All right, and welcome to this episode of the Prosper Leader Membership Call.
My favorite time as we gather together important concepts, like I said, when I had the vision
for the Prosper Leader Membership, I just, God showed me women linking arms and really
carrying each other across the finish line.
And tonight is no different.
Tonight we're going to be talking about a topic that is so, I mean, I think they're
all significant, but this is a big one.
This is so huge.
This, what we're going to be talking about, which is resistance.
Resistance is that internal force, and I think you all know it, maybe by a different form.
It might come in the form of self-sabotage, it might come in the form of procrastination,
it might come in, you know, very fancy excuses, but this resistance, resistance is standing
between who you are right now and who you desire to be.
Resistance is standing between what you have right now and those goals, dreams, and desires
that you desire to have.
So this is a really big deal, resistance.
So I'm going to share some thoughts with you.
I made some notes.
And here's the thing that really, really jumped out at me about resistance.
The greater, this might really encourage you, the greater the level of resistance that you
are experiencing, the more significant, the bigger, like the closer you are to that big
call, that God dream, that big purpose that you are called to accomplish.
So if you've been feeling a lot of resistance, number one, you're not alone.
I'm going to share with you through scripture, through history, you're not alone, but also
it's a sign you're actually on track if you are experiencing resistance, right?
Because every monumental endeavor, every profound work, every transformational mission
throughout history has faced this inner force called resistance.
Think about Moses, right?
Did Moses have resistance when God told him to approach the Pharaoh?
Oh yeah, his resistance came in self-doubt.
I stutter, I can't talk.
How could I possibly do this?
Resistance.
How about Jonah?
Jonah decided to just like beeline, like jump on a ship and get the heck out of there instead
of doing what he's supposed to do.
And he had to take a little journey through the belly of a whale to break his resistance.
You know, some people it takes more than others.
You know, even Jesus, he was sweating, you know, tears, a sweat of blood, just be taken
away, different kind of resistance.
Go ahead and mute yourself, please.
So I've been reading the book, The War of Art, and the chapter on resistance is so powerful.
And so he really explains that resistance is that sneaky force.
It is sneaky, isn't it?
It's deceptive.
It's that force that stands between you and that goal, that your true potential standing
between you and that true potential is resistance.
So he doesn't leave it there.
He describes the types of resistance, but he gives you strategies.
So today, this is going to be kind of a cliff notes from that.
I am going to share some of those strategies, then we're going to get together and mastermind
maybe even more, some applications on that.
So let's start with number one.
It's pretty basic, and that is acknowledge the resistance.
We can be pretty sophisticated in making excuses and justifying and saying, well, you don't
know my, you don't know my situation, you know, and everybody's always got that, right?
So here's a quote from the book, most of us have two lives.
This is something to really think about.
Most of us have two lives, the life we live and the unlived life within us.
Whoa, two lives, the life we live, the unlived life within us.
So he goes on to say in the war of art, recognizing resistance is the first step, right?
We've got to acknowledge it.
And I personally was blown away by how many.
forms resistance can take. Here's just a few of them. Procrastination, self-doubt, fear of failure,
perfectionism. My dog chewing on the wall here. Perfectionism, rationalization,
distraction, comparison, self-sabotage, avoidance of pain,
avoidance of pain, resistance to change, victim mentality, neglecting priorities,
lack of discipline. It comes in so many forms. So the first thing to take your power back is
be aware. Now, here's the really big one. This is probably one of my favorite. I've taught it
over the years. One of my favorite. Number two, and by the way, you're going to get this handout.
Number two, start before you are ready. Okay, one of the forms of resistance is telling yourself,
I'm still not ready. And believe me, coaching all these years, I have seen some sophisticated,
I'm not ready. I need another certification. I need another course. I just need to get that
software. I just need to learn this. I just need to get the finance. I just, there's all of these
reasons for not starting. Start before you're ready. One of my friends who's also a coach,
good friend, Carrie, she calls it do it ugly, which of course reminds me, I've shared this story,
James Malincheck. And he tells the story of his first book. And he talks about how the cover of
this book was so ugly that all of his friends would make fun of him. He did not have it together.
This book was ugly. And his response would always be, well, my book with the ugly cover
is making me a lot more money than the book that you still haven't written. That's for you
perfectionists out there, right? Because it says begin before you're ready. Don't prepare. Begin.
Okay. Now that really drives some of you perfectionists a little crazy, but perfectionism
fuels resistance. Don't wait for the perfect moment. Start now. I always like to say done
is better than perfect. And one of my favorite verses is Ezekiel 11.4. Ezekiel 11.4 says this,
if you wait for the perfect condition, you will never get anything done.
Ecclesiastes 11.4, if you wait for the perfect condition, you'll never get anything done.
Now, it was fun along this theme. I read on LinkedIn, Mel Robbins, and she was talking about
how she was really beating herself up. And maybe some of you do this. She was talking about how
she'd watch all these podcasts, just get online and become really successful. And she hadn't
started hers. And so she kept on saying, I'm too late. She kept telling herself and how many of you,
that's part of your resistance. You just go, oh, it's already been done. Oh,
I'm too late. Shoot. Right. And she did a powerful, because she finally just recently,
I think October of last year started her podcast. So she is way behind like all the people that
started podcasts, but she's rocking it, obviously. And I can so relate to her post. She said,
in your 20s, you might have been going along in your career or your college and you're like,
it's too late to change majors. Now it's too late to change course. If you're in your 30s
and you're still single. And I've got some kids like that who are saying this,
you think, oh, it's too late. I don't think I'm ever going to find someone. I'm not going to,
I'm too late to have a baby. It's too late to start a family right in the 30s, in your 40s.
Maybe some of you hit this. Oh, it's just too late. I messed up financially. I didn't put things in
place. I think it was too late to catch up now and on and on it goes. So if that's your form of
resistance, the answer is start now. And if Mel Robbins in her post, she said, start now, start
over, you know, start again, whatever, just start. Okay. So number two, start before you really feel
ready. Number three, this is another biggie. Take consistent action, take consistent action.
Here's the key. Even when you're not inspired, take consistent action. Even when you don't feel
like it. Now, I love this quote from the war of art. The professional has learned that success.
Success, like happiness, comes as a byproduct of work.
So the key is, as he said, relying solely on inspiration
can be a trap.
Cultivate a disciplined approach,
showing up day after day regardless
of inspiration's presence.
And the key to do this, because I always say consistency
creates momentum, this is my secret
when it comes to getting a breakthrough.
Whether I'm trying to start a walking habit,
whether I'm trying to, you know, a new exercise program
or a new writing or a new language,
my secret has always been, okay, if I'm adding that,
I need to create a new habit.
Because habit runs most of what we've done.
And you guys can go back and listen to the talks I've done
on how to start a habit.
But this would be a perfect thing.
Consistency creates momentum, create the habit,
so then the habit runs you.
Another really great book, Atomic Habits,
walks you through how to do that.
That's a great way to get through resistance.
Make it a habit so you don't have to use discipline
and fighting and so on.
Okay, number four, this was an interesting perspective.
Turn pro, turn professional, turn pro.
He says, the amateur tweets, the pro works.
And I love this, make a commitment to professionalism.
This means showing up, putting in the effort
and treating your passion like a job, even when it's tough.
So think about those of you that left the workforce
and now you're working on becoming a coach or a speaker
or, you know, an author or whatever it is you're working on.
Are you a pro or are you an amateur, professional?
So remember, when you went to work,
how many times you were tired,
you still had to get your butt to work.
How many times did you not feel inspired?
You still had to get your butt to work.
How many times, right?
You know what I'm talking about.
You were sick and you showed up for work.
So I want you to think about that
because you were professional.
You treated your job seriously.
Now, what I wanna know is now that you're doing your passion
which you love, which is even more important,
are you being amateur, trying to do it
when you feel like it, making excuses
or are you being professional that you treat it like a job
even when it's tough?
Okay, number five, embrace the long haul.
Embrace the long haul, okay?
And so it's really easy to get discouraged
if the process feels too slow for you,
especially if you're living in the gap,
it'll always feel too slow for you, okay?
So it's easy to get discouraged,
but success is built on commitment,
committed effort over time.
Again, consistency creates momentum, right?
Number six, invite resistance as a companion, okay?
And this is so powerful.
The more important a call or an action
is to our soul's evolution,
the more resistance we will feel toward pursuing it.
I'm telling you, I'm probably one of the more disciplined.
I've spent a lot of years developing habit,
developing discipline.
Those of you that know me, I'm really disciplined,
but guess what?
Writing this book, which is probably the most important work
that I've done yet, I mean, I've got it on my calendar,
I've got it at 8 a.m., I'm committed
and I'll be darned if some kind of resistance doesn't hit,
you know, almost every day.
It is so strong and when I read this,
like the more important,
because as I did the 10X is easier than 2X
and I did the book, the one thing that I talked to you about
which is what's the one or two things
that would make everything else fly?
And for me, it was writing.
And yet, where is the most resistance for me?
It's in writing.
Take a look for you.
Where is the most resistant?
I would venture to say,
that's the thing God's called you to do.
I would venture to say,
that's tied in with your life purpose.
That's tied in with what you're really supposed to be doing.
Like I gave you examples from scripture,
every single person in scripture,
as they were pursuing their big call,
there was so much resistance.
So even trying to get the Israelites out of slavery
into the promised land, how much resistance?
About water, about the food that they wanted to eat,
about being tired, about complaining,
how much resistance to get them into their promised land?
And what is that thing that has not left you alone
that you know, that you know, that you know,
that you're supposed to be doing?
It's resistance standing between you and that income, that impact, that legacy.
This is a big, big deal, okay?
Celebrate small wins.
Now, you know I put that on the Prosper Daily Plan.
You write your wins either at the end of the day for that day or first thing in the morning for the previous day.
This does so much.
If you can think about your wins and write them before you go to bed and you're falling asleep from a place of gratitude and not a place of fear,
oh, I lack, I don't have time, what's going to happen tomorrow?
Or same thing, first thing in the morning.
Doing these wins has a way of keeping you in a positive.
And those of us that can often live in the gap, meaning the gap we notice what's missing, what we're still not doing,
it's really easy to forget to celebrate the wins.
It can be a game changer.
He says, never forget this very moment we can change our lives.
There was never was a moment and never will be when we are without the power to alter our destiny.
Recognize and celebrate your victories, no matter how small.
Write three wins per day, either last thing at night or first thing in the morning.
OK, number eight.
I added not in the book.
It should be number one, which is prayer.
Praying.
I think what has helped me the most is to remember in whatever I get ready to do, because the procrastination or the resistance might be around self doubt.
You mentioned it might be around fear and insecurity, could be programming, could be any reason.
Right. And what what has really helped me is a little mantra and a little visualization.
OK, and you guys can put it in your own language.
OK, for me as a Christ follower, I'm totally aware biblically and you can see it however you see God, the universe, whatever.
But Christ in me, there's so many scriptures that I'm the temple of the Holy Spirit.
Christ in me, the hope of glory.
I have the mind of Christ.
OK, so I visualize that I'm a container for God, Christ in me and scripture says I'm in Christ.
We're hidden in Christ.
It was Jesus's last prayer.
So there's this idea, Jesus prayed that we could understand that we are one.
Both just he said, just like I, the father and I are one and I'm in them and they are in me and they are one with each other.
May they understand that oneness.
So the first thing I do is understanding, wow, I just get clear.
It's not me doing this alone.
It's Christ in me and I'm hidden in him as well.
And we are one.
And now I come from that place.
Like, let's go ahead and start this writing.
And now I come from the place as a vessel.
I like to think of a water faucet.
And so I think about this really big kind of shower bathtub type faucet.
Right.
And I'm just the faucet and the water, the spirit, the life, the living water flows through me.
The prayer becomes right through me, speak through me, coach through me, heal through me.
I'm just a vessel.
I'm just a faucet.
I'm not the water, but I'm open.
I'm ready.
I'm available.
Now, this gets rid of perfectionism because it's not really about you.
It's about surrender.
It's about being open.
It's about remembering who's really doing the healing, who's really doing the moving.
And so that's why in Christ, in him, we live and move and have our being.
So I pray that that puts a perspective when you get all bound up and you don't do the writing or you don't make that content or you don't reach out and do those calls back up and remember the power that you're bringing the life that you're bringing.
So I pray that those things that I want you to think about, which one of those, which one of those can you apply?
If you only apply one, just one small change can change everything.
OK, we're going to get together and really talk about that.
We are going to mastermind.
We've got some amazing people in this group.
We're going to mastermind.
And so for those of you who are not in that, I'm going to sign off.
I pray this blessed you for the rest of you.
We're going to get together and turn our camera on.