All right, welcome to the Prosper Leader Membership Time Together.
This is the kickoff of the month.
We're going to be talking about something so important, and I am wanting to get this
working here.
All right.
Hopefully you guys are all seeing me.
So I'm going to start with prayer.
I'm going to be sharing a concept, and it has to do with something I think that we all
struggle with, of course, and that is distractions.
How many of you have issues with distractions?
How many of you deal with distractions?
I know that that can be such an issue, and so I'm going to start with prayer, and then
I'm going to really get into what are distractions, how are they applying us, and how can we master
the one thing?
What is the one thing that will move the needle forward for you?
And I'm going to be referring to a book by Gary Keller called The One Thing.
I highly recommend it, and I'm going to add my own perspective and some tools.
So let's go ahead and start with prayer, and then we'll jump right into the subject.
So Father, I give thanks for this day.
I give thanks for the opportunity to grow, to learn, to hear your voice, and I ask that
whatever is needed for every woman listening to this, whatever is needed for them to prosper,
for them to grasp the one thing, for them to advance and carry out their divine call,
I'm asking that you will release that.
Let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be pleasing in your sight.
In Jesus' name, amen.
Amen.
Well, did you know that 8 out of 10 car accidents, 8 out of 10 comes from distracted driving?
And a huge portion of those are fatal.
Distracted driving.
And as I was thinking about that, I thought about what scripture says about distractions,
and I thought about where am I distracted, and what is the cost, and maybe you can be
meditating on this, what is the cost of distractions in your life?
What is it costing you in your health, in your relationships?
You know, nowadays, all you have to do is look around a restaurant or something and
you'll see a couple, and one of them looks like they're sharing something really important,
and the other one just, you know, keeps on picking up their cell phone and looking at
it and giving some grunts and groans, uh-huh, uh-huh.
What is distractions costing in relationships?
What is distractions costing in your finances?
What are distractions costing in every area of your life, in your spiritual life?
So I thought about some scriptures.
One of them is 1 Corinthians 7, 35, and it's really, really powerful, and it says in there,
I think it's in the New Living Translation, it says,
have as few distractions as possible.
Focus on what you need to do and have as few distractions as possible.
That's great counsel.
Hebrews 12, 2 says, looking away, you look away from all that will distract.
So this becomes very deliberate.
It is a deliberate decision that you come to realize, what are distractions costing me?
And I'm going to create a situation where I am looking away.
Now, here's the biggest distraction that I see right now in the modern day of AI and
in all of social media and so on, and that is multitasking.
So I want to begin, as I talk about focus and getting rid of distractions in one thing,
I want to talk about the concept of multitasking, because I want you to understand, I spent
over
20 years studying with a brain function specialist, one of the top in the world. And I learned
way back that distractions, and as I'm talking things are popping up on my screen as a
distraction, what I'm talking about. Distractions in multitasking. Multitasking, there is no such
thing. It's a lie. In other words, you cannot do multiple tasks. That's not what's happening in
your brain. You are not doing multiple tasks at once. Now, yes, you can do multiple things. You
can walk and talk and chew gum. You can drive and be on the phone. You can do multiple things,
but you can only focus and give your attention to one of those. Hence, the car accident.
You're focusing on the phone or you're focusing on that and you miss because your attention is
not on the driving. That's on automatic pilot. And boom, you crash into the person that stopped
in front of you that you didn't notice or the person that ran across the road or you go off
the side or whatever. So in multitasking, I want you to think about, we use the term
juggling a lot. It's a good word for multitasking. I want you to think for a second about juggling.
What is juggling? You got multiple balls in the air. So it looks like I'm juggling
multiple things. I got my business and my relationships and my social media and I'm
juggling. I'm juggling. But the truth of juggling is you're only doing one thing at a time.
You're catching one ball at a time and then you're releasing it. It's one at a time. So you're not
actually juggling all three balls. You're doing one at a time sequentially. Now, some of you
have probably gotten really good at that or you think you have, but I want you to understand the
cost, what it's costing you to multitask. Because what's interesting in the brain science and why I
go back to the fact that I spoke to this brain function specialist is that what's happening in
your brain is that your brain is not doing multiple things at the same time. It's doing one
and it's having to switch off, switch on to that, switch off, switch on to that, switch off, switch
on. Now here's the amazing thing. Number one, it makes your brain tired. Number two, it's costing
your brain enormous amount of energy. Your brain uses a great deal of energy, the portion of your
body's energy. And so this is why we also get fatigued. And so it actually takes time to switch
back in to what you're doing. And depending on how complicated the task is, the harder it is to get
back into it. Also, the longer the time that you're away from it. So imagine you're working
on something intensely and something calls you off. What are the distractions? People. People's
emergencies call you off. You know, phone calls call you off. Your own thinking, your negative
thoughts can call you off. Procrastination can call you off where you just go off and get distracted
doing something else. The more complicated thing you were working on and the longer you leave,
the harder it is to get back into it. So that's why I want you to take this for a second.
If you were having surgery or your child, let's just picture your child is having brain surgery.
How much would you want that doctor focusing? Would you be okay doing brain folks if he's also
looking at his phone? If he's also chit-chatting around? Okay. No. You expect them to 100% focus.
And yet, we don't do that for our relationships. We don't do that for the quality of our work
in our business. We don't do that for our health. We don't do that for our spiritual life.
And so this multitasking, researchers estimate in multitasking that we lose 28% of our day to
distractions. So you think it's nothing, checking that message on the phone, sending off that quick
text, answering that email, taking a call in between. Things are, and it's harder and harder
because it's designed to distract us. Try not looking at your phone. You sit down to read
your Bible. Does any of you have this happen? You sit down to read your Bible and your phone lights
up. And depending what you have turned on or turned off on your phone, you're going to get
everything from Instagram to Facebook to now there's a new one, threads and LinkedIn. And all
these things are sending you messages, vying for your attention. Your attention is the commodity.
Everything is fighting for your attention. And the question is, what is that costing you?
They estimate in our workday, 28%.
of our workday is spent on distractions
and getting back from distractions.
No wonder it takes longer to get something done.
No wonder we can't seem to complete tasks
and we don't finish anything.
No wonder we're exhausted
and our brain hurts at the end of the day.
And so this is something that we have to very consciously
and deliberately address.
And it is choosing not to multitask.
Now, those of you that work with me know one of the ways
that I handled this is developing the Prosper Leader Plan
because most people are operating on a to-do list.
And so they just keep adding to this to-do list
and there's a certain satisfaction
of being able to cross off.
But here's what happens with a to-do list.
It's a form of multitasking.
There is no prioritization.
So the things you get done may not be advancing your health
or they may not be advancing your business
or they may not be advancing your relationship.
You're just checking things off the list.
And the most important things
may be the things that you're procrastinating,
the things that make you money,
the things that make you get healthy,
the things that improve your relationship.
You may be procrastinating or putting off
and it just goes on the list the next day
and that list gets longer and longer and longer.
And this is why lists do not work.
It's very important.
You can use lists for getting it off of your head
and onto paper.
Lists are great for that.
Okay, so you can start there.
Most of you know, I use a list book
and I creatively brainstorm with lists.
I've talked about that in previously calls
but organizing your day around lists,
you've got to move from a to-do list
to a prioritized list, a success list.
Now to do that,
it's very important that you focus in on
what is your one thing?
What is your one thing?
And so I am going to need to figure out
what needs to be muted.
There it is, be muted again.
Okay, there we go.
And so what is your one thing?
Now, I love in scripture where it says,
let thine eye be single.
There is this power on single mindedness.
And if you study success and Gary Keller in the book,
the one thing, I was reminded this week to go back to that
and God had me read it again.
I read it back in 2016 and God told me yesterday
specifically, he wanted me to read that again.
I'm gonna encourage every one of you to read this again
or listen to it again.
This is gonna become more and more important
in this world of AI, in this world of distractions,
where we're adding more and more ways of communicating,
where more and more things are vying for your attention.
And you're getting notifications from everywhere
and interruptions from everywhere.
It's gonna be more and more important
for you to get very clear.
What is your one thing?
Single mindedness.
Now, let me give you some quick ideas
and then we're gonna work on this in the mastermind.
I'm gonna share my story.
I'm gonna share my story
of how much it affected me yesterday.
And then we're gonna talk about your story
and do some hot seat coaching and so on
to help you get your one thing during the mastermind, okay?
But let me bring some one things that I know
from coaching hundreds and hundreds of people.
One things that I see are not getting done
that are causing a challenge.
So the first thing, those of you that are coaches,
consultants, healers,
what the one thing that most of you don't have
is your niche.
In other words, who is the one client
that you absolutely can best serve?
Now, I understand that you're coaching,
you can serve the multitudes with what you do.
But when it comes to marketing and messaging
and effectively reaching and effectively serving,
you wanna hyper niche.
So you wanna be able to say the one person,
the one person that you serve, the niche,
that would be a one thing you'd wanna get clear.
That's something I do in Breakthrough Intensives
and in coaching.
You've gotta get clear on that one thing
because if you know your niche, you know their problems,
you know their desires, you know where they hang out,
you know their languages, you've gotta start there.
Otherwise, you're just throwing spaghetti on the wall,
hoping you reach somebody.
Next thing that you need to know as your one thing
is your one.
promise. What is your value proposition? What's the one problem that you solve?
Okay, so how do you get there? Make a list of all the things you can help people with
and find a king pin of the one problem that you solve that your niche really needs. And now you've
got magic. Now you could go to the next one thing, which is your irresistible offer. Because you're
talking to the right person with the right thing that they need, your offer is going to really
stick. Now the next one thing is, what do I do? I'm seeing that in coaching especially, I don't
see this in any other business. In coaching it's insane. Coaches think they're supposed to do
everything. Coaches and healers, okay. And so coaches are trying to be their own social media
experts, their own lead generators, their own copywriters, their own web designers,
their own podcasters, their their own producers, like their own author. I mean they're trying to
do everything. And so they think that they're juggling, but they're accomplishing very little
and they're not making a mark, they're not making an impact, they're not reaching their client,
they're not making money, they're not getting the fulfillment, they're not getting the joy.
If that's you, if you feel like you're doing everything and getting nowhere,
then this is super important for you. You've got to know your one thing. Now hear me carefully,
I found myself struggling with this, okay. So I started in my list book, I told you I brainstorm
with lists. And so I listed all the problems that I solve, you know. I can help people know their
niche, I can help them you know create a value proposition, I can help them design their packages
and pricing, I can help them with public speaking, I can help them with AI, I can help them improve
their sales and their follow-up, I can help them manifest their success, etc, etc. So I had to look
what's the one thing. And then this this is what really helped me. I wrote down what are all the
things I'm doing, okay. Coaching, writing, speaking, events, membership, courses, is this sounding like
you? Master classes, social media, networking, collaborating, a podcast, is this sound like you?
Creating videos, emails, is this you? So I wrote them all down. This is what I'm going to encourage
each one of you as you're working on your one thing. I want you to write down all of the things,
you're probably going to get about 10-15 things that you're doing, I'm guessing, okay. Write down
all the things that you're doing. And then I want you to ask this question,
which one of these things, if I did one of these things really well, if I focused really well,
what is the one thing that would move all the other things forward? What is the one thing if I
really focused on it? And for me, as I went through all of that, it was communication, it was writing
and speaking. So if I just communicate, if I just write every day and I speak every day, all the
rest will take care of itself, okay. So this will give you incredible focus. And I want to tell you
a story, and we close, and I want to give you some examples, okay. My daughter and I watched a movie
the other day, and I forget the exact title, it's It's My Friend the Octopus, or The Octopus My
Friend, or something like that, okay. And it's a documentary. And it is, you talk about one thing
and focus. This man went down every single day, over a year, dove down into the ocean, no wetsuit,
holding his breath, no tanks, went down and studied this particular octopus. And it was
amazing because he learned so much. And it started out, you know, the octopus is hidden in its den
and doesn't come out, and he could just see the little eyes. And over time, he builds relationships,
kind of like coaching and clients. Over time, he builds relationship, because he keeps coming back.
Think about this, apply it to your life. He keeps coming back, and he's building trust. He keeps
coming back and building trust. And the octopus finally sticks one leg out, and then
touches his finger, and all 10, and feels. And that's all for the day. And he goes back in, and
each day, he goes forward, and he shows up every single day. Are you getting the message? He shows
up every day, and he
builds trust and he builds trust and pretty soon the scene shows the octopus actually on his hand
and some of the scenes are so beautiful. The relationship, I didn't know octopuses are as
smart as primates and dogs and cats. I had no idea the story of what this octopus does is amazing.
Okay and it shows the hardships of when he messed up. He dropped the lens and scared the
octopus and the octopus went far away and moved to a different den and he had to spend all this
time tracking and sometimes we mess up. Sometimes we lose trust but he stayed with it and he went
back and do you know that he learned things that there was, it had not been in any science,
it had not been documented. What he learned because of his single-mindedness, because of his
intense focus, because his one thing was one octopus and showing up every day and building
trust and studying. Can you imagine what would happen in your life if you had that kind of focus,
that kind of one thing, that there's one thing you do really well for one group of people and you do
it with all your mind and you study it and you live it and you improve it every day doing that
one thing. You will be extremely, extremely successful and so in the book The One Thing,
there is a chapter on how do you apply the one thing you know personally in your personal life,
how do you apply the one thing in your spiritual life, how do you apply it in your business and
your finance. But I hope that this gets you thinking and looking at practical ways to organize
your time and your schedule so it's not just a to-do list, that your practical ways to eliminate
distractions like consider having a set time for a set thing and you turn off all notifications.
I've talked to you about that in the Prosper Daily Plan, there is the 20-minute focused
increments and that's the purpose of that, that during that 20 minutes you don't take any calls,
you don't check any messages, you don't do anything except work on that one thing for 20 minutes.
That's the purpose of that in the Prosper Daily Plan and so this week I'm going to challenge you
to really get clear on your one thing and if you need support, schedule a call with me.
If you need to really get clear on the one thing in your business, of course, we can do that as
well. So I'm going to go now into masterminding and I really look forward to hearing about your
one thing and how we can equip you to figure out your one thing. Okay, so I'll meet you over there
in the masterminding. I'm going to end the video right now.