WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:08.000 hey guys I'm pretty sure we're live now but if you didn't know this already let 2 00:00:08.000 --> 00:00:13.920 me let me tell you hydrate or die okay hydrate or die 3 00:00:30.480 --> 00:00:48.000 okay good done that was great wow thirsty work this uh thirsty work this stuff how are you guys 4 00:00:48.000 --> 00:00:54.880 doing that's very good that's very good it's good to hydrate it's very good to have water 5 00:00:54.880 --> 00:01:00.320 now drinking water is an important part of a balanced lifestyle we're going to talk about 6 00:01:00.320 --> 00:01:08.400 that today and so good to have you guys jumping in here who is with me and are you thirsty i'm 7 00:01:09.440 --> 00:01:15.360 i'm still maybe i'm a little bit thirsty but not too thirsty jump on let me know who is there 8 00:01:15.360 --> 00:01:24.880 where you are in the world and uh how you are doing today um so 9 00:01:27.920 --> 00:01:35.120 we uh we are live which is excellent and jonathan great to have you with me 10 00:01:35.760 --> 00:01:39.600 that yeah when you comment i can see who's there so it's very cool to be 11 00:01:40.160 --> 00:01:46.960 together today and we're going to be jumping into week three this is week three session one in the 12 00:01:46.960 --> 00:01:54.000 40 day extreme ownership adventure dorkus great to have you there tony welcome beautiful to have 13 00:01:54.000 --> 00:02:03.280 you with us and uh in this session we are going to check out the template for this week we're 14 00:02:03.280 --> 00:02:10.240 going to be talking about stewarding success uh after a big week last week of talking about 15 00:02:10.240 --> 00:02:23.920 failure so uh i want to i want to say this as we start out um first of all i am so um 16 00:02:25.200 --> 00:02:33.040 so impressed with everything that everyone shared um ross good to see you there as well my friend 17 00:02:33.040 --> 00:02:40.400 yeah and so i really want to honor everyone for how beautifully you shared for how you guys have 18 00:02:40.400 --> 00:02:46.320 just been so vulnerable opened up your hearts opened up your worlds and just been amazing at 19 00:02:46.960 --> 00:02:53.760 sharing your stories of failure and one of the reasons why i think that is so huge and why 20 00:02:53.760 --> 00:02:59.440 last week was such a massive massive week for us as a family is because 21 00:03:00.320 --> 00:03:06.240 extreme ownership right the whole challenge is called extreme ownership the extreme ownership 22 00:03:06.240 --> 00:03:15.360 adventure and i mean this is something that i talk to my kids about right like you are the only one 23 00:03:15.360 --> 00:03:22.080 that can uh steward your own happiness in life you're the only one that can do it and you're 24 00:03:22.080 --> 00:03:28.160 the only one that can you know obviously god can do lots of stuff right god's amazing but seldom 25 00:03:28.800 --> 00:03:37.440 does god work uh in isolation in our lives he likes to work in partnership with us and so um 26 00:03:38.320 --> 00:03:45.520 that process of transformation i think we sometimes get the starting point wrong right like 27 00:03:46.480 --> 00:03:51.840 so on this journey so far week one was about the dream activator like finding out like 28 00:03:51.840 --> 00:03:57.200 starting to unlock the desires of our heart but then you know we just spent like a whole week 29 00:03:57.200 --> 00:04:03.760 last week talking about failure who let me know how you found that process let me know how you 30 00:04:03.760 --> 00:04:11.040 found it uh sharing the stories with everyone hearing their stories of failure um writing out 31 00:04:11.040 --> 00:04:17.200 your own facing up coming face to face with your own failures how did that feel i would love just 32 00:04:17.200 --> 00:04:22.960 to hear some of your thoughts in the comments i'd really really appreciate that in the comments 33 00:04:22.960 --> 00:04:28.480 we just share some of how that was for you processing failure coming face to face with 34 00:04:28.480 --> 00:04:36.160 failure and also uh the concept of what was it like for you going through hearing other people's 35 00:04:36.160 --> 00:04:41.440 stories of failure how did that impact you seeing those stories reading those stories love to hear 36 00:04:41.440 --> 00:04:51.920 that i'm going to read a little quote for you actually this quote came from uh a show that i 37 00:04:51.920 --> 00:04:58.880 just watched um we were watching alana and i watched it um and here's the line 38 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:07.680 It's not the pain that ruins us, it's what we do to avoid the pain. 39 00:05:07.680 --> 00:05:09.520 How's that for a line, right? 40 00:05:09.520 --> 00:05:15.420 It's not the pain that ruins us, it's what we do to avoid the pain and that's what really 41 00:05:15.420 --> 00:05:16.420 ruins us. 42 00:05:16.420 --> 00:05:24.920 So, you know, with failure, with failure, we so often avoid it. 43 00:05:24.920 --> 00:05:31.920 We're not often taught to actually sit with our failure, to sit with our pain, to confront 44 00:05:31.920 --> 00:05:37.640 our failure, to come face-to-face to our failure, to actually let our failure start teaching 45 00:05:37.640 --> 00:05:41.480 us, let our failure start speaking to us. 46 00:05:41.480 --> 00:05:47.920 And when we sit with our failure and learn the lessons from our failure, that failure 47 00:05:47.920 --> 00:05:53.120 actually loses that immense fear on our lives. 48 00:05:53.120 --> 00:05:56.760 Who feels like, let me, I would just like to ask you guys this question as well from 49 00:05:56.760 --> 00:06:04.000 last week, who feels like from last week you have started to be less afraid of failure? 50 00:06:04.000 --> 00:06:10.840 Who feels like your sense of failure is, like that fear of failure is breaking off your 51 00:06:10.840 --> 00:06:11.840 life? 52 00:06:11.840 --> 00:06:17.760 So, I'm just seeing Dorcas saying here, it was my, it was eye-opening to me, made me 53 00:06:17.760 --> 00:06:22.480 realize probably my greatest failure was staying safe and not taking risks. 54 00:06:22.840 --> 00:06:25.160 Wow, that is huge, right? 55 00:06:25.160 --> 00:06:32.080 That's a crazy concept as well, because when it comes to failure, just the very act, you 56 00:06:32.080 --> 00:06:36.560 know, because sometimes we try so hard to avoid failure that we never do anything. 57 00:06:36.560 --> 00:06:39.260 And by default, we fail by doing nothing. 58 00:06:39.260 --> 00:06:40.640 So that's beautiful. 59 00:06:40.640 --> 00:06:41.640 That's a big deal. 60 00:06:41.640 --> 00:06:42.640 Thanks for sharing that. 61 00:06:42.640 --> 00:06:43.840 Dorcas, appreciate that. 62 00:06:43.840 --> 00:06:49.440 So I want to say this, I want to honor everyone. 63 00:06:49.440 --> 00:06:50.680 That was really huge. 64 00:06:50.680 --> 00:06:53.840 The vulnerability that you all shared was massive. 65 00:06:53.840 --> 00:06:58.360 So I want to say that I want to really honor you and I want to commend you as well, because 66 00:06:58.360 --> 00:07:05.800 it's such a powerful step to take ownership of our failures. 67 00:07:05.800 --> 00:07:10.520 And I want to encourage you as well to make that actually a practice, right? 68 00:07:10.520 --> 00:07:14.360 Because the more you do that, the more you face up to failure and actually just sit with 69 00:07:14.360 --> 00:07:18.800 the pain of your failure. 70 00:07:18.920 --> 00:07:27.240 I don't know what that will look like for you, but just being aware of failure, just 71 00:07:27.240 --> 00:07:31.520 not being afraid of it and not trying to hide from your past failures, but just sitting 72 00:07:31.520 --> 00:07:35.360 with failure and letting failure speak to you. 73 00:07:35.360 --> 00:07:41.360 Because we went through all of this last week, but pain, failure, the fear of failure, it 74 00:07:41.360 --> 00:07:44.400 can make us blind and deaf and we can't receive its feedback. 75 00:07:44.400 --> 00:07:45.960 But you guys were just so amazing. 76 00:07:46.080 --> 00:07:50.320 So I want to honor you. 77 00:07:50.320 --> 00:07:56.600 I just want to really, really honor everyone for the amount that you were vulnerable. 78 00:07:56.600 --> 00:07:57.600 So that's awesome. 79 00:07:57.600 --> 00:07:58.600 So thanks, everyone. 80 00:07:58.600 --> 00:08:00.040 Once again, just huge. 81 00:08:00.040 --> 00:08:01.040 All the stories. 82 00:08:01.040 --> 00:08:05.000 And if you haven't seen them, just go through the news feed here and just see all the stories 83 00:08:05.000 --> 00:08:07.560 that people have poured out. 84 00:08:07.560 --> 00:08:12.280 And a lot of relationship failure there as well. 85 00:08:12.280 --> 00:08:15.480 I mean, yeah, that's a lot of relationship failure. 86 00:08:15.480 --> 00:08:19.280 And I want to just share this one thought with you is that I've got a really exciting 87 00:08:19.280 --> 00:08:23.200 training called the Seven Sacred Pathways to Intimacy. 88 00:08:23.200 --> 00:08:27.560 And I want to do that training again with everyone. 89 00:08:27.560 --> 00:08:31.360 So just a little heads up that that'll be on the horizon as well. 90 00:08:31.360 --> 00:08:38.000 The Seven Sacred Pathways to Intimacy, which ultimately is what actually discovering those 91 00:08:38.000 --> 00:08:42.320 in the process of discovering those is what saved our marriage. 92 00:08:42.320 --> 00:08:52.840 So let's pray now, and we're going to jump into stewarding success week three and check 93 00:08:52.840 --> 00:08:55.360 out the template as soon as we have done that. 94 00:08:55.360 --> 00:08:58.760 So we'll pray and then we'll get into it. 95 00:08:58.760 --> 00:09:02.360 Abba Father, thank you so much for your amazing goodness. 96 00:09:02.360 --> 00:09:03.600 Thank you for your kindness. 97 00:09:03.600 --> 00:09:07.320 Thank you for who you are. 98 00:09:07.320 --> 00:09:09.200 We love your presence. 99 00:09:09.200 --> 00:09:13.440 Right now, we welcome your presence afresh, Lord. 100 00:09:13.440 --> 00:09:20.120 And as we come right now, we come really vulnerable and we just come to honor, Lord, in a sense 101 00:09:20.120 --> 00:09:28.760 and to respect and to Papa in this place, what I'm wanting to achieve, Papa, is that 102 00:09:28.760 --> 00:09:33.440 in the place of our failure, that there'll be a deep comfort and that you will bring 103 00:09:33.600 --> 00:09:40.080 deep comfort there and that you will continue to remove all fear of failure off our lives, 104 00:09:40.080 --> 00:09:45.360 that you would give us a grace to be risk takers, that you would give us a grace to 105 00:09:46.080 --> 00:09:50.960 risk everything for you, that you give us wisdom to take calculated risks. 106 00:09:50.960 --> 00:09:56.320 But Papa, as well, I thank you that as we step into week three, as we step into this 107 00:09:57.280 --> 00:09:59.840 whole concept of stewarding success. 108 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:05.820 I ask that You walk with us, I ask that You speak to us 109 00:10:05.820 --> 00:10:07.780 in multifaceted ways. 110 00:10:07.780 --> 00:10:09.540 I thank you for the Spirit of the Lord, 111 00:10:09.540 --> 00:10:11.200 the Spirit of Wisdom and Revelation, 112 00:10:11.200 --> 00:10:13.040 the Spirit of Council, the Spirit of Understanding, 113 00:10:13.040 --> 00:10:14.580 the Spirit of Knowledge, the Spirit of Might, 114 00:10:14.580 --> 00:10:16.880 and the Spirit of the Fear of the Lord walking with us. 115 00:10:16.880 --> 00:10:18.880 I thank you for angels walking with us. 116 00:10:18.880 --> 00:10:21.400 I thank you for Insights and I thank you for healing. 117 00:10:21.400 --> 00:10:23.000 I thank you for your presence. 118 00:10:23.000 --> 00:10:24.080 I thank you for momentum. 119 00:10:24.080 --> 00:10:25.760 I thank you for revelation. 120 00:10:25.760 --> 00:10:28.920 I thank you for, Lord, supernatural breakthroughs 121 00:10:28.920 --> 00:10:32.360 going before us on behalf of us as we step into this. 122 00:10:32.360 --> 00:10:35.480 And I just thank you for your leading and your guidance 123 00:10:35.480 --> 00:10:37.240 and your comfort, Lord, especially 124 00:10:37.240 --> 00:10:39.480 for those that are stepping out of their comfort zone. 125 00:10:39.480 --> 00:10:42.200 I thank you for your comfort, Lord, your comfort, 126 00:10:42.200 --> 00:10:44.920 your comfort, and your grace, and your kindness, 127 00:10:44.920 --> 00:10:47.400 and your power, and your boldness going before us. 128 00:10:47.400 --> 00:10:49.960 In Jesus' name, amen. 129 00:10:49.960 --> 00:10:50.520 Great stuff. 130 00:10:50.520 --> 00:10:55.840 Who's keen to see the new, oh, I see, 131 00:10:55.840 --> 00:10:57.440 just checking the comments out here. 132 00:10:57.440 --> 00:10:59.320 Dorcas, I hear you're saying, I'm 133 00:10:59.320 --> 00:11:02.200 an extremely cautious person, hard to let go of that. 134 00:11:02.200 --> 00:11:05.000 Yes, but you're doing very well. 135 00:11:05.000 --> 00:11:07.640 Kerry's just posting in here that she's 136 00:11:07.640 --> 00:11:10.600 experiencing just the comment, lots of relationship failure. 137 00:11:10.600 --> 00:11:15.280 And I think that that was one of the most common failures that 138 00:11:15.280 --> 00:11:19.760 was shared in the testimonies was marriages that ended. 139 00:11:19.760 --> 00:11:22.280 There was a lot of pain there in those testimonies last week. 140 00:11:22.280 --> 00:11:23.840 So let me know if you're keen. 141 00:11:23.840 --> 00:11:29.040 We're transitioning now to week three. 142 00:11:29.040 --> 00:11:30.440 And we're going into the template, 143 00:11:30.440 --> 00:11:32.160 which is Stewarding Success. 144 00:11:32.160 --> 00:11:36.080 So as we go into it, I'm going to pull up a, 145 00:11:36.080 --> 00:11:37.800 we're going to have a little bit of fun. 146 00:11:37.800 --> 00:11:39.600 We're going to have a guessing game, OK? 147 00:11:39.600 --> 00:11:41.080 We're going to have a guessing game. 148 00:11:41.080 --> 00:11:43.480 This is going to be a little bit entertaining for you, OK? 149 00:11:43.480 --> 00:11:43.960 Right? 150 00:11:43.960 --> 00:11:49.000 I'm going to show you guys. 151 00:11:49.000 --> 00:11:51.120 This is, now, you're going to bear with me, OK? 152 00:11:51.120 --> 00:11:52.400 Because this is kind of funny. 153 00:11:52.440 --> 00:11:55.080 I'm going to try and get you to guess 154 00:11:55.080 --> 00:11:58.320 the names of two topless guys, OK? 155 00:11:58.320 --> 00:12:00.440 I'm going to make the first one easier for you 156 00:12:00.440 --> 00:12:01.840 and the second one slightly harder. 157 00:12:01.840 --> 00:12:04.040 The first one is definitely the funniest one. 158 00:12:04.040 --> 00:12:06.880 But I have to create, I have to do a screen share for you, OK? 159 00:12:06.880 --> 00:12:08.920 So here we go with the screen share. 160 00:12:14.320 --> 00:12:15.040 OK, get ready. 161 00:12:15.040 --> 00:12:16.200 Here comes the screen share. 162 00:12:17.200 --> 00:12:20.640 And this is the guy. 163 00:12:20.640 --> 00:12:21.280 OK, right. 164 00:12:21.280 --> 00:12:22.600 Who is this guy? 165 00:12:22.600 --> 00:12:23.160 Let me know. 166 00:12:23.160 --> 00:12:25.640 Can you tell me who is this man? 167 00:12:25.640 --> 00:12:30.080 I am watching in the comments to see. 168 00:12:30.080 --> 00:12:30.840 It's a race. 169 00:12:30.840 --> 00:12:35.600 The race is on for someone to tell me who this guy is, OK? 170 00:12:35.600 --> 00:12:37.480 So it is on. 171 00:12:41.480 --> 00:12:42.600 All right, go for it, Tim. 172 00:12:42.600 --> 00:12:45.520 Go for it, I want to see. 173 00:12:45.520 --> 00:12:48.720 So remember, we are talking about success, OK? 174 00:12:48.720 --> 00:12:50.120 And we're talking about, we're going 175 00:12:50.120 --> 00:12:52.040 to talk about two different types of success 176 00:12:52.040 --> 00:12:55.560 and define two different types of success. 177 00:12:55.560 --> 00:12:58.360 Danion, not Danion Loader. 178 00:12:58.360 --> 00:13:00.040 Danion Loader. 179 00:13:00.040 --> 00:13:02.560 That is not Danion Loader. 180 00:13:02.560 --> 00:13:04.120 This is someone else. 181 00:13:04.120 --> 00:13:08.280 So if you think about this as possibly the most famous 182 00:13:08.320 --> 00:13:13.000 So if you think about this as possibly the most famous, 183 00:13:13.000 --> 00:13:13.960 here's a clue as well. 184 00:13:13.960 --> 00:13:15.920 The guy is a swimmer, OK? 185 00:13:15.920 --> 00:13:18.960 That's why he's not wearing much, because he's a swimmer. 186 00:13:18.960 --> 00:13:21.560 But it is kind of funny to be posting this. 187 00:13:21.560 --> 00:13:24.240 And he does, in real life, he does have arms. 188 00:13:24.240 --> 00:13:27.040 I think that it's just the photo that's cut off. 189 00:13:27.040 --> 00:13:29.440 He's not missing arms in real life. 190 00:13:29.440 --> 00:13:32.760 So here we go. 191 00:13:32.760 --> 00:13:37.440 Another, no idea, no idea, no idea. 192 00:13:38.040 --> 00:13:42.640 So this is Michael Phelps, if you didn't guess it. 193 00:13:42.640 --> 00:13:44.240 This is Michael Phelps, OK? 194 00:13:44.240 --> 00:13:49.280 So Michael Phelps is one of the, a lot of people 195 00:13:49.280 --> 00:13:52.680 would say, the greatest swimmer in world history, OK? 196 00:13:52.680 --> 00:13:54.880 A lot of people would say that he is the greatest swimmer 197 00:13:54.880 --> 00:13:55.400 in the world. 198 00:13:55.400 --> 00:13:56.920 Yes, James, you nailed it. 199 00:13:56.920 --> 00:13:58.800 Phelps, Michael Phelps. 200 00:13:58.800 --> 00:14:02.120 This is Michael Phelps in his rainbow undies. 201 00:14:02.120 --> 00:14:05.480 So Michael Phelps, a lot of people would say, 202 00:14:05.480 --> 00:14:06.760 I'm going to stop the screen share, 203 00:14:06.760 --> 00:14:08.320 so you don't have to keep looking 204 00:14:08.320 --> 00:14:10.480 at Michael Phelps in his undies. 205 00:14:10.480 --> 00:14:12.000 But Michael Phelps, a lot of people 206 00:14:12.000 --> 00:14:14.320 would say that he is the greatest 207 00:14:14.320 --> 00:14:17.760 swimmer in world history, OK? 208 00:14:17.760 --> 00:14:21.560 So we're talking about stewarding success. 209 00:14:21.560 --> 00:14:24.280 Now, my next one is going to be really, 210 00:14:24.280 --> 00:14:26.560 it's going to be a little bit trickier, OK? 211 00:14:26.560 --> 00:14:30.240 So well done, James, on getting that. 212 00:14:30.240 --> 00:14:31.600 Lee, yes, well done. 213 00:14:31.600 --> 00:14:35.400 Michael Phelps, that's correct. 214 00:14:35.880 --> 00:14:38.200 And Selena, yes, you probably did know that. 215 00:14:38.200 --> 00:14:40.880 OK, so our next guy, you're going to try and guess 216 00:14:40.880 --> 00:14:42.680 our next guy as well. 217 00:14:42.680 --> 00:14:44.240 I'm going to do another screen share. 218 00:14:44.240 --> 00:14:48.400 Now, this guy is also a topless guy, 219 00:14:48.400 --> 00:14:51.040 and I want you to try and guess this guy. 220 00:14:51.040 --> 00:14:54.880 So here we go with another screen share. 221 00:14:54.880 --> 00:14:57.720 Here he goes. 222 00:14:57.720 --> 00:14:59.240 OK, who is this guy? 223 00:15:00.960 --> 00:15:07.920 Anyone know this guy? Okay. I'll give you a moment. I'll give you a moment to try and guess him. 224 00:15:09.440 --> 00:15:14.480 And the reason I'm sharing these two guys is because we're talking about stewarding success. 225 00:15:14.480 --> 00:15:18.480 And we're going to be talking about two different types of stewarding success. Okay. And these two 226 00:15:18.480 --> 00:15:25.600 guys both personify two different types of stewarding success. So one type of stewarding 227 00:15:25.600 --> 00:15:33.360 success is achievement-based success. Okay. So say achievement-based success and say, 228 00:15:35.920 --> 00:15:45.200 oh, here we go. So we've got achievement-based success and lifestyle-based success. Okay. So 229 00:15:45.200 --> 00:15:49.280 that's the two things that we're talking about. I'm just checking the comments now to see. 230 00:15:49.760 --> 00:15:55.040 So we know that face. Try and guess this guy. Is he an actor? He's not an actor. 231 00:15:57.040 --> 00:15:58.320 Although he may have been in. 232 00:16:03.520 --> 00:16:10.240 Hey, flip, I can't get this to mute. Right. So any guesses? I want to see if there's any guesses 233 00:16:11.040 --> 00:16:34.080 on this guy. I'm sorry. I'm having a little bit of a tech fail here. Here we go. Let's just see. 234 00:16:34.160 --> 00:16:41.040 One more chance for you guys. No one's guessing. No one's getting this guy. Okay. So if you don't 235 00:16:41.040 --> 00:16:47.280 know this guy, let me tell you who this guy is. This guy's amazing. This is Rich Froning. Okay. 236 00:16:48.960 --> 00:16:53.040 Now, why is he famous? He is the winner. Oh, here we go. A few comments coming in here. 237 00:16:56.320 --> 00:17:00.960 Oh, but they weren't guesses. Okay. So this is Rich Froning. He is the winner of 238 00:17:01.920 --> 00:17:07.119 the CrossFit Games multiple times over. So we're going to share, have a look at both of these guys' 239 00:17:07.119 --> 00:17:17.359 stories. We are ending. We've ended the screen share. That's good. So let me come back to you 240 00:17:17.359 --> 00:17:22.640 right now. And I'm going to share with you. Actually, we're going to screen share it up again. 241 00:17:22.640 --> 00:17:28.880 But this time, we're going to go into the Stewarding Success template. Okay. So in the 242 00:17:28.960 --> 00:17:35.520 comments of this video, you can see that you can download the Stewarding Success template. So 243 00:17:35.520 --> 00:17:42.240 again, screen share again, and we are going to the template now. All right. Hello, template. 244 00:17:45.600 --> 00:17:49.040 Now, I have changed this up a little bit here, mate. 245 00:17:49.520 --> 00:18:00.400 Oh, this is going to be tricky. That's right. There we go. So we've got the Stewarding Success, 246 00:18:01.040 --> 00:18:06.160 Systems for Success, Stewarding Success template. So check this headline out. Achievement-based 247 00:18:06.160 --> 00:18:11.040 success is a big one. And then lifestyle-based success. So those are two concepts that we're 248 00:18:11.040 --> 00:18:18.560 exploring. And what we want to look at is these two guys. Okay. So two guys that I want to highlight 249 00:18:18.560 --> 00:18:25.600 for you. Two stories. So Michael Phelps, right? Michael Phelps, after the 2012 Olympics, where he 250 00:18:25.600 --> 00:18:32.720 absolutely crushed it. Okay. So this is achievement-based success. Michael Phelps, he won 251 00:18:35.760 --> 00:18:40.720 four gold medals and two silver medals in the 2012 Olympics. I'm going to actually just going 252 00:18:40.720 --> 00:18:45.680 to stop the screen share for a moment. He won four gold medals, two silver medals in the 2012 253 00:18:45.680 --> 00:18:53.040 Olympics. And then actually after that went back home and he was so depressed that he actually 254 00:18:54.880 --> 00:18:59.200 was stuck in his room, depressed, could barely leave his room. And he was stuck in his room 255 00:18:59.200 --> 00:19:04.400 in the darkness, contemplating suicide. How crazy is that, right? Because what we're highlighting is 256 00:19:04.400 --> 00:19:08.880 these two different concepts of success, achievement-based success and lifestyle-based 257 00:19:08.880 --> 00:19:13.200 success. And most of the time, the world just highlights and emphasizes achievement-based 258 00:19:13.200 --> 00:19:17.680 success, achievement-based success, achievement-based success. And there is some real value in 259 00:19:17.680 --> 00:19:22.400 achievement-based success because it will make you a champion, right? That mindset of being 260 00:19:22.400 --> 00:19:27.920 focused on achievement-based success will make you a champion. It will actually help you bring 261 00:19:27.920 --> 00:19:32.160 your dreams to life. It will actually start making amazing things happen in your world. 262 00:19:32.160 --> 00:19:38.240 But the problem with achievement-based success is that it is often out of balance. It often gets out 263 00:19:38.240 --> 00:19:43.600 of balance and it goes crazy. And so when it gets out of balance and when it goes crazy, 264 00:19:43.600 --> 00:19:49.520 then actually achievement-based success in one area of your life can mean chaos in the rest of 265 00:19:49.520 --> 00:19:55.600 your life. So there's a Hebrew word, shalom. So say shalom with me. Now, I love the word shalom 266 00:19:55.600 --> 00:19:59.920 because what it means is it means everything. 267 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:05.340 everything functioning according to divine design. How good is that? Absolutely everything 268 00:20:05.340 --> 00:20:12.720 functioning according to divine design. The ancient Hebrew pictogram, right, of the word 269 00:20:12.720 --> 00:20:18.200 Hebrew, in the Hebrew word Shalom, the ancient Hebrew pictogram, it's got four pictures. 270 00:20:18.200 --> 00:20:25.080 So the first part is a picture of sharp teeth, all right, which means to destroy. The next 271 00:20:25.080 --> 00:20:32.020 picture is a shepherd's rod, which means authority. The next picture is a tent peg, which means 272 00:20:32.020 --> 00:20:42.260 to be attached. And then the fourth picture is a picture of water, which represents chaos. 273 00:20:42.260 --> 00:20:51.260 So it means, right, in Hebrew, the word Shalom, the actual definition means to destroy the 274 00:20:51.260 --> 00:20:55.580 authority attached to chaos. How good is that, right? So if you want to see a picture 275 00:20:55.580 --> 00:21:00.200 of what Shalom looks like, the best picture you'll ever see is the life of Jesus, right? 276 00:21:00.200 --> 00:21:06.560 And the word Shalom, it means to destroy the authority attached to chaos. I just love that. 277 00:21:06.560 --> 00:21:11.480 So what it means, there's this concept as well of the actual meaning is everything in 278 00:21:11.480 --> 00:21:16.120 your life is functioning according to divine design. So when you're focused on achievement 279 00:21:16.120 --> 00:21:20.900 based success, like this world is right, Michael Phelps was all over the news media 280 00:21:20.900 --> 00:21:26.260 all over the world. He was the world's picture of success. So here's someone who is what 281 00:21:26.260 --> 00:21:30.880 the world is like, yes, this is the absolute picture of success. This is what success looks 282 00:21:30.880 --> 00:21:36.060 like. Yeah. Like the whole world was just going crazy. Michael Phelps crazy. He was 283 00:21:36.060 --> 00:21:44.780 everywhere. Newspapers, just, you know, newspapers, magazines, TV, internet, YouTube, media, just 284 00:21:44.800 --> 00:21:49.840 new channels, channels, TV. Oh my gosh, everywhere was Michael Phelps, the greatest hero in the 285 00:21:49.840 --> 00:21:59.440 world, the man, the legend. At the same time, fully depressed and suicidal. So you can see 286 00:21:59.440 --> 00:22:03.160 where I'm going with this, right? Is there's that's achievement based success, which will 287 00:22:03.160 --> 00:22:08.440 make you the greatest champion in the world until it gets out of balance and your life 288 00:22:08.440 --> 00:22:13.080 is out of balance and your life flips into chaos, right? So this is the dynamic, right? 289 00:22:13.420 --> 00:22:18.540 When it comes to, you know, redesigning our world, dreaming our world, we don't want to 290 00:22:18.540 --> 00:22:23.180 just be focused on achievement based success, the world's mindset of success, right? Jesus 291 00:22:23.180 --> 00:22:29.300 said, what will it profit you to gain the whole world and forfeit your own soul? And 292 00:22:29.300 --> 00:22:33.620 what he's talking about is he's talking about these two, the tension between achievement 293 00:22:33.620 --> 00:22:39.860 based success and lifestyle based success and having the balance in place so that actually 294 00:22:39.880 --> 00:22:45.560 in our lives, we have shalom. And the cool thing about shalom, right? These two meanings, 295 00:22:45.560 --> 00:22:52.440 right, the authority to destroy the authority attached to chaos, and nothing missing, nothing 296 00:22:52.440 --> 00:22:57.800 broken, everything functioning according to divine design, which the Greek counterpart to 297 00:22:57.800 --> 00:23:02.520 the word shalom is the word sozo, which again, it means nothing missing, nothing broken. Sozo 298 00:23:02.520 --> 00:23:08.200 and shalom are two counterparts, which means salvation in itself, the concept of salvation, 299 00:23:09.180 --> 00:23:13.820 you know, in a biblical term is actually the concept of salvation is actually returning 300 00:23:13.820 --> 00:23:18.300 people to a place of shalom, where there's nothing missing, nothing broken in their lives, 301 00:23:18.300 --> 00:23:24.140 and absolutely every area of your life functions according to the perfection of divine design for 302 00:23:24.140 --> 00:23:28.780 who you were created to be, the life you were created to live, the destiny ordained for your 303 00:23:28.780 --> 00:23:34.940 life. So this is wild, right? This is wild. Let me know if you love that, right? So salvation is not 304 00:23:34.960 --> 00:23:40.960 just like, if you think about it, achievement based success mindset sometimes makes salvation 305 00:23:40.960 --> 00:23:47.280 about getting across the line. Achievement based mindsets kind of make it like the goal is to get 306 00:23:47.280 --> 00:23:52.480 people to pray a prayer and then they got saved. But realistically, that's not the end goal. That's 307 00:23:52.480 --> 00:23:57.680 actually just the start because the goal for Jesus is never just to get someone to say a prayer, 308 00:23:57.680 --> 00:24:02.560 right? That's crazy talk. That's not the goal for Jesus. The goal for Jesus is to see you living 309 00:24:02.580 --> 00:24:07.460 the divine life. The goal for Jesus is to see you stepping into shalom. The goal for Jesus is to see 310 00:24:07.460 --> 00:24:12.820 you in a place where everything in your life functions perfectly according to divine design, 311 00:24:12.820 --> 00:24:17.700 where nothing is missing, nothing is broken, and everything functions according to divine design. 312 00:24:17.700 --> 00:24:22.420 So even in Christian circles, we've got to be really careful not to take the world's mindset 313 00:24:22.420 --> 00:24:27.780 of what success looks like and superimpose it into our mindsets and think that it's just about 314 00:24:27.800 --> 00:24:34.280 achieving things. Achieving things are great. And the mindsets and the systems of success 315 00:24:35.720 --> 00:24:40.840 are critical for the whole dynamic of achievement based success, okay? So there's a lot of the 316 00:24:40.840 --> 00:24:44.680 elements of achievement based success that are absolutely fantastic. And we don't want to throw 317 00:24:44.680 --> 00:24:50.920 the baby out with the bathwater because those dynamics of performance enhancing, like peak 318 00:24:50.920 --> 00:24:54.520 performance mindsets and skill sets, that is critical, right? Because it's going to take that 319 00:24:54.520 --> 00:24:59.820 step into your destiny, but it has to be done in balance. So there's one guy, Michael Phelps, and 320 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:03.440 He's the champion of the world, but he's in total, 321 00:25:03.440 --> 00:25:06.720 at the same time, his world was in chaos. 322 00:25:06.720 --> 00:25:10.320 Now, let's check out another dude, okay? 323 00:25:10.320 --> 00:25:11.860 So, Rich Froning. 324 00:25:11.860 --> 00:25:13.960 Now, you guys might not have heard of Rich Froning, 325 00:25:13.960 --> 00:25:16.740 but Rich Froning is a Christian guy. 326 00:25:17.760 --> 00:25:20.920 I'm just pulling something up here for us. 327 00:25:20.920 --> 00:25:23.000 Rich Froning is a Christian. 328 00:25:23.000 --> 00:25:26.500 And so, because of his value, right? 329 00:25:26.500 --> 00:25:30.680 Because of Rich Froning's value for lifestyle-based success, 330 00:25:30.680 --> 00:25:32.740 he actually did something really crazy. 331 00:25:32.740 --> 00:25:36.140 So, Rich Froning, 332 00:25:37.260 --> 00:25:40.540 he was the CrossFit World Champion, right? 333 00:25:40.540 --> 00:25:42.260 That's the fittest person in the world. 334 00:25:42.260 --> 00:25:43.980 That's what the CrossFit Games are. 335 00:25:43.980 --> 00:25:45.860 Let me know, have you heard of the CrossFit Games in there? 336 00:25:45.860 --> 00:25:47.100 Have you heard of the CrossFit Games? 337 00:25:47.100 --> 00:25:48.100 Let me know that. 338 00:25:48.100 --> 00:25:50.220 So, the CrossFit Games is the most grueling, 339 00:25:50.220 --> 00:25:51.700 challenging competition. 340 00:25:51.700 --> 00:25:53.660 It's called the fittest on earth. 341 00:25:53.660 --> 00:25:55.060 That's what the competition is. 342 00:25:55.060 --> 00:26:00.060 And he won it, 2011, 2012, 2013, and 2014. 343 00:26:00.820 --> 00:26:02.540 He won the title, right? 344 00:26:02.540 --> 00:26:06.020 But he actually was never defeated. 345 00:26:06.020 --> 00:26:08.740 He was never beaten as the champion. 346 00:26:08.740 --> 00:26:13.740 What happened is, he actually started a family. 347 00:26:14.620 --> 00:26:16.900 Oh, now here's where things get interesting. 348 00:26:16.900 --> 00:26:18.660 He actually retired. 349 00:26:18.660 --> 00:26:20.180 He didn't fully retire from CrossFit Games. 350 00:26:20.180 --> 00:26:22.660 He went back into there, but never as intensely 351 00:26:23.660 --> 00:26:25.660 as he did when he was the champion, right? 352 00:26:25.660 --> 00:26:28.300 He never went full bore actually going for that title again. 353 00:26:28.300 --> 00:26:31.060 He did some team dynamics and won some of the team stuff. 354 00:26:31.060 --> 00:26:34.740 But what he realized is that the level of intensity 355 00:26:35.660 --> 00:26:39.860 that would be required for him to train 356 00:26:39.860 --> 00:26:41.660 to be the fittest man on earth, 357 00:26:41.660 --> 00:26:45.940 it wasn't conducive to having the family life 358 00:26:45.940 --> 00:26:47.540 and the marriage that he wanted. 359 00:26:47.540 --> 00:26:48.500 So, how crazy is this? 360 00:26:48.500 --> 00:26:51.260 He gave, he basically walked away from the title. 361 00:26:51.460 --> 00:26:54.380 He basically walked away from being, 362 00:26:54.380 --> 00:26:57.300 having this amazing world championship, world title. 363 00:26:57.300 --> 00:26:58.420 He's undefeated. 364 00:26:58.420 --> 00:26:59.380 He walked away from it. 365 00:26:59.380 --> 00:27:00.740 He's not the champion anymore. 366 00:27:00.740 --> 00:27:02.780 Obviously, if someone took that space, 367 00:27:02.780 --> 00:27:04.860 but because he walked away, okay? 368 00:27:04.860 --> 00:27:08.180 But he walked away for the value of his family. 369 00:27:08.180 --> 00:27:10.140 How crazy is that, right? 370 00:27:10.140 --> 00:27:12.540 Because he had this huge value for family, 371 00:27:12.540 --> 00:27:15.900 he just walked away from one of the, you know, 372 00:27:15.900 --> 00:27:19.980 like most prestigious sporting titles in the world. 373 00:27:19.980 --> 00:27:21.140 As an individual, 374 00:27:21.140 --> 00:27:23.940 this is one of the most prestigious titles in the world. 375 00:27:23.940 --> 00:27:26.900 And he walked away for the value of family, okay? 376 00:27:26.900 --> 00:27:30.580 So, but let's contrast that with someone else 377 00:27:30.580 --> 00:27:31.420 that you'll know, right? 378 00:27:31.420 --> 00:27:32.260 Tiger Woods, right? 379 00:27:32.260 --> 00:27:34.180 You'd know the name Tiger Woods. 380 00:27:34.180 --> 00:27:36.620 For lots of reasons, you would know the name Tiger Woods. 381 00:27:36.620 --> 00:27:38.900 Why? Success in golfing, right? 382 00:27:38.900 --> 00:27:40.740 One of the most successful golfers 383 00:27:40.740 --> 00:27:42.460 in the history of the world. 384 00:27:42.460 --> 00:27:45.500 Child prodigy golfer, just amazing, okay? 385 00:27:45.500 --> 00:27:49.660 But again, successful in that area, 386 00:27:49.740 --> 00:27:53.140 but when it comes to lifestyle-based success like this, 387 00:27:53.140 --> 00:27:56.020 he has a tragic, tragic story, okay? 388 00:27:56.020 --> 00:27:58.460 So here's some stats from Tiger Woods. 389 00:27:58.460 --> 00:28:02.020 Tiger Woods admitted to having sex 390 00:28:02.020 --> 00:28:06.780 with at least 120 other women during his five-year marriage. 391 00:28:08.180 --> 00:28:09.220 What? 392 00:28:09.220 --> 00:28:10.380 Let me say that again. 393 00:28:11.260 --> 00:28:12.300 World champion golfer, 394 00:28:12.300 --> 00:28:14.260 one of the greatest golfing success stories 395 00:28:14.260 --> 00:28:15.660 in the history of the world, 396 00:28:15.660 --> 00:28:18.020 when it comes to his marriage, 397 00:28:18.020 --> 00:28:19.460 he actually admitted, 398 00:28:19.460 --> 00:28:21.140 this is Tiger Woods' own confession, 399 00:28:21.140 --> 00:28:22.860 that he admitted to having sex 400 00:28:22.860 --> 00:28:27.060 with at least 120 other women 401 00:28:27.060 --> 00:28:29.300 during their five-year marriage. 402 00:28:29.300 --> 00:28:31.620 All right, now let me get out my calculator, okay? 403 00:28:31.620 --> 00:28:34.540 So if I do, let me just, 404 00:28:34.540 --> 00:28:35.580 I'm grabbing my calculators 405 00:28:35.580 --> 00:28:37.100 to work out some stats on Tiger Woods. 406 00:28:37.100 --> 00:28:39.580 So 120 divided by five, 407 00:28:39.580 --> 00:28:41.460 you can do this if you're fast at maths, 408 00:28:41.460 --> 00:28:43.660 that is 24, okay? 409 00:28:43.660 --> 00:28:46.020 So that means that he was, on average, 410 00:28:46.020 --> 00:28:48.460 having sex with at least 24 other women, 411 00:28:48.460 --> 00:28:49.300 as well as his wife, 412 00:28:49.300 --> 00:28:53.020 but 24 other women a year, right? 413 00:28:53.020 --> 00:28:54.220 So this is different people. 414 00:28:54.220 --> 00:28:56.900 And so if we divide that by, 415 00:28:58.420 --> 00:29:00.860 what do you know, if we divide that by 52, 416 00:29:00.860 --> 00:29:01.700 if we do, 417 00:29:03.700 --> 00:29:04.940 yeah, it's basically, 418 00:29:06.340 --> 00:29:09.500 on average, he was having a brand new affair 419 00:29:09.500 --> 00:29:11.580 every two weeks. 420 00:29:11.580 --> 00:29:13.780 Now let me know if you think that's crazy, okay? 421 00:29:13.780 --> 00:29:14.620 So, 422 00:29:16.660 --> 00:29:18.940 we're talking about this dynamic 423 00:29:18.940 --> 00:29:21.660 because I wanna help unpack the concept, right, 424 00:29:21.660 --> 00:29:22.900 of achievement-based success. 425 00:29:22.900 --> 00:29:23.740 What the world is saying, 426 00:29:23.740 --> 00:29:26.220 yeah, this is success versus lifestyle-based success, 427 00:29:26.220 --> 00:29:27.300 which in God's eyes, 428 00:29:27.300 --> 00:29:29.860 lifestyle-based success is shalom, 429 00:29:29.860 --> 00:29:32.580 absolutely nothing missing, nothing broken, 430 00:29:32.580 --> 00:29:34.700 and everything in your world functioning 431 00:29:34.700 --> 00:29:37.060 according to divine design. 432 00:29:37.060 --> 00:29:38.500 So let's talk for a moment as well 433 00:29:38.500 --> 00:29:42.180 about a couple, Robert and Sheila Johnson, okay? 434 00:29:42.220 --> 00:29:45.660 They were the first African-American billionaires, 435 00:29:45.660 --> 00:29:48.180 and they were married for 33 years, 436 00:29:48.180 --> 00:29:51.180 but after a whole bunch of affairs, 437 00:29:51.180 --> 00:29:54.540 Sheila divorced Robert, 438 00:29:54.540 --> 00:29:56.060 you know, for all the affairs, 439 00:29:56.060 --> 00:29:59.260 and the settlement amount that Sheila was paid out, 440 00:29:59.260 --> 00:30:00.100 she was paid out 441 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:06.720 $400 million settlement. So but here's the thing. So he's, he's 442 00:30:06.720 --> 00:30:10.640 kept a bunch of money, he's got a bunch of money, but he lost 443 00:30:10.640 --> 00:30:16.080 his wife. Successful in one area, total disaster in another 444 00:30:16.080 --> 00:30:19.680 area. And then you've got Rupert and Anna Murdoch. Okay, so this 445 00:30:19.680 --> 00:30:22.960 is the most expensive divorce in world history is Rupert and 446 00:30:22.960 --> 00:30:27.760 Anna Murdoch. And so they were married for 32 years, they had 447 00:30:27.760 --> 00:30:31.520 three kids that were younger than marriage, then Rupert. 448 00:30:32.000 --> 00:30:37.520 Sorry, they had, they were married for 32 years, they had 449 00:30:37.520 --> 00:30:46.080 three kids. And they divorced, right. So then within 17 days 450 00:30:46.080 --> 00:30:49.760 after his divorce, he went and married another lady, Wendy, 451 00:30:49.760 --> 00:30:53.440 who was 37 years younger than him. Okay. And that marriage 452 00:30:53.440 --> 00:30:58.160 lasted 14 years and then age 84. Rupert married his fourth 453 00:30:58.160 --> 00:31:05.280 wife. Okay, so like, four marriages. It just kind of came 454 00:31:05.280 --> 00:31:08.960 crumbling down for him. Multi billionaire marriage is a mess. 455 00:31:08.960 --> 00:31:13.600 So I think you guys can kind of get the picture with me. Here's 456 00:31:13.600 --> 00:31:16.000 another one. Okay, here's another one that's really related 457 00:31:16.000 --> 00:31:20.240 to us. Okay, so you know that we could relate to so you'd know 458 00:31:20.240 --> 00:31:22.720 Benny Hinn, right? You'd know Benny Hinn, well, you might not 459 00:31:22.720 --> 00:31:25.760 have heard of his wife, Suzanne. So on the first of 460 00:31:25.760 --> 00:31:32.160 February, in 2010, Suzanne Hinn, Benny Hinn's wife, she actually 461 00:31:32.160 --> 00:31:36.400 filed for a divorce from Benny Hinn. Okay, what? You're going 462 00:31:36.400 --> 00:31:39.200 to divorce Benny Hinn? Isn't this guy the man of God? Okay, 463 00:31:39.200 --> 00:31:45.200 so what's going on here that all of a sudden Benny Hinn's wife 464 00:31:45.200 --> 00:31:50.960 wants to file for divorce? What's going on? So he was just 465 00:31:50.960 --> 00:31:54.240 he is one of the most famous Christian ministers in the 466 00:31:54.240 --> 00:31:58.880 world. And he has a capacity to carry the anointing is just 467 00:31:58.880 --> 00:32:02.560 crazy. But his life was his marriage was falling to pieces. 468 00:32:03.280 --> 00:32:08.160 Okay, so two key areas in the lives of Benny and Suzanne were 469 00:32:08.160 --> 00:32:11.440 out of balance. Okay, so it's not so I'm just saying, you 470 00:32:11.440 --> 00:32:14.640 know, this is not just non believers. This is Benny Hinn 471 00:32:14.640 --> 00:32:18.400 we're talking about. Suzanne Hinn filed for divorce, because 472 00:32:18.960 --> 00:32:23.280 his world was out of balance. It was it was it was six 473 00:32:23.280 --> 00:32:26.560 performance based success. I'm sorry, achievement based 474 00:32:26.560 --> 00:32:29.760 success. The anointing was amazing. So I'm saying even in 475 00:32:29.760 --> 00:32:33.600 the area of ministry, we can get out of whack, we can actually 476 00:32:33.600 --> 00:32:36.880 lose the balance and our family can get can pay the price. I 477 00:32:36.880 --> 00:32:39.920 definitely can vouch for that. I've experienced that myself 478 00:32:39.920 --> 00:32:43.840 for sure where my passion for what I'm doing can cause me to 479 00:32:43.840 --> 00:32:47.680 get out of balance. But here's what I love about Benny's story 480 00:32:47.680 --> 00:32:53.040 is, you know, like, what? Well, the issue was that Benny had 481 00:32:53.040 --> 00:33:01.120 prioritized ministry over marriage. And, you know, there'd 482 00:33:01.120 --> 00:33:03.920 been an issue there as well for Suzanne that she'd actually 483 00:33:03.920 --> 00:33:08.160 been falsely diagnosed for years beforehand, which actually 484 00:33:08.160 --> 00:33:12.080 caused her to develop a dependency on prescription 485 00:33:12.080 --> 00:33:15.600 based drugs. Okay, so that really impacted her emotionally. 486 00:33:16.160 --> 00:33:21.200 And they were actually separated for two and a half 487 00:33:21.200 --> 00:33:27.200 years. Okay. And Benny Hinn said that that was the most 488 00:33:27.200 --> 00:33:32.960 agonizing two and a half years of his life. Okay. So you've 489 00:33:32.960 --> 00:33:35.440 got this dynamic where in the eyes of achievement based 490 00:33:35.440 --> 00:33:38.400 success, Benny Hinn is at the top of the world, but he is in 491 00:33:38.400 --> 00:33:43.760 the most agonizing pain of his life. He said it all like it 492 00:33:43.760 --> 00:33:46.080 all meant nothing. I mean, absolutely nothing to him when 493 00:33:46.080 --> 00:33:52.240 his marriage failed and his marriage ended. But here's the 494 00:33:52.240 --> 00:33:56.320 beautiful thing is that they both started really working on 495 00:33:56.320 --> 00:34:01.440 it. They reconciled on March the 3rd, 2013, after two and a 496 00:34:01.440 --> 00:34:05.840 half years of separation, they married, they remarried, and 497 00:34:07.120 --> 00:34:12.080 their marriage is the best it's ever been. So that's enough 498 00:34:12.080 --> 00:34:15.120 stories for me. There's more stories in the template. And 499 00:34:15.120 --> 00:34:19.280 I'm going to come back in now. Let me know, actually, though, 500 00:34:19.280 --> 00:34:23.199 in the comments, like, how have you found this concept of 501 00:34:23.199 --> 00:34:26.400 getting the balance in life? Right? Is there anywhere where 502 00:34:26.400 --> 00:34:29.440 you've gone and actually got the balance wrong in your life? 503 00:34:29.440 --> 00:34:32.159 And you've realized, oh, man, like, I've really stuffed up 504 00:34:32.159 --> 00:34:34.719 the balance here. You've had to recalibrate, you've had to 505 00:34:34.719 --> 00:34:39.679 redesign things. And I definitely say that I regularly 506 00:34:39.679 --> 00:34:43.440 have to sit with Alana and check in with how we're going 507 00:34:43.440 --> 00:34:46.560 on the balance of things, the intensity of things, even just 508 00:34:46.560 --> 00:34:49.760 a few weeks ago, you know, we had a conversation like, okay, 509 00:34:49.760 --> 00:34:52.400 sweet, I got to recalibrate, I got to change a few things 510 00:34:52.400 --> 00:34:55.760 around. And I got to be really, really careful, you know, like, 511 00:34:55.760 --> 00:34:59.120 I got to make sure that because I work really hard. I love 512 00:34:59.120 --> 00:35:00.000 working hard. I love 513 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:04.240 pursuing the call of God. I love going all in. I'm going to make sure that if I'm going all in here 514 00:35:04.240 --> 00:35:09.040 in, you know, one week, I balance it up that the next week or I'm making sure that it's balanced. 515 00:35:09.040 --> 00:35:14.400 So it's always this balance, right? What does it profit a man to gain the whole world but to 516 00:35:14.400 --> 00:35:23.440 forfeit his soul? Which is just an amazing quote. So that's Mark 8 36. And so this is this is kind 517 00:35:23.440 --> 00:35:28.960 of the key verse for me in this moment, right? So what good is it for someone to gain the whole 518 00:35:28.960 --> 00:35:34.560 world yet forfeit their soul? Or what good is it to be the greatest minister in the world and to 519 00:35:34.560 --> 00:35:39.680 forfeit your marriage? What good is it to to be, you know, the greatest swimmer in the world if 520 00:35:39.680 --> 00:35:45.200 you're depressed and suicidal? Great thing about Michael Phelps, the story is that he actually 521 00:35:45.200 --> 00:35:49.680 made an amazing comeback in that area too. He still struggles with depression. He admits that 522 00:35:49.680 --> 00:35:55.520 he struggles with it regularly. But he went and did a massive, you know, like, rehabilitation 523 00:35:55.600 --> 00:36:00.960 course, he started fighting for he started regaining his fitness, like his mental health, 524 00:36:00.960 --> 00:36:06.400 he started regaining that mental health. And so beautiful comeback story for him, again. 525 00:36:08.400 --> 00:36:14.160 But let's, so let me just check out in the comments to see what you've been saying in terms of 526 00:36:14.960 --> 00:36:20.960 what you've experienced in that area. Who's Yeah, so Ross is still trying to find balance, 527 00:36:20.960 --> 00:36:26.080 Kerry says, out of balance in areas, Christina said, heaps of overbalancing in my life. 528 00:36:27.920 --> 00:36:30.240 Selena said, I wish that would happen for me. 529 00:36:33.760 --> 00:36:36.480 Yeah, Christina says her daughter, his daughter has her own story. 530 00:36:38.400 --> 00:36:46.080 Great thing about Benny Hinn is that he, you know, like, marriage restored. Amazing, like, 531 00:36:46.800 --> 00:36:51.440 Matt, like, what a hero, what a legend. To me, that's what success to me, that's 532 00:36:54.000 --> 00:36:57.920 the most powerful testimony of Benny Hinn's life for me, the miracles, the signs and wonders, 533 00:36:57.920 --> 00:37:03.200 all the other things. Amazing. But to me, the most beautiful testimony that comes from the 534 00:37:03.200 --> 00:37:08.560 life of Benny Hinn is the fact that he went all in to restore their marriage. To me, 535 00:37:08.560 --> 00:37:12.640 that's the most beautiful part. Okay, I'll just check here. One more thing. 536 00:37:13.120 --> 00:37:21.200 Ministry over family. So Heike, let me know if I'm saying that wrong, right or wrong. But 537 00:37:21.200 --> 00:37:24.480 Heike said, yeah, ministry over family years ago. And Jonathan said, 538 00:37:25.040 --> 00:37:29.120 and understanding what it means to balance my spiritual necessities versus gifts. And with 539 00:37:29.120 --> 00:37:34.560 gifts has helped me realize my pursuits have been lying in a closet inside. Okay, 540 00:37:34.560 --> 00:37:38.480 well, powerful stuff, man. So let me come back to a screen share here. 541 00:37:42.160 --> 00:37:48.960 And just quickly, we'll walk through this template and then we will wrap it up for today. 542 00:37:48.960 --> 00:37:55.360 Okay, screen share. Well, let's hit this quickly. I'm going to unpack this for you. Okay, so 543 00:37:56.240 --> 00:38:00.000 we've got a couple of things happening here. So you can read these stories that I've been 544 00:38:00.000 --> 00:38:04.720 telling you about a bit more in depth here, as we define achievement-based success versus 545 00:38:04.720 --> 00:38:10.400 lifestyle-based success. And you're going to come down here, some more stories for you and a little 546 00:38:10.400 --> 00:38:16.240 bit more depth on those ones. But here's where it goes, this big question. So here's the big question, 547 00:38:16.240 --> 00:38:21.120 what do you want? What does success look like to you? And so what we're going to be doing is 548 00:38:21.120 --> 00:38:27.120 defining success. I'm going to give you the opportunity to actually define what success 549 00:38:27.120 --> 00:38:35.920 looks like for you. Okay, so again, it comes down to what do you really want from life? So this is 550 00:38:35.920 --> 00:38:40.960 right in alignment with what we did in week one. What do you want? Okay, so you're going to explore 551 00:38:40.960 --> 00:38:47.600 what do you want in the area of your faith, family, finances, fitness, future, fun, fellowship. 552 00:38:48.720 --> 00:38:52.720 What does that all look like? Okay, and so what we're going to do here is then going to get you 553 00:38:53.120 --> 00:38:57.760 to create your own definition of success in each of these areas of your life. So in the area of 554 00:38:57.760 --> 00:39:04.000 faith, what does success look like for you? In the area of family, fitness, finance, fellowship, fun, 555 00:39:04.000 --> 00:39:09.440 future, you get to give your own definition of success in all of those areas. And one of the 556 00:39:09.440 --> 00:39:14.640 cool things about this is that it creates intentionality. It gives you the context to 557 00:39:14.640 --> 00:39:19.920 actually explore and create definition of your own of what this really looks like and what it means. 558 00:39:19.920 --> 00:39:25.040 So we're going to explore here as well achievement-based success. So in the area of 559 00:39:25.040 --> 00:39:29.760 achievement-based success, I want to say as well that I really want to honor achievement-based 560 00:39:29.760 --> 00:39:34.720 success because you need the skill sets and mindsets that will produce achievement-based 561 00:39:34.720 --> 00:39:39.520 success. You really need them in order to start bringing your dreams to life. So we can't discredit 562 00:39:39.520 --> 00:39:45.360 the value of achievement-based success. It's absolutely critical, but we want to make sure that 563 00:39:46.000 --> 00:39:52.000 we advance our faith, but we don't leave our family behind. We want to make sure that we, 564 00:39:52.000 --> 00:39:59.840 yes, we advance our finances, but we don't leave our faith behind. We want to advance with balance. 565 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:06.720 lifestyle-based success, okay, requires balance. So in the area of achievement-based success, 566 00:40:06.720 --> 00:40:12.000 what are three of your goals? Chucking these down. And so here we're going to do a little 567 00:40:12.000 --> 00:40:16.480 assessment on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being the lowest and 10 being the highest. Please rate 568 00:40:16.480 --> 00:40:22.320 how successful you feel you are in each of the high value areas of life mentioned below. Now, 569 00:40:23.280 --> 00:40:30.160 this is based on your definition of success, okay? So based on your definition of success, 570 00:40:30.160 --> 00:40:34.000 or what success looks like that you're going to put up here, how do you feel like you're doing 571 00:40:34.000 --> 00:40:38.240 in these areas? Not based on someone else's definition of success, but on your definition 572 00:40:38.240 --> 00:40:43.120 of success, how do you feel like you're doing in these areas? So just rate yourself, okay? 573 00:40:44.000 --> 00:40:47.760 Sometimes we find that when we explore something like this, we actually find that we're living 574 00:40:47.760 --> 00:40:52.160 outside of our own value system, and that gives us feedback, right? That'll feel like failure, 575 00:40:52.160 --> 00:40:57.680 remember? That'll feel like failure to you if you say, I'm a 1 out of 10 in the area of family, 576 00:40:57.680 --> 00:41:03.760 and even according to my own definition of success, I'm a 1 out of 10 in the area of family. 577 00:41:03.760 --> 00:41:09.040 If you realize that, that will feel like failure, that will hurt, that will be painful, but you're 578 00:41:09.040 --> 00:41:13.440 going to sit with that pain, you're going to let that pain speak to you, you're going to take 579 00:41:13.440 --> 00:41:18.240 information from that failure, and you're going to take a revelation from that failure that will 580 00:41:18.240 --> 00:41:24.000 teach you how to turn your family into a, you know, turn it into a 10 out of 10, okay? So, but if you 581 00:41:24.000 --> 00:41:28.080 put 10 out of 10, then that's fantastic. So on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being the lowest and 10 the 582 00:41:28.080 --> 00:41:34.080 highest, please help me rate, please rate how much joy you would feel if you fulfilled your dream, 583 00:41:34.080 --> 00:41:39.120 and your life became a living example of your own definition of success. I'll let you explore that, 584 00:41:39.120 --> 00:41:45.040 but how cool would that be? And I think that would be a, you know, a great thing to live in, right? 585 00:41:46.160 --> 00:41:51.120 How awesome will that be to actually step into your own definition of success? 586 00:41:51.680 --> 00:41:55.760 I think that would be amazing. So there's a few more of these questions here 587 00:41:57.520 --> 00:42:01.600 that you're going to go through, so I'll just leave that up to you, get to explore those. 588 00:42:02.400 --> 00:42:07.120 One of the last parts of this is to make a personal commitment, okay? So I want everyone 589 00:42:07.120 --> 00:42:12.240 to really take this seriously, to contemplate this, and explore that, check that out, and then 590 00:42:12.240 --> 00:42:16.720 you want to sign it, and you want to date it, and you want to get a witness, a witness to sign that 591 00:42:16.720 --> 00:42:21.680 as well, okay? Because that's a really powerful dynamic. Now here's a little, a cool little 592 00:42:21.680 --> 00:42:27.200 dynamic of this, it's called the balance sheet, okay? So I've added this in here for you as well, 593 00:42:28.160 --> 00:42:35.360 and the idea with the balance sheet is to help you be intentional about how you're going to 594 00:42:35.360 --> 00:42:40.640 actually step into your own definition of success, okay? Because it's going to require discipline, 595 00:42:40.640 --> 00:42:47.680 it's going to require action to actually step into that, to make that happen. So what we've got here 596 00:42:47.680 --> 00:42:56.320 is the balance sheet, and what I'm wanting to encourage you all to do is to create three weekly 597 00:42:56.320 --> 00:43:02.560 disciplines, okay? Three disciplines a week that you can implement for each area of your life, 598 00:43:02.560 --> 00:43:08.960 which means actually 21 areas of discipline over the period of a week. Now if that's too much, 599 00:43:08.960 --> 00:43:15.040 just do one, okay? Just remember, yeah, like if it's too much, just start with one. If you can 600 00:43:15.040 --> 00:43:20.880 start with one, that's awesome, and if you can build up to three, that's great. This, remember, 601 00:43:20.880 --> 00:43:25.680 like everything, everything that's an event is designed to be a lifestyle. So the reason that 602 00:43:25.680 --> 00:43:29.840 we do something like this, and kind of structure it, is not because we want to be rigid and 603 00:43:29.840 --> 00:43:34.480 disciplined, and we want to, you know, control ourselves or things like this, but we want to 604 00:43:34.480 --> 00:43:38.960 create a habit. Remember, a practice creates a habit, a habit creates a reflex, a reflex creates 605 00:43:38.960 --> 00:43:44.000 a lifestyle, and a lifestyle creates a state of being. So in the future, what you'll find is that 606 00:43:44.000 --> 00:43:48.480 these things that are disciplines here, that are hard here initially, in the future they become as 607 00:43:48.480 --> 00:43:53.200 effortless as breathing. They just become who you are, and this way of doing things, this has 608 00:43:53.200 --> 00:43:57.920 redefined my life, this has changed my life, this has helped me bring balance in and restructure and 609 00:43:57.920 --> 00:44:03.120 redesign my life, it's helped me, you know, improve my relationship with my kids, restore my 610 00:44:03.120 --> 00:44:09.200 marriage, improve my finances, it's blessed me on all fronts. So I'm excited for you guys to check 611 00:44:09.200 --> 00:44:14.080 that out. So just in each area, and just start with one, you know, initially, just start with, okay, 612 00:44:14.080 --> 00:44:19.840 what's one thing, one discipline, and remember the law of five, if you don't know the law of five, 613 00:44:19.840 --> 00:44:23.280 just something that you could do even just for five minutes a day, you know, like even something 614 00:44:23.280 --> 00:44:28.000 that's just a five-minute discipline, because you want to make it, you want to make, when you 615 00:44:28.000 --> 00:44:31.360 set things like this, you want to make it super achievable, especially when you're starting, 616 00:44:31.360 --> 00:44:36.160 you don't want to make it real hard to achieve, you want to make it super achievable so that you 617 00:44:36.160 --> 00:44:40.800 build momentum, you get it, yes, and then you build momentum. So set tiny, tiny things, might just be a 618 00:44:40.800 --> 00:44:46.400 five-minute-a-week discipline, but set something there that's small that it's going to bless your 619 00:44:46.400 --> 00:44:50.880 faith, something you can do for five minutes a week that's going to bless your faith, five minutes a 620 00:44:50.880 --> 00:44:54.160 week that could bless your family, five minutes a week that could bless your finance, you know, 621 00:44:54.160 --> 00:44:59.760 your fitness, your fun, your fellowship, your future, start with something small and build it up. Anyway that is 622 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.920 That is it for today. 623 00:45:02.920 --> 00:45:03.760 Bless you guys. 624 00:45:03.760 --> 00:45:04.640 Love you heaps. 625 00:45:04.640 --> 00:45:06.560 I'm excited for this week. 626 00:45:06.560 --> 00:45:08.640 We had a power cut this morning 627 00:45:08.640 --> 00:45:11.400 and things got changed out of whack a little bit. 628 00:45:11.400 --> 00:45:13.400 So we'll make, we'll be doing, 629 00:45:13.400 --> 00:45:18.100 I'll be doing the lives at 4 p.m. for, 630 00:45:20.000 --> 00:45:25.000 I'll be doing it at 4 p.m. New Zealand time on Wednesday. 631 00:45:25.200 --> 00:45:28.200 And I'll be doing it at 10 a.m., okay? 632 00:45:31.520 --> 00:45:34.440 10 a.m. New Zealand time on Friday. 633 00:45:34.440 --> 00:45:37.840 So changing it up a little bit for you this week, 634 00:45:37.840 --> 00:45:40.240 but 4 p.m. on Wednesday, 635 00:45:40.240 --> 00:45:41.960 watch the notifications in this group, 636 00:45:41.960 --> 00:45:44.920 4 p.m. on Wednesday again, 637 00:45:44.920 --> 00:45:49.640 and then 10 a.m. on Friday for our Zoom chat. 638 00:45:49.640 --> 00:45:51.480 Right, love you fam. 639 00:45:51.480 --> 00:45:54.520 Feel free to chuck anything else down in the comments. 640 00:45:54.520 --> 00:45:57.880 And excited to chat with you guys soon. 641 00:45:57.880 --> 00:45:58.720 Love you. 642 00:45:58.720 --> 00:45:59.560 Bye-bye.