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Okay.

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Hey, hey.

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How are you?

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How are you?

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You were fine.

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I'm still practicing on trying to get good lighting myself in here.

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I think I see, you see that one half of my face.

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It's just all in shadow.

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So my husband is working on getting me a setup in there.

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I said, but has a little bit more work.

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So I'm still in a living room on the couch.

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And then I usually just try to.

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I don't know.

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I don't know what on earth is going on.

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So I am back here at.

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Scratch.

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So back here in my, in my living room, which is very cozy.

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Well, whatever works, right?

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Yeah.

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Yeah, that's right.

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I'm doing good.

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I'm doing good. I feel like.

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I'm just kind of.

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I'm just kind of.

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Just healing, you know, and just letting myself heal and.

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Although like yesterday.

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Since coming home, I've noticed.

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I don't know if it's me trying to grasp for control again.

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But I've noticed like some friction with me and my husband, like,

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I haven't really been doing things and now I'm back and I'm doing

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things. And so we're trying to find.

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Where we each fit now.

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And so I'm, I mean, today I was just trying to.

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I was thinking about, I still have, I can have this.

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A little bit of unrest in me and I'm trying to figure out what that's

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like.

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And I don't really know.

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I don't know if it's because I'm waiting for the biopsy report to

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come back.

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I don't know.

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If it's because there's a little bit of friction with me and my

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husband with.

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Whether it's me trying to grasp for control again.

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That's kind of.

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Yeah, that's kind of where I'm at.

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Something feels unsettled.

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I don't know.

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I don't know if it's because I'm waiting for the biopsy report to

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come back.

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At its destination or something like that. Yeah.

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One of the nice things is that we don't have to know what it is in

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order to be able to just let go, because they're all at,

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at a root level. They're all about, you know,

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believing God.

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Of who he is.

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I was just trying to think about what I was answering,

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what question I was answering when I was referring to the fact that

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maybe it was Kate's.

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It'll let go of the specifics.

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Specifics of the situation of the details.

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And then I just,

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and I just let that go and stop valuing it so much.

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Stop.

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Making it to myself. So important.

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And then I just, you know,

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I'm just trying to think about who is God.

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And, you know, who it, you know, at a root level.

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Coming all the way back to who it is that I am with the Lord.

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You know, my existence.

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Who is God.

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And who am I relative to him? Like, what does he say that I am?

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I don't mean like anything even specific.

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I'm just talking about the basic connection of me and him.

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And then everything went, you know, it's like what.

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I'm just, I'm just, you know,

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I'm trying to think about the things that I'm struggling with.

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And then, you know,

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I realize there is no more separation. I said, exactly.

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If we can all get that, then everything else goes away.

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Because it is the place of rest.

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So if we just go to things like that,

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that we feel are completely irrelevant.

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And disconnected from the specifics of whatever it is that we're

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struggling with.

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If we just spoke it, we feel that it's irrelevant.

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But if we just, if we.

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If we just, if we just, you know,

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if we just let go of what's in front of us.

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You know, in that moment.

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And then re center ourselves for lack of a better phrase.

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shift our consciousness and our intentional choice that that is what

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is important. That is what I'm coming into agreement with.

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Then the other will begin to settle down.

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no pun intended, and then unrest, et cetera.

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It'll stop doing all of that.

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And we don't even know why,

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what it is that had triggered us

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because the root cause of it was dealt with.

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We gave the power to something higher

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and something different and it overpowered.

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And so its power was brought into the situation.

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Its authority was brought into the situation.

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And so that other thing, whatever it is,

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which sometimes we don't know what it is, it'll calm down.

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Or, and then, and it doesn't mean

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that we're out of the same, out of the situation.

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It didn't mean that the situation's resolved.

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It's dealing with our unrest in the situation.

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So like what I was talking to Kate about last night,

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it's not about the pain itself.

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It's about how we go through the pain.

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It's not about avoiding the pain.

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That's not what shifting to rest is about.

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It's not about avoiding it, getting out of it.

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It's about how we actually go through it

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because we're just going to be experiencing pain

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here on earth because we're overcoming it.

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You have to go through it in order to overcome it.

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So it's about how we go through the pain

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and we want to go through it in rest

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because when we go through it in rest,

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that is when something positive can come out of the pain,

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out of the struggle.

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So anyway, so we don't even have to worry

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so about like what it actually is

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and trying to figure it out, et cetera.

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We can actually shift into rest

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without knowing what it is

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and then be in rest in that situation.

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And then when we finally realize what the unrest is,

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like maybe you do this exercise

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and then maybe two hours later,

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something you're triggered by an actual situation

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or something your husband says

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and then all of a sudden something rises in you

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and you're going, oh, that's what it is.

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That's my unrest, that's the control

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or that is the anxiousness or that is the fear

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or that's the, I don't know, just whatever it is.

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Oh, that's what that thing is.

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Or someone brings up the fact

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that y'all are waiting on a report or whatever

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and then all of a sudden something rises up

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and you're going, oh, that's what that is.

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So when you encounter it, you can still be in rest

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and it doesn't mean that you shifting into rest

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makes the situation go away.

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You'll still encounter it later,

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but now you can address it from rest.

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And when you address it through rest,

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you'll have more clarity in the situation.

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That's the only way in which we can operate

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in a situation in power is when we're in rest.

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We do not have God's power over a situation

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unless we're in rest, period.

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Because it's similar to,

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it follows the same principle of the fact

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that you have to move through chaos in rest

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in order for something positive to come out of chaos.

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Chaos being like, you know, even, you know,

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pain or struggle or stress or anxiety

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or chaos as in like actual chaos

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as in like confusion and turmoil or whatever.

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We have to go through chaos and rest

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in order for something to be born.

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That's how things are actually born into the earth

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and manifest is when there's chaos that rest moves through

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and then something can be born from that.

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That's the process of, that's the delivery process

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that God chose.

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Why? I don't know, but that's the way that he does it.

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And it's all, and picture of that obviously

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is how a woman gives birth.

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There's so much pain.

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There's so much stretching.

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There's so much change.

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And there's so much, I don't know, chaos, if you will.

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There's so many things going on.

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And then in her body,

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and then she's now got to deal with it.

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She's now got to deal with the fact

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that her body's doing all of these things on its own.

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And now she's got to learn to just ride it,

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to, you know, move into it and not resist it, et cetera.

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Cause they say that the more that you resist,

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the more that you resist it, the more that it hurts.

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And so they always tell you things like, you know,

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you, you know, that's why they teach you

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the Lamaze breathing.

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That's why they tell you,

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do you release yourself into the pain to ride it, et cetera,

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because it actually,

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the resistance is what creates more pain

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and increases the likeliness of like tearing,

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you know, et cetera.

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They said, you have to let yourself go

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in order for there to be less damage done,

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you know, to the body,

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just let the body do its own thing.

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So that's a picture of what happens in this,

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in the spirit, so to speak, you know,

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the metaphysical or whatever,

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where we've got a particular struggle

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and in order to do the least amount of damage

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and in order for the baby to actually be.

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be born. In other words, in order for the, for something to act positive, to come out

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of the struggle in order for you to bring literally an aspect of heaven manifested into

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the earth in your situation, whether like if, if this issue is about you and your husband,

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you can bring that by going through it and rest, it will manifest an aspect of heaven

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into earth so that, um, and it will birth something into your marriage, bring literally

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something from heaven into earth, into your marriage or whatever other situation it is,

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whether it be about the pathology report, or if it'd be something else you live, that's

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literally how we bring heaven into earth is by going through these situations in rest.

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And that can be done without us even knowing what the situation is. We can just be shifted

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into rest because we're choosing it at a deeper level without even sometimes knowing the details,

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but that's how we bring power into the situation. It's not just enduring. So what it is that

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I teach and talking about the rest intensive and all of that, it's not about enduring.

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It's about actually putting ourselves in a position where we can actually powerfully

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bring heaven into earth. But we do that by letting go. And that is what enables us very

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naturally to bring heaven into earth, which is a powerful position. That's not enduring.

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That's not just buckling down and just riding it through and just hoping you survive on

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the other side. It's actually positioning ourselves, shifting into rest is, is not shifting

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into some kind of, uh, it's, it's not shifting us into neutral where, you know, where there's

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no, there's no progress being made. There's no pause. There's no power that's being brought

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into the situation. We're actually shifting into neutral to allow the power to flow into

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the situation. And that's literally allowed to, by the fact that we're in rest, that's

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what brings it. But it's just not something I've been able to talk much about just because

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we've been focused on other things, you know, in the rest intensive, that's what I decided

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to do is to just have this rest intensive focus on the foundations instead of like too

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much other stuff isn't just gets to be too much, but, um, that's what it is that we're,

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that we are positioning ourselves for is to be able to operate powerfully, not to just

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simply help keep give people coping mechanisms to endure.

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Right. That makes sense. Well, that makes sense. Cause I feel like every trial I've

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gone through in life, it's almost like once I surrender, um, to the Lord, that's always

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when good comes out of it. And I literally be like, haven't come to earth and like other

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people are transformed from my testimony or it's just, yeah. So that makes sense.

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Yeah. And everything happens. So, because it's just very effortlessly who it is that

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we are, that things, when they encounter us, when situations encounter us, when other souls

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encounter us, just us being who it is that we are is what changes things, but we're in

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so much resistance to our natural selves and we keep trying to clothe ourselves like, you

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know, Adam and Eve, I mean, they were naked before the fall.

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And then after the fall, they felt the need to cover. So we're taking these truths and

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we're constantly trying to, you know, these truths of who it is that we are and we're

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using other things to cover us because the truth of who it is that we are exposes us

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very vulnerably. And that exposure, that vulnerable exposure is supposed to be covered by our

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intimacy with the Lord. So it's not a bad thing, but it's just that when we're outside

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of that covering, then we're trying to clothe and self protect. But what we end up doing

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is we're hiding the true essence of ourselves and we're relying on things outside of us.

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And so all we have to do to have that powerful effect on other people, like you're talking

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about is where we remove all of this, these layers of self-protection and all of this

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unbelief, and we just give them who it is that we are. And part of what it is, that

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unbelief, et cetera, is resistance to who it is that we are. Resistance to believing

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the Lord, et cetera. So we have to stop that resistance. In other words, we have to surrender.

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We have to stop holding all these layers on, but we have to let them go, let them fall

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away in order to naturally be able to give who it is that we are to the situation or

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to a soul or to whatever, because it's our natural self that very effortlessly changes

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people. That when it's a manifestation of the Son of God, that creation now responds

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to. Once it sees the Son of God, a choice is required of creation to either come into

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or to go into rebellion. The fig tree went to rebellion, which is why Jesus cursed it.

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It had a will and it could choose. And so Jesus said, because you did not give me fruit,

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because you did not serve a son of God, it's like, you know, I curse you and whatever.

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So it had an opportunity, it had a choice and it made its choice. So other human souls

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can do the same thing. So anyway, but the point is that once it's exposed to a son of

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God, everything now has a choice. So, and it can come into alignment or it can just

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refuse to come into alignment. And if it refuses to come into alignment, God will naturally

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move it out in a way, or he will eventually move you out of the way, depending on the

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situation. So sometimes, you know, if you're trying to, if you're working on a project

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or whatever at a job, and it's just an example and things aren't coming into alignment with

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the kingdom that you're bringing God, if they, if it absolutely refuses to come into

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alignment, because God will give it many, many opportunities, then God will remove you

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from the project. God will either remove the aspects that are refusing to come into alignment.

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He'll either remove them and leave the rest of them that are coming into alignment there

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and leave you there. Or if there's just not enough agreement that is responding to you

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as a son of God and the kingdom that you're bringing, God will remove you and be like,

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they've had their chance. They've had the opportunity. It's that whole principle of

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if they refuse to receive you, then as you leave the town, shake the dust off of your

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feet is that whole thing. It's like, they're given an opportunity, they rejected. So what

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do you do? God removes you. But anyway, I don't know why I went off onto all of that.

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Probably because I was talking to somebody else about it last night on transformation

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session. That makes sense. So something that just came up to me as we were just talking

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about this, and it's probably kind of totally random. And I don't know if this is something

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you talk about in transformation sessions, but I'm going to be vulnerable and bring it

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up. But what about intimacy with my husband in rest? Because that has always been a challenge

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for me. I don't desire intimacy in that way. I feel like my libido was really low. And

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I've had times where I've actually taken, my testosterone was actually, it was tested

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very low. And that's why I started taking testosterone and that actually greatly improved.

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And so, but I don't want to have to do that to be able to enjoy that intimate relationship

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with my husband. Yeah. So you do enjoy it though, when your testosterone levels are

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up. Yes. Okay. Okay. Good. Okay. I was like, so are you saying that you still don't desire

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it, but at least you have a drive or I mean, so, okay. Um, so your question is like, how

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do, how do you do it without the, without all of the medication that you're talking

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about? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Um, well there's multiple things and yes, I do talk about this

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on transformation sessions. I've had, um, I've had these questions and it's so interesting.

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I was helping people with this before I was even married and never experienced it myself.

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So I'm like, Hey, I don't know, Lord, you're just going to have to help me out here. Um,

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but, uh, ended up that the person that specifically this person that had asked me some questions

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about it, I just, you know, just went to the spirit. Okay, Lord, what's the answer? And

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then I, I spoke to them what, um, what it is that I spoke to them about. It was like,

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I could just kind of see it and I'm like, Oh, it's so obvious. This is what it is. And

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they said that they've never, and then they asked me, Oh, that's really good. Okay. I'll

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try that. And then do you have any books or anything that you would recommend? I said,

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I really don't, I know that they're out there, but I don't know what they would be. And so

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I asked them later, I said, so how are y'all in that area? And they said, Oh, we're great.

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Fixed it. They said, they said, I haven't, I haven't even needed to read a book,

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whatever works. I'm so glad it's helpful. So, um, uh, so part of it in actually enjoying

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that is the fact that it's important to understand is, is, is where does this might seem

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that what a man is doing, a man is enjoying a woman's body, but a woman needs to enjoy

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being enjoyed. And that is part of the enjoyment of intimacy is that both the man and the woman

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are enjoying the woman. And I don't mean that the woman is enjoying herself in any kind of like a

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weird perverted kind of a way that people would think of. I'm just talking about the fact that

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she is being enjoyed. And so both she and the, and, you know, her husband.

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are enjoying the woman, enjoying the woman's body.

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She's enjoying being enjoyed.

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It's because it's because she carries so much beauty.

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And that's really what is, is going on.

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Yes.

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In the intimacy in intimacy.

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They're each enjoying each other.

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So the woman's also enjoying the man, but it's not completely fulfilling

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as weird as it sounds for her to just enjoy him.

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And the way that he's enjoying her, in other words, to the same

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degree, it won't quite fulfill.

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And it's because they're both supposed to take an aspect

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of enjoyment in her pleasure.

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And, and, uh, anyway, so partly connect is so connected with that.

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Uh, one of the things that really, really helps enjoying that aspect

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of marriage is, um, is having what's the, what's the phrase?

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Uh, why did it escape me?

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What is that phrase is, um, Oh, it's not sexual confidence.

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It's not the word that that's not the phrase that I'm looking for, but

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that's essentially what it is where one is, that's it, one is

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confident in one's own sexuality.

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So to be confident in, in your own sexuality and the fact that you are

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a sexual being, depending on which teacher that you listen to, I've

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listened to some that believe that that sexuality isn't, is an ass

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is a fifth aspect of our identity.

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I don't remember what the other aspects are, but I've like been walked

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through, Oh, well, you know, there's all of these different aspects

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and these are deep spiritual teachers.

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So it's not just kind of like a psychologist out there somewhere,

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these, um, Christian teachers who say that there are different aspects

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to our identity, and they said that they believe that one of the

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aspects of our identity, our actual identity is our sexuality and know

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that it doesn't have anything necessarily, I don't believe to do

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with gender, but it's, it's a, it's the, our sexuality is a deep

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aspect of who it is that we are.

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And so it's important to receive that aspect of who we are and not to

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reject it, not to think of ourselves as like, you know, especially if you

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grew up, you know, in a Christian home, like I did, we spit in women,

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especially, um, are raised like this more than boys.

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Why?

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I don't really know, but they re girls really in the message that they, um,

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that was given to them began to believe that there's something dirty in

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that they can't enjoy it.

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And it's so deeply entrenched, even though they know that it's not all of

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the messages that they got made them feel like it's, or at least most women

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that I know feel like it's dirty or that there's some that they can't and,

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and to talk, to be very hyper vigilant and aware of our body and covering our

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body, because it can prompt things, meaning like it can prompt, you know,

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guys to look, or it can prompt guys to lust or whatever, depending on who you

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sat under, you know, depends on the intensity of that message.

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But the thing is that, that regardless that, that regardless of which

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denomination that people come from, I have very rarely met any, any woman with

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a healthy view of their own sexuality.

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Um, at least, you know, the way that they came out of the church now,

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hopefully they have like, I've met some that have healed since they've gotten

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married from those bad messages, but there's something so deep down in so

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many women that there's that there's an aspect of themselves that they learn to

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repress and to restrain because they were taught to be so hyper vigilant about how

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they dress and how they looked and what showing and be careful and make sure that

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you're not, you know, in a room alone and make sure that there's a lot of pressure,

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especially to put on the woman of being defensive, defensively, always

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trying to protect herself.

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Um, and, and if there's a way in which, especially if a woman was left unprotected

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that she's gotten onto and just, and then just, um, what's the word?

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Uh, just, uh, really drilled into even harder that she needs to protect herself.

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And sometimes it's even done in such a way as like the father gets mad at the

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daughter or so, or the pastor gets mad or someone gets mad as if, because they're

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so worried about her that instead of expressing it in, in love and concern,

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they're loving, you know,

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and compassion and kindness and gentleness, their love comes across as anger.

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So she just like, um, she internalizes this is I'm bad.

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And so in, in all of her connections of protecting herself always seem

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to be in association with evil, bad things happening or bad things that

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could happen, or don't you know, or don't you know that guys have these problems.

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And, and women are just subconsciously start burying this and feeling that

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they're somehow responsible for it.

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And, and because all of this, all of the messages are, are conveyed to them.

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In connection with negative scenarios, they tend to that the negative

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emotion seems to always be associated.

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So consciously associated with that subject or those feelings within her.

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And then so naturally she's going to have a hard time enjoying it.

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If she's never fully accepted that part of herself, um, because it always made,

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it was always a part of herself that whenever it was talked about or connected

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with, it was, um, it brought people talked about it in fear, people talked

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about it in anger, people talked about it, whatever.

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So, um, so it's important to be confident in one's own sexuality, to

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know that one has a sexuality to enjoy it for, you know, for it to enjoy that

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aspect of oneself, to completely accept it deep down for what it is.

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And, um, and then, and to be confident in it, um, which I know can sound

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really strange and be a big, big stretch, but to be confident in it will

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then allow them to enjoy having sex, um, more often and, um, because it's

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not, it, they're, they're, they're owning an enjoyment of it for themselves.

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They're owning themselves in the act.

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They're owning themselves in the, in the connection, like they

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have a valuable contribution.

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And the valuable contribution is not being available, the valuable

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content or being wanted.

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The valuable contribution is an aspect of her sexuality to connect with that

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has, that can give something to, to the situation.

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Um, but anyway, that can only, we can only give something if we've, you

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know, like what we've been talking about, you know, give something unless

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if we've owned it for ourselves first, you know, completely separate of our

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husband, and again, I'm not talking about anything perverted, but I'm

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going to accepting that who it is that we are and, um, and accepting that

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aspect of ourselves, similar to the idea of losing how I've been talking to

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people, like I did a video on losing weight and, um, and how, how we have to,

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and it's the same thing with like any other aspect of ourselves in which we

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need healing, like inner healing or whatever in order for us to feel safe

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enough to change, we have to accept ourselves completely and totally where

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it is that we are the way that we are without requiring ourselves to change.

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So we have to fully accept her body.

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If someone's wanting to lose weight, they had to fully accept their body

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exactly as it is without ever requiring it to change now or in the future.

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And then as soon as the body realizes that it really is received where

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it is without having to change.

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So in other words, unconditionally, then it feels safe enough to change

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because it wasn't meant to carry that weight.

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It wasn't meant to, to be so unhealthy.

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That's not how God created a body to be.

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That's very unnatural for it to do what it is that it's doing.

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So it starts to feel safe enough to revert back to its natural state,

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its natural tendency, its natural function.

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And so it's the same thing with other areas of our life or with other people

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is that other, other people that we interact with or ourselves will not feel

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safe enough to change unless they are fully and totally accepted exactly where

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it is that they are the way that it is without ever requiring it to change.

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So that same thing with our, with our sexuality is to fully

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embrace it for whatever it is.

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It will then allow it to, you know, be free.

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And that's what, that's what, that's what it needs.

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We need to fully love and accept that part of ourselves and not rejected

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anymore is something that needs to be restrained is something that needs to

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be vigilantly kept an eye on or something like that to make it feel bad because

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it naturally wants to follow the Lord.

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And it naturally has something very powerful because spiritually

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something happens very powerfully.

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Something happens very powerfully in the spirit.

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When a man and a woman come together, even the non-believers know this, which.

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is why there are all kinds of orgies, uh, around, uh, religious, um, uh, religious,

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like, uh, what, what's the word?

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I don't know.

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Just, just different.

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Uh, it's not events.

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Yes.

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Like rituals or whatever, um, that are, that are around, uh, sexual

466
00:30:20.840 --> 00:30:25.320
orgies because they are aware of the power of what happens in the

467
00:30:25.320 --> 00:30:27.480
spirit realm when they do it.

468
00:30:27.900 --> 00:30:28.980
And so that's why I like that.

469
00:30:28.980 --> 00:30:32.460
There's satanic rituals that, that always use it, et cetera, because

470
00:30:32.460 --> 00:30:34.500
it's, it's spiritually very powerful.

471
00:30:34.500 --> 00:30:38.260
So it's very powerful and the positive and Christian realm as well.

472
00:30:38.660 --> 00:30:43.540
And, um, anyway, in order for it to be the, in order for us to fully be able

473
00:30:43.540 --> 00:30:47.940
to experience the power that it is, well, then we have to actually

474
00:30:47.940 --> 00:30:50.020
bring ourselves to the table too.

475
00:30:51.220 --> 00:30:51.580
Right.

476
00:30:51.700 --> 00:30:56.260
Not just that kind of reminds me of, and we need to receive God's love.

477
00:30:56.840 --> 00:31:00.720
Like, you know, it's the, it's the same to me.

478
00:31:00.720 --> 00:31:08.400
It's similar to allowing my husband to enjoy me and just like allowing the

479
00:31:08.400 --> 00:31:12.280
Lord to me and love me and yeah.

480
00:31:12.520 --> 00:31:12.760
Yeah.

481
00:31:12.760 --> 00:31:13.640
Cause so that's it.

482
00:31:13.760 --> 00:31:16.960
And, um, I mean, that's what guys are just saying all the time.

483
00:31:16.960 --> 00:31:18.200
They're just like, what do you want?

484
00:31:18.720 --> 00:31:19.400
You know, what do you want?

485
00:31:19.560 --> 00:31:23.080
I mean, whether it's in this area or some other just like, just tell me what you

486
00:31:23.180 --> 00:31:23.340
want.

487
00:31:24.260 --> 00:31:30.020
Um, and because they just want us to, they, a man, one women are the same way,

488
00:31:30.500 --> 00:31:36.260
but a man wants to be able to give of himself to a woman and for a woman to

489
00:31:36.260 --> 00:31:41.660
receive it, he wants to know that that's what makes him feel safe with her is if

490
00:31:41.660 --> 00:31:46.500
she receives whatever of himself that he offers, that's what makes him feel like

491
00:31:46.500 --> 00:31:51.460
a man, so it makes us, uh, his masculinity, his sense of masculinity,

492
00:31:51.460 --> 00:31:52.620
increased, et cetera.

493
00:31:53.100 --> 00:31:58.220
Um, makes him feel, uh, it gives, it satisfies him sexually because there's

494
00:31:58.220 --> 00:31:59.980
more than just the physical that's going on.

495
00:31:59.980 --> 00:32:01.740
There's all kinds of other stuff that's going on as well.

496
00:32:02.260 --> 00:32:08.340
And that's what gives him a sense that, um, uh, uh, satisfaction in all of it is

497
00:32:08.340 --> 00:32:14.540
he feels like it's received, like what it is he's trying to give of himself, even

498
00:32:14.540 --> 00:32:19.780
like what he's trying to give to her so that she feels pleasure that's received,

499
00:32:20.260 --> 00:32:22.860
you know, fully appreciated and fully enjoyed and whatever.

500
00:32:23.100 --> 00:32:25.180
It's just, it gets so excited.

501
00:32:25.580 --> 00:32:25.940
Yeah.

502
00:32:26.100 --> 00:32:26.500
Yeah.

503
00:32:27.700 --> 00:32:30.340
Well, that makes me think about maybe that's where some of our friction is coming

504
00:32:30.340 --> 00:32:35.940
from because he's wanting to give me rest and he's wanting to take over so many

505
00:32:35.940 --> 00:32:39.620
things and I'm jumping in and I'm trying to do these things.

506
00:32:40.300 --> 00:32:42.100
I don't think he's giving us enough.

507
00:32:42.420 --> 00:32:42.900
Yeah.

508
00:32:43.020 --> 00:32:43.300
Yeah.

509
00:32:43.480 --> 00:32:45.500
I mean, this is how he's interpreting it.

510
00:32:45.500 --> 00:32:51.220
It's like, well, so yeah, what I'm being, what I'm offering isn't sufficient.

511
00:32:51.480 --> 00:32:53.080
Um, yeah, I know.

512
00:32:53.440 --> 00:32:53.640
Yeah.

513
00:32:53.640 --> 00:32:55.960
My husband, I run into that periodically with Stephanie.

514
00:32:55.960 --> 00:32:58.320
It's kind of like, no, that's not what I'm saying.

515
00:32:58.360 --> 00:32:59.200
I'm very appreciative.

516
00:32:59.240 --> 00:33:00.880
He was like, but that is what I hear.

517
00:33:01.360 --> 00:33:04.200
I hear that what I'm offering isn't enough.

518
00:33:04.960 --> 00:33:08.080
So anyway, yes.

519
00:33:08.080 --> 00:33:09.160
Marriage relationships.

520
00:33:10.800 --> 00:33:11.440
I know.

521
00:33:12.240 --> 00:33:12.800
Anyway.

522
00:33:13.160 --> 00:33:18.960
Um, so hopefully that was, hopefully that was helpful, but, um, I even

523
00:33:18.960 --> 00:33:23.180
actually gave you more than I believe that I gave, um, that other person

524
00:33:23.180 --> 00:33:27.340
I was thinking of and that the thing that helped the other, the other

525
00:33:27.340 --> 00:33:36.020
person and not, um, the most was that whole aspect of, of, um, being

526
00:33:36.020 --> 00:33:38.500
confident in her own sexuality.

527
00:33:39.100 --> 00:33:39.860
That was big.

528
00:33:40.020 --> 00:33:45.740
That was a huge shift for her because she knew she'd always been taught

529
00:33:45.740 --> 00:33:48.060
that you have to just be available.

530
00:33:48.360 --> 00:33:52.680
You have to submit, you know, you can't deny, you know, I mean,

531
00:33:52.720 --> 00:33:54.320
like that's how she was taught.

532
00:33:54.840 --> 00:34:00.000
And, uh, so basically I was just telling her, you know, you've, you've got to,

533
00:34:00.120 --> 00:34:07.280
you've got to know and choose that you yourself as a sexual being are, um,

534
00:34:07.320 --> 00:34:12.000
are important, are valuable, are significant, have a contribution, and

535
00:34:12.000 --> 00:34:17.000
you need to enjoy your, that aspect of yourself.

536
00:34:17.699 --> 00:34:19.699
And you need to be confident in it.

537
00:34:19.780 --> 00:34:24.460
In other words, you need to fully accept it for what it is, not accept it as an

538
00:34:24.460 --> 00:34:28.179
endure and just kind of like, well, I'll put up with you and it'll be fully

539
00:34:28.179 --> 00:34:32.300
embracing and owning of what that thing is and offer it.

540
00:34:32.500 --> 00:34:33.659
And it's really hard.

541
00:34:33.860 --> 00:34:37.300
It's really hard to accept that part of yourself, of ourselves sometimes.

542
00:34:37.300 --> 00:34:44.620
And it's also very hard to, um, uh, if it's hard to vulnerably offer it, you

543
00:34:44.620 --> 00:34:50.159
know, and to initiate or anything like that, but it is, like I said, it's just,

544
00:34:50.239 --> 00:34:53.360
it's very powerful and, um, but yeah.

545
00:34:53.520 --> 00:34:59.480
And then also I told, I had also told her that it's very important to initiate.

546
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:10.840
times to be confident enough in one's in sexuality to that, that you have something valuable

547
00:35:10.840 --> 00:35:18.120
to actually offer that they have the privilege and the gift that you were giving to them

548
00:35:18.120 --> 00:35:21.520
of getting to receive you.

549
00:35:21.520 --> 00:35:26.280
So in women and men, usually the ones who are, who are offering themselves, but if a

550
00:35:26.280 --> 00:35:31.840
woman does that periodically, you know, that, that helps as well, that greatly helps the

551
00:35:31.840 --> 00:35:37.880
increase the desire, increase the fact that he feels loved, you know, that kind of a thing.

552
00:35:37.880 --> 00:35:38.880
Right.

553
00:35:38.880 --> 00:35:39.880
Right.

554
00:35:39.880 --> 00:35:40.880
Okay.

555
00:35:40.880 --> 00:35:45.120
Well, cause I noticed when I, like when I was taking testosterone, I noticed that like

556
00:35:45.120 --> 00:35:47.560
I had that sexual confidence.

557
00:35:47.560 --> 00:35:49.840
It just like was now, it like just came.

558
00:35:49.840 --> 00:35:50.840
And when was that?

559
00:35:50.840 --> 00:35:51.840
I'm sorry.

560
00:35:51.840 --> 00:35:57.200
I had the sexual confidence that you're talking about when I was taking testosterone.

561
00:35:57.200 --> 00:35:58.200
Oh, that.

562
00:35:58.200 --> 00:35:59.200
Okay.

563
00:35:59.200 --> 00:36:00.200
Got it.

564
00:36:00.200 --> 00:36:01.200
Yes.

565
00:36:01.200 --> 00:36:02.200
And so I know what that's like.

566
00:36:02.200 --> 00:36:03.200
Yeah.

567
00:36:03.200 --> 00:36:10.000
And so now that you're speaking about it, it's like, I don't need to have my libido

568
00:36:10.000 --> 00:36:21.800
sky high in order to still have that, to have the, yeah, yeah, yeah, spiritual root, right.

569
00:36:22.760 --> 00:36:28.080
Now, obviously that's not, we're not denying hormones and how they're working and all of

570
00:36:28.080 --> 00:36:29.080
that.

571
00:36:29.080 --> 00:36:32.320
So it's always important to work with, you know, with our body and what it is that it

572
00:36:32.320 --> 00:36:38.640
needs and all of that, but we're not, there's more than that's going on than just the hormones.

573
00:36:38.640 --> 00:36:45.840
And we can choose to come into agreement with something that has higher power than the hormones

574
00:36:45.840 --> 00:36:46.840
do.

575
00:36:46.840 --> 00:36:51.440
And then the hormones can eventually sometimes, you know, come into alignment sometimes without

576
00:36:51.600 --> 00:36:52.600
the medication.

577
00:36:52.600 --> 00:36:53.600
Right.

578
00:36:53.600 --> 00:36:54.600
Yeah.

579
00:36:54.600 --> 00:36:55.600
Yeah.

580
00:36:55.600 --> 00:37:03.320
So another question I have is, do you have like a specific, like meditation and morning

581
00:37:03.320 --> 00:37:04.640
routine that you do?

582
00:37:04.640 --> 00:37:07.920
I know everyone's going to be different, but I was just kind of curious.

583
00:37:07.920 --> 00:37:17.720
I don't, I love, I have historically loved routines, but no, I don't have anything specific

584
00:37:17.720 --> 00:37:19.120
that I do.

585
00:37:19.200 --> 00:37:27.600
Sometimes my husband and I will, I'll have, let him have his time and I'll have my time

586
00:37:27.600 --> 00:37:28.840
with the Lord.

587
00:37:28.840 --> 00:37:33.440
And then, and then we join together and then we do pray together.

588
00:37:33.440 --> 00:37:38.840
And we've been, and so that's very new for us just being married, you know, I don't even

589
00:37:38.840 --> 00:37:42.520
think five months, we're on our fifth month.

590
00:37:42.520 --> 00:37:49.800
And we've been told that it's extremely vital and important, not just to pray together,

591
00:37:49.800 --> 00:37:54.960
but to actually come into agreement with things together.

592
00:37:54.960 --> 00:38:01.440
And in order to watch those things be fulfilled into our lives, because it's when two or more

593
00:38:01.440 --> 00:38:06.360
gather, you know, and the Lord is there and when two or more come into agreement.

594
00:38:06.360 --> 00:38:12.120
And so we've been told that that is extremely important for us to do, to come into agreement

595
00:38:12.720 --> 00:38:15.400
with what it is that we're bringing before the Lord and whatever.

596
00:38:15.400 --> 00:38:21.280
And so anyway, so we're doing that, but we don't do it every single morning, but if we

597
00:38:21.280 --> 00:38:23.800
have any kind of routine, that would be it.

598
00:38:23.800 --> 00:38:24.800
Okay.

599
00:38:24.800 --> 00:38:25.800
So yeah.

600
00:38:25.800 --> 00:38:30.600
Do you feel like since you've kind of worked on living from God's rest, do you feel like

601
00:38:30.600 --> 00:38:37.120
the routines have kind of went away or did you used to have more strict routines?

602
00:38:37.120 --> 00:38:40.120
I'm trying to think.

603
00:38:40.120 --> 00:38:44.720
No, I've really, it was kind of, I don't know.

604
00:38:44.720 --> 00:38:51.800
I love, I love routines, but I don't like them when they start feeling restricting.

605
00:38:51.800 --> 00:38:52.800
Yeah.

606
00:38:52.800 --> 00:38:54.960
I don't know how to describe that for me.

607
00:38:54.960 --> 00:38:55.960
I love routines.

608
00:38:55.960 --> 00:38:57.960
I do not find them restricting.

609
00:38:57.960 --> 00:39:02.880
I find them actually liberating because for one thing they're familiar.

610
00:39:02.880 --> 00:39:08.440
And so they bring comfort and especially if it's a type of routine that I just really

611
00:39:08.440 --> 00:39:09.440
enjoy.

612
00:39:09.760 --> 00:39:13.800
So I'm drinking my tea in the morning, which normally I don't, I'm drinking tea now, but

613
00:39:13.800 --> 00:39:15.280
normally I drink coffee in the morning.

614
00:39:15.280 --> 00:39:17.720
So I've got certain things that I can expect.

615
00:39:17.720 --> 00:39:18.720
Okay.

616
00:39:18.720 --> 00:39:22.320
I'm going to have this coffee in the morning and it's, it's, and I do two cuts.

617
00:39:22.320 --> 00:39:23.320
Why?

618
00:39:23.320 --> 00:39:24.320
Because that's what I do.

619
00:39:24.320 --> 00:39:29.560
And then, so there's an aspect of it that I find comforting in routines, but whenever

620
00:39:29.560 --> 00:39:36.200
I start following a routine or have been following it for a while and I start to resent it and

621
00:39:36.200 --> 00:39:42.720
I start to stop looking forward to it, well, that's when, that's when I'm like, well, this

622
00:39:42.720 --> 00:39:44.120
thing is for the birds.

623
00:39:44.120 --> 00:39:46.880
And then I stopped doing the routine.

624
00:39:46.880 --> 00:39:51.320
So, but generally I like routines because they also free up my mind.

625
00:39:51.320 --> 00:39:55.440
So I don't, I have fewer decisions I have to make.

626
00:39:55.440 --> 00:39:58.200
I just tell myself, well, this is what I'm going to do.

627
00:39:58.200 --> 00:40:00.080
And so if I create a routine for it.

628
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:03.720
it, well, then I can just slide into the routine and I don't have to be

629
00:40:03.720 --> 00:40:08.280
questioning what I'm going to be doing during such and such time of the day.

630
00:40:08.280 --> 00:40:08.920
I already know.

631
00:40:09.400 --> 00:40:09.720
Yeah.

632
00:40:09.800 --> 00:40:14.240
And for me, it's so, like I said, I, I love routines, but only if they're

633
00:40:14.240 --> 00:40:17.960
liberating and comforting, if they start.

634
00:40:18.360 --> 00:40:24.080
So anything that isn't, that just doesn't, you know, then yeah, I just like.

635
00:40:24.760 --> 00:40:25.320
Forget about it.

636
00:40:25.320 --> 00:40:29.320
So it really doesn't have, I mean, it is connected to rest, I suppose,

637
00:40:29.320 --> 00:40:33.760
but it's not the having of routines is when I was in unrest and the not

638
00:40:33.760 --> 00:40:35.520
having routines is when I was in rest.

639
00:40:35.840 --> 00:40:40.720
It's just that how I interact with the routines is different based on,

640
00:40:41.120 --> 00:40:44.480
um, based on the fact that I, I now want to operate in rest.

641
00:40:44.720 --> 00:40:50.600
So when is the routine working with me when I'm resting?

642
00:40:50.920 --> 00:40:55.720
And then when, when is it like, you know, in unrest and then

643
00:40:55.720 --> 00:40:56.600
I don't want to be part of it.

644
00:40:57.320 --> 00:40:57.640
Yeah.

645
00:40:58.760 --> 00:40:59.160
Okay.

646
00:41:00.240 --> 00:41:01.080
No, that makes sense.

647
00:41:01.280 --> 00:41:03.120
So it's like a tool, like anything else.

648
00:41:03.160 --> 00:41:05.960
It's like, I still use it, but it's just how I use it.

649
00:41:06.040 --> 00:41:09.840
And if I can use it correctly in rest, well, then I use it.

650
00:41:09.920 --> 00:41:12.040
And if I can't, then I don't.

651
00:41:13.080 --> 00:41:13.480
Right.

652
00:41:14.920 --> 00:41:15.400
Okay.

653
00:41:15.720 --> 00:41:16.400
That makes sense.

654
00:41:18.120 --> 00:41:20.000
So what about you with routines?

655
00:41:20.000 --> 00:41:22.520
How do you, do you, are you very regimented person?

656
00:41:23.480 --> 00:41:25.400
Um, I think it's similar to you.

657
00:41:25.440 --> 00:41:27.920
I like routines, but once they feel burdensome.

658
00:41:28.600 --> 00:41:29.800
I like throw them out the window.

659
00:41:29.800 --> 00:41:35.160
Cause I like I'm into a place like now, like since my

660
00:41:35.160 --> 00:41:36.920
routines have completely changed.

661
00:41:37.560 --> 00:41:38.040
Yeah.

662
00:41:38.520 --> 00:41:42.560
So I used to do certain therapies for my, for cancer, um, in the

663
00:41:42.560 --> 00:41:44.200
morning and now I don't have those.

664
00:41:44.720 --> 00:41:47.120
And I'm kind of like left, like, okay, I need, I feel like

665
00:41:47.120 --> 00:41:48.280
I need to start something.

666
00:41:49.120 --> 00:41:49.840
Interesting.

667
00:41:50.360 --> 00:41:54.840
Like, like I want to, like I want, but I don't know what that is.

668
00:41:55.400 --> 00:41:55.800
Yeah.

669
00:41:56.480 --> 00:41:56.960
Yeah.

670
00:41:57.560 --> 00:42:07.240
Um, so for me, what I always love is if I can do something for myself

671
00:42:07.240 --> 00:42:09.960
in the morning and by that, no, I'm not talking about self care.

672
00:42:10.480 --> 00:42:13.680
I'm talking about this whole aspect of that.

673
00:42:13.680 --> 00:42:16.040
I keep referring to as like choosing oneself.

674
00:42:16.360 --> 00:42:21.600
In other words, valuing me and loving on me and spending time on me.

675
00:42:21.600 --> 00:42:28.880
So for me, I love, I love, um, quiet and I love, um, being able to be alone

676
00:42:28.880 --> 00:42:33.680
with my own thoughts and I love, you know, drinking tea and then sometimes,

677
00:42:33.680 --> 00:42:37.240
you know, it'll be, I'll go through seasons where I'll love like

678
00:42:37.240 --> 00:42:38.760
eating peanut butter toast every day.

679
00:42:39.200 --> 00:42:44.760
And so I get so excited looking forward every day to, I'm going to have my tea

680
00:42:45.040 --> 00:42:48.800
and my peanut butter toast, and I've got a routine of like how I'm going to make it.

681
00:42:48.800 --> 00:42:53.600
And then I can do it in quiet and, and that is something that's basically me

682
00:42:53.600 --> 00:42:54.760
just giving myself something.

683
00:42:54.760 --> 00:42:56.880
I just love, I love to do.

684
00:42:57.120 --> 00:42:58.320
I love the process.

685
00:42:58.560 --> 00:43:01.480
And basically I'm just allowing myself to enjoy me.

686
00:43:02.040 --> 00:43:03.960
What is something that I enjoy doing?

687
00:43:03.960 --> 00:43:07.560
That gives me, brings me life while I'm doing it.

688
00:43:07.920 --> 00:43:11.600
That's me expressing who it is that I am out into the earth.

689
00:43:12.680 --> 00:43:14.880
And, and then I just allow myself to do that.

690
00:43:14.880 --> 00:43:17.080
Allow myself to express myself.

691
00:43:17.440 --> 00:43:23.760
And, and I, so I, I, so to speak, I connect with that first thing, um, in the morning.

692
00:43:24.040 --> 00:43:30.480
Now, I don't mean like apart from God, because in the, because I, I just, um, a

693
00:43:30.480 --> 00:43:36.520
lot of times my times with the Lord, um, and I'm sure that this season will change,

694
00:43:36.760 --> 00:43:41.280
but for the past long while, my, my times with the Lord just aren't regimented.

695
00:43:41.280 --> 00:43:46.360
They're not, it's like, I just take them into whatever it is that I'm currently

696
00:43:46.960 --> 00:43:49.760
It's like, well, he and I are living this together and he and I are doing this

697
00:43:49.760 --> 00:43:53.200
together, so Lord, you're with me right now, we are doing this.

698
00:43:53.680 --> 00:43:56.320
So what's the next decision that we should make?

699
00:43:56.920 --> 00:44:00.440
And what, how do you feel about what it is that they just said about us?

700
00:44:00.680 --> 00:44:02.720
You know, and I don't know, just whatever.

701
00:44:02.720 --> 00:44:07.480
So I just used, I just bring them into whatever it is that I'm doing as opposed

702
00:44:07.480 --> 00:44:09.640
to, okay, well now I'm going to focus on me.

703
00:44:09.960 --> 00:44:11.480
Now I'm going to focus on the Lord.

704
00:44:12.040 --> 00:44:16.720
The whole thing of like choosing me is choosing the fact that if God says I'm

705
00:44:16.720 --> 00:44:19.280
valuable, I'm going to come into agreement with that.

706
00:44:19.880 --> 00:44:21.360
So who does he say that I am?

707
00:44:21.360 --> 00:44:26.560
And that's what I'm going to receive myself as first thing in the morning.

708
00:44:26.920 --> 00:44:28.240
It's what I'm going to reconnect with.

709
00:44:28.800 --> 00:44:31.320
It's almost like getting, getting back into my body.

710
00:44:31.320 --> 00:44:35.280
That's what I think sometimes the new wagers refer to it as is instead of being

711
00:44:35.280 --> 00:44:39.560
so cerebral and be thinking about things or being very aware of what's going on

712
00:44:39.560 --> 00:44:43.320
out here and what you're about to say and the environments that you're in and

713
00:44:43.320 --> 00:44:47.040
how they could respond and dah, dah, dah, dah, instead of being out here so much

714
00:44:47.280 --> 00:44:50.880
or in your head, they'll say, they'll say either they'll say, come back into

715
00:44:50.880 --> 00:44:53.880
your body or they'll, they'll say, drop down into your body.

716
00:44:54.280 --> 00:44:55.400
And it's that same idea.

717
00:44:55.400 --> 00:44:59.800
It's like, come back to an awareness of who it is that you are and then begin to

718
00:44:59.800 --> 00:45:00.080
offer.

719
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:04.640
break from that place. And so that's what I like to do first

720
00:45:04.640 --> 00:45:08.160
thing in the morning is to reconnect with is to come into

721
00:45:08.160 --> 00:45:12.880
my body so that if for as weird as that sounds, and in order to

722
00:45:12.920 --> 00:45:16.440
then live from that place in order to make the decisions from

723
00:45:16.440 --> 00:45:20.200
that place in order to be able to give God my will in order to

724
00:45:20.640 --> 00:45:24.000
contribute to, you know, when the Lord and I co counsel

725
00:45:24.000 --> 00:45:26.120
together about what we're going to do, what decision we're going

726
00:45:26.120 --> 00:45:29.240
to make, or what sounds fun, or if I'm trying to listen to his

727
00:45:29.240 --> 00:45:32.840
heart, or what are you saying? And what is it that you want? I

728
00:45:32.840 --> 00:45:36.720
need to be bringing my own self to the table. I need to actually

729
00:45:36.760 --> 00:45:40.640
in so how can I do that? If from the first moment that I wake up,

730
00:45:41.240 --> 00:45:44.280
I'm not connected with me, I'm always just thinking about,

731
00:45:44.760 --> 00:45:48.040
okay, where's everybody? What do they need? What do I need to do?

732
00:45:48.040 --> 00:45:51.440
And I just make all of this stuff out here happen. But I'm

733
00:45:51.440 --> 00:45:56.200
not aware of and connected with me yet to be able to give me to

734
00:45:56.720 --> 00:45:59.320
everyone, because when everyone needs something, what it is that

735
00:45:59.320 --> 00:46:03.440
they need is they need me not what I can do for them. It's

736
00:46:03.440 --> 00:46:06.600
including if the kids need cereal, what they need is they

737
00:46:06.600 --> 00:46:12.640
need me, not me giving them cereal. So when I have me to

738
00:46:12.640 --> 00:46:15.440
give, how do I want to handle this situation? Okay, well,

739
00:46:15.440 --> 00:46:18.720
then I'll go get cereal. But the way of doing it is in the

740
00:46:18.720 --> 00:46:21.640
spirit, what's happening is because I chose me first, and

741
00:46:21.640 --> 00:46:25.840
I'm offering me, and then me decides to go to cereal or

742
00:46:25.840 --> 00:46:28.360
whatever, not like this thing just outside of myself, oh, my

743
00:46:28.360 --> 00:46:31.600
word, I need to accomplish all this. But when I'm doing it, it

744
00:46:31.600 --> 00:46:34.560
brings life to this situation. And spiritually, there ends up

745
00:46:34.560 --> 00:46:37.800
being a connection between me and the other person. So it's

746
00:46:37.800 --> 00:46:41.680
just, it's just spiritually, it just changes environments, it

747
00:46:41.680 --> 00:46:46.000
changes situations when you bring yourself there. And you

748
00:46:46.000 --> 00:46:49.640
add your weight to the room. Right? Yeah.

749
00:46:51.040 --> 00:46:53.800
That makes total sense. And that's, yeah, and I've

750
00:46:53.840 --> 00:46:56.600
experienced the same thing. And on those days that I do take

751
00:46:56.600 --> 00:46:59.640
that time in the morning before I go downstairs with the kids

752
00:46:59.680 --> 00:47:03.840
and my husband, it's just a completely different, usually

753
00:47:03.840 --> 00:47:06.360
completely different atmosphere. So that makes sense.

754
00:47:06.440 --> 00:47:09.800
Yeah, that's interesting. But it's hard, because we're taught

755
00:47:09.800 --> 00:47:13.120
that we'll, we're only as good as how helpful we're being.

756
00:47:13.800 --> 00:47:14.800
Yeah, right.

757
00:47:16.120 --> 00:47:19.520
It's just not true. We have to choose no, what it what they all

758
00:47:19.520 --> 00:47:25.320
need is me. And so they will all, you know, they can, they

759
00:47:25.320 --> 00:47:29.640
can wait for just a second. Let me get me so I can give him me.

760
00:47:29.880 --> 00:47:32.240
And the same thing, you know, with it, we're the ones who

761
00:47:32.240 --> 00:47:36.960
dictate the spiritual, the spiritual environment that has

762
00:47:36.960 --> 00:47:41.360
the authority in our home, with our kids, in the physical, in

763
00:47:41.360 --> 00:47:44.560
the physical space, in our marriage, whatever, we're the

764
00:47:44.560 --> 00:47:49.320
ones who give the spiritual authority that has preeminence,

765
00:47:49.320 --> 00:47:55.240
we're the ones who give it that authority. And so we need to it

766
00:47:55.240 --> 00:47:59.360
and the spiritual authority responds to who it is that we're

767
00:47:59.360 --> 00:48:02.440
declaring that we are, are we declaring that we're a son of

768
00:48:02.440 --> 00:48:06.240
God, then it will respond to us like that, if we're saying no,

769
00:48:06.320 --> 00:48:09.040
no, I'm not that I don't believe that I'm that then it'll respond

770
00:48:09.040 --> 00:48:13.520
to that. So anyway, we're the ones who dictate it. So my point

771
00:48:13.520 --> 00:48:18.720
is that we really do have to, I was, I was talking to somebody

772
00:48:18.720 --> 00:48:21.600
else about this the other day, it's like, you really do have

773
00:48:21.600 --> 00:48:25.640
to, I always seem to be coming back to this recently, it must

774
00:48:25.640 --> 00:48:28.280
be a theme in this in this particular rest intensive, but

775
00:48:28.680 --> 00:48:33.160
you have to own yourself to be able and remember who it is that

776
00:48:33.160 --> 00:48:36.600
you are and choose. No, I am a son of God, I am in the position

777
00:48:36.600 --> 00:48:39.880
of power and authority that God put me in. So Lord standing in

778
00:48:39.880 --> 00:48:42.240
the position of power and authority at being one with

779
00:48:42.240 --> 00:48:46.480
Christ. From that perspective, I will now operate, I will now

780
00:48:46.480 --> 00:48:49.560
make decisions, I will now whatever, why does that gonna

781
00:48:49.560 --> 00:48:53.040
happen? Because I said, so me and the power and the authority

782
00:48:53.040 --> 00:48:57.160
that that I have been one with Christ, hearing his heart as

783
00:48:57.160 --> 00:49:01.920
having co counsels, I've heard what he's decided. And he

784
00:49:01.920 --> 00:49:05.960
allowed me to, you know, make my contribution. Sometimes we're

785
00:49:05.960 --> 00:49:08.400
going to go with my contribution, but more often than

786
00:49:08.400 --> 00:49:11.880
not, was just his contribution. You know, because he's more

787
00:49:11.880 --> 00:49:15.280
reflective of his character than I am sometimes. And there's

788
00:49:15.520 --> 00:49:18.520
and but then we decide that is what is going to have the

789
00:49:18.520 --> 00:49:22.400
authority in my kingdom, in my world. And but we're the ones

790
00:49:22.400 --> 00:49:25.560
who have to bring it in. And if we don't bring it in, all

791
00:49:25.560 --> 00:49:29.000
creation will be in chaos because it has no king. Right?

792
00:49:29.000 --> 00:49:32.720
So the king has to show up every day. So yeah.

793
00:49:34.720 --> 00:49:39.280
Yes, you know, that gave me a lot to think about. And how I

794
00:49:39.280 --> 00:49:44.120
show up. And how somebody sometimes I feel like I'm, I'm

795
00:49:44.120 --> 00:49:48.720
living in my power and able to set boundaries with love. Yeah.

796
00:49:48.720 --> 00:49:52.120
And other days, I feel like I'm a victim and my kids are like

797
00:49:52.120 --> 00:49:55.600
walking all over me. And yeah, and that kind of gave me a

798
00:49:55.600 --> 00:49:59.200
picture of why? Why?

799
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:01.000
Yeah.

800
00:50:01.000 --> 00:50:02.000
Yeah.

801
00:50:02.000 --> 00:50:03.000
Yeah.

802
00:50:03.000 --> 00:50:07.600
So anyway, it's, it's hard to remember in the moments that, uh, you know, especially

803
00:50:07.600 --> 00:50:10.480
like if you're feeling like your kids are walking all over you and everything, it's

804
00:50:10.480 --> 00:50:12.040
really hard to remember in those moments.

805
00:50:12.040 --> 00:50:13.040
Oh, that's right.

806
00:50:13.040 --> 00:50:14.440
Who has the authority in the home?

807
00:50:14.440 --> 00:50:15.440
I do.

808
00:50:15.440 --> 00:50:16.440
Why?

809
00:50:16.440 --> 00:50:17.440
Because God says so now.

810
00:50:17.440 --> 00:50:18.440
Yeah.

811
00:50:18.440 --> 00:50:21.320
They all have their free will and they get to decide how they want to respond to son

812
00:50:21.320 --> 00:50:22.320
of God.

813
00:50:22.320 --> 00:50:29.200
They get to choose that, but they're in your, I know your kids don't, aren't, um, aren't

814
00:50:29.200 --> 00:50:30.200
like rebelling.

815
00:50:30.200 --> 00:50:34.960
I'm just, but it is, but I'm just going to use that word because I'm trying to use this

816
00:50:34.960 --> 00:50:37.880
as an example of like a larger principle I'm talking about.

817
00:50:37.880 --> 00:50:48.640
Like even if a soul, you know, rebels, it doesn't discredit your authority if they're

818
00:50:48.640 --> 00:50:54.720
just in rebellion, but you, you haven't lost the authority.

819
00:50:54.720 --> 00:50:58.880
So it can, so it can feel like, you know, you're being walked all over or whatever when

820
00:50:59.560 --> 00:51:03.280
they're in rebellion, but you're still the authority and then God put you there and you

821
00:51:03.280 --> 00:51:12.000
can, and your authority is what the spirit realm, including Satan will listen to it in,

822
00:51:12.000 --> 00:51:13.000
in that home.

823
00:51:13.000 --> 00:51:21.840
And that is what every spiritual, um, force that comes into that home has to, uh, the,

824
00:51:21.840 --> 00:51:26.600
the principles that it has to adhere to and it has to follow and it has to be submitted

825
00:51:26.600 --> 00:51:32.920
to or whatever, or whatever you decide.

826
00:51:32.920 --> 00:51:37.880
And um, so it's, if we decide that we don't have that authority and that power, that those

827
00:51:37.880 --> 00:51:43.320
spirits can come in and just run havoc or whatever, but if you are standing in your

828
00:51:43.320 --> 00:51:49.040
right in your, uh, uh, and, and in your position of power and authority, well then they have

829
00:51:49.040 --> 00:51:54.640
to acknowledge that, um, and they have to, and so it doesn't matter what the kids are

830
00:51:54.640 --> 00:51:55.640
doing.

831
00:51:55.640 --> 00:51:56.640
Right.

832
00:51:56.640 --> 00:52:00.400
You know, y'all ultimately do spiritually have the authority to the point where even

833
00:52:00.400 --> 00:52:02.800
Satan has to acknowledge it.

834
00:52:02.800 --> 00:52:09.880
So anyway, and act according to what y'all are declaring about the home, not with how

835
00:52:09.880 --> 00:52:11.280
the kids are responding.

836
00:52:11.280 --> 00:52:12.280
So, right.

837
00:52:12.280 --> 00:52:17.040
So I just say all that to say that it's in moments like that, it feels like, oh my word,

838
00:52:17.040 --> 00:52:23.600
I've lost control or, oh my word, you know, I'm not being respected or whatever.

839
00:52:23.600 --> 00:52:29.680
It's, it's important for us to know that just that our power and our authority, we

840
00:52:29.680 --> 00:52:35.160
have not been, um, oh, I just thought of the word and lost the word again, but we haven't

841
00:52:35.160 --> 00:52:36.680
been dethroned.

842
00:52:36.680 --> 00:52:47.320
We haven't, it hasn't, we haven't been discredited just because they are choosing to not just

843
00:52:47.320 --> 00:52:52.880
because there may have the kind of response that they have had, um, you know, just because

844
00:52:52.880 --> 00:52:58.400
they're like rebelling or, or whatever, it doesn't change truth.

845
00:52:58.400 --> 00:52:59.640
It doesn't change fact.

846
00:52:59.640 --> 00:53:04.680
And so my point is you can continue to stand in it, even though you're not quote unquote,

847
00:53:04.680 --> 00:53:06.060
getting your results.

848
00:53:06.060 --> 00:53:09.800
The result does not prove whether or not you have the authority.

849
00:53:09.800 --> 00:53:16.560
The result is just evidence of how the, of the response that of somebody else's or something

850
00:53:16.560 --> 00:53:19.520
else's will to your authority.

851
00:53:19.520 --> 00:53:20.520
Right.

852
00:53:20.520 --> 00:53:21.520
Okay.

853
00:53:21.520 --> 00:53:22.520
Yeah.

854
00:53:23.160 --> 00:53:24.160
Yeah.

855
00:53:24.160 --> 00:53:25.160
Yeah.

856
00:53:25.160 --> 00:53:26.160
I know.

857
00:53:26.160 --> 00:53:27.160
Yeah.

858
00:53:27.160 --> 00:53:35.680
So, um, but yeah, I mean, think about the fact that of how we act with the Lord and

859
00:53:35.680 --> 00:53:36.680
he's not dethroned.

860
00:53:36.680 --> 00:53:37.680
Right.

861
00:53:37.680 --> 00:53:38.680
Exactly.

862
00:53:38.680 --> 00:53:39.680
His authority.

863
00:53:39.680 --> 00:53:48.200
So apparently our response to him doesn't say anything about him or it's just our, our,

864
00:53:48.200 --> 00:53:54.560
it's just evidence that our, our response to him based on our choice.

865
00:53:54.560 --> 00:53:55.560
Right.

866
00:53:55.560 --> 00:53:56.560
Yes.

867
00:53:56.560 --> 00:53:57.560
It's a good reminder.

868
00:53:57.560 --> 00:54:01.680
Anyway, just as any encouragement that it could be.

869
00:54:01.680 --> 00:54:02.680
Yeah.

870
00:54:02.680 --> 00:54:03.680
Yeah.

871
00:54:03.680 --> 00:54:09.400
I think those are all my, I think all my questions, I feel like we hit a lot today.

872
00:54:09.400 --> 00:54:10.400
I have a lot.

873
00:54:10.400 --> 00:54:11.400
Yeah.

874
00:54:11.400 --> 00:54:17.840
Well, overall, how has, um, uh, how has this time been like the past?

875
00:54:18.480 --> 00:54:21.080
I guess it's been five weeks that we've been doing the intensive.

876
00:54:21.080 --> 00:54:25.440
So, um, just overall, how, how has it been?

877
00:54:25.440 --> 00:54:26.760
Is that, has it helped?

878
00:54:26.760 --> 00:54:33.080
Does it answer some roots met some root needs or, or not a lot?

879
00:54:33.080 --> 00:54:38.000
It's, it's helped God, I don't even know how to explain it.

880
00:54:38.000 --> 00:54:39.000
It's helped a lot.

881
00:54:39.000 --> 00:54:47.480
Um, I think my, I guess, I don't know if it's a fear, maybe it's a fear is that when I start

882
00:54:47.480 --> 00:54:52.320
getting back into doing life more and my husband goes back to work, what is this all

883
00:54:52.320 --> 00:54:53.520
going to look like?

884
00:54:53.520 --> 00:54:57.960
Because right now I don't really have a lot of responsibility, um, but this has been really

885
00:54:57.960 --> 00:54:59.080
good practice for me.

886
00:54:59.080 --> 00:55:00.080
And I get to practice.

887
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:01.720
And I don't have that responsibility.

888
00:55:00.080 --> 00:55:00.080


889
00:55:02.520 --> 00:55:08.040
So, um, I think when I get to having that responsibility, it will still be

890
00:55:08.040 --> 00:55:13.360
challenging, but I will notice things quicker and I will be able to move

891
00:55:13.360 --> 00:55:15.240
into rest, shift into rest faster.

892
00:55:15.760 --> 00:55:20.080
Um, yeah, because it's a, because again, it's a lifestyle.

893
00:55:20.300 --> 00:55:23.340
And so we have to choose that this is how we now want to live life.

894
00:55:23.340 --> 00:55:26.000
In other words, this is now how we want to approach life.

895
00:55:26.000 --> 00:55:29.120
We want to approach it as I am a son of God.

896
00:55:29.720 --> 00:55:31.280
I am one with Christ.

897
00:55:31.320 --> 00:55:33.520
I am fully and unconditionally loved.

898
00:55:33.960 --> 00:55:37.920
And then to approach life from that perspective that I'm already

899
00:55:37.920 --> 00:55:39.240
in the all sufficient one.

900
00:55:39.240 --> 00:55:41.200
I've already been given everything.

901
00:55:41.640 --> 00:55:45.700
Um, and so the Lord is just maturing me and teaching me what it is.

902
00:55:45.700 --> 00:55:48.560
He's already given me what it is that I have access to that.

903
00:55:48.560 --> 00:55:52.000
I didn't even know I already have access to, and then how to use it.

904
00:55:52.060 --> 00:55:53.480
Like, what is it for?

905
00:55:53.520 --> 00:55:54.620
And then how do I use it?

906
00:55:54.760 --> 00:55:55.480
And okay.

907
00:55:55.480 --> 00:55:57.900
I need to strengthen my muscle in order to use that thing.

908
00:55:58.060 --> 00:56:04.860
So it's just a maturation process of growing into it, but we already have it.

909
00:56:04.860 --> 00:56:08.580
And so to approach life from that perspective and to also approach it

910
00:56:08.580 --> 00:56:13.620
from the perspective that there's no destination that we're trying to get

911
00:56:13.860 --> 00:56:19.580
that God is holding us accountable to what he, his whole, his whole focus

912
00:56:19.620 --> 00:56:23.820
is the journey and the whole point of the journey is the development

913
00:56:23.820 --> 00:56:24.920
of our relationship with him.

914
00:56:24.960 --> 00:56:29.080
So that's the focus of your whole, the whole point of your existence is you

915
00:56:29.080 --> 00:56:30.920
developing your relationship with God.

916
00:56:31.920 --> 00:56:36.920
And then it'll manifest itself into, especially when it's done with

917
00:56:36.920 --> 00:56:41.820
intention, manifest what you, the development of you, your relationship

918
00:56:41.820 --> 00:56:45.180
with the Lord, that's all that exists in the spirit realm, manifesting

919
00:56:45.180 --> 00:56:46.620
that into the physical realm.

920
00:56:46.620 --> 00:56:50.080
So who do you and the Lord look like and how you developed in

921
00:56:50.080 --> 00:56:51.280
your relationship thus far?

922
00:56:51.560 --> 00:56:55.680
How do you look like when it shows up in the physical world, being

923
00:56:55.680 --> 00:56:57.320
married to your specific husband?

924
00:56:58.160 --> 00:57:01.280
And then what does your relationship, the Lord and how you've developed

925
00:57:01.280 --> 00:57:04.520
thus far, like where it is that you are today, not tomorrow, not 10 years

926
00:57:04.520 --> 00:57:08.400
from now, not 10 years ago, right now, what do you and the Lord look like?

927
00:57:09.060 --> 00:57:14.240
And then how do you express that in your relationship with your kids or finances

928
00:57:14.240 --> 00:57:19.680
or how you plan your meals and going to the grocery store and what does that

929
00:57:19.680 --> 00:57:20.040
look like?

930
00:57:20.040 --> 00:57:23.320
Cause the whole point isn't doing all of these things, right?

931
00:57:24.000 --> 00:57:29.560
It's you developing a relationship with the Lord and enjoying the journey of

932
00:57:29.560 --> 00:57:36.040
it, not the getting it and trying to avoid not getting it, you know, Oh, I

933
00:57:36.040 --> 00:57:39.400
need to learn the lesson and make sure I don't miss it.

934
00:57:39.460 --> 00:57:40.160
That's not it.

935
00:57:40.180 --> 00:57:40.800
That's not the point.

936
00:57:40.800 --> 00:57:45.240
The whole point is just the journey and the development of it, the

937
00:57:45.240 --> 00:57:49.800
interaction, the, the maturing, the, you know, submitting ourselves to him,

938
00:57:49.840 --> 00:57:54.760
talking to him, letting him talk to us, doing stuff together, not arriving

939
00:57:54.760 --> 00:57:55.400
somewhere.

940
00:57:55.960 --> 00:57:59.520
So it's a totally different way of approaching the meaning of life.

941
00:58:01.240 --> 00:58:02.600
And that brings so much freedom.

942
00:58:02.600 --> 00:58:07.400
Like even just you saying that it almost made me like tear up, like just freedom

943
00:58:07.400 --> 00:58:09.160
to just enjoy the journey.

944
00:58:09.160 --> 00:58:10.400
Cause I've been so stuck.

945
00:58:10.400 --> 00:58:12.880
I'm just getting to the destination.

946
00:58:13.240 --> 00:58:13.520
Yeah.

947
00:58:14.440 --> 00:58:14.640
Yeah.

948
00:58:14.640 --> 00:58:15.640
There's nowhere.

949
00:58:15.680 --> 00:58:16.520
There's nowhere to get.

950
00:58:16.560 --> 00:58:20.160
If you were created with meaning before the earth was ever created, then

951
00:58:20.160 --> 00:58:21.680
apparently this isn't the point.

952
00:58:22.560 --> 00:58:27.280
If we're going to live for eternity after all of this is gone, then

953
00:58:27.280 --> 00:58:28.840
apparently this is not the point.

954
00:58:29.320 --> 00:58:34.160
So the whole point is just, is to express who we are and what we're

955
00:58:34.160 --> 00:58:37.520
developing that we will continue to develop for infinity.

956
00:58:37.840 --> 00:58:39.160
So we're never going to get there.

957
00:58:39.840 --> 00:58:41.480
So it's just the development of it.

958
00:58:41.840 --> 00:58:44.000
And it's expressing it into a physical form.

959
00:58:44.440 --> 00:58:44.640
Yeah.

960
00:58:44.640 --> 00:58:47.960
So we just enjoy the development of it, which is, in other words, we're

961
00:58:47.960 --> 00:58:49.600
already living eternity right now.

962
00:58:50.240 --> 00:58:52.320
You're already living what we're going to be doing for eternity.

963
00:58:52.320 --> 00:58:53.680
It's the development of the relationship.

964
00:58:53.680 --> 00:58:56.320
And right now we're expressing it into a physical form.

965
00:58:56.840 --> 00:58:57.200
Right.

966
00:58:57.720 --> 00:59:01.800
So, and unfortunately right now, we're going to have, we have an old earth.

967
00:59:01.800 --> 00:59:05.560
That's going to, that's going to change like a garment into a new earth, you

968
00:59:05.560 --> 00:59:12.840
know, because it's, it's flesh has been, um, corrected and it's now subject to

969
00:59:12.840 --> 00:59:13.120
death.

970
00:59:13.480 --> 00:59:18.720
So in order for us to continue to live in creation for eternity in the new earth,

971
00:59:19.040 --> 00:59:24.400
the way that God intended, then we're going to have to, um, uh, then, you know,

972
00:59:24.400 --> 00:59:26.600
we have to overcome this flesh.

973
00:59:26.800 --> 00:59:28.840
And so that's why right now feels so hard.

974
00:59:29.880 --> 00:59:32.760
It's that this is not what Adam was born into.

975
00:59:32.760 --> 00:59:35.920
This is not what Adam's soul and body were created into.

976
00:59:35.960 --> 00:59:40.160
This is what we're, what we have right now that we have, that we just need to

977
00:59:40.160 --> 00:59:44.120
overcome so that it can reflect who it is that we already are.

978
00:59:44.560 --> 00:59:49.160
That's all that we're doing is to teach it, that it has freedom, but in order to,

979
00:59:49.320 --> 00:59:53.720
in order to teach it and show it, that it has freedom, we have to get fruit.

980
00:59:53.720 --> 00:59:55.680
We have to acknowledge that we're free.

981
00:59:55.680 --> 00:59:59.640
First, we have to come into the realization of, and the choosing to.

982
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:06.600
break from the freedom that we already have in order to be able to have freedom to offer

983
01:00:06.600 --> 01:00:09.720
the rest of creation for it to be free.

984
01:00:09.720 --> 01:00:12.560
We have to acknowledge our freedom in order to free creation.

985
01:00:12.560 --> 01:00:15.680
It's what Moses had to do with the Israelites.

986
01:00:15.680 --> 01:00:23.740
That's why Moses, just like with Israelites, just like us with creation, we have to, Moses

987
01:00:23.740 --> 01:00:27.020
was born an Israelite, but he couldn't live as a slave.

988
01:00:27.020 --> 01:00:30.960
He never lived as a slave, but he did carry their DNA.

989
01:00:30.960 --> 01:00:32.880
So he was connected to them.

990
01:00:32.880 --> 01:00:36.560
And because, and the reason for that is he couldn't, he had to be connected to them in

991
01:00:36.560 --> 01:00:40.940
order to have the right to lead them out of slavery in order to basically in a manner

992
01:00:40.940 --> 01:00:47.800
of spiritually speaking, have the power to lead them out of slavery, but he couldn't,

993
01:00:47.800 --> 01:00:52.000
in order to lead them out, he couldn't have ever been one.

994
01:00:52.000 --> 01:00:58.160
He couldn't have ever been subject to, to, he couldn't have ever been under that system.

995
01:00:58.160 --> 01:01:00.240
So we had to, he had to be removed early.

996
01:01:00.240 --> 01:01:04.540
And so it's the same thing with our spirit, soul and body, or our spirit and the rest

997
01:01:04.540 --> 01:01:12.480
of creation is the fact that could not ever be under slavery.

998
01:01:12.480 --> 01:01:17.640
So it's another indication to us, you know, from the Bible that obviously, you know, our,

999
01:01:17.640 --> 01:01:21.040
our spirits are perfect and they've never sinned.

1000
01:01:21.080 --> 01:01:27.120
But our soul and our body, obviously they've been subjected to slavery and to corruption

1001
01:01:27.120 --> 01:01:29.120
in all of that.

1002
01:01:29.120 --> 01:01:33.240
And so anyway, we, our spirit is connected to our soul and our body.

1003
01:01:33.240 --> 01:01:35.140
So we're connected to the creation.

1004
01:01:35.140 --> 01:01:36.140
So therefore we have it.

1005
01:01:36.140 --> 01:01:37.760
We carry the DNA of creation.

1006
01:01:37.760 --> 01:01:41.920
We carry the DNA of God, our soul and our body, we carry the DNA of creation, giving

1007
01:01:41.920 --> 01:01:45.000
us the right and the authority to free it.

1008
01:01:45.000 --> 01:01:50.800
But in order to free it, who it is that we are could never have operated as a slave.

1009
01:01:51.560 --> 01:01:53.880
Our soul and our body have, but not who we are.

1010
01:01:53.880 --> 01:02:00.720
That is the only thing just like Moses that gives us the right to be able to free creation.

1011
01:02:00.720 --> 01:02:04.040
God can free us and we free creation.

1012
01:02:04.040 --> 01:02:05.040
Right.

1013
01:02:05.040 --> 01:02:06.040
That makes sense.

1014
01:02:06.040 --> 01:02:07.040
So yeah.

1015
01:02:07.040 --> 01:02:08.040
So that's what you're doing.

1016
01:02:08.040 --> 01:02:09.040
Yeah.

1017
01:02:09.040 --> 01:02:10.040
So you've already won.

1018
01:02:10.040 --> 01:02:11.560
It's already been one.

1019
01:02:11.560 --> 01:02:14.800
You're just now giving it to the rest of creation.

1020
01:02:14.800 --> 01:02:15.800
Yes.

1021
01:02:15.800 --> 01:02:16.800
Yes.

1022
01:02:16.800 --> 01:02:17.800
Yeah.

1023
01:02:17.800 --> 01:02:18.800
Right.

1024
01:02:18.800 --> 01:02:19.800
Yeah.

1025
01:02:19.800 --> 01:02:20.800
Thank you so much, Ashley.

1026
01:02:20.800 --> 01:02:21.800
You're welcome.

1027
01:02:21.800 --> 01:02:24.640
So I'm glad to see that you're doing really well.

1028
01:02:24.640 --> 01:02:27.200
Everybody's been asking me so many questions, but how's she doing?

1029
01:02:27.200 --> 01:02:31.760
So I was just grateful that I had been able to connect with you and with Ryan, you know,

1030
01:02:31.760 --> 01:02:36.000
it was seeing Ryan's posts to make sure I, you know, that we knew how you were doing.

1031
01:02:36.000 --> 01:02:39.720
And so we're so pleased with how well that you're recovering.

1032
01:02:39.720 --> 01:02:43.480
And like I said, we've, we feel very honored that we've been allowed to be part of your

1033
01:02:43.480 --> 01:02:44.480
life during this time.

1034
01:02:44.480 --> 01:02:45.480
So yes.

1035
01:02:45.480 --> 01:02:47.820
And I'm glad you're with everybody.

1036
01:02:47.820 --> 01:02:52.860
So yeah, it's been, it's been a journey, but better than I ever expected.

1037
01:02:52.860 --> 01:02:53.860
So yeah.

1038
01:02:53.860 --> 01:02:54.860
Yeah.

1039
01:02:54.860 --> 01:02:57.460
Well, I will let you go.

1040
01:02:57.460 --> 01:02:58.460
It's good to visit.

1041
01:02:58.460 --> 01:02:59.460
Yeah.

1042
01:02:59.460 --> 01:03:00.460
You too.

1043
01:03:00.460 --> 01:03:01.460
Thanks, Ashley.

1044
01:03:01.460 --> 01:03:02.460
All right.

1045
01:03:02.460 --> 01:03:03.460
Well, you rest up today.

1046
01:03:03.460 --> 01:03:04.460
All right.

1047
01:03:04.460 --> 01:03:05.460
I will.

1048
01:03:05.460 --> 01:03:06.460
Bye.

1049
01:03:06.460 --> 01:03:06.460