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Thank you.

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Hey, Renata.

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I'm sorry about that. I, I mean, I just didn't know. So, like, I forget know that countries all do it on different dates, you know, because all of America does it on one day, but when I was in Turkey, we would do it on it.

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We would do it on a different date. Yeah, I think we did we would do it on a different date. And so it depended on whether we were on daylight savings time yet as to whether America and Turkey were eight hours difference or seven.

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Anyway, it's been so long that I forget that don't all do it on the same date so I'm sorry. Oh no no that's fine because I was thinking last time I almost forgot because we have the saving daylight earlier.

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And I almost came an hour late to our session. Oh, then I thought oh my gosh we changed. So I need to come earlier.

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I just didn't assume that you didn't have it so then I thought oh I just have to keep track of it. Yeah.

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You just have it later. Yes, yeah we do. Okay. All right. Wow. Well, I didn't know that you were having to make some adjustments on your end because oh that's fine.

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No, no problem. Very flexible and sweet. Thank you. I mean it's just kind of one of those things it's like okay, but once you get to this once you like get past these couple times a year you know everything's good but doing this couple times a year you

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Okay, so what time is it.

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Yeah, like all of my clocks, still are like the old time, except for like all of my, and all of my, like my phone etc all of that automatically in my computer all of that automatically adjusted, but like, you know, this stuff that you have to do manually like the microwave

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or the, or the stove or the coffee pot all of this. Oh yeah yeah yeah.

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I had to change my husband's clocks the other day at his office because they were on the old time. Oh yeah.

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Yeah. So anyway, how are you.

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I'm doing pretty good.

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I feel like there's a lot of things going on, amazing things and challenging things.

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Some things that I have questions about, I listened to your teaching and extra teaching that you sent, and our talks.

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But I thought maybe that it would be like I wanted to share some things that have happened and then I can also just say what I'm thinking about like I obviously welcome any input, but I also have some things.

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Yeah, I'd love to hear that. Yeah.

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There's been really good things where I feel like I, at times, I'm really living in rest.

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And one time this weekend I was in a birthday party.

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I was driving home really late like 12 o'clock 1230 at night. Yeah.

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And I got through roadblocks and it was very unclear for me how, where to drive. And I chose one path because you're driving. I don't know what it is in American, maybe.

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What would that be maybe 35 kilometers and you have miles and all that stuff but like fairly quickly but then, and because it's like a highway, and you have to make decisions really fast.

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I chose one way.

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And it ended, and then I see one of those vehicles with lights and everything you know it's like an office, some sort of some kind of awesome comes towards me with blinking lights and almost kind of tries to not hit me, but kind of turns the wheels and it comes

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against me and then turns back, and I just jump and I'm like, what just happened.

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And then I come through the tunnel and then

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it's obviously a roadblock and I've obviously been driving wrong.

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And it's 1230 at night, and there comes three grown big men out and they are raging mad. They're so mad at me.

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I rolled down the window, and they just I know that they want to just cuss me out and everything and they start like yelling at me, and like insults, kind of like, do you even have a driver license and just, and I don't know anything like in my mind I haven't

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do anything wrong. I've seen a roadblock. And I wasn't clear

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where to drive. So I chose one of two. Yeah. And they're kind

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of just attacking me. And you know, the whole body language,

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like three grown men, I'm a little woman. Yeah. And I just

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feel that I managed to stay in rest. I just, I, I just

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apologize, like, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry.

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Yeah. And that just kind of, so I know they want to go off on

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me. Yeah. Continue. But because I'm just saying, I'm sorry, but

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I'm not in like, shame. Oh, I'm so horrible. Why did I do this?

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And I'm such a horrible driver. I don't do that. But I don't

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myself either. I'm just, I'm sorry. Perfect. So I'm neither

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like, yeah, here. So they and then they kind of don't have

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anything to say, because I don't gravel so they can just keep

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digging me down. But I don't either defend myself, though, so

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they can attack me. Yeah. So they don't know what to say. So

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they kind of like, move on to the next car because someone

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else did the same mistake. And I can hear them behind me yelling

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to them. So they're like, mad. And it becomes a case and they

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are trying to get connected to the other people on their side.

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How did anyone get through here, blah, blah. And normally

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this would have, it's, this is not normal that you have grown

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men yelling at you at 1230 at night. But I felt like I was in

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rest. And then I tell them, I know, you might not want to hear

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my explanation. But I would just want to tell you what happened.

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And I say, I never intended to drive wrongly. I saw a sign, I

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misinterpreted it, and I took left. And that's what happened.

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I haven't tried to break any rules or anything like that. And

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then finally, it calms down and I can drive away and I feel like

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I'm not shaky. It's, it's affecting me because someone

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really yelled at me. Yeah. But I'm okay. I'm okay. I'm not a

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horrible driver. I'm not a horrible person. Oh, and then I

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feel like, oh my gosh, I can just stay and rest and I don't

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have to feel horrible about myself. And I don't have to

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defend myself. Yeah, that's great. That's huge. Yeah, I

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remember that when I was, when I was learning to, you know, when

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I was, you know, shifting to rest and stuff like that, one of

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the, you know, learning how to do that and learning how that

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would affect my life and how that would change things and how

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that changes how I interact in situations. That was one of the

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the things that indicated to me that I was changing was the fact

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that when I was in those situations like that, like, say,

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I would get, I don't know, pulled over because of

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something. And normally, I would just be like, shaking or scared

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or something. And, and I was just like, no, Ashley,

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remember, remember who you are, there's no need to feel shame or

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condemnation. There's no need to get defensive. There's just,

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you know, and that's when I realized, oh, my goodness, I

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really am changing. Because those are very challenging

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situations to be in. Yeah, that's amazing. I'm so excited

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for you.

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Yeah, that was it. And I'm just I feel I am in several

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situations where I'm in. And even though before that, it

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wasn't like I consciously entered into rest before going

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into the car. Actually, I was kind of there's been I was at a

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party, there was no one, no Christians, there was a lot of

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drinking. So I was in a little bit of a unrestful state. Yeah.

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And I really wanted to, I don't know, wanted to talk to them

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about God and everything and share something meaningful and

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Jesus with them. And I felt like there wasn't really an opening.

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So I was kind of in a little bit of an unrestful place, I thought

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and then when this happened, I was still in rest.

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That's great.

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Oh, gosh, I was actually I, that's weird. And because I

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wasn't even prepared for this attack to happen. Yeah. And then

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I went to church again. And I felt like again, I could the guy

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that I was really in love with, with leading worship. Yeah. And

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I felt like I'm still receiving everything he has to give. And

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I'm it's not just a one time thing, I can still continue to

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take it in and talk to him a little bit afterwards. And I can

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still be a little bit sad. I feel things it's not like you.

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It's not like I'm not affected. But I'm still I can actually go

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there. And I actually never thought I would be able to go

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back to that church if he was going to pastor it or lead

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worship. That's just wild. Yeah, that is so cool. Yeah. So I feel

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still

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there that I'm, and that I'm taking steps towards because

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we're in some groups together, and I'm taking steps towards it

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and towards him in a friendly way. And, yeah, at the same

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time, I give myself time to grieve and be sad. And the kind

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of still, like the resistance that you're talking about, like

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I'm not resisting him anymore. Yeah, the wall of protection

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when I meet him. Wow, that's huge. Just little things like

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feeling like I can take in more things with my mom, I noticed

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when I can and when I don't, I notice when I'm in rest and not

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because sometimes there are a lot of resistances, like me and

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my mom has had a challenging relationship the last years. So

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I think there's a lot of things in me wanting to resist her. But

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I can just tell when I am able to just be at rest with her and

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take her in without having being critical or kind of this or have

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to shut down or close the conversation or just things like

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that. So yeah, and I think it's even helping me when ministering

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to people like I feel more freedom in ministering and also

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to give on what I'm what I've been learning the past year, and

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also especially now in the rest intensive, that I'm able to use

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it when I'm ministering to people and praying, people and

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talking to people even like in counseling, like, yeah. Some

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people come to me for maybe guidance or prayer, and then I

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feel like I can offer them another dimension, kind of or,

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or speak from a different place or with more confidence. Yeah.

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So there's just little things just like last time we talked

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about giftings and writing and everything singing and just kind

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of welcoming the thought of starting to write more again,

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like I haven't put out written anything yet, but just to release

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the thought and don't be afraid of the thought. Yeah, distance

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against. No, but I can't write because of this and this or it's

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too hard or I can't handle being critiqued by other people. What

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if I don't get any feedback if what if I get wrong feedback,

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all these things that makes you scared of people. Yeah. And I'm

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asking myself, what if Jesus loves me, what would I do? And

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just inviting his or just believing that he's there. I

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feel that there's something happening in me. Like I wrote

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you in the text. Like I'm just sitting doing whatever on the

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couch. And then I just stop and say, I believe you're here. I

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know that you're here or you're here. And then I might not

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notice that he's there. But sometimes I will afterwards,

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like, I'll be aware that Oh, he is actually here. Like I feel

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it. Yeah. And when when I was driving away from that

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incident, with roadblock, I actually looked over in the

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seat and I was like, you were here, right? You were like, with

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me and this you heard the guys yell at me. Yeah. You're kind of

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just like, yeah, I wasn't alone in this, actually. Yes. Yeah.

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So I feel like, but did I still still feel like I wrote in the

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text that it's fragile and vulnerable, and almost that you

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almost want to control it, because you don't want to lose

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it. Yeah. And I still feel it's very fragile and vulnerable. And

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there are also times where I noticed that I'm totally not in

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rest, for instance, talking to my mom or other situations, I

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can tell, like, I'm not in rest, and I don't know how to get

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there. And I think the things that have been challenging is I

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thought about two things. And one of them is that I feel like

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I'm a lot outside of regulation, like emotional regulation, like

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it's too much, I often get very overwhelmed. Things overwhelm me

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quite a bit. And it's kind of almost like a lifestyle, like

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I've been stressed for a lot of time. Like the last 20 years,

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I've been in a lot of stress, or in and out or mostly in. And

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it's been kind of like a way of living. Yeah, it's been kind of

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part of who I am and how I act and how I roll. And I just get

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overwhelmed. And yeah, it's just too much like a lot of things.

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work, something happens in a relationship could be like very little things that trigger

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me and I'm overwhelmed.

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Yes.

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It gets really stressful and it prevents me from putting more responsibility on myself,

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doing more because everything just requires so much and nothing, it doesn't take anything

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to just put me off in some way.

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So that is one thing and the other thing I've been noticing is that rejection really throws

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me off still.

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Yeah.

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And I'm totally out of rest and I don't know how to get back there.

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And what happened this week, now I'm sharing a lot, this week there was a good friend of

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mine, we met and went for a walk and she kept rejecting me all the time through our conversation

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and I didn't understand what was going on.

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She asked me lots of questions I answered, then I asked her lots of questions and she

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didn't answer and then I asked something else and she's like, I don't want to talk about

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it and then let's talk about something else and she didn't want to talk about that.

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And then in the end, you kind of feel so rejected, you just want to leave, you don't know what's

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going on.

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But then I told her, I don't know what's going on, why are you rejecting me?

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And then she said that, well, I kind of feel like you're pushing me, I don't want to

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share these things, I really have boundaries.

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And then I, oh, I didn't know, I had no idea that you felt like I was pushing you, I don't

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want to push you, it's just really awkward that you're not sharing anything from your

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life.

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And for some reason, and then we got to talk about it and I started to analyze it and go

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into it and like, why is she rejecting me?

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Is it something I've done earlier?

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Is she offended or hurt?

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I noticed that she has rejection issues, is she trying, you know, the thing of you try

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to reject because you feel rejected, so you reject first, I'm like, what's going on here?

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And I, for some reason, that really hit me.

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And I was thrown off and I couldn't, the last hours and yesterday, I haven't been able to

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think about that many other things because I was so affected by it.

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And it's just, it's just like, it hit a vulnerable spot in me.

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And I know that I have rejection issues that God has healed partly, but I'm probably not

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fully healed.

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But those are things that really takes me out of rest.

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And I'm left in analyzing my own thoughts, my own emotions, and sometimes like unhealthy

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thought patterns or just feeling horrible.

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In it, I could tell that I didn't feel as bad as I would maybe half a year ago.

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So I think there has happened something.

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It's not like I've been in horrible pain or just very, very mad or upset, but still enough

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Then, of course, the spiritual aspect, I know, like we are praying a lot in the church.

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So there could always be, you know, spiritual aspect that something's coming against relationships

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and like attacks.

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So that could also be part of it.

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Those kind of things really gets me out of rest.

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Well, the thing with the other one-

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I've shared a lot of things.

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No, it's great.

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It's great.

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Because giving you an opportunity to like, because that helps you when you articulate

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things for yourself, it really does help you, you know, in the journey because it helps

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you actually kind of like face the reality of what it is that you're feeling.

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So that's great.

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is to write two posts a week or to do a video.

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journey faster because they're articulating.

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They have to explain to someone else where they are currently on their journey.

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And so they have to, they have to.

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They have to face it.

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They have to look at themselves and realize, okay, really what's going on?

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Uh, it's very progressive, um, progressing, uh, as far as the

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overwhelm, um, the, by the way, everything that you've been talking

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about is just so great, so great.

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Been able to see so much, so much change because you're finding that you're doing

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it, um, very so often without thinking about it, meaning like it's entrenched

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in you and it's really, truly shifting deep down as opposed to, okay, I'm trying

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to remember to think differently.

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Then that's not getting down into our actual true belief system.

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it, we need to now approach it differently.

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We're not actually having faith in it.

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there and you really are choosing and your, and your soul and your body really

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are turning and shifting and believing more and more that God is who he says that

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he is.

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Um, so like I said, as far as the overwhelm goes, that comes from believing

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that we are responsible for the outcomes and then we get overwhelmed in all of the

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responsibility.

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get this result, or, oh my goodness.

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against a situation and, and subconsciously I realize everything that's required of me

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now in order to respond appropriately, in order to get a, a, the correct response or

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have God pleased with me or have the person pleased with me or whatever.

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and what of our energy that, um, that is required in order to control a particular

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outcome, if, when we start having that and, uh, in like multiple areas, we get

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overwhelmed because all of a sudden we have all this responsibility.

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There's all these things we now have to do.

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There's this weight that we feel, like I said, of this responsibility,

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like it's up to, it's up to me.

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It's some more and more and more is required of me to execute.

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Either other people are going to bear the consequences and then God's going to be

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upset at me because apparently by their response, I didn't handle it right.

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wise choice and we ended up doing this over here when we thought this was the

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right thing to do and that, and, um, anyway, so that's where overwhelm comes in.

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choose that you're not responsible for the outcome, to give it to the Lord.

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actions are not responsible for determining what happens, you just act.

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You're looking at him.

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You're focused on him.

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You're obeying him.

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You and he are doing stuff together.

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You're operating out of spirit.

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your knowledge, your energy, your choice.

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That's determining the outcome and, and determining whether or not you're

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going to bear any kind of consequence that is up to the Lord, the Lord

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it determines the outcome or the Lord creates the, uh, creates the

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supplies, the energy, if you will.

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He takes on the responsibility of what happens and that leaves you free and

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without weight and responsibility when you're acting, in other words, when

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you're doing something or when you're approaching it, it doesn't.

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It's doing activities effortlessly without bearing.

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of creating an outcome by our actions.

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So does that, does that all make sense?

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Yeah, it makes sense because with me, I would think, oh, I can't work more than this.

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I can't be relational more than this.

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I can't do more than this because I know how I get.

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Let me work three days instead of five.

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Let me not get involved in church with this, even though I want to, writing takes too much

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effort, so I won't do it, but I can do this and this.

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And it kind of limits you because like you're saying, you're trying to control the outcome

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and then it ends up you not doing things.

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And whenever something comes up and I'm a doer in a way, and I have a lot of initiative,

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so I love it.

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I have a lot of ideas that I propose and then I get so overwhelmed if people catch onto

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it because then I actually have to do it.

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Because I'm controlling the outcome and I know that I won't be able to follow through

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with it because I get so overwhelmed.

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So then the resolution would be to stop coming with initiative, stop proposing things, stop

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doing things, which is not something I want, but I can't find a better solution to it.

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I initially am afraid of being burnt out or in depression or anxiety or like I want out

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of stress.

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I don't want to, like I want to go out of it.

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out and continue in stress.

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So what you're saying makes a lot of sense because what I'm trying to do is to control

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the outcome.

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That's why I'm already living partly in stress.

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That's what the burnout thing is.

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It's exerting all of this, it's exerting all of this energy trying to determine the outcome

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because you feel that you're responsible for it.

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what is creating the outcome.

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It goes all the way back to, so it is an actual choice of how do we want to live life?

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Who do we want to be responsible for the outcome?

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the responsibility?

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It goes all the way back to the same decision and the same situation that the Israelites

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found themselves in when they were offered the gift of sonship, where God was like, Hey,

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you can interact with me directly.

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Remember when they went to Mount Sinai and they had been preparing themselves and cleansing

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themselves for three days and they go up to the mountain, they go to the mountain and

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they hear all the thunder and lightning and all of that.

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responsible for the outcomes.

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They get to have direct access to him.

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They get to have direct relationship with him where their lives and their livelihoods

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and their generations and their families are dependent on relationship with God as opposed

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to what they ended up choosing, which was no, that's too close Lord.

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That's too intimate.

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You know, that makes me feel afraid.

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So, um, instead Moses, you talk to God for us and just give us a list of rules.

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Just tell us what to do and we'll do it.

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And then that means that they have chosen to take on the responsibility of doing all

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of these, uh, uh, doing something, uh, the responsibility that the outcome depends on

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what they do, because they said, tell us what to do when we'll do it.

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We can choose that relationship with the Lord.

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We can choose, Hey Lord, this is how I want to interact with you.

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This is what I'll allow because what God is doing is he's saying, Hey, look, cause relationships,

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you know, are a two way street.

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to get that close.

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We don't allow that interaction.

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and what we often say, which is, OK,

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if you won't allow me to interact with you like that,

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then I won't.

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If you won't allow me to be responsible for your outcomes

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and you're choosing to be responsible for your outcomes,

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I'll honor that.

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and the responsibility of the outcomes.

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That's how we choose that our relationship with the Lord

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works.

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But we have the opportunity instead

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to choose a relationship with the Lord

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where he is responsible for those outcomes.

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It relieves us, and then we don't

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have to expend all of this energy and all of this

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and carrying the weight of the determination of our actions.

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In other words, the weight of the outcome

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being dependent on our actions.

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We get to choose that.

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We get to choose whether we want that to happen or not.

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That's where overwhelm comes from,

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is us believing that we're responsible for the outcomes.

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So if we, in those situations, when

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we're starting to feel burnout or when we're

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starting to feel overwhelmed, we just shift back into, OK,

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am I choosing that I'm responsible for the outcome

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or am I going to release the outcome to the Lord

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so he can do whatever it is he wants

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and I'm not in control of what happens?

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Which is scary.

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responsible for the outcome and I'm not in control,

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or would I rather control and risk my energy on trying

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to get a specific outcome?

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Because it's still a risk.

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We don't know for sure if we're going

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to be able to bring all of ourselves

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together, like all of our wisdom and all of our knowledge,

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we're going to know enough and do enough and have enough time

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and have enough energy to be able to get this outcome.

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can control it and we feel like we have a chance,

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or are we going to trust that we have a chance with God

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because he's a good God?

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And no, we don't know what kind of an outcome

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that he's either going to choose or that is just going to happen

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and he doesn't choose it, but because other people were

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involved, it could go south, it could not be good.

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he protected us when the consequences came.

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So there was a consequence that happened

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as a result of the outcome, and then he protects us,

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he protects our reputation, he fights for us, he whatever.

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we give up the outcome to the Lord,

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the way that he handles the outcome.

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Part of the outcome isn't just what happens,

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it's how what happens affects us, like rejection.

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are we going to give up the outcome of the relationship

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to the Lord, or are we going to try to control

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other people's response to us?

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00:33:40.880 --> 00:33:43.360
Like, are we going to people please

455
00:33:43.360 --> 00:33:47.360
in order to try to make sure that they always respond

456
00:33:47.360 --> 00:33:49.480
to us in a particular way?

457
00:33:49.480 --> 00:33:53.560
Or are we going to leave the outcome to the Lord

458
00:33:53.560 --> 00:33:56.160
and just interact with them the way

459
00:33:56.160 --> 00:33:59.520
that we believe God is directing us to?

460
00:33:59.520 --> 00:34:02.480
And in leaving the outcome to the Lord,

461
00:34:02.480 --> 00:34:06.560
one of the outcomes might be how they respond to us.

462
00:34:06.560 --> 00:34:08.639
If we leave the outcome to the Lord

463
00:34:08.639 --> 00:34:11.920
and then they respond to us in a negative way,

464
00:34:11.920 --> 00:34:17.360
the Lord will protect us in those consequences.

465
00:34:17.360 --> 00:34:19.760
So he'll either fight for our reputation

466
00:34:19.760 --> 00:34:25.320
or he'll help you realize that you're not threatened,

467
00:34:25.320 --> 00:34:27.000
and because there's no need for you

468
00:34:27.000 --> 00:34:32.520
to feel the threat of rejection.

469
00:34:32.520 --> 00:34:35.320
We can still feel that pain and that disappointment

470
00:34:35.320 --> 00:34:37.760
and that separation from someone else,

471
00:34:37.760 --> 00:34:42.800
and then that creates a sense of pain,

472
00:34:42.800 --> 00:34:45.639
which is what we imagine that Jesus felt when

473
00:34:45.639 --> 00:34:50.440
the disciples denied him, Judas betrayed him, et cetera.

474
00:34:50.440 --> 00:34:52.600
But Jesus still wasn't threatened,

475
00:34:52.600 --> 00:34:55.320
and he still chose God instead.

476
00:34:55.320 --> 00:34:57.560
But anyway, does all of that make sense?

477
00:34:57.560 --> 00:35:00.160
So overwhelm and burnout.

478
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:09.840
result from us trying to take control of the outcome and having to, to carry that sense of

479
00:35:09.840 --> 00:35:16.480
responsibility for what happens, like, well, it's dependent on what I know, what I don't know,

480
00:35:16.480 --> 00:35:23.680
and how much time I have and whether or not I'm applying wisdom. And, you know, how I handled it,

481
00:35:24.240 --> 00:35:30.240
that the outcome's dependent on my action. Well, that's exhausting. Then you just feel that you

482
00:35:30.240 --> 00:35:34.640
feel like, oh my goodness, then I've got to make sure that I do everything perfectly right. And

483
00:35:34.640 --> 00:35:39.440
what if I don't get it right? What if I try my hardest and there was something that I was

484
00:35:39.440 --> 00:35:44.320
supposed to do that I didn't know I was supposed to do, or I didn't have enough time to do,

485
00:35:44.320 --> 00:35:49.760
or my energy ran out and I couldn't do it, you know, because we chose that we were responsible

486
00:35:49.760 --> 00:35:55.840
for the outcome. When our resources ran out, we have to bear the consequences. And we're,

487
00:35:56.560 --> 00:36:03.360
in a manner of speaking, we're alone having to bear them. Now, God doesn't leave us alone,

488
00:36:03.360 --> 00:36:09.360
but I'm just trying to like paint this picture of like, we said that, no, Lord, we're responsible

489
00:36:09.360 --> 00:36:15.920
for the outcome and the consequences. You're not. So God's like, okay, fine. So there's the

490
00:36:15.920 --> 00:36:21.920
consequences now, you know, what are you going to do about it? And then, so you have to carry

491
00:36:21.920 --> 00:36:35.040
them a bit. And anyway, does all of that make sense? It does. Yeah. So just remember that that's

492
00:36:35.040 --> 00:36:43.120
what rest is, is rest is realizing and choosing that God's already done everything and there's

493
00:36:43.120 --> 00:36:53.040
nothing left that's being required of you to do. It sounds like a different way of living.

494
00:36:53.040 --> 00:36:59.600
And I have limited and period of time. So I'm trying to think, because several periods in my

495
00:36:59.600 --> 00:37:06.480
life, I've gone for something in faith that I felt the Lord telling me to. And if I talk to

496
00:37:06.480 --> 00:37:12.560
other people, and I tell what's going on in my life, I can hear and they tell me that it's crazy.

497
00:37:12.560 --> 00:37:17.840
It's too much for a human being to go through. But because you're going in faith, and God told

498
00:37:17.840 --> 00:37:24.720
you to give you the strength and things just happen, and you don't. So I know I have lived in

499
00:37:24.720 --> 00:37:32.720
periods of times, but I've also experienced severe burnout, or it could be mixed up like you're going

500
00:37:32.720 --> 00:37:36.800
in the flesh in some area, and you're going in faith, it's something God told you and something

501
00:37:36.800 --> 00:37:46.560
else. And then you end up burning out. So I think that I don't live like it's not like a mathematical

502
00:37:46.560 --> 00:37:54.320
question, how much time do I have? And how much can I spend? But a little bit of it, like, I just

503
00:37:55.040 --> 00:38:04.720
it's like I live in the spirit and in faith part of the time. And then part of the time, I don't.

504
00:38:04.720 --> 00:38:11.600
And if I get stressed or feel burnout, I go into the mathematic way. Yeah, now you've done too much.

505
00:38:11.600 --> 00:38:16.400
Now you need to draw back, you need to say no to this and don't put on anything else. Yeah.

506
00:38:16.400 --> 00:38:23.280
You go into like, cognitive thoughts that you learned here, positive psychology or

507
00:38:24.880 --> 00:38:32.400
cognitive therapy, like those kind of ways of, or stress handling methods, all these kind of things

508
00:38:32.400 --> 00:38:36.880
that you learned that you're saying, what you're teaching about, it's about the soul, but you're

509
00:38:36.880 --> 00:38:41.840
not if you're not from a place of rest and govern over it. Yeah, make that subject to it.

510
00:38:41.840 --> 00:38:48.080
And you use those kind of rules. Correct. What I think I do when I get scared, if I feel I'm

511
00:38:48.720 --> 00:38:55.440
on my way to burnout or depression or something like that. Yeah, correct. Which you can still do,

512
00:38:55.440 --> 00:39:02.320
you know, you can you can choose those, those principles and all of that. Because remember

513
00:39:02.320 --> 00:39:08.240
that we're on a journey, and we're not there overnight. And so we're not there overnight,

514
00:39:08.240 --> 00:39:15.520
we're on a journey, and we're not there overnight. Meaning like we're already there in spirit,

515
00:39:16.080 --> 00:39:21.200
but we've our soul and our body have never done it before. So they're learning how to do that

516
00:39:21.200 --> 00:39:25.920
they're learning to be they're learning what it is that they are, and how to walk in it.

517
00:39:26.720 --> 00:39:31.360
And they've never done that before. So anyway, so we give them time and just realize, okay,

518
00:39:31.360 --> 00:39:37.120
so burnout. So how can I handle this, I can handle it using the worldly principles of like,

519
00:39:37.120 --> 00:39:44.560
okay, you stop and you create boundaries, you don't do this, etc. And also, some of those

520
00:39:44.560 --> 00:39:49.600
things are just indications to us by the Lord that, hey, look, you're, you're doing more and

521
00:39:49.600 --> 00:39:57.280
involved in more than I want you to be. Not that I couldn't help you do it. But, you know, I don't

522
00:39:57.280 --> 00:39:59.920
want you to take I don't want all of the

523
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:03.000
these things to be things that you're spending your time, effort,

524
00:40:03.000 --> 00:40:06.760
and energy on. I want you to be focused on some other things right now.

525
00:40:07.000 --> 00:40:09.200
So, and then sometimes what, uh,

526
00:40:09.440 --> 00:40:13.560
that's why we get burnt out is we're not given the grace for something.

527
00:40:13.560 --> 00:40:16.440
Maybe if that's how you want to word that. I mean,

528
00:40:16.440 --> 00:40:20.720
if that's how somebody wants to word that, um, but, um,

529
00:40:21.200 --> 00:40:25.880
oh, there was something else I was going to say about that. Um, oh,

530
00:40:26.040 --> 00:40:30.800
but one of the things that I recommend is when

531
00:40:30.800 --> 00:40:35.000
you're going through burnout, or you think that you're about to,

532
00:40:35.000 --> 00:40:38.040
you're think you're about to get to burnout or, or depression.

533
00:40:38.880 --> 00:40:43.120
One of the things that you can do is before you make a decision about

534
00:40:43.320 --> 00:40:44.640
what you want to,

535
00:40:44.880 --> 00:40:49.200
to no longer be part of your life and your time and like,

536
00:40:49.200 --> 00:40:52.360
take up your energy is just realize, okay,

537
00:40:52.440 --> 00:40:57.280
the reason that I'm burnout is because I'm applying so much

538
00:40:57.280 --> 00:41:02.320
of myself to this thing. In other words, I'm expending my energy.

539
00:41:02.840 --> 00:41:04.760
I'm making myself responsible.

540
00:41:04.800 --> 00:41:08.280
I believe that I'm responsible for the outcome of this thing, you know,

541
00:41:08.280 --> 00:41:10.760
et cetera. And so we just get kind of get burned out.

542
00:41:10.760 --> 00:41:14.960
So one of the things you can do is if you release yourself of the

543
00:41:14.960 --> 00:41:19.440
responsibility of the outcome and know, okay, you know,

544
00:41:19.440 --> 00:41:23.600
that's just not on me. That's on the Lord. So Lord, you know, God, God,

545
00:41:23.600 --> 00:41:28.760
I just submit that to you. Does your sense of burnout relief?

546
00:41:30.080 --> 00:41:32.640
And then is it kind of like, oh, okay, well,

547
00:41:32.640 --> 00:41:34.680
now that I'm relieved myself of the,

548
00:41:34.760 --> 00:41:39.640
of the obligation and the responsibility of the

549
00:41:39.640 --> 00:41:42.920
outcome of the result of the consequence of my actions.

550
00:41:44.400 --> 00:41:46.920
Now I'm not, I don't feel burnout anymore.

551
00:41:47.320 --> 00:41:50.600
Now I'm fine with just doing it because I'm just doing the action.

552
00:41:50.960 --> 00:41:55.520
I'm enjoying my Lord in living with my Lord, just doing this thing,

553
00:41:55.520 --> 00:42:00.360
just going to work or going to church or doing this activity.

554
00:42:00.640 --> 00:42:02.200
I can just enjoy it.

555
00:42:02.640 --> 00:42:06.880
Now that the pressure is off from my

556
00:42:06.880 --> 00:42:11.160
actions for, you know, the con,

557
00:42:11.200 --> 00:42:15.360
the result that I get. So now I'm no longer burnout.

558
00:42:15.360 --> 00:42:19.000
So now I don't need to stop doing something. I'm fine.

559
00:42:19.240 --> 00:42:22.480
And then there might be other situations that where you relieve yourself of the

560
00:42:22.480 --> 00:42:25.680
pressure and you're like, okay, God's taking care of the outcome.

561
00:42:26.000 --> 00:42:31.000
It's not dependent anymore on my actions on whether or not on how I do it,

562
00:42:31.000 --> 00:42:33.120
et cetera, and whether I got it right.

563
00:42:33.120 --> 00:42:37.320
And as if like I have followed this perfect worldly formula in order to get this

564
00:42:37.320 --> 00:42:40.480
result, you know, then,

565
00:42:41.320 --> 00:42:44.800
then once you relieve yourself of that pressure, you might,

566
00:42:44.800 --> 00:42:48.120
it might become very clear to you from the Lord that he's just like, Nope,

567
00:42:48.240 --> 00:42:53.080
let that thing go. You know, don't, don't put a,

568
00:42:53.280 --> 00:42:57.360
what we would refer to as the boundary in place, you know, just say, no,

569
00:42:57.440 --> 00:43:01.800
don't take on this thing or this thing that you've taken on, let it go,

570
00:43:02.280 --> 00:43:06.640
you know, no longer do that. Cut down your hours, do whatever.

571
00:43:06.960 --> 00:43:09.640
But so we can,

572
00:43:09.760 --> 00:43:14.760
so sometimes even when we relieved ourselves of the pressure,

573
00:43:14.800 --> 00:43:18.840
that created the burnout, God still says, and we get,

574
00:43:19.360 --> 00:43:22.960
and it becomes much more clear that God is saying, yeah,

575
00:43:23.080 --> 00:43:25.400
just go ahead and let that thing go.

576
00:43:25.400 --> 00:43:28.520
That's just not something that I have for you right now in this season,

577
00:43:28.960 --> 00:43:29.800
but it's a lot.

578
00:43:29.960 --> 00:43:34.880
You can hear God a lot more clearly when you, when you've come,

579
00:43:34.920 --> 00:43:36.840
when you stepped out in faith with him,

580
00:43:36.840 --> 00:43:41.800
that you're not responsible for the outcome, your actions aren't responsible.

581
00:43:41.800 --> 00:43:45.280
Your knowledge, your wisdom, isn't determining the outcome.

582
00:43:45.720 --> 00:43:47.880
You're letting God determine the outcome.

583
00:43:48.240 --> 00:43:52.720
And then now you just get to enjoy applying your wisdom and your knowledge and

584
00:43:52.720 --> 00:43:55.160
going through the action and just doing the thing.

585
00:43:55.560 --> 00:44:00.200
And you'll enjoy it a lot more now that your actions no longer bear the pressure

586
00:44:00.920 --> 00:44:04.360
of determining something based on how you do it.

587
00:44:05.360 --> 00:44:09.400
Now you just have fun doing it. So anyway,

588
00:44:09.880 --> 00:44:11.000
does that make sense?

589
00:44:21.720 --> 00:44:24.160
Yeah, it does. It does make sense.

590
00:44:26.600 --> 00:44:30.000
Cause remember that you're in the Lord, you abide in him.

591
00:44:30.560 --> 00:44:35.480
And that the reason that it's that being in him is the place of rest is because

592
00:44:35.480 --> 00:44:36.840
he's the all sustaining one.

593
00:44:37.360 --> 00:44:40.120
He's the one from and he's the all sufficient one.

594
00:44:40.120 --> 00:44:44.400
He's the one from whom everything that you need comes.

595
00:44:44.760 --> 00:44:49.320
And so if you're in the being from whom everything comes,

596
00:44:49.600 --> 00:44:53.040
there's nothing left for you to do because now he can do everything.

597
00:44:54.240 --> 00:44:58.560
So that's it's true rest. There's nothing left for you to do.

598
00:44:58.560 --> 00:45:00.000
So that's how you kind.

599
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:05.680
that's how you come into faith with the Lord, that you're not responsible for the outcome.

600
00:45:06.800 --> 00:45:16.320
That he is, because you're in the one who provides all of the energy and spirit to

601
00:45:18.560 --> 00:45:25.280
determine the results of something. Or to at least protect you or,

602
00:45:26.240 --> 00:45:36.240
or, and provide for you. If part of the factors that determine the result was the fact that

603
00:45:36.240 --> 00:45:44.000
you're in a sinful world that where other people were involved and their actions determined that

604
00:45:44.000 --> 00:45:50.240
the outcome was X, Y, and Z. Well, that meant a consequence for you. And like, well, my goodness,

605
00:45:50.240 --> 00:45:55.280
that then affected your life in this way. Well, God will take care of that. He'll take the

606
00:45:55.280 --> 00:46:01.920
responsibility for the fact that you are being affected by other people's choices, which

607
00:46:01.920 --> 00:46:07.760
determined the outcome, you know, et cetera. That's still another aspect of the outcome that

608
00:46:07.760 --> 00:46:15.600
God's holding himself responsible for. But what if it's like, like deep issues,

609
00:46:16.400 --> 00:46:26.960
rejection that triggers you. And obviously, because

610
00:46:30.560 --> 00:46:38.640
that's not something I don't know quite how to handle because I am in, I have been prayed for

611
00:46:38.640 --> 00:46:52.480
many times and I, and I have received healing. But it's still there. And like yesterday, I,

612
00:46:52.480 --> 00:46:59.120
these things do happen when you feel really rejected by someone. And it triggers you and you

613
00:46:59.920 --> 00:47:05.040
yeah, fall out of, or somehow get out of rest. And

614
00:47:09.840 --> 00:47:15.520
because that would be an area where God would need to heal you. Right. So you're not so triggered.

615
00:47:16.960 --> 00:47:20.560
I'm just trying to think aloud. Yeah. Kind of like,

616
00:47:22.640 --> 00:47:26.800
so for the rejection, and that's just not something I've really been addressing here.

617
00:47:26.800 --> 00:47:32.400
So let me address it now that rejection, that's that feeling that, you know, that we're

618
00:47:33.040 --> 00:47:43.040
being identified by, or by somebody else's response to us. We're allowing their response

619
00:47:43.040 --> 00:47:48.960
to us in a way to define or identify us, to let us, to affirm us, to let us know something about

620
00:47:48.960 --> 00:47:55.520
ourselves or to, because sometimes what we believe that people are doing is that they're responding

621
00:47:55.520 --> 00:48:01.360
to who it is that we are. And, and sometimes it's just, it's other things that are going on.

622
00:48:01.360 --> 00:48:06.640
They're responding to who it is that they think they are, you know, and then they reject, and

623
00:48:06.640 --> 00:48:11.440
then they're acting in rejection of you because there's, they've moved into self-preservation

624
00:48:11.440 --> 00:48:18.480
mode because, because they're dealing with rejection or whatever. But anyway so what,

625
00:48:18.480 --> 00:48:25.040
what I do in those times where I feel rejected is I'm like, okay, Lord, I just shift into

626
00:48:25.040 --> 00:48:33.760
choosing that. I am, I am who he says that I am, that I am one with him, that I am perfect,

627
00:48:33.760 --> 00:48:42.080
that I am spirit. I'm not my soul or my body. I, there's nothing wrong with me. He delights in me

628
00:48:42.080 --> 00:48:48.000
without me having to do anything. Even when I do things that are sinful, he doesn't stop talking to

629
00:48:48.000 --> 00:48:56.160
me. He's still, you know, that I have an intrinsic value in who I am that's disconnected from what I

630
00:48:56.160 --> 00:49:06.240
do or how I act or whatever. And then that, and so I just, I basically just choose that I am as

631
00:49:06.240 --> 00:49:14.640
valuable, significant, and good as God in reality, as God says that I am. And I have to remember that

632
00:49:14.640 --> 00:49:20.640
I'm spirit. I'm not my soul or my body because sometimes my soul or my body is in major turmoil.

633
00:49:20.640 --> 00:49:28.960
And so if I'm identifying with that, then I feel awful. I feel ugly, meaning like I feel

634
00:49:28.960 --> 00:49:36.800
bad. I feel wicked. I feel whatever. And I have to remember, I have to choose, okay, but if God

635
00:49:36.800 --> 00:49:44.400
says that's not who I am, then I have to choose that I am who God said that I am, which is spirit.

636
00:49:44.800 --> 00:49:53.520
And I'm having to make a choice that that is true, not a hope-filled, not a decision that,

637
00:49:53.520 --> 00:49:59.760
okay, well, maybe I can hope for that. No, I actually have to.

638
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:05.840
make it, um, make it to be true for myself.

639
00:50:05.880 --> 00:50:10.120
I decide that that is the reality of the world in which I live.

640
00:50:10.840 --> 00:50:12.840
I choose that that is my truth.

641
00:50:13.720 --> 00:50:17.240
You know how the new age is talk about the fact that, you know, you're like,

642
00:50:18.240 --> 00:50:20.400
Oh, well, everybody has their own truth.

643
00:50:20.760 --> 00:50:24.660
Think of it kind of like that, because even though, you know, truth is not

644
00:50:24.660 --> 00:50:29.400
subjective, just like the Israelites, they got to choose which covenant that

645
00:50:29.400 --> 00:50:30.420
they wanted to go with.

646
00:50:30.740 --> 00:50:32.140
That's what we're talking about.

647
00:50:32.140 --> 00:50:33.460
We're talking about that kind of truth.

648
00:50:33.780 --> 00:50:35.100
Do we choose that?

649
00:50:35.780 --> 00:50:41.620
Do we choose the covenant, the interaction with him and the truth that, that our

650
00:50:41.620 --> 00:50:47.820
lives are dependent on our relationship with him, or are we choosing instead that

651
00:50:47.820 --> 00:50:54.100
our lives are dictated by what it is that we do and how well we do it?

652
00:50:55.100 --> 00:50:55.540
You know,

653
00:50:56.120 --> 00:50:56.760
so that helps.

654
00:50:57.800 --> 00:50:58.180
Yeah.

655
00:50:58.180 --> 00:51:04.960
So that means that even if when I get rejected and it hits something you, and

656
00:51:04.960 --> 00:51:11.880
you suddenly are in pain or you're not thinking rationally and you get hit with,

657
00:51:12.760 --> 00:51:16.940
and you react, maybe you say something you shouldn't have said, and then you

658
00:51:16.940 --> 00:51:21.400
handle something well, and you handle something not that well, kind of the

659
00:51:21.400 --> 00:51:25.340
turmoil of the emotional things that happen in your mind and in your soul.

660
00:51:25.340 --> 00:51:37.400
And in your body kind of to go surpass all that and be like, but I am in God

661
00:51:37.720 --> 00:51:43.160
and I'm one with God and my soul is in emotional turmoil right now, and I'm

662
00:51:43.160 --> 00:51:47.040
making lots of good and bad and whatever decisions, and I feel a lot of things

663
00:51:47.040 --> 00:51:53.280
and I don't know right from wrong in this, but to not go into it and kind of

664
00:51:53.280 --> 00:51:59.140
dissect it, to kind of surpass it and like, I'm one with Christ, and I am

665
00:51:59.140 --> 00:52:04.200
perfect, I'm in the spirit, I can have rest in this, I can have total clarity

666
00:52:04.200 --> 00:52:04.940
and peace.

667
00:52:05.300 --> 00:52:08.220
Yeah, choose that that's your value and significance.

668
00:52:08.300 --> 00:52:09.020
Yeah.

669
00:52:09.060 --> 00:52:10.380
Is that what you're saying?

670
00:52:10.580 --> 00:52:11.700
Yeah, yeah.

671
00:52:11.860 --> 00:52:19.680
Choose that that's your value and your significance that it's that, you know,

672
00:52:19.700 --> 00:52:27.700
you're of that importance to the Lord, you have that meaning, that weight of

673
00:52:27.700 --> 00:52:34.940
meaning to the Lord, you've got weight to you, you've got substance, you've got as,

674
00:52:35.260 --> 00:52:42.980
you know, and, and you choose that, that that is actually who you are.

675
00:52:43.980 --> 00:52:50.880
And disconnect or disassociate who you are from how they're acting with you.

676
00:52:51.680 --> 00:52:55.480
Now, there can be something you know, you can address later about, okay, well, why

677
00:52:55.480 --> 00:53:00.160
are they acting that way with me, you know, or, and then how should I respond

678
00:53:00.160 --> 00:53:04.120
and whatever, you know, that all can be done, quote, unquote, later, the first

679
00:53:04.120 --> 00:53:10.080
thing, you know, for yourself is choose, okay, I choose that I that if God says

680
00:53:10.140 --> 00:53:16.580
that I'm valuable, that I actually am valuable, I make myself valuable to me, I

681
00:53:16.580 --> 00:53:20.940
choose that that is true, because it won't feel like it will want to say, Oh,

682
00:53:20.940 --> 00:53:24.460
well, I wish that that were true, or I hope it's hope it's true.

683
00:53:24.660 --> 00:53:25.580
And that won't work.

684
00:53:25.780 --> 00:53:29.260
We have to make an intentional decision that it is true.

685
00:53:30.020 --> 00:53:30.900
We make it up.

686
00:53:31.220 --> 00:53:33.020
So it will feel like we're making it up.

687
00:53:33.100 --> 00:53:34.380
What if you make a mistake?

688
00:53:34.380 --> 00:53:37.000
Like, I make mistakes, I feel rejected.

689
00:53:37.440 --> 00:53:41.400
And then I do things in my emotions, correct?

690
00:53:41.400 --> 00:53:45.840
Same thing, because your your identity is not determined by what you do.

691
00:53:47.120 --> 00:53:53.840
So you're not your soul and say things are, even if I should, like I react to

692
00:53:53.920 --> 00:53:58.360
rejection in not a loving way, or you do something that you shouldn't have done.

693
00:53:58.880 --> 00:53:59.280
Yeah.

694
00:53:59.920 --> 00:54:03.920
Even if you sin, because remember, your spirit cannot sin.

695
00:54:04.640 --> 00:54:09.800
According to James, he mentions in James that he was born of God, because

696
00:54:09.800 --> 00:54:11.520
remember, spirit is born of spirit.

697
00:54:11.520 --> 00:54:13.560
So your spirit is born of God's spirit.

698
00:54:14.160 --> 00:54:16.680
And it says he was born for he was born of God.

699
00:54:16.680 --> 00:54:18.480
It is impossible for him to sin.

700
00:54:19.000 --> 00:54:20.440
So your spirit cannot sin.

701
00:54:20.440 --> 00:54:24.560
So who it is that you are that your identity is in your spirit, who

702
00:54:24.560 --> 00:54:26.000
it is that you are cannot sin.

703
00:54:26.640 --> 00:54:30.420
So even if your soul and your body are sinning, which simply means that you're

704
00:54:30.420 --> 00:54:33.800
an unbelief simply means that you don't believe that you are who God says that

705
00:54:33.800 --> 00:54:35.820
you are, that God isn't fully true.

706
00:54:36.140 --> 00:54:37.060
You're scared.

707
00:54:37.540 --> 00:54:39.540
And so you start acting out of that.

708
00:54:39.820 --> 00:54:42.220
Only your soul and your body are acting out of that.

709
00:54:42.260 --> 00:54:43.420
Your spirit is not.

710
00:54:43.820 --> 00:54:48.420
So even when you're intentionally sinning, you can still choose.

711
00:54:48.420 --> 00:54:53.220
Yeah, but that doesn't have anything to do with who I am with my identity.

712
00:54:55.420 --> 00:54:59.780
That's a big challenge and your whole life will completely change when you.

713
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:04.720
yourself in situations in which you are doing something, not something's being done to you,

714
00:55:05.600 --> 00:55:11.440
you were doing something. And in the middle of that, you choose that you are who God says that

715
00:55:11.440 --> 00:55:16.800
you are, and that you're not the sin. And you're not the one sinning your soul and your body are,

716
00:55:16.800 --> 00:55:25.040
but who you are, isn't spinning. That if you make, if you realize that, and you make that choice

717
00:55:25.040 --> 00:55:33.600
in the middle of being in sin, like in other words, you're, you know, that will change everything.

718
00:55:33.600 --> 00:55:42.960
I think I, I think I in partly responded wrongly to the rejection. And I think I feel awful about

719
00:55:42.960 --> 00:55:50.960
it. That's because I, I listened to her and took it all in. But the rejection sometimes when it

720
00:55:50.960 --> 00:55:58.720
hits me, I just respond. I don't, it's like I lose kind of cognitive thinking or common sense

721
00:55:58.720 --> 00:56:06.480
and love and everything. So I started analyzing it. And I started analyzing what she could like

722
00:56:06.480 --> 00:56:11.440
I did, I don't think I sinned, but I analyzed it. And I'm like, yeah, you reject me like that.

723
00:56:11.440 --> 00:56:15.280
And I responded that to her, did you reject me because of this and this and this and this,

724
00:56:15.280 --> 00:56:19.840
and then she says, no, it's not, that's not it. And then it caused more confusion,

725
00:56:19.840 --> 00:56:24.880
because now she feels like I'm portraying things on her that she never intended.

726
00:56:26.480 --> 00:56:32.400
So then I kind of caused a little bit of a ruckus, and I feel horrible for analyzing it

727
00:56:32.400 --> 00:56:37.200
and coming with like all my suggestions, and it comes out of a wound, like I feel rejected,

728
00:56:37.200 --> 00:56:43.120
and I need to control it and understand it. And like, why would you do that? And then I put that

729
00:56:43.120 --> 00:56:51.200
on her, and then it doesn't respond in her. So then she reacts to what I write. And I just thought

730
00:56:51.200 --> 00:56:55.520
when I sent it to her, I thought, I don't think I'm in the spirit now. But I just have to write

731
00:56:55.520 --> 00:57:01.440
it like I just, it's something that just hits you so deep that you can't stop yourself. Because

732
00:57:01.440 --> 00:57:10.000
you're so in a way, hurt or thrown off. But I kind of knew, if I was honest, that I was not

733
00:57:10.000 --> 00:57:13.760
in my spirit, this was not a response in the spirit. And it wasn't an attack, it was really

734
00:57:13.760 --> 00:57:24.560
nicely written, wasn't anything bad. But it still was very soulish. And now I feel horrible for not

735
00:57:24.560 --> 00:57:29.520
being more mature, and for not responding in the spirit, that at the time, I didn't know how to

736
00:57:29.520 --> 00:57:41.360
respond in the spirit. I responded in my soul, from my soul or from my flesh, not like in a

737
00:57:41.360 --> 00:57:55.200
sinful way. But it didn't help the situation. And then I feel horrible for not being more mature,

738
00:57:55.200 --> 00:57:59.200
and I'm older than her, and I should have handled it better. I should have waited until

739
00:57:59.200 --> 00:58:08.240
I was in rest before I responded. I shouldn't respond out of rejection wound. So then I feel

740
00:58:09.840 --> 00:58:18.880
I attacked myself for being immature, and that I should have known better. And also feel,

741
00:58:18.880 --> 00:58:25.760
oh no, I opened up way too much about too many things. And also I think I feel a little bit

742
00:58:26.000 --> 00:58:37.040
humiliated in it, because I wanted to, yeah, I don't know, just, I feel just stupid in it.

743
00:58:38.320 --> 00:58:42.960
Yeah, because you offered something vulnerably, and it wasn't received.

744
00:58:42.960 --> 00:58:49.440
Yeah, and it wasn't received, and it probably wasn't right even. So I think this happens a lot,

745
00:58:49.440 --> 00:58:54.320
that's why I'm putting weight to it now, because this is what happens a lot in my life,

746
00:58:55.280 --> 00:59:02.640
that I don't, something happens, and I don't necessarily sin, sometimes I do, but I respond

747
00:59:03.680 --> 00:59:15.840
out from my soul. And it might sound really wise what I said, but it's, and it's, it doesn't,

748
00:59:16.640 --> 00:59:23.200
but there's just, but it doesn't resolve anything, and it comes from a hurt place.

749
00:59:24.560 --> 00:59:29.680
Yeah, well, just remember, you know, even in a situation, you know, in a situation like that,

750
00:59:29.680 --> 00:59:35.200
where you're doubting what it is that you, the, I don't know, the wisdom, or the rest,

751
00:59:35.200 --> 00:59:38.960
or whatever of what you did, and you know, the trust and faith in the Lord of what you did,

752
00:59:39.600 --> 00:59:44.880
even if you're doubting all that, you're just, no shame, no condemnation. It doesn't identify who

753
00:59:44.880 --> 00:59:50.480
you are, and it doesn't determine who you are, and that you're, that you're bad, or that you,

754
00:59:50.480 --> 00:59:55.920
whatever. It's just like, okay, well, that's just where my soul, poor little thing,

755
00:59:57.040 --> 00:59:59.840
is right now in the process. And so.

756
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:17.000
And, but in order to give your soul what it needs, because it needs healing and it needs protection. In order to give it that you have to shift from from identifying with it, you can't identify with it.

757
01:00:17.000 --> 01:00:31.000
You know, you have to identify with your spirit in order to give your soul what it needs. You can't identify as your soul in order to give it what it needs, because you have to be the parent of it.

758
01:00:32.000 --> 01:00:50.000
It's like what, same principle of what God did with Moses, when Moses was born of the Israelites. So in other words, he wasn't Israelite, but in order to be prepared as the leader of the Israelites, he could not have ever been a slave.

759
01:00:51.000 --> 01:01:02.000
So it's the same kind of an idea. God made sure that he didn't ever spend time as a slave. He was raised in the royal household, and then he was taken out to the wilderness in order to learn humility.

760
01:01:02.000 --> 01:01:16.000
And then, and then he could lead the Israelites out, but the only way that he could, is he had to have connection with them, and the fact that he shared the same blood, but he could not have operated as they did.

761
01:01:16.000 --> 01:01:30.000
He could not have been a slave. And that's the only way that he was equipped to be an appropriate leader to lead them out. He could not have been enslaved to the same thing that he was freeing them from.

762
01:01:30.000 --> 01:01:43.000
So it's the same thing with you and your spirit, soul, and body, is in order to be what your soul needs, because you just saw what it is that your soul, the state that your soul is in, and it just needs to be parented.

763
01:01:43.000 --> 01:01:53.000
It just needs to know that it's safe, that it doesn't have to do all of this work to provide for and protect itself. It wasn't equipped to have to do that.

764
01:01:54.000 --> 01:02:13.000
And so it's bearing something that it wasn't equipped to bear, and being held responsible by God to bear. So that's the spirit's job. So you have to identify outside of the soul in order to be the parent for it.

765
01:02:13.000 --> 01:02:25.000
So all that this has done is to show you, hey, this is where your soul is right now. You know, this is what it thinks is required of it in order to do a good job of protecting you.

766
01:02:25.000 --> 01:02:39.000
It's trying to do the right thing, and it's trying to apply all the wise and worldly principles that it knows of and that it was taught of how to handle these types of situations.

767
01:02:40.000 --> 01:02:55.000
And now you're just learning that there's something higher, and that your soul doesn't have to live in that kind of bondage, that kind of slavery to itself, to its emotions, and to be identified as how it feels.

768
01:02:56.000 --> 01:03:08.000
So anyway, if you just choose that you are not what you feel, and you're not what you believe, remember what you believe, in other words, what you think. I don't mean faith.

769
01:03:08.000 --> 01:03:25.000
What you think, what you believe is your soul. It's not your spirit. It's not who you are. So you are above your beliefs. So you're not what you believe. You're not what you feel. It's just what you believe and what you feel in your soul.

770
01:03:25.000 --> 01:03:42.000
So just don't identify with it and then feel bad about yourself as a result of what your soul is going through. And so that's how you just kind of deal with that. So once you no longer identify with it, how do you want to handle the situation from here?

771
01:03:42.000 --> 01:04:01.000
Now that you are not what your rejection felt like that you were, now that you're not that, how do you want to handle this situation with your friend? You know, now that you're no longer, because in other words, if you don't identify with that, you're no longer threatened.

772
01:04:02.000 --> 01:04:03.000
Okay.

773
01:04:03.000 --> 01:04:24.000
You know, now how do you feel threatened in a way you're feeling rejected, feeling you need to protect yourself, threatened, and you in a way want to either shut down or attack it back or, yeah, but actually you're not attacked, and you're not threatened.

774
01:04:24.000 --> 01:04:25.000
Yeah.

775
01:04:26.000 --> 01:04:39.000
Actually, I'm in a place of peace in God. And I'm not, my soul, my soul might feel threatened, but me in the spirit is not threatened.

776
01:04:39.000 --> 01:04:40.000
Correct.

777
01:04:41.000 --> 01:04:50.000
From the spirit, I can think clearly about it in a different way than I would, than if I would have to like, how am I going to deal with this?

778
01:04:50.000 --> 01:04:51.000
Yes.

779
01:04:51.000 --> 01:04:55.000
By the book and all the things I've taught and the wisdom and all the knowledge and all those things.

780
01:04:55.000 --> 01:04:56.000
Yeah.

781
01:04:56.000 --> 01:04:59.000
Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. Yeah.

782
01:04:59.000 --> 01:05:00.000
Because then you're kind of just.

783
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:04.680
free. Yeah. When I meet her again, there's no need to feel

784
01:05:04.680 --> 01:05:08.520
hurt. Or like, of course, if you feel hurt, you feel hurt. But

785
01:05:08.520 --> 01:05:12.240
there's no need to feel threatened, feel threatened by

786
01:05:12.240 --> 01:05:18.040
her. Yeah. Or didn't do. Yeah. Yeah. Even by myself feel

787
01:05:18.040 --> 01:05:22.680
threatened by my own feelings. Exactly. Yeah. Because that is,

788
01:05:22.680 --> 01:05:24.960
I think, too, I feel threatened by myself.

789
01:05:25.520 --> 01:05:28.920
Correct. I was gonna say, it's very important for us to not be

790
01:05:28.920 --> 01:05:31.960
afraid of ourselves. That is extremely important. In fact,

791
01:05:31.960 --> 01:05:35.560
it's one of the things that sometimes I walk people through

792
01:05:35.840 --> 01:05:39.800
is how to choose themselves. So that they're remember, that's

793
01:05:39.800 --> 01:05:43.920
that last video that I posted, you know, how to not how to

794
01:05:43.920 --> 01:05:50.000
choose oneself. In other words, to not to value oneself and

795
01:05:50.000 --> 01:05:55.000
understand that you're not that there's nothing about you to be

796
01:05:55.000 --> 01:06:00.120
afraid of, to not be threatened by you. In other words, and to

797
01:06:00.120 --> 01:06:04.600
allow to not be threatened by your feelings, to not be afraid

798
01:06:04.600 --> 01:06:11.040
to face them. Yeah, I come out. Yeah. Yeah. And there's no need

799
01:06:11.040 --> 01:06:12.840
to be afraid of your feelings, because you're not your

800
01:06:12.840 --> 01:06:16.440
feelings. And your feelings are a result of what it is that

801
01:06:16.440 --> 01:06:19.720
you're believing. They're simply indicating to you what it is you

802
01:06:19.720 --> 01:06:22.240
believe there's nothing wrong with your feelings. They're

803
01:06:22.240 --> 01:06:26.600
simply telling you something about what you believe. But

804
01:06:26.600 --> 01:06:29.880
you're not your feelings. And you're not even the result of

805
01:06:29.880 --> 01:06:32.840
your not the result, the cause of your feelings, which is

806
01:06:32.840 --> 01:06:37.880
belief, your whatever, you're not your beliefs either. So

807
01:06:38.080 --> 01:06:43.440
you're not anything that you're experiencing in the in your

808
01:06:43.480 --> 01:06:48.800
feelings and your belief. You're actually above all of that. And

809
01:06:48.800 --> 01:06:55.040
you can be the parent of and provide for all of what it is

810
01:06:55.040 --> 01:07:01.000
that that your soul is believing in feeling, etc. So there's no

811
01:07:01.000 --> 01:07:07.320
need to be afraid of you what you feel, or what you believe,

812
01:07:07.360 --> 01:07:12.400
because it's not you anyway. So they can't threaten you. You

813
01:07:12.400 --> 01:07:17.760
know, it's just an aspect of you that that starts to act a

814
01:07:17.760 --> 01:07:23.160
particular way. Because it thinks that it's not who God

815
01:07:23.160 --> 01:07:29.480
says that it is. So it's acting in unbelief. And so it's just

816
01:07:29.480 --> 01:07:34.800
afraid. So what happened when the three men came out and

817
01:07:34.800 --> 01:07:40.160
attacked me verbally attacked me. And I kind of know that I'm

818
01:07:40.160 --> 01:07:43.880
okay. And I don't have to be afraid. Yeah, they're kind of

819
01:07:44.600 --> 01:07:48.000
saying something. And it's kind of like there's like a bubble

820
01:07:48.000 --> 01:07:51.680
around you. And it's not really hitting you. Yeah. But for some

821
01:07:51.680 --> 01:07:55.400
reason, I don't care about them. So it's easier with them. Of

822
01:07:55.400 --> 01:07:58.080
course, it's much harder when it's a close friend that

823
01:07:58.080 --> 01:08:01.800
suddenly rejects you. So but it's kind of the same thing.

824
01:08:01.840 --> 01:08:07.360
You're just as protected. Yeah. As I felt in the situation with

825
01:08:07.360 --> 01:08:13.240
the three men on the road. It's just that it's harder. I know,

826
01:08:13.440 --> 01:08:17.080
because it's personal. Correct. And you have relationship now

827
01:08:17.279 --> 01:08:22.399
understand that you may be affected by other people simply

828
01:08:22.399 --> 01:08:26.520
because it's relationship. It's like, because you don't, you

829
01:08:26.520 --> 01:08:30.240
want connection, you don't want disconnection. But there is a

830
01:08:30.240 --> 01:08:37.399
way to where you will still feel things in response to someone

831
01:08:37.399 --> 01:08:45.240
else. That doesn't, but without it affecting your identity, your

832
01:08:45.240 --> 01:08:49.120
sense of identity, without you feeling threatened. So there can

833
01:08:49.120 --> 01:08:53.319
still be pain and hurt because you don't want the disconnect

834
01:08:53.720 --> 01:08:56.960
that you're feeling like there is right now of like, there's

835
01:08:56.960 --> 01:09:00.240
miscommunication, there's we're not connecting on some level.

836
01:09:00.560 --> 01:09:03.760
And it's what I would imagine that Jesus experienced again,

837
01:09:03.760 --> 01:09:07.200
with the disciples or with Judas. And Jesus didn't feel

838
01:09:07.200 --> 01:09:11.640
that his I didn't allow his sense of identity to be

839
01:09:11.640 --> 01:09:19.319
threatened. And yet, you know, that, that, that, that he was

840
01:09:19.359 --> 01:09:25.200
still, you know, hurt when with with Judas and the disciples. I

841
01:09:25.200 --> 01:09:29.359
mean, remember what he said when Judas came and kissed him, you

842
01:09:29.359 --> 01:09:32.560
know, to identify him to the Roman soldiers. And, and he

843
01:09:32.560 --> 01:09:37.720
said, Oh, what did he say? How did he wear that? But basically

844
01:09:37.720 --> 01:09:43.840
something like, like, Oh, I don't remember what he said.

845
01:09:44.359 --> 01:09:49.880
And something about, you know, and you, you know, this is and

846
01:09:49.880 --> 01:09:54.640
you to Judas, or this is what you would do Judas or, but

847
01:09:54.640 --> 01:09:58.920
anyway, you can, you could just get this sense of like, like,

848
01:09:58.920 --> 01:09:59.440
you wouldn't mind.

849
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:07.760
There was something you have a disconnect in the relationship. And, and so anyway,

850
01:10:07.760 --> 01:10:13.840
we're still that will still affect us simply because that's the nature of relationship. But

851
01:10:13.840 --> 01:10:20.160
we can feel those things without associating them with an identity. And without our sense of

852
01:10:20.160 --> 01:10:27.360
identity being threatened. We're so used to allowing to those feelings of disconnect and

853
01:10:27.360 --> 01:10:34.240
relationship being attached to our sense of identity, but they can be separated.

854
01:10:35.120 --> 01:10:40.320
Our sense of identity and feeling threatened can be separated from being affected by relationship

855
01:10:40.320 --> 01:10:44.480
of like, oh, I'm feeling this disconnect. And I don't want to feel this disconnect. And I don't

856
01:10:44.480 --> 01:10:51.520
like this, you know, well, I want to try to draw, recreate connection, you know, that's all fine.

857
01:10:52.000 --> 01:11:00.080
Um, but that's not, that's not, that's just like desiring relationship that we're not allowing

858
01:11:00.080 --> 01:11:06.160
that to determine and to change what it is that we believe about what God says is true.

859
01:11:11.840 --> 01:11:18.240
We're not allowing that to, um, to change our faith in God.

860
01:11:19.120 --> 01:11:25.680
Hmm. It's just a disconnect in the relationship, having nothing whatsoever to do with whether or

861
01:11:25.680 --> 01:11:33.600
not we're believing God. So yeah, it doesn't change our, our, um, our acceptance of the truth.

862
01:11:34.960 --> 01:11:42.160
So it just be like, oh, I wanted to be connected, not connected. I don't like that. What can we do

863
01:11:42.160 --> 01:11:47.360
to restore relationship? What is it that they need? You know, what would I like to ask for from

864
01:11:47.360 --> 01:11:59.040
them for me? Yeah. It's just relationship. Hmm. Yeah. So good. Yeah. So hope all that was helpful.

865
01:11:59.920 --> 01:12:07.040
Yeah, it was. I was just wondering if you also, because I was watching, uh, the different ways

866
01:12:07.040 --> 01:12:13.840
to shift into rest. And I think I get the no shame, no condemnation. I think I get stop.

867
01:12:14.560 --> 01:12:25.200
I think I get no judgment, but I don't know if you could just quickly explain them more like,

868
01:12:26.400 --> 01:12:32.800
like the last ones, the last ones to choose and then go with your spirit finds peace and then,

869
01:12:32.800 --> 01:12:38.000
um, declare and go where your soul finds peace. So choosing and going where your spirit finds

870
01:12:38.000 --> 01:12:44.800
peace. That is choosing to believe that what God says is true. And then stepping out in faith

871
01:12:44.800 --> 01:12:50.240
on that, like, okay, then that's what I'm going to choose is true. And if I believe that that's true,

872
01:12:50.880 --> 01:12:58.160
what would I do? That's what that one is. The declaring and going where your soul finds peace

873
01:12:58.160 --> 01:13:03.760
is what you do. If you're having a hard time choosing and having faith in God about something,

874
01:13:04.320 --> 01:13:11.600
if you're just not there yet, you just do it, you know, because you don't want to desire to have

875
01:13:11.600 --> 01:13:19.200
faith in God about something and step out on it because you want to believe God. You don't want

876
01:13:19.200 --> 01:13:24.320
to step out on something like that, because if you don't believe God, then you won't be supported

877
01:13:24.320 --> 01:13:30.480
when you step out because, because think of it like coming to the edge of a cliff or something

878
01:13:30.480 --> 01:13:35.680
where your faith, believing that what God says is true is it creates a stepping stone out in the

879
01:13:35.680 --> 01:13:42.480
void so that when you act on it, you've got something to step on. But if you, if you don't

880
01:13:42.480 --> 01:13:48.880
have faith in it and God just said it, but you don't have faith in it and you're like, okay,

881
01:13:48.880 --> 01:13:56.720
but he said it. So I'll, I'll, so if, if what he says is true, then I'll be taken care of. Okay.

882
01:13:56.720 --> 01:14:02.720
So I'll just act on it, but because you didn't believe it, you don't have any support and you

883
01:14:02.720 --> 01:14:09.200
just fall because you acted on something that God said, because you wish that you could believe it.

884
01:14:09.200 --> 01:14:15.280
So you're going to, in your desperation, you know, in your reckless abandonment to be obedient,

885
01:14:15.280 --> 01:14:22.000
you're going to act like it, but you don't have the belief behind you, the faith to support

886
01:14:22.000 --> 01:14:28.160
the action. So that's why so, so often we're like, we'll see, I did what God said that he

887
01:14:28.160 --> 01:14:33.360
wanted me to do. And it failed. It's like, yeah, because you didn't believe it. You know,

888
01:14:33.360 --> 01:14:37.680
it's your belief. In other words, your faith that gives you the support to step out on.

889
01:14:38.640 --> 01:14:44.240
But of course, what it is, that's giving our, our belief, the support is the fact that God said,

890
01:14:45.040 --> 01:14:50.720
but we have to have both of them in place in order to be supported when we step out. So the point is

891
01:14:51.280 --> 01:14:57.200
if you, if you know what God says, says, but you're like, I'm having a difficult time,

892
01:14:57.200 --> 01:14:59.760
actually really having faith. I mean, really.

893
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:04.240
and truly, I wish I could believe it. I wish I had the faith for it, but Lord,

894
01:15:04.240 --> 01:15:10.560
I'm just not at that place. And I've told the Lord that before I'm like, um, Lord, you know, I,

895
01:15:10.560 --> 01:15:17.120
I wish I know that I should have quote unquote, I know that you're calling me to have faith in

896
01:15:17.120 --> 01:15:22.320
you about this, but I am just not at the place where I can really, truly believe it. I just,

897
01:15:22.320 --> 01:15:27.440
I know I'm sorry, Lord, but that's just where I'm at. Well, then I don't need to be acting on it

898
01:15:28.160 --> 01:15:32.960
if I don't actually believe it. So what I, but I want to make some kind of progress. So what I do

899
01:15:32.960 --> 01:15:39.040
is I just declare that what he says is true. I'm like, okay, I don't believe it yet, Lord,

900
01:15:39.760 --> 01:15:47.200
but I'm going to, I'm going to shoot. I'm going to declare that if you say that it's true,

901
01:15:47.920 --> 01:15:53.520
then it's true, but I don't have enough belief behind me to actually be able to act on it,

902
01:15:53.520 --> 01:15:59.280
but I'll declare it. So it's a bit further down the road and then you go where your soul finds

903
01:15:59.280 --> 01:16:06.480
peace. So what do you have support for? If you don't have the faith to support you, if you step

904
01:16:06.480 --> 01:16:15.040
out, then don't step out. So what can you do here? What aspect can you come into agreement with God

905
01:16:15.040 --> 01:16:23.120
about to what degree can you believe that he's good and then act on that on the degree to which

906
01:16:23.120 --> 01:16:27.440
you can believe he's good. Maybe he wants you to believe he's this good. You're like, God,

907
01:16:27.440 --> 01:16:33.120
I can't believe that you're that good yet, but I can't believe that you're this good. So I will

908
01:16:33.120 --> 01:16:39.760
declare that you are this good, but I will only act according to where my faith currently is.

909
01:16:41.040 --> 01:16:45.600
Just go where, and the way that I refer to it is that go to where your soul finds peace.

910
01:16:46.160 --> 01:16:53.840
Hmm. In other words, um, if you're, uh, what, to what degree is your soul agreeing with God

911
01:16:54.880 --> 01:17:02.480
act on that, just act on the degree to which your soul can come into agreement and can believe God.

912
01:17:02.480 --> 01:17:08.720
So that's what that is. Does that make sense? Yes, it does. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's that

913
01:17:08.720 --> 01:17:14.880
that's kind of like the catch all, what do you do if nothing shifts you into rest?

914
01:17:14.880 --> 01:17:21.360
Yeah. Well, then you do the last one. So in other words, you're just struggling to have faith to the

915
01:17:21.360 --> 01:17:27.200
degree that, you know, God's inviting you to. Okay. If you can't, if none of those things help

916
01:17:27.200 --> 01:17:31.680
you, if none of those things, if you don't have enough faith to do the no shame and no condemnation

917
01:17:31.680 --> 01:17:36.880
and that to shift you into the right interest or the stop or the no judgment or the choose and go

918
01:17:36.880 --> 01:17:41.840
with your spirit finds peace. Well, then what's the catch all, what do I do? If none of those

919
01:17:41.840 --> 01:17:48.080
things work in this particular situation, because I'm just not there yet, declare what God says is

920
01:17:48.080 --> 01:17:56.320
true. So you can't choose it, but you can declare it. So declare it and then go and then step out

921
01:17:56.320 --> 01:18:01.760
in the degree of faith that you do have and go where your soul finds peace. Where does your soul

922
01:18:01.760 --> 01:18:12.000
feel? What will make your soul feel safe? Yeah. And then always be declaring that God is that good

923
01:18:12.800 --> 01:18:18.560
and that he's so good that he's given you a fallback, which is what he did with the prodigal

924
01:18:18.560 --> 01:18:24.560
son. The father is so good that when the prodigal son demanded, he have his inheritance now and take

925
01:18:24.560 --> 01:18:32.400
it and run away. The father gave it to him. That's what that last choice is. He's like, okay,

926
01:18:32.400 --> 01:18:37.520
I want to make sure that you're provided for. So I'm going to give you a means by which you can

927
01:18:37.520 --> 01:18:43.040
provide for yourself. That's what that choosing, that's what that declaring is and going where

928
01:18:43.040 --> 01:18:51.120
your soul finds peace. It's God giving you your inheritance and you finding what you can do that

929
01:18:51.120 --> 01:18:58.080
will help your soul get the peace that it needs. What is your soul relying on? It's relying on

930
01:18:58.080 --> 01:19:04.160
medication or it's relying on more time or it's relying on conserved energy or it's relying on

931
01:19:04.160 --> 01:19:09.040
more sleep. It's relying on something. It thinks that something out there is going to give it what

932
01:19:09.040 --> 01:19:16.400
it needs to declare that God is good and that he's so good that he's given you the gift of providing

933
01:19:16.400 --> 01:19:23.840
you with sleep or energy or, you know, or whatever, and then take, take, take him up on it,

934
01:19:23.840 --> 01:19:29.840
receive that gift, but receive it as a good, as a good gift from a good father, not as, okay,

935
01:19:29.840 --> 01:19:35.360
God, because I don't trust you, I'm going to choose this, choose that. That's what he gave you

936
01:19:35.360 --> 01:19:40.000
because you didn't have enough faith to choose that he would provide it for you in another way.

937
01:19:40.640 --> 01:19:46.880
Yeah, that makes sense. He provided it for you built into the earth. Yeah. Because our God is

938
01:19:46.880 --> 01:19:51.760
the one who created the kingdom, the principles of the kingdom of this world. You know how we always

939
01:19:51.760 --> 01:19:56.960
talk about the fact that they're, that they're evil, the kingdom of this world, so to speak,

940
01:19:56.960 --> 01:19:59.920
is not evil. God just said, don't rely.

941
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:05.220
lie on it. It's the, it's the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. God create just

942
01:20:05.220 --> 01:20:09.040
like in Romans seven, the law is holy. There's nothing wrong with that tree. God doesn't

943
01:20:09.040 --> 01:20:13.500
create bad things. There's nothing wrong with the principles of business and finance and

944
01:20:13.500 --> 01:20:18.100
relationships and all these other things that psychologists and psychiatrists and educators

945
01:20:18.100 --> 01:20:24.500
teach us about who created the way you created the world to work like that God did. And he

946
01:20:24.500 --> 01:20:31.300
doesn't create bad things, but what he said is don't think that they will save you that

947
01:20:31.300 --> 01:20:35.080
knowing all of those things and all those principles and using those principles and

948
01:20:35.080 --> 01:20:42.180
being wise and that, that, that those actions are creating your outcome and determining

949
01:20:42.180 --> 01:20:48.300
your outcome, rely on me to determine the outcome and be responsible for it. And then

950
01:20:48.300 --> 01:20:56.620
just, then just enjoy operating in the principles and following those formulas, et cetera. But

951
01:20:56.620 --> 01:21:04.940
don't think that it's the formula that's creating the results and that you need the formula

952
01:21:04.940 --> 01:21:09.580
in order to get a particular result. He's like, no, no, no. You need me now that you

953
01:21:09.580 --> 01:21:14.200
have me. And now that I'm creating the result, what formula do we want to use? What would

954
01:21:14.200 --> 01:21:21.400
be fun? What aspect of creation do we want to allow to be part of the process?

955
01:21:21.400 --> 01:21:27.040
That's so good. It's for instance, if I, I have faith that I'm not going to use anything

956
01:21:27.040 --> 01:21:35.360
to fall asleep and then it gets late and I'm going to get up early and you, I kind of like

957
01:21:35.360 --> 01:21:41.920
to God, Oh, I know I probably would be better to just stay in it and just trust you that

958
01:21:41.920 --> 01:21:46.680
I'm going to be okay with four hours sleep tomorrow. I just don't have the faith for

959
01:21:46.680 --> 01:21:55.240
it. So I'll use this tablet to fall asleep. Yeah. So thank you for providing the principles

960
01:21:55.240 --> 01:22:00.960
by which this works. And then afterwards, the next night I can have faith and all right.

961
01:22:00.960 --> 01:22:04.720
And I have faith. And then I go through the night and I'm fine with four hours sleep the

962
01:22:04.720 --> 01:22:11.880
next morning because sometimes you just don't have the faith and then you just choose some

963
01:22:12.840 --> 01:22:19.480
things. Yeah. Yeah. It's kind of like, kind of like, okay, well God, you know, I don't

964
01:22:19.480 --> 01:22:27.120
believe that you're so good that you are, that you are, uh, that you can help me sleep

965
01:22:27.120 --> 01:22:32.000
without the tablet. So I will, I mean, just because you're having, you're struggling to

966
01:22:32.000 --> 01:22:37.040
have that faith right now, you know, but God, I do believe that you are so good that you

967
01:22:37.040 --> 01:22:46.280
would give me a means by which to make it myself. So you're, so you receive that tablet

968
01:22:46.280 --> 01:22:51.920
as God being good to you. In other words, you're coming to an agreement with him and

969
01:22:51.920 --> 01:22:57.000
his goodness to the degree that you can. It's like, okay, well, I can believe God that you're

970
01:22:57.000 --> 01:23:01.280
good to this degree. I can believe that. I just can't believe that right now. Um, so

971
01:23:01.280 --> 01:23:04.760
while we're working on that Lord, but until then I'm going to receive that as opposed

972
01:23:04.760 --> 01:23:11.240
to taking the tablet because God's not good. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Believing God's good

973
01:23:11.240 --> 01:23:16.840
that this is proof that he's good. Take it as his goodness, as opposed to because he's

974
01:23:16.840 --> 01:23:22.680
not good. You know, that's makes all the difference in the world. God's like, I want you to come

975
01:23:22.680 --> 01:23:29.320
into agreement with me that I am who I say that I am. So to what degree can you do that?

976
01:23:29.640 --> 01:23:35.560
Yeah. So it's not about what we do and don't do. It's are we coming into agreement with God

977
01:23:36.600 --> 01:23:48.360
in doing it? So good. That was very clarifying. Good. You're welcome. Well, I will see you next

978
01:23:48.360 --> 01:23:56.120
week then. And then you let me know if you have any questions and, um, uh, I am going to send you,

979
01:23:56.760 --> 01:24:01.240
um, something. Did I ever send you the little write-up of the practical shifting tools?

980
01:24:03.080 --> 01:24:09.640
Okay. Well, I'm going to post that for you. Um, it's, it's basically the, it's basically session

981
01:24:09.640 --> 01:24:15.320
seven in written form. Oh, so what it is that I just talked about, it's that in written form,

982
01:24:15.320 --> 01:24:20.520
it goes through all of them, you know, no shame, no condemnation, stop, no judgment. I, I, I

983
01:24:20.520 --> 01:24:27.160
explain it all. Yeah. So anyway, I'll post that for you as well. Thank you. And, um, I think we've

984
01:24:27.160 --> 01:24:33.160
had five sessions, but I would love to talk to you next week, but yeah, we'll talk next week.

985
01:24:33.160 --> 01:24:40.120
Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. We'll do it every week. Thank you so much. You're welcome.

986
01:24:42.760 --> 01:24:49.080
I don't know. I don't know how to thank you. I feel really touched. Good. Well, I'm glad I

987
01:24:49.080 --> 01:24:53.480
wanted to ask you, it's like, well, how are things going? Is it, you know,

988
01:24:54.200 --> 01:24:59.800
Oh, I get a little bit emotional. It's, um, the summer, uh, I was a very, very.

989
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:07.240
low point, and physically and mentally. And the only thing I

990
01:25:07.240 --> 01:25:12.320
felt like gave me any life was your teaching.

991
01:25:12.800 --> 01:25:14.760
Oh, really? I'm so glad it was that.

992
01:25:15.960 --> 01:25:19.200
Yeah, it was like, kind of like, and I've grown up in the church,

993
01:25:19.200 --> 01:25:23.680
I've heard tons and tons and tons of teaching in all

994
01:25:23.680 --> 01:25:28.280
directions. Yeah, charismatic, conservative, liberal, all kinds

995
01:25:28.280 --> 01:25:32.640
of things. And also with doctors and shrinks and mental health

996
01:25:32.640 --> 01:25:38.000
and counselors and everything. And just whatever, ever I went,

997
01:25:38.000 --> 01:25:40.880
whether it was news or entertainment, or it was

998
01:25:40.880 --> 01:25:44.400
spiritual, I just felt like there was nothing that really

999
01:25:44.400 --> 01:25:51.720
touched my soul or my spirit. Yeah. And then I found through

1000
01:25:51.960 --> 01:25:56.080
the podcast posture, I found some of your teaching. And I was

1001
01:25:56.080 --> 01:25:59.920
like, there's just something in there that I find life in,

1002
01:26:00.040 --> 01:26:03.160
that's just touching me. And I don't think even I knew what it

1003
01:26:03.160 --> 01:26:06.920
was, because it was so deep. And I'm really close to my parents

1004
01:26:06.920 --> 01:26:10.560
and family, and I couldn't tell them for months. Because it was

1005
01:26:10.560 --> 01:26:14.720
like, so deep in me that I couldn't kind of articulate it.

1006
01:26:14.960 --> 01:26:18.440
Yeah, onto people around me now I can, but at that point, I

1007
01:26:18.440 --> 01:26:22.200
couldn't. Yeah, thing in that that was just like touching

1008
01:26:22.200 --> 01:26:26.200
something really deep in me and kind of giving me hope that I

1009
01:26:26.320 --> 01:26:34.120
let go of because 20 years without being fully healed. Yeah,

1010
01:26:34.600 --> 01:26:39.320
there was just some kind of hope that was lost. And then I'm

1011
01:26:39.320 --> 01:26:43.360
like, maybe I don't have to live this way. Yeah, yeah.

1012
01:26:44.760 --> 01:26:49.240
Exactly. I'm so glad I was really wanting to check in and

1013
01:26:49.240 --> 01:26:52.640
touch base with you and make sure you know, see how you were

1014
01:26:52.640 --> 01:26:55.280
doing and where you were in the process. So you're feeling

1015
01:26:55.520 --> 01:27:00.880
you're feeling the the relief of all of that pressure and

1016
01:27:00.880 --> 01:27:03.760
oppression, you're starting to you're feeling all of that. Okay,

1017
01:27:03.760 --> 01:27:07.360
good. It's just something we continue to walk in. But I'm

1018
01:27:07.360 --> 01:27:11.040
wanting people to already start living it while they're in the

1019
01:27:11.040 --> 01:27:14.080
rest intensive, not like a learn how to do it. And then they're

1020
01:27:14.080 --> 01:27:17.160
off on their own. You know, like, I want to actually walk

1021
01:27:17.160 --> 01:27:21.880
with them through it so that they're actually living it while

1022
01:27:21.880 --> 01:27:25.640
they're in the rest intensive. And then me give them what did

1023
01:27:25.640 --> 01:27:32.760
it give help them own the understand own, own that message

1024
01:27:32.760 --> 01:27:37.560
of rest with their father enough where they know where they know

1025
01:27:37.560 --> 01:27:44.000
without me having to, they know how to continue to live like

1026
01:27:44.000 --> 01:27:48.680
that, and interact like that with the Lord after the rest

1027
01:27:48.680 --> 01:27:52.320
intensive, even when they run into situations that we haven't

1028
01:27:52.320 --> 01:27:56.120
talked about, you know, specifically, like they because

1029
01:27:56.120 --> 01:28:01.080
they understand and they own what it what rest really means

1030
01:28:01.080 --> 01:28:04.600
as opposed to, oh, it's a new set of rules that you follow or

1031
01:28:04.600 --> 01:28:07.520
something. It's like, no, no, it's just, it's a new

1032
01:28:07.520 --> 01:28:11.600
perspective. And it's a choice of having faith in the Lord that

1033
01:28:11.600 --> 01:28:15.200
he really is that good. And then choosing to interact with

1034
01:28:15.200 --> 01:28:20.000
him, according to how good he says that he is and loving and

1035
01:28:20.000 --> 01:28:24.040
all of that. So, so, okay, I'm so glad that it's been helpful.

1036
01:28:24.040 --> 01:28:24.840
So yeah.

1037
01:28:27.960 --> 01:28:30.840
Yeah, I'll talk to you later. I hope you have a good day. You

1038
01:28:30.840 --> 01:28:31.840
too. Bye.