Hey everyone! Hope y'all are doing good. I am just going to add Agile just in
case anyone just happens to want to know that I am on. So, here we go. So, I hope
y'all are doing good. I am on earlier today than I have been in the past while.
I am gonna try to get to bed earlier tonight. I am just so tired and then I
just got off a long client call and I wanted to jump on live today. I've
had this on my mind to talk about all day today and I think I got the idea
yesterday when I did our live. I mentioned that at
some point I wanted to talk about the use of business goals while
operating from a place of rest. So, I've seen business goals used in a variety of
ways and I have a very interesting perspective on actually how business
goals should be used because it's coming from a place of rest. So, this is how
actually I do business goals. So, it is very counter, I suppose, to, well
it is, it's very counter to what most people speak of when they speak of goals
where, like say for instance, the really popular current law of attraction or
they speak a lot about this where they believe that what you need to do and
this is a really popular idea right now, that in order to achieve a goal that you
need to focus on it really, really, really hard and you need to make sure that
whatever happens, that whatever you do, you're not swayed from it. So, say for
instance, that you have an idea in your mind that you want this and it could be
any kind of a goal. It could be that your goal gets to a certain number
amount of, I don't know, followers or a certain number of clients or it
could be a certain dollar amount, whichever, but you have a specific goal
in mind or it can be something totally different. I mean, we're gonna put like a
little triangle here. It could be something like you want your business to
look a particular way. You want it to provide a particular function in your
life, whatever. So, and then let's say that this is you down here. So, you're trying
to move yourself and move your business from here to wherever your goal is.
Well, so typically people think, okay, well what you need to figure out what it
is that you want. Get very, very clear on it and repeat it to yourself every day.
Put it on your vision board. Is all this sounding familiar yet? Put it on your
vision board. Remind yourself of it every day. Maybe write it in your journal.
Repeat it to yourself. Always picture yourself in that place, etc., etc.
Well, okay, so here's the problem with that, especially from a place of rest.
So, and so what it is is you think, okay, well I've gotten a goal so now I have a
direction. That's good. You got yourself a direction because otherwise you're
like, I have no idea which direction I'm going. Where on earth am I going with this
business? Am I going here, here, here? Am I coming out this way? Am I coming out
that way? You know, where am I gonna head? Finally, you get a goal and you're like,
okay, good. I've got a direction. That is huge for people when they feel, because
everyone feels at sea when they're trying to move their business along and
they're trying to make progress and yet they feel that they're directionless.
So, so this gives you a direction and you start heading in this direction.
Well, the problem if we stay, if we insist on keeping this vision looking exactly
like this, very, very static, very, very structured, very, very rigid. You remember
yesterday we were talking about the problem with rigidity in business. So if
we keep it very, very, very rigid, well then it is not accounting for all kinds
of things that could happen along the way that, all kinds of changes that maybe
we hadn't anticipated, all kinds of factors that we hadn't anticipated.
Perhaps we even, sorry I'm getting a message, perhaps we even didn't, had
created this vision believing that certain things were going to be in our
life by, that were in our life now or that we projected would be in our life
then and we had to make that goal in relationship to the belief that that
other thing would be there. So if we continue on this path and just insist
with the Lord, okay well Lord this is
the only thing that I want,
this is exactly how I want it to look, et cetera.
Then we've got a few problems,
one of which is, again, we never know
what kind of changes that life is gonna throw at us,
and then we think that we're going,
and then so whenever there does come a change,
we see it as some kind of a measure of thwarting us.
We take it very personally, we get extremely discouraged,
we see it as kind of like as knocking us off course,
as if it's attacking us, as if it's this problem,
and you never know, it could be the Lord.
And so if you keep yourself in this trajectory,
you're gonna have to fight harder.
So when people like, say, for instance,
the law of attraction or other people,
I'm trying to think of what other names are out there
of the type of people that believe this,
where you determine, I am the thing,
and if I focus on it hard and long enough,
it will come to me, or I will go to it,
whichever they believe, which of course,
the law of attraction believes that it comes to them.
But the point is that you really have to do
what is sometimes referred to in the spiritual,
like the Christian spiritual world,
is holding your confession.
It is very, very, very hard work,
because all kinds of things are gonna try
to knock you off course, not necessarily, you know,
because it's Satan or the enemy or anything like that,
just life changes.
Sometimes there are gonna be changes in your own life
that you actually like, but because they mess
with your vision, because they mess with your destination,
you actually now see those things
that are actually very good that you normally really like,
you now see them as a problem.
You're like, well, I like this, but.
Well, there shouldn't be a but
when a good thing comes into our lives,
but if we have this idea in our mind
that, well, this is exactly how it should be,
then we just get frustrated and thwarted,
and we don't see the good things
that are trying to intervene,
that are trying to come into our lives.
We don't see them as the good things that they are,
and it is very difficult to maintain this.
It is extremely difficult
because the winds are buffeting us from this direction,
winds are buffeting, you know,
change are buffeting us
from all kinds of different directions,
and it is very difficult to stay the course.
So do you hear that we have to work harder?
In other words, this right here, what is this?
In order to maintain it, it's strife.
In other words, striving.
We have to work very hard to maintain that,
and that makes the journey very difficult, very arduous,
and we can finally, hopefully, we can finally arrive.
If we push hard enough, we absolutely can arrive,
absolutely, because our world is framed by our words,
and if we continue to confess strong and hard enough,
you know, in our soul,
we can actually form into reality
that which we have dictated.
However, that is not operating from a place of rest.
What God desires us to do
in operating from a place of rest is,
say, for instance, our God knows us
and our hearts better than we do,
and so we think, in our limited understanding,
this looks like a good idea,
but what it is that God really wants
and that he knows that we actually really want too,
him and I, both of us together in our relationship with him,
he knows that actually this
is what it is that we really want,
so we actually would be happier with this number of clients,
with this amount of money,
or with our business looking actually like this,
and the dollar amount might be different,
the number might be different,
or the business might look different,
but regardless, the thing is,
God knows that all the way around,
the way that your business fits into your life,
the way that you effortlessly flow through it,
the way that you interact with your clients
over here versus over here,
all around, this, he knows, is what you're going to want.
So, but if you have your eye only on this,
and if you don't get here,
all you see is that you didn't get here.
You didn't see the beauty and the joy
of the fact that God allowed you to get here.
So, which I know that I just kind of
blew through that really fast,
but, so let me just say that in.
Instead of holding your course and keeping that confession there, which you can only
do from places of striving, the best thing that you can do is actually to allow yourself
to get a goal and then we know, okay, I'm headed in this direction, otherwise we're
just directionless.
So hey, we got a goal, we got a direction.
That is the whole point of that goal.
That's the whole point.
I need to repeat that.
That's the whole point.
The whole point of your goal is not the goal.
The whole point of the goal is to give you a direction, to start out in something.
Now what you want to do is let go of the goal because the whole point of the goal was to
give you a direction.
Now you start heading this way and then you allow the spirit and as you interact with
the spirit, as life just flows, remember, it's not rigid.
There's constant movement.
A water in a river never looks the same and so you and your business are never going to
look the same.
So you think you're heading in this direction, but you allow yourself to be changed by different
things that happen.
The spirit hits here and the spirit hits there and then God brings all kinds of changes into
your life and eventually you land here.
You didn't even know that this was an option.
You didn't even know that this was a potential destination, but God did.
All you did is you took off in a direction with him and then together you journeyed and
yes, it looked winding.
It looks longer than the other one, but this one is effortless.
It had relationship in it and it had life in it.
The other that was so rigid, remember, that anything with a formula, anything with rigidity
in it brings death according to the tree of knowledge of an evil, I am determined that
I am going to do it myself and that just breeds death eventually.
You can actually do it.
Oprah Winfrey is very good at it.
A lot of other people, people who wrote The Secret, they're very good at it.
A lot of people are very good at it.
A lot of very wealthy, very worldly, the way that the world would term successful, worldly
successful people are very good at it.
You can absolutely do that.
The human soul is capable of a shocking amount of tenacity, but it can actually achieve all
kinds of amazing things.
Why?
Because they were born of God.
They're born from God.
You absolutely can accomplish it, but it's not operating from a place of rest and it
doesn't have life in it, life that's breeding life.
If you just allow yourself to just flow with the Lord and make decisions with the Lord,
as life changes come your way, as the wind starts knocking things about, don't think
this shouldn't be.
This shouldn't happen.
Again, we're trying to start locking down and we're getting very, very rigid.
We're thinking, I had an expectation and my expectation isn't being met.
What is the problem when we're getting rigid?
We've created resistance against the Spirit.
That's the problem.
We've created some kind of an expectation and we think, whatever is going on, it shouldn't
be like this.
We kind of lock down and then we start getting a stranglehold on something in order to try
to regain control because we feel that everything is chaotic.
We're like, hey, this is not heading in the same direction anymore.
This is whatever.
Well, this person kind of notices.
This person notices, hey, I'm not heading in the same direction anymore, but that's
fine.
Why?
He gave himself a direction and then he just allows himself to be moved with the Lord in
a dance on a journey and then eventually the Lord ends him up here and he's like, oh, well,
this is neat, Lord.
I didn't realize that this was an option.
I love this.
This provides me with a greater balance of family and business and relationships and
my finances than I knew that I wanted or that I knew were possible and I didn't know
all of the things that I now know, now that I'm this far on the journey, that those other
things wouldn't have satisfied, but God's like, yeah, but I knew.
I know you better than you know yourself and we need to take this journey together.
This business needs to be ours together.
I don't want it to be yours.
for you to think that somehow by doing the business you're going to fulfill a specific
obligation or or um or uh or job or significance that you think you can turn around and either
give yourself or turn around and give to me. It's like I don't I don't want that. I want us to do
that. I want to do this together and he said and by the way remember the point was not ever the
destination in the first place. The point was the journey and then whenever we have that destination
over here and we're so rigid and we're resisting any kind of change in the journey any kind of life
any kind of spirit fluid motion and movement but it's just it's just straight and it's just rigid
and we're holding to it and holding to that confession no matter what's coming at us. We've
always been taught that that was a really good trait but the thing is that with rigidity comes
death and then God's like yeah but you did that all out of your own control out of the knowledge
of the tree of good and evil. You didn't allow me to participate in it. You decided what you wanted
and then asked for my blessing. I wanted relationship with you. I wanted to dance. I wanted a journey.
I wanted a process and then we're going to end up here but then even ending up here isn't really a
journey. It's more like this is like you hit one of these here and then you hit another one of these
here and you hit another one of these here because it's a constant journey even beyond this point.
Then we move to something else that'll manifest and then we move to something else
that'll manifest in a different way. Our business is an extension of our
spirits and so it's in constant motion. It's in constant movement just like our spirits are
in movement with the Lord where we're undulating together. We're moving together. You see how that
this journey isn't straight. There's movement to it. This right here is what God especially loves.
The journey part. We get focused on these destinations because the destinations are
kind of like standards of measure by which that we use in order to measure ourselves.
Measure progress etc. Remember if we already have our identity back there's nothing that we have to
measure to anymore. There's no standard that we have to gain to or anything. This is the difference
of how to use goals from a place of rest versus the traditional way of viewing goals
where the whole point of the goal was taught to us as if it was rigid
and we were supposed to just confess it long enough and hard enough
to carry ourselves there regardless of what tried to stand in our way.
Regardless of what life changes or things that would come our way that everyone else
told us. Those are thwarting you and trying to bounce you off the path and those
things just are not true. Allow yourself to be moved by the spirit. Obviously if there's something
that God wants you to hold to and something might seem like it's trying to
knock you off course, well then obviously, hey Cheryl, then obviously the Lord because you're
in tune with the spirit and you're taking this journey with the Lord he's going to reveal to you
hey I want you to stay the course. I'm with you. I'm going to see hey I'm going to see you through
this. We're going to do this together. I am going to provide for you in the middle of this. There's
nothing you need to do. You don't need to worry about the wind and the waves of change that are
coming. We don't have to worry that the business and you looks like it's being buffeted
by the storm. Remember that I'm your provision. I'm your protection and everything's going to be fine
and that's the same whether we're on this kind of a journey or a journey that
that has like sections of it that look a bit more straight. I just kind of wanted to
point that out. So that is the difference in how we should approach goals from a place of rest
versus from striving. It's much more effortless and it focuses and we need to
remember that the point of our business is not a destination. It's not a specific goal that we have
in mind. It's actually the journey and the process that we take with the Lord to facilitate the
movement of the Spirit. It is not...
a specific place we're trying to get to. That is an exhausting, striving, very difficult way to live.
So I just wanted to point that out. Let's see if there was anything else that I haven't thought
about saying. I think that about covers it. If y'all have any questions, just let me know.
Obviously, this operates a lot more from understanding that God is our provision,
our protection. It's releasing our expectations of what exactly things should look like.
And when we release our expectations throughout the entire process of what this should look like,
then we're able to more effortlessly be led by the Spirit to co-create and co-dance with the Lord
during the process. Because the goal of our business is not any particular destination.
The goal of our business is the process of the relationship that is constantly undulating and
unfolding with the Lord. The point is the journey. And a business is no different
than any other aspect of life. The point is the journey. So anyway, I hope that is helpful.
It's good to get to see you, Cheryl. And if y'all have any questions, just feel free to
let me know. You can post them, you can add them in the comments below,
and I will answer them. Anyway, hope y'all have a good night.