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This is so good. Thank you so much. You're welcome. Can I ask you the same with sleeping

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and like, are these, do you think, do we eat because of, like, that was very interesting

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when you said about trauma. Because I think, do we eat, like, I don't know, I don't even

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know what I'm trying to ask. Because I also struggle with sleeping and actually has a

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like, I know, I know that there's a level of faith you can have to, to sleep or like,

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but I don't know what it is, or if those things are connected, because they're both very physical.

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I do feel like, I have, like, that there are, that it really lightened up the two times you

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mentioned trauma. So, I don't know if you want to, if that could also be with sleep, or if it's like,

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I don't know, I think what I shared in the last responsive,

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at least, even what happened on Friday, when I spoke to my two friends about living in rest,

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and then they got on to me about, oh, so you think you know it better, or kind of,

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they got really kind of offended by it. And also, like, the last half year, I've never been

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I've never been in so many relationship difficulties for things that I've said,

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and you said about when a son of God rise up, then there's like chaos in the universe,

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and these are not in alignment. And then crazy things like that can happen. And I, but I think,

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and I am, but I still feel like I'm traumatized by all those things that happen. Yeah, I'm sure.

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Like, and I'm trying to believe, or I'm believing sometimes what you said,

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and it was very helpful to have the rest intensive during Christmas, when these things happened.

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And also to talk to you this fall, because it happened from August until now, but it keeps

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happening. It happened on Friday. And so I think, I don't know why I'm mentioning that, but maybe

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that is connected to eating and sleep. But I feel traumatized, and I don't even know how to

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articulate it, or that, and I ask the Spirit almost every day to heal my soul, or to come

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and heal my soul. And I believe that God is doing something, but I still feel traumatized.

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Because of those things that happen, and also all the things are still ongoing,

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and I'm still dealing with the effects of the rejection, and the people that misunderstood me.

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And I lost two good friends that don't want to speak to me anymore, because I spoke up about

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something that I might have not, I don't like, I'm not even really sure what it was. They just

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got very offended by something that I said, either speaking into their lives, or saying something, or

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you know, just talking about an issue. And then it keeps happening.

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So it's hard not to believe that it's me, that it must be something with me, because this,

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you know, but it all happens. After the rest intensive, I first started teaching in July,

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and since then until now, it keeps happening so many times. And I've had, of course, I've had

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relationship issues before in my life, but never, never to this extent, like I've never experienced

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people turn on me like this. Yeah, yeah, I'm sorry. So you haven't noticed a difference in like,

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I don't know, anything that you're saying, or how you're saying it, like, are you talking to

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them about like new things that you're learning? Are you approaching things in a different way

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that you used to, because you now see the world differently? Or is it like nothing, what the web,

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and in other words, they're responding to that? Or is it like, no, this is the way we've always

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talked this way. I've always had a relationship and it's just happening. I mean, do you know?

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I think it's both on Friday, it was because I was trying to explain less.

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Yeah, yeah.

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The other times, I just feel like I've been myself, but maybe

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I know why they were offended, one of them was, or I would know some of the reasons why

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they were offended.

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And one of the times was because one of them contemplated abortion, and then I said my

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opinion about it, but I said it in a very loving way.

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I talked to her kind of like you would talk to a child, I said, like, I'm really surprised

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by this, I think that this is like a great thing that you've done, and it's something

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that God takes very seriously, or like something.

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So that was one thing, and I know she got very offended about me speaking what I think

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is truth in her life, and for me it was because I wanted her to, I didn't want to see her

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get into this wrong place of believing that what she did had been okay.

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Okay, so has she already done it?

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No, she was contemplating it, and then, and the other things have been, I've talked to

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her about, the other things have been, things that I can see, like it has been things, asking

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them questions, like what's going on in our friendship, are you offended, and then one

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of the times she was very offended that I would ask that question, and she said, I want

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to be friends with you, but I don't want to talk about our problems.

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And then she got very, and then I said that that was very challenging, and I didn't know

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how to relate to her, if we're not going to talk about, there's like this big elephant

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in the room, but she said that I had done things that really offended her, but it would

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just make it harder to talk about it, and then I started to explain myself, and then

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she says, now you offend me even more, and then she said, now I'm going to drop back

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from you, and I don't know if I can talk to you anymore, and then she cut contact with me,

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and she just, so, and so then, and one of them was my friend that I told you about,

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and that she was being rejected towards me, and then I brought it up, and we misunderstood

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each other, and there was like a whole big miscommunication, and then I felt really hurt

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by her rejection, and then she felt hurt because she felt like I was pushing her,

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asking questions, what's going on, so I think that I, maybe the common denominator is that

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I have pushed something, whether it is to say that it's wrong to contemplate abortion,

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or say that, hey, can we talk about issues in our friendship, or say, hey, I'm living,

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I feel like I found something living in rest, and I think this is really, really great, and it's

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like different from the way I used to live, so in all, the common denominator is like me pushing

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something by being me, by being either excited, or wanting to clear a misunderstanding, or tell

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what I think is true in the situation, and it's gotten really wrong, but my responsibility is

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the pushing, and maybe it was the wrong timing, or it was too much, or too soon, so I totally see

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that it doesn't have to be both, it could have been my part too, but in all the situations,

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they have reacted really against me, and two of them have, don't want to see me anymore,

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hmm, and some of them I've been able to walk through the different rejection issues, and

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some of them have said that, have also asked me for forgiveness, and said that they have reacted

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against me, so it's, there's so many, many, it's happened so many times, yeah, yeah, I'm sorry,

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um, well, uh, so that's actually why I asked, because I began to think, wait a minute,

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is something different, you know, and, and maybe it's not, maybe it's what you've always, uh,

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done, but one of the things that I kind of noticed, that I wanted to kind of like, maybe,

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um, maybe free you from, because this is how I felt as well, I was very, um, uh, I was very

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open to conflict, like, because I would see, okay, let's, you know, let's have a better friendship,

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let's deal with issues, so whenever I saw an issue, I'm like, okay, well, I'm not afraid of it,

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let's go for it, let's deal with it, and whatever.

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And especially with relationships that requires the relationship has to be strong enough to sustain the confrontation.

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And some people, because relationship is a two way street, some people can't handle it.

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So, my encouragement to you is I'm not surprised that that's how you've been like that thing keeps coming up of like what you said, you know, just kind of like I'm bringing something up or I'm driving.

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Because that's how you know you approach your whole everything in your whole life.

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Push harder, because you thought that was expected of you.

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You thought, life is hard, and God wants me to push to overcome, he wants me to do the right thing and I'm finding it really hard to do the right thing.

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And so it's, it's strengthened you to always expect everything to be hard, and to be, and to be, and, and because you want to do the right thing, you are willing to go for it.

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And so, I believe that God wants you to understand that life doesn't have to be that hard.

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You don't always have to, you don't always have to fight everything or fix everything, you can just let it be and not confront it.

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And God's just like you know, I want you to, to not have to battle, every potential issue that comes up.

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If they want to live like that, just let them live like them. If they only want a particular degree of relationship with you, then that's all they'll get.

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You know, so in other words, it's, it's like a free, it's because that, that thing in you is good.

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You have a willingness and a strength to not be threatened by or shy away from confrontation or conflict, you have a potential in you to have relationships of very deep intimacy, but not everybody that's in your life is going to desire that, or has the strength for it.

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And so that means that sometimes, maybe not everyone, but that sometimes some of those people are being very limited in other areas of their life, because they're not willing to confront or face conflict in things, and it's being evidenced by the fact that they're not willing to do it in relationship with you.

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So they probably shy away from it in other areas of their life.

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And because they're not willing to actually do the hard, the hard thing of facing things, so they don't get the, they don't get greater benefit in their life in those other areas.

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Anyway, so when it's showing up, including in the fact that they're not willing to go there with you, but you on the other hand, have an ability to go and to have a great and to be greatly enriched in your experience in life, because you are not cowed by and threatened by adversity.

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Like, okay, but I'm willing to go at it, and I'm willing to go into it, I'm willing to face it, I'm willing to face what I need to in myself, etc.

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But what I think that God shows us is that not every battle is for us.

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Not everything that we get privy to see in someone else's life is something that we have to confront, or we have to speak truth into.

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Sometimes you don't even, in other words, you're free.

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You are, God doesn't want you to feel the responsibility for everyone else.

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He doesn't hold you responsible for everyone else.

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And it also means that He doesn't, that even though we have such love for other people, like, oh my word, I don't want them to have to live like that.

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I want them to know that life is better, or I don't want them to believe that lie, or that whatever.

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You know, we can say and approach it from this perspective of, oh, it's because I love them.

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But here's the thing, though, that there's a certain measure in which you need to be available for people that God's going to put into your life.

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And if you've taken up all of these things from all these other people, you're expending your energy in all of these areas in other people's life that God hasn't given to you.

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And now you don't, you're burnout.

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The areas that God needs you to have your energy for.

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So the thing is that there are all of these great things that are within you.

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There's nothing wrong with what it is that you're doing.

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The fact that you were pouring into these people, the fact that you were willing to

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have, you're willing to face things, face the conflict, you know, and, and, and,

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you know, and confront things in order to have greater, deeper relationship

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and intimacy with others.

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Um, and, and all of that, all of those things are good things.

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None of those things are wrong.

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None of those things are bad, but who has God given you to do it with and which

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situations and when, and then you're free of everything else.

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So it's good, but where are you doing it?

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And, um, so that you can do it in the areas that God could uniquely created

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you for, and that are needing you.

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And if you're doing it everywhere, then you're going to be burnout and

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exhausted in the areas that God is, is developing you for, does that make sense?

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So the things that you're doing are good, but you can be burnout and you can get

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yourself burnout as well as, as well as there can be damage done because they

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weren't meant to receive what it is that you have to offer, but these situations

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were, and maybe you haven't even come to these situations yet, and maybe God is

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still preparing you and developing things in you by exposing you to

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conversations with your friends.

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And so you're thinking, oh, it's time for me to actually

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confront or address or whatever.

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Well, it may not be the time.

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That may not be why God has enabled you to hear these things that your

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friend is saying, you know, or whatever.

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And, but it's to equip you for later down the road.

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So in other words, you, um, there's less work maybe that you thought

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than you thought God was wanting of you.

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And, but understand that the things that you're doing, they're all

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good and they need to be done, but maybe you're doing them in areas and with

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people that aren't, that, that cannot receive the aspects of God that he put

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in you and he put those in you for these other people who can receive it.

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Oh, this is so good.

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Does that make sense?

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So again, there's nothing wrong with

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and hard to hear.

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Yeah.

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I know, but that's why I'm saying there's nothing wrong with you.

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You're doing all of the right things, but maybe it's with ask the Lord.

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When and where and with whom so that you don't get burned out so that you don't

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get discouraged so that you stop experiencing such rejection because God

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intends when he speaks through you, he intends for it to be received.

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And so, yes, there is certain measure in which God had to prepare us and say,

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Hey, look, I'm sending you out.

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And if the town receives you, then allow your peace to stay.

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But if it doesn't receive you, take your piece back and shake the dust of that

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town off your feet and then leave because it had the choice, but understand that

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what it is that you're offering.

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Isn't you it's God.

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And so therefore, if it rejects you and it rejects your peace, it's

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not you that it's rejecting.

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It's very clearly stated in scripture that it's a rejection of Christ, not of you.

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So anyway, my point is that I know that you've been receiving a lot of rejection,

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but that here very clearly, there's nothing wrong with you and what you're doing.

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It's just that it's just ask the Lord.

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Okay, Lord, if it's not working out.

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Is this the person, is this the right time, you know, is, is this the right

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situation in which I should have brought something up or is it, I'm supposed to

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keep my peace to myself and, and operate at some other time though, because so

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often what happens is if we keep getting rejected, we can think we're the problem.

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Yeah.

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We understand what you're doing.

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They're good things.

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You're desiring deeper intimacy with people and you're offering it.

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You're sacrificing yourself in those situations and that's good.

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That's really good, but they didn't receive it.

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So if it keeps happening, that's the time to ask the Lord.

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Okay.

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Lord, what am I not understanding?

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Am I doing it just with everyone?

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And you want me to be more selective?

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Like even the, everyone could be friends and like.

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Lord, are these not the friends that you're wanting me to do this with?

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You only want me to be a particular level of friend with these people.

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And that in order to be deeper, the way that you equip me to be able to be, it's with different

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friends, that different friends, we go deeper, you know, there's different levels of friends,

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some people refer to it as like all of these inner circles of like, you've got all of these

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friends back here, and they're only allowed so much closeness to you.

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And you have friends who are a little closer, and they're allowed a little closer relationship

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But the degree of intimacy determines the degree of conflict.

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With people out here, I don't confront about anything, nothing, you know, and even in these

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people in the middle, you know, not the middle, but like the inner ring, I confront about

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specific things.

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I bring it up.

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something that there's something wrong with you.

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It's the other person, and it's the timing and meaning like, maybe that's not who God

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wants you to do that, but it doesn't mean that what you did was wrong.

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Maybe it was just out of timing.

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Maybe it was someone that couldn't receive it, you know, so anyway, then it allows us

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to adjust without thinking, well, I must be bad, or I must just not get it, or why do

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I keep being so damaging?

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Like all these people start getting all upset, and I've made them upset.

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Something must be wrong with me.

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No, that's not, that's not, like in other words, I must have done something wrong.

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Apparently, this is not how you do it.

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Apparently, I'm not being loving.

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No, you're being loving, but you know, I just ask the Lord, okay, Lord, you and I are living

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this life together, when, how, to whom, that kind of a thing.

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offered to them, but don't, I also recommend don't judge them for something they just may

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not be equipped to handle.

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They may not be strong enough to be able to face those things in them, or that just may

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not be who it is that they are in your life.

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God intends that place to be held by a different person in your life, you know?

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So anyway, does that all make sense?

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Because I didn't want this in any way to come across as any kind of like, for you to feel

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bad in any way.

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This was to give you encouragement of like, hey, there's nothing wrong with you.

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you're offering of yourself is not being received by certain people.

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Where can I put it?

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How can I interact with it?

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Where do I direct it?

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As opposed to thinking there's something wrong about me that I need to change, but no, that's

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just teaching you how to use it.

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Does that make sense?

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Yes, it does.

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with people in a loving way, even the things that were hard, I experienced a lot of fruit

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for many years.

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a lot of fruit in people's lives and in my life.

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Now it's not.

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like I've been trying to fight for survival.

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but part of it was also using a gift that it brought a lot of fruit.

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But now it's not, but it doesn't mean that I'm doing something wrong, like you're saying.

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Maybe God says that, OK, that was great.

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That brought a lot of fruit.

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Now you can rest.

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You don't have to fight all those battles.

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You're not responsible for all these people.

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way turning against, for instance, contemplating abortion, it might not, unless they welcome

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you to speak and maybe, like, they ask me so I should tell the truth, but maybe I should

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be more, maybe not every fight is my fight, and that part of it has come from a place

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of feeling like it was my responsibility and also in loving people and wanting to see

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them whole and free with themselves and with the Lord, but no, it's not, no, God is, you

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know, I feel it was really good what you said.

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One of the things that is easier on yourself and, you know, on other people, if, because

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we love them, we want to see them, we want to see them operate more freedom and all of

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that.

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One of the easier things is to, easier approaches is to affirm who it is that they are, as opposed

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to trying to speak into or battle what it is that they're believing.

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So instead of trying to affirm or to disavow their belief, I try to focus on who it is

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that they are and how they have been, how I, how I watch them and express who it is

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that they are.

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Like, those are all of the positive things in which they, and so, and like, for instance,

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and they asked me, but they came to me and actually asked me what it is that I thought.

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would make, that would shame them or make them feel bad for contemplating it or bad

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for, bad for struggling or whatever.

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they have a harder time making righteous decisions from a place of shame.

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So I was like, okay, so I can't do that.

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This was about, I don't know, 12 years ago, maybe 11 to, yeah, about 11, 12 years ago.

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different things that God says about basically the value of life, because again, they were

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asking me, so I would talk about the value of, of, of, of this human being and the, and

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how it is that we knew that it was a real person as opposed to just simply a fetus,

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you know, or like this thing, but it was actually whatever.

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I was very gentle when I did it because again, they're asking me, but I was like, yeah, but

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just because they're asking doesn't mean that they are very strong in being able to handle

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certain responses.

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of the human being.

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as in like scientifically, this is what they've measured about, like how to tell, you know,

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the heartbeat starts at this time and, you know, and, and at the time of conception,

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you know, they can capture like a spark of light that they've been able to literally

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physically see a spark of light come in, you know, so we know that, oh, that's when the

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spirit, you know, comes in and the soul joins the, that's when the soul joins the little

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And this is what the Bible says, but, and then I would affirm that, and I don't remember

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saying this at all, but just thinking now back on it, I would, I would want to say things

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like the fact that they, that they, what a good person that they were and what a good

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mom, you know, how much, how much they loved other people and how much they could, would

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pour into a life and that I was just, I could just see them, you know, just really making

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uh, just being a very special person to raise a new life into whatever, basically just like

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affirming and like talking about all the positive, as opposed to trying to get them to stop believing

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what it is that they were believing, but just really, you know, all affirmed. But again,

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I was asked, so I don't remember if you said that this person asked. So that's what I did,

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but even understand that, that even though they asked, I had to be very, very gentle

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in explaining why I believed what I believed, but all from the positive, as opposed to what

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God says that he's going to kill. And if somebody does it, it's better that a millstone's wrapped

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around their neck. I didn't like try to motivate them from the negative. I tried to motivate them

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from the positive, try to draw them towards making a particular choice as opposed to shaming them

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from where it is that they were, because I'm identifying them in a particular place of like

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being somewhere that they need to escape from and whatever. And I'm using that as one example

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of how I talk to people. Um, and, uh, cause I was talking to somebody else a while back. I think,

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I mean, I've touched lots of people about this in parasite chats, but one, I remember from about a

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couple of years ago where someone was asking me, so actually there's somebody who's always,

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who's always talking to me about the fact that they believe Satan is so horrible and how did

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they need to do to that? And, and, um, they're like, how do you talk to somebody like that?

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That always focuses on Satan instead of God. And I said, honestly, when someone asked me for advice,

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I talked to them the same way as if they'd never asked me for the advice. I just always focused on

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how, um, on all, on affirming who it is that they are and talking about the truth, as opposed to

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trying to get them to stop believing what it is that they are believing. I give them something

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to be drawn to instead of something to escape from. Anyway, that has really helped my, um,

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my conversations with people because basically I'm trying to empower somebody else to make their

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own decision. I'm trying to empower someone to make their own choice. So anyway, that for what

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it is. That's so good. But it also is really hard to hear. I think just because it's just because

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I just feel horrible about everything and just like, Oh, I should have done these things differently.

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And I guess it's very helpful, but it's also, it's very helpful. Uh, but I just, um,

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that it also tells me, Oh my gosh, I've done so many wrong things

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and it just plays into my condemnation of myself, but it's, uh, but it's, um,

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but it is learned teaching me a lot. So it's just, uh, I think I am in a state of

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trauma still about these things. So I, um, but I don't definitely see that,

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that I could have done things differently and that, um,

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and that, uh, like I can learn from all of these things and that maybe God is trying to teach me

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something new and a new way of living. Remember though, that, uh, that it's that, okay. So we're

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used to viewing like trials, tribulations, hard things. And like, for instance, something like

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this, as if, as if, okay, we were bad and we're not supposed to be like that. It's different. God's

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just like, no, that's a hard way to live. Wouldn't you like to live easier than that? You took

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something on that I don't require of you. So from now on live lighter, live freer, don't take it on.

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have done. Understand that as an old perspective that we're trying to let go of that. We thought

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that that's how God viewed things that that God viewed things is, Hey, stop doing these things.

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They're bad. And instead do these things. And that's not the way it is. God is just like,

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no, no, no. You're living life. You already are the thing. You already are. That's great.

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The problem is you're don't feel like you experienced it. So let me show you how to

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experience it. I've already given you everything. I've already made you perfect. You're already

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here, but you're not experiencing. You're already experiencing it in your spirit.

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You're already holy. You're already perfect. You're already great, but your soul and your body

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don't know these things yet. So God's just like, Hey, get, understand that you

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don't have to live this heavy. You don't have to take these

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things on. Live lighter, live freer, live in more love. Does

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that make sense? So did the perspective. So we're, we

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struggle with this sense of shame as if I because we're

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focusing on I did something I shouldn't have done it. I should

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have done something different because like no, no, no. You

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you're, you're, you, you were trying so hard to do the right

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thing. But you, you did something that you didn't have

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to do. In other words, you made life hard on yourself. By

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weighing yourself down. You thought I made you do something

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that I actually didn't make you have to do. So in other words,

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you can live lighter and freer with less performance, less

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action, less responsibility.

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Out of battery. That's so that's okay.

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Perfect. So in less responsibility. Oh, I can't hear

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you. Okay, now you're switching over.

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Yes, okay. It was just losing power. Yes. I'm hearing you.

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Okay, good. So anyway, less responsibility and all of that.

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So as hard as it is, we're not it. So this is actually a

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perfect. I'm so glad we're talking about this because this

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is perfect real time stuff is that I had to learn when I was

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feeling bad about things. I was feeling shame. I was feeling

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condemnation. I'm like, see God, I shouldn't have done this. Use

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the rest tools in these situations to when I've done

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something and I was wasn't supposed to do it. That's how I

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kept interpreting things. I've done something I'm not supposed

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to do it. And instead, what we and we feel the shame, we feel

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this condemnation and God's like, no, no, no. You are not

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changed. And you are not condemned. So release shame and

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condemnation from yourself. So you do the whole rest tool

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things in situations like this because you're feeling bad. God

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doesn't want you to feel like you're feeling. So therefore,

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God is more focused on the fact that you're feeling like you are

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than that you did what you did. He's like, okay, forget that for

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a minute. It's like, who cares, whatever. I don't like the fact

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that you're believing that you're heavy that you believe

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that you're shame that you that you're ashamed that you feel

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condemned. Yeah, it's more important to God. So he's like,

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no, no, no. Choose this kind of goes back to the conversation we

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were having with you know, when we were all together within it.

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Where God's just like, okay, just like put that other thing

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aside for a second. If you can't do that, and obey God, then you

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can't do that. And obey me by believing me at the same time.

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So abandon this for just a second, and just do what you

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need to do to believe. So you free yourself in situations

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like this, you intentionally free yourself from shame and

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condemnation. And in you, when you do that, you feel like you

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don't deserve it. It's a willful decision that you have

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to make. It won't just happen. You actually have to be the one

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who tells yourself it or tells yourself to free who releases

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yourself from shame and condemnation. So you have to

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actually stop shaming yourself. And stop holding yourself

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responsible for what you did. In other words, stop being

414
00:39:02.360 --> 00:39:05.600
responsible for holding the weight. So if you think of what

415
00:39:05.600 --> 00:39:09.360
it is you did, if you think, okay, it's that rock, I have to

416
00:39:09.360 --> 00:39:15.480
hold, stop holding it. And it will feel weird, because you'll

417
00:39:15.480 --> 00:39:20.240
feel like no, but God holds God wants me to hold it. Because I

418
00:39:20.240 --> 00:39:25.200
did it. So therefore, someone's got to hold it. So I have to

419
00:39:25.200 --> 00:39:31.480
hold it. And for me to not hold it is for me to not rightly

420
00:39:33.000 --> 00:39:38.600
it's for me to live in sin. And for me to not make restitution

421
00:39:38.920 --> 00:39:42.760
by apologizing to the Lord. You know, in other words, how will I

422
00:39:42.760 --> 00:39:47.480
feel bad enough to apologize? How will I feel bad enough to

423
00:39:47.480 --> 00:39:52.800
not do it again? How will I feel bad enough to obey God? Do you

424
00:39:52.800 --> 00:39:57.800
see how we were using shame and condemnation to motivate us to

425
00:39:57.800 --> 00:39:58.960
do the right thing?

426
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:03.140
It's like, no, no, no, no, no, don't use it at all.

427
00:40:03.140 --> 00:40:08.140
He's like, so basically he's like, stop holding the rock.

428
00:40:08.660 --> 00:40:12.120
Let the rock go and stop feeling the burden,

429
00:40:12.120 --> 00:40:14.620
the weight and responsibility of what you did.

430
00:40:15.700 --> 00:40:17.980
Stop thinking about it.

431
00:40:17.980 --> 00:40:19.900
Stop holding it.

432
00:40:21.140 --> 00:40:21.980
Does that make sense?

433
00:40:21.980 --> 00:40:23.140
I'm trying to use different phrases

434
00:40:23.140 --> 00:40:24.580
to get the idea across.

435
00:40:24.580 --> 00:40:27.540
But do I need to do something in the relationships

436
00:40:27.540 --> 00:40:30.480
if I think like, oh, maybe that was unwise.

437
00:40:30.480 --> 00:40:31.320
Maybe it wasn't.

438
00:40:34.740 --> 00:40:37.480
Because two of these people stopped talking to me,

439
00:40:37.480 --> 00:40:41.440
but I have tried to reach out to them.

440
00:40:42.860 --> 00:40:47.000
But I realized like I'm holding onto this rock,

441
00:40:47.000 --> 00:40:50.660
but I think also I'm wondering, what do I need to do?

442
00:40:50.660 --> 00:40:52.520
Like, why did these things happen?

443
00:40:52.520 --> 00:40:53.700
What do I need to do?

444
00:40:54.280 --> 00:40:59.080
And so I'm wondering, can I just drop it

445
00:40:59.080 --> 00:41:02.080
and just not contact them and let it go?

446
00:41:02.080 --> 00:41:05.900
Or something in the relationship.

447
00:41:06.880 --> 00:41:08.280
Okay, so first of all,

448
00:41:08.280 --> 00:41:10.440
forget the relationship for a minute.

449
00:41:10.440 --> 00:41:13.760
Forget what you're supposed to do with them and whatever.

450
00:41:13.760 --> 00:41:15.640
And this is what I do too.

451
00:41:15.640 --> 00:41:16.700
Forget about it for a second.

452
00:41:16.700 --> 00:41:18.440
Because we keep thinking, oh my goodness,

453
00:41:18.440 --> 00:41:21.320
that I'm responsible for my effect on someone else.

454
00:41:21.740 --> 00:41:22.700
I was just like,

455
00:41:23.780 --> 00:41:26.500
Ashley, the more important thing is you and me.

456
00:41:26.500 --> 00:41:28.740
That's more important than this.

457
00:41:28.740 --> 00:41:30.980
So let's go for a second.

458
00:41:30.980 --> 00:41:34.020
In fact, he said, Ashley, you can't view this rightly

459
00:41:34.020 --> 00:41:35.660
if you can't view this rightly.

460
00:41:35.660 --> 00:41:37.820
So forget about it for a second

461
00:41:37.820 --> 00:41:40.740
and just do what I'm asking you to do here.

462
00:41:40.740 --> 00:41:42.860
No shame, no condemnation.

463
00:41:42.860 --> 00:41:46.860
You're no longer have to bear the weight

464
00:41:46.860 --> 00:41:50.060
of the responsibility of what you did.

465
00:41:50.080 --> 00:41:53.960
That doesn't feel right, I understand.

466
00:41:53.960 --> 00:41:55.840
But understand that's what Jesus did.

467
00:41:55.840 --> 00:41:58.760
When he died, he took that rock.

468
00:41:58.760 --> 00:42:02.560
So you don't have to live carrying the rocks

469
00:42:02.560 --> 00:42:04.000
of what you've done.

470
00:42:05.840 --> 00:42:08.280
That's the power of the gospel.

471
00:42:08.280 --> 00:42:11.520
See, we keep thinking, well,

472
00:42:11.520 --> 00:42:14.200
what God did is when I get a rock,

473
00:42:14.200 --> 00:42:16.000
because I've done something,

474
00:42:16.000 --> 00:42:21.000
then what he paid for is my ability

475
00:42:21.180 --> 00:42:24.140
to get rid of the rock by apologizing,

476
00:42:24.140 --> 00:42:26.100
by correcting it, by doing the right thing,

477
00:42:26.100 --> 00:42:27.260
by apologizing to the Lord,

478
00:42:27.260 --> 00:42:29.140
by fixing it with someone else.

479
00:42:29.140 --> 00:42:30.940
And then I can get rid of the rock.

480
00:42:30.940 --> 00:42:32.900
That is not what God did.

481
00:42:32.900 --> 00:42:35.960
What God did is when you create a rock,

482
00:42:37.460 --> 00:42:39.700
he says, okay, now give it to me

483
00:42:39.700 --> 00:42:41.420
so you no longer have to carry it.

484
00:42:42.420 --> 00:42:44.660
And you haven't done anything.

485
00:42:44.660 --> 00:42:46.360
You didn't apologize to him.

486
00:42:46.360 --> 00:42:47.960
You didn't apologize to them.

487
00:42:47.960 --> 00:42:49.800
You didn't fix it.

488
00:42:49.800 --> 00:42:51.520
You didn't do anything.

489
00:42:51.520 --> 00:42:54.800
That is the power of the gospel.

490
00:42:54.800 --> 00:42:56.240
It's radical.

491
00:42:56.240 --> 00:42:57.440
It's drastic.

492
00:42:57.440 --> 00:43:00.000
It doesn't make sense.

493
00:43:00.000 --> 00:43:03.400
See, we keep thinking that the power was God was just like,

494
00:43:03.400 --> 00:43:06.640
well, no, what I did is I made a way

495
00:43:06.640 --> 00:43:09.200
for you to go jump through all of these different hoops

496
00:43:09.200 --> 00:43:11.560
of apologizing to me, apologizing to them,

497
00:43:11.560 --> 00:43:13.600
fixing it, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah.

498
00:43:13.600 --> 00:43:18.560
I created a pathway of work for you to follow

499
00:43:18.560 --> 00:43:20.940
that will let you eventually work hard enough

500
00:43:20.940 --> 00:43:22.820
to get rid of the rock.

501
00:43:22.820 --> 00:43:27.820
God's like, no, I paid for that rock before you created it.

502
00:43:28.500 --> 00:43:30.960
So as soon as you make it, give it to me.

503
00:43:31.860 --> 00:43:34.540
Then when you make another one, give it to me.

504
00:43:34.540 --> 00:43:38.020
Stop trying to make restitution for the rock.

505
00:43:38.020 --> 00:43:41.160
Stop trying to get rid of the rock because you can't.

506
00:43:42.140 --> 00:43:43.940
You can't apologize enough.

507
00:43:43.940 --> 00:43:45.580
You can't fix it enough with your friend

508
00:43:45.580 --> 00:43:48.820
to get rid of the rock because it exists.

509
00:43:48.820 --> 00:43:50.540
That rock has got to go somewhere.

510
00:43:50.540 --> 00:43:52.120
So the only way to get rid of the rock

511
00:43:52.120 --> 00:43:56.380
was if Jesus died to actually remove it.

512
00:43:56.380 --> 00:43:59.300
That's why no matter how much you work,

513
00:43:59.300 --> 00:44:03.100
you can't, it was never enough to get back to God

514
00:44:03.100 --> 00:44:05.620
because you still created the rock.

515
00:44:05.620 --> 00:44:07.860
Even if you worked really hard to apologize to them

516
00:44:07.860 --> 00:44:09.620
and apologize to them to correct it,

517
00:44:09.680 --> 00:44:12.040
the rock still exists.

518
00:44:12.040 --> 00:44:14.040
There was no way to get rid of the rock.

519
00:44:15.440 --> 00:44:16.840
That's why Jesus died.

520
00:44:16.840 --> 00:44:19.920
He's like, I have to figure out a way to get rid of the rock.

521
00:44:19.920 --> 00:44:22.240
Otherwise, it's just gonna be in a mountain somewhere

522
00:44:22.240 --> 00:44:27.240
because you can't annihilate something that you've created

523
00:44:28.680 --> 00:44:29.800
to exist.

524
00:44:29.800 --> 00:44:32.240
So God's like, I'm gonna pay for it.

525
00:44:32.240 --> 00:44:35.040
And when it enters me, it'll finally be annihilated.

526
00:44:35.040 --> 00:44:38.760
Remember what Jesus said, as if you had never sinned,

527
00:44:38.780 --> 00:44:40.780
I will put them as far away from me

528
00:44:40.780 --> 00:44:43.060
as the east is from the west,

529
00:44:43.060 --> 00:44:45.540
where he forgets it even happened.

530
00:44:45.540 --> 00:44:48.580
In other words, in his world, in God's world,

531
00:44:48.580 --> 00:44:51.620
and God's the one who said it, it's as if it never did.

532
00:44:51.620 --> 00:44:54.060
That's the power of the gospel.

533
00:44:54.060 --> 00:44:57.700
So understand that what happens after that

534
00:44:57.700 --> 00:44:59.100
is that's how you believe God.

535
00:44:59.100 --> 00:45:01.100
You believe God by giving him the rock.

536
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:07.280
him what it is you did. It's as if you've never done it. Now what you do is now that

537
00:45:07.280 --> 00:45:12.440
you're standing in faith and belief that what God really did on the cross is really true

538
00:45:12.440 --> 00:45:16.040
and it really did happen and you acted on it. How did you act on it? By giving him the

539
00:45:16.040 --> 00:45:20.080
rock. You're no longer responsible for the rock. It's as if you never did it. It's as

540
00:45:20.080 --> 00:45:27.200
if you never created it. Now that you're standing in that place, what does God want you to do?

541
00:45:27.200 --> 00:45:31.400
Now that you're shifted into the position of your spirit, why? Because you did that

542
00:45:31.400 --> 00:45:36.280
out of faith, because you took what God said really was true about what he did on the cross

543
00:45:36.280 --> 00:45:39.760
and you acted on it by actually giving him the thing and no longer being responsible

544
00:45:39.760 --> 00:45:45.080
for it. Now that you're shifted into your spirit, now God's like, okay, now that you

545
00:45:45.080 --> 00:45:50.720
are operating from your place of oneness in Christ, where he has all power and all authority

546
00:45:50.720 --> 00:45:56.000
and everything is under his feet, therefore everything's under your feet. And now you,

547
00:45:56.000 --> 00:46:04.280
because you're in Christ, are in the judgment seat itself, now you can righteously judge

548
00:46:04.280 --> 00:46:11.520
the situation. So in righteously judging the situation, what should you do? Well, you apologize

549
00:46:11.520 --> 00:46:15.720
to the Lord. Why do you apologize? Simply because you're in a relationship. You're not

550
00:46:15.720 --> 00:46:20.560
paying for anything. You don't have a rock anymore to pay for. So you just apologize

551
00:46:20.560 --> 00:46:26.040
to him. Okay, Lord. I'm sorry that I did that. Lord, you're my father. You wouldn't

552
00:46:26.040 --> 00:46:33.800
have done that. So would you show me, because I have your DNA, I have your character, and

553
00:46:33.800 --> 00:46:37.760
just I reflect the same character that you do, a kindness and of love and everything

554
00:46:37.760 --> 00:46:44.360
else and what it is I did actually wasn't expressing that. So would you show me how

555
00:46:44.360 --> 00:46:52.240
to operate instead? Father me into this. You say, I'm already like you. So who is that?

556
00:46:52.240 --> 00:46:56.520
And how do I do that? And so therefore, he matures you and he fathers you into as opposed

557
00:46:56.520 --> 00:47:00.720
to, I'm going to teach you to stop doing that. You shouldn't have done that. You shouldn't

558
00:47:00.720 --> 00:47:06.520
be doing this instead. That's not the perspective that we should view it from. It's from this

559
00:47:06.520 --> 00:47:11.920
perspective of, God, you say I'm already like you. Can you show me how to act like that?

560
00:47:11.920 --> 00:47:15.880
Can you show me who it is that I already am and what my character already is and how

561
00:47:15.880 --> 00:47:21.360
to operate like you in the situation when I'm in that situation next time? And then

562
00:47:21.360 --> 00:47:26.040
what does he also say to do? He might say, he'll then reveal to you how you should handle

563
00:47:26.040 --> 00:47:32.800
that relationship situation. Should you go and apologize to him? Or does God release

564
00:47:32.800 --> 00:47:39.600
you and you say, you know what, they have, in order to honor what it is that they've

565
00:47:39.600 --> 00:47:42.920
asked of you, they've asked you, like say, for instance, if someone has said, I don't

566
00:47:42.920 --> 00:47:49.480
want you to contact me again. Well, by asking for their forgiveness, that's not honoring

567
00:47:49.480 --> 00:47:52.520
what they've asked of you. They've asked you, you know, and I'm making something about it.

568
00:47:52.520 --> 00:47:57.080
No, someone's wanted you to not contact them again. But if, if that were true, I'd had

569
00:47:57.080 --> 00:48:02.240
to ask someone to not contact me again. It was a, it was a stalker. And I say, I didn't

570
00:48:02.240 --> 00:48:08.240
ask, I demanded, but the point is I told them and someone asked me one time and, uh, oh

571
00:48:08.400 --> 00:48:14.640
yeah, then they, then they waited an amount of time and then they sent me an email. Um,

572
00:48:14.640 --> 00:48:19.600
and I was in, and I deleted it immediately. And I didn't, I'm like, I can't believe that

573
00:48:19.600 --> 00:48:26.960
they contacted me again. I told them to stop contacting me. Um, and, uh, and then I had,

574
00:48:26.960 --> 00:48:32.560
and I told someone, um, about it and I said, yeah, they contacted me again. And they're

575
00:48:32.560 --> 00:48:37.120
like, well, what did they say? Well, I don't know. I deleted it. I told them to not contact

576
00:48:37.200 --> 00:48:43.840
me again. This is stalking me, you know? And this person said, Ashley, guys, what if the

577
00:48:43.840 --> 00:48:50.560
person was trying to apologize? And I'm going, well, they're not doing it. They're, they're

578
00:48:50.560 --> 00:48:57.440
actually dishonoring me in order to try to apologize. They're contacting me. So, so I,

579
00:48:57.440 --> 00:49:03.200
but I thought, well, I don't know. Was I wrong? You know, am I, Lord, I'm sorry. Am I not

580
00:49:03.200 --> 00:49:07.840
being open to them apologizing? Lord, I'm so sorry. So I went to the trash where it was,

581
00:49:07.840 --> 00:49:13.040
because I hadn't deleted the email trash. So I went to the trash and pulled out the email,

582
00:49:13.600 --> 00:49:17.920
read through it. Sure enough, they weren't apologizing. They were trying one more way

583
00:49:17.920 --> 00:49:28.640
to get in contact. So anyway, so, so, uh, but my point was that if they, if someone has said

584
00:49:28.640 --> 00:49:33.440
to not contact them again, or if they're acting like it, maybe they haven't said it,

585
00:49:33.440 --> 00:49:39.120
but they're acting like it or they're dead. There are times where we have said or done

586
00:49:39.120 --> 00:49:45.040
things to people that have passed on and the Lord opens our eyes later. Or maybe we,

587
00:49:45.040 --> 00:49:50.960
the last thing we said to them before they died was an argument. And we just live with this guilt.

588
00:49:50.960 --> 00:49:57.280
There are ways of God relieving us of all of this. There are ways in which we can,

589
00:49:59.360 --> 00:49:59.760
you know, go.

590
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:01.320
through forgiveness of the Lord,

591
00:50:01.320 --> 00:50:02.440
which is what I just described,

592
00:50:02.440 --> 00:50:05.000
where we actually give the Lord this rock and whatever,

593
00:50:05.000 --> 00:50:08.440
as well as other things that we can do of like just,

594
00:50:08.440 --> 00:50:12.640
because even if they don't exist on earth, they still exist.

595
00:50:12.640 --> 00:50:15.160
And there's ways of us just being able to express,

596
00:50:15.160 --> 00:50:17.160
feel like we've expressed ourselves.

597
00:50:17.160 --> 00:50:18.760
We can imagine that they're there,

598
00:50:18.760 --> 00:50:20.760
or we can just talk to the Lord,

599
00:50:20.760 --> 00:50:23.280
or imagine that they and the Lord are there,

600
00:50:23.280 --> 00:50:25.280
and we just pour out our heart

601
00:50:25.280 --> 00:50:28.200
because they no longer need our apology.

602
00:50:28.200 --> 00:50:29.840
They're gone.

603
00:50:29.840 --> 00:50:34.840
We need to sometimes kind of walk our own soul

604
00:50:35.000 --> 00:50:40.000
through a, not a reconciliation,

605
00:50:40.720 --> 00:50:42.080
and not really a restoring,

606
00:50:42.080 --> 00:50:43.880
because you're not restoring your relationship,

607
00:50:43.880 --> 00:50:47.000
but there's a way of like touching on the connection

608
00:50:47.000 --> 00:50:50.520
of the relationship that you have with the other person

609
00:50:50.520 --> 00:50:55.520
to give you relief and comfort

610
00:50:56.160 --> 00:51:00.040
that you have apologized,

611
00:51:00.040 --> 00:51:04.160
that again, you're not paying for something you've done.

612
00:51:04.160 --> 00:51:05.880
God did that.

613
00:51:05.880 --> 00:51:10.520
All you're doing is after you let God pay for that,

614
00:51:10.520 --> 00:51:13.720
out of faith and acting on it by actually giving it to him,

615
00:51:13.720 --> 00:51:16.120
now you're completely relieved of the burden

616
00:51:16.120 --> 00:51:19.280
and the responsibility of what it is you've done.

617
00:51:19.280 --> 00:51:22.640
And now from that righteous place, what do you do?

618
00:51:22.640 --> 00:51:26.400
It's like, okay, then I talk to this person

619
00:51:26.400 --> 00:51:28.400
because I'm in relationship with them,

620
00:51:30.000 --> 00:51:34.000
and that's just based off of loving someone,

621
00:51:34.000 --> 00:51:36.640
but you're not paying for someone.

622
00:51:36.640 --> 00:51:40.960
You might be like reaching out to rebuild their trust,

623
00:51:40.960 --> 00:51:42.720
to just whatever.

624
00:51:42.720 --> 00:51:47.080
For instance, I had something that really hurt someone

625
00:51:47.080 --> 00:51:48.000
many years ago.

626
00:51:48.000 --> 00:51:49.760
Oh my word, it's been at least 10 years,

627
00:51:49.760 --> 00:51:50.960
if not longer ago,

628
00:51:51.800 --> 00:51:53.440
that I could, that I,

629
00:51:53.440 --> 00:51:55.760
and the thing is that they had really hurt me.

630
00:51:55.760 --> 00:51:58.360
And so I was confronting them about it,

631
00:51:58.360 --> 00:52:02.440
but it really hurt them that I confronted them about it.

632
00:52:02.440 --> 00:52:07.440
And so they just broke off all contact with me.

633
00:52:07.480 --> 00:52:08.480
I mean, like all contact.

634
00:52:08.480 --> 00:52:10.840
They blocked me on Facebook and everything.

635
00:52:10.840 --> 00:52:15.840
And so you understand that the relationship with them

636
00:52:16.840 --> 00:52:21.840
or lack thereof is not one that they're open to my apology,

637
00:52:24.640 --> 00:52:29.640
because even though I believe that I was right,

638
00:52:29.880 --> 00:52:31.400
and I'm just using this example

639
00:52:31.400 --> 00:52:32.840
because sometimes we believe that we're wrong,

640
00:52:32.840 --> 00:52:35.200
but even if I believe that I'm right,

641
00:52:36.160 --> 00:52:38.200
now that I know everything that I do,

642
00:52:38.200 --> 00:52:39.600
and now that I'm in the Lord,

643
00:52:39.600 --> 00:52:43.960
and now that I'm more healed in my identity in the Lord,

644
00:52:43.960 --> 00:52:48.600
I want to, I would have go to that person and apologize

645
00:52:48.600 --> 00:52:52.320
because they were hurt.

646
00:52:53.720 --> 00:52:58.200
They didn't, couldn't receive what it was I was saying.

647
00:52:58.200 --> 00:53:01.000
They basically couldn't handle my hurt.

648
00:53:01.920 --> 00:53:03.840
They couldn't handle me being hurt

649
00:53:03.840 --> 00:53:06.880
by what they were doing to me

650
00:53:06.880 --> 00:53:09.280
and me confronting them about it.

651
00:53:09.280 --> 00:53:11.840
My confrontation with something

652
00:53:11.840 --> 00:53:15.040
in order to get a deeper relationship with them

653
00:53:15.040 --> 00:53:17.000
was something they couldn't handle.

654
00:53:18.320 --> 00:53:19.680
And I felt bad about that.

655
00:53:20.920 --> 00:53:22.120
I'm sorry.

656
00:53:22.120 --> 00:53:25.680
You know, so sometimes we apologize for things,

657
00:53:25.680 --> 00:53:28.520
not because we've actually done something wrong,

658
00:53:28.520 --> 00:53:31.120
but simply to restore a relationship,

659
00:53:31.120 --> 00:53:33.920
simply to bring comfort to someone else.

660
00:53:33.920 --> 00:53:36.520
Think of them kind of like a child.

661
00:53:36.520 --> 00:53:38.240
I don't mean that in a negative way,

662
00:53:38.240 --> 00:53:40.800
but like as in like they just couldn't handle the burden

663
00:53:40.840 --> 00:53:44.240
of what it is that you needed them to help you with.

664
00:53:44.240 --> 00:53:47.360
And you reached out to them and gave them something

665
00:53:47.360 --> 00:53:50.600
that actually hurt them by carrying it.

666
00:53:50.600 --> 00:53:51.440
And you're like, you know what?

667
00:53:51.440 --> 00:53:53.360
I should have given that to someone else

668
00:53:53.360 --> 00:53:55.080
who could actually carry that.

669
00:53:55.080 --> 00:53:57.600
You could help me through my struggle

670
00:53:57.600 --> 00:54:00.600
because my friend couldn't, you know?

671
00:54:00.600 --> 00:54:03.720
And so my kids, I'd apologize to them now,

672
00:54:03.720 --> 00:54:06.760
but the relationship is not open to that.

673
00:54:06.760 --> 00:54:08.440
They are still very hurt.

674
00:54:09.440 --> 00:54:12.680
And they don't trust me.

675
00:54:13.520 --> 00:54:18.040
And so anyway, that I look at, you know,

676
00:54:18.040 --> 00:54:21.800
anyway, I look at their life and I can see why

677
00:54:21.800 --> 00:54:24.760
because of experiences that they've had with people

678
00:54:25.640 --> 00:54:28.080
and how they kind of interact with people now.

679
00:54:28.080 --> 00:54:29.200
I'm like, oh my word,

680
00:54:29.200 --> 00:54:30.960
they're now built up a whole like wall

681
00:54:30.960 --> 00:54:31.880
around themselves and whatever.

682
00:54:31.880 --> 00:54:35.280
So I can like see some things that, okay,

683
00:54:35.280 --> 00:54:37.720
they've now put me in a box of people

684
00:54:37.840 --> 00:54:39.160
that they don't trust

685
00:54:39.160 --> 00:54:41.840
because they don't know how to handle certain things.

686
00:54:41.840 --> 00:54:44.560
They couldn't hear what it was I was really saying

687
00:54:44.560 --> 00:54:48.160
or whatever, or maybe I was speaking out of brokenness,

688
00:54:48.160 --> 00:54:50.360
my own brokenness back then,

689
00:54:50.360 --> 00:54:52.600
regardless of whether I was right or wrong,

690
00:54:53.960 --> 00:54:56.080
regardless, regardless if I was right

691
00:54:56.080 --> 00:54:57.920
and I just did it in the wrong situation

692
00:54:57.920 --> 00:55:00.200
at the wrong time, regardless of all of that.

693
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:06.840
They are not open to me contacting them, to address it in any way.

694
00:55:06.840 --> 00:55:08.320
They can't handle it.

695
00:55:08.320 --> 00:55:16.600
But understand that you are not tied to, you are not in a lot, you are not tied to them,

696
00:55:16.600 --> 00:55:22.720
chained to them, connected to them in a way that you can't be freed until they free you.

697
00:55:22.720 --> 00:55:26.480
Until they forgive you, until they say it's okay, until they at least understand your

698
00:55:26.480 --> 00:55:27.480
heart.

699
00:55:27.480 --> 00:55:34.500
You are not, they can't, you are not chained to their lack of freeing you and their lack

700
00:55:34.500 --> 00:55:37.800
of forgiving you and their lack of understanding.

701
00:55:37.800 --> 00:55:39.980
That is between you and God.

702
00:55:39.980 --> 00:55:46.240
God is the only one who's big enough and has the power to pay for what you've done.

703
00:55:46.240 --> 00:55:47.240
Your friend can't.

704
00:55:47.240 --> 00:55:57.400
So anyway, so all of that is kind of helpful.

705
00:55:57.400 --> 00:55:58.400
I know it's a lot.

706
00:55:58.400 --> 00:55:59.400
Yeah.

707
00:55:59.400 --> 00:56:00.400
Yes.

708
00:56:00.400 --> 00:56:05.400
It's a lot to take in, but it was really good.

709
00:56:05.400 --> 00:56:06.400
Yeah.

710
00:56:06.400 --> 00:56:07.400
Yeah.

711
00:56:07.400 --> 00:56:09.520
I think it's, yeah, yeah, yeah.

712
00:56:09.520 --> 00:56:14.960
I think that it will help me in, in becoming more free.

713
00:56:14.960 --> 00:56:15.960
Yeah.

714
00:56:15.960 --> 00:56:24.120
So remember the step to, first of all, to let go of what it is that you've done, because

715
00:56:24.120 --> 00:56:27.200
the thing is, how do you realize you're in unrest?

716
00:56:27.200 --> 00:56:29.880
Deal with the unrest first, not with what you've done.

717
00:56:29.880 --> 00:56:41.120
You can't, you can't correctly or righteously handle what it is you've done and do the right

718
00:56:41.120 --> 00:56:46.960
thing about it until you're in your righteous place again, until you're in that position

719
00:56:46.960 --> 00:56:47.960
again in Christ.

720
00:56:47.960 --> 00:56:51.360
I mean, you never leave that position, but until you're operating from that position

721
00:56:51.360 --> 00:56:53.800
again, you can't say it righteously.

722
00:56:54.480 --> 00:56:55.480
So don't even try.

723
00:56:55.480 --> 00:56:56.480
Relieve yourself of the responsibility.

724
00:56:56.480 --> 00:57:01.080
Like, okay, let me shift back into the place where I can now see it appropriately and where

725
00:57:01.080 --> 00:57:07.280
I can now, I can now do what I need to do appropriately from the eyes of God, the way

726
00:57:07.280 --> 00:57:09.360
he wants me to handle it.

727
00:57:09.360 --> 00:57:11.840
You know, the world can't tell me how to do it righteously.

728
00:57:11.840 --> 00:57:15.040
The world can only tell me how to follow the law.

729
00:57:15.040 --> 00:57:17.520
Only God can tell me how to handle that righteously.

730
00:57:17.520 --> 00:57:22.720
So I need to forget about it for a minute and get right, get, um, you know, between,

731
00:57:22.720 --> 00:57:26.800
you know, between me and the Lord, have that faith and act on what it is that he said about

732
00:57:26.800 --> 00:57:27.800
me.

733
00:57:27.800 --> 00:57:30.000
No shame, no condemnation, you know, shift him to rest.

734
00:57:30.000 --> 00:57:31.680
Remember who it is that I am.

735
00:57:31.680 --> 00:57:37.640
Give him, give him the rock, give him the pay, you know, make him, uh, uh, realize that

736
00:57:37.640 --> 00:57:40.320
I can't pay for anything and give it to him to pay for it.

737
00:57:40.320 --> 00:57:45.280
He absorbs it into himself as if he's never, as if you've never done it, it's never existed.

738
00:57:45.280 --> 00:57:52.240
Now that that's true, now you can address that like, okay, Lord, now that I'm free.

739
00:57:52.880 --> 00:57:53.680
Now, what do I do?

740
00:57:56.480 --> 00:57:56.960
Thank you.

741
00:57:58.880 --> 00:58:00.000
Thank you so much.

742
00:58:00.560 --> 00:58:02.320
That was very, very good.

743
00:58:03.040 --> 00:58:05.120
Remember that you were more important.

744
00:58:06.240 --> 00:58:10.400
Choose you, choose you in action.

745
00:58:10.400 --> 00:58:12.960
I understand that you feel this between you and your friends.

746
00:58:13.600 --> 00:58:17.680
Choose you because you're not choosing you selfishly.

747
00:58:19.040 --> 00:58:26.160
You are readjusting yourself to come into agreement with God and what he has said.

748
00:58:26.720 --> 00:58:28.400
And what he has said is no.

749
00:58:29.120 --> 00:58:32.480
The only thing that I've given you to be able to control is you.

750
00:58:33.280 --> 00:58:37.680
So you and I first, you know, meaning like you and the Lord, you know, you and I first,

751
00:58:37.680 --> 00:58:39.760
you know, shame, no shame, no condemnation.

752
00:58:39.760 --> 00:58:43.360
Then after that, then let's approach everything else.

753
00:58:44.400 --> 00:58:47.360
But so it's not from a selfish perspective.

754
00:58:47.360 --> 00:58:52.320
It's coming into agreement with belief about what God said first.

755
00:58:53.280 --> 00:58:54.800
So he's holding you.

756
00:58:54.800 --> 00:58:56.720
He's holding you in a manner of speaking.

757
00:58:56.720 --> 00:59:01.200
He's holding you more responsible for that than this thing that you did.

758
00:59:02.640 --> 00:59:04.080
So address that first.

759
00:59:05.120 --> 00:59:08.960
And then when you do that, then he'll show you what to do about the other.

760
00:59:09.920 --> 00:59:14.400
And he'll, you'll be able to do it from a very powerful spiritual position

761
00:59:14.400 --> 00:59:16.480
because you're a whole and healed now.

762
00:59:17.040 --> 00:59:23.120
And that whole and healed person that has been forgiven that will be able to

763
00:59:23.120 --> 00:59:27.600
righteously see and address this situation from the heart of God himself.

764
00:59:27.600 --> 00:59:33.280
And that can bring amazing things and restoration and connection with people

765
00:59:33.280 --> 00:59:34.800
than simply trying to make it right.

766
00:59:35.680 --> 00:59:38.880
In order to please God, God's like, no, no, no, forget about it.

767
00:59:38.880 --> 00:59:42.080
In order to please me, choose this first to please me.

768
00:59:42.080 --> 00:59:44.000
Then together, let's approach this.

769
00:59:45.440 --> 00:59:48.320
You know, you're not abandoned and alone.

770
00:59:48.320 --> 00:59:52.080
You're not separated for me to try to fix it, to try to be responsible for it,

771
00:59:52.080 --> 00:59:53.280
to try to do something.

772
00:59:53.280 --> 00:59:56.640
And then ask me if it, how you handled it was okay.

773
00:59:56.640 --> 00:59:57.920
It's like, no, no, no.

774
00:59:57.920 --> 00:59:59.920
Choose me over.

775
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:07.000
for your relationship and then I can help you with the relationship.

776
01:00:07.000 --> 01:00:08.000
Yeah.

777
01:00:08.000 --> 01:00:11.000
Is that helpful?

778
01:00:11.000 --> 01:00:12.000
Yes.

779
01:00:12.000 --> 01:00:13.000
Very.

780
01:00:13.000 --> 01:00:14.000
It's a lot to take in.

781
01:00:14.000 --> 01:00:15.000
Thank you.

782
01:00:15.000 --> 01:00:16.000
Thank you.

783
01:00:16.000 --> 01:00:17.000
Yeah.

784
01:00:17.000 --> 01:00:18.000
Yeah.

785
01:00:18.000 --> 01:00:19.000
My heart.

786
01:00:19.000 --> 01:00:20.000
Yeah.

787
01:00:20.000 --> 01:00:31.160
What I'm going to do is I'm going to assume that, um, uh, that, you know, this part, you

788
01:00:31.160 --> 01:00:35.720
know, you and I, um, it's not part of the rest group, you know, cause it is very personal.

789
01:00:35.720 --> 01:00:40.600
Now, if you want it to be, then that's perfectly fine, but otherwise I'll cut it off when,

790
01:00:40.600 --> 01:00:45.920
you know, and that, um, leads and put this as a separate thing.

791
01:00:45.920 --> 01:00:50.080
Basically it's a, it doesn't count as your transformation session, but kind of like a

792
01:00:50.080 --> 01:00:55.280
transformation session where it's a recording that you can go back to, would that be helpful?

793
01:00:55.280 --> 01:00:56.720
That would be great.

794
01:00:56.720 --> 01:00:57.720
Thank you so much.

795
01:00:57.720 --> 01:00:59.480
Uh, I'm you're welcome.

796
01:00:59.480 --> 01:01:07.640
It's so good at it's rich and it's a lot and I need, um, uh, I, but I can already feel

797
01:01:07.640 --> 01:01:15.480
like God speaking to me through you and just starting to set me free from all these things.

798
01:01:16.040 --> 01:01:17.040
Yeah.

799
01:01:17.040 --> 01:01:18.040
And that's, you're welcome.

800
01:01:18.040 --> 01:01:23.240
Another thing I would recommend, go back to session eight, which remember is from the

801
01:01:23.240 --> 01:01:28.720
rest style group, go to session eight, which is about, uh, you know, healing the spirit

802
01:01:28.720 --> 01:01:34.320
at healing the soul and body through the spirit and remember, and go through that and talk

803
01:01:34.320 --> 01:01:39.680
to your soul or body, or you can, you probably remember enough of it, you know, to just do

804
01:01:39.680 --> 01:01:40.680
it tonight.

805
01:01:40.680 --> 01:01:47.520
Talk to your spirit, soul, and body and, um, uh, tonight before you go to sleep and

806
01:01:47.520 --> 01:01:53.520
then given that intention and instruction and in desire and will for them to shift and

807
01:01:53.520 --> 01:02:00.640
to come into alignment and agreement, um, with the Lord, um, about these things while

808
01:02:00.640 --> 01:02:01.640
you sleep.

809
01:02:01.640 --> 01:02:07.400
So, and I would recommend honestly doing that every night for the next step, just to tell

810
01:02:07.400 --> 01:02:11.800
yourself like for the next five days or the next week or whatever, and maybe even write

811
01:02:11.800 --> 01:02:17.720
a note, you know, just remind yourself, you will see a shocking difference of how you

812
01:02:17.720 --> 01:02:22.240
will, you will shift because otherwise you're, you're, you're telling me, Oh, you know, Ashley,

813
01:02:22.240 --> 01:02:23.240
it's good.

814
01:02:23.240 --> 01:02:26.160
It's a lot to process and all of that.

815
01:02:26.160 --> 01:02:31.160
Understand that a lot to process is simply all of the unlearning that you're doing.

816
01:02:31.160 --> 01:02:35.160
What it is that I said itself is actually not complicated.

817
01:02:35.160 --> 01:02:40.440
The reason it took me so long to say it is I'm trying to address all of the, yeah, but

818
01:02:40.440 --> 01:02:43.880
what about, and what is, and all of the stuff that'll come up.

819
01:02:43.880 --> 01:02:49.400
So it can feel like a lot to process, but your spirit, soul, and body know what to do

820
01:02:49.400 --> 01:02:54.240
without you micromanaging it and without you being conscious of everything it is that I've

821
01:02:54.240 --> 01:02:59.000
said, they've absorbed what I've said, and they know how to come into the alignment of

822
01:02:59.000 --> 01:03:04.600
the truth of what God has already spoken and how God already created them to operate.

823
01:03:05.040 --> 01:03:09.880
So if you just give them the instruction to come into alignment with what God has said

824
01:03:09.880 --> 01:03:15.400
about you, what the power of the gospel that he's already paid for everything, and you

825
01:03:15.400 --> 01:03:19.840
don't have to, they will cut even just those two simple things.

826
01:03:19.840 --> 01:03:21.720
They will come into alignment while you sleep.

827
01:03:21.720 --> 01:03:25.240
And so you just keep praying that, and even, you know, during the daytime that they will

828
01:03:25.240 --> 01:03:33.640
adjust without you, with all you do is just giving me the instruction to do so yeah, without

829
01:03:33.640 --> 01:03:37.320
you consciously having to like, wait until you figure all this out to be able to tell

830
01:03:37.320 --> 01:03:38.320
them what to do.

831
01:03:38.320 --> 01:03:39.320
No, no, no.

832
01:03:39.320 --> 01:03:42.120
They, they are more, they're understanding things that your consciousness is not currently

833
01:03:42.120 --> 01:03:43.120
understanding.

834
01:03:43.120 --> 01:03:44.320
Go to bed.

835
01:03:44.320 --> 01:03:51.480
And then tomorrow before I go to bed and just choose God and to let go of the rock and maybe

836
01:03:51.480 --> 01:03:54.360
I'll pick it up tomorrow and then I'll let it go again.

837
01:03:54.360 --> 01:03:55.360
Yeah.

838
01:03:55.360 --> 01:03:56.360
Yeah.

839
01:03:56.360 --> 01:03:57.360
Yeah.

840
01:03:57.360 --> 01:04:02.040
And then I, of course I can watch it again, but my spirit is already understanding a lot

841
01:04:02.040 --> 01:04:04.440
of it enough for me to let go.

842
01:04:04.440 --> 01:04:05.440
Yeah.

843
01:04:05.440 --> 01:04:06.440
Yeah.

844
01:04:06.440 --> 01:04:07.440
Yeah.

845
01:04:07.440 --> 01:04:08.440
Yeah.

846
01:04:08.440 --> 01:04:09.440
Okay.

847
01:04:09.440 --> 01:04:10.440
All right.

848
01:04:10.440 --> 01:04:11.440
Well, it was good to visit with you.

849
01:04:11.440 --> 01:04:12.440
Yes.

850
01:04:12.440 --> 01:04:13.440
It was so good to see you.

851
01:04:13.440 --> 01:04:14.440
I'll see you guys.

852
01:04:14.440 --> 01:04:15.440
Not that long.

853
01:04:15.440 --> 01:04:16.440
Yes.

854
01:04:16.440 --> 01:04:17.440
All right.

855
01:04:17.440 --> 01:04:18.440
See you then.

856
01:04:18.440 --> 01:04:19.440
Bye.

857
01:04:19.440 --> 01:04:19.440