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We're going to talk about how to govern creation, specifically in relationships, because we've

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talked so much about business earlier, and about how to govern creation, and we'll use

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a lot of examples through relationships, about how to do this as in the leadership of being

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a king.

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The leadership of our position as a spirit who is one with Christ, and remember, as that,

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he is in a position of power and authority, meaning that we're in that position of power

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and authority, and then we have leadership to then give, and kingship and dominion to

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then be able to offer the earth for the purpose of freeing it.

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Not to subject it to the evil aspects of our will, but to subject it to a good and

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righteous will, which does everything in servitude, as a servant leader, for the benefit of those

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underneath them.

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That's what we will be talking about.

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We'll also be touching on some relationship aspects, I hope, and I'm going to use some

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examples related, especially to people who come to you, could be a friend or a spouse

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that feels hurt, wounded, and broken, how to talk to someone like that, and then also,

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we might be touching on children as well.

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First of all, could we pull up, David, Romans 8?

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Romans 8 talks about, is where we hear the actual destiny that we have here on earth.

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Because remember, the purpose for which we were created is for relationship with God,

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but our destiny here on earth is to make that thing visible, and the way that we make that

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visible is, currently, creation is subjected to frustration.

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Everything's out of alignment.

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Our body and soul are out of alignment, the rest of creation, because we're not presenting

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ourselves as sons of God, it is out of alignment, and everything's subjected to frustration.

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When we come in and we manifest who it is that we and God together are in spirit, and

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we express that into the earth, what we bring with us is life.

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What we bring with us is freedom.

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We have it to be able to give to creation, and to be able to release that, including

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other people's souls, so children, they can choose to respond to that, but in order for

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them to respond, we have to give them something to respond to.

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So, David, are we able to pull up Romans 8?

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I can't see you, David.

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Is David back there?

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Oh, he's not back there.

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Oh, well, no wonder.

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Okay, well, then, never mind.

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I hope we're streaming live.

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I have no idea.

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Okay, well, let me just pull it up here.

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Let's see here.

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Okay, so starting in verse 1, so this is where it outlines very, very clearly.

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Oh, yeah, okay, so we are live.

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Good.

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Thank you.

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So this is where it outlines very clearly our destiny here on earth, how we are called

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to manifest who it is that we are, and how that releases creation from frustration, and

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there is a special mystery in here about the point of the gospel, and the reason that we

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were saved is in this passage.

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So, therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because

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Christ Jesus, the law of the Spirit who gives life, has set you free from the law of sin

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and death.

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We are now free.

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So we have chiches in that place.

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We have freedom that we are now called to then, just like Christ gave us freedom, we

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are now called to give that freedom to creation.

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We're doing the same thing that we're watching our Father doing.

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Our Father is giving it to us.

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We are then looking like our Father and giving it to creation now that we have it to be able

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to give.

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And then we're going to skip down a bit.

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Okay.

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So now we're going to look at.

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Verse 18, I consider that our present sufferings

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are not worth comparing with the glory

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that will be revealed in us.

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For the creation waits in eager expectation

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for the children of God to be revealed.

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I'm reading the NIV version.

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For the creation was subjected to frustration,

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not by its own choice, but by the will of the one

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who subjected it, which is God,

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in hope that the creation itself will be liberated

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from its bondage to decay and brought into the freedom

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and glory of who?

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Of the children of God.

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They will be brought into the freedom and glory of us.

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Why does God say us and not say God?

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Because as his children, we're in him.

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And we're in him, we are born of his DNA.

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The glory that we have is not ours apart from God,

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the glory that we have is God's glory.

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So this is God himself who's saying this in scripture,

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but this is why he's saying it.

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The freedom and glory of the children of God,

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that we are giving them our freedom and glory,

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and meaning that in order to give it,

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that must mean we have it.

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We have it because we were given it.

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So we know that the whole creation has been groaning

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as in the pains of childbirth right up to the present time.

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who have the first fruits of the spirit.

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This is very important.

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This is where he points out that even we are,

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that even our souls and our bodies are flesh

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and there are aspects of creation.

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It says not only so, but we ourselves

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who have the first fruits of the spirit grown inwardly

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as we wait eagerly for our adoption to sonship,

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the redemption of our bodies.

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The redemption of our bodies.

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Out of our souls, fascinatingly,

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the redemption of our bodies.

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In other words, going down to the very lowest strata

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of ourselves that's connected to creation.

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For in this hope, we were saved.

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We were saved for the hope of the redemption of your body.

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Your body is not bad and has to die

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in order to be good again.

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You were saved for the redemption of that body.

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It is meant to be transformed and transfigured

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like Jesus was when he received his spiritual body.

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still had the same markings

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because it was his body transfigured,

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having been overcome.

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All of the flesh, all of the corruption was gone.

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was actually eternal.

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It was spiritual.

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He was our example first.

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And that's what it is that he's telling us

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that we have to expect.

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For in this hope, verse 24,

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if y'all wanna read it for yourselves

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when you get home.

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Romans 8, 24.

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For in this hope, the hope that it just talked about,

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which is the hope of our adoption to sonship,

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the redemption of our bodies.

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For this hope, we were saved.

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So there is a very, very strong focus

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in this whole passage on the fact

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that creation is groaning in anticipation

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of the manifestation of the sons of God,

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including our own souls and our own bodies

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because everything has freedom to gain from that.

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So that's our destiny.

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That's what it is that we're doing.

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Trying to make sure this doesn't knock around.

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Maybe it's hitting something.

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One more thing that I think that I wanted to point out.

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Yes, our adoption to sonship.

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I just wanna point this out.

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This is my own personal idea.

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Take it as a grain of salt.

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Take it with a grain of salt

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about the whole idea of adoption

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because it can get very confusing.

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Well, wait a minute.

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If I was born of God and I was born of his DNA,

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why do I have to be adopted?

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I'm of his blood.

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Well, so there's two kind of aspects going on here.

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For one, the fact that God had to buy us back from Satan

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with his blood.

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And so there's that aspect of adoption.

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But here's another way to also think about it.

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I am not declaring that this is a spiritual principle.

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I have honestly never run this by a theologian.

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I have no idea.

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So I'm telling you that this is what I think

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might also be an added layer to what is being talked about.

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Our spirit, the seed of our identity came out of God

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just like the rib of Adam came out in Bible.

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which Eve was created.

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It's of its very essence, of its very DNA.

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Our spirit is the same.

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Our spirit in that aspect is uncreated.

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It is anything that bears the bloodline of its father

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is its father's true son, not adopted son.

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We are, and therefore, and anyway, and excuse me.

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However, the whole adoption aspect,

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a way that I also personally view it,

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take it with a grain of salt,

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it's an idea that I'm toying around with with the Lord,

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is the aspect of our soul and our body,

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which is born in creation, subjected to frustration.

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it also is part of that sonship,

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but the fact that it was born subjected to frustration

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and was not born of spirit,

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it coming into full alignment and agreement

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with who it is, the seed of its identity, is in spirit.

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That overcoming and that coming into full alignment

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and into agreement is its adoption.

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That's my own personal belief.

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Take it with a grain of salt.

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But I think that that's why God says

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that he found us in him, chose us,

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take us, and took us out of him.

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So we're of his bloodline, we're of his DNA,

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bone of his bone, flesh of his flesh,

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but he keeps talking about adoption.

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There's the aspect of the fact

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that we did have to be bought back from Satan.

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there was a part in which we were separated

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and we were not from him.

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And so in buying us back, he chose to adopt us.

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But he didn't buy back our spirits.

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He bought back the aspect that Satan could actually claim.

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And anyway, so Satan cannot claim that which is God

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and of God himself, but it can claim something

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that is underneath, which would be an aspect of creation.

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So just an idea.

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Take it, leave it, throw it in the trash,

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whatever you wanna do.

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Now, talk, I'm trying to think, okay.

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Wondering if now's a good time to mention this or not.

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No, I'm gonna mention that tomorrow.

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So okay, that'll be good.

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So we'll get right into leadership then.

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So the purpose of leadership is to,

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and this goes, if you are, you can be a leader,

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a spiritual leader in any situation.

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You could be a spiritual leader of your business.

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You can be a leader of your clients.

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You can be an employer.

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You can be a parent.

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You can be a leader in a variety of ways.

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You can even be a spiritual leader

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in a particular situation with a peer,

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with a friend, or even with a parent.

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Not just as a parent, but to your parents.

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And here's why.

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The type of, that leadership can take on various forms.

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we're gonna be talking about spiritual leadership.

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Leadership from a place of operating out of the spirit.

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And in the spirit, regardless of age,

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we're all one with Christ.

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So Lori, who's back there, who's just months old,

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he is not, just because he is little

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does not mean that in spirit he's not our peer.

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He's our peer.

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And we can always honor people,

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regardless of how old or young they are,

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and that needs to come across in our treatment of them.

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Because they carry a spirit that as it manifests,

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and this is what I was talking about earlier,

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this I will be touching on again right now,

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is they are, as they express an aspect of their spirit,

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they and the Lord are expressing in their relationship,

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and as it manifests into creation,

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something that they then,

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as they manifest themselves into creation

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and overcome creation from frustration,

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they're overcoming.

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And they're overcoming that so that you might live.

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It's very important that we realize

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and honor that in everyone we meet.

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And as opposed to thinking that children

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are less than or lower.

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Or that whether people can or cannot interact with us

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and communicate with us in a particular way,

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changes their power as a member of the body of Christ.

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Christ, and what they have also, just like you, have been called to overcome.

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We owe them a lot.

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We owe them our lives, because just like we died that they might live, they too were put

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on earth to die that we might live, called to honor everyone, to see them all from that

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So anyway, because we're all one in Christ, leadership is not related to hierarchy.

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Who's older, who's younger, you know, it's none of that, you know, well, who's the employer,

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who's the employee.

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When it comes to spiritual interaction, you can give spiritual leadership and hold a safe

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place in a safe environment for anyone, anyone who at that time needs it.

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And so that's what a leader does, whether we're talking like specifically, strictly

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in business, or you're talking about it from a spiritual perspective of how to interact

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in business.

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A leader is someone who is called to provide a safe environment for those underneath their

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care.

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A leader is not someone who gets the, who gets to dictate all the rules and is the one

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who holds the scepter of power.

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A leader has to sacrifice himself in order to ensure that everyone else has what they

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need in order to be successful, healthy, and thriving according to who it is that God has

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declared them to be.

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The leader does not get to determine that, decide that, and micromanage.

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So anyway, a lot of my words, so many things I could say about that, but the Lord taught

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me this actually, taught me this spiritual principle when I was actually in business.

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So he taught me this in business, and then I began to realize, oh, wait a minute, this

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is affecting people's relationships.

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This is affecting more than just their professional performance, and so there's actually a spiritual

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principle here.

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This isn't a business principle.

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It's a spiritual principle about who it is that we are in Christ, and therefore we interact

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with our spouses that way, and our children that way, and our parents that way, or our

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friends that way when they're broken and are coming to us, and they're frustrated or they're

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hurt.

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We provide them with a safe environment to have whatever it is that they need that they

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might feel safe enough to finally risk, take the courage, and make the decisions that they

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need to in order to rise up to who it is that God has said that they are.

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But if we don't provide them a safe environment, why on earth do we think that they're going

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to have the courage to make those hard decisions and those hard choices to get out of whatever

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situation is making them feel broken?

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It could be depression, it could be a colleague that's coming to you angry and mad, and they're

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hurt, and they're embarrassed, or they're insecure, or they're afraid, or whatever.

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You spiritually move in as the son of God and provide spiritual leadership for them

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in that place by making it safe for them.

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You die that they might live because they might verbally abuse you because they're in

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a place of pain and hurt.

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You provide them a safe place, and in accepting and letting them know that they're fully safe

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and accepted, it lets them realize, okay, there's nothing that lets them choose to respond

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to the fact that, oh, there's no reason for me to be afraid.

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I can actually shift myself out of the position that I just put myself in, and then I can

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shift back into rest, or in agreement with who it is that God said that I am, or just

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the way a secular person would see it is just flat out, just calm down.

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given them access to a son of God, and so they, as an aspect of creation, are created

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to know to respond to a son of God.

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Okay, when a leader, again, whether it's a parent with your children, or it's in a business

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situation or whatever, a leader provides a safe place for people to, provides an environment

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where people feel, including children, feel safe to make mistakes.

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That, when I was in work situations, when everything was riding on somebody else's performance,

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my job was not to micromanage the outcome and the result.

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I had put them in charge of helping me execute the result according to the fact that God

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had given them particular abilities, and they had particular knowledge that I didn't have or whatever.

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particular abilities in order to execute a particular result.

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I had not been placed in the role of creating the result.

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I had been placed in the role of creating an environment for the person to have whatever

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it is that they need in order for them to create the results.

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I don't get to micromanage and dictate to them how it is that they need to do it.

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So a leader, including, similarly, and we're not going to get too into this because then

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it gets very confusing, but similarly with children, that a leader, a parent, is to provide

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a safe place, in other words an environment where a child feels safe to make mistakes.

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Because your child was not born bad.

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Your child was born good.

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And your child will naturally, contrary to what we've been taught, your child will naturally,

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of his nature, of the spirit, not of the soul, but of the spirit, always make the right decision.

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Your child is very, very good.

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But when it believes a lie, believes that it's abandoned and alone, Mommy doesn't come

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pick me up, Daddy didn't come when I called, Daddy won't pay attention to me, da-da-da-da-da,

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well then they get this lie that I am unsafe and they start acting out.

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They start coping by, and we all do this, we do this as adults, and a lot of what it

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is that we're dealing with adults, we actually developed these, scientists say that we developed

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these lies and these beliefs before we were three years old.

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Some people believe it can go as high as seven, but they said that the tightest, that the

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most condensed time frame that we at least incorporate the majority of the lies that

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we carry with us throughout the rest of our lives, unless we choose to overcome them in

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the blood of Christ, is developed between birth and three years old.

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We get these lies and we think I'm abandoned and alone, so that's where they start acting

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out.

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They don't start acting out because they're bad.

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They're acting out because they're afraid.

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We do the same thing, adults act out because we're afraid.

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We don't treat each other kindly, we don't make wise decisions, we do whatever based

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off of lies that we have now, that we believed growing up, that we gathered from our environment,

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and as we became more aware of who it is that God is, we then projected all of those things

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onto him.

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And so God, this innocent party, now has to be accused of being of, as who we're holding

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responsible and accountable for our mother wound, or our father wound, or whatever.

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I don't feel liked, loved, or it could expect to be comforted that that mother wound is

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projected onto God, and I have that accusation against him.

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So all of the decisions that I make are based off of the fact I don't believe that I'm safe,

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I don't believe that I'm going to be accepted, loved, liked, that I can expect to be comforted.

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So I'm going to respond to the Lord in that way, and that's going to determine my decisions.

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Same thing with the father wound.

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If I don't believe that I can expect to be provided for, protected, or identified, in

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other words, I believe I've abandoned and alone, and it is all up to me, then I'm going

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to act like it, and that's where I get all of these trauma coping mechanisms, or start

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looking for some other method of security, like the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil.

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So when someone is coming to you, whether it be a child who's 10, whether it be a friend

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of yours, whether it be your boss, whoever it is, someone is coming to you, and they

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think that they're presenting themselves according to who it is that they believe that they are,

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which is in the soul or the body, whatever it is, wherever it is that they believe is

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the seed of their identity, according to the level of lies they believed about God.

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That brings them further and further down.

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at, they're presenting that person to you, and they're mad, or they're going through

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depression, or they have very low self-esteem, or whatever, and we want so badly for them

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to know the love of the Lord, and we would, don't you know, don't you know that the things

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that you're saying actually aren't true?

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Well, I don't know about y'all, those talks have never helped me.

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They've never comforted me.

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It's noise.

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I knew that I was expected.

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I thought I should be comforted by it, and I thought that I was...

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condemned that God was expecting that to be enough,

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but I wasn't allowing it to be enough.

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So it was just, oh my word,

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it's just multi-level condemnation.

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But anyway, so when someone comes

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and presents themselves like that,

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we provide a say instead, the most effective way,

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because we're wanting to try to help them, right?

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just telling them what it is that they should know,

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and that they should believe.

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Don't we see that we're actually affirming to them

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the exact, their exact fear?

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We're creating distance and saying,

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no, that's not true about yourself.

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You should do this different.

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You should believe different.

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Don't you know?

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There's condemnation in that.

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You should know, and you're not.

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It's condemnation.

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All of this is received by a broken person

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as an affirmation that, sure enough, it's all true.

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So, you know, don't you know, whatever,

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that's creating distance and separation,

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but what do we know about when we want to help someone?

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When you want to help someone, what is the cost?

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You have to die.

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You can't have separation that's not going to help them.

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So what is it that we're actually giving in order to,

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and sacrificing, and how are we dying as a leader,

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as a servant leader, in order to help somebody who's broken,

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help somebody that is believing a lie,

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helping somebody who's going through a hard time,

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someone who doesn't believe the truth about themselves?

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How do we, what is it that we, now we know what not to do,

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what do we actually do?

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Trying to think if I should draw this on the board,

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and I'm not going to, so I think it's just easier

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if I do it like this.

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I will use, I'll start out by giving,

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using an example of one situation out of numerous ones,

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thousands that I have been in where I have done this.

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By the way, God taught me to start doing this 14 years ago.

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I have done this with children,

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with men and women in both personal

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and professional environments, and it all works.

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It doesn't matter, it's amazing how powerful it is,

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because all they need in order to know who it is

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that they are, they are identified in relationship to God.

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So what do you do?

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You present them with God.

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God's in you, you're a son of God,

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you present them with God,

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and then they can choose to acknowledge,

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oh, I'm, that they can choose to acknowledge

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who it is that they are,

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and choose to rise up to that position.

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So I had a friend come to me several months ago,

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and there were some things going on,

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and they just said, he said, oh, Ashley,

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because I said, oh, how you doing?

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He said, I am really, really struggling,

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and people are saying these horrible things about me,

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and this is how it is, and it's just not right,

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because that isn't true about me,

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and those people shouldn't talk like that about me,

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and people should do things about this.

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People should stand up against this injustice,

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and against this unrighteousness,

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and you know, and da-da-da-da-da.

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So what I do in that moment is,

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the best way to help someone,

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if someone is coming to them,

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okay, again, thinking like spirit, soul, and body,

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someone's coming to us, like say,

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believing that their identity is in their soul,

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they're abandoned and alone,

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they're being, they're under threat,

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because someone's said something, whatever it is,

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they think this is who they are.

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It's not, this is who they are,

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but they're presenting this person to you.

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is to not ever acknowledge this person.

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What, by that, I mean,

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don't ever acknowledge this as their identity.

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That is who they're presenting themselves to you as,

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do not acknowledge it.

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Don't acknowledge, it's not gonna help anyone.

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It's not gonna help anyone, it's not gonna help them,

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because whatever you look at,

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and whatever it is, whatever you look at,

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whatever you acknowledge,

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and whatever you focus on, you feed.

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So, if you're trying to escape something,

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you don't do it by fighting the negative.

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It's a lot harder to do that,

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because whatever it is you focus on, you feed,

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so, therefore, you are actually feeding

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the enemy you're trying to escape from.

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You're strengthening the enemy

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that you're trying to escape from.

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So, we're strengthening their enemy

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by focusing on the negative of their experience.

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There's nothing wrong with speaking in sympathy.

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I just do it on very rare occasions,

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because sympathy, the way that most of us know how to do it,

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to sympathize is to acknowledge whatever it is

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that the person is saying about themselves, meaning like,

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not saying that it's true, but like, say, for instance,

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my friend who was saying, you know, well, I feel this way,

491
00:30:12.840 --> 00:30:14.920
and they shouldn't be saying these things,

492
00:30:14.920 --> 00:30:17.220
and it's not right, you know, I don't deserve that.

493
00:30:17.520 --> 00:30:19.660
Actually, why do people do that, and da-da-da-da-da.

494
00:30:20.300 --> 00:30:25.280
I didn't talk to, what they wanted me to do was

495
00:30:25.280 --> 00:30:29.580
to acknowledge with them that what was going on was wrong.

496
00:30:30.180 --> 00:30:33.920
Because they thought that by the acknowledgment that what it is

497
00:30:33.920 --> 00:30:37.160
that they were feeling about themselves is true would make

498
00:30:37.160 --> 00:30:37.980
them feel better.

499
00:30:38.300 --> 00:30:41.180
They don't know that by me acknowledging the lie

500
00:30:41.180 --> 00:30:43.820
that they're believing about themselves is I'm giving

501
00:30:43.820 --> 00:30:44.440
it power.

502
00:30:45.900 --> 00:30:51.340
It's very important to try to not acknowledge the lie

503
00:30:51.340 --> 00:30:52.760
that somebody else is declaring.

504
00:30:52.760 --> 00:30:55.040
Now, you're not denying the fact that they believe it.

505
00:30:55.420 --> 00:30:57.620
You're not denying reality.

506
00:30:57.880 --> 00:31:00.420
We're not ignoring it as if, oh, well, that just doesn't exist.

507
00:31:00.420 --> 00:31:01.180
That's all in your head.

508
00:31:01.420 --> 00:31:01.860
No, no, no.

509
00:31:02.220 --> 00:31:05.160
We're just not, we're just not giving it any kind of,

510
00:31:05.600 --> 00:31:07.020
any kind of honor and credence.

511
00:31:07.020 --> 00:31:09.020
It's like, whatever, you know, who cares.

512
00:31:09.460 --> 00:31:12.800
So, instead, when a person is presenting themselves

513
00:31:12.800 --> 00:31:16.600
in their brokenness, the, what it is that they're,

514
00:31:16.800 --> 00:31:19.900
the reason that they're there is they wanted something else.

515
00:31:19.980 --> 00:31:23.120
They, they're like, well, I don't feel safe.

516
00:31:23.700 --> 00:31:24.640
They don't know this.

517
00:31:24.640 --> 00:31:27.320
You know, you're, but this is subconsciously what's going on.

518
00:31:27.320 --> 00:31:28.120
They don't feel safe.

519
00:31:28.420 --> 00:31:29.380
They don't feel loved.

520
00:31:29.680 --> 00:31:30.600
They don't feel liked.

521
00:31:31.380 --> 00:31:33.060
They, they, they feel very insecure.

522
00:31:33.060 --> 00:31:35.060
They're believing some lie about themselves.

523
00:31:35.060 --> 00:31:36.560
So, God talks about this.

524
00:31:37.640 --> 00:31:38.600
Is it in James?

525
00:31:38.780 --> 00:31:41.240
I think it's in James, maybe James 5.

526
00:31:41.860 --> 00:31:45.880
He talks about how to handle these kinds of situations

527
00:31:46.440 --> 00:31:50.500
where someone comes to you like this and they need something.

528
00:31:51.620 --> 00:31:53.480
So, he, he says in that, and let me,

529
00:31:53.480 --> 00:31:55.520
let me quote the scripture really quick.

530
00:31:55.980 --> 00:31:59.220
He says, you know, if someone comes to you and they are hungry

531
00:31:59.220 --> 00:32:02.580
and cold, don't send them off saying, oh, you know,

532
00:32:02.580 --> 00:32:07.140
may, may you be warm and may God, may God, may God warm you

533
00:32:07.140 --> 00:32:10.720
and may he, may he feed you and may you be comforted and,

534
00:32:10.720 --> 00:32:11.260
and all that.

535
00:32:11.260 --> 00:32:15.120
I send you off with, you know, good, good and warm intentions.

536
00:32:16.120 --> 00:32:17.500
Jesus said, don't do that.

537
00:32:18.120 --> 00:32:19.020
Give them a coat.

538
00:32:19.540 --> 00:32:22.520
If they come to you in need, meet the need.

539
00:32:22.920 --> 00:32:23.780
Give them a coat.

540
00:32:24.180 --> 00:32:24.860
Give them food.

541
00:32:25.020 --> 00:32:27.480
So, it's the same thing in this, it's the same principle.

542
00:32:27.860 --> 00:32:29.400
Someone's coming to you in need.

543
00:32:29.400 --> 00:32:30.740
They don't feel loved.

544
00:32:30.740 --> 00:32:31.600
They don't feel liked.

545
00:32:31.600 --> 00:32:32.520
They don't feel secure.

546
00:32:32.760 --> 00:32:34.240
That's not the words they're using.

547
00:32:34.440 --> 00:32:37.280
They're saying, this isn't right what someone said to me.

548
00:32:37.520 --> 00:32:40.240
They're feeling threatened because they feel that it,

549
00:32:40.240 --> 00:32:41.040
they feel that it's true.

550
00:32:41.040 --> 00:32:42.840
They feel that I'm not loved.

551
00:32:42.840 --> 00:32:43.520
I'm not liked.

552
00:32:44.040 --> 00:32:46.800
You know, I can't, I can't expect to be comforted.

553
00:32:46.800 --> 00:32:47.520
I'm not protected.

554
00:32:47.520 --> 00:32:48.260
I'm not provided for.

555
00:32:48.260 --> 00:32:49.680
Whatever lie it is that they're believing.

556
00:32:49.740 --> 00:32:51.580
So, God said, if someone comes to you in lack,

557
00:32:51.980 --> 00:32:53.060
you give them what they lack.

558
00:32:53.180 --> 00:32:56.120
So, if someone is coming to you and the reason

559
00:32:56.120 --> 00:32:57.620
that they're operating the way that they are,

560
00:32:57.620 --> 00:32:59.960
you can tell in the spirit, okay,

561
00:33:00.200 --> 00:33:02.260
they are actually not feeling loved.

562
00:33:02.660 --> 00:33:03.680
They're not feeling secure.

563
00:33:03.680 --> 00:33:04.720
They're not feeling liked.

564
00:33:05.280 --> 00:33:09.000
So, you don't tell them to feel secure.

565
00:33:09.720 --> 00:33:12.000
You don't tell them that, no, no, no, God loves you.

566
00:33:12.440 --> 00:33:15.080
And don't you know, because again, truth and knowledge of good

567
00:33:15.080 --> 00:33:16.240
and evil is creating distance.

568
00:33:16.240 --> 00:33:20.720
No, no, no, don't you know that because it doesn't require

569
00:33:20.720 --> 00:33:21.460
anything of me.

570
00:33:21.460 --> 00:33:24.060
And God says, no, if you want to help someone, you know,

571
00:33:24.480 --> 00:33:26.280
it requires something of you.

572
00:33:26.280 --> 00:33:29.400
Don't send someone off and say, may God bless you

573
00:33:29.400 --> 00:33:31.280
and may you receive what you need.

574
00:33:31.900 --> 00:33:33.640
He says, no, give it to them.

575
00:33:34.040 --> 00:33:36.720
So, if they're not feeling loved, don't tell them

576
00:33:36.720 --> 00:33:39.320
that they're loved and try to convince them and show them

577
00:33:39.320 --> 00:33:41.000
in scripture where it proves that they're loved.

578
00:33:42.040 --> 00:33:42.680
Love them.

579
00:33:44.040 --> 00:33:45.720
Don't tell them that you love them.

580
00:33:46.680 --> 00:33:49.660
You, you get in your position in Christ.

581
00:33:49.660 --> 00:33:51.840
Remember, shift into your identity in Christ.

582
00:33:51.840 --> 00:33:56.320
And in your identity in Christ, being one with your brother

583
00:33:56.320 --> 00:34:00.560
or sister in spirit, you know, brother and sister in Christ,

584
00:34:00.560 --> 00:34:05.840
in spirit, you speak to that spirit and you see them

585
00:34:05.840 --> 00:34:09.159
in the way that God sees them, which is in complete love.

586
00:34:09.520 --> 00:34:13.840
You have the love, the security, the protection, the provision

587
00:34:13.840 --> 00:34:15.760
because you provide that for creation.

588
00:34:15.760 --> 00:34:18.080
And it's a soul, it's an aspect of creation.

589
00:34:18.080 --> 00:34:20.860
It's a soul, it's an aspect of creation that's talking to you.

590
00:34:21.199 --> 00:34:22.500
You have authority to give it.

591
00:34:23.380 --> 00:34:26.900
You have it, you are the supply because you're in Christ

592
00:34:26.900 --> 00:34:29.739
who is the supply, you have it to give, so give it.

593
00:34:31.139 --> 00:34:32.860
When we want to help someone else,

594
00:34:32.960 --> 00:34:34.540
it requires something of us.

595
00:34:35.080 --> 00:34:38.620
Not giving them time in order to let them cry

596
00:34:39.420 --> 00:34:43.400
and then tell them how they, how they should be able

597
00:34:43.400 --> 00:34:46.980
to convince themselves from scripture or from spending time

598
00:34:47.000 --> 00:34:50.920
with God that they are loved so that hopefully they come

599
00:34:50.920 --> 00:34:53.880
to believe it because it's putting, it proves to them,

600
00:34:54.219 --> 00:34:57.580
I'm abandoned and alone to do it for all my, but by myself.

601
00:34:58.260 --> 00:34:59.180
I says, no, no, no.

602
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:05.240
You want something for someone else, you have to give it.

603
00:35:05.240 --> 00:35:08.680
You have to love them.

604
00:35:08.680 --> 00:35:11.440
So that's what I did with my friend.

605
00:35:11.440 --> 00:35:14.600
He was just really, really upset.

606
00:35:14.600 --> 00:35:19.760
And so instead of, I never acknowledged the fact

607
00:35:19.760 --> 00:35:22.240
that what those people were doing

608
00:35:22.240 --> 00:35:24.720
and what it is that they were saying was wrong.

609
00:35:24.720 --> 00:35:26.280
I never acknowledged it.

610
00:35:26.280 --> 00:35:28.360
I never acknowledged that he was right.

611
00:35:28.400 --> 00:35:30.920
I never acknowledged, you know what?

612
00:35:30.920 --> 00:35:32.520
You are absolutely right.

613
00:35:32.520 --> 00:35:35.280
I want you to know you don't deserve that.

614
00:35:35.280 --> 00:35:38.400
You absolutely do not, because God said, and da-da-da-da-da,

615
00:35:38.400 --> 00:35:39.720
distance.

616
00:35:39.720 --> 00:35:40.800
I'm not giving him love.

617
00:35:40.800 --> 00:35:43.720
I'm telling him where he needs to go to get it.

618
00:35:43.720 --> 00:35:46.320
No, God says, no, your love.

619
00:35:46.320 --> 00:35:47.760
Give it to him.

620
00:35:47.760 --> 00:35:50.960
So when our interactions with other people,

621
00:35:50.960 --> 00:35:53.600
it requires something of us.

622
00:35:53.600 --> 00:35:59.000
We have to actually, in the moment, love them.

623
00:35:59.000 --> 00:36:02.560
Not act like we do and think, OK, well, if I loved them,

624
00:36:02.560 --> 00:36:03.240
what would I do?

625
00:36:03.240 --> 00:36:07.120
What are loving things to do that will not work?

626
00:36:07.120 --> 00:36:09.440
Tree of the knowledge of good and evil,

627
00:36:09.440 --> 00:36:10.920
it's got nothing but death in it.

628
00:36:10.920 --> 00:36:12.560
It's cut off the life source.

629
00:36:12.560 --> 00:36:17.080
You have to bring it out of your spirit,

630
00:36:17.080 --> 00:36:18.880
because it's only spirit that has life,

631
00:36:18.880 --> 00:36:21.560
and only spirit that can transform a person.

632
00:36:21.560 --> 00:36:22.840
That's what you're giving them.

633
00:36:22.840 --> 00:36:29.480
You are a life-giving spirit, not a death-giving soul.

634
00:36:29.480 --> 00:36:30.800
You're a life-giving spirit.

635
00:36:30.800 --> 00:36:32.260
That is what you're called to give.

636
00:36:32.260 --> 00:36:34.480
So you love somebody in that moment.

637
00:36:34.480 --> 00:36:37.040
And they might be one of those people,

638
00:36:37.040 --> 00:36:39.320
at least in my personal experience,

639
00:36:39.320 --> 00:36:45.880
that's very, very unlovable, very much.

640
00:36:45.880 --> 00:36:50.800
They might be your verbal abuser.

641
00:36:50.800 --> 00:36:56.240
And it's in the middle of the verbal abuse.

642
00:36:56.240 --> 00:37:01.400
They are crying out in pain, because they're insecure.

643
00:37:01.400 --> 00:37:04.240
And I do not have to receive what

644
00:37:04.240 --> 00:37:06.560
it is that they are speaking.

645
00:37:06.560 --> 00:37:12.520
They are declaring the fear that they're in.

646
00:37:12.520 --> 00:37:14.880
And this is their coping mechanism.

647
00:37:14.880 --> 00:37:18.360
So I don't tell them how they should do it different.

648
00:37:18.360 --> 00:37:20.720
I don't tell them that I love them.

649
00:37:20.720 --> 00:37:23.320
I actually love them.

650
00:37:23.320 --> 00:37:27.280
And that transformed my friend.

651
00:37:27.280 --> 00:37:36.120
I gave him the lack out of which he was verbally abusing me.

652
00:37:36.120 --> 00:37:38.400
And he was lacking in love.

653
00:37:38.400 --> 00:37:39.840
He was lacking in security.

654
00:37:39.840 --> 00:37:42.380
He was lacking in affirmation.

655
00:37:42.380 --> 00:37:44.520
And you wouldn't know it.

656
00:37:44.520 --> 00:37:46.440
He seemed like the most confident person out

657
00:37:46.440 --> 00:37:47.640
of everyone.

658
00:37:47.640 --> 00:37:50.880
But he seemed very solid, very sure.

659
00:37:50.880 --> 00:37:52.440
He always knew the right answer.

660
00:37:52.440 --> 00:37:53.160
And he did.

661
00:37:53.160 --> 00:37:54.440
And he was a very wise person.

662
00:37:57.200 --> 00:37:59.840
So I acknowledged all of the godly aspects,

663
00:37:59.840 --> 00:38:01.480
all the aspects of the Lord himself

664
00:38:01.480 --> 00:38:04.040
that he had put into him, and that

665
00:38:04.040 --> 00:38:09.240
enabled me to interact with him easier.

666
00:38:09.240 --> 00:38:17.240
But the thing is that I knew that he was operating out

667
00:38:17.960 --> 00:38:21.240
of a lie that he was believing about himself.

668
00:38:21.240 --> 00:38:23.520
And I'm not subject to the fact that he

669
00:38:23.520 --> 00:38:25.920
is subject to the fact of receiving trauma

670
00:38:25.920 --> 00:38:28.080
because he's in pain.

671
00:38:28.080 --> 00:38:29.280
I can be the leader.

672
00:38:29.280 --> 00:38:30.240
I can be the parent.

673
00:38:30.240 --> 00:38:35.680
I can be the king that my attacker needs by loving him,

674
00:38:35.680 --> 00:38:41.040
by giving him the thing that has created the lack out

675
00:38:41.040 --> 00:38:45.480
of which he is attacking, abusing me, and making life

676
00:38:45.480 --> 00:38:48.760
very, very, very hard.

677
00:38:51.680 --> 00:38:56.560
And so that is how you transform creation.

678
00:38:56.560 --> 00:39:00.840
I saw, and you heard that story that I told you,

679
00:39:00.840 --> 00:39:02.080
an absolute miracle.

680
00:39:02.080 --> 00:39:05.800
If I had more time to tell you the details of what

681
00:39:05.800 --> 00:39:10.360
we went through, it was amazing.

682
00:39:10.360 --> 00:39:16.440
And how they saw me treat him changed the whole team.

683
00:39:16.440 --> 00:39:21.120
He went from not respecting me to respecting me extremely

684
00:39:21.120 --> 00:39:24.280
highly to the point where, oh, I wish

685
00:39:24.280 --> 00:39:30.160
I could describe what the types of things that they would do.

686
00:39:30.160 --> 00:39:35.600
They were loyal more to me than they were to the project

687
00:39:35.600 --> 00:39:37.080
and to their paychecks.

688
00:39:37.080 --> 00:39:40.120
And these people earned less than I did.

689
00:39:40.640 --> 00:39:46.080
And they were here on green cards.

690
00:39:46.080 --> 00:39:51.440
And their staying in the United States depended on that job.

691
00:39:51.440 --> 00:39:53.640
If they lost that job and moved to a different one,

692
00:39:53.640 --> 00:39:55.480
they'd lose their green card.

693
00:39:55.480 --> 00:40:01.640
So anyway, they saw how I did it.

694
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:01.760
how I treated him.

695
00:40:01.760 --> 00:40:03.960
They came in, I presented them

696
00:40:03.960 --> 00:40:06.280
with what a son of God looks like.

697
00:40:06.280 --> 00:40:09.240
I didn't present them with my soul.

698
00:40:09.240 --> 00:40:10.880
I mean, yeah, my soul was involved, yes,

699
00:40:10.880 --> 00:40:12.720
but my point is that what creates

700
00:40:12.720 --> 00:40:14.200
that kind of transformation

701
00:40:15.220 --> 00:40:16.960
is not actually apart from Christ.

702
00:40:16.960 --> 00:40:20.800
That what creates that transformation is God himself.

703
00:40:20.800 --> 00:40:23.360
When creation comes in contact with God,

704
00:40:23.360 --> 00:40:26.800
it can't help but be transformed.

705
00:40:26.800 --> 00:40:29.320
People are transformed into sons of God

706
00:40:29.320 --> 00:40:31.200
by coming into the presence of God.

707
00:40:31.200 --> 00:40:34.560
So creation, as well, responds to a son of God

708
00:40:34.560 --> 00:40:36.160
and completely transforms.

709
00:40:36.160 --> 00:40:38.760
And that is how we release creation from frustration.

710
00:40:38.760 --> 00:40:42.360
So when I was interacting with this particular friend,

711
00:40:42.360 --> 00:40:44.400
I just loved on him.

712
00:40:45.480 --> 00:40:48.480
Well, I say loved on him meaning like I loved him

713
00:40:48.480 --> 00:40:52.080
and out of that love, I said things and I did things.

714
00:40:52.080 --> 00:40:54.140
I didn't think, and here's very, very important,

715
00:40:54.140 --> 00:40:55.920
when you interact with someone,

716
00:40:55.920 --> 00:40:58.280
it's important to not have an agenda

717
00:40:58.280 --> 00:41:01.280
because the spirit needs to be able to effortlessly flow.

718
00:41:01.280 --> 00:41:04.600
The soul doesn't know what to do and it needs an agenda.

719
00:41:04.600 --> 00:41:06.420
It needs knowledge, it needs to figure out,

720
00:41:06.420 --> 00:41:08.080
okay, what do we need to accomplish

721
00:41:08.080 --> 00:41:09.320
and how do we get there?

722
00:41:09.320 --> 00:41:12.840
The spirit, on the other hand, does not have an agenda.

723
00:41:12.840 --> 00:41:15.200
The spirit just flows out of its being

724
00:41:15.200 --> 00:41:20.200
and that has power that breeds the supernatural

725
00:41:21.120 --> 00:41:22.520
into the earth.

726
00:41:22.520 --> 00:41:24.520
It is out of the spirit that you can tell the wind

727
00:41:24.520 --> 00:41:26.300
and the waves to be calm and they will,

728
00:41:26.300 --> 00:41:27.320
not out of the soul.

729
00:41:29.000 --> 00:41:34.000
So anyway, when I talked to my friends, I loved him.

730
00:41:34.120 --> 00:41:36.320
I found that, I found love for him

731
00:41:37.360 --> 00:41:41.640
and then found that I had love for him in Christ

732
00:41:41.640 --> 00:41:45.280
because of who it is that I was and I just loved him.

733
00:41:45.280 --> 00:41:48.320
And so because I'm sitting here loving him

734
00:41:48.320 --> 00:41:52.460
and then what does someone who loves someone else,

735
00:41:52.460 --> 00:41:54.280
what would they do and what would they say?

736
00:41:54.280 --> 00:41:56.920
And so I would just, I would say things

737
00:41:56.960 --> 00:41:58.760
and I didn't think, okay,

738
00:41:58.760 --> 00:42:01.000
how will he know that I'm loving him?

739
00:42:01.000 --> 00:42:04.280
What words can I say that he will interpret as love

740
00:42:04.280 --> 00:42:05.960
that will not work?

741
00:42:05.960 --> 00:42:09.020
You just, you love and now you interact with them.

742
00:42:10.000 --> 00:42:11.480
You don't come with an agenda of

743
00:42:11.480 --> 00:42:13.400
how do I make them feel different?

744
00:42:13.400 --> 00:42:14.920
How do I accomplish a result?

745
00:42:14.920 --> 00:42:17.840
It's up to God to bring the results.

746
00:42:17.840 --> 00:42:19.080
Tree of the knowledge of good and evil,

747
00:42:19.080 --> 00:42:21.220
it's up to me to create a result.

748
00:42:21.220 --> 00:42:24.720
We release the result up to the Lord in spirit

749
00:42:24.720 --> 00:42:26.080
to create the result.

750
00:42:26.080 --> 00:42:27.760
We just be.

751
00:42:27.760 --> 00:42:29.400
As long, all, it's effortless.

752
00:42:29.400 --> 00:42:32.040
Everything is done from a place of rest.

753
00:42:32.040 --> 00:42:34.280
Even the result isn't up to us.

754
00:42:34.280 --> 00:42:37.640
But we come in a place of rest, just loving,

755
00:42:37.640 --> 00:42:39.800
just being who it is that the Father is,

756
00:42:39.800 --> 00:42:41.200
being who it is that Jesus is,

757
00:42:41.200 --> 00:42:43.460
being who it is that we all are together.

758
00:42:44.320 --> 00:42:48.520
And God says, out of that, Ashley,

759
00:42:48.520 --> 00:42:51.840
I will create the results.

760
00:42:51.840 --> 00:42:53.960
Because it's, he said, Ashley, it's me

761
00:42:53.960 --> 00:42:55.280
they need to come in contact with.

762
00:42:55.280 --> 00:42:57.320
It's the spirit of God they need to come in contact with.

763
00:42:57.320 --> 00:42:58.840
And that will heal them.

764
00:42:58.840 --> 00:43:01.080
And so after I got, after my friend and I

765
00:43:01.080 --> 00:43:03.120
were visiting for a while and whatever,

766
00:43:03.120 --> 00:43:05.560
he starts to feel better and better and better.

767
00:43:05.560 --> 00:43:07.200
And he said, you know, Ashley, he said,

768
00:43:07.200 --> 00:43:08.640
this is why I call you.

769
00:43:09.520 --> 00:43:12.520
He said, my other friend, he didn't know what I was doing.

770
00:43:12.520 --> 00:43:14.600
You know, I was just, I was just being,

771
00:43:14.600 --> 00:43:15.560
I was just talking.

772
00:43:16.780 --> 00:43:20.360
But he could feel the impartation of my spirit.

773
00:43:20.360 --> 00:43:22.600
He could, he was being transformed

774
00:43:22.600 --> 00:43:25.920
because I was actually giving him supernatural love.

775
00:43:25.920 --> 00:43:27.960
I was giving him supernatural safety.

776
00:43:27.960 --> 00:43:29.640
I was giving him supernatural, you know,

777
00:43:29.640 --> 00:43:32.080
whatever it is that he needed.

778
00:43:32.080 --> 00:43:33.920
And his needs were being met.

779
00:43:33.920 --> 00:43:35.400
And so he was changing.

780
00:43:35.400 --> 00:43:37.680
And I never had to acknowledge that what it is

781
00:43:37.680 --> 00:43:41.720
that he was, that I never had to acknowledge that,

782
00:43:41.720 --> 00:43:43.960
acknowledge what it was that he believed about,

783
00:43:43.960 --> 00:43:46.120
that he was believing about the situation.

784
00:43:47.000 --> 00:43:48.120
You know, I never had to acknowledge

785
00:43:48.120 --> 00:43:49.360
that I agreed with him.

786
00:43:49.360 --> 00:43:51.080
And that, yes, he deserves better.

787
00:43:51.080 --> 00:43:52.600
I know that isn't true about you.

788
00:43:52.600 --> 00:43:54.320
And whatever you do, you don't believe people

789
00:43:54.320 --> 00:43:55.480
who talk to you like that.

790
00:43:55.480 --> 00:43:57.560
And don't receive those lies.

791
00:43:57.560 --> 00:43:59.160
I didn't say any of that.

792
00:43:59.160 --> 00:44:00.120
I just loved him.

793
00:44:00.120 --> 00:44:02.120
And so by the end of the conversation, he said,

794
00:44:02.120 --> 00:44:04.000
Ashley, this is why I call you.

795
00:44:04.000 --> 00:44:05.800
He said, I do not feel, he said,

796
00:44:05.800 --> 00:44:10.120
he said, in sensitive subject matters like this,

797
00:44:10.120 --> 00:44:13.360
I do not feel safe enough with my other friends.

798
00:44:15.380 --> 00:44:20.380
But with you, I'm received, I'm accepted, and I'm safe.

799
00:44:21.720 --> 00:44:23.280
He didn't use those words, but they were words

800
00:44:23.280 --> 00:44:25.560
that he was, that there were,

801
00:44:25.560 --> 00:44:27.520
that it was the way that the conversation went.

802
00:44:27.520 --> 00:44:29.760
That's what it was that he was implying.

803
00:44:29.760 --> 00:44:33.640
He was like, Ashley, I can share with you

804
00:44:33.640 --> 00:44:37.720
my true vulnerability when I am broken and when I am hurt.

805
00:44:37.720 --> 00:44:39.040
Because, and this person, by the way,

806
00:44:39.040 --> 00:44:40.800
is much older than I am.

807
00:44:40.800 --> 00:44:43.680
And they said, I can come to you,

808
00:44:43.680 --> 00:44:48.680
and you, and the way that you receive me

809
00:44:49.520 --> 00:44:52.120
is different than everyone else.

810
00:44:52.120 --> 00:44:56.120
I can actually, and he felt, he felt the healing.

811
00:44:57.160 --> 00:44:59.960
Because he was receiving what he'd felt.

812
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:05.800
lack of which had caused the problem of well this isn't fair and I don't deserve

813
00:45:05.800 --> 00:45:09.920
this and why would they talk about me like this what's the problem the problem

814
00:45:09.920 --> 00:45:14.400
is the love the problem is that is the insecurity and whatever so that's what I

815
00:45:14.400 --> 00:45:20.200
gave him forget this this isn't the issue anyway this is the issue and I

816
00:45:20.200 --> 00:45:25.440
don't tell him how to get it I give it to him I don't send him off from me when

817
00:45:25.440 --> 00:45:29.760
he comes to me hungry and send him off hungry he comes to me not feeling loved

818
00:45:29.760 --> 00:45:34.440
I give him love I don't tell him the fact that he's never in lack and God

819
00:45:34.440 --> 00:45:39.720
always loves him anyway he thinks he's in lack so I give it to him so when we

820
00:45:39.720 --> 00:45:43.600
talk to someone like that we don't talk to the broken person down here if you

821
00:45:43.600 --> 00:45:48.760
want to help someone shift into your identity in Christ see their spirit and

822
00:45:48.760 --> 00:45:53.800
only talk to that operate out of love you know operate out of who it is that

823
00:45:53.800 --> 00:45:59.920
you are in Christ once you rise to that position you see everybody like that I

824
00:45:59.920 --> 00:46:05.520
see all of y'all like that and I don't I don't know a lot of y'all or some of you

825
00:46:05.520 --> 00:46:10.480
I know but I don't know well but I see all of y'all like that and the only way

826
00:46:10.480 --> 00:46:14.400
I'm able to do that is because I see me like that I have to put on my own oxygen

827
00:46:14.400 --> 00:46:19.880
mask first in order to be able to see you like that I can't see that you have

828
00:46:19.880 --> 00:46:23.600
something in Christ and that you are something in Christ unless I've seen it

829
00:46:23.600 --> 00:46:29.400
in myself first that means you cannot see certain things about your about your

830
00:46:29.400 --> 00:46:33.680
children unless you've seen it and they received it as true about yourself first

831
00:46:33.680 --> 00:46:38.360
from the Lord so if you think oh no I want more for my children and better for

832
00:46:38.360 --> 00:46:42.800
my children than than myself and and I'm willing to sacrifice whatever it is that

833
00:46:42.800 --> 00:46:47.400
I need to in order for them to have if we're doing that if we're doing that in

834
00:46:47.400 --> 00:46:52.320
the spirit if we're doing that in the spirit and we're like God how do I help

835
00:46:52.320 --> 00:46:56.920
them God's like I gave them you you are what they need you're out of alignment

836
00:46:56.920 --> 00:47:00.560
with me so they're getting wrong information by looking at you you need

837
00:47:00.560 --> 00:47:04.760
to change so now you're a life-giving spirit and you can give them what it is

838
00:47:04.760 --> 00:47:07.640
that they feel that they're lacking they don't feel protected they don't feel

839
00:47:07.640 --> 00:47:12.000
loved because you don't feel protected and you don't feel loved so they're there

840
00:47:12.000 --> 00:47:15.360
a mirror yeah

841
00:47:22.320 --> 00:47:41.600
I do well I just I mean it was so long ago oh okay here's some ideas okay to

842
00:47:41.600 --> 00:47:46.840
talk to somebody like that one of the things that I do is I in shifting into

843
00:47:46.840 --> 00:47:50.480
first seeing myself like that that's when I can finally see him like that and

844
00:47:50.480 --> 00:47:57.840
so and then so I'm seeing the the godly things about I'm seeing the aspect about

845
00:47:57.840 --> 00:48:05.120
him that looks like Christ and I and I start interacting with that one of the

846
00:48:05.120 --> 00:48:15.000
things that I do is I I if I have I affirm I affirm them I affirm who it is

847
00:48:15.000 --> 00:48:22.000
that they are okay how would I read this because it's just something that

848
00:48:22.000 --> 00:48:25.160
you do it's just something you own when you're in the situation and it just it

849
00:48:25.160 --> 00:48:28.480
just comes out I don't know this is what it means to love you just I'm just

850
00:48:28.480 --> 00:48:32.320
loving me and these are the things that come out when I want to love but I would

851
00:48:32.320 --> 00:48:36.200
say things I remember saying vaguely vaguely remember saying certain things

852
00:48:36.200 --> 00:48:43.960
like well you know something that I have always admired about you is is you know

853
00:48:44.160 --> 00:48:50.680
which is exactly how you're handling this situation you know how to how to do

854
00:48:50.680 --> 00:48:59.280
this and you know how to do that you I've you see what it is that they're

855
00:48:59.280 --> 00:49:04.400
doing in the situation sometimes and and speak to the fact that that is coming

856
00:49:04.400 --> 00:49:09.240
from the from who it from the godly aspect of how they're coming of them who

857
00:49:09.240 --> 00:49:15.560
it is that they are who it is that they are in spirit and you and you start and

858
00:49:15.560 --> 00:49:19.960
you start affirming that not from a patronizing place where again it looks

859
00:49:19.960 --> 00:49:22.920
like it's from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil and like well no no

860
00:49:22.920 --> 00:49:26.120
you're you're like you know you're like this and this is something that I've

861
00:49:26.120 --> 00:49:30.280
always admired about you and it's like this it's knowledge out here no no it

862
00:49:30.280 --> 00:49:34.320
has to come from within you you have to truly believe it you have to truly think

863
00:49:34.400 --> 00:49:39.480
it you have to truly feel it not what would convince them mm-hmm no you have

864
00:49:39.480 --> 00:49:44.800
to remember we always have to give of our something of ourselves it requires

865
00:49:44.800 --> 00:49:51.720
vulnerability because love can only be love if it's vulnerable so you so I

866
00:49:51.720 --> 00:49:56.560
thought about the things that I admired that I liked about him admired about him

867
00:49:56.560 --> 00:50:01.760
or whatever some of them were aspects of maybe

868
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:05.880
I don't know, maybe things that I saw about how he handled certain situations that I saw

869
00:50:05.880 --> 00:50:11.000
the character of God in a way that I had not had the courage to manifest myself yet.

870
00:50:11.000 --> 00:50:12.640
And I affirmed him in that.

871
00:50:12.640 --> 00:50:13.920
And I honored him in that.

872
00:50:13.920 --> 00:50:19.120
I would do that with my colleague that I told you about.

873
00:50:19.120 --> 00:50:20.120
I was always doing that.

874
00:50:20.120 --> 00:50:24.320
I was always thinking, wow, you know, I really always admire how you do this.

875
00:50:24.320 --> 00:50:29.240
I couldn't come up with an agenda of, oh, I think that this will help him feel loved.

876
00:50:29.240 --> 00:50:32.840
I think he'll respond in this way, so I'll say this.

877
00:50:32.840 --> 00:50:42.880
I had to make it true and then be vulnerable enough to speak what I felt.

878
00:50:42.880 --> 00:50:44.320
That's what I'm giving.

879
00:50:44.320 --> 00:50:46.480
And that's why it's a sacrifice of myself.

880
00:50:46.480 --> 00:50:52.920
I cannot separate something that I see about someone, separate it from myself as just this

881
00:50:52.920 --> 00:50:56.920
observable fact, because then I'm creating distance.

882
00:50:56.920 --> 00:51:05.880
And there's no spirit life that can come into that person and that can transform them.

883
00:51:05.880 --> 00:51:11.800
Because all I'm giving them is, because I'm separating words and affirmations from a life

884
00:51:11.800 --> 00:51:14.800
source, it breeds nothing but death.

885
00:51:14.800 --> 00:51:15.800
I'm just giving them death.

886
00:51:15.800 --> 00:51:17.600
It doesn't help them at all.

887
00:51:17.600 --> 00:51:22.200
If I want them to be changed, I have to give them life.

888
00:51:22.200 --> 00:51:23.600
And life is within me.

889
00:51:23.600 --> 00:51:25.480
Life is within my spirit.

890
00:51:25.480 --> 00:51:31.880
And in order to give it, I have to be vulnerable, very vulnerable.

891
00:51:31.880 --> 00:51:35.400
And where you're speaking things that you're like, well, is this going to, where in the

892
00:51:35.400 --> 00:51:40.360
world's eyes, it would sound like this is going to make me sound weak.

893
00:51:40.360 --> 00:51:43.920
I admire, you know, like if we've admired something about him or whatever.

894
00:51:43.920 --> 00:51:47.200
So I think, okay, how are they handling this situation?

895
00:51:47.200 --> 00:51:50.520
In other words, the good aspects of how they're handling the situation.

896
00:51:50.520 --> 00:51:52.600
The fact that, you know what?

897
00:51:52.600 --> 00:51:55.240
You always see justice so clearly.

898
00:51:55.240 --> 00:51:56.680
That's amazing.

899
00:51:56.680 --> 00:52:01.200
You know exactly, you know, what's always, what's always right and wrong.

900
00:52:01.200 --> 00:52:04.200
And you can very clearly, you can very clearly discern that.

901
00:52:04.200 --> 00:52:09.080
So even when you're being emotionally, I'm like talking to him, you know, even when you're

902
00:52:09.080 --> 00:52:15.080
being emotionally, being emotionally, emotionally triggered, you can actually see the truth

903
00:52:15.080 --> 00:52:17.120
and you're choosing it.

904
00:52:17.120 --> 00:52:24.040
And that is, and I just, you know, that's extremely brave.

905
00:52:24.040 --> 00:52:29.920
I haven't been in a situation like that and just talking to them like that or whatever.

906
00:52:29.920 --> 00:52:35.920
I can't be thinking things that are true and trying to figure them out and then giving

907
00:52:35.920 --> 00:52:37.280
him words.

908
00:52:37.280 --> 00:52:41.400
I have to actually think that myself.

909
00:52:41.400 --> 00:52:44.000
I believe that.

910
00:52:44.000 --> 00:52:50.800
I have to believe something before I can give it and it can actually carry a life giving

911
00:52:50.800 --> 00:52:53.000
spirit.

912
00:52:53.000 --> 00:52:57.100
So it can't be something that I know or that I know that I should think.

913
00:52:57.100 --> 00:53:00.280
It has to be something that is a part of myself.

914
00:53:00.280 --> 00:53:05.000
It has to be something that I truly believe because in order to transform somebody's life,

915
00:53:05.000 --> 00:53:09.720
you know, when someone needs something, I die that they might live.

916
00:53:09.720 --> 00:53:16.680
It requires me to give something and an aspect of that giving that feels like a sacrifice

917
00:53:16.680 --> 00:53:20.160
is the humility of vulnerability.

918
00:53:20.160 --> 00:53:23.440
But it has the power to transform a life.

919
00:53:23.440 --> 00:53:31.440
I have seen it countless times, men, women, children of all ages, personal and professional

920
00:53:31.440 --> 00:53:33.440
environments works every time.

921
00:53:34.160 --> 00:53:42.160
When you're dealing with a person of the opposite sex and you basically see them the way God

922
00:53:42.160 --> 00:53:50.160
sees them and you express that in some way, then there's, isn't there a potential issue

923
00:53:50.160 --> 00:53:54.160
with your falling in love with someone that you see them as God sees them because it's

924
00:53:54.160 --> 00:54:00.160
awesome or they're wanting to hit on you or all these kind of gender issues?

925
00:54:00.880 --> 00:54:04.880
That's what I'm concerned about from experience.

926
00:54:04.880 --> 00:54:09.880
What do you do when it's a man and a woman in a situation like that to protect yourself,

927
00:54:09.880 --> 00:54:14.880
protect him from all the appearance of evil and all those kind of things that are on the

928
00:54:14.880 --> 00:54:20.880
lower level, but still he might see you as a celestial sweetie and fall in love with

929
00:54:20.880 --> 00:54:23.880
you and he's always got a soul tied to him.

930
00:54:23.880 --> 00:54:24.880
Oh, I see.

931
00:54:24.880 --> 00:54:25.880
Oh, interesting.

932
00:54:25.880 --> 00:54:26.880
Yes.

933
00:54:26.880 --> 00:54:27.880
Yes.

934
00:54:27.880 --> 00:54:28.880
Okay.

935
00:54:28.880 --> 00:54:29.880
Okay, good.

936
00:54:30.600 --> 00:54:31.600
No, no, exactly.

937
00:54:31.600 --> 00:54:32.600
I'm glad you're asking this question.

938
00:54:32.600 --> 00:54:35.600
I'm taking it very, very seriously because you're right.

939
00:54:35.600 --> 00:54:45.600
The, it is, so I handled this and I'm trying to figure out how to articulate it in English.

940
00:54:45.600 --> 00:54:50.600
That you, in Spanish, I know Turkish, does that help?

941
00:54:51.320 --> 00:54:53.320
Excuse me.

942
00:54:53.320 --> 00:54:59.320
You, the, you do have to be...

943
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:02.760
Oh, how do you describe it?

944
00:55:02.760 --> 00:55:07.200
There is, you operate and interact with someone

945
00:55:07.200 --> 00:55:10.860
according to the level that your relationship has developed.

946
00:55:11.960 --> 00:55:14.100
And you give them of yourself

947
00:55:14.100 --> 00:55:17.040
according to how the relationship has developed.

948
00:55:17.040 --> 00:55:19.880
You don't give more than that because it's unhealthy

949
00:55:19.880 --> 00:55:23.680
because you have an unhealthy balance in the relationship.

950
00:55:23.680 --> 00:55:27.340
So you may have it and you may believe it,

951
00:55:27.340 --> 00:55:29.280
but your relationship isn't to the point

952
00:55:29.280 --> 00:55:33.140
where you can talk in a particular way

953
00:55:33.140 --> 00:55:36.340
and with a particular level of transparency

954
00:55:36.340 --> 00:55:39.060
because the development of the relationship

955
00:55:39.060 --> 00:55:41.080
and the communication has not matured

956
00:55:41.080 --> 00:55:43.240
to the point to be able to handle it.

957
00:55:44.660 --> 00:55:48.380
It doesn't mean that what it is that you have isn't valuable.

958
00:55:48.380 --> 00:55:51.400
You can give it to them in the spirit

959
00:55:51.400 --> 00:55:53.020
without speaking it out loud

960
00:55:53.020 --> 00:55:57.780
where they can run it through a soulish filter

961
00:55:57.780 --> 00:55:59.140
and misinterpret it.

962
00:55:59.620 --> 00:56:01.700
But you can still give it to them in spirit

963
00:56:01.700 --> 00:56:03.680
without speaking it out loud.

964
00:56:03.680 --> 00:56:07.300
You can still send it and send that intention

965
00:56:07.300 --> 00:56:08.800
without talking about it.

966
00:56:08.800 --> 00:56:10.420
You would only talk according to the level

967
00:56:10.420 --> 00:56:12.360
that the relationship has matured.

968
00:56:13.880 --> 00:56:18.220
Whether it's romantic or it's just a person that you know,

969
00:56:18.220 --> 00:56:20.600
if you don't know a person very, very well,

970
00:56:20.600 --> 00:56:23.280
well, then you're not gonna come on them

971
00:56:23.280 --> 00:56:24.580
and just like, oh my word,

972
00:56:26.120 --> 00:56:28.460
I don't know, just kind of just be overbearing

973
00:56:28.460 --> 00:56:33.460
and reveal too much of what it is that you're feeling

974
00:56:39.260 --> 00:56:40.980
or what it is that you know in spirit

975
00:56:40.980 --> 00:56:43.240
and what it is that you're sending forth to them

976
00:56:43.240 --> 00:56:45.400
because they can't handle it yet.

977
00:56:45.400 --> 00:56:47.460
Their relationship is not strong enough

978
00:56:47.460 --> 00:56:52.460
to bear the weight of carrying that type of responsibility.

979
00:56:55.380 --> 00:56:57.400
What's the word I'm looking for?

980
00:56:57.400 --> 00:57:00.360
Carry the, I can't think of it,

981
00:57:00.360 --> 00:57:02.600
but anyway, bear the weight of the responsibility

982
00:57:02.600 --> 00:57:05.720
that's required by both parties

983
00:57:05.720 --> 00:57:07.680
when something like that is said.

984
00:57:07.680 --> 00:57:09.800
It's the best way I can think of to describe it.

985
00:57:11.400 --> 00:57:15.920
Okay, I think that that is where we are going to stop

986
00:57:15.920 --> 00:57:17.680
tonight and we did run a little late

987
00:57:17.680 --> 00:57:21.520
because we started about 30 minutes late.

988
00:57:21.520 --> 00:57:24.640
But we're just going to, we have one more,

989
00:57:27.600 --> 00:57:28.960
let's see, I'm wondering.

990
00:57:39.800 --> 00:57:44.800
Okay, so I, okay, so we have a song

991
00:57:45.160 --> 00:57:46.440
and we'll go ahead and play that

992
00:57:46.440 --> 00:57:48.240
and that's what we'll finish with.

993
00:57:48.240 --> 00:57:49.940
It's already pulled up on YouTube.

994
00:57:52.200 --> 00:57:54.960
And we'll just, we'll play that and then,

995
00:57:54.960 --> 00:57:57.720
oh, before we do, let me let everybody know

996
00:57:57.720 --> 00:58:01.780
what to expect for tomorrow.

997
00:58:01.780 --> 00:58:06.600
So the, so for tomorrow,

998
00:58:06.600 --> 00:58:10.400
I do have some consultation openings

999
00:58:10.400 --> 00:58:13.540
between eight and 10 in the morning

1000
00:58:13.540 --> 00:58:16.320
because our sessions go from one to five

1001
00:58:16.320 --> 00:58:17.600
and the conference ends at five

1002
00:58:17.600 --> 00:58:18.880
and everybody can do whatever they want.

1003
00:58:18.880 --> 00:58:20.880
Some of you are spending the night like me

1004
00:58:20.880 --> 00:58:23.600
for another night and others of you

1005
00:58:23.600 --> 00:58:26.640
that are going ahead and going home.

1006
00:58:26.640 --> 00:58:29.400
But, which we are very sad and we want to miss you.

1007
00:58:29.400 --> 00:58:31.760
But before then, so in the morning,

1008
00:58:31.760 --> 00:58:35.920
I've got sessions and people can come over to,

1009
00:58:35.920 --> 00:58:39.300
come over to the lodge, the really big house

1010
00:58:39.300 --> 00:58:41.760
on the other side of the lake and come to the lodge

1011
00:58:41.760 --> 00:58:44.000
and then that's where we would have anybody

1012
00:58:44.000 --> 00:58:46.120
who signs up for private consultation

1013
00:58:46.120 --> 00:58:48.040
and then you and I will just meet there.

1014
00:58:48.040 --> 00:58:50.280
So I have four slots, eight to 8.30,

1015
00:58:50.280 --> 00:58:54.320
8.30 to nine, nine to 9.30

1016
00:58:54.320 --> 00:58:56.960
and then I already have one booked from 9.30 to 10.

1017
00:58:57.980 --> 00:59:02.980
Then at 10 o'clock, those who are in the rest intensive,

1018
00:59:03.240 --> 00:59:04.680
including their husbands,

1019
00:59:04.680 --> 00:59:06.760
their husbands are welcome obviously as well.

1020
00:59:06.760 --> 00:59:09.600
We're all gathering together in the lodge

1021
00:59:09.600 --> 00:59:14.360
just to visit because this is kind of like a conference

1022
00:59:14.360 --> 00:59:18.300
but we're wanting to have like a mini retreat

1023
00:59:18.300 --> 00:59:20.340
for our coaching session because you understand

1024
00:59:20.340 --> 00:59:23.020
that we have been in community, very close community.

1025
00:59:23.020 --> 00:59:25.420
You see the types of very deep personal

1026
00:59:25.420 --> 00:59:28.460
and private circumstances and situations

1027
00:59:28.460 --> 00:59:29.900
that we talk about.

1028
00:59:29.900 --> 00:59:31.900
We have been extremely vulnerable

1029
00:59:31.900 --> 00:59:33.620
with each other in our lives

1030
00:59:33.620 --> 00:59:37.260
and we have never met in person.

1031
00:59:37.260 --> 00:59:38.620
This conference is our first time

1032
00:59:38.620 --> 00:59:39.740
to get to meet in person.

1033
00:59:39.740 --> 00:59:42.140
So we're just gonna spend a little time together

1034
00:59:42.140 --> 00:59:45.340
and everybody please come to meet us

1035
00:59:45.340 --> 00:59:47.820
at whoever's been meeting at the Ordways.

1036
00:59:48.340 --> 00:59:49.260
People are gonna be coming as well.

1037
00:59:49.260 --> 00:59:52.860
We're all gonna have just a big potluck over at the lodge

1038
00:59:52.860 --> 00:59:54.420
at, is it noon?

1039
00:59:54.420 --> 00:59:55.660
Is that what Linda said?

1040
00:59:55.660 --> 00:59:58.700
So at noon at the lodge and then we're going to start

1041
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:02.560
and we'll come back here for the sessions.

1042
01:00:02.560 --> 01:00:07.560
If a few of y'all, especially any men who would mind helping,

1043
01:00:08.600 --> 01:00:10.640
we actually have to tear this down

1044
01:00:10.640 --> 01:00:13.720
and put all of these tables up against the wall

1045
01:00:13.720 --> 01:00:14.840
and put out the chairs

1046
01:00:14.840 --> 01:00:17.240
because we're gonna have a church service tomorrow morning.

1047
01:00:17.240 --> 01:00:19.280
So we wanna make sure to honor them

1048
01:00:19.280 --> 01:00:20.840
and have it all set up for them.

1049
01:00:20.840 --> 01:00:23.600
And then if some of them could help me

1050
01:00:23.600 --> 01:00:28.000
by coming over about like maybe 12.45 tomorrow

1051
01:00:28.000 --> 01:00:31.720
after we eat, you know, about 45 minutes after,

1052
01:00:31.720 --> 01:00:34.240
so about 15 minutes before one,

1053
01:00:34.240 --> 01:00:37.040
then and help me like reset up

1054
01:00:37.040 --> 01:00:40.840
for the last afternoon sessions, I would appreciate it.

1055
01:00:40.840 --> 01:00:42.440
So if anybody has any questions,

1056
01:00:42.440 --> 01:00:44.200
y'all know how to contact me via email

1057
01:00:44.200 --> 01:00:45.360
or you can walk up to me,

1058
01:00:45.360 --> 01:00:46.520
I'll hang around just a little bit,

1059
01:00:46.520 --> 01:00:49.240
make sure everybody has everything that they need.

1060
01:00:49.240 --> 01:00:51.520
And so, yeah, we'll just close with this.

1061
01:00:51.520 --> 01:00:53.440
The reason I wanted to close with this,

1062
01:00:53.440 --> 01:00:56.640
yes, for some of you, it is a little edgy, I apologize,

1063
01:00:56.640 --> 01:00:59.520
but it's a very fun song, it's very exciting.

1064
01:00:59.520 --> 01:01:01.520
It talks about the fact that what it is

1065
01:01:01.520 --> 01:01:03.240
that we've been talking about,

1066
01:01:03.240 --> 01:01:05.240
governing creation from a place of rest,

1067
01:01:05.240 --> 01:01:06.560
being a king, being a Lord,

1068
01:01:06.560 --> 01:01:09.600
manifesting who it is that we are in Christ

1069
01:01:09.600 --> 01:01:12.240
down into creation to release it from frustration,

1070
01:01:12.240 --> 01:01:15.960
to release our, to bring the redemption of our bodies,

1071
01:01:15.960 --> 01:01:19.240
according to Romans, according to Romans eight,

1072
01:01:19.240 --> 01:01:21.800
we were made for this.

1073
01:01:21.800 --> 01:01:23.880
As it says in the Bible, it says in the Bible,

1074
01:01:23.880 --> 01:01:27.800
it says in the song, we were born in the wild

1075
01:01:27.800 --> 01:01:30.240
and we were made for this.

1076
01:01:30.240 --> 01:01:34.040
Remember, the God that we are one with is not only a lamb,

1077
01:01:34.040 --> 01:01:36.800
he's also a lion, and that describes you too.

1078
01:01:36.800 --> 01:01:39.480
So anyway, it's just a really, it's a really fun song.

1079
01:01:39.480 --> 01:01:40.720
So we'll just end with that

1080
01:01:40.720 --> 01:01:42.720
and I hope you'll all have a really good night.

1081
01:01:44.560 --> 01:01:49.560
♪ I take a breath, I'm not gonna lose ♪

1082
01:01:50.400 --> 01:01:55.400
♪ This is what I came here to do ♪

1083
01:01:55.880 --> 01:02:00.880
♪ I walk that wire and I take that step ♪

1084
01:02:01.920 --> 01:02:06.920
♪ Won't look down, got no regrets ♪

1085
01:02:07.640 --> 01:02:12.640
♪ Won't look down, got no regrets ♪

1086
01:02:12.640 --> 01:02:17.640
♪ I was made for this, I was made for this ♪

1087
01:02:18.640 --> 01:02:21.560
♪ Born in the wild, formed in the fire ♪

1088
01:02:21.560 --> 01:02:26.560
♪ Built for the battle, oh, I was made for this ♪

1089
01:02:26.960 --> 01:02:30.080
♪ I was made for this ♪

1090
01:02:30.080 --> 01:02:33.080
♪ The mind over matters, silence the doubters ♪

1091
01:02:33.080 --> 01:02:38.080
♪ I have the power, oh, I was made for this ♪

1092
01:02:38.080 --> 01:02:43.080
♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪

1093
01:02:43.080 --> 01:02:48.080
♪ I don't give up, I won't back down ♪

1094
01:02:48.440 --> 01:02:53.440
♪ Goodbye worries, no time to down ♪

1095
01:02:53.920 --> 01:02:58.920
♪ I feel the power, I won't be afraid ♪

1096
01:02:59.760 --> 01:03:04.760
♪ Fear won't stop me, I don't break ♪

1097
01:03:04.760 --> 01:03:09.760
♪ I was made for this, I was made for this ♪

1098
01:03:10.960 --> 01:03:15.960
♪ Born in the wild, formed in the fire, built for the battle ♪

1099
01:03:16.320 --> 01:03:21.320
♪ I was made for this, I was made for this ♪

1100
01:03:22.440 --> 01:03:27.440
♪ Mind over matter, silence the doubters, I have the power ♪

1101
01:03:27.920 --> 01:03:32.920
♪ I was made for this, I was made for this ♪

1102
01:03:35.480 --> 01:03:40.480
♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪

1103
01:03:41.400 --> 01:03:46.400
♪ I'm a soul on a wire, that's where I feel alive ♪

1104
01:03:46.920 --> 01:03:51.920
♪ Open up the skies ♪

1105
01:03:52.880 --> 01:03:57.880
♪ I'm a soul on a wire, that's where I feel alive ♪

1106
01:03:58.440 --> 01:04:03.440
♪ Open up the skies, I am free to fly ♪

1107
01:04:05.600 --> 01:04:10.600
♪ I was made for this, I was made for this ♪

1108
01:04:11.680 --> 01:04:16.680
♪ Born in the wild, born in the fire, built for the metal ♪

1109
01:04:17.080 --> 01:04:22.080
♪ I was made for this, I was made for this ♪

1110
01:04:23.120 --> 01:04:28.120
♪ Mind over matter, silence the doubters, I have the power ♪

1111
01:04:28.640 --> 01:04:33.640
♪ I was made for this, I was made for this ♪

1112
01:04:34.760 --> 01:04:39.800
♪ I was made for this, I was made for this ♪