All right, and welcome, welcome, welcome.
This of course is the third Thursday call of the Prosper Leader membership.
So excited that you are here tonight.
We're half size today.
We're half pint.
We have so many people on vacation, literally half, so we're going to be intimate, we're
going to have fun and what I have to share, I think it's going to be of tremendous value.
Want to remind you a couple of things before I get into the teaching, just so you get the
most out of this.
So if you remember on the last call at the beginning of the month, our first Tuesday
of the month call, I gave you the mid year goal setting template.
Now that is so important and not all of you have sent that back in and have tackled it.
And I want you to know that over all the years, if you could go back and look even at the
Harvard study, people who put into writing their goals and their desires and their dreams
and their vision, which we'll talk about tonight.
Remember Habakkuk says, write the vision and make it plain.
So those who see it may run with it.
Well, guess who the first person who sees it is you.
And so having it in writing gives you so much inspiration.
So you've got that template.
And remember, as part of this membership, you actually have access to two different
sites.
All right.
So the membership site itself, just think about that in your mind, as a Nflix, I won't
mess up any branding, but an Nflix, a faith based personal development, right?
Meaning lots and lots of videos on there.
You have all the access.
Keep in mind, many of these courses, I sold $300, 500, some of them $3,000 that you have
access to.
And so that's over there on the membership site.
Then you have your coaching portal.
I allow you access to what I use with my coaching clients.
That's where your worksheets are, which I call templates, interchangeable with the name
That's where files are.
That's where I email you from.
And those worksheets are interactive.
So ladies, I see you.
So if you complete them, I read them and I pray about them.
And I often comment.
Same thing.
You have an online journal.
If you put things on your journal page and you make it available to me, I see it and
I comment and I pray for you.
So remember, you've got the portal and the membership site.
So to get the most from the calls, to get the most from your membership, make sure you're
doing the templates.
Ladies, I'm not just pulling these out of the archives.
I pray a lot and I create those based on what the Holy Spirit's telling me for this group,
for this season, for now.
Like this template I'm giving you tonight, I worked on all week and I've got a busy coaching
practice.
So please don't take them lightly because I don't.
I really pour my heart to make sure you have the best to get the most.
So do the templates and then begin to create a personal development plan.
Have a personal development strategy.
It doesn't matter if it's 15 minutes a day that you go in and watch part of something.
Pick a Bible study, pick a five-day challenge, pick something to continue.
Remember, scripture says we're transformed by the renewing of our mind.
We now know that's science.
You're creating new neural pathways.
And so this is so important to have this.
So I put some goodies in.
Another thing you'll notice in your coaching portal is that there's a group.
You are part of the Prosper Leader membership group.
So in addition to your individual site, you want to check out the group.
Just click on groups, you'll find your group.
That group has a stream because sometimes I send things to the whole group.
Like today, I sent the journal template.
It'll give you how to put together a journal that's just a personal development course
in a box, if you will.
It's how to make the most, get a journal that really creates results.
I put in there the tournament.
desires, which I'm going to talk about right now in teaching.
So that's I you know, I just released it to the whole group.
Plus, you got the worksheet for today that way.
So, you know, make sure that you're you're checking those things
and you can always reach out to me there.
That's your your direct line.
You're welcome, Natalie.
That is your direct access to me.
OK, enough of all of that.
Let's pray and let's dive right in.
Father, I just thank you for this time.
I thank you for this community that you are building.
You spoke it.
You said, bring the ladies together.
You said for us to link arms and carry each other across the finish line.
You said to pray for each other, to share this community,
to share our connections, to network, to pour into each other,
to pray for each other.
And so I thank you for this community that is just growing and growing.
And we lift up all the people that can't be here tonight
with vacations and covid and so many things.
We lift them up that even when they're not here,
we just right now send love and connection to them.
Until the next time we all gather together,
I give thanks for this teaching that you've given me.
I ask that the words of my mouth, the meditation of my heart
will be pleasing in your sight.
I ask it'll come forth with clarity, with the power of your Holy Spirit,
and that it'll bring about transformation and bring about breakthrough
for each woman to fully step into who you've called her to be.
And I give thanks in Jesus name.
A man. All right.
Let us dive in.
And let's see, do I have it up?
I don't. I'll just have to find it. Here we go.
OK, and. I had it up.
Where did it go? Oh, there it is.
All right. See, you guys, I'm human.
All right. Here we go.
So the topic tonight is the peaceful path
to manifest your goals, dreams and desires.
Let me tell you that I have felt for a while now, for years.
God has been speaking to me that the seasons have changed
and the seasons have moved from the push
and shove mentality that most of us spent most of our life in
to achieve and manifest goals, dreams and desires.
We're moving away from that push and shove way of doing things,
which if you've been on my calls about masculine and feminine,
that's very masculine energy.
OK, we're moving away from that to release and receive.
Which is very feminine energy.
OK, and there's so much grace, so much ease,
so much joy in being able to manifest your goals.
And so as a coach to coaches, not only coming out of the business
world of 30 years, but as a coach to coaches all day long on my working days,
I see some patterns.
I see where people get stuck.
And so where the stressing comes in, where the striving comes in,
where the angst comes in.
And so I'm going to give you six things that God, you know,
really put on my heart to share, to have manifesting your goals,
dreams and desires in a more peaceful way, with more ease and grace
and less of that fighting and pushing and shoving and stressing
and striving and angst and all of that. OK.
Number one, God was really putting on my heart over this past week.
Just a reminder to ask for and to receive wisdom. OK.
Remember that you are the container of God.
Scripture says that you're the temple of the Holy Spirit.
You're the you're the church.
You hold the Holy Spirit.
And Scripture also says that Christ is in you.
Right. Christ in you, the hope of glory.
Scripture says you have the mind of Christ. OK.
What I want you to remember about that is that what you're looking for
isn't out there.
It's already in you.
And so it is learning how to tap into that. Right.
The world is focusing on lack what you lack.
By the way, are you guys all seeing me primarily?
Am I the one that's the showcase here so that you see this on the video? Yeah.
OK. If not, put it in the chat.
So so the world is.
Always focusing on lack, okay?
It's always telling you what you're missing,
what you need, what you're behind, you lack.
And the whole focus is on getting.
And the idea is that you can't be happy,
you can't be complete until you get, right?
So the idea is I just need to get more clients,
I need to get more money, I need to get more,
like it's all this idea.
And it's like the answer is outside of ourselves somewhere.
And Jesus said, look, don't go looking for me in a cave,
don't go looking for me on this mountain,
don't go looking me over there.
He kept on explaining the kingdom of God is in you.
And so it's in this sense,
if you're going to look for one thing,
ask for that wisdom to be revealed.
Proverbs 4.7 in the message is really powerful.
It says, above all and before all do this.
So above all, I put it on my Facebook post today,
above all, get wisdom.
The message says, write this at the top of your list.
So you list makers, go ahead,
put it right now on the top from now on.
Number one, get wisdom, get understanding.
You see, God wants us to prioritize his wisdom
of everything, above everything else
we put our hearts to pursue.
The book of James is really powerful.
James 1.5 says this.
If any of you lacks wisdom to guide them
through a decision or a circumstance,
we have so many decisions being thrown at us now.
And there's a lot of new ones that we've never faced before.
We've never had to look at life
the way that we look at it right now.
And so if any of you lacks wisdom,
he is to ask of our benevolent, our all giving,
all sufficient, all providing, all generous,
all loving God who gives to everyone generously
without rebuke or blame, and it'll be given to you.
So there's the promise.
There's the blank check.
You have access to that wisdom.
So on your template,
there's a place for you to write a prayer for wisdom,
maybe post it somewhere,
maybe put it in a place that you're gonna think about it.
The second thing that really keeps each person stuck
that I meet is something called double mindedness,
double mindedness.
And it's continuing in this verse,
the same verse in James.
So ask and it'll be given,
but it adds another qualification in verses six through eight
it says, but he must ask for wisdom in faith
without doubting.
So asking for wisdom in faith without doubting.
In other words, when you're asking for this wisdom,
you're not just going through the motions,
you're expecting to receive it.
And it says that the one who doubts
is like the billowing surge of sea
that is blown about, tossed by the wind.
For such a person ought not to think or expect
he will receive anything at all from the Lord.
That's pretty strong.
In other words, if you're gonna be double minded about it,
asking, but not really expecting,
asking, but not really believing,
asking in motion, but then doing something else,
being double minded about it,
don't expect anything in that way.
It says, because when we're double minded,
we're unstable and restless in all of our ways
in everything that we think, feel, decide, we're unstable.
Now, what causes double mindedness?
Double mindedness occurs for two reasons.
Usually you can write these down,
they're in your notes as well,
but where does double mindedness come from?
Number one, from fear.
Fear shuts everything down.
And number two, unclear.
Fear, unclear.
So what we're gonna talk about here
to eliminate the double mindedness
is some things you can do to get clear.
Clarity works wonders.
Do you know why most people don't,
they procrastinate or they work on things that don't matter
or they just keep putting off?
Usually because they really don't know what to do
or they're not clear.
And so then they just kind of don't do anything.
And so the first thing that we need to get clear on
might surprise you.
It's a thing that most women tend to neglect, we've been taught to ignore this we've been taught to put the needs of everybody else around us ahead. And so we think about the desires of our husband or mate we think about the desires of our children we think
about the desires of our boss or our colleagues we think about the desires of our clients we think we're always thinking and we don't get in touch with our own desires we somehow think our own desires don't matter.
Now I put one verse, but there's many many about delighting yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.
So, for meaningful goals for consistent action we have to be clear on our desires. So if you have not if you've coached with me you've done this, and you know how to do it but if you're new working with me.
If you have not done the tournament of desires this is a super great start, and I put it in I put the worksheet with instructions and I put the blank sheets you can do it on any legal size paper, and the tournament of desires came from a book that I
called the on purpose person, I'm not the not the purpose driven life or any of those don't be confused the on purpose person. And it's by Kevin McCarthy, we hired him as a speaker and this is where I first got the idea like almost 30 years ago and I've
ever since. And the tournament of desires it's like a match like a like a, like a tennis match or like a match. And so what you do first of all to kind of get rid of any bias, you just write your desires but you write one on the top of the page,
and then you go to the bottom then you go back under the top and you write the next one and this is in your instructions and then you go to the bottom and write another one.
So you're working your way up and down and up and down then you meet in the middle and you got all your desires, and only after you've done that then you can number them.
And then what you begin doing is you begin putting them in a competition against each other. And so number one against number two, now it's not to say you can't have all you can, but what we're going to do is we're going to pull out your top ones
right now. Okay. And so we compete number one and number two, and one of them advances, let's say it was number two advances then we compete number three and number four, and maybe number three advances.
Anyway, you end up with a new set of desires now you compete those against each other and you work your way till you get a final round. And so you'll end up with one final desire and if you back up, you know you'll have like your three top desires.
This is super powerful when it comes to clarifying, because you'll come to see what do I really desire what really matters to me.
And you see our desires are insights into our divine purpose, I really believe that you know when you've purified your heart I'm not talking about evil desires of an unrenewed heart okay it's a whole different topic.
Most of you that are on this call love God, you, you really your heart, you know, is in a good place. And so, now, that's why this promise comes delight yourself in the Lord who give you the desires but you got to know your desires and your
desires kind of clue you in on your divine purpose your divine calling. And, you know, some of these have been there since childhood, you know, you might have always have the desire to paint or always have the desire to travel, you know, I feel I was really
made for the world I've always had a desire for culture I've lived all over the world my friends are so you know from so many cultures I speak multiple languages from from childhood from the time I was, you know, little tiny tiny girl and raised by a four foot
Mexican nanny that didn't speak a word of English God was already like starting to honor the desires of my heart for the world. Okay. And he's been doing that in YouTube when you get in touch with it.
When you're in touch with your desires it fuels it fuels your action. Okay, so there's a place for you if you want to go do the tournament of desires do it if you don't at least maybe start thinking and listing your top desires here and do a little
mini tournament to put them in order. Okay. And then if you want to put action and where the rubber meets the road and this is why I sent you the journal template. What I do is on one page when you have open you open your journal and you got two pages.
Okay, and go to the journal template you'll know exactly how I format it, but when it comes to desire you open the pages, and on one page you write the desire.
And then on the opposite page. You write the action.
actions that you are willing to take and you start listing the actions moving toward that
desire.
And so this is a way where you, you know, you take and combine the desires with actions.
So I did send you the tournament of desires and the, the journal template.
Okay.
So we're clarifying desires.
That's number one, because if you really don't know what you want and, and some people it's,
it's just really common right now.
There's a lot of women that are just tired.
And if I say, what do you truly desire?
They can't even answer that.
They're like, I, I don't know.
I mean, I'm just in survival.
I go and I make the money and I this and I that, but like truly like what's the desires
of your heart.
Number one, that's a clarifying exercise.
Number two is clarifying your values.
Okay.
Now your values are what is really important to you and it's different for each person.
Okay.
I mean, we may have common values, you know, um, tied in with our Christian faith and so
on, but there's other values that more come from your, your upbringing and your trauma,
your healing, your past, like it is created a unique set of values for you.
And so, um, so what can happen and, and not liking coaching, I worked through this all
the time.
What can happen is we get value conflicts.
In other words, you desire to conflicting, you have, you hold two conflicting values.
So here's an example.
I have a woman that is a fourth grade teacher who, um, is desiring to be an entrepreneur
and just really build a coaching business.
But from childhood and from influence, her top value is safety and security.
Now can you see why that might conflict?
She'll stay in a job way too long doing things she really doesn't like and not go forward
with the entrepreneurial because it risks her sense of safety and security.
So these value conflicts, they can be personal.
That's an example of a personal or professional one.
A value conflict can be the mom that really has the desire of her heart is to be home
with her kids.
Uh, but you know, she's been told by her husband or by herself or whatever that she really
needs to work.
And so she's at work all day, even bringing work home.
And now there's a, there's a value conflict or someone that's in business.
There's a real value conflict when they get home.
Like the kids really want time and they really want time with their kids, but you know, they're
building a business and they feel like if they don't build that business, you know,
the world's going to fall.
So do you see, you start getting these value conflicts that happen.
And so clarity is the first step, getting clear what your values are.
The other thing that you can do is you can create an affirmation to bridge them.
So let me give you an example for, for, for me.
Freedom is a really high priority for me.
I mean, that's why I've been an entrepreneur all my life, right?
My time, freedom, my freedom to travel, whatever freedom is very important to me, flexibility
and freedom and growing a large business.
It's just a passion.
I can serve more people.
You know, there's just, there's a big vision around my business.
So I would often spin my wheels because on one side, it's like build a big business.
But my brain was saying, the bigger you build it, the less freedom you're going to have.
Now, do you see what happens?
You've got this opposing force, right?
One is saying, build a business.
The other saying, no, don't, don't, don't, you're not going to have any freedom.
And so you sabotage without even realizing you keep yourself locked into a level of income,
a level you sabotage.
And often that sabotage, that procrastination is because you've got conflicting values.
So I had to retrain my brain.
So here's mine, right?
The more my business grows, the more freedom I create, and the more freedom I create, the
more my business grows.
You see what I just did?
I merged two conflicting values because I began to say, wow, well, the bigger your business
is, the more you can hire people to do things for you.
You don't have to do as much, the more you, you know, on and on and on.
So you create this idea to set yourself free.
Ah, the more my business grows, the more freedom I create.
And the more freedom I create, the more my business grows.
You can do that when you have a value conflict.
So you either, you know, have to be willing to release something if it, you know, if it's
really keeping you.
or find a way to bridge it.
And so these exercises of your desires and your values
are two really powerful principles
that my coach pounds all the time into us over and over,
and that is know thyself and to thine own self be true.
And so you got to start by knowing yourself,
what are my desires?
What do I value?
What do I really desire?
And so right here, you see a bunch of value words
as example, and there's infinite numbers.
I just put common ones, truth, curiosity,
financial prosperity, efficiency, initiative,
communication, control, courage, excitement,
creativity, happiness, honor, innovation,
obedience, profit, community, integrity, peace.
You know, peace is one of my highest, highest values,
really probably number one.
Well, I don't know, love is probably first,
and then, you know, God and love first and peace second.
So if there's something that's taking away the peace,
I know my value system, I've got to make changes
because peace is just super high priority for me.
Coming out of, you know, a lot of domestic abuse
and all of that, you know, my home needs to feel peace,
my mind needs to be at peace, my business at peace.
So you go through, for others, it might be,
it's all about adventure.
For others, it might be all about security.
For others, it might be all about legacy.
For others, it might be about collaboration.
It might be about, you know, diversity.
It might be about stewardship or health.
Health might be super high on the list, independence, okay?
And so I want you to think about this,
do the work on this and get clear.
So go through and kind of make a note,
and there may be other ones that aren't on there,
but come up with, you know, start with maybe eight,
narrow it down to five, and then put it in order.
And so now you start to build your life by design
and not by default.
So you're starting to create a life of,
okay, this is what I really desire,
what are the actions I'm going to take to make this happen?
And these are my values.
How am I going to create a life
that really honors these values, right?
To that, you've got to know yourself
and to thine own self be true.
If you're not being true to yourself,
now you're talking attacking yourself,
you're talking autoimmune, right?
When the body attacks itself,
because you're attacking yourself,
you're ignoring what really matters to you
because either you don't know it
or you're not willing to be true to it
because someone else,
because you're afraid that if you don't follow your values,
someone's not going to love you
or someone's not going to accept you
or you're going to lose something.
And so you're not being true to yourself.
And this is really a type of spiritual
and physical suicide, it really is.
And so once you've done this, now purify it,
just take it before the Lord,
take your desires, take your values,
ask the Lord to purify it and show you anything else.
Is there something you need to add?
Is there something you need to know?
Is there something you need to change?
And ask him to show you his vision,
to give you any insights, any revelations,
and then journal all of this.
Now, the number one thing,
and I've talked about this a lot,
that causes angst and stress.
I can tell you almost all stress,
almost all angst comes from not staying in the present,
not staying in the present.
So the minute you get in the past,
and some of you are laughing,
that's a shadow laugh,
because you know what I'm talking about.
The minute you go in the past,
which by the way, does not exist,
the past is gone, it's only a memory.
It's not a thing, you can't go to the past,
you can't change the past,
you can't interact with the past,
you can't do anything with the past.
It's only a brain cell in here.
It does not exist.
I've got to emphasize that.
You're spending time on something that is not real,
that does not exist.
So when we get in the past,
now you've got shame, guilt, regret,
anger, bitterness, resentment, nostalgia.
We glorify the past,
make it better than it really was.
We do this oftentimes when someone dies
and we didn't have the relationship with them.
After they die, all of a sudden,
all we can do is glorify how amazing they are, right?
And so that's being in the past.
Or the future.
We spend.
time in the future. Now, there's fear, there's doubt, there's
anxiety, there's striving, there's like putting life on
hold for the future. There's, there's worry. The future is
fantasy. I don't know if I shared this with you guys. But
very recently, I have that talk with a daughter of a dear friend
who passed away. And the daughter was telling me the
story that the mom and the dad were living together. And the
dad was 10 years older. And so the mom was constantly in fear
because the dad was the provider. He was a retired
doctor and provided for actually three households for two of the
kids households in there. Okay. And so this mom was always what
are we going to do when he dies? What are we going to do? How are
we going to live? How am I going to pay my bills? What am I going
to do? There was this constant going into the future. And I
have taught her how to journal and how to really interact with
the Lord and journaling and ask the Lord and have him right
through you the answer. So she'd go to the Lord and Lord, what do
you want me to do? And he kept coming back, just be happy. Just
be happy. But what do I do about this about this? Just be happy.
The interesting thing, because the Lord knew, in all that
angst and worrying about the future, which is usually the
case that never happened. She actually passed away before her
husband. So all that she worried about all that, I want you to
think about worry. It's energy. It's, it's energy that can't be
used for good. It's energy that's affecting your body. It's
energy that's keeping you off track. It's energy that's
distracting you. Right. And, and it's, again, just like the past
does not exist. The future does not exist. None of us knew
COVID was coming. None of us knew lockdowns were coming. None
of us knew the future. We still don't. It's a fantasy. It's
make-believe. So what do you truly have? This moment right
here, right now, every moment, guess what? That's where God is.
That's where miracles are. That's where wisdom is. That's
where you can do something. You can do something about the now.
You can do something. You can change your thoughts and
attitudes and beliefs. You can change your feelings. You can
change your words. You can change your, I can do something
about the now. I can't do anything about yesterday. I can't
do anything about tomorrow. Tomorrow, Jesus said, will take
care of itself. Jesus was big on this. Today has enough troubles
of its own. So if you've got angst or stress or striving,
it's 90% guarantee you're back in the, in the past or the
future. Just stop. Get back in your body. Get back in this
moment. If you have to focus on your breath, am I okay? Right
now? And chances are 99.9%. The answer is yes. You're alive,
you're breathing, you're okay, you're provided for, you're
okay. Most of the things you're going to worry about are never
going to happen. Okay. And so to stay in that focus, you know,
keep just that day, at least that's the purpose of the
prosper daily plan. What's the single most important action I
can take today, and then do that action. All right. Number four,
how to have peaceful manifesting, what I'm doing is
I'm getting rid of all the things that are robbing your
peace. Are you getting this? Are you getting that? You know,
give me a high five, put something in the chat. Is this
helpful? Is this useful? Put something in the chat? Am I
talking to you? Is this something that you needed to
hear? You know, give me a message in the chat. Give me a
love, give me a heart. Let me know that this is helpful for
you. This is what God was, you know, what God was putting in my
heart. Okay. All right. Just looking to see what you guys are
writing. Okay, this is a big one. Here's another peace
stealer that keeps you from manifesting with peace. And that
is attachment. Clinging, they're all different forms of the same
thing. Striving is a form of attachment. Clinging is a form
of attachment. Okay. And what that is, is that you're trying
to control the how. Now, something that God showed me a
long, a long time ago that God showed me is that whatever I
make happen, whatever you make happen, you must
So if you make it happen, it's on you, baby.
You got to sustain it.
Whatever God makes happen, he will sustain it.
Do you feel the distinction?
So how do you do this in practical senses?
How do you release the attachment?
I'm going to get personal.
I'm going to read something really quick.
I wasn't planning on this, if I can find it in my journal.
This is what God spoke to me.
I'm going to get real and raw with you guys.
Here's what God spoke.
Just close your eyes.
See if this is relevant for you.
It is time for a change.
Do not fear change.
For the I in you never changes.
And it is the changeless that you truly seek.
Circumstances, people, conditions, seasons, these come and go.
Welcome the gift of each one, yet hold them with an open hand to receive that which belongs
to each season and then to gently release it as it fades into the next season.
Ease and grace and peace come when we don't attempt to hold anyone or anything too tight.
A butterfly in the garden is beautiful to behold.
It goes flower to flower, garden to garden.
A butterfly squeezed in the hand will soon die.
The tighter you squeeze, the more quickly the life and beauty fades.
Watch the sun go down.
Celebrate the day.
Tomorrow, a new sunrise will bring with it new opportunities, new lessons, new blessings.
Allow the natural course of all.
Simply behold in wonder.
Take it in.
Breathe in the magic and the wonder.
Allow.
Simply accept each moment, person, opportunity for what it is.
Enjoy it.
Celebrate it.
Glean from it.
Then allow it to go where it came from.
You cannot make the impermanent permanent by grasping.
Let me say that again.
You cannot make the impermanent permanent by grasping.
Only the changeless is changeless.
All else changes.
Get comfortable with change.
Allow the tides to come in and go out without attachment.
This is one of the biggest secrets.
You see, we can be clear on the vision.
Write it down.
Habakkuk tells us that.
Write the vision.
Make it plain.
Tap into your imagination.
See it.
Feel it.
Dream it.
Enjoy it.
But release the how.
Release the how.
Release the source of how it's going to be paid for.
Release the order of how it's going to be done.
Release who it has to be done with.
Those of you single women, don't attach that it has to be this man.
Open yourself to the man God has for you and be willing to be with whatever for a season
until God brings you the man.
Same thing for everything.
Remember that with quantum physics, if you understand quantum physics, the way that God
made the universe, what we know about quantum physics is there is infinite possibilities.
Say that word, infinite possibilities.
Write that down.
Infinite.
So, when you get stuck, like, how am I going to do this?
How I'm going to pay for this?
How are we going to make this work?
How are we going to ... When you get stuck in the how, you're asking the wrong question
because there's infinite possibilities.
Infinite possibilities.
They're all in wave form.
When you understand the molecules are just ... We now know they're in wave and particle
form.
So, just all over the place, there's just possibilities, all the infinite ways it can
happen.
But when you attach to one, the power of intention, the way God made you, it has to come from
this method, this source, this person.
Now, you collapse that wave form into a particle.
It becomes your reality, and now you're ...
attached to that. There's no longer infinite possibilities. You just collapsed it into one.
And that's where we get the angst and the stress. And so, you know, I was coaching someone this week
and God just put such a passion for her to do retreats. She just like all she can think about
is these retreats, but she had attached that no way she can even think about having retreats
until she creates a group program and fills that group program. Well, me as a coach, I kind of
turned it upside down. I said, what if we started the retreat and the retreat is what filled the
group program. They come to the retreat and now they want to be part of the group. Like,
why are you, you know, attaching to this? How exactly? This order, this structure, this is,
this is where the angst comes. And then of course, I've talked to you many times about activating the
mind, heart, mouth connection to really truly manifest it. And lastly, to always focus on how
you can add value. This is a question I have at the top of my calendar. How can I add more value?
When I go to do this call, how can I add more value? Creating the prosper leader membership,
always. How can I add more value? In whatever business that you're in, remember money is an
exchange for value, right? And so always, and because we started talking about double-mindedness
and one of the things that creates double-mindedness or hesitation is if they, that's a spell, it
should be feel. If you feel that you're taking something, like people have a hard time in sales
because they feel subconsciously like they're taking someone's money. They, they have a hard
time asking for something because they feel like they're taking. If you're coming from a place of
how can I add value? Then that whole double-mindedness is going to go away and you're going to be more
empowered and more creative. So here's what I do with my coaching clients. I have them take out a
piece of blank piece of white paper, and I have them write all the ways they add value to their
client or their customer, okay? Just write all the ways, whatever it is. I inspire them. I help them
get clear on their calling. I, I help them know that they're loved. I, I help them, you know, implement
self-care. I teach them. I, whatever, all just like, just like brainstorm this wonderful page of all the
ways you add value and always be thinking of new ways. Keep that on your desk before you make a
sales call, before you get on the phone, before you present an offer. Take a look at that and you're
going to go, wow, actually I add a lot of value. I have no problem charging. I'm not going to be
underpricing myself, over-discounting, you know, hemming and hawing, giving away everything for free.
No, I add a lot of value. And so you're coming from that perspective of adding value.
Yes or yes? Give me a snap. Was this helpful on how to manifest with grace and ease and peace?
The way that we do that is by releasing these other things, the value conflicts, the double-mindedness,
the feeling like you're taking more, right? So what we're going to do now, those of you that are
watching live, you know the beauty of what we do now is we get to have our community time and really
interact. So I'm going to stop the recording and we're going to go in and this is where it really
gets fun and really juicy. So for the rest of you, we'll see you next time. If you're not here live,
we miss you. We love you. We're praying for you, but we're going to go have some fun. See you later.