hey here we are family another day another beautiful day I hope you are
thriving and all that you are doing let me just tweak that very nicely hope you
guys are doing so well and I want to just say again thank you to all the
people sharing their stories and their testimonies of good things happening in
the process of this focus package Renita lovely to see you or it's great to see
you I just I love I love sharing this journey with you so as you're watching
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well my brother Dave Dallas oh good to see all you guys amazing what beautiful
beautiful people what an honor to share this time with you today and happy
Waitangi Day for those who are in Aotearoa New Zealand for those of us in
New Zealand it's a day off for most people I kind of I work for myself
really or Jesus I work for Jesus but kind of employed mainly self-employed so
I don't really pay too much attention to public holidays which is all good but
happy Waitangi for those that are having a day off today blessings on you I'm
sure it's going great I've had a great day today as well my office is exploding
with ideas and creativity and projects and possibilities limitless possibilities
so today in the video we're going to talk about failure and we've got
template number four and as soon as I finish this video template number four
I'm going to put up this this template processing failure which is so powerful
and I guess in a way I was wondering at what stage should I bring in the
processing failure template should I bring it in at the end should I bring it
in right at the beginning you could you know you could juggle it around I think
probably in the future I might bring it in one step before the motivator but
we're bringing it in now template number four it's amazing so the work that you've
done on the motivator that's great and what you're going to find now is that
this this template processing failure is a little bit of a pause in the in the
momentum in a sense of going specifically into a dream we're kind of
gonna get a little bit generic for a moment we're gonna get generic now on
just the whole concept of dreaming I know for some people this whole concept
of dreaming wow it pulls some skeletons out of the closet doesn't it just give
me a thumbs up or a yep totally when you've if you've noticed that this whole
dynamic of encouraging you to dream and to be vulnerable with the desires of
your own heart has brought out some skeletons in the closet or brought out
the sense of failure or regret or oh my gosh am I am I feel like where is my
and so if you felt some turmoil or some struggle or some like mental emotional
challenges you've wrestled with the process of have you accomplished what
you really want to accomplish with your life are you on track give me a thumbs
up if that's what you've been feeling and I want to pray for us and then I
just want to talk today about that the struggle of struggling not to be defined
by our failures and struggling not to have our failures crush our capacity to
dream forward so I see David commenting there he said some skeletons and Renita
yep yep I call it the triggered life my thriving life requires I walk through
those triggers yeah totally so I want to pray for you and then I'm gonna jump
into chatting about processing failure Jesus Wow I will stop right now and we
become aware of your presence we become aware of the reality that Jesus you are
the God of limitless possibilities and you are the God of limitless chances and
you are the God of limitless redemption and
Jesus we thank you that you have used people who others would have said they were failures
time and time and time again to write history and to do phenomenal things for you as they
have brought heaven to earth and Jesus we just ask that you do it again, that you take
our lives and you take the sense of frustration that we've experienced and the sense of failure
that we've experienced and we just ask that you would give revelation into that, you give
wisdom and understanding into our hearts, into our circumstances that totally liberates
us to dream with you as you dream for our lives with limitless possibilities.
I ask today that there would be restoration of dreams, that there would be redemption,
there would be restoration in our hearts, that we'd be awakened, freshly empowered,
freshly released to dream again, Amen.
There we are, there we are, so why don't you come with me on a journey, I'll tell you a story.
This story begins with me as a really, really little kid, so before I'm even at school.
So when I was little, just little before even at school, played doctors and nurses with
some different kids and probably nothing, I don't think there was anything dodgy but
there was just curiosity there and we would run around naked every now and then and play
doctors and nurses and nothing actually outrageous happened in that time but what I, as I processed
that as a maybe a four year old, like maybe a five year old, probably as a five year old,
I was like oh my gosh, like running around naked with other kids or playing doctors and
nurses, this is bad and therefore because I did this thing that was bad, I must be bad,
I must be a bad human, I must be inadequate, there must be something wrong with me.
So I, as a kid with my little kid brain, I interpreted my own circumstances, my own story,
my own journey, my own actions as I was a failure and when our brains are developing
as children, they're developing at exponential rates, far greater rates than when we're adults.
So when you make a decision as a child, when you come to a conclusion as a child, that
conclusion is a massive conclusion with massive repercussions as those things get ingrained
into your child brain, into your belief system and so there I was, just a little kid and
before I'd even reached school, I had come to this conclusion that I was a failure, that
I was inadequate, that I was not enough, that there was something intrinsically wrong
with me and because I came to that conclusion that there was something intrinsically wrong
with me and because that was ingrained, just ingrained into the core of my hardwired thinking
that one of the deepest, most infrastructure core, strongest beliefs that I had in my mind,
in my heart, in my world was that I was not enough, that I was a failure, that I was inadequate
and whenever we judge ourselves like that, it leads to a chain reaction of events and
so for me, the chain reaction of events that took place, even as a little kid before I
reached school, I had come to the conclusion of my own inadequacy, that I was a failure
and that produced the sense of shame in my own heart and that shame in my own heart
led to a measure of self-hatred and it led to a constant flow of negative
thinking and condemnation, just negatively speaking about myself. I'm
like, oh my gosh, just, yeah, so there was a hatred there and then and not only was
there a self-hatred growing in there and a shame growing in there, I actually,
there was a level of isolation that came around my life as I never wanted anyone
to know, I never wanted anyone to see inside me, to know my own secret shame
and my own failure and I kept it absolutely secret, confined in there and
I tried to carry on with my life, but that left me restricted and inhibited
from living life to the fullest and living my best life because at every
step of the journey I had to process this constant flow of negativity and
condemnation speaking to me, just constantly saying, you're not enough,
you can't do that and all of this negative condemnation. So what I found is
that just some little stuff that happened before I even went to school
then became this internal narrative that I had to constantly process, it was like
walking through a swamp, you know, your legs like, it's hard work to walk through
the swamp and so I'm struggling through life with this constant negative
mindsets and this constant, would I be enough, am I enough, could I do that, could
I achieve that and I had to wrestle at every stage with this internal narrative
that said, oh my gosh, I'm not enough. So fast forward, fast forward to my life now,
I just want to pause on this and say, thank you Jesus that you've totally
redefined my own perception of who I am, he's totally redefined my identity, so
that sense of shame is gone, that condemnation is that, from that, that's
gone, yeah, just wow Jesus, if you don't know the power of Jesus redefining your
life, then you want to and some of the best content that I've ever produced in
my life is on the theme of identity and on the story, the journey, the process, the
revelations that came, that actually produced freedom in me to rediscovering
the truth that I'm made in God's image, I'm exclusively defined by the Trinity
and I'm perfectly made in their eyes, so if you want content like that, just let
me know because I've got free training online and I've got some really amazing
opportunities coming up as well that can absolutely, radically redefine you and
revolutionize your own understanding of your own identity to get you totally
free from that, so now in my life I pretty much walk free from shame, I don't
have much shame, but you know, there's things that happen, you still
have failures in life all the time, I think for myself and this is what I want
to talk about for a moment now, is the struggle of not allowing ourselves to be
falsely defined by our failures, so we get free, right, yes, thank you Jesus, I'm
free from that past and now I'm running into my future and I'm taking, I'm
dreaming massive dreams and I'm taking huge risks and you know what, sometimes
I'm failing big, sometimes I'm failing a little bit, sometimes I'm failing just
average levels, mediocre levels of failing, but I am constantly living with
like, failure is one of my constant companions, I think failure is just
with me all the time and I want to talk about why that's okay and I want to talk
about how we can still thrive in the midst of that, so it's, first of all we'll
just talk about why it's okay, hey Needed, good to see you, it's okay that failure
is your constant companion because
Failure is simply feedback.
Dave Riddell once again, I love to quote Dave Riddell, failure is not fatal, it's simply
feedback.
But that really, really depends, you know, that really depends a lot on our mindset around
failure.
But for so many of us, we have this mindset that says, my failures define my identity
or we believe that our identity, our worth, our value, our capacity is defined by our
failures and our behaviors.
Faisal, good to have you joining us from India, love you my man, good to see you buddy.
And this was one of the massive mindsets that I had to shake, I had to like excavate my
own belief system and aggressively remove this mindset and this belief from my own mind
that said, I am defined by my failures.
And so, because that's a lie, it's a lie to be defined by your failures, but if you want
to pull a lie out, just a quick thing on that, if you want to pull a lie out, you have to
replace it with truth.
Yes, Faisal, it's great to have you live.
You've got to replace it with truth.
So the truth that I discovered is that I am exclusively defined by the Trinity.
So I know without a shadow of a doubt, I am fully persuaded of this, I am fully persuaded
that I'm exclusively defined by the Trinity, Genesis 127, I'm made in the image of God,
so nothing else has any authority to define me, no failure, nothing said about me, nothing
said to me, nothing that's been done to me or not done to me, no experience or nothing
that I've failed to experience in life has any authority to define me.
I've got that pretty close to on lockdown in my spirit, but I still fail all the time.
And here's just on that again, it's okay to fail.
It's okay to have failure as your constant companion, because failure is not something
that defines us, failure is not something that's fatal, it becomes fatal if we let
it define us.
If we let our failures define us, and this is where I think some of us are at to be honest,
I think some of us have let our failures define us, and that's when it starts to become fatal,
because when we allow our failures to define us, we stop dreaming.
And if we stop dreaming, guys, if we stop dreaming, we stop the whole cycle of everything
that could be, we shut down the limitless possibilities available to us.
So if we let failure define us, and we shut down our dreaming, and it causes us to restrict
or retract from life or to draw back from dreaming Ephesians 3.20 dreams and dreaming
the limitless possibilities available in Christ Jesus, if it stops us dreaming, then failure
can become fatal.
But if we understand failure doesn't define us, failure is simply feedback.
It's just information.
It doesn't mean that we have failed, because we can just take that information and start
again more intelligently.
We can take the information, the feedback from our failures, and we can re-strategize
and re-position, and we can re-launch.
So I want to say that that is, that is really important.
It's really important.
We just see failure as a good friend.
Failure is just giving us amazing information for how we can start again with a better plan.
We can start again with a better direction, a better strategy than ever before.
Right, so having said that, having said that, what are we going to do, because I still find,
I still feel the pressure when I do fail, right?
It's still a process, it's still a struggle, it's still a wrestle when you fail, or someone
fails you, or someone in your team lets the ball down, and so as a result your entire
team fails.
I've had a massive failure within the last year in a business context where someone broke
a contract.
And my side of the equation was all in balance.
My side of the equation was like, amazing, we had seen God pull through phenomenal things,
there was millions of dollars, there was crazy breakthroughs, there was people involved from
all over the world, and just some of the most amazing people, but then someone else broke
binding contract, which caused the entire project to collapse, and it's in a spectacular
killer explosion of failure, now there's lawyers involved, there's international
lawyers involved, it's like whoa oh my gosh and so now I feel the pressure,
I feel the pressure of that failure wanting to define me. Or in a family context when
maybe I respond, like recently I responded to my little girl Zoe, I responded I think
maybe a little bit over the top, she was really trying to wind me up and she did an amazing job
of that but I still think I probably overreacted and I'm like oh man, I shouted, I was like no,
what are you doing, you know and in a way that it hurt her and I was like oh man, like oh
I just, I just became my own worst enemy in that moment and and wrecked my own dream of
being the best papa ever, I'm like oh my gosh that was not a reflection of our papa in heaven
right there, that doesn't happen that often but it happened, I'm like oh wow what am I gonna do
and so I just, I think we still have this, this pressure on us from these failures and
so I just think we need to take time on a regular basis just to realize well we aren't defined by
these and and to have some really good truth coaches, just some some truth that we we can
speak to ourselves on a regular basis that keeps us with a really good headspace and really good
mental hygiene, if you've got some truth that helps you to know you're not defined by your
failures, not ones of the past, not ones of the present, not massive ones, not little ones and for
me I have like a strategy for my own thinking called self-arresting, it's a mountaineering term
like if you fall down, if you're sliding down a mountain and you're out of control you use your
axe to self-arrest and it stops you sliding down the mountain, so for me I do some mental
self-arresting and I use some truth to help me mentally self-arrest and once again one of those
truths is that we are not defined by our failures, failure is simply feedback, so I'm going to load
up the template number four for you processing failure and that has got honestly guys some
phenomenal stories in there of people who thought they'd failed but their spectacular failure in
their own eyes turned into just amazing success that they didn't see coming, so check that out,
jump into it, it's quite it's quite different to the other ones but there's going to be some
stuff there that's kind of personal, kind of targeted, just asking ourselves what what really
defines us but love you guys like crazy, the thing that I use is my antivirus from being defined by
failure is a really powerful rock solid truth that I'm exclusively defined by the trinity, no failure
has any authority to define me, no failure has any authority to redefine me because I was exclusively
defined in the image of my papa in heaven and same goes for all of you, you were made perfectly
in his image, he didn't make a mistake and he has defined your identity forever, you're made in his
image, so blessings on you, may that sense of failure just start sweeping off us, may the love
of God and revelation just wash all failure off you as you launch into this and as you step into
the process of filling out the processing failure template, love you, remember if you've got
questions drop them in here, love to hear them, love to share with you, why don't you jump on,
do a live, I'd love to hear some of the things that are coming up in your hearts, some of the
things that you're getting of value, some of the things that are stirring inside of you,
massive love once again everyone, bless you, we'll see you again, I will jump on live again on Monday
catch you then, see ya