And welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome to the Prosper By Design live training, coach
training.
This is a supplement, of course, to the entire basic advanced and master level of the Prosper
By Design coach certification.
So this is where we gather live.
I add a little bit more depth to the teaching, and then we have time to interact.
So these trainings will always be broken up into two parts.
The first, I will be either going over the training and adding some depth to it or sharing
a new training.
And then that part will be recorded and available to you.
And then the second part, which I call community time, which I also do in the Prosper Leader
membership, if you're familiar with the Prosper membership site.
And so the community time is not recorded.
So you do want to be here live.
That's where you can really get personalized care and meet your sisters and interact and
give and receive.
But if you were unable to be here, at least you can catch the training by recording.
So welcome.
This is the first training of this year.
And so I'm excited to launch it fresh and support you in fresh new ways.
So for those of you that are here live, thank you for being here.
And for those of you who missed it, we'll catch you next time.
So let's start with prayer.
And I'm going to share a screen here as well.
And so that we can cover that just as soon as we come back.
So let me go there and share that.
Whoops, that's not what I meant to share.
This is what I meant to share.
Okay.
So with that being said, let's start with prayer.
And then we are going to be talking about kingdom coaching, what it means to have kingdom
coaching.
So Father, we just invite the awareness of your presence on this call, Holy Spirit, open
our spiritual senses to get this, not just in our heads, but in our hearts, to truly
step into the fullness of what you have for us.
And for the businesses represented here, be it coaching, healing, entrepreneur, solopreneur.
We just ask for elevation this year, that you will just lift them into higher dimensions
of thinking, higher dimensions of serving, higher dimensions of being, putting off the
old man, the old thinking of lack or separation or not enoughness in any form.
And I ask Lord that they will fully show up this year, fully let your light shine.
So as we go through this teaching, I just ask that the meditations of my heart, the
words of my mouth will be pleasing in your sight.
Speak through me.
I ask in Jesus name, amen.
All right.
In your coach certification, in the basic level, this is the first thing that we talk
about after the welcome.
And I want to go back over it.
It's perfect for a new year.
If you're new to coaching, it's perfect.
If you're old at coaching, it's perfect.
You get to renew your mind once again.
Keep it in perspective.
Keep as Stephen Covey says, the main thing, the main thing.
Let's get back to this idea of kingdom coaching.
What does that mean?
Now, if you're, if you're not familiar with scripture, this may be a new concept.
If you're from certain countries, it'll be a familiar concept as far as the world goes.
If you're from America, it's a foreign concept.
The idea of a kingdom, you know, the only kingdom that most of us ever heard about,
you know, was Disney kingdom, right?
But Jesus, if you look at Jewish history and you look at the new Testament of scripture,
Jesus mentioned the kingdom 147 times.
This was big on his mind.
You see what Jesus was not about was religion.
And this is what so many people don't like.
about churches, or Christianity, or religion,
and you're in good company. Jesus didn't like religion.
Jesus was breaking down religion,
and he was teaching the idea of a kingdom.
And then he took it to whole new levels.
He began to speak about a kingdom within us.
In Luke 17, 21, the kingdom is within us.
Well, now, what does all of this have to do with coaching?
Why am I sharing this?
There are two great questions that you, first,
as a coach, must address,
and that you must begin to equip your clients
if they're truly going to show up powerfully.
And so those questions are,
who am I, my identity,
and what am I here for, my purpose?
And so, so often when we talk about who am I,
we get into roles, right?
So we say, I am a mother. No, that's a role.
I am a wife. No, that's a role.
I am a coach. No, that's a role.
I am is the very identity beyond the ego,
beyond the persona, beyond how you show up.
It's the deepest part of you,
and ultimately, it's the spiritual part of you.
It's the place where the Holy Spirit dwells.
And so we have, first and foremost, our God-given identity,
and this is something to really think about.
I like to think of my identity, for example,
as I am a daughter of the Most High God,
created in His image.
These are all things that are our identity that doesn't change.
And here's a way you can look at this.
When I say, who are you?
Let's say that you were a skier,
and you say, I'm a skier. I'm a professional skier.
Well, if you lost your legs, would you still be you?
Well, you wouldn't be the role. You probably wouldn't be a skier.
Maybe you would. Maybe you'd learn a new form of skiing,
but you would still be you.
If I say, if you lost your legs, would you still be you?
And the answer is yes, of course.
If I say, if you lost your arms, would you still be you?
If you lost your legs and your arms, would you still be you?
And the answer, if you're tapped into the truest part of yourself,
it would be yes.
And so when we tap into this truest part of ourselves,
we're not moved by circumstances.
We're not having constant ups and downs.
We don't focus on lack,
because when we understand who we really are, for example,
scripture says we're the temple of the Holy Spirit.
We're a container for God.
And so that's part of who I am. I carry God, right?
I have the mind of Christ. I'm the temple of the Holy Spirit.
So that's part of who I am. That never steps into lack.
If I have Christ in me, then I have all access to all wisdom,
all power, all resources, everything I need for life and godliness.
And so this becomes really important as a coach,
so that you're not feeling the imposter syndrome,
or feeling lack, or feeling behind,
because your clients are already feeling like that.
And you want to, as a coach, be able to be a steady place,
a safe and beautiful place that your clients can come to you
for wisdom, for reflection,
for whatever it is that you provide, tools, strategies.
And so you're looking at who you are and what you're here for.
That is your purpose.
And so those things, these issues, often get overshadowed by day-to-day struggles,
especially what we've gone through over the last couple years, right?
And so fear, and doubt, and worry, and anxiety,
all these things cause all this angst, all this anxiety,
all this stress, all this inability to sleep,
all this emotional pain that leads to sickness and disease.
And so, of course, Jesus makes a profound statement, right?
And it starts with, do not be worried.
Don't be anxious.
I like the Amplified translation, don't be perpetually uneasy.
Or here's another one, perpetually.
distracted. Are any of you feeling perpetually uneasy? Are any of you feeling perpetually
distracted? Are you stressing about your coaching business? Where am I going to get clients? Now,
we're going to learn in this coach training, you're going to get very clear coming from that
position of truly stepping into the true you, you're going to make a shift, I believe. And
this distinguishes you as a prosper coach, I believe that you're going to make a distinction
from this idea of stress and anxiety and lack and how am I going to get clients? How am I going to
get more money? How am I going to get, get, get? You will not be operating from that place of lack
and get, because you're going to step into the fullness. You see, you will not be coming from
this place of I lack, you will not be coming from this place I need to get, you'll be coming from
this place of knowing exactly who you are. And from that place of your identity and who you are,
your focus is going to be releasing that which is already in you. This is a very,
very key distinction. So I'm going slow on this one, I'm going to repeat it.
First, as a coach, as you, as you stabilize yourself as a coach, you know, they say on the
airplane, you know, um, in the case of, you know, losing oxygen, pull down the oxygen mask,
put the oxygen mask on yourself, breathe. And now you've got the strength to put it on your children
or the seniors or whoever it is that is, is with you, right? But if you immediately start,
you know, putting it on everybody else, which so many of us do, we, we take care of our family,
we take care of our children, we take care of our, and we forget to put the oxygen mask on ourselves.
So you do not want to be coming as a depleted coach. You do not want to be showing up believing
in the illusion. I emphasize the word illusion of lack. If you truly step into your identity
as, as a daughter of God, most of you are daughters, if there's a son on here, forgive me,
but as a, as a daughter of God, you're coming from that place of, I am the container of God.
I'm the temple of the Holy spirit. I, I have the mind of Christ. I have access, access to all
wisdom, all resources, all knowledge. In other words, I'm full, I'm abundant. This is living
the abundant life. I'm already full. And now I'm not in striving because this is what's keeping
most women held back is, is the spirit of striving. I live striving most of my life,
always, always, always striving. Never enough. Not even acknowledging when I would successfully
accomplish something. It'd be like, okay, good. What's next? And always striving. And
God spoke to me and he said, striving is an illusion. You're, you're going after something
that you already have. And so when we start this coaching series and we're coming from a,
a kingdom perspective, and we're coming from solid identity of who I am. And now from that
abundance and scripture says out of the abundance of the heart, right? The mouth speaks right out
of the abundance of heart of the heart flows, the issues of life. You see Jesus understood it.
It's heart first. It comes, it comes from the heart. That's why he said the kingdom is within
you. So out of this abundance, that's why scripture says rivers of living water flow
out of our belly. You see it's out of this abundance. We're not coming from this place of
lack. We're coming from this place of being able to serve by releasing what's in us. So if you only
get one thing from this training, begin to have an awareness. Am I coming from a place of lack and
separation? Am I, am I striving? Am I, am I trying to get and get and get in my operating? Like I
don't have enough. I'm like the Pac-Man I got to get. And I I'm, I'm fearful. I'm losing sleep
because I'm saying, how am I going to get clients? How am I going to get money? How am I going to get
food? This is the very thing that Jesus was talking about in this verse, right? He said,
don't worry. Don't be anxious. Don't be perpetually uneasy. Don't be distracted saying,
what are we going to eat? You know, how are we going to pay our bills? What are we going to
drink? What are we going to wear? He says that the pagan, those that don't have God, the Gentiles,
they're seeking all that stuff, but, but not you.
you know who you are, you know you are one with God, you know you are loved, you know you are
already provided for. And Jesus said, so instead if you're going to strive, if you're going to seek,
if you need to direct your energy to something, strive after his kingdom, right? And when you do
all these other things, when you're walking in the nature and the love and the goodness of God,
all these things are added to you. So how does that apply to kingdom coaching? How is a
prosper coach different perhaps than other coaches that are just learning techniques?
Yes, I will teach you techniques. You'll learn how to be a good listener. You'll learn how to
market. You'll learn, you know, how to identify your niche. You'll learn these things. Yes,
of course. It's important. You know that the success formula that I always teach is mindset
plus skill set plus action equals the results that you're looking for, okay? And that includes
a very successful six, seven, eight figure coaching practice, okay? It's those three components. It's
the mindset. What are you thinking? What are you believing? You know, who are you being? Mindset,
skill set. Yes, you've got to know how to market. Yes, you need to know how to coach. Yes,
you need to learn some of these things. We'll do that, okay? That's what this platform is for.
So mindset, skill set, action. And that's taking right action, action that is not just cleaning
your desk and rearranging your files, not spinning in circles, right? So kingdom coaching is very
holistic for yourself and for your clients. You're looking at the whole person, understanding
that they are spirit, soul, and body. They are triune beings. They are unique. They're created
in the image of their creator. They're created for a unique purpose. And so the goal as a
prosper coach is you're bringing not just behavior modification. Yes, there's a whole segment on
how do you create new habits? Okay, that's important. That's behavior modification. I learn
how to create a new habit. I have that skill set to teach my clients. So they want to create,
they want to start exercising, they want to whatever. Okay, you have this skill set. It's here,
okay? In your prosper coaching, how do you create a habit? But we go beyond just behavior modification.
I believe the goal is inner transformation by renewing the mind, you see. And so Romans 12.2
says we're transformed by the renewing of our minds. So that's why I cover both mind renewing
things as well as techniques, tools, strategies. And so this is where we're going. This is how
we're going. And right now, at the beginning of a new year, this is the time to really focus
on clarity. Okay? And so this is where you get really clear on your goals. This is why I'm
teaching a masterclass on goals, not just goal setting, but goal achieving. So you should have
gotten emails about that or it's in the prosper leader membership. So you want to get very clear
on your goals. There's whole sections in here and prosper by design on goals as well. You want to
get clear on your values. Okay, now let's talk. Why does that matter? Why does that matter? This
is really important for you first as a coach. And then as you're coaching, you must be in tune
with values. You see our values, what's really important to us determines our actions.
Okay. That's first and foremost. So if we're not in alignment with our values, we won't do it.
Okay. So we talked about identity. If we're not in alignment with our identity, and I'll get
into this in the goal setting, we won't accomplish it. In other words, if our identity is,
I'm broke. My family's always been broke. I'm poor. That's part of my identity. Then it doesn't
matter how much I teach you about making money. It's not going to align your goals.
You're going to sabotage. Okay. So that comes with our beliefs and our identity.
If I think I'm a smoker, I won't stop smoking. If my identity is, I'm a smoker. So we actually
have to change our identity. That's a different teaching, but I'm just mentioning it here.
For this purpose, we have to really get clear on our values. Okay. Because if we have value
conflicts and we do not know how to resolve those conflicts,
we will always have the gas and brakes on, okay?
So for example, many of you on here,
you have the value of wanting to build a business.
You have the value of wanting a entrepreneur.
You want the freedom, you want the money,
the unlimited cap, you know, that is available for you.
So this value of, you know, I am an entrepreneur,
I want to create a very prosperous business.
On the other hand, some of you have a very strong value
towards safety and security, okay?
You might've been grown up by that.
You might've been taught, get a real job,
make sure, you know, work for the state.
Nothing wrong with that, okay?
There's no judgment on any of this.
It's just being aware that go for security, okay?
Now what happens?
You've got someone that's had a lifetime value of security
and they're trying to go out into something
where there's all the freedom and all the upside,
but there's not security.
Now what happens?
You get the gas and the brakes going on, okay?
So you have to be aware of this inside yourself.
Where do I have a value conflict?
And we can work through some of these, okay?
I'll teach you how to work through these.
They don't have to conflict.
There is a solution.
So first at the beginning of the year,
you have to get clear on your goals,
on your desires, on your values,
so that you're like, where am I?
Where am I going this year?
And then you have to get,
you have to gain clarity on who you serve
and how you serve them, okay?
So these are the things that I want to talk more about
during our community time.
Today, I'm really just beginning to open
the perspective of it that I'd like you to think about
to answer the question, who am I?
Truly, truly, who am I?
If I lost my arms, would I still be me?
If I didn't have this job,
if I lost my children and I wasn't a mother,
would I still be me?
If I lost all my money, would I still be me?
Who am I, okay?
Then who do I serve?
We will cover that more on next Thursday's call.
We meet the second and fourth Thursday,
getting really deep into understanding your niche,
who do I serve and how does that work?
And then how do I serve?
That's your mission.
How do I serve?
And that is, what is the result that you deliver?
What is the transformation?
If someone works with you,
what result do they get?
What problem do you solve?
Now, when it comes to marketing,
this, this, this, this is where most people fall down, okay?
And that is that if I say to them, who do you serve?
They always give me some really huge thing.
And it's so big because their product
or their service technically could help anyone.
And so they give a really big answer.
I serve professional women, corporate CFOs,
and I serve solopreneurs, and I even serve single moms.
Okay, cool, could your product help all those people?
Yes, here's the problem.
When it comes to marketing,
they all speak a different language.
They all have different desires.
They all hang out in different places.
So now you're trying to talk to everybody,
you're talking to nobody.
So I'm a firm believer in hyper-niching, hyper-niching.
Okay, really important.
Do you get some exceptions?
Absolutely, but when it comes to your marketing,
hyper-niching, so we'll get more into that
in the future calls.
For right now, just really begin thinking about who am I?
Who do I serve?
Can you answer that concisely?
And it's not so broad that I would say to you,
really, well, where do I find these people?
Because they don't, you know.
A pregnant teenage mommy
and a 30-year-old homeschool mom of five
and a retiree and a CFO all have different pains,
different needs, different desires,
speak a different language, hang out in a different place.
This is why you've got to get so clear
so that we know exactly where to find them.
And you speak their language so much that they go, wow.
And you're like, wow, I don't even know what I'm saying.
Oh, she really gets me.
And you're like, wow, I don't even know what I'm saying.
And they go, wow.
And you're like, wow, I don't even know what I'm saying.
Like, she's the expert I've been looking for.
OK?
This is very important.
Even though you may be very multi-passionate,
you may have a lot of skill sets.
OK?
I've got a lifetime of background in health.
OK?
I founded health companies, right?
I have degrees in health and nutrition.
Do I sometimes add flavor to my coaching on health?
Yes.
Do I go out and tell everybody I'm a health coach?
No, I'm not.
Right?
Even though I have that ability, you understand how that works?
And so even though you've got a lot of abilities,
you don't have to put all of those into your marketing.
That's what I want you to understand.
Pick a lane.
Stay in that lane.
All right?
So we'll get deeper into this right now.
We're going to have a little community time.
And that's where I stop the recording
and I just interact with you and how
this applies specifically to you and your business.