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where you are in the world and uh how you are doing today um so
we uh we are live which is excellent and jonathan great to have you with me
that yeah when you comment i can see who's there so it's very cool to be
together today and we're going to be jumping into week three this is week three session one in the
40 day extreme ownership adventure dorkus great to have you there tony welcome beautiful to have
you with us and uh in this session we are going to check out the template for this week we're
going to be talking about stewarding success uh after a big week last week of talking about
failure so uh i want to i want to say this as we start out um first of all i am so um
so impressed with everything that everyone shared um ross good to see you there as well my friend
yeah and so i really want to honor everyone for how beautifully you shared for how you guys have
just been so vulnerable opened up your hearts opened up your worlds and just been amazing at
sharing your stories of failure and one of the reasons why i think that is so huge and why
last week was such a massive massive week for us as a family is because
extreme ownership right the whole challenge is called extreme ownership the extreme ownership
adventure and i mean this is something that i talk to my kids about right like you are the only one
that can uh steward your own happiness in life you're the only one that can do it and you're
the only one that can you know obviously god can do lots of stuff right god's amazing but seldom
does god work uh in isolation in our lives he likes to work in partnership with us and so um
that process of transformation i think we sometimes get the starting point wrong right like
so on this journey so far week one was about the dream activator like finding out like
starting to unlock the desires of our heart but then you know we just spent like a whole week
last week talking about failure who let me know how you found that process let me know how you
found it uh sharing the stories with everyone hearing their stories of failure um writing out
your own facing up coming face to face with your own failures how did that feel i would love just
to hear some of your thoughts in the comments i'd really really appreciate that in the comments
we just share some of how that was for you processing failure coming face to face with
failure and also uh the concept of what was it like for you going through hearing other people's
stories of failure how did that impact you seeing those stories reading those stories love to hear
that i'm going to read a little quote for you actually this quote came from uh a show that i
just watched um we were watching alana and i watched it um and here's the line
It's not the pain that ruins us, it's what we do to avoid the pain.
How's that for a line, right?
It's not the pain that ruins us, it's what we do to avoid the pain and that's what really
ruins us.
So, you know, with failure, with failure, we so often avoid it.
We're not often taught to actually sit with our failure, to sit with our pain, to confront
our failure, to come face-to-face to our failure, to actually let our failure start teaching
us, let our failure start speaking to us.
And when we sit with our failure and learn the lessons from our failure, that failure
actually loses that immense fear on our lives.
Who feels like, let me, I would just like to ask you guys this question as well from
last week, who feels like from last week you have started to be less afraid of failure?
Who feels like your sense of failure is, like that fear of failure is breaking off your
life?
So, I'm just seeing Dorcas saying here, it was my, it was eye-opening to me, made me
realize probably my greatest failure was staying safe and not taking risks.
Wow, that is huge, right?
That's a crazy concept as well, because when it comes to failure, just the very act, you
know, because sometimes we try so hard to avoid failure that we never do anything.
And by default, we fail by doing nothing.
So that's beautiful.
That's a big deal.
Thanks for sharing that.
Dorcas, appreciate that.
So I want to say this, I want to honor everyone.
That was really huge.
The vulnerability that you all shared was massive.
So I want to say that I want to really honor you and I want to commend you as well, because
it's such a powerful step to take ownership of our failures.
And I want to encourage you as well to make that actually a practice, right?
Because the more you do that, the more you face up to failure and actually just sit with
the pain of your failure.
I don't know what that will look like for you, but just being aware of failure, just
not being afraid of it and not trying to hide from your past failures, but just sitting
with failure and letting failure speak to you.
Because we went through all of this last week, but pain, failure, the fear of failure, it
can make us blind and deaf and we can't receive its feedback.
But you guys were just so amazing.
So I want to honor you.
I just want to really, really honor everyone for the amount that you were vulnerable.
So that's awesome.
So thanks, everyone.
Once again, just huge.
All the stories.
And if you haven't seen them, just go through the news feed here and just see all the stories
that people have poured out.
And a lot of relationship failure there as well.
I mean, yeah, that's a lot of relationship failure.
And I want to just share this one thought with you is that I've got a really exciting
training called the Seven Sacred Pathways to Intimacy.
And I want to do that training again with everyone.
So just a little heads up that that'll be on the horizon as well.
The Seven Sacred Pathways to Intimacy, which ultimately is what actually discovering those
in the process of discovering those is what saved our marriage.
So let's pray now, and we're going to jump into stewarding success week three and check
out the template as soon as we have done that.
So we'll pray and then we'll get into it.
Abba Father, thank you so much for your amazing goodness.
Thank you for your kindness.
Thank you for who you are.
We love your presence.
Right now, we welcome your presence afresh, Lord.
And as we come right now, we come really vulnerable and we just come to honor, Lord, in a sense
and to respect and to Papa in this place, what I'm wanting to achieve, Papa, is that
in the place of our failure, that there'll be a deep comfort and that you will bring
deep comfort there and that you will continue to remove all fear of failure off our lives,
that you would give us a grace to be risk takers, that you would give us a grace to
risk everything for you, that you give us wisdom to take calculated risks.
But Papa, as well, I thank you that as we step into week three, as we step into this
whole concept of stewarding success.
I ask that You walk with us, I ask that You speak to us
in multifaceted ways.
I thank you for the Spirit of the Lord,
the Spirit of Wisdom and Revelation,
the Spirit of Council, the Spirit of Understanding,
the Spirit of Knowledge, the Spirit of Might,
and the Spirit of the Fear of the Lord walking with us.
I thank you for angels walking with us.
I thank you for Insights and I thank you for healing.
I thank you for your presence.
I thank you for momentum.
I thank you for revelation.
I thank you for, Lord, supernatural breakthroughs
going before us on behalf of us as we step into this.
And I just thank you for your leading and your guidance
and your comfort, Lord, especially
for those that are stepping out of their comfort zone.
I thank you for your comfort, Lord, your comfort,
your comfort, and your grace, and your kindness,
and your power, and your boldness going before us.
In Jesus' name, amen.
Great stuff.
Who's keen to see the new, oh, I see,
just checking the comments out here.
Dorcas, I hear you're saying, I'm
an extremely cautious person, hard to let go of that.
Yes, but you're doing very well.
Kerry's just posting in here that she's
experiencing just the comment, lots of relationship failure.
And I think that that was one of the most common failures that
was shared in the testimonies was marriages that ended.
There was a lot of pain there in those testimonies last week.
So let me know if you're keen.
We're transitioning now to week three.
And we're going into the template,
which is Stewarding Success.
So as we go into it, I'm going to pull up a,
we're going to have a little bit of fun.
We're going to have a guessing game, OK?
We're going to have a guessing game.
This is going to be a little bit entertaining for you, OK?
Right?
I'm going to show you guys.
This is, now, you're going to bear with me, OK?
Because this is kind of funny.
I'm going to try and get you to guess
the names of two topless guys, OK?
I'm going to make the first one easier for you
and the second one slightly harder.
The first one is definitely the funniest one.
But I have to create, I have to do a screen share for you, OK?
So here we go with the screen share.
OK, get ready.
Here comes the screen share.
And this is the guy.
OK, right.
Who is this guy?
Let me know.
Can you tell me who is this man?
I am watching in the comments to see.
It's a race.
The race is on for someone to tell me who this guy is, OK?
So it is on.
All right, go for it, Tim.
Go for it, I want to see.
So remember, we are talking about success, OK?
And we're talking about, we're going
to talk about two different types of success
and define two different types of success.
Danion, not Danion Loader.
Danion Loader.
That is not Danion Loader.
This is someone else.
So if you think about this as possibly the most famous
So if you think about this as possibly the most famous,
here's a clue as well.
The guy is a swimmer, OK?
That's why he's not wearing much, because he's a swimmer.
But it is kind of funny to be posting this.
And he does, in real life, he does have arms.
I think that it's just the photo that's cut off.
He's not missing arms in real life.
So here we go.
Another, no idea, no idea, no idea.
So this is Michael Phelps, if you didn't guess it.
This is Michael Phelps, OK?
So Michael Phelps is one of the, a lot of people
would say, the greatest swimmer in world history, OK?
A lot of people would say that he is the greatest swimmer
in the world.
Yes, James, you nailed it.
Phelps, Michael Phelps.
This is Michael Phelps in his rainbow undies.
So Michael Phelps, a lot of people would say,
I'm going to stop the screen share,
so you don't have to keep looking
at Michael Phelps in his undies.
But Michael Phelps, a lot of people
would say that he is the greatest
swimmer in world history, OK?
So we're talking about stewarding success.
Now, my next one is going to be really,
it's going to be a little bit trickier, OK?
So well done, James, on getting that.
Lee, yes, well done.
Michael Phelps, that's correct.
And Selena, yes, you probably did know that.
OK, so our next guy, you're going to try and guess
our next guy as well.
I'm going to do another screen share.
Now, this guy is also a topless guy,
and I want you to try and guess this guy.
So here we go with another screen share.
Here he goes.
OK, who is this guy?
Anyone know this guy? Okay. I'll give you a moment. I'll give you a moment to try and guess him.
And the reason I'm sharing these two guys is because we're talking about stewarding success.
And we're going to be talking about two different types of stewarding success. Okay. And these two
guys both personify two different types of stewarding success. So one type of stewarding
success is achievement-based success. Okay. So say achievement-based success and say,
oh, here we go. So we've got achievement-based success and lifestyle-based success. Okay. So
that's the two things that we're talking about. I'm just checking the comments now to see.
So we know that face. Try and guess this guy. Is he an actor? He's not an actor.
Although he may have been in.
Hey, flip, I can't get this to mute. Right. So any guesses? I want to see if there's any guesses
on this guy. I'm sorry. I'm having a little bit of a tech fail here. Here we go. Let's just see.
One more chance for you guys. No one's guessing. No one's getting this guy. Okay. So if you don't
know this guy, let me tell you who this guy is. This guy's amazing. This is Rich Froning. Okay.
Now, why is he famous? He is the winner. Oh, here we go. A few comments coming in here.
Oh, but they weren't guesses. Okay. So this is Rich Froning. He is the winner of
the CrossFit Games multiple times over. So we're going to share, have a look at both of these guys'
stories. We are ending. We've ended the screen share. That's good. So let me come back to you
right now. And I'm going to share with you. Actually, we're going to screen share it up again.
But this time, we're going to go into the Stewarding Success template. Okay. So in the
comments of this video, you can see that you can download the Stewarding Success template. So
again, screen share again, and we are going to the template now. All right. Hello, template.
Now, I have changed this up a little bit here, mate.
Oh, this is going to be tricky. That's right. There we go. So we've got the Stewarding Success,
Systems for Success, Stewarding Success template. So check this headline out. Achievement-based
success is a big one. And then lifestyle-based success. So those are two concepts that we're
exploring. And what we want to look at is these two guys. Okay. So two guys that I want to highlight
for you. Two stories. So Michael Phelps, right? Michael Phelps, after the 2012 Olympics, where he
absolutely crushed it. Okay. So this is achievement-based success. Michael Phelps, he won
four gold medals and two silver medals in the 2012 Olympics. I'm going to actually just going
to stop the screen share for a moment. He won four gold medals, two silver medals in the 2012
Olympics. And then actually after that went back home and he was so depressed that he actually
was stuck in his room, depressed, could barely leave his room. And he was stuck in his room
in the darkness, contemplating suicide. How crazy is that, right? Because what we're highlighting is
these two different concepts of success, achievement-based success and lifestyle-based
success. And most of the time, the world just highlights and emphasizes achievement-based
success, achievement-based success, achievement-based success. And there is some real value in
achievement-based success because it will make you a champion, right? That mindset of being
focused on achievement-based success will make you a champion. It will actually help you bring
your dreams to life. It will actually start making amazing things happen in your world.
But the problem with achievement-based success is that it is often out of balance. It often gets out
of balance and it goes crazy. And so when it gets out of balance and when it goes crazy,
then actually achievement-based success in one area of your life can mean chaos in the rest of
your life. So there's a Hebrew word, shalom. So say shalom with me. Now, I love the word shalom
because what it means is it means everything.
everything functioning according to divine design. How good is that? Absolutely everything
functioning according to divine design. The ancient Hebrew pictogram, right, of the word
Hebrew, in the Hebrew word Shalom, the ancient Hebrew pictogram, it's got four pictures.
So the first part is a picture of sharp teeth, all right, which means to destroy. The next
picture is a shepherd's rod, which means authority. The next picture is a tent peg, which means
to be attached. And then the fourth picture is a picture of water, which represents chaos.
So it means, right, in Hebrew, the word Shalom, the actual definition means to destroy the
authority attached to chaos. How good is that, right? So if you want to see a picture
of what Shalom looks like, the best picture you'll ever see is the life of Jesus, right?
And the word Shalom, it means to destroy the authority attached to chaos. I just love that.
So what it means, there's this concept as well of the actual meaning is everything in
your life is functioning according to divine design. So when you're focused on achievement
based success, like this world is right, Michael Phelps was all over the news media
all over the world. He was the world's picture of success. So here's someone who is what
the world is like, yes, this is the absolute picture of success. This is what success looks
like. Yeah. Like the whole world was just going crazy. Michael Phelps crazy. He was
everywhere. Newspapers, just, you know, newspapers, magazines, TV, internet, YouTube, media, just
new channels, channels, TV. Oh my gosh, everywhere was Michael Phelps, the greatest hero in the
world, the man, the legend. At the same time, fully depressed and suicidal. So you can see
where I'm going with this, right? Is there's that's achievement based success, which will
make you the greatest champion in the world until it gets out of balance and your life
is out of balance and your life flips into chaos, right? So this is the dynamic, right?
When it comes to, you know, redesigning our world, dreaming our world, we don't want to
just be focused on achievement based success, the world's mindset of success, right? Jesus
said, what will it profit you to gain the whole world and forfeit your own soul? And
what he's talking about is he's talking about these two, the tension between achievement
based success and lifestyle based success and having the balance in place so that actually
in our lives, we have shalom. And the cool thing about shalom, right? These two meanings,
right, the authority to destroy the authority attached to chaos, and nothing missing, nothing
broken, everything functioning according to divine design, which the Greek counterpart to
the word shalom is the word sozo, which again, it means nothing missing, nothing broken. Sozo
and shalom are two counterparts, which means salvation in itself, the concept of salvation,
you know, in a biblical term is actually the concept of salvation is actually returning
people to a place of shalom, where there's nothing missing, nothing broken in their lives,
and absolutely every area of your life functions according to the perfection of divine design for
who you were created to be, the life you were created to live, the destiny ordained for your
life. So this is wild, right? This is wild. Let me know if you love that, right? So salvation is not
just like, if you think about it, achievement based success mindset sometimes makes salvation
about getting across the line. Achievement based mindsets kind of make it like the goal is to get
people to pray a prayer and then they got saved. But realistically, that's not the end goal. That's
actually just the start because the goal for Jesus is never just to get someone to say a prayer,
right? That's crazy talk. That's not the goal for Jesus. The goal for Jesus is to see you living
the divine life. The goal for Jesus is to see you stepping into shalom. The goal for Jesus is to see
you in a place where everything in your life functions perfectly according to divine design,
where nothing is missing, nothing is broken, and everything functions according to divine design.
So even in Christian circles, we've got to be really careful not to take the world's mindset
of what success looks like and superimpose it into our mindsets and think that it's just about
achieving things. Achieving things are great. And the mindsets and the systems of success
are critical for the whole dynamic of achievement based success, okay? So there's a lot of the
elements of achievement based success that are absolutely fantastic. And we don't want to throw
the baby out with the bathwater because those dynamics of performance enhancing, like peak
performance mindsets and skill sets, that is critical, right? Because it's going to take that
step into your destiny, but it has to be done in balance. So there's one guy, Michael Phelps, and
He's the champion of the world, but he's in total,
at the same time, his world was in chaos.
Now, let's check out another dude, okay?
So, Rich Froning.
Now, you guys might not have heard of Rich Froning,
but Rich Froning is a Christian guy.
I'm just pulling something up here for us.
Rich Froning is a Christian.
And so, because of his value, right?
Because of Rich Froning's value for lifestyle-based success,
he actually did something really crazy.
So, Rich Froning,
he was the CrossFit World Champion, right?
That's the fittest person in the world.
That's what the CrossFit Games are.
Let me know, have you heard of the CrossFit Games in there?
Have you heard of the CrossFit Games?
Let me know that.
So, the CrossFit Games is the most grueling,
challenging competition.
It's called the fittest on earth.
That's what the competition is.
And he won it, 2011, 2012, 2013, and 2014.
He won the title, right?
But he actually was never defeated.
He was never beaten as the champion.
What happened is, he actually started a family.
Oh, now here's where things get interesting.
He actually retired.
He didn't fully retire from CrossFit Games.
He went back into there, but never as intensely
as he did when he was the champion, right?
He never went full bore actually going for that title again.
He did some team dynamics and won some of the team stuff.
But what he realized is that the level of intensity
that would be required for him to train
to be the fittest man on earth,
it wasn't conducive to having the family life
and the marriage that he wanted.
So, how crazy is this?
He gave, he basically walked away from the title.
He basically walked away from being,
having this amazing world championship, world title.
He's undefeated.
He walked away from it.
He's not the champion anymore.
Obviously, if someone took that space,
but because he walked away, okay?
But he walked away for the value of his family.
How crazy is that, right?
Because he had this huge value for family,
he just walked away from one of the, you know,
like most prestigious sporting titles in the world.
As an individual,
this is one of the most prestigious titles in the world.
And he walked away for the value of family, okay?
So, but let's contrast that with someone else
that you'll know, right?
Tiger Woods, right?
You'd know the name Tiger Woods.
For lots of reasons, you would know the name Tiger Woods.
Why? Success in golfing, right?
One of the most successful golfers
in the history of the world.
Child prodigy golfer, just amazing, okay?
But again, successful in that area,
but when it comes to lifestyle-based success like this,
he has a tragic, tragic story, okay?
So here's some stats from Tiger Woods.
Tiger Woods admitted to having sex
with at least 120 other women during his five-year marriage.
What?
Let me say that again.
World champion golfer,
one of the greatest golfing success stories
in the history of the world,
when it comes to his marriage,
he actually admitted,
this is Tiger Woods' own confession,
that he admitted to having sex
with at least 120 other women
during their five-year marriage.
All right, now let me get out my calculator, okay?
So if I do, let me just,
I'm grabbing my calculators
to work out some stats on Tiger Woods.
So 120 divided by five,
you can do this if you're fast at maths,
that is 24, okay?
So that means that he was, on average,
having sex with at least 24 other women,
as well as his wife,
but 24 other women a year, right?
So this is different people.
And so if we divide that by,
what do you know, if we divide that by 52,
if we do,
yeah, it's basically,
on average, he was having a brand new affair
every two weeks.
Now let me know if you think that's crazy, okay?
So,
we're talking about this dynamic
because I wanna help unpack the concept, right,
of achievement-based success.
What the world is saying,
yeah, this is success versus lifestyle-based success,
which in God's eyes,
lifestyle-based success is shalom,
absolutely nothing missing, nothing broken,
and everything in your world functioning
according to divine design.
So let's talk for a moment as well
about a couple, Robert and Sheila Johnson, okay?
They were the first African-American billionaires,
and they were married for 33 years,
but after a whole bunch of affairs,
Sheila divorced Robert,
you know, for all the affairs,
and the settlement amount that Sheila was paid out,
she was paid out
$400 million settlement. So but here's the thing. So he's, he's
kept a bunch of money, he's got a bunch of money, but he lost
his wife. Successful in one area, total disaster in another
area. And then you've got Rupert and Anna Murdoch. Okay, so this
is the most expensive divorce in world history is Rupert and
Anna Murdoch. And so they were married for 32 years, they had
three kids that were younger than marriage, then Rupert.
Sorry, they had, they were married for 32 years, they had
three kids. And they divorced, right. So then within 17 days
after his divorce, he went and married another lady, Wendy,
who was 37 years younger than him. Okay. And that marriage
lasted 14 years and then age 84. Rupert married his fourth
wife. Okay, so like, four marriages. It just kind of came
crumbling down for him. Multi billionaire marriage is a mess.
So I think you guys can kind of get the picture with me. Here's
another one. Okay, here's another one that's really related
to us. Okay, so you know that we could relate to so you'd know
Benny Hinn, right? You'd know Benny Hinn, well, you might not
have heard of his wife, Suzanne. So on the first of
February, in 2010, Suzanne Hinn, Benny Hinn's wife, she actually
filed for a divorce from Benny Hinn. Okay, what? You're going
to divorce Benny Hinn? Isn't this guy the man of God? Okay,
so what's going on here that all of a sudden Benny Hinn's wife
wants to file for divorce? What's going on? So he was just
he is one of the most famous Christian ministers in the
world. And he has a capacity to carry the anointing is just
crazy. But his life was his marriage was falling to pieces.
Okay, so two key areas in the lives of Benny and Suzanne were
out of balance. Okay, so it's not so I'm just saying, you
know, this is not just non believers. This is Benny Hinn
we're talking about. Suzanne Hinn filed for divorce, because
his world was out of balance. It was it was it was six
performance based success. I'm sorry, achievement based
success. The anointing was amazing. So I'm saying even in
the area of ministry, we can get out of whack, we can actually
lose the balance and our family can get can pay the price. I
definitely can vouch for that. I've experienced that myself
for sure where my passion for what I'm doing can cause me to
get out of balance. But here's what I love about Benny's story
is, you know, like, what? Well, the issue was that Benny had
prioritized ministry over marriage. And, you know, there'd
been an issue there as well for Suzanne that she'd actually
been falsely diagnosed for years beforehand, which actually
caused her to develop a dependency on prescription
based drugs. Okay, so that really impacted her emotionally.
And they were actually separated for two and a half
years. Okay. And Benny Hinn said that that was the most
agonizing two and a half years of his life. Okay. So you've
got this dynamic where in the eyes of achievement based
success, Benny Hinn is at the top of the world, but he is in
the most agonizing pain of his life. He said it all like it
all meant nothing. I mean, absolutely nothing to him when
his marriage failed and his marriage ended. But here's the
beautiful thing is that they both started really working on
it. They reconciled on March the 3rd, 2013, after two and a
half years of separation, they married, they remarried, and
their marriage is the best it's ever been. So that's enough
stories for me. There's more stories in the template. And
I'm going to come back in now. Let me know, actually, though,
in the comments, like, how have you found this concept of
getting the balance in life? Right? Is there anywhere where
you've gone and actually got the balance wrong in your life?
And you've realized, oh, man, like, I've really stuffed up
the balance here. You've had to recalibrate, you've had to
redesign things. And I definitely say that I regularly
have to sit with Alana and check in with how we're going
on the balance of things, the intensity of things, even just
a few weeks ago, you know, we had a conversation like, okay,
sweet, I got to recalibrate, I got to change a few things
around. And I got to be really, really careful, you know, like,
I got to make sure that because I work really hard. I love
working hard. I love
pursuing the call of God. I love going all in. I'm going to make sure that if I'm going all in here
in, you know, one week, I balance it up that the next week or I'm making sure that it's balanced.
So it's always this balance, right? What does it profit a man to gain the whole world but to
forfeit his soul? Which is just an amazing quote. So that's Mark 8 36. And so this is this is kind
of the key verse for me in this moment, right? So what good is it for someone to gain the whole
world yet forfeit their soul? Or what good is it to be the greatest minister in the world and to
forfeit your marriage? What good is it to to be, you know, the greatest swimmer in the world if
you're depressed and suicidal? Great thing about Michael Phelps, the story is that he actually
made an amazing comeback in that area too. He still struggles with depression. He admits that
he struggles with it regularly. But he went and did a massive, you know, like, rehabilitation
course, he started fighting for he started regaining his fitness, like his mental health,
he started regaining that mental health. And so beautiful comeback story for him, again.
But let's, so let me just check out in the comments to see what you've been saying in terms of
what you've experienced in that area. Who's Yeah, so Ross is still trying to find balance,
Kerry says, out of balance in areas, Christina said, heaps of overbalancing in my life.
Selena said, I wish that would happen for me.
Yeah, Christina says her daughter, his daughter has her own story.
Great thing about Benny Hinn is that he, you know, like, marriage restored. Amazing, like,
Matt, like, what a hero, what a legend. To me, that's what success to me, that's
the most powerful testimony of Benny Hinn's life for me, the miracles, the signs and wonders,
all the other things. Amazing. But to me, the most beautiful testimony that comes from the
life of Benny Hinn is the fact that he went all in to restore their marriage. To me,
that's the most beautiful part. Okay, I'll just check here. One more thing.
Ministry over family. So Heike, let me know if I'm saying that wrong, right or wrong. But
Heike said, yeah, ministry over family years ago. And Jonathan said,
and understanding what it means to balance my spiritual necessities versus gifts. And with
gifts has helped me realize my pursuits have been lying in a closet inside. Okay,
well, powerful stuff, man. So let me come back to a screen share here.
And just quickly, we'll walk through this template and then we will wrap it up for today.
Okay, screen share. Well, let's hit this quickly. I'm going to unpack this for you. Okay, so
we've got a couple of things happening here. So you can read these stories that I've been
telling you about a bit more in depth here, as we define achievement-based success versus
lifestyle-based success. And you're going to come down here, some more stories for you and a little
bit more depth on those ones. But here's where it goes, this big question. So here's the big question,
what do you want? What does success look like to you? And so what we're going to be doing is
defining success. I'm going to give you the opportunity to actually define what success
looks like for you. Okay, so again, it comes down to what do you really want from life? So this is
right in alignment with what we did in week one. What do you want? Okay, so you're going to explore
what do you want in the area of your faith, family, finances, fitness, future, fun, fellowship.
What does that all look like? Okay, and so what we're going to do here is then going to get you
to create your own definition of success in each of these areas of your life. So in the area of
faith, what does success look like for you? In the area of family, fitness, finance, fellowship, fun,
future, you get to give your own definition of success in all of those areas. And one of the
cool things about this is that it creates intentionality. It gives you the context to
actually explore and create definition of your own of what this really looks like and what it means.
So we're going to explore here as well achievement-based success. So in the area of
achievement-based success, I want to say as well that I really want to honor achievement-based
success because you need the skill sets and mindsets that will produce achievement-based
success. You really need them in order to start bringing your dreams to life. So we can't discredit
the value of achievement-based success. It's absolutely critical, but we want to make sure that
we advance our faith, but we don't leave our family behind. We want to make sure that we,
yes, we advance our finances, but we don't leave our faith behind. We want to advance with balance.
lifestyle-based success, okay, requires balance. So in the area of achievement-based success,
what are three of your goals? Chucking these down. And so here we're going to do a little
assessment on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being the lowest and 10 being the highest. Please rate
how successful you feel you are in each of the high value areas of life mentioned below. Now,
this is based on your definition of success, okay? So based on your definition of success,
or what success looks like that you're going to put up here, how do you feel like you're doing
in these areas? Not based on someone else's definition of success, but on your definition
of success, how do you feel like you're doing in these areas? So just rate yourself, okay?
Sometimes we find that when we explore something like this, we actually find that we're living
outside of our own value system, and that gives us feedback, right? That'll feel like failure,
remember? That'll feel like failure to you if you say, I'm a 1 out of 10 in the area of family,
and even according to my own definition of success, I'm a 1 out of 10 in the area of family.
If you realize that, that will feel like failure, that will hurt, that will be painful, but you're
going to sit with that pain, you're going to let that pain speak to you, you're going to take
information from that failure, and you're going to take a revelation from that failure that will
teach you how to turn your family into a, you know, turn it into a 10 out of 10, okay? So, but if you
put 10 out of 10, then that's fantastic. So on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being the lowest and 10 the
highest, please help me rate, please rate how much joy you would feel if you fulfilled your dream,
and your life became a living example of your own definition of success. I'll let you explore that,
but how cool would that be? And I think that would be a, you know, a great thing to live in, right?
How awesome will that be to actually step into your own definition of success?
I think that would be amazing. So there's a few more of these questions here
that you're going to go through, so I'll just leave that up to you, get to explore those.
One of the last parts of this is to make a personal commitment, okay? So I want everyone
to really take this seriously, to contemplate this, and explore that, check that out, and then
you want to sign it, and you want to date it, and you want to get a witness, a witness to sign that
as well, okay? Because that's a really powerful dynamic. Now here's a little, a cool little
dynamic of this, it's called the balance sheet, okay? So I've added this in here for you as well,
and the idea with the balance sheet is to help you be intentional about how you're going to
actually step into your own definition of success, okay? Because it's going to require discipline,
it's going to require action to actually step into that, to make that happen. So what we've got here
is the balance sheet, and what I'm wanting to encourage you all to do is to create three weekly
disciplines, okay? Three disciplines a week that you can implement for each area of your life,
which means actually 21 areas of discipline over the period of a week. Now if that's too much,
just do one, okay? Just remember, yeah, like if it's too much, just start with one. If you can
start with one, that's awesome, and if you can build up to three, that's great. This, remember,
like everything, everything that's an event is designed to be a lifestyle. So the reason that
we do something like this, and kind of structure it, is not because we want to be rigid and
disciplined, and we want to, you know, control ourselves or things like this, but we want to
create a habit. Remember, a practice creates a habit, a habit creates a reflex, a reflex creates
a lifestyle, and a lifestyle creates a state of being. So in the future, what you'll find is that
these things that are disciplines here, that are hard here initially, in the future they become as
effortless as breathing. They just become who you are, and this way of doing things, this has
redefined my life, this has changed my life, this has helped me bring balance in and restructure and
redesign my life, it's helped me, you know, improve my relationship with my kids, restore my
marriage, improve my finances, it's blessed me on all fronts. So I'm excited for you guys to check
that out. So just in each area, and just start with one, you know, initially, just start with, okay,
what's one thing, one discipline, and remember the law of five, if you don't know the law of five,
just something that you could do even just for five minutes a day, you know, like even something
that's just a five-minute discipline, because you want to make it, you want to make, when you
set things like this, you want to make it super achievable, especially when you're starting,
you don't want to make it real hard to achieve, you want to make it super achievable so that you
build momentum, you get it, yes, and then you build momentum. So set tiny, tiny things, might just be a
five-minute-a-week discipline, but set something there that's small that it's going to bless your
faith, something you can do for five minutes a week that's going to bless your faith, five minutes a
week that could bless your family, five minutes a week that could bless your finance, you know,
your fitness, your fun, your fellowship, your future, start with something small and build it up. Anyway that is
That is it for today.
Bless you guys.
Love you heaps.
I'm excited for this week.
We had a power cut this morning
and things got changed out of whack a little bit.
So we'll make, we'll be doing,
I'll be doing the lives at 4 p.m. for,
I'll be doing it at 4 p.m. New Zealand time on Wednesday.
And I'll be doing it at 10 a.m., okay?
10 a.m. New Zealand time on Friday.
So changing it up a little bit for you this week,
but 4 p.m. on Wednesday,
watch the notifications in this group,
4 p.m. on Wednesday again,
and then 10 a.m. on Friday for our Zoom chat.
Right, love you fam.
Feel free to chuck anything else down in the comments.
And excited to chat with you guys soon.
Love you.
Bye-bye.