood didn't reveal this to you. You're not operating in the flesh here
You're not making assumptions here. My father in heaven
Revealed to you. See I want you to understand that
Assumptions cause division and I want you to get that point in your notes. You could put point number one, you know
assumptions cause division
point number two
Assumptions come when we're operating in the flesh
Assumptions do not come when we're operating in the spirit
so I want to teach you that the antidote for assumptions is a ask and be asked for
revelation from heaven
So, let's do another example
And it comes from John. I believe it's John 4. I didn't write the verse here
But I'm pretty sure it's John 4 the woman at the well
Jesus goes through Samaria now once you understand assumptions cause
I'm under that point right now assumptions cause division
The division was so strong. The assumptions were so high
that
That people would not walk through Samaria the Jews
Specifically would not walk through Samaria
They'd rather go the extra miles to go around to stay away from those Samaritans those half breeds those dogs
There was major division going on. Jesus walks right through Samaria. He sits down at the well
so he already violated Jewish law to go through the
Samaria not law, but you know assumptions and then he violates the second one because he's a rabbi and he's gonna start talking
To a woman so we're gonna break assumptions that rabbis don't talk to women
okay, and so he sits there at the well and he makes a conversation with her and you can read that conversation in John 4 and
The woman says to him sir
I see and understand that you're a prophet because he starts prophesying about her life about the number of husbands
She's had and the one she's with now is not her husband
Watch the division and the assumptions come out in verse 20
She says our forefathers worshiped on this mountain
But you Jews say Jerusalem is the place where it's necessary and proper to worship
Okay, do you see the assumptions and you see that taking it personally?
Hey, we say our mountains better. Our church is better. This is the right church. This is the only church
This is the right religion. This is the only religion we worship on this mountain, but you Jews
You say Jerusalem's the place that it's necessary
to worship and Jesus breaks down the assumptions and he says woman believe me
a time is coming when you'll worship the Father not merely in this mountain nor
in Jerusalem guess what all that division is going to come crashing down
we'll understand the unity of all of humanity worshiping one God we'll
understand that all these man-made traditions all these assumptions all
these dividing countries is going to come to an end 22 he says you Samaritans
don't know what you're worshiping you're worshiping what you don't comprehend we
do know what we're worshiping we have knowledge and understanding because
salvation comes from the Jews he says a time will come however indeed it's
already here where true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and in
truth for the Father is seeking just such people as his worshipers I want you
to get this opponents to worship worshiping in spirit and worshiping in
truth this is why we must begin to look at every assumption and say is this
based on truth is it fear-based or is it love based is it based on truth and
did I get this from the spirit or did I get this from my own flesh did I get
this from my own past memories that triggered a past fear response am I
operating in the spirit or am I operating in the flesh am I operating in
assumptions it's right here in verse 23 a time will come and it's already here
where the true worshipers will worship the Father in both spirit and in truth
for the Father seeking such worshipers I would propose to you that scripture
teaches worship much broader than you've been taught worship I would propose that
some of you think of worship if you say I'm going to worship today you think of
going to church and three fast songs and two slow songs and a 15-minute sermon
and you say I worship today I propose that scripture talks about a
whole bunch of other worships Romans 12 one talks about worship being you
dedicating your body taking care of your body making your body a living sacrifice
which is a holy and reasonable form of service I would propose to you that
offering and giving to the poor is a form of worship scripture says I would
propose to you that loving the unlovable is a form of worship and here you see
him proposing that spirit and truth so get a broader definition of making your
life worship goes on in verse 24 he says God is a spirit a spiritual being and
those who worship must worship him in spirit and truth the woman says to him
in 25 I know the Messiah is coming he who's called the Christ the anointed one
he arrives he'll tell us everything we need to know there's an assumption again
that Messiah is coming they've been taught and he bring guess what it's me
I'm right here the Messiah the infinite wisdom infinite love infinite truth was
right in front of her and she hadn't even seen it yet because she was so in
her own assumptions about is it this mountain or is it that mountain is it
us Samaritans and our forefathers or you Jews and your forefathers is it this
or is it that you see assumptions cause division it creates us and them in South
Korea if you will it creates you know Eastern Eastern block and Western block
it creates all of this division and you can't even see infinite love and
infinite wisdom when it's standing right in front of you so here's the answer
James 1 5 to making assumptions James 1 5 remember we said ask a ask a look at
the different levels of asking so the first thing and this is answering your
question on you the first quiet first thing and what you're saying is get
yourself right get yourself in the spirit before you begin the conversation
so James 1 5 if any of you is deficient in wisdom let him ask there's those
words again of the giving God who gives to everyone liberally and ungrudgingly
God's not going to hold out on you he gives liberally gives ungrudgingly he's
not a holdout without reproach or fault-finding when you ask God for
wisdom he's not going to say
you're not you're not you're not studied enough for wisdom, you're not the right
age, you're not the right color, you're not the right gender, no he gives without
reproach or fault finding and it will be given to him. So step number one in
assumptions is ask for wisdom, ask before you even begin just go man I'm operating
in my brain's opinion and right now I'm looking at my emotions and my emotions
are very low frequency emotions, I'm angry right now, I'm depressed right now, I'm
frustrated right now, you're looking at your emotions and you're knowing that
they're low frequency emotions and you don't want to stay there. So the first
thing to get out of those low frequency emotions is God I need wisdom about this
situation, I need insight. Now what I do to really have something that I can go
back to again and again and it's completely changed my life is I sit down
I open my journal and and I pray and I pray in the Spirit and I ask for this
wisdom and I say speak Lord your servants listening, speak Lord I am a
friend of God, I'm ready Holy Spirit to hear the truth in this situation, I'm
ready to be seated with Christ in high places, I'm ready to get out of my own
assumptions, out of my own metote, out of my own voices and choir in my head and
I'm ready to hear it from your perspective so please speak right now
and you'll get just a word typically I get like one word or two words start
writing, don't correct, don't stop the flow just write until it stops in other
words let the book write you, let the prayer write you, just let your hand go
and just ask God and just write and don't judge it, don't look at it, don't
even think about it yet just let it flow and then I guarantee you you will go
back to that again and again so that you're getting wisdom from on high it's
helped me make decisions it's helped me bring the most powerful things into my
life that simple activity so James 1 5 ask John 16 John 16 verse 12 John 16
verse 12 Jesus said I still have so many things to say to you but you're not able
to bear them now you're not able to grasp them see Jesus has so much truth
that he wants to share with you but because of your past fears because of
the the dream because of your religion because of the agreements that you've
made because of the false belief systems that you've held you're not grasping
like the woman at the well she couldn't see infinite love and infinite wisdom
when it was standing right in front of her like the two men walking on the road
to Damascus and and Jesus is walking with them and they have no idea that
they are right with infinite love and infinite wisdom they don't even
recognize him like Mary and Martha Martha was so busy making sandwiches she
didn't understand infinite love and infinite wisdom was in her midst you
understand Jesus walking on the water coming toward him and they're thinking
it's a ghost they're not understanding infinite love and infinite wisdom do you
understand all the times that infinite love and infinite wisdom wanted to speak
with you but you couldn't grasp it because you were so busy with your own
assumptions and your own reality and your own dream you missed infinite love
and infinite wisdom
to that James 1 5 is ask John 16 I have many things to say to you you're not
grasping him but verse 13 but the spirit of truth the Holy Spirit he will
guide you into all truth the Amplified version says the whole the full truth
it's time for you to get out of your opinions and calling him truth and it's
time for you to get in the spirit and ask the Holy Spirit to give you the full
truth he will not speak his own message on his own authority he'll tell you what
he hears from the father he gives the message that's been given to him he'll
announce and declare to you those things that are to come in the future so he
guides us into all truth and he shows us things to come you can know your future
before it even hits that's when we went through supernatural living series and I
taught you about the gifts of the spirit and the word of knowledge and the word
of wisdom that can actually show you your future and give you the answer how
to respond in the future before it even hits in your present now
Romans 8 teaches us that those that are led by the Spirit are the sons you could
say the sons and daughters of God those that are led by the Spirit are the sons
and daughters of God Romans 8 verse 13 and 14 Romans 8 13 and 14 if you live
according to the dictates of the flesh you're going to die okay the making
assumptions calling your opinions truth getting emotionally reactive and taking
it personally taking offense those are all living in the flesh let me just
inform you they're your senses that perceived it and you took it as truth
and as gospel and you responded and you took offense and you took it personally
that's called living according to the dictates of the flesh you got upset
about it and Romans 8 13 says if you live according to the flesh you're gonna
die you're gonna die emotionally you're gonna die physically you're gonna die
spiritually you're gonna die if you live according to the dictates of the flesh
if you let your senses what you see what you hear and you take offense you take
it personally and you allow that to happen but every time I see a butt in
scripture great big butt I circle those okay so circle the big butt right there
but if through the power of the Holy Spirit you're habitually putting to
death you're making extinct you're deadening those evil deeds prompted by
the body you shall really and genuinely live forever verse 14 for all who are
led by the Spirit are the sons of God Romans 8 is very interesting because
many go around quoting myself included go around quoting Romans 8 28 that says
all things work together for good for those who love God and they assume that
it means that I just sit around and I wait for God to work all things together
he's gonna fix my finances even though I was irresponsible and got myself in
debt he's gonna fix my disease even though I'm killing myself with my fork
he's gonna come in and fix all these assumptions and conflicts even though I
caused them by making the assumptions he's gonna come in and fix everything in
Romans 8 28 they don't read what came right before Romans 8 28 which is
talking about praying in the Spirit praying in tongues that gets you in the
right place they don't go up a little further before that that talks about
crucifying the flesh and being led by the Spirit how is it that all things are
going to work together let me give you this draw three circles on top of each
other