Hi, Kate, how are you?
Are you sorry my cupboards wide open.
Good.
I'm sorry I'm a little late. My husband needed me to rush down and and sign a few things, and that were due for our benefit so to rush down and then rush back so probably fine, you're good, you're good just taking a break from work.
Oh, good. So you're able to work from home. Yeah.
Good, good, good. Usually on Wednesdays we do.
Well that's nice. Yeah, sorry my internet is kind of spotty here so if I talk over you, it's unintentional.
That's fine.
Yeah, that doesn't bother me.
And I was about to ask you something.
I remember it was anyway.
So how are you doing.
I'm good. I'm good. I went back to work Tuesday, after being off, and was feeling so rested, and then you come in and it was just like move like all the stuff in the thousands and hundreds of emails and saturation, but felt like, and then just, I just,
I've been on back to back meetings all morning and then our team in Texas our bosses that we report to in Texas they're like, Hey, where's your next trip we want you on the road every other week and we want you this, you need to get 60 proposals out and all these things
and I was like, like, no, no, not happening.
Yeah.
And so, this.
Yeah, just been warning off a little bit of anxiety have just like going back to because I know how well my body responds when I'm rested, and it feels so good and I feel like I'm thriving in life, even when I'm working but I'm here.
So, there's just kind of maybe an undertone of fear like going back to the, you know, full travel and, and what that's going to feel like and whether that it sometimes feels like it's going to take you two steps back, instead of the continued, you know,
progress forward.
What that reminds me of is, is Casey's you remember that Casey was talking about you know well I'm doing good now. But when my husband goes back to where, you know, in other words, if I go back into, you know, my old situation where I, you know, we always
associate with all of our as like instigating our problems. In other words, that we're like well I have control if I'm outside of it but when I'm back in there I feel like control is taken away from me and then we can just kind of get really like worried.
Right. So one of the things is to, and I'll try to get better at articulating this to help people but um, but the important thing is to choose you, not, can you get cut out and I missed.
I think I missed what you said because it cut out maybe if I change locations. Hold on a second. Okay.
Okay.
Sometimes,
works better.
Okay.
I heard that so that's good.
Goodness.
I have the door open.
All the dust.
Um, so anyway what I was going to say was, the important thing is to remember to choose to choose you to choose that as, as like your priority, your highest value you mean not not about the Lord but you know you're, you're, you know, if you're like kind
you know the world, just as that is the highest value in this job is something you're choosing for you.
And, which you know that but what I'm saying is, you have to go into it with that intention that this is me, choosing to live the life that I have decided on, you know, for this season, and then you don't feel as as victimized.
or put in a position to defend yourself against things that could happen to you, be pressed
upon you, be, you know, expected of you, required of you, you know, pressured on you or whatever.
And then you can interact with the bosses, the demands, the, the requests, the whatever
from a more healthy perspective, because you own you.
And even though we don't realize, we may not have recognized that those are the people
in the, in our workplaces that we admire the most, the people that value themselves and
don't feel owned by their company, they don't feel owned by their, by their boss, they don't
feel owned by their, by their job, that enables them, at least if they have a healthy perspective
of it, it enables them to interact with their job in a healthy way.
Because they don't feel victimized by it and, but still be able to, to treat their boss
in their situations with respect, not with, because anybody who interacts with like their
boss or whatever, you know, from like constant defensive mode, protecting themselves against
their boss means that they feel, and it comes and they think they're coming across as confident,
you know, I'm not going to put up with that.
And I, and no, no, no, I'm not going to do that.
And it means they feel like if they don't put up a good enough fight, that they're just
going to be overcome, you know, so people like that aren't actually owning themselves.
They're just trying to, you know, they're just making it, they're just going at their
their, their, their defensive position from a different place than somebody who's just
allowing themselves to be, you know, run over.
So they're just handling the situation differently, but both of those people don't feel like they
own themselves.
But if you feel like you own yourself and that you're not, and you're not threatened
by the potential of like losing and losing your job, because the Lord is taking care
of you.
Then you're like, okay, you know what?
This is the job that the Lord, I believe the Lord has given to me that I'm choosing for
me right now.
Sure.
I've got other dreams that, um, you know, for like later on in life, but you know, this
is what I've chosen for me right now.
And so therefore everything's in my hands.
This is me and the Lord choosing to live life in this particular way right now.
And then you don't feel threatened by the things that are coming against you.
And the way that you interact with them is in a, from a respectful place, as opposed
to people who act like they don't feel threatened and act like they're the big shot and act
like, no, no, no, this place doesn't know me, but if they do it from like this very
defensive place, it means that they feel threatened and it means it's not genuine and it's not
real.
So anyway, my, my, my point is a lot of people can feel like some of the questions that have
been brought up.
Yeah.
But how is such and such not selfish?
Somebody brought that up the other day.
Oh, it was on a, it was on one of the private consultations.
So it was like, didn't we have a discussion about this recently?
Like maybe on a fireside chat, but it was on a, on a, uh, a, uh, one of my private,
uh, transformation sessions, someone was asking, you know, yeah, but isn't such and such selfish,
but that's the thing.
If we choose that, we are who God says that we are.
In other words, our opinion of ourselves is based on what God has said, not on what we
wish were true or we're choosing ourselves over God or whatever, but no, what has God
said?
Then anything that we, it's, it's from a very healthy foundation and it's from the spirit
of the Lord.
And therefore, when we operate out of the spirit of the Lord, it's going to be in kindness.
It's going to be in respect.
It's going to be in love because it's out of his, it's out of his spirit because that's
where we're choosing to abide in and choose to rest.
So anyway, I know you didn't ask that question, but it was just something that I, I thought,
you know, if, uh, if you have the questions that most people do, that would kind of be
in the back of your mind of like, yeah, but how do you like choose yourself, but not come
across as, as like selfish or not, um, not amenable to your boss's requests or whatever
your boss's request, then don't threaten, you know, you and you can draw what the world
would call as healthy boundaries of like, you know, that there's only so much time in
the day.
I know that you need me to do all this.
I can't do all of this from a respectful way, as opposed to a, as to a, you know, a mean
way, which I knew you wouldn't, but that that's the concern is people going from where it
is that maybe a lot of how you've interacted has been, which is, you know, probably been
very kind and very, you know, feeling like you couldn't speak up or whatever are, you
know, people like you and me, our concern is that we're going to swing to this extreme.
If we.
choose that we are who God says that we are, but we're not because we're, we'll be based in the
Lord and therefore we'll be operating out of his character. So we have the boundaries.
But we, we, um, uphold the boundaries in the character of his goodness and the character
of his love, which means that everyone is treated, you know, with respect, but we also
treat ourselves with respect at the same time, you know, anyway, does all of that make sense?
Yeah. Yeah. No, and I can see it where it was like, um, no, it's super helpful. Um, I think
there's like, in the moment when a decision is made in front of you, that is going to impact
your workload or that all of a sudden that feeling like you're drowning already, and you haven't even
gotten started in that feeling of like, I'm always going to be behind. So it is a protection, a
defense mechanism that you respond of like, no, don't do this because it's not going to be good.
Or you'd feel like you have to kind of whine in the sense that you're just like, but this,
and I can't travel every other week because of X, Y, and Z. And it's a different scenario because
I live here and we have so many supporters that are local and all of these things trying to like,
justify it. Um, but I think the key is like, how, when you feel that adrenaline response coming
in the moment of like, I'm scared of what this decision is, how it's about to impact my life.
How do you, whether that's in a friendship, a trigger and like a friendship or somebody says
something in the moment and you feel that adrenaline response, like what do you practically
do in that moment to create some space so you can act in a place of honor and kindness and not from
a fearful, a fearful place? Um, well, one of the things is that, um, remember,
okay. So this can get a little, can this can maybe sound surprising because it's very different
than the way that we're taught that the relationship between employer and employee
works. We're taught, um, I mean like literally verbatim, we are taught that, that the people
that the employees are there to solve problems for the employers. And that's bogus. And I'm telling
you that as a past business consultant and as a past person who like managed groups of people and
whatever in very, very high profile, uh, projects where I actually had to do this. So this is like
tried and true stuff that I've actually done. I, this isn't just theory of when this be nice
that the world worked this way now. Um, and so, uh, and the thing is that it's actually the
employers who are there, whose responsibility like leaders, managers, or whatever are in that place
in order to solve problems for the employees. Because really what it is, is that employees
are there. In other words, those underneath are there to be, um, well, let me, let me grammatically
say this differently. The employers, the manager, the leader, whoever is there to provide a protection
for the, for the people underneath them to be able to, to do what they do best. It's not to
micromanage them. And it's not to, uh, it's not that the, even the leader knows how to do their
job better than the employee, the employee, meaning like that, that he knows how to do the
employee's job better than the employee. They're there to provide covering and protection and to
provide for the needs of their employees. So, which all sounds great if you're in the leadership
position, but what about if you're not in that position and your leader doesn't normally take
on that responsibility to solve those problems. So I've been in both situations. I've been in the
situation of the leader where I, where I had to learn to provide that for my people. And I had
no one to show me that that's what you do. The Lord just had to show it to me. And then, and
that's how I, how I treated my people. But then I'm also in the position of being underneath the
people above me and they didn't see it the same way. So what I did is, um, is I would just,
it was the way that I would word things. I would basically view things from a particular perspective,
not from trying, like, in other words, believing that this was so not trying to convince them and
basically just acting as if, well, this is normal. This is expected. This is the way that the world
works. And I would basically just present issues to them where they would say, Hey, Ashley, I want
you to do this, or I need you to do this. And I would, you know, be amenable and say, you know,
what, um, uh, where, what's the words I've forgotten some, so much of my corporate language
after, after a while, but, um, I would.
It's not, I, you figure out how to, uh, this is the thing you show yourself to be willing.
You don't just show it, you know, you're not trying to convince them.
You make yourself before the Lord, willing to do what your boss is requesting of you,
you know, and, but that doesn't mean that if your boss tells you to do something, that
it's your responsibility to, how would you word that to, um, to, to make your boss's
dream come true.
You don't have to, it's not your responsibility to make, to figure it out and make it happen.
Now yes, there's a measure of problem solving.
Yes.
The boss presents a problem and you as the employee, you try to figure it out.
Okay.
Well, what can we do?
We're a team here.
What can we do?
How can I implement my skillset in order to help them?
So yes, there's that.
But what I mean is that you aren't there as your boss is lackey.
If he just comes up with ideas and it doesn't matter how it affects you, you just have to
make it happen.
And therefore you're subject to the consequences.
And here's the point you're said you're not subject to absorbing the consequences of what
he wishes were to happen.
You've got your own boundaries in place.
I mean, so to speak that for instance, even HR is there in order to help you, um, in order
to help you like, uh, uphold.
And that are things like, what did you agree to when you signed a contract with that company?
You know, what, what's the, what's the terms of the agreement you were providing your labor
in exchange for services.
You're not, there is a slave, there's an exchange going on.
So you were there strictly to make money.
I mean, yes, you're there for like other reasons, you know, spiritually and whatever, but I
mean, like from, from like, if you're just looking at like business principles, you know,
you were there because if you weren't there, if you didn't need to make money, would you
be working there?
Seriously?
Wouldn't you probably be doing something else, right?
So you're saying, Hey, look, I will give you my labor if you give me X amount of money.
And then you agreed on an exchange of a certain amount of labor, not your life, a certain
amount of labor in exchange that you found equal to the amount of money they were going
to give you for that number of hours, that amount of labor, et cetera.
So what have you agreed to?
And I don't mean being really strict on it and whatever, and just like, no, I'm only
doing this.
And now, you know, we're talking about flexibility, but I'm just talking about not allowing, not
having, I'm talking about, you know, ignoring boundaries and doing way what going way over
here and then calling that godly it's like, no, no being flexible here, you know, that's
good, but doing this, you know, you know, that's not needed.
So my so anyway, my point is that you, you remember that this is a, this is a, a business
relationship with your boss or, or whoever.
And so your boss has comes up with ideas about, Hey, I want you to do this and whatever.
So within the bounds of what you've agreed to exchange, they're giving you a certain
amount of money for a certain amount of effort, because they're not offering you more money
in order in exchange for more labor.
And if they do, that's a new negotiation.
That is brand new.
You did not sign up for that day one.
That is brand new.
So anyway, I'm just trying to remind you, I'm not, I'm not trying to, to make make bosses
out to be the enemy.
I'm trying to just remind you of what this situation, what reality actually is just remind
you it's, it really is just that basic exchange.
So based on the foundation of that basic exchange, your boss is like, okay, well then I want
these types of things done.
Does it fit within the boundaries of what you agreed to do the amount of labor and aspects
of yourself that you offered to the company in exchange for the amount of money that they're
going to give you?
So so if the, you, if it's normally 40 hours and they're, and they're requiring, you'd
always work 60 hours or there, or it was agreed in your contract that you would be traveling
like X amount of time or whatever.
Or say for instance, that it's not safe for instance, that it's a little more challenging
with situation.
And the fact that those things weren't specified, like how many times you would be traveling,
they just said, travel would be part of your job.
So what is your boss's request now requiring of you?
And if it's requiring more of you than you can do, and that you agree and is worth it
in exchange for the money that they're giving you, give that to your boss as their problem
to solve.
Right.
Okay.
So, but the way that you do that is it's, it's in the wording it's presenting it as,
as let's see how, how would you word that?
It's just, okay.
Hey, well, you know, I'm happy to, um, I, you know, absolutely would love to help.
I want to be able to, um, you know, I understand the importance of
going to such and such a place.
In other words, you basically try to always respond to any requests that
your boss makes with an affirmation of what they've said and an affirmation
of what they've wanted, and basically you see the positive in what they're
saying and you affirm it.
And then, then, then the, you, you just kind of present the fact that you would
like them to help you solve the problem that you are facing in trying to help
them get it done, as opposed to it sounding like you don't want to help them.
So, you know, you're very willing to help them, but there are these
obstacles that you have in your, in your way that are posing a problem.
So boss, can you help me figure these things out so we can, so I can get
done what you want me to get done.
Then they see that willingness, but they also see a healthy aspect of you, of
you needing to, um, uh, a lot, I don't know, just, just be healthy.
And, and I keep using the word boundaries.
There's another word for it, but anyway, you know, wanting to
keep healthier boundaries.
And so when you present those things, it's kind of like, okay, well, you
know, you know, you say the positive things and affirmation and whatever.
And they say, well, you know, I'm finding that, that, um, I'm really, uh, I don't
know, just, I don't know, you mentioned some, some issue that you're running
into with the amount of travel or, or whatever, and, and maybe even in the
bosses, bosses really, really, really, really, really like this, they don't
like to be presented with problems.
They like to be presented with solutions.
So the thing is that you can present this issue that you're running into and
then present a few options of solutions that you're okay with and that they can
choose from, because that also shows willingness.
So it was like, well, what if we did this instead?
Or what if we did this or, or what if, you know, boss, you, you told me this,
but you've also told me you wanted me to do these other things.
So.
Uh, you said that this was your highest priority.
So is this now replaced it as the highest priority?
And I need to put this on the shelf or we need to extend the deadline.
And you, and now you want me to do this instead of my understanding that
correctly, because there's not, I don't have enough hours, you know,
available for all of this.
So which one would you like me to do?
And then would you like to just extend the deadline of the other one or, or
what do you want me to do with this one?
In other words, you're just showing that you're willing, but you're asking
them to solve a problem for you.
As opposed to you thinking, trying to, you know, you just hear what you have
to do, and then you have to go and figure out how to make it happen.
And, and, and normally what ends up happening is in that situation, we end
up absorbing all of the consequences of the fact that you can't do everything.
You know, so you present it to your boss to solve the problem
that you can't do everything.
So you have him define for you what his priorities are, you know, or whatever,
but do you, does all of that make sense?
It's been a while since I've articulated all this, does it all make sense?
And how you're showing you're willing, but you're not taking on the
responsibility to solve the problems.
You contribute, it's a team effort.
You suggest solutions.
Again, part of that is showing willingness and bosses do not
like to be complained to.
And because that shows a lack of willingness.
So you present problems followed by potential solutions that they could
choose from, and then you leave it up to them.
And so that is also by presenting solutions, there's, that's an aspect
of owning your own, I don't know, owning your own life, owning your
own job, because you're coming up with an idea of how things can, can work.
And, um, and you're also in a way.
You didn't just say, well, what would you like me to do?
Like, as if, which you absolutely can, but just in certain situations,
you're, you don't want to just leave it out for him to just decide whatever
he wants, because you might really not like that it might solve the problem.
And you really don't like the solution.
It solves it.
So you feel you can't say no, but you really don't like the solution.
It kind of protects you a little bit for you to come up with the solutions.
And it also it's psychological.
It will limit their mind a little bit more just to those solutions.
They might try to come up with a third one and whatever, and
y'all can figure that out.
But psychologically it's helpful.
It it's, uh, because it's the power of suggestion, because when someone
hears it, they're more likely to receive it.
Um, and, uh, it's kind of like, um, I was, you know, that lawsuit
that I went through one time, the, uh, I was in a deposition where
the lawyer was going at me.
And he accused me of something horrible.
I'm just horrible.
And my boss, uh, we left that we left the deposition and he was shocked.
He said, Ashley, I can't believe he.
said such a thing and suggested such a thing.
And I said, it makes perfect sense to me.
He knows I didn't do that thing.
But all he has to do is plant that idea
in the mind of the jury.
And then that's all he was going for.
He knew I hadn't done that.
It was just that if he could get the jury to start doubting me
and think, oh, maybe that could be a problem.
If the jury had never thought about it,
then if they had been left to their own devices with it,
it would have never occurred to them.
So it's just the power of suggestion.
So anyway, it really does help.
Now, I'm not talking in any way about manipulating somebody
else.
We're talking about psychologically working
with human psychology to help someone else.
We're not talking about trying to make this go your way.
I'm just mentioning some of the benefits
of why you present a solution.
It shows your willingness.
And bosses like to be presented with solutions.
It also allows you to contribute your skill set, which
is to be able to offer something new to the company, ideas,
problem solving, whatever.
So it is an aspect of yourself.
It's like a creative aspect of yourself
that solves problems that you offer up
that someone else can take advantage of that's
meant to benefit the company or the boss or whatever.
Anyway, we talked a lot about this.
Is any of that helpful?
Yeah, for sure.
For sure.
My boss is amazing.
And I love her.
Her general default is not covering, of helping,
that it's just not something that she does.
Yeah, so naturally, it's been having to just be like,
I'm drowning.
I need you to do something.
What are you going to do?
And then oftentimes, her solution
is not what I'm super excited about.
So coming up with that is definitely helpful.
I think, yeah.
And a lot of times, bosses will pass on to the people
underneath and the pressure that they're feeling that they
don't feel able to say no.
They're not strong enough to say no.
And my boss is the same way.
She didn't feel strong enough to say no.
And she would basically throw herself,
I don't know how to put this, but basically
throw me under the bus.
She was a good boss.
It's hard to describe, but she really was a very good boss.
But there was a way in which, when she would get pressure,
she always liked everyone to think well of her.
So she'd try to figure out how to always make
her to be in a good position.
And she would just act with me like, Ashley, I'm so sorry.
I tried.
I'm for you.
I'm whatever.
And I'm like, no, you're speaking
out of both sides of your mouth.
I know that you're saying the same thing to your boss.
So my point is that I was in that situation,
and I was one of the few.
And the whole department would watch
that this little peon of a person, in other words,
the person that was on the lowest part of the totem
pole, was getting results that was catching
everybody's attention.
And then I was also, because I was following the Lord
and doing things in rest, like what does the Lord say?
But to do, and then they were getting these wild results.
But then I was also, I was one of the youngest people there.
And I was the one who was actually brave enough to say no.
I didn't say no.
What I would do is what I was telling you about.
You do this.
And well, I'm afraid, so this is the problem.
So how would you like us to solve this?
But in other words, I wouldn't just absorb it and say yes.
I would stand my ground and say, no, no, no, Ashley,
we really need to do this.
I understand.
And I'm really sorry.
But there you can see there's just this, da, da, da.
I don't know.
It would require this.
And I'm afraid that that's just not possible.
But what I could do is what if I did this?
What would this be helpful?
Or would this be helpful?
But they weren't used to someone standing their ground on the fact
that they had the right as a human being to, I don't know,
to treat themselves with value.
And they respected it.
But it's hard because you don't know what's going to happen.
You don't know if that's going to change your reputation.
You don't know, I mean, meaning like how it's
going to change your reputation.
You don't know, you know, would they actually finally fire you?
You know, they would ever.
But so anyway, but it's just that what I did is I just chose me and God
in my as being the most important thing in life.
my job and just, and so anyway. Yeah, that's really cool. And just like when I feel the anxiety
coming on, I'm like, okay, it's, it's like, why, why do I care so much? It's, it's just a job.
Like, why, why is it that I'm actually going to physically let it manifest in my body? Because
I know the anxiety and the stress has been such a huge source for the health problems that I've
experienced over the years. So I'm like, this has to be my utmost priority to not partner with
stress and anxiety. So whatever we need to do to, to in whatever, whether it's friendships or
whatever, like to not, not experience that then. Yeah. That's just something I've just been like,
I've just been in the process of getting off of some of my supplements, which the Lord is leading
and it's been super great. And, um, but at the same time, ones that were like, you know,
supposed to help my adrenals, which helps impact the stress things. So then when you take them
away, you're like, okay, my body feels feeling a little extra sensitive right now. And just
having grace for myself in that moment of like, okay, you might just need to guard, guard your
time a little bit more closely for this moment as your body's adjusting and sleeping a little
more or whatever you need to do. So, um, and choosing myself that no, like my physical health
and my, and that is more important than a job and a paycheck, like, but there's still a way to be in
it and not get emotionally. So connect, like held up in, they want me to do this, but I'm not doing
this, but I can't, but I didn't like, I think it's the emotional stronghold that really takes over
me. And it's the same for relationships to like, what do you think about me? Or what are the, and
that was one of the questions that I'd written down for you today is like, there's a couple of
people that I'm like, I'm good with, I can text them happy birthday. It's super great. They'll
text me back, but I intentionally distanced myself from that relationship for a reason.
Like, um, one, for instance, has a bunch of small children and their young family. And they're just
incredible. And they were really, really close. We were such close friends, but I found that
I wasn't serving them in their family. There was just no time to be in relationship where I found
myself, like, if I'm not able to drop everything I'm doing and help watch the kids or run an errand
for you, do all these things. And I felt myself. So then I just distanced. And then, then like,
I realized the day I'm like, oh, I didn't get invited to the baby shower, the newest baby
shower. I didn't get invited to this. And then they've withdrawn because I was wrong. And it
hurts. It hurts really bad, but I'm like, because it was such a close relationship. And again,
there was no big falling out. There was no nothing. Um, or another person who was diving
into the healing and she was diving into like the deliverance realm and everything became a
deliverance issue. And whenever you're walking through something, you want to boldly declare
that this is the route that everyone needs to take to get their freedom and their healing and
their deliverance. And they're like, so every time you go to them and you're like, I could just,
you know, use a prayer or whatever's happening in your life. And they're like, it's a deliverance
issue. And so I'm suddenly I'm like, okay, this is actually hurting more than it's helping. And
then I see them from a distance all the time or, and then you're like, oh, this hurts. And why am
I so emotionally? Like there's something with me. That's so emotionally caught up in, in
relationships, in job, in everything that it's like this, um, this, this high sensitive
emotional world, which has overtaken me and I'm stepping out of it. I believe that I'm, I'm, I'm,
I'm moving away from that. And it's because of the new belief systems that we've partnered with,
but I'm seeing how that has been such a huge source of the stress and anxiety and physical
ailments in my body. And I don't know what that is like this high emotion, like what,
if you have any insight on, we use people, uh, and their interactions with us, whether it be at
the job or it be, um, and, and the, and the results from it, like, well, the fruit from it
with a job or with, um, friends, you know, relationships as being the thing that we use to,
as a, like, kind of like the measuring stick of how am I doing? And am I, am I, am I,
am I valuable? Am I doing things right? Am I, um, uh, I don't know. Am I being progressive
in life? Am I, is this working? Um, it's God pleased, just whatever. And we use their,
how they view us and how they interact with this and whether or not they want to spend time with
this as actually is the thing on which we base, how we feel about ourselves. Like, can I feel
good about myself? Is that a.
Is that a reality?
I really am.
I good.
Well, how are things looking right now?
You know, how is so-and-so interacting with me or, or whatever.
And even though we're not conscious of that, we can see by how we
emotionally react when it's not there or how good we feel when it does happen,
that we show that we're actually dependent on it, our relationship with us tends to
be, uh, can be, um, uh, can be dependent on, we can find ourselves dependent on
how are there other people's view of us?
And, um, and so therefore it's just very, it's very emotional.
So that's what I'm talking about.
When I say that we need to choose, you need to choose you, meaning like not in
a selfish way or anything like that, but you choose that you're each you of all
of the people that are out there in the world, you know, how you could choose a
husband, you could choose, um, you could choose, you know, your friends, you could
choose church, you could choose a mentor you choose, and you choose the different
things and people have value.
Choose you as the, as the most important person in your life, make yourself
the most important thing to you.
Why?
Because God said you're that valuable.
So choose to value the same thing that he does.
And, and regardless of it, if other people understand, see what we are, um, you know,
we're taught in Sunday school, we're taught in, you know, just like regular
school to all way that our value is constantly and how, and how people
interact with us and the types of kind, affirming, encouraging things people say
about us, or the really, you know, debilitating or detrimental things people
say about us are all dependent on what we do.
So therefore we, and how people interact with us, you know, so sometimes we're
told, you know, oh, well, I don't know why this friend doesn't like me and whatever.
Well, sweetheart, you know, well, what is your interactions with them?
Then, you know, like lately, what have you done?
Well, we were on the playground and then I did this well.
You did this and that hurt their feelings.
And they probably just don't want to be friends with you anymore.
And they, whatever.
And we're just, we begin to make all of these connections.
I'm only okay.
Right.
Everybody else.
Interacting with me.
Yeah.
And then I'm only okay with me.
I only like me.
Right.
That's what people do.
Yes.
Yeah.
So we're always looking for affirmation from the fruit that we're seeing in
relationships or the fruit that we're seeing in our accomplishments, um, fruit
that we're seeing in our, in our jobs, like how much money am I getting?
Or do people like me or are my projects successful?
Or am I given the projects I want?
Am I considered in meetings when I'm not there or whatever?
We're using all of these as subconscious standards to determine to ourself, whether
or not we're okay with ourself when we're at home alone, well, how is
everything else out there with me?
That's why social media, um, has just really, um, uh, uh, been
such a, such an issue for people.
Um, and, uh, because they're using it as subconscious affirmation of themselves.
So they get addicted because they have to, they're dependent on it
in order to be okay by themselves, you know, but, and they can be more
okay by themselves as long as they have their phone to be able to scroll through
and to be able to make a post and to see how people respond to the post.
Or if they comment on somebody else's posts, whether or not they commented back,
well, how did they comment?
Did they just do a heart or did they take the time to write something out?
You know, all kinds of things.
So anyway, that's why I'm saying you have to choose you.
And I had to go through that when all of, uh, you know, when I talk about the fact
that I made that decision to choose the Lord over everything else, Lord, I choose
you over my lifestyle and all of that.
One of the things that I did, well, I say I did it then.
I think I did it earlier than that.
I think I did it.
Um, uh, months earlier, um, I had begun to, uh, choose me over.
How people responded to me.
So I did what I wanted and I lived the way that seemed natural to me.
That, that seemed fun.
That seemed like it had promised.
That seemed like it had potential that felt like I was like moving towards like
accomplishing some dream, even if other people were going to think it was stupid
or other people weren't going to like it.
And I chose me and to express me and to discover me.
I chose to enjoy me.
I chose me as the, as.
Uh, what?
How would you phrase that?
I was the friend I chose.
I was the best friend I chose.
If I could choose, you know, best friend
of meeting all of these people and whatever,
what would I choose?
I chose me as my best friend.
I chose to like me.
I chose to enjoy me.
I chose to discover me.
And anyway, that made all of the difference.
So I could enjoy me when no one else was around
and I can enjoy me when other people didn't like me
or didn't understand why I was doing something.
Because what it is that I'm doing now looks like,
oh, well, it's working.
And Ashley, you're known for, like, in other words,
people know how to categorize you.
Ashley does the rest intensive.
Ashley does this.
That is not how it started out, let me tell you.
And even when I did it and it was successful, you know,
like I started it and whatever.
And that was after I started
and failed at lots of different things.
And that was just embarrassing.
And that was hard, but I just kept going
because I thought I choose a life.
You know, I choose to just move forward.
I choose to try something and to fall down
and to try something else,
as opposed to being dependent
on what was existing elsewhere.
And then just, and try to make it,
that may seem to make other people happy, you know,
but it didn't make me happy.
So what makes me happy?
Well, I would like to try,
I'm watching all of these other people
leave their corporate job
and they are creating their own businesses
out of their, out of what they find fun.
I like that idea.
Work for myself from home.
Cause I thought if I could literally design anything
I wanted, what would it be?
I was like, I would work for myself.
I would have my own company.
I would work online so I could be flexible.
I could, the hours were mine.
I only did the types of things that I wanted to do.
Only worked with the types of people
that I want to work with.
I mean, it sounds like a pipe dream,
but that's what I wanted.
And that's the, that's like the wishlist order
that I put in.
And so I thought, how can I make this work?
You know, I did it with the Lord.
So it's not like I was just doing it all on my own,
but, and anyway, and it,
so when you do that and we step out in that,
you fall in your face and your,
and it affects your reputation,
it affects your reputation sometimes with your family
or with your friends.
And, but I just continue to choose me
over my family and friends.
I chose me over relationship with my family
and relationship with my friends.
I chose myself to that degree
because God says that they need me
and I can't give them me if I'm not giving me.
So I have to choose me more than them
in order to have me to give.
Right.
So, and I don't mean again,
we're not talking selfishness or anything.
We're just talking about me living life
the way that I want to.
We're not talking about me imposing that on anybody else,
but the fact that, well, this is what I want to try.
This is how I want to live.
And I'm not, and I'm not requiring other people
to like financially support me to do that
and that they have to or anything like that.
No, I'm going to do it between me and the Lord or whatever.
And so I embarrassed myself for a long time,
you know, but I just kept,
but I wasn't that embarrassed because again,
I had chosen me over my family,
kind of like you choose your husband over your family,
you know, and it feels really weird because you're like,
well, I've known them so much longer,
but if so, it feels like you're abandoning people
and it feels like you're abandoning a way of life.
It feels like you're whatever.
Can you, can you see me, hear me?
Yeah, I think you're back now.
Okay.
So anyway, it feels like you're abandoning people.
It feels wrong.
And, but you do, you just choose,
you just choose yourself and honor God in that way
that you were, you were your first mission field.
You were the first aspect of creation
that God entrusted you with.
So think of it that way,
is that you were who God has most entrusted you with.
Even above your husband,
when you have a husband above your kids,
God entrusted you with you first.
And so, so treat that with, with, you know,
with love, with kindness, with respect, you know,
and, but anyway, and then eventually, you know,
I would just expressed more and more of who it is
that I was and gave more and more of who it is that I was.
And when I gave out who I was,
what I ended up giving out was something that
you put a name on it and it's called the rest intensive.
So one of my, one of my gifts and strengths and desires
was to go through the mess with people.
Another, and I learned that when I was in business,
that I was somebody who was willing to go walk
with people through change.
A lot of people, in fact, most people.
don't like that. They all say it, but they abandon people, you know, midstream or whatever,
because it gets messy. Sometimes they are in the line of fire. They're the ones helping and they're
in the line of fire, you know, and I'm just, God has just given it to me to walk people through,
through messes. Now, one of the things that I learned is he's given it to me to, to walk people
who are here, walk through their mess to here, not from here to here and not from here to here.
They have to be here, but if they're here, God has given me the grace to walk them through
all of the emotional trauma and healing to get to here. And, and so I wanted to offer that,
but I didn't know how to do that. I didn't know what that would look like or whatever. So and,
but then I just thought, well, what is it that I like to talk about? I love to talk about the Bible,
love talk about God, love to help people, you know, in their relationship with God and I love
business. And so I saw, well, how do I combine that? I was like, well, Christian business center.
So I started doing that. And then when I started, but, and then when I started talking about
business, people started asking me, well, actually, how do I do that in life? How do I do that with my
at home? And so then it evolved, but anyway so the reason I, I, you know, just wanted to kind
of paint a picture of all of that is it started because I just gave me. And one of the things
that I've had to do with this past rest intensive and the one that I'm going into is I'm having to
change how I do the rest intensive based on who I am now. So I still, I can't change into something
outside of me that, well, this is how it works. And this is what people expect. And this is what
I've done before. Cause then I'm trying to maintain an inanimate, you know, thing. It's not,
it's not me. And what I need is I need to be giving them me because that's, what's been effective.
It's bringing the spirit of who God and I are in him in heaven, into the earth. And then when I do
that, well, then then that's when things change because it's allowing God to touch people. So
that means that over the past three years or two and a half or however long it's been,
I've changed. So therefore that means that if I'm giving myself out, what the rest intensive
looks like, if the rest intensive is simply Ashley pouring out who Ashley is into the earth,
and then whoever is attracted to that, you know, and helped by that can, can join it. Well,
then it means that if Ashley's changed, well, then it means what the rest intensive looks like
changes. So my point is that, how do we get to all of that? It's you choose you, you have to
remember that you are who God has entrusted you with. So what is it when you are, when you choose
you and you value you without, and not looking at any other standards other than who does God say
that you are? And then, and then discover more of who it is that you are like, what do you like
to do? And how do you like to do it? And how do you like to spend your time from the time
that you get up? How long do you like to spend getting ready? Do you enjoy putting on your makeup?
Do you not enjoy that time? And it's just this bothersome thing that you'd like, try to get
through as fast as possible, but what you really enjoy is the shower. And then what you really
enjoy is like the whole little ritual and routine of doing your tea in the morning or your coffee
or your, or your, you know, or your, I don't know your new breakfast. And that's what you enjoy.
You start coming into connection with you, these silly little things that we think are childish
that were like, Oh my goodness, I'm an adult. I'm so much past that. That's what you learn when
you're five. No, it's just that five-year-olds have a greater connection with themselves.
And we've lost it. We've been told to ignore ourselves and just start choosing the outside
world, to choose things outside of us, to choose systems, principles, politics, laws, you know,
you know, physics, you know, things out there and to figure out how we can harness them to get what
we want out of life. And we're losing the connection with ourselves. So those little
things aren't childish, those little things and, and, and focusing on the little things,
focusing on how you feel, focusing on what textures you'd like, just, just the little
things in life are ways that you honor who God's made you to be by becoming sensitive to how you
feel and interact with things and, or what it is that you want to do, or, you know, just kind of
whatever, and then just allow. And, um, and those little steps, um, are interestingly, very powerful
in helping you practice choosing yourself because it's giving, it's taking you through a discovery
process of learning who you are again. And then it actually, when you discover who you are,
there's something about it that really, that you.
You really like you, you really enjoy you.
So you're entrusted with you and that will,
and you will become your best friend.
So, and I'm sure you already are,
but my point is to more of a degree,
like to whatever degree that you're not choosing you
because you're always choosing
what other people think about you
in order to tell yourself to yourself that you're okay,
that you feel okay, or that you like you.
So how do you start extricating yourself from that?
How do you start breaking those connections?
Anyway, and so, and also another, just clarification,
choosing you is choosing your value and your significance
in you as an entity and a spirit.
It's not choosing self-protection.
Like, oh, well, I'm in a situation I don't like myself.
No, that's God's job.
But one of the ways that you can partner with that
is remembering who,
that is remembering who does God say that you are?
And then you choose to value that.
And then now that you value that,
now that you're rested in the fact that God's protecting,
God's providing for me, I already have everything.
I'm not in lack.
I can't be threatened.
Okay, so now from this position, what do I wanna do?
Do I still wanna go take a bath?
Do I still wanna remove myself from that relationship?
Do I still want to watch Netflix?
Do I still want to whatever?
And if you do, then that's great
because you're now doing it from a healthy place,
not from a self-preservation place
because that doesn't have God in it.
So they can both look the same,
can both be sitting on a couch watching Netflix,
but one is doing it in self-protection
because believing they're abandoned and not good enough.
And the other is doing it because they're valued.
Wow, that's so good.
Yeah, I was wondering if you had any teachings
or recordings that you'd done on just like identity.
We hear the church so much talk about
like your identity in Christ and your identity in Christ,
and we can quote the verses
like I'm fearfully wonderfully made
and the Lord knit me together in my mother's womb.
But when we start questioning those things
about like, who am I in Christ?
Like, what does that actually mean?
Or when I start looking in the mirror
and questioning my physical makeup,
and I'm like, oh, I actually,
I'm struggling to believe that I'm beautiful
or I'm not beautiful enough,
or I'm not this enough or I'm not that enough.
Like, where do we, I mean, there's sporadic scriptures.
You can Google identity scriptures,
but where do we actually get that identity
of like who I am in him
and that he created me perfectly and made no mistakes?
I actually did it a bit different.
And sorry, I am paying attention.
I'm looking through my teachings to see
if there is anything that I,
where I just talk a bit more about identity.
I mean, there's, where is it?
I don't, I mean, I do some of that.
Like I have one caught in Create Space,
Change Your Life 2022.
The session one is talking about your identity
and role as a king.
So I have that.
And then I had one for, what was it?
The very, yeah, I was gonna say the very first one
of session one of Amish Country,
talk about rest and identity.
But some of those are just me rephrasing,
or just the same teachings that you've already heard.
I'm just reteaching them or whatever.
And this time I talked about the fact that,
hey, by the way, when I'm talking about
these subjects in this series over here,
I named these things.
I labeled it with these labels.
But in this other one,
now I'm calling it rest and identity,
because that's also what we're talking about.
And I just kind of like labeled them different.
And, but as far as like anything new,
I can't, I mean, new,
meaning like anything that isn't already
in my core teachings, I can't find anything.
So the way that I did it,
so I just wanted to check on that really quick.
The way that I did it was,
I just, I chose God not knowing who he was.
I knew generally that he said he's love and he's goodness.
Okay.
You know, he's holy, he's omniscient, he's omnipresent.
But here's the thing,
they're words to me, I didn't understand what they meant.
And now I could act like I understood what they meant
when I would teach, like,
I don't know if I were to have taught
like five-year-old or 10-year-old Sunday school,
but really, truly, in a life-changing way,
I did not know what they meant,
but I had to just choose that it was real
without understanding it,
because understanding it means,
if I don't choose it,
I understand it, it means that I'm putting a condition on it.
I have to understand.
I have to agree before I'll accept it.
And God wants to be accepted unconditionally.
So what I did is I chose it, chose that it was true.
And yes, I'm getting to our identity part, but it starts with,
with God because he's the foundation on which we based our, our, our, um, uh, our,
our introduction, so to speak to who it is that we are.
So anyway, so with him, I just chose, okay, God, you say that your love now,
show me what that is.
I choose that.
It's true.
I choose to receive it.
And I choose that anything that happens, Lord is your loving.
It's you expressing yourself in love and goodness.
The things that you, that happened in my life, are you expressing your loving your
goodness, but now Lord, please show me what that actually means.
I no longer get to, to dictate or do that.
If such and such happens that you're not being loving to me anymore, or you're not
being good.
I no longer get to determine that.
I no longer, I, I, and I did that in a way, like I told the Lord, or would I choose
that?
I will no longer do that.
I choose that.
You are loved regardless of the circumstances, situations in which I'm finding myself.
And then I would just look expectantly at life brand new, trying to figure it out by
trying to see God.
So things would happen.
A bill would come in.
Okay.
Well, okay.
Is God still love and goodness in this situation?
Yes, he is.
You know is, and is he you know, you know, who is he to me right now?
Well, he's still loving.
He's still going to still understand, but he's love.
And so I'm choosing that anyway.
So I would do that kind of thing.
And then along at the same time, I would choose who he said about me.
I would choose that he was fully, that he fully loved and accepted me regardless of
what I was doing.
I think I described this maybe in one of the teachings or something where I said where
I, where I kind of walked y'all through when I was, when I, how I was lying in bed one
morning and I hadn't started work and I was just feeling condemned because I hadn't started
to work yet.
And, and I was working for myself.
In other words, I was trying to start a business.
And so that was my work every day was simply trying to figure out how on earth to make
this thing work.
And it wasn't like I had clients or anything.
I was just trying to figure out how to make things work.
So and I would do it like, I don't know, sometimes between 10 to 14 hours a day.
It was ridiculous.
And I was lying in bed one morning and I, and I was just feeling condemned for not working
yet, but I was also feeling frustrated and defeated and like, Lord, what, what's the
point?
You know, it's I'm today's just going to be the same day as every other day past that
every other day prior to that.
In fact, that I wake up and I try to figure it all out.
I go to bed without getting much progress and no clients.
And then I, you know, I wake up the next morning and do it all over again.
And Lord, I just don't, I I'm trying to delay and procrastinate the beginning of that dad
gun thing as long as possible.
That's why I'm laying here, you know, and then I thought, okay, actually, what's your
issue?
And I thought, I don't believe God loves me.
I just don't.
So I don't believe I'm okay.
I don't believe I'm enough.
I don't believe, you know, I'm whatever.
So I thought, okay, well, I've struggled with that my whole life.
So this is, and this life is the result that I've gotten from believing that.
So if I want a different life, I've got to believe something different.
So I'm like, okay, the only thing I have, I have tried to believe that God loved me
and that hasn't worked in all these years.
So now I'm just going to choose that it's true.
And that's how I began to learn how to choose things with intentionality.
So I got up and I said, okay, I choose that God loves me unconditionally right now.
I mean, he really does.
I choose that it is a reality.
And so it was, and that there's nothing that I have to do that.
I can be who I am and do what it is that I, whatever the heck I want to do right now.
And he loves me and he accepts me and he's not condemning me.
Why?
Because that's what he said.
So if that's what he said, then I'm going to basically require him to carry out his
word by acting like it, by me acting like it.
So I get up and I made my bed and I took however long I wanted to take in the shower
and in, in making and putting on my makeup and then eventually making breakfast and then
taking it all and making my tea and then going out on the balcony and sitting in there for
however long I wanted still not working.
You know, which probably, you know, to you probably doesn't sound like a big deal, but
in the moment that was very scary for me because I had such a high sense of responsibility.
Like.
Ashley, you're being lazy, Ashley.
You could be caught, which I couldn't be caught.
I mean, I wasn't worrying for anybody, but I'm like, I can be caught.
God get really mad at me or whatever, you know?
And I chose, no, he says that, that I'm worth that.
So as I did each thing that day, as I was, as I was in the shower, as I was
putting on my makeup, as I was doing, doing, um, as I was doing, uh, uh, making
breakfast, I chose God is loving me right now.
I mean, I thought that intentionally God is loving me.
He's enjoying me doing these things that he created to be part of
life, the part of life experience.
And, uh, so, um, anyway, that is weird as that sounds.
That is what changed me.
And that is what helps me connect with my identity is my
identity is not a personality.
It's not a kid.
It's not certain character, a combination of characteristics.
It's in my union with him.
So it's very basic and it's very hard for me to understand, but I just needed
to connect with me at a, at the very root level, at the very root level of
my spirit, connecting to God's spirit.
Not who is he made me be?
Well, I'm, he says I'm righteous.
And he says, I miss them, says I'm that I do have some of those things.
Like he says that, that he loves me or he does, you know, he says that I have
never sinned, so therefore I'm perfect.
There were certain basics that I chose.
And then it, those basics are so life transforming and so powerful.
I just anchored myself in those.
I didn't.
And then the fact that he, he protect that he's protector, not that I'm
protected, that he's protector, that he's provider and there, and I'm in it.
So therefore I have the protection.
I have the provision.
I have the whatever.
Um, so I just, uh, that is what I based my identity and not in things like I'm
trying to figure out, um, who I am and what I like, cause those things are,
aren't our identity, those are just aspects of, okay, whoever it is that I
am, my identity, how do I express that?
I express it by liking these things.
I express it by being fascinated by these textures.
I be, I express it by liking these particular foods or my body responding
to these types of things in particular ways, that's, that's not our identity.
That's not who we are.
That's just getting to know how we choose to express ourselves.
So I just had to choose myself at that very basic root level.
And then, and then just chose, okay, that is how valuable I am.
How would I live?
Well, I, I pay attention to what I appreciate.
You know, I try to discover what it is that I appreciate.
I'd spend time with me because I choose me as my best friend.
I choose that I'm the thing that God has most entrusted
me with that kind of thing.
So that is what I kind of.
At how I did the development process.
I chose God and chose me and then tried to discover how, tried to
spend time because I valued me then.
So it's kind of, and the reason I put them in that order is everything's
dependent on everything else because God's this, because I choose he's this.
Then I choose that I must have an identity.
And I, and I choose that, you know, the valuable identity.
And then because of that, well, my goodness, if I'm that valuable,
I want to know that person.
I was like, I'm going to, I'm going to invest in that person.
I'm invest my time, my, my interest, my whatever in that person.
And I do that.
Um, so, um, anyway, I, that is how I did it and it happened rather fast.
Now, yes, there's the development process to it.
And the fact that you just learn, learn more and more about yourself.
Yes.
But it really, um, the power is in the choosing.
And so if you really get serious and you make a very solid decision
for each one of those things, it breaks something at a very root level,
you know, break breaks, you know, any chains or oppression at a very root
level and things can happen and, and, and completely turn on their
head very, very fast, very fast.
I mean, you think about how much you've changed, how much you changed in the
first six weeks and how much you changed in the second six weeks, we're talking
about like their aspects of this, because you know how to have a foundation of
like choosing, choosing things more and more, you know, this choosing, these
other choosing things that I'm talking about can cause things to happen even
faster because they're the very root reasons why, uh, root things
that have to be addressed.
So if you change the root things, then, oh my word, your entire life
that's built off of that changes.
Everything should start shifting.
I know it's not flashy, but it's what works.
Yeah.
I mean, works where it changed, it literally.
transforms you. Um, so anyway, I know we're, I know we're a bit over time and that you,
you're in the middle of a work day. So I wanted to honor that on your time too. Yeah. I could
go on and on for days, just picking your brain. You have so much wisdom. Um, I'm glad that
you've enjoyed the programs and that it's been helpful and that you found, you found
some exciting, um, you know, uh, healing and everything internal and, and, um, you
know, in your body. So that's, yes, still walking some of it out, but definitely leaps
and bounds, um, further ahead than, than where I was. So, so grateful. Um, I, Oh, the, I
think there was two, there was one teaching you were going to, when, when you were, uh,
when you get your thing back up and running on accusation of something that you had taught
before about how to respond in times of accusation or something alive that you did. Do you remember
that? I don't, I already did it. And do you remember it was called? Um, it wasn't an hour
session. It sounded like you did it in another class and that you were going to upload it.
Like when somebody makes accusations towards you, how you respond to those. Oh, yes. Um,
I will try to do that. I think I was talking about when I had that with a specific friend,
right. A client. And then I said, I was trying to go back to hear my response. Yes. I forgot
about that because Facebook wouldn't was taking a long time to upload it. So I was going to
give it time, see if it finally uploaded. And so we'll see if maybe it has, so I'm not
sure. Okay. So that, and then group anymore. So if it, if it could go into the portal,
that'd be amazing. I would love to hear that. Yeah. I need to try to, Oh, good. It pulled
up. I think. Yeah. Yeah. I got him. All right. So I'll, I'll have to go through, listen to
and make sure there's not any like private information, anybody's name mentioned or something.
So, but yeah, I will try to do that. And, uh, you said there was something else. Oh,
the other one. Um, the, the fireside chat that I missed that you answered my question.
Um, I'm like, Oh, wait, they're on the thing. Yes. Just as of last night, because the issue
finally got resolved last night. So I'm still working on the blessing your spirit. So those
aren't all up, but there are new ones up. I think there's like five or six new ones up.
Um, but, uh, there's yeah, something like that. And then, um, and then I'll continue to upload
the others and like groups and then, um, but then all the fireside chats and all of the rest groups
are up as of like, probably like two this morning or something like that. Yes. I finally got it
worked out. Okay. 12, 15, 12, 22. Perfect. Okay. I'm excited to go back and listen to that one
that I missed. Yes. It's on 1222. That's the one I think. I think you're right. Yeah. I was right
before Christmas. Yes. Yeah. Great. That's exciting. We'll be podcast gym material today.
Good. And, uh, one of the thing you had mentioned that you had a couple of friends that might be
reaching out to me. So I was excited about that. Um, and I'll look forward to meeting them if they
choose to join. Um, and what I'm, what, one of the things that I'm working on right now,
and I'm working on updating the page, part of it is updated, but not the rest of it.
And that's the fact that, um, I'm offering some, some, um, uh, incentives to join early where I'm
offering what I'm calling like the headstart, which enables, because I had someone tell me
the other day, well, actually, it's great that you're doing it in the end of January, but
I want to start something now, you know, I don't want to have to wait a month.
And so what I did is I, um, I, I have, I have my original course that I would give them all
access to, you know, whoever joins by, I think I have, I don't know, January something. Anyway,
I don't know. I think it's like sometime next week. And then if people join by then, well,
then they can get access to that course and they can start going through it for the next couple of
weeks. And then, um, anyway, so, um, I'm doing that, you know, to give people a way to go ahead
and just jump in and start early. And because I have so many people that are, are reaching out
to me right now, and they're finding a month, very, a very long way away. So I wanted to give
them something they could just jump into now while that basically so that they can strike while the
iron is hot with their interest. Um, so anyway, that's just a benefit for, for people who are
wanting to go ahead and join early. So basically they'll start, they'll start listening.
thing to the sessions, like not, not those sessions, the original sessions.
So that's another benefit.
They basically got it for one.
They get my original session, which I sometimes call the kitchen series
because I just did it in my kitchen.
But those are the ones that I did in April of 2020, that started everything.
And those ones that my alumni go back and watch like my lifetime members that
were in that or those original groups, they go back and they, they tell me
that they watch those more than the new ones I did that we watched, you
know, the inner his rest series.
That one wasn't done for a whole year after I first started.
And they tell me that even though they have access to both, they
always go back to the kitchen series.
And I was like, really?
I said, well, was it better?
Like, in other words, was it more articulate?
Did it like resonate more?
They're like, I really don't know if it resonated more or if it's just that, I
mean, like if I like it better or if it's just the fact that it's more
accessible because they said the both courses are good and, but in their own
way, they're, they say they're very different, which is true.
They're very different.
And I talk about some of the same things, but a year later, obviously
I have much more to talk about.
Um, so anyway, they would be able to have access to the original
kitchen series and start that.
So, yeah.
Okay, cool.
Um, great.
Yeah.
I hope specifically Allegra.
She's amazing.
She's in Georgia.
Um, and yeah, she's a friend.
She's a part of our, our project or building project here, but she, um,
could really, really benefit from it.
And so I'm hoping that I'll remind them though, that they can sign up early and
have access to the teachings to dive in.
So they'll get that and this got it.
Yes.
And, uh, and that'll all be on their page that they already have
access to I'm updating that link.
And then, um, your other friend, what time zone is she in?
Oh, she's in Australia.
Oh, I don't know if she'll join.
Um, yeah, she's in Victoria, Australia.
Um, she was actually a client, a health client of mine years ago.
So I had, I had launched a health consulting business, wanting to work for
myself, wanting to do all the things.
Right.
Um, and, um, she made a ton of progress, like physically weight wise.
Yeah, stuff like that, but she's still walking through like emotional things.
And is that how, what, how far away is, is Victoria like times and wise?
It's an odd time for sure, but we always used to sync up meetings.
Well, I, I feel like we used to meet at.
It was like 10 AM her time and it was like 5 PM our time or something.
Okay.
So 6 PM.
So yeah, that would be like midday for her.
Okay.
All right.
Either of them reached out to you yet.
Have they messaged you or no, no, not yet.
Yeah.
Um, there was something else to say.
Anyway.
Um, and, uh, yep.
So that all sounds good.
And, um, I guess that's it.
I don't know why I thought there was something else, but I'm glad that we're
talking in that you can, uh, you've got access to the, uh, fireside chat
because it was just up last night.
So yeah.
Cool.
And if you screen your accusation video and it's appropriate with
to view, well, it's not a video.
There was just, it was just how I responded in audio.
There were like a little, these little audio clips and so yeah, I would be
sending them these little audio clips.
Yeah.
Oh, got it.
Just very raw, very, I don't know.
She was just hurt and I was responding.
Love it.
That's all right.
Thank you.
Okay.
I'll keep you updated as things unfold.
Yes.
This next month of, um, if one of them sign in or what my travel
schedule is, if I can commit, I'm just a little concerned about the, um, if
I'm coming in and being able to meet three times a week in the midst of all
these things, and I don't want to like have to do it, but I really want to be
there, but all this stuff, so whatever you'd like to do, it's just there.
If someone wants it in their particular journey.
So we'd love to have you.
I always look in the, in the group.
So grateful.
Well, I'm sure I'll be in touch at some point.
See you.
Bye.