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And welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome to the Prosper By Design live training, coach

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training.

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This is a supplement, of course, to the entire basic advanced and master level of the Prosper

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By Design coach certification.

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So this is where we gather live.

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I add a little bit more depth to the teaching, and then we have time to interact.

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So these trainings will always be broken up into two parts.

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The first, I will be either going over the training and adding some depth to it or sharing

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a new training.

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And then that part will be recorded and available to you.

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And then the second part, which I call community time, which I also do in the Prosper Leader

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membership, if you're familiar with the Prosper membership site.

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And so the community time is not recorded.

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So you do want to be here live.

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That's where you can really get personalized care and meet your sisters and interact and

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give and receive.

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But if you were unable to be here, at least you can catch the training by recording.

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So welcome.

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This is the first training of this year.

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And so I'm excited to launch it fresh and support you in fresh new ways.

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So for those of you that are here live, thank you for being here.

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And for those of you who missed it, we'll catch you next time.

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So let's start with prayer.

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And I'm going to share a screen here as well.

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And so that we can cover that just as soon as we come back.

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So let me go there and share that.

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Whoops, that's not what I meant to share.

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This is what I meant to share.

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So with that being said, let's start with prayer.

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And then we are going to be talking about kingdom coaching, what it means to have kingdom

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coaching.

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So Father, we just invite the awareness of your presence on this call, Holy Spirit, open

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our spiritual senses to get this, not just in our heads, but in our hearts, to truly

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step into the fullness of what you have for us.

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And for the businesses represented here, be it coaching, healing, entrepreneur, solopreneur.

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We just ask for elevation this year, that you will just lift them into higher dimensions

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of thinking, higher dimensions of serving, higher dimensions of being, putting off the

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old man, the old thinking of lack or separation or not enoughness in any form.

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And I ask Lord that they will fully show up this year, fully let your light shine.

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So as we go through this teaching, I just ask that the meditations of my heart, the

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words of my mouth will be pleasing in your sight.

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Speak through me.

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I ask in Jesus name, amen.

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All right.

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In your coach certification, in the basic level, this is the first thing that we talk

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about after the welcome.

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And I want to go back over it.

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It's perfect for a new year.

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If you're new to coaching, it's perfect.

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If you're old at coaching, it's perfect.

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You get to renew your mind once again.

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Keep it in perspective.

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Keep as Stephen Covey says, the main thing, the main thing.

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Let's get back to this idea of kingdom coaching.

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What does that mean?

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Now, if you're, if you're not familiar with scripture, this may be a new concept.

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If you're from certain countries, it'll be a familiar concept as far as the world goes.

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If you're from America, it's a foreign concept.

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The idea of a kingdom, you know, the only kingdom that most of us ever heard about,

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you know, was Disney kingdom, right?

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But Jesus, if you look at Jewish history and you look at the new Testament of scripture,

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Jesus mentioned the kingdom 147 times.

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This was big on his mind.

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You see what Jesus was not about was religion.

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And this is what so many people don't like.

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about churches, or Christianity, or religion,

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and you're in good company. Jesus didn't like religion.

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Jesus was breaking down religion,

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and he was teaching the idea of a kingdom.

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And then he took it to whole new levels.

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He began to speak about a kingdom within us.

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In Luke 17, 21, the kingdom is within us.

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Well, now, what does all of this have to do with coaching?

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Why am I sharing this?

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There are two great questions that you, first,

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as a coach, must address,

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and that you must begin to equip your clients

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if they're truly going to show up powerfully.

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And so those questions are,

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who am I, my identity,

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and what am I here for, my purpose?

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And so, so often when we talk about who am I,

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we get into roles, right?

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So we say, I am a mother. No, that's a role.

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I am a wife. No, that's a role.

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I am a coach. No, that's a role.

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I am is the very identity beyond the ego,

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beyond the persona, beyond how you show up.

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It's the deepest part of you,

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and ultimately, it's the spiritual part of you.

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It's the place where the Holy Spirit dwells.

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And so we have, first and foremost, our God-given identity,

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and this is something to really think about.

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I like to think of my identity, for example,

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as I am a daughter of the Most High God,

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created in His image.

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These are all things that are our identity that doesn't change.

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And here's a way you can look at this.

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When I say, who are you?

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Let's say that you were a skier,

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and you say, I'm a skier. I'm a professional skier.

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Well, if you lost your legs, would you still be you?

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Well, you wouldn't be the role. You probably wouldn't be a skier.

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Maybe you would. Maybe you'd learn a new form of skiing,

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but you would still be you.

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If I say, if you lost your legs, would you still be you?

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And the answer is yes, of course.

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If I say, if you lost your arms, would you still be you?

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If you lost your legs and your arms, would you still be you?

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And the answer, if you're tapped into the truest part of yourself,

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it would be yes.

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And so when we tap into this truest part of ourselves,

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we're not moved by circumstances.

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We're not having constant ups and downs.

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We don't focus on lack,

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because when we understand who we really are, for example,

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scripture says we're the temple of the Holy Spirit.

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We're a container for God.

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And so that's part of who I am. I carry God, right?

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I have the mind of Christ. I'm the temple of the Holy Spirit.

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So that's part of who I am. That never steps into lack.

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If I have Christ in me, then I have all access to all wisdom,

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all power, all resources, everything I need for life and godliness.

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And so this becomes really important as a coach,

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so that you're not feeling the imposter syndrome,

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or feeling lack, or feeling behind,

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because your clients are already feeling like that.

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And you want to, as a coach, be able to be a steady place,

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a safe and beautiful place that your clients can come to you

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for wisdom, for reflection,

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for whatever it is that you provide, tools, strategies.

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And so you're looking at who you are and what you're here for.

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That is your purpose.

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And so those things, these issues, often get overshadowed by day-to-day struggles,

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especially what we've gone through over the last couple years, right?

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And so fear, and doubt, and worry, and anxiety,

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all these things cause all this angst, all this anxiety,

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all this stress, all this inability to sleep,

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all this emotional pain that leads to sickness and disease.

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And so, of course, Jesus makes a profound statement, right?

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And it starts with, do not be worried.

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Don't be anxious.

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I like the Amplified translation, don't be perpetually uneasy.

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Or here's another one, perpetually.

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distracted. Are any of you feeling perpetually uneasy? Are any of you feeling perpetually

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distracted? Are you stressing about your coaching business? Where am I going to get clients? Now,

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we're going to learn in this coach training, you're going to get very clear coming from that

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position of truly stepping into the true you, you're going to make a shift, I believe. And

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this distinguishes you as a prosper coach, I believe that you're going to make a distinction

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from this idea of stress and anxiety and lack and how am I going to get clients? How am I going to

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get more money? How am I going to get, get, get? You will not be operating from that place of lack

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and get, because you're going to step into the fullness. You see, you will not be coming from

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this place of I lack, you will not be coming from this place I need to get, you'll be coming from

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this place of knowing exactly who you are. And from that place of your identity and who you are,

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your focus is going to be releasing that which is already in you. This is a very,

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very key distinction. So I'm going slow on this one, I'm going to repeat it.

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First, as a coach, as you, as you stabilize yourself as a coach, you know, they say on the

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airplane, you know, um, in the case of, you know, losing oxygen, pull down the oxygen mask,

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put the oxygen mask on yourself, breathe. And now you've got the strength to put it on your children

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or the seniors or whoever it is that is, is with you, right? But if you immediately start,

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you know, putting it on everybody else, which so many of us do, we, we take care of our family,

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we take care of our children, we take care of our, and we forget to put the oxygen mask on ourselves.

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So you do not want to be coming as a depleted coach. You do not want to be showing up believing

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in the illusion. I emphasize the word illusion of lack. If you truly step into your identity

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as, as a daughter of God, most of you are daughters, if there's a son on here, forgive me,

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but as a, as a daughter of God, you're coming from that place of, I am the container of God.

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I'm the temple of the Holy spirit. I, I have the mind of Christ. I have access, access to all

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wisdom, all resources, all knowledge. In other words, I'm full, I'm abundant. This is living

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the abundant life. I'm already full. And now I'm not in striving because this is what's keeping

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most women held back is, is the spirit of striving. I live striving most of my life,

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always, always, always striving. Never enough. Not even acknowledging when I would successfully

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accomplish something. It'd be like, okay, good. What's next? And always striving. And

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God spoke to me and he said, striving is an illusion. You're, you're going after something

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that you already have. And so when we start this coaching series and we're coming from a,

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a kingdom perspective, and we're coming from solid identity of who I am. And now from that

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abundance and scripture says out of the abundance of the heart, right? The mouth speaks right out

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of the abundance of heart of the heart flows, the issues of life. You see Jesus understood it.

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It's heart first. It comes, it comes from the heart. That's why he said the kingdom is within

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you. So out of this abundance, that's why scripture says rivers of living water flow

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out of our belly. You see it's out of this abundance. We're not coming from this place of

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lack. We're coming from this place of being able to serve by releasing what's in us. So if you only

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get one thing from this training, begin to have an awareness. Am I coming from a place of lack and

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separation? Am I, am I striving? Am I, am I trying to get and get and get in my operating? Like I

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don't have enough. I'm like the Pac-Man I got to get. And I I'm, I'm fearful. I'm losing sleep

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because I'm saying, how am I going to get clients? How am I going to get money? How am I going to get

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food? This is the very thing that Jesus was talking about in this verse, right? He said,

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don't worry. Don't be anxious. Don't be perpetually uneasy. Don't be distracted saying,

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what are we going to eat? You know, how are we going to pay our bills? What are we going to

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drink? What are we going to wear? He says that the pagan, those that don't have God, the Gentiles,

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they're seeking all that stuff, but, but not you.

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you know who you are, you know you are one with God, you know you are loved, you know you are

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already provided for. And Jesus said, so instead if you're going to strive, if you're going to seek,

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if you need to direct your energy to something, strive after his kingdom, right? And when you do

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all these other things, when you're walking in the nature and the love and the goodness of God,

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all these things are added to you. So how does that apply to kingdom coaching? How is a

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prosper coach different perhaps than other coaches that are just learning techniques?

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Yes, I will teach you techniques. You'll learn how to be a good listener. You'll learn how to

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market. You'll learn, you know, how to identify your niche. You'll learn these things. Yes,

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of course. It's important. You know that the success formula that I always teach is mindset

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plus skill set plus action equals the results that you're looking for, okay? And that includes

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a very successful six, seven, eight figure coaching practice, okay? It's those three components. It's

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the mindset. What are you thinking? What are you believing? You know, who are you being? Mindset,

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skill set. Yes, you've got to know how to market. Yes, you need to know how to coach. Yes,

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you need to learn some of these things. We'll do that, okay? That's what this platform is for.

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So mindset, skill set, action. And that's taking right action, action that is not just cleaning

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your desk and rearranging your files, not spinning in circles, right? So kingdom coaching is very

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holistic for yourself and for your clients. You're looking at the whole person, understanding

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that they are spirit, soul, and body. They are triune beings. They are unique. They're created

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in the image of their creator. They're created for a unique purpose. And so the goal as a

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prosper coach is you're bringing not just behavior modification. Yes, there's a whole segment on

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how do you create new habits? Okay, that's important. That's behavior modification. I learn

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how to create a new habit. I have that skill set to teach my clients. So they want to create,

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they want to start exercising, they want to whatever. Okay, you have this skill set. It's here,

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okay? In your prosper coaching, how do you create a habit? But we go beyond just behavior modification.

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I believe the goal is inner transformation by renewing the mind, you see. And so Romans 12.2

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says we're transformed by the renewing of our minds. So that's why I cover both mind renewing

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things as well as techniques, tools, strategies. And so this is where we're going. This is how

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we're going. And right now, at the beginning of a new year, this is the time to really focus

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on clarity. Okay? And so this is where you get really clear on your goals. This is why I'm

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teaching a masterclass on goals, not just goal setting, but goal achieving. So you should have

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gotten emails about that or it's in the prosper leader membership. So you want to get very clear

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on your goals. There's whole sections in here and prosper by design on goals as well. You want to

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get clear on your values. Okay, now let's talk. Why does that matter? Why does that matter? This

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is really important for you first as a coach. And then as you're coaching, you must be in tune

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with values. You see our values, what's really important to us determines our actions.

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Okay. That's first and foremost. So if we're not in alignment with our values, we won't do it.

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Okay. So we talked about identity. If we're not in alignment with our identity, and I'll get

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into this in the goal setting, we won't accomplish it. In other words, if our identity is,

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I'm broke. My family's always been broke. I'm poor. That's part of my identity. Then it doesn't

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matter how much I teach you about making money. It's not going to align your goals.

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You're going to sabotage. Okay. So that comes with our beliefs and our identity.

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If I think I'm a smoker, I won't stop smoking. If my identity is, I'm a smoker. So we actually

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have to change our identity. That's a different teaching, but I'm just mentioning it here.

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For this purpose, we have to really get clear on our values. Okay. Because if we have value

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conflicts and we do not know how to resolve those conflicts,

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we will always have the gas and brakes on, okay?

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So for example, many of you on here,

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you have the value of wanting to build a business.

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You have the value of wanting a entrepreneur.

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You want the freedom, you want the money,

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the unlimited cap, you know, that is available for you.

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I want to create a very prosperous business.

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On the other hand, some of you have a very strong value

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towards safety and security, okay?

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You might've been grown up by that.

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You might've been taught, get a real job,

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make sure, you know, work for the state.

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Nothing wrong with that, okay?

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There's no judgment on any of this.

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It's just being aware that go for security, okay?

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and they're trying to go out into something

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where there's all the freedom and all the upside,

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but there's not security.

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You get the gas and the brakes going on, okay?

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So you have to be aware of this inside yourself.

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Where do I have a value conflict?

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And we can work through some of these, okay?

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I'll teach you how to work through these.

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They don't have to conflict.

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There is a solution.

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you have to get clear on your goals,

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on your desires, on your values,

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so that you're like, where am I?

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Where am I going this year?

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you have to gain clarity on who you serve

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and how you serve them, okay?

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So these are the things that I want to talk more about

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during our community time.

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Today, I'm really just beginning to open

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the perspective of it that I'd like you to think about

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to answer the question, who am I?

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Truly, truly, who am I?

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If I lost my arms, would I still be me?

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if I lost my children and I wasn't a mother,

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would I still be me?

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If I lost all my money, would I still be me?

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Who am I, okay?

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Then who do I serve?

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We will cover that more on next Thursday's call.

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We meet the second and fourth Thursday,

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getting really deep into understanding your niche,

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who do I serve and how does that work?

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That's your mission.

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That's your mission.

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How do I serve?

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What is the transformation?

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If someone works with you,

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what result do they get?

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What problem do you solve?

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Now, when it comes to marketing,

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this, this, this, this is where most people fall down, okay?

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And that is that if I say to them, who do you serve?

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They always give me some really huge thing.

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And it's so big because their product

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or their service technically could help anyone.

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And so they give a really big answer.

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I serve professional women, corporate CFOs,

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and I serve solopreneurs, and I even serve single moms.

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Okay, cool, could your product help all those people?

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Yes, here's the problem.

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When it comes to marketing,

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they all speak a different language.

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They all have different desires.

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They all hang out in different places.

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So now you're trying to talk to everybody,

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you're talking to nobody.

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So I'm a firm believer in hyper-niching, hyper-niching.

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Okay, really important.

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Do you get some exceptions?

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Absolutely, but when it comes to your marketing,

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hyper-niching, so we'll get more into that

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in the future calls.

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For right now, just really begin thinking about who am I?

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Who do I serve?

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Can you answer that concisely?

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And it's not so broad that I would say to you,

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really, well, where do I find these people?

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Because they don't, you know.

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A pregnant teenage mommy

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and a 30-year-old homeschool mom of five

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and a retiree and a CFO all have different pains,

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different needs, different desires,

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speak a different language, hang out in a different place.

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This is why you've got to get so clear

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so that we know exactly where to find them.

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And you speak their language so much that they go, wow.

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And you're like, wow, I don't even know what I'm saying.

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Oh, she really gets me.

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And you're like, wow, I don't even know what I'm saying.

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And they go, wow.

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And you're like, wow, I don't even know what I'm saying.

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Like, she's the expert I've been looking for.

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This is very important.

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Even though you may be very multi-passionate,

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you may have a lot of skill sets.

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I've got a lifetime of background in health.

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I founded health companies, right?

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I have degrees in health and nutrition.

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Do I sometimes add flavor to my coaching on health?

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Yes.

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Do I go out and tell everybody I'm a health coach?

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No, I'm not.

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Even though I have that ability, you understand how that works?

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And so even though you've got a lot of abilities,

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you don't have to put all of those into your marketing.

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That's what I want you to understand.

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Pick a lane.

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Stay in that lane.

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All right?

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So we'll get deeper into this right now.

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We're going to have a little community time.

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And that's where I stop the recording

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and I just interact with you and how

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this applies specifically to you and your business.