I think this is it, I think we're live, I hope you guys are doing great, let me do the
classic check the tech, make sure everything's doing what it's supposed to be doing, good
to be with you guys this morning and all right, it is on, cool, so how are you doing?
Great to have you jumping on and yeah, a little bit of a different time zone today, so I'm
stoked about that to be able to just change it around a bit for everyone and make it work
better for time zones for people in different parts of the world, so as you jump on board
say hello, so I know that you're there and I know that everything's working well, I'm
pretty sure it is from my side, but here we go, let's just check, make some comments there
guys, make some comments, just make sure that it is all flowing the way that it's supposed
to flow and then I'm going to pray and we are going to launch into it, all right, there
we go, that's cool, I can see the comments flowing now, welcome Michelle, Dorcas, Lisa,
Sally, I can't necessarily see if you're watching unless you're making some comments, so it's cool
to have you guys with us, Iris, great to have you with us, I can see there's other people
there, but I can't see who is there unless you make a comment, so let's pray and we're going to jump
into week two, processing failure and we're going to explore this processing failure template, so
let's pray, Abba, Holy Spirit, Yeshua, Jesus, we love you and we thank you that you meet us in the
midst of our deepest failures, in the midst of our darkest moments, we thank you that you stand
with us and you fight for us and you bring us into a place of freedom, you bring us into a place of
hope and I thank you that this morning and this week you are going to restore hope, I thank you
that you're going to bring revelation that empowers us in a really dynamic and powerful way and I thank
you so much for the restoration of hope, I thank you for strength and dignity being restored, I
thank you for your presence and your goodness and your kindness being released this morning in a
beautiful, beautiful way, Lord, I thank you that you give us eyes of understanding, I thank you, Lord, for
a grace of understanding, I thank you for a release of the spirit of understanding that we could
understand the mechanics of failure, how to process failure and how to turn failure into
our ally and not our enemy, so Holy Spirit, I thank you for every person here, I thank you for going
deep in our hearts, Holy Spirit, as failure stores itself deep in the recesses of our whole being,
as the Holy Spirit, I thank you for your love going deep into the recesses of our whole being,
right into the caverns of our mind, the caverns of our heart, the caverns of our soul,
our feelings, our emotions, all into the very depths of our being where failure resides and
where it hides and where it stores its toxic poisons, I thank you, Holy Spirit, for bringing your
love into deeper dimensions of our being this week than we've had it go before, so Holy Spirit, I
thank you that wherever failure has gone, I thank you that your love goes deeper and I thank you for
giving us a grace that you release the spirit of understanding, you release the spirit of wisdom
upon us, that we will have grace, Lord, to conquer failure in every area in our lives, in Jesus' name,
Amen. All right, okay, so who has had a journey with failure? I'll tell you what, I've definitely
had a serious journey with failure in my life. Hey, I'm just gonna slide, I'm just gonna slide
aside for one second, so just give me one second, I'll be back, I'll be back in one moment, hang on,
give me a second.
Okay, I am back and we are, I'm back in a zone, so
Well, you're gonna explore some stuff.
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Sarah, Vanessa, Jess, hello, hello, hello.
Great to have all of you guys here.
So we're gonna explore failure this week.
We're gonna go on a journey with failure.
And I wanna start by saying like,
you know, what is failure?
And that's one of the first things
that you're gonna address in the process of the template
is that you have to address what failure is.
Now, failure could look like a distraction like this.
Hang on, come in, come in, come in.
I don't think this is failure,
but we all have different perspectives on failure.
Come in here, come in, give me a cuddle.
This is Zoe, she comes in.
This is actually one of our morning routines.
Come in here so you can have a little cuddle.
So do you wanna say hi to the guys?
Hi, guys.
Okay, sweet.
So Vanessa says, I am a professional.
There you go.
So this is something that Zoe often does.
Comes in, come for a snuggle some mornings, eh?
That's nice.
Okay, you can snuggle with me.
So failure, let me just chuck out a couple of things
on failure.
Failure is not achieving your goal yet, right?
It's not, we're gonna look at a whole bunch
of definitions of failure in a moment,
but I'm just saying failure is a normal part
of the learning process that will teach us
how to actually bring our wildest dreams to life.
The real danger in failure is in processing it badly.
And I don't think that many people actually get taught.
I don't think that many of us really get taught
how to process failure.
Let me know if you've had any good teaching
by anyone on how to actually process failure.
Hi, Elise.
I see Elise there and Gail and Sarah and Louisa and Lee.
So hi to you guys.
But I don't think we get that much training
on actually how to process failure well.
So I'm gonna start with a story of failure,
of my own failure.
And this is one of the areas that I've failed consistently
for years and years, Zoe.
If you're gonna do that, you can either snuggle
or you can boost your choice,
but you don't get to do phases.
Mommy might be awake if you wanna go and check.
Yeah?
Can you say bye-bye to these guys?
Bye.
Bye-bye.
Okay, give me a kiss.
All right, see ya.
Okay, so one of the greatest areas of failure in my life
has been in the area of my marriage, right?
So feeling like a failure as a husband
was a crushing sense of pain,
a crushing sense of failure.
And especially when you're watching your wife not happy
and you're going through years
of the process of your marriage struggling
and you have these moments.
I don't know if you've had these moments,
if you've been married or you are married,
but I've had these moments where I've wondered
how can this marriage actually hold on
through all the pain and through all the sense of failure.
And one of the worst things for me about failure
is just the level of deep pain
that it releases on the inside of you.
And that's one of the things we're gonna address
is the real reason for the level of pain
that failure produces in us.
Because failure, the amount of pain
that failure produces in us
is determined by how we personally process failure.
So failure can be really painful for one person
and not painful at all for another person.
And the difference is in our ability to process failure.
So that's what we're gonna be unpacking this week.
But here's where the pain went to another level, right?
There was another level of pain
when I actually realized I came to the place
and it took like, this took years for me, right?
When I came to the place,
you might think Benji that's so basic,
but this is my journey.
And it took years of pain for me to finally come
to the place where I realized that I was at least 50%
of the cause of the pain in my marriage, right?
Now that might sound a little bit silly,
but it wasn't just that.
I didn't just have to realize that I really was
at least 50% of the cause of the pain.
It wasn't just that.
I had to realize what it was that I was doing
that was causing the pain, all right?
So I had...
to come to this place where the pain was so painful
that I would actually be open to hearing,
open to seeing, open to realizing,
open to understanding that it was my own selfishness.
It was my own actions or lack of actions.
It was my own bad attitude
that was actually causing so much of the pain
in my own marriage, right?
And then I had to go to another level
beyond just realizing that it was my selfishness
and my bad attitude and my actions or my lack of actions.
I had to go beyond that, right?
Because that place in itself,
just having that realization in itself
is even more painful, right?
So it actually meant that the pain of my failure
escalated and went higher
and went to a whole nother level of pain
where my pain was just on another tangent,
another level of pain.
But I had to transcend that.
I had to go beyond that.
I had to go to a place there
where I actually could see in the midst of that pain.
I had to go to another place,
another dimension in the journey where I realized
that it was not only was that the...
Hang on a second.
Zoe, you can't be playing here this morning, okay?
You can snuggle, but you can't play, okay?
So if you're gonna snuggle, snuggle in.
Otherwise, we can't be just playing with toys and stuff.
Okay, so you snuggle in here.
Get real cozy.
All right.
With that process of pain,
what I had to do was I had to go beyond that
and I had to go to a place
which is even another level of pain,
which was taking ownership, right?
Which was really deeply owning the fact
that I was the cause and then taking ownership
that I actually had power.
I had the ability to change things.
So that was a really crazy amount of pain.
I'm gonna unpack that for you a little bit more,
but let me just talk to you about this
in the context of narcissism, right?
Because there's a little bit of a narcissist
in nearly all of us and it's connected to failure
and it's connected to how we process failure.
And if you don't process failure well,
you can end up becoming a full-blown narcissist
as opposed to just a regular,
you know, kind of run-of-the-mill narcissist
like most of us are to a degree.
So, yeah, so this dynamic of narcissism
within all of us, right?
We talk about narcissists all the time,
as long as it's not us, you know?
It's those other narcissists out there that aren't us,
but we all have the ability to become a full-blown narcissist.
We all have the ability to really, you know,
for that to really flare up in us.
And in different situations,
that level of narcissism does flare up inside us.
So I wouldn't have called myself a narcissist,
but in the context of my marriage,
there is a level of narcissism,
a level of just kind of being so self-absorbed
or like so wrapped up,
like just basically narcissism is blind
and it blinds us to reality.
And it took me years to overcome that,
you might call it a low-level narcissism,
but it's a blindness.
And it was a blindness that was so strong
that kept me bound for years.
And it's all connected
to this dynamic of processing failure.
So my perspective is that, you know,
the dangers of learning,
the dangers of not learning
how to process failure effectively
is that it can create an irrational fear of failure, right?
Or an irrational fear of being wrong.
And that can lead us to becoming narcissists
in the sense that,
now I've written some of this down,
so I'm just wanting to make sure I get it right on.
You know, like the,
you know, this creates a danger
that it makes people narcissistic
in the sense that we become so afraid of reality
that we allow our perspective, right?
We can become so afraid of reality
or so afraid of feedback
or so afraid of being wrong
or so afraid that we're the issue
or so afraid of failure
that we allow our own perspectives
on what we wish was true
to actually trump reality, right?
So this is kind of where I was stuck,
not realizing, thinking that I was doing,
you know, thinking that,
oh man, like surely it's not me
that's causing all these issues,
but right, you know,
and so it was that false perspective
that was actually blinding me
to the fact that, no, it was my,
my bad attitude, it was my action, my lack of action, it was my, you know, it was my own
selfishness that was actually causing so much of the pain in my own marriage. But it was that,
you know, that fear or that disconnect from reality that I wanting to be right and not
wanting to be wrong and not wanting to realize that I was the cause of my own pain. So, but,
you know, this is what the narcissistic dynamic is. It's a perspective that's so afraid of being
wrong or so afraid of failing that it would rather believe its own made up version of reality than
reality itself. And so, okay, so in that context, we allow our own perspectives of reality to trump
reality itself. And it's all kind of comes out of this place of a fear of failure. But if we don't
actually confront it and deal with it, eventually it will actually create in us like a growing
dynamic, that narcissistic nature will get real momentum, it will grow, it will flourish, it will
thrive, and it will go to a whole new dimension. So, you know, this means for a lot of people,
the feeling of failure, right? And let me know how you feel about failure yourself. But this means
that for some people, and actually really a lot of us is that on some degree, the feeling of
failure is so painful, that we would rather live with the pain of failure, right? And this is where
this is kind of where I was until the pain really got too bad. But we would, you know, we have,
you know, this irrational fear of failure, that's so great that we would rather live with the pain
of the failure, then experience the pain of the process of dealing with the root cause of the
failure, especially if we are the root cause of the pain, we'd rather live with the pain of the
problem, rather than deal with the pain of facing the problem, especially if we are the cause of the
problem. So I was blind to the fact that I was a major cause of the pain until the pain got so
unbearable, that it forced me to look at myself at a level of depth and in a way and from a
different perspective that I'd never looked at myself before. And, and so I had that first phase
of, of awakening where the pain got so great that I was finally in a position where I was able to see
my own selfishness, I was finally in a position where I could see my own bad attitude, I was
finally in a place where I could see how my own actions and lack of actions were causing the
problems in my marriage. And then, so that was one level of pain. And then the next level of pain,
you know, that, you know, the next place that pain forced me is to not just see them and
acknowledge them, but to actually take extreme ownership of those areas, and then actually start
to deal with them. Now, what we don't, what I what I hadn't realized in this process is that
the whole time failure was trying to be my friend, right, failure was trying to lead me
towards the solution, failure was actually giving me great information, that pain that was coming
from failure was actually trying to teach me how to master my problem, right, but I got so caught up
and so overwhelmed by the feeling of pain, that I couldn't understand what pain was trying to
teach me. And so this, this dynamic of processing failure, I couldn't understand what failure was
trying to teach me, right, because of the pain. So, so this dynamic of processing failure,
it actually helps us to shift from this place of being overwhelmed by the feeling of pain,
to actually being able to put that those feelings of pain, you know, in the right place, you can feel
pain, that's okay. But when the feeling of pain blinds you to the lessons that pain is trying to
teach you, that's when you can, you know, can be stuck and trapped by pain. And that's where you
actually get in a place where it's you're in danger of actually becoming a narcissist. So that was the
journey for me. So the next level in the journey was taking extreme ownership for my actions,
and then learning all the lessons that failure was teaching me. Okay, right, failure was teaching
me I had to take extreme ownership for my attitude. Failure was teaching me, I had to take extreme
ownership for my selfishness. Failure was teaching me I had to take extreme ownership for my actions
or lack of actions. And when I actually started to implement the lessons that failure came to teach me,
that is when I
started to see massive breakthrough in our marriage.
That is when once I actually moved,
like I was stuck in this place literally for years
where the feeling of pain was so overwhelming
that it left me blind to the message
that failure was trying to come and teach me.
And once I finally got over the overwhelm
and started being able to listen to the messages
that failure was trying to teach me,
I came into this place where I could actually hear
and then take ownership and then implement.
And then we started seeing results.
And now our marriage is literally phenomenal.
Our marriage now, the quality of it
is beyond what I had ever imagined.
And especially when I was in that place of hopelessness
and despair and wondering if our marriage
could ever even survive,
it would have been very, very difficult
to convince me at that time
that our marriage could be as amazing as it is right now.
But it's come through that process
of learning how to process failure accurately.
So how's that?
Let me check the comments.
How does that, do you guys relate to that?
What do you, have you been through things like that?
Let me just check comments now on this
and see how you guys are tracking with me.
This is, by the way, this session is going
to get really interactive.
So I'm going to get you guys really engaging
a bunch right now.
All right.
Snuggles, people are loving the comments.
I'm seeing people loving the snuggle action with Zoe.
Yes, that was good.
Love Zoe.
We have good morning snuggles.
So, yep.
Failure can be paralyzing said Vanessa.
Jess said failure for me is when we stop trying.
That's really good.
Tina said marriage takes a lot of work.
Dawkins said failure for me was so painful.
I taught myself not to care.
Wow, that's so true.
I always felt the failures of everyone around me
was my fault.
So carried a lot of false responsibility.
Yeah, that's a real danger is when failure gets so intense
that you shut down, you just turn yourself off.
You shut down, you check out.
That's so, so real.
That was something that I really had to guard against
in my marriage is actually checking out
because of the pain.
That was a big deal.
I really fought against that.
Gail said she suffered pain for years also,
finally overcame.
Yeah, great.
Donna has learned some really good lessons
of stop and believe around failure.
Good stuff.
Yep, great stuff.
Good comments here from Sarah, Louisa, everyone.
So, right, let me carry on here.
And let me give you three of the greatest dangers
when it comes to processing failure, okay?
From my perspective,
and feel free to chuck in the comments
if you've got other ideas,
there'll be way more thoughts than this,
but here's three of my,
like my top three dangers
when it comes to processing failure
that make, you know, if we stuff these three things up,
they actually make our current circumstances
a lot worse, right?
So if we master these, then failure,
it minimizes how big a deal failure is, right?
If we stuff these three things up,
then failure can become a massive, massive issue.
Otherwise, like, and really in an unhealthy way,
failure can become a really unhealthy,
overwhelming dynamic, as opposed to failure,
just being a normal, healthy part
of the process of living life.
So here's the top three.
Number one, the worst thing
that I think you could possibly do with failure
is actually take your identity from failures, all right?
And I know that this happens all the time,
is that people take their identity from failures
when reality is, is that we are made in the image of God.
You know, Genesis 1 is all about this.
Genesis 1, 27.
So God made man in his image,
in his own image, God created them,
male and female, he made them.
So we are made in the image of God.
John 17, verse 22, Jesus said,
I have given them the same glory that the father gave me.
That's an identity statement.
The whole Bible is filled from start to finish
with identity statements,
and none of them are ever about the fact
that you should take your identity from your failures,
or you should take your identity from your life experiences.
All identity statements in the Bible
are about taking your identity from the present reality
that you're made in the image of God.
And I've talked about this before about how we can.
fuse our identity and our performance or our identity and our life experience and if we have
a mindset that fuses our identity with our performance or our identity with our life
experiences we can end up being in this really dangerous place where we're perfectly positioned
to just naturally and effortlessly take our identity from our failures right but that means
that our identity will be always be the lowest common denominator of our life experience now
we're going to go through many many failures i kind of have a laugh with some of my friends
sometimes that jesus promised us tribulation right he prophesied tribulation he said in this world
you'll have tribulation now you could like you could make your mindset we just focus on that
right jesus like oh no we're going to have tribulation right um like you can have lowest
common denominator lowest common denominator ways of thinking in the sense that you can always be
thinking worst case scenario you can always be thinking you know you've got this ability to
think in a way that's destructive or a way that's constructive that will set your life on fire that
will bring your wildest dreams to life but one of the most destructive ways you can ever think
is if you fuse your identity with your life experiences your identity with your behavior
because um at that point you're going to sooner or later come to the conclusion that you are a
failure that you're um that you're inadequate that there's something intrinsically wrong with you
but you have to separate in your thinking your identity is exclusively defined by god your
identity can't come from anywhere else apart from the fact that you're made in this image
and come what may failures negative experiences people saying crazy stuff uh you know all the
stuff that you've been through all the things that people you know have said about you done to you
um all the all of the life experience right we have to be able to separate that from us and ensure
that we never take our identity from failure so that for me is the worst thing that could ever
happen about failure not the failure itself all right failure itself is going to come so that to
me is normal and failure in itself is not a bad thing failure is just a natural part of life but
when failure gets really bad the worst thing that can happen through any failure is if you take your
identity from that failure let me know if you've taken your identity from failure i sure have many
times i've taken my identity from failure and i've had to retrain my thinking i have to had to
read you know separate uh my identity from my life experiences and once i did that you know failure
became so easy to process because it wasn't personally you know it wasn't like an identity
issue well i wasn't i wasn't thinking i was defined by this failure so it was easy for me to
to start processing failure because it wasn't no longer my identity in the past when failure was
my identity was really really difficult to address because it felt so personal and so painful and like
it was speaking about my own value and my worth and so i just freaked out about it get overwhelmed
by but separate identity from failure and all of a sudden the level of pain and overwhelm drops
right down it's so much easier to process all right so number two then the second worst thing
i think that can happen from failure is that you develop an irrational fear right so you develop
such a fear of failure uh that you actually become paralyzed now the bible the number one command in
the bible is do not be afraid right that in terms of there's no command that god gives us more than
this command of not to be afraid right so but if we are paralyzed by a fear of failure if we aren't
processing failure accurately we'll always we can we can come to this place where we are literally
paralyzed by a fear of failure and um so i would say that is that is one of the great the second
to me that's probably the second greatest danger of not having good skills of processing failure
so the second greatest danger for me is being paralyzed by a fear of failure we are so overwhelmed
so afraid by this irrational sense of oh my gosh i might fail so i won't take risk oh my gosh this
might happen oh my gosh this might happen one of the quotes that god gave me years ago as a young
man as he said every great adventurer must embark on a precipice of danger where failure is real and
encompassing and success lies only forward i'll say that for you again every great adventurer
must embark upon a precipice of failure where sorry every great adventurer must embark upon a precipice
uh every great and now i'm losing myself i'm losing myself something's happening i'm losing
myself every great adventurer must embark upon a precipice of danger
where failure is real and encompassing and
success lies only forward. And that's the reality of life is
that life is going to be surrounded by failure. And I
like what was someone put in the comments before is that failure
is when we when we stop trying, right? Because we're going to
like, you're going to experience failure at every stage in the
process, you know, and, and right now, depending on how we
analyze it, there's going to be lots of areas in our lives, we
were failing at the same time. But really, failure is just
giving us information on where we're at, how our strategies are
working, where things are going, and what our next best step is.
So that's the second greatest danger. And then the third, the
third greatest danger, when it comes to failure, that actually
makes our circumstances worse, is if we don't learn the lessons
that failure comes to teach us. And that's where I was in my
marriage. That's why I was stuck in my marriages, I wasn't
learning the lessons that the pain of failure was coming to
teach me, I was just stuck in the pain, but not learning the
lesson. So I just went round and round and round and round and
round and round, until the pain got so unbearable, that my ears
started to get, you know, like turned on, I started to get a
little bit more sensitive, I really I started to start to get
more desperate for something that would actually resolve this
pain. You know, that was coming through failure. Eventually, I
finally, I came to the place where I finally actually was
able to actually start hearing the lessons that failure was
trying to teach me. And at that point, everything changed. So
you know, this template, we're going to, we're going to change
things around in a moment, I'm actually going to get real
interactive with you. And you're going to have to get your
fingers busy in the comments. This is going to be quite fun.
It's going to be some true false and some yes, nose, which is
going to be good. So but this template, we're going to explore
the template, this template is all about developing our ability
to process failure in a healthy way. So let's check out the
template, I'm going to do a screen share with you.
All right, oh, hang on. Yeah, there we go. We good we're
happening. So this is the processing failure template. So
you're going to jump in here, you can download it, it's in the
comments, they're available. So you can download it, you're
going to share your definition of failure, you're going to
describe an area in life where you feel like you have
experienced a significant failure. There's some good
questions for you here that you're going to go through that
are just going to help you unpack and process the process
failure. Now, this is where we're going to have some fun
right now. Okay, so I've got a whole bunch of questions,
statements that we're going to go through. So the first thing
that we're going to go through is I want you to, you know, just
I want you to say agree or disagree. Okay, so some of
these, I agree with and some of them I disagree with, they're
just there to help us kind of spark our thoughts around
processing failure. So what I want you to do is with when I
say this, okay, so I want you to engage with this in the
comments. And what I want you to do is write the author, you
know, write who the quote is from, and then write agree or
disagree. Okay, so if it's this first one is John Walton, and
you say, you can just say, John, if it's easy, you say,
John, agree, or John disagree. So here we go. I'm going to make
the statement and then you say the author and whether you agree
or disagree. Sound good? Sounds good to me. Right. Let me check
the comments again, before we jump into this, this section.
Okay. So, yeah, well, I wish I got taught this as children and
failure, I failed in the same areas over and over again, but
still got up every time. That's awesome, Kerry. We fail. Yeah.
So the quote was, where failure, every great adventurer must
embark upon a precipice of danger where failure is real, and
encompassing and success lies only forward. And basically,
that means is that, you know, we only we only win if we keep
going, and we only lose if we, if we stop moving forward. But
the but it's also that quotes also about the fact that, you
know, life is dangerous, there is risk, we definitely you're
like failure is a real thing. It's all around us. And it can
Yeah, but yeah, so that's kind of what the quote is about. It's
just always about just making sure that you just keep on going
never give up. So wow, that's cool. Jackie's just sharing that
she's had some massive identity breakthrough. And Linda saying
it's hard to watch that and others and to experience
personally. And Gail saying God gave her son a scripture last
week that really helped
this so lots of triggers hey lots of triggers go in jesus name yeah so there are lots of triggers
right oh here we go we've just had okay right so let me let me um read these things out and then
get ready okay so here's john walton's quote um i'm gonna stop the screen share now so you guys
can't um jump ahead too much and see the see them there i gave you a little flash there so you guys
can check out the template in your own time now um but for now let me get back to the template of
it's escaped it's it's escaped me my templates escaped me my friends let me track down my
template and then we're going to get into this and you guys can get busy with your fingers and
i've got to find um there it is there it is it disappeared on me for a second righto um
so here we go john walton's quote is and now you've got to say do you agree or disagree
john walton's quote is failure isn't fatal but failure to change might be so do you agree or
disagree now coco chanel he said well coco chanel said success is most often achieved
by those who don't know that failure is inevitable agree or disagree success is most often achieved
by those who don't know that failure is inevitable right robert r kennedy agree or disagree only
those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly agree or disagree only those who are
so this is robert kennedy so robert robert kennedy he said only those who dare to fail
greatly can ever achieve greatly so agree or disagree with robert let me know um right we've
got next is janet fitch um and janet fitch so do you agree or disagree with janet janet said
the phoenix must burn to emerge the phoenix must burn to emerge agree agree agree or disagree with
janet um so gina shewalter she said giving up is the only sure way to fail so agree or disagree
with jenna she said giving up is the only sure way to fail all right now richard yates said so
this is richard yates do you agree or disagree he said if you don't try anything you can't fail
it takes backbone to lead the life you want if you don't try anything you can't fail
it takes backbone to lead the life you want that's richard yates agree or disagree now
dennis white weightly dennis said failure should be our teacher not our undertaker
failure is delay not defeat it's a temporary detour not a dead end failure is something we
can only avoid by saying nothing doing nothing and being nothing so agree or disagree with dennis
right alan degeneres you might have heard of her she said when you take risks you learn that there
will be times when you succeed and there will be times when you fail and both are equally important
agree or disagree with alan winston churchill winston churchill said a pessimist sees the
difficulty in every opportunity an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty agree or
disagree with winston thomas edison said so remember thomas edison uh it took him 10 000
goes over 10 000 goes to actually find out how to create a commercially viable light bulb so this is
what thomas edison said after what some people would say failing 10 000 times and thomas edison
said i have not failed i've just found 10 000 ways that don't work agree or disagree with thomas
winston churchill again winston said success is not final failure is not fatal it is the courage
to continue that counts alan again alan said alan degenerate said it's a failure that gives you the
proper perspective on success okay this one is paulo uh hello okay so paulo said there is only
one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve the fear of failure agree or disagree
so lance armstrong lance armstrong said pain is temporary quitting lasts forever oh that's that's
crazy that's a that's a real statement right there let's read that again so this is lance armstrong
he said pain is temporary quitting lasts forever agree or disagree winston churchill he
again, he's back in the arena. Success is stumbling from
failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm. Now that's cool.
Now, interesting thing about the word enthusiasm, the word
enthusiasm, it's so in which is to be filled to be filled with
and theos, which is God's actually enthusiasm. And the
actual meaning of the word enthusiasm is to be filled with
God. How good is that? So Winston Churchill said success
is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of
enthusiasm. Agree or disagree with that Neil Shusterman. Okay,
Neil Shusterman said, I'd rather be partly great than entirely
useless. Agree or disagree. J. M. Barry, she said, we are all
failures. At least the best of us are agree or disagree. Henry
Ford said the only real mistake is the one from which we learn
nothing. C. S. Lewis. So agree or disagree with Henry. Now C. S.
Lewis agree or disagree. C. S. Lewis said failure, failures are
finger posts on the road to achievement. Now Robert
Kiyosaki, he said winners are not afraid of losing, but losers
are. Failure is part of the process of success. People who
avoid failure also avoid success. Wow, that's deep. Let
me read that one more time. But agree or disagree with Robert.
Winners are not afraid of losing, but losers are. Failure
is part of the process of success. People who avoid
failure also avoid success. Okay, Napoleon Hill wrote, every
adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the
seed of an equal or greater benefit. Agree or disagree. Now
Johnny Cash. All right. Do you agree or disagree with Johnny
Cash? He said you build on failure. You use it as a
stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to
forget the mistakes. You don't dwell on it. You don't let it
have any of your energy or any of your time or any of your
space. Agree or disagree. Now Zig Ziglar. You agree or disagree
with Zig. He said it's not how far you fall, but how high you
bounce that counts. JK Rowling wrote, failure is so important.
We speak about success all the time. It is the ability to
resist failure or use failure that often leads to greater
success. I've met people who don't want to try for fear of
failing. Agree or disagree. Okay, Chris Hardwick. No human
ever became interesting by not failing. No human ever became
interesting by not failing. The more you fail and recover and
improve, the better you become as a person. Ever meet someone
who's always had everything or ever met someone who's always
had everything work out for them with zero struggle. They
usually have the depth of a puddle, or they don't exist. Now
that was Chris Hardwick. So agree or disagree with Chris.
And Alois Ristar said, when we give ourselves permission to
fail, we at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel.
So agree or disagree with Alois. John Green wrote, what is the
point of being alive if you don't at least try to do
something remarkable? Stop the truck. That is amazing. Like you
need to highlight this one. This is massive. Like to me,
this is so, so good. John Green said, what is the point of being
alive if you don't at least try to do something remarkable? Oh
my gosh, that is so powerful. I think the world needs to hear
that right now. And for me, that's a massive agree on that
one. Like, what is the point of just surviving? We got to go way
beyond that. And we've got to go into the place of we're actually
doing something phenomenal with our lives. So agree or disagree
with John. What is the point of being alive if you don't at
least try to do something remarkable? Now that gets me
going. As you can tell, David Riddell, who's a friend of mine,
it's worth doing something badly, while I get better at
doing it. Agree or disagree with David. Here's another one from
David. David Riddell, failure isn't fatal. It's just
feedback. Napoleon Hill also wrote, no man achieved
worthwhile success, who did not at one time or another, find
himself with at least one foot hanging well over the brink of
failure. Henry Ford, so agree or disagree with Napoleon. Henry
Ford, another one from Henry. Failure is simply the
opportunity.
to begin again, this time, more intelligently. Agree or disagree
with Henry. Calvin Coolidge, here's another one. Here's one
from Calvin Coolidge. Nothing in this world can take the place of
persistence. Talent will not. Nothing is more common than
unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not. Unrewarded
genius is almost a proverb. Education will not. The world is
full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination
are omnipotent. Agree or disagree with Calvin. Okay, Bill
Gates. Now, he is, for some people, he's not a hero, but
here's a quote from Bill Gates. Agree or disagree. It's fine to
celebrate success, but it is more important to heed the
lessons of failure. Ralph Waldo Emerson, the greatest glory in
living lies not in never failing, but in rising every
time we fall. So that's Ralph Waldo Emerson, the greatest
glory in living lies not in never failing, but in rising
every time we fall. Oh, who's this guy? This guy, Benji
Alexander. He said, every great adventurer must embark upon a
precipice of danger, where failure is real and
encompassing, and success lies only forward. Oh, agree or
disagree. Right, here we go. Erin Cummings. Do you agree or
disagree with Erin? She said, at the end of the day, you are
solely responsible for your success and your failure. And
the sooner you realize that you accept that and integrate that
into your work ethic, you will start being successful. As long
as you blame others for the reason you aren't where you want
to be, you will always be a failure. Agree or disagree with
Erin. Okay, Steve Jobs. Remembering that I'll be dead
soon. And remember, he is dead now. So remembering that I'll be
dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to
help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything
all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment,
all failure, these things just fall away in the face of death,
leaving only what is truly important. Agree or disagree
with Steve? Steve? Okay. Right, we are going to leave those ones
there. There's some more for you as you go. And as you go into it,
there's going to be some more there. But I wanted to shift
into some of these ones. Okay, so yes or no, we're going to do
a few of these. And there's going to be more in the template
for you to engage with. But let's check out some of these
now. With these ones, you want to say the name of the person,
right? But then you're going to say yes, I knew that or no, I
didn't. Okay, so when you're typing in your comments, what
you want to do is the person that this relates to. So the
first one is Elvis. So you'll say Elvis and you'll say, Yes, I
knew that. Or no, I didn't know that. Okay, so here's Elvis
Presley. So Elvis. So you're gonna answer Elvis. Yes, I knew
that. Or no, I didn't know that. So Elvis, Elvis Presley was told,
you ain't going nowhere, son. You ought to go back to driving a
truck. Elvis later became known, Elvis later became known as the
king of rock and roll. So Elvis, did you know that? Or no, I
didn't. Okay, so on his debut comic, at a stand up club called
Yuck Yucks in Toronto, Jim Carrey was booed off the stage.
He later received a check for US $10 million for acting in the
comedy dumb and dumber. Did you know that? Or no, you didn't. So
you say Jim Carrey, I knew that or no, I didn't. Okay, Katy
Perry's album. So Katy Perry's first album sold only 200 copies.
And then the recording company went broke. She was dropped by
three recording companies before achieving success. She has now
sold over 98 million digital singles and over 6 million
albums. Did you know or didn't know that? Okay, Walt Disney was
fired from a newspaper for lacking imagination and having no
original ideas. Walt went bankrupt in business several
times before going on to found the Walt Disney Company, which
is now worth somewhere around 150 billion US dollars. Did you
know that or not? Well, yes, I did. Or no, I didn't. Okay,
Albert Einstein could not speak until he was four years old. And
his teacher said he would never amount to much. His
So his four Annus Mirabilis or Miracle Year papers were released in 1905 and they laid
the foundation for modern physics and changed views on space, time, mass, and energy.
He was also awarded the Nobel Prize in physics in 1921, but did you know he couldn't even
speak until he was four years old and his teachers said he would never amount to much.
Interesting.
Michael Jordan.
So did you know that or didn't know that Michael Jordan went home, locked himself in his room
and cried after being cut from his high school basketball team.
During his basketball career, Michael Jordan won six NBA championships and received 14
most valuable player awards and became one of the most famous professional basketball
players in history.
Right.
Well, this is like, I'm excited for you guys to get into this template.
I'm going to leave it there for now, but you're going to find some really, really interesting
stories and I'm really, really looking forward to what we're going to go through this week.
So I'll see you guys again on Wednesday, Wednesday at 7am.
It'll be a real short video on Wednesday and then again, Friday at 7am, but love you guys
very much.
Let me, let me just check in on comments again here.
We've got lots of agreeing going on.
Michael didn't know that.
Okay, sweet.
Well, there's going to be, okay, so people, there's a lot of stories there that you didn't
know.
Some people knew those stories.
There is, I'll tell you what I'm going to do is I'm going to give you one more.
I'm going to give you one more story.
Okay.
This is the last one and then you'll have to find the rest out in the, as we go along.
But let me share one with you that you've probably, you probably haven't heard because
it's quite a rare story.
Let me just see if I can make sure I can find it.
I'll give you, I'll give you two more because this one's kind of funny.
Okay.
So this one's about Colonel Sanders, the founder of KFC.
Okay.
So Colonel Sanders, the founder of KFC, did you know that he was fired from three jobs?
He launched a business that failed.
He once had an argument with a business competitor that escalated into a deadly shootout.
And the guy actually shot one of his business associates and killed him.
And then Sanders shot and wounded the killer in self-defense.
He went to court and was found innocent.
He then bought a motel, which burnt to the ground.
He rebuilt it, but then World War II broke out and forced him to close it.
After the war, he tried to franchise his restaurant, but his recipe was rejected 1,009 times.
But once it was accepted, it boomed.
There are now over 18,000 KFC branches all over the world.
How wild is that?
He was rejected 1,009 times.
People didn't think KFC would be a good flavor.
People won't get into this.
They didn't think.
That was Colonel Sanders.
Now, I want to find this one other one.
All right, here's the one story that I want to finish with.
Okay, so did you know in 1912, Dr.
William Leslie, the guy's name is Dr.
William Leslie.
In 1912, did you know that Dr.
William Leslie left America for Africa?
And he spent 17 years as a missionary in the Congo.
Eventually, he experienced a relational breakdown with tribal leaders in the area, and they
asked him to leave and never return.
He managed to reconcile things, but eventually he returned to America, and he felt like his
17 years had been completely wasted.
That was it.
That was the end of his story.
He just left Africa in total defeat, and he went back to America, and he never heard anything
else.
That was it.
It was over.
The rest of his life.
He never heard.
He just basically his whole life lived feeling like he completely failed there.
Nearly 100 years after Dr.
William Leslie had arrived in Africa, another team arrived from World Ministries.
They expected to find completely unreached people in the dense Congo jungle.
But what they discovered was a self-sustaining and self-propagating network of churches.
One village even hosted a 1,000-seat cathedral.
When asked how they received the gospel, the villagers were able to give enough information
for the new missionaries to discover that the man who had left the legacy of the gospel
in that place had been Dr. William Leslie, who had.
believe that his 17 years of mission work had been a complete failure.
Wow, I absolutely love that story.
So you're going to have lots of like, you're really going to enjoy
this processing failure template.
It's going to be some deep questions.
There's some amazing stories, some powerful quotes.
So I look forward to hearing how that goes for you.
And I will see you at, I will see you 7am New Zealand time on Wednesday morning.
So lots and lots of love to all of you guys.
Remember to access the template.
You just click on the link in the description of this video,
download it, and you're good to go.
Love you heaps and bless you.
We'll catch you real soon.
Bye-bye.