So, welcome to the kickoff, beginning of the month, a kickoff that we do each month for
the Prosper Leader.
Cannot believe how the months are flying by.
And here we are.
So I'm going to open with prayer.
I'm going to share a few concepts that God was putting on my heart, just to get you thinking,
just to kick off your month.
And then, of course, the best part, going to shut off the recording.
And for those of you who are live, we're going to get in and mastermind.
And that's when the really juicy, fun stuff happens as we collaborate.
So today, let's start with prayer.
And I'm going to be talking on the topic of overwhelm.
And it seems to be a common topic that it came up in my heart, and I'm hearing a lot.
And so let's see if we can't tackle a few things in the area of overwhelm.
So Father, I just thank you for this morning.
I thank you for every woman, every Prosper Leader member that is here live this morning
or listening to the recording.
And I speak blessings on their life.
I ask that you prosper them physically, financially, relationally, spiritually.
I ask that everything they put their hand to prospers, and that they make a great difference
in the lives of those that they are called to serve.
And I just ask, Lord, that you bless the meditations of my heart, the words of my mouth, that they
come forth clearly, and what needs to be said comes forth with grace and ease.
And I give thanks in Jesus' name, amen, amen.
So overwhelm, overwhelm.
It seems to be really common vocabulary.
And I believe that there's several aspects.
You know that I always give you the success formula, which is mindset plus skillset plus
actions, equal results.
Results being the financial results, the love results, relationships, peace, that which
you desire.
So it's always a combination of our mindset, our skillset, and our actions, right?
So let's talk about mindset when it comes to overwhelm.
And let's start with self-talk, okay?
One of the things that happens in our mindset that is tied in with the belief in lack is
that we start talking lack from the time we get up in the morning, right?
Oh, I didn't get enough sleep.
I'm going to be so tired today.
Lack.
Oh, I woke up.
I didn't, I pushed my alarm too often, and now I'm going to be rushing, and I'm not going
to have enough time to get ready for that meeting.
Lack.
I just don't have enough time to get everything done that needs to be done today.
Lack.
And we get into this mindset, like, I've got so much to do, and I'm not going to be able
to get it done.
And we actually work ourselves into a frenzy before the day even starts.
And so one of the keys for mindset is to tell yourself things like, I have time.
I have time.
Can you imagine if you just, instead of saying, I just don't have enough time, I'm so busy,
I'm so busy.
If you started saying, I have time.
I have time.
I will get the important things done today.
I have time.
Can you feel the peace in that?
Already the overwhelm will drop if we stop some of that mental chatter, right?
So that's a big one.
Another aspect of mindset, I like the scripture where Jesus calls us, are you burdened?
Are you heavy laden?
That could be another word for overwhelm.
Come unto me and I will give you rest.
Another really great scripture is he who keeps his mind stayed on him will experience perfect
peace, perfect peace, Isaiah 26 three.
So as we begin to have this peace, the overwhelm will diminish.
And so sometimes it might be just when that feeling starts to come up that you take a
deep breath and exhale and relax your nervous system.
and say to yourself, I have time, all is well,
and you enter into his rest.
Part of entering his rest, if I was
going to say the single most important thing for having
a great day and not being overwhelmed,
is to capture your morning.
How you start your day is how your day is likely to go.
And so one thing that's absolutely non-negotiable
for me is having a morning spiritual practice.
And so we're going to talk about skill set
and organizing your time, and both of these
crossover, which is using the Prosper Daily Plan.
Now, if you're not familiar, it's in your coaching portal.
It's under files.
It's at the very bottom under files.
I think it says revised or new Prosper Daily Plan.
This is a powerful way to overcome overwhelm.
And I have used it for years.
I've taught.
And the coaching clients that use it,
I print it out every day.
I keep them clipped right here.
And the top of the Prosper Daily Plan,
it's titled, A Prosper Daily Plan a Day
Keeps the Squirrels Away.
And the whole top is dedicated to the morning
spiritual practice, your morning routine.
And there's a recommended schedule,
but you could change the numbers as far as the time.
But even having a couple minutes of prayer and meditation,
learning to be still, affirmations,
which are setting the course for your day, your I am statements.
I am organized.
I am efficient.
I am bold.
I am confident.
I am loving.
I am prosperous, your I am statements.
Your declarations are the things you're
absolutely committed to do.
So the affirmations start with I am.
The declarations start with I will.
And so the main things get written down there.
I will write 500 words.
I will exercise.
I will pray and read, whatever it is.
And then having at least 15 minutes
to read that grows you, reading scriptures and reading books
that grow you, journaling, putting down your wins,
putting down your gratitude.
Gratitude is going to shape your day so much.
Then the next thing, so that's all mindset.
Now, skill set has to do with how you organize your time.
And one of the ways to do that part of overwhelm
often is lack of clarity or trying to do too many things
at the same time.
And I worked with a brain function specialist
for almost 30 years.
And what I really learned is that multitasking is a lie.
Multitasking is a lie.
Every time you change and jump from task,
you have to shut down your brain,
start another brain, aspect of your brain,
shut back, going back.
And it takes time.
There's a gap, and it's tiring.
It wears out your brain.
So part of overcoming overwhelm is doing one thing at a time,
one thing at a time, and doing the important things,
the important things.
So part of that is if you have your mission statement,
your vision, and your mission statement, which
is so important, write the vision, make it plain
so those who see it may run with it.
The vision is the big picture of the preferred future.
And the mission is how, how you serve.
Writing down your mission every day on the Prosper Daily Plan
is going to keep the main thing the main thing,
keeping you focused.
What are you here to do?
And then the mark, which we did starting this call,
is the goals.
Can be the goals for this week or this month.
Whatever works for you the best, the goals.
And then you break that down into the method, how.
I'm going to get three new clients, how.
I'm going to show up live every day,
or I'm going to hire a lead generator,
or I'm going to.
you know, whatever it is, start podcasting. So, how? That's the method. Now, you take that
method and you pull it down into the will do section down below and you break it into 20
minute chunks. Now, this will keep you focused and keep you from getting overwhelmed when you
work in 20 minute chunks, okay? If you're super focused, you can combine a couple and go 40,
but I wouldn't do more than that. Then you get up, you take a breath, you go get water, you move,
and then you come back and you give another 20 minutes very focused. Now, having those 20 minutes
outlined lets you know exactly what you're going to work on when. And during that 20 minutes,
no multitasking. You're not checking emails, you're not checking texts, you're not answering
phones, you are not doing anything else. And that focused time allows you to accomplish far more,
okay? And you will not feel the overwhelm, okay? Let's see, what else? Having a morning
spiritual practice, chunking. Chunking is really important. I like to chunk like activities,
okay? So, chunk your writing activities, chunk your follow-up activities, chunk your prospecting
activities, chunk your creating activities. So, putting like things together will allow you to
accomplish more and not feel overwhelmed. You're already sitting there at your computer, you're
already in the writing, and also, of course, multi-purposing will eliminate some of that. So,
you write one thing, maybe you write your blog, and then now it's so easy with those tools to
divide that up, now your blog becomes posts, right? Becomes other things. You can break it up,
can become a script for a video, can become a lot of things. So, chunking like activities.
Also, chunking days, okay? And parts of your days. So, it may be if you know when you're
most creative, then you do those things in the morning. And when you know that you just have a
lag and you want to do things that require less creativity or mental power, okay? Save those for
the afternoon. So, don't use your best, most creative time checking emails. That's going to
both overwhelm you and have the tail wag the dog. In other words, other people are going to be
directing your activities instead of you keeping the main thing, the main thing, right? So, chunking.
Now, some of you, the overwhelm is coming because you have multiple businesses. I have a lot of
clients that you have multiple businesses. Just have a new client that came in, and she's both
a realtor and a coach. I have another client, she's not here today, she's in the UK, but she's
a mediator and a coach. And so, what has really helped, like I just got done helping someone that
was feeling overwhelmed because what am I working on when and I'm just like looking at everything
and my desk is a mess, which is another fee for overwhelm is get rid of clutter. And so, we broke
up the days. And so, like let's say Tuesday and Thursdays are one business and Wednesday and
Fridays are another business and maybe Monday is catch up for everything, something like that, right?
And so, literally giving your brain the ability to divide up things. So, she literally has her
two businesses in kind of a box that she puts on her desk. So, the day that is mediation, she pulls
up the files that have to do with all of that. She puts some things on her desk. Her brain now knows
that this is mediation day, okay? And then, that all gets put away. Coaching day, she pulls out the
things that have to do with coaching and her brain knows we work on coaching today. Prospecting,
follow-up, actually coaching, content creating for that business. So, sometimes it's creating
deliberate markers, okay? Know that like a bookshelf that's empty, it'll end up full
or a drawer that you clean out, it'll end up back full again. How many of you have a junk drawer
like that? Everything expands to the space allotted. So, I purposely put my coaching business
in three and a half days a week. You all know when you go to schedule with me, it's Wednesday through
half of Saturday. That leaves me half a Saturday, Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday
for mental health, for travel, for gardening.
We're creating all of those things.
And believe me, I have played with this
where you work every single day
and you're maxed and you're tired
or you shove it into less days.
I used to work seven days a week
and I stopped working weekends, got the same amount done.
My income went up.
Then I cut out Wednesdays.
That was my day to go get my hair done,
massage, chiropractor, whatever.
Go out to lunch with friends, got the same amount done.
My income went up.
So when I started Prosper and All Things 11 years ago,
it went in the three and a half day container.
This will help you overcome overwhelm.
Now, I know some of you are working nine to five jobs.
That's not controllable.
And that means that you only have mornings and evenings
to get stuff done.
And I've been there and I've done that.
And some really key principles then
is that during that time,
you've got to absolutely know what you can delete.
Like it absolutely doesn't have to be done.
Everything is not an emergency.
And so there's a tool,
there's a book called Fix This Next,
and I'll send it to you afterwards.
And it's got a little evaluator in there.
And with the Fix This Next,
and maybe I can share it on the screen,
it gives you an evaluation to figure out
what part of your business should you be working on
the most important right now.
And one of the problems being an entrepreneur
is sometimes we think it's all important.
And so we try to do it all.
And then we don't delegate,
which is also a key to overcoming overwhelm
is delegation, getting help.
Okay, so delay, the Ds are delete,
this just doesn't need to be done, I'm not gonna do it.
Delay, it doesn't need to be done now, this can wait.
Delegate for the things that need to be done now
that can't wait,
but that you don't necessarily have to do.
And there's so many ways right now.
You can take on an intern, you can trade services.
Some of you say, I can't delegate
because I don't have money.
There's so many ways.
Take on intern.
I remember that was the first thing I did
when I was overwhelmed.
I actually called the local high school
and said, do you have a student
that you know might be really good
that would like to be an intern
in an office coaching situation?
And she was a jewel, a jewel.
And I had her doing much of the busy work.
She was gaining skills and I was getting more done.
Okay, so that's a way.
Trading, a lot of times people really want your services
and you can exchange if they're gifted at something.
Maybe they are a VA,
maybe they have some other skills trade.
I've done that a lot, okay?
So there's many ways that you can delegate
and be able to get things done
and free yourself up to do what's most important.
And this is why the Prosper Daily Plan, it helps you.
What is the most important thing
to get to my goals this month?
So you set goals this morning
or you set them and talked about them this morning.
So these are really important.
And especially if you know why they're important.
So what are the steps to be able to accomplish those goals?
Those have to get priority.
So mindset, skill set, time chunking, organizing,
focusing on what's most important, okay?
And then action plan, the Prosper Daily Plan,
each day is helping you take action on that,
which really matters.
There's some great books, Atomic Habits.
I'm gonna send you all of this, okay?
Atomic Habits, The One Thing.
Oh, what's the one?
I think Less Is More, The Minimalism One.
Let me just see.
I'll send it to you, it's in the notes.
So I'll send you some books to read.
But right now, I think probably what is most important
is that we look at your situation for overwhelm.
What's causing the overwhelm?
And let's break it down.
Is it a mindset overwhelm?
Are you telling yourself a story?
Is it a skill set overwhelm?
I just don't know how to do this.
Another cause, mindset cause of overwhelm.
is financial. It's all tied in with lack, right? So if you're really concerned and you got a story
about not enough, then that also will cause overwhelm. So is it mindset? Is it skill set?
Is it action? Are you procrastinating? Is that causing the overwhelm? Because things not done
are heavier than things actually getting in and getting done. So what's causing it? Mindset,
skill set, action to get the results. Let me know if you have any questions in this area.
We're going to go in and mastermind now and talk about it.